1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,880 Speaker 1: Welcome to my show Money Making Conversation Masterclass. I'm your 2 00:00:02,880 --> 00:00:05,440 Speaker 1: host with Sean McDonald. I recognized that we all have 3 00:00:05,480 --> 00:00:07,960 Speaker 1: different definition of success. For you, it may be the 4 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:11,000 Speaker 1: size of your paycheck. Mine is helping or inspiring people 5 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:13,840 Speaker 1: to develop a plan to reach their dreams. It's time 6 00:00:13,840 --> 00:00:16,400 Speaker 1: to stop reading other people's success stories really and start 7 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 1: writing your own. It's really about you. You can only 8 00:00:19,320 --> 00:00:23,319 Speaker 1: exceed expectations by believing in yourself. People always talking about 9 00:00:23,400 --> 00:00:25,439 Speaker 1: purpose or gifts you he you read it and see 10 00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:27,479 Speaker 1: it all the time on social media. If you have 11 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 1: a gift, leave with your gift and don't let your friends, family, 12 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 1: especially co workers stop you from planning or living your dream. 13 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 1: My guest is Don Benjamin. He's an actor, model, producer, 14 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:40,479 Speaker 1: and recording artist. He got his start in Hollywood, as 15 00:00:40,520 --> 00:00:43,440 Speaker 1: they say, the Big Age Hollywood, by being selected as 16 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:47,040 Speaker 1: a contestant in America's Next Top Model. This kicked off 17 00:00:47,040 --> 00:00:50,160 Speaker 1: a very busy TV career with appearances on Scared Famous, 18 00:00:50,159 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 1: While They and Out, Growing Up, Hip Hop and One Ten, 19 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:57,320 Speaker 1: among others. Most recently done, co Creative executive produced and 20 00:00:57,400 --> 00:01:01,959 Speaker 1: Start in the Future film not the one in the Features. 21 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:04,760 Speaker 1: It was just currently streaming on Amazon Plus, Sword and 22 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:07,959 Speaker 1: BT plus. Please work with the Money Making Conversation Masterclass, 23 00:01:08,640 --> 00:01:12,000 Speaker 1: my man, the one on Don Benjamin. How you doing brother? 24 00:01:12,480 --> 00:01:15,839 Speaker 1: Going on? Man, thank you for having me? You just done? Okay? 25 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 1: First of all, you know, let's just get the elephant 26 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:19,200 Speaker 1: out of the room. You're good looking, dude. You're a 27 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:22,920 Speaker 1: good looking dude. Man. Come on, let let's go, come on, 28 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:26,119 Speaker 1: let's go be real man, because I'll tell you something. Man. 29 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:28,600 Speaker 1: I was. I was. I was young like you. Man. 30 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 1: I'm telling someone. I go into the club, Doug and 31 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:34,560 Speaker 1: I was working it. I was working it. Did somebody 32 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:38,679 Speaker 1: like you coming to club done? Oh boy? I was 33 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:43,320 Speaker 1: mad as heck with a Don benchman walked in the club, man, 34 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:47,400 Speaker 1: Because I bring that up because you know, if you 35 00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 1: talk about that in your book, you talk about that 36 00:01:49,440 --> 00:01:52,480 Speaker 1: club life, running in there with your boys, telling everybody 37 00:01:52,480 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 1: you with little Wayne, management, record artists and all that stuff. 38 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:59,120 Speaker 1: Because that young life, man, it's really uh when you 39 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 1: think about it. When you look back. I look back 40 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:03,120 Speaker 1: at my life, I go so a lot of it 41 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 1: was stupid, but a lot of it was just done spontaneously, 42 00:02:07,440 --> 00:02:10,160 Speaker 1: and you write about it in your book because you know, 43 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:13,800 Speaker 1: sometimes it's a blur. Yeah, it's it's a blur, you know. 44 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:15,919 Speaker 1: And then that that blur. And I think that when 45 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:18,959 Speaker 1: you started writing a book, the book kind of gave 46 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:21,720 Speaker 1: you some clarity because you start remembering things you actually 47 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:26,440 Speaker 1: forgot talk about. Yeah, I mean, you know, I feel 48 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:28,480 Speaker 1: like a lot of times it is a blur. We're 49 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:32,000 Speaker 1: just moving and pattern, we're moving in habit and we 50 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:35,400 Speaker 1: don't even realize what we're doing until. You know, a 51 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:38,120 Speaker 1: lot of times it takes something in life to kind 52 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:39,960 Speaker 1: of shake you up, and then you got to kind 53 00:02:39,960 --> 00:02:42,480 Speaker 1: of take a look at how you've been maneuvering. And 54 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:44,920 Speaker 1: for me, you know, I was shaking up, and I 55 00:02:44,960 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 1: was like, do I like how I was maneuvering? Do 56 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:49,480 Speaker 1: I like certain things that I was doing is just 57 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:53,480 Speaker 1: leading me to the man that I really want to be? Um, 58 00:02:53,520 --> 00:02:55,960 Speaker 1: you know. And and sometimes this happens for people in 59 00:02:56,000 --> 00:03:00,959 Speaker 1: their twenties, thirties, forties, sixties, you know. But for me, 60 00:03:01,720 --> 00:03:05,360 Speaker 1: it happened in my early thirties, and and you know, 61 00:03:05,440 --> 00:03:06,960 Speaker 1: I was just kind of looking at the way I 62 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:10,000 Speaker 1: was maneuver and I felt like I was just maneuvering 63 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:13,520 Speaker 1: out of generational curses. I was maneuvering based off of 64 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:16,480 Speaker 1: things that I had seen around me, and I didn't 65 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:19,560 Speaker 1: really like some of the things I was doing. And uh, 66 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:21,400 Speaker 1: you know when you're in your twenties and you're like, oh, 67 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:24,520 Speaker 1: this is all fun and games, but a lot of 68 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:27,960 Speaker 1: people don't know how to break and transition. And I 69 00:03:27,960 --> 00:03:30,600 Speaker 1: feel like life is about chapters and and you have 70 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:32,959 Speaker 1: to know how to move into a chapter that's gonna 71 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:36,520 Speaker 1: better yourself instead of just doing the same thing continuously. 72 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 1: And so for me, you know, writing My Truth, I 73 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 1: was able to kind of reflect on things that I 74 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:46,160 Speaker 1: did like about myself and things that I did not 75 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:49,640 Speaker 1: like about myself, and you know what I can do 76 00:03:49,840 --> 00:03:52,680 Speaker 1: to amp up the things that I do like about 77 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 1: myself and change up some things that I didn't like 78 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 1: about myself and and start to try new things. And 79 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:01,440 Speaker 1: so it was the for me writing it was like 80 00:04:01,480 --> 00:04:04,880 Speaker 1: a therapy session in itself. Uh, you know, because I 81 00:04:04,920 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 1: was able to like really you know, reflecting and grow 82 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:13,600 Speaker 1: and and and now hold myself accountable to be this person, 83 00:04:13,680 --> 00:04:16,479 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, And so um, it's really 84 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 1: it was really a powerful time of my life and 85 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:22,679 Speaker 1: really really transforming. For sure. I'm talking to Don Benjamin 86 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:25,159 Speaker 1: this book and with discussion right now, it's called My Truth. 87 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:28,800 Speaker 1: It is an honest um all this storytelling, you know 88 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:30,839 Speaker 1: when you're talking about it, because sometimes when you do 89 00:04:30,960 --> 00:04:33,159 Speaker 1: these type of books, this is a memoir type book 90 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:36,280 Speaker 1: because is his story, it's documented evidence, and you gotta 91 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:39,000 Speaker 1: go and verify stuff and say, did you know don Yeah, 92 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:41,360 Speaker 1: knew dog? Did you party with dog? Y'all party with dog? 93 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:43,960 Speaker 1: Did you date done? Y'all dated dog? That's what I 94 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:46,320 Speaker 1: mean is when you start talking to My Truth. But 95 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:49,720 Speaker 1: it's in this story that that you start realizing that, 96 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:53,279 Speaker 1: you know, you may have been a jerk that part 97 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:56,640 Speaker 1: of the book, when you say that publicly, it's almost 98 00:04:56,880 --> 00:04:59,159 Speaker 1: because the person that you may have been a jerk too. 99 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:01,039 Speaker 1: And I'm not saying that a negative manner, because we 100 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:04,920 Speaker 1: all have done things were all kind of jerkish when 101 00:05:04,920 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 1: you think about our lives, because we we get selfish, 102 00:05:08,200 --> 00:05:10,359 Speaker 1: you know, we get selfish, we don't think about ourselves, 103 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:15,120 Speaker 1: and your conversation is about moving past that. Correct on. Yeah, 104 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:18,159 Speaker 1: and for me, you know, uh, when I was dealing 105 00:05:18,200 --> 00:05:20,360 Speaker 1: with you know, I dealt with a pretty public breakup 106 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:23,120 Speaker 1: with my with my girlfriend at the time, my fiance 107 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 1: at the time. And you know what, once we broke up, 108 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:28,880 Speaker 1: I was able to look back and be like, damn, 109 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:31,880 Speaker 1: you know I I may be a good person, I 110 00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:35,040 Speaker 1: may do good things for people, and I work hard, 111 00:05:35,120 --> 00:05:39,800 Speaker 1: but every relationship, you know, I've messed up on my girls, 112 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:43,359 Speaker 1: and I've continue these same patterns. And I look around 113 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:46,120 Speaker 1: and you know, you're getting pats on the back for 114 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:49,039 Speaker 1: being this so called playboy and player and you out. 115 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:54,599 Speaker 1: And for me, I was like looking for a piece 116 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:58,480 Speaker 1: of you know, guidance. And you know, I was thankful 117 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:01,680 Speaker 1: enough to have Devon Franklin and my corner and Tony 118 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:05,720 Speaker 1: Gaskin's and Terray Robertson, and these are guys who are 119 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 1: strong black male figures who speak about overcoming generational curses 120 00:06:11,000 --> 00:06:13,720 Speaker 1: and triumphs and in the temptation of our flesh. But 121 00:06:14,279 --> 00:06:17,839 Speaker 1: I didn't see anybody like in my you know, my 122 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:21,920 Speaker 1: core age bracket or in the industry per se the 123 00:06:21,960 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: bon Franklin like really talking about how to be a young, 124 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:28,039 Speaker 1: faithful black man in the midst of it all, how 125 00:06:28,040 --> 00:06:32,599 Speaker 1: to how to um you know, break generational curses, talking 126 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:36,560 Speaker 1: about counseling and therapy and and making it seem okay 127 00:06:36,600 --> 00:06:39,159 Speaker 1: for men to be vulnerable and all these and so 128 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 1: for me, I was like, damn, I don't got nowhere 129 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 1: to go find it. Let me, let me put my 130 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:48,479 Speaker 1: my truths onto the paper and hopes that the younger 131 00:06:48,520 --> 00:06:52,040 Speaker 1: generation following me can have something, you know what I mean, 132 00:06:52,040 --> 00:06:54,800 Speaker 1: Because I was like, where where do I go? Like 133 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:57,520 Speaker 1: you see people break up all the time in the media, 134 00:06:57,960 --> 00:07:01,039 Speaker 1: but you don't see if they You don't see what 135 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:05,240 Speaker 1: steps they take took to fix things, like did they start? 136 00:07:05,320 --> 00:07:07,719 Speaker 1: Did they get back together and keep doing the same thing? 137 00:07:07,880 --> 00:07:09,800 Speaker 1: Like what happened? We don't really see that, you know 138 00:07:09,840 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 1: what I mean? Like everything is all pictures and cream 139 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:14,800 Speaker 1: in the in the limelight, but you don't see like 140 00:07:14,840 --> 00:07:17,400 Speaker 1: the work that people are really putting in to build 141 00:07:17,400 --> 00:07:20,480 Speaker 1: themselves up behind the behind the lights. So for me, 142 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:23,400 Speaker 1: I wanted to do that and hopes it Um I 143 00:07:23,520 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 1: can now hold myself accountable, but it hopes that I 144 00:07:26,480 --> 00:07:29,800 Speaker 1: reached the young men following behind me or even women 145 00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:33,320 Speaker 1: that may be looking for some words from men, you 146 00:07:33,360 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 1: know what I mean, right, Because it's just it's a 147 00:07:35,240 --> 00:07:38,960 Speaker 1: conversation because sometimes women could blame themselves for the fairly 148 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:41,840 Speaker 1: relationship and the fairy relationship is just that guy had 149 00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:45,360 Speaker 1: issues that he's not even willing to deal with it, 150 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:47,080 Speaker 1: like in your case. You talk about it in your 151 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:49,800 Speaker 1: book My Truth, which is really good reader read the 152 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 1: book and ever get to read a lot of books done, 153 00:07:52,160 --> 00:07:54,480 Speaker 1: and there's always at that point of view I always 154 00:07:54,520 --> 00:07:56,440 Speaker 1: look for, and that the point of view I take 155 00:07:56,440 --> 00:07:59,200 Speaker 1: away from your book by Truth is honesty. I take 156 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:01,880 Speaker 1: away honesty to take away a lot of regret, a 157 00:08:01,880 --> 00:08:05,200 Speaker 1: lot of regret in your tone, and then a recovery 158 00:08:05,760 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 1: and then I can do better and I will do better. 159 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 1: Those are the things I take away, especially the I 160 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:14,040 Speaker 1: can do better, I will do better part, And that's 161 00:08:14,080 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 1: returning to your faith. Talk about that, yeah, man, I mean, 162 00:08:18,240 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 1: you know, I've always been a strong believer in God. 163 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 1: My mother kept me in church. But I feel like 164 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:26,560 Speaker 1: I feel like what happens is where like one ft 165 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:28,880 Speaker 1: in one ft out where it's like, you know, I'm 166 00:08:28,880 --> 00:08:31,680 Speaker 1: gonna go to church, I'm gonna be prayed up, I'm 167 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:35,840 Speaker 1: gonna do these things good, but I can tippy toe 168 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:37,480 Speaker 1: over here, you know what I mean. And for me, 169 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:40,200 Speaker 1: it was like, you know, I gotta be all in 170 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:43,240 Speaker 1: with my faith, with the way I'm maneuver and with everything, 171 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:46,400 Speaker 1: and so, um, you know, I try to speak on 172 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: that in my book. I try to speak on that publicly. Um, 173 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:54,440 Speaker 1: you know, I wouldn't be where I am today without faith, 174 00:08:54,679 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 1: without belief, without God, and so uh, I think that. 175 00:08:59,559 --> 00:09:01,839 Speaker 1: I think that really leads me. And I just wanted 176 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:04,640 Speaker 1: to make that known as well, not only in my book, 177 00:09:04,679 --> 00:09:07,080 Speaker 1: but I try to keep that known and like my 178 00:09:07,200 --> 00:09:10,440 Speaker 1: daily my daily practices in the way I'm aneuver. We'll 179 00:09:10,480 --> 00:09:13,960 Speaker 1: be right back with more Money Making Conversations Masterclass with 180 00:09:14,080 --> 00:09:20,080 Speaker 1: Rushan McDonald. Now, let's return to Money Making Conversations Masterclass 181 00:09:20,120 --> 00:09:23,040 Speaker 1: with Rashan McDonald. I measure it this because you know, 182 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:25,520 Speaker 1: faith is a lot of people go out on faith. 183 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:29,120 Speaker 1: People talk about faith that journey, okay, and you're talking 184 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:30,800 Speaker 1: to you know, you pray it up. Your mom made 185 00:09:30,840 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 1: sure that God was a part of your life. So 186 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:37,160 Speaker 1: faith had a early stage of being an instrument to 187 00:09:37,320 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 1: your pan. When did you feel that, Well, I guess 188 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:42,960 Speaker 1: the question I'm trying to ask this like when do 189 00:09:43,080 --> 00:09:46,559 Speaker 1: you ignore faith? And then when you you know, because 190 00:09:46,559 --> 00:09:49,480 Speaker 1: in life is there or or when you was living 191 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:51,480 Speaker 1: it you were just living it because you were told 192 00:09:51,480 --> 00:09:55,920 Speaker 1: to and that understanding why you should be done. I 193 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:58,360 Speaker 1: think I think it's it's more so where it's like 194 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:01,600 Speaker 1: it's like I always have faith right that I'm gonna 195 00:10:01,640 --> 00:10:05,360 Speaker 1: be successful, that whatever, like everything that I go that 196 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:08,440 Speaker 1: I want in this life I can have. I always 197 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:11,160 Speaker 1: have had faith that, like even when the downtimes, like 198 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:14,160 Speaker 1: like when I lost my father, I have faith that, 199 00:10:14,559 --> 00:10:16,480 Speaker 1: you know, everything is to be okay, there's a reason 200 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:19,360 Speaker 1: why he passed. Like I've always had strong faith. But 201 00:10:19,440 --> 00:10:21,840 Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of people get it twisted 202 00:10:21,880 --> 00:10:24,800 Speaker 1: because they're like, oh, well, I have faith, but you're 203 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:27,959 Speaker 1: not doing the work to align with the faith, you 204 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:29,280 Speaker 1: know what I mean. Like, I can have all the 205 00:10:29,280 --> 00:10:31,679 Speaker 1: faith I want in the world, but if I'm not, 206 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:35,240 Speaker 1: if I'm not eating right, I'm still probably gonna get something, 207 00:10:35,360 --> 00:10:37,280 Speaker 1: get sick, you know what I mean. I could have 208 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:39,120 Speaker 1: all faith in the world, but if I'm not out 209 00:10:39,120 --> 00:10:42,360 Speaker 1: here working towards my dreams, I'm not gonna make no money, 210 00:10:42,600 --> 00:10:43,640 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I could have all the 211 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:46,120 Speaker 1: faith in the world, but if I'm cheating on my wife, 212 00:10:46,200 --> 00:10:49,600 Speaker 1: eventually she's gonna find out and we're gonna separate. So 213 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:52,000 Speaker 1: like a lot of times people get it twisted where 214 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:54,440 Speaker 1: they're like, oh, well I got faith, but what's the 215 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:58,040 Speaker 1: work that you're putting into align with the faith. And 216 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:00,679 Speaker 1: so for me, a lot of times I have faith, 217 00:11:00,760 --> 00:11:02,680 Speaker 1: but there would be times where I wasn't putting in 218 00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:06,720 Speaker 1: type of work you would marry them together, you wouldn't 219 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 1: marry the faith. What you say is what you say 220 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:13,559 Speaker 1: is in the Bible, you know exactly, yea and so 221 00:11:13,679 --> 00:11:15,560 Speaker 1: and you know and and you know a lot of 222 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:18,240 Speaker 1: a lot of I mean a lot of people fall 223 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:21,440 Speaker 1: victim to it because we're not really taught it and 224 00:11:21,559 --> 00:11:25,160 Speaker 1: even like even some churches don't teach it to a 225 00:11:25,200 --> 00:11:28,920 Speaker 1: full extent. And you know, like so like when when 226 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:31,280 Speaker 1: I took the time to read my or write my book, 227 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:34,440 Speaker 1: I started reading a ton of books like I probably 228 00:11:34,760 --> 00:11:37,360 Speaker 1: I mean for me, I never read really at all. 229 00:11:37,480 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 1: So I think I read like damn their sixty books 230 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:43,720 Speaker 1: that year. Um, you know, I did a lot of studying, 231 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:46,560 Speaker 1: a lot of watching a lot of videos, audio books, 232 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:50,400 Speaker 1: talking to people, um, just really stepping outside of what 233 00:11:50,480 --> 00:11:53,520 Speaker 1: I thought I knew about myself and about life to 234 00:11:53,640 --> 00:11:57,520 Speaker 1: really like learn new things and and really like transforming. 235 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:00,520 Speaker 1: And I feel like there there needs to be or 236 00:12:01,040 --> 00:12:03,240 Speaker 1: more people doing that. You know, a lot of people 237 00:12:03,280 --> 00:12:06,120 Speaker 1: get stuck in and what they think they know, and 238 00:12:06,400 --> 00:12:08,840 Speaker 1: they wake up one day and they're like, damn, I 239 00:12:08,920 --> 00:12:11,960 Speaker 1: never really took the time to learn myself and change 240 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:15,200 Speaker 1: things that I didn't like about myself. And so I 241 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:18,600 Speaker 1: really encouraged that man. And and and it's crazy because 242 00:12:18,640 --> 00:12:21,040 Speaker 1: like I feel like an old soul, like I'm thirty five, 243 00:12:21,080 --> 00:12:23,160 Speaker 1: but sometimes I would be feeling like I'm a lot older. 244 00:12:23,160 --> 00:12:25,800 Speaker 1: I mean, that's all right, that's all right, that's all right. 245 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:29,240 Speaker 1: Don't you know what I will tell you this man, 246 00:12:29,280 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 1: you know, is that you know I'm older than you. 247 00:12:32,160 --> 00:12:34,760 Speaker 1: And uh, but some of your stories are very similar 248 00:12:34,800 --> 00:12:38,520 Speaker 1: to my youth, you know. Um, all right, My relationship 249 00:12:38,559 --> 00:12:42,079 Speaker 1: with my dad was you know, I respected my father. 250 00:12:42,200 --> 00:12:44,080 Speaker 1: You know, he worked every day, he put food on 251 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: the table. I have six sisters and two other brothers, 252 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:48,640 Speaker 1: so I was the oldest person that was this male 253 00:12:48,720 --> 00:12:51,360 Speaker 1: figure in the house outside of my father. So I 254 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:53,079 Speaker 1: had to learn everything. And so I learned it in 255 00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:55,640 Speaker 1: the streets with my friends. And I felt that, you know, 256 00:12:55,840 --> 00:13:00,960 Speaker 1: part of manhood was being sexual women, you know, and uh, 257 00:13:01,040 --> 00:13:04,040 Speaker 1: and that part and that that's that that comes very 258 00:13:04,040 --> 00:13:06,240 Speaker 1: clear in your book. You know, it's part of in 259 00:13:06,280 --> 00:13:08,600 Speaker 1: our mind. If we're not taught right, if we're not 260 00:13:09,080 --> 00:13:11,320 Speaker 1: have a clear understanding of the role of a woman 261 00:13:11,360 --> 00:13:15,920 Speaker 1: in a man's life, then it's sets. And so I 262 00:13:15,960 --> 00:13:18,320 Speaker 1: want to tell you that to say that you know, 263 00:13:18,520 --> 00:13:21,559 Speaker 1: we all grow the keys. You growing, and you're growing, 264 00:13:21,640 --> 00:13:24,719 Speaker 1: and you understand that that's not the purpose of a relationship. 265 00:13:25,080 --> 00:13:27,960 Speaker 1: The purpose of relationship is communication. The purpose of relationship 266 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:31,600 Speaker 1: is respect conversed. Purpose of relationship is love. And that's 267 00:13:31,720 --> 00:13:34,800 Speaker 1: really what it all amounts to. And that's where when 268 00:13:34,800 --> 00:13:37,160 Speaker 1: I go through your book, I see that, I see 269 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:41,120 Speaker 1: that was that was that intentional that order or you 270 00:13:41,160 --> 00:13:43,480 Speaker 1: were just just pouring your heart out and done and 271 00:13:43,559 --> 00:13:45,680 Speaker 1: just letting us all here it out and then being 272 00:13:45,720 --> 00:13:49,360 Speaker 1: honest with us. No, it definitely, it definitely wasn't intentional, 273 00:13:49,440 --> 00:13:51,920 Speaker 1: because I think that was one of the biggest points 274 00:13:52,000 --> 00:13:55,320 Speaker 1: is like you know, for men, like right, like once 275 00:13:55,360 --> 00:13:57,640 Speaker 1: we turn a certain ages, it's all about how many 276 00:13:57,679 --> 00:14:00,400 Speaker 1: girls you got, you know, like all he got a girlfriend, 277 00:14:00,440 --> 00:14:02,719 Speaker 1: All you got three girlfriends now? And you know what 278 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:04,959 Speaker 1: I'm saying. And then your boys are like, what girls 279 00:14:04,960 --> 00:14:07,640 Speaker 1: are you talking to? And and it's this this thing 280 00:14:07,720 --> 00:14:10,040 Speaker 1: and now we've created as a man to where it's 281 00:14:10,080 --> 00:14:12,440 Speaker 1: like your stature kind of it is based off of 282 00:14:12,480 --> 00:14:14,800 Speaker 1: how many girls you're getting and how much sex you're having, 283 00:14:15,040 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And so it's like you said, 284 00:14:17,080 --> 00:14:19,960 Speaker 1: that's not really built off of oh, do you gotta 285 00:14:20,040 --> 00:14:23,440 Speaker 1: solid are you building to build an empire with this woman? 286 00:14:23,520 --> 00:14:27,080 Speaker 1: And and you know, mutual like mutual respect and all 287 00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:29,440 Speaker 1: these things. And so for me it was me pour 288 00:14:29,600 --> 00:14:32,680 Speaker 1: my heart out, but also yes, definitely me trying to 289 00:14:32,720 --> 00:14:36,720 Speaker 1: aligne these things up to show like this is not 290 00:14:36,960 --> 00:14:39,200 Speaker 1: really like what we think we know is not what 291 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 1: we really know majority of the time. Let me just 292 00:14:42,120 --> 00:14:44,640 Speaker 1: question Don talking to Don Benjamin's book. We'll talk about 293 00:14:44,640 --> 00:14:46,280 Speaker 1: the other things he has a scared Caroline. What else 294 00:14:46,280 --> 00:14:48,120 Speaker 1: We're gonna talk about the movie that's on Amazon, the 295 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:53,000 Speaker 1: BT plus called North of the ten Um. You know, 296 00:14:53,240 --> 00:14:59,520 Speaker 1: with social media and you see women, you know, posing bikinis, 297 00:14:59,600 --> 00:15:02,560 Speaker 1: you know, these are individuals. These used to be back 298 00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:05,440 Speaker 1: in the day. You see them featured in skin magazines 299 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:08,640 Speaker 1: like Playboy and Penthouse. I'm not saying they're that extreme online, 300 00:15:08,720 --> 00:15:12,640 Speaker 1: but suddenly they're they're they're they're scantly clad and so 301 00:15:12,680 --> 00:15:14,720 Speaker 1: when you look at what we're just talking about, men 302 00:15:15,480 --> 00:15:19,240 Speaker 1: looking at a woman for not her body, not sexual 303 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:24,400 Speaker 1: is women doing a disservice on social media when we're 304 00:15:24,400 --> 00:15:28,040 Speaker 1: trying to get to know them, we're constantly being their 305 00:15:28,120 --> 00:15:30,920 Speaker 1: body is being constantly thrown in our faces by them, 306 00:15:31,840 --> 00:15:37,960 Speaker 1: right right. I mean it definitely, It definitely don't help, 307 00:15:39,080 --> 00:15:41,520 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But it's crazy because like 308 00:15:41,560 --> 00:15:45,520 Speaker 1: if you look back to it, like sexuality and women 309 00:15:45,960 --> 00:15:49,000 Speaker 1: showing their sexuality has been since day one, you know 310 00:15:49,040 --> 00:15:53,200 Speaker 1: what I mean, you need, But I feel like I 311 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 1: feel like ultimately what comes down to it is is 312 00:15:56,280 --> 00:16:00,720 Speaker 1: knowing ourselves and controlling our flesh because of are like women. 313 00:16:00,880 --> 00:16:02,840 Speaker 1: A lot of times, the women that are doing that, 314 00:16:03,440 --> 00:16:05,280 Speaker 1: once you really sit down with them and get to 315 00:16:05,320 --> 00:16:08,840 Speaker 1: know them, they're they're dealing with so much like deep 316 00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:12,160 Speaker 1: deeper rooted issues within themselves that that's the only way 317 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:16,520 Speaker 1: that they can, you know, bring validation for themselves where 318 00:16:16,520 --> 00:16:21,040 Speaker 1: they need. They're showing their through their sexuality because they're 319 00:16:21,120 --> 00:16:25,880 Speaker 1: lacking other validation. And so you know, everybody's dealing with 320 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:29,680 Speaker 1: their own fights and struggles. And for men, we're looking 321 00:16:29,720 --> 00:16:36,120 Speaker 1: at you because we're already like sexualized really you you're 322 00:16:36,120 --> 00:16:37,880 Speaker 1: trying to lure us in because you think that that's 323 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:40,760 Speaker 1: going to lure in a relationship. Were really And it's 324 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:43,920 Speaker 1: a continued cycle that it's flawed, you know what I mean. 325 00:16:43,920 --> 00:16:49,240 Speaker 1: And social media definitely adds to uh. It can benefit 326 00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:51,280 Speaker 1: a lot of things, but it has a lot of 327 00:16:51,920 --> 00:16:53,840 Speaker 1: issues to life, you know what I mean with the 328 00:16:53,960 --> 00:16:58,800 Speaker 1: sexualized everything is so sexual base nowadays. Everything is makes 329 00:16:58,840 --> 00:17:01,360 Speaker 1: it seem like you don't have to work hard to 330 00:17:01,880 --> 00:17:05,120 Speaker 1: get what you want, you know, more like it's there's 331 00:17:05,160 --> 00:17:07,360 Speaker 1: so many things that go into social media that make 332 00:17:07,880 --> 00:17:10,199 Speaker 1: life hard, which is why so many kids nowadays are 333 00:17:10,200 --> 00:17:14,000 Speaker 1: dealing with depression and an anxiety because they feel like 334 00:17:14,040 --> 00:17:17,840 Speaker 1: they gotta keep up with you know, these girls are fourteen, thirteen, 335 00:17:17,880 --> 00:17:21,040 Speaker 1: fourteen feeling like they have to sexualize themselves because they 336 00:17:21,040 --> 00:17:23,720 Speaker 1: see it on social media. Everybody feels like they gotta 337 00:17:23,760 --> 00:17:26,520 Speaker 1: be rappers and and have big chains and the nicest 338 00:17:26,520 --> 00:17:29,560 Speaker 1: cars at fifteen because they see everybody doing it on 339 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:33,800 Speaker 1: social media. And so you know that, I guess that's 340 00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 1: a whole another topic in itself. You get you just 341 00:17:37,320 --> 00:17:42,439 Speaker 1: give me, you get me locked in on that. The 342 00:17:42,440 --> 00:17:45,040 Speaker 1: producer to me was in my head going this point 343 00:17:45,040 --> 00:17:47,800 Speaker 1: talking about a TV series right there, talking about a 344 00:17:47,880 --> 00:17:50,680 Speaker 1: documentary right there, a whole it's a whole nother lame. 345 00:17:50,720 --> 00:17:53,520 Speaker 1: But yes, I guess the long story short, the sexualization 346 00:17:53,600 --> 00:17:57,280 Speaker 1: definitely does not help with a man because you know, 347 00:17:57,359 --> 00:18:00,640 Speaker 1: we see a woman and we think like it's it's 348 00:18:01,200 --> 00:18:05,320 Speaker 1: it's like our mind goes there right away, right And 349 00:18:05,359 --> 00:18:06,920 Speaker 1: if you ain't, and if you ain't, and if you 350 00:18:06,960 --> 00:18:09,159 Speaker 1: don't know how to, if you're not working on yourself 351 00:18:09,640 --> 00:18:11,840 Speaker 1: and you don't know how to control your yourself and 352 00:18:11,840 --> 00:18:17,560 Speaker 1: your flesh, you're gonna gonna fall victim right away. Understand 353 00:18:17,600 --> 00:18:19,360 Speaker 1: that I don't want understand in the book too long, 354 00:18:19,440 --> 00:18:20,880 Speaker 1: because I know I want to talk about a couple 355 00:18:20,920 --> 00:18:23,720 Speaker 1: of the subjects. You know, just just skin, caroline, spray 356 00:18:23,800 --> 00:18:26,159 Speaker 1: and go. You know what I'm saying, So tell us 357 00:18:26,200 --> 00:18:30,000 Speaker 1: about that, Mr doun Benjamin. You know what's funny is 358 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:33,080 Speaker 1: when I got in a relationship, like I never thought 359 00:18:33,119 --> 00:18:36,560 Speaker 1: about skincare before, Like I would just wash my face 360 00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:38,800 Speaker 1: with asso. You need to stuff right there, man, I 361 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:40,679 Speaker 1: need to I need to come through the screen at you. 362 00:18:40,680 --> 00:18:43,080 Speaker 1: You know, brother, see what I'm saying, see this just 363 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:45,480 Speaker 1: right here, just God's work. You know, I have to 364 00:18:45,480 --> 00:18:48,640 Speaker 1: worry about that I use so I just put water 365 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:55,640 Speaker 1: on this face work. But as I started to get older, 366 00:18:56,000 --> 00:18:58,440 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, and I started up see 367 00:18:58,440 --> 00:19:01,480 Speaker 1: what my girl was doing, to realize like there's actually 368 00:19:01,520 --> 00:19:05,800 Speaker 1: stuff that's gonna help you age better and stuff like that, 369 00:19:05,880 --> 00:19:08,720 Speaker 1: I started, you know, I started doing stuff with her 370 00:19:08,760 --> 00:19:12,120 Speaker 1: and she had me do the face masks, cleansing, all 371 00:19:12,160 --> 00:19:14,520 Speaker 1: these things. But I'm still like, yo, this is a lot, 372 00:19:14,560 --> 00:19:18,520 Speaker 1: like this is too much going on. And so I 373 00:19:18,520 --> 00:19:20,720 Speaker 1: was like, I still want to take care of my skin, 374 00:19:21,240 --> 00:19:23,159 Speaker 1: and you know, I go to the stores or brands 375 00:19:23,160 --> 00:19:24,919 Speaker 1: with semi stuff, but it's still a lot of steps. 376 00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:26,199 Speaker 1: And so for me, I was like, well, what can 377 00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:29,520 Speaker 1: I create that already like that would blend into a 378 00:19:29,560 --> 00:19:34,520 Speaker 1: man's life easily or maybe make women's life easier. And 379 00:19:34,560 --> 00:19:36,760 Speaker 1: so for me, I was like we we you know, 380 00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:41,480 Speaker 1: like a spray on, a spray on skincare line would 381 00:19:41,480 --> 00:19:44,959 Speaker 1: be super efficient, super easy, you don't gotta think too 382 00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:47,679 Speaker 1: much about it. And then just two steps. So I 383 00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:50,639 Speaker 1: was literally like a serum that helps with aging, that 384 00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:54,400 Speaker 1: helps with anti aging, and a moisturizer that just keeps 385 00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:57,680 Speaker 1: your skin, you know, hydrated, throughout the day. It's really 386 00:19:57,720 --> 00:19:59,560 Speaker 1: I felt like all a lot of people need I 387 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:01,800 Speaker 1: feel like don't need a lot of steps. So I 388 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:04,120 Speaker 1: was like, how can I create a line that will 389 00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:06,040 Speaker 1: make your life easier. So it's literally like a two 390 00:20:06,520 --> 00:20:10,320 Speaker 1: two steps spray on skincare routine is like as easy 391 00:20:10,359 --> 00:20:12,760 Speaker 1: as it can get, right, And so I came up 392 00:20:12,760 --> 00:20:15,520 Speaker 1: with Lave and it literally has a spray for the 393 00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:17,439 Speaker 1: anti aging, and it has a spray to keep you 394 00:20:17,520 --> 00:20:20,720 Speaker 1: hydrated and you just go about your day. Man, We'll 395 00:20:20,720 --> 00:20:24,240 Speaker 1: be right back with more Money Making Conversations Masterclass with 396 00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:31,240 Speaker 1: Rushan McDonald. Now, let's return to Money Making Conversations Masterclass 397 00:20:31,480 --> 00:20:35,680 Speaker 1: with Rushan McDonald. See see, I might have to buy something, 398 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:37,920 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. I might have to go there. Mr. 399 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:40,280 Speaker 1: You look you look good. You look you look in 400 00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:45,920 Speaker 1: your thirties too. You know you know, Lave may be 401 00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:49,080 Speaker 1: made for me, brother, because I'll be I've bean now, 402 00:20:49,320 --> 00:20:52,680 Speaker 1: I got I go in my my, my, my restroom. 403 00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:55,879 Speaker 1: I got all kinds of stuff sitting back there making 404 00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:58,680 Speaker 1: people nervous. You know, you're like to fire my restue. 405 00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:03,480 Speaker 1: It might blow up there. I mean I didn't need 406 00:21:03,520 --> 00:21:05,639 Speaker 1: me some lay, brother, just to move some of that 407 00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:08,199 Speaker 1: stuff off my counter. We don't have to get you 408 00:21:08,280 --> 00:21:12,440 Speaker 1: something sent over there. Seriously, man, because because because as 409 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:15,280 Speaker 1: a kid, man, I understood you know, you know it 410 00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:17,680 Speaker 1: just kids, you have your pimples and all that stuff, 411 00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:21,320 Speaker 1: and understood you know, cold and warm water, washing soap, 412 00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:23,879 Speaker 1: you know, and all of you know, all these skins 413 00:21:23,880 --> 00:21:26,280 Speaker 1: because black people naturally have all these skin and things 414 00:21:26,280 --> 00:21:29,040 Speaker 1: like that. So I find what you're doing is very relatable. 415 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:31,320 Speaker 1: So even as I got old, there was always about 416 00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:34,920 Speaker 1: skin care. It's always marsterizing, you know, I stand out 417 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:37,280 Speaker 1: in the sun and things like that. So the fact 418 00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:41,880 Speaker 1: that you you know, the reality is, especially with black people, 419 00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:43,679 Speaker 1: we always try to figure out how to do it 420 00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:46,840 Speaker 1: better but quicker, and if you have a philosophy here 421 00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:49,520 Speaker 1: that you put in place that I'm laughing about it, 422 00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:52,440 Speaker 1: but I'm very seriously because I got several things I got, 423 00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:54,359 Speaker 1: you know, I got that, I got the you know, 424 00:21:54,440 --> 00:21:58,159 Speaker 1: the the the skin brightener, then the brightener that stops 425 00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:00,440 Speaker 1: us brightening. And then I got the lost arise, and 426 00:22:00,520 --> 00:22:02,840 Speaker 1: then I got to wipe off you know, I put 427 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:04,159 Speaker 1: this on before you go to be, and put this 428 00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:06,560 Speaker 1: on when you wake up, you know, It's like sometime 429 00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:08,680 Speaker 1: I just man, look, look, look, look, I'm just gonna 430 00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:12,159 Speaker 1: do this and and whatever. Help don't work. I'm cool 431 00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:16,040 Speaker 1: because that's what you're saying. You gonna spread the cerum on. 432 00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:19,119 Speaker 1: You let us, You're gonna spread your moisturizer on, and 433 00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:21,399 Speaker 1: you're gonna go about your night. You're gonna go to sleep, 434 00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:23,520 Speaker 1: you gonna wake up, spread the moisturizer on and go 435 00:22:24,520 --> 00:22:28,879 Speaker 1: hey brother, I'm buying. I'm buying, okay, Benjamin, I' because 436 00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:31,840 Speaker 1: that's what my life needs. Now. What age group? Are 437 00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:34,119 Speaker 1: you talking in? The age group there? Or you know 438 00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:36,800 Speaker 1: that for you for this line, or you're saying making 439 00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:38,680 Speaker 1: the available say you're just trying to open up, because 440 00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:41,120 Speaker 1: I would say if he pacifically go after some group, 441 00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:43,440 Speaker 1: at least you can start understanding how to sell to him. 442 00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:46,560 Speaker 1: How are you marking in it? I mean it's more 443 00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:50,720 Speaker 1: so you know, twenties and up. Uh. But at the 444 00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:53,960 Speaker 1: end of the day, it's like I don't feel like 445 00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:58,240 Speaker 1: I don't feel like There's the thing is when you're um, 446 00:22:58,320 --> 00:23:00,879 Speaker 1: when you're breaking into like you know a lot of 447 00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:06,800 Speaker 1: teenagers and they're having breakouts. Uh, like this skin care 448 00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:10,680 Speaker 1: isn't technically like a um, like a proactive you know 449 00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:13,720 Speaker 1: what I'm saying, it's for that. It's more so for 450 00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:16,800 Speaker 1: aging right now. Like the serum we have has a 451 00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:19,919 Speaker 1: marshmallow roots extra extract and the serum that helps with 452 00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:23,720 Speaker 1: like anti aging. It tightens the skin under that and 453 00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:27,760 Speaker 1: uh um and the moisturizer keeps you hydrated. But the 454 00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:30,960 Speaker 1: beautiful thing is I would love to expand as the 455 00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:33,399 Speaker 1: brand grows and maybe be able to help some things 456 00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:37,240 Speaker 1: for teenagers, you know, maybe get some kind of ingredients 457 00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:40,199 Speaker 1: that do help um the breakouts and stuff like that. 458 00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:42,920 Speaker 1: But right now it's more so helping with people who 459 00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:46,679 Speaker 1: are you know, you're waking up and you and you're like, 460 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:48,840 Speaker 1: you know what, I want to make sure I'm taking 461 00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:51,680 Speaker 1: care of my skin now before I start to get 462 00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:53,600 Speaker 1: older and start to see all these wrinkles come in 463 00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:57,119 Speaker 1: more of a preventative, you know what I mean. And 464 00:23:57,119 --> 00:23:59,800 Speaker 1: and maybe if you are seeing some wrinkles and you 465 00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:02,520 Speaker 1: on your skin is tighten up a little bit, um 466 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:05,560 Speaker 1: your eyes are around the eyes area, you start to 467 00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:08,880 Speaker 1: use this serum and whatnot. So yeah, it's definitely not 468 00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:12,320 Speaker 1: really like teenagers can use it. It's not harmful to anybody. 469 00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:15,800 Speaker 1: There's no harmful ingredients. But it's more so it's more 470 00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:19,359 Speaker 1: so about making people's life easy and introducing them to 471 00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:21,520 Speaker 1: skincare in an easy way to where you don't gotta 472 00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:23,480 Speaker 1: overthink it, you know what I mean. Let's talk because 473 00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:27,159 Speaker 1: I really just you know, just hear some ideas about this. 474 00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:29,280 Speaker 1: And first of all, I think it's a fantastic idea 475 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:31,440 Speaker 1: because you know, my whole brain is I just start 476 00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:34,639 Speaker 1: marketing immediately, you know, because I know that, you know, 477 00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:37,600 Speaker 1: my my age group, skin care is as it's an 478 00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:41,080 Speaker 1: issue tightening under their eyes and all that. It's something 479 00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:44,000 Speaker 1: we see on TV just marketed to thirty five, the 480 00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:46,920 Speaker 1: fifty five, that age group right there, they need that. 481 00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:49,879 Speaker 1: They want that. They're fighting to stay young. They're fighting 482 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:52,200 Speaker 1: to get back to their twenties. The fifties a fighting 483 00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:54,439 Speaker 1: to get back to their forties, you know, the fortes, 484 00:24:54,480 --> 00:24:56,359 Speaker 1: a fight to get back to their thirties. So so 485 00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:57,879 Speaker 1: if you have time later on, man, want to hit 486 00:24:57,880 --> 00:24:59,240 Speaker 1: me up and talk about it, because I feel you 487 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,399 Speaker 1: have a great idea and I always like to get 488 00:25:01,440 --> 00:25:04,840 Speaker 1: involved with projects that personally impact me. That way, I 489 00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:08,000 Speaker 1: can talk about it from an organic and authentic standpoint 490 00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:10,840 Speaker 1: and we start talking about marketing and branding. This right 491 00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:12,840 Speaker 1: here here told with me on a big way, and 492 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:15,400 Speaker 1: I wish you much much good luck. But before we go, 493 00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:17,399 Speaker 1: I want to talk about North of the Ten on 494 00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:20,320 Speaker 1: Amazon b T plus. You know, because when I when 495 00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:22,440 Speaker 1: I brought you own, it was modeling, it was acting, 496 00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:27,080 Speaker 1: recording artists, you know, then producer, which is really where 497 00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:29,639 Speaker 1: we all want to go because in fact, you're controlling 498 00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:32,960 Speaker 1: your voice and also you're you're actually running things. Talk 499 00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:37,399 Speaker 1: about it, you know, it's funny, um coming from from Minnesota, 500 00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:43,280 Speaker 1: and like in Minnesota people you go to school, you 501 00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:46,959 Speaker 1: get a nine or five job, you have some kids, 502 00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:50,240 Speaker 1: you have a family, and that's pretty much life, you 503 00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:52,800 Speaker 1: know what I mean. And so for me, I never 504 00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:56,359 Speaker 1: really wanted that life. And then when I came to California, 505 00:25:56,640 --> 00:26:00,000 Speaker 1: I seem like you can literally do whatever you want 506 00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:02,840 Speaker 1: on in l A and it's in the world. And 507 00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:06,240 Speaker 1: so for me, you know, I've always been a creative person. 508 00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:09,359 Speaker 1: Uh like I've always been in the arts. I've always 509 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:12,080 Speaker 1: been into me music and film, and so I came 510 00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:15,960 Speaker 1: to l A when I was nineteen to pursue acting 511 00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:19,840 Speaker 1: and music. And so when the modeling took off when 512 00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:22,840 Speaker 1: I went on America's Next Top Model, UM, and it 513 00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:25,760 Speaker 1: blew me up as a as a fashion model. I 514 00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:29,520 Speaker 1: still my passion was acting in film, right, And so 515 00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:32,199 Speaker 1: for me, um, you know, I was with agents, I 516 00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:34,960 Speaker 1: was auditioning for different projects. I would get little roles 517 00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:38,240 Speaker 1: here and there, but it was never anything substantial or 518 00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:40,080 Speaker 1: anything that I wanted to do. And so for me, 519 00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:43,040 Speaker 1: I was like, man, I'm gonna create my own movie. 520 00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:45,680 Speaker 1: Like I'm not gonna wait for nobody else to tell 521 00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:47,720 Speaker 1: me what I can and can't do. I've been doing 522 00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:49,480 Speaker 1: everything else on my own, So I'm gonna create my 523 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:52,240 Speaker 1: own movies. And so I got with my writing partner, 524 00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:56,160 Speaker 1: Braxton Smith, and uh, North of the Ten. We kind 525 00:26:56,160 --> 00:26:58,240 Speaker 1: of wrote kind of about my life, like moving to 526 00:26:58,440 --> 00:27:01,199 Speaker 1: l A. Uh you know, I was living in a 527 00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:05,400 Speaker 1: one bedroom with five of my buddies in Inglewood, California, 528 00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:08,879 Speaker 1: and you know, faking it till you make it, lying 529 00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:10,879 Speaker 1: and acting like we're bigger than what we really already 530 00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:14,119 Speaker 1: getting notoriety and getting the parties and and meet people 531 00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:17,600 Speaker 1: and uh. And so the movie was kind of like 532 00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:21,000 Speaker 1: a fairytale based off my real life. Like I was 533 00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:23,800 Speaker 1: born in the Midwest, and I was born in Chicago 534 00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:26,040 Speaker 1: moved to l As when the film. It was about 535 00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:29,040 Speaker 1: me and my buddies living in Chicago trying to make 536 00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:32,760 Speaker 1: it to Hollywood, which is north of the Tin. Hollywood 537 00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:35,520 Speaker 1: is north of the Tin Freeway, so trying to make 538 00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:38,840 Speaker 1: it to Hollywood from Chicago and then you know, getting 539 00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:40,800 Speaker 1: caught up in your lives while trying to make it. 540 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:43,200 Speaker 1: And so it was a comedy kind of picking fund 541 00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:45,600 Speaker 1: at my life, but also kind of like, you know, 542 00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:50,119 Speaker 1: a motivational story showing a journey of brotherhood, uh sticking 543 00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:54,399 Speaker 1: true to your dreams and whatnot. And so I was 544 00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:57,439 Speaker 1: blessed enough to UM align with my brother Ryan Lamar, 545 00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:03,320 Speaker 1: who helped me produce the film um and and BT 546 00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:05,919 Speaker 1: got behind the film and helped us launch it, and 547 00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:08,920 Speaker 1: so it is on BT Plus, it's on Amazon Prime 548 00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:11,680 Speaker 1: right now. But it's a really it's a feel good movie. 549 00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:16,280 Speaker 1: It's a fun movie. I play aspiring model who uh 550 00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:18,320 Speaker 1: is trying to make it and I end up meeting 551 00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:21,560 Speaker 1: a young lady who ends up being an heiress to 552 00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:28,800 Speaker 1: a uh um somebody over in and Abu Dhabi. And 553 00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:32,000 Speaker 1: you know me, if you find ourselves trying to fight 554 00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:34,880 Speaker 1: I love after life for this girl, making it seem 555 00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:39,800 Speaker 1: like I'm something bigger than I really a big ball 556 00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:42,680 Speaker 1: of dollars. Okay, that right, I wake up, We over 557 00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:50,200 Speaker 1: and we can go way from Chicago. Man, it's a 558 00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:53,280 Speaker 1: fun movie. It's a fun movie and it has some 559 00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:55,600 Speaker 1: fun to it and some motivation to it. So I 560 00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:59,360 Speaker 1: definitely encourage everybody to go check it out. Um and 561 00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:03,080 Speaker 1: it's great responses. Something thankful for all the responses should 562 00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:05,480 Speaker 1: be the link to trailer. I'll dropped it in my newsletter. 563 00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:07,760 Speaker 1: You know and support this. You know when you said 564 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:09,760 Speaker 1: north to the TENN you talked about I ten freeway, 565 00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:14,960 Speaker 1: I know that freeway, brother Iday coach to coach. Okay, 566 00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:17,120 Speaker 1: I thought I thought coming up. I thought coming to 567 00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:20,200 Speaker 1: l A was Hollywood's. I didn't realize if you south 568 00:29:20,240 --> 00:29:22,520 Speaker 1: of the ten, you end up in South Central, you 569 00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:27,800 Speaker 1: up in Inglewood. I live years by Fred I do 570 00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:32,760 Speaker 1: exactly everything you're talking about. You're not confusing me. Yeah, 571 00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:36,440 Speaker 1: man Chester, all those famous streets over there, bubble but 572 00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:38,960 Speaker 1: a kid. I'm glad. I'm glad we got to talk 573 00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:41,920 Speaker 1: to him because, Man, I'll tell you, Man enjoyed this conversation. 574 00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:44,000 Speaker 1: You know, I've always seen you from Afar, and I 575 00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:46,240 Speaker 1: always feel like to talk to young brothers like you, Man, 576 00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:48,520 Speaker 1: because I would say, you my future. You know, I've 577 00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:50,760 Speaker 1: just what I've done in my life. Man, hopefully has 578 00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:53,600 Speaker 1: made an opportunity for you to do your dreams and 579 00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:56,080 Speaker 1: build your dreams and live your dreams. In a book 580 00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:58,520 Speaker 1: like this is really inspirational because I saw myself in 581 00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:01,080 Speaker 1: it and I was a to term my life around. 582 00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:03,240 Speaker 1: I was that person like you running in the club 583 00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:07,520 Speaker 1: chasing out the women, disrespectful because not disrespectful because I 584 00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:09,880 Speaker 1: was being disrespectful. It was the way I was taught 585 00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,880 Speaker 1: to think. Nobody told me anything different. And then one 586 00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:14,640 Speaker 1: day I woke up and I became a better man. 587 00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:17,240 Speaker 1: And you are a better man. And the fact that 588 00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:20,160 Speaker 1: you're an entrepreneur, the fact of your movie producer you 589 00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:22,680 Speaker 1: you moved on from just that title of ap model 590 00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:25,320 Speaker 1: and an actor. You're now you know you're an entrepreneur 591 00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 1: and those are things are important. And I just wanted 592 00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:29,600 Speaker 1: to say, Man, as we close out this interview, good 593 00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:32,400 Speaker 1: luck Man, because you have a friend here that would 594 00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:34,760 Speaker 1: support you. Give me the trailer so I can support 595 00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:37,960 Speaker 1: your movies and get more more downloads. More views to 596 00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:40,160 Speaker 1: your brand and more likes. How about that a few 597 00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:43,560 Speaker 1: more followers. Huh, I appreciate you. I'll definitely I'll send 598 00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:47,000 Speaker 1: it and we'll definitely talk more about the skin Cabran too. Absolutely, 599 00:30:47,040 --> 00:30:49,760 Speaker 1: I'm serious about that, man, because like I said, uh, 600 00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:51,600 Speaker 1: you know, when things are natural to me, man, I 601 00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:54,560 Speaker 1: just that feels very natural to me. I see it 602 00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:57,760 Speaker 1: on commercials and uh, you gotta you gotta big enough 603 00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:00,680 Speaker 1: of a brand, and uh we about three or four 604 00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:02,560 Speaker 1: ideas popped out of this interview. Don't forget that little 605 00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:04,720 Speaker 1: documentary you know that you did you do out in 606 00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:07,520 Speaker 1: front of me. You know, I'm saying that bad boy 607 00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:10,160 Speaker 1: had me fired up there. So that's a documentary right there, 608 00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:12,800 Speaker 1: because we're dealing with that. We're dealing with that, and 609 00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:15,600 Speaker 1: so things are authentic when you stay on the right path. 610 00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:18,000 Speaker 1: But again, thank you done for finding the time to 611 00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:20,320 Speaker 1: talk to talk to this the whole guy man, Talk 612 00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:23,960 Speaker 1: to this the whole guy man. Okay, I'm trying to 613 00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:26,000 Speaker 1: talk up as much game and wisdom man, So I 614 00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:29,239 Speaker 1: appreciate you as well. We'll definitely staying staying all right, 615 00:31:29,320 --> 00:31:32,320 Speaker 1: don be careful, Mary, talk soon. It's his book. Don 616 00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:34,880 Speaker 1: bensment my truth. He's a winner. Brother, he is at 617 00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:35,720 Speaker 1: one of us sisters.