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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 1: I'm Nila, and it's Wednesday, Jula, Happy Wednesday.

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Speaker 2: Happy Wednesday. What I don't know? This is our first

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Speaker 2: time recording separately, even though.

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Speaker 1: That's why we're awkward.

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Speaker 2: Hell what you said. Even though we're in the same city,

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Speaker 2: we sometimes we don't. We even get tired of each other,

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Speaker 2: even though even though even when we do we still

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Speaker 2: have to talk.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes it's just you know, I have big plans today.

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Speaker 1: Well actually I have actually no plans actually, and I

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Speaker 1: don't have my daughter for the next like hopefully day

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Speaker 1: and a half. And like I hadn't got no man

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Speaker 1: to come over here. I mean I do have a man,

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Speaker 1: but like he's not coming.

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Speaker 2: I have mine. He's just not coming over.

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Speaker 1: He's just not coming. He's not invited today. And I

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Speaker 1: just need me time. Just no energies in my space

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Speaker 1: except right now via the zoom the internets.

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Speaker 2: I'm actually I'm happy that you mandated this space because

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Speaker 2: I didn't like mandated. Bitch, Like I don't really want

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Speaker 2: to be around anyone tomorrow. I'm like, I don't want

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Speaker 2: to see you either, bitch. Actually I just saw you

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Speaker 2: all day, but today I was like, you know what,

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Speaker 2: I don't want to I don't want to see anybody today,

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Speaker 2: and I just want to get high and get my

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Speaker 2: nails done, and I hope nobody talks to me.

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Speaker 1: I think I'm even gonna like leave my phone. I

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Speaker 1: think I'm gonna get crazy leave my phone behind. I

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Speaker 1: don't for what, What the fuck do I need it

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Speaker 1: for behind?

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Speaker 2: I thought you said you weren't going anywhere.

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean if I do leave, like I can

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Speaker 1: just leave it behind, or I can actually just turn

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Speaker 1: it off.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna try that because I have to really get

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Speaker 2: it done, and I'm the number one distracted person.

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Speaker 1: Like there's really no reason for me to have my

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Speaker 1: phone on. Like Ari's with her dad. He's got it

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Speaker 1: like work. I have nothing for work on the plate

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Speaker 1: today except this, and that's it.

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Speaker 2: I know. It's you know what, we love our job

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Speaker 2: so much that sometimes it's hard to forget not to

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Speaker 2: think about it.

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Speaker 1: It's so it's impossible.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I'm like talking to people all day long on fucking Instagram.

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Speaker 1: I need a break. I love y'all.

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Speaker 2: BRB, No, honestly, okay, Speaking of technologies and conversations last

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Speaker 2: night me an adventure Bay. This is the most romantic

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Speaker 2: educational thing I've ever done. He is reading a new

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Speaker 2: book called Okay, I forgot to write it down. Whatever.

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Speaker 2: It's like a book about men and how they like

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Speaker 2: their approach to loving women is wrong. It's like, I

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Speaker 2: really want you to hear this book. So he gave

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Speaker 2: me his audible log in and then we called each

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Speaker 2: other on speakerphone and listened together to the audible to

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Speaker 2: like five chapters and then like we would pause and

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Speaker 2: discuss it and.

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Speaker 1: Then go back. Wow, this is so mature.

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Speaker 2: It was so mature. I was like, this is lovely.

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Speaker 2: I'll see you tomorrow evening for the rest of our chapters.

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Speaker 1: Wow, okay, all right, I'm gonna have to try this.

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Speaker 2: It was really nice. And the book is really about men,

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Speaker 2: and if so, I was just like interested in seeing it.

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Speaker 2: But he talks hence my situation, my sticky situation I

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Speaker 2: got myself into, and my begging. He really talks about

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Speaker 2: women about you know, like if you're attracted to a

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Speaker 2: certain type of woman who's kind of wild, and he

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Speaker 2: specifically so it's not trustworthy and you know, but this

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Speaker 2: is what the book said, she's a little wild, just

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Speaker 2: not trustworthy. But there's a lot of passion and polarity

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Speaker 2: in the relationship because there's a high female energy compared

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Speaker 2: to like a high male energy. And then like you

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Speaker 2: could find a safer woman who might have good conversation

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Speaker 2: and maybe trustworthy, but it's going to lack of passion

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Speaker 2: and and he's like, women need to feel comfortable, even

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Speaker 2: if she hurts you, even if she fucks up. You

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Speaker 2: need to press into her and bleed love into all

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Speaker 2: of her pores. He's like, press her up against the

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Speaker 2: her poor.

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Speaker 1: What book is this?

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Speaker 2: Okay, it's called It's all The Way of the Superior

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Speaker 2: Man by David Dida d Ei Da.

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Speaker 1: So, I don't know if I like that book title.

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Speaker 2: The Way of the Superior Man. At first I was,

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Speaker 2: I was interested about it, but it talks a loud

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Speaker 2: about polarity and female and masculine and feminine energy, and

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Speaker 2: not in the sense of like I'm a female, you're

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Speaker 2: different energies, and like if I have more masculine energy,

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Speaker 2: and that as soon as we neutralize the energies that

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Speaker 2: we know what, we kind of become friends. If I'm

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Speaker 2: doing things that is, I generally expect a man to

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Speaker 2: do make decisions, and you know, i'd lack. I'll start

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Speaker 2: to trust for him to make decisions if I have

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Speaker 2: to start making them, and then we'll become friends because

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Speaker 2: it will lack in the bedroom. Anyway, I'm becoming very

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Speaker 2: mature over here. I'm listening to Audible with my non

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Speaker 2: man at night tree.

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Speaker 1: That's I mean, that's a good way to pass the time.

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Speaker 2: It didn't matter that should I mean, And it's a

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Speaker 2: nice way to expand, like to have insight on things

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Speaker 2: about yourself that maybe you weren't recognizing. And then for

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Speaker 2: your man or your woman to have insight and and

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Speaker 2: and from a third party. It's kind of therapy, like

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Speaker 2: he's talking to you and then you can discuss like huh,

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Speaker 2: I do do that or yes, this is true. I

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Speaker 2: do need, no matter what you do, to lean into

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Speaker 2: that's what I need to trust you. So basically I

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Speaker 2: recommend everybody do that.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, hm. Anyway, relationship tip of the day. M hmm,

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Speaker 1: that's cool. Well I didn't do anything that sexy last night.

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Speaker 2: You saw me, I saw you.

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Speaker 1: And then I went to bed and I was really

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Speaker 1: happy that I woke up one didn't have to do

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Speaker 1: zoom school.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: Oh speaking of kids. Speaking of kids, you guys, we

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Speaker 1: are doing an event on October twenty fourth and twenty fifth.

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Speaker 1: We partnered up with Outside Cinemas. It's a drive in

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Speaker 1: movie experience in downtown LA. So if you're in the

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Speaker 1: LA area, you definitely definitely want to come. It's actually

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Speaker 1: my birthday and it's all being out with you girl

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Speaker 1: on my birthday. Bring the kids.

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Speaker 2: It's also a Halloween event because if you're like anything

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Speaker 2: like us, we're obsessed.

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Speaker 1: No how serious we take this ship.

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Speaker 2: This is our most serious holiday of the year. Of course,

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Speaker 2: it's Halloween, and the fact that people are discussing it's

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Speaker 2: being canceled is absolutely fucking absurd. And so Halloween is

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Speaker 2: not canceled. We are meeting up in downtown LA at

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Speaker 2: a drive in. It's a two day we have. There's

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Speaker 2: two opportunities to come, bring the kids, pop open your

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Speaker 2: trunk bycorn. They're having a contact patching Coco. We're watching Coco,

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Speaker 2: which is like the best movie. We're dressing up in

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Speaker 2: our costumes so your kids get the opportunity to showcase

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Speaker 2: their costumes. There'll be a car costume contest with Coco

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Speaker 2: and friends. There's a mobile pumpkin patch. Each kid will

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Speaker 2: receive a little mini pumpkin, and there is going to

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Speaker 2: be a photo activation, so your kid will have the

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Speaker 2: opportunity to get out of their car buy appointment. Only

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Speaker 2: you and your family or whoever's in your car can

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Speaker 2: go take cool pictures with you know, a little setup

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Speaker 2: and it will be like a little old, safe, COVID

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Speaker 2: friendly Halloween celebration. So like, don't don't be scared about

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Speaker 2: what we're going to do this year. We got you covered.

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Speaker 2: Go to Outside Cinema and get these tickets.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, go to outside Cinemas dot com. Definitely, it's gonna

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Speaker 1: be it's it's gonna be so much fun. And tickets

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Speaker 1: are really limited because it is a COVID friendly event

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Speaker 1: and we're really taking into mind so social distancing for

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Speaker 1: the kids, but also still wanting them to have a

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Speaker 1: good time and be able to like trigger read and

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Speaker 1: do the pumpkin thing and like, you know, I expect

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Speaker 1: y'all to bring your best Halloween costume game, Okay, because

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Speaker 1: I already got mine in the in the mail. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm ready. I gotta do a little few more tweaks

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Speaker 1: to my Blackest King outfit. But when you, bitch and

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Speaker 1: see me on the scene looking like find your way back,

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Speaker 1: Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: That's what you're gonna wear?

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Speaker 1: That one? You know she does that?

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Speaker 2: Are you getting like a boom box so you could

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Speaker 2: just like bust out in this dance?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. It's such a fucking good idea.

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Speaker 2: But first of all, if you don't have Patreon, you

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Speaker 2: need to get it now. Just to see Erica doing

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Speaker 2: this Beyonce and interpretation, it's very.

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Speaker 1: Daddy used to keep me too.

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Speaker 2: Wow, who knew you've been following the move so.

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Speaker 1: Bitch, I've watched that video so many times. It's so

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Speaker 1: fucking dope. Her outfit, that's like my one of my

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Speaker 1: favorite outfits of the whole shit. Irie. I was trying

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Speaker 1: because it's like a princess, right. I saw Beyonce and Blue.

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Speaker 1: I expect you to come through. I know, Mila, you're

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Speaker 2: Yep.

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Speaker 1: But actually Sunday, the twenty fifth is my birthday, so

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Speaker 1: come out. You know it's a Detos celebration. I am.

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Speaker 1: I am an altar. I am accepting gifts me too,

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Speaker 1: O friend that to.

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Speaker 2: Me, preferably weed.

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Speaker 1: I am a walking altar. I will accept all gifts,

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Speaker 1: cannabis and everything else, jewelry, candles or hair oils. Bring

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Speaker 1: them to hair oils. Wow, bitch, Yes, my hair's been

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Speaker 1: so dry lately. I don't know what's going on.

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Speaker 2: No, it's gonna be really really fun and really safe.

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Speaker 2: And for those parents or families that are not comfortable

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Speaker 2: with the trunk or treating, yes it's trunk or treating

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Speaker 2: a trigger treating, all the kids will get a little

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Speaker 2: bit of candy, emphasis on a little bit, but we'll

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Speaker 2: have uh, we'll have things for the window red or green.

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Speaker 2: If you feel comfortable, you could put it in the

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Speaker 2: window green. Come on, give us candy. And if you

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Speaker 2: don't feel comfortable. You could just put it on red

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Speaker 2: without even having to be awkward and tell anyone and

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Speaker 2: people will know to roll right pastill roll back. It's

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Speaker 2: super fun. We've been taking the kids and it's just

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Speaker 2: something to do. There's not much to do right now.

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Speaker 2: It's an experience they get to chill.

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Speaker 1: Love that. I ever since we went like a few

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Speaker 1: weeks ago to see Space Jam with the kids, Like

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Speaker 1: outside cinema is so cool because IRA's never been to

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Speaker 1: a drive in. I don't really I feel like I

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Speaker 1: but like I just love it or something. It's just like,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. It's just an experience to have with

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Speaker 2: You just chill sit there, it's true, and talk.

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Speaker 1: And the food is bombed too. The food is actually

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Speaker 1: For all my mamas who either don't drink or are

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Speaker 1: trying to do better in life. Drink all the time like.

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Speaker 2: Me, And that's I'm totally the person like you don't

441
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Speaker 2: want to drink. You don't drink.

442
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Speaker 1: I know, bitch, I know, I don't know. I'll be mad,

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Speaker 1: don't So don't be surprised when I pull up with

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Speaker 1: my seed lip drink. I wat, I'm gonna start giving

445
00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:54,720
Speaker 1: this shit to you. You're gonna be like, I'm so drunk,

446
00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:57,240
Speaker 1: you know, like the plus.

447
00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:00,919
Speaker 2: I doubt that, but it will look like you're drinking,

448
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:02,399
Speaker 2: and so I will make fun of you less.

449
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:09,720
Speaker 1: Anyway, back to back to the cannabis's education. Like we

450
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:14,159
Speaker 1: said talking about it, not just having the convo once.

451
00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 2: That's another thing. Not having the convo once. It's not

452
00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:22,600
Speaker 2: something you just leave. You have to. I mean, just

453
00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:26,000
Speaker 2: like we train our kids about like stranger danger, don't

454
00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:29,280
Speaker 2: accept food from people, don't accept don't let someone lure

455
00:23:29,320 --> 00:23:31,719
Speaker 2: you into a corner. We start training them early on

456
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:34,679
Speaker 2: things like that, scenarios that could possibly happen. Do the

457
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:37,640
Speaker 2: same with weed. Do the same with those common conversations.

458
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Speaker 2: If somebody offers you something, you come talk to me.

459
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:44,280
Speaker 2: If you the more you strategize and have these conversations

460
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Speaker 2: in your household, the less the more likely when it

461
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:49,320
Speaker 2: comes up your your child is going to come and

462
00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:51,840
Speaker 2: be like, oh, mom, so and so mentioned this and

463
00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:54,720
Speaker 2: she's trying this and then you and she's not scared.

464
00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:56,680
Speaker 2: He or she is not scared to have the conversation

465
00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:59,240
Speaker 2: with you. In fact, they're familiar and they're prepared about

466
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Speaker 2: all the possible little situations and scenarios. It could happen

467
00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 2: at a party at school, blah blah blah. You know,

468
00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:08,600
Speaker 2: because these kids been trying to educate your kids for you,

469
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:10,320
Speaker 2: and you got to get down on that level.

470
00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:12,800
Speaker 1: I'm got to get ahead of it. And for those

471
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Speaker 1: who have teenagers that you haven't had that conversation, like

472
00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:19,040
Speaker 1: it's time, it's it's time. Don't wait. You're a low

473
00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:21,320
Speaker 1: key kind of late, but it's okay, Like you can

474
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Speaker 1: there's still there's still time, but it is time. So

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Speaker 1: number three, like Jamila was saying, it is preparation. You know,

476
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Speaker 1: how do you prepare your child for that inevitable moment

477
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Speaker 1: that they're offered weed and you aren't there. I mean,

478
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Speaker 1: I think one of those things is I don't even

479
00:24:37,680 --> 00:24:39,080
Speaker 1: want to call it this, Like there's got to be

480
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Speaker 1: a better play way to say this, Like the state

481
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Speaker 1: the stranger danger. I'm about to light up too. Hold on,

482
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Speaker 1: let me light my meetups.

483
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Speaker 2: Speaking of smoking, made smoke and smoking, I'm actually smoking

484
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Speaker 2: from our good friend Jessica. Well we know fourteen, Jessica. Sorry,

485
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:05,879
Speaker 2: Jessica Hooper. The I think this is the Via. This

486
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:10,160
Speaker 2: via the Via strand, which is actually delicious and smooth.

487
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Speaker 1: And yeah, she gave me some shit, girl, That shit

488
00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:14,680
Speaker 1: knocked me the bug.

489
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Speaker 2: This is the sativa. This is the sativa one.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well that one probably gonna have you like up

491
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Speaker 1: at the other. This is one she gave me.

492
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Speaker 2: Wait, look why I have two. This is one by

493
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Speaker 2: my bed. This is the Indica, and then this is

494
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:27,720
Speaker 2: my one I dis rolled for the daytime. I almost

495
00:25:27,760 --> 00:25:29,600
Speaker 2: smoked this because I was too lazy, but I said,

496
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Speaker 2: I know better, and you know what. Speaking of different

497
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Speaker 2: types of weed and educating our kids on it, these

498
00:25:37,359 --> 00:25:39,640
Speaker 2: are conversations that even need to be had, especially if

499
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Speaker 2: you have older children. Obviously we're not breaking down the

500
00:25:42,119 --> 00:25:45,000
Speaker 2: different we strands were smoking to our five year olds,

501
00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:48,240
Speaker 2: but we're aware and it's taken us a long time

502
00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:51,919
Speaker 2: in our adulthood to figure out what weeds work for us.

503
00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 2: We used to be very down for the sativas. Only

504
00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:58,520
Speaker 2: then I started didn't Erica started giving me coffee plus

505
00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:03,479
Speaker 2: the sativa dad or up and you know, And there

506
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:05,120
Speaker 2: was a time I wasn't asking what kind of weed

507
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Speaker 2: I was smoking, and then I would feel like I

508
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:10,440
Speaker 2: was having a fucking blacks rainy cloud over me. During

509
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:13,320
Speaker 2: the sunny days, I couldn't open my eyes, I couldn't move,

510
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 2: so I was smoking fucking into because during the day

511
00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 2: not getting shit done. So there is a weed journey

512
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Speaker 2: that even as an adult, I'm aware I've gone on

513
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Speaker 2: to get to a comfortable level of knowing how much

514
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Speaker 2: I should consume, knowing when I should consume, what works

515
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:31,080
Speaker 2: for me, and you know when I should if I'm working,

516
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Speaker 2: if I need a hybrid, et cetera. These are conversations

517
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Speaker 2: we need to be having with our kids, like Nigga,

518
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Speaker 2: you can't smoke all day. You don't even know what

519
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:41,080
Speaker 2: you're smoking and what time it is. It needs to

520
00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:44,159
Speaker 2: make sense and by having these conversations, they'll know, like

521
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Speaker 2: I'm not taking that from me a little Johnny from

522
00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:48,399
Speaker 2: up the street because I got to go to school.

523
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Speaker 2: That might make me go to sleep right again.

524
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Speaker 1: Like yeah, with that idea, of like not taking weed

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00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:57,119
Speaker 1: from strangers. And I think even like using the analogy

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Speaker 1: of like would you accept a bag of chips from

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Speaker 1: a stranger on the street, Like what like if a

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Speaker 1: random person came up to me on the street and

529
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Speaker 1: off said, hey, here's some chips or at a party,

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Speaker 1: just gave me some chip, I'd be like, what are these? Why?

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Speaker 1: I don't Like, I would be like, you know, and like,

532
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:14,720
Speaker 1: I think the same applies to weed, Like you don't

533
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 1: know where this person got the weed from. You're not

534
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:20,199
Speaker 1: saying that it's a bad thing to be interested in it,

535
00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 1: but be responsible about who you're accepting things from. You

536
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:25,879
Speaker 1: have no idea, especially now in this day and age

537
00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 1: with all these other fucking weird ash strains.

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00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:30,840
Speaker 2: What's salvia?

539
00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:34,960
Speaker 1: Well, salvia too, like sala as.

540
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 2: A synthetic weed or some shit that makes you crazy.

541
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Speaker 1: There's all types of weird shit out there that have

542
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:42,240
Speaker 1: and you just don't know where people are getting things.

543
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:43,360
Speaker 2: People are lacing shit.

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Speaker 1: Parent for me as a parent, like I don't want

545
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:48,400
Speaker 1: to instill fear, but I also but I do want

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Speaker 1: them to know. Like Nick, just come over here and

547
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Speaker 1: ask me if you're interested if you got someone offered

548
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Speaker 1: you some weed at a party and like, you know,

549
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:01,000
Speaker 1: you are now interested. You said no, you're now interested,

550
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:04,720
Speaker 1: Like talk to me about it because I would rather

551
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Speaker 1: that And you say no than like you take some

552
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:10,160
Speaker 1: weed and then like you're so high that you can't

553
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:13,720
Speaker 1: even move, like because I have literally smoked indicas where like, bitch,

554
00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:16,959
Speaker 1: I was like, I definitely can't drive for sure, Like

555
00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:19,520
Speaker 1: know your limits, because there are limits in weed. There

556
00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:22,040
Speaker 1: isn't amount of weed you can smoke, where like you're

557
00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:24,440
Speaker 1: you probably should not be operating a vehicle.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, it's happened to me. And now I'm gonna

559
00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:29,240
Speaker 2: tell my as soon as it is old enough to

560
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:32,240
Speaker 2: understand this story, I'm gonna tell her. One time I

561
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:35,359
Speaker 2: was driving and I was so fucking high. I was

562
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Speaker 2: at a red light and then the green light turned

563
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Speaker 2: and my friend was like go and I was like

564
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Speaker 2: looking for the gas with my foot, but I couldn't

565
00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 2: find it. You guys, I couldn't find it. I swear,

566
00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:52,760
Speaker 2: I see, bitch. On one time I smashed my own

567
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 2: finger in the door of the car and I had

568
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:56,800
Speaker 2: to like a quick thought of like trying to pull

569
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Speaker 2: it out before first opening the door. This is all

570
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Speaker 2: high shit it.

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Speaker 1: This is why I don't believe you need to tell them,

572
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 1: like people will try to say, like, man, no, like

573
00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:09,520
Speaker 1: there's no such thing as being too high to drive,

574
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:11,560
Speaker 1: like you can always drive when you smoke weed. No,

575
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Speaker 1: that's a lie.

576
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Speaker 2: There are such things as being too hot.

577
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Speaker 1: There are limits. There are such thing as being too hot. Now,

578
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Speaker 1: can you overdose on cannabis? No, it would be almost

579
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:23,400
Speaker 1: damn near impossible. I think that. I can't remember. I

580
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 1: was watching I read some study on it, and it

581
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:27,600
Speaker 1: was like you'd have to consume Like I don't think

582
00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 1: it's ever pounds of weed in like an hour. That

583
00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:35,040
Speaker 1: is literally basically you can't. It's impossible. So no, and

584
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 1: and that should and that and can you overdose on alcohol? Yeah,

585
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:40,960
Speaker 1: you can. So that just gives you the perspective on

586
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 1: like the obviously the safety and the spectrum, but like

587
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 1: you still need to be responsible.

588
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:49,920
Speaker 2: I mean so, I think I'm just gonna say even

589
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 2: the fact that alcohol is so damaging to the body

590
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:59,720
Speaker 2: it's literally called intoxic toxication, like it literally the only

591
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 2: reason and it was taken away and then brought back

592
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:04,480
Speaker 2: is because they realized they had a way to make

593
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Speaker 2: money on it. By taxing it. At the end of

594
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Speaker 2: the day, you know, I'm anti government, even though I

595
00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:16,400
Speaker 2: am gonna vote. Oh what, Yeah, I've.

596
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Speaker 1: Turned it into lead.

597
00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:20,080
Speaker 2: Not in belief, but you've just thought I would just

598
00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 2: would never not do it. And even if maybe it

599
00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:26,000
Speaker 2: is rigged, which it probably is, I'm gonna at least

600
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Speaker 2: do whatever I can in my power to not put

601
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Speaker 2: any woman in a position to not be able to

602
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Speaker 2: get an abortion.

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Speaker 1: I think.

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Speaker 2: I'm so happy to hear that, amongst other things. But

605
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Speaker 2: being as anti government as I am, you have to

606
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Speaker 2: be real about like the things we're consuming and the

607
00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:48,560
Speaker 2: information we're consuming. And like alcohol is terrible, I know

608
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 2: because I drink, and like it makes you the physically sick,

609
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:55,840
Speaker 2: much much more ill than the power of cannabis and

610
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,760
Speaker 2: the healing components of cannabis. But up until now, in

611
00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 2: certain places it hasn't. They had and had a way

612
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:04,760
Speaker 2: to make it taxable. The government and the laws don't

613
00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:08,680
Speaker 2: necessarily give a fuck about your health, your wealth, your spirit,

614
00:31:08,840 --> 00:31:11,959
Speaker 2: what's healthy for you. They care about this money. So

615
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:15,360
Speaker 2: I think a lot of our podcasts and even this conversation,

616
00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:18,480
Speaker 2: when coming to cannabis and normalizing it, is like we

617
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 2: have to re educate ourselves and dismantled what we've been

618
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 2: taught and what we've been fed and really see what's

619
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 2: the truth? You know, Like is this plant that I

620
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 2: can grow that's naturally made by God bad? Or is

621
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 2: this like highly toxic liquor that they package and beautifully

622
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:39,320
Speaker 2: colored bottles so we can consume it? Is that actually damaging?

623
00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 2: But that's legal as soon as my kid turns twenty

624
00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 2: one and in some places eighteen, you know. So I

625
00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 2: just think the truth sticking with the truth and not

626
00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 2: just what you've been taught or what school has been

627
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:52,880
Speaker 2: taught you're socially what we've been taught, but really the truth,

628
00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:54,560
Speaker 2: finding information that's true.

629
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Speaker 1: I agree. I also think that how your kids can

630
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 1: learn or be prepared to handle certain scenarios is just

631
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 1: actually relating them to your own personal life, Like for me,

632
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:11,560
Speaker 1: like I remember the first time I was offered cannabis,

633
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:14,920
Speaker 1: you know, and like what those scenarios look like and

634
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 1: the different stances that you can take, Like sometimes kids

635
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:21,240
Speaker 1: just need clear direction, like hey, listen, Like you might

636
00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:23,320
Speaker 1: be at a party and some guy like you don't

637
00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 1: know that seems cool, is gonna be smoking a blunt

638
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:28,880
Speaker 1: and he's gonna pass it to you, and you might

639
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 1: feel peer pressured to say yes. You might be intrigued

640
00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:33,640
Speaker 1: to say yes. You might be like fuck no, but

641
00:32:33,680 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 1: I don't know how to say no. Like these are

642
00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 1: the ways that you can handle that situation without feeling

643
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 1: judged or you know, like and if you are intrigued, like,

644
00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 1: let's talk about that too. So I feel like just

645
00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 1: giving them scenarios, even if they're like, you know, personal,

646
00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:53,120
Speaker 1: it's always best to be personal, I think with your

647
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:55,440
Speaker 1: kids and be able to be honest with them, I think,

648
00:32:56,480 --> 00:33:00,520
Speaker 1: And I think also preparation for yourself, prepare yourself for

649
00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:03,800
Speaker 1: your child to maybe finally be and not finally hopefully

650
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 1: be honest with you and say, mom, I want to

651
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:11,000
Speaker 1: smoke weed and like or asking about weed, and being

652
00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 1: prepared to be calm and not judgmental so that you

653
00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:17,440
Speaker 1: can create that trust. Like that's the hardest part because

654
00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:18,960
Speaker 1: as parents we want to fly off the hand and

655
00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:21,120
Speaker 1: be like what the fuck? Who Oh I knew I

656
00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 1: didn't like Jessica. I knew Jessica was smoking that weed.

657
00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 1: Is that why you're asking me? Oh, you want to

658
00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:28,320
Speaker 1: do it already? You want to have like, right, what

659
00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:30,000
Speaker 1: kind of weed was it? Where was it? What time

660
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:30,240
Speaker 1: was it?

661
00:33:30,280 --> 00:33:30,360
Speaker 2: That?

662
00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:33,600
Speaker 1: Like, just chill, take a breath. Being able to have

663
00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 1: that ope, that dialogue is and that trust is so crucial.

664
00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:39,800
Speaker 1: I'm not telling you you can't punish your child or

665
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 1: be stern with them or even get upset, but just

666
00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:44,880
Speaker 1: be careful with that because it's hard to go back,

667
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 1: especially if that's how you enter the place, like the

668
00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:50,880
Speaker 1: first time is like you enter it tripping, like you

669
00:33:50,960 --> 00:33:53,480
Speaker 1: might trip along the way later on because they're just

670
00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 1: being irresponsible. But like, let's actually have a conversation that's okay,

671
00:33:57,560 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 1: let's establish trust.

672
00:33:59,280 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 2: And remember like how your your first conversations about certain shit, sex,

673
00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:07,959
Speaker 2: about drugs, about things you want to experiment with, all

674
00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:10,440
Speaker 2: the dumb things that someone told you, you know, like

675
00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:12,800
Speaker 2: and if you had that you had a parent, you

676
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:16,360
Speaker 2: could talk about it too. You know. It's so important.

677
00:34:16,400 --> 00:34:20,320
Speaker 2: It really does in those sensitive times. It really shapes

678
00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 2: how they'll come to you with other issues in other

679
00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:24,280
Speaker 2: areas too.

680
00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:30,400
Speaker 1: Right, So number four is discretion.

681
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:36,879
Speaker 2: Discretion, This is really important. This is why I also say,

682
00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:39,719
Speaker 2: like i'd like to like, I know, my kid is five,

683
00:34:40,719 --> 00:34:44,560
Speaker 2: and I try to talk to her normally, like not

684
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:47,160
Speaker 2: like an adult necessarily, but in a way she understands.

685
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:52,279
Speaker 2: But like because you know, discretion is important. You have

686
00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 2: to be able to feel out of environment and know

687
00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:57,720
Speaker 2: if it's a safe space to talk about certain things,

688
00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 2: to do certain things, to know be president who you

689
00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:04,080
Speaker 2: are and where you're at, you know, as black children,

690
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 2: and you have to conduct yourself a different way in

691
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 2: the world, and as black parents, we have to relay

692
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:15,400
Speaker 2: that to our children in a way that they're protected

693
00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 2: and they're not unaware, and also you know, without damaging them.

694
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:27,759
Speaker 2: So it's a very difficult conversation, but it's something that

695
00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:31,440
Speaker 2: we do from hopefully we touch on from the beginning.

696
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:34,239
Speaker 2: But like with things like weed and with raising free

697
00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:38,880
Speaker 2: children and freely expressive children, there are things that they

698
00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:42,080
Speaker 2: might be confronted with differently as black children and weed,

699
00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:44,440
Speaker 2: especially in certain places as one of them, you know,

700
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 2: you might get caught with we and have a completely

701
00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 2: different circumstance or response than somebody else that doesn't look

702
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 2: like you, depending on where you're at, just like in

703
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:56,120
Speaker 2: any type of situation outside of our house. So you know,

704
00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:59,920
Speaker 2: it's important that you really choose what you're doing smartly

705
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:02,200
Speaker 2: and wisely and who you're with and where you're at.

706
00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:05,120
Speaker 2: If you're in Georgia, even if you're in LA, you're underage,

707
00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 2: you can go to jail. I don't Once you go

708
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 2: to jail, I have no I can't do anything for you.

709
00:36:09,840 --> 00:36:12,040
Speaker 2: That's out of my control. But if you come, if

710
00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:14,520
Speaker 2: you come to me, then we could seer this thing

711
00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:17,359
Speaker 2: together and I can protect you because I only want

712
00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:19,239
Speaker 2: your best interest in mine. You're gonna do what you're

713
00:36:19,239 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 2: gonna do regardless, but like, let's do it right. If

714
00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:22,959
Speaker 2: we're going to do it, let's do it the best

715
00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:27,200
Speaker 2: way possible. So yeah, even having the discussion about who

716
00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:29,600
Speaker 2: you discuss it with. You know, it's normal in our house,

717
00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:32,760
Speaker 2: but you know down the street you're friends a Christian,

718
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 2: don't talk about this over there. If they have questions

719
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:37,919
Speaker 2: that they don't feel copetable talking with their parents, let

720
00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:40,359
Speaker 2: them know this is a safe space. But you know,

721
00:36:40,640 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 2: you're ass don't be going to school talking about me

722
00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 2: smoking weed or whatever we do in this household. And

723
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:48,319
Speaker 2: it's like we don't keep secrets, but we know who

724
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:49,280
Speaker 2: and when it's safe.

725
00:36:49,560 --> 00:36:53,080
Speaker 1: You know, Yeah, that's a big one, like for sure,

726
00:36:53,520 --> 00:37:02,719
Speaker 1: especially because of cannabis. And it's like like the way

727
00:37:02,760 --> 00:37:05,359
Speaker 1: that it's viewed in certain places, like they are, there

728
00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:08,680
Speaker 1: are people that will do the most if they find

729
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:11,319
Speaker 1: out you smoke weed around your kid too, you know,

730
00:37:11,400 --> 00:37:14,920
Speaker 1: as a parent too, I think I think we me you, Jamila,

731
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:17,040
Speaker 1: we have the luxury of living in LA Like that's

732
00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 1: really not even on our fear of ours for someone

733
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:23,640
Speaker 1: to call child protective services on you, right and be

734
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:25,680
Speaker 1: like you've been smoking weed, Like we'd be like what

735
00:37:26,640 --> 00:37:29,000
Speaker 1: you know, but like that just unfortunately is not the

736
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 1: case in certain states. And so if you you.

737
00:37:33,120 --> 00:37:36,239
Speaker 2: Just run the risk of yeah, they have to know

738
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:39,319
Speaker 2: the risks that you're taking by partaking, and why it

739
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:41,359
Speaker 2: is important the environment that you're in.

740
00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:44,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, and how it's a risk for everyone involved.

741
00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:46,560
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I feel like such a mom giving

742
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 2: this speech right now. I'm just feeling very mamash. I'm

743
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:52,239
Speaker 2: really a parent.

744
00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:52,600
Speaker 1: Wow.

745
00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to be having to tell them of

746
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:55,800
Speaker 2: these things.

747
00:37:56,480 --> 00:37:57,520
Speaker 1: Yeah.

748
00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:00,840
Speaker 2: Yeah.

749
00:38:00,880 --> 00:38:05,839
Speaker 1: And I think lastly, is I mean respects. I mean

750
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 1: some of some kids just like there, you have to

751
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:13,240
Speaker 1: respect your child's comfortability and boundaries around smoking, like smoking

752
00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:16,320
Speaker 1: outside in open areas. If your child is like clearly

753
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:20,600
Speaker 1: bothered by like naturally bothered by your cannabis intake, Like

754
00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:24,239
Speaker 1: you need to understand your child's boundaries and they have

755
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:27,800
Speaker 1: to understand yours, you know. And so I think a

756
00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:31,920
Speaker 1: mutual respect is really important and checking in with your

757
00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:36,279
Speaker 1: kid asking them questions, and that's how you do keep

758
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:41,879
Speaker 1: the ongoing conversation going, you know. And that is kind

759
00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:45,319
Speaker 1: of again like tying in the whole aspect of normalizing it.

760
00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:49,040
Speaker 1: So and I was just saying, you know, and being

761
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 1: an example of what a responsible cannabis smoker is versus

762
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:57,319
Speaker 1: a pothead cannabis smoker. You know, your child is going

763
00:38:57,360 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 1: to see you using cannabis in whatever ways you use cannabis.

764
00:39:01,160 --> 00:39:04,239
Speaker 1: So if you use it to cope, they probably might

765
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 1: use it to cope, you know. And if they notice

766
00:39:07,080 --> 00:39:09,839
Speaker 1: that you smoke cannabis at times where you feel very

767
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 1: upset or you know, like, you kind of do shape

768
00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 1: the way that they could potentially use it if they

769
00:39:17,120 --> 00:39:19,200
Speaker 1: want it, if they were interested in it.

770
00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:24,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think respect also in respecting your child's boundaries,

771
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:28,160
Speaker 2: you'd be clear that like, I'm not your friend, I'm

772
00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:31,960
Speaker 2: giving you respect by being honest with you. I need

773
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 2: you to return that respect by not abusing me, allowing

774
00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:41,040
Speaker 2: you to have a safe space with me because everyone

775
00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:45,920
Speaker 2: doesn't have the same luxury. And yeah, I can't just

776
00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:48,080
Speaker 2: get high and blow away my day. It's something I

777
00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:50,520
Speaker 2: do after things are done or because I know I

778
00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:53,920
Speaker 2: can do that while it enhances what I'm doing. And

779
00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 2: some people do great. Some people smoke weight and get

780
00:39:57,280 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 2: super productive and do great. If that's too or power too,

781
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 2: but you I need to see that you're using it

782
00:40:03,320 --> 00:40:07,239
Speaker 2: like whatever it is. It's responsible, I'll like, and it's respectful.

783
00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:09,360
Speaker 2: Respect me if I'm like, don't do it at my

784
00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:12,640
Speaker 2: house whatever whatever my rules are, respect them because you

785
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:15,279
Speaker 2: don't pay no bills. So it's not about like being

786
00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:17,920
Speaker 2: your friend, your kid's friend and your homie and like

787
00:40:17,960 --> 00:40:20,319
Speaker 2: smoking with them per se, I think. So it just

788
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:22,640
Speaker 2: has to be like a mutual respect and everybody has

789
00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:24,840
Speaker 2: their different levels of comfortability of what that looks like

790
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:27,640
Speaker 2: in your household. I didn't smoke with my dad or

791
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:31,759
Speaker 2: my parents, you know, until probably like seventeen, and that

792
00:40:31,880 --> 00:40:33,759
Speaker 2: was like the first time ish and then now you

793
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:37,040
Speaker 2: know here and there. But I had to become an adult,

794
00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:39,440
Speaker 2: even with my grandma. Wasn't until like my twenties, you

795
00:40:39,480 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 2: know what I mean. I had no idea, but everybody

796
00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 2: has a different level of comfortability in their household, so

797
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:46,880
Speaker 2: just kind of find out what that is for you.

798
00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:49,799
Speaker 2: Oh and one last thing, if you're listening to this

799
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:53,840
Speaker 2: and you haven't had any conversation about cannabis, it's a

800
00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:56,160
Speaker 2: secret in your house and you have a whatever, however,

801
00:40:56,239 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 2: old kids, when to have the conversation. I just think

802
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:02,040
Speaker 2: if you could just comfortably kind of start rolling it

803
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:05,520
Speaker 2: in now, do it. If you can start normalizing something

804
00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:10,320
Speaker 2: that you've realized you should have normalized before, do it. Start.

805
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:13,400
Speaker 2: It's never too late to start having the conversation.

806
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:15,279
Speaker 1: Especially if you really want to be up. If you

807
00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:16,880
Speaker 1: want to know, some people don't want to know, some

808
00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:18,920
Speaker 1: people don't want to know about that. Like I think

809
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:21,960
Speaker 1: it'll help in other areas of relationships as well. There's

810
00:41:21,960 --> 00:41:24,680
Speaker 1: so many taboo things that and once those things are broken,

811
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:27,839
Speaker 1: they unlock these certain parts of your relationship that you

812
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:31,880
Speaker 1: any other way would have missed out on. Life is short, man,

813
00:41:32,440 --> 00:41:35,480
Speaker 1: Connect with your kids. Don't set up boundaries with them

814
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 1: for no reason that they don't have to be there.

815
00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:39,560
Speaker 1: Not to get deep, but like I do, like I

816
00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:42,520
Speaker 1: think about like I never really fear death before, and

817
00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:44,680
Speaker 1: I still don't necessarily fear it, but like the fact

818
00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:47,160
Speaker 1: that I like, especially now in the time that we

819
00:41:47,200 --> 00:41:50,360
Speaker 1: live in, like thinking about leaving my daughter here, I

820
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 1: want to have the best, most honest relationship in all ways,

821
00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:58,719
Speaker 1: in the way that she allows me to. You know,

822
00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:00,719
Speaker 1: I know she's going to have her her things and

823
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 1: her secrets, and I don't expect to know everything, but

824
00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:05,879
Speaker 1: like I want us to, you know, be boundless if

825
00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 1: we can. And I think a lot of that starts

826
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:12,880
Speaker 1: with just getting rid of like these fucking stupid rules

827
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 1: about what parents how and what and how parents talk

828
00:42:16,719 --> 00:42:20,520
Speaker 1: about things that are like sex and cannabis and alcohol

829
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:23,160
Speaker 1: and drugs and mental health and.

830
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:26,839
Speaker 2: And mostly things that are inevitably going to come up

831
00:42:26,960 --> 00:42:29,799
Speaker 2: no matter what they that no matter what, these things

832
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:31,960
Speaker 2: are going to come up. And how are we gonna

833
00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 2: how are we going to introduce them? How are we

834
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 2: going to co exist with them and prepare our children

835
00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 2: in a healthy way if we're unwilling to have uncomfortable

836
00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:43,920
Speaker 2: conversations and be honest and be real, you know, be human.

837
00:42:44,520 --> 00:42:46,960
Speaker 2: It's so important, I think honestly, when you give, when

838
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:49,719
Speaker 2: you give yourself permission to do that, and then you

839
00:42:49,719 --> 00:42:52,120
Speaker 2: give your child permission to do that, and you encourage

840
00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:55,359
Speaker 2: your child to do that. They then go out into

841
00:42:55,400 --> 00:43:01,560
Speaker 2: the world and have a sense of fears and being

842
00:43:02,600 --> 00:43:05,520
Speaker 2: honest in who they are, you know, because they're not

843
00:43:05,600 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 2: trying to hide it from from themselves or from you

844
00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:11,879
Speaker 2: or from anyone. There's like a sense of confidence that

845
00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 2: you kind of are aware, you know, right, you get

846
00:43:16,120 --> 00:43:19,240
Speaker 2: you kind of give your hift, your child a gift

847
00:43:19,400 --> 00:43:25,200
Speaker 2: of just being and and being free to express themselves,

848
00:43:25,200 --> 00:43:27,480
Speaker 2: and then you can receive it and sort through it

849
00:43:27,520 --> 00:43:31,920
Speaker 2: with them versus being closed off even in some places,

850
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:34,840
Speaker 2: you know, even in some ways it affects the entire

851
00:43:35,040 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 2: being of a child that show.

852
00:43:37,960 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 1: Well, we hope these help. We hope these help you guys,

853
00:43:41,640 --> 00:43:43,440
Speaker 1: you know, you can hit us up if you have

854
00:43:43,440 --> 00:43:47,680
Speaker 1: any questions. Please feel free to share your journey with cannabis.

855
00:43:47,719 --> 00:43:49,720
Speaker 1: There's I know, there's moms that listens that have already

856
00:43:49,719 --> 00:43:51,440
Speaker 1: done this. I've already done all these things.

857
00:43:51,520 --> 00:43:54,720
Speaker 2: If you have tips, please share your tips. Yeah, because

858
00:43:54,800 --> 00:43:56,520
Speaker 2: I mean, I think the more as a community we

859
00:43:56,560 --> 00:43:58,480
Speaker 2: discussed it too, and the more as a community we

860
00:43:58,560 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 2: normalize it and we can kind I take from each

861
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 2: other's you know, they're lesson plans That's how I saw

862
00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:09,240
Speaker 2: another family normalize it and show their very small children

863
00:44:09,320 --> 00:44:12,440
Speaker 2: plants before I ever had kids, and when I had

864
00:44:12,520 --> 00:44:15,680
Speaker 2: kids years later, that's exactly the model of another you know,

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Speaker 2: But had I not seen that, maybe I don't know

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think if you're if you are on our Patreon,

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Speaker 1: A friend and tell a friend you ain't got to

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Speaker 1: Anyway, We'll see you guys next Wednesday.

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Speaker 2: Please bye Ella solo recorder. Then let's us stay us

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