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Speaker 1: How are you doing, Susan.

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Speaker 2: We have had so much fun. We've talked about our surgeries,

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Speaker 2: we've talked to Jonathan. I mean, we've had some good episodes.

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Speaker 1: If you found us. If you're listening to us today

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Speaker 1: you follow us, I know, I don't get it. There's

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Speaker 1: just you know, it's one.

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Speaker 2: I think a lot of them are Kathy, don't you.

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Speaker 2: I mean we read them every week.

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Speaker 2: Have you on one day.

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Speaker 1: All right. So we've got some great questions today, but

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Speaker 1: you know, Susan, first, we have to sometimes in today's

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Speaker 1: one of those days playing moral quandary. No, just kidding,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to start this. Okay, question of the day,

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Speaker 2: Okay, I hate that game, as you all know, Okay,

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Speaker 2: here we go. What was the transition into being a

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Speaker 2: real adult, like for you living on your own for

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Speaker 2: the first time, managing your own finances. What advice do

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Speaker 2: that transition themselves soon?

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Speaker 1: Wow?

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Speaker 2: First thing comes to mind is my father.

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Speaker 1: Oh tell me why.

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Speaker 2: Because I used to spend an entire paycheck on a

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Speaker 2: pair of shoes, and he said, Susan, I don't care

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Speaker 2: if you're not making good money, but every single time

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Speaker 2: you make money, you have to put a little bit away.

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Speaker 1: Oh see, you and I are so different. I first

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Speaker 1: of all, as everyone knows, I got married to my

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Speaker 1: So so for me being a real adult, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I went from college and I subsequently graduated, but at

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Speaker 1: remember this sounds bizarre, but I was thinking about this

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Speaker 1: last night. When my husband and I got our first apartment,

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Speaker 1: I would just clean it top to bottom every day.

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Speaker 1: I loved going shopping like I love taking on all

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Speaker 1: those roles of an adult. Because you know, I didn't

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Speaker 1: And I think when people for those of you who are,

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Speaker 1: Susan has a great point. You have to remember to

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Speaker 1: save and budget. That's a big one. That's just in

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Speaker 2: Kids are different today. I mean the advice that we

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Speaker 2: received and the advice that we give. I mean base

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Speaker 2: it's the same structure, you know, but they do things

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Speaker 2: way different today. Well, I think a lot of kids

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Speaker 2: do so we do. But the advice you have to

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Speaker 2: realize where every penny goes. You have to I'm not

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Speaker 1: Somebody, really, what was your first clue?

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Speaker 2: Look at how much you're making what you can afford

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Speaker 2: to do things. Don't don't be mortgage poor if you will.

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Speaker 2: But the first time out is like so exciting.

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Speaker 1: It is you know what, You're going to make mistakes.

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Speaker 1: I really do think learning to budget the money you have,

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Speaker 1: whether you're working you know, twelve hours a day at

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Speaker 2: And if you want this, you know it's coming, maybe

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Speaker 2: wait a little longer, because you're always supposed to have

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Speaker 2: You can add all that up. They'll never leave.

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Speaker 2: I tell my kids at a certain point after college

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Speaker 2: They're like what I said, just you know, it wasn't

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Speaker 1: No shit? I think, you know, I think parents can

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Speaker 2: To pay some of the car insurances.

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Speaker 1: I know, yeah, so so it's but it's fun. It's

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Speaker 2: It is get to decorate the way you want it,

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Speaker 2: Back in that day, we could use beads like it's right,

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Speaker 2: all right, goodness, all right, you ready, cat, We're going

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Speaker 2: to give some advice time, all right today, I'll start today.

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Speaker 2: So Anonymous asks, Hi, ladies, my fiance and I recently

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Speaker 2: got engaged, and we're so excited due to our beliefs.

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Speaker 2: Our plan has been to move in together after we

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Speaker 2: We just got engaged, so we won't be getting married

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Speaker 2: for at least another year. What do you think is

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Speaker 2: if we don't move in together until we're married.

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Speaker 1: Thanks, Will we be fine? Yes, you'll be fine.

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Speaker 2: Oh well, I mean they've done like that for centuries.

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Speaker 2: Although the modern way I think living together is not

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Speaker 1: Okay, But Susan, I know so many people that of

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Speaker 1: Well, no, that it was fine until they got married

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Speaker 2: And then what about if you decide to move in

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, I mean that's creating that's creating a scenario

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Speaker 2: However, take a vacation with them, spend the weekend somewhere together.

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Speaker 2: See what it's like waking up next to this person

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but you will be fine. The answer the question

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Speaker 1: is will we be fine? And you will absolutely be fine. Anonymous.

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Speaker 1: It just takes time to wish you luck. Yeah, everyone

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Speaker 1: it out. You will work it out, all right, Let's

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Speaker 1: go with the next one. Anonymous from New Jersey rights. Hi,

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Speaker 1: Kathy and Susan. I'd love to hear your thoughts on

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Speaker 1: something that happened with my mother in law about a

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Speaker 1: was reading this, Anonymous, and it is I'm going to say,

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Speaker 1: I had very different sister in laws. One was great,

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Speaker 1: they did criticisize my family. And you know what I did.

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Speaker 1: I saw her as little as possible. I kept my distance.

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Speaker 2: And I don't know that I would invite her to

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Speaker 2: everything anymore. If that's how her behavior is going to be,

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Speaker 2: then we don't want you to be there.

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Speaker 1: Well, but you got to remember, well, first of all,

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Speaker 1: be just to be clear, my husband and I took

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Speaker 1: care of not his sisters, not their daughters. It was

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Speaker 2: Writer doesn't live in her house. If she's going to

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Speaker 2: treat my family rudely, then next year's celebration, you're not invited.

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Speaker 1: What are you going to say to you that's going

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Speaker 2: Well, her husband, see what I don't understand, she says.

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Speaker 2: My husband addressed it with her a few days later,

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Speaker 2: but she just criticized everybody instead of taken and Anonymous Anonymous,

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Speaker 1: And that's so Susan. You and I are right on

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Speaker 1: are you, and I was very honest, not filtering any

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Speaker 1: her replies and follow ups. Never once did she address

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Speaker 1: text I sent, she just talked around it. It's clear

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Speaker 1: to me that she's still not open to discussing not

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Speaker 1: only this new business I've created, but my past and

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Speaker 1: current lived experiences. As a highly intuitive person, I'll continue

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Speaker 1: what I've been doing and what you also compassionately and advised,

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Speaker 1: and keep focusing on my work, passions and finding joy.

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Speaker 1: If she's meant to stay in my life for another season,

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Speaker 1: then things will change. If not, then I'll have my answer.

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Speaker 2: Thanks again, Yes, girlfriend, Yes you did good.

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Speaker 1: Ah Renee, I think will you let us know if

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Speaker 1: we ever want a reading? Because you said that you

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Speaker 2: I think I'm ready for reading.

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Speaker 1: Are you ready for reading? I don't know. I think

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Speaker 1: it's right.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, we were absolutely right.

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Speaker 1: Can I just say, yeah, it's okay.

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Speaker 2: Not everybody's going to love everything you do, whether it's

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Speaker 2: your business or your lifestyle. Yeah, but if you're meant

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Speaker 2: to be friends, then they'll be friends. They don't have

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Speaker 2: to talk about it, and I wouldn't force that on them.

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Speaker 1: Right well, and also, as I said to her when

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Speaker 1: we answered this before, some friends come into your People

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Speaker 1: come into your life for a reason and a season.

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Speaker 1: Not everyone is meant to be in your life forever.

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Speaker 1: And I think you're doing a great job of reaching

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Speaker 1: it go. If you can be friends, great if you can't,

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Speaker 1: and that's okay. Listen, the reading I want, Renee is

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Speaker 1: when I'm going to meet my guy, and when Susan's

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Speaker 2: And is it going to be on TV at the

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Speaker 2: airport it's the grocery store? Taking online or all? Do

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Speaker 2: we have to go back online? Kathy? Let's talk about

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Speaker 2: that for a minute. The other day, I had an

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Speaker 2: urge and I pulled up the ten best dating sites,

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Speaker 2: and I've been on mostly all of them. I picked

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Speaker 2: I shut it down. I just can't bring myself to

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Speaker 2: going there again.

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Speaker 1: You and I are the sister. We are right there together.

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Speaker 2: To meet people.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I think I'm going to go stand.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. You and I are both struggling with

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Speaker 1: this right now. But we were talking earlier about lying

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Speaker 1: about our age online. You know we both have a

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Speaker 1: ton of energy and you know face lists. Notwithstanding, we

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Speaker 1: don't actually look our age, and we want to find

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Speaker 1: someone who's active and enjoys life. And you know, it

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Speaker 1: gets harder the older you get. If you're we're young

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Speaker 1: in mind and spirit.

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Speaker 2: So so if anybody out there has some advice for us,

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Speaker 2: you can submit that to us too, and we will

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Speaker 2: read them out loud and talk about how we're going

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Speaker 2: to follow that advice. I mean, I mean, maybe it

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Speaker 2: is the answer. Maybe we just needed a couple of

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Speaker 2: year break. My fear is going back on and seeing

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Speaker 2: the same faces.

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Speaker 1: You know what, I swear you're reading my mind. I mean,

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Speaker 1: if I see the same guys, it's not going to

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Speaker 1: be fun. But in the meantime, in the.

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Speaker 2: Meantime, what does it for this episode of Bachelor's at

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Speaker 2: the Hour's Golden Hour? Thanks for joining us in special

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