WEBVTT - Kids and Cannabis 101

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Nila, and it's Wednesday, Jula, Happy Wednesday.

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<v Speaker 2>Happy Wednesday. What I don't know? This is our first

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<v Speaker 2>time recording separately, even though.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why we're awkward.

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<v Speaker 2>Hell what you said. Even though we're in the same city,

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<v Speaker 2>we sometimes we don't. We even get tired of each other,

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<v Speaker 2>even though even though even when we do we still

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<v Speaker 2>have to talk.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes it's just you know, I have big plans today.

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<v Speaker 1>Well actually I have actually no plans actually, and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't have my daughter for the next like hopefully day

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<v Speaker 1>and a half. And like I hadn't got no man

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<v Speaker 1>to come over here. I mean I do have a man,

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<v Speaker 1>but like he's not coming.

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<v Speaker 2>I have mine. He's just not coming over.

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<v Speaker 1>He's just not coming. He's not invited today. And I

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<v Speaker 1>just need me time. Just no energies in my space

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<v Speaker 1>except right now via the zoom the internets.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm actually I'm happy that you mandated this space because

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't like mandated. Bitch, Like I don't really want

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<v Speaker 2>to be around anyone tomorrow. I'm like, I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to see you either, bitch. Actually I just saw you

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<v Speaker 2>all day, but today I was like, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to I don't want to see anybody today,

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<v Speaker 2>and I just want to get high and get my

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<v Speaker 2>nails done, and I hope nobody talks to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm even gonna like leave my phone. I

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<v Speaker 1>think I'm gonna get crazy leave my phone behind. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't for what, What the fuck do I need it

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<v Speaker 1>for behind?

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<v Speaker 2>I thought you said you weren't going anywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean if I do leave, like I can

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<v Speaker 1>just leave it behind, or I can actually just turn

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<v Speaker 1>it off.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna try that because I have to really get

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<v Speaker 2>it done, and I'm the number one distracted person.

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<v Speaker 1>Like there's really no reason for me to have my

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<v Speaker 1>phone on. Like Ari's with her dad. He's got it

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<v Speaker 1>like work. I have nothing for work on the plate

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<v Speaker 1>today except this, and that's it.

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<v Speaker 2>I know. It's you know what, we love our job

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<v Speaker 2>so much that sometimes it's hard to forget not to

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<v Speaker 2>think about it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so it's impossible.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like talking to people all day long on fucking Instagram.

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<v Speaker 1>I need a break. I love y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>BRB, No, honestly, okay, Speaking of technologies and conversations last

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<v Speaker 2>night me an adventure Bay. This is the most romantic

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<v Speaker 2>educational thing I've ever done. He is reading a new

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<v Speaker 2>book called Okay, I forgot to write it down. Whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like a book about men and how they like

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<v Speaker 2>their approach to loving women is wrong. It's like, I

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<v Speaker 2>really want you to hear this book. So he gave

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<v Speaker 2>me his audible log in and then we called each

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<v Speaker 2>other on speakerphone and listened together to the audible to

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<v Speaker 2>like five chapters and then like we would pause and

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<v Speaker 2>discuss it and.

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<v Speaker 1>Then go back. Wow, this is so mature.

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<v Speaker 2>It was so mature. I was like, this is lovely.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll see you tomorrow evening for the rest of our chapters.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, okay, all right, I'm gonna have to try this.

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<v Speaker 2>It was really nice. And the book is really about men,

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<v Speaker 2>and if so, I was just like interested in seeing it.

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<v Speaker 2>But he talks hence my situation, my sticky situation I

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<v Speaker 2>got myself into, and my begging. He really talks about

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<v Speaker 2>women about you know, like if you're attracted to a

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<v Speaker 2>certain type of woman who's kind of wild, and he

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<v Speaker 2>specifically so it's not trustworthy and you know, but this

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<v Speaker 2>is what the book said, she's a little wild, just

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<v Speaker 2>not trustworthy. But there's a lot of passion and polarity

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<v Speaker 2>in the relationship because there's a high female energy compared

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<v Speaker 2>to like a high male energy. And then like you

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<v Speaker 2>could find a safer woman who might have good conversation

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<v Speaker 2>and maybe trustworthy, but it's going to lack of passion

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<v Speaker 2>and and he's like, women need to feel comfortable, even

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<v Speaker 2>if she hurts you, even if she fucks up. You

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<v Speaker 2>need to press into her and bleed love into all

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<v Speaker 2>of her pores. He's like, press her up against the

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<v Speaker 2>wall and bleed all of your love like water into

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<v Speaker 2>her poor.

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<v Speaker 1>What book is this?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, it's called It's all The Way of the Superior

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<v Speaker 2>Man by David Dida d Ei Da.

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<v Speaker 1>So, I don't know if I like that book title.

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<v Speaker 2>The Way of the Superior Man. At first I was,

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<v Speaker 2>I was interested about it, but it talks a loud

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<v Speaker 2>about polarity and female and masculine and feminine energy, and

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<v Speaker 2>not in the sense of like I'm a female, you're

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<v Speaker 2>a male, but just like we all kind of have

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<v Speaker 2>different energies, and like if I have more masculine energy,

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<v Speaker 2>I might attract a man that has more feminine energy,

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<v Speaker 2>and that as soon as we neutralize the energies that

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<v Speaker 2>we know what, we kind of become friends. If I'm

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<v Speaker 2>doing things that is, I generally expect a man to

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<v Speaker 2>do make decisions, and you know, i'd lack. I'll start

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<v Speaker 2>to trust for him to make decisions if I have

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<v Speaker 2>to start making them, and then we'll become friends because

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<v Speaker 2>it will lack in the bedroom. Anyway, I'm becoming very

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<v Speaker 2>mature over here. I'm listening to Audible with my non

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<v Speaker 2>man at night tree.

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<v Speaker 1>That's I mean, that's a good way to pass the time.

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<v Speaker 2>It didn't matter that should I mean, And it's a

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<v Speaker 2>nice way to expand, like to have insight on things

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<v Speaker 2>about yourself that maybe you weren't recognizing. And then for

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<v Speaker 2>your man or your woman to have insight and and

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<v Speaker 2>and from a third party. It's kind of therapy, like

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<v Speaker 2>he's talking to you and then you can discuss like huh,

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<v Speaker 2>I do do that or yes, this is true. I

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<v Speaker 2>do need, no matter what you do, to lean into

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<v Speaker 2>me and trust me and love me through it, because

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<v Speaker 2>that's what I need to trust you. So basically I

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<v Speaker 2>recommend everybody do that.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, okay, hm. Anyway, relationship tip of the day. M hmm,

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<v Speaker 1>that's cool. Well I didn't do anything that sexy last night.

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<v Speaker 2>You saw me, I saw you.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I went to bed and I was really

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<v Speaker 1>happy that I woke up one didn't have to do

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<v Speaker 1>zoom school.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh speaking of kids. Speaking of kids, you guys, we

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<v Speaker 1>are doing an event on October twenty fourth and twenty fifth.

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<v Speaker 1>We partnered up with Outside Cinemas. It's a drive in

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<v Speaker 1>movie experience in downtown LA. So if you're in the

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<v Speaker 1>LA area, you definitely definitely want to come. It's actually

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<v Speaker 1>my birthday and it's all being out with you girl

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<v Speaker 1>on my birthday. Bring the kids.

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<v Speaker 2>It's also a Halloween event because if you're like anything

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<v Speaker 2>like us, we're obsessed.

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<v Speaker 1>No how serious we take this ship.

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<v Speaker 2>This is our most serious holiday of the year. Of course,

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<v Speaker 2>it's Halloween, and the fact that people are discussing it's

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<v Speaker 2>being canceled is absolutely fucking absurd. And so Halloween is

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<v Speaker 2>not canceled. We are meeting up in downtown LA at

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<v Speaker 2>a drive in. It's a two day we have. There's

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<v Speaker 2>two opportunities to come, bring the kids, pop open your

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<v Speaker 2>trunk bycorn. They're having a contact patching Coco. We're watching Coco,

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<v Speaker 2>which is like the best movie. We're dressing up in

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<v Speaker 2>our costumes so your kids get the opportunity to showcase

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<v Speaker 2>their costumes. There'll be a car costume contest with Coco

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<v Speaker 2>and friends. There's a mobile pumpkin patch. Each kid will

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<v Speaker 2>receive a little mini pumpkin, and there is going to

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<v Speaker 2>be a photo activation, so your kid will have the

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<v Speaker 2>opportunity to get out of their car buy appointment. Only

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<v Speaker 2>you and your family or whoever's in your car can

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<v Speaker 2>go take cool pictures with you know, a little setup

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<v Speaker 2>and it will be like a little old, safe, COVID

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<v Speaker 2>friendly Halloween celebration. So like, don't don't be scared about

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<v Speaker 2>what we're going to do this year. We got you covered.

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<v Speaker 2>Go to Outside Cinema and get these tickets.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, go to outside Cinemas dot com. Definitely, it's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be it's it's gonna be so much fun. And tickets

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<v Speaker 1>are really limited because it is a COVID friendly event

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<v Speaker 1>and we're really taking into mind so social distancing for

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<v Speaker 1>the kids, but also still wanting them to have a

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<v Speaker 1>good time and be able to like trigger read and

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<v Speaker 1>do the pumpkin thing and like, you know, I expect

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<v Speaker 1>y'all to bring your best Halloween costume game, Okay, because

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<v Speaker 1>I already got mine in the in the mail. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm ready. I gotta do a little few more tweaks

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<v Speaker 1>to my Blackest King outfit. But when you, bitch and

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<v Speaker 1>see me on the scene looking like find your way back,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what you're gonna wear?

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<v Speaker 1>That one? You know she does that?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you getting like a boom box so you could

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<v Speaker 2>just like bust out in this dance?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god. It's such a fucking good idea.

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<v Speaker 2>But first of all, if you don't have Patreon, you

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<v Speaker 2>need to get it now. Just to see Erica doing

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<v Speaker 2>this Beyonce and interpretation, it's very.

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<v Speaker 1>Daddy used to keep me too.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, who knew you've been following the move so.

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<v Speaker 1>Bitch, I've watched that video so many times. It's so

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<v Speaker 1>fucking dope. Her outfit, that's like my one of my

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<v Speaker 1>favorite outfits of the whole shit. Irie. I was trying

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<v Speaker 1>to get her to do this other blue Ivy look.

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<v Speaker 1>She's really into blue Ivy. I really wanted her to

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<v Speaker 1>do the My Power blue Ivy look, but she chose

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<v Speaker 1>the brownskin girl look, which is like debutante with of course,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's like a princess, right. I saw Beyonce and Blue.

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<v Speaker 1>I expect you to come through. I know, Mila, you're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna come. You're gonna come to serve.

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<v Speaker 2>Yep.

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<v Speaker 1>But actually Sunday, the twenty fifth is my birthday, so

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<v Speaker 1>come out. You know it's a Detos celebration. I am.

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<v Speaker 1>I am an altar. I am accepting gifts me too,

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<v Speaker 1>O friend that to.

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<v Speaker 2>Me, preferably weed.

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<v Speaker 1>I am a walking altar. I will accept all gifts,

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<v Speaker 1>cannabis and everything else, jewelry, candles or hair oils. Bring

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<v Speaker 1>them to hair oils. Wow, bitch, Yes, my hair's been

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<v Speaker 1>so dry lately. I don't know what's going on.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it's gonna be really really fun and really safe.

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<v Speaker 2>And for those parents or families that are not comfortable

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<v Speaker 2>with the trunk or treating, yes it's trunk or treating

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<v Speaker 2>a trigger treating, all the kids will get a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit of candy, emphasis on a little bit, but we'll

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<v Speaker 2>have uh, we'll have things for the window red or green.

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<v Speaker 2>If you feel comfortable, you could put it in the

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<v Speaker 2>window green. Come on, give us candy. And if you

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<v Speaker 2>don't feel comfortable. You could just put it on red

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<v Speaker 2>without even having to be awkward and tell anyone and

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<v Speaker 2>people will know to roll right pastill roll back. It's

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<v Speaker 2>super fun. We've been taking the kids and it's just

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<v Speaker 2>something to do. There's not much to do right now.

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<v Speaker 2>It's an experience they get to chill.

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<v Speaker 1>Love that. I ever since we went like a few

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<v Speaker 1>weeks ago to see Space Jam with the kids, Like

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<v Speaker 1>outside cinema is so cool because IRA's never been to

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<v Speaker 1>a drive in. I don't really I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>went when I was a kid, but I don't really remember,

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<v Speaker 1>but like I just love it or something. It's just like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. It's just an experience to have with

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<v Speaker 1>your kid and like it's easy.

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<v Speaker 2>You just chill sit there, it's true, and talk.

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<v Speaker 1>And the food is bombed too. The food is actually

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<v Speaker 1>really bomb.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm rolling weed right now and I'm pretty sure I

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<v Speaker 2>got a weed crumb in my eye. But speaking of

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<v Speaker 2>kids and weed, we have a very special episode for

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<v Speaker 2>you today, very educational episode. And I don't know how

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<v Speaker 2>we've waited this long to do this episode. We've done

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<v Speaker 2>some similar but this one is specific to our Canna

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<v Speaker 2>mamas out there.

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<v Speaker 1>Our cannabis, what did you let's see you boo ganggang?

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<v Speaker 1>And also the ones that aren't can of mamas but

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<v Speaker 1>you know, don't you know, want to be want to

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<v Speaker 1>normalize weed in their households, even if they don't smoke weed.

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<v Speaker 1>We get a lot of questions all the time about

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<v Speaker 1>how we talk about weed with our kids. Obviously, our

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<v Speaker 1>kids are five, and there's there's some of you have

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<v Speaker 1>kids that are much older and maybe haven't you haven't

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<v Speaker 1>started that conversation yet you feel either late to the

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<v Speaker 1>party or you don't know where to start, or maybe

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<v Speaker 1>your views on cannabis have recently shifted and you want

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<v Speaker 1>to start, you know, a new view of how you

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<v Speaker 1>and your kids talk about cannabis. This is a really

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<v Speaker 1>great list. We came up with five easy.

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<v Speaker 2>Ways the first and for those of you who didn't know,

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<v Speaker 2>I kind of encouraged Erica on her kid in her

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<v Speaker 2>Kid in Cannabis Journey when we started hanging out more

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<v Speaker 2>via the podcast. This is definitely a topic that people

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<v Speaker 2>get weird about, and especially if I know we're in LA.

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<v Speaker 2>It's it's legal here, so it's a lot more normalized.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think normalizing weed and normalizing smoking weed is

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<v Speaker 2>super important in introducing cannabis to our kids. If it's

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<v Speaker 2>if something seems scary, if it seems like this big,

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<v Speaker 2>scary illegal drug, then your kid will kind of have

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<v Speaker 2>that perception of it going into their their life. But

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<v Speaker 2>if we normalize it at a young age, if we

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<v Speaker 2>let them know, hey, mommy's not doing anything wrong. I

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<v Speaker 2>smoke because mommy needs a break or whatever. It's not

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<v Speaker 2>a big deal. I tell Luna, Hey, mommy's smoking weed

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<v Speaker 2>right now. Go inside. Look at this flower, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I name it. I show her. I want her to

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<v Speaker 2>smell it. I want her to see it, because then

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<v Speaker 2>she realizes it's not some big scary drug or whatever

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<v Speaker 2>they say to you at the Dare commercials. It is

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<v Speaker 2>simply a flower.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I agree like not making it a big deal.

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<v Speaker 1>And for those parents that don't smoke, I think the

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<v Speaker 1>opportunity you have is that when you when your child

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<v Speaker 1>does maybe see someone smoking on TV or anything, calling

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<v Speaker 1>it out there and saying like they're not doing anything wrong,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not a big deal. Or like you know, sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>kids like because they've already been conditioned and they've already

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<v Speaker 1>someone has already touched them, and their perception of what

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<v Speaker 1>is good and bad, like they can be. They'll giggle

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<v Speaker 1>or they'll like, I know, Iri like sometimes when she

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<v Speaker 1>thinks things are like naughty, like she'll like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>she laughs and giggles, and it's like those are the

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<v Speaker 1>times you're like, hey, like, actually that's not weird at

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<v Speaker 1>all like that. I mean, no, mommy doesn't do that.

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<v Speaker 1>But like if they do, it's not it's not a

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<v Speaker 1>bad thing as long as they you know, they're doing

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<v Speaker 1>it responsibly. So I think that normalizing it again, like

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<v Speaker 1>Jamila said talking about it, it is a flower showing

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<v Speaker 1>them showing them weed, especially if you are a can

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<v Speaker 1>of mom, like you have weed in your possession, pull

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<v Speaker 1>it out, show it to them so that they know

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<v Speaker 1>what it looks like, so it's not the scary thing

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<v Speaker 1>that they don't even like they just see people smoking

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<v Speaker 1>and they don't actually know what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, for both Erica and I, our parents were

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<v Speaker 2>like smoking in secret all the time. But weed is

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<v Speaker 2>the loudest drug there is. You can smell it, so

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<v Speaker 2>like it's almost insulting to your kids to be like

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<v Speaker 2>nothing's happening over here, you know, Like I felt super

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<v Speaker 2>insulted as a kid like, what the fuck are you

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<v Speaker 2>guys talking about? What the fuck are you doing out there?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, just yeah, it automatically starts this layer of distrust.

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<v Speaker 2>This layer of distrust and that your parent is doing

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<v Speaker 2>something really scary. I think it's really important that your

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<v Speaker 2>kid know that what you're doing isn't something really bad,

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<v Speaker 2>that you're not a criminal, but while partaking and so

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<v Speaker 2>that is initially will always change their perception, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>going into trychildhood and then adolescents and adulthood.

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<v Speaker 1>Or second tip we would give parents who are trying

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<v Speaker 1>to figure out how to discuss cannabis with their kids

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<v Speaker 1>is education. I mean, educating your kid is really important

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<v Speaker 1>about it. I think having an ongoing conversation with your

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<v Speaker 1>child about it, not you just kind of saying, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>this is what it is and then moving on and

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<v Speaker 1>hoping that that's enough. If you have kids that are

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<v Speaker 1>you know, teenagers, maybe explaining what you're using using it

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<v Speaker 1>for so, explaining the difference, the differences between medical and recreational,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, obviously a lot of a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>times those lines blur, for sure, I mean, for sure,

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<v Speaker 1>on my end, absolutely, I think I think Mela, you

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<v Speaker 1>can agree to that.

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<v Speaker 2>But absolutely this is a I mean because what I think.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we've used it both medically and recreationally. But

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's important that kids know. In fact, our

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<v Speaker 2>kids per specifically know even though they're five, mommies smell,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, sometimes during work breaks and sometimes during work.

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<v Speaker 2>Erica and I really do use weed as a tool

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<v Speaker 2>as a release to relax and also as a creative

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<v Speaker 2>tool to kind of help take us there to get

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<v Speaker 2>in our creative process for different things. And I think

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<v Speaker 2>it's important that we explain that to children. I also

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<v Speaker 2>think I've also explained to Luna, like it helps people

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<v Speaker 2>who are really sick, you know her she her grandmother

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<v Speaker 2>had cancer. You know, I use that as an example

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<v Speaker 2>to help with appetite, to help with actual medical coal conditions.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think we forget that, as you know, in society,

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<v Speaker 2>as they've painted as such a negative thing, that weed

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<v Speaker 2>actually helps people and who have very are very ill.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's important to remember that it is a sacred

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<v Speaker 2>herb that is in medicine, and then it comes from

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<v Speaker 2>the earth, and things that come from the earth rarely

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<v Speaker 2>are here to harm us, and a lot of times

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<v Speaker 2>they're here to aid us. And weat is one of those.

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<v Speaker 1>Things, right, I mean, if you're using weed for medical

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<v Speaker 1>use only or sometimes those lines get blurred. I mean

0:17:04.480 --> 0:17:08.399
<v Speaker 1>medically it's medicine. That's it. Like there's not kids understand

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<v Speaker 1>what that means. And I think like maybe even saying

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<v Speaker 1>to a kid, like if you saw, like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>my medicine for my heart condition, my diabetes, like, are

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<v Speaker 1>you gonna start putting needles in your arm? Like you

0:17:20.960 --> 0:17:23.880
<v Speaker 1>don't touch other people's medicine, right, Like, so you shouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>touch my medicine.

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<v Speaker 2>Or you don't use medicine when you don't necessarily need it,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, right, right, So I think that's really important

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<v Speaker 2>to let them know all of its beautiful, wonderful uses.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I mean, we had an episode with a friend

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<v Speaker 1>of ours, Natasha, and she's a big cannabis advocate. She's

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<v Speaker 1>also an Indian woman and obviously has had a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of pushback from her community about her use with cannabis,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's very public about it, and she's used it

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<v Speaker 1>for PTSD and anxiety and it's really helped and you should,

0:18:00.920 --> 0:18:04.879
<v Speaker 1>guys should should definitely check out that episode. But she

0:18:04.920 --> 0:18:08.040
<v Speaker 1>talks about how cannabis really saved her life that she

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<v Speaker 1>had tried to use you know, xan x'es and different

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<v Speaker 1>types of prescribed medicine and nothing really made her feel

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<v Speaker 1>like herself. And cannabis was something that really really helped her.

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<v Speaker 1>So there are so many heat, there's so many studies,

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<v Speaker 1>there's so many healing things that have improven that cannabis

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<v Speaker 1>assists with. And so it doesn't have to be and

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<v Speaker 1>understanding that it is that it is.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not.

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<v Speaker 1>The scary negative thing that people use and drug addicts

0:18:41.240 --> 0:18:42.760
<v Speaker 1>for drug addicts. I mean, I think when I was

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<v Speaker 1>a kid, I remember my grandfather. I think I've talked

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<v Speaker 1>about this on other episodes, like labeling everything as dope

0:18:48.040 --> 0:18:52.520
<v Speaker 1>like dope like and in his mind too, like when

0:18:52.560 --> 0:18:54.720
<v Speaker 1>he thought of dope, he thought of like heroin. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>But like under that whole umbrella is weed, cannabis, but alcohol,

0:19:00.560 --> 0:19:04.320
<v Speaker 1>for some reason, is this separate thing. And let's not

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<v Speaker 1>forget you guys. There was an alcohol prohibition, and essentially

0:19:08.560 --> 0:19:10.760
<v Speaker 1>there's been a cannabis prohibition and it's still going on

0:19:10.800 --> 0:19:14.960
<v Speaker 1>in certain states, but alcohol prohibition obviously no longer exists.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think anywhere in the world. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>could be wrong, right, even.

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<v Speaker 2>Though alcohol is much more harmful than weed will ever be.

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<v Speaker 2>It's actually like a form of poison, but.

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<v Speaker 1>It's now legalized and people use it if you use

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<v Speaker 1>it responsibly, like you know, I mean, obviously, the blurs

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<v Speaker 1>of responsibility, the lines of responsibility and alcohol get very

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<v Speaker 1>fucked up a lot, because it really is poison in

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<v Speaker 1>many ways, and cannabis obviously is not poison and does

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<v Speaker 1>not have the same side effects as alcohol. And still

0:19:53.480 --> 0:19:56.520
<v Speaker 1>there's still this prohibition going along going on, but it

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<v Speaker 1>has I think, I think progressive people and progressive states

0:19:58.960 --> 0:20:01.840
<v Speaker 1>have legalized it, and that's for a reason, so that

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't have to be, you know, this this negative thing,

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<v Speaker 1>especially if you're using it recreationally. Just as like simple

0:20:07.920 --> 0:20:10.520
<v Speaker 1>as I pour a glass of wine, I should be

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<v Speaker 1>able to smoke a joint. Like Nobody questions me when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm at a restaurant drinking three tequila sodas. But if

0:20:18.960 --> 0:20:21.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm if I light up a joint, it's like whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa,

0:20:21.400 --> 0:20:26.080
<v Speaker 1>whoa whoa, And you know, it's speaking of alcohol. I've

0:20:26.320 --> 0:20:28.880
<v Speaker 1>actually been taking a break from alcohol because I don't

0:20:28.880 --> 0:20:31.479
<v Speaker 1>know if you guys follow my stories on a personal page.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm like a workout queen.

0:20:33.119 --> 0:20:38.000
<v Speaker 2>Now, oh, a workout queen. Okay, yeah, girl, Helton surprised.

0:20:38.080 --> 0:20:40.480
<v Speaker 1>If I start my own fitness page, I'm gonna start

0:20:40.480 --> 0:20:43.080
<v Speaker 1>a side hustle of training. I'm just gonna record all

0:20:43.160 --> 0:20:46.840
<v Speaker 1>of KT's workout and just like start my own shit.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a k but low key. It's been like a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit difficult. I'm like used to having a glass

0:20:55.119 --> 0:20:58.479
<v Speaker 1>of wine at night or like a drink, and so

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<v Speaker 1>I found this, actually found this distilled non alcoholic spirit.

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<v Speaker 1>I've like it's the only one in the world. A

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<v Speaker 1>friend of mine told me about it, and it's called

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<v Speaker 1>seed lip. So it's just it's crafted without alcohol or

0:21:11.359 --> 0:21:13.560
<v Speaker 1>calories or sugar, which is really important because I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>workout queen.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, oh okay, your health is fitness.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know what I love about it is that

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<v Speaker 1>so it's it's flavored and like I can make it

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<v Speaker 1>really cute, Like I put a little bit of ginger

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<v Speaker 1>all in there, put a little muddled strawberries, and I

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<v Speaker 1>be feeling them like I'm having a drink.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh okay. So it's like I've heard of like a

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<v Speaker 2>non alcoholic beer, but I haven't. I think this is

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<v Speaker 2>the first non alcoholic spirit ever, which is really which

0:21:39.640 --> 0:21:41.400
<v Speaker 2>is really cool because just because you don't want to drink,

0:21:41.440 --> 0:21:44.000
<v Speaker 2>you want to feel like you're drinking and like not

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<v Speaker 2>necessarily a beer, so like that's.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, that's you, you know, like I get it now

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<v Speaker 1>because because I haven't been drinking, and like if other

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<v Speaker 1>people are drinking like that, you feel just like they

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<v Speaker 1>low key make fun of you. You're like, oh, you're

0:21:56.480 --> 0:21:59.080
<v Speaker 1>not drinking, especially me, because like I love I love

0:21:59.119 --> 0:22:01.800
<v Speaker 1>my tequilas, and like you know, some people are like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not drinking, So now I just be pouring up

0:22:03.880 --> 0:22:07.200
<v Speaker 1>my seed lip. Nobody asks me any questions because they

0:22:07.240 --> 0:22:11.760
<v Speaker 1>just assume that I'm drinking. And it's actually really good.

0:22:11.760 --> 0:22:14.000
<v Speaker 1>They have all these different flavors. I love it too

0:22:14.040 --> 0:22:17.159
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<v Speaker 2>Don't say we never gave you anything. Good Mom's fifteen

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<v Speaker 1>For all my mamas who either don't drink or are

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<v Speaker 1>trying to do better in life. Drink all the time like.

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<v Speaker 2>Me, And that's I'm totally the person like you don't

0:22:42.680 --> 0:22:44.040
<v Speaker 2>want to drink. You don't drink.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, bitch, I know, I don't know. I'll be mad,

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<v Speaker 1>don't So don't be surprised when I pull up with

0:22:48.720 --> 0:22:52.800
<v Speaker 1>my seed lip drink. I wat, I'm gonna start giving

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<v Speaker 1>this shit to you. You're gonna be like, I'm so drunk,

0:22:55.160 --> 0:22:57.240
<v Speaker 1>you know, like the plus.

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<v Speaker 2>I doubt that, but it will look like you're drinking,

0:23:00.960 --> 0:23:02.399
<v Speaker 2>and so I will make fun of you less.

0:23:04.040 --> 0:23:09.720
<v Speaker 1>Anyway, back to back to the cannabis's education. Like we

0:23:09.760 --> 0:23:14.159
<v Speaker 1>said talking about it, not just having the convo once.

0:23:14.840 --> 0:23:17.520
<v Speaker 2>That's another thing. Not having the convo once. It's not

0:23:17.600 --> 0:23:22.600
<v Speaker 2>something you just leave. You have to. I mean, just

0:23:22.640 --> 0:23:26.000
<v Speaker 2>like we train our kids about like stranger danger, don't

0:23:26.040 --> 0:23:29.280
<v Speaker 2>accept food from people, don't accept don't let someone lure

0:23:29.320 --> 0:23:31.719
<v Speaker 2>you into a corner. We start training them early on

0:23:31.760 --> 0:23:34.679
<v Speaker 2>things like that, scenarios that could possibly happen. Do the

0:23:34.760 --> 0:23:37.640
<v Speaker 2>same with weed. Do the same with those common conversations.

0:23:37.800 --> 0:23:40.520
<v Speaker 2>If somebody offers you something, you come talk to me.

0:23:41.000 --> 0:23:44.280
<v Speaker 2>If you the more you strategize and have these conversations

0:23:44.280 --> 0:23:47.119
<v Speaker 2>in your household, the less the more likely when it

0:23:47.160 --> 0:23:49.320
<v Speaker 2>comes up your your child is going to come and

0:23:49.320 --> 0:23:51.840
<v Speaker 2>be like, oh, mom, so and so mentioned this and

0:23:51.880 --> 0:23:54.720
<v Speaker 2>she's trying this and then you and she's not scared.

0:23:54.760 --> 0:23:56.680
<v Speaker 2>He or she is not scared to have the conversation

0:23:56.760 --> 0:23:59.240
<v Speaker 2>with you. In fact, they're familiar and they're prepared about

0:23:59.280 --> 0:24:02.760
<v Speaker 2>all the possible little situations and scenarios. It could happen

0:24:02.800 --> 0:24:05.960
<v Speaker 2>at a party at school, blah blah blah. You know,

0:24:06.040 --> 0:24:08.600
<v Speaker 2>because these kids been trying to educate your kids for you,

0:24:08.800 --> 0:24:10.320
<v Speaker 2>and you got to get down on that level.

0:24:10.359 --> 0:24:12.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm got to get ahead of it. And for those

0:24:12.880 --> 0:24:15.639
<v Speaker 1>who have teenagers that you haven't had that conversation, like

0:24:16.119 --> 0:24:19.040
<v Speaker 1>it's time, it's it's time. Don't wait. You're a low

0:24:19.119 --> 0:24:21.320
<v Speaker 1>key kind of late, but it's okay, Like you can

0:24:21.320 --> 0:24:25.919
<v Speaker 1>there's still there's still time, but it is time. So

0:24:26.040 --> 0:24:28.960
<v Speaker 1>number three, like Jamila was saying, it is preparation. You know,

0:24:29.000 --> 0:24:31.520
<v Speaker 1>how do you prepare your child for that inevitable moment

0:24:31.640 --> 0:24:35.200
<v Speaker 1>that they're offered weed and you aren't there. I mean,

0:24:35.240 --> 0:24:37.639
<v Speaker 1>I think one of those things is I don't even

0:24:37.680 --> 0:24:39.080
<v Speaker 1>want to call it this, Like there's got to be

0:24:39.119 --> 0:24:41.480
<v Speaker 1>a better play way to say this, Like the state

0:24:41.560 --> 0:24:44.560
<v Speaker 1>the stranger danger. I'm about to light up too. Hold on,

0:24:44.720 --> 0:24:45.879
<v Speaker 1>let me light my meetups.

0:24:46.000 --> 0:24:51.080
<v Speaker 2>Speaking of smoking, made smoke and smoking, I'm actually smoking

0:24:51.640 --> 0:25:01.359
<v Speaker 2>from our good friend Jessica. Well we know fourteen, Jessica. Sorry,

0:25:02.040 --> 0:25:05.879
<v Speaker 2>Jessica Hooper. The I think this is the Via. This

0:25:06.200 --> 0:25:10.160
<v Speaker 2>via the Via strand, which is actually delicious and smooth.

0:25:10.840 --> 0:25:13.080
<v Speaker 1>And yeah, she gave me some shit, girl, That shit

0:25:13.320 --> 0:25:14.680
<v Speaker 1>knocked me the bug.

0:25:14.800 --> 0:25:16.880
<v Speaker 2>This is the sativa. This is the sativa one.

0:25:17.000 --> 0:25:18.920
<v Speaker 1>Okay, well that one probably gonna have you like up

0:25:18.920 --> 0:25:20.639
<v Speaker 1>at the other. This is one she gave me.

0:25:20.680 --> 0:25:22.240
<v Speaker 2>Wait, look why I have two. This is one by

0:25:22.240 --> 0:25:25.000
<v Speaker 2>my bed. This is the Indica, and then this is

0:25:25.280 --> 0:25:27.720
<v Speaker 2>my one I dis rolled for the daytime. I almost

0:25:27.760 --> 0:25:29.600
<v Speaker 2>smoked this because I was too lazy, but I said,

0:25:29.720 --> 0:25:32.879
<v Speaker 2>I know better, and you know what. Speaking of different

0:25:32.880 --> 0:25:37.360
<v Speaker 2>types of weed and educating our kids on it, these

0:25:37.359 --> 0:25:39.640
<v Speaker 2>are conversations that even need to be had, especially if

0:25:39.640 --> 0:25:42.080
<v Speaker 2>you have older children. Obviously we're not breaking down the

0:25:42.119 --> 0:25:45.000
<v Speaker 2>different we strands were smoking to our five year olds,

0:25:45.400 --> 0:25:48.240
<v Speaker 2>but we're aware and it's taken us a long time

0:25:48.359 --> 0:25:51.919
<v Speaker 2>in our adulthood to figure out what weeds work for us.

0:25:52.240 --> 0:25:55.520
<v Speaker 2>We used to be very down for the sativas. Only

0:25:56.160 --> 0:25:58.520
<v Speaker 2>then I started didn't Erica started giving me coffee plus

0:25:58.560 --> 0:26:03.479
<v Speaker 2>the sativa dad or up and you know, And there

0:26:03.520 --> 0:26:05.120
<v Speaker 2>was a time I wasn't asking what kind of weed

0:26:05.119 --> 0:26:06.600
<v Speaker 2>I was smoking, and then I would feel like I

0:26:06.640 --> 0:26:10.440
<v Speaker 2>was having a fucking blacks rainy cloud over me. During

0:26:10.440 --> 0:26:13.320
<v Speaker 2>the sunny days, I couldn't open my eyes, I couldn't move,

0:26:14.560 --> 0:26:16.520
<v Speaker 2>so I was smoking fucking into because during the day

0:26:16.640 --> 0:26:19.840
<v Speaker 2>not getting shit done. So there is a weed journey

0:26:19.880 --> 0:26:22.240
<v Speaker 2>that even as an adult, I'm aware I've gone on

0:26:22.400 --> 0:26:24.720
<v Speaker 2>to get to a comfortable level of knowing how much

0:26:24.760 --> 0:26:28.080
<v Speaker 2>I should consume, knowing when I should consume, what works

0:26:28.119 --> 0:26:31.080
<v Speaker 2>for me, and you know when I should if I'm working,

0:26:31.080 --> 0:26:34.240
<v Speaker 2>if I need a hybrid, et cetera. These are conversations

0:26:34.240 --> 0:26:36.600
<v Speaker 2>we need to be having with our kids, like Nigga,

0:26:36.840 --> 0:26:38.760
<v Speaker 2>you can't smoke all day. You don't even know what

0:26:38.800 --> 0:26:41.080
<v Speaker 2>you're smoking and what time it is. It needs to

0:26:41.160 --> 0:26:44.159
<v Speaker 2>make sense and by having these conversations, they'll know, like

0:26:44.560 --> 0:26:46.399
<v Speaker 2>I'm not taking that from me a little Johnny from

0:26:46.480 --> 0:26:48.399
<v Speaker 2>up the street because I got to go to school.

0:26:48.440 --> 0:26:51.119
<v Speaker 2>That might make me go to sleep right again.

0:26:51.280 --> 0:26:53.480
<v Speaker 1>Like yeah, with that idea, of like not taking weed

0:26:53.520 --> 0:26:57.119
<v Speaker 1>from strangers. And I think even like using the analogy

0:26:57.160 --> 0:26:58.679
<v Speaker 1>of like would you accept a bag of chips from

0:26:58.720 --> 0:27:02.320
<v Speaker 1>a stranger on the street, Like what like if a

0:27:02.400 --> 0:27:04.520
<v Speaker 1>random person came up to me on the street and

0:27:04.560 --> 0:27:07.560
<v Speaker 1>off said, hey, here's some chips or at a party,

0:27:07.680 --> 0:27:10.240
<v Speaker 1>just gave me some chip, I'd be like, what are these? Why?

0:27:10.359 --> 0:27:12.439
<v Speaker 1>I don't Like, I would be like, you know, and like,

0:27:12.480 --> 0:27:14.720
<v Speaker 1>I think the same applies to weed, Like you don't

0:27:14.760 --> 0:27:17.080
<v Speaker 1>know where this person got the weed from. You're not

0:27:17.119 --> 0:27:20.199
<v Speaker 1>saying that it's a bad thing to be interested in it,

0:27:20.480 --> 0:27:23.600
<v Speaker 1>but be responsible about who you're accepting things from. You

0:27:23.640 --> 0:27:25.879
<v Speaker 1>have no idea, especially now in this day and age

0:27:26.119 --> 0:27:29.480
<v Speaker 1>with all these other fucking weird ash strains.

0:27:29.200 --> 0:27:30.840
<v Speaker 2>What's salvia?

0:27:32.560 --> 0:27:34.960
<v Speaker 1>Well, salvia too, like sala as.

0:27:34.840 --> 0:27:37.800
<v Speaker 2>A synthetic weed or some shit that makes you crazy.

0:27:37.840 --> 0:27:40.159
<v Speaker 1>There's all types of weird shit out there that have

0:27:40.440 --> 0:27:42.240
<v Speaker 1>and you just don't know where people are getting things.

0:27:42.280 --> 0:27:43.360
<v Speaker 2>People are lacing shit.

0:27:43.560 --> 0:27:46.200
<v Speaker 1>Parent for me as a parent, like I don't want

0:27:46.200 --> 0:27:48.400
<v Speaker 1>to instill fear, but I also but I do want

0:27:48.440 --> 0:27:52.040
<v Speaker 1>them to know. Like Nick, just come over here and

0:27:52.080 --> 0:27:54.600
<v Speaker 1>ask me if you're interested if you got someone offered

0:27:54.600 --> 0:27:57.840
<v Speaker 1>you some weed at a party and like, you know,

0:27:58.080 --> 0:28:01.000
<v Speaker 1>you are now interested. You said no, you're now interested,

0:28:01.160 --> 0:28:04.720
<v Speaker 1>Like talk to me about it because I would rather

0:28:04.840 --> 0:28:07.000
<v Speaker 1>that And you say no than like you take some

0:28:07.040 --> 0:28:10.160
<v Speaker 1>weed and then like you're so high that you can't

0:28:10.160 --> 0:28:13.720
<v Speaker 1>even move, like because I have literally smoked indicas where like, bitch,

0:28:13.800 --> 0:28:16.959
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I definitely can't drive for sure, Like

0:28:17.280 --> 0:28:19.520
<v Speaker 1>know your limits, because there are limits in weed. There

0:28:19.600 --> 0:28:22.040
<v Speaker 1>isn't amount of weed you can smoke, where like you're

0:28:22.119 --> 0:28:24.440
<v Speaker 1>you probably should not be operating a vehicle.

0:28:25.200 --> 0:28:27.560
<v Speaker 2>Oh no, it's happened to me. And now I'm gonna

0:28:27.560 --> 0:28:29.240
<v Speaker 2>tell my as soon as it is old enough to

0:28:29.320 --> 0:28:32.240
<v Speaker 2>understand this story, I'm gonna tell her. One time I

0:28:32.320 --> 0:28:35.359
<v Speaker 2>was driving and I was so fucking high. I was

0:28:35.400 --> 0:28:38.480
<v Speaker 2>at a red light and then the green light turned

0:28:38.640 --> 0:28:41.800
<v Speaker 2>and my friend was like go and I was like

0:28:42.640 --> 0:28:46.360
<v Speaker 2>looking for the gas with my foot, but I couldn't

0:28:46.400 --> 0:28:48.960
<v Speaker 2>find it. You guys, I couldn't find it. I swear,

0:28:49.320 --> 0:28:52.760
<v Speaker 2>I see, bitch. On one time I smashed my own

0:28:52.920 --> 0:28:55.000
<v Speaker 2>finger in the door of the car and I had

0:28:55.000 --> 0:28:56.800
<v Speaker 2>to like a quick thought of like trying to pull

0:28:56.840 --> 0:28:59.680
<v Speaker 2>it out before first opening the door. This is all

0:28:59.760 --> 0:29:01.520
<v Speaker 2>high shit it.

0:29:02.400 --> 0:29:04.520
<v Speaker 1>This is why I don't believe you need to tell them,

0:29:04.560 --> 0:29:07.080
<v Speaker 1>like people will try to say, like, man, no, like

0:29:07.120 --> 0:29:09.520
<v Speaker 1>there's no such thing as being too high to drive,

0:29:09.640 --> 0:29:11.560
<v Speaker 1>like you can always drive when you smoke weed. No,

0:29:11.800 --> 0:29:12.640
<v Speaker 1>that's a lie.

0:29:13.520 --> 0:29:15.080
<v Speaker 2>There are such things as being too hot.

0:29:15.120 --> 0:29:18.120
<v Speaker 1>There are limits. There are such thing as being too hot. Now,

0:29:18.160 --> 0:29:21.080
<v Speaker 1>can you overdose on cannabis? No, it would be almost

0:29:21.160 --> 0:29:23.400
<v Speaker 1>damn near impossible. I think that. I can't remember. I

0:29:23.440 --> 0:29:25.560
<v Speaker 1>was watching I read some study on it, and it

0:29:25.600 --> 0:29:27.600
<v Speaker 1>was like you'd have to consume Like I don't think

0:29:27.600 --> 0:29:31.000
<v Speaker 1>it's ever pounds of weed in like an hour. That

0:29:31.120 --> 0:29:35.040
<v Speaker 1>is literally basically you can't. It's impossible. So no, and

0:29:35.040 --> 0:29:38.160
<v Speaker 1>and that should and that and can you overdose on alcohol? Yeah,

0:29:38.320 --> 0:29:40.960
<v Speaker 1>you can. So that just gives you the perspective on

0:29:41.160 --> 0:29:43.760
<v Speaker 1>like the obviously the safety and the spectrum, but like

0:29:44.040 --> 0:29:45.680
<v Speaker 1>you still need to be responsible.

0:29:46.480 --> 0:29:49.920
<v Speaker 2>I mean so, I think I'm just gonna say even

0:29:50.000 --> 0:29:53.280
<v Speaker 2>the fact that alcohol is so damaging to the body

0:29:53.880 --> 0:29:59.720
<v Speaker 2>it's literally called intoxic toxication, like it literally the only

0:29:59.760 --> 0:30:02.080
<v Speaker 2>reason and it was taken away and then brought back

0:30:02.200 --> 0:30:04.480
<v Speaker 2>is because they realized they had a way to make

0:30:04.520 --> 0:30:06.560
<v Speaker 2>money on it. By taxing it. At the end of

0:30:06.600 --> 0:30:10.920
<v Speaker 2>the day, you know, I'm anti government, even though I

0:30:10.960 --> 0:30:16.400
<v Speaker 2>am gonna vote. Oh what, Yeah, I've.

0:30:16.640 --> 0:30:17.360
<v Speaker 1>Turned it into lead.

0:30:17.480 --> 0:30:20.080
<v Speaker 2>Not in belief, but you've just thought I would just

0:30:20.120 --> 0:30:23.520
<v Speaker 2>would never not do it. And even if maybe it

0:30:23.560 --> 0:30:26.000
<v Speaker 2>is rigged, which it probably is, I'm gonna at least

0:30:26.000 --> 0:30:29.400
<v Speaker 2>do whatever I can in my power to not put

0:30:29.440 --> 0:30:30.920
<v Speaker 2>any woman in a position to not be able to

0:30:30.920 --> 0:30:31.720
<v Speaker 2>get an abortion.

0:30:32.360 --> 0:30:32.880
<v Speaker 1>I think.

0:30:33.040 --> 0:30:37.760
<v Speaker 2>I'm so happy to hear that, amongst other things. But

0:30:39.120 --> 0:30:41.920
<v Speaker 2>being as anti government as I am, you have to

0:30:41.960 --> 0:30:44.920
<v Speaker 2>be real about like the things we're consuming and the

0:30:44.960 --> 0:30:48.560
<v Speaker 2>information we're consuming. And like alcohol is terrible, I know

0:30:48.680 --> 0:30:52.400
<v Speaker 2>because I drink, and like it makes you the physically sick,

0:30:52.560 --> 0:30:55.840
<v Speaker 2>much much more ill than the power of cannabis and

0:30:55.840 --> 0:30:58.760
<v Speaker 2>the healing components of cannabis. But up until now, in

0:30:58.800 --> 0:31:00.640
<v Speaker 2>certain places it hasn't. They had and had a way

0:31:00.640 --> 0:31:04.760
<v Speaker 2>to make it taxable. The government and the laws don't

0:31:04.800 --> 0:31:08.680
<v Speaker 2>necessarily give a fuck about your health, your wealth, your spirit,

0:31:08.840 --> 0:31:11.959
<v Speaker 2>what's healthy for you. They care about this money. So

0:31:12.320 --> 0:31:15.360
<v Speaker 2>I think a lot of our podcasts and even this conversation,

0:31:15.440 --> 0:31:18.480
<v Speaker 2>when coming to cannabis and normalizing it, is like we

0:31:18.600 --> 0:31:21.480
<v Speaker 2>have to re educate ourselves and dismantled what we've been

0:31:21.520 --> 0:31:24.240
<v Speaker 2>taught and what we've been fed and really see what's

0:31:24.360 --> 0:31:27.080
<v Speaker 2>the truth? You know, Like is this plant that I

0:31:27.080 --> 0:31:30.720
<v Speaker 2>can grow that's naturally made by God bad? Or is

0:31:30.760 --> 0:31:34.720
<v Speaker 2>this like highly toxic liquor that they package and beautifully

0:31:34.760 --> 0:31:39.320
<v Speaker 2>colored bottles so we can consume it? Is that actually damaging?

0:31:39.360 --> 0:31:41.200
<v Speaker 2>But that's legal as soon as my kid turns twenty

0:31:41.240 --> 0:31:44.560
<v Speaker 2>one and in some places eighteen, you know. So I

0:31:44.640 --> 0:31:47.280
<v Speaker 2>just think the truth sticking with the truth and not

0:31:47.360 --> 0:31:49.440
<v Speaker 2>just what you've been taught or what school has been

0:31:49.440 --> 0:31:52.880
<v Speaker 2>taught you're socially what we've been taught, but really the truth,

0:31:52.960 --> 0:31:54.560
<v Speaker 2>finding information that's true.

0:31:57.120 --> 0:32:00.520
<v Speaker 1>I agree. I also think that how your kids can

0:32:00.640 --> 0:32:04.080
<v Speaker 1>learn or be prepared to handle certain scenarios is just

0:32:04.240 --> 0:32:08.800
<v Speaker 1>actually relating them to your own personal life, Like for me,

0:32:08.960 --> 0:32:11.560
<v Speaker 1>like I remember the first time I was offered cannabis,

0:32:11.800 --> 0:32:14.920
<v Speaker 1>you know, and like what those scenarios look like and

0:32:15.000 --> 0:32:18.200
<v Speaker 1>the different stances that you can take, Like sometimes kids

0:32:18.280 --> 0:32:21.240
<v Speaker 1>just need clear direction, like hey, listen, Like you might

0:32:21.240 --> 0:32:23.320
<v Speaker 1>be at a party and some guy like you don't

0:32:23.360 --> 0:32:26.000
<v Speaker 1>know that seems cool, is gonna be smoking a blunt

0:32:26.040 --> 0:32:28.880
<v Speaker 1>and he's gonna pass it to you, and you might

0:32:28.880 --> 0:32:31.600
<v Speaker 1>feel peer pressured to say yes. You might be intrigued

0:32:31.600 --> 0:32:33.640
<v Speaker 1>to say yes. You might be like fuck no, but

0:32:33.680 --> 0:32:36.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't know how to say no. Like these are

0:32:36.120 --> 0:32:40.000
<v Speaker 1>the ways that you can handle that situation without feeling

0:32:40.120 --> 0:32:44.400
<v Speaker 1>judged or you know, like and if you are intrigued, like,

0:32:44.480 --> 0:32:47.080
<v Speaker 1>let's talk about that too. So I feel like just

0:32:47.120 --> 0:32:50.560
<v Speaker 1>giving them scenarios, even if they're like, you know, personal,

0:32:50.680 --> 0:32:53.120
<v Speaker 1>it's always best to be personal, I think with your

0:32:53.200 --> 0:32:55.440
<v Speaker 1>kids and be able to be honest with them, I think,

0:32:56.480 --> 0:33:00.520
<v Speaker 1>And I think also preparation for yourself, prepare yourself for

0:33:00.560 --> 0:33:03.800
<v Speaker 1>your child to maybe finally be and not finally hopefully

0:33:03.840 --> 0:33:06.280
<v Speaker 1>be honest with you and say, mom, I want to

0:33:06.320 --> 0:33:11.000
<v Speaker 1>smoke weed and like or asking about weed, and being

0:33:11.040 --> 0:33:14.640
<v Speaker 1>prepared to be calm and not judgmental so that you

0:33:14.680 --> 0:33:17.440
<v Speaker 1>can create that trust. Like that's the hardest part because

0:33:17.440 --> 0:33:18.960
<v Speaker 1>as parents we want to fly off the hand and

0:33:19.080 --> 0:33:21.120
<v Speaker 1>be like what the fuck? Who Oh I knew I

0:33:21.120 --> 0:33:24.320
<v Speaker 1>didn't like Jessica. I knew Jessica was smoking that weed.

0:33:24.360 --> 0:33:25.760
<v Speaker 1>Is that why you're asking me? Oh, you want to

0:33:25.800 --> 0:33:28.320
<v Speaker 1>do it already? You want to have like, right, what

0:33:28.400 --> 0:33:30.000
<v Speaker 1>kind of weed was it? Where was it? What time

0:33:30.080 --> 0:33:30.240
<v Speaker 1>was it?

0:33:30.280 --> 0:33:30.360
<v Speaker 2>That?

0:33:30.480 --> 0:33:33.600
<v Speaker 1>Like, just chill, take a breath. Being able to have

0:33:33.680 --> 0:33:37.080
<v Speaker 1>that ope, that dialogue is and that trust is so crucial.

0:33:37.120 --> 0:33:39.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm not telling you you can't punish your child or

0:33:39.880 --> 0:33:42.080
<v Speaker 1>be stern with them or even get upset, but just

0:33:42.160 --> 0:33:44.880
<v Speaker 1>be careful with that because it's hard to go back,

0:33:45.000 --> 0:33:47.880
<v Speaker 1>especially if that's how you enter the place, like the

0:33:47.920 --> 0:33:50.880
<v Speaker 1>first time is like you enter it tripping, like you

0:33:50.960 --> 0:33:53.480
<v Speaker 1>might trip along the way later on because they're just

0:33:53.520 --> 0:33:57.440
<v Speaker 1>being irresponsible. But like, let's actually have a conversation that's okay,

0:33:57.560 --> 0:33:59.040
<v Speaker 1>let's establish trust.

0:33:59.280 --> 0:34:04.000
<v Speaker 2>And remember like how your your first conversations about certain shit, sex,

0:34:04.720 --> 0:34:07.959
<v Speaker 2>about drugs, about things you want to experiment with, all

0:34:08.000 --> 0:34:10.440
<v Speaker 2>the dumb things that someone told you, you know, like

0:34:10.680 --> 0:34:12.800
<v Speaker 2>and if you had that you had a parent, you

0:34:12.800 --> 0:34:16.360
<v Speaker 2>could talk about it too. You know. It's so important.

0:34:16.400 --> 0:34:20.320
<v Speaker 2>It really does in those sensitive times. It really shapes

0:34:20.400 --> 0:34:23.120
<v Speaker 2>how they'll come to you with other issues in other

0:34:23.239 --> 0:34:24.280
<v Speaker 2>areas too.

0:34:24.800 --> 0:34:30.400
<v Speaker 1>Right, So number four is discretion.

0:34:30.640 --> 0:34:36.879
<v Speaker 2>Discretion, This is really important. This is why I also say,

0:34:36.920 --> 0:34:39.719
<v Speaker 2>like i'd like to like, I know, my kid is five,

0:34:40.719 --> 0:34:44.560
<v Speaker 2>and I try to talk to her normally, like not

0:34:44.600 --> 0:34:47.160
<v Speaker 2>like an adult necessarily, but in a way she understands.

0:34:47.280 --> 0:34:52.279
<v Speaker 2>But like because you know, discretion is important. You have

0:34:52.320 --> 0:34:54.960
<v Speaker 2>to be able to feel out of environment and know

0:34:55.040 --> 0:34:57.720
<v Speaker 2>if it's a safe space to talk about certain things,

0:34:58.120 --> 0:35:00.960
<v Speaker 2>to do certain things, to know be president who you

0:35:01.040 --> 0:35:04.080
<v Speaker 2>are and where you're at, you know, as black children,

0:35:04.640 --> 0:35:07.920
<v Speaker 2>and you have to conduct yourself a different way in

0:35:07.960 --> 0:35:12.520
<v Speaker 2>the world, and as black parents, we have to relay

0:35:12.560 --> 0:35:15.400
<v Speaker 2>that to our children in a way that they're protected

0:35:15.560 --> 0:35:24.200
<v Speaker 2>and they're not unaware, and also you know, without damaging them.

0:35:24.680 --> 0:35:27.759
<v Speaker 2>So it's a very difficult conversation, but it's something that

0:35:27.800 --> 0:35:31.440
<v Speaker 2>we do from hopefully we touch on from the beginning.

0:35:31.480 --> 0:35:34.239
<v Speaker 2>But like with things like weed and with raising free

0:35:34.360 --> 0:35:38.880
<v Speaker 2>children and freely expressive children, there are things that they

0:35:38.960 --> 0:35:42.080
<v Speaker 2>might be confronted with differently as black children and weed,

0:35:42.320 --> 0:35:44.440
<v Speaker 2>especially in certain places as one of them, you know,

0:35:44.480 --> 0:35:46.000
<v Speaker 2>you might get caught with we and have a completely

0:35:46.000 --> 0:35:49.960
<v Speaker 2>different circumstance or response than somebody else that doesn't look

0:35:50.000 --> 0:35:52.600
<v Speaker 2>like you, depending on where you're at, just like in

0:35:52.640 --> 0:35:56.120
<v Speaker 2>any type of situation outside of our house. So you know,

0:35:56.160 --> 0:35:59.920
<v Speaker 2>it's important that you really choose what you're doing smartly

0:36:00.040 --> 0:36:02.200
<v Speaker 2>and wisely and who you're with and where you're at.

0:36:02.400 --> 0:36:05.120
<v Speaker 2>If you're in Georgia, even if you're in LA, you're underage,

0:36:05.200 --> 0:36:07.520
<v Speaker 2>you can go to jail. I don't Once you go

0:36:07.560 --> 0:36:09.759
<v Speaker 2>to jail, I have no I can't do anything for you.

0:36:09.840 --> 0:36:12.040
<v Speaker 2>That's out of my control. But if you come, if

0:36:12.040 --> 0:36:14.520
<v Speaker 2>you come to me, then we could seer this thing

0:36:14.600 --> 0:36:17.359
<v Speaker 2>together and I can protect you because I only want

0:36:17.400 --> 0:36:19.239
<v Speaker 2>your best interest in mine. You're gonna do what you're

0:36:19.239 --> 0:36:21.200
<v Speaker 2>gonna do regardless, but like, let's do it right. If

0:36:21.200 --> 0:36:22.959
<v Speaker 2>we're going to do it, let's do it the best

0:36:22.960 --> 0:36:27.200
<v Speaker 2>way possible. So yeah, even having the discussion about who

0:36:27.239 --> 0:36:29.600
<v Speaker 2>you discuss it with. You know, it's normal in our house,

0:36:30.160 --> 0:36:32.760
<v Speaker 2>but you know down the street you're friends a Christian,

0:36:32.920 --> 0:36:35.560
<v Speaker 2>don't talk about this over there. If they have questions

0:36:35.560 --> 0:36:37.919
<v Speaker 2>that they don't feel copetable talking with their parents, let

0:36:37.920 --> 0:36:40.359
<v Speaker 2>them know this is a safe space. But you know,

0:36:40.640 --> 0:36:43.040
<v Speaker 2>you're ass don't be going to school talking about me

0:36:43.160 --> 0:36:45.799
<v Speaker 2>smoking weed or whatever we do in this household. And

0:36:45.840 --> 0:36:48.319
<v Speaker 2>it's like we don't keep secrets, but we know who

0:36:48.360 --> 0:36:49.280
<v Speaker 2>and when it's safe.

0:36:49.560 --> 0:36:53.080
<v Speaker 1>You know, Yeah, that's a big one, like for sure,

0:36:53.520 --> 0:37:02.719
<v Speaker 1>especially because of cannabis. And it's like like the way

0:37:02.760 --> 0:37:05.359
<v Speaker 1>that it's viewed in certain places, like they are, there

0:37:05.400 --> 0:37:08.680
<v Speaker 1>are people that will do the most if they find

0:37:08.680 --> 0:37:11.319
<v Speaker 1>out you smoke weed around your kid too, you know,

0:37:11.400 --> 0:37:14.920
<v Speaker 1>as a parent too, I think I think we me you, Jamila,

0:37:15.000 --> 0:37:17.040
<v Speaker 1>we have the luxury of living in LA Like that's

0:37:17.120 --> 0:37:20.640
<v Speaker 1>really not even on our fear of ours for someone

0:37:21.000 --> 0:37:23.640
<v Speaker 1>to call child protective services on you, right and be

0:37:23.719 --> 0:37:25.680
<v Speaker 1>like you've been smoking weed, Like we'd be like what

0:37:26.640 --> 0:37:29.000
<v Speaker 1>you know, but like that just unfortunately is not the

0:37:29.040 --> 0:37:33.040
<v Speaker 1>case in certain states. And so if you you.

0:37:33.120 --> 0:37:36.239
<v Speaker 2>Just run the risk of yeah, they have to know

0:37:36.400 --> 0:37:39.319
<v Speaker 2>the risks that you're taking by partaking, and why it

0:37:39.360 --> 0:37:41.359
<v Speaker 2>is important the environment that you're in.

0:37:41.960 --> 0:37:44.360
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and how it's a risk for everyone involved.

0:37:44.560 --> 0:37:46.560
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I feel like such a mom giving

0:37:46.600 --> 0:37:51.520
<v Speaker 2>this speech right now. I'm just feeling very mamash. I'm

0:37:51.560 --> 0:37:52.239
<v Speaker 2>really a parent.

0:37:52.320 --> 0:37:52.600
<v Speaker 1>Wow.

0:37:53.320 --> 0:37:55.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I want to be having to tell them of

0:37:55.239 --> 0:37:55.800
<v Speaker 2>these things.

0:37:56.480 --> 0:37:57.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:37:58.080 --> 0:38:00.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:38:00.880 --> 0:38:05.839
<v Speaker 1>And I think lastly, is I mean respects. I mean

0:38:07.160 --> 0:38:09.480
<v Speaker 1>some of some kids just like there, you have to

0:38:09.520 --> 0:38:13.240
<v Speaker 1>respect your child's comfortability and boundaries around smoking, like smoking

0:38:13.239 --> 0:38:16.320
<v Speaker 1>outside in open areas. If your child is like clearly

0:38:16.360 --> 0:38:20.600
<v Speaker 1>bothered by like naturally bothered by your cannabis intake, Like

0:38:20.640 --> 0:38:24.239
<v Speaker 1>you need to understand your child's boundaries and they have

0:38:24.280 --> 0:38:27.800
<v Speaker 1>to understand yours, you know. And so I think a

0:38:27.920 --> 0:38:31.920
<v Speaker 1>mutual respect is really important and checking in with your

0:38:32.000 --> 0:38:36.279
<v Speaker 1>kid asking them questions, and that's how you do keep

0:38:36.320 --> 0:38:41.879
<v Speaker 1>the ongoing conversation going, you know. And that is kind

0:38:41.960 --> 0:38:45.319
<v Speaker 1>of again like tying in the whole aspect of normalizing it.

0:38:46.160 --> 0:38:49.040
<v Speaker 1>So and I was just saying, you know, and being

0:38:49.080 --> 0:38:53.920
<v Speaker 1>an example of what a responsible cannabis smoker is versus

0:38:54.120 --> 0:38:57.319
<v Speaker 1>a pothead cannabis smoker. You know, your child is going

0:38:57.360 --> 0:39:01.160
<v Speaker 1>to see you using cannabis in whatever ways you use cannabis.

0:39:01.160 --> 0:39:04.239
<v Speaker 1>So if you use it to cope, they probably might

0:39:04.320 --> 0:39:07.040
<v Speaker 1>use it to cope, you know. And if they notice

0:39:07.080 --> 0:39:09.839
<v Speaker 1>that you smoke cannabis at times where you feel very

0:39:09.920 --> 0:39:13.680
<v Speaker 1>upset or you know, like, you kind of do shape

0:39:13.840 --> 0:39:17.080
<v Speaker 1>the way that they could potentially use it if they

0:39:17.120 --> 0:39:19.200
<v Speaker 1>want it, if they were interested in it.

0:39:20.560 --> 0:39:24.719
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think respect also in respecting your child's boundaries,

0:39:24.840 --> 0:39:28.160
<v Speaker 2>you'd be clear that like, I'm not your friend, I'm

0:39:28.200 --> 0:39:31.960
<v Speaker 2>giving you respect by being honest with you. I need

0:39:32.000 --> 0:39:38.520
<v Speaker 2>you to return that respect by not abusing me, allowing

0:39:38.520 --> 0:39:41.040
<v Speaker 2>you to have a safe space with me because everyone

0:39:41.080 --> 0:39:45.920
<v Speaker 2>doesn't have the same luxury. And yeah, I can't just

0:39:45.960 --> 0:39:48.080
<v Speaker 2>get high and blow away my day. It's something I

0:39:48.120 --> 0:39:50.520
<v Speaker 2>do after things are done or because I know I

0:39:50.520 --> 0:39:53.920
<v Speaker 2>can do that while it enhances what I'm doing. And

0:39:53.960 --> 0:39:57.080
<v Speaker 2>some people do great. Some people smoke weight and get

0:39:57.280 --> 0:40:00.680
<v Speaker 2>super productive and do great. If that's too or power too,

0:40:00.880 --> 0:40:03.120
<v Speaker 2>but you I need to see that you're using it

0:40:03.320 --> 0:40:07.239
<v Speaker 2>like whatever it is. It's responsible, I'll like, and it's respectful.

0:40:07.400 --> 0:40:09.360
<v Speaker 2>Respect me if I'm like, don't do it at my

0:40:09.400 --> 0:40:12.640
<v Speaker 2>house whatever whatever my rules are, respect them because you

0:40:12.640 --> 0:40:15.279
<v Speaker 2>don't pay no bills. So it's not about like being

0:40:15.320 --> 0:40:17.920
<v Speaker 2>your friend, your kid's friend and your homie and like

0:40:17.960 --> 0:40:20.319
<v Speaker 2>smoking with them per se, I think. So it just

0:40:20.360 --> 0:40:22.640
<v Speaker 2>has to be like a mutual respect and everybody has

0:40:22.680 --> 0:40:24.840
<v Speaker 2>their different levels of comfortability of what that looks like

0:40:24.920 --> 0:40:27.640
<v Speaker 2>in your household. I didn't smoke with my dad or

0:40:27.680 --> 0:40:31.759
<v Speaker 2>my parents, you know, until probably like seventeen, and that

0:40:31.880 --> 0:40:33.759
<v Speaker 2>was like the first time ish and then now you

0:40:33.760 --> 0:40:37.040
<v Speaker 2>know here and there. But I had to become an adult,

0:40:37.080 --> 0:40:39.440
<v Speaker 2>even with my grandma. Wasn't until like my twenties, you

0:40:39.480 --> 0:40:41.960
<v Speaker 2>know what I mean. I had no idea, but everybody

0:40:42.000 --> 0:40:44.600
<v Speaker 2>has a different level of comfortability in their household, so

0:40:45.000 --> 0:40:46.880
<v Speaker 2>just kind of find out what that is for you.

0:40:47.560 --> 0:40:49.799
<v Speaker 2>Oh and one last thing, if you're listening to this

0:40:49.920 --> 0:40:53.840
<v Speaker 2>and you haven't had any conversation about cannabis, it's a

0:40:53.880 --> 0:40:56.160
<v Speaker 2>secret in your house and you have a whatever, however,

0:40:56.239 --> 0:40:59.200
<v Speaker 2>old kids, when to have the conversation. I just think

0:40:59.280 --> 0:41:02.040
<v Speaker 2>if you could just comfortably kind of start rolling it

0:41:02.080 --> 0:41:05.520
<v Speaker 2>in now, do it. If you can start normalizing something

0:41:05.560 --> 0:41:10.320
<v Speaker 2>that you've realized you should have normalized before, do it. Start.

0:41:10.640 --> 0:41:13.400
<v Speaker 2>It's never too late to start having the conversation.

0:41:13.160 --> 0:41:15.279
<v Speaker 1>Especially if you really want to be up. If you

0:41:15.320 --> 0:41:16.880
<v Speaker 1>want to know, some people don't want to know, some

0:41:16.880 --> 0:41:18.920
<v Speaker 1>people don't want to know about that. Like I think

0:41:18.960 --> 0:41:21.960
<v Speaker 1>it'll help in other areas of relationships as well. There's

0:41:21.960 --> 0:41:24.680
<v Speaker 1>so many taboo things that and once those things are broken,

0:41:24.760 --> 0:41:27.839
<v Speaker 1>they unlock these certain parts of your relationship that you

0:41:28.840 --> 0:41:31.880
<v Speaker 1>any other way would have missed out on. Life is short, man,

0:41:32.440 --> 0:41:35.480
<v Speaker 1>Connect with your kids. Don't set up boundaries with them

0:41:35.600 --> 0:41:37.640
<v Speaker 1>for no reason that they don't have to be there.

0:41:37.760 --> 0:41:39.560
<v Speaker 1>Not to get deep, but like I do, like I

0:41:39.600 --> 0:41:42.520
<v Speaker 1>think about like I never really fear death before, and

0:41:42.560 --> 0:41:44.680
<v Speaker 1>I still don't necessarily fear it, but like the fact

0:41:44.719 --> 0:41:47.160
<v Speaker 1>that I like, especially now in the time that we

0:41:47.200 --> 0:41:50.360
<v Speaker 1>live in, like thinking about leaving my daughter here, I

0:41:50.440 --> 0:41:55.440
<v Speaker 1>want to have the best, most honest relationship in all ways,

0:41:55.840 --> 0:41:58.719
<v Speaker 1>in the way that she allows me to. You know,

0:41:58.760 --> 0:42:00.719
<v Speaker 1>I know she's going to have her her things and

0:42:00.719 --> 0:42:02.640
<v Speaker 1>her secrets, and I don't expect to know everything, but

0:42:02.719 --> 0:42:05.879
<v Speaker 1>like I want us to, you know, be boundless if

0:42:05.880 --> 0:42:08.480
<v Speaker 1>we can. And I think a lot of that starts

0:42:08.480 --> 0:42:12.880
<v Speaker 1>with just getting rid of like these fucking stupid rules

0:42:12.960 --> 0:42:16.680
<v Speaker 1>about what parents how and what and how parents talk

0:42:16.719 --> 0:42:20.520
<v Speaker 1>about things that are like sex and cannabis and alcohol

0:42:20.719 --> 0:42:23.160
<v Speaker 1>and drugs and mental health and.

0:42:23.200 --> 0:42:26.839
<v Speaker 2>And mostly things that are inevitably going to come up

0:42:26.960 --> 0:42:29.799
<v Speaker 2>no matter what they that no matter what, these things

0:42:29.840 --> 0:42:31.960
<v Speaker 2>are going to come up. And how are we gonna

0:42:32.040 --> 0:42:33.520
<v Speaker 2>how are we going to introduce them? How are we

0:42:33.560 --> 0:42:37.200
<v Speaker 2>going to co exist with them and prepare our children

0:42:37.200 --> 0:42:40.000
<v Speaker 2>in a healthy way if we're unwilling to have uncomfortable

0:42:40.040 --> 0:42:43.920
<v Speaker 2>conversations and be honest and be real, you know, be human.

0:42:44.520 --> 0:42:46.960
<v Speaker 2>It's so important, I think honestly, when you give, when

0:42:47.000 --> 0:42:49.719
<v Speaker 2>you give yourself permission to do that, and then you

0:42:49.719 --> 0:42:52.120
<v Speaker 2>give your child permission to do that, and you encourage

0:42:52.120 --> 0:42:55.359
<v Speaker 2>your child to do that. They then go out into

0:42:55.400 --> 0:43:01.560
<v Speaker 2>the world and have a sense of fears and being

0:43:02.600 --> 0:43:05.520
<v Speaker 2>honest in who they are, you know, because they're not

0:43:05.600 --> 0:43:08.680
<v Speaker 2>trying to hide it from from themselves or from you

0:43:08.840 --> 0:43:11.879
<v Speaker 2>or from anyone. There's like a sense of confidence that

0:43:11.960 --> 0:43:16.080
<v Speaker 2>you kind of are aware, you know, right, you get

0:43:16.120 --> 0:43:19.240
<v Speaker 2>you kind of give your hift, your child a gift

0:43:19.400 --> 0:43:25.200
<v Speaker 2>of just being and and being free to express themselves,

0:43:25.200 --> 0:43:27.480
<v Speaker 2>and then you can receive it and sort through it

0:43:27.520 --> 0:43:31.920
<v Speaker 2>with them versus being closed off even in some places,

0:43:31.960 --> 0:43:34.840
<v Speaker 2>you know, even in some ways it affects the entire

0:43:35.040 --> 0:43:37.600
<v Speaker 2>being of a child that show.

0:43:37.960 --> 0:43:40.520
<v Speaker 1>Well, we hope these help. We hope these help you guys,

0:43:41.640 --> 0:43:43.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, you can hit us up if you have

0:43:43.440 --> 0:43:47.680
<v Speaker 1>any questions. Please feel free to share your journey with cannabis.

0:43:47.719 --> 0:43:49.720
<v Speaker 1>There's I know, there's moms that listens that have already

0:43:49.719 --> 0:43:51.440
<v Speaker 1>done this. I've already done all these things.

0:43:51.520 --> 0:43:54.720
<v Speaker 2>If you have tips, please share your tips. Yeah, because

0:43:54.800 --> 0:43:56.520
<v Speaker 2>I mean, I think the more as a community we

0:43:56.560 --> 0:43:58.480
<v Speaker 2>discussed it too, and the more as a community we

0:43:58.560 --> 0:44:00.759
<v Speaker 2>normalize it and we can kind I take from each

0:44:00.800 --> 0:44:05.600
<v Speaker 2>other's you know, they're lesson plans That's how I saw

0:44:05.640 --> 0:44:09.240
<v Speaker 2>another family normalize it and show their very small children

0:44:09.320 --> 0:44:12.440
<v Speaker 2>plants before I ever had kids, and when I had

0:44:12.520 --> 0:44:15.680
<v Speaker 2>kids years later, that's exactly the model of another you know,

0:44:15.880 --> 0:44:19.560
<v Speaker 2>model I adopted and then added whatever I thought was appropriate.

0:44:19.560 --> 0:44:21.960
<v Speaker 2>But had I not seen that, maybe I don't know

0:44:21.960 --> 0:44:24.239
<v Speaker 2>if I would have felt as comfortable doing it or

0:44:24.360 --> 0:44:26.320
<v Speaker 2>understanding that. But just because I saw that shit that

0:44:26.440 --> 0:44:30.399
<v Speaker 2>one time, that one family, I was so totally like, oh, yeah,

0:44:30.400 --> 0:44:32.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm on board with that because I saw it. So

0:44:32.640 --> 0:44:35.440
<v Speaker 2>I just think it's important that as a community we.

0:44:36.920 --> 0:44:40.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think if you're if you are on our Patreon,

0:44:40.320 --> 0:44:42.319
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0:44:42.360 --> 0:44:45.520
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0:46:26.520 --> 0:46:28.120
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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, We'll see you guys next Wednesday.

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<v Speaker 2>Please bye Ella solo recorder. Then let's us stay us

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<v Speaker 2>mellers come on and don't do so. Then the swim,

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<v Speaker 2>the storm, the mens come home and go

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hm