1 00:00:00,960 --> 00:00:03,680 Speaker 1: This is Kelly Henderson and you are listening to the 2 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 1: first Velvet's Edge podcast of one. I wanted to start 3 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:10,360 Speaker 1: the year with a little introduction for new listeners and 4 00:00:10,400 --> 00:00:13,640 Speaker 1: maybe a reintroduction for my O G S as I 5 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:16,439 Speaker 1: feel like the last few years have involved some growth 6 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:20,000 Speaker 1: and evolution for myself and now for velvets Edge and 7 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:23,040 Speaker 1: the Velvet's Edge podcast. We have officially made it to 8 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 1: one which I mean, I honestly feel in and of 9 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:30,840 Speaker 1: itself should involve a huge round of applause or a backpad. 10 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:33,480 Speaker 1: At least for all of us. There is not one 11 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:36,639 Speaker 1: person on this planet who did not feel the effects 12 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:39,880 Speaker 1: of this ongoing pandemic. And although I have no idea 13 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 1: what this year may hold, I do feel confident now 14 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:46,519 Speaker 1: that we as a collective can do hard things. For 15 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:48,600 Speaker 1: those of you who are new, I have made my 16 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:51,120 Speaker 1: living doing hair and makeup and wardrobe styling in the 17 00:00:51,159 --> 00:00:55,320 Speaker 1: country music industry for almost fifteen years now. Some of 18 00:00:55,360 --> 00:01:00,280 Speaker 1: my clients include or have included, Dirk Spentley, Bobby bones Ason, 19 00:01:00,320 --> 00:01:03,880 Speaker 1: Al Dean Kelsey, Ballerini, and honestly, probably at one point 20 00:01:03,960 --> 00:01:06,040 Speaker 1: or another, most of the people you see on the 21 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:09,000 Speaker 1: Nashville Country music Roster. To check out some of my work, 22 00:01:09,040 --> 00:01:11,840 Speaker 1: you can check out my website Kelly Henderson dot co. 23 00:01:12,600 --> 00:01:14,880 Speaker 1: I started velvets Edge in two thousand and fourteen with 24 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:17,319 Speaker 1: a good friend of mine as we both struggled through 25 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:21,039 Speaker 1: painful breakups. I needed a creative outlet to put the 26 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:23,760 Speaker 1: things that were inspiring me in fashion and beauty in 27 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:26,759 Speaker 1: one place, and honestly just to get off the couch. 28 00:01:27,200 --> 00:01:30,320 Speaker 1: And to my surprise, the website and social channels continue 29 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:32,880 Speaker 1: to grow and evolve into a new business for me. 30 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:35,640 Speaker 1: My business partner left to start a family, but my 31 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: passion for Velvet's Edge turned from a simple blog to 32 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:42,399 Speaker 1: a full shopping website which you can find at velvets 33 00:01:42,480 --> 00:01:45,959 Speaker 1: edge dot com now to the velvet Edge podcast run 34 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:48,520 Speaker 1: through I Heart Media. So that's where I was living 35 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:51,960 Speaker 1: and working when two thousand nineteen started, and that's also 36 00:01:52,080 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 1: when it all started to change. After many, many trying 37 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:59,920 Speaker 1: and honestly even traumatizing experiences, I found myself attempting to 38 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:03,920 Speaker 1: medicate two thousand nineteen and then two thousand twenty away. 39 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 1: I'm a big feeler, so I felt all of this 40 00:02:07,280 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 1: so incredibly much. Um and then also with the continuous 41 00:02:10,800 --> 00:02:13,679 Speaker 1: hits my life was taking. I was just too overwhelmed 42 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: to process it all. Yet, medicating for me can look 43 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:20,079 Speaker 1: like drinking too much. It can look like not eating 44 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 1: food foods that fuel my body. It can look like 45 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 1: codependency and searching for my worth through others or my 46 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:30,480 Speaker 1: job procrastination and even sometimes shopping. So that was the 47 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: funny thing about My job and my finances changed drastically 48 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:38,160 Speaker 1: as the music industry completely disappeared within a week of 49 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 1: the first pandemic shutdown. So even my medicating changed over 50 00:02:42,720 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 1: the last year. Although I definitely still found ways to 51 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:48,720 Speaker 1: zone out and not deal. I have hit some wall 52 00:02:48,800 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 1: with that over the last few months, and I'm ready 53 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:52,920 Speaker 1: to lay it down and just move forward with my 54 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:57,000 Speaker 1: life and healing. I suppose I should also mention my brief, 55 00:02:57,160 --> 00:03:00,960 Speaker 1: unsuccessful stint in reality TV, which do not recommend, by 56 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:03,600 Speaker 1: the way, But I have also learned to accept that 57 00:03:03,639 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 1: you don't know what you don't try, and I now 58 00:03:05,760 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: embraced the many lessons from that experience. One of them, 59 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:11,720 Speaker 1: which I think was probably the greatest lesson for me, 60 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 1: is understanding how much I truly love connecting with people. 61 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 1: It was actually my boyfriend who helped me put words 62 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 1: to that feeling for me, But before he did, I 63 00:03:20,919 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 1: just had an overwhelming feeling of joy when I would 64 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:26,079 Speaker 1: just share something vulnerable on TV that was really hard 65 00:03:26,120 --> 00:03:29,120 Speaker 1: for me, like having to cancel my wedding three months 66 00:03:29,160 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 1: before the date when I found out my fiance was 67 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:33,640 Speaker 1: cheating on me, or letting the world come with me 68 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:35,800 Speaker 1: on my first fertility appointment when I was trying to 69 00:03:35,840 --> 00:03:38,920 Speaker 1: freeze my eggs. I would get countless emails or even 70 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:40,480 Speaker 1: meet some of you guys on the street, and it 71 00:03:40,520 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 1: was like we were immediately bonded through shared experiences. It 72 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:46,520 Speaker 1: was so incredibly healing for me, and it opened to 73 00:03:46,640 --> 00:03:49,360 Speaker 1: my eyes to what my internal self has probably known 74 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:52,560 Speaker 1: for a longer time as a greater heart longing of mine. 75 00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: So do I think my career in in fashion and 76 00:03:56,160 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 1: hair and makeup is completely over? No, of course not. 77 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 1: I believe it will come back eventually. But it's funny 78 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:04,440 Speaker 1: when your world falls apart, how so many of the 79 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 1: things that you thought you could never live without start 80 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:10,880 Speaker 1: to seem oddly insignificant. When life took away the red 81 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:14,080 Speaker 1: carpets and award shows, it was really left to consider 82 00:04:14,120 --> 00:04:16,479 Speaker 1: what I now realized as one of my greatest gifts 83 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:20,240 Speaker 1: empathy and connection. I can see now that it's a 84 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:23,640 Speaker 1: huge reason why many of my clients have even trusted 85 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:26,080 Speaker 1: and confided in me and asked for support from me 86 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:28,560 Speaker 1: for so many years. It's why I love talking to 87 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:32,200 Speaker 1: you guys, whether it's on Instagram or my podcast or 88 00:04:32,200 --> 00:04:35,080 Speaker 1: even over email, and then, hopefully once covid is over, 89 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:38,880 Speaker 1: on the streets again, finding connection through shared experiences is 90 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:41,080 Speaker 1: what I want to bring more of. It's what I 91 00:04:41,120 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 1: truly believe our world and country so desperately need more 92 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: of right now. And I also believe that isolation hopefully 93 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 1: may actually in turn bring back our greatest connection of 94 00:04:51,920 --> 00:04:55,120 Speaker 1: all time. If you are a seeker like me, and 95 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:57,919 Speaker 1: you feel that pool or that longing in your heart, 96 00:04:58,360 --> 00:05:00,839 Speaker 1: I really hope you'll keep coming back, Okay, or even 97 00:05:00,880 --> 00:05:03,840 Speaker 1: if you're listening and rolling your eyes, I also I 98 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:07,000 Speaker 1: hope you'll keep coming back. We humans are built for 99 00:05:07,040 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 1: connection and love and beauty, and I want this community 100 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:12,800 Speaker 1: to be one in which we continue to grow and 101 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:16,280 Speaker 1: cultivate more of that and start spreading the joy around. 102 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:20,239 Speaker 1: I do believe it's contagious. So what can you expect 103 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:23,520 Speaker 1: on this podcast moving forward? So that's the thing about 104 00:05:23,520 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 1: your heart knowing something before your head does. Is that 105 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:30,480 Speaker 1: I have subconsciously been choosing guests and having conversations completely 106 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:32,640 Speaker 1: in line with all of what I just said for 107 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: almost two years now. I just didn't even know that 108 00:05:35,880 --> 00:05:38,360 Speaker 1: that was the brand. I didn't quite understand that when 109 00:05:38,360 --> 00:05:41,400 Speaker 1: I said everyone has a little velvet and a little edge, 110 00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 1: that this could be the space for us to all 111 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:47,560 Speaker 1: cultivate that. So I'm going to keep bringing these conversations 112 00:05:47,560 --> 00:05:50,719 Speaker 1: with spiritual leaders and big thinkers and people who want 113 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:54,240 Speaker 1: to grow their EQ along with their i Q. I'm 114 00:05:54,279 --> 00:05:59,039 Speaker 1: going to keep asking hard, sometimes uncomfortable questions while bringing 115 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:02,640 Speaker 1: more of my personal story and struggles and vulnerability. The 116 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 1: truth is is I want to talk to these kind 117 00:06:04,880 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 1: of guests because it helps me on my journey. But 118 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 1: what I'm now realizing is that rather than walk this 119 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:13,360 Speaker 1: journey completely alone, I want to walk it with like 120 00:06:13,520 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 1: minded people who want to learn, and you can also 121 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:19,480 Speaker 1: teach me with their stories. That's the beauty of sharing, 122 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 1: of growth and of evolution. And honestly, maybe you aren't 123 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 1: ready yet. Maybe you still want to medicate. I'm sure 124 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:29,359 Speaker 1: I will on a lot of days too, But know 125 00:06:29,520 --> 00:06:31,800 Speaker 1: that you were always welcome here no matter the story 126 00:06:31,960 --> 00:06:35,120 Speaker 1: or the pain, or the heartbreak or the humanity. You 127 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 1: are no different than the rest of us, and I'm 128 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:39,760 Speaker 1: no different from you, So let's help each other. Hell 129 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:43,400 Speaker 1: and for all my Friday regulars, don't you worry, Chip 130 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:45,160 Speaker 1: Doors and I will still be coming back to you 131 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 1: each week with at Casual. We will be going back 132 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:50,760 Speaker 1: to a topical format with a bigger range of AT 133 00:06:50,760 --> 00:06:54,120 Speaker 1: Casual moments, and we will also continue answering your emails, 134 00:06:54,120 --> 00:06:57,320 Speaker 1: so keep them coming to at Casual at Velvet Edge 135 00:06:57,360 --> 00:07:00,240 Speaker 1: dot com. New episode comes out this Friday with more 136 00:07:00,279 --> 00:07:02,640 Speaker 1: details on what you can look for this year from 137 00:07:02,640 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 1: at Casual. Thank you guys so much for listening and 138 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:08,560 Speaker 1: allowing me the space to be open and honest and 139 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:10,880 Speaker 1: share what's been going on with me. I would love 140 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 1: to hear more from you guys on topic, ideas, people 141 00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:16,680 Speaker 1: you'd like me to interview, or just any feedback in 142 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: general about anything that came up for you during this 143 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:22,320 Speaker 1: podcast or what you want to hear on v in. 144 00:07:23,640 --> 00:07:26,800 Speaker 1: You can always email me at Kelly at velvet's Edge 145 00:07:26,840 --> 00:07:28,840 Speaker 1: dot com or slide into my d M s on 146 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:32,559 Speaker 1: Instagram at Velvet's Edge. A new episode will be up 147 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:36,320 Speaker 1: next week. Happy New Year. I can't wait to continue 148 00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:37,760 Speaker 1: on this journey with you guys.