Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in back in the studio,
Speaker 2: back in the stude.
Speaker 3: How does it feel for you? Tanya?
Speaker 1: You know this is my way of choice? Yes, podcast
Speaker 1: of choice. Yeah, yeah, I think it's everybody's. Yeah, just
Speaker 1: the vibes, the vibes, no delay, no screens.
Speaker 4: You we're surrounded by screens. There's literally one.
Speaker 1: Ah, there are screens are out number bus at the screens.
Speaker 1: The screens are just there. We look into each other's eyes.
Speaker 3: Oh, I see you.
Speaker 4: Knows in this room.
Speaker 1: Human connection.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you get the jokes more when we're in person.
Speaker 1: I think I do. I think I'm quicker in person
Speaker 1: than I am on delay. Okay, it says there's delay.
Speaker 1: What delay causes delay? There's delay in the screens when
Speaker 1: we're on screen. Can I get a come from me?
Speaker 4: In studio or not? In studio? We don't get your
Speaker 4: jokes or your comments.
Speaker 2: They right, well, there go all around us because none
Speaker 2: they don't make sense.
Speaker 3: They don't they.
Speaker 2: Go over our head, they go around our body, under
Speaker 2: our feet.
Speaker 3: They're just over us exactly.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because Tanya is elevated. Her mind is elevated above
Speaker 2: the rest.
Speaker 1: Don't even get me started, because I'm on a whole
Speaker 1: nother level after this weekend. But I want to talk
Speaker 1: about your weekend. First.
Speaker 3: Okay, my weekend. I had a great weekend.
Speaker 1: Just chill, super chill, very chill.
Speaker 3: I I'm trying to Okay.
Speaker 2: Well, first of all, I would just like to say
Speaker 2: that starting last week, so it's been six days, I
Speaker 2: haven't had any like processed food.
Speaker 3: Everything I've eaten, thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Everything I've eaten has been like farmed to table.
Speaker 2: Sure, crazy, but like went and bought groceries like fresh produce.
Speaker 2: Haley and I cooked, well, mostly Haley cooked. But yeah,
Speaker 2: so I feel like my body's going through a detox.
Speaker 2: Though they feel nice, No, like I feel like I'm
Speaker 2: in the d talk space.
Speaker 3: Was like, where is the process.
Speaker 1: Of no pop tarts?
Speaker 4: McDonald's potato chips?
Speaker 2: No? Wow, my potato chips were like some like plantain
Speaker 2: chip or something.
Speaker 3: I don't know, something healthy Haley had?
Speaker 4: Wow, something healthy?
Speaker 1: Is I something healthy?
Speaker 5: Had something?
Speaker 1: You don't get that over zoom.
Speaker 3: You don't get those harmonies.
Speaker 1: No, no, so uh Friday.
Speaker 2: We went and had a old date Night and that
Speaker 2: was fun, and then Saturday and Sunday we just kind
Speaker 2: of chilled.
Speaker 3: Like Saturday, we had a really chill day.
Speaker 2: Like watch the Oceans eleven through thirteen series.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2: You know what sparked this was that was eleven and thirteen. No,
Speaker 2: there's eleven, twelve and thirteen. Ocean's eleven, Ocean's twelve, Oceans thirty.
Speaker 1: There's not like a one, two, three, four, five, Oh my.
Speaker 3: Gosh, but I wouldn't mind.
Speaker 2: Well, what sparked this is that we were watching Friends
Speaker 2: and it was the episode where Brad Pitt's on and like,
Speaker 2: you forget when they opened the door, how stunning that man.
Speaker 3: It's like Haley and I were both like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2: And then she was like, I love him in the
Speaker 2: Ocean series, and so she's like, we should watch that
Speaker 2: all day tomorrow. So we did that, and then we
Speaker 2: went to her friend Ben's show. So her friend Ben Abraham,
Speaker 2: he's a musician and he had like a similar story.
Speaker 2: So when we went public with our relationship, he had
Speaker 2: just written his album and it was kind of his
Speaker 2: story about coming out and he grew up like very
Speaker 2: much in the church, and I really resonated with like
Speaker 2: a lot of his songs in album. So we went
Speaker 2: and saw him at the Troubadoor. That's such a fun venue.
Speaker 3: The best view.
Speaker 1: It's so cute, cute, and it.
Speaker 2: Feels like so intimate, like you get to kind of
Speaker 2: I would imagine being on the stage, you can kind
Speaker 2: of like see everybody.
Speaker 1: And then Republic did an underplay there one like recently,
Speaker 1: and that was the coolest thing ever because like one
Speaker 1: Republic can do huge venues and the yeah, they did
Speaker 1: it there, and I was like, wow, that's cool.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we did that, and then yesterday we went
Speaker 2: to the Angel City game and it was crazy. We
Speaker 2: went and uh, first we walk in and we go
Speaker 2: in the bathroom and Sophia Bush is in there, and
Speaker 2: I was she like walked off as we were walking in,
Speaker 2: and I was like she was like her, no, not
Speaker 2: in that moment. So we were walking and like as
Speaker 2: she was walking out, and so Haley's like, oh my,
Speaker 2: I said, that was a fea Bush and She's like,
Speaker 2: oh my gosh. She was so pretty, like almost I
Speaker 2: felt like I needed to look away and I was like,
Speaker 2: I know, she looks so pretty. So I felt like
Speaker 2: I needed for me. You know, she was staring too
Speaker 2: long another woman, but I was fine with it because
Speaker 2: it was Sophia Bush. And then we go and sit
Speaker 2: down and they were sitting next to us with our
Speaker 2: friends and like at that same.
Speaker 1: Time, Sophia Bush is Sophia Bush.
Speaker 2: Oh, and her friend group yes okay, and not her
Speaker 2: podcast host or.
Speaker 5: The other drama queens were actually not them.
Speaker 4: Yeah, is she a co owner of this team? I know,
Speaker 4: there's so many female celebrities.
Speaker 3: I don't know. Maybe I'm not sure.
Speaker 5: She's at.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so as we all are of course.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: And then two of my.
Speaker 2: Friends who were that you know, Justine that okay, So
Speaker 2: Justine and our other friend Kean, and they were in
Speaker 2: her like little sweet section. So we were talking to them,
Speaker 2: and then up comes uh, Katerinas core Zone and Er
Speaker 2: fight Master from Gray's Anatomy Amelia girl Kai.
Speaker 1: It gets even bigger than that, So I like.
Speaker 3: Say, hey, I had met Er before.
Speaker 2: And we met Katerina at the chill in the hospital
Speaker 2: and chuck, Yeah, I reintroduced myself and I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm such a big fan of Grazing Anatomy and then
Speaker 2: I just kind of like glit, you know, I didn't
Speaker 2: make a thing of it.
Speaker 1: So then are they friends? Are they dating?
Speaker 2: No, they're friends I think, and just like the coolest people.
Speaker 2: And so we went until we watched the game, and
Speaker 2: then Jennifer Gardner is sitting over to like the other
Speaker 2: side of us, and Haley's like the biggest I'm a
Speaker 2: big jenn Gardner fan, but Haley's like it's turned her
Speaker 2: top five, you know. So I was like, let's go see,
Speaker 2: like if she comes down here, like let's say hey. So, uh,
Speaker 2: they came down because there was a proposal that happened
Speaker 2: during halftime. So Jennifer was standing like next to her section,
Speaker 2: so Haley got to say hey, and once she got
Speaker 2: proposed to, Jennifer, Gardner like hugged everybody like she hugged me.
Speaker 3: And she was like, yeah, like so excited that.
Speaker 4: B wow, you hugged Jennifer.
Speaker 1: Then well she was pretty Gardner was there.
Speaker 4: I could confirm Sophia Bush and Jennifer Garner are both
Speaker 4: investors in Angel City Football.
Speaker 1: Okay, that tracks.
Speaker 2: So then somehow we make our way into this lounge
Speaker 2: and this is during halftime, and I see Glennon Doyle
Speaker 2: and Abby Wombac, which glenn and Glennon's book Untamed. I
Speaker 2: remember reading it and it was so like there were
Speaker 2: so many parallels to what I had been through in
Speaker 2: my relationship with Hailey, and.
Speaker 1: Then you recommended it to me and I read it
Speaker 1: and I was like, there's so many parallels in my
Speaker 1: relationship with Robbie. It's crazy. It was just like a
Speaker 1: very uh what's like a revolutionary huge That book was
Speaker 1: like a big moment my life.
Speaker 2: So when I met her, I was like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2: And and she randomly follows me on Instagram. So we
Speaker 2: she was like so warm and like hugged me and
Speaker 2: we chatted and I went to tell her was like,
Speaker 2: your book meant so much me and I like got teary.
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm not doing this right now. I'm
Speaker 2: not doing this, but I just wanted to say, like
Speaker 2: you being so much. And then Abby walks up and
Speaker 2: so we're just like chatting with me.
Speaker 3: Haley at her wife.
Speaker 4: Abby Bach is maybe Won Bucker also investors in Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 2: They have like an all star list of investors. So
Speaker 2: they were awesome. We take a photo and then we go, well.
Speaker 1: Ask for the photo.
Speaker 2: Haley was like, let me get on and then and
Speaker 2: then our friend Kean was like, oh, Hayley get in there.
Speaker 3: So it was like.
Speaker 2: Lennon and then everybody okay, okay, yeah, so then.
Speaker 1: We go and hold on, are you going to move
Speaker 1: on from Glennin?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Okay, back up a little bit.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 1: She follows you on Instagram. Yeah, and now you have
Speaker 1: met her in real life.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: She is a dream guest for me on this podcast.
Speaker 6: Me too.
Speaker 2: But we have reached out and there hasn't been movement forward.
Speaker 1: I feel as though now's the time to strike, and
Speaker 1: it might need to be in your DMS.
Speaker 2: I just it's so vulnerable, you know, like there's been
Speaker 2: DM exchanges that haven't been replied to. I think like
Speaker 2: where I've like said, you know, that's.
Speaker 1: Just ego, and we know who cares about ego.
Speaker 3: I think there's ego and I think there's reality, and.
Speaker 7: I think what's the worst I could happen?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Literally, ever, I'll shoot, I'll shoot my shot.
Speaker 1: For us because here's the thing, this is a safe space,
Speaker 1: and we'll take her on zoom. Happy to have her
Speaker 1: on zoom. Oh yeah, we don't need you to like.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're fine, We're more than four.
Speaker 1: Yea, we don't know.
Speaker 3: We don't need you to hop on the fore.
Speaker 1: I will take Lennon and a zoom in her car.
Speaker 1: No need. Yeah, yeah, we will take Lennon. However she
Speaker 1: may come, well.
Speaker 2: I'll I'll do my best to try and make this happen.
Speaker 2: It's a safe space for her very much. So yeah,
Speaker 2: my dream, but.
Speaker 3: To have both of them, I don't know.
Speaker 2: Also sour And then JP Sachs was there and so
Speaker 2: he and Haley were talking and I was like, oh,
Speaker 2: y'all should write a song together. Nice Becca, I'm just connecting,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 5: Like DJ Khaled, look at you, J Khalid.
Speaker 2: Another one. So then Sophia Bush is in the in
Speaker 2: the lounge, so I go, I'm like, I just have
Speaker 2: to say I am such a massive fan, and I
Speaker 2: like freaked out when we walked in and.
Speaker 3: You were in the bathroom and she's like, oh my god,
Speaker 3: I saw you too.
Speaker 2: And then they put me in Haley on the Jumbo
Speaker 2: Tron and she was like, yeah, we're so cute.
Speaker 3: On the Jumbo Tron and well, Haley made it a
Speaker 3: kiss cam.
Speaker 2: Well, because they hold it on you for so long
Speaker 2: that you're just like, okay, our friend was like, kiss,
Speaker 2: kis kiss, So Haley kissed me and then I we
Speaker 2: talked about Easton.
Speaker 3: Was talking about me bestman.
Speaker 1: She said, I actually regret I saw Paris Hilton at
Speaker 1: a Selena's birthday party and I wanted to go after
Speaker 1: her and talk to her about Easton, but I was like,
Speaker 1: it's midnight on a Friday, I know, and I like
Speaker 1: that was gonna be I was like, I just need
Speaker 1: to just like pick her brain about the eat of
Speaker 1: it all. And then I just actually regret. I really
Speaker 1: regret not doing it.
Speaker 3: I feel like there's gonna be another moment for you.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I've never seen Paris Hillton no owt in the wild
Speaker 1: in my entire life, so I don't know if there
Speaker 1: will be another opportunity. But this is a good lesson
Speaker 1: for everybody listening. Don't let fear stop you.
Speaker 3: Don't let it stop you.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 1: It wasn't fear, really, it was more of just like
Speaker 1: it was late at night, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I was like, it's twelve thirty every it's time to
Speaker 1: go to bed.
Speaker 5: Before we move on from the Jumpo Tron, did you
Speaker 5: see that post in the Facebook group that a scrubber's
Speaker 5: friend was there and said, oh my god, Camilla Lettington's
Speaker 5: at the game and it was you on the jump.
Speaker 4: Wow.
Speaker 1: Well honestly, that's I kind of see it now.
Speaker 3: Wow iconic. Yeah, they said come in the scrubbing in groups.
Speaker 5: It was a friend of a scrubber, so that the
Speaker 5: friend texted the scrubber and said, Camilla Lettington's here. He's like,
Speaker 5: that's not Kamala Lington, that's that's Meca Tilly.
Speaker 3: So funny, that's really funny. She's like, Camilla is in
Speaker 3: fact dating a.
Speaker 2: Woman now and they kissed on the news Britt news spoilerler.
Speaker 3: Then after the game, we go back to the lounge
Speaker 3: and where I'm.
Speaker 2: Just sitting in there, No, not beyond it, but we
Speaker 2: did see Eva Longoria. I think she's huh. I'm trying
Speaker 2: to think a lot of the the soccer Oh, Meghan
Speaker 2: Rapino and Sue Bird were in there, so we got
Speaker 2: to say hey, and then we just sat and we
Speaker 2: were sitting at the table.
Speaker 3: With ear fight Master and Amelia and just ches and
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 4: You're living in television, You're living You're suddenly a character
Speaker 4: in raising Atiue when you're sitting with those two.
Speaker 8: Yo.
Speaker 2: I'm it's so weird that, like, I know this moment
Speaker 2: where I go I was thinking about myself before the Bachelor,
Speaker 2: and I was thinking about like what I would have
Speaker 2: given to have these Well, I never even thought I
Speaker 2: would be in these moments.
Speaker 1: It was elbows with the stars, like.
Speaker 3: The meeting these people that were like impactful.
Speaker 2: My life is the sickest thing.
Speaker 3: So yeah, it was really cool. It was a really
Speaker 3: big night. We were just like Haley and I were both like,
Speaker 3: what the heck? This is crazy.
Speaker 1: I would quite literally and quite literally because of the
Speaker 1: state that I've been in the past week, if I
Speaker 1: were there in Glenn Dole over there, I would have
Speaker 1: shot my pants.
Speaker 3: I would have She looks so cute. She's so cute.
Speaker 1: So it makes me want to read that book again.
Speaker 3: I was thinking the same thing because it's.
Speaker 1: Been years since I've read it and I remember reading
Speaker 1: it being like this is incredible.
Speaker 3: Yeah it was, so maybe we do.
Speaker 1: A reread and we have like a little bit of
Speaker 1: a book.
Speaker 2: Victoria Brown's doing on her podcast, so she she and
Speaker 2: her friend are reading this book and I don't know
Speaker 2: what they're doing, but sure, yes, like that right, So
Speaker 2: they're reading this they're reading this book that it's called
Speaker 2: a New Earth. It was it, Yeah, And they're doing
Speaker 2: like mini recaps her and her best friend, and.
Speaker 3: So they're doing.
Speaker 1: Thursday episodes.
Speaker 3: What if we did.
Speaker 2: I'm Tamed and then we somehow can get Glenna time.
Speaker 1: I'm saying, it's like, hey, it'll be really good because
Speaker 1: we love the book, and so it'll be a way
Speaker 1: of us to like talk chop it up and talk
Speaker 1: about and discussing how it's like affected us in our
Speaker 1: different relationships. And then we can say the kicker to
Speaker 1: end the series is we get glennon On. I mean,
Speaker 1: that'd be so iconic, iconic, and you know it. I
Speaker 1: like the idea.
Speaker 3: I love the idea, but I don't really know how.
Speaker 1: I've never been in a book club. But I guess
Speaker 1: we could say, like read chapters one and two by
Speaker 1: next week. I see, Yeah, I want to do it digestible.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be like read fifteen chapters before
Speaker 1: next week. Like let's do it like slow, like slow
Speaker 1: and steady.
Speaker 2: M M.
Speaker 3: I like that idea.
Speaker 1: All right, let's start it up next week.
Speaker 3: Let's start it up. Get your untamed copy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, everybody go get your copy of Untamed, and we're
Speaker 1: going to start this. Do we have a guest next week?
Speaker 1: We don't great writing itself, the shows producing itself.
Speaker 2: Okay, perfect, We'll get right on that. We'll talk about
Speaker 2: that more, and we'll remind you at the end of
Speaker 2: this episode.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I remind We'll put it in the Facebook group,
Speaker 1: we'll put it on the Instagram book club Untamed.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Well, we took up a lot of time talking about
Speaker 2: my weekend, so let's take a break and then come
Speaker 2: back and talk about yours.
Speaker 8: I have a changed woman now, Yeah, Tanya Son, all.
Speaker 3: Right, tellya seven point zero has arrived.
Speaker 1: Well, you know, it's hard because my mind is in
Speaker 1: a good place, my body physically is not. So it's like,
Speaker 1: you know, that push and pull of life. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: ready to go to the next level, but my body
Speaker 1: is kind of stopping me. Yeah, that's where I'm at.
Speaker 1: So I said the majority of my week last week
Speaker 1: indoors at home because I needed to be next to
Speaker 1: a bathroom. I will not go any further, but that
Speaker 1: kind of explains itself. So I had like a pretty
Speaker 1: chill weekend planned. It was one of the kid's birthdays.
Speaker 1: So we just did like a family ship bot on Friday.
Speaker 1: It was just like a chill weekend. But I was
Speaker 1: hosting this panel on health and wellness and there's this
Speaker 1: girl in the panel and her name is Nazanine Mandy.
Speaker 1: Do you know who she is? So she's like a
Speaker 1: she's a life coach, okay, And I dig deep into
Speaker 1: her Instagram because I'm like trying to pre prep questions
Speaker 1: and stuff for her, and I'm just like like a
Speaker 1: kid in the candy store going through her videos, like
Speaker 1: I'm like, this girl is my vibe, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, like just talking about all these things like
Speaker 1: I want to elevate? Do you want to elevate and
Speaker 1: get to the next level? Ask yourself these questions and
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, I can't answer these questions.
Speaker 1: So how am I going to elevate my life? You know,
Speaker 1: like very thought provoking stuff. Upon further research, I realized
Speaker 1: that she is. Do you remember do you know Miguel
Speaker 1: the singer? Yeah, yeah, you know he was like married
Speaker 1: or who was with somebody for like nineteen years and
Speaker 1: they just went through a divorce. Yeah it's her, Oh
Speaker 1: I know. I shook and I'm like, how like this girl,
Speaker 1: he's good luck buddy, because this girl is it. But
Speaker 1: so there was another quote or a video on her
Speaker 1: Instagram page and she shared this quote and that's what
Speaker 1: really shook me, and it was the cost of hesitation
Speaker 1: is the life you could have lived. Let that soak in.
Speaker 1: The cost of hesitation is the life you could have lived.
Speaker 1: Is it not doing anything to you?
Speaker 3: Yeah? No, that's impactful.
Speaker 1: So I asked her about it, and I was like,
Speaker 1: tell me more about this, like I need to uncover
Speaker 1: it because it really I was like, I've been hesitating.
Speaker 1: I have just been hesitating for I'd say the last
Speaker 1: year of my life. I've just been hesitating. You can
Speaker 1: also use the word stuck. You can also use the
Speaker 1: word stagnant. You can also use the word complacent. And
Speaker 1: she was like, it's all rooted in fear. When you're
Speaker 1: living in fear, you're not pushing through, You're not you're
Speaker 1: not going to move forward. And she's like, everybody's rooted.
Speaker 1: All of our choices are either rooted in faith or
Speaker 1: in fear, and the majority of them are rooted in fear.
Speaker 1: Because everybody, when you're content complacent, you just stay in
Speaker 1: this little lane in this box. When you step outside
Speaker 1: the fear, that's when you go to the next level.
Speaker 1: And I was like, what's your number? I need to
Speaker 1: work with you. So now I have another guest I
Speaker 1: want to pitch for the podcast because I'm obsessed with
Speaker 1: her and everything that she talks about.
Speaker 2: So what's your What's Tanya seven point zero?
Speaker 1: Mentally, well, she's gonna ask. She's not hesitating anymore, Okay,
Speaker 1: She's just doing And like I actually I realized this
Speaker 1: a lot because I don't know if you heard, Dan
Speaker 1: Kalin called me out on their podcast for not responding
Speaker 1: to their wedding. No you know, I was getting dms
Speaker 1: like respond to their wedding, and I was like, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, this is the part of me that I
Speaker 1: don't like. So I got the invitation and I put
Speaker 1: it on like this green mantle. Nobody knows what that is,
Speaker 1: but I put stuff there that I know I can't
Speaker 1: I don't want to get to right right away, but
Speaker 1: I'll get to it eventually. Right Because in my mind,
Speaker 1: I was like, I want to plan this with Becca.
Speaker 1: I thought we were gonna have to do this cabin
Speaker 1: thing together. So in my mind this was like I
Speaker 1: need to do this with be gay and it can't
Speaker 1: do right now. I need to do it later. And
Speaker 1: then I just had it there and I never did it.
Speaker 1: Time just goes on and then the things pile on
Speaker 1: top of it and you get to those things and
Speaker 1: we don't get to the ones on the bottom. AnyWho.
Speaker 1: I realized I don't want to be that girl anymore.
Speaker 1: I just want to as stuff comes, I just want
Speaker 1: to do it.
Speaker 3: So just get things done when they're in front of you. Correct.
Speaker 2: How does it make you feel that I rsvpede before
Speaker 2: you to their wedding and did it need to be?
Speaker 3: Not great?
Speaker 1: Honestly, like, oh, Zeka did it and I didn't. I'm like,
Speaker 1: what what is going on?
Speaker 2: I think there's been a shift in me. I think
Speaker 2: I'm like may maybe on my way on the up
Speaker 2: and up of just like being on top of things?
Speaker 1: Are you becoming a Tanya and I'm becoming a Becca?
Speaker 3: Maybe we're balancing out finally.
Speaker 2: Oh hell, welcome, Welcome where people have to nag you?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't. That's the thing. I don't want to
Speaker 1: be nag or girl. I want to be on top
Speaker 1: of it girl, And I am in certain aspects of
Speaker 1: my life. And then I just but I'm not in
Speaker 1: one hundred percent of it, and I want to be
Speaker 1: in one hundred percent of it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, So here's to no hesitation.
Speaker 1: No more hesitating, although I am gonna So one of
Speaker 1: those things I wanted was to change my workout routine
Speaker 1: because I was like, I've been scared to go to
Speaker 1: pilate's because I suck at it and I just am horrible.
Speaker 1: But I know it's what I need to go to.
Speaker 1: I need to want to change up my workouts, but
Speaker 1: I'm always fearful of going to a workout class that
Speaker 1: I am not familiar with, ye know. And so I
Speaker 1: was like, this week, I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: go to my pilates class. But like my body is
Speaker 1: just kind of saying, like to bed, yeah, you know, bathroom, bathrooms.
Speaker 1: I stay near bathroom. So that's what I'm gonna do.
Speaker 3: But next week, you watch when things solidify. You know
Speaker 3: what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. We are.
Speaker 4: By the way, I just learned today that when tiny
Speaker 4: have to use the bathroom here, and it's a longer
Speaker 4: commitment than a typical bathroom break. She was all the
Speaker 4: way down to the lobby. Yeah, there's a bathroom down
Speaker 4: the hall off the lobby, and it's not direct. Bathroom anxieties.
Speaker 1: Bathroom anxiety is a real thing. People can't go on
Speaker 1: public restrooms. I'm one of those.
Speaker 4: And no one ever goes in those restrooms. They're public restrooms,
Speaker 4: but no one ever uses them. Makes up I don't
Speaker 4: know security downstairs.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's like ghosts in there, like there's nobody in there.
Speaker 1: It's very private. I get.
Speaker 3: I couldn't go in here.
Speaker 1: Could you imagine these people I see every day, Let's.
Speaker 5: Say the cannon camerck people are very familiar with me.
Speaker 5: Let's say that in this building.
Speaker 1: Do you went on the fifth floor too?
Speaker 5: I go to many different floor here. I am from
Speaker 5: with many other tenants in this building.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, there's no way I'm going on the fifth.
Speaker 4: Right here, there's a private one that it's one toilet only.
Speaker 7: I got the whole so embarrassing friendly fire, Oh my gosh,
Speaker 7: I'm cringing.
Speaker 1: Just think just like russum clouds itself smells like jank anyway,
Speaker 1: Like it just smells like the jan.
Speaker 4: There's a title for you, Eastern Blame the jank blame.
Speaker 5: My desk is right by that bathroom, and I see
Speaker 5: people I've never met before just walking in there, like
Speaker 5: a newspaper under their arm, and.
Speaker 1: So foul and so wrong.
Speaker 4: What always gets me is that when when we're because
Speaker 4: we're here early. Yeah, so I'll go down there for
Speaker 4: you know what we call the pre show pe yeah,
Speaker 4: right before we started six. It'll be like five fifty,
Speaker 4: and I'll go down there and somebody in there sitting down,
Speaker 4: and I'm like, you were home not long ago, like
Speaker 4: you saved it to come here. I don't get that.
Speaker 3: You know that they drink their coffee on the.
Speaker 1: What happens to me sometimes because I give myself time
Speaker 1: the morning, but if it doesn't happen, I drink my
Speaker 1: coffee on my way in and I have to go here.
Speaker 1: I go on my way up.
Speaker 4: Every time I'm in there, a guy just walks in
Speaker 4: and hey, I good morning, and walks right into the cell.
Speaker 4: I'm like, oh man, I got now the clock's ticken.
Speaker 4: I gotta get out of noise start happening. I gotta go.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't be that girl with the noise. I
Speaker 1: can't no. Yes, So anyway up the up and up.
Speaker 3: Right, great, so mentally you're ready to elevate?
Speaker 1: Yeah, transcend?
Speaker 4: Wasn't that your word of the year?
Speaker 1: No renaissance?
Speaker 4: Oh sorry?
Speaker 3: Speaking of I'm going to Beyonce.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I.
Speaker 3: Just found out and I have been going.
Speaker 2: With Haley, just the two of you, No Hailey and
Speaker 2: then our two friends Gabby and Sammy.
Speaker 3: Why I'm curious.
Speaker 4: It seemed to be some jealousy.
Speaker 1: I just want to know who you're spending your time with.
Speaker 2: Ali and Jojo Me Haley, Ali and Joe.
Speaker 3: Trauma, trauma, the eyes are wide.
Speaker 1: I know that was lying because Ally's out of town.
Speaker 1: You know why? Because we're friends, now, okay, I know besties.
Speaker 1: Speaking of Beyonce, I have to tell you this, Taylor
Speaker 1: Swift theory the highest grossing tours of the world right now? Okay,
Speaker 1: that wrote itself. Okay, okay, have you heard the karma
Speaker 1: Taylor Swift theory. Spider Boy? Yeah, no, spider Boy, Scooter Bron.
Speaker 3: Why is he spider Boy?
Speaker 2: S B?
Speaker 1: Spider Boy in the song the lyric, what is spider Boy?
Speaker 6: And the lyric?
Speaker 4: The lyric is Spider Boy, King of Thieves? Weave your
Speaker 4: little webs of opacity.
Speaker 1: SB Spider Boy, Scooter Bron my pennies initials. Okay, so
Speaker 1: you get it. Spider Boy, Scooter Braun, Karma is my boyfriend,
Speaker 1: which is a Justin Bieber song. Karma is a god.
Speaker 1: God is a woman is an Ariana Grande song? Uh huh,
Speaker 1: I know, Karma is my boyfriend. Karma is a hair.
Speaker 1: Yeah it is.
Speaker 4: Stop.
Speaker 1: Karma is the breeze, and My Hair on the Weekend
Speaker 1: has a song called I think it's called hair or
Speaker 1: my hair one of the two, but it's pretty strong
Speaker 1: up until that point.
Speaker 4: So she has a song called my hair, My hair.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Karma is my hair on the Weekend. Karma is
Speaker 1: my hair.
Speaker 4: What's nice one? Karma is a relaxing thought, So what's
Speaker 4: relaxing thought?
Speaker 3: Envious scept for you?
Speaker 6: It's not.
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's not every you know, it's not
Speaker 1: a perfect theory, but hello, carm Spider Boy, Scooter Bron,
Speaker 1: Karma is my boyfriend. Basically, she's like foreshadowing that all
Speaker 1: these people are going to be leaving Scooter Arianna justin
Speaker 1: Demi Demi foreshadowing.
Speaker 3: Does she have anything about frozen in there? Let it Go?
Speaker 3: Anything about let it Go?
Speaker 1: It's not sweet, like honey, nothing there. Well that's pretty good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I imagine that that song was about him.
Speaker 1: I didn't connect Spider Boy to Scooter Braun.
Speaker 2: I was like, wait, Tanya, that's the most that's very
Speaker 2: normal that you didn't connect.
Speaker 1: The most giveaway giveaway Spider Boy.
Speaker 4: Bron.
Speaker 1: We all know Taylor gives us nuggets. Why would I
Speaker 1: not be looking for them?
Speaker 5: Can we make let's make a further connection. Spider Boy
Speaker 5: in the Marvel Universes named Bailey Briggs. Does that have
Speaker 5: a connection to anyone else? Because that's who I thought
Speaker 5: of when I heard Spider Boy is the Spider Man character.
Speaker 3: It's SB.
Speaker 1: Even simpler than that.
Speaker 3: Simplify it, Yeah, simplify your mind.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's right, that's my word of the air, simplifying.
Speaker 4: But isn't Scott Borchetta also part of this?
Speaker 5: Yes, and that's another SB.
Speaker 1: WHOA my god.
Speaker 3: But didn't think that Karma was about Scooter.
Speaker 1: Karma was about Kanye. Oh interesting, Yeah, riding around she's
Speaker 1: looking so pretty, driving in your bends. Oh that's not Karma,
Speaker 1: that's Vigilante.
Speaker 3: I saw that she played Cornelia Street in Mexico.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I love that song.
Speaker 2: It's really cool, you know, like watching her all the
Speaker 2: footage of her and like being at the show and
Speaker 2: hearing everyone sing along and then her going to different
Speaker 2: like a different country and hearing everyone screaming it. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that is like so powerful, Like I just can't imagine
Speaker 2: what it feels like to command.
Speaker 5: What.
Speaker 1: We're just talking about this because Miley Cyrus was talking
Speaker 1: about how touring is bad for her because it's like
Speaker 1: it inflates your ego basically, like I know, but I've
Speaker 1: never heard, like I've never heard an artist be so
Speaker 1: self aware of saying like I cannot go and have
Speaker 1: it's what did? She was subject observer, Yes, living living
Speaker 1: life as a subject observer. It takes away the humanity
Speaker 1: for her, Like She's like, I can't turn my ego
Speaker 1: off when I'm getting all this praise night after night.
Speaker 1: I can't check myself and I live in this. It's
Speaker 1: like I lose my humanity. And I was like, wow,
Speaker 1: that is like very self aware to like recognize that.
Speaker 3: Well.
Speaker 2: Hayley, when she came back from tour, she was like,
Speaker 2: it's such a weird adjustment because every night you're on
Speaker 2: a stage and you have people chanting your name and
Speaker 2: then you get home and I was like, do you
Speaker 2: need me to chant?
Speaker 1: Like you got back at being like to pick up
Speaker 1: your socks.
Speaker 4: But that's it. A lot of those relationships fall apart
Speaker 4: is for that reason. They're so beloved and idolized on
Speaker 4: the road and then they come home and it's like
Speaker 4: I need you to take the kids to this and
Speaker 4: I need you to pure Yeah, need to wash your dishes? Yeah,
Speaker 4: and the road you have to wash your dishes. Same
Speaker 4: with actors. On sets, everything is provided for you and
Speaker 4: then you go home and suddenly you're not such a
Speaker 4: big deal anymore.
Speaker 2: Well that makes sense why people who start their careers
Speaker 2: as like child actors, why they have a hard time
Speaker 2: ever getting out of that mentality because you learn that
Speaker 2: everyone's there for you, and then all of a sudden
Speaker 2: when everyone goes, you're kind of like, what now before.
Speaker 4: We move on? I do have more on your theory?
Speaker 1: Oh tell me?
Speaker 4: So you did the boyfriend? Yes, Karma's a boyfriend song
Speaker 4: by Bieber. Karma's a God. God is a Woman's Song
Speaker 4: by Rihanna Karmas The Breeze in My Hair My Hair
Speaker 4: is a song by Ariana Sweet like Justice just a
Speaker 4: Justice Sweetener is Ariana's album Karma is a cat Arianna
Speaker 4: played cat on Sam and cat on what Nickelodeon or
Speaker 4: Disney Channel or whatever. Okay, I'm kind of on board.
Speaker 1: May I get up board trains leaving?
Speaker 4: Wow?
Speaker 2: So we So the theory is that Taylor knew about
Speaker 2: this before when.
Speaker 3: She wrote Karma.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that she knew like there's dark stuff and that
Speaker 1: these people are going to leave him.
Speaker 5: Only Justin and Ariana though have been yes, okay, not that.
Speaker 1: We know of, but you know, speaking of Taylor, did
Speaker 1: you hear Selena's new song? No you haven't heard it?
Speaker 5: No, it's so good? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well is she what is one of the theories
Speaker 3: about this?
Speaker 1: Well, she debunked the rumors, but the rumors were that
Speaker 1: it was about the weekend because she in the song
Speaker 1: she's like, the weekend's coming soon. But the whole song,
Speaker 1: so that's gross.
Speaker 3: I can't believe people came up with.
Speaker 5: That song is about the weekend.
Speaker 1: It might not be. It might not be coming soon.
Speaker 1: Will you find the exactly the shoot? It might not
Speaker 1: be that because that's so gross.
Speaker 4: The weekend's coming soon, The weekend's almost here.
Speaker 3: Very different, different.
Speaker 1: So the song is basically about her planning to break
Speaker 1: up with somebody and that she's going to be single soon,
Speaker 1: like I'm trying on this dress, putting on the shoes
Speaker 1: because I'm going to be single soon. That's so, that's
Speaker 1: the theory is that it's about the weekend because of
Speaker 1: that line. But it made me realize that I've never
Speaker 1: I've never lived this song like. I was like, I've
Speaker 1: actually never had those thoughts of like I'm going to
Speaker 1: break up with someone, so I'm going to be single
Speaker 1: soon because I've always been broken up with. I was like,
Speaker 1: that is really a sad realization to come across when
Speaker 1: you're listening to Selena Gomez song, a sad reality. I
Speaker 1: can't relate to this song because I've actually never broken
Speaker 1: up with someone. I've always been broken up with. But
Speaker 1: that's gonna like be Jeweled too, write tell me more well.
Speaker 2: Isn't like be joled kind of the idea that like
Speaker 2: you're moving on and you're gonna shine bright.
Speaker 1: On your own, Yeah, moving on. I've done plenty of
Speaker 1: moving on and shining bright, but I'm.
Speaker 3: Never planning a breakup knowing that you're about.
Speaker 1: To be single again, like getting ready to be single again,
Speaker 1: like Oh, how am I going to break up with him?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: Am I going to put a note in his coat?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: No, never have those thoughts, Selena.
Speaker 5: I love songs the most that I can't relate to
Speaker 5: because for me, it gives me like a look into
Speaker 5: a world I don't belong in. Huh And I don't know.
Speaker 5: It's like a vacation from my life. But that's what
Speaker 5: I love it.
Speaker 3: Do you like that? Do you like the like that
Speaker 3: you do? Like that you could not relate? Do you
Speaker 3: feel that way about this song?
Speaker 4: About this?
Speaker 5: Yeah? Yes, I do. I believe it or not. I
Speaker 5: have only been broken up with as well. I don't
Speaker 5: know what this is like.
Speaker 7: I don't know if, like you, yeah, plot or think
Speaker 7: about it? Do I need to leave a note in
Speaker 7: his coat? Like I would never think to do that.
Speaker 3: No, you would need a i'd eye conversation.
Speaker 1: She talks about that too, and not wanting to see
Speaker 1: the tears, And I'm like that was me crying, you know,
Speaker 1: like I've just never been on the other side. Sounds nice.
Speaker 5: What would the notes say? I can't I'm sorry, I
Speaker 5: can't do it.
Speaker 1: I can't. Don't hate me, that's what say. No, I
Speaker 1: don't know, I don't know. It's a cute song, great song,
Speaker 1: can't wait to listen to it. It's a banger.
Speaker 2: We love it, love her having new music? Yeah, wait something?
Speaker 2: Oh do we we need to do emails?
Speaker 3: But have you watched it? Just like that?
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm going to honestly, Wow, wow wow. Okay,
Speaker 1: Well I just finished season thirty two of Survivor and
Speaker 1: prior spoken, yeah, I just donated like one hundred thousand
Speaker 1: dollars to one of the tribe members and I was
Speaker 1: like bawling like a baby.
Speaker 6: Wow.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So that's where I'm at right.
Speaker 2: Okay, Easton, just a quick recap because it was the finale.
Speaker 3: They are coming back with the season three, believe it
Speaker 3: or not.
Speaker 2: I don't understand how the show continues to go, but
Speaker 2: I will be watching, and you know what I.
Speaker 1: Posted about it continues to go, I know, but I posted.
Speaker 2: About this thinking that Easton and I and maybe like
Speaker 2: three others are the only people watching, and so many
Speaker 2: people are like I feel the exact same way, and yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm still watching.
Speaker 1: So why do you watch it if it's so bad?
Speaker 3: Psychological? I don't know.
Speaker 1: We watch the old episodes again, relived the Glory Days.
Speaker 5: There's enough good in it, just enough to keep me
Speaker 5: having a good time. Sometimes there's like little glimmers, like
Speaker 5: everything Charlotte has carried the entire season for me. I
Speaker 5: love everything Charlotte has done in the season. It's great.
Speaker 5: But I just want to say I'm welcoming a lot
Speaker 5: of people under the Aiden Sucks train. I think you
Speaker 5: lost a lot of lovers with that finale.
Speaker 2: That literally pissed me off because she don't no, they're
Speaker 2: like plant, she buys a whole sells her old apartment.
Speaker 1: Buys a whole new Oh Carrie.
Speaker 2: Sang house to fit him and his kids, and then
Speaker 2: he comes to shows up without his luggage for their
Speaker 2: weekend visit or whatever, and she's like, oh, where's your
Speaker 2: bag And.
Speaker 3: He's like, I don't have a bag. And she's like, oh, no,
Speaker 3: are we here again?
Speaker 2: And he's like, I just need to be there for
Speaker 2: my son until he's out of his teenage years.
Speaker 3: Five years, until he's out of his teenageers.
Speaker 5: I'm sorry, Carrie, I just got to be with him
Speaker 5: until he's twenty years old and then we can be together.
Speaker 5: What he said, yeah, Like, oh man, I knew this
Speaker 5: was coming. I hate him so much.
Speaker 1: Give him Robbie's number. What, Oh, you can help him?
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, I see, I see so that it
Speaker 4: can work.
Speaker 5: Yeah, like a meltdown. He took psilocybin mushrooms and then
Speaker 5: drove it, crashed the car into a tree. Feel serious,
Speaker 5: really really wacky. So Aiden sucks. Miranda is like inexplicably
Speaker 5: living with her teacher. Still, yeah, everything's ending on a
Speaker 5: weird note.
Speaker 3: And then she was like talking with that woman from
Speaker 3: the news State.
Speaker 2: All of a sudden, Miranda's like BBC interviews on TV,
Speaker 2: it's just chaos.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you, guys, it's not chaos. How did
Speaker 1: your challenge go? The paper towel? I would do pretty
Speaker 1: good on Survivor, I think. But you know, it's crazy
Speaker 1: that I didn't realize they don't have me, they don't
Speaker 1: have mirrors, they don't see themselves for this like forty days.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, that is so.
Speaker 1: Could you imagine not seeing yourself for forty days? I
Speaker 1: see yourselves with four second.
Speaker 3: I think I'd find a lot of peace in that, honestly.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But then imagine after forty days seeing yourself for
Speaker 1: the first time. How jarring that probably is. After you've
Speaker 1: like not eaten and like.
Speaker 3: They get like razors and stuff.
Speaker 1: No, I don't know. Actually I know there's a lot
Speaker 1: of hairy mports. But I so I just finished season
Speaker 1: thirty two and then we just finished season forty four. Okay,
Speaker 1: so now I'm a free agent trying to find free agent.
Speaker 4: I'm wondering if you should watch a handful in a row,
Speaker 4: you know, because they have some that build up to
Speaker 4: All Star episode, so it might be fun to watch them,
Speaker 4: and then.
Speaker 1: They also going to go to thirty three next.
Speaker 4: Okay, just keep going in an order from thirty two hots.
Speaker 1: Yeah, even if you watched forty four.
Speaker 5: They don't have access to razors. Confirmed they don't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I saw a lot.
Speaker 4: No, they're messy. Yeah, they're really messy. They lose a
Speaker 4: lot of weight and they get a lot of hair.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's legit. They're really out there surviving.
Speaker 1: Yeah, except not so much these days. Like the early days,
Speaker 1: these people are in their buffs and like they look
Speaker 1: like they've been in the in the trenches for whatever,
Speaker 1: and now there's like not a piece of mud on
Speaker 1: their face and they're wearing like cardigans and suit jackets.
Speaker 1: On the island and like what is going on these days?
Speaker 4: You're allowed to bring one item like comfort items.
Speaker 1: They got They've got clothes. Now.
Speaker 3: Yeah, someone probably was like this is inhumane, maybe.
Speaker 1: Because it's like it's a very significant difference from season
Speaker 1: thirty two to forty four.
Speaker 2: Well even amazing race deals like that, Like it used
Speaker 2: to be chaos trying to get on the planes and stuff,
Speaker 2: and then like with COVID, they had to take that
Speaker 2: into consideration, which I'm just glad they still have the show.
Speaker 3: But it was like you felt the shift of like.
Speaker 2: The panic trying to get on the plane and stuff. Okay,
Speaker 2: did I miss anything? Do we miss anything before we
Speaker 2: get into emails?
Speaker 1: I'm sure we did, but we always have next week. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's true.
Speaker 3: All right, shall we get Do we need a break
Speaker 3: or can we just get in?
Speaker 6: Okay?
Speaker 3: All right, we are back, Mark take.
Speaker 4: It away, all right, Becca, Thank you very much. This
Speaker 4: is from Stephanie.
Speaker 6: Hi.
Speaker 4: I'm thirty two and coming off a heartbreak. Although I'm
Speaker 4: getting stronger and i feel like I'm healing every day,
Speaker 4: I feel like a big piece in my healing and
Speaker 4: journey will be letting go of the expectations I had
Speaker 4: for the future. That is the theme of this email. Expectations.
Speaker 4: Couldbecca and Tinny talk about how they overcame expectations they
Speaker 4: had at a young age, how they navigated life maybe
Speaker 4: taking a different direction than they had planned. For example,
Speaker 4: when Becca was growing up, did she ever think she'd
Speaker 4: be dating a woman? How does she navigate the expectations
Speaker 4: she had for herself and the expectations of her family,
Speaker 4: et cetera. For Tanya, did she ever think she'd be
Speaker 4: dating someone at kids or did she always see herself
Speaker 4: with someone where they'd share that experience together for the
Speaker 4: first time. I feel worried that I'm going to close
Speaker 4: myself off to new and different opportunities in the future
Speaker 4: because I'm having a hard time letting go of the
Speaker 4: expectations I have in my head and the cultural expectations
Speaker 4: of my family. Any advice would be appreciated, Honestly.
Speaker 3: I feel like the two of us probably have like
Speaker 3: the most.
Speaker 2: Experience in terms of ending up with someone that was
Speaker 2: maybe not our expectation.
Speaker 4: Sure, and you're both happy as can be ye to
Speaker 4: total right turns. This is good to write to you too.
Speaker 2: I feel like for me, I never envisioned myself dating
Speaker 2: a woman because I grew up very Christian, and I
Speaker 2: grew up, you know, thinking that that was bad and wrong,
Speaker 2: and I think that I just never saw myself. I
Speaker 2: don't know, I just never saw myself even letting myself.
Speaker 3: Have that experience.
Speaker 2: I don't know, like I think, I think more so
Speaker 2: now I look back and I see moments where I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: maybe I had a crush on that person or that woman,
Speaker 2: but I never that part was wrong to me. And
Speaker 2: I was also attracted to men, so I was able
Speaker 2: to like shut that off and go like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 2: that's you know, nothing, it's a girl crush quotes girl crush.
Speaker 2: But it only took it took like me being with
Speaker 2: Haley to even have those realizations and like finally letting
Speaker 2: that part of myself feel that and acknowledge that. But
Speaker 2: I think like a month before I met Haley, I
Speaker 2: was in Tulum with Ali Jojo and our friend Nicole,
Speaker 2: and something came up about dating. I think we were
Speaker 2: talking about my sisters actually, because they're they're both in
Speaker 2: relationships with women, and they my friends were saying something like, oh,
Speaker 2: would you ever date a woman? And I was like,
Speaker 2: I mean, I'd be open to it. Like I think,
Speaker 2: if I've learned anything, it's that you can't predict like
Speaker 2: who you have a connection with. And I think I
Speaker 2: met Haley literally like a month after that, and so
Speaker 2: I think I finally let myself and I always say
Speaker 2: my connection with Haley was so strong that I didn't
Speaker 2: even think about like the complications outside of our connection, right,
Speaker 2: because like when we met and we fell in love
Speaker 2: so fast, I was kind of like, right, I'll deal
Speaker 2: with my family stuff and people finding out, Like I'll
Speaker 2: deal with that eventually, but like, I'm not gonna shut
Speaker 2: this connection off in fear of of worrying about what
Speaker 2: people's expectations are, what if they'll be disappointed? And I'm
Speaker 2: so glad I didn't, because I truly think if I
Speaker 2: was just talking about this other day, if I had
Speaker 2: shut myself off to my connection with Haley and just
Speaker 2: was like, I'm not going to go there, I feel
Speaker 2: like I would have thought about.
Speaker 3: Her for the rest of my life.
Speaker 2: Like I think I would have thought about that connection
Speaker 2: forever and never been able to or I always would
Speaker 2: have been like, oh what if.
Speaker 3: So my advice is.
Speaker 2: To not shut yourself off to experiences or who you
Speaker 2: could meet or who you could fall in love with,
Speaker 2: because I think there's been so much beauty that has
Speaker 2: come from going in a direction with someone that couldn't
Speaker 2: have been further from what the expectations were from myself
Speaker 2: and family and whatever.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, my advice would be the same, you know.
Speaker 1: I think one thing for me that was really hard
Speaker 1: initially in the beginning was I was like, all these
Speaker 1: experiences that I've been looking forward to my whole life,
Speaker 1: you know, like getting engaged, getting married, having a baby,
Speaker 1: Like you've already done all those things, and so like
Speaker 1: in my mind, it wasn't going to be as special
Speaker 1: for him to do it with me, you know.
Speaker 2: And I.
Speaker 1: Think what was interesting and what I learned is that
Speaker 1: it almost means more because he the way he explained
Speaker 1: to me was he was like, I have kids now,
Speaker 1: like I would never do like he was fine never
Speaker 1: getting married again for the rest of his life. He
Speaker 1: was like, I'm was good. The only reason I want
Speaker 1: to get married again is because of you, like what
Speaker 1: we have, And so he's like, it's almost more special
Speaker 1: because I'm bringing you into my kids' lives. I would
Speaker 1: never bring somebody into my kids' lives unless it was you,
Speaker 1: you know, and so I think that made me change
Speaker 1: my perspective on it a little bit, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. And like, also, it's just it's a completely
Speaker 1: different thing for me. It's like saying not really, it's
Speaker 1: not saying, like, you've gone on a roller coaster once,
Speaker 1: so you don't have fun going on that roller coaster again,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like it's just because you've
Speaker 1: done something doesn't doesn't take away from the fact that they're
Speaker 1: going to do it with somebody else. And so that
Speaker 1: perspective shift was totally different from me. And I think
Speaker 1: the dating somebody that does have kids, it's so I
Speaker 1: would never do it if unless it was Robbie, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like he makes everything totally worth it.
Speaker 1: And it's not even the kids, they're amazing. It's like
Speaker 1: you go from being single and having like no responsibilities
Speaker 1: to this life that's you know, you you have to
Speaker 1: you have to you have stuff in your calendar for
Speaker 1: the kids, and like it's like it's such.
Speaker 2: A shift, it's.
Speaker 1: Such a dynamic shift. And so I think that's what's
Speaker 1: really you know, no does anybody ever think that way?
Speaker 1: You know, when you're a kid you're like, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be a step parent, you know, but uh, it's really beautiful.
Speaker 1: It's a really beautiful experience. And so I think just
Speaker 1: being open to all these these things and not being
Speaker 1: so attached to a specific outcome, because you can just
Speaker 1: change your perspective can change a lot.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I also think that I've realized that like, family
Speaker 2: expectations are just to me, I like to think that
Speaker 2: they're your family is specifically your parents want things to.
Speaker 3: Be easy for you. They want the easiest journey for you.
Speaker 3: They don't want to see you her or have struggle.
Speaker 2: And so I think sometimes our family expectations, we can
Speaker 2: look at it in like such a negative light. But
Speaker 2: I think what I've learned is like, I think there's
Speaker 2: just the fear of life being harder. And I think,
Speaker 2: specifically for me, I think that was a huge thing
Speaker 2: for my family, you know, which was like are things
Speaker 2: gonna be harder? And I think once I had the
Speaker 2: shift of going like, I think that ultimately came from
Speaker 2: a place of love and like them wanting things the
Speaker 2: best for you, But you do eventually have to do
Speaker 2: what's best for you, and sometimes that's not always just
Speaker 2: like the perfect journey that your family expected for you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's a totally same thing with me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they want you to have the easiest life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So good luck, and we hope that your next
Speaker 2: experience with love and relationship is fulfilling.
Speaker 1: Endgame.
Speaker 4: Endgame, and don't stress about it as much as possible,
Speaker 4: because I guarantee you that five years from now, ten
Speaker 4: years from not twenty years from now, you're going to
Speaker 4: look back and be so happy that you're not with
Speaker 4: that person who broke your heart. I guarantee it. Everything
Speaker 4: is going to work out great. Yeah, this is from
Speaker 4: anonymous and it is a little lighter. My husband and
Speaker 4: I want to start trying for a baby in September. Yay,
Speaker 4: But there's a problem. If we get pregnant right away,
Speaker 4: the baby will be doing in June of twenty four,
Speaker 4: which when both of my sisters and parents are supposed
Speaker 4: to see Taylor Swift in Dublin, Ireland. My mom has
Speaker 4: already said that if I'm doing June, she'll skip the
Speaker 4: trip and be with me. My younger sister was very
Speaker 4: upset when I told her we were going to start
Speaker 4: trying in September. She was angry that it would ruin
Speaker 4: her trip. I kind of laughed it off. My feelings
Speaker 4: were hurt. What do I do here? Do I wait
Speaker 4: so my due dates after her trip or do I
Speaker 4: go ahead with my plan? I feel guilty possibly ruining
Speaker 4: this once in a lifetime trip for her, but I
Speaker 4: don't want to put my life on hold for someone else's.
Speaker 4: Would love to know your thoughts and Mark and Easton's
Speaker 4: of course.
Speaker 2: I mean it's like I would personally. Personally, I'm like,
Speaker 2: don't put your life on hold. But I don't know
Speaker 2: if waiting an extra month.
Speaker 4: September arbitrary.
Speaker 1: It was like, I don't know, man, what I don't know.
Speaker 1: Once you start waiting a month and you're waiting too.
Speaker 8: Then.
Speaker 5: That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, in September.
Speaker 2: But I would, I would have a conversation with your sister.
Speaker 2: I mean, I think I think it's important also to
Speaker 2: like this trip was planned. It wasn't like this is
Speaker 2: like a potential idea, Like this is a planned trip,
Speaker 2: So I think to plan to start trying to have
Speaker 2: a baby after you already plan this big trip with
Speaker 2: your sister and mom.
Speaker 1: Let's say, okay, she wait waits a month, right, so
Speaker 1: then you're gonna go to Taylor Swift concert eight months pregnant?
Speaker 1: Sounds why?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Neither.
Speaker 4: I'm not sure she's going. Mom and the sisters are going.
Speaker 5: Yeah, tell your.
Speaker 1: Sister to go to the show and come meet the
Speaker 1: baby after.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I would encourage your sister.
Speaker 2: If you're not able to go on the trip and
Speaker 2: your mom's not able to, your sister should invite some
Speaker 2: friends and go.
Speaker 3: Have the trip of a lifetime, and then the baby
Speaker 3: will be what.
Speaker 4: I'm just curious, what's so great about September. I don't
Speaker 4: understand that Nomber October.
Speaker 1: No, it's not about September. It's about waiting to start
Speaker 1: your life. If you if she wants to start her family,
Speaker 1: go to start your family.
Speaker 2: The other part of me is like start trying and
Speaker 2: you have no idea what's going to happen. So, you know, destiny,
Speaker 2: whatever you believe in the universe, God's plan, destiny, whatever
Speaker 2: you believe in, that's how it's going to happen.
Speaker 3: That's and that's how it's supposed to happen.
Speaker 5: Does she really want a Gemini baby? Is that what's happening? Y?
Speaker 3: No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1: We love Gemini love you.
Speaker 3: I would just have a conversation.
Speaker 2: I think it's understandable that your sister would be upset, Like,
Speaker 2: think about how big of a going to Dublin, going
Speaker 2: to see Taylor slip. That's so exciting, so fun, sounds
Speaker 2: so fun, and I think her feelings are valid. And
Speaker 2: also it's okay if you want to start your life,
Speaker 2: so I stay, start doing your thing, and whatever happens happens.
Speaker 3: You'll know soon enough, right what happened. She'll know within
Speaker 3: a couple of months.
Speaker 4: This.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So either way, congratulations on both Taylor and the
Speaker 2: potential future of your children.
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, we do have a guest this week.
Speaker 2: We have Bobby Burke from Queerie, and we're not gonna
Speaker 2: be able to talk about Queer Eye because of the strike,
Speaker 2: but we are.
Speaker 3: So excited to have him.
Speaker 2: I can't wait to talk to him, and I'm so
Speaker 2: excited for this episode.
Speaker 4: What is his expertise? If I'm not familiar with.
Speaker 3: Him, who does like all the hard work the other.
Speaker 5: Guys are so sure?
Speaker 2: Yeah, he is, Like all the guys are like, let's
Speaker 2: go shop, let's do a beautiful hairstyle, and then Bob,
Speaker 2: he's just like getting a freaking whole house renovated.
Speaker 5: He's framing a house in one hundred degree heat, just
Speaker 5: like sweating his ass off.
Speaker 2: So he will be here on Thursday, and we hope
Speaker 2: you have a great week. Don't forget to get your
Speaker 2: copy of Untamed. Yes, we're gonna do what chapters one
Speaker 2: and two?
Speaker 1: I think chapter one, let's just start just chapter one.
Speaker 3: I think we can.
Speaker 1: I think up one and two is okay. I mean
Speaker 1: it's not buy off more than we can chew.
Speaker 5: How many someone in the Wikipedia?
Speaker 1: So I don't want to eat chapters in this book.
Speaker 1: I'm a little more concerned, but I think.
Speaker 3: They're short, So that's what I'm saying. I feel like
Speaker 3: maybe we do like one through five.
Speaker 4: You're not going to be done to like twenty five.
Speaker 3: Yeah, time what.
Speaker 2: It'll be like twenty thirty and we're like, did everyone finish?
Speaker 3: We finally have Glennon joining on the podcast.
Speaker 1: It gives her more time to get back to us.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, many many years. I'd say one through five.
Speaker 2: I think our scrubbers can handle it. Whoever's gonna jo scrubbers.
Speaker 2: I'm worried about you.
Speaker 3: You you've already spread I always prid for our pod.
Speaker 1: Forty five minutes before.
Speaker 4: It was better than nothing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well when did you study for a test forty
Speaker 2: five minutes before? No?
Speaker 3: Oh, I think I I think I had a better
Speaker 3: GPA than you, though.
Speaker 1: Probably barely turned in my my final English final for
Speaker 1: college with my teacher's favorite six pack of beer and
Speaker 1: he gave me sea.
Speaker 6: We loved.
Speaker 2: It's just so crazy to me that you were like
Speaker 2: a honor roll straight a student.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you. The effort was there. The effort
Speaker 1: was there.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you do seem like an overachiever.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just imagine you being like teacher's pet dude.
Speaker 1: Like in Spanish, I would sing Shakira songs in Spanish
Speaker 1: for the class proxtra credit. I mostly got a's and b'es.
Speaker 1: I mostly got a's and b's and then like sees.
Speaker 1: But when I got to college it started getting pretty narrowly.
Speaker 4: College is hard, man.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't even go to finish college.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Tani is the only college graduate.
Speaker 1: I got time graduated, thank you.
Speaker 2: Laughing thinking about being in Spanish and Tanya gets up
Speaker 2: to sing Shakira.
Speaker 1: Hear where she goes again?
Speaker 5: Where everyone ever?
Speaker 1: Pamphlet starts that No, the song is in Spanish her
Speaker 1: Spanish songs.
Speaker 5: So did I? I assumed it was the English songs
Speaker 5: in Spanish.
Speaker 1: Oh no, I would do like, yeah, it kinga song
Speaker 1: and that though man thad a sound that sounds good.
Speaker 4: Odd, they're not.
Speaker 6: And then.
Speaker 1: Then I obviously don't know whords anymore.
Speaker 4: Yeah wherever, Yeah, no, I did know that at some point.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she had to get extra credit.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Anyways, Okay, I'm saying first five, I will do my boogel.
Speaker 2: I've already read the book, so I'm just going to
Speaker 2: be like breezing through it. I'll do mine first five
Speaker 2: of Untamed. We will be recapping for next Thursday's episode.
Speaker 1: Yes, next Thursday.
Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, we'll see you.
Speaker 4: Then.
Speaker 5: I want to give a really quick shout out. I
Speaker 5: went to Disneyland over the weekend and I was on
Speaker 5: the shuttle going from the hotel and this girl came
Speaker 5: up to me and she's like, are you Easton from
Speaker 5: scrubbing In. She's a huge, huge fan, specifically of Tanya.
Speaker 5: She went loves Tanya. Oh right, I took a picture
Speaker 5: of there. I told her I promised i'd send it
Speaker 5: to you. Tanya. My iam Shannon. She's from San Diego.
Speaker 5: Her husband's in the Navy and they're super cool, and
Speaker 5: she loves kiss and she loves scrubbing in And Hi, Shannon.
Speaker 4: I told you.
Speaker 1: I asked Easton if I could send you a video
Speaker 1: and I think you guys had already parted ways, so
Speaker 1: just so you.
Speaker 5: Know, yeah, the thought was there, that was there.
Speaker 4: I'll jump in on this. Thank you to the scrubbers
Speaker 4: that called out to me at the Taylor show at
Speaker 4: Sofi Stadium. My kids really get excited when I get recognized.
Speaker 4: Very odd. I'm not anybody, but it's fun when like.
Speaker 6: Hey, Mark, I got that.
Speaker 4: I never get that, but I get it. A Taylor
Speaker 4: Swift concert at the Rose Ball, I got it, and
Speaker 4: I got it. It so fun and it's really fun
Speaker 4: and it's a kick for my kids. So thank you.
Speaker 1: I will also give a shout out to the girl
Speaker 1: who saw Robbie at Lego Land this weekend.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 1: He wasn't even there with me. He was there one
Speaker 1: of the boys birthdays, so he took him for the
Speaker 1: day and they were getting on a ride and then
Speaker 1: this person was getting off the ride and they just
Speaker 1: yelled at him.
Speaker 6: Robbie.
Speaker 1: I love Tanya. I was like, thank you so much.
Speaker 1: So I just want to say he didn't get the
Speaker 1: name because the ride kept going pasted him, but I
Speaker 1: wanted to say thank you for that shout out to
Speaker 1: out to describe.
Speaker 3: It, and thank you to Vanessa for our Milwaukee Brewers.
Speaker 2: Tanya and I got a scrub shirt yes with Milwaukee
Speaker 2: logo on it, and then she got me a pride
Speaker 2: shirt Milwaukee.
Speaker 1: Yes, Vanessa, we love the Scrubs. I'm not sure about
Speaker 1: the team.
Speaker 5: We love the team too. We all have fever fever
Speaker 5: hat and what sport?
Speaker 2: This is.
Speaker 5: When you feel the excitement of a big home run,
Speaker 5: stomping your feet, clapping your hands. You got when you're
Speaker 5: in that stands, Come see that brewing the Milwaukee.
Speaker 1: Brew That's the theme song.
Speaker 4: It was in the eighties.
Speaker 1: They got rid of that all right.
Speaker 5: Dodgers don't have a song like that. Just saying.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Vanessa, very appreciated.
Speaker 3: We love you all. Have a wonderful week. We'll be
Speaker 3: back Thursday.