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Speaker 1: Hello, Hi Catherine, Hi Chelsea, Hi, how are you?

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Speaker 2: I'm so great.

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Speaker 3: I'm so great.

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Speaker 2: I'm here my last day of Whistler. I'm leaving.

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Speaker 1: Doug is staying for another week because he loves it

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Speaker 1: up here so much, My little lion bear fucking love Doug.

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Speaker 4: Is he coming with you or are you going back

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Speaker 4: there again?

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Speaker 1: I'm going to come back and get him in a week. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to come back and get him in a week.

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Speaker 1: I do want to make announcement. I'm a European tour.

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Speaker 1: We had to cancel Dublin unfortunately because something came up

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Speaker 1: that I can't that I can't rearrange. So I start

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Speaker 1: out in Rekuvic and all the other cities I'm still

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Speaker 1: coming to. I think that starts May eleventh, so I'm

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Speaker 1: not coming to Dublin, but I will be in Belfast

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Speaker 1: and Paris and Brussels, Amsterdam, Oslo, Stockholm, Copenhagen, Manchester, London, Glasgow, Zurich, Vienna, Berlin,

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Speaker 1: Barcelona and Lisbon. And most of the shows are almost

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Speaker 1: sold out, so if you haven't gotten your tickets, to

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Speaker 1: get them now. And I don't think I'll be adding

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Speaker 1: second shows on this tour because my schedule is so crazy.

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Speaker 1: So we were talking about it, but I'm not. I

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Speaker 1: don't think I'm going to do it for my sanity.

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Speaker 1: That's what you learn when you get older. And then

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Speaker 1: of course there's Vegas, you guys, my next I'm going

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Speaker 1: to be in Vegas next weekend April eighteenth, and then

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Speaker 1: July fifth is my next Vegas date, so get your

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Speaker 1: tickets for that. And I have summer dates all all

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Speaker 1: through I mean all throughout the year.

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Speaker 2: I'll be in Vegas once a month.

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Speaker 3: Awesome.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you'll be there in the heat of the summer.

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Speaker 2: I know, I know. I can't believe it.

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Speaker 1: And I hope everyone is checking out my stand up

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Speaker 1: special The Feeling on Netflix. Thank you for all your

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Speaker 1: messages about it. Thank you for all your messages about

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Speaker 1: my book that I still get coming in all the time.

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Speaker 2: I love that. Yeah, it's all great, It's all great, wonderful.

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Speaker 2: That's great. Life is great.

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Speaker 1: I started mountain biking and Whistler because the seasons are changing.

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Speaker 1: I brought my e bike up here. So I am

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Speaker 1: becoming a full blown lesbian.

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Speaker 5: Oh.

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Speaker 1: Our guests today are the hosts of the Gigly Squad,

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Speaker 1: which is a very popular podcast and they have a

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Speaker 1: new book out called How to Giggle. So please welcome

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Speaker 1: Hannah Berner at page Oh hi girls, Hi Giggly swad Girls.

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Speaker 1: Paige of Soorbo and Hannah Berner. Look who we have

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Speaker 1: in studio today. Actually, we're not in studio. No one

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Speaker 1: is in the same place. You too, aren't even in

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Speaker 1: the same place. Have you guys thought about moving in together?

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Speaker 3: Yet? We don't spend any time together. This is strictly business.

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Speaker 3: It's a very transactional relationship. Yes, yeah, okay, I understand.

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Speaker 6: We say that we're in a non sexual marriage. Like

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Speaker 6: most of America.

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Speaker 1: I yeah, most yes, most married people are not having said, well,

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Speaker 1: Hannah's married. I find one of the most surprising things

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Speaker 2: Chelsea.

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Speaker 3: It's so embarrassing, and I feel like, I feel like

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Speaker 3: we'd be better friends if I wasn't married.

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Speaker 1: It's I think you would have a lot more friends

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Speaker 1: I was like, so sorry, Yeah, I was like, you can't,

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Speaker 1: And she's like, I've been thinking about him. I definitely don't,

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Speaker 1: What are you gonna do with that baby? And then

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Speaker 2: And both of the women who are.

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Speaker 1: Mothers were like, yeah, we're disappointed that she's having a

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Speaker 3: Well, it's true, it changes friend dynamics. Paige has this

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's where I'm drawing the line.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but she's newly single, so I'm like, okay, Well,

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Speaker 3: like my husband's old, so he's running out of time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, your husband is just like this like ghost like figure,

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Speaker 3: I actually wanted him to say hi, but then I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to ever see him. I don't ever

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Speaker 3: It's better own.

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Speaker 6: When Hannah got married, she literally didn't post a single

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Speaker 3: But you know what, Chelsea, we did reality TV for

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Speaker 3: and it's one of the biggest mistakes I've ever made

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Speaker 2: That's nice?

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Speaker 1: And I don't want to be subjected to him either,

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Speaker 3: I want more of you and less of him. I

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Speaker 3: think there's a comic Erica Rhodes. She just posted something like,

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Speaker 3: you know your friend's in a good relationship when you

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Speaker 3: barely know her your her husband's name. Yeah, you know

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Speaker 3: your friend who's always talking about the guy You're like,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I've met Dez four times. It's also good.

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Speaker 1: It's also good to be low key married because you're

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Speaker 3: It's less bad than having a kid. Literally, Chelsea, I

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Speaker 3: what do I text this guy emoji or no emoji?

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Speaker 3: Because you know I was in the weeds with that

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Speaker 1: I know, I'm sure you are you guys. I read

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Speaker 1: your book. I read your book. The girls have a

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Speaker 1: Giggly Squad. They have a new book called how to Giggle,

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Speaker 1: which is them talking about their high levels of stupidity,

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Speaker 1: is called how to be Zululu, which is short for

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Speaker 1: which generation are you?

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Speaker 2: Guys? You guys are gen z No? No, no, no,

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Speaker 2: we're millennials. You're millennials.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so hard for millennials, you guys, I don't know

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Speaker 2: What I don't know what generation I am either.

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Speaker 1: Millennials like a slur, now, I know, I know it's

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Speaker 1: trying to avoid saying it. But Delulu for all of

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Speaker 1: those who don't know what that means is delusional. But

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Speaker 1: I love that chapter because it is really fucking true. So, Paige,

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Speaker 1: why don't you you tell me about your delusion and

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Speaker 2: No, I really think that.

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Speaker 1: I I'm drinking a course light by the way, sorry.

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Speaker 2: As you should. As you should.

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Speaker 6: I think that when I started on social media, I

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Speaker 2: It never crossed my mind.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, So like when Instagram came out and it was

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Speaker 6: Like it wasn't even on my mind at that time

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Speaker 6: because I was just delusional, Like I didn't think anyone

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Speaker 1: Again, yeah you can be just like on a nice,

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Speaker 6: We met like the year prior, but like very briefly.

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Speaker 3: We were the two new girls, so like you walk

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Speaker 3: it really was a trauma bond that I think makes

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean reality TV is pretty traumatizing for all

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Speaker 3: Paige and I we were reality TV fans. Like again,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to circle back to the delusion part

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Speaker 3: I was gonna say the book has made you dumber.

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Speaker 3: She's like, you, guys didn't form one full sentence in

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Speaker 2: No, but talk because I.

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Speaker 1: Love this idea and I think more people should subscribe

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Speaker 1: to him. You know, regardless of what medium you work in, Like,

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Speaker 2: And that works.

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Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, you know, it's like faking it till

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Speaker 3: I believe. You know, We've always been obsessed with seeing

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Speaker 3: And it's been fascinating to see, Like the delusion is

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Speaker 1: Know, like I'm not just And also hide food in it,

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Speaker 3: I want to see. I wanted to jiggle when it laughs.

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Speaker 6: No. I was like the fabio of teen novels. Like

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Speaker 2: Never read one of them?

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Speaker 1: Let's talk about decentering men, because there's a lot of

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Speaker 6: That, like men need women more for marriage because like

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Speaker 1: Well, also it's just because we don't need we don't

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Speaker 3: We're a big proponent of like being single is so

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Speaker 3: And then we realized like, oh no, that could actually

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I once pretend to be into the Grateful Dead.

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Speaker 2: But that's not it gonna work.

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Speaker 6: You know.

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Speaker 1: So you wanted to vicariously fuck him through me?

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Speaker 2: So what are you doing? Then you state him?

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Speaker 6: Honestly, I haven't really like I haven't felt like I've

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm with you on that. I'm with you on

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Speaker 6: Yeah, And like being being in my thirties and being

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Speaker 2: I'm not ready. I already know I'm not ready. Yeah, well,

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Speaker 2: that's great that you know that.

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Speaker 1: So talk about decentering men though you guys never answered

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Speaker 3: I just want to ask Chelsea questions about her life. No,

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Speaker 3: de centering men is so so important. We have a

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Speaker 3: whole part of the book where it's like list all

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Speaker 3: these things that don't involve a dude. It's kind of

445
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Speaker 3: like the Bechdel test, where like being conscious that you're

446
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Speaker 3: not making all your decisions based on if a guy

447
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Speaker 3: likes you, and page you remember your therapist what she

448
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Speaker 3: said to you about like how you sometimes wait for

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Speaker 3: men to choose you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I had a therapist one time tell me that, like

452
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Speaker 6: I've never picked my own boyfriend, and it just kind

453
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Speaker 6: of like hit me, and I mean she was exactly right,

454
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Speaker 6: and I was like, I couldn't ever get that. Yeah,

455
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Speaker 6: I've never gotten over it. I'm like, oh my god,

456
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Speaker 6: I haven't picked a single one of them. They've all

457
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Speaker 6: picked me, and I've just like gone along with it.

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Speaker 6: And when I was first going on a reality show,

459
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Speaker 6: I was dating a guy and he said to me,

460
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Speaker 6: if you go on this reality show, I'll never speak

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Speaker 6: to you again. And in my head I was like

462
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Speaker 6: easy done, Like I'm going on this show, and that

463
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Speaker 6: man truly did never speak to me again. But like,

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Speaker 6: if I had made a decision based on my career

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Speaker 6: because he didn't want me to, like, I don't know

466
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Speaker 6: where I would be. So I feel like that too,

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Speaker 6: is like a part of decentering man, Like you can't

468
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Speaker 6: make decisions based on what they're telling you or what

469
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Speaker 6: they want, because again, they're losers.

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Speaker 3: And you know we are that. I feel like that

471
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Speaker 3: last generation that had the Disney movies of like the

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Speaker 3: Prince is going to save you, And I feel like

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Speaker 3: it's important to have that relationship where you find the

474
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Speaker 3: guy who on paper is everything you want, Like he's tall,

475
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Speaker 3: he's charming, he's successful, but he's not right for you.

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Speaker 3: And like, to me, that was signing a deal with

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Speaker 3: the devil. Like, I don't know if you guys have

478
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Speaker 3: ever been in that situation where you got the guy

479
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Speaker 3: and then you realize like, oh no, I've I've done

480
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Speaker 3: this all wrong. So to any girl listening thinking that

481
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Speaker 3: a certain guy who you're making up in your head

482
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Speaker 3: because we get very creative when you're filling in the blanks,

483
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Speaker 3: is going to make you happy, it really isn't. Happiness

484
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Speaker 3: is when you know yourself and you're comfortable in your

485
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Speaker 3: own skin and the guy who's with you just like

486
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Speaker 3: amplifies it and elevates you. Honestly, if he's not bringing

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Speaker 3: value to the relationship, we don't have time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think that it's interesting what we are willing to

490
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Speaker 1: kind of like give away of ourselves as women for

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Speaker 1: not just men, for lots of things. Like you're willing

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Speaker 1: even when you meet a new friend. Sometimes you'll pretend

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Speaker 1: you're interested in things. I have a friend who is

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Speaker 1: different depending on who she's hanging out with. Yeah, I

495
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Speaker 1: mean she's not a close friend obviously, because I fucking

496
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Speaker 1: hate that shit.

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Speaker 2: Oh you hate children? I hate children? Like, yeah, you

498
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Speaker 2: know somebody.

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Speaker 1: Who changes their temperature based on who they're speaking to.

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Speaker 1: And I think women could do that a lot because

501
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Speaker 1: we just always are trying to please people. But it

502
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Speaker 1: is very empowering to finally sit step back as a

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Speaker 1: woman at whatever age you are, and realize, oh, actually,

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Speaker 1: I'm the one, like I have to choose. I'm choosing

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Speaker 1: to be your friend, I'm choosing to be going on

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Speaker 1: a date with you, and being the one that is

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Speaker 1: behind those choices.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, people around you, I'm just saying therapy speak now.

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Speaker 3: But Paige and I have been deep in therapy.

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Speaker 2: People. Do you guys go to therapy together? Because you should.

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Speaker 3: We have had a lot of podcast duos. Do Paige

512
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Speaker 3: and I weirdly don't fight about anything, Like.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's not weird at all, by the way, that's.

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Speaker 6: What we thought about one thing, and I haven't really

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Speaker 6: let it go. Hannah, Yeah, that was fucked up. That

516
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Speaker 6: day we hosted the Vanity Fair oscar red carpet and

517
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Speaker 6: I had a dress on that had a slit on

518
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Speaker 6: my right side, and so like you should have thought

519
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Speaker 6: about and so like I really needed to stand on

520
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Speaker 6: a certain side. But it's Hannah's bad side. Paige doesn't

521
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Speaker 6: have a bad side, and she wouldn't let me stand

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Speaker 6: on that side, and I death stared her at the

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Speaker 6: entire time.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, which is your good side, Hannah?

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Speaker 3: My left side is good side. The other side is

526
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Speaker 3: like monster monster, Yes, I yeah, it's yeah, yeah, Page.

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Speaker 2: You don't seem like you have a bad side.

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Speaker 3: So that's why I was like, you have a slit

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Speaker 3: in your little princess dress, bitch, get to your side.

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Speaker 3: I don't want to she from.

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Speaker 6: She looked at me like she was my child and

532
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Speaker 6: like I was sending her off to summer camp for

533
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Speaker 6: seven months. Like she looked at me and she was like,

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Speaker 6: I'll literally die if you make me stand on the side.

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Speaker 2: And it's like we're very.

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Speaker 3: Like low priority friends, like you know those friends were

537
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Speaker 3: they're always looking for a problem, like you know, you

538
00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:40,760
Speaker 3: can't make dinner, and they're like you always do, like

539
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Speaker 3: they make things into bigger things.

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Speaker 2: Where we're low maintenance friends.

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Speaker 3: We're very low maintenance friends. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's really but it's really hard to have high

543
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Speaker 1: maintenance friends in this you know, in this climate, in

544
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Speaker 1: this political climate climate, it's hard to stay in touch

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Speaker 1: with anybody.

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Speaker 3: We're fighting for a fuck lives right now. Save yourself.

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Speaker 2: You girls talk a lot. We are we are fighting

548
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Speaker 2: for our lives.

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Speaker 1: You girls talk a lot about we're about to just

550
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Speaker 1: be disenfranchised from voting completely, so especially married people. So

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Speaker 1: there you go, Hannah again, another wing Winter Winter Winter.

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Speaker 1: You guys talk a lot about being nervous, like and

553
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Speaker 1: you do so much. I mean, your social anxiety you

554
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Speaker 1: talk a lot about and you talk about talking about

555
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Speaker 1: that a lot, but you're both public doing public facing things.

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Speaker 2: So when you have that, how does that work?

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Speaker 1: How do you manage your social anxiety if you are

558
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Speaker 1: a blocker?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, a per panet all.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I gave I gave them on to my

561
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Speaker 1: friend the other morning when she woke up. She had

562
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Speaker 1: done mushrooms the night before, and she was all anxious

563
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Speaker 1: the next day. And you know, sometimes mushrooms hit weird.

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Speaker 1: You guys don't do enough drugs. I feel like your

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Speaker 1: generation is it doesn't do enough drugs.

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Speaker 6: So I don't know, we're mollis. We've done drugs, but

567
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Speaker 6: gen Z they don't.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the generation. They don't do. Even their teen

569
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Speaker 2: pregnancy rate is even down.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they're not even their parents' basement.

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Speaker 2: They're not even sneaking out.

572
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Speaker 3: They're not even getting fingered on the side of their leg.

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Speaker 2: They're using therapies week. How do you get fingered on

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Speaker 2: the side of your leg.

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Speaker 3: When you're like, you know what, You're like fourteen and

576
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Speaker 3: he has no idea what he's doing, and you're like,

577
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Speaker 3: that feels so good, and then you tell your friends

578
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Speaker 3: you're like, We're like, we had the best time.

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Speaker 2: That's my thigh.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we're gonna take a break and we'll be right

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Speaker 1: back with Hannah and Page.

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Speaker 4: If you'd like advice from Chelsea, right into us at

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Speaker 4: Dear Chelsea Podcast at gmail dot com. We'd love to

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Speaker 4: hear your questions for any juicy story you'd like advice on,

585
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Speaker 4: and this week we're especially looking for questions about dating.

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Speaker 4: If you are dating, if you're single, if you have

587
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Speaker 4: issues with someone that you just met, if you have

588
00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:45,760
Speaker 4: issues with someone that you've been dating for a while,

589
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Speaker 4: please write in at Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: And we're back with Hannah and Paige from the Gigly Squad.

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Speaker 1: We're talking about their new book, How to Giggle Catherine.

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Speaker 1: We're going to take some callers and you guys could

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Speaker 1: give your sagacious advice.

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Speaker 4: All right, well, our first question is just an email

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Speaker 4: she's not joining us, but it comes from Carrie, she says,

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Speaker 4: Dear Chelsea, I'm writing to ask an etiquette question regarding

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Speaker 4: my nephew's wedding. The wedding invitations arrived and my grown daughter,

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Speaker 4: twenty seven years old was invited. However, her partner, with

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Speaker 4: whom she shares a home and a child, was not included.

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Speaker 4: The two year old was not on the invitation either,

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Speaker 4: which I understand it'll be an adult's only event, but

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Speaker 4: I'm confused by her partner is not included, as they've

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Speaker 4: been together for five years. I can only assume it's

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Speaker 4: because they're not married. Should I say something or just

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Speaker 4: let it be? I do not think my daughter will

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Speaker 4: attend without her person. Thank you, Carrie.

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Speaker 2: That's weird. I thought the rule was over eighteen you

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Speaker 2: get a plus one.

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Speaker 1: Well, not everybody invites you with a plus one because

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Speaker 1: but if you know somebody has a partner, they should

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Speaker 1: be invited. Yeah, and they have a fucking baby together.

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Speaker 2: That is weird.

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Speaker 1: I would say something. I would say something, but I

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Speaker 1: say something about everything. So yeah, what do you girls

615
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Speaker 1: think I would say something?

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Speaker 3: It's worth it. It would throw it out. There was

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Speaker 3: this the mom by the.

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Speaker 2: Way, this is the mom. Yeah, the daughter, this is

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Speaker 2: the mom.

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Speaker 3: Get your mom to call her. Yeah, to deal with

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Speaker 3: that exactly for sure.

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Speaker 2: But also lose the baby. Don't include the baby in

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Speaker 2: that invitation. Nobody wants them there.

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Speaker 4: I do think mom sometimes want to like make it

625
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Speaker 4: more drama than it actually is. Like it might actually

626
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Speaker 4: have just been an oversight. Maybe someone was helping with

627
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Speaker 4: the invitations and left off, you know, so I mean

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Speaker 4: act like, oh, maybe this was just an oversight, like they.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, but definitely bring it up.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, all the wedding stuff. Weddings have become like I

631
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Speaker 3: hate to use this word, but shoo gee. Like it

632
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 3: almost feels like weddings have become like handmaid's daily to me.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 6: They have a certain like eeriness to them.

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Speaker 3: The dad walking you down the aisle and.

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Speaker 1: The like, Yeah, he's like very outdated in my opinion.

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Speaker 1: Weddings it's like, let's a date, this exactly exactly. I

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00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:06,639
Speaker 1: felt awkward during mine, but it was fun mm hmm. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you keep telling yourself that, Hannah, I'm going to be

640
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Speaker 1: divorced by just back out.

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Speaker 6: It was like the night I decided to try whiskey

642
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Speaker 6: sours for the first time, and I was like, I

643
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Speaker 6: love these.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: I did that at my sister's wedding. I was like

646
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Speaker 1: sixteen years old. I went up to the bartender. We

647
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:28,520
Speaker 1: were on Martha's vineyard, and I was like, what is

648
00:28:28,560 --> 00:28:30,680
Speaker 1: a drink that is going to fucking get me fucked up?

649
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:35,159
Speaker 1: I was sixteen in my Laura Ashley bridesmaid dress and

650
00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:37,600
Speaker 1: the like long Island iced tea I had seven. My

651
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:41,200
Speaker 1: father carried me up to my sister's honeymoon sweet and

652
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Speaker 1: put me in bed at like seven thirty at night

653
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 1: and said, don't come down to the wedding again. That's

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Speaker 1: when I fell in love with alcohol.

655
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Speaker 2: I was like, I could use this to avoid weddings

656
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 2: then for sure.

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Speaker 3: And you get carried, that's amazing. I want to get

658
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:58,720
Speaker 3: carried everywhere. We actually in my wedding, we planned for

659
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Speaker 3: page to catch the bouquet, so we like fully cheated,

660
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Speaker 3: like fully like quarterback, like I called the shots. But

661
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 3: it's now, and.

662
00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 6: Really just because I didn't want anyone else to catch it,

663
00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:11,520
Speaker 6: not because I wanted to get married next.

664
00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 2: I was just like, no one's catching my best friend's bouquet, right, well.

665
00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:17,960
Speaker 3: That's now this video is going viral of the bouquet

666
00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:20,240
Speaker 3: being thrown and all these girls running away from it.

667
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 3: Like that's the theme now, Like I don't want to

668
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 3: get married next.

669
00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:24,760
Speaker 2: That's cute. I like that.

670
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:27,960
Speaker 3: Yeah. Who Yeah, try not to get hit with the

671
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,400
Speaker 3: bouquet is the new game there. You just try to

672
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:32,560
Speaker 3: peg your friends like dodgeball.

673
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 1: Yes, exactly, like tag you're it. That's actually that's an ominous. Yeah,

674
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:38,040
Speaker 1: it's an ominous warning.

675
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:38,920
Speaker 5: Yes.

676
00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:43,720
Speaker 4: Well, our next caller is Nora, and she had a

677
00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 4: toxic X reached back out to her, so she says,

678
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 4: Dear Chelsea, I had one of the most heartbreaking breakups

679
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:52,160
Speaker 4: last summer, a couple of days before my birthday. It

680
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 4: all started with me going out sailing with my boyfriend,

681
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:56,720
Speaker 4: having a great time, about to say I love you

682
00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:58,880
Speaker 4: to him for the first time, when he stopped me

683
00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 4: mid sentence and said, don't say it. And then long

684
00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:04,800
Speaker 4: story short, she got wasted and got in banned from

685
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:07,360
Speaker 4: like his yacht club. He then proceeded to ghost me

686
00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:09,040
Speaker 4: for two days and blow off the dinner I had

687
00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:11,160
Speaker 4: planned with him and a friend. After my friend left,

688
00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:13,880
Speaker 4: he broke up with me via text. We continued to

689
00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:16,320
Speaker 4: talk here and there. The following month, he'd say how

690
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 4: he missed our sushi knights together. Then one morning he

691
00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:21,400
Speaker 4: texted me saying we needed to cut ties because I

692
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:24,160
Speaker 4: drunk texted him the night before. Not more than ten

693
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:26,719
Speaker 4: minutes later, he posted a picture on Instagram of his

694
00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 4: new girlfriend, saying how he knew right away he found

695
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:31,760
Speaker 4: someone special. It felt like a slap in the face

696
00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:33,960
Speaker 4: because he claimed he didn't want me to post us

697
00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:36,680
Speaker 4: together because I haven't met his eleven year old daughter yet.

698
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 4: This was a lie, since he posted the new girlfriend

699
00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 4: a week after meeting and also met his daughter the

700
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 4: first week. Meanwhile, we dated for over six months and

701
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:46,760
Speaker 4: he never introduced me to her. I never felt so

702
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:49,000
Speaker 4: hurt or disrespected. I was planning to let the air

703
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:51,000
Speaker 4: out of his tires, but saw his new girlfriend's car

704
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:53,520
Speaker 4: in the driveway and not his. I got mad and

705
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:56,600
Speaker 4: pushed over all his lawn furniture and went home. I

706
00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:59,320
Speaker 4: also signed him up for every cult and weird religion

707
00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:01,200
Speaker 4: out there when I was high with my friend one night.

708
00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:04,600
Speaker 4: We blocked each other since, but recently he's reached out

709
00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 4: via Instagram to ask how I was doing, and they

710
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 4: say that he was sorry for the way things ended.

711
00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 4: I told him I'm not ready to be friends or

712
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 4: talk to him. I ended up blocking him because I

713
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:15,880
Speaker 4: didn't trust myself. However, hearing from him has brought back

714
00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 4: all the feelings I felt for him before the breakup,

715
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:20,480
Speaker 4: as well as sadness and anger I felt after the breakup.

716
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 4: I feel like sometimes I like the drama and secretly

717
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:25,680
Speaker 4: I would love if he wanted to get back with me,

718
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,320
Speaker 4: even though I know deep down I shouldn't any advice

719
00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 4: on how to move forward and now let this affect

720
00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:30,880
Speaker 4: my dating life.

721
00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 6: Nora, I love your voice. I could listen to you

722
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:34,880
Speaker 6: read stories.

723
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 2: I feel like all the thanks Page, Hi, Nora, how

724
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:39,680
Speaker 2: are you Hi?

725
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:42,120
Speaker 5: Yeah?

726
00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 4: I was surprised.

727
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:48,400
Speaker 1: Yes, this is Noura Dipsy doodles, my god, Hello, Laura,

728
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:50,719
Speaker 1: say hello to Page and Hannah.

729
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:51,760
Speaker 3: I love you guys.

730
00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:55,520
Speaker 5: I listened Squad literally every week, and my friend got

731
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:58,720
Speaker 5: freak out. I like, I'm so glad you guys are

732
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:01,760
Speaker 5: a guest because literally obsessed with your guys.

733
00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 2: Thank you so much. I thought you were a producer

734
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 2: was like.

735
00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:07,880
Speaker 3: Gonna fire us. He thought you were on assumed to

736
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 3: fire us, and Chelsea was just surprising us.

737
00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 1: She's an interventionist. We're intervening, but this is about your marriage, Hannah.

738
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:18,640
Speaker 1: She's actually, this isn't a podcast, Paige, tell her what

739
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:19,160
Speaker 1: we're doing.

740
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, Norah's like, I'm does a secret family.

741
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 1: You need to fucking wake up, Nora. First of all, okay,

742
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 1: you do not You cannot be attracted to men who

743
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:33,120
Speaker 1: treat you badly. This is a condition and if you

744
00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:35,479
Speaker 1: don't learn it now, you're gonna continue to learn this

745
00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:38,600
Speaker 1: over and over and over again. You he is not

746
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:41,960
Speaker 1: worthy of you. No man who treats you that way

747
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:45,160
Speaker 1: is worthy of you. And regardless of what happened, and

748
00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:48,320
Speaker 1: like posting on Instagram that all of that is garbage,

749
00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:51,120
Speaker 1: it's all nonsense. You know, he's completely full of shit,

750
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:53,959
Speaker 1: completely full of shit, and just did that to like

751
00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:56,240
Speaker 1: actively torture you, Like posting it.

752
00:32:56,280 --> 00:32:57,640
Speaker 2: Ten minutes after you spoke.

753
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:01,719
Speaker 1: Is somebody who's actively trying to her your feelings and

754
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 1: you're saying that you like that.

755
00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 5: The girl who's dating was like, Okay, we need to

756
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:09,719
Speaker 5: you need to post something because like we need Like

757
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 5: she was feeling insecure that I was still talking to him,

758
00:33:13,000 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 5: But I'm like, all you need to do is just

759
00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:17,680
Speaker 5: text me and say hey, I'm seeing someone and like

760
00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 5: we can't talk anymore, instead of just post on Instagram,

761
00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 5: which he knew is what I wanted for the next month.

762
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:26,640
Speaker 1: This is all like, I want to take everything he

763
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:29,120
Speaker 1: said to you, everything he said to you, all of

764
00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:32,240
Speaker 1: your communication, put it in a big plastic garbage bag

765
00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 1: over your head, and throw it out the fucking window

766
00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 1: because none of the details matter. Nothing you said to

767
00:33:37,840 --> 00:33:40,040
Speaker 1: him and he said to you, You're like you're focusing

768
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:42,000
Speaker 1: on the minutia of it, and this like what did

769
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 1: you say and what did he say? It doesn't matter.

770
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:46,120
Speaker 1: He's a piece of garbage. He doesn't respect you, and

771
00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:49,280
Speaker 1: he's not careful about your feelings. So that's all You've got,

772
00:33:49,320 --> 00:33:51,880
Speaker 1: all that information, and that's all you need to know

773
00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 1: to stay away from men like that, because otherwise you

774
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 1: keep repeating this nonsense. You know what I mean, And

775
00:33:57,200 --> 00:33:59,000
Speaker 1: as a woman, I can tell you it's true. You

776
00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:01,800
Speaker 1: repeat these cycles until you break them. So don't you

777
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:03,720
Speaker 1: want to break the cycle and only date men that

778
00:34:03,760 --> 00:34:05,440
Speaker 1: are going to treat you with respect?

779
00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:08,919
Speaker 5: Yes, and I have had long term relationships where I've

780
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 5: had boyfriends that treating me with respect, and I mean,

781
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:16,160
Speaker 5: sometimes it's just not the right place or they're a

782
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:19,280
Speaker 5: little bit boring. I guess I do like the drama

783
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:21,440
Speaker 5: a little bit, but.

784
00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:25,440
Speaker 3: We understand playing games. Paige and I love games and

785
00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:28,239
Speaker 3: we love getting obsessed with the guy who never lets

786
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:31,080
Speaker 3: you fully have him. But as someone who's very competitive,

787
00:34:31,080 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 3: the way you really win is not getting him. The

788
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:36,319
Speaker 3: way you win is him never having access to you

789
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:40,080
Speaker 3: ever again and going and crushing it. That's you want

790
00:34:40,160 --> 00:34:41,759
Speaker 3: him to look at his phone and be like, I

791
00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:44,919
Speaker 3: fuck up with her, and that's the win.

792
00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 6: Hannah like, if I I also love a little bit

793
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:51,399
Speaker 6: of toxic, Like I get the fun of like back

794
00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 6: and forth and back and forth, and I get like

795
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:56,359
Speaker 6: that can be exciting until it gets to a point

796
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:58,960
Speaker 6: where it's just too much. And I used to do

797
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:01,000
Speaker 6: this thing where I would like blo them and be like, Okay,

798
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 6: they'll never see me again. And then Hannah was like,

799
00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:07,160
Speaker 6: why would you block them? Let them see how much

800
00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 6: better you are than them, And then I started like

801
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:13,400
Speaker 6: posting for revenge, and then I would like want to

802
00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:17,239
Speaker 6: accomplish things in my career truly out of revenge, and

803
00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:18,839
Speaker 6: then I would do it and I'd be like, oh,

804
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 6: I actually started this because I wanted to get back

805
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:23,640
Speaker 6: at some guy. But now I really am gonna go

806
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:26,560
Speaker 6: on Jimmy fallon, you know.

807
00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:27,320
Speaker 3: And to see you. He can't even be in the

808
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:30,760
Speaker 3: same room as yeah, like that's winning him. Him choosing

809
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:33,440
Speaker 3: you and then fucking it up later is just waste

810
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:33,880
Speaker 3: your time.

811
00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:36,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, And I went to Japan and like he was

812
00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:39,239
Speaker 5: supposed to come and like he got to seal the

813
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:41,680
Speaker 5: photos he missed out on. I went for two weeks.

814
00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 5: I went on like a solo chip to Puerto Rico,

815
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:46,400
Speaker 5: and that's when he saw it and was like, oh fuck,

816
00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:50,000
Speaker 5: like she's having an amazing time, Like yeah, I miss her.

817
00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:52,040
Speaker 5: And I'm like, yeah, I know.

818
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:54,319
Speaker 3: You can't meet a new guy unless you also like

819
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 3: close it with him. I'm about that with careers too,

820
00:35:57,120 --> 00:35:59,080
Speaker 3: Like you have to really close the door for other

821
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:01,960
Speaker 3: doors to open. And I think you should torture him

822
00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:03,480
Speaker 3: by never talking to him again.

823
00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:07,440
Speaker 5: But just posting like my travel and yeah.

824
00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

825
00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 1: But just also as a like an ethos to yourself,

826
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:13,319
Speaker 1: you have to like make a promise to yourself that

827
00:36:13,360 --> 00:36:16,320
Speaker 1: you're not going to be that's beneath your set of standards,

828
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:18,520
Speaker 1: Like you want your standards here and people need to

829
00:36:18,560 --> 00:36:20,719
Speaker 1: meet them, especially if you're going to be dating them,

830
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:22,279
Speaker 1: and that's just the way it has to be.

831
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, don't engage.

832
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 5: And it did take six months to like really like

833
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:28,319
Speaker 5: work on myself and like not date anyone, and like

834
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:31,319
Speaker 5: I got to meet therapists and everything. So I feel

835
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:33,399
Speaker 5: like I really learned how to be on my own

836
00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:37,600
Speaker 5: without dating because I was always dating someone or having

837
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:40,480
Speaker 5: questioned someone because it's fun. But I was like, well,

838
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:44,839
Speaker 5: I need to learn to just like be okay with

839
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:48,040
Speaker 5: my career, my friends and like but myself and as

840
00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:50,239
Speaker 5: the hardest part is always a learning process.

841
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, but then you're going to realize like, oh oh

842
00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 1: that that actually brings you so much more and long term, like.

843
00:36:57,160 --> 00:36:59,600
Speaker 2: Your career and your friendships are going to be there

844
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:00,600
Speaker 2: for you.

845
00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:00,799
Speaker 5: You know.

846
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:03,799
Speaker 1: So throughout all these guys, however many men you end

847
00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:06,160
Speaker 1: up dating in your life, and there will be more,

848
00:37:06,200 --> 00:37:08,799
Speaker 1: you know, multiple people, hopefully you're not you know, like

849
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:11,319
Speaker 1: that's that's a nice thing to have variety and have

850
00:37:11,360 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 1: different experiences. But yeah, I would say put all your

851
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:16,680
Speaker 1: energy into your work and into your friendships and into

852
00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:19,439
Speaker 1: your family, and that's where you're gonna get the light back.

853
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 6: Not from as much fun as it is to like

854
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 6: have that toxic relationship. Sometimes it's so much more fun

855
00:37:26,680 --> 00:37:30,240
Speaker 6: when someone's obsessed with you, Like I really do believe

856
00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:32,319
Speaker 6: that the guy has to like the girl more, and

857
00:37:32,440 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 6: I love that, you know, I love when they're Also.

858
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:39,359
Speaker 3: There's nothing hotter than a guy who's like playing games

859
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:41,400
Speaker 3: with you and you don't actually know what he's like,

860
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:43,680
Speaker 3: Like you're making up in your head how great this

861
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:45,640
Speaker 3: guy is. That girl's bored with him.

862
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, Like anytime I see an ex with a new girlfriend,

863
00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:53,160
Speaker 6: I'm like, I feel so bad for her. She's like

864
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:56,240
Speaker 6: a week away from realizing this guy fucking sucks.

865
00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:59,759
Speaker 5: Well he broke up with her after two months because

866
00:37:59,760 --> 00:38:01,320
Speaker 5: he's like, oh, yeah, I was wrong.

867
00:38:02,440 --> 00:38:05,080
Speaker 3: Leave him out to dry, leave him to dry. Sorry

868
00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:05,880
Speaker 3: I'm yelling, Chelsea.

869
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:07,439
Speaker 2: Okay.

870
00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:10,680
Speaker 5: It's like I'm like to the girl singers like, oh no,

871
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:12,399
Speaker 5: like it did, Like it didn't work out.

872
00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:12,959
Speaker 3: I was wrong.

873
00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:18,200
Speaker 2: She's actually like talking to him just yeah, how tall

874
00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:21,719
Speaker 2: is he? I need to know? I literally need to.

875
00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:25,200
Speaker 5: Yeah that.

876
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 6: Would you even be responding no?

877
00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:39,319
Speaker 3: Which is also let's fast forward to it actually did

878
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 3: work out and you're in the kitchen with him one day,

879
00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:42,840
Speaker 3: and he's annoying you, and you hate how he breathes,

880
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:44,880
Speaker 3: and you remember how he didn't even choose you the

881
00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 3: first time around. You'll hit him with a kitchen knife,

882
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:49,319
Speaker 3: you know, Like this is not good.

883
00:38:50,400 --> 00:38:52,360
Speaker 2: What's up with a pet in your hand? Are you journal?

884
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:59,600
Speaker 2: You always tell people write stuff down that I was.

885
00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:01,640
Speaker 3: I was, I was gonna take notes, but it turned

886
00:39:01,680 --> 00:39:02,640
Speaker 3: into hearts.

887
00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:05,359
Speaker 1: And you're gonna take notes on She doesn't know what

888
00:39:05,440 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 1: she's talking about.

889
00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:08,640
Speaker 2: Honestly ridiculous.

890
00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 3: It makes me look official.

891
00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:12,960
Speaker 1: Ura, Thanks for calling in. You need to get your

892
00:39:13,000 --> 00:39:15,400
Speaker 1: ship together. Okay, like, no more of this bullshit.

893
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, everything else is good.

894
00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:20,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, everything else is good. But like, don't obsess over

895
00:39:20,920 --> 00:39:22,960
Speaker 1: this guy. I know that's easier said than done, but

896
00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:25,399
Speaker 1: you just hurt us. Like that's a waste of your time.

897
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:26,279
Speaker 1: You're better than that.

898
00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 6: Okay, bye, okay, okay, okay.

899
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:37,279
Speaker 3: We love you. Wait, Chelsea, look at my sweat that

900
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:41,480
Speaker 3: This is what men do to me. I got pissed

901
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:43,200
Speaker 3: at us. Call Hannah.

902
00:39:43,239 --> 00:39:45,800
Speaker 2: Looks like both of her under arms water just broke.

903
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:50,680
Speaker 1: She's sweating like she has diarrhea from under her arms.

904
00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:51,400
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

905
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:53,960
Speaker 3: Okay, it's actually a disease, Chelsea, So you should be

906
00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 3: more sensitive because hyperhydros disease called hypo something.

907
00:39:57,560 --> 00:40:02,600
Speaker 2: Anyway, what who Okay? Our next caller is Joe Well.

908
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:05,799
Speaker 4: Dear Chelsea, I'm a thirty seven year old single woman

909
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:08,600
Speaker 4: looking for some advice on how to embrace and fully

910
00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:11,239
Speaker 4: enjoy my single life. For most of my life I

911
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 4: yearn to be in a relationship. But thanks to therapy

912
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:16,160
Speaker 4: and You're Insightful podcast, I've come to realize that being

913
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 4: single can bring me immense joy. Recently, I've found happiness

914
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:23,520
Speaker 4: and simply enjoying life, pursuing hobbies, traveling solo, making the

915
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:26,200
Speaker 4: most out of every moment. I have a successful career,

916
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:28,640
Speaker 4: own my home, and am surrounded by an amazing group

917
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:32,320
Speaker 4: of friends. My life feels absolutely perfect, So what's the problem.

918
00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:35,400
Speaker 4: While I genuinely love my independence, I often find myself

919
00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:38,200
Speaker 4: wanting to share the experiences with someone, whether it's going

920
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 4: on trips, going out dancing, or having nice dinners. I've

921
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,440
Speaker 4: noticed that most of my friends are in relationships, married,

922
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 4: or have children. This has made organizing activities a bit tricky.

923
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:51,080
Speaker 4: They either have family commitments or financial responsibilities that make

924
00:40:51,120 --> 00:40:53,560
Speaker 4: it difficult to join in and while I'm not matter jealous,

925
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:56,960
Speaker 4: I do miss having more spontaneous social opportunities. As I

926
00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:59,440
Speaker 4: grow older, I find that fewer friends are available for

927
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:02,399
Speaker 4: a casual Friday night out. I also want to mention

928
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:04,800
Speaker 4: that I don't want children, and while I'd be happy

929
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:06,840
Speaker 4: to get married, I've stopped trying to date because it

930
00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 4: just became too hard. So I'm focusing on living my

931
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:11,680
Speaker 4: life to the fullest as a single woman. So I'm

932
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 4: reaching out for advice. Should I accept that as the

933
00:41:14,120 --> 00:41:16,520
Speaker 4: only single gal in my circle, I might have to

934
00:41:16,560 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 4: do most activities alone from now on, or should I

935
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:20,919
Speaker 4: make an effort to find new friends who are more

936
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:22,560
Speaker 4: in the same lane as I am right now?

937
00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:23,240
Speaker 2: At Joell?

938
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Speaker 1: Hi, Joelle, Hi, Hi, Hi. This is Paige and Hannah,

939
00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:28,920
Speaker 1: our special guest today.

940
00:41:29,560 --> 00:41:30,120
Speaker 3: Hi Joell.

941
00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:31,280
Speaker 5: Hi, guys.

942
00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:33,800
Speaker 7: This is so great you guys. I'd like perfect to

943
00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 7: give me advice.

944
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:37,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, seriously, I feel like we need to start a forum.

945
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:39,440
Speaker 1: I mean, there must be some forums out there for

946
00:41:39,480 --> 00:41:42,839
Speaker 1: people who don't have children who need to band together. Right,

947
00:41:43,200 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 1: there should be some sort of where you can meet

948
00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 1: people in your community who also have these same ideas

949
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:50,000
Speaker 1: about life. Because you do, first of all, you have

950
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:51,920
Speaker 1: to branch out and you have to make some new friends,

951
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 1: not replace your friends, of course, you know they can

952
00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:57,759
Speaker 1: be your friends, and you want to maintain friendships with

953
00:41:57,800 --> 00:41:59,040
Speaker 1: all the people that you know are.

954
00:41:58,880 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 2: Important to you.

955
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:01,799
Speaker 1: But yeah, there's plenty of people out there that are

956
00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:05,320
Speaker 1: doing exactly what you're doing that don't that that aren't

957
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:06,360
Speaker 1: into that lifestyle.

958
00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:08,520
Speaker 2: But how do you go about? Where do you live?

959
00:42:09,320 --> 00:42:11,760
Speaker 2: I'm in Toronto, Okay, well that's great.

960
00:42:11,840 --> 00:42:13,560
Speaker 1: Well that's a big city, so that's going to be

961
00:42:13,920 --> 00:42:15,840
Speaker 1: that's not that's not that. I think you just have

962
00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:18,640
Speaker 1: to like get outside of your comfort zone and like

963
00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:21,160
Speaker 1: do some things that you wouldn't normally do. Just to

964
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:24,880
Speaker 1: start taking exercise classes, like going to some sort of

965
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:28,239
Speaker 1: art event, or going to like any any sort of

966
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:32,080
Speaker 1: like group hiking activity, like doing things where you're just

967
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:34,359
Speaker 1: going to meet people, you know what I mean that

968
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 1: you wouldn't normally meet in whatever you're doing thus far,

969
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:38,520
Speaker 1: Like what's your social situation?

970
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:40,439
Speaker 2: Like, like where do you what do you like to do?

971
00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:40,960
Speaker 1: No?

972
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 2: I do?

973
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:44,640
Speaker 7: I like I obviously like exercising, and I love like

974
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:47,080
Speaker 7: going to concert and things. I guess like it's just that,

975
00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:49,600
Speaker 7: like I'm thirty eight. So it's just at the point

976
00:42:49,640 --> 00:42:51,759
Speaker 7: of like, Okay, I guess my friends have kids and

977
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:53,400
Speaker 7: they're like in the younger age, so I know that,

978
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:56,279
Speaker 7: like yels will get easier for them to like want

979
00:42:56,280 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 7: to hang out. But this is like the age where

980
00:42:58,120 --> 00:43:00,839
Speaker 7: like they need a babysitter and stuff. So I'm just like, Okay,

981
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 7: do I wait it out or do I just like

982
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:05,520
Speaker 7: exactly like you said, like try to find new friends, which,

983
00:43:05,560 --> 00:43:07,880
Speaker 7: like I hate meeting people, so I guess I need

984
00:43:07,920 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 7: to branch I meet people and just get new friends.

985
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:12,600
Speaker 2: To kind of do the activities I want to do.

986
00:43:12,680 --> 00:43:14,960
Speaker 3: I think you wait for your friends to get divorced.

987
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 3: They will soon give it.

988
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:23,160
Speaker 2: Started flying their husbands, yes and or back. That's a

989
00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:27,120
Speaker 2: nice idea. That's a great idea. You guys, have you

990
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 2: done that? You thought about doing that? Joel? You know what,

991
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 2: I'll think about it.

992
00:43:32,239 --> 00:43:35,759
Speaker 3: I'll about it. No. I do think making friends as

993
00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:38,920
Speaker 3: an adult, Joel is so hard and weird. But what

994
00:43:39,000 --> 00:43:40,840
Speaker 3: Chelsea's saying is, I feel like there's so many people

995
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:42,839
Speaker 3: just like you, like there needs to be an app

996
00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:45,360
Speaker 3: or something made and there. Paige literally sent me a

997
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:48,400
Speaker 3: meme today talking about how these later in life. Friends

998
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 3: you make could be so special because they're like meeting

999
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:54,320
Speaker 3: you when you're fully evolved. And what it sounds like,

1000
00:43:54,360 --> 00:43:57,360
Speaker 3: I'm hearing two things. One that you love being single

1001
00:43:57,400 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 3: and you love being alone, but you also yearn for

1002
00:43:59,200 --> 00:44:02,880
Speaker 3: a little bit of friendship or possible relationships. So you

1003
00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:05,080
Speaker 3: gotta get out of the nests a little. That's the

1004
00:44:05,120 --> 00:44:08,279
Speaker 3: first step, even though it is uncomfortable, but I think

1005
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 3: the rewards will be big.

1006
00:44:10,360 --> 00:44:12,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, are you on like dating apps or how are

1007
00:44:12,680 --> 00:44:13,640
Speaker 6: you meeting people?

1008
00:44:13,960 --> 00:44:15,759
Speaker 7: I am not on day y Ops, there's just the world.

1009
00:44:16,200 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 7: I know, I know, but it's yeah, I know, I know.

1010
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:21,240
Speaker 1: We're talking about friends and she you know, she's saying

1011
00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:23,680
Speaker 1: that she's not that the dating thing isn't the priority

1012
00:44:23,680 --> 00:44:23,960
Speaker 1: for her.

1013
00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:25,520
Speaker 2: I think, right Joelle, it's friends.

1014
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:29,000
Speaker 7: Oh exactly. If I meet someone, that's great. But like

1015
00:44:29,120 --> 00:44:31,239
Speaker 7: right now, I'm just like I'm good being single. I

1016
00:44:31,320 --> 00:44:33,200
Speaker 7: just end my life and just not have like any

1017
00:44:33,200 --> 00:44:34,160
Speaker 7: boy drama for now.

1018
00:44:34,239 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1019
00:44:34,480 --> 00:44:36,320
Speaker 2: I respect that and that's fine.

1020
00:44:36,480 --> 00:44:38,360
Speaker 1: Like you can take a cooking class, you know, you

1021
00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:40,320
Speaker 1: can like kind of just like bounce around to do

1022
00:44:40,560 --> 00:44:43,640
Speaker 1: different things that may seem like corny or whatever, or

1023
00:44:43,680 --> 00:44:45,560
Speaker 1: like out you know that you wouldn't normally do, or

1024
00:44:45,760 --> 00:44:47,799
Speaker 1: even if it feels like it's a couple's thing, like

1025
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:50,440
Speaker 1: you go like sign up for some hiking class or

1026
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:52,600
Speaker 1: some like short you know, five mile like running.

1027
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:55,480
Speaker 3: Chelsea wants you to hike so bad. I don't keep

1028
00:44:55,520 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 3: saying hike it.

1029
00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 1: Whenever I think about things group activities, I think of hikers.

1030
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:04,800
Speaker 6: Actually, one of my friends randomly joined like took a

1031
00:45:04,840 --> 00:45:09,840
Speaker 6: battles anonymous, like like just like wanted to take ballet

1032
00:45:10,000 --> 00:45:11,440
Speaker 6: and just like see what it was like.

1033
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:13,520
Speaker 2: And she was obsessed with it.

1034
00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:15,400
Speaker 6: And she met like this whole group of girls that

1035
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 6: like can't do ballet, and now they hang out like

1036
00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:19,840
Speaker 6: outside of ballet instead.

1037
00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:22,400
Speaker 3: There's something about getting older where you get connected to

1038
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:24,319
Speaker 3: your and your child again, where you're like, wait, what

1039
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:25,879
Speaker 3: did I love to do? Or what do I want

1040
00:45:25,920 --> 00:45:27,839
Speaker 3: to do? And Paige and I were starting this new

1041
00:45:27,840 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 3: thing called hobbies. We never did it before. It's very difficult,

1042
00:45:32,239 --> 00:45:35,919
Speaker 3: but trying, Like like what Chelsea was saying, random things

1043
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:37,440
Speaker 3: that you think you might like, it's so easy to

1044
00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:39,400
Speaker 3: make friends while you're like doing pottery. You're like I

1045
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:41,360
Speaker 3: like your pot, and she's like I like your pot.

1046
00:45:41,640 --> 00:45:43,840
Speaker 3: And you have a commonality instead of it and you

1047
00:45:43,880 --> 00:45:46,640
Speaker 3: smoke pot, they smoke pot. But you don't have to

1048
00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:48,759
Speaker 3: like creepily go up to someone like at a bar

1049
00:45:48,800 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 3: and be like, do you want to be my friend?

1050
00:45:50,719 --> 00:45:52,359
Speaker 2: Yeah? Right right?

1051
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:55,480
Speaker 1: But also just like expand your surround you know, like

1052
00:45:55,719 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 1: broad in your horizons, Like do you just get out

1053
00:45:58,600 --> 00:46:00,800
Speaker 1: and do some things that you haven't done in a while,

1054
00:46:01,200 --> 00:46:03,520
Speaker 1: and with the vibe that you're down and ready to

1055
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:05,640
Speaker 1: make some new friends, and you're going to attract people

1056
00:46:05,800 --> 00:46:09,879
Speaker 1: just by having that kind of energy, very positive, upbeat, optimistic,

1057
00:46:10,280 --> 00:46:11,759
Speaker 1: just like looking for new connections.

1058
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:13,400
Speaker 2: I've made tons of friends.

1059
00:46:13,600 --> 00:46:16,360
Speaker 1: I just turned fifty and I when I was forty,

1060
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:18,239
Speaker 1: I made a whole new group of friends when I

1061
00:46:18,239 --> 00:46:20,080
Speaker 1: moved to Whistler, when I bought a place in Whistler.

1062
00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:23,080
Speaker 1: I have like ten super close girlfriends that live here

1063
00:46:23,160 --> 00:46:26,040
Speaker 1: now in addition to my regular rotary. Like, so you're

1064
00:46:26,120 --> 00:46:28,160
Speaker 1: never going to stop making friends. And while it might

1065
00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 1: be like an awkward attempt in the beginning, it's a

1066
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:34,239
Speaker 1: good practice to keep going. You can then you start

1067
00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:36,760
Speaker 1: traveling with people, you know, you meet people when you're away,

1068
00:46:36,840 --> 00:46:40,320
Speaker 1: Like there's no shortage of opportunities to meet other people.

1069
00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 2: It's really in the vibe that you're putting out.

1070
00:46:42,760 --> 00:46:43,400
Speaker 3: That's true.

1071
00:46:43,480 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 7: And actually like second part to that, like and I

1072
00:46:45,600 --> 00:46:47,200
Speaker 7: feel like you guys probably like I don't know if

1073
00:46:47,239 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 7: you have that issue, but like on the money aspect,

1074
00:46:49,080 --> 00:46:51,759
Speaker 7: when you're making those friends, like sometimes that is hard

1075
00:46:51,800 --> 00:46:53,759
Speaker 7: to be like hey, like I kind of like nice

1076
00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:55,480
Speaker 7: things and want to got to nice dinners, but then

1077
00:46:55,560 --> 00:46:56,960
Speaker 7: other people are kind of like, oh, I don't have

1078
00:46:56,960 --> 00:47:00,120
Speaker 7: the disposable income like you guys have. Like this is

1079
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:01,759
Speaker 7: you have just like hey, like you're obviously in the

1080
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:04,759
Speaker 7: like bracket where you can like just afford anything that

1081
00:47:04,800 --> 00:47:06,279
Speaker 7: you want, But then do you have friends that are

1082
00:47:06,280 --> 00:47:08,160
Speaker 7: like not in the same bracket, and like how do

1083
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:08,920
Speaker 7: you manage that?

1084
00:47:09,440 --> 00:47:10,880
Speaker 3: Well, it's good, that's a good question.

1085
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:12,000
Speaker 2: It is a great question.

1086
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:13,880
Speaker 1: It's I mean, you know, in my situation, I just

1087
00:47:13,880 --> 00:47:14,919
Speaker 1: pay for everyone all the time.

1088
00:47:14,960 --> 00:47:18,320
Speaker 2: But I know that's not because I don't want to

1089
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:20,440
Speaker 2: fucking hear about splitting checks. I don't ever want to

1090
00:47:20,440 --> 00:47:21,000
Speaker 2: hear about that.

1091
00:47:21,200 --> 00:47:23,120
Speaker 1: It's like just I would pay them extra money to

1092
00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 1: not hear that conversation, but I understand that's not a

1093
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 1: reality for everyone. I would just be sensitive to other

1094
00:47:29,200 --> 00:47:32,319
Speaker 1: people's financial situations and be like, yes, if you don't

1095
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:34,080
Speaker 1: have to cut someone off because they can't afford to

1096
00:47:34,080 --> 00:47:36,080
Speaker 1: go to No Boo with you, but you can just

1097
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:38,239
Speaker 1: be mindful and go to somewhere, go somewhere with them

1098
00:47:38,280 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 1: that is a little bit less expensive, and save Noboo

1099
00:47:40,719 --> 00:47:42,560
Speaker 1: for your friends who are in the same kind of

1100
00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 1: income bracket. And there's also nothing wrong with you going

1101
00:47:45,080 --> 00:47:47,120
Speaker 1: to do No Boo by yourself, you know what I mean,

1102
00:47:47,200 --> 00:47:49,280
Speaker 1: and having a nice I've done that plenty of times

1103
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:52,719
Speaker 1: and I love that. So just really be mindful, I

1104
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:55,680
Speaker 1: would say, of the energy that you're putting out to attract,

1105
00:47:55,800 --> 00:47:58,520
Speaker 1: Like there's a magnetism that we all have when we're

1106
00:47:58,560 --> 00:48:02,040
Speaker 1: in like a happy, good, curious place, and that's where

1107
00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 1: you want to be when you're meeting people. And you know,

1108
00:48:04,520 --> 00:48:06,480
Speaker 1: you could take a dance class, you could do any

1109
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:08,000
Speaker 1: of that, any of those things.

1110
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:12,040
Speaker 2: You could go play pickleball. People love pickleball. I know,

1111
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:12,360
Speaker 2: I know.

1112
00:48:12,400 --> 00:48:15,320
Speaker 1: I feel that's the way about pickleball too. Hannah likes pickleball.

1113
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 1: No pickleball, I know, I'm kidding. She's a proper tennis player.

1114
00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:25,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, so are you, ChEls. But I do like having

1115
00:48:25,600 --> 00:48:28,440
Speaker 3: specific friends for things like you love sushi, you have

1116
00:48:28,480 --> 00:48:29,920
Speaker 3: your girl you always hit up when you want to

1117
00:48:29,920 --> 00:48:32,279
Speaker 3: go to sushi, or you have your like girl who

1118
00:48:32,360 --> 00:48:34,759
Speaker 3: likes to do yoga with you or something. So that's

1119
00:48:34,800 --> 00:48:37,319
Speaker 3: okay too. I think to have those people that you

1120
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 3: pick for different events.

1121
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:42,080
Speaker 1: Right well, well, we're just focusing on getting her some

1122
00:48:42,160 --> 00:48:44,880
Speaker 1: new friends. Okay, so not right now, she doesn't have

1123
00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:47,080
Speaker 1: fifty to choose from. We want to make her go

1124
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:50,200
Speaker 1: out and get these friends and then yes, and then

1125
00:48:50,200 --> 00:48:52,480
Speaker 1: you can pick ones for specific activities.

1126
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:55,120
Speaker 3: Chelsea, how do you approach people if you want to

1127
00:48:55,120 --> 00:48:55,720
Speaker 3: be their friend?

1128
00:48:56,239 --> 00:48:58,720
Speaker 2: What do you do if I want to be someone's friend?

1129
00:48:59,080 --> 00:49:02,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm full full right now, I don't have room

1130
00:49:03,520 --> 00:49:05,400
Speaker 1: do I'll give you some of my friends, Joel, do

1131
00:49:05,440 --> 00:49:06,959
Speaker 1: you want that?

1132
00:49:07,320 --> 00:49:08,320
Speaker 2: The rich one? I?

1133
00:49:10,320 --> 00:49:14,480
Speaker 3: Joelle is like, I want some sugar daddies, sugar mama,

1134
00:49:14,640 --> 00:49:15,400
Speaker 3: sugar mamas.

1135
00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 1: Sometimes when I meet someone and I don't have time

1136
00:49:17,640 --> 00:49:19,880
Speaker 1: for them, like the bandwidth, I give them to my sister.

1137
00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:21,640
Speaker 2: I'm like, I have a new friend that wants a

1138
00:49:21,680 --> 00:49:22,200
Speaker 2: lot from me.

1139
00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:23,160
Speaker 3: Do you want her.

1140
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:27,120
Speaker 8: To my Sister's like, I like her, I'll take her

1141
00:49:28,600 --> 00:49:30,520
Speaker 8: once I did invite a bunch of people to a dinner,

1142
00:49:30,560 --> 00:49:32,800
Speaker 8: including Page, and then I didn't show up, so Paige

1143
00:49:32,840 --> 00:49:33,680
Speaker 8: had to hang out with them.

1144
00:49:34,080 --> 00:49:34,960
Speaker 2: Oh I love that.

1145
00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:36,080
Speaker 3: I love that.

1146
00:49:36,080 --> 00:49:38,319
Speaker 2: That was the craziest move I got.

1147
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:39,680
Speaker 3: I got a cough.

1148
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:42,480
Speaker 2: I had it all arranged and Joel.

1149
00:49:42,560 --> 00:49:44,759
Speaker 1: In the meantime, with your existing friends that you have,

1150
00:49:44,840 --> 00:49:47,879
Speaker 1: you know, be be flexible about spending time with them

1151
00:49:47,880 --> 00:49:50,240
Speaker 1: when they can, you know, so that you're not missing

1152
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:50,719
Speaker 1: them too.

1153
00:49:50,840 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 2: And I understand when people.

1154
00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:54,000
Speaker 1: Have little children it's really difficult to make those kinds

1155
00:49:54,040 --> 00:49:56,759
Speaker 1: of arrangements and it is kind of taxing. So but

1156
00:49:56,960 --> 00:49:58,960
Speaker 1: you know, don't count them out. You know, you can

1157
00:49:59,000 --> 00:50:00,680
Speaker 1: go and hang out over them. I know you don't

1158
00:50:00,680 --> 00:50:01,960
Speaker 1: want to hang out with the kids all the time,

1159
00:50:01,960 --> 00:50:04,200
Speaker 1: but like, you know, just be a little bit bendable

1160
00:50:04,280 --> 00:50:05,720
Speaker 1: so that it works both ways.

1161
00:50:06,360 --> 00:50:06,560
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1162
00:50:06,640 --> 00:50:08,440
Speaker 7: No, for sure, that's definitely something I can do.

1163
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:10,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so what's what are you gonna do?

1164
00:50:10,760 --> 00:50:10,920
Speaker 4: Now?

1165
00:50:10,960 --> 00:50:11,920
Speaker 2: What's what's your plan?

1166
00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:14,200
Speaker 7: Well, I guess I'm mean I go find new friends.

1167
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:16,640
Speaker 7: I won't do I won't do ballet, but I do

1168
00:50:16,760 --> 00:50:18,960
Speaker 7: I do started playing tennis, So I think that's great.

1169
00:50:19,719 --> 00:50:23,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's so fun. A doubles league. You meet so

1170
00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:25,480
Speaker 3: many people, right, you could.

1171
00:50:25,320 --> 00:50:27,759
Speaker 1: Join a tennis club. That's such a fun backdrop. It's

1172
00:50:27,800 --> 00:50:28,720
Speaker 1: like white lotus.

1173
00:50:29,120 --> 00:50:34,440
Speaker 7: Yeah, okay, well killed but yeah no, ya, yeah, it's

1174
00:50:34,520 --> 00:50:36,000
Speaker 7: just like I guess it's just getting out of my

1175
00:50:36,040 --> 00:50:38,000
Speaker 7: comfort zone. And like it was like, maybe like, oh,

1176
00:50:38,000 --> 00:50:39,680
Speaker 7: do I wait it out a couple of years and

1177
00:50:40,000 --> 00:50:42,400
Speaker 7: you know when my friends get available? But yeah, no,

1178
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:44,319
Speaker 7: as you mentioned, and I also read your book and

1179
00:50:44,360 --> 00:50:46,520
Speaker 7: I love that part in Whistler when you made all

1180
00:50:46,600 --> 00:50:49,200
Speaker 7: your new friends, like your skiing friends. So I was like, yeah,

1181
00:50:49,200 --> 00:50:51,000
Speaker 7: maybe I'm just in the part of my life where

1182
00:50:51,000 --> 00:50:52,759
Speaker 7: I can find like new single friends I want to do.

1183
00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:56,440
Speaker 1: Like no, yeah, I'm always making friends, like seriously, I mean,

1184
00:50:56,480 --> 00:50:58,279
Speaker 1: I know I joke about not wanting anymore, but I'm

1185
00:50:58,320 --> 00:51:00,640
Speaker 1: always making new friends. And like, as you age, I

1186
00:51:00,640 --> 00:51:02,959
Speaker 1: think you get better at making friends and you also

1187
00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:05,320
Speaker 1: are more discerning about who you choose to be friends.

1188
00:51:06,200 --> 00:51:07,960
Speaker 3: Very true, Harry, You're a better picker.

1189
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:10,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, so pick wisely, Joel, You're going to have lots

1190
00:51:10,360 --> 00:51:11,640
Speaker 1: of people wanting to be friends with you.

1191
00:51:12,080 --> 00:51:14,759
Speaker 2: Amazing, And you have four new friends today. Where are

1192
00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:15,880
Speaker 2: your friends? Perfect?

1193
00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:20,200
Speaker 7: Great, you're all in my hopefully in my back rackets.

1194
00:51:23,480 --> 00:51:28,359
Speaker 2: Choosing friends financially, you have.

1195
00:51:28,320 --> 00:51:31,719
Speaker 1: To friends based on their financial situation.

1196
00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:38,280
Speaker 7: I mean, and I'll sie if I can make you.

1197
00:51:37,120 --> 00:51:38,959
Speaker 3: Tax return and a therapy bill.

1198
00:51:39,480 --> 00:51:43,920
Speaker 2: Yes, all right, Okay, have a great day.

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Speaker 3: Thanks Joe, bye, Chelsea. I love how you hold people accountable.

1200
00:51:48,160 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 3: You're like, so what are we doing when you leave

1201
00:51:50,160 --> 00:51:50,880
Speaker 3: this call?

1202
00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:51,400
Speaker 6: Yeah?

1203
00:51:51,520 --> 00:51:53,759
Speaker 1: I just feel like women need to know that, you know,

1204
00:51:53,880 --> 00:51:56,480
Speaker 1: you you do make friends as you go through life,

1205
00:51:56,520 --> 00:51:58,839
Speaker 1: like there, it's not like you just you make friends

1206
00:51:58,880 --> 00:52:01,920
Speaker 1: and then that part of your life it's yeah, yeah,

1207
00:52:01,960 --> 00:52:04,480
Speaker 1: and you have to be willing to, like, you know,

1208
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:07,000
Speaker 1: do stuff that you don't want to do. Like I

1209
00:52:07,040 --> 00:52:09,839
Speaker 1: went mountain biking the other day. I mean, I didn't

1210
00:52:09,840 --> 00:52:12,560
Speaker 1: want to do that. No, I don't know what the

1211
00:52:12,600 --> 00:52:13,759
Speaker 1: point of me saying that is.

1212
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:14,239
Speaker 5: But I.

1213
00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:16,640
Speaker 2: Bought my friends here.

1214
00:52:16,719 --> 00:52:18,640
Speaker 1: The snow is not that great, and they're like, let's

1215
00:52:18,719 --> 00:52:21,000
Speaker 1: I so I had my boat bike. I flew my

1216
00:52:21,040 --> 00:52:23,160
Speaker 1: bike up and then they were like, okay, we're gonna

1217
00:52:23,440 --> 00:52:25,560
Speaker 1: take you mountain biking now because this is what we

1218
00:52:25,600 --> 00:52:28,040
Speaker 1: do when the snow is gone. And I'm like okay,

1219
00:52:28,239 --> 00:52:29,919
Speaker 1: And then I went mountain biking. I'm like, I don't

1220
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:30,680
Speaker 1: really think this.

1221
00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 2: Is for me.

1222
00:52:31,239 --> 00:52:34,799
Speaker 1: No, I'm so adventurous, I know, but I'll do it

1223
00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:35,840
Speaker 1: again because whatever.

1224
00:52:35,880 --> 00:52:37,359
Speaker 2: It's like. My friends like to do that, so I'll

1225
00:52:37,360 --> 00:52:37,960
Speaker 2: do it with them.

1226
00:52:38,000 --> 00:52:40,879
Speaker 1: You know, like you want to be like malleable, you're

1227
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:43,680
Speaker 1: not like rigid. I will only do this. I only

1228
00:52:43,719 --> 00:52:45,440
Speaker 1: like to do this. I hate when people are like that.

1229
00:52:45,719 --> 00:52:48,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's not. Some people have like friend groups since

1230
00:52:48,400 --> 00:52:50,520
Speaker 3: they were like in elementary school, which I was always

1231
00:52:50,600 --> 00:52:51,120
Speaker 3: jealous of.

1232
00:52:51,239 --> 00:52:54,160
Speaker 2: But then I was just gonna say that. Yeah, no,

1233
00:52:54,320 --> 00:52:54,960
Speaker 2: I have a friend.

1234
00:52:55,120 --> 00:52:56,919
Speaker 1: I have a friend who she and her nine friends

1235
00:52:56,920 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 1: have been friends their entire lives. They're like, they're all

1236
00:52:59,480 --> 00:53:02,799
Speaker 1: forty four and they've been together and it's so beautiful

1237
00:53:02,840 --> 00:53:05,200
Speaker 1: and nice. But they all have other groups of friends too.

1238
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:07,400
Speaker 3: You have to. You have to. Yeah, I went to

1239
00:53:07,440 --> 00:53:09,239
Speaker 3: three different high schools, so I've always like.

1240
00:53:09,239 --> 00:53:10,560
Speaker 2: Well, we know why that happened.

1241
00:53:11,640 --> 00:53:13,200
Speaker 1: We're going to take a break and we'll be right

1242
00:53:13,239 --> 00:53:20,600
Speaker 1: back with Hannah and Paige. And we're back with Hannah

1243
00:53:20,680 --> 00:53:25,160
Speaker 1: and Paige. Page Disorbo and Hannah Berner wrote a new book.

1244
00:53:25,200 --> 00:53:25,960
Speaker 2: They wrote it together.

1245
00:53:26,000 --> 00:53:28,319
Speaker 1: They actually wrote the book together, which is called How

1246
00:53:28,360 --> 00:53:31,040
Speaker 1: to Giggle. And they're from the Giggly Squad, which is

1247
00:53:31,120 --> 00:53:34,680
Speaker 1: your podcast that everybody loves and everybody loves to giggle.

1248
00:53:34,400 --> 00:53:37,439
Speaker 3: And Chelsea, we were very inspired by your books. Yeah,

1249
00:53:37,520 --> 00:53:37,959
Speaker 3: your books.

1250
00:53:38,000 --> 00:53:39,960
Speaker 1: Well, I didn't see that when you shouted out to

1251
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:41,839
Speaker 1: all of the icons in the book, I didn't see

1252
00:53:41,840 --> 00:53:42,279
Speaker 1: my name there.

1253
00:53:42,280 --> 00:53:43,840
Speaker 2: So that's funny. You're on the back cover.

1254
00:53:43,960 --> 00:53:46,759
Speaker 1: That's funny you say that I saw Barbara Corkoran on there,

1255
00:53:47,360 --> 00:53:48,320
Speaker 1: but I didn't see.

1256
00:53:48,520 --> 00:53:51,360
Speaker 6: Hannah's obsessed with Barbara Corkoran.

1257
00:53:51,520 --> 00:53:55,520
Speaker 1: It's I have her name referenced outside of that show ever,

1258
00:53:57,120 --> 00:53:59,080
Speaker 1: Barbara Kor talking about.

1259
00:53:58,840 --> 00:54:02,279
Speaker 3: This working alone, Chelsea, you have to have her on

1260
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:02,720
Speaker 3: the pod.

1261
00:54:04,239 --> 00:54:07,400
Speaker 2: I have to find out who she is. Is she

1262
00:54:07,520 --> 00:54:11,040
Speaker 2: the blonde woman from Tank with the short hair?

1263
00:54:11,880 --> 00:54:13,960
Speaker 3: She's a pip. You would like her. But Chelsea, we

1264
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:15,719
Speaker 3: got you to give a quote on the back. That

1265
00:54:15,880 --> 00:54:18,200
Speaker 3: was the only quote I wanted, was Chelsea, I.

1266
00:54:18,120 --> 00:54:20,680
Speaker 1: Don't know that because I got the book electronically. Hannah

1267
00:54:20,800 --> 00:54:24,040
Speaker 1: souk Off. Okay, so there is no quote from me

1268
00:54:24,160 --> 00:54:25,440
Speaker 1: anywhere to be found.

1269
00:54:26,000 --> 00:54:27,640
Speaker 3: Do you know what your quote is? Do you know

1270
00:54:27,680 --> 00:54:28,080
Speaker 3: what it is?

1271
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:28,839
Speaker 2: What does it say?

1272
00:54:28,920 --> 00:54:31,000
Speaker 3: It says? I met them once.

1273
00:54:30,880 --> 00:54:38,120
Speaker 1: Chelsea, that was before I even met Paige.

1274
00:54:39,680 --> 00:54:42,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, one of them.

1275
00:54:42,600 --> 00:54:46,319
Speaker 3: One of them. I met half of them once I

1276
00:54:46,360 --> 00:54:48,279
Speaker 3: forgot I forgot what it was.

1277
00:54:49,560 --> 00:54:52,000
Speaker 1: Okay, well, Catherine, what else do we have we want

1278
00:54:52,000 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 1: to close up with some I do.

1279
00:54:53,239 --> 00:54:56,000
Speaker 4: Have one little quickie. If you're okay on time, gals,

1280
00:54:56,200 --> 00:54:59,959
Speaker 4: we'll hit it hard. So this comes from m She says,

1281
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:02,839
Speaker 4: Dear Chelsea, I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year.

1282
00:55:03,160 --> 00:55:07,160
Speaker 4: He's extremely attentive to my emotions, patient, passionate about his interests,

1283
00:55:07,239 --> 00:55:11,520
Speaker 4: driven and successful. Problem is he's a slob. Not only

1284
00:55:11,600 --> 00:55:14,239
Speaker 4: are the surfaces in his house always sticky, full of

1285
00:55:14,280 --> 00:55:17,239
Speaker 4: crumbs and cluttered, but he often forgets to shower after

1286
00:55:17,280 --> 00:55:20,000
Speaker 4: the gym and never puts the toilet seat down after peeing.

1287
00:55:20,640 --> 00:55:22,880
Speaker 4: In the beginning of our relationship, I didn't say anything,

1288
00:55:22,920 --> 00:55:25,160
Speaker 4: but after the first three months I spoke up about

1289
00:55:25,160 --> 00:55:27,560
Speaker 4: how I'd appreciate him cleaning up after himself some more

1290
00:55:27,560 --> 00:55:30,120
Speaker 4: when he's at my house. But it's fallen on deaf ears.

1291
00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:33,160
Speaker 4: I have to keep reminding him. It's frustrating to sometimes

1292
00:55:33,200 --> 00:55:34,920
Speaker 4: feel like I'm being a mom to him, but I

1293
00:55:34,960 --> 00:55:37,279
Speaker 4: can't not speak up when he's leaving the toilet seat

1294
00:55:37,360 --> 00:55:40,520
Speaker 4: up and leaving crumbs and messes everywhere he goes at

1295
00:55:40,600 --> 00:55:42,560
Speaker 4: least once a week. I WinCE when he tries to

1296
00:55:42,600 --> 00:55:45,279
Speaker 4: kiss me because of his stench. It's very unattractive.

1297
00:55:46,200 --> 00:55:47,080
Speaker 3: I love him a lot.

1298
00:55:47,280 --> 00:55:50,080
Speaker 4: He's emotionally mature in ways I've never seen in a man.

1299
00:55:50,239 --> 00:55:52,879
Speaker 4: But will his messiness and general lack of awareness about

1300
00:55:52,960 --> 00:55:55,279
Speaker 4: things that aren't emotional in nature break us up?

1301
00:55:55,360 --> 00:55:56,560
Speaker 2: It's never going to work.

1302
00:55:56,520 --> 00:55:57,120
Speaker 5: Should it? Am?

1303
00:55:57,120 --> 00:56:03,640
Speaker 3: I missus frustrated? It's over trained. Find a man who's

1304
00:56:03,680 --> 00:56:04,280
Speaker 3: pre trained.

1305
00:56:04,360 --> 00:56:06,520
Speaker 2: I'm not so gross.

1306
00:56:06,680 --> 00:56:08,760
Speaker 1: I once dated a guy who had a funky smell

1307
00:56:08,840 --> 00:56:13,880
Speaker 1: that came from his gut. I'm assuming, and he didn't

1308
00:56:13,920 --> 00:56:17,560
Speaker 1: smell at in the daytime or at night, but in

1309
00:56:17,600 --> 00:56:20,000
Speaker 1: the mornings, I was like, I can't deal with the smell.

1310
00:56:20,200 --> 00:56:21,000
Speaker 2: Like it was strong.

1311
00:56:21,120 --> 00:56:26,760
Speaker 1: It was like this his bio bio gnome mom, whatever

1312
00:56:27,040 --> 00:56:30,440
Speaker 1: whatever it was it was. It doesn't go away. Smells

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Speaker 1: don't go away. When someone doesn't, he's like a It's

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Speaker 1: like a feral cat.

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Speaker 2: This guy.

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Speaker 6: Also, I feel like nothing I'm married or like, wouldn't

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Speaker 6: know when it's like living with someone or whatever. But

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Speaker 6: I feel like it is those like little day to

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Speaker 6: day things that like keep you together. So like yeah,

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Speaker 6: he can be emotionally intelligent, but like he thinks, Yeah,

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Speaker 6: and I.

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Speaker 3: Care if he's ambitious. He's a literal skunk that's running

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Speaker 3: wild in your apartment.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, unless you're planning on removing your nose, Like you

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Speaker 1: have to move on.

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Speaker 2: And find a different partner.

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Speaker 3: I also have a theory that you will fall in

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Speaker 3: love with your your partner's natural scent and like you

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Speaker 3: too have like a similar smell. I don't know I

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Speaker 3: made that up, but I feel like it's a no.

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Speaker 1: I think when you when it is, when there is

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Speaker 1: good chemistry, then the smell is good.

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Speaker 4: You.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what you smell is smells good to you when

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Speaker 1: there is natural But clearly that's not working because he's Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Like you get less UTIs and stuff with the right guy.

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Speaker 2: Oh god, haranging uti right now.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's kind of a thing where like sometimes you're

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Speaker 4: like smells don't work together and like you got right

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Speaker 4: know or whatever. I will also say, some of this

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Speaker 4: smacks a little bit of undiagnosed ADHD, So like get

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Speaker 4: him tested and get him on something and see if

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Speaker 4: that changes. That might be your last ditch effort.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, medicate him, Yeah, medicate him and then maybe

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Speaker 1: he'll start wiping his ass.

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Speaker 4: I mean maybe, who knows. And also like he doesn't

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Speaker 4: get to kiss you if he hasn't showered, if he's stinky.

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Speaker 6: I mean he could hire a cleaning lady. But the

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Speaker 6: not showering thing, that's like, yeah, I don't know if

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Speaker 6: you're changing that a person.

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Speaker 3: Whenever we do advice, I always envision it's the same people.

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Speaker 3: So like, this is the guy who started dating a

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Speaker 3: new girl, and this new girl is calling it about

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Speaker 3: how he smells.

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Speaker 2: That's a great eye.

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Speaker 1: That's a great idea for a podcast, actually, Hannah, Okay, well,

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Speaker 1: that was an upsetting way to end this episode.

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Speaker 2: That was not what we wanted to go out with.

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Speaker 2: But that's okay.

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Speaker 1: I think it's apropos for our guests today.

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Speaker 2: Paige.

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Speaker 1: I don't mean to be so cutting towards you. This

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Speaker 1: is only directed towards Hannah.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 2: I don't know you well enough to treat you this way,

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Speaker 2: so I just want you to know that is all. Hannah.

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Speaker 3: No, it is such a privilege to get harassed by

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Speaker 3: Chelsea Handler. I want to do it all day long.

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Speaker 2: Do put your arms up for a sec will you please?

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Speaker 2: Both arms? Both arms.

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Speaker 1: There we go okay, and we're wrapped for today. Have

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Speaker 1: a great day, girls, everybody. You can go get how

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Speaker 1: to giggle at your local bookstore, local bookseller.

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Speaker 2: Go buy your books and bookstores. People do do.

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Speaker 1: Do do do drum roll, Catherine, please, Chelsea Handler abroad.

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Speaker 1: Abroad is my European tour. So I'm coming to obviously find.

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Speaker 3: A husband abroad.

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Speaker 1: I need to get the help out of this fucking country,

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Speaker 1: and it's not as easy as you think. So I'm

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Speaker 1: coming to Rekuvik. I'm coming to Dublin. I'm coming to

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Speaker 1: the UK. I'm coming to Brussels, Paris, Belfast.

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Speaker 2: In May and June.

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Speaker 1: I'm coming to Oslo, Stockholm, to Copenhagen, Manchester, London, Glasgow,

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Speaker 1: New Zurich, Vienna. I've never ever been to Vienna, Berlin,

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Speaker 1: Barcelona and Lisbon.

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Speaker 2: I'm coming abroad. Is abroad that sounds like fun.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go see I I know I want to

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Speaker 1: go see me abroad and there there, I'll be there.

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Speaker 2: I'll be excellent. Do you want advice from Chelsea?

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01:00:19,200 --> 01:00:22,920
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