1 00:00:00,960 --> 00:00:04,280 Speaker 1: Hi. This is Laura Vanderkam. I'm a mother of four, 2 00:00:04,600 --> 00:00:08,479 Speaker 1: an author, journalist, and speaker. And this is Sarah Hart Hunger. 3 00:00:08,840 --> 00:00:11,799 Speaker 1: I'm a mother of three, practicing physician and blogger. On 4 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:14,640 Speaker 1: the side, we are two working parents who love our 5 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:18,040 Speaker 1: careers and our families. Welcome to best of both worlds. 6 00:00:18,320 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 1: Here we talk about how real women manage work, family, 7 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:25,360 Speaker 1: and time for fun, from figuring out childcare to mapping 8 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 1: out long term career goals. We want you to get 9 00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:32,560 Speaker 1: the most out of life. Welcome to best of both worlds. 10 00:00:32,640 --> 00:00:35,680 Speaker 1: This is Laura. This is episode one hundred and fifteen, 11 00:00:35,720 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: which is first airing in mid October of twenty nineteen. 12 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:42,680 Speaker 1: Today we're mostly going to be talking about goals again, 13 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:47,160 Speaker 1: things that we have aimed to do and have done 14 00:00:47,280 --> 00:00:50,519 Speaker 1: or not done over the past quarters or quintiles, as 15 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:54,120 Speaker 1: the case may be. We're getting into planner season. I 16 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:56,840 Speaker 1: know a lot of people purchasing their planners for next year, 17 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:01,600 Speaker 1: but we will not be doing another planner review episode 18 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:04,319 Speaker 1: this year. Sarah, Right, No, I mean we still may 19 00:01:04,360 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 1: have to do a planner focused or some kind of 20 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 1: like maybe yearly planning process episode perhaps, but I am 21 00:01:12,720 --> 00:01:15,440 Speaker 1: not going to do like ten planner reviews like I 22 00:01:15,440 --> 00:01:18,039 Speaker 1: did last year. It was really fun, it got kind 23 00:01:18,080 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 1: of tiring, and I don't feel like planners changed that 24 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:23,800 Speaker 1: much from year to year. Now there are new ones 25 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: that come out, which is really cool. In fact, there's 26 00:01:25,600 --> 00:01:28,640 Speaker 1: a lot of nice, niche ones that are just very interesting, 27 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:32,160 Speaker 1: but they're sort of beyond the scope of what I'm 28 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:34,920 Speaker 1: willing to do at this point. After those ten, I 29 00:01:34,959 --> 00:01:37,200 Speaker 1: was like, Okay, that's it for a while. If you 30 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:40,679 Speaker 1: are interested in a blogger who does a million planner reviews, 31 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 1: you should check out Planarisma on Instagram. And she also 32 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 1: has a blog and she she covers a whole lot 33 00:01:48,480 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 1: of planners if you're into that, which I am. Yeah, 34 00:01:51,160 --> 00:01:54,680 Speaker 1: it's been amazed at the number of planner people on Instagram. 35 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:57,000 Speaker 1: I guess it lends itself, like the people who do 36 00:01:57,400 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 1: kind of fancy layouts or the washy tape or whatever 37 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:03,560 Speaker 1: where that stuff is. That's a whole community. And then 38 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 1: I think that's fueled a lot of these small brands 39 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 1: to be like, oh, we're gonna make something, and you know, 40 00:02:09,000 --> 00:02:10,960 Speaker 1: at one point I was like, oh, we should do one, 41 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:13,920 Speaker 1: but then I'm like that market is saturated. It has 42 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:16,400 Speaker 1: got to be saturated. There are, like I don't know, 43 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: there's probably like a thousand different types of planner you 44 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:21,680 Speaker 1: could get at this point, many of them are similar. 45 00:02:22,280 --> 00:02:23,960 Speaker 1: You can, I mean, the good news is you can 46 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 1: pretty much find what you want, and then if you can't, 47 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:28,960 Speaker 1: there's some really amazing custom options out there, Like if 48 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:31,639 Speaker 1: you are interested to listen to our review from last year, 49 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:34,440 Speaker 1: there was like the super custom Agendio, which I knows 50 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 1: some of my blog readers ended up going for. I 51 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:40,520 Speaker 1: still use the Homo Nichi Techo Techo. Sorry I pronounced 52 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:42,480 Speaker 1: it wrong for years and it's old HABITSI hard, but 53 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 1: it's the Techo cousin, which is their larger size, and 54 00:02:45,080 --> 00:02:48,680 Speaker 1: I freaking love that planner Golden Coil. That was the 55 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: one that tempted to do the most right. Yeah. Yeah, 56 00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:52,520 Speaker 1: well was customizable so I could make it look like 57 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:57,079 Speaker 1: my target notebook basically, it's what so I mean, that 58 00:02:57,400 --> 00:02:59,960 Speaker 1: seems like an elaborate solution for something that's not our 59 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 1: actually a problem, So probably not gonna go for it. 60 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: It wasn't broken, but now that you've fancied up your pens, 61 00:03:06,760 --> 00:03:10,679 Speaker 1: that's true. Will will the planners be far behind? I 62 00:03:11,200 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 1: don't know. I'm already ordered my Hoveu Nishi and it 63 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:16,840 Speaker 1: was so much fun. We were like in the middle 64 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:18,919 Speaker 1: of a hurricane warning and I was like, okay, our 65 00:03:18,919 --> 00:03:22,120 Speaker 1: power must stay on because I must order this. I'm 66 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:24,560 Speaker 1: sure the cover that I wanted wasn't going to sell out, 67 00:03:24,600 --> 00:03:27,160 Speaker 1: but just they have a great They do a great 68 00:03:27,200 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 1: job like building suspense as their wares go on sale 69 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 1: at this Japanese store, which, by the way, I've had 70 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 1: blog readers that were like, we need a guide to 71 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:38,040 Speaker 1: the store, like it's actually it's actually a very well, 72 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 1: it's not hard to navigate their website. The only trick, oh, 73 00:03:42,720 --> 00:03:45,840 Speaker 1: it's in English. They have okly English website. The only 74 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:48,920 Speaker 1: part that's challenging is that the prices are in yen 75 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:52,000 Speaker 1: so and there is a large shipping fee that doesn't 76 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:54,480 Speaker 1: come up until the end. It's approximately well it's thirty 77 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:56,840 Speaker 1: seven hundred yen so it's about thirty seven dollars because 78 00:03:56,880 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 1: the that's the conversions stuck because it's coming from Japan. 79 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:03,640 Speaker 1: I don't know, because it Shi comes I think so 80 00:04:03,840 --> 00:04:06,120 Speaker 1: because they come really fast, at least in prior years, 81 00:04:06,120 --> 00:04:08,720 Speaker 1: Like I'm always impressed, like that, Wow, five days from Japan. 82 00:04:09,200 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 1: But no, if you're interested in a hoopunichi, don't be afraid. 83 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:15,000 Speaker 1: The store is actually very easy to navigate. I'll also 84 00:04:15,040 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 1: do a shout out to a prior guest we had. 85 00:04:17,080 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 1: We had Tanya Dalton from Inkwell Press, and her products 86 00:04:20,320 --> 00:04:22,360 Speaker 1: are still so pretty, and I think I may order 87 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:25,800 Speaker 1: some goals setting inserts because sometimes I like a little separate, 88 00:04:26,080 --> 00:04:28,440 Speaker 1: sort of dreaming notebook to write out some goals. I 89 00:04:28,480 --> 00:04:29,919 Speaker 1: will say I went back to my old one, and 90 00:04:29,960 --> 00:04:32,599 Speaker 1: I didn't necessarily follow all of them, but I like 91 00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 1: the format for thinking about it. Just a little shout 92 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:36,680 Speaker 1: out to Tanya here. She has a new book out 93 00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:39,159 Speaker 1: called The Joy of Missing Out, so maybe some of 94 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:41,200 Speaker 1: our listeners would like to check that out while they 95 00:04:41,200 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 1: are also shopping for Inkwell Planners. I think it actually 96 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:46,440 Speaker 1: comes with a gut or maybe that was just a 97 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: pre order, but there was some sort of discount code 98 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 1: link to her to her planners. Her planners are very 99 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:54,960 Speaker 1: very pretty. Yeah, well, I am still using the same 100 00:04:55,120 --> 00:04:59,680 Speaker 1: planner method. I wound up buying my twenty twenty at 101 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:05,200 Speaker 1: a Gale Nant's Weekly Pocket Calendar in August, and that 102 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:07,839 Speaker 1: tends to happen around then. That's when I start getting 103 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 1: enough twenty twenty events that are dates specific, I mean 104 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:15,760 Speaker 1: the next year date specific events that I need to 105 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 1: put them somewhere. And there's a page at the end 106 00:05:18,720 --> 00:05:21,159 Speaker 1: of any given year's calendar for the next year. But 107 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:23,600 Speaker 1: when you are filling in enough of that, then it's 108 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:26,800 Speaker 1: time to actually put it on a calendar. So I 109 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:29,120 Speaker 1: tend to buy it in August. September is sort of 110 00:05:29,160 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 1: the latest that it would happen. And then yeah, still 111 00:05:32,279 --> 00:05:36,839 Speaker 1: using my notebook, which is Cambridge Edition, one of the 112 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:40,160 Speaker 1: sort of nicer ones that they sell at Target College ruled. 113 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:42,960 Speaker 1: It does actually have dates along the top, so you 114 00:05:42,960 --> 00:05:45,280 Speaker 1: could circle the month in the day if you wanted to. 115 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:48,120 Speaker 1: I don't. I just put the date at the top 116 00:05:48,200 --> 00:05:52,200 Speaker 1: of the week, so you'd say October whatever, fourteen to 117 00:05:52,279 --> 00:05:55,279 Speaker 1: nineteen or whatever the week is, and then plus the 118 00:05:55,279 --> 00:05:58,159 Speaker 1: weekend list my priorities for the week, and then under 119 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:02,479 Speaker 1: that would do day specif to do lists, adding to 120 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:04,600 Speaker 1: that as things come in that I need to do. 121 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:07,960 Speaker 1: And you realize that you had a bullet journal years before, apparently, 122 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:11,720 Speaker 1: and I have been the bullet journal method because I 123 00:06:11,760 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: have collections as well. I just didn't know they were 124 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:17,840 Speaker 1: called that. Like I have a page devoted to books read. 125 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:21,800 Speaker 1: I have a page devoted to I've been doing some 126 00:06:21,839 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 1: blog time makeovers and so I've got a page devoted 127 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:26,680 Speaker 1: to that. Or if I check my voicemail, which I 128 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 1: tend not to do, but if I do, then I'll 129 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:31,440 Speaker 1: write those down on a page. Yeah, so this is 130 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:36,760 Speaker 1: all collections apparently, but it's not indexed or organized that way. 131 00:06:36,760 --> 00:06:40,560 Speaker 1: It just goes by date. But you know, if it 132 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:46,640 Speaker 1: ain't broke, don't fix it, And this method works. Have 133 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:50,760 Speaker 1: your calendar on your phone too, or are you pure paper? 134 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:54,200 Speaker 1: I'm pure paper. There are things on my phone because 135 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:57,200 Speaker 1: people send me invites for stuff, and sometimes that just 136 00:06:57,200 --> 00:06:59,200 Speaker 1: works for having the number there. I tend to also 137 00:06:59,240 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 1: write the number in my phone. Like if somebody sent 138 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:03,200 Speaker 1: me a dial in or a number to call them, 139 00:07:03,240 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 1: I tend to put it on my calendar as well, 140 00:07:06,120 --> 00:07:08,799 Speaker 1: just because that's the trigger to know that I'm supposed 141 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:10,880 Speaker 1: to call them if there's a number, whereas if there's 142 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:12,520 Speaker 1: not a number, I sort of assume that they'll be 143 00:07:12,520 --> 00:07:16,280 Speaker 1: calling me. And so that's just my visual cue of 144 00:07:16,360 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 1: what is supposed to happen. But people send me invites 145 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:22,520 Speaker 1: and so I just if I hit accept, it goes 146 00:07:22,560 --> 00:07:25,960 Speaker 1: somewhere on my phone and then comes up fifteen minutes before. 147 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:28,000 Speaker 1: I don't really understand the whole purpose. I never looked 148 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 1: at that calendar other than that, but you know, that 149 00:07:31,560 --> 00:07:34,320 Speaker 1: is nice little trigger to remind me to do it, 150 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 1: so I guess that's good. I'm similar in then. My 151 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:39,560 Speaker 1: trusted calendar is the paper one, but I do, like 152 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:41,760 Speaker 1: Josh and I do have a shared Google one, so 153 00:07:41,760 --> 00:07:43,480 Speaker 1: if there's something I need him to know about, I 154 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:46,360 Speaker 1: do that. And I kind of like the electronic calendar 155 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:48,320 Speaker 1: for the exactly like the details, you know what I mean, 156 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:49,640 Speaker 1: Like I might know I wrote down that I have 157 00:07:49,640 --> 00:07:51,360 Speaker 1: newon conference, but I don't need to write the location 158 00:07:51,440 --> 00:07:53,920 Speaker 1: because I know that that calendar electronically stinks with my 159 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:56,480 Speaker 1: phone and I can always see where the location is. 160 00:07:56,560 --> 00:07:59,040 Speaker 1: So we're not you know, I'm not completely living in 161 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:03,920 Speaker 1: like nineteen eighty three, but I am. It's fine, although 162 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:06,720 Speaker 1: now I'm writing and I'm writing with my cross pen. 163 00:08:06,960 --> 00:08:09,000 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, who knows it's gonna write your 164 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: next book with a cross pen. I think I'm going 165 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 1: to type it, but okay, it's fine. Yeah, and anyone 166 00:08:18,640 --> 00:08:20,480 Speaker 1: if you've got a method that works for you, Like, 167 00:08:20,840 --> 00:08:23,400 Speaker 1: don't feel like you need to change it just because 168 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:26,080 Speaker 1: there are fancy planners. Or if you are a paper planner, 169 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:29,680 Speaker 1: you don't need to go to electronic. If you are electronic, 170 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:32,120 Speaker 1: don't feel like you need to do paper just because. 171 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:35,439 Speaker 1: I mean, yes, the washy tape might be cool, but 172 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:39,040 Speaker 1: it's I have no idea what I didn't even do 173 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:41,840 Speaker 1: with washy tape. It would just be stuck in my 174 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:44,520 Speaker 1: notebook like bothering me, like why do I have? You know, 175 00:08:45,720 --> 00:08:47,960 Speaker 1: why do I have scotch tape and my I only 176 00:08:48,040 --> 00:08:50,640 Speaker 1: use washy tape race sparingly, but I use it like 177 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:53,320 Speaker 1: to mark a significant day, and it's purely for fun. 178 00:08:53,520 --> 00:08:56,680 Speaker 1: It is not actually serving much purpose. What do you 179 00:08:56,880 --> 00:08:59,000 Speaker 1: do like it? What is it doing? I usually make 180 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:01,720 Speaker 1: like a border of the page with it, and sometimes 181 00:09:01,760 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 1: that's actually helpful because then it's like, oh, this is 182 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:06,400 Speaker 1: the big this is the page that has my summer 183 00:09:06,440 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 1: reading list, and I can find out because it's like 184 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:10,480 Speaker 1: got a little like colorful tape on the side and 185 00:09:10,480 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 1: I can see it from the side of the book, 186 00:09:11,880 --> 00:09:15,440 Speaker 1: So there's a function. Mostly it's just fun. I do 187 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:23,280 Speaker 1: like washy tape so far, Well there you go, so yes, 188 00:09:23,320 --> 00:09:26,960 Speaker 1: moving on to goals. So, as longtime listeners know, Sarah 189 00:09:27,040 --> 00:09:31,480 Speaker 1: does a quintile system for her goal. So we are 190 00:09:31,600 --> 00:09:35,600 Speaker 1: we are deep into Q four point and heading into 191 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:38,559 Speaker 1: the fifth. But we can talk about both the third 192 00:09:38,600 --> 00:09:41,960 Speaker 1: and fourth in the well, the third that was summer 193 00:09:42,040 --> 00:09:43,720 Speaker 1: and then the fourth is back to school and the 194 00:09:43,720 --> 00:09:46,160 Speaker 1: fifth is that sort of reflective time I think between 195 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:49,600 Speaker 1: November first and December thirty first. Yeah, I mean you 196 00:09:49,720 --> 00:09:52,679 Speaker 1: have had quite the tumultuous cues this year with your 197 00:09:52,679 --> 00:09:55,280 Speaker 1: pregnancy and everything. I've been more in kind of a 198 00:09:55,360 --> 00:09:58,600 Speaker 1: like things are getting easier kind of a phase because 199 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:03,240 Speaker 1: Genevieve sleeps more and I don't know, more of a 200 00:10:03,280 --> 00:10:05,520 Speaker 1: coasting kind of a phase. So I'm feel like I'm 201 00:10:05,520 --> 00:10:09,160 Speaker 1: getting a little bit more done. For Q three, I 202 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:12,040 Speaker 1: had a lot of work goals, mostly just sort of 203 00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 1: transitioning into my program director role, and I feel like 204 00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:16,840 Speaker 1: they've gone really well. And I did. There was a 205 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 1: big milestone of submitting my first sort of program yearly 206 00:10:20,120 --> 00:10:22,520 Speaker 1: summary to the ACGME, which is our governing board, and 207 00:10:22,559 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 1: I succeeded survived that and I'm just happy that's over. 208 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:30,600 Speaker 1: There's still a residency program. Well, we don't get the 209 00:10:30,880 --> 00:10:36,800 Speaker 1: response for a couple months, but let's hope presumably. And 210 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 1: I've sort of transitioned some of my old APD stuff 211 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:41,480 Speaker 1: to our new APD, which is really cool. We hosted 212 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:44,319 Speaker 1: a parenting group play date, which was fun, and I 213 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:47,120 Speaker 1: did a little bit of progress on a research project 214 00:10:47,200 --> 00:10:51,320 Speaker 1: that's ongoing. I don't love doing research, but to some extent, 215 00:10:51,360 --> 00:10:52,880 Speaker 1: I have to do a little bit, and the best 216 00:10:52,880 --> 00:10:54,679 Speaker 1: projects for me are a project that someone else is 217 00:10:54,720 --> 00:10:56,360 Speaker 1: doing but they're using sort of my ideas on my 218 00:10:56,400 --> 00:10:59,720 Speaker 1: patient population, and I think I've found one that fits 219 00:10:59,760 --> 00:11:02,120 Speaker 1: those criteria, so I'm trying to get that to move forward. 220 00:11:02,720 --> 00:11:07,160 Speaker 1: For the blog, we launched our ads yay, and I 221 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:10,199 Speaker 1: tried to get ahead, but I didn't really and I 222 00:11:10,240 --> 00:11:12,760 Speaker 1: wanted to post three times a week, which I generally did. 223 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:15,520 Speaker 1: And then I did want to start an email newsletter 224 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:17,120 Speaker 1: list for my blog because that's what you're supposed to 225 00:11:17,200 --> 00:11:19,640 Speaker 1: do to grow your audience and your reach, and I 226 00:11:19,720 --> 00:11:21,600 Speaker 1: do like, I think it'd be a fun way to 227 00:11:21,640 --> 00:11:24,559 Speaker 1: like send some little extras, but I hit a roadblock 228 00:11:24,640 --> 00:11:26,599 Speaker 1: very quickly because you need to have an address, and 229 00:11:26,600 --> 00:11:28,160 Speaker 1: I didn't want to put my home address. I didn't 230 00:11:28,160 --> 00:11:29,520 Speaker 1: want to put my work address, so I need to 231 00:11:29,559 --> 00:11:31,560 Speaker 1: like apparently could rent an address for like three dollars 232 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:33,160 Speaker 1: a month, but I got caught in a loop of 233 00:11:33,440 --> 00:11:36,640 Speaker 1: like worrying about that. So once I figure out that 234 00:11:37,120 --> 00:11:39,000 Speaker 1: I'm going to do it, but it didn't happen. In 235 00:11:39,080 --> 00:11:40,640 Speaker 1: Q three, it was pretty easy to get a post 236 00:11:40,640 --> 00:11:46,240 Speaker 1: office box or I know virtual that I didn't, so 237 00:11:46,440 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 1: I seemed sort of complicated, but it's probably not because 238 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:51,400 Speaker 1: what do you do a regius because that's where I 239 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:53,960 Speaker 1: go rent an office anywhere. So then and they actually 240 00:11:53,960 --> 00:11:56,640 Speaker 1: have a mail people do mail stuff there because that's 241 00:11:56,720 --> 00:11:59,559 Speaker 1: the uh. I don't get the mail all that frequently. 242 00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:01,480 Speaker 1: So if you're listening to this, like and you want 243 00:12:01,520 --> 00:12:03,400 Speaker 1: to send me something, just email me and I'll send 244 00:12:03,440 --> 00:12:08,559 Speaker 1: you a real address. But for the purposes of direct marketing, 245 00:12:09,080 --> 00:12:11,439 Speaker 1: you do need a physical address that is on your 246 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:15,280 Speaker 1: literature as part of federal law. So that's why Sarah 247 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:18,080 Speaker 1: needs to put an address on there. And so I 248 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:22,080 Speaker 1: have my real physical regious address where mail can be collected. 249 00:12:22,640 --> 00:12:25,640 Speaker 1: There's you know, shown my ID. Everyone send Laura some 250 00:12:26,160 --> 00:12:30,600 Speaker 1: mail now through her regious address. My regious address I 251 00:12:30,640 --> 00:12:31,959 Speaker 1: do pick it up, you know, when I come here 252 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:33,959 Speaker 1: every month or so, so I mean it will get 253 00:12:34,000 --> 00:12:37,160 Speaker 1: to me, just not quickly. So yeah, okay, you haven't 254 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:39,000 Speaker 1: done that. Okay, So that was that was sort of 255 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:42,040 Speaker 1: the blog side. Then we have family to some annoying 256 00:12:42,080 --> 00:12:46,160 Speaker 1: reimbursement stuff, which I did plan winter travel check because 257 00:12:46,160 --> 00:12:50,920 Speaker 1: I decided we're not doing it after that trip. And 258 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:55,880 Speaker 1: then a little bit I need a break. And then 259 00:12:56,400 --> 00:12:58,560 Speaker 1: kid days with Animal and Cameron went really well. I 260 00:12:58,559 --> 00:13:01,920 Speaker 1: did those in June, so that was super fun. Okay, 261 00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:04,680 Speaker 1: two more categories for myself. I wanted to read a 262 00:13:04,720 --> 00:13:06,480 Speaker 1: book a week, which I don't know if I did it, 263 00:13:06,559 --> 00:13:09,360 Speaker 1: like exactly on that schedule, but I did read approximately 264 00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:12,320 Speaker 1: fifteen books from Memorial Day to Labor Day, so I 265 00:13:12,320 --> 00:13:17,880 Speaker 1: think that's close. Ally's right. And oh, that I took 266 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:20,880 Speaker 1: a m be corrected to Miami Beach. That's that's not 267 00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:22,839 Speaker 1: what I meant. I took a trip with my college 268 00:13:22,880 --> 00:13:25,480 Speaker 1: friends to Torlanta Group, which we won't say what MV 269 00:13:25,640 --> 00:13:28,959 Speaker 1: stands for. Apparently in Miami Beach it doesn't beach. That 270 00:13:29,000 --> 00:13:31,319 Speaker 1: would be better than what it actually does stand for exactly. 271 00:13:31,559 --> 00:13:33,760 Speaker 1: And then and but that was a great trip, and 272 00:13:33,800 --> 00:13:35,160 Speaker 1: I can check that one off. And then I was 273 00:13:35,160 --> 00:13:37,560 Speaker 1: going to try these new workouts for my favorite trainer, 274 00:13:38,000 --> 00:13:40,480 Speaker 1: but I didn't because I just stuck with my what 275 00:13:40,600 --> 00:13:43,080 Speaker 1: was already working. July was a kind of low workout 276 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:45,920 Speaker 1: month too, but August was much better. And then finally 277 00:13:46,160 --> 00:13:48,280 Speaker 1: for my house, I wanted to host a play eight. 278 00:13:48,400 --> 00:13:50,040 Speaker 1: There was a barbecue plate eate. I didn't, but I 279 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:53,040 Speaker 1: hosted a eight playd eight, so check. I wanted to 280 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:54,840 Speaker 1: sell the house, and I'm like, no to self, stop 281 00:13:54,880 --> 00:13:56,959 Speaker 1: putting things on your list that you have no control over, 282 00:13:57,040 --> 00:13:58,400 Speaker 1: Like I remember I think I put on my list 283 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:00,000 Speaker 1: in twenty ten, like get pregnant or have a baby 284 00:14:00,200 --> 00:14:02,720 Speaker 1: or something like. You can put that on the list 285 00:14:02,840 --> 00:14:06,319 Speaker 1: to hope. It can't really be a goal, right, Yes, 286 00:14:06,400 --> 00:14:09,360 Speaker 1: that's a fair And then I wanted to Conmary the 287 00:14:09,400 --> 00:14:11,360 Speaker 1: toys and I didn't really do it, but ar Nanny 288 00:14:11,440 --> 00:14:13,880 Speaker 1: kind of did it, so that was great. And the 289 00:14:13,920 --> 00:14:17,319 Speaker 1: clothes and that's going to have to be pushed to 290 00:14:17,360 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 1: the next quarter. 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I don't know 343 00:17:10,240 --> 00:17:12,960 Speaker 1: your summer my summer goals, well, so this is the 344 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:18,280 Speaker 1: thing I was. I prefer to go through my summer 345 00:17:18,440 --> 00:17:20,639 Speaker 1: fun list just because I feel like I did better 346 00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:23,680 Speaker 1: on that. No, I did those count? Those could be yeah, yeah, 347 00:17:23,680 --> 00:17:26,200 Speaker 1: I know. I mean you're saying we'd done a discussion 348 00:17:26,240 --> 00:17:27,800 Speaker 1: of our Q two goals, and I feel like a 349 00:17:27,800 --> 00:17:30,879 Speaker 1: lot of Q two is just taken up with being 350 00:17:30,960 --> 00:17:37,439 Speaker 1: horribly nauseous and tired, which does not massively, you know, 351 00:17:37,880 --> 00:17:41,560 Speaker 1: orient you toward long term goals other than like did 352 00:17:41,600 --> 00:17:47,280 Speaker 1: I survive today? Yes, awesome. Q three was slightly better. 353 00:17:48,359 --> 00:17:52,560 Speaker 1: My goals were to get to one million downloads for 354 00:17:52,600 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 1: this podcast, which we did, so that's very exciting. Thank 355 00:17:56,320 --> 00:17:59,280 Speaker 1: you everybody for downloading and listening, and please tell your 356 00:17:59,280 --> 00:18:01,960 Speaker 1: friends and rate and review us because that helps us grow. 357 00:18:02,680 --> 00:18:05,359 Speaker 1: I wanted to do mommy days with the kids. I 358 00:18:05,400 --> 00:18:07,480 Speaker 1: did with all four of them, so that was great. 359 00:18:08,280 --> 00:18:12,080 Speaker 1: I said, a solo overnight retreat, which no, I didn't do. 360 00:18:12,280 --> 00:18:14,679 Speaker 1: On the other hand, I mean I traveled a ton 361 00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:17,639 Speaker 1: in June, and I wound up with a number of 362 00:18:17,720 --> 00:18:22,720 Speaker 1: nights in various places that I was theoretically could have 363 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:25,840 Speaker 1: had deep thoughts, but I had no deep thoughts. I 364 00:18:25,880 --> 00:18:32,600 Speaker 1: watched HGTV and sat in bed doing nothing. So oh well, 365 00:18:32,880 --> 00:18:37,040 Speaker 1: maybe I'll get to that eventually. So Q four, I 366 00:18:37,040 --> 00:18:40,919 Speaker 1: mean looking forward to this what I have anticipating. I 367 00:18:40,920 --> 00:18:42,920 Speaker 1: don't know if any of this will have I said 368 00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:45,000 Speaker 1: I wanted my next book idea. I don't know if 369 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:46,240 Speaker 1: I will have that by the end of the year. 370 00:18:46,840 --> 00:18:49,040 Speaker 1: I wanted to do an overnight trip with Michael. I 371 00:18:49,040 --> 00:18:50,680 Speaker 1: don't know if we'll do that either. We did French 372 00:18:50,760 --> 00:18:55,480 Speaker 1: laundry for our animals, baby and maybe I put voice 373 00:18:55,560 --> 00:18:57,720 Speaker 1: lessons on here. I keep putting this on my goals list, 374 00:18:57,760 --> 00:18:59,399 Speaker 1: and then I don't do it, which maybe I should, 375 00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:04,080 Speaker 1: you know, interpret as I don't necessarily need to do it. 376 00:19:04,119 --> 00:19:06,320 Speaker 1: I think singing in the choir, if I just practice 377 00:19:06,359 --> 00:19:08,880 Speaker 1: an extra sort of thirty to sixty minutes a week 378 00:19:08,920 --> 00:19:10,760 Speaker 1: on my own, I could probably get some of that in. 379 00:19:11,359 --> 00:19:14,280 Speaker 1: But the summer fun list I was very good at. 380 00:19:14,600 --> 00:19:17,479 Speaker 1: I was quite happy that this managed to work as 381 00:19:17,480 --> 00:19:20,639 Speaker 1: well as it did, given you know what the summer 382 00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:24,280 Speaker 1: wound up being like. But you know, I said I 383 00:19:24,320 --> 00:19:26,960 Speaker 1: wanted to do strawberry picking. We did. I wanted to 384 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:28,800 Speaker 1: go to member night at the Zoo. We did. I 385 00:19:28,800 --> 00:19:30,920 Speaker 1: wanted to go to a beer garden, two of them. 386 00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:33,119 Speaker 1: I went to Asbury and Longwood, and people are like, no, 387 00:19:33,200 --> 00:19:36,360 Speaker 1: wait a minute. You know, as I've said, like one 388 00:19:36,480 --> 00:19:39,560 Speaker 1: drink occasionally is okay. I had like half a beer 389 00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:42,080 Speaker 1: at both, so I'd ordered beer. Michael to order beer. 390 00:19:42,080 --> 00:19:43,720 Speaker 1: I drink half of mine and give him the rest. 391 00:19:44,200 --> 00:19:49,080 Speaker 1: We went to Aquavite and French Laundry to create Michelin 392 00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:54,040 Speaker 1: restaurants in one month. Yeah, one summer that was. Unfortunately 393 00:19:54,200 --> 00:19:57,960 Speaker 1: I was I was sick for aquavit, so that was 394 00:19:58,040 --> 00:20:03,040 Speaker 1: somewhat sad, it is said, but oh well, we got 395 00:20:03,080 --> 00:20:05,119 Speaker 1: ice cream at days in Ocean Grove. We did that 396 00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:07,160 Speaker 1: a lot when we were there. We did a few 397 00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:10,320 Speaker 1: family bike rides. I did some solo swimming mommy days 398 00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:12,320 Speaker 1: with the kids. We went to a Phillies game that 399 00:20:12,400 --> 00:20:14,760 Speaker 1: was actually quite a bit of fun. Took the big 400 00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:18,320 Speaker 1: boys to that. I put music outdoors. We're recording this 401 00:20:18,359 --> 00:20:21,440 Speaker 1: before that happened, but we're doing a September Brad Paisley concert, 402 00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:23,720 Speaker 1: so this is October and this is running, so we 403 00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:26,919 Speaker 1: should have done that. Hi, can you assemite? And then 404 00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:29,960 Speaker 1: I put edit my novel did not happen. I did 405 00:20:29,960 --> 00:20:33,840 Speaker 1: not touch it from April on, which, again, you know, 406 00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:37,199 Speaker 1: maybe I just need to accept that. I don't know. 407 00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:41,920 Speaker 1: I think in general my goals have sort of shifted 408 00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:47,000 Speaker 1: in the sense that I am happy that I survived 409 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:51,359 Speaker 1: Q two and Q three and give my kids a 410 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:54,119 Speaker 1: pretty cool summer even if I wasn't operating at one 411 00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:58,440 Speaker 1: hundred percent capacity, hopefully. And you're still doing a lot. 412 00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:00,480 Speaker 1: I mean, you're doing your other podcast, You're doing a 413 00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:02,879 Speaker 1: ton of speaking, You're traveling all over the place, Like 414 00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:05,800 Speaker 1: I don't want our listeners like to I don't. I 415 00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:07,920 Speaker 1: think your version of like I'm not doing much is 416 00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:11,919 Speaker 1: actually doing like yeah a lot. Yeah. But hopefully you 417 00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:14,600 Speaker 1: just keep working on some of those things and they'll 418 00:21:14,680 --> 00:21:16,880 Speaker 1: they'll be good. So now how about you looking forward, 419 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:22,600 Speaker 1: Sarah as we're here in Q four for you quintile four, yes, yes, 420 00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:25,520 Speaker 1: pushing back to Q four and what we want to 421 00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:27,920 Speaker 1: do well, A lot some of it's a holdover from 422 00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:32,479 Speaker 1: Q three, So I mean, I would like to succeed 423 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:34,720 Speaker 1: through interview season. So that's my next kind of hump 424 00:21:34,800 --> 00:21:37,680 Speaker 1: to get over in for our program. If you are 425 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:40,480 Speaker 1: a resident to be, you should totally interview with our program. 426 00:21:40,480 --> 00:21:43,439 Speaker 1: It's awesome. I want to. We're going to get a 427 00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:45,680 Speaker 1: new coordinator soon, so I'm going to be onboarding her, 428 00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:48,240 Speaker 1: so that's very exciting. I have some other little things 429 00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:50,480 Speaker 1: I want to establish in our clinic for the blog 430 00:21:50,480 --> 00:21:53,320 Speaker 1: and the podcast. I want to get a po box 431 00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:56,520 Speaker 1: so I can still start my list and then actually 432 00:21:56,520 --> 00:21:59,480 Speaker 1: start my list. And I set up kind of fun 433 00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:02,400 Speaker 1: challenge to just blog daily in September because I kind 434 00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:03,600 Speaker 1: of missed the old days when you just sort of 435 00:22:03,640 --> 00:22:07,080 Speaker 1: blogged some random thing that took twenty minutes and I 436 00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:08,520 Speaker 1: don't know. I just thought it would be fun thing 437 00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:10,200 Speaker 1: to do, and so far, i'm like a day five 438 00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:13,440 Speaker 1: and it's still novelty and fun. And I do wanted 439 00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:16,119 Speaker 1: to try to Like sometimes I've been doing my pod 440 00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:18,399 Speaker 1: prep very last minute, but I feel much better when 441 00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:20,280 Speaker 1: I do it several days in advance, as I did 442 00:22:20,280 --> 00:22:23,720 Speaker 1: this week, and it was great. I wanted to continue 443 00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:26,120 Speaker 1: monthly summit meetings with Josh, so we've started having these 444 00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:28,360 Speaker 1: like Sunday night early dinner dates where we like talk 445 00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:30,639 Speaker 1: about like stuff that's coming up and kind of strategize 446 00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:33,199 Speaker 1: and do financial stuff and it's kind of fun. And 447 00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:35,440 Speaker 1: Josh and I are going to take a weekend, either 448 00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:37,439 Speaker 1: like a local trip or a staycation like we may 449 00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:40,320 Speaker 1: go to We were thinking about like Delray Beach for 450 00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:43,240 Speaker 1: a night in a night's hotel, but like not travel 451 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:45,159 Speaker 1: far because we realize that what we really want is 452 00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:47,639 Speaker 1: like time at home to chill without the kids for 453 00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:50,879 Speaker 1: one weekend, and we don't necessarily care if we're anywhere else, 454 00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:52,960 Speaker 1: and our nanny is willing to take the kids to 455 00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:54,320 Speaker 1: her house, so that is a way that we can 456 00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:57,520 Speaker 1: accomplish that. I'm working on my skincare, can you tell? 457 00:22:57,600 --> 00:22:59,720 Speaker 1: And I'm just kidding, And I want to set up 458 00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:02,879 Speaker 1: my twin twenty planner. I want to replace my lounge 459 00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:05,560 Speaker 1: wear because my shirts have like holes and it's terrible, 460 00:23:06,359 --> 00:23:09,440 Speaker 1: And I want to keep reading. I kind of have 461 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,399 Speaker 1: a nice routine going where I'm reading nonfiction in the 462 00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:13,639 Speaker 1: morning and then my fun reading the rest of the 463 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:16,199 Speaker 1: day or at night. I would note Sarah has a 464 00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:18,680 Speaker 1: note on here that she has been doing a flossing 465 00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:23,160 Speaker 1: streak that yes, it will be a year, it will 466 00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:25,040 Speaker 1: be a year. Well, I think I put that on 467 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:27,080 Speaker 1: there to remind myself that even if you've tried to 468 00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:29,639 Speaker 1: do something a million times, it doesn't mean you'll never succeed. 469 00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:32,800 Speaker 1: Because I have now fossed for basically a year after 470 00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:35,679 Speaker 1: like failing to do so for like, I don't know, 471 00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:39,399 Speaker 1: fifteen years, So you're never too old to adopt a 472 00:23:39,440 --> 00:23:42,080 Speaker 1: new habit. And it's definitely an actual habit for me now, 473 00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:43,480 Speaker 1: like I feel weird if I don't do it, so 474 00:23:43,640 --> 00:23:47,080 Speaker 1: that's kind of cool. And then finally, my family list 475 00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:49,040 Speaker 1: is kind of funny because it's really early to be 476 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:51,040 Speaker 1: doing some of these things. I do want to use 477 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,480 Speaker 1: our whiteboard system that I talked about and I think 478 00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:55,600 Speaker 1: in another episode, but that's okay. I want to host 479 00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:58,240 Speaker 1: another plate, which I already invited them. I want to 480 00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:00,480 Speaker 1: plan my sister's baby shower so that it's going to 481 00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:02,840 Speaker 1: be really fun. And I want to figure out Halloween 482 00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:04,840 Speaker 1: super early, and I think my kids have an idea 483 00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:06,919 Speaker 1: and I just want to be done with it before October. 484 00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:09,240 Speaker 1: And I want to also order our holiday cards in 485 00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:11,720 Speaker 1: October because I want to send them in November instead 486 00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:14,600 Speaker 1: of during the actual holiday season because our address changed 487 00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:16,320 Speaker 1: and that way people who are sending us cards will 488 00:24:16,359 --> 00:24:18,240 Speaker 1: have our new address, so it'll be like a Thanksgiving 489 00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:21,200 Speaker 1: slash change of ad aggress slash. We're just excited to 490 00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:24,160 Speaker 1: be your first holiday card card that we'll be sending out. 491 00:24:24,680 --> 00:24:26,960 Speaker 1: Those are all great ideas, Yeah, no, important to send 492 00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:29,960 Speaker 1: get those out before you get a million cards at 493 00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:34,440 Speaker 1: your old address and don't know what to do with them. Yeah, 494 00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:37,160 Speaker 1: I know, this is these great So you know, as 495 00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:39,800 Speaker 1: we always love goals, we'd love to hear from listeners 496 00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:42,640 Speaker 1: as well about their goals, so feel free to send 497 00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:47,439 Speaker 1: those to us. Always looking for creative ones as well. Well. 498 00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:52,080 Speaker 1: Shall we go to the question section? Yes, okay and 499 00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:55,000 Speaker 1: This was a great question because the person wrote back 500 00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:57,560 Speaker 1: and it actually had a handwritten list, and that always 501 00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:00,680 Speaker 1: makes me so happy to see other people's lists. Fun. Okay, 502 00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:03,400 Speaker 1: so here's the question, and then Laura can give her answer, 503 00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:06,680 Speaker 1: and I'll give you my two cents. Okay, So I've 504 00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:09,640 Speaker 1: got thirteen weeks not me, but the writer before she's 505 00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,080 Speaker 1: due back to work and things were starting to get 506 00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:15,320 Speaker 1: a little easier with her baby. So she has I 507 00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:18,760 Speaker 1: think two older kids and had one young baby, and 508 00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:22,000 Speaker 1: she's looking for things to do during that time before 509 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:24,000 Speaker 1: you go back to work during maternity leave when you 510 00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:26,920 Speaker 1: have time but not a lot of money. I would 511 00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:30,480 Speaker 1: add here that she's in a European country where it's 512 00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:33,359 Speaker 1: more customary to take like ten eleven months. So the 513 00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:35,880 Speaker 1: fact that she has thirteen weeks quite long before she's 514 00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:38,879 Speaker 1: going back to work is because she's already been probably 515 00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:40,600 Speaker 1: like eight months, so it's been off for eight months. 516 00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:42,159 Speaker 1: So this is not like she just gave birth and 517 00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:43,800 Speaker 1: has going back in thirteen weeks is like, well, how 518 00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:45,359 Speaker 1: do I fill my time? Like, well, I can't answer 519 00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:49,399 Speaker 1: that for you, but her baby's older at this point. Yes, 520 00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:52,080 Speaker 1: So she says she's piled her savings into buying a 521 00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:54,600 Speaker 1: new house, but they live near a beach. She takes 522 00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:57,359 Speaker 1: regular walks, she used to do three times weekly body 523 00:25:57,359 --> 00:26:00,439 Speaker 1: pump classes, and likes to read. She's turning already in 524 00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:03,680 Speaker 1: November and wants to do something memorable with this extra time. 525 00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:07,120 Speaker 1: She does want to plan and execute a house move 526 00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:10,000 Speaker 1: and some work related things, and she does have her 527 00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:13,240 Speaker 1: list of one hundred dreams handy, thank you, Laura, but 528 00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:15,199 Speaker 1: she says there's not that much on that she'll be 529 00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:17,240 Speaker 1: able to do because they're feeling a little bit financially 530 00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:19,840 Speaker 1: constrained due to this house. And I hear you girl 531 00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:23,720 Speaker 1: about the house quite the money sink. So she says, 532 00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:25,920 Speaker 1: what are your thoughts for things to do during this 533 00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:31,720 Speaker 1: ample time less money period? So ideas, Laura, I had some, 534 00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:34,920 Speaker 1: well what you had more ideas than I did, So 535 00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:39,400 Speaker 1: I wrote training for So she mentioned some fitness things, 536 00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:40,840 Speaker 1: So I wrote training for a race or doing a 537 00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:44,119 Speaker 1: new fitness plan. Maybe like picking some series of books 538 00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:46,560 Speaker 1: to read, Like maybe there's some nonfiction topic you want 539 00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:48,800 Speaker 1: to learn and there's something fun about like picking like 540 00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:51,199 Speaker 1: five books or some manageable number and then being like, 541 00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:53,960 Speaker 1: I'm going to read this series versus you know, just 542 00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:57,159 Speaker 1: picking one at a time. Maybe taking some kind of 543 00:26:57,200 --> 00:27:00,520 Speaker 1: free or low cost online course or module. Maybe you 544 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:03,280 Speaker 1: want to learn photography, Maybe you want to learn I 545 00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:06,119 Speaker 1: don't know, marketing out it's something that there's resources online 546 00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:08,679 Speaker 1: that aren't terribly expensive. You could maybe take on a 547 00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:11,920 Speaker 1: cooking project. And particularly if you wanted to maybe learn 548 00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:14,720 Speaker 1: some efficient techniques that would benefit you, you you know, after 549 00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:16,359 Speaker 1: you go back to work, that would be kind of cool. 550 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:20,960 Speaker 1: I suggested a writing project and maybe some like dedicated 551 00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,119 Speaker 1: kid fun days, like you know, just with one on 552 00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:26,159 Speaker 1: one time with her kids if she has childcare coverage 553 00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:28,080 Speaker 1: for the others. Yeah. No, I love the idea of 554 00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:31,119 Speaker 1: a writing project. And we're coming into November, which is 555 00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:35,200 Speaker 1: National Novel Writing Month here in the US. For people 556 00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:40,000 Speaker 1: who aren't aware of this holiday, it's when thousands of 557 00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:43,800 Speaker 1: people attempt to write a fifty thousand word novel in 558 00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:46,800 Speaker 1: the month of November, which and you've done it twice 559 00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:48,879 Speaker 1: a many times. Yeah, we do the math. It's like 560 00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:51,479 Speaker 1: sixteen hundred sixty seven words a day. But if you're 561 00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:53,760 Speaker 1: going to not do weekends, it's more like two thousand 562 00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:55,560 Speaker 1: and if you're going to take the Thanksgiving days off, 563 00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:58,200 Speaker 1: it's really more like twenty five hundred. So aiming to 564 00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:01,720 Speaker 1: write twenty five hundred words a day during work days 565 00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:05,080 Speaker 1: in November, we'll get you to fifty thousand words. But 566 00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:07,760 Speaker 1: you know, it's really great for if you've ever said, like, oh, 567 00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:10,480 Speaker 1: I want to write a book. I have this book idea. Well, 568 00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:13,040 Speaker 1: this allows you to get it out and then you 569 00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:15,600 Speaker 1: can take your time revising it and spend all the 570 00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:17,720 Speaker 1: time in the world revising it. But it's so much 571 00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:20,280 Speaker 1: easier to take something and turn it into something better 572 00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:24,439 Speaker 1: than to turn nothing into something. And this tight deadline 573 00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:27,600 Speaker 1: gets a lot of people over the sort of perfectionism 574 00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:29,840 Speaker 1: and when wondering like is this good? Is it not? No, 575 00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:34,480 Speaker 1: it's horrible, okay, because you're writing it in thirty days, 576 00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:39,000 Speaker 1: But that's actually kind OF's there and that's kind of liberating, like, yes, 577 00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:40,760 Speaker 1: of course it's horrible, but we're going to make it 578 00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:43,240 Speaker 1: better later. At least it exists. So I'm a big 579 00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:45,080 Speaker 1: fan of that. If she wants to take that on 580 00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:47,240 Speaker 1: before going back to work, she might be able to 581 00:28:47,240 --> 00:28:50,520 Speaker 1: fit that in during the baby's naps, for instance, or 582 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,360 Speaker 1: in the evening after her kids go to bed, or 583 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:54,840 Speaker 1: something like that. Or if she has a little bit 584 00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:57,360 Speaker 1: of childcare during those times, it could work. I also 585 00:28:57,360 --> 00:28:59,920 Speaker 1: love Sarah's idea of training for a race, and love 586 00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:02,320 Speaker 1: the idea of the book series as well, because again, 587 00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:04,960 Speaker 1: this is another thing that could happen during nap. So again, 588 00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:07,600 Speaker 1: if she doesn't really have childcare during her maternity leave, 589 00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:12,720 Speaker 1: this is something she could in fact tackle. She could read. 590 00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:16,760 Speaker 1: There's a lot of really long novels, so especially if 591 00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:20,040 Speaker 1: she is, for instance, nursing, she could read while nursing 592 00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:23,520 Speaker 1: and read while the baby's napping and have the ability 593 00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:26,040 Speaker 1: to get through thousand page books. I don't know, you 594 00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:30,200 Speaker 1: read the works of James Joyce and Told Story and 595 00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:32,720 Speaker 1: so Dickens, and that would be super heavy, so you 596 00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:34,280 Speaker 1: definitely have to do it on a kindle or your 597 00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:36,600 Speaker 1: phone otherwise you'd probably fall in the baby's head and 598 00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:38,680 Speaker 1: you have to like put it on a stand next 599 00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:43,280 Speaker 1: to you while you're feeding. So yeah, those are those 600 00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:50,240 Speaker 1: are some fun ideas, all right. So Love of the Week. Yes, 601 00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:56,600 Speaker 1: mine is a planner related product. So I chose this 602 00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:59,320 Speaker 1: really cool. It's actually I wrote post it note tape, 603 00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:01,280 Speaker 1: but it's definitely not post it note brand, and post 604 00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:04,720 Speaker 1: it is like TM so it's like sticky note tape, 605 00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:07,360 Speaker 1: I believe is what it's called. Mine is Yamato brand. 606 00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:11,440 Speaker 1: It's very Japanese and it is like, I know, Laura's like, 607 00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:13,480 Speaker 1: what is this tape for? But like if I want 608 00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:15,520 Speaker 1: to pay, like a little accent note that's like a 609 00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:18,360 Speaker 1: neon color in my planner, just like it's like the 610 00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:20,280 Speaker 1: sticky part of the sticky note without the paper so 611 00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:22,640 Speaker 1: it doesn't like flop around. And I just think it's 612 00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:24,960 Speaker 1: the cutest ever. So that is my love of ten 613 00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:28,400 Speaker 1: And that's is that another Hobanichi product or I mean 614 00:30:28,440 --> 00:30:30,640 Speaker 1: you can get on Amazon too. The brand is Yamato 615 00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:34,360 Speaker 1: Tomato gotcha? Well I am. I'm drinking at the moment 616 00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:37,760 Speaker 1: out of my Racetrack coffee mug. It's a traveler mug 617 00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:41,560 Speaker 1: and I think I also got this one for free. 618 00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:46,080 Speaker 1: Racetrack for our northern listeners is the wah Wah of 619 00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:48,360 Speaker 1: the South. I think they'd probably hate to be called that, 620 00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:53,000 Speaker 1: but there's, uh, you know, there's a couple higher end 621 00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:55,920 Speaker 1: convenience store slash gas station brands in the US, and 622 00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:59,240 Speaker 1: there's wah Wah, which is more Northern states, and Racetrack 623 00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:00,760 Speaker 1: is the one that they haven't south anyway. This is 624 00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:03,080 Speaker 1: a travel mug, and I've gotten into the idea of 625 00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:05,400 Speaker 1: using a travel mug for my coffee in the morning, 626 00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:08,360 Speaker 1: partly because I brew a fresh pot and then I'd 627 00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:11,480 Speaker 1: have to like leave my mug to go run the 628 00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:13,720 Speaker 1: carpool or bring kids out to the bus stop, and 629 00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:16,680 Speaker 1: I come back and it's half you know, it's lukewarm, 630 00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:18,520 Speaker 1: and then I'm unhappy about it, or you know, I 631 00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:21,000 Speaker 1: get on a phone call and then I don't have 632 00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:24,320 Speaker 1: any the coffee is bad by the time I'm done. 633 00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,040 Speaker 1: I was like, I put it in a travel mug 634 00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:29,360 Speaker 1: and I'm not traveling anywhere, but it keeps it warm 635 00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:33,600 Speaker 1: for the three hours it takes me to drink my 636 00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:36,360 Speaker 1: two cups of coffee in the morning. So I am 637 00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:38,720 Speaker 1: I am a big fan of this concept to that 638 00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:42,160 Speaker 1: even if you're not commuting, I don't mind cold coffee, 639 00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:45,680 Speaker 1: but warm is better. Warm is definitely better. So that's 640 00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:47,800 Speaker 1: totally cool. All right, Well this, well, this has been 641 00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:50,920 Speaker 1: a short episode. We hope you're not like dying for more, 642 00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:52,760 Speaker 1: but maybe you're happy because you're able to fit it 643 00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:55,480 Speaker 1: in one of your commutes. Yeah, this has been a 644 00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:58,000 Speaker 1: best of both Worlds. We've been talking about our goals. 645 00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:00,880 Speaker 1: We will be back next speak with more on making 646 00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:05,280 Speaker 1: work and life fit together. Thanks for listening. You can 647 00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:08,800 Speaker 1: find me Sarah at the shoebox dot com or at 648 00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:12,360 Speaker 1: the Underscore Shoebox on Instagram, and you can find me 649 00:32:12,920 --> 00:32:16,640 Speaker 1: Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. This has been the 650 00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:20,160 Speaker 1: best of both Worlds podcasts. Please join us next time 651 00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:23,000 Speaker 1: for more on making work and life work together.