1 00:00:01,880 --> 00:00:05,359 Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast. 2 00:00:06,760 --> 00:00:10,040 Speaker 1: Hey girl, Hi Kramer, that's just us. Kat is at 3 00:00:10,039 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 1: the beach. How you feeling. Are you coming back yet? 4 00:00:14,600 --> 00:00:14,800 Speaker 1: You know? 5 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:18,480 Speaker 2: I had therapy today and I was just like, Amy, 6 00:00:18,760 --> 00:00:22,200 Speaker 2: I just feel so tired. My body is so tired. 7 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:25,599 Speaker 2: I had no idea that it was daylight savings. Oh yeah, 8 00:00:25,640 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 2: it happened the other week. 9 00:00:27,120 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 1: And our kids are still at ages where that hour is. 10 00:00:29,800 --> 00:00:31,680 Speaker 2: But it was so crazy to me because I'm like, 11 00:00:31,720 --> 00:00:35,879 Speaker 2: I didn't I was like, gosh, Roman's really sleeping. No, 12 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:38,720 Speaker 2: he was sleeping because we lost an hour, so like 13 00:00:38,840 --> 00:00:41,879 Speaker 2: we usually he's up at seven, but I'm like, you know, 14 00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:44,440 Speaker 2: so I set my alarm for seven and then I'm like, 15 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:46,400 Speaker 2: he's still sleeping at seven thirty, you know. 16 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:47,760 Speaker 1: And then you didn't know what to do with her. 17 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:49,440 Speaker 2: I know, well, I mean I had to wake him up, 18 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:51,360 Speaker 2: right because I'm like I was going to ask what 19 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:52,919 Speaker 2: you do, I'm a waker, wake up. 20 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:53,559 Speaker 1: I let him. 21 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:55,440 Speaker 2: I let him sleep until seven thirty and then it's 22 00:00:55,480 --> 00:00:57,480 Speaker 2: like I gotta wake him up. Yeah, it's going to 23 00:00:57,560 --> 00:01:00,279 Speaker 2: ruin the whole thing. Yeah, and have time and everything. 24 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 1: I know, and we have our lives so scheduled down 25 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:06,760 Speaker 1: to those little breaks, yes, and those bedtimes. Yeah. I 26 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:09,240 Speaker 1: was not a really strict bedtimer until I had the baby, 27 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:13,240 Speaker 1: and with three and alone, I'm like, okay, we have that, 28 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:16,600 Speaker 1: we are on a schedule. I'm getting tougher and tougher 29 00:01:16,680 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 1: to budge actually, but really, I know, does that surprise you? 30 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:20,679 Speaker 1: It does? 31 00:01:20,800 --> 00:01:25,840 Speaker 2: And I'm actually getting less No, yeah with that, Like 32 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:28,760 Speaker 2: I'm I'm I'm more just like like Jolie is like, Mom, 33 00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:31,120 Speaker 2: can we I'm like, yeah, sure, yeah, I'm not. 34 00:01:31,200 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 1: I mean, I get it stricter for me. He's Roman, 35 00:01:34,880 --> 00:01:37,600 Speaker 1: He's he's in bed. I'm done. Yeah. Like it's the 36 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:40,040 Speaker 1: bigs that I'm being a lot more lenient with. Well, 37 00:01:40,040 --> 00:01:42,800 Speaker 1: they're also getting into such fun ages. Yeah, and older too, 38 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 1: and like the talks are different and the questions are different, 39 00:01:45,640 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 1: and I kind of like, I think because we do 40 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:50,600 Speaker 1: have such a gay age gap you and I with them, 41 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:54,280 Speaker 1: that like we appreciate even these more mature conversations differently 42 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:58,040 Speaker 1: because we are in Toddlerville so often. M hm, but 43 00:01:58,120 --> 00:02:00,640 Speaker 1: that is wild. Sweet Roman was like, whoa when my 44 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:02,760 Speaker 1: late wait late for work mom is waking me up. 45 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 2: I know, I know, but no, I just feel like 46 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:07,960 Speaker 2: I think I'm just I need I need my period 47 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:10,440 Speaker 2: to start. It's been a month that it's like the 48 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:12,280 Speaker 2: entire month of February just didn't come. 49 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:14,519 Speaker 1: So what do we think I'll do it? I know. 50 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:17,280 Speaker 2: I texted Nate and was just like, hey, I don't 51 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 2: know what's gone. He says, sometimes when you have the flu, 52 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:24,080 Speaker 2: your body does something weird with the hormones. So he's like, 53 00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:26,120 Speaker 2: unless you're pregnant, and I'm like, you have to have 54 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:27,920 Speaker 2: sex too, because I'm like, I've been sick, like we 55 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:30,240 Speaker 2: really haven't had, you know. And then I was quarantining 56 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:31,880 Speaker 2: away from him because he was sick. So it's like, 57 00:02:32,360 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 2: you know, it's I'm like, I'm definitely not pregnant, but 58 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:38,680 Speaker 2: I'm like I would like something, you know. I don't know, 59 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:40,799 Speaker 2: I would just well. But I was also much time 60 00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 2: with therapist too. I was like, I'm so sorry, Amy. 61 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:45,160 Speaker 2: I was like, I'm so tired, and she goes, you 62 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 2: don't ever have to apologize for how you show up here. 63 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 2: This is the one place where you don't need to 64 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:51,520 Speaker 2: turn it on. You don't need to pretend to be energized. 65 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:53,680 Speaker 2: I said, I know, but I want to be energized, 66 00:02:53,720 --> 00:02:57,440 Speaker 2: and my body is just kind of like like, I'm 67 00:02:57,520 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 2: just tired, and I think it's just because I'm just 68 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:02,040 Speaker 2: coming off of a moon. I had the flu. Alan 69 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:04,560 Speaker 2: and I are going away for three nights, which we 70 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:07,839 Speaker 2: haven't had I can't even tell you, Like we went 71 00:03:08,400 --> 00:03:12,360 Speaker 2: to Mexico, but that was with Roman and the last 72 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:14,880 Speaker 2: time we were in the Bahamas and it was the 73 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 2: one day, so i haven't really had time together and 74 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 2: so I'm really looking forward to that. But at the 75 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:23,160 Speaker 2: same time, I'm just like, maybe my body knows that 76 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:26,120 Speaker 2: it's it has a rest right now, because when when 77 00:03:26,120 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 2: I'm filming, it's just so go, go go in fourteen 78 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:31,040 Speaker 2: hour days and then you know, the flu and being 79 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:33,280 Speaker 2: sick took so much out of me. But there's something 80 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:34,960 Speaker 2: too in me that I'm like, is something else wrong? 81 00:03:35,320 --> 00:03:38,560 Speaker 1: No, No, And it's weird because I have actually felt 82 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:42,040 Speaker 1: I have felt the lull and I felt very emotional. Yeah, 83 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 1: I got ambushed by my period five days early, so 84 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:48,200 Speaker 1: that's tricky. I'm coming off of pogesterone because my body 85 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 1: is actually doing a good job of kind of making 86 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 1: its own right now, which I I feel like I 87 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:55,880 Speaker 1: finally got into this. Nate had me taking it day 88 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:59,040 Speaker 1: sixteen through twenty eight, and then when I would stop it, 89 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:00,960 Speaker 1: within two days i'd have a period, and it felt 90 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 1: a little nice and lovely to be able to predict 91 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:06,440 Speaker 1: when that was going to happen. And so this time 92 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 1: I've just felt like very tired, very emotional. I was 93 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:13,520 Speaker 1: relieved because I was ravenously eating, you know, like well, 94 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:15,680 Speaker 1: you know the type where you're eating and while you're eating, 95 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:17,240 Speaker 1: you're thinking about what you're eating next. It was like 96 00:04:17,279 --> 00:04:18,840 Speaker 1: that for a full day, and I'm like, this is 97 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:22,960 Speaker 1: very like pre menstrual feeling, but I shouldn't be yet. Anyways, 98 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 1: I have felt this tired. I didn't know if it 99 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 1: was like February. It's the state of the world. It's 100 00:04:28,360 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: you know, like all the things we're inundated with. But 101 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:34,080 Speaker 1: I do think there's something too, probably like spring hasn't 102 00:04:34,080 --> 00:04:36,680 Speaker 1: completely sprung here and it keeps teasing us and we 103 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:38,680 Speaker 1: get like seventy degree days and eighty and I know 104 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:40,440 Speaker 1: our northern friends have been in the thick of it. 105 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 1: They're still getting snow. So everyone is a little weary 106 00:04:44,200 --> 00:04:46,039 Speaker 1: this time of year. So I think three days is 107 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 1: going to be magic for you, yeah, sunshine, and I 108 00:04:49,440 --> 00:04:50,359 Speaker 1: am looking forward to it. 109 00:04:50,440 --> 00:04:55,640 Speaker 2: Having said that, though, I it's Mexico, so everyone's but 110 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:58,240 Speaker 2: there's some things going on in Port of Arta. But 111 00:04:58,320 --> 00:04:59,960 Speaker 2: I mean I keep looking at the plane, I keep 112 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:01,560 Speaker 2: go on to the things and going, all right, there's 113 00:05:01,600 --> 00:05:02,280 Speaker 2: other people. 114 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:03,520 Speaker 1: Flying there all the time. 115 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:07,680 Speaker 2: And I called my brother, he's in the FBI, and 116 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:10,279 Speaker 2: I'm like, can you tell me anything. He's like, I can't, 117 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:10,800 Speaker 2: and I'm like. 118 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:15,000 Speaker 1: Come on, blink twice. If I'm to go, he's just 119 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:16,799 Speaker 1: gonna it's a heightened risk. But like, yeah, you should 120 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 1: be fine. 121 00:05:17,279 --> 00:05:20,120 Speaker 2: Oh, I'm like, okay, okay, don't you know me well 122 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:21,760 Speaker 2: enough to tell them? So now I'm like a heightened risk. 123 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:24,480 Speaker 2: I'm like, so, but you known't. I think if it 124 00:05:24,600 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 2: was super unsafe, obviously I wouldn't be going to Port 125 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:32,120 Speaker 2: of Arta right now. Correct, Yeah, agreed. But kan Kun's 126 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 2: on the other side of the country. So it's like saying, 127 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:37,000 Speaker 2: don't go to if California is burning, you can still 128 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:37,599 Speaker 2: go to New York. 129 00:05:37,839 --> 00:05:39,840 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know, And California was burning 130 00:05:39,960 --> 00:05:41,920 Speaker 1: one point and we did go to New York, so right, yeah, 131 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 1: but I don't know. It's a wild time. 132 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:46,320 Speaker 2: I just am like I really need sun, I think, 133 00:05:46,480 --> 00:05:48,240 Speaker 2: and just relax and. 134 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:50,520 Speaker 1: Full sensory, Like you know, the ocean is like one 135 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:53,479 Speaker 1: of the four very rare spaces that you get full 136 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:57,600 Speaker 1: sensory and it's supposed to be very resetting for your 137 00:05:57,640 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 1: like whole nervous system. So I think that's gonna be great. 138 00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:02,240 Speaker 2: I'm just excited for the time with my husband. You 139 00:06:02,400 --> 00:06:04,800 Speaker 2: really need that time. I always feel this. I feel 140 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:08,080 Speaker 2: this every anywhere in March, but like February, where it's 141 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:12,480 Speaker 2: just there's sickness, there's disconnection and then you know, so 142 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:15,359 Speaker 2: I really look forward to even just the three nights 143 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:18,320 Speaker 2: of connecting and being with him. 144 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:23,080 Speaker 1: So we have been on a very we're in like 145 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:25,920 Speaker 1: I would say at least week two or three, which 146 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:28,760 Speaker 1: lines up with when I got sick of disconnection feeling, 147 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 1: and like it's getting more and more heightened. I can 148 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:34,080 Speaker 1: tell the worse. And it's not we're not arguing, but 149 00:06:34,120 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 1: we're also just not like lovey with each other. And 150 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 1: it's funny because he left this morning and then I 151 00:06:39,440 --> 00:06:42,280 Speaker 1: called him to chat with him about something else, and 152 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:44,799 Speaker 1: we ended up talking on the phone for twenty minutes 153 00:06:44,839 --> 00:06:46,320 Speaker 1: and he's like well, I'm just going to leave every 154 00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:48,919 Speaker 1: day at ten thirty and then I'll call you. And 155 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:50,280 Speaker 1: I said, but do you realize when you're on the 156 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:53,159 Speaker 1: phone with me, no one can call you. So the 157 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:57,279 Speaker 1: connection we're having is because I'm occupying your phone. And 158 00:06:57,320 --> 00:06:58,880 Speaker 1: I said, I'm just going to leave that there and 159 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:00,720 Speaker 1: I'm going to go let you get a massage, which 160 00:07:00,760 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 1: is what he was doing. And I said, you go 161 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 1: do that and just think about what I just said 162 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 1: to you. You think about that while you're in a room. 163 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:11,080 Speaker 1: But I was like, that's really what this is. It's 164 00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:13,120 Speaker 1: like we're constantly interrupted. I mean, we were trying to 165 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:15,800 Speaker 1: talk about plans with the kids and we wanted to 166 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:17,760 Speaker 1: surprise them and do an overnight just something cute and 167 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 1: like a little close to home, like local Chattanooga ish 168 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:23,680 Speaker 1: and and you know, they have opinions. They're big kids now, 169 00:07:23,720 --> 00:07:25,560 Speaker 1: like we just said, so they're like, well, I don't 170 00:07:25,600 --> 00:07:27,000 Speaker 1: and I was like, I don't. When are we even 171 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:29,400 Speaker 1: going to talk about this? Like we have three magnets 172 00:07:29,440 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 1: all of the time, always stuck to us and I 173 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:35,560 Speaker 1: love it. And also we can't talk about anything. I mean, 174 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:38,280 Speaker 1: I've been wanting to ask him, what are your thoughts 175 00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:40,680 Speaker 1: around having the sex talk with love. We haven't even 176 00:07:40,720 --> 00:07:44,040 Speaker 1: gotten we can't even get there. Yeah, so it's a lot. 177 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:47,520 Speaker 1: It is. It's a lot of disconnection in February March, 178 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 1: and we need to connect now because I feel like 179 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:52,440 Speaker 1: in our industries the busy season starts. 180 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 2: I agree with you, And there's something too. I was 181 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 2: talking to a friend of mine the other night because 182 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:00,640 Speaker 2: I'm having you know how like they said the snake 183 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:06,360 Speaker 2: was last year, I'm like a delayed shudder. Okay, so 184 00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:10,760 Speaker 2: there's things that I am just feeling in my soul 185 00:08:10,880 --> 00:08:15,880 Speaker 2: that I'm when it comes to like my team and 186 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:19,240 Speaker 2: people around me, it's like if you're not fighting for me, 187 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:23,360 Speaker 2: like I don't want you on my team. And I'll 188 00:08:23,360 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 2: speak more to that later because I'm kind of still 189 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:28,600 Speaker 2: like praying about it and just going through a few 190 00:08:28,600 --> 00:08:32,760 Speaker 2: things just because I'm really I'm at kind of a crossroads. 191 00:08:33,240 --> 00:08:35,679 Speaker 2: And again I'm still not like emotionally ready to talk 192 00:08:35,720 --> 00:08:39,240 Speaker 2: about certain things. But when I get there, I'll be 193 00:08:39,280 --> 00:08:42,160 Speaker 2: more clear about it. But I do feel like there's 194 00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:45,320 Speaker 2: this piece within it. Because I was telling Amy that's 195 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:48,520 Speaker 2: what I was speaking with. I was like, I've got 196 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:50,400 Speaker 2: things on the side I go, but the left side 197 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:53,360 Speaker 2: of it is like there's something so I'm so excited about, 198 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:55,960 Speaker 2: Like family is so good right now, relationship is so good, 199 00:08:56,320 --> 00:08:59,840 Speaker 2: And I said, I'm really trying to be intentional of 200 00:08:59,840 --> 00:09:02,120 Speaker 2: this ages of my kids right now and the memories 201 00:09:02,600 --> 00:09:06,360 Speaker 2: and making sure I'm present with them. So something is 202 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:09,160 Speaker 2: happening next week that we get to announce, and I'm 203 00:09:09,160 --> 00:09:12,959 Speaker 2: so excited for just like family and friends and yes 204 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:16,880 Speaker 2: for the peace that like we do deserve in those moments. 205 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:18,960 Speaker 2: So I'm just really looking forward to that because I'm like, 206 00:09:19,080 --> 00:09:23,040 Speaker 2: I need more. Life is just going by so fast. 207 00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:25,000 Speaker 2: I even like I look at photos and the kids 208 00:09:25,000 --> 00:09:28,120 Speaker 2: and I'm just like, I don't want to just be 209 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:31,520 Speaker 2: so focused on work that I'm missing the mark and 210 00:09:31,559 --> 00:09:33,679 Speaker 2: missing the memories with the kids. 211 00:09:33,760 --> 00:09:37,840 Speaker 1: I feel lately. I'm really it's so we're always in 212 00:09:37,880 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 1: such similar seasons, but because we have to grind. That's 213 00:09:41,640 --> 00:09:44,080 Speaker 1: the thing where it's like we have to like I'm 214 00:09:44,280 --> 00:09:47,439 Speaker 1: the you know, I'm soule provider. I mean Alan obviously 215 00:09:48,640 --> 00:09:50,960 Speaker 1: helps as well, very much so where he works his 216 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:52,320 Speaker 1: ass off, but I mean when it comes to the 217 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:54,800 Speaker 1: other my bigs, you know, like yes, paying Hilts for 218 00:09:54,880 --> 00:09:58,079 Speaker 1: I have a lot of things like that, and I'm 219 00:09:58,120 --> 00:10:01,400 Speaker 1: working so hard that I again, I'm not enjoying the 220 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: hard work. Preston has felt this a lot lately because 221 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:10,400 Speaker 1: he's our breadwinner and he misses a lot, like a lot, 222 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:13,080 Speaker 1: and I can tell it's wearing on him. Like we've 223 00:10:13,080 --> 00:10:16,680 Speaker 1: talked about we can pin this for a later time too, 224 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:18,920 Speaker 1: maybe when it's more official. But we've gone into like 225 00:10:18,960 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 1: a different avenue altogether of business with the other half 226 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:25,000 Speaker 1: of the duo, and just like all of us going 227 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:27,040 Speaker 1: like what's the longevity here and how can we have 228 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:30,280 Speaker 1: more of time with each other? But it is interesting 229 00:10:30,280 --> 00:10:32,520 Speaker 1: because I, you know, I've done my own podcast for 230 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:35,320 Speaker 1: six years and I haven't been in the studio doing 231 00:10:35,320 --> 00:10:37,960 Speaker 1: that since August, and I'm like, do I want to 232 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:39,400 Speaker 1: do that? Like I feel like I need to do that. 233 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:40,960 Speaker 1: It's like the air that I breathe. Like if I 234 00:10:40,960 --> 00:10:44,200 Speaker 1: didn't have this, I think I would just be in 235 00:10:44,240 --> 00:10:46,120 Speaker 1: a ball in the corner, you know, like there's no 236 00:10:46,160 --> 00:10:48,199 Speaker 1: place really where I get to go just be an individual. 237 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:51,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, and all that's what our souls are craving is 238 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:54,560 Speaker 2: so much. So Yeah, But to. 239 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:57,320 Speaker 1: Your point, it's like, but we are in such like 240 00:10:57,400 --> 00:11:00,520 Speaker 1: I look even just this morning, like everyone's running like 241 00:11:00,760 --> 00:11:04,520 Speaker 1: lions in a nightgown this morning for jelly shoes in 242 00:11:04,520 --> 00:11:07,520 Speaker 1: a nightgown, running outside and screaming degie, degie, you know. 243 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:10,880 Speaker 1: And I'm like, we are in the absolute sweet spot 244 00:11:10,920 --> 00:11:13,600 Speaker 1: of life and I don't want to miss it because 245 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:16,839 Speaker 1: I'm chasing some things. And I know we've talked all 246 00:11:17,000 --> 00:11:19,520 Speaker 1: We've talked a lot about that here anyways, just the balance, 247 00:11:19,600 --> 00:11:23,240 Speaker 1: but man, it is like I wish I've been praying 248 00:11:23,280 --> 00:11:25,400 Speaker 1: for more just clarity. But like to your point, like 249 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:26,840 Speaker 1: I even said, depressing their day, I was like, can 250 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 1: you imagine if I had a team fighting for me? 251 00:11:28,559 --> 00:11:32,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, but because I don't want to work so I 252 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:34,959 Speaker 2: need that. I feel like I'm on a hamster wheel 253 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:37,360 Speaker 2: for myself, yes, and I want the right people around 254 00:11:37,400 --> 00:11:40,440 Speaker 2: me to let me slow down a bit and I 255 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:43,959 Speaker 2: will also, I think this is a really important piece 256 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:48,200 Speaker 2: of your world and his world that people don't fully 257 00:11:48,280 --> 00:11:51,360 Speaker 2: know behind the scenes, where it's like you can be 258 00:11:51,559 --> 00:11:54,079 Speaker 2: as talented as you can be, but if there aren't 259 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:58,120 Speaker 2: people talking about great behind your back in those rooms 260 00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:01,480 Speaker 2: and fighting for you, and your talent doesn't have places 261 00:12:01,520 --> 00:12:03,840 Speaker 2: to plug in because you can't do it all yourself. Yeah, 262 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:07,360 Speaker 2: it's exhausting, it's a lot, and funny enough, that's not 263 00:12:07,440 --> 00:12:07,960 Speaker 2: my wine. 264 00:12:08,280 --> 00:12:12,240 Speaker 1: Oh well, well then just let's move right into wine. 265 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:17,280 Speaker 2: Because I am I'm really upset. Like I I know 266 00:12:17,440 --> 00:12:20,600 Speaker 2: this sounds silly what I'm about to say, but I 267 00:12:20,640 --> 00:12:22,240 Speaker 2: am devastated. 268 00:12:22,520 --> 00:12:26,560 Speaker 1: Oh devastated, devastated. I feel nervous. Listen. 269 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:31,720 Speaker 2: I take all the supplements, I work hard to work 270 00:12:31,760 --> 00:12:34,480 Speaker 2: out and take care of my body, and I eat 271 00:12:34,640 --> 00:12:38,160 Speaker 2: amazing ninety nine point nine percent of the time. You know, 272 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:40,560 Speaker 2: I'm very mindful of what I put in my body 273 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:42,600 Speaker 2: because I know how it affects me my gut. 274 00:12:42,720 --> 00:12:44,240 Speaker 1: La. You are a bit of a creature in that way. 275 00:12:44,280 --> 00:12:46,560 Speaker 1: I'll say, you're not a cheat day kind of gal. 276 00:12:46,880 --> 00:12:50,600 Speaker 2: No, but there is something every day, oh no, that 277 00:12:50,679 --> 00:12:54,200 Speaker 2: I cheat every single day. It is just my one 278 00:12:54,280 --> 00:12:58,120 Speaker 2: thing that is not great for me. I'm aware, but 279 00:12:58,240 --> 00:13:05,000 Speaker 2: it's the one thing that gave me the endorphin buzz. 280 00:13:05,440 --> 00:13:09,000 Speaker 2: It was my greatest ten minute drive. Sometimes it used 281 00:13:09,000 --> 00:13:09,760 Speaker 2: to be dropped at. 282 00:13:09,640 --> 00:13:13,560 Speaker 1: My door, oh no, but it was every single day, 283 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:18,239 Speaker 1: and it has been ripped from my hands. So dramatic 284 00:13:18,280 --> 00:13:22,400 Speaker 1: now that I know what we're talking about, and I'm devastated. 285 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:27,280 Speaker 1: You know what it is? Frame or tell the people 286 00:13:27,320 --> 00:13:32,760 Speaker 1: they're not ready truly like. And I think that's one 287 00:13:32,800 --> 00:13:36,680 Speaker 1: of the reasons why I'm so like, you don't even 288 00:13:36,679 --> 00:13:37,520 Speaker 1: get that anymore. 289 00:13:37,720 --> 00:13:40,760 Speaker 2: I don't get because I'm like, how do where do 290 00:13:40,840 --> 00:13:41,200 Speaker 2: I get it? 291 00:13:41,240 --> 00:13:45,760 Speaker 1: Now? Starbucks, they have created a codependency. 292 00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:50,839 Speaker 2: Starbucks change their chaie recipe, and it is disgusting. 293 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 1: Why are we trying to fix things that aren't broken? Stars? 294 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:54,840 Speaker 1: I don't care if. 295 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:57,200 Speaker 2: You've got a lawsuit for how bad it is or what, 296 00:13:57,480 --> 00:14:03,760 Speaker 2: or or if it's it's it's my one thing. It's 297 00:14:03,840 --> 00:14:06,880 Speaker 2: my caffeine jowel. I don't drink coffee. I don't like coffee. 298 00:14:06,880 --> 00:14:08,800 Speaker 2: I don't drink coffee. It has too much caffeine for 299 00:14:08,920 --> 00:14:12,400 Speaker 2: my anxious heart. So I stopped when I was nineteen. 300 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:16,600 Speaker 2: I that was just that's it, my chi an overly 301 00:14:16,679 --> 00:14:21,000 Speaker 2: sweetened chi. No, it's gone, I asked. The other day, 302 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:25,080 Speaker 2: I said hi to the sweet berries. 303 00:14:24,920 --> 00:14:28,440 Speaker 1: Stu sweet beerries. Is like, I had no idea what 304 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:29,920 Speaker 1: was going to happen to me? When I clocked in 305 00:14:29,960 --> 00:14:32,000 Speaker 1: this morning and tied on a green apron. 306 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:35,360 Speaker 2: I said hello, like name for the russel for the order, 307 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 2: I always say Russell, But I say, is there any 308 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:42,840 Speaker 2: way you can make the original chai not the new one? 309 00:14:43,560 --> 00:14:48,600 Speaker 2: And they're like no, unfortunately, it's a completely different just recipe. 310 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:51,280 Speaker 2: And I'm like not even like you can't like put 311 00:14:51,320 --> 00:14:53,960 Speaker 2: like ten pumps of something or yeah. 312 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:56,120 Speaker 1: Can take some in your lab like yeah, like yeah, 313 00:14:56,200 --> 00:14:57,080 Speaker 1: the pumps for everything. 314 00:14:57,120 --> 00:14:59,000 Speaker 2: I've seen the receipts of people pump in this not 315 00:14:59,200 --> 00:15:02,160 Speaker 2: the whatever pump and they're like no, And I was 316 00:15:02,200 --> 00:15:03,600 Speaker 2: just like, They're like, would you like anything else? 317 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:06,200 Speaker 1: And I said no, a refund on the last ten 318 00:15:06,280 --> 00:15:09,240 Speaker 1: years of my life Starbucks. I'm devastated. So I don't 319 00:15:09,280 --> 00:15:11,520 Speaker 1: know what to do. It's a concentrate they use. 320 00:15:12,640 --> 00:15:16,240 Speaker 2: And listen, if they told me it was bad, well listen, no, no. 321 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:19,040 Speaker 1: So it's a concentrate they use. Because I've bought it, 322 00:15:20,720 --> 00:15:24,960 Speaker 1: I might be able to help you at least taper 323 00:15:25,640 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 1: without going through with your all's cold turkey. Listen. 324 00:15:27,800 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 2: I am so proud of the movements that are happening. 325 00:15:30,600 --> 00:15:32,280 Speaker 2: You know, I follow a food babe and all you know, 326 00:15:32,320 --> 00:15:35,560 Speaker 2: all those peeps, and I am not one to give 327 00:15:35,600 --> 00:15:38,960 Speaker 2: my kids candy. We don't have any processed foods. All 328 00:15:39,000 --> 00:15:42,040 Speaker 2: our snacks are all non gmo. Like it's we are 329 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:45,040 Speaker 2: crunchy over here. Okay, there are times when they bring 330 00:15:45,120 --> 00:15:48,600 Speaker 2: home of Valentine's candy or whatever. We have them for 331 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:50,440 Speaker 2: a week. That's kind of the rule that it's gone, 332 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:53,080 Speaker 2: or we have whole foods, cookies or whatever it is. 333 00:15:53,240 --> 00:15:57,760 Speaker 1: Right, Alan has his twigs. That's his thing. Okay, I'm sorry, 334 00:15:58,000 --> 00:15:58,800 Speaker 1: Alan has twigs. 335 00:15:58,840 --> 00:16:03,040 Speaker 2: That man eats so many twicks, like that's his that's 336 00:16:03,080 --> 00:16:04,520 Speaker 2: his guilty pleasure. 337 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:06,840 Speaker 1: I might not see those coming. And it's the thing 338 00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:08,640 Speaker 1: if they were to change the chocolate thing, because listen, 339 00:16:08,720 --> 00:16:11,760 Speaker 1: a twix is terrible for you, right, yeah, I'm just 340 00:16:11,800 --> 00:16:13,880 Speaker 1: also like, but then I get why people are upset, 341 00:16:13,960 --> 00:16:15,960 Speaker 1: why they're changing things to make it healthy. So I 342 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:20,440 Speaker 1: now understand why people are pissed so like they're changing things. 343 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:23,880 Speaker 1: But your concentrate wasn't bad. It probably is well, at 344 00:16:23,960 --> 00:16:26,600 Speaker 1: least the one that you can buy, the Taso Organic 345 00:16:26,960 --> 00:16:30,000 Speaker 1: Chai mix, which we can enable you at home if 346 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:31,800 Speaker 1: we I don't know. It's a lot of steps. This 347 00:16:31,840 --> 00:16:33,600 Speaker 1: is why I don't coffee anymore either, because it's just 348 00:16:33,600 --> 00:16:36,680 Speaker 1: too many steps. But people are like, ho, lazy, are 349 00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:39,240 Speaker 1: you too many steps? But to keep it clean and 350 00:16:39,280 --> 00:16:41,680 Speaker 1: not plastic and not cureing and not heated and a 351 00:16:41,840 --> 00:16:46,920 Speaker 1: la lot like. But there is that mix was not horrendous. Yeah, 352 00:16:47,000 --> 00:16:49,280 Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know what they're doing. I know 353 00:16:49,360 --> 00:16:51,400 Speaker 1: it could there could probably be a better blend. But 354 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:53,280 Speaker 1: at the same time, I'm like, can we keep some 355 00:16:53,400 --> 00:16:57,400 Speaker 1: unhealthy things? Yeah? I need to know the reason why. 356 00:16:57,480 --> 00:16:59,560 Speaker 1: That's the marketing brain. Why did we do this? Because 357 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:02,080 Speaker 1: chry Is try and didn't. Didn't Oprah have her own 358 00:17:02,160 --> 00:17:03,160 Speaker 1: version in for a while. 359 00:17:03,200 --> 00:17:06,200 Speaker 2: I'm not really sure, but I've heard that rumor as well, Yes, 360 00:17:06,240 --> 00:17:08,080 Speaker 2: that she did. I don't know what it was, but 361 00:17:08,720 --> 00:17:12,520 Speaker 2: I I just I hope. I'm pleading to the American 362 00:17:12,560 --> 00:17:15,800 Speaker 2: people right now, please call your local Starbucks and complain 363 00:17:16,600 --> 00:17:17,640 Speaker 2: so we can get it back. 364 00:17:17,760 --> 00:17:20,640 Speaker 1: I'm gonna wear devastating I'm gonna wear the conspiracy hat 365 00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:22,320 Speaker 1: because Cat's not here. I want to say how much 366 00:17:22,359 --> 00:17:25,600 Speaker 1: money I'm saving, though, because that is my brain. I'm 367 00:17:25,640 --> 00:17:28,000 Speaker 1: wondering if they take it away. 368 00:17:28,880 --> 00:17:31,199 Speaker 2: Hi Costa, isn't them in the Times at by three 369 00:17:31,320 --> 00:17:34,200 Speaker 2: hundred and sixty or whoa. 370 00:17:36,480 --> 00:17:39,200 Speaker 1: Listen? I never said I was starting college. Fun with 371 00:17:39,359 --> 00:17:42,120 Speaker 1: that money, Let's put it in a stock or something. 372 00:17:42,520 --> 00:17:45,960 Speaker 1: Five twenty five? Hey, what if I don't even want 373 00:17:45,960 --> 00:17:47,800 Speaker 1: you to tell me the total? What if this is 374 00:17:47,840 --> 00:17:50,280 Speaker 1: a big movement to make the American. 375 00:17:49,920 --> 00:17:53,000 Speaker 2: People if I've shit, I did have to google it. Sorry, 376 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:56,439 Speaker 2: I'm sorry, Cream, I know I was off by one day. 377 00:17:56,440 --> 00:17:58,440 Speaker 1: Okay, isn't well? I thought you were giving yourself a 378 00:17:58,480 --> 00:18:02,920 Speaker 1: day off because they were closed. Yeah, yeah, no, there's 379 00:18:02,960 --> 00:18:04,720 Speaker 1: I think they are open on Christmas. You wouldn't know that. 380 00:18:04,800 --> 00:18:06,880 Speaker 1: I have twenty five. What if they're taking it away 381 00:18:06,920 --> 00:18:09,720 Speaker 1: from American people so that everyone is like, we want 382 00:18:09,880 --> 00:18:13,240 Speaker 1: Chi back, we want Chi back. Ty one on the 383 00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:17,080 Speaker 1: campaign the nineteen hundred dollars, so I do like that, okay, 384 00:18:17,320 --> 00:18:20,639 Speaker 1: But what if this is a movement drive popularity, so 385 00:18:20,720 --> 00:18:23,560 Speaker 1: that marketing can swoop in and say, never mind, the 386 00:18:23,600 --> 00:18:26,399 Speaker 1: people have spoken, the og is back, and sales go 387 00:18:26,480 --> 00:18:27,040 Speaker 1: back up again. 388 00:18:28,680 --> 00:18:31,600 Speaker 2: That would be great, okay, But I really don't think 389 00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:34,200 Speaker 2: they care about my nineteen hundred dollars in a Starbucks 390 00:18:34,320 --> 00:18:35,680 Speaker 2: change because how much money do they make. 391 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:37,240 Speaker 1: There's a lot of Jannas in the world, though. 392 00:18:38,119 --> 00:18:39,760 Speaker 2: Listen, I just can't do it. Alan's like are you 393 00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:41,760 Speaker 2: really done? Like he asked me yesterday, he goes, hey, bab, 394 00:18:41,800 --> 00:18:43,840 Speaker 2: I'm ordering your Starbucks Starbucks, do you want one? 395 00:18:43,880 --> 00:18:47,919 Speaker 1: And I'm like, no, it's that bad. I don't think 396 00:18:47,960 --> 00:18:50,840 Speaker 1: there's my wine? Why change it? Keep some unhealthy things? Well, 397 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:53,119 Speaker 1: see Moore, it keeps some things original. We don't need 398 00:18:53,200 --> 00:18:56,720 Speaker 1: to change something that's not broke. Everything is changing, and 399 00:18:56,880 --> 00:18:58,440 Speaker 1: I do we don't think all of us for the better. 400 00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:00,399 Speaker 1: I think a lot of it is for the I 401 00:19:00,440 --> 00:19:04,400 Speaker 1: think it's okay to keep some crap. Crap, yeah, like twigs. 402 00:19:04,400 --> 00:19:08,359 Speaker 1: I'm still blown away. Yoh, the man shovels. You know 403 00:19:08,440 --> 00:19:11,040 Speaker 1: how clean I am and how psychotic I am? The 404 00:19:11,080 --> 00:19:13,480 Speaker 1: same with Alan and I grow a garden and I 405 00:19:13,560 --> 00:19:17,080 Speaker 1: eat my own vegetables when I can. Cadberry mini eggs, 406 00:19:17,160 --> 00:19:21,679 Speaker 1: the little tiny crunchy gusting, how crack? How I need 407 00:19:21,760 --> 00:19:25,840 Speaker 1: to rehab? Wow wild? I'm judging if they were if 408 00:19:25,920 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 1: I buy them in the house, They're going down wow 409 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:32,639 Speaker 1: weird any other season. I'm glad they're seasonal. To be 410 00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:34,359 Speaker 1: honest with them, because my kids don't like him, and 411 00:19:34,359 --> 00:19:36,160 Speaker 1: I don't like them. Not the gel, not the gross 412 00:19:36,240 --> 00:19:40,639 Speaker 1: gel filled, the tiny crunchy eminem like mini cadberry eggs. Oh, 413 00:19:41,200 --> 00:19:45,640 Speaker 1: those that change your like tongue. Maybe I can chocolate once, 414 00:19:46,200 --> 00:19:49,120 Speaker 1: like the fully chocolate with the crunchy heart. So good, okay, okay, 415 00:19:49,160 --> 00:19:49,960 Speaker 1: so good. I'm so sorry. 416 00:19:50,000 --> 00:19:51,399 Speaker 2: I thought you were talking about the bunny. No, not 417 00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:54,040 Speaker 2: the gooey or the yeah, the bunny. Yeah yeah, not 418 00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:57,560 Speaker 2: the egg year those are so good, yeah, too good? 419 00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:00,880 Speaker 1: So good? A problem, yeah, a problem. 420 00:20:14,359 --> 00:20:18,320 Speaker 2: Christina Applegate recalls offensive salary offer for akerment how Will 421 00:20:18,440 --> 00:20:22,639 Speaker 2: Ferrell intervened. She revealed that she initially made that She 422 00:20:22,800 --> 00:20:25,720 Speaker 2: was initially made a low offer to star on Anchorman 423 00:20:25,880 --> 00:20:28,880 Speaker 2: The Legend of Ron Burgundy, but the lead actor, Will 424 00:20:28,920 --> 00:20:31,080 Speaker 2: Ferrell stepped in. When they came in with the initial offer. 425 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:33,320 Speaker 2: It was a little offensive. I said, I know my worth. 426 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:36,720 Speaker 2: I can't do that, she continued. Will Ferrell and writer 427 00:20:36,840 --> 00:20:39,040 Speaker 2: director Adam McKay stepped in to ensure the movie didn't 428 00:20:39,040 --> 00:20:42,120 Speaker 2: lose Applegate as its lead actress. They wanted me bad enough, 429 00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:44,280 Speaker 2: and they said, well, we're going to chip in. Thank 430 00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:46,119 Speaker 2: god they did. She said Anchorman was one of the 431 00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:49,080 Speaker 2: best experiences of my entire life because she learned in comedy. 432 00:20:49,240 --> 00:20:51,200 Speaker 1: The chipping in part is a little tricky for me. 433 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:53,840 Speaker 1: If I'm honest, I think it's sweet that they did. 434 00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:56,520 Speaker 1: Of course, it just shouldn't have been from them. It 435 00:20:56,560 --> 00:21:00,520 Speaker 1: should have been from the financier people. That's wild because 436 00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:03,880 Speaker 1: she's a she was a big name. M already big enough. 437 00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:07,679 Speaker 1: I mean a lot of men obviously get paid more 438 00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:10,119 Speaker 1: than women. But I will say, and this is a 439 00:21:10,320 --> 00:21:16,520 Speaker 1: very very unpopular opinion, but I am okay with not 440 00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:23,480 Speaker 1: equal pay in some situations with like, for example, this 441 00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:28,119 Speaker 1: one movie that I got offered to do. Originally it 442 00:21:28,359 --> 00:21:32,679 Speaker 1: was the same offer deal where I got this amount 443 00:21:33,160 --> 00:21:35,800 Speaker 1: and the guy too, so it's the same pay. Everybody 444 00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:39,960 Speaker 1: gets one and two gets the same pay. I'm and 445 00:21:40,080 --> 00:21:44,560 Speaker 1: I told so that producer. I said, he's the guy 446 00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:46,520 Speaker 1: you're trying to reach. The two guys that you're going 447 00:21:46,560 --> 00:21:49,919 Speaker 1: off will not accept that price. I promise you. They 448 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:51,719 Speaker 1: need double that. They're like, yeah, but you guys are 449 00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:52,719 Speaker 1: same pay. 450 00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:55,480 Speaker 2: I go, I don't care. Like he has a way 451 00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:59,399 Speaker 2: bigger name than me. He deserves to be paid more interesting, okay, 452 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:04,000 Speaker 2: but he does. Like so he deserves to be paid 453 00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:08,840 Speaker 2: double of what I'm getting paid. That is really interesting. 454 00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:11,080 Speaker 2: I don't even know, Like what my next question is 455 00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:16,600 Speaker 2: because I so, how would that Well, now, if you're 456 00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:19,520 Speaker 2: you know, if you're taking like a Julia Roberts and 457 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:23,800 Speaker 2: a George Clooney, equal pay him. Yeah yeah, yeah, you're 458 00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:27,359 Speaker 2: taking people that are like big megastars, Sure that can 459 00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:28,600 Speaker 2: sell him, you know what I mean? 460 00:22:28,880 --> 00:22:30,960 Speaker 1: Like, is it because he would be able to sell 461 00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:32,240 Speaker 1: or has a bigger reach or it would be a 462 00:22:32,240 --> 00:22:34,760 Speaker 1: bigger popularity that yeah, you're a later actor than me. 463 00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:38,680 Speaker 1: But would it like for example, another movie that I'm doing, 464 00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:39,240 Speaker 1: I am. 465 00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:43,360 Speaker 2: Getting paid like a fourth and the guy that they're 466 00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:46,679 Speaker 2: going off offering to is like, you know, he's going 467 00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:49,080 Speaker 2: to work four days and he's going to get two 468 00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:51,639 Speaker 2: million dollars. Whoa, you know what I mean? 469 00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:52,240 Speaker 1: But again I. 470 00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:54,600 Speaker 2: Would never because he's a huge name, Like I would 471 00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:57,520 Speaker 2: never so but like equal pay. But like when you're 472 00:22:58,320 --> 00:23:03,960 Speaker 2: when you're Christina Applegate in I wouldn't like she should 473 00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:08,639 Speaker 2: absolutely be paid, you know, more like they're the offers 474 00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:10,800 Speaker 2: that women get is is is terrible? Like some of 475 00:23:10,840 --> 00:23:14,640 Speaker 2: the offers I've gotten, I'm like, this is this is offensive? Yeah, disrespectful, 476 00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:16,920 Speaker 2: this is this is a joke. Yeah, but I've taken 477 00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:19,119 Speaker 2: them because I'm like, well, this could be you know, 478 00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:21,760 Speaker 2: you know, be nice to get in with this producer 479 00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:24,560 Speaker 2: or well, that's my question. Still growing my career, so 480 00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:27,760 Speaker 2: if you need me do well. Aren't we always growing everything? 481 00:23:28,240 --> 00:23:30,320 Speaker 1: Isn't it? Is it? You're like, okay, so say the 482 00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:32,560 Speaker 1: movie that you're talking about where you're like, actually, he's 483 00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:36,400 Speaker 1: gonna need double So I'm okay. Not being equal does 484 00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:39,159 Speaker 1: it benefit you because there's the popularity, the movie has 485 00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:43,840 Speaker 1: a better chance and you are almost like, like Ben's 486 00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:47,440 Speaker 1: weet equity in it if yeah, like I want them 487 00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:49,440 Speaker 1: to pay someone bigger because that's going to put me 488 00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:51,600 Speaker 1: on a different lota too. Okay, that's what I'm wondering. 489 00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:53,640 Speaker 2: But me and Ben Hollingsworth we got the same pay 490 00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:56,879 Speaker 2: on the Christmas Ring and that felt fair and aligned. 491 00:23:57,080 --> 00:23:58,280 Speaker 1: Yeah I was. 492 00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:00,200 Speaker 2: I liked that and I even got you know, he 493 00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:02,719 Speaker 2: got an extra bonus if it goes to Netflix, as 494 00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:03,760 Speaker 2: he should because. 495 00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:05,160 Speaker 1: He's a Netflix guy. He's a Netflix guy. 496 00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:10,080 Speaker 2: Yeah you know so, but because you know, because we're 497 00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:12,760 Speaker 2: same pay, I also get that same because of his bonus. 498 00:24:13,119 --> 00:24:16,080 Speaker 2: So like that's cool, Sure, thanks Ben, you know, but 499 00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:19,480 Speaker 2: it's one of those things too, where it's with that 500 00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:21,320 Speaker 2: when you're kind of on the same level. 501 00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:23,960 Speaker 1: I think it's fair to be same pay. Does everyone 502 00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:25,280 Speaker 1: always know what everyone gets paid? 503 00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:31,439 Speaker 2: No, unless it's upfront with the like when you get 504 00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:33,639 Speaker 2: a deal memo, like for the Christmas Ring it was 505 00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:38,520 Speaker 2: like same pay, equal pay one and two. Okay, interesting, 506 00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:43,120 Speaker 2: So but with other things, no, like you don't, you don't, 507 00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:43,800 Speaker 2: you would not know. 508 00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:43,920 Speaker 1: No. 509 00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:45,600 Speaker 2: The only reason I know on the other ones is 510 00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:48,200 Speaker 2: because I'm in on the producer side of things, got it, 511 00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:50,600 Speaker 2: And I'm like, offer him more money. Yeah, you know 512 00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:53,560 Speaker 2: what I mean, Like, let's get don't care sure take that. 513 00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:55,159 Speaker 2: He's never going to accept that. 514 00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:58,600 Speaker 1: Yeah. And also you don't insult him either. No, then 515 00:24:58,680 --> 00:25:03,920 Speaker 1: he'll never get an entertained feeling of being insulted. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. 516 00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:06,359 Speaker 1: So I do think, you know, it's crazy, what a 517 00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:09,320 Speaker 1: world I think what it has been. 518 00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:11,840 Speaker 2: I do think women should get paid more, though I 519 00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:13,920 Speaker 2: don't like the fact that a lot of these movie, 520 00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:16,359 Speaker 2: especially those action movies, the girls get paid not like 521 00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:20,240 Speaker 2: bad the guys get all the money. And then like, 522 00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:22,119 Speaker 2: for example, I got offered to do a movie with 523 00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:26,440 Speaker 2: Richard Dreyfus and it was to go to Thailand and 524 00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:29,680 Speaker 2: it was going to be I'll just say it. It 525 00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:33,560 Speaker 2: was twenty grand for a month in Thailand, and I'm like, 526 00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:38,639 Speaker 2: I'm not leaving my family, no, for twenty grand to 527 00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:40,960 Speaker 2: go to Thailand, which I love to I would love 528 00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:42,480 Speaker 2: to go to I would love to go to Thailand 529 00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:46,879 Speaker 2: work every day for twenty grand while Richard Dreyfus is 530 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:49,720 Speaker 2: getting one point four million dollars or whatever the number was, 531 00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:50,240 Speaker 2: And I get it. 532 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:52,840 Speaker 1: He's Richard Dreyfus, I get it. No, yeah, that's not 533 00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:55,520 Speaker 1: that's game and I would love to work with him. 534 00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:58,640 Speaker 1: And does your twenty then do you know, it goes down? 535 00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:00,960 Speaker 1: So I was gonna say that percent goes away and 536 00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:03,879 Speaker 1: then twenty percent, yeah, fifteen's and then you think about it, 537 00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:06,280 Speaker 1: I'm like, well, because you're having to pay management agency 538 00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:09,680 Speaker 1: agency yep, yeah, business manager, So twenty five is gone. 539 00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:12,200 Speaker 1: That's the piece too, like the peak behind the curtain 540 00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:14,720 Speaker 1: that I think people always miss. 541 00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:14,879 Speaker 2: Like. 542 00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:18,040 Speaker 1: We go through this a lot and do a ship too, 543 00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:20,119 Speaker 1: because it's like, here's a show offer. Well that is 544 00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:23,000 Speaker 1: can be wonderful, right, but by the time we pay 545 00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:25,800 Speaker 1: twenty pay, twenty pay fifteen and then we take it 546 00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:27,959 Speaker 1: and split in half. Yeah, because of it, and then 547 00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:28,520 Speaker 1: you're spending. 548 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:31,240 Speaker 2: I knew I couldn't get my family retire, and I'm like, 549 00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,240 Speaker 2: what is I can't spend a month away from my 550 00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:34,040 Speaker 2: family And. 551 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,120 Speaker 1: Even if you could, what that would cost is insane. 552 00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:38,280 Speaker 2: So I'm like I had to say no to that, 553 00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:39,960 Speaker 2: but I did think about it because I'm like, wow, 554 00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:41,800 Speaker 2: this okay, this is a new producer and and I 555 00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:44,639 Speaker 2: love the director, and you know, I get to work 556 00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:47,240 Speaker 2: with Richard Dreyfus and that would be really fun and Okay, 557 00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:50,240 Speaker 2: then maybe that could move the needle. But then I'm like, no, 558 00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:51,560 Speaker 2: I deserve more than that. 559 00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:52,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, correct, you do. 560 00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:56,000 Speaker 2: I'm worth more than that. Yeah, And so I said no, 561 00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:59,640 Speaker 2: And they found someone who did take the twenty. That's fine, too, sure, 562 00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:02,760 Speaker 2: And but for me, I'm like I did know my 563 00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:05,080 Speaker 2: worth enough to go. I'm out, I'm not doing that. 564 00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:08,040 Speaker 2: That's right, and that that is a nice place to be. 565 00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:10,399 Speaker 2: And there was no Will Ferrell stepping in being like 566 00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:11,280 Speaker 2: I'll pay you more money. 567 00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:13,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I mean, like it's just not Will's job. 568 00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:14,600 Speaker 1: You know. 569 00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:18,680 Speaker 2: The problem is is a lot of these companies if 570 00:27:18,680 --> 00:27:20,639 Speaker 2: they if you don't have good foreign sales, it's all 571 00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:23,720 Speaker 2: about foreign sales. If you don't rank high on foreign sales, 572 00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:26,720 Speaker 2: they're not going to pay the investors will not pay more. 573 00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:30,280 Speaker 2: There's like this whole algorithm of people put in an 574 00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:32,560 Speaker 2: actor's name and they'd be like, what is their foreign 575 00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:36,840 Speaker 2: sale like quote, and if it's not high, they're not 576 00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:39,640 Speaker 2: going to pay you. What a wild world. 577 00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:42,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, but a lot of times is women are rated 578 00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:47,040 Speaker 1: low in the foreign sales. So anyways, I wish there 579 00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:49,760 Speaker 1: was an algorithm for us. For us, it's if we 580 00:27:49,800 --> 00:27:53,040 Speaker 1: don't stream, oh okay, yeah, but it's chicken her egg 581 00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:55,159 Speaker 1: because how do you stream if you can't get one thing? 582 00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:57,120 Speaker 1: But if you can't get enough downloads, then they don't 583 00:27:57,160 --> 00:28:02,680 Speaker 1: want to stream you. That about bah boo this industry. 584 00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,359 Speaker 1: Hillary Duff gets candid about how she and sister Haley 585 00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:20,440 Speaker 1: don't speak. I hope it's not forever, but it's for 586 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:22,800 Speaker 1: right now. Have you listened to her new album, I haven't. 587 00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:25,639 Speaker 1: That's going to kill Easton's heart. It is going to 588 00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:27,359 Speaker 1: kill you since heart. The only reason I've heard it 589 00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:29,800 Speaker 1: is well I heard roommate. Is it plays on my 590 00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:33,880 Speaker 1: just Good Music on Spotify? Okay, streaming, well done? 591 00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:36,520 Speaker 2: A little bit background, The musician and actress described, we 592 00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:39,560 Speaker 2: don't talk as a very vulnerable song and explain that 593 00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:41,440 Speaker 2: not being in contact with Haley is a very raw 594 00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:43,720 Speaker 2: part of my existence. I hope it's not forever, but 595 00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:45,920 Speaker 2: it's for right now. I don't know how she'll react 596 00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:47,760 Speaker 2: to it, she said, but it's a really personal part 597 00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:49,640 Speaker 2: of my life that doesn't get to stay personal, so 598 00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:51,200 Speaker 2: I might as well say how it is for me 599 00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:54,920 Speaker 2: as an experience. Hillary concluded, that's all I'm trying to do. 600 00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:57,000 Speaker 2: I'm trying to I'm not trying to say anything bad. 601 00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,120 Speaker 2: It's literally just my experience and that's really all I 602 00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:01,080 Speaker 2: feel like sharing. When you heard the song, does it 603 00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:02,760 Speaker 2: feel like a dear diary? 604 00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:04,000 Speaker 1: So I ended up did listening. 605 00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:06,400 Speaker 2: I did listen to it, and honestly, it's it's so 606 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:08,000 Speaker 2: hard for me to even speak about any of this 607 00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:12,360 Speaker 2: because I'm friends with Hailey, and I will not speak 608 00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:14,960 Speaker 2: about anything we've ever spoken about ever, because that's not 609 00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:18,080 Speaker 2: I just like, that's one thing I'm the church and state. Yeah, 610 00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:20,000 Speaker 2: I never step in in on that, So I will 611 00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:25,520 Speaker 2: speak from a side of the experience of maybe not 612 00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:28,440 Speaker 2: speaking to someone. So I'm stepping out of that because 613 00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:31,400 Speaker 2: I love Haley and I would never want to jeopardize 614 00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:33,600 Speaker 2: a friendship for a podcast conversation. 615 00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:35,680 Speaker 1: Amen, friends, you know what I mean. 616 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:41,520 Speaker 2: So stepping outside of this situation just makes me sad, 617 00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:44,160 Speaker 2: you know, for to not speak to. 618 00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:48,480 Speaker 1: To not speak to family. I mean, I get it. 619 00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:51,120 Speaker 2: I've been in those situations before where you're not speaking 620 00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:56,200 Speaker 2: to people. You also understand that I'm a big believer 621 00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:59,760 Speaker 2: in reconciliation. I think it can happen. But I also 622 00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:05,360 Speaker 2: understand where blood can hurt you. Agreed, blood can hurt you, 623 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:08,440 Speaker 2: and you don't have to reconcile just because it's family. 624 00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:09,040 Speaker 1: That's right. 625 00:30:09,160 --> 00:30:12,320 Speaker 2: So I also but but again, my heart always like 626 00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:18,200 Speaker 2: leans into one day. I believe reconcilation can happen if 627 00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:21,360 Speaker 2: two people are willing to hear sure each other out 628 00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:22,480 Speaker 2: or just. 629 00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:25,360 Speaker 1: Maybe it's a different relationship. I think it's interesting because 630 00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:27,320 Speaker 1: I think of even like love and lying, like I 631 00:30:27,600 --> 00:30:31,480 Speaker 1: didn't have a sister. I always wanted a sister, But 632 00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:34,640 Speaker 1: like I watch their connection and it is like nothing 633 00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:37,120 Speaker 1: I've ever seen before, Like it is so cool to 634 00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:40,479 Speaker 1: sit front row and watch this relationship develop. So then 635 00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:42,760 Speaker 1: I put myself in like a place of like, man, 636 00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:45,360 Speaker 1: there's two sisters that don't want to that aren't talking 637 00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:47,600 Speaker 1: like that would just break my heart. But then even 638 00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:49,760 Speaker 1: in my own world there are Staanlely members that I 639 00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:54,160 Speaker 1: don't talk to, you know, because you know, it's like 640 00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:56,800 Speaker 1: you mark yourself unsafe every time you know, you dip 641 00:30:56,840 --> 00:31:00,520 Speaker 1: a toe back in same reactions. We have a I 642 00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:03,280 Speaker 1: have something pinned for the podcast, and I would want 643 00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:05,000 Speaker 1: Au and Kat to weigh in, but I've been trying 644 00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:08,320 Speaker 1: to figure out how I would frame it so that 645 00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:10,920 Speaker 1: it doesn't become like a drama or a headliner or something. 646 00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:15,840 Speaker 1: But it's similar to this where it's like we have 647 00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:18,480 Speaker 1: these creatives, right, so there's like all these creatives in 648 00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:21,760 Speaker 1: our world that this is their therapy, Like that's her 649 00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:23,840 Speaker 1: way of getting that song, is her way of getting 650 00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:27,040 Speaker 1: these feelings out, and just like we've all lead through 651 00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:30,120 Speaker 1: writing or through words, podcasting, even you know, like we 652 00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:33,440 Speaker 1: talk about a lot here. But it's crazy because I 653 00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:37,440 Speaker 1: know she's hoping it lands somewhere that also feels beneficial 654 00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:39,520 Speaker 1: for someone that's like the art of what everybody does, 655 00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:43,760 Speaker 1: what we do or you do. But man, like it is, 656 00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:46,240 Speaker 1: it's hard when you know exactly who you're talking about. 657 00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:49,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's tough, and especially listen Haley is also 658 00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:53,040 Speaker 2: you know, she's a private, private person too, you know, 659 00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:57,800 Speaker 2: so I can't imagine how this is on her. Obviously 660 00:31:57,880 --> 00:31:59,600 Speaker 2: we speak, but I don't I don't bring that up 661 00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:00,800 Speaker 2: like I you know what I mean, Like we talk 662 00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:05,440 Speaker 2: about other other stuff. But I I will say though, 663 00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:11,320 Speaker 2: when I feel if i'm if I'm not talking to 664 00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:16,040 Speaker 2: someone and I feel this sentiment of I hope it's 665 00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:19,160 Speaker 2: not forever, but it's for right now to me that 666 00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:24,479 Speaker 2: there's a little hope in there, because it's one thing 667 00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:26,080 Speaker 2: to say I never want to speak to this person 668 00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:29,720 Speaker 2: again and then saying I hope it's not forever. So 669 00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:32,720 Speaker 2: I would just offer to Hillary just if this is 670 00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:35,160 Speaker 2: on your heart and you feel this way and you 671 00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:37,640 Speaker 2: hope it's not forever, well then maybe you should open 672 00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:39,280 Speaker 2: the door. And I don't know if she has I 673 00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:40,920 Speaker 2: have no clue, and I wonder if this is maybe 674 00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:43,320 Speaker 2: the SOS, if this is a little piece of that maybe, 675 00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:45,280 Speaker 2: but like if you hope she's that way and you 676 00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:48,880 Speaker 2: want your sister in your life, like maybe maybe pick 677 00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:52,200 Speaker 2: up maybe maybe pick up the phone, and that's the 678 00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:54,800 Speaker 2: someone's got to take the first step, you know. And 679 00:32:54,920 --> 00:32:56,520 Speaker 2: if this is you putting out there the hope. It's 680 00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:59,480 Speaker 2: not forever, it's for right now, like something is stirring 681 00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:02,200 Speaker 2: in your heart to maybe to want to be with 682 00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:05,880 Speaker 2: talk to your sisters. So it's like, and I just 683 00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:10,960 Speaker 2: if someone has that feeling in their hearts about wanting 684 00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:13,040 Speaker 2: to talk to somebody, or maybe it's a friend that 685 00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:15,480 Speaker 2: they haven't spoken to in a while, they had a 686 00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:18,560 Speaker 2: falling out and it's stirring in your heart. I always 687 00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:22,000 Speaker 2: think that's like God's way of trying to get in 688 00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:27,160 Speaker 2: to be like, have a conversation, try mend it. And 689 00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:29,000 Speaker 2: again it may never be the same, like you're saying, 690 00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:32,640 Speaker 2: but at least there's a conversation, and who knows, there 691 00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:33,840 Speaker 2: could be a beautiful next. 692 00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:37,920 Speaker 1: Do we know publicly why they're not speaking? No, okay, 693 00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:41,200 Speaker 1: I didn't know if I missed the Not that I'm savvy, 694 00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:43,960 Speaker 1: you know, but I don't know. I just lean into 695 00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:46,680 Speaker 1: the listening of the Easton Heart does want us to 696 00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:48,760 Speaker 1: know that the album is great and capital letters. He's 697 00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:52,320 Speaker 1: yelled in capslock. He's yelled in capslock. Hey, girls, I 698 00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,880 Speaker 1: need advice about my wedding. My fiance and I strongly 699 00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:57,640 Speaker 1: disagree on whether to invite one couple the girl the 700 00:33:57,680 --> 00:33:59,280 Speaker 1: couple has bullied me in the past, and we have 701 00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:01,920 Speaker 1: a really rocky friendship. We are no longer friends, but 702 00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:03,960 Speaker 1: my fiance is still friends with the guy of the couple. 703 00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,240 Speaker 1: They were friends before me and my fiance were together. 704 00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:08,359 Speaker 1: They had a wedding in March of twenty twenty five 705 00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:11,520 Speaker 1: and only invited my fiance and not me. They claimed 706 00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:14,560 Speaker 1: they did not mean to invite me, but the invitation 707 00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:16,440 Speaker 1: never made it to our house, so the guy texted 708 00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:19,560 Speaker 1: my fiance invited him. Personally, my fiance went to their 709 00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:21,520 Speaker 1: wedding and my feelings were really hurt. Fast forward to 710 00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:23,600 Speaker 1: our wedding. I told my fiance he can have his friend, 711 00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:25,960 Speaker 1: but not her, exactly as they did to me. He 712 00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:28,040 Speaker 1: wants me to grow past to invite both of them. 713 00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:29,600 Speaker 1: What do you think I should do? I really do 714 00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:31,839 Speaker 1: not want to invite her. Should make me feel self 715 00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:34,160 Speaker 1: conscious on my big day. My fiance thinks it's rude 716 00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:35,920 Speaker 1: to only invite one of them, but that's exactly what 717 00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:41,080 Speaker 1: they did to me. Well, this is a real situation. 718 00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:46,400 Speaker 2: Personally, Well, I always say it's your wedding day, so 719 00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:48,920 Speaker 2: you need to do it's best for you, and if 720 00:34:48,960 --> 00:34:51,240 Speaker 2: you don't, if this person's going to make you feel 721 00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:55,520 Speaker 2: self conscious or anything like that, or make you feel 722 00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:58,759 Speaker 2: a certain way on your wedding day, then lean into that. 723 00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:01,400 Speaker 2: But I will say if the only reason you're not 724 00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:04,200 Speaker 2: is because they didn't invite you, then I would just 725 00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:08,480 Speaker 2: say be the bigger person. And I would also say, 726 00:35:08,920 --> 00:35:10,640 Speaker 2: on your wedding day, I bet you shall be the 727 00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:13,360 Speaker 2: last person that you think about. I would agree, and 728 00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:16,560 Speaker 2: I think you should. You have ninety Let's say you're 729 00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:18,480 Speaker 2: inviting one hundred people. You got ninety nine people there, 730 00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:20,360 Speaker 2: but a bit anyone, Oh. 731 00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:25,359 Speaker 1: Well, do boot like when she gets little. 732 00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:27,719 Speaker 2: I don't even mean to do that, but I'm just saying, like, 733 00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:30,080 Speaker 2: you've got ninety nine people there that love and care 734 00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:31,720 Speaker 2: about you, that are going to make you feel beautiful. 735 00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:34,160 Speaker 2: I bet you she won't even be in your purple vision, 736 00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:36,440 Speaker 2: and you're going to be the bigger person to invite her. 737 00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:39,080 Speaker 1: That's all I got. I wonder too, if this is 738 00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:43,000 Speaker 1: to your point a topic ago a point of reconciliation, 739 00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:45,160 Speaker 1: like maybe this is an opportunity where it's like, Hey, 740 00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:48,680 Speaker 1: we're really struggling because we deeply love him and we 741 00:35:48,760 --> 00:35:51,640 Speaker 1: want him there, but I don't feel comfortable inviting you. 742 00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:54,480 Speaker 1: I think that could be like a good I just 743 00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:56,759 Speaker 1: don't I want you to be there because I know 744 00:35:56,880 --> 00:35:59,640 Speaker 1: how it feels when a fiance goes to a wedding 745 00:35:59,680 --> 00:36:03,719 Speaker 1: without mm hmm. Case in point, the last wedding, and 746 00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:06,600 Speaker 1: I really would love us to be in a different 747 00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:08,560 Speaker 1: place so that I can feel good about inviting both 748 00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:12,319 Speaker 1: of you. Yeah, I love that. Yeah, I think that's 749 00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:16,880 Speaker 1: great advice. There you go. Is that great advice? We 750 00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:19,919 Speaker 1: don't know, but that's a really driggy situation. I also 751 00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:24,279 Speaker 1: would be mad at the fiancee for going, but that's 752 00:36:24,400 --> 00:36:26,719 Speaker 1: just me. No. Also, sister, that's what I wouldn't say. 753 00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:28,520 Speaker 1: Hey girl. Also, we slide in my DMS because I 754 00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:30,120 Speaker 1: feel like we need to talk about couples counting because 755 00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:34,000 Speaker 1: anytime somebody's rolling and I'm not a part of it, disapprove. 756 00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:36,360 Speaker 1: See you next week. Bye,