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Speaker 3: My friends are getting divorced and it's heavily affecting me.

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Speaker 4: This isn't even my marriage.

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Speaker 3: My thirty two female husband thirty five male has had

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Speaker 3: this best friend, Robbie thirty six males, since they met

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Speaker 3: in college and became roommates. They're basically brothers and I

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Speaker 3: consider him family. Robbie had always been with Lindsey thirty

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Speaker 3: six females since just before I met my husband. At

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Speaker 3: that time, they had just moved away to a different state.

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Speaker 4: I'm Matt, and I'm Carly.

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Speaker 3: We are here to give you some good advice goofy,

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Speaker 3: but we don't have all the answers, so we're just

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Speaker 3: gonna tell you what we would do in this situation,

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Speaker 3: and you guys will let us know in the comments

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Speaker 3: what you would do. Despite the distance, we all built

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Speaker 3: a really close friendship. Through visits and regular communication. I

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Speaker 3: became good friends with Lindsay, though obviously not quite like

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Speaker 3: the relationship in history my husband had with Robbie. Two

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Speaker 3: and a half years ago. Robbie and Lindsay got engaged.

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Speaker 3: Then they got pregnant a few months after that, technically

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Speaker 3: a whoops, but they weren't exactly taking any precautions to

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Speaker 3: prevent it and had their son in January twenty twenty two.

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Speaker 5: Before their wedding in May twenty twenty two.

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Speaker 3: My husband was the best man and I ended up

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Speaker 3: the stand in maid of honor. When Lindsay's sister caught

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Speaker 3: the VID just days before the wedding, I was already

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Speaker 3: a bridesmaid. All of the backstory is to really emphasize

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Speaker 3: how I feel about this couple and their son. I

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Speaker 3: love them, They're my family. I would do anything for them.

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Speaker 3: They had plans to move back to our city as

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Speaker 3: soon as the housing market was better. We would all

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Speaker 3: talk and laugh about the trips we wanted to take

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Speaker 3: together in the future. We even booked a New Year's cruise,

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Speaker 3: all five of us, for this December. In my maid

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Speaker 3: of honor improvised speech, I rambled about how I could

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Speaker 3: see carpools and backyard birthday parties and family dinners in

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Speaker 3: our future with them.

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Speaker 5: Lindsay's mom cried.

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Speaker 3: It was such a happy day. Last week, my husband

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Speaker 3: dropped the bomb. Robbie is divorcing Lindsay. The first question

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Speaker 3: out of my mouth was, of course, why what happened?

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Speaker 3: The only explanation I've received so far is he just

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Speaker 3: doesn't want to be married to her anymore. It's been

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Speaker 3: one year of marriage. They have a baby. She had

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Speaker 3: to quit her job to take care of their son.

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Speaker 3: He purchased their home before they were married, so it's

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Speaker 3: technically his. He's keeping the house and she has to

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Speaker 3: move out with the baby minus I guess when or

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Speaker 3: if he wants any kind of shared custody. Lindsay and

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Speaker 3: I have been in limited contact because her lawyers have

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Speaker 3: told her she cannot discuss certain aspects of what's happening.

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Speaker 3: I don't know why yet, but she told me after

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Speaker 3: the papers are signed, she can tell me everything. She

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Speaker 3: has shared that she's accepted a new job, found an

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Speaker 3: surprised as the rest of us. I know, with one

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Speaker 3: hundred percent certainty, She is faithful and has always only

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Speaker 3: had eyes for Robbie. Both she and I have serious

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Speaker 3: Husband if he was worried that not even he saw

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Speaker 3: this coming. Robbie and my husband talk every single day

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Speaker 3: via text, usually about unimportant stuff like Jimmertine's, a new

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Speaker 5: Deep and meaningful.

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Speaker 3: Yet he didn't see it coming at all. No prior

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Speaker 5: And then this.

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Speaker 3: I feel dramatic saying that I'm devastated, but I am.

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Speaker 3: I feel like my family is being torn apart. I'm

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Speaker 3: finding myself thinking very negative things about Robbie, blaming him

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Speaker 3: no attempt at couple's therapy, and no trying to fix things.

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Speaker 3: He's hurting my friend Lindsey. His son will never experience

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Speaker 3: growing up with both parents together, and he's destroying this

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Speaker 3: incredible thing. The four five, including the baby of us,

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Speaker 3: had no more backyard birthday parties, no more group vacations,

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Speaker 3: Robbie was going to still go on the cruise with

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Speaker 5: Me, but that felt weird.

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Speaker 3: I knew at any given moment, either myself or Robbie

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Speaker 3: be betraying Lindsey by going today. I finally reached out

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Speaker 3: to Robbie to ask if we could cancel, and thankfully

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Speaker 3: he agreed. We're far enough out that everyone will get

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Speaker 3: a one hundred percent refund.

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Speaker 5: Oh perfect, That was my concern.

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Speaker 4: Refunding is on trips is hard?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Oh my god, especially cruise as. They make it

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Speaker 4: I've ever been on a cruise.

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Speaker 6: Oh what, it's not just me, so I'm.

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Speaker 5: Not I have no guys. They're so fun.

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Speaker 4: That's also like you're trapped at sea on a boat

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Speaker 4: with people who might get sick.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I love feeling like, do we forget the poop cruise?

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Speaker 3: No, but I'm still feeling selfishly sad and mad that

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Speaker 3: even if nobody reads this, it's still cathartic to write

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Speaker 3: it all out. My feelings are scrambled. I feel sad

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Speaker 3: and angry, surprised, helpless, deceive, protective of Lindsay, but also

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Speaker 3: guilty for feeling any of this when I know her

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Speaker 3: life just got blown up with a snap of a

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Speaker 5: Swipe of a pen.

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Speaker 3: Robbie took away his Anne Lindsay's future together, but he

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Speaker 3: also took away our future with them. He's changed how

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Speaker 3: I'll look at him forever and ever. I thought I

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Speaker 3: His entire demeanor about the situation is weirdly aloof, like

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Speaker 3: he's not completely blowing his life up. The thought of

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Speaker 3: I'll lose Lindsey in this divorce before we ever had

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Speaker 3: a real opportunity to build a friendship independent of our husbands.

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Speaker 3: Advice please, and there's an update. The news broke today

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Speaker 3: and most of you called it affair aw.

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Speaker 3: I was first told it was a girl on Instagram

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Speaker 3: updated with the real story. She's a webcam spicy sleep

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Speaker 5: He knows zero Spanish.

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Speaker 3: They conversed through translator apps stop. I didn't get any

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Speaker 3: of this info from Lindsay. I received the news first

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Speaker 3: from my husband via text message. Then Robbie messaged me

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Speaker 3: almost immediately afterwards, joking about how I sent her an

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Speaker 3: that had like so many of his photos recently, and

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Speaker 3: I told Robbie I figured if I sent her a

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Speaker 3: accept and not think about it. If I was right,

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Speaker 5: He found that funny. I guess I.

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Speaker 3: Could OPI like snoopying, like you know, I got I

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Speaker 3: have the plans here.

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Speaker 5: If he does this, then he's wrong. If they do this,

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Speaker 5: then that's it.

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Speaker 8: You know.

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Speaker 4: The bridge from planner to detective is very short.

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Speaker 3: Yes, for real. Robbie then told me that Lindsay has

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Speaker 3: found out about her, almost definitely what Lindsay was waiting

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Speaker 3: to tell me after the divorce was finalized. But she

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Speaker 3: he needs to tell Lindsay because it's a terrible position

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Speaker 3: he got back. Minutes after the text exchange with Robbie,

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Speaker 3: I got a text from Robbie's sister, uh.

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Speaker 5: Oh now business.

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Speaker 3: She and I are friendly and have gotten to know

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Speaker 3: their dad's funeral exceptera. She and I talked for almost

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Speaker 3: talk to someone because she's so concerned about Robbie's mental health.

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Speaker 3: She knows her brother and this is wildly uncharacteristic of

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Speaker 3: him due to their friendship. She assumed Robbie told my husband,

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Speaker 3: it from Robbie. Clearly, Robbie talked to his sister and

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Speaker 3: then immediately started telling my husband. Robbie told his sister

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Speaker 3: and my husband that he's rented an apartment in Colombia

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Speaker 3: has decided yet again to sell the house he's moving

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Speaker 3: to Columbia with a girl he.

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Speaker 5: Has met in person, just one single time.

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Speaker 4: See, he doesn't have to tell her if he doesn't

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Speaker 4: move back to America. That's crazy, right, We also do that.

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Speaker 4: He's like buying and selling you. This is at the

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Speaker 4: drop of a hat.

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Speaker 3: He's like, don't want this one Columbia. The girl ended

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Speaker 3: up accepting my Instagram request today, so I was able

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Speaker 3: to see her page and piece some additional stuff together.

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Speaker 3: Most of her posts from the last five years are

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Speaker 3: honestly pretty normal. A lot of pictures of her kids

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Speaker 3: being cute, a lot of her with her husband found

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Speaker 3: she was pregnant, and a few sexy poses in cute outfits.

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Speaker 3: There's a year long gap from August twenty twenty two

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Speaker 3: until this past August fifteenth without a single post. Same

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Speaker 3: thing with her Facebook a whole year just deleted. Well,

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Speaker 3: either deleted or she abandoned.

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Speaker 5: The profile for a year. It's really fishy.

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Speaker 3: I mentioned in a comment on my last post, but

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Speaker 3: one relevant detail I forgot about was that Robbie's dad

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Speaker 3: passed away this year on New Year's Day. He was

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Speaker 3: going through a rough patch and had been staying with

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Speaker 4: The wedding is tomorrow and I'm invited as a guest.

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Speaker 4: By the way, Arizona is awesome. If you like hiking

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Speaker 4: Because this sounds like pretty normal jealous behavior from a

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Speaker 4: go or get up that early. It was pretty fun

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Speaker 4: and interesting. I took lots of pictures, got a few

440
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Speaker 4: souvenirs from my siblings at home, and learned that agave

441
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Speaker 4: grows way bigger than you'd expect. There is one more

442
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Speaker 4: relevant update, But Savannah, how are you feeling?

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Speaker 3: I feel like this is a very sticky situation because

444
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Speaker 3: but I feel like she's kind of enjoying herself now,

445
00:19:46,760 --> 00:19:49,840
Speaker 3: like it kind of got past the awkwardness and then,

446
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Speaker 3: like you know, I don't think hopefully the fiance like

447
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Speaker 3: didn't really say anything.

448
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Speaker 5: To her make like feel anything.

449
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Speaker 3: I'm sure she would have mentioned that or whatever by

450
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Speaker 3: but I think, like I'm glad that she ended up

451
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Speaker 3: going because it was her friend and it would have

452
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Speaker 3: been really like terrible to miss that.

453
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Speaker 4: Do you think that there is a path currently now

454
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Speaker 4: with things? How they stand in the relationship as it

455
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Speaker 4: is with this wedding, Do you think there is a

456
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Speaker 4: possibility for opian the groom to still be best friends

457
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Speaker 4: or now is there that roadblock always of the fiance

458
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Speaker 4: or the wife.

459
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Speaker 5: Now, yeah, that's true.

460
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Speaker 10: I would hope that maybe because of this they would

461
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Speaker 10: be able to like reconvene and be like, Okay, you know,

462
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Speaker 10: like like thank you so much for showing up, you know,

463
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Speaker 10: you like, obviously nothing happened and she wasn't gonna like

464
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Speaker 10: start like a big dramatic thing or whatever.

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Speaker 5: But it's just like, you know, I don't know. I

466
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Speaker 5: think that she did the.

467
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Speaker 3: Right thing in showing up for her friend, and I

468
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Speaker 3: think like she should be proud of that and be

469
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Speaker 3: able to be like, yeah, I feel good about, you know,

470
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Speaker 3: at least showing up for my friend, and even if

471
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Speaker 3: it made her uncomfortable, like you know, like ruin her day,

472
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Speaker 3: which hopefully it didn't, you know, at least at the

473
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Speaker 3: end of the day, I can say I went to

474
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Speaker 3: my friend's wedding and I supported them, you know, and

475
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Speaker 3: didn't cause any drama that probably was thinking.

476
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Speaker 4: Yeah, the most that she was able to do, I say.

477
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Speaker 3: Yeah, And I would like appreciate that. First of all,

478
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Speaker 3: I would be like.

479
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Speaker 4: No one can accuse Opie of not putting an effort exactly.

480
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think OPI did exactly what like was comfortable for.

481
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Speaker 3: I think, well not technically everyone, but like comfortable for

482
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Speaker 3: what she thought would be the right choice. And I

483
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Speaker 3: think that she made the right choice. So you know,

484
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Speaker 3: who's this poopy fiancee?

485
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Speaker 5: What did he marry?

486
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Speaker 6: Poop?

487
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Speaker 4: Pure poetry from Savannah. The next day was the last

488
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Speaker 4: full day I was there. My bff's parents were spending

489
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Speaker 4: the day with him and his wife. The groom's party

490
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Speaker 4: members and I were putting our place there, so we

491
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Speaker 4: ended up hanging out.

492
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Speaker 6: We looked for lizards.

493
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Speaker 4: We didn't catch any, but we saw some glimpsed a

494
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Speaker 4: couple of hummingbirds, and took pictures of the cac die

495
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Speaker 4: not cactus as cacti and other spiky plants aka pretty

496
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Speaker 4: much all of them plus one cactus behived. Then we

497
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Speaker 4: went to a local mall and did some shopping. I

498
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Speaker 4: got some Christmas gifts for my family members, which was nice.

499
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Speaker 4: I did end up having to get another bag on

500
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Speaker 4: the way back home to fit everything. I think I

501
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Speaker 4: still made the best of the trip overall, still can't

502
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Speaker 4: call it a good trip, but I did have some

503
00:22:11,080 --> 00:22:13,399
Speaker 4: good times and let the good times roll because that

504
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Speaker 4: is the end of that story.

505
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Speaker 7: My friend is giving me mixed signals and now I

506
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Speaker 7: don't know what to do.

507
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Speaker 4: Maybe this is your signal to get better friends.

508
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Speaker 7: I twenty three mail, am an attracted to the same

509
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Speaker 7: gender guy who grew up in a small, rural conservative

510
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Speaker 7: town in the Appalachian Bible Belt region. Even though I

511
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Speaker 7: came out when I was fourteen, I've never been in

512
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Speaker 7: a relationship or been on a date. I'm not very extroverted,

513
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Speaker 7: so I've become very independent and used to being single.

514
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Speaker 7: And while I've sometimes wished to experience love, I've surrounded

515
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Speaker 7: myself with close friends and family. But then enter Earle

516
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Speaker 7: twenty nine mail. By the way, this comes from BHM

517
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Speaker 7: six and if you want to submit your own stories,

518
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Speaker 7: go to the arslash Okay storytime subreddit.

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Speaker 9: I'm Carly, I'm Matt, and I'm Savannah.

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Speaker 7: He joined my office about three months ago for a

521
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Speaker 7: temp position, and we immediately hit it off. I've never

522
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Speaker 7: felt so comfortable around a guy before. I grew up

523
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Speaker 7: with all girls for friends. Was raised by a single

524
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Speaker 7: mom and grandmother and have never been comfortable around guys.

525
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Speaker 9: But Earle is different.

526
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Speaker 7: I could almost immediately be myself around him, and our

527
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:31,280
Speaker 7: interests and personalities just mesh so well. I didn't realize

528
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Speaker 7: it at first, but Earle has been very flirty with

529
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Speaker 7: me from the get go. At first, I thought it

530
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Speaker 7: was teasing, but my friends and coworkers all said, no, babe,

531
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Speaker 7: he's flirting heavy. Every time I'm around Earle. There's so

532
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Speaker 7: much intense eye contact between us. A coworker said, whenever

533
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Speaker 7: I'm talking, Earle is focused so intently on me. There's

534
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Speaker 7: almost a spark in his eyes. When I changed my hairstyle,

535
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Speaker 7: he was looking right at me the entire time, even

536
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Speaker 7: though another coworker was standing in front of him talking.

537
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Speaker 7: His temp position ended, but we still keep in touch

538
00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:11,119
Speaker 7: and hang out. We hung out all the time before

539
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:15,080
Speaker 7: the holidays. He remembers the craziest little details about me

540
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Speaker 7: and points out small physical things no one else has noticed.

541
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Speaker 7: He's very chivalrous, holds doors, cleans up trash after we eat,

542
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Speaker 7: and offers to hold my bag. But he's ex military,

543
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Speaker 7: so I don't know if that's just a respect thing.

544
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Speaker 7: The one time he picked me up. He came to

545
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Speaker 7: my front door, rang the doorbell, and waited on the

546
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Speaker 7: front porch. I've never had a friend do that. Everyone

547
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Speaker 7: else has always parked and texted. I felt like I

548
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Speaker 7: was being picked up for a day. A few weeks ago,

549
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Speaker 7: he sent me a post on Instagram that read, I

550
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Speaker 7: don't flirt.

551
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Speaker 9: I just say every thought I have and hope for

552
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Speaker 9: the best.

553
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Speaker 7: All my friends say no straight guy sends that to

554
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Speaker 7: another guy friend. And because of all this, of course,

555
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Speaker 7: I've grown feelings for him. He's all always on my mind,

556
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Speaker 7: and I get so excited when his name pops up

557
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,160
Speaker 7: on my phone. I never wanted to act on them

558
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:09,200
Speaker 7: when he was a coworker, but because I was ignoring them,

559
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Speaker 7: they've festered into this beast. But here's the issue. Earle

560
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Speaker 7: has never explicitly said he's into guys. And he's openly

561
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Speaker 7: talked about women to me before, both exes and women

562
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Speaker 7: who have caught his attention. He knows I'm attracted to

563
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Speaker 7: the same gender, and I've talked about being attracted to

564
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Speaker 7: the same gender with him, and once his response seemed

565
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Speaker 7: very personal, almost as if he was talking from experience.

566
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Speaker 7: But he's never made any physical advances outside of a

567
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Speaker 7: few friendly touches. He's also not a big texter and

568
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Speaker 7: leaves me on red unless I'm explicitly asking him a question.

569
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Speaker 7: We keep in contact at least once a day by

570
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Speaker 7: sending each other's stuff on social media. About a month ago,

571
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Speaker 7: when I was telling myself he's straight, get over yourself,

572
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Speaker 7: I was open with him about being active on dating apps.

573
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Speaker 9: During this time, it felt like he pulled back a bit.

574
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Speaker 9: We still kept in touch, but it felt like we

575
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Speaker 9: lost that spark.

576
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Speaker 7: However, recently, that spark came back in full force, especially.

577
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Speaker 9: The last time we got together.

578
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Speaker 7: It felt like something between us was shifting towards something

579
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Speaker 7: more than friends. But then the holidays hit and I

580
00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 7: haven't seen him in over a week, so I don't

581
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Speaker 7: know if what I felt.

582
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Speaker 9: Was a fluke. I don't know what to do.

583
00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:29,639
Speaker 7: These feelings are real, big and consuming, and all the

584
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Speaker 7: mixed signals are confusing.

585
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Speaker 5: What signals I feel like hardcore.

586
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Speaker 7: Flirting, hardcore flirting, hardcore core flirting only mixed signal.

587
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Speaker 9: He hasn't flat out said that he's not straight.

588
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Speaker 7: The hardcore flirting, hardcore flirting, hardcore flirting.

589
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Speaker 4: I feel like if if Earl took out like a

590
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Speaker 4: big neon sign in the middle of Times Square with

591
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Speaker 4: a photo of the two of them, saying will you

592
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Speaker 4: go out with me? And oh, he'd be like, I

593
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Speaker 4: don't know, maybe he's just asking me if he wants

594
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Speaker 4: to go out for dinner.

595
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Speaker 9: Like as a friend.

596
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Speaker 5: I can't tell.

597
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Speaker 7: I've told myself I can't make a first move because

598
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Speaker 7: I don't want to scare him off in case I'm

599
00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:08,560
Speaker 7: reading everything wrong. Earle has also told me multiple times

600
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Speaker 7: that he isn't good at picking up hints. Usually he

601
00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:15,080
Speaker 7: doesn't even know someone is interested until someone else tells him,

602
00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:18,600
Speaker 7: so dropping hints won't be productive. So do I sit

603
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:21,919
Speaker 7: back and wait it out more? Or should I just

604
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Speaker 7: open up the conversation between us? If so, how does

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Speaker 7: one even do that?

606
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Speaker 9: We have an update.

607
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Speaker 7: The update is that there hasn't been any conversation between

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Speaker 7: my friend twenty nine mail and I twenty three Mail,

609
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Speaker 7: mainly because I haven't really heard from him. That's the

610
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:42,440
Speaker 7: thing I forgot to mention previously. When we're together, it's

611
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Speaker 7: amazing he's so focused on the moment. His phone is

612
00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:49,400
Speaker 7: nowhere to be seen. He never comes off as distracted.

613
00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 7: Yet when we're apart, I hardly ever hear from him.

614
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:56,640
Speaker 7: He'll send me post on Instagram every day or every

615
00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:59,800
Speaker 7: other day, but text wise he rarely reaches out for

616
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 7: I'm the one usually sending the first text, and responses

617
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Speaker 7: are sporadic, sometimes within five minutes, sometimes.

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Speaker 9: Three hours later.

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Speaker 7: He often leaves me on red If it's not a

620
00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:13,960
Speaker 7: question that throws me off, because if it's so nice

621
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Speaker 7: in person, why is it such the opposite when we're apart.

622
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:20,240
Speaker 7: This wasn't an issue when we were coworkers, but now

623
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Speaker 7: I'm wondering if maybe it was just a proximity thing,

624
00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 7: even though everyone at work noticed the flirting and the

625
00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:29,720
Speaker 7: way he treated me differently, I wonder if there truly

626
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Speaker 7: was something there.

627
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Speaker 9: I can't lie.

628
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Speaker 7: I've broken down crying a few times due to the

629
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Speaker 7: lack of communication when we're apart. My feelings are so

630
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 7: big now that he's on my mind twenty four to seven.

631
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:42,680
Speaker 7: I want to see him often. I want to talk

632
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Speaker 7: at least once a day, not text every single moment,

633
00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 7: but just a good morning or how is your day

634
00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 7: conversation would make me feel so much better. I've also

635
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Speaker 7: discovered I'm an anxious attachment person.

636
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Speaker 9: Which has fueled these breakdowns.

637
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Speaker 7: I've already started trying to get back in with my

638
00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 7: therapist over this, but I can't say anything to him

639
00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:05,680
Speaker 7: about that because we're just friends. It's very presumptuous, clingy,

640
00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 7: dramatic of me to reach out and be like, hey,

641
00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:09,880
Speaker 7: I don't hear from you often.

642
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:10,800
Speaker 9: Could we change that?

643
00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:13,920
Speaker 7: It's something that should really only be discussed if you're

644
00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:16,760
Speaker 7: in a relationship or have known someone for a long time,

645
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:20,280
Speaker 7: which neither are true for us. And because I don't

646
00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:22,960
Speaker 7: hear from him first, I've been the one making plans

647
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Speaker 7: to get together. He's always been down and never bailed. Also,

648
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 7: every time we've gotten together, he's always asked if we

649
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 7: wanted to get food or do something that extended our time.

650
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:35,719
Speaker 7: The last time we were together, the week before Christmas,

651
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Speaker 7: as we were leaving, he said, so see you sometime.

652
00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 7: He was clearly opening it up for us to set

653
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 7: up another time, but my love fried brain just went, sure,

654
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 7: if it's not until after Christmas, then have a merry Christmas.

655
00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:51,680
Speaker 7: Because my brain doesn't function around him. So I waded

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Speaker 7: through Christmas but nothing. A few texts, one convo he initiated,

657
00:29:56,680 --> 00:30:00,200
Speaker 7: but nothing about us hanging out eventually a mutual and

658
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 7: asked me to go shopping and asked if we wanted

659
00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 7: to invite Earl.

660
00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 9: I invited him. He was down and the day was

661
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 9: mostly good, but.

662
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:09,719
Speaker 7: When we dropped him off, there was nothing from his

663
00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 7: end about making another plan.

664
00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:14,640
Speaker 4: OPI has been given all of these hints but doesn't

665
00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 4: act on them, and it's a I think Earl is

666
00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 4: just getting discouraged because Earl seems like he's putting all

667
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:26,400
Speaker 4: this effort trying to gauge interests and Olp's just right

668
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:29,120
Speaker 4: over Opie's head. Plus, like Earl could also be a

669
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 4: busy person like op he's fretting about, like, oh, he

670
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 4: doesn't always text me back. He leaves me on red.

671
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:35,800
Speaker 4: Sometimes it's five minutes, sometimes it's three hours.

672
00:30:35,840 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 11: Okay, Earl has side of you, Yeah, like you won't

673
00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:45,560
Speaker 11: really even like initiate conversation with him out Like, well,

674
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 11: you'll initiate, but you won't like take that extra step

675
00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:48,640
Speaker 11: that he's trying to lead to.

676
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:51,880
Speaker 4: So I feel like if anyone's giving mixed signals, it's you,

677
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 4: Like you're the one giving him mixed signals. He's I

678
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:56,400
Speaker 4: feel like, maybe within the bounds of his own comfort

679
00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:59,480
Speaker 4: trying to explore your interest in a relationship with him.

680
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:02,080
Speaker 4: But I don't think you are giving him what he

681
00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 4: needs and what he wants. And you're fretting all about this,

682
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 4: but you're not willing to actually take the steps necessary

683
00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 4: to make it a reality. And you're crying but you're

684
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:12,240
Speaker 4: not You're just not.

685
00:31:12,400 --> 00:31:13,480
Speaker 6: Committing to it.

686
00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:16,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like this is largely on you. Earl

687
00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:19,080
Speaker 4: could also straight up come out and ask, but it's

688
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:21,440
Speaker 4: just maybe he's not comfortable with being out yet.

689
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:25,480
Speaker 8: Maybe he That is my worry of Opie taking that

690
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 8: leap to ask, is like, if you're not out, you

691
00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 8: might not get the answer that you're expecting, but it

692
00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 8: might not be what's a.

693
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:32,960
Speaker 5: Rejection of you?

694
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 9: Yeah? Well, I fully agree. I don't think that there's

695
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 9: any other for.

696
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:37,480
Speaker 6: Either of them.

697
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:40,560
Speaker 4: Less unless Earl is going to come out, there's no

698
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 4: other options.

699
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:43,720
Speaker 7: I don't know if I should continue inviting Earl out

700
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 7: or if I should step back and see if he

701
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:48,400
Speaker 7: reaches out first. I still want to be upfront with

702
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:49,480
Speaker 7: him about where we stay.

703
00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 4: You've never been up from with him about where you stand.

704
00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 7: But if I wait for him to reach out, I'll

705
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:56,600
Speaker 7: be stuck in limbo, and I don't know what it means.

706
00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:59,640
Speaker 9: That Earl rarely reaches out first. Maybe he's not a Texter.

707
00:31:59,880 --> 00:32:02,320
Speaker 7: He mentioned I was one of the very few people

708
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 7: who he gave his new cell number two, and he

709
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:07,920
Speaker 7: was more active with making plans when we saw each

710
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:10,760
Speaker 7: other daily at work. But he's active on social media,

711
00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 7: so I know he's on his phone and thinks of me.

712
00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:16,120
Speaker 7: He did say he's bad at responding to texts while

713
00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 7: doing something. He'll read it, tell himself, he'll respond when

714
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 7: he's finished, then forgets. I get the idea he's somewhat

715
00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:26,960
Speaker 7: adhd or has bad memory. He also got a lot

716
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 7: on his plate right now with life, so I assume

717
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:32,480
Speaker 7: that's taking up his time and energy. I wonder how

718
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:35,680
Speaker 7: far I should read into this lack of communication. Some

719
00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:38,880
Speaker 7: friends have said I should protect my piece, or at

720
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:42,320
Speaker 7: least prepare myself to not expect much more than friendship

721
00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:44,800
Speaker 7: from him. But there's something in my gut that tells

722
00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 7: me to keep holding on, keep having hope. I don't

723
00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:49,720
Speaker 7: know if it's a true gut feeling or just my

724
00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:52,720
Speaker 7: heart still wishing for more. Is it wrong to text

725
00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:55,240
Speaker 7: first the majority of the time? Is it wrong to

726
00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:58,560
Speaker 7: be the one that always initiates plans. Should I step

727
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:01,640
Speaker 7: back and see if he reaches out himself and we do.

728
00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 9: Have another update one month later. About a week ago,

729
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:07,440
Speaker 9: Earle and I finally.

730
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:12,720
Speaker 7: And directly approached the topic of spicy proclivity, and he

731
00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:15,360
Speaker 7: was firm that he is a fully straight.

732
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:17,440
Speaker 9: Man and doesn't play for that team.

733
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:18,800
Speaker 5: His words verbatim.

734
00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:21,600
Speaker 7: It was all in good spirits, as he was actually

735
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:24,080
Speaker 7: talking about a time another body of his from his

736
00:33:24,240 --> 00:33:27,120
Speaker 7: past opened up about having a crush on him. And

737
00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 7: while the clarity of that discussion was so relieving, I

738
00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:33,400
Speaker 7: never did bring up my feelings for him, as I

739
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:36,480
Speaker 7: didn't see a point in doing so, especially now knowing

740
00:33:36,520 --> 00:33:38,080
Speaker 7: that they'll never be reciprocated.

741
00:33:38,200 --> 00:33:39,640
Speaker 9: It felt like I'd both rub.

742
00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 7: Soul onto my own wound and make him uncomfortable if

743
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:46,120
Speaker 7: I brought my feelings up. It definitely hurt to hear too,

744
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:49,560
Speaker 7: But like I said, finally knowing where he stands and

745
00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:53,000
Speaker 7: the limits of what our relationship could be has been

746
00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:56,040
Speaker 7: so freeing. There is no more what ifs, and no

747
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:59,640
Speaker 7: more of me feeling the constant need to overread everything he.

748
00:33:59,640 --> 00:34:00,760
Speaker 9: Says and does.

749
00:34:01,040 --> 00:34:02,640
Speaker 7: I still don't know how to explain some of the

750
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 7: things he said and did. He's continued to do things

751
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:09,600
Speaker 7: I can't read as anything besides interest, but I guess

752
00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:12,240
Speaker 7: that's just how he is around those he grows close,

753
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:15,839
Speaker 7: with a natural flirt or something. But also I think

754
00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:19,319
Speaker 7: my own feelings were misreading other things he did, like

755
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:21,440
Speaker 7: the way he looks at me. Now that I know

756
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 7: he's a straight man, I don't feel that same pole

757
00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:26,759
Speaker 7: that I was feeling before. I'll admit too that my

758
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:31,600
Speaker 7: feelings have definitely subsided. They were subsiding even before our discussion,

759
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:34,400
Speaker 7: and I think hearing he'll never be able to be

760
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 7: more than a friend has really sped the process of

761
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:40,359
Speaker 7: moving on. I still sometimes catch myself looking at him

762
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:43,919
Speaker 7: in that longing way, but it's less and less now.

763
00:34:44,120 --> 00:34:46,640
Speaker 7: I still get sad late at night, but I'm more

764
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 7: sad because I'm back to square one of being completely

765
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:54,520
Speaker 7: and totally single, not because I'm heartbroken specifically over him,

766
00:34:54,760 --> 00:34:57,480
Speaker 7: if that makes sense. But I've also found that I

767
00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:01,080
Speaker 7: can really fully be myself around him, of consciously holding

768
00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:04,520
Speaker 7: myself back due to my feelings and worrying i'd push

769
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 7: him away, but now I don't have those inhibitions, and

770
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:10,839
Speaker 7: it feels like it's making our friendship healthier, which I'm

771
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:13,799
Speaker 7: really glad for. Ironically, it feels like now we can

772
00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:16,480
Speaker 7: be closer than we ever were beforehand. And that is

773
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:19,640
Speaker 7: the end of that story. And Opie, you will find

774
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 7: the perfect man for you. And that's the end of

775
00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 7: that story. But we're going to go to the next one.

776
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:26,080
Speaker 6: Sam.

777
00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:27,879
Speaker 2: Here, we're gonna get back to the stories. But here's

778
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:29,360
Speaker 2: three minutes bads from our sponsors.

779
00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:33,399
Speaker 6: My coworker mocked my teammates, so I took revenge. Take

780
00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:34,879
Speaker 6: that revenge, well, I.

781
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:37,680
Speaker 1: Appreciate petty revenge that takes a while to carry out.

782
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 1: This is much simpler, quick story that culminated due to

783
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:44,920
Speaker 1: the consequences of your action with one particular team that

784
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:47,399
Speaker 1: my team has been having problems with. By the way,

785
00:35:47,520 --> 00:35:50,200
Speaker 1: this comes from a comrade Lala, And if you want

786
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 1: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash

787
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:52,760
Speaker 1: Okay storytime.

788
00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 6: Starbright and I'm.

789
00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:56,000
Speaker 2: John, I'm Sam, I'm ke On.

790
00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:59,319
Speaker 1: I'm so worried about him, and we are here to

791
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:00,759
Speaker 1: give you good advice.

792
00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:02,319
Speaker 6: Freaking goofy boy.

793
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 1: Don't have all the answers, so if you know what

794
00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:07,680
Speaker 1: to do, then type it in the comments some context.

795
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:09,400
Speaker 6: I am thirty four female.

796
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:11,960
Speaker 1: I have a name at work with the new hires

797
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 1: we brought on earlier this year. Work mom one new

798
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:18,200
Speaker 1: hire I'll call her Gertrude. Started it because I literally

799
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:20,440
Speaker 1: had everything on hand at my desk to help her

800
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:23,200
Speaker 1: when she randomly got stung by a bee. I love

801
00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:25,920
Speaker 1: it because that sums me up in a nutshell personality wise.

802
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:27,880
Speaker 1: I tell our team and the teams we work with

803
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:30,640
Speaker 1: closely that if they ever need something from my desk

804
00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:32,440
Speaker 1: or coffee nook, they're welcome to it.

805
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 2: And just love a work mom, you know, just having work,

806
00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:39,240
Speaker 2: having someone, Yeah, just having someone that takes care of everyone.

807
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:40,480
Speaker 2: It's lovely.

808
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:44,440
Speaker 1: Gertrude is also very kind, caring and loves making connections

809
00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 1: with our teams and trying to help out in any

810
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:48,399
Speaker 1: way she can so that way she can be as

811
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:51,400
Speaker 1: well rounded of an employee as possible. It's great because

812
00:36:51,440 --> 00:36:53,359
Speaker 1: she and I work off each other very well due

813
00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:55,520
Speaker 1: to this. From what little I can tell about my work,

814
00:36:55,680 --> 00:36:58,839
Speaker 1: I'm in QA Quality Assurance and the majority of our

815
00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:00,240
Speaker 1: time every year.

816
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:01,720
Speaker 6: Is spent doing quarterly audits.

817
00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 1: Normally, they go over very well and quickly, and we

818
00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:05,759
Speaker 1: have no issues but when we do have issues, we

819
00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 1: write them as data sheets to be resolved at some

820
00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:10,840
Speaker 1: point by the team that's screwed up. Often it's as

821
00:37:10,880 --> 00:37:13,000
Speaker 1: simple as, hey, you guys have a new procedure, but

822
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:15,520
Speaker 1: you didn't update your SOPs and you please do that,

823
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:18,040
Speaker 1: or hey, there is a massive reorder of your team.

824
00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:21,319
Speaker 1: Update that and the worst offender being everyone's training is late.

825
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:24,359
Speaker 1: Please get everyone up to date. However, one team that

826
00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:27,600
Speaker 1: another team member of mine deals with is definitely seen

827
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:30,080
Speaker 1: as the main problem child when it comes to these

828
00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:33,160
Speaker 1: data sheets. It's worse than pulling teeth with them to

829
00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 1: reply or even update us on their progress. And one

830
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:39,880
Speaker 1: person in particular is an absolute cea next Tuesday and

831
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:43,479
Speaker 1: causes more issues than he's worth. I call him neck

832
00:37:43,520 --> 00:37:46,439
Speaker 1: Beard because of if you can recall the south Park

833
00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 1: World of Wars episode, he is that Neckbeard guy. I

834
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:52,319
Speaker 1: don't know his age, but it's close to ours for sure.

835
00:37:52,760 --> 00:37:56,879
Speaker 1: This is where the petty revenge begins. So Gertrude would

836
00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:58,839
Speaker 1: often go over there to see how she could help

837
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:02,000
Speaker 1: that team with work and audits coming up, and also

838
00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:03,640
Speaker 1: because one of the guys on the team was a

839
00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:04,200
Speaker 1: friend of hers.

840
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 6: Outside of work, they text each other quite a bit.

841
00:38:06,440 --> 00:38:08,040
Speaker 1: I met him too when he came over for the

842
00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:10,680
Speaker 1: birthday cake I made for Gertrude, and thought he was

843
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:13,200
Speaker 1: pretty cool as well. One day, Gertrude went over to

844
00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 1: see if she could help with their progress on seven

845
00:38:16,080 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 1: of the data sheets this team had against them, and

846
00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 1: brought halloween candy with her that we keep in a

847
00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:22,879
Speaker 1: cauldron that I brought in.

848
00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 6: I'm one of the.

849
00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 1: Office goths slash witches, loll upon entering their small lab

850
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:29,680
Speaker 1: area that was across the hall from us, the whole

851
00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 1: problem team grabbed some of the candy. When Gertrude turned

852
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:36,040
Speaker 1: neck Beard and said, any chance I could help you

853
00:38:36,080 --> 00:38:39,400
Speaker 1: with those data sheets, neck Beard literally waved her off

854
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 1: and said, quote unquote, be gone. The entire team, plus

855
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:45,879
Speaker 1: Gertrude's friend, laughed at her, so she thought neck Beard

856
00:38:45,960 --> 00:38:48,239
Speaker 1: was kidding at first, and nervously laughed with them, but

857
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:51,640
Speaker 1: then they laughed harder. Gertrude stopped and look at neck

858
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 1: Beard and said, wait, you're serious, to which he replied, yeah,

859
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:57,560
Speaker 1: I don't need your effing help. I know everyone has

860
00:38:57,600 --> 00:39:00,799
Speaker 1: been breathing down my neck about these things, so be gone.

861
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 6: You're dismissed.

862
00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:04,520
Speaker 1: Still, waving his hand dismissively at her. She came back

863
00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 1: to our cube and told me the whole exchange with

864
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:08,880
Speaker 1: a fed up look on her face, and began to

865
00:39:08,880 --> 00:39:11,239
Speaker 1: gather her things and head home for the day and

866
00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:13,880
Speaker 1: continue to work from there. To say that I became

867
00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 1: overcome with Mama bear rage is an understatement, but this

868
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 1: is where Neckbeard messed up.

869
00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 6: Because you see, I was put in.

870
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,440
Speaker 1: Charge of tracking the data sheets progress and setting out

871
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:26,680
Speaker 1: weekly emails and forming not just the teams responsible, but

872
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:30,920
Speaker 1: also their supervisors and managers. And Nextbeard's data sheets were

873
00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:33,880
Speaker 1: going to be two years late come the first quarter

874
00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:36,000
Speaker 1: of the new year twenty twenty five because of my

875
00:39:36,080 --> 00:39:38,840
Speaker 1: tracking sheet. Our new manager had been incredibly happy with

876
00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:41,279
Speaker 1: the new communication between all the teams that the data

877
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:45,319
Speaker 1: sheets had against them, and apparently Neckbeard lied to our

878
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:50,080
Speaker 1: manager saying he was almost done and an active communication.

879
00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:52,239
Speaker 6: With the team about them. Neck Beard is out here

880
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:53,680
Speaker 6: spitting lies.

881
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:56,840
Speaker 2: He sounds like he needs to be fired.

882
00:39:57,239 --> 00:39:59,919
Speaker 1: He needs to put down the mountain dew and freaking grow.

883
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:03,440
Speaker 1: So I calm him down and sought out our lead

884
00:40:03,600 --> 00:40:06,319
Speaker 1: and updated him on the situation. Then I went to

885
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:08,840
Speaker 1: our supervisor who had just come out of a meeting

886
00:40:08,920 --> 00:40:12,120
Speaker 1: about the problem team and their outstanding data sheets. So

887
00:40:12,239 --> 00:40:14,440
Speaker 1: when he saw the look of hate and discontent on

888
00:40:14,520 --> 00:40:17,040
Speaker 1: my face, he knew something was wrong. He immediately started

889
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:19,439
Speaker 1: a new email to our manager and the problem team

890
00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:22,279
Speaker 1: supervisor to let them know what had happened. Oh and

891
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:25,040
Speaker 1: Gertrude's friend that laugh at her. He must have realized

892
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:27,400
Speaker 1: he messed up, because he swung by shortly after the

893
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:29,720
Speaker 1: incident and asked if she was still in the office.

894
00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 1: I just smiled and said no. She left, and he

895
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:35,640
Speaker 1: cursed under his breath and took off back towards the lab.

896
00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:37,800
Speaker 1: That was about the end of last week when this occurred.

897
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:40,600
Speaker 1: My updown on what's going to happen to Neckbeard is satisfying,

898
00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:43,040
Speaker 1: at least to me. Where I work, you're allowed to

899
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 1: work from home as long as you can be contacted

900
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:45,479
Speaker 1: and you can.

901
00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:46,600
Speaker 6: Get your work done when it's due.

902
00:40:46,719 --> 00:40:48,560
Speaker 1: I go in three days a week just to give

903
00:40:48,600 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 1: myself a break from being at home. My lead informed

904
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:53,480
Speaker 1: me that the problem teams work from home privileges.

905
00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:54,840
Speaker 6: We have been provoked.

906
00:40:55,080 --> 00:40:56,160
Speaker 2: Get him, We're out of there.

907
00:40:56,239 --> 00:40:59,120
Speaker 6: That's right, that's right, Sam, Wait, it's gone.

908
00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:01,439
Speaker 2: That's kind of rough because I feel like work from

909
00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:02,799
Speaker 2: home is kind of kind of.

910
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 6: Nice, kind of be nice. They don't get it anymore.

911
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:07,960
Speaker 6: They don't get it anymore. It's it's gone for them.

912
00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:08,600
Speaker 3: I mean.

913
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:12,359
Speaker 2: Also, but in another if you have a social job

914
00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 2: that actually kind of sucks. I feel like I feel

915
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:18,120
Speaker 2: like I would rather work with people than be alone

916
00:41:18,160 --> 00:41:18,759
Speaker 2: in my room.

917
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:20,600
Speaker 1: But do you want to work with neck Beard? Well, no,

918
00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:23,160
Speaker 1: that's who you gotta work with. That's that's your option.

919
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:27,200
Speaker 1: Maybe not neck Beard and his problem to lose lose situation,

920
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:28,759
Speaker 1: lose freaking loose.

921
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:31,719
Speaker 6: I don't want to be in his problem the situation.

922
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:34,399
Speaker 6: That's right, you could be Milo Thatch. That's what I've

923
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 6: been told. Oh look exactly like we've said this too many.

924
00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:41,439
Speaker 6: Is that the Atlanti right, that's it, that's a really

925
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:41,839
Speaker 6: good one.

926
00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:43,759
Speaker 2: I need to get the big old glasses.

927
00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:45,759
Speaker 6: That's true. I mean even those are but.

928
00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:47,000
Speaker 2: Any of the circular ones.

929
00:41:47,080 --> 00:41:48,359
Speaker 6: It does, it does complete it.

930
00:41:48,520 --> 00:41:51,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, they must now be in certain hours of the day,

931
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 1: which is another slap in the face because the rest

932
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:56,680
Speaker 1: of us can log in whenever we want and paid

933
00:41:56,760 --> 00:42:01,080
Speaker 1: time off they had planned has now been rejected. They

934
00:42:01,120 --> 00:42:03,720
Speaker 1: were all being written up this will probably also affect

935
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 1: any future raises they may get. Moral of a story,

936
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:08,440
Speaker 1: don't be a knucklehead to someone who's just trying to

937
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:10,440
Speaker 1: freaking help you. And we do have an update, So

938
00:42:10,480 --> 00:42:12,880
Speaker 1: I'm trying to call how long ago this all started,

939
00:42:12,920 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 1: but I'll say around three and a half weeks ago.

940
00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:18,680
Speaker 1: The problem Child team got a new supervisor fifties ishmail

941
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:21,520
Speaker 1: due to a regorg mergent going on with our department.

942
00:42:21,680 --> 00:42:24,880
Speaker 1: I know this new supervisor because he was a project

943
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:27,840
Speaker 1: lead for another department that I back up for. Even funnier,

944
00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:30,840
Speaker 1: the supervisor was a well respected coworker of my husband's

945
00:42:30,840 --> 00:42:32,800
Speaker 1: when they used to work on the projects together before

946
00:42:32,840 --> 00:42:35,239
Speaker 1: I joined the team, and my husband was in an

947
00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:38,000
Speaker 1: adjacent team, so no conflict of interest. A few of

948
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:40,759
Speaker 1: us from QA were the first to find out he

949
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:43,360
Speaker 1: got promoted to supervisor, and we had been talking with

950
00:42:43,440 --> 00:42:45,840
Speaker 1: him when he came over to clean out his new cube,

951
00:42:45,840 --> 00:42:48,080
Speaker 1: which is right across from Mars. The new supervisor is

952
00:42:48,120 --> 00:42:51,400
Speaker 1: a great guy and overall has a fatherly vibe. After

953
00:42:51,440 --> 00:42:54,200
Speaker 1: getting to know me and Gertrude Moore, he seemed to

954
00:42:54,280 --> 00:42:56,520
Speaker 1: really like talking with us and would always come back

955
00:42:56,560 --> 00:42:59,400
Speaker 1: to say good morning and check on various project statuses

956
00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:02,760
Speaker 1: outright tell him what the problem team did to Gertrude,

957
00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:05,520
Speaker 1: since it happened before his promotion and they had already

958
00:43:05,560 --> 00:43:08,000
Speaker 1: been disciplined. However, once the late data sheets came up

959
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:10,279
Speaker 1: in the conversation, it was fair game to tell him

960
00:43:10,320 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 1: what had happened. He look genuinely shocked, and I could

961
00:43:13,040 --> 00:43:16,359
Speaker 1: see the gears turning on how he'd handle the team

962
00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:18,920
Speaker 1: in the future. He thanks me for holding them accountable.

963
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:21,560
Speaker 1: Since then, he's been emailing me and our manager about

964
00:43:21,560 --> 00:43:23,879
Speaker 1: the data sheets. They now have a new completion date

965
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:26,520
Speaker 1: for the new year, and the new supervisor is getting

966
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:30,239
Speaker 1: serious results from the problem team. He's freaking spanking their

967
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:33,040
Speaker 1: booty cheeks into action. He has the same get your

968
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:37,080
Speaker 1: crap done now attitude that he had as a project lead.

969
00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 1: On top of that, he suggested a surveillance audit on

970
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:42,440
Speaker 1: his teams so that way we can meet more of

971
00:43:42,480 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 1: these quotas for the new year guests who volunteered for

972
00:43:45,280 --> 00:43:49,360
Speaker 1: the problem team. Yup me, I will be conducting all

973
00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:52,799
Speaker 1: surveillances with that team from now on. So basically, she's

974
00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:55,319
Speaker 1: the one in charge of making sure they freaking get

975
00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:58,920
Speaker 1: their freaking butts in gear and saying, go you freaking

976
00:43:59,120 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 1: don't get those data sheets in your data sheet dounk.

977
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:05,240
Speaker 1: So Gertrude doesn't have to deal with them again. They'll

978
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:07,880
Speaker 1: only get a day's notice and have to adhere to

979
00:44:07,880 --> 00:44:11,400
Speaker 1: the meeting time I set. I'm thinking six thirty am,

980
00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:14,640
Speaker 1: so it's bright and early lowell. Fast forward to last week,

981
00:44:14,719 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 1: right before thanks gaving vacation, my supervisor came into my

982
00:44:17,480 --> 00:44:20,160
Speaker 1: cube for his usual good morning update. He handed me

983
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:22,239
Speaker 1: a piece of paper and said, take a quick look

984
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:24,200
Speaker 1: at that. For me, I thought I messed something up.

985
00:44:24,280 --> 00:44:28,920
Speaker 1: All I saw was my employment information in higher up signatures. Congratulations,

986
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:30,120
Speaker 1: you definitely deserve it.

987
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:34,640
Speaker 6: It was my raise for the year. Let's freaking go

988
00:44:35,080 --> 00:44:38,360
Speaker 6: take that flowers. Ope, yeah, flowers.

989
00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:40,400
Speaker 1: And I had finally been given my title promotion that

990
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:42,239
Speaker 1: I've been fighting for since last year.

991
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:45,080
Speaker 6: My manager even added a smiley face to the bottom

992
00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:46,640
Speaker 6: of the page. I was thrilled.

993
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:49,799
Speaker 1: Later that day, Gertrude also got her raise and a

994
00:44:49,840 --> 00:44:52,280
Speaker 1: title bump tube. So to top it all off, later

995
00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:56,000
Speaker 1: I got a severance report email. I'm a security rep

996
00:44:56,040 --> 00:44:57,439
Speaker 1: so I get them weekly and.

997
00:44:57,400 --> 00:45:00,080
Speaker 6: Whose name was on the list? Who do we I

998
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:05,080
Speaker 6: think is freakin' gone. I wonder who the coworker who

999
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 6: laughed at freaking Gertrude.

1000
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:09,080
Speaker 1: She had cut off all communication with him, so she

1001
00:45:09,120 --> 00:45:10,000
Speaker 1: didn't know he was quitting.

1002
00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:10,879
Speaker 6: I don't blame him.

1003
00:45:10,920 --> 00:45:13,799
Speaker 1: He got his privileges revoked because of neck Beard. I

1004
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:15,600
Speaker 1: can't confirm what happened to the rest of the team,

1005
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:18,480
Speaker 1: but the office gossip says they're all looking for new

1006
00:45:18,480 --> 00:45:21,200
Speaker 1: departments to work in, probably because they got the bare

1007
00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:23,160
Speaker 1: minimum raise or none at all.

1008
00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 6: So ends the neck beard incident. For now. There's nothing more.

1009
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:29,279
Speaker 12: And that's the end of this story. We're going on

1010
00:45:29,320 --> 00:45:30,760
Speaker 12: to the next one.

1011
00:45:30,840 --> 00:45:34,600
Speaker 2: The management left me alone to run everything, so I

1012
00:45:35,200 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 2: snapped at him. I twenty female work part time in aviation,

1013
00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:43,640
Speaker 2: usually once or twice a month, well studying law full time.

1014
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 2: My manager begged me to work a night shift because

1015
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:50,560
Speaker 2: they were short staffed. I initially declined since I had

1016
00:45:50,560 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 2: an exam the next morning, but he kept asking. Eventually

1017
00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:55,560
Speaker 2: I agreed, only under the condition that I could leave

1018
00:45:55,640 --> 00:45:58,840
Speaker 2: at six am shart to make my exam. He promised

1019
00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:01,040
Speaker 2: that was fine, and Scud'll be that way. By the way,

1020
00:46:01,080 --> 00:46:04,040
Speaker 2: this comes from Humble Hedgehog forty one ninety five, and

1021
00:46:04,080 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 2: if you want to submit your own stories, go to

1022
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:08,200
Speaker 2: the Okay Storytime subrette.

1023
00:46:08,480 --> 00:46:11,160
Speaker 6: I'm Sam, I'm John, I'm Keon, and we're.

1024
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:13,799
Speaker 2: Here to give good advice goofley, but we don't have

1025
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 2: all the answers. We only know what we'd do, So

1026
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:18,400
Speaker 2: let us know what you would do in the comments.

1027
00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:22,680
Speaker 2: Here's the issue. My supervisor that night was Anna thirty three, female,

1028
00:46:22,719 --> 00:46:26,160
Speaker 2: an ex friend I cut off for being toxic and unreliable.

1029
00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:29,040
Speaker 2: I respect your position, but she is someone who gave

1030
00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:31,040
Speaker 2: me crop for not making time for her on the

1031
00:46:31,120 --> 00:46:33,640
Speaker 2: day she was off, even when I had exams. In

1032
00:46:33,680 --> 00:46:36,160
Speaker 2: her eyes, I had a lot of time because I'm

1033
00:46:36,160 --> 00:46:38,040
Speaker 2: just a student while she works full time. She's also

1034
00:46:38,080 --> 00:46:40,400
Speaker 2: a supervisor who will just vanish and hang out somewhere

1035
00:46:40,440 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 2: with her friends or be on her phone. Sure enough,

1036
00:46:42,760 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 2: that night, I was alone at checkin'. The line was

1037
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:48,799
Speaker 2: massive and Anna was nowhere to be found. I called

1038
00:46:48,840 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 2: my manager at four forty five am to remind him

1039
00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:53,360
Speaker 2: that I was leaving at six am, and I wanted

1040
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:56,880
Speaker 2: no issues, because between five to seven am there's no manager.

1041
00:46:56,960 --> 00:46:59,759
Speaker 2: He said, yes, no problem. By five thirty chaos I

1042
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:04,000
Speaker 2: called and eight times no answer, no manager, no ticketing,

1043
00:47:04,400 --> 00:47:08,520
Speaker 2: no coordination staff, just me and a massive line of passengers.

1044
00:47:08,680 --> 00:47:11,800
Speaker 2: At six I was supposed to leave, but I stayed

1045
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:14,600
Speaker 2: another thirty because the line was still long. Finally, at

1046
00:47:14,600 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 2: six thirty, I told the passengers in line that someone

1047
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 2: was taking over.

1048
00:47:18,520 --> 00:47:18,680
Speaker 8: Well.

1049
00:47:18,719 --> 00:47:20,719
Speaker 2: They were furious and angry, as they had been in

1050
00:47:20,800 --> 00:47:23,360
Speaker 2: line for hours. At that point, I clocked out rushed

1051
00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:25,880
Speaker 2: my exam, which I barely made on the way. I

1052
00:47:25,960 --> 00:47:30,240
Speaker 2: emailed HR explaining the situation to protect myself. After my exam,

1053
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:33,279
Speaker 2: I had several misscalls from duty managers telling me to

1054
00:47:33,280 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 2: come in. I went, exhausted and running on zero sleep,

1055
00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:40,319
Speaker 2: and found three managers waiting. They said eight passengers missed

1056
00:47:40,320 --> 00:47:42,880
Speaker 2: their flights because of me. I explained what happened, but

1057
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 2: they just repeated, that's no excuse. That's when I snapped.

1058
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:49,040
Speaker 2: I said, this was the deal. I stayed thirty minutes

1059
00:47:49,120 --> 00:47:52,680
Speaker 2: longer and almost missed my exam. You broke your word,

1060
00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:55,399
Speaker 2: not me, and this is how you show gratitude. I'm

1061
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:58,520
Speaker 2: studying so I don't end up stuck here with ungrateful

1062
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:01,799
Speaker 2: rats like you. I wanna tell your kid to miss

1063
00:48:01,800 --> 00:48:03,840
Speaker 2: an exam, would you? I also asked if they had

1064
00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:04,520
Speaker 2: spoken Anna.

1065
00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:05,040
Speaker 6: They hadn't.

1066
00:48:05,160 --> 00:48:07,760
Speaker 2: I told them, you're blaming the one person who actually

1067
00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 2: worked while your supervisor vanished. I called Anna eight times

1068
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:15,520
Speaker 2: and she didn't pick up. Where was she It's easy

1069
00:48:15,560 --> 00:48:17,640
Speaker 2: to blame someone you don't have to look in the

1070
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:21,080
Speaker 2: eye every day. But I'm really the wrong one. I've

1071
00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:21,800
Speaker 2: done far.

1072
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:22,400
Speaker 6: Too much for you.

1073
00:48:22,840 --> 00:48:24,959
Speaker 2: Get your acts straight and start doing your job, because

1074
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:26,000
Speaker 2: right now you suck at it.

1075
00:48:26,080 --> 00:48:29,960
Speaker 6: By man, oh oh, pi's not not holding off.

1076
00:48:30,080 --> 00:48:32,920
Speaker 2: They called me rude and said they'd report me to

1077
00:48:33,120 --> 00:48:35,600
Speaker 2: HR and I should be ready to get by your

1078
00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 2: I told them I'd already email on HR. So here

1079
00:48:39,680 --> 00:48:41,760
Speaker 2: is why I might be a bit rude, because I said,

1080
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:44,799
Speaker 2: the second you called me during my exam and called

1081
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:47,120
Speaker 2: me back into the office to give me bowl about

1082
00:48:47,200 --> 00:48:49,880
Speaker 2: leaving after working longer than agreed, while I'm still running

1083
00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:52,640
Speaker 2: on zero's to sleep and you're not even looking for

1084
00:48:52,680 --> 00:48:56,200
Speaker 2: the actual responsible person here Anna to ask her why

1085
00:48:56,280 --> 00:49:00,239
Speaker 2: she wasn't on the position, and left me alone a

1086
00:49:00,280 --> 00:49:03,560
Speaker 2: whole night to check in everyone. I stopped being nice. Sorry,

1087
00:49:03,880 --> 00:49:06,120
Speaker 2: I later added, I'm not trying to be a bee here,

1088
00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:08,399
Speaker 2: and it's not like I need this heck of a job.

1089
00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:11,160
Speaker 2: I was just coming here because it was fun to do.

1090
00:49:11,280 --> 00:49:14,000
Speaker 2: But try to fire me for this, and we'll see

1091
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Speaker 2: each other in the courtroom. I'll make it a story

1092
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:19,719
Speaker 2: and write my end thesis about it. HR later reached

1093
00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:21,680
Speaker 2: out for a meeting the same day. I told them no,

1094
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Speaker 2: I need to rest and study and that we could

1095
00:49:23,760 --> 00:49:25,600
Speaker 2: schedule it for next week. They weren't happy, but I

1096
00:49:25,680 --> 00:49:29,120
Speaker 2: refuse to budge. Now I'm wondering, am I the a

1097
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:32,279
Speaker 2: hole for leaving and snapping at my managers. My friend

1098
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:34,200
Speaker 2: says I went too far and should have stayed polite,

1099
00:49:34,239 --> 00:49:36,240
Speaker 2: But I honestly think I had every ready to defend

1100
00:49:36,239 --> 00:49:40,760
Speaker 2: myself after being left alone all night. There's comments, there's

1101
00:49:40,760 --> 00:49:43,920
Speaker 2: some updates were about halfway through. But John, you've worked corporate,

1102
00:49:44,000 --> 00:49:48,279
Speaker 2: you've had your own business, you multiple owned businesses, You've

1103
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:50,799
Speaker 2: kind of been through every way a lay of the

1104
00:49:50,880 --> 00:49:54,640
Speaker 2: land in terms of employments, and I'm curious, how would

1105
00:49:54,680 --> 00:49:55,880
Speaker 2: you have handled this situation.

1106
00:49:56,080 --> 00:49:59,480
Speaker 1: I'll say what president and future John would have handled it,

1107
00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:01,279
Speaker 1: and also comment on the good and bad here. I

1108
00:50:01,320 --> 00:50:04,280
Speaker 1: don't know if I would have called them ungrateful rats.

1109
00:50:04,880 --> 00:50:09,879
Speaker 2: That's that's maybe a little, a little far, a little far.

1110
00:50:10,440 --> 00:50:14,040
Speaker 1: However, I do think it is dope. That op is

1111
00:50:14,120 --> 00:50:16,000
Speaker 1: kind of like drawing a line in the sand, and

1112
00:50:16,080 --> 00:50:18,279
Speaker 1: I think there's a way to do it where it's

1113
00:50:18,280 --> 00:50:20,359
Speaker 1: like literally just reading the facts of them, Like, hey, guys,

1114
00:50:20,400 --> 00:50:24,080
Speaker 1: here's the situation. I gave you all the pads up

1115
00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:25,719
Speaker 1: in the world, I have all the receipts of all

1116
00:50:25,760 --> 00:50:26,280
Speaker 1: of this stuff.

1117
00:50:26,440 --> 00:50:28,439
Speaker 6: This was not on me. This was on you guys.

1118
00:50:28,480 --> 00:50:31,040
Speaker 1: This was on Anna, like whatever, like I'm not at

1119
00:50:31,080 --> 00:50:33,840
Speaker 1: faultier and just like kind of like calmly and clearly

1120
00:50:33,880 --> 00:50:35,640
Speaker 1: drawing that line in the sand of like, listen, this

1121
00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:39,080
Speaker 1: is not yeah, this is not my wrongdoing. This is

1122
00:50:39,160 --> 00:50:41,360
Speaker 1: on you guys. And then I guess maybe telling that

1123
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Speaker 1: to hr and stuff.

1124
00:50:42,239 --> 00:50:45,360
Speaker 2: I feel like you standing up for yourself is not wrong.

1125
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:47,319
Speaker 2: I think the way in which you stood up for

1126
00:50:47,360 --> 00:50:49,759
Speaker 2: yourself is not in your best interest because I think

1127
00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:52,359
Speaker 2: it'll prevent you from getting a job there or in

1128
00:50:52,400 --> 00:50:55,120
Speaker 2: the future. If in terms of recommendation comment why not

1129
00:50:55,280 --> 00:50:57,480
Speaker 2: dy a hole. But as someone who worked in aviation

1130
00:50:57,600 --> 00:51:00,400
Speaker 2: for three years, don't go to that meeting. If you do,

1131
00:51:00,600 --> 00:51:03,280
Speaker 2: take a union rep and a witness personally, I'd email

1132
00:51:03,320 --> 00:51:05,960
Speaker 2: them and tell them to stick their job and walk away.

1133
00:51:06,200 --> 00:51:09,080
Speaker 2: Aviation is nothing but drama a op response. I have

1134
00:51:09,160 --> 00:51:11,839
Speaker 2: been working for this company since I was sixteen. I

1135
00:51:11,880 --> 00:51:14,720
Speaker 2: was the first minor and the baby of the company.

1136
00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:17,839
Speaker 2: They'd be so thoughtful and careful with me. Ironic how

1137
00:51:17,920 --> 00:51:21,000
Speaker 2: time changes people. I'm going with a union rep and

1138
00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:23,839
Speaker 2: I'm taking someone from the legal world with me as well.

1139
00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:26,120
Speaker 2: I kind of find it funny how this is all

1140
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:29,960
Speaker 2: going well. Comment two sets concentrate on law school, not

1141
00:51:30,080 --> 00:51:33,080
Speaker 2: some part time job that's providing you with some spending

1142
00:51:33,160 --> 00:51:36,120
Speaker 2: cash and lots of frustration. Take care of your mental health.

1143
00:51:36,160 --> 00:51:37,960
Speaker 2: Try your best to make connections with anyone in the

1144
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:41,040
Speaker 2: law field. Be buddy buddy with your professors and classmates.

1145
00:51:41,360 --> 00:51:43,840
Speaker 2: You never know will be in a position of power

1146
00:51:43,920 --> 00:51:46,200
Speaker 2: or hiring or anything else in ten years if you

1147
00:51:46,239 --> 00:51:49,200
Speaker 2: have not already done so. Build up your LinkedIn profile

1148
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:52,000
Speaker 2: and grow your network. Start attending any event that interests you.

1149
00:51:52,360 --> 00:51:55,719
Speaker 2: Most of those events are free for students. Take advantage

1150
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:58,000
Speaker 2: of that source. I'm a lawyer ten plus years out

1151
00:51:58,000 --> 00:52:01,520
Speaker 2: of law school and ope response sudied and I finished

1152
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:05,320
Speaker 2: in aviation studies years ago and just kept this side

1153
00:52:05,480 --> 00:52:08,520
Speaker 2: of myself as I liked to do it. It wasn't

1154
00:52:08,520 --> 00:52:10,960
Speaker 2: for the money. It was more of a place where

1155
00:52:10,960 --> 00:52:13,400
Speaker 2: I could take my mind off of school and it

1156
00:52:13,440 --> 00:52:16,040
Speaker 2: was just me and the airplanes. I never needed the money, thankfully,

1157
00:52:16,080 --> 00:52:18,600
Speaker 2: but now I'm actually considering quitting.

1158
00:52:18,719 --> 00:52:19,120
Speaker 6: Update.

1159
00:52:19,200 --> 00:52:21,760
Speaker 2: We rescheduled and the meeting is now in a few minutes.

1160
00:52:22,160 --> 00:52:24,440
Speaker 2: I'm typing this as I'm waiting in the hallway with

1161
00:52:24,520 --> 00:52:27,880
Speaker 2: my advocate and union prep. Update two. Lmao, guys, this

1162
00:52:27,920 --> 00:52:30,759
Speaker 2: whole meeting was a joke. Basically what happened. I entered

1163
00:52:30,760 --> 00:52:33,319
Speaker 2: the room and there were four people waiting, two from

1164
00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:36,000
Speaker 2: the legal team, like they're about to question a criminal mastermind.

1165
00:52:36,080 --> 00:52:38,880
Speaker 2: I sat down calmly, and they said let's start. I

1166
00:52:38,960 --> 00:52:41,120
Speaker 2: smiled and said, before we start, I haven't had my

1167
00:52:41,160 --> 00:52:44,440
Speaker 2: coffee yet, so if I'm about to be tired by

1168
00:52:44,440 --> 00:52:47,800
Speaker 2: a whole legal team, I'd like caffeine and my system first, lmao.

1169
00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:50,680
Speaker 2: They looked a bit startled, but someone fetched coffee, took

1170
00:52:50,680 --> 00:52:52,640
Speaker 2: a stip, thanked them and said, coffee is great. We

1171
00:52:52,680 --> 00:52:55,480
Speaker 2: should get these in our office as well. Anyways, please

1172
00:52:55,520 --> 00:52:55,920
Speaker 2: go ahead.

1173
00:52:55,960 --> 00:53:00,320
Speaker 1: Brop Op is like the master of pulling power meap wait,

1174
00:53:00,480 --> 00:53:01,440
Speaker 1: I need my coffee.

1175
00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:04,000
Speaker 2: One person started it with a classic line, do you

1176
00:53:04,120 --> 00:53:07,360
Speaker 2: know why you're here today? I smiled again. I could guess,

1177
00:53:07,560 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 2: but I'd rather hear what you think happened. That way,

1178
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:12,319
Speaker 2: I can respond to facts net assumptions, and thus we

1179
00:53:12,400 --> 00:53:16,000
Speaker 2: started the whole conversation. They started listing issues. Eight passengers

1180
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:19,880
Speaker 2: missed their fights. I abandoned my post and my tone

1181
00:53:19,920 --> 00:53:23,120
Speaker 2: towards management was inappropriate. I let them finish, then calmly

1182
00:53:23,200 --> 00:53:25,480
Speaker 2: handed the evidence to my lawyer, who presented it. Here

1183
00:53:25,480 --> 00:53:29,080
Speaker 2: are the call logs. Eight calls to the on duty supervisor,

1184
00:53:29,600 --> 00:53:32,920
Speaker 2: all unanswered, and text messages with the manager agreeing on

1185
00:53:33,000 --> 00:53:35,719
Speaker 2: leaving at six am sharp, and again a call to

1186
00:53:35,719 --> 00:53:38,520
Speaker 2: the duty manager at four forty five am to confirm

1187
00:53:38,640 --> 00:53:40,560
Speaker 2: I can leave at six am. Here's the email I

1188
00:53:40,600 --> 00:53:43,840
Speaker 2: sent to HR while leaving, timestamp six thirty one am,

1189
00:53:43,920 --> 00:53:46,680
Speaker 2: photos of the empty desks, and finally my clock in

1190
00:53:46,719 --> 00:53:49,600
Speaker 2: and clockout records showing I stayed thirty minutes past the

1191
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:52,640
Speaker 2: time agreed upon with management. One of them said, still

1192
00:53:53,040 --> 00:53:55,839
Speaker 2: you left without insuring a handover. I replied, you mean

1193
00:53:55,880 --> 00:53:59,160
Speaker 2: the handover that the supervisor, the one who gets paid

1194
00:53:59,600 --> 00:54:02,000
Speaker 2: to man the floor full time, was supposed to perform

1195
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:04,680
Speaker 2: the one I tried to contact repeatedly while handling a

1196
00:54:04,760 --> 00:54:07,920
Speaker 2: check in alone for the whole night. If we're discussing accountability,

1197
00:54:08,120 --> 00:54:11,800
Speaker 2: let's not confuse hierarchy. Another tried, you could have called

1198
00:54:11,800 --> 00:54:15,040
Speaker 2: ticketing or coordination, I said, and who exactly would have answered?

1199
00:54:15,080 --> 00:54:18,080
Speaker 2: I tried both, No response. If you'd like, we can

1200
00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:20,680
Speaker 2: check the phone logs together. The room went quiet. I

1201
00:54:20,800 --> 00:54:25,120
Speaker 2: understand that passengers miss flights. Well, that's unfortunate, but it's

1202
00:54:25,160 --> 00:54:29,479
Speaker 2: also the direct result of incompetent management with a zero

1203
00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:33,960
Speaker 2: backup for its staff. I was transparent, I worked beyond

1204
00:54:34,360 --> 00:54:39,160
Speaker 2: my agreed hours, and I prioritize my own safety and

1205
00:54:39,239 --> 00:54:43,319
Speaker 2: performed the procedure as I should. You could try to

1206
00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:47,160
Speaker 2: discipline me for following the rules, but that says more

1207
00:54:47,200 --> 00:54:51,440
Speaker 2: about the lack of this company in the aviation world

1208
00:54:51,680 --> 00:54:54,040
Speaker 2: than about me. I wouldn't be the one whose name

1209
00:54:54,080 --> 00:54:55,759
Speaker 2: would be on the cover of.

1210
00:54:55,680 --> 00:54:58,680
Speaker 6: An aviation magazine. WO and the.

1211
00:54:58,719 --> 00:55:02,279
Speaker 2: Company that made a eight people miss their fight due

1212
00:55:02,320 --> 00:55:05,680
Speaker 2: to lack of competence. My lawyer then calmly said.

1213
00:55:05,480 --> 00:55:10,239
Speaker 13: I believe there is also a competition right There are

1214
00:55:10,280 --> 00:55:13,600
Speaker 13: now ten handlers, and in two years there will only

1215
00:55:13,640 --> 00:55:16,120
Speaker 13: be seven left, So you're in a race against others.

1216
00:55:16,160 --> 00:55:18,279
Speaker 13: I assume I don't think dragging this all the way

1217
00:55:18,280 --> 00:55:21,759
Speaker 13: to court would be very good for your prestige. Now,

1218
00:55:22,840 --> 00:55:25,719
Speaker 13: after that, the legal rep nodded slightly and said, we'll

1219
00:55:25,760 --> 00:55:28,480
Speaker 13: review the material a littles you've provided.

1220
00:55:28,920 --> 00:55:31,720
Speaker 2: I smided, please do. I'd hate to have to explain

1221
00:55:31,760 --> 00:55:35,040
Speaker 2: it to an external mediator how a part time employee

1222
00:55:35,120 --> 00:55:37,240
Speaker 2: is still just a student who has left to manage

1223
00:55:37,280 --> 00:55:42,160
Speaker 2: an entire termin alone because management couldn't locate its own supervisor.

1224
00:55:42,520 --> 00:55:45,040
Speaker 2: Although it would be perfect as a theme for my

1225
00:55:45,280 --> 00:55:47,200
Speaker 2: end thesis, let's not take it.

1226
00:55:47,120 --> 00:55:48,400
Speaker 6: There, shall we.

1227
00:55:49,080 --> 00:55:51,960
Speaker 2: Savage Well, I calmly finished my coffee, thank them for

1228
00:55:52,000 --> 00:55:54,640
Speaker 2: the time, and left, calm, confident and very awake. My

1229
00:55:54,719 --> 00:55:57,240
Speaker 2: lawyer and union rep said that this issue was over,

1230
00:55:57,760 --> 00:56:01,000
Speaker 2: and they probably apologized to me the very seeing how

1231
00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:05,000
Speaker 2: serious I am about pursuing my rights. And that is

1232
00:56:05,080 --> 00:56:07,520
Speaker 2: where this story ends.

1233
00:56:07,719 --> 00:56:10,080
Speaker 6: Wow, hey y'all, it's John og Host here.

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00:56:10,080 --> 00:56:11,480
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories, but here's a

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00:56:11,560 --> 00:56:13,360
Speaker 1: quick three minute break from as for more sponsors.

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Speaker 14: My coworker lied about me flirting to cause drama.

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00:56:17,960 --> 00:56:21,320
Speaker 12: Now, and this comes.

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00:56:21,080 --> 00:56:24,880
Speaker 14: Directly from the r slash Okay story and I'm SUBREDDITO. Yes,

1239
00:56:26,120 --> 00:56:29,800
Speaker 14: so I nineteen females started working at this job about

1240
00:56:29,880 --> 00:56:33,440
Speaker 14: five months ago. I would consider myself very social, so

1241
00:56:33,520 --> 00:56:35,200
Speaker 14: I quickly became cool.

1242
00:56:34,920 --> 00:56:36,560
Speaker 12: With a lot of the people that worked there.

1243
00:56:37,000 --> 00:56:39,040
Speaker 14: About a month and a half ago, me, a few

1244
00:56:39,120 --> 00:56:42,160
Speaker 14: coworkers and a coworker's brother planned to go to the

1245
00:56:42,160 --> 00:56:47,200
Speaker 14: beach to hang out. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 14: user amazing Highway seven five six and if you want

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Speaker 14: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash

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Speaker 14: okay storytime subrette where this story was submitted.

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Speaker 12: I'm Dakota, I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and we are here

1250
00:56:59,160 --> 00:57:00,280
Speaker 12: to give you good advice.

1251
00:57:00,360 --> 00:57:00,799
Speaker 6: Goof for me.

1252
00:57:01,080 --> 00:57:02,719
Speaker 14: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

1253
00:57:02,760 --> 00:57:05,560
Speaker 14: what we would do, So if you would do something different,

1254
00:57:05,800 --> 00:57:06,239
Speaker 14: let us know.

1255
00:57:06,320 --> 00:57:07,960
Speaker 12: In the comments, op.

1256
00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:10,719
Speaker 14: Says there were about six of us, but the only

1257
00:57:10,760 --> 00:57:15,240
Speaker 14: important people here are these three, me and two other coworkers. Okay,

1258
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:18,400
Speaker 14: let's call the guy Chris twenty six male and the

1259
00:57:18,400 --> 00:57:22,560
Speaker 14: girl Alexa about twenty four female. Alexa has been dating

1260
00:57:22,640 --> 00:57:27,320
Speaker 14: another coworker, Alexander, early twenties for I don't know how long.

1261
00:57:27,880 --> 00:57:31,000
Speaker 14: I have always found them cute together and always complimented

1262
00:57:31,040 --> 00:57:34,040
Speaker 14: their relationship because from how it looks, they are super healthy.

1263
00:57:34,840 --> 00:57:37,800
Speaker 14: When we went to the beach, me, Chris, Alexander, and

1264
00:57:37,840 --> 00:57:40,440
Speaker 14: the two other guys walked to where we parked our

1265
00:57:40,480 --> 00:57:43,040
Speaker 14: cars to pay for parking because it was every three

1266
00:57:43,080 --> 00:57:45,240
Speaker 14: hours that we had to pay. I went in my

1267
00:57:45,320 --> 00:57:48,800
Speaker 14: own car, another coworker went in their car, and Alexander, Chris,

1268
00:57:48,800 --> 00:57:51,920
Speaker 14: and the rest all went in the same car. Chris

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00:57:52,000 --> 00:57:54,960
Speaker 14: was telling me that for some reason, Alexa was upset

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00:57:55,040 --> 00:57:59,640
Speaker 14: and bothered. I go, oh, my God, did I do

1271
00:57:59,680 --> 00:58:02,919
Speaker 14: something to upset her? Because she was always left where

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00:58:02,960 --> 00:58:04,880
Speaker 14: all of our stuff was when we went in the ocean,

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00:58:05,240 --> 00:58:07,280
Speaker 14: and she was also left behind when we went to

1274
00:58:07,280 --> 00:58:09,520
Speaker 14: go pay for park I was also thinking that maybe

1275
00:58:09,560 --> 00:58:12,320
Speaker 14: I said something to make her or her man upset.

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00:58:12,680 --> 00:58:15,600
Speaker 14: When I was making jokes with the others, Chris told me,

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00:58:16,360 --> 00:58:20,280
Speaker 14: I don't know. I later on he told me that

1278
00:58:20,360 --> 00:58:24,000
Speaker 14: the reason why Alexa was upset was because Alexander told

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00:58:24,040 --> 00:58:26,479
Speaker 14: her she couldn't go in the ocean. When she asked

1280
00:58:26,480 --> 00:58:28,640
Speaker 14: if she could go in with her underwear and bathing

1281
00:58:28,640 --> 00:58:32,880
Speaker 14: suit top, I was like, no, okay, But for some reason,

1282
00:58:32,920 --> 00:58:36,720
Speaker 14: out of nowhere. Alexa and Alexander had stopped talking to me.

1283
00:58:37,960 --> 00:58:41,400
Speaker 14: They had this distance, and I felt some type of tension,

1284
00:58:42,160 --> 00:58:45,360
Speaker 14: like they were bothered or uncomfortable. I was confused and

1285
00:58:45,440 --> 00:58:48,600
Speaker 14: kept questioning Chris to tell me what was wrong and

1286
00:58:48,680 --> 00:58:51,920
Speaker 14: why they were upset with me. Chris said, I don't know,

1287
00:58:52,200 --> 00:58:55,600
Speaker 14: but I will ask Alexa what happened. And then Chris

1288
00:58:55,640 --> 00:58:58,360
Speaker 14: told me, don't tell Alexi. I told you, but she

1289
00:58:58,480 --> 00:59:01,200
Speaker 14: said that at the beach she felt like you were

1290
00:59:01,240 --> 00:59:02,760
Speaker 14: flirting with Alexander.

1291
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Speaker 12: What oh, he continues.

1292
00:59:05,000 --> 00:59:07,600
Speaker 14: I was like, how the heck was I flirting? And

1293
00:59:07,640 --> 00:59:10,240
Speaker 14: he goes, I don't know, but they get very jealous

1294
00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:12,880
Speaker 14: of each other. I didn't, but please don't tell her

1295
00:59:12,960 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 14: I told you. I kept telling her to ask her,

1296
00:59:15,600 --> 00:59:18,640
Speaker 14: and I started coming up with my own conclusions. Maybe

1297
00:59:18,640 --> 00:59:20,480
Speaker 14: I was the only other girl there and that's why

1298
00:59:20,520 --> 00:59:22,600
Speaker 14: she got jealous. Maybe it's because I was wearing a

1299
00:59:22,640 --> 00:59:25,200
Speaker 14: two piece, Maybe because I was going in the ocean

1300
00:59:25,200 --> 00:59:28,760
Speaker 14: with everyone including her man and she wasn't. So many

1301
00:59:28,760 --> 00:59:30,760
Speaker 14: things were getting into my head. But I had never

1302
00:59:31,200 --> 00:59:34,320
Speaker 14: flirted with him. I have always spoken to Alexander right

1303
00:59:34,360 --> 00:59:37,000
Speaker 14: in front of Alexa, because there was never any reason

1304
00:59:37,000 --> 00:59:39,560
Speaker 14: for me to talk to him, but just as simple, Hey,

1305
00:59:39,600 --> 00:59:42,000
Speaker 14: how are you. It got to the point where I

1306
00:59:42,000 --> 00:59:44,720
Speaker 14: had gotten tired and I just simply told Chris I

1307
00:59:44,760 --> 00:59:47,240
Speaker 14: was going to text Alexa. I start telling him how

1308
00:59:47,240 --> 00:59:48,920
Speaker 14: I was going to text her, and he goes, okay,

1309
00:59:48,960 --> 00:59:52,600
Speaker 14: but don't say this or that. I go okay, and

1310
00:59:52,640 --> 00:59:56,120
Speaker 14: I text Alexa a small simple paragraph saying things like, hey,

1311
00:59:56,200 --> 00:59:58,400
Speaker 14: not to be rude, but if you felt a certain

1312
00:59:58,400 --> 00:59:59,800
Speaker 14: way about me, why not come up to me and

1313
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:00,720
Speaker 14: tell me how you felt.

1314
01:00:00,800 --> 01:00:01,400
Speaker 12: I miss you.

1315
01:00:01,480 --> 01:00:03,800
Speaker 14: Oh no, girl, I'm sorry. That's the wrong way to

1316
01:00:03,840 --> 01:00:08,080
Speaker 14: do that. Bad God that that was not the right way.

1317
01:00:08,760 --> 01:00:09,959
Speaker 15: No, no, no, that was.

1318
01:00:10,000 --> 01:00:12,400
Speaker 14: That was the wrong That's good, that's that's hmm.

1319
01:00:13,000 --> 01:00:14,800
Speaker 12: You gotta be a little more tactical, you.

1320
01:00:14,760 --> 01:00:16,800
Speaker 3: Know, aproach tactical flirting.

1321
01:00:17,400 --> 01:00:21,000
Speaker 14: So she then goes and tells me in a paragraph

1322
01:00:21,040 --> 01:00:23,200
Speaker 14: that I was a good friend and I should know

1323
01:00:23,240 --> 01:00:25,480
Speaker 14: what I did because I told Chris at the beach.

1324
01:00:26,120 --> 01:00:28,560
Speaker 14: Is Alexa mad at me because I'm flirting with Alexander?

1325
01:00:29,040 --> 01:00:30,400
Speaker 12: My mouth was to the floor.

1326
01:00:31,080 --> 01:00:33,320
Speaker 14: That was pissed because all of this time Chris was

1327
01:00:33,360 --> 01:00:36,160
Speaker 14: telling me that Alexa felt like I was the one

1328
01:00:36,160 --> 01:00:38,680
Speaker 14: flirting with her. Man at the beach, I go on

1329
01:00:38,760 --> 01:00:41,080
Speaker 14: this whole talk that was like four paragraphs long about

1330
01:00:41,080 --> 01:00:43,720
Speaker 14: how I would never do that that. Chris was the

1331
01:00:43,720 --> 01:00:45,720
Speaker 14: one that told me that she felt like I was

1332
01:00:45,760 --> 01:00:48,160
Speaker 14: flirting with Alexander and wanted me to tell her.

1333
01:00:48,160 --> 01:00:48,680
Speaker 12: I'm sorry.

1334
01:00:49,080 --> 01:00:52,080
Speaker 14: I sent Alexa screenshots of me and Chris's conversations after

1335
01:00:52,120 --> 01:00:52,480
Speaker 14: the beach.

1336
01:00:52,680 --> 01:00:54,360
Speaker 12: What makes sense now? Why Chris was like.

1337
01:00:54,440 --> 01:00:56,800
Speaker 14: Well, don't tell her I told you, and don't say

1338
01:00:56,840 --> 01:01:00,400
Speaker 14: any of this, and don't say any of that. Bluntley

1339
01:01:00,520 --> 01:01:01,919
Speaker 14: lies to be exploded.

1340
01:01:02,160 --> 01:01:06,520
Speaker 15: Like manipulations, liars want you to keep things under wrap

1341
01:01:06,600 --> 01:01:08,760
Speaker 15: because if you start talking with other people, then their

1342
01:01:08,800 --> 01:01:09,920
Speaker 15: liars get exposed.

1343
01:01:09,920 --> 01:01:11,360
Speaker 12: Now, why is Chris doing this?

1344
01:01:12,480 --> 01:01:15,720
Speaker 14: Alexa told me that she was told the complete opposite

1345
01:01:16,120 --> 01:01:18,520
Speaker 14: and said that she never thought I was flirting with Alexander.

1346
01:01:18,960 --> 01:01:19,400
Speaker 5: Huh.

1347
01:01:19,480 --> 01:01:21,960
Speaker 14: We talked things out, and then Chris texted me and

1348
01:01:22,000 --> 01:01:24,480
Speaker 14: told me why would I send messages to Alexa when

1349
01:01:24,480 --> 01:01:25,840
Speaker 14: I should have kept them to myself.

1350
01:01:25,880 --> 01:01:27,040
Speaker 5: Wait, so Chris is the liar.

1351
01:01:27,360 --> 01:01:29,680
Speaker 14: Chris is the liar. Chris was instigated.

1352
01:01:29,800 --> 01:01:30,760
Speaker 3: Chris was Chris.

1353
01:01:31,040 --> 01:01:32,760
Speaker 6: Chris goes to.

1354
01:01:32,800 --> 01:01:35,680
Speaker 14: Alexa and goes, hey, you do you see OP flirting

1355
01:01:35,760 --> 01:01:39,800
Speaker 14: with your boyfriend, and alexas like not really, are you sure?

1356
01:01:39,880 --> 01:01:41,360
Speaker 12: And he's like yeah, she.

1357
01:01:41,560 --> 01:01:43,520
Speaker 15: Said, is she is?

1358
01:01:43,560 --> 01:01:47,560
Speaker 14: She flirting with Alexander constantly, and then goes to Op

1359
01:01:47,720 --> 01:01:50,920
Speaker 14: and goes, hey, don't tell Lexaler Alexai, I told you this,

1360
01:01:50,960 --> 01:01:53,280
Speaker 14: but she's upset that you're flirting with her boyfriend.

1361
01:01:54,600 --> 01:01:58,040
Speaker 12: Come on, what a freaky, weirdo thing to do.

1362
01:01:59,760 --> 01:02:02,640
Speaker 14: Chris said that at the beach, I did say, does

1363
01:02:02,680 --> 01:02:06,920
Speaker 14: Alexa think I'm flirting? I go, bro, you're telling Alexa

1364
01:02:07,080 --> 01:02:09,440
Speaker 14: that I said I was flirting with Alexander. But I

1365
01:02:09,520 --> 01:02:12,680
Speaker 14: didn't officially say anything until after the beach, when you

1366
01:02:12,760 --> 01:02:14,240
Speaker 14: said they were jealous of each other.

1367
01:02:14,480 --> 01:02:14,920
Speaker 12: That's when I.

1368
01:02:14,920 --> 01:02:18,000
Speaker 14: Said, oh, did she think I was trying to flirt

1369
01:02:18,080 --> 01:02:21,400
Speaker 14: with Alexander? Because I was just the only other girl there.

1370
01:02:22,320 --> 01:02:25,760
Speaker 14: Chris goes on this whole like eight minute rant that

1371
01:02:25,920 --> 01:02:28,720
Speaker 14: I am mixing his words, and then I got blocked.

1372
01:02:28,920 --> 01:02:32,160
Speaker 9: Weirdo weird, weirdo, weirdo behavior alert.

1373
01:02:32,840 --> 01:02:34,840
Speaker 12: I thought it was weird that he got mad because

1374
01:02:34,840 --> 01:02:38,400
Speaker 12: he has told me other things about my body that

1375
01:02:38,480 --> 01:02:39,840
Speaker 12: I never got upset about.

1376
01:02:39,880 --> 01:02:41,360
Speaker 5: Oh my god, cut this, Chris off.

1377
01:02:41,480 --> 01:02:43,000
Speaker 12: Yeah, well he did it to himself.

1378
01:02:43,120 --> 01:02:43,480
Speaker 6: Good job.

1379
01:02:44,360 --> 01:02:47,400
Speaker 14: Two months before this happened me, Chris, another girl, and

1380
01:02:47,440 --> 01:02:49,600
Speaker 14: another guy were on the phone and the girl kept

1381
01:02:49,600 --> 01:02:54,560
Speaker 14: talking about how big her booty was. Everyone was super uncomfortable.

1382
01:02:54,640 --> 01:02:56,919
Speaker 14: So I was messing around and said, oh, I don't

1383
01:02:56,960 --> 01:02:58,880
Speaker 14: have a big old boot it, but I do have

1384
01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:03,120
Speaker 14: some front airbag eggs that on double D's.

1385
01:03:03,600 --> 01:03:05,720
Speaker 12: I know I shouldn't have said that.

1386
01:03:06,040 --> 01:03:09,320
Speaker 14: I did apologize after, but the girl kept nagging about

1387
01:03:09,440 --> 01:03:13,320
Speaker 14: her gluteus maximus. What the two guys were like, donal

1388
01:03:13,960 --> 01:03:19,320
Speaker 14: and Chris said something about my my, uh my frontal section.

1389
01:03:19,640 --> 01:03:20,720
Speaker 12: Way after the call.

1390
01:03:21,480 --> 01:03:23,520
Speaker 14: I felt kind of weirded out, but Chris goes, don't

1391
01:03:23,520 --> 01:03:26,080
Speaker 14: feel weird about I ain't trying to get at you.

1392
01:03:26,120 --> 01:03:32,320
Speaker 15: What a weirdo, weird alert weirdo, we're alert weird alertirdo.

1393
01:03:32,920 --> 01:03:35,720
Speaker 14: Clearly, Uh, I don't know if your your job as

1394
01:03:35,720 --> 01:03:40,280
Speaker 14: an HR department, but uh I would expect this to

1395
01:03:40,560 --> 01:03:43,200
Speaker 14: now that Chris is blocked, you probably leak into the

1396
01:03:44,320 --> 01:03:45,600
Speaker 14: into the jabosphere.

1397
01:03:46,360 --> 01:03:47,480
Speaker 12: So I would get ahead of that.

1398
01:03:48,040 --> 01:03:52,080
Speaker 15: Yeah, my advice because yeah, he's spreading rumors. I wouldn't

1399
01:03:52,080 --> 01:03:53,720
Speaker 15: trust the guys spread rumors.

1400
01:03:54,320 --> 01:03:58,040
Speaker 14: So don't you know you don't have to go demand

1401
01:03:58,080 --> 01:03:59,200
Speaker 14: anything from HR?

1402
01:03:59,480 --> 01:04:01,280
Speaker 15: Or at least go to like a boss or a

1403
01:04:01,520 --> 01:04:03,640
Speaker 15: higher up and be like, hey, this happens. Yeah, I

1404
01:04:03,760 --> 01:04:06,280
Speaker 15: just want you to know in case anything further happened, right.

1405
01:04:06,280 --> 01:04:10,160
Speaker 14: Just want to make you aware of the situation. Yeah.

1406
01:04:10,600 --> 01:04:14,160
Speaker 14: So then like two weeks after that, call me. Chris

1407
01:04:14,200 --> 01:04:17,320
Speaker 14: and some other coworkers, including Alexa and Alexander went to

1408
01:04:17,360 --> 01:04:20,880
Speaker 14: the La County Fair. I had pants with some bows

1409
01:04:20,920 --> 01:04:22,920
Speaker 14: on them, and I showed them to two of my

1410
01:04:22,960 --> 01:04:26,400
Speaker 14: coworkers who were girls. I said something like, look at.

1411
01:04:26,280 --> 01:04:28,320
Speaker 5: My pants, they have bows on them.

1412
01:04:28,920 --> 01:04:31,120
Speaker 14: Chris then later said I'm not trying to hit on you,

1413
01:04:31,160 --> 01:04:32,800
Speaker 14: but when you show to your butt of the girls,

1414
01:04:32,880 --> 01:04:36,280
Speaker 14: I kind of looked. I was like what, dude, I

1415
01:04:36,320 --> 01:04:42,840
Speaker 14: was like what, yes? Stop and now op he continues.

1416
01:04:43,600 --> 01:04:47,040
Speaker 14: Now I realized why he kept saying he can't pull girls.

1417
01:04:47,320 --> 01:04:49,960
Speaker 14: I'm bringing this up because not trying to shame Chris,

1418
01:04:50,000 --> 01:04:51,800
Speaker 14: but he is a bigger dude, and he always says

1419
01:04:51,840 --> 01:04:53,760
Speaker 14: the reason why he can't pull girls is because he's

1420
01:04:53,760 --> 01:04:56,240
Speaker 14: a bigger dude. I told him it isn't his weight,

1421
01:04:56,400 --> 01:04:58,480
Speaker 14: because there are some batties that go with dudes who

1422
01:04:58,480 --> 01:05:01,640
Speaker 14: are bigger. So am I the a hole for telling

1423
01:05:01,680 --> 01:05:04,280
Speaker 14: my coworker something that my other coworker told me not

1424
01:05:04,320 --> 01:05:04,680
Speaker 14: to tell.

1425
01:05:05,040 --> 01:05:08,240
Speaker 3: Clearly not because you're on the coker, start trouble.

1426
01:05:08,840 --> 01:05:10,800
Speaker 12: I don't know why Chris did that. That's weird.

1427
01:05:10,920 --> 01:05:13,400
Speaker 5: I have no idea. I don't suck boo.

1428
01:05:14,920 --> 01:05:20,200
Speaker 14: Yeah, he's got weird tendencies. Weirdo, Chris, you're weirdo and

1429
01:05:20,600 --> 01:05:22,400
Speaker 14: h strange.

1430
01:05:22,960 --> 01:05:24,120
Speaker 12: I don't know if he has a crush on you.

1431
01:05:24,160 --> 01:05:25,440
Speaker 12: I don't know if he has a crush on Alea.

1432
01:05:25,520 --> 01:05:27,120
Speaker 15: I think he just has a crush on anyone who

1433
01:05:27,160 --> 01:05:27,600
Speaker 15: he can get