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Speaker 1: Okay, y'all.

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Speaker 2: This week, I am starting off by reading two definitions,

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Speaker 2: because I do think that words mean things, and it's

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Speaker 2: very important to define the topic at hand today.

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Speaker 1: So we're going to start with the first.

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Speaker 2: Definition of patriarchy a system of society or government in

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Speaker 2: which men hold the power and women are largely excluded

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Speaker 2: from it. The second definition a social system in which

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Speaker 2: men typically hold authority and responsibility while also excluding women

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Speaker 2: from it. Now we're here to have the conversation. I'm

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Speaker 2: joined by some very opinionated friends today. However, I want

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Speaker 2: to let y'all know my take on this because where

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Speaker 2: I think we stand with the patriarchy is that it

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Speaker 2: needs to be thrown out of the window. It is

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Speaker 2: an outdated means of a relationship in how we interact

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Speaker 2: with each other.

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Speaker 1: Because yes, yes, yes, we are kind of.

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Speaker 3: More fifty to fifty than when we want to believe.

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Speaker 2: No, we're not talking splitting bills, we're not talking about

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Speaker 2: who pays for the first date. But I do believe

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Speaker 2: that in the dynamics of men women that we are

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Speaker 2: more equally yoked then we're not. And I do think

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Speaker 2: that the patriarchy and trying to uphold it does nothing

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Speaker 2: for either gender.

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Speaker 4: Let's be very clear.

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Speaker 2: As men, you guys are still trying to figure out

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Speaker 2: a way to provide, yet.

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Speaker 1: Get mad when women want you to provide. Make it

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Speaker 1: make sense. And then, as women, y'all, we want a

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Speaker 1: man who's emotionally available to us, right, emotionally intelligent, and

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Speaker 1: shows up for us while still demanding them to open

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Speaker 1: their wallets first. How can we ask for both?

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Speaker 2: I really think that we are living in a double

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Speaker 2: edged sword of society due to the patriarchy, and I

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Speaker 2: think that we should literally get.

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Speaker 4: Rid of it. Now.

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Speaker 2: I'm here with three guests. I do have a woman

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Speaker 2: helping me, although I don't think she's gonna help me

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Speaker 2: very much because I don't like anything that she.

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Speaker 3: Has to say.

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Speaker 5: Nothings.

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Speaker 2: We have a passport Cuddy, who is a life and

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Speaker 2: dating coach and author of the m in Man Is

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Speaker 1: Wait, and you have a woman's.

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Speaker 2: Can we get the name of that because I don't

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Speaker 2: want to fuck that one up? Because he missed that

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Speaker 2: one in the.

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Speaker 1: Goddamn beginning, This look at him, mending me, mending me,

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Speaker 1: which I have both of them.

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Speaker 3: All right.

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Speaker 1: We're also joined by used to be disruptor now social

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Speaker 1: commentator and also trap karaoke and panelists on Listen to

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Speaker 1: on this podcast.

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Speaker 3: Mouse.

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Speaker 2: Mounce, Joan and then rounding it up, we have co

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Speaker 2: hosts of the Joe Butden podcast and real estate Guru.

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Speaker 3: Let's just go ahead and add that.

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Speaker 4: So don't we have issues joining us?

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Speaker 1: And again we're gonna be holding the conversation as well

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Speaker 1: as do we still got miked up over.

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Speaker 3: There in my producers?

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Speaker 4: All right?

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Speaker 1: Well, ay King, I don't think is fully on a MICU,

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Speaker 1: but we.

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Speaker 3: Have Jason over there.

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Speaker 1: Hey, yo, sorry, you'll chill out.

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Speaker 4: Let's we're not pausing out.

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Speaker 3: We are not pausing out the gig.

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Speaker 1: So, guys, based on my kind of hot takes and

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Speaker 1: where we stand on all of this, do we have

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Speaker 1: any pushback or where we don't?

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Speaker 3: I have a question? Okay, here we go. Did the

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Speaker 3: emotional has to do with the financial? Oh?

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Speaker 1: I think there's a I think there's a huge planet,

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Speaker 1: like to me and me an example of like how

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Speaker 1: you don't expect one if you need other. I mean

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Speaker 1: the example right now is that I'd rather cry in

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Speaker 1: a Rose Royce than a Honda. We literally have the

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Speaker 1: narrative right now that women are willing to put up

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Speaker 1: with a lot more.

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Speaker 2: Bullshit if they have provided a certain lifestyle. If a

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Speaker 2: man is paying all the bills, they'll put up with

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Speaker 2: a lot more lack of emotional intelligence from their man

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Speaker 2: or needs from them because he's showing up provisionally with

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Speaker 2: with finances.

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Speaker 3: Oh, because I took it the wrong way.

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Speaker 1: I thought you were saying that we can't expect them

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Speaker 1: to have like emotions and want them to pay for stuff.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I'll be honest with you. I think a lot

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Speaker 2: of men if they lead with their money. Bitch, you

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Speaker 2: go find your friends show.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that.

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Speaker 6: I think together y'all are certain the same thing I

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Speaker 6: was asking. I don't know, but I think even in

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Speaker 6: that is she's saying.

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Speaker 3: That, what do you disagree?

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Speaker 7: I don't.

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Speaker 4: I've discussed the chapter one man and the man is

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Speaker 4: for money.

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Speaker 1: I want somebody who's emotionally available and spend some money.

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Speaker 1: Have you gotten both? And now in my because that's

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Speaker 1: who I'm choosing, But not before, because I wasn't.

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Speaker 3: I didn't care.

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Speaker 4: Do you do you?

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Speaker 1: Uh?

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Speaker 6: Do you nurture a space for someone to be emotionally

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Speaker 6: available while.

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Speaker 4: Handout? Well, I don't even care about the handout part.

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Speaker 6: Like when you when you have a demand for someone

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Speaker 6: to be emotionally available, that means you have to be

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Speaker 6: responsible for their emotional availability. So are you in a

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Speaker 6: lot of times? I won't to say a lot of

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Speaker 6: times because that's a crazy statement, even though we're here

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Speaker 6: for hot take, like I want to say, a lot

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Speaker 6: of times, I have noticed that sometimes women will ask

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Speaker 6: for emotional available an emotional available man who won't create

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Speaker 6: a space or won't maintain a space, right, it's not

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Speaker 6: your job to create it, but it is your job

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Speaker 6: to maintain a space for emotional availability.

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Speaker 4: So if you're not.

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Speaker 1: Doing well, what that looks like for everybody you know? Personally? Me,

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Speaker 1: I feel like I do. I never really had guys

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Speaker 1: tell me that I don't, if anything. That's how they've

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Speaker 1: like I'm digging into you, I'm I'm pulling back the layers.

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Speaker 3: I'm very very deep.

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Speaker 1: So gods fall in love with that, and that's how

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Speaker 1: we actually get the money.

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Speaker 3: Well exactly, because now they really.

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Speaker 4: Come with me.

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Speaker 8: It's not a money issue at that point. Yeah, right,

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Speaker 8: Like if you created.

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Speaker 1: I deserve it then like once I only you're just

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you know what I'm saying. Like, I think that,

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Speaker 4: like my stances on the money things are a little

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Speaker 4: different than most people because you got a lot minimum,

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Speaker 4: very minimal. Yop.

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Speaker 9: I'm not spending money on women. That's not my thing.

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Speaker 9: I think that, like, to what level?

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Speaker 4: What will we if we reach a certain place? If

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Speaker 4: we reach I.

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Speaker 8: Don't spend.

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Speaker 4: We reach. I got myself a ticket to this movie.

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Speaker 4: I'm waiting for you to.

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Speaker 9: If we reach a certain place, the sky's the limit.

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Speaker 9: But I'm not starting out conversations. I'm not starting out friendships.

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Speaker 9: I'm not starting out any level of entanglements with But

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Speaker 9: does that.

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Speaker 1: Look like Okay, I meet you, we start dealing with

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Speaker 1: each other. I'll pay for us going on dates, but

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Speaker 1: I'm not giving you money to get your hair done.

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Speaker 4: I'm not giving you money for friendship in place.

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Speaker 6: But if date in part and stuff, you'll pay for yes, Okay,

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Speaker 6: so we'll court somebody, but you're not gonna pay for

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Speaker 9: Women today will be like, yo, I gotta get a babysitter.

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Speaker 9: You gotta pay for my babysitter, and they put a

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Speaker 9: premium on that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but this is the thing.

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Speaker 1: I mean you and you think that's wrong that you

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Speaker 1: want like that. You're not that a woman is even.

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Speaker 4: Asking that place. Yes, we are in a place where

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Speaker 4: I shouldn't have to pay you to date you. I

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Speaker 4: should so listen if we are. And this is where

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Speaker 4: we get into all of the mishap.

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Speaker 9: We have over valued part in my French, pussy is

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Speaker 9: worth more than dick in society and worth have because

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Speaker 9: women put a premium on their pussy price. We ain't

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Speaker 9: getting paid for dick women.

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Speaker 4: I'm just saying, like there was a time where I.

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Speaker 3: Wasn't on Amazon. Boy, you were silly on the purses.

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Speaker 4: All right, you paid for the dick.

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Speaker 8: She paid for it.

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Speaker 4: She definitely paid.

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Speaker 3: That's crazy.

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Speaker 4: We disagree with him?

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Speaker 1: Okay, No, I disagree one thing, and I don't know,

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Speaker 1: I might be kind of agreeing with you, but not really.

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Speaker 3: I always joke and say that.

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Speaker 1: I have penis MV right because I say that men

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Speaker 1: could live for free and women cannot, Like men will

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Speaker 1: literally be able to go live at a woman's crib

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Speaker 1: drive you. No, no, no, I'm not saying that.

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Speaker 3: There was a woman that California just looked up.

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Speaker 4: Nobody in the greed.

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Speaker 1: The crazy thing is men can do it and get

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Speaker 1: all of the perks and not even be heaving.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, but we know men who men will do that.

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Speaker 6: So what I will acknowledge is, yes, the men can

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Speaker 6: do that. There's a lot more work that goes into it,

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Speaker 6: and there's a definitive time date. There's a date because

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Speaker 6: a woman will get more, a woman will get annoyed

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Speaker 6: with a man not doing nothing, being a bump way

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Speaker 3: Let me ask you a question.

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Speaker 1: If I lost everything today, didn't have no money, or

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Speaker 1: I was living with somebody that kicked me out, do

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Speaker 1: you think that I have mad dudes that I could

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Speaker 1: go and live with for the for the rest of

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Speaker 1: the year, versus if the man can.

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Speaker 6: Do it for the rest of the year. It depends

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Speaker 6: what girls he does or does not even lie. It

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Speaker 6: depends on how you carry the first half of that

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Speaker 6: year all that.

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Speaker 4: It depends on what that mouth do.

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Speaker 3: Oh my, don't do a good job and that you

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Speaker 3: and that bad mouth on the side of the road.

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Speaker 9: Conversely for that dude, because there are people it's a meme.

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Speaker 9: It's memes running around Brooklyn or the Brooklyn or Nigga

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Speaker 9: and a Pennsylvania girl, okay, right, and they'll go find

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Speaker 9: no disrespect to anybody. The fight the fat white Arron

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Speaker 9: from Penncil and Homeboy will be shocked up. And Homeboy

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Speaker 9: got fourteen inch dick, eating cheerryalls all day, laying on

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Speaker 9: the couch the honey. But that's the trade off. He

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Speaker 9: not galify halle Berry, and halle Berry's taking him in.

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Speaker 9: I mean going to find somebody that he may not

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Speaker 9: be physically attracted to, he may not have anything in

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Speaker 9: common with, and he just a hobo section.

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Speaker 3: I think.

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Speaker 1: So you never heard the stereotype that the corporate women

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Speaker 4: We gotta live.

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Speaker 6: We gotta live in the real world, That's what it is, right,

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Speaker 6: Like how many of these things are we experiencing?

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Speaker 8: How much of this is like hyperbole? Like in real life?

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Speaker 6: I think there's a middle ground between when we're all

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Speaker 2: Let me get everyone's take then, before we jump into

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Speaker 4: It to be? Believe you should wear a dresses like

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Speaker 4: this in ten years, I've never seen you wear you

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Speaker 3: I think patriarchy talking. I hate patriarchy. Let me do.

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Speaker 6: Let me call him, yo, Can you just somewhere.

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Speaker 4: Land dressed like she called him?

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Speaker 3: The harlet?

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Speaker 4: The hart is here.

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Speaker 3: No, I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 1: We're talking patriarchy and they're like, oh no.

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Speaker 3: Go put that another old go ahead and for.

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Speaker 1: The hose, we can come.

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Speaker 3: If y'all hold that home today.

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Speaker 6: Her patriarchal thought you she didn't want to cancel that.

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Speaker 2: So where do y'all stand? How you will start with?

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Speaker 2: You just give me do you want to uphold the

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Speaker 2: do you want to dismantle it?

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Speaker 5: M hm hm.

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Speaker 4: Definitions up there if you.

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Speaker 1: Include like gender roles and stuff, believe in gender roles,

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Speaker 1: So you want to uphold the patriarchs.

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Speaker 6: You want, I'm gonna sound cheesy, man, He's like, I'm

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Speaker 4: Or justin b.

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Speaker 8: All right, you can't throw it out because then the

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Speaker 3: Damn. We just can't live without.

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Speaker 6: You know, we're not talking about men. We're talking about

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Speaker 6: the system in which patriarchy could. So there's women that

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Speaker 6: are in charge that uphold patriarchy, Like patriarchy is upheld

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Speaker 6: by just men.

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Speaker 4: It's a system.

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Speaker 7: It was.

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Speaker 6: It was indoctrinated and normalized by men, and then for

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Speaker 6: a all right, I'm being a good person, so I

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Speaker 6: want to I don't want to misgender them. That's how

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Speaker 6: how you have black men voting for Trump and just

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Speaker 6: having these like anti black theories.

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Speaker 1: And them not believing that a woman can so even

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Speaker 6: So it's like, yeah, so patriarchy is upheld by more

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Speaker 6: than just men, more than just white men. Right, it's

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Speaker 6: also a system that has upheld America for since it's

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Speaker 6: since it's in doctrine. So tomorrow we can't open the

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Speaker 8: It's impossible the world will you agree.

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Speaker 6: But there doesn't need to be some foundational changes to patriarchy,

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Speaker 6: some challenges.

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Speaker 3: So uphold, dismantle, uphold.

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Speaker 6: No, I'm torn, but I'll probably lean more toward tear

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Speaker 6: it down. Okay, but I'm torn because a lot of

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Speaker 6: people that'll say tear it down, they say tear it

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Speaker 4: So the same quest.

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Speaker 9: Quote feminists that preach all of the bullshit be the

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Speaker 9: same ones that say men should be providers. So you

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Speaker 9: can't say that we should tear this stuff down, and

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Speaker 9: I also have to provide for you because that provision

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Speaker 1: So I want to lean into there. Do we have

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Speaker 1: the hook of it all.

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Speaker 2: I mean, the hook is kind of patriarchy as a whole.

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Speaker 2: As a whole, so we can I would say, over

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Speaker 2: the last three to five years more than not, I

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Speaker 2: would say, with the Kevin Samuels, with the fresh and fits,

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Speaker 2: and you've got damn podcast mics. I think this conversation

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Speaker 2: has been one that seems to be regurgitated.

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Speaker 1: Without much thought and not much practice.

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Speaker 2: I know, you know you coach and literally have calls

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Speaker 2: with women all day. They literally contradictor in our hypocrites

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Speaker 2: of what they do and kind of what they want.

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Speaker 2: I think for me, even listening to what you just said,

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Speaker 3: But from a privileged place I am.

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Speaker 4: Now four years ago.

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Speaker 2: I am in a privileged place as a woman to

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Speaker 2: twenties having survival sex and only fucking with niggas that

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Speaker 2: I got money, and this from money or I wanted

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Speaker 2: be a price here and this is what can get

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Speaker 2: me into whatever, the patriarchal foundation of me being able

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Speaker 2: my own money, I love that I can choose a

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Speaker 2: that's been also the difficulty with communicating that with men,

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Speaker 2: because men still want to be needed. There's no way

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Speaker 2: that this world can exist without women needing men to lead.

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Speaker 6: Everyone specifically talking about brother Yeah, we're specifically talking about

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Speaker 2: I would say, I would say overall, like I do

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Speaker 2: believe like a woman can can run a business, but

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Speaker 2: I think there are better women leaders than Trump, who's

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Speaker 2: now president, because I think it's certain certain CEOs that

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Speaker 2: they women would be better at the job than men.

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Speaker 1: So we could go from business, but also yeah, in relationship, I.

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Speaker 4: Think you would This is completely you know, all due respect.

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Speaker 6: Do you think that you would have the platform you

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Speaker 6: as if patriarchy didn't exist. I mean, I think if

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Speaker 6: the patriarchy didn't exist, then women wouldn't be shown for

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Speaker 6: sexual practices, They wouldn't be started shuned for, you know,

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Speaker 6: wanting to explore our sexual practice so then there would

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Speaker 6: almost not be a need for a voice leg you know, yoursel.

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Speaker 2: The idea of us dismantling that and reclaiming that word

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Speaker 2: was a part of the foundational premise of starting horrible decisions.

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Speaker 2: I mean to be fair too, even our ideals on

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Speaker 2: what a relationship looks like in non monogamy. I think

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Speaker 2: you brought up even our founding fathers and what America

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Speaker 2: celebrating even Thanksgiving, it's just a whole bunch of colonizers

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Speaker 2: that were rebels from the UK that wanted to come

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Speaker 2: over and start.

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Speaker 1: Their own shit and leaned into the Church.

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Speaker 2: Which we know as as black people, was hypocritical in

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Speaker 2: the way they treated us. Yet they wanted you should

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Speaker 2: treat your neighbor how you would want to be treated.

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Speaker 3: They didn't treat black people that way.

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Speaker 1: And I think a lot of the way in which

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Speaker 2: And bullshit, because let's be very clear, everybody fucking now

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Speaker 2: before marriage, people are having kids out of wedlock, Like

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Speaker 2: there's all these other ways in which we excuse moving

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Speaker 2: away from the church, Well, then we still want to

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Speaker 2: lean into it for the patriarchal means of gender roles

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Speaker 2: and how we should But.

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Speaker 4: That's what I was saying.

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Speaker 6: Why, that's why I specifically right, because when we go

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Speaker 6: down that slope, you got to stop at every ring

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Speaker 6: to acknowledge you right. You can't just shoot down and

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Speaker 6: we're like, get ready, are gonna be better than women? No,

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Speaker 6: that's why I don't want to be that guy. But

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Speaker 6: like that's kind of right. There's so many webs and

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Speaker 6: there's so many branches that lean into everything. Everything you

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Speaker 6: just said was completely valid, but we gotta deal with

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Speaker 6: them one by one or will just be in.

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Speaker 4: A vacuum and as a physical component that you can't deny.

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Speaker 1: What's the physical component? Because y'all not building houses?

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Speaker 6: No more?

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Speaker 3: I got issues. Well, girls are doing the d Y

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Speaker 1: I was about to say, nigga, we gotta call we

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Speaker 1: gotta call someumb tack because our boyfriends can't hang ourselves.

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Speaker 3: The Actually it's not sometimes it's not even the work part.

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Speaker 3: They would just be like thanks doing that.

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Speaker 6: I am him yo, So again, I'm but those are

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Speaker 6: the guys that you guys are picking. Yeah, right, so

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Speaker 6: also wrong with that?

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Speaker 4: Literally, don't say I'm just saying the nigga that make

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Speaker 4: that's some of the things that you There's gonna be

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Speaker 9: My physical point was dog, when a nigga break in

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Speaker 9: to go downstairs?

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Speaker 3: Oh no, I have a gun now because I live

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Speaker 4: Who gets up to go downstairs?

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Speaker 9: When you laying in your badmaim You're not gonna tell

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Speaker 9: Keith to stay asleep, and you're gonna you're not You're.

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Speaker 3: Not gonna be too bready. So yeah, lor we're gonna

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Speaker 6: You laying in the bed with a man who is

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Speaker 6: by default. When y'all hear the clank and clinker clank downstairs,

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Speaker 6: who got to get the fuck up and go downstairs

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Speaker 6: and confront the burglar?

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Speaker 2: I want to go back though, to what Cuddy just

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Speaker 4: So so we.

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Speaker 3: Get man is there who gets up and goes the

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Speaker 3: answer though he's asking.

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Speaker 1: My desire is not to be getting robbed at gus boys.

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Speaker 9: And somebody's downstairs and they are breaking in your home.

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Speaker 9: By default, who the fuck has to go face the burglar?

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Speaker 2: That is the fault of y'all and the patriarchy. The

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Speaker 2: patriarchy said, it's y'all. The patriarchy said. The patriarchy said,

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Speaker 2: if there's a snake in the yard, the man has

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Speaker 2: to go kill it. The patriarchy of those things. But

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Speaker 2: that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: You don't have to if you a pussy.

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Speaker 2: If I date a nigga who might be a little

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Speaker 2: pussy and I'm not, and I got done, I think

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Speaker 2: that's where it's fine for me to go and and

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Speaker 2: shoot that.

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Speaker 3: Mind you, it could be a dating from time to time,

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Speaker 3: a little sweet.

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Speaker 1: You.

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Speaker 6: You're subscribing the patriot out.

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Speaker 4: You're calling him pussy, which.

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Speaker 6: Means you're identifying his lack of physical prowess and.

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Speaker 3: Of his character.

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Speaker 4: He's pussy.

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Speaker 3: Now, listen, you know what's you know? I think pussy

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Speaker 3: is the strongest.

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Speaker 4: Call that nigga pussy. You did not say if you're

450
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Speaker 4: that power he didn't.

451
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Speaker 3: That's one of them powering person You the valuable value.

452
00:21:55,560 --> 00:21:56,879
Speaker 3: You ain't about to go shoot that nigga.

453
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Speaker 4: You are in the world. You bring when that nigger

454
00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:03,119
Speaker 4: brand my ass in the club, lose my number, you

455
00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:04,920
Speaker 4: bitch ass nigga because you ain't do nothing.

456
00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:10,120
Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, I'm just saying, well, I can't, guy, because why.

457
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:16,760
Speaker 1: There Well no, That's why I also believe that people

458
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Speaker 1: shouldn't play in sports that they just.

459
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Speaker 3: Defend this one.

460
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Speaker 4: I don't.

461
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Speaker 9: It's a power dynamic, and I think that the people

462
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Speaker 9: in power keep things status quo so that they can

463
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Speaker 9: remain in power. I think that's the same with patriarchy, racism, classicism,

464
00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:39,080
Speaker 9: so all of these other divisive things. And I think

465
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Speaker 9: that is just a power dynamic, and the people in

466
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Speaker 9: power keep these things like this on purpose.

467
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Speaker 6: But what I will say, bro, we have to get

468
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Speaker 6: to a point where the only way we can honestly

469
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Speaker 6: describe our value outside of an extreme hyperbole.

470
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Speaker 4: And somebody's coming in. I think I'm saying.

471
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Speaker 6: I'm saying, men gotta do better. That's what I'm saying.

472
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Speaker 6: We got to be better than our only value is yo.

473
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Speaker 3: But if a nigga come in the house, why are you.

474
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Speaker 4: Not all right? There's no threats in my life?

475
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Speaker 3: Can you still get you know.

476
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Speaker 4: What I'm saying conscious?

477
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Speaker 9: I'm saying that some of the things come from a

478
00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 9: power dynamic, Right, there's a power dynamic because when women

479
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Speaker 9: say protect and provide.

480
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Speaker 4: Those are the two words that they damn.

481
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Speaker 3: Yes, But.

482
00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:33,960
Speaker 4: There's a point where may stop protecting and providing. I

483
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Speaker 4: don't think so. No one has to be there because.

484
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Speaker 1: Because I want to know, y'all take on this, because

485
00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:44,119
Speaker 1: this is kind of like I got two different opinions

486
00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:44,800
Speaker 1: from guys.

487
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Speaker 3: Right, So I took the express bus the other day.

488
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Speaker 3: This is the child patriarch I did, because you take

489
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Speaker 3: a bust of patriarchy. These press yes, okay, express book.

490
00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:03,920
Speaker 4: How did you know it was expressed? There's so many things.

491
00:24:05,119 --> 00:24:08,760
Speaker 4: It's a difference between a bus and express book. Oh,

492
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:17,919
Speaker 4: an express charge no, listen, ghetto listen.

493
00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:23,760
Speaker 3: The seventy something dollars, grogers, all of that stuff.

494
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Speaker 1: I took my ass on the express bus, okay, I said,

495
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Speaker 1: I'll take an uber home.

496
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Speaker 3: Now, got on the bus. The bus driver was like,

497
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Speaker 3: you know, oh, I know.

498
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Speaker 4: Who you are.

499
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Speaker 1: You you ain't following me back something something something fast forward.

500
00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:39,720
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, whatever, see him again. He's like, you

501
00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:41,600
Speaker 1: ain't follow me. I'm like, so you took the bus

502
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:46,000
Speaker 1: to Yeah I did. God damn, I'm observing.

503
00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 3: So fast forward. I checked my d M one day

504
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:56,760
Speaker 3: and he says, can you fuck me? And I tell one.

505
00:24:58,080 --> 00:24:59,560
Speaker 4: Wants you want to.

506
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Speaker 6: Mind you?

507
00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:11,880
Speaker 3: Nigga said she was doing questions. It was like every

508
00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 3: other girl that much, he should be able to tell

509
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Speaker 3: about my page.

510
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:19,359
Speaker 4: But it's what I want to do.

511
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Speaker 3: On the New Yorker. I can take the bus. We

512
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Speaker 3: take the train. Yeah, so like I don't know, I

513
00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:28,000
Speaker 3: take the train, millionaire take train. Never seen millionaires get

514
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:28,480
Speaker 3: in the bus.

515
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Speaker 1: Express better fucking bum ass trains.

516
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Speaker 4: Well, let me say that a conductor has never DM

517
00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:39,639
Speaker 4: me and said just jumping my ship. Ain't know how

518
00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:41,760
Speaker 4: you doing? Did you was fun?

519
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:42,119
Speaker 10: No?

520
00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:48,000
Speaker 1: So my my response was I'm about to go hand

521
00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:50,080
Speaker 1: on this nigga right like I'm about to go crazy.

522
00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:54,920
Speaker 3: So one dude is like, you know, ready to go

523
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Speaker 3: to war? Like where he at? Like what time was that?

524
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Speaker 2: Like?

525
00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:02,000
Speaker 1: And the other and another guy said no, no, nah,

526
00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:05,879
Speaker 1: don't say nothing to him, and I'm like, hmmm, it

527
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:09,200
Speaker 1: was It took me a fact that the guy was like, no,

528
00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 1: don't say nothing to him, because I don't want you

529
00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:13,320
Speaker 1: to go too crazy on him and anything happening.

530
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Speaker 4: Why would that surprise you because she wanted war.

531
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Speaker 3: No, because first of all, that bare minimum my exit.

532
00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:23,840
Speaker 1: My response was gonna be like if I ever saw

533
00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 1: him in here, like, don't you ever fucking talk to

534
00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:28,359
Speaker 1: me like that again, I will fucking get you fired, bitch, Like,

535
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 1: don't talk. I don't give a like, who the fuck

536
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:33,920
Speaker 1: do you think I am? Like I was ready to

537
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Speaker 1: go crazy because why you dming me that? Like, I

538
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:39,600
Speaker 1: don't give fuck if you've seen me on internet on

539
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Speaker 1: the bus, so I don't, I don't care.

540
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Speaker 4: I don't.

541
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Speaker 3: I didn't say more than like ten words to.

542
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Speaker 6: You in life.

543
00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:45,720
Speaker 3: Why are you talking to me like that?

544
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Speaker 1: So then the other guy telling me that I shouldn't

545
00:26:50,040 --> 00:26:51,840
Speaker 1: talk to him like that or I shouldn't say that

546
00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:55,119
Speaker 1: to him was the one who was like, don't you

547
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Speaker 1: know huh yeah, But I just kind of felt like

548
00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:05,280
Speaker 1: that can so you intelligence you like the man that also.

549
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 3: Don't do this.

550
00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:12,439
Speaker 1: For me, it was like it's not that I forgot

551
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:14,360
Speaker 1: him to do anything. I just wanted to be able

552
00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:15,320
Speaker 1: to say what I wanted to say.

553
00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:18,040
Speaker 9: That emotional intelligent man tells you that this person is

554
00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:21,360
Speaker 9: not worth you, even raising your temperature over.

555
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:25,560
Speaker 4: He also drives a bus that you're not going to

556
00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 4: ever see.

557
00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:31,399
Speaker 9: And I think that's what I walk on a nigga's

558
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 9: bus and not even acknowledge that his existence and go

559
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 9: sit in my seat.

560
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:38,040
Speaker 4: He can't get a conversation, a hello, and nothing from me.

561
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Speaker 6: I want to curse him out, but I think in

562
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 6: that moment, the second gentleman, he took your safety into

563
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:48,359
Speaker 6: an account more than the first guy did.

564
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Speaker 2: All he brought up the emotional intelligence of that. But

565
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Speaker 2: I wanted to bring it back to to mouse mouse.

566
00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:55,879
Speaker 2: You stated the men stopped protecting and providing.

567
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, when when it's mentioned.

568
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Speaker 6: So I think everything is a There's no issue in

569
00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 6: this world that was created by just happenstance.

570
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Speaker 4: No, no one ever was just sitting in a room

571
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:11,000
Speaker 4: and was like, yeah, let's do that right. There was

572
00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:13,280
Speaker 4: a there was a void, and someone decided to fill

573
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Speaker 4: the void.

574
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:15,800
Speaker 6: Even you know, it's it's ugly, even when we talk

575
00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:18,160
Speaker 6: about the way the and I'm just breaking it down

576
00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:20,240
Speaker 6: to the most basic level. Even when we talk about

577
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:24,119
Speaker 6: the the American version of slavery, right when we talk

578
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:27,119
Speaker 6: about that Western civilization version of slavery, that the Atlantic

579
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:29,800
Speaker 6: slave trade. The REASONA was so protesting ugly, there was

580
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:33,880
Speaker 6: a need. Okay, we need to make money, we need

581
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 6: to get labor.

582
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 4: How do we do that.

583
00:28:36,200 --> 00:28:39,480
Speaker 8: Oh, let's take these people's liberty. Are going to beat

584
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:40,840
Speaker 8: them into right, right.

585
00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 3: So I say that to so I start that a

586
00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:45,040
Speaker 3: little bit of that too, I started I started.

587
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 4: Out that ugly to just break it down.

588
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 6: The fact that we see women constantly talking about, uh,

589
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:55,800
Speaker 6: the lack of protection, demanding protection, demanded provision.

590
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 8: There was a time where somebody stopped protecting the probiden both.

591
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:06,440
Speaker 4: So throughout this progression, I think that women have become

592
00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:10,560
Speaker 4: more masculine out of hear me out, dog, you're gonna

593
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 4: agree with me. And masculinity is not a bad thing.

594
00:29:14,360 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 9: Every man, every woman has a level of masculinity and

595
00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:20,240
Speaker 9: a level of femininity in them. Women have had to

596
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 9: become hyper masculine because black men are leaving their households

597
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:26,720
Speaker 9: to fit for themselves.

598
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:28,400
Speaker 3: Oh that's the where you're taking this.

599
00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 9: So to your point, avoid is now there yeacause men

600
00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:36,600
Speaker 9: are leaving their households, and now women have no choice

601
00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:39,239
Speaker 9: but to generate more money and do all of these

602
00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 9: other things.

603
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:41,760
Speaker 4: Take out the garbage, fix the ceiling fan, do all

604
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:43,680
Speaker 4: the shit that was traditionally men shit.

605
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:45,719
Speaker 9: Women have no choice but to do it because now

606
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 9: they are single and they're raising children, et cetera, E. T.

607
00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 9: And then those daughters and those sons, though especially the

608
00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 9: daughters follow suit and say, I saw my mother struggle.

609
00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 9: I saw my mother struggle, and I saw what she

610
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 9: went through. I'm never gonna need no man. And that's

611
00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 9: where that quote comes from. I don't need no man

612
00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:02,760
Speaker 9: because I saw my mother did so. Now I'm get

613
00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:06,440
Speaker 9: seventy seven degrees all of this ship so that financially

614
00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:08,680
Speaker 9: I never have to quote unquote need a man.

615
00:30:08,880 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 1: I don't think that it's about son. I agree with

616
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,840
Speaker 1: that A percentage of it is not that I don't

617
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,240
Speaker 1: need it. I never experienced it.

618
00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:18,720
Speaker 3: I don't know true that.

619
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Speaker 9: I was going to dress Mouse's point. I think that

620
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:25,800
Speaker 9: men have never stopped providing and protecting. I think that,

621
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:29,960
Speaker 9: especially in our demo, in our community, we stop getting married.

622
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:33,120
Speaker 9: You don't see a man that's married not protect his family.

623
00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:36,200
Speaker 9: You don't see a man that's married not really provide

624
00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:40,760
Speaker 9: for his family. And we generally speaking, I'm not talking

625
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:41,720
Speaker 9: about capable.

626
00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:44,240
Speaker 3: Is still in his capability or not?

627
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Speaker 4: But again, I don't think that. I don't think that.

628
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know, meaning like to him, it's up

629
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:53,720
Speaker 3: to him.

630
00:30:55,920 --> 00:30:59,760
Speaker 8: And right, so we're capable, he's capability.

631
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 4: Yes, that's what you're saying about. Not even that. Listen

632
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:04,480
Speaker 4: to this. I don't know. And you guys, I don't

633
00:31:04,520 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 4: want to talk about the outliers because we can find

634
00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 4: something that contradicts everything. What I'm talking about is generally speaking,

635
00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:12,560
Speaker 4: a man a woman of family. That man is just

636
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 4: not out here saying yo, fuck that, I ain't doing nothing.

637
00:31:15,160 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 4: So you know what's that is a very small amount.

638
00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:19,880
Speaker 3: So I would say I have a lot of friends,

639
00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:22,360
Speaker 3: I have a lot of family members.

640
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:26,160
Speaker 2: I have sisters of all of my friends right now

641
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:30,640
Speaker 2: with babies ranging from less than a year to seventeen.

642
00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 1: They are getting zero help from their fathers financially.

643
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:39,040
Speaker 4: Still do they live in the household. But so this

644
00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 4: is my point was the people that live with their

645
00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 4: family are not.

646
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Speaker 6: They're not he said, what he's basically saying, is no

647
00:31:50,040 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 6: niggas sitting in that house watching his family go under

648
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:54,040
Speaker 6: He saying no niggas.

649
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:58,240
Speaker 3: He's saying that out do we know that those are

650
00:31:58,320 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 3: the outliers?

651
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:02,280
Speaker 8: When that's what we because you have a majority. That's

652
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:04,440
Speaker 8: not to jug about the numbers.

653
00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:05,960
Speaker 6: But that's what I'm saying, like, how do we know

654
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:09,160
Speaker 6: what is most of friends husbands don't do ship?

655
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 3: Well, let her not talk about her friends.

656
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 1: You have to know she said, let's say out of

657
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:22,320
Speaker 1: five out of five friends who are married, let's say four,

658
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:26,320
Speaker 1: three or four of the five, the woman is the breadwinner.

659
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 4: That's a country. That doesn't mean that the.

660
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 3: Not doing that either.

661
00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:32,440
Speaker 4: And that's how your.

662
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:35,680
Speaker 9: Classic provision now is just who makes the most money

663
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:37,240
Speaker 9: is the biggest provider.

664
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Speaker 4: And that's not true. No, no, that's not true, d CEO.

665
00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:43,800
Speaker 9: Women, they got missed the mom at home that's doing

666
00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:47,120
Speaker 9: the homework with the kids, they fucking cooking for the kids,

667
00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 9: they're driving the kids to soccer practice and balance the things.

668
00:32:51,880 --> 00:33:02,320
Speaker 11: That is provision and good giding you with a sexual pleasure.

669
00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:05,880
Speaker 11: Y'all think pussy is provision. Y'all think when y'all give

670
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:07,760
Speaker 11: a nigga pussy y'all providing something for him.

671
00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:11,480
Speaker 1: Well, okay, no, no, no, do you.

672
00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:12,600
Speaker 3: Want to know the problem with that.

673
00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:16,640
Speaker 1: It's literally where we place what we want, like men

674
00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 1: will do whatever they need to do to get pussy.

675
00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 4: It's modern day prostitution and relationships because there's.

676
00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 2: Probable prostitution because there's a negative connotation to it. There

677
00:33:31,400 --> 00:33:33,280
Speaker 2: is negative annotations.

678
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:36,040
Speaker 4: You're talking about cont he's grown in this room.

679
00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:40,040
Speaker 1: So in context, men cannot be mad when women place

680
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:45,760
Speaker 1: this value on on a vagina when men are nobody.

681
00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 4: That's a I think it's transaction. That's that prostitution. Nobody

682
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 4: ever said it's a bad thing. I said, men are providing.

683
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 5: This is not.

684
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:00,920
Speaker 4: I want to.

685
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:04,240
Speaker 9: Have you come home after a long day's work and

686
00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:06,719
Speaker 9: that man rubs your feet to you damn near fall asleep.

687
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 4: He's providing something for you. That is a provision. What

688
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:12,839
Speaker 4: are you talking about? Rubs your back, if he runs

689
00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 4: your bath water, he puts the rose pedals in thesce,

690
00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:16,480
Speaker 4: that's provision.

691
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:19,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I had, but from a narcissist.

692
00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 4: So what I'm telling you is we are provider y.

693
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:28,839
Speaker 12: A lot of the biggest providers, and they are narcissistic

694
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:31,080
Speaker 12: because I'm providing the X y Z bitch.

695
00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:31,799
Speaker 4: You do what I said.

696
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:34,360
Speaker 3: I ain't never in the bathtub with the rose petals. Now,

697
00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:35,680
Speaker 3: I ain't got.

698
00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:45,160
Speaker 4: Get that express back to what I'm saying, like, Yo,

699
00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 4: we keep putting the money.

700
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:52,560
Speaker 9: Piece in our culture. Yo, the money piece is dominating relationships. Unfortunately, Okay,

701
00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:52,919
Speaker 9: we got.

702
00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:59,200
Speaker 3: That's because one horse in America hold on money by happiness.

703
00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:01,839
Speaker 6: We have to out there right there, right like when

704
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:04,480
Speaker 6: we say like these blanket terms like oh this is ruinal,

705
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:07,440
Speaker 6: it's not it is it is control. What it is

706
00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:12,239
Speaker 6: is it's controlling a portion of culture that lives specifically online,

707
00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:14,800
Speaker 6: that interacts online. There's a lot of people that have

708
00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 6: like funny tweets, are engaging our like in throwing tweets,

709
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:19,520
Speaker 6: that don't live that life. So it's like, you know,

710
00:35:19,800 --> 00:35:22,279
Speaker 6: it's the I would liken it to the theory to

711
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 6: the example of where women tweet I hate men, you know.

712
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 3: What I'm saying.

713
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:30,640
Speaker 6: So what I'm saying is it's I don't think that's

714
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:33,480
Speaker 6: the showing our culture because you have to what we

715
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:35,800
Speaker 6: have to buy by is something that's irrefutable, and numbers

716
00:35:35,800 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 6: are irrefutable, and in America, black families are still thriving.

717
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 8: Black men are still marrying women at a rate of

718
00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:43,800
Speaker 8: eighty percent.

719
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:47,319
Speaker 6: Black men that make over five two hundred and fifty

720
00:35:47,360 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 6: thousand are still marrying black women.

721
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:52,240
Speaker 3: Their numbers are still like these.

722
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:57,759
Speaker 4: Ain't never gonna do talk about But what does that

723
00:35:57,880 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 4: have to do? You know what I'm saying.

724
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:01,880
Speaker 6: It doesn't affect the culture. No, I'm saying it affects

725
00:36:01,920 --> 00:36:03,839
Speaker 6: that just because you could talk about it on TV.

726
00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:06,080
Speaker 9: No why it's affecting the culture Because it may not

727
00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:09,279
Speaker 9: affect certain age demos. But now what's being led in

728
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:12,000
Speaker 9: these twenty something year olds and these thirty year olds

729
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:16,239
Speaker 9: is no romance without finance. That is damning something that

730
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:17,239
Speaker 9: these younger yo.

731
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 4: When we was how do you I'm thirty five. See

732
00:36:19,640 --> 00:36:24,160
Speaker 4: it's different when I was young, right, young girl, I'm

733
00:36:24,239 --> 00:36:26,760
Speaker 4: forty eight. When I was younger, When I was younger,

734
00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 4: your girls going to Poconose was a thing. Girls going

735
00:36:30,239 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 4: to the Virginia Beach was a thing. These twenty one

736
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:33,680
Speaker 4: year old girls.

737
00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:38,359
Speaker 3: You'll gotta take a shot.

738
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 4: Twenty year olds, My nigga are going to Miconos. Yeah,

739
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 4: the twenty year olds are going to Bali and going

740
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:46,359
Speaker 4: to all of these places, and the average twenty year

741
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:50,000
Speaker 4: old boy cannot afford to do those things and provide

742
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 4: for them, so they're looking for that provision elsewhere, typically

743
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:54,040
Speaker 4: in an older man.

744
00:36:55,600 --> 00:37:00,719
Speaker 3: Okay, what are we looking at? Here's I read black

745
00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:03,800
Speaker 3: men out of black men are married.

746
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, you what he said?

747
00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:09,919
Speaker 3: It did if you go to the town to black women,

748
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:10,399
Speaker 3: it's sweet.

749
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:11,439
Speaker 4: That's what I'm talking about.

750
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:12,080
Speaker 3: Like, that's what I'm saying.

751
00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:13,160
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

752
00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 6: So look, if you say about thirty thirty by black

753
00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:18,120
Speaker 6: men right now, if you look at that thirty now

754
00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:19,680
Speaker 6: you have to break down at thirty six percent.

755
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:21,360
Speaker 4: Okay, we looked at thirty six percent.

756
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:23,120
Speaker 8: All right, let's look at that one hundred percent of

757
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 8: the eighty and breaking.

758
00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:26,440
Speaker 3: This man are married. You know, say I'm married to

759
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 3: black women. That's what my take my ticket.

760
00:37:28,160 --> 00:37:29,880
Speaker 6: I stand on the side of I don't think it's

761
00:37:29,920 --> 00:37:33,839
Speaker 6: affecting culture. I think it's affecting conversation. Conversation that people

762
00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:35,680
Speaker 6: don't know how to say, oh.

763
00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:37,439
Speaker 4: This lives here, and this lives here.

764
00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:39,040
Speaker 9: You know what, two stats we missed up on the

765
00:37:39,080 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 9: spoor and I don't even got to look over there

766
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:44,880
Speaker 9: no more today, only thirty five percent of black men

767
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:45,440
Speaker 9: are married.

768
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's that that I said, and it said it

769
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:51,440
Speaker 4: I only represent thirteen percent of the don't I'm talking

770
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 4: about one hundred percent of black men.

771
00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:57,080
Speaker 9: Yeah, make up in the matter of one hundred percent

772
00:37:57,160 --> 00:37:59,920
Speaker 9: of black men only today thirty five percent.

773
00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:02,520
Speaker 4: Of the saying you're not talking about in America. No, no,

774
00:38:02,719 --> 00:38:05,399
Speaker 4: I'm talking about not talking about the American population. I'm

775
00:38:05,400 --> 00:38:08,879
Speaker 4: talking about just the black population of America. Yeah, yeah, yeah, Okay,

776
00:38:08,880 --> 00:38:09,200
Speaker 4: that's right.

777
00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:12,640
Speaker 9: That's I was a nineteen when it say nineteen fifty,

778
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:15,280
Speaker 9: sixty four percent of black men were married.

779
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:19,040
Speaker 4: Nineteen it is affecting culture. Now, no, you're getting married.

780
00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:21,799
Speaker 4: I gotta challenge that because that's not that's an actual fact.

781
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:25,520
Speaker 6: So in nineteen fifty, there were no Jim Crowlows yet,

782
00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:29,040
Speaker 6: there were these draconians, Rico cases were not drawn up yet,

783
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 6: these things that ravaged the black community throughout the nineteen.

784
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 4: It was Jim cron nineteen fifty.

785
00:38:33,719 --> 00:38:36,319
Speaker 6: No what Jim cronin, But it wasn't Jimo. The Jim

786
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:38,960
Speaker 6: I'm telling Jim Crowloyd didn't come to a fact. I

787
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:40,640
Speaker 6: think that was nineteen fifty.

788
00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:43,960
Speaker 3: Can we look up Jim Carolo what I say, there

789
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:44,839
Speaker 3: are other things.

790
00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:46,279
Speaker 4: There are other things that affect that.

791
00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:48,600
Speaker 6: Right, So sixty four percent of black men that were

792
00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 6: married in nineteen fifty, you have to adjust for the

793
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:55,680
Speaker 6: fact that of that sixty four percent, thirty five percent

794
00:38:55,719 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 6: ain't alive.

795
00:38:56,360 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 4: When we get to twenty and nineteen to even be

796
00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:02,960
Speaker 4: or or the or the talking about the available population.

797
00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 4: Know that, you know, there's no way this is my China.

798
00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:08,960
Speaker 8: There would be no way to accurately account for that.

799
00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:11,759
Speaker 6: They're just talking about the black men that obviously the

800
00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:14,480
Speaker 6: one that can poll right, the poll the men, the

801
00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:17,560
Speaker 6: ones that were available to be polled in nineteen fifty,

802
00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:20,320
Speaker 6: sixty four percent of them were married. How many of

803
00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:22,440
Speaker 6: that is coming right listen what I'm saying. How many

804
00:39:22,480 --> 00:39:24,360
Speaker 6: of that is coming right out of great migration? How

805
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:27,480
Speaker 6: many of that's coming right out of this slavery being.

806
00:39:27,960 --> 00:39:28,640
Speaker 3: I don't even think.

807
00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:30,800
Speaker 6: I don't even Yeah, that's what I was about to

808
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:32,520
Speaker 6: be like. I always think juneteenth were the thing. Yet,

809
00:39:32,520 --> 00:39:34,239
Speaker 6: but nineteen fifty there was.

810
00:39:34,200 --> 00:39:36,600
Speaker 4: Available black men in the black community.

811
00:39:37,000 --> 00:39:40,640
Speaker 6: When you get to nineteen seventy eight, that has already

812
00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:44,400
Speaker 6: changed because they had already started, uh in drafting up

813
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:47,840
Speaker 6: these laws that are the drug law that unaffected that

814
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:51,200
Speaker 6: I unequipped affect black men. So you're putting more black men,

815
00:39:51,360 --> 00:39:53,400
Speaker 6: you're a killing more black men. So you can't go

816
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:55,600
Speaker 6: into the nineteen seventies. Hold on, I want to because

817
00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:56,439
Speaker 6: the seventies.

818
00:39:56,760 --> 00:40:00,439
Speaker 10: Before before point, but not only Mouse is making good point,

819
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 10: but just for the education of our audience, Jim Cole

820
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:05,480
Speaker 10: laws effectively ended in the nineteen sixties and then it

821
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:07,040
Speaker 10: became probably more like policy things.

822
00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:08,680
Speaker 3: So I want to go back to.

823
00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:14,520
Speaker 2: Leaning back into leaning back into what a relationship entells.

824
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 2: If we're still leaning into the patriarchy in the nineteen

825
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:19,960
Speaker 2: seventies as well, nineteen seventy four, women were able to

826
00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 2: have their own big accounts. They started seeing positions, suite

827
00:40:24,160 --> 00:40:24,920
Speaker 2: positions within the.

828
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:25,680
Speaker 3: Eighties and nineties.

829
00:40:25,760 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 2: No, if we look into where women then no longer

830
00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 2: needed to live with a meant like a woman couldn't

831
00:40:31,600 --> 00:40:37,360
Speaker 2: even have a bank account without being married. And like

832
00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:39,279
Speaker 2: I said before, and if we are talking about our

833
00:40:39,320 --> 00:40:41,200
Speaker 2: own community, this is where I do believe there was

834
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:43,480
Speaker 2: a huge push of men to be removed out of

835
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:46,520
Speaker 2: the household with welfare and black.

836
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:49,520
Speaker 3: Like what what is that was later on in the

837
00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:52,240
Speaker 3: nineties I'm going through the in the eighties and the nineties.

838
00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:54,480
Speaker 4: Why example, because I think so.

839
00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:55,960
Speaker 3: I know, I know.

840
00:40:57,560 --> 00:41:00,800
Speaker 4: A lot of no, a lot of my working picture

841
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:01,359
Speaker 4: here right now.

842
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:05,080
Speaker 3: If if they.

843
00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 1: Came to your house and even saw the man a

844
00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 1: man sized shoe, you no longer got section eight, You

845
00:41:11,040 --> 00:41:11,840
Speaker 1: no longer got.

846
00:41:12,000 --> 00:41:14,359
Speaker 3: The benefits of welcore if they knew that a man

847
00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:14,960
Speaker 3: was in the home.

848
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:19,640
Speaker 2: So unfortunately, right, so unfortunately men black men who may

849
00:41:19,680 --> 00:41:21,920
Speaker 2: not have no Black men who may not have been

850
00:41:21,960 --> 00:41:24,239
Speaker 2: getting hired due to their race, or due to their

851
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:27,600
Speaker 2: criminal convictions, or due to their lack of education, they

852
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 2: weren't even providing.

853
00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:30,959
Speaker 3: So many women were leading into government.

854
00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:35,239
Speaker 2: Assistance to aid in their raising a family instead of

855
00:41:35,320 --> 00:41:36,560
Speaker 2: having a man in the house.

856
00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:38,799
Speaker 3: But what do we think that it is now?

857
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 8: Just from that, it's just those those issues were never healed.

858
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:47,279
Speaker 4: We just time just kept going.

859
00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 6: So like there so to say, like, what's the issue now,

860
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 6: the same issue that was going on in But do

861
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:55,000
Speaker 6: I think there's also do I think there's also some

862
00:41:55,200 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 6: like willful ignorance that that men are saying I ain't

863
00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:01,200
Speaker 6: gonna do it, said I ain't gonna do that. I

864
00:42:01,239 --> 00:42:04,120
Speaker 6: think that exists as well, right, I don't think. I

865
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:06,600
Speaker 6: know I'm gonna sound like the guy whose takes are

866
00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:07,000
Speaker 6: like men.

867
00:42:07,160 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 4: But it doesn't.

868
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:11,600
Speaker 6: It doesn't exist on either extreme. Right, there's this place

869
00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:13,120
Speaker 6: in the middle that we got to get to. The

870
00:42:13,160 --> 00:42:16,359
Speaker 6: middle is the figure and that issue is a little

871
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:19,600
Speaker 6: amalgamation of everything. Is an amalgamation from everything I was talking.

872
00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:21,279
Speaker 6: The issue about is what you're all talking about and

873
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:23,520
Speaker 6: what I'm pretty sure you'll have experienced from it all

874
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:25,879
Speaker 6: that ship. You get that in a million You're like, oh,

875
00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:29,840
Speaker 6: we gotta start unlacy ship, y'all want to unless we

876
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:32,000
Speaker 6: throw a whole sneaker out. Right, if you got to

877
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:34,160
Speaker 6: not in that sneaker, you could sit here and fix it,

878
00:42:34,280 --> 00:42:36,319
Speaker 6: unlace it, or you just throw the whole sneak out.

879
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:38,839
Speaker 9: Of the biggest part, the biggest part of what he said,

880
00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 9: and this is the biggest piece for all of the ship.

881
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:44,280
Speaker 9: Nobody is willing to hold themselves accountable.

882
00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:46,600
Speaker 4: So when you said we got to start taking the

883
00:42:46,680 --> 00:42:49,759
Speaker 4: laces out the sneaker, that's a process of accountability and

884
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:51,680
Speaker 4: self reflection to see where we fucked up at.

885
00:42:51,800 --> 00:42:54,040
Speaker 9: Of course, right, you know what we do We blame

886
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:56,840
Speaker 9: the system. The system played a partner's being fucked up.

887
00:42:57,280 --> 00:42:59,160
Speaker 9: White people play the partners being fucked up.

888
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 3: So what Yeah, they did what they did.

889
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:04,880
Speaker 9: We can't go to the white people that broke us

890
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:07,400
Speaker 9: and expect for them to fix us. It's never gonna

891
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:09,239
Speaker 9: fuck it happen. So now we got to look into

892
00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:12,640
Speaker 9: ourselves and say, these things are fucked up. I don't

893
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 9: care how they got fucked up, let's fix them. So

894
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:17,239
Speaker 9: when you start talking about, well, fish it. That's why

895
00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:18,200
Speaker 9: I start to disagree you.

896
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:19,160
Speaker 3: But I get it.

897
00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:21,480
Speaker 1: But and I do want to get into hypothetical mean

898
00:43:21,480 --> 00:43:23,520
Speaker 1: and hypothetical youth because I got a tweet from me too.

899
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:28,040
Speaker 1: But but again, if we want to and I guess

900
00:43:28,160 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 1: this goes into you and I essentially wanting to overthrow

901
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:33,880
Speaker 1: it or dismantle it. The problem is a lot of

902
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:37,279
Speaker 1: this shit is rooted in what we've seen, how we've

903
00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:40,400
Speaker 1: grown up, and it takes a lot of deprogramming and

904
00:43:40,640 --> 00:43:43,600
Speaker 1: unlearning a lot of the things that unfortunately we weren't

905
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:48,680
Speaker 1: so to reprogram. Which is why we see a lot

906
00:43:48,760 --> 00:43:51,600
Speaker 1: of the older women dating younger is because a lot

907
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 1: of the older men are stuck into their ways, and

908
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:57,320
Speaker 1: you don't want to teach an old dog new tricks,

909
00:43:57,520 --> 00:44:00,920
Speaker 1: and the younger generation is more open to non monogamy

910
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 1: changing the ways they think.

911
00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:05,360
Speaker 3: I can blame the pandemic and people sitting I can

912
00:44:05,440 --> 00:44:06,120
Speaker 3: blame the Internet.

913
00:44:06,360 --> 00:44:09,480
Speaker 2: We've been exposed to way more as a younger generation

914
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 2: to be open to actually changing the way. I do

915
00:44:14,200 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 2: want to get into hypothetical met hypothetical you a hypocritical

916
00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 2: hypocritical not hypothetical topics. I almost couldn't even really read it.

917
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:25,440
Speaker 3: Okay, hipocritical me, hypocritical you.

918
00:44:25,760 --> 00:44:30,320
Speaker 2: I pulled some sweets for this, none of surmouse Jones

919
00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:32,480
Speaker 2: because he is an outstanding citizen.

920
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:35,000
Speaker 4: However, I touch.

921
00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 1: On express bust on Twitter, so if you can scroll up,

922
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:45,640
Speaker 1: this is this is my This is me responding to

923
00:44:45,760 --> 00:44:48,080
Speaker 1: a sweet shout out to her season. They said that

924
00:44:48,239 --> 00:44:52,520
Speaker 1: women will gamble on potential. Men need to see finished

925
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 1: products before we commit one moment.

926
00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:58,080
Speaker 3: So this was their take.

927
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:03,800
Speaker 6: Somebody that doesn't believe what they say, somebody that wears

928
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 6: thirty thirty dollars worth of fake jewelry.

929
00:45:06,520 --> 00:45:09,680
Speaker 3: Ever, has to post I'm like, oh, y'all trust this

930
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:16,839
Speaker 3: nigga that this is fake. We're not talking about your man, right,

931
00:45:17,120 --> 00:45:18,040
Speaker 3: That's what I love.

932
00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:23,360
Speaker 4: Right here this is my mouse jo exists.

933
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:27,080
Speaker 8: All I do is just show you the problem before

934
00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:28,880
Speaker 8: you see the face the man up.

935
00:45:28,920 --> 00:45:30,920
Speaker 3: This is my man, this is my men.

936
00:45:32,000 --> 00:45:33,360
Speaker 4: My mean it's a total opposite.

937
00:45:33,480 --> 00:45:37,440
Speaker 2: Okay, I literally said in response to this, it sounds good,

938
00:45:37,560 --> 00:45:41,160
Speaker 2: but bullshit. Most men are actually intimidated by a woman.

939
00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:42,600
Speaker 3: Who is a finished product.

940
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:45,000
Speaker 2: And I think when we talk about where we land

941
00:45:45,440 --> 00:45:49,719
Speaker 2: in the system of how we've been able to grow financially,

942
00:45:49,960 --> 00:45:53,719
Speaker 2: I think mentally, spiritually, emotionally, because we actually do the work.

943
00:45:56,040 --> 00:45:59,279
Speaker 6: We don't do that women I'm speaking, she put on

944
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:02,720
Speaker 6: one law, she does the word, and they get.

945
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:08,239
Speaker 1: I disagree with someone you said most men are intimidated

946
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:11,040
Speaker 1: fully with this take that we gamble on potential, but

947
00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:13,600
Speaker 1: men need to see a finished product perform. I disagreed

948
00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:15,719
Speaker 1: to part where you said most men are intimidated by

949
00:46:15,760 --> 00:46:16,719
Speaker 1: women who So you.

950
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:18,960
Speaker 3: Agree with me? So you do disagree with that? You

951
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:19,719
Speaker 3: disagree with that.

952
00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:23,600
Speaker 1: I feel like you disagree with post these takes nosagree with.

953
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 4: I disagree with the entirety of this post.

954
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:32,600
Speaker 3: Yes, I disagree with that lighted on fire, no express,

955
00:46:32,680 --> 00:46:33,040
Speaker 3: bust and.

956
00:46:33,160 --> 00:46:34,440
Speaker 4: Drop, they don't stop.

957
00:46:35,600 --> 00:46:39,080
Speaker 1: I gotta be fair being someone who talks to successful

958
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:41,719
Speaker 1: women all the time who are at the top of

959
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:45,239
Speaker 1: their game and everything. They think men are intimidated by

960
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:47,719
Speaker 1: them a lot of the times, but they're actually not.

961
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:51,919
Speaker 3: They want men to be like it's like they's power. Yeah,

962
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:59,400
Speaker 3: like they really want to swinging contests that.

963
00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:02,399
Speaker 6: Conversations in either well know you, no one would want

964
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:06,879
Speaker 6: that conversation because what she is saying is a byproduct

965
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:07,960
Speaker 6: of patriarchy.

966
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:12,640
Speaker 4: But no, no, it's not reversed. But it is the

967
00:47:12,760 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 4: by product. This is what I'm saying.

968
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:18,280
Speaker 6: It's the by product you put yourself in a position

969
00:47:18,480 --> 00:47:20,800
Speaker 6: and now you're now when that you're asked out, you

970
00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:26,040
Speaker 6: still have to maintain the bar that you imaginarily said.

971
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:28,239
Speaker 3: Wait the woman or the man.

972
00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:28,640
Speaker 4: The men.

973
00:47:29,160 --> 00:47:31,680
Speaker 6: So that's why that So that's why women are acting

974
00:47:31,719 --> 00:47:34,920
Speaker 6: that way because typically the system says men are supposed

975
00:47:34,920 --> 00:47:35,920
Speaker 6: to do that.

976
00:47:36,239 --> 00:47:38,799
Speaker 4: So when you get a woman that's in that position.

977
00:47:38,760 --> 00:47:39,920
Speaker 3: They now want to be the man.

978
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:40,560
Speaker 4: Want to raise it.

979
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:41,320
Speaker 3: They want to raise that.

980
00:47:42,000 --> 00:47:46,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, they want the man to meet their ball imagined.

981
00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:48,960
Speaker 3: Can we talk talk We can talk talk about a

982
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:49,840
Speaker 3: nigga never said that.

983
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 4: It says this one.

984
00:47:54,920 --> 00:47:57,480
Speaker 9: Women are making a ship ton of money. Yes, yes,

985
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:01,040
Speaker 9: a lot of those same women. And this is two

986
00:48:01,080 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 9: things that education is doing, in my opinion, in corporate

987
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:08,359
Speaker 9: is doing in my opinion. Okay, we are honoring degrees, right,

988
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:10,799
Speaker 9: and we are honoring corporate promotions.

989
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:13,640
Speaker 4: And so now when we start to get degrees.

990
00:48:13,600 --> 00:48:17,560
Speaker 9: Like people honored one hundred and forty thousand dollars a

991
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:20,439
Speaker 9: year attorney over the three hundred and fifty thousand dollars

992
00:48:20,440 --> 00:48:24,160
Speaker 9: a year plumberm subconsciously.

993
00:48:23,520 --> 00:48:24,000
Speaker 10: We do that.

994
00:48:24,480 --> 00:48:27,040
Speaker 6: So now you're they're respecting the title more than the

995
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:29,759
Speaker 6: actual and the degradation of the job, yes, or more

996
00:48:29,800 --> 00:48:32,560
Speaker 6: than the money, more than the because that job carries

997
00:48:32,600 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 6: a certain cachet. Right, it's surgeon us doctors out here

998
00:48:36,160 --> 00:48:38,759
Speaker 6: that might make one sixty My electrician could make one

999
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:39,960
Speaker 6: sixty and four months.

1000
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 4: We don't give the electrician the same praise that we

1001
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:45,040
Speaker 4: give the doctor.

1002
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 2: That's that's just the ways in which we view those

1003
00:48:48,200 --> 00:48:53,719
Speaker 2: quos because wait, no, because to me, no, because it's

1004
00:48:53,760 --> 00:48:56,680
Speaker 2: the same thing that we actually do with labels and relationships. Right,

1005
00:48:57,200 --> 00:49:00,279
Speaker 2: I could be in a healthy, long lasting partnership with

1006
00:49:00,400 --> 00:49:02,399
Speaker 2: someone I'm devalued as.

1007
00:49:02,320 --> 00:49:04,319
Speaker 4: A woman if I'm not a wife, if you're not married,

1008
00:49:04,440 --> 00:49:04,880
Speaker 4: if I'm.

1009
00:49:04,760 --> 00:49:08,840
Speaker 1: Not married only because of what we have placed on

1010
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:11,280
Speaker 1: being a wife over being a girl with a partner.

1011
00:49:11,360 --> 00:49:13,920
Speaker 4: Cool. I'm not disagreeing with you, but let me finish right.

1012
00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:15,920
Speaker 9: So now, when you get these women that have these

1013
00:49:15,960 --> 00:49:18,480
Speaker 9: corporate jobs, they go to work and they talk down

1014
00:49:18,560 --> 00:49:20,640
Speaker 9: the motherfuckers every single day in their job, and then

1015
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 9: they come home and have friends that have addressed this

1016
00:49:23,040 --> 00:49:25,759
Speaker 9: with and when you come home, because you just spent

1017
00:49:25,840 --> 00:49:27,440
Speaker 9: the last and these are women that work ten and

1018
00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:29,759
Speaker 9: twelve hour days, like they not get working an eight

1019
00:49:29,800 --> 00:49:32,440
Speaker 9: hour day, So you are accustomed to talking.

1020
00:49:32,480 --> 00:49:34,600
Speaker 4: To people how you feel. And when you come home

1021
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:37,320
Speaker 4: and your husband don't have a higher title than you,

1022
00:49:37,840 --> 00:49:40,080
Speaker 4: or don't make as much money as you, you are

1023
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:43,080
Speaker 4: accustomed to feeling like he is beneath you because that's

1024
00:49:43,080 --> 00:49:45,360
Speaker 4: what you see every day at work. So now you

1025
00:49:45,520 --> 00:49:49,719
Speaker 4: make five Hundredship feel because of that love that very

1026
00:49:49,760 --> 00:49:51,600
Speaker 4: thing you said. Yet, like dog, she might make five

1027
00:49:51,680 --> 00:49:54,960
Speaker 4: hundred grand. You ain't no bump just because you don't

1028
00:49:54,960 --> 00:49:57,040
Speaker 4: make as much money as your woman. You ain't a bump.

1029
00:49:57,160 --> 00:49:59,799
Speaker 4: You might make one ad and she make five hundred. Yeah,

1030
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:02,640
Speaker 4: she talks to the one eighty niggas like Ship, every

1031
00:50:02,680 --> 00:50:04,840
Speaker 4: day at work. She can't cut it off. When she

1032
00:50:05,000 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 4: reaches the threshold and turns the doorknob, she don't cut

1033
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:10,319
Speaker 4: it off. But that's his fault. I mean, I didn't

1034
00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:10,520
Speaker 4: do that.

1035
00:50:11,320 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 9: Was because you're supposed to put your foot down in

1036
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:17,800
Speaker 9: the very beginning of the relationship and set the standard.

1037
00:50:18,040 --> 00:50:18,839
Speaker 3: He put his foot down.

1038
00:50:18,920 --> 00:50:26,239
Speaker 9: But you know what will happen when he leaves that

1039
00:50:26,440 --> 00:50:30,399
Speaker 9: woman for her being disrespectful or for her not respecting him.

1040
00:50:30,760 --> 00:50:34,320
Speaker 9: She's gonna say he was intimidated by me because I

1041
00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:37,480
Speaker 9: made more money than him, and that cannot That might

1042
00:50:37,560 --> 00:50:38,200
Speaker 9: not be the case.

1043
00:50:38,239 --> 00:50:41,799
Speaker 1: I was he cheated on me with a homeless bitch.

1044
00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:43,640
Speaker 3: That's not about you.

1045
00:50:46,920 --> 00:50:47,280
Speaker 4: Homeless.

1046
00:50:49,600 --> 00:50:52,400
Speaker 1: Okay, she was unhoused, she was a counsel.

1047
00:50:54,520 --> 00:50:54,920
Speaker 4: Somebody.

1048
00:50:57,040 --> 00:51:00,839
Speaker 1: But this is another reason why, like you know, I'm

1049
00:51:00,920 --> 00:51:02,919
Speaker 1: known for the book that M and Man is for money,

1050
00:51:03,800 --> 00:51:07,239
Speaker 1: and people think that that means like take a man's money,

1051
00:51:07,320 --> 00:51:07,640
Speaker 1: and you.

1052
00:51:07,680 --> 00:51:11,080
Speaker 9: Know, like, go, that's not what I got from the title,

1053
00:51:11,120 --> 00:51:13,960
Speaker 9: and the total opposite way that y'all only using these

1054
00:51:14,040 --> 00:51:15,799
Speaker 9: niggas and value and them based on how much money.

1055
00:51:15,960 --> 00:51:18,520
Speaker 3: No, that's not what it is either, But that's that

1056
00:51:18,600 --> 00:51:22,080
Speaker 3: what's in the book but just one of the people.

1057
00:51:22,480 --> 00:51:25,560
Speaker 1: One of One example that I always say that would

1058
00:51:25,680 --> 00:51:28,600
Speaker 1: work better is if you do make more money, that

1059
00:51:28,640 --> 00:51:31,040
Speaker 1: doesn't mean as a woman, right like as the woman.

1060
00:51:31,560 --> 00:51:33,279
Speaker 1: Just because I make more money doesn't mean that I'm

1061
00:51:33,320 --> 00:51:37,080
Speaker 1: going to pay more, right Because sometimes men truly do

1062
00:51:37,360 --> 00:51:40,920
Speaker 1: want to feel like there's still insecure men.

1063
00:51:41,600 --> 00:51:44,719
Speaker 3: Well, well there are insecure men though, So.

1064
00:51:48,680 --> 00:51:51,200
Speaker 1: I joke about this all the time. But men usually

1065
00:51:51,200 --> 00:51:53,080
Speaker 1: don't know how much money I have. Right, I will

1066
00:51:53,200 --> 00:51:54,320
Speaker 1: let them think that I'm.

1067
00:51:54,200 --> 00:51:55,200
Speaker 3: The brokens bitch in the world.

1068
00:51:55,280 --> 00:51:55,480
Speaker 5: I know.

1069
00:51:55,600 --> 00:52:14,319
Speaker 3: I don't get me to think that. No sign.

1070
00:52:14,920 --> 00:52:17,600
Speaker 1: Wait, Hoddy, actually, can we falls on your tape real quick?

1071
00:52:17,600 --> 00:52:18,120
Speaker 3: Because I want to.

1072
00:52:18,280 --> 00:52:21,440
Speaker 2: I want to do hypocritical You on one of your tweets,

1073
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:23,759
Speaker 2: and this one was from the last year or so,

1074
00:52:24,400 --> 00:52:26,400
Speaker 2: you said at some point you got to grow up.

1075
00:52:26,840 --> 00:52:29,200
Speaker 2: You're not finding the right person because you want people

1076
00:52:29,320 --> 00:52:32,200
Speaker 2: to prove they want you by kissing your ass and

1077
00:52:32,360 --> 00:52:34,560
Speaker 2: passing all your dumb ass tests you're putting them through.

1078
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:37,080
Speaker 1: That doesn't translate well long term.

1079
00:52:37,719 --> 00:52:46,480
Speaker 4: You not the hand raise, especially to the dope niggas. Okay,

1080
00:52:46,800 --> 00:52:49,760
Speaker 4: dope niggas not jumping through your hoops, bitch, I'm dope.

1081
00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:52,120
Speaker 4: I got a million of you waiting for some attention.

1082
00:52:52,280 --> 00:52:56,640
Speaker 3: Million that.

1083
00:52:59,560 --> 00:53:02,560
Speaker 4: They won't say it, they'll feel it. They think they

1084
00:53:02,560 --> 00:53:03,080
Speaker 4: would feel it.

1085
00:53:03,160 --> 00:53:06,360
Speaker 6: I think they would be so far, I don't know,

1086
00:53:06,560 --> 00:53:09,760
Speaker 6: but it wouldn't. I think those type of people wouldn't

1087
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:13,400
Speaker 6: even bypass you. So the type of people you're describing

1088
00:53:13,440 --> 00:53:16,120
Speaker 6: wouldn't even come across somebody the dope nigga you're discussing,

1089
00:53:16,360 --> 00:53:18,680
Speaker 6: because that you mean by dope nigga, what is.

1090
00:53:18,680 --> 00:53:23,279
Speaker 4: That whatever whatever assessment of the dope guy is.

1091
00:53:24,480 --> 00:53:27,080
Speaker 1: But here's my question to both of you, I mean

1092
00:53:27,120 --> 00:53:32,240
Speaker 1: to all three of you, because because essentially when you're dating,

1093
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:35,279
Speaker 1: I know you called it dumb ass tests y'all do

1094
00:53:35,840 --> 00:53:37,880
Speaker 1: test the people you date to see how they would.

1095
00:53:37,719 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 3: Respond to.

1096
00:53:41,960 --> 00:53:44,759
Speaker 1: Not be a test, right, because the women that I

1097
00:53:44,840 --> 00:53:48,560
Speaker 1: speak to, they have this, Oh he needs to impress me,

1098
00:53:48,600 --> 00:53:49,239
Speaker 1: he needs to impress me.

1099
00:53:49,320 --> 00:53:50,759
Speaker 3: He needs to impress me. He needs to impress me.

1100
00:53:51,040 --> 00:53:55,680
Speaker 4: I are you impressive? But that too, I got fat ass.

1101
00:53:55,880 --> 00:53:59,000
Speaker 3: But this is the thing I don't do that I literally.

1102
00:53:58,920 --> 00:54:06,000
Speaker 4: Out of context. That is a crazy statements, not soundbody

1103
00:54:06,080 --> 00:54:13,719
Speaker 4: is crazy. I got a fat ass.

1104
00:54:16,120 --> 00:54:20,080
Speaker 3: Yeah that once you really know your value as a

1105
00:54:20,160 --> 00:54:23,400
Speaker 3: man or woman. Yeah you're not personal. Yeah you're not.

1106
00:54:23,680 --> 00:54:27,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're not gonna subscribe to these things and you're

1107
00:54:27,320 --> 00:54:30,200
Speaker 1: gonna be able to see them from them all away. Right,

1108
00:54:30,600 --> 00:54:33,600
Speaker 1: So if you know that somebody's testing you for something

1109
00:54:33,840 --> 00:54:38,080
Speaker 1: very frivolous and stupid, right, you're not either you're usually

1110
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:41,399
Speaker 1: gonna reject it or kind of like try to prove

1111
00:54:41,480 --> 00:54:43,479
Speaker 1: a point to them, like bitch out of here, nigga,

1112
00:54:43,960 --> 00:54:44,640
Speaker 1: and you know, like I'm.

1113
00:54:44,520 --> 00:54:48,239
Speaker 3: Not I'm not doing it, and these works.

1114
00:54:48,360 --> 00:54:51,879
Speaker 6: That's the problem about these like not you're exactly there's

1115
00:54:51,880 --> 00:54:54,040
Speaker 6: a problem with tweets and these things that are like

1116
00:54:54,120 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 6: so binary, right, because you're like beholden to them, and

1117
00:54:57,080 --> 00:54:59,760
Speaker 6: then you don't realize, like I keep saying, the minutia

1118
00:54:59,800 --> 00:55:02,440
Speaker 6: that between each and every single one of these characters,

1119
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:05,200
Speaker 6: there's like actual milutia that you have to weave through, right,

1120
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:10,000
Speaker 6: So like there's in theory. This sounds absolutely insane, but

1121
00:55:10,160 --> 00:55:12,480
Speaker 6: like we break it down and you're that's not good. No,

1122
00:55:13,120 --> 00:55:14,120
Speaker 6: you're describing.

1123
00:55:14,360 --> 00:55:17,319
Speaker 1: So like let's say, for example, a long time ago,

1124
00:55:18,160 --> 00:55:22,440
Speaker 1: I remember long and long time ago, I remember.

1125
00:55:22,480 --> 00:55:25,640
Speaker 3: Cutting a dude off because he didn't offer me at uber.

1126
00:55:26,520 --> 00:55:29,360
Speaker 4: This was I don't think that's a no. No, no,

1127
00:55:30,280 --> 00:55:31,840
Speaker 4: he don't think that's a problem you should have.

1128
00:55:32,239 --> 00:55:33,759
Speaker 3: That's what that. It was a long time ago.

1129
00:55:34,640 --> 00:55:34,680
Speaker 6: No.

1130
00:55:35,360 --> 00:55:37,800
Speaker 1: I had never done anything with him yet. Okay, but

1131
00:55:37,920 --> 00:55:39,600
Speaker 1: we were talking and he was trying to talk to me.

1132
00:55:40,200 --> 00:55:42,680
Speaker 1: I left work, went to dinner with my friend. They

1133
00:55:42,760 --> 00:55:44,920
Speaker 1: cut the train off. We stayed at the restaurant for

1134
00:55:45,000 --> 00:55:47,960
Speaker 1: too long. Cut the train off, and he texted me

1135
00:55:48,040 --> 00:55:50,239
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, nothing, just waiting on an uber.

1136
00:55:50,360 --> 00:55:53,279
Speaker 1: I was like, it's like one hundred dollars or something

1137
00:55:53,360 --> 00:55:55,720
Speaker 1: like that. I can't remember. It was like everybody's calling

1138
00:55:55,880 --> 00:55:57,640
Speaker 1: because the train is cut off.

1139
00:55:58,120 --> 00:56:02,120
Speaker 4: And he was like okay, and then I say, you're

1140
00:56:02,160 --> 00:56:03,640
Speaker 4: waiting on an uber. No.

1141
00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:03,800
Speaker 5: No.

1142
00:56:04,239 --> 00:56:06,399
Speaker 1: She wanted him to offer the money, but no, I said,

1143
00:56:06,400 --> 00:56:06,800
Speaker 1: I'm about to.

1144
00:56:06,880 --> 00:56:07,000
Speaker 4: You know.

1145
00:56:07,080 --> 00:56:08,560
Speaker 1: It was like the train is cut off. Whatever I'm

1146
00:56:08,560 --> 00:56:10,840
Speaker 1: about to call the uber or whatever the case is.

1147
00:56:11,160 --> 00:56:14,000
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, it's like ten thirty at night, right,

1148
00:56:14,280 --> 00:56:16,480
Speaker 1: And he says, oh, I lived one He's like where

1149
00:56:16,480 --> 00:56:16,640
Speaker 1: are you.

1150
00:56:16,640 --> 00:56:17,719
Speaker 3: I was like full time. He's like, oh, I live

1151
00:56:17,760 --> 00:56:19,359
Speaker 3: one stop away on the train. I said, I just said,

1152
00:56:19,400 --> 00:56:20,440
Speaker 3: the fucking train.

1153
00:56:20,360 --> 00:56:22,920
Speaker 1: Is cut off, right, So he was already mad well,

1154
00:56:23,840 --> 00:56:26,880
Speaker 1: but then he says, so I left it alone.

1155
00:56:26,880 --> 00:56:27,560
Speaker 3: I wasn't mad at that.

1156
00:56:28,280 --> 00:56:30,200
Speaker 1: Like forty minutes later he texted me, He's like, so,

1157
00:56:30,400 --> 00:56:33,319
Speaker 1: how'd you make out? That is what pissed me off?

1158
00:56:33,440 --> 00:56:35,080
Speaker 1: You know you sound like my friend and this is

1159
00:56:35,160 --> 00:56:35,840
Speaker 1: no again, this.

1160
00:56:35,920 --> 00:56:39,080
Speaker 4: Is a I know, I know it was you today,

1161
00:56:39,200 --> 00:56:39,880
Speaker 4: it was tomorrow.

1162
00:56:39,920 --> 00:56:40,799
Speaker 3: I would be on your show.

1163
00:56:40,880 --> 00:56:42,160
Speaker 4: I have friends who are tomorrow.

1164
00:56:42,400 --> 00:56:42,560
Speaker 6: Like know.

1165
00:56:42,640 --> 00:56:44,480
Speaker 4: I'm saying, like, I'm on your side with that one.

1166
00:56:44,560 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm not. I'm not.

1167
00:56:50,000 --> 00:56:51,719
Speaker 3: I get up something with my friend now. But she

1168
00:56:51,880 --> 00:56:53,759
Speaker 3: when she goes out to you, I said a long

1169
00:56:55,719 --> 00:56:58,560
Speaker 3: So I stopped talking to him for a year, and

1170
00:56:58,640 --> 00:56:59,960
Speaker 3: then he kept on trying to come back.

1171
00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:02,520
Speaker 4: And then I'm like, yo, you really want to know

1172
00:57:02,560 --> 00:57:02,759
Speaker 4: why I.

1173
00:57:02,760 --> 00:57:05,320
Speaker 3: Stopped sucking, like stop trying to like let you pursue

1174
00:57:05,320 --> 00:57:06,600
Speaker 3: me or whatever. He was like, yeah, what happened?

1175
00:57:06,840 --> 00:57:10,320
Speaker 1: And I was like, that night you like you just

1176
00:57:10,760 --> 00:57:12,880
Speaker 1: you knew I was in a situation, not a situation,

1177
00:57:13,000 --> 00:57:15,320
Speaker 1: but you didn't offer basically.

1178
00:57:15,360 --> 00:57:18,360
Speaker 3: And he said, and he wrong, No.

1179
00:57:18,600 --> 00:57:19,280
Speaker 6: You know what he said.

1180
00:57:19,360 --> 00:57:22,160
Speaker 4: She's not wrong for one thing. It depends on the

1181
00:57:22,240 --> 00:57:24,160
Speaker 4: level of their friendship and their relationship, we.

1182
00:57:24,240 --> 00:57:27,200
Speaker 3: Have done anything. They were new, a new nigga.

1183
00:57:27,280 --> 00:57:30,640
Speaker 4: Don't owe you a hundred dollars because you're trained.

1184
00:57:31,600 --> 00:57:32,160
Speaker 8: Don't know you?

1185
00:57:33,160 --> 00:57:34,600
Speaker 3: Yes, but wait, you know what.

1186
00:57:36,480 --> 00:57:37,080
Speaker 4: Let her finish.

1187
00:57:38,600 --> 00:57:41,520
Speaker 1: The end part was that he said, why you ain't

1188
00:57:41,560 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 1: just asked me for it. He's like, I'm sorry, I'm

1189
00:57:43,120 --> 00:57:44,640
Speaker 1: a tech guy, I'm black and white. I don't know,

1190
00:57:44,800 --> 00:57:45,720
Speaker 1: like I don't take kens.

1191
00:57:46,080 --> 00:57:46,800
Speaker 4: This is what he said.

1192
00:57:47,560 --> 00:57:50,680
Speaker 3: I so I agree with with his delivery.

1193
00:57:50,760 --> 00:57:55,120
Speaker 1: I have friends now, current day, current age older that

1194
00:57:55,360 --> 00:57:58,240
Speaker 1: literally will go on dates, and because she walks out

1195
00:57:58,280 --> 00:58:00,520
Speaker 1: and they don't pay for the ballet, she never wants

1196
00:58:00,520 --> 00:58:01,120
Speaker 1: to see them again.

1197
00:58:01,560 --> 00:58:04,520
Speaker 3: She feels like they should be paying for her valet

1198
00:58:04,600 --> 00:58:08,400
Speaker 3: for park. Well, no, it's the same thing, and to me,

1199
00:58:08,520 --> 00:58:09,400
Speaker 3: you ballet.

1200
00:58:10,960 --> 00:58:13,160
Speaker 4: The same thing, the same brain, and so to.

1201
00:58:13,280 --> 00:58:17,120
Speaker 1: Me, I feel like that's where again I tell her

1202
00:58:17,440 --> 00:58:20,360
Speaker 1: as someone who wants to dismantle all this ship, first off,

1203
00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:22,520
Speaker 1: you're not telling him out the gate that this is

1204
00:58:22,560 --> 00:58:24,640
Speaker 1: what you're expecting of him, so you're not communicating it

1205
00:58:25,000 --> 00:58:26,840
Speaker 1: and being you're just hoping he reads your mind.

1206
00:58:27,080 --> 00:58:28,440
Speaker 3: I'm so over women just.

1207
00:58:28,480 --> 00:58:30,960
Speaker 1: Thinking men should know how to read our minds and

1208
00:58:31,040 --> 00:58:33,280
Speaker 1: give us everything we want without ever asking for it,

1209
00:58:33,320 --> 00:58:34,240
Speaker 1: because those be very clear.

1210
00:58:34,440 --> 00:58:36,120
Speaker 3: There's a lot of women who would.

1211
00:58:35,960 --> 00:58:37,880
Speaker 1: Have never got upset that he didn't get sent one

1212
00:58:37,920 --> 00:58:39,280
Speaker 1: hundred dollars for the uber and what.

1213
00:58:39,400 --> 00:58:41,720
Speaker 9: Have appreciated the forty minute check in to make sure

1214
00:58:41,760 --> 00:58:42,840
Speaker 9: you got home safely.

1215
00:58:43,000 --> 00:58:44,000
Speaker 3: Because the emotion.

1216
00:58:47,760 --> 00:58:51,520
Speaker 6: Decade ago, right, and I'm sharing now and he's got

1217
00:58:51,600 --> 00:58:54,200
Speaker 6: home safe, a level of care.

1218
00:58:54,120 --> 00:58:56,959
Speaker 4: Can go ahead. Let me get this problem land mouse.

1219
00:58:57,160 --> 00:58:58,959
Speaker 4: I'm with her one thousand percent. I'm with older.

1220
00:58:59,040 --> 00:59:02,680
Speaker 6: If you just all right, I'm with that because I'm

1221
00:59:02,760 --> 00:59:06,280
Speaker 6: telling you right now that is indicative of a man's

1222
00:59:06,760 --> 00:59:08,520
Speaker 6: intent to provide.

1223
00:59:09,040 --> 00:59:12,800
Speaker 3: That man told you, and I agree with that man said.

1224
00:59:12,720 --> 00:59:14,680
Speaker 8: To you, Oh, I'm a tech guy. You gotta make

1225
00:59:14,680 --> 00:59:15,280
Speaker 8: it black and white.

1226
00:59:15,520 --> 00:59:15,960
Speaker 4: Niggas.

1227
00:59:16,440 --> 00:59:19,040
Speaker 6: You're not just sitting I know tech niggas. Bro, You're

1228
00:59:19,080 --> 00:59:21,080
Speaker 6: not just saying that work waiting for nigga. If something

1229
00:59:21,160 --> 00:59:23,320
Speaker 6: go wrong, it's your job to figure out. Oh, we

1230
00:59:23,360 --> 00:59:25,920
Speaker 6: should have been able to figure that out beforehand. So

1231
00:59:26,080 --> 00:59:27,600
Speaker 6: if I'm talking to you, if i'm fucking with you,

1232
00:59:27,640 --> 00:59:28,760
Speaker 6: if I'm in your face.

1233
00:59:28,600 --> 00:59:33,000
Speaker 4: I'm I'm I'm dealing with you. My provision. I'm going

1234
00:59:33,040 --> 00:59:34,200
Speaker 4: to want to make sure you good.

1235
00:59:34,520 --> 00:59:37,760
Speaker 6: Like to me that's bugged out that nigga say, yo,

1236
00:59:38,600 --> 00:59:40,560
Speaker 6: you got I'm not asking you you got home.

1237
00:59:40,600 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 4: I'm watching you make sure you get home because I

1238
00:59:42,440 --> 00:59:44,480
Speaker 4: just ordered you a uber. What I made sure you

1239
00:59:44,640 --> 00:59:44,919
Speaker 4: was good.

1240
00:59:45,280 --> 00:59:47,800
Speaker 6: So now the reason I say that's different from a

1241
00:59:47,920 --> 00:59:51,880
Speaker 6: valet is because ma'am you already got here. We're literally

1242
00:59:51,960 --> 00:59:55,640
Speaker 6: talking about her getting somewhere, making sure you got someone.

1243
00:59:55,560 --> 00:59:59,920
Speaker 4: Providing for you to go home. I'm paying the valet.

1244
01:00:00,480 --> 01:00:02,520
Speaker 4: That's provision to some people.

1245
01:00:04,040 --> 01:00:05,680
Speaker 3: I do want to shake the table a little bit.

1246
01:00:08,240 --> 01:00:12,240
Speaker 2: Because you know, you speak so well your tweets that

1247
01:00:12,320 --> 01:00:16,080
Speaker 2: I had nothing critical to pull from you. And so

1248
01:00:16,240 --> 01:00:18,720
Speaker 2: then I do want to ask because what we see

1249
01:00:19,360 --> 01:00:24,240
Speaker 2: a lot of times are people speaking from a place.

1250
01:00:24,040 --> 01:00:27,240
Speaker 3: That sounds good, but the.

1251
01:00:36,560 --> 01:00:40,160
Speaker 1: Like So, what's what's the disconnect on you being able

1252
01:00:40,240 --> 01:00:44,120
Speaker 1: to have the idea of what it takes to be

1253
01:00:44,240 --> 01:00:50,120
Speaker 1: a good provider, a person in partnership, potentially a husband,

1254
01:00:50,200 --> 01:00:51,520
Speaker 1: but you're not any of those things.

1255
01:00:51,960 --> 01:00:52,720
Speaker 4: I was a husband.

1256
01:00:53,040 --> 01:00:54,800
Speaker 6: I was a husband at a time that I was

1257
01:00:55,360 --> 01:00:58,080
Speaker 6: unequipped can.

1258
01:00:58,120 --> 01:01:04,000
Speaker 4: Be a husband. I was terrible husband. And my ex wife,

1259
01:01:04,040 --> 01:01:04,760
Speaker 4: my baby mother, she.

1260
01:01:05,040 --> 01:01:10,520
Speaker 6: Was we had we had something that was unsustainable because

1261
01:01:10,600 --> 01:01:13,360
Speaker 6: neither one of us knew how to sustain a marriage.

1262
01:01:13,800 --> 01:01:16,640
Speaker 6: We both came from I came from a household that

1263
01:01:16,720 --> 01:01:21,600
Speaker 6: had uh that had a healthy, a healthy, long lasting marriage.

1264
01:01:21,640 --> 01:01:24,280
Speaker 6: But I'm also a product of a broken home. Right,

1265
01:01:24,360 --> 01:01:27,200
Speaker 6: So the man that raised me isn't my biological dad.

1266
01:01:27,560 --> 01:01:30,080
Speaker 6: So yes, I have an example of a husband and

1267
01:01:30,120 --> 01:01:34,160
Speaker 6: a wife, but I also have these issues of self worth.

1268
01:01:34,200 --> 01:01:36,880
Speaker 6: I also have these issues of damn. I want to

1269
01:01:36,920 --> 01:01:38,720
Speaker 6: be like my dad and a man he is, but

1270
01:01:39,200 --> 01:01:41,480
Speaker 6: inherently I'm kind of like this nigga, and I don't

1271
01:01:41,520 --> 01:01:43,240
Speaker 6: really want to talk to this nigga to figure out

1272
01:01:43,280 --> 01:01:46,720
Speaker 6: these issues, so, you know, and then just on other

1273
01:01:46,840 --> 01:01:48,800
Speaker 6: than the fact I was twenty one, twenty two, three,

1274
01:01:48,880 --> 01:01:50,840
Speaker 6: twenty four, twenty five, twenty six, you know what I'm saying,

1275
01:01:50,840 --> 01:01:52,800
Speaker 6: Like there was I was still learning myself.

1276
01:01:52,880 --> 01:01:55,880
Speaker 4: I wasn't even a thousand percent sure of who I am, who.

1277
01:01:55,800 --> 01:01:58,160
Speaker 6: I was until I was damned the twenty six twenty seven,

1278
01:01:58,200 --> 01:02:00,680
Speaker 6: that's a year after our separation, you know what I'm saying.

1279
01:02:00,720 --> 01:02:02,120
Speaker 4: So I was ill equipped to that.

1280
01:02:02,560 --> 01:02:06,080
Speaker 1: Now, Now do you believe you're equipped enough? Because your

1281
01:02:06,080 --> 01:02:08,600
Speaker 1: tweet well, you speak well. I think I could you

1282
01:02:08,640 --> 01:02:09,480
Speaker 1: put it into practice?

1283
01:02:09,520 --> 01:02:10,840
Speaker 4: Could I be put it in practice?

1284
01:02:10,880 --> 01:02:15,120
Speaker 6: That's anybody can say yes, And I think that is

1285
01:02:15,200 --> 01:02:18,000
Speaker 6: the scariest thing somebody's saying now, even somebody like me,

1286
01:02:18,080 --> 01:02:19,720
Speaker 6: Like I think people who have never been married, I

1287
01:02:19,760 --> 01:02:21,360
Speaker 6: think they're insane when they say, oh, I can't wait

1288
01:02:21,400 --> 01:02:24,480
Speaker 6: to be married, you know, and the marriage is in

1289
01:02:24,600 --> 01:02:26,720
Speaker 6: Disney World, Like, you can't look at it and be like, oh, bitch,

1290
01:02:26,720 --> 01:02:28,360
Speaker 6: when I get there, I'm gonna take that ride. Because

1291
01:02:28,360 --> 01:02:31,000
Speaker 6: when you get to your marriage, it's gonna be completely

1292
01:02:31,160 --> 01:02:32,840
Speaker 6: different from anything you've ever seen.

1293
01:02:32,880 --> 01:02:34,960
Speaker 8: And you have to be prepared to deal with that

1294
01:02:35,080 --> 01:02:36,680
Speaker 8: and sit through that and love through that.

1295
01:02:36,960 --> 01:02:37,400
Speaker 4: Now, a lot of.

1296
01:02:37,400 --> 01:02:39,680
Speaker 6: Motherfuckers can't do that. We see a lot of motherfuckers

1297
01:02:39,760 --> 01:02:41,680
Speaker 6: fold because it's too hot outside. We see a lot

1298
01:02:41,720 --> 01:02:43,919
Speaker 6: of motherfuckers fold because they didn't get the promotion.

1299
01:02:43,640 --> 01:02:44,880
Speaker 4: At work because then they can't paid for.

1300
01:02:44,840 --> 01:02:48,560
Speaker 6: The Yeah, but you know you, but if you can't

1301
01:02:48,600 --> 01:02:50,400
Speaker 6: sit through that, you damn better not I get married

1302
01:02:50,440 --> 01:02:53,480
Speaker 6: because the motherfucker that you got see every day they gonna.

1303
01:02:53,280 --> 01:02:53,960
Speaker 4: Do a lot more than that.

1304
01:02:54,160 --> 01:02:56,040
Speaker 1: So another thing is I have a lot of women

1305
01:02:56,200 --> 01:03:01,320
Speaker 1: call me who are crying literally and figurative about not

1306
01:03:01,440 --> 01:03:03,760
Speaker 1: being married yet, right, And I'm like, it's so funny

1307
01:03:03,800 --> 01:03:08,040
Speaker 1: that you have this ideal picture of what marriage is

1308
01:03:08,200 --> 01:03:10,240
Speaker 1: gonna look like for you in your mind and you

1309
01:03:10,480 --> 01:03:11,840
Speaker 1: can't wait to get.

1310
01:03:11,680 --> 01:03:14,360
Speaker 3: To that person Disney Princess.

1311
01:03:14,120 --> 01:03:16,320
Speaker 8: A person crying about not being married is the last

1312
01:03:16,360 --> 01:03:17,200
Speaker 8: person that should be married.

1313
01:03:17,240 --> 01:03:19,880
Speaker 4: It's society, but I know that it's society.

1314
01:03:20,280 --> 01:03:21,360
Speaker 1: It's patriarchy.

1315
01:03:22,360 --> 01:03:23,200
Speaker 4: It's society.

1316
01:03:23,280 --> 01:03:26,600
Speaker 9: They sell y'all White, they sell y'all Cinderella, they sell

1317
01:03:26,720 --> 01:03:29,320
Speaker 9: y'all Vogue magazine, all the ship that y'all look at

1318
01:03:29,400 --> 01:03:32,040
Speaker 9: from the time when y'all are small, that this man

1319
01:03:32,680 --> 01:03:35,840
Speaker 9: is going to come rescue you on this white horse

1320
01:03:36,160 --> 01:03:38,360
Speaker 9: and tell you off, take you off into the sunset.

1321
01:03:38,800 --> 01:03:40,880
Speaker 9: All of that shit is what y'all buy into. And

1322
01:03:41,000 --> 01:03:45,760
Speaker 9: we have people value place of value on them being married.

1323
01:03:45,920 --> 01:03:49,240
Speaker 1: And then I say to them, I'm like, okay, yeah,

1324
01:03:49,560 --> 01:03:51,480
Speaker 1: And then I say something like, you know, I help

1325
01:03:51,520 --> 01:03:55,000
Speaker 1: people with their dating that profiles and dating strategies and stuff.

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Speaker 8: And then imagine being on an express the hand, y'all.

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01:03:58,480 --> 01:04:01,440
Speaker 6: Imagine somebody working on your say, your profile, and they

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01:04:01,560 --> 01:04:04,080
Speaker 6: want to bitch you.

1329
01:04:04,160 --> 01:04:06,320
Speaker 4: Gotta put this picture up here. As in New York

1330
01:04:07,760 --> 01:04:13,960
Speaker 4: and they see you the express. Can you imagine to

1331
01:04:14,120 --> 01:04:16,680
Speaker 4: do your fucking dating profile? You look over on the

1332
01:04:16,680 --> 01:04:23,320
Speaker 4: express bussing bitch to come to your business. Your business is.

1333
01:04:23,360 --> 01:04:26,760
Speaker 3: Everybody to take the train. And he was a gazillionaire

1334
01:04:27,040 --> 01:04:31,520
Speaker 3: gazillion did he just get it? I'll be on the train.

1335
01:04:32,560 --> 01:04:35,440
Speaker 3: But hold on, you say you do, get on me

1336
01:04:35,480 --> 01:04:35,959
Speaker 3: when I get.

1337
01:04:35,880 --> 01:04:36,280
Speaker 4: On the train.

1338
01:04:36,800 --> 01:04:38,760
Speaker 3: There's no bums, there's nobody selling.

1339
01:04:38,800 --> 01:04:42,880
Speaker 4: Can't you get nobody smile? Not on that bus.

1340
01:04:45,320 --> 01:04:46,440
Speaker 3: Called seven dollars.

1341
01:04:46,800 --> 01:04:47,680
Speaker 4: It's a bum on the seven.

1342
01:04:47,960 --> 01:04:51,280
Speaker 3: No, it's not very Look this is you know, you

1343
01:04:51,320 --> 01:04:52,080
Speaker 3: know who's going the bus.

1344
01:04:52,320 --> 01:04:54,000
Speaker 4: This is the Nigga DN Then you cannot.

1345
01:04:55,040 --> 01:04:57,760
Speaker 3: This is this is wait wait hold on.

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01:04:57,960 --> 01:04:58,120
Speaker 6: Yeah.

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01:04:58,200 --> 01:05:01,760
Speaker 1: That was the point, was that I'm helping women do

1348
01:05:01,920 --> 01:05:05,120
Speaker 1: their dating profiles, right, yes, they I'm like, all right,

1349
01:05:05,160 --> 01:05:06,120
Speaker 1: so tell me who you are?

1350
01:05:06,800 --> 01:05:08,680
Speaker 3: Tell me like, what what's great about you?

1351
01:05:08,960 --> 01:05:10,960
Speaker 4: I'm marrying, I'm dating with intent to be mad?

1352
01:05:11,120 --> 01:05:13,160
Speaker 3: Right, like all of it, but not even not even

1353
01:05:13,240 --> 01:05:16,040
Speaker 3: what you want? Who are you? Who are you am

1354
01:05:16,080 --> 01:05:18,680
Speaker 3: I getting? Who am I getting?

1355
01:05:18,760 --> 01:05:20,680
Speaker 1: Let's put this in this profile? Right, they'd be like,

1356
01:05:21,320 --> 01:05:25,560
Speaker 1: I don't know, so, so why you want to be married?

1357
01:05:25,600 --> 01:05:26,400
Speaker 4: And you don't even know.

1358
01:05:26,640 --> 01:05:31,720
Speaker 3: And yes, you don't even know who you are, but

1359
01:05:31,880 --> 01:05:33,000
Speaker 3: you want somebody.

1360
01:05:32,720 --> 01:05:33,280
Speaker 4: To chew you.

1361
01:05:33,440 --> 01:05:34,120
Speaker 5: You don't know you.

1362
01:05:34,720 --> 01:05:38,160
Speaker 4: You all of this interior, check all these boxes, and

1363
01:05:38,280 --> 01:05:40,160
Speaker 4: you don't even know who you are. We grow up.

1364
01:05:40,200 --> 01:05:43,960
Speaker 4: Kevin Samuels. Kevin Samuels used to ask these women, man,

1365
01:05:44,680 --> 01:05:49,080
Speaker 4: what qualifies you to get this? Because he didn't just go.

1366
01:05:51,920 --> 01:05:56,960
Speaker 8: High value man, high value person like that is guys.

1367
01:05:57,160 --> 01:05:58,040
Speaker 5: But he did.

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01:05:58,040 --> 01:06:01,280
Speaker 1: Puts the whole attribute onto it as well, though no,

1369
01:06:01,440 --> 01:06:01,880
Speaker 1: not for men.

1370
01:06:02,280 --> 01:06:03,120
Speaker 4: He was he did.

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01:06:03,680 --> 01:06:11,280
Speaker 3: He was like nigga, He said, your dick big what?

1372
01:06:11,560 --> 01:06:13,920
Speaker 9: But it was on a sliding scale because the niggas

1373
01:06:13,960 --> 01:06:16,440
Speaker 9: that make five hundred thousand dollars don't need a big dick.

1374
01:06:16,640 --> 01:06:18,520
Speaker 6: Well, if you also make five hundred thousand, you wasn't

1375
01:06:18,560 --> 01:06:21,440
Speaker 6: online with Kem Samuels. So there's the sliding scale. But

1376
01:06:22,840 --> 01:06:25,960
Speaker 6: that's not I say, you're watching, you ain't calling it,

1377
01:06:28,000 --> 01:06:31,760
Speaker 6: but listen to help me. I don't know what to

1378
01:06:31,800 --> 01:06:34,680
Speaker 6: do this when she when she said she helping these people.

1379
01:06:35,120 --> 01:06:38,280
Speaker 6: These people have a set criteria in which they think

1380
01:06:38,400 --> 01:06:40,160
Speaker 6: that their significant others should meet.

1381
01:06:40,600 --> 01:06:43,000
Speaker 1: So I tell them I always say that I feel

1382
01:06:43,040 --> 01:06:46,560
Speaker 1: like there's three major components opponents that you should put

1383
01:06:46,560 --> 01:06:47,800
Speaker 1: in your d dating profile.

1384
01:06:47,920 --> 01:06:48,040
Speaker 4: Right.

1385
01:06:48,280 --> 01:06:50,920
Speaker 1: One of them is who are you? Second one is

1386
01:06:51,000 --> 01:06:53,120
Speaker 1: what are you looking for? Third one is who are

1387
01:06:53,120 --> 01:06:53,600
Speaker 1: you looking for?

1388
01:06:54,080 --> 01:06:54,200
Speaker 2: Right?

1389
01:06:54,760 --> 01:06:57,960
Speaker 3: They know exactly who they're looking for, but like you said.

1390
01:06:58,200 --> 01:06:58,960
Speaker 4: They barely know.

1391
01:06:59,240 --> 01:07:01,840
Speaker 1: So it's literally an exercise that I make them do

1392
01:07:02,240 --> 01:07:04,919
Speaker 1: to actually dig deep and try to figure out because

1393
01:07:04,920 --> 01:07:06,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, first of all, let's not put all just

1394
01:07:06,880 --> 01:07:08,760
Speaker 1: the great things about you, but you got attitude. Put

1395
01:07:08,760 --> 01:07:10,880
Speaker 1: you got an attitude on that, right, because.

1396
01:07:13,960 --> 01:07:21,280
Speaker 4: Hey, here's the reason you should. I don't.

1397
01:07:22,360 --> 01:07:25,480
Speaker 3: I don't mean that. I mean like, there's some people.

1398
01:07:26,000 --> 01:07:28,720
Speaker 3: There's some people who they're very serious. They give me

1399
01:07:28,840 --> 01:07:29,800
Speaker 3: all their attributes.

1400
01:07:29,920 --> 01:07:33,200
Speaker 1: I come up with something really a really creative way

1401
01:07:33,240 --> 01:07:34,640
Speaker 1: to put it, and then they don't like it.

1402
01:07:34,680 --> 01:07:36,240
Speaker 3: I'm like, that's just who you told me. You the

1403
01:07:36,280 --> 01:07:39,760
Speaker 3: fuck you was right. They don't like you holding that mirror.

1404
01:07:40,440 --> 01:07:43,959
Speaker 1: So if I say, oh, I'm I'm a super sophisticated person,

1405
01:07:44,080 --> 01:07:47,560
Speaker 1: I'm no nonsense, I'm strict, I'm serious, blah blah blah,

1406
01:07:47,600 --> 01:07:51,320
Speaker 1: they don't. They're like, oh, that no, because that's who you're.

1407
01:07:53,480 --> 01:07:55,080
Speaker 4: I just don't like every exactly.

1408
01:07:55,800 --> 01:07:58,320
Speaker 1: But I'm telling you right now. There's somebody who wants

1409
01:07:58,360 --> 01:08:00,440
Speaker 1: somebody who's strict. There's somebody who wants somebody who's not

1410
01:08:00,480 --> 01:08:02,680
Speaker 1: gonna play in Nigga's faces. There's somebody who wants somebody

1411
01:08:02,920 --> 01:08:08,160
Speaker 1: who's super sophisticated. Uh fucking had sarcasm as their humor.

1412
01:08:08,400 --> 01:08:10,240
Speaker 1: You know, like, there's people who want that.

1413
01:08:12,880 --> 01:08:15,400
Speaker 2: So now, what are we to a place where we

1414
01:08:16,200 --> 01:08:19,680
Speaker 2: stand on where we started? Has anyone shifted their opinions

1415
01:08:20,320 --> 01:08:23,400
Speaker 2: on No, I don't think anyone has disting or upholding

1416
01:08:23,880 --> 01:08:24,519
Speaker 2: like where we're at.

1417
01:08:24,720 --> 01:08:29,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I think let me ask what you

1418
01:08:29,760 --> 01:08:30,160
Speaker 4: want to ask.

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01:08:30,320 --> 01:08:33,240
Speaker 6: I do think it got lost somewhere because I think

1420
01:08:33,320 --> 01:08:35,840
Speaker 6: some of the dating and all that kindcept. That's why

1421
01:08:35,840 --> 01:08:37,760
Speaker 6: I add from the beginning, Yes, so this is just

1422
01:08:37,920 --> 01:08:40,800
Speaker 6: my question to just feel like I was a part

1423
01:08:41,600 --> 01:08:44,200
Speaker 6: of figuring out that actual question. Yes, if you are

1424
01:08:44,320 --> 01:08:49,559
Speaker 6: for the demantling of patriarchy, what are you specifically willing

1425
01:08:49,640 --> 01:08:53,760
Speaker 6: to do to change patriarchy at least how it's ran

1426
01:08:54,600 --> 01:08:55,240
Speaker 6: in your life?

1427
01:08:55,360 --> 01:08:57,720
Speaker 1: I mean, to me, first off, it's a holding these

1428
01:08:57,760 --> 01:09:01,800
Speaker 1: types of conversations. But when I'm dating now, I'm leaning

1429
01:09:01,920 --> 01:09:05,120
Speaker 1: with the fact that I'm coming into this relationship not

1430
01:09:05,240 --> 01:09:08,160
Speaker 1: looking for traditional things. The way I show up professionally

1431
01:09:08,320 --> 01:09:12,040
Speaker 1: and personally don't align fully with the patriarchy in terms

1432
01:09:12,160 --> 01:09:16,000
Speaker 1: of what I can bring, like even in terms of like,

1433
01:09:16,160 --> 01:09:17,559
Speaker 1: I'm not going to be the one to stay home

1434
01:09:17,640 --> 01:09:19,800
Speaker 1: and cook the gender roles and things that doesn't fit

1435
01:09:19,920 --> 01:09:21,920
Speaker 1: my actual day to day life because of what I

1436
01:09:22,040 --> 01:09:24,120
Speaker 1: do for a living and what I expect from you

1437
01:09:24,560 --> 01:09:27,080
Speaker 1: is not just provision and providing.

1438
01:09:27,200 --> 01:09:28,280
Speaker 3: I provide for myself.

1439
01:09:28,400 --> 01:09:30,800
Speaker 1: I do need more things from you than those things

1440
01:09:31,120 --> 01:09:34,720
Speaker 1: and you want, Oh, I want the emotionally intelligent man

1441
01:09:34,760 --> 01:09:37,479
Speaker 1: who's also available to take trips with me.

1442
01:09:38,680 --> 01:09:40,000
Speaker 3: I mean I get provision in that way.

1443
01:09:40,080 --> 01:09:44,040
Speaker 2: So I don't lead with financial which to most women

1444
01:09:44,160 --> 01:09:46,960
Speaker 2: and what we're seeing on social media is the main bar.

1445
01:09:47,160 --> 01:09:48,880
Speaker 3: Right. I don't need a man to make more than me.

1446
01:09:49,200 --> 01:09:49,919
Speaker 3: I understand.

1447
01:09:50,000 --> 01:09:51,840
Speaker 2: I still only want a black man. I've only dated

1448
01:09:51,840 --> 01:09:54,360
Speaker 2: black men. I understand the numbers of that. So I'm

1449
01:09:54,400 --> 01:09:55,880
Speaker 2: fine with a man making less than me.

1450
01:09:56,360 --> 01:09:59,000
Speaker 1: They still would just have to be able to go

1451
01:09:59,120 --> 01:10:01,599
Speaker 1: to the places that I to eat, or find time

1452
01:10:01,680 --> 01:10:03,320
Speaker 1: to travel to the places I want to travel to.

1453
01:10:03,720 --> 01:10:05,240
Speaker 3: That would be that would suffice for me.

1454
01:10:05,520 --> 01:10:07,880
Speaker 8: Really, I'm literally.

1455
01:10:07,640 --> 01:10:08,960
Speaker 4: Asking, I'm not there never.

1456
01:10:11,240 --> 01:10:14,799
Speaker 3: I like, really, he's food turnoff.

1457
01:10:14,920 --> 01:10:18,280
Speaker 4: That's a turnoff for food. I meant the travel, Like

1458
01:10:18,680 --> 01:10:20,120
Speaker 4: you said, you specifically.

1459
01:10:20,240 --> 01:10:22,200
Speaker 1: Being excited to go to Miami and I want to

1460
01:10:22,280 --> 01:10:23,439
Speaker 1: go to St.

1461
01:10:23,479 --> 01:10:26,639
Speaker 4: Bart Yeah, this is the problem with that. It's only one.

1462
01:10:27,800 --> 01:10:34,240
Speaker 4: Are you willing to subsidize the trip with that? Yeah? No,

1463
01:10:34,400 --> 01:10:37,280
Speaker 4: I know subsidized. I say, in this context, what do

1464
01:10:37,360 --> 01:10:37,840
Speaker 4: you mean by that?

1465
01:10:38,200 --> 01:10:40,439
Speaker 6: Like if your man, let's just say, because again it's

1466
01:10:40,479 --> 01:10:42,160
Speaker 6: a number of schame, Like, we don't understand.

1467
01:10:42,160 --> 01:10:45,040
Speaker 4: It's math. All emotional ship is bullshit. It's math.

1468
01:10:45,160 --> 01:10:47,320
Speaker 9: So look up the median income of black men in

1469
01:10:47,360 --> 01:10:49,439
Speaker 9: America and that's going to be shed some light on

1470
01:10:49,520 --> 01:10:50,120
Speaker 9: the whole situation.

1471
01:10:50,200 --> 01:10:53,040
Speaker 3: You know, it's crazy. I'm very I spend a lot

1472
01:10:53,080 --> 01:10:54,400
Speaker 3: of money, but I don't like to waste money.

1473
01:10:54,760 --> 01:10:56,840
Speaker 6: You might make more money than most of society, but

1474
01:10:57,000 --> 01:10:59,160
Speaker 6: I'm only using this as express bush.

1475
01:11:00,320 --> 01:11:01,120
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm very.

1476
01:11:01,080 --> 01:11:04,600
Speaker 4: Out both of them. America can't buy a Rolex.

1477
01:11:04,320 --> 01:11:06,960
Speaker 1: But I become very frugal. Right, so if i'm this,

1478
01:11:14,560 --> 01:11:19,040
Speaker 1: I got thirty one, I could dude, Right, I want

1479
01:11:19,080 --> 01:11:21,240
Speaker 1: to go I want to go to somebody.

1480
01:11:21,400 --> 01:11:24,160
Speaker 3: I want to go away on a trip. I'm like, Yo,

1481
01:11:24,880 --> 01:11:25,920
Speaker 3: I can get us a discount.

1482
01:11:26,600 --> 01:11:29,639
Speaker 4: Yo, your discount might not be images.

1483
01:11:30,240 --> 01:11:33,840
Speaker 3: You don't want to say for night, let me, let

1484
01:11:33,880 --> 01:11:35,840
Speaker 3: me find let me finish, right, you want to be

1485
01:11:35,880 --> 01:11:36,680
Speaker 3: on the bill on the water.

1486
01:11:36,720 --> 01:11:38,640
Speaker 4: And this this is what I'm saying, This is this

1487
01:11:38,760 --> 01:11:41,599
Speaker 4: is a real conversation. We're joking, right, So you could

1488
01:11:41,640 --> 01:11:45,000
Speaker 4: meet a quality dope, dude, good dude, yes, but that dude,

1489
01:11:45,120 --> 01:11:46,439
Speaker 4: and we live in New York. Man.

1490
01:11:47,600 --> 01:11:49,280
Speaker 9: Even if you don't live in New York, you live

1491
01:11:49,320 --> 01:11:52,760
Speaker 9: in the Metro Atlanta area, the Metro DC area, the

1492
01:11:52,880 --> 01:11:54,120
Speaker 9: metro Miami area.

1493
01:11:54,479 --> 01:11:56,960
Speaker 4: These America listens to this podcast.

1494
01:11:58,479 --> 01:12:01,000
Speaker 8: The Controle Us.

1495
01:12:01,240 --> 01:12:04,160
Speaker 4: So what I'm doing, answer y'all own maha. Best if

1496
01:12:04,200 --> 01:12:08,080
Speaker 4: you meet a man that makes seventy grand, eighty grand,

1497
01:12:08,320 --> 01:12:09,280
Speaker 4: he's a good dude.

1498
01:12:09,400 --> 01:12:11,519
Speaker 3: We could go to the place of that. No you can't.

1499
01:12:11,600 --> 01:12:12,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, but he's not gonna be able to come home.

1500
01:12:13,600 --> 01:12:15,280
Speaker 3: But the question, the question.

1501
01:12:16,760 --> 01:12:19,920
Speaker 4: It's posed, the question you will that you guys willing

1502
01:12:20,000 --> 01:12:20,600
Speaker 4: to subsidize.

1503
01:12:20,600 --> 01:12:23,320
Speaker 6: If this nigga makes eighty k, he brings home four

1504
01:12:23,400 --> 01:12:26,240
Speaker 6: thousand dollars a month, where the fuck is you going

1505
01:12:26,320 --> 01:12:28,679
Speaker 6: at this one thousand dollars a night? Eight hundred dollars

1506
01:12:28,680 --> 01:12:32,400
Speaker 6: a night, and my income take home after taxes is

1507
01:12:32,479 --> 01:12:33,240
Speaker 6: four k a month.

1508
01:12:33,280 --> 01:12:34,360
Speaker 3: I didn't say I would date him.

1509
01:12:35,160 --> 01:12:38,479
Speaker 4: It's not right. There is the problem thousand.

1510
01:12:39,880 --> 01:12:42,120
Speaker 1: I never in my life knew how much a man made.

1511
01:12:42,760 --> 01:12:46,000
Speaker 1: Never ever, that's a problem. I'm talking about number.

1512
01:12:47,720 --> 01:12:48,599
Speaker 4: I don't think that's a problem.

1513
01:12:49,080 --> 01:12:49,320
Speaker 10: Number.

1514
01:12:49,439 --> 01:12:50,799
Speaker 4: I don't think you don't think that's a problem.

1515
01:12:50,880 --> 01:12:54,840
Speaker 1: Ever knew how much a man made in my life.

1516
01:12:55,280 --> 01:12:57,160
Speaker 1: He could have made forty thousand, he could have made

1517
01:12:57,160 --> 01:12:58,120
Speaker 1: four hundred thousand, could have.

1518
01:12:58,080 --> 01:13:00,240
Speaker 4: Made sad about how he dealt with your money.

1519
01:13:00,680 --> 01:13:04,760
Speaker 1: I never was like, I never was able to put

1520
01:13:04,800 --> 01:13:07,360
Speaker 1: it into perspective about like how I don't even know

1521
01:13:07,479 --> 01:13:08,560
Speaker 1: how much checks look like.

1522
01:13:08,720 --> 01:13:09,599
Speaker 4: Like I've always had.

1523
01:13:09,520 --> 01:13:11,920
Speaker 1: Like a very unconventional job, so I don't know what

1524
01:13:12,200 --> 01:13:14,519
Speaker 1: checks look like every two weeks based on how much

1525
01:13:14,560 --> 01:13:14,840
Speaker 1: you make.

1526
01:13:15,360 --> 01:13:18,840
Speaker 3: So yeah, well you're trying to crack.

1527
01:13:18,880 --> 01:13:20,599
Speaker 4: I promise you him not you just cracked yourself.

1528
01:13:20,760 --> 01:13:22,840
Speaker 9: Well, you won't date the nigga that makes four thousand

1529
01:13:22,840 --> 01:13:25,439
Speaker 9: dollars a month, then you are adhering to patriarchy. You

1530
01:13:25,479 --> 01:13:27,800
Speaker 9: don't want to dismantle patriarchy because if you are in

1531
01:13:27,880 --> 01:13:29,760
Speaker 9: love with true, let's get you.

1532
01:13:30,439 --> 01:13:32,760
Speaker 12: If you are in love with this man, then you

1533
01:13:32,880 --> 01:13:35,960
Speaker 12: should not have a problem subsidizing this motherfucking trip the

1534
01:13:36,040 --> 01:13:38,240
Speaker 12: same way niggas have been since I wouldn't.

1535
01:13:40,640 --> 01:13:43,960
Speaker 3: Make it four thousand a month, that's what I want

1536
01:13:44,000 --> 01:13:46,479
Speaker 3: to know. You wouldn't pay you wait, you would or

1537
01:13:46,520 --> 01:13:48,400
Speaker 3: you would not pay for the trip, maybe one trip,

1538
01:13:48,439 --> 01:13:48,800
Speaker 3: but not all.

1539
01:13:48,880 --> 01:13:50,519
Speaker 4: But you said you wouldn't date the nigga.

1540
01:13:52,120 --> 01:13:53,400
Speaker 3: No, no, no, I said I wouldn't date the guy

1541
01:13:53,439 --> 01:13:55,840
Speaker 3: making four thousand a month. That's he's saying.

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01:13:55,880 --> 01:13:58,639
Speaker 1: That's the same I can date a guy who makes

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01:13:58,680 --> 01:14:00,920
Speaker 1: one twenty and still might not be able to afford.

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01:14:00,640 --> 01:14:04,040
Speaker 4: The Yes, he's bringing home fifty five hundred dollars a.

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01:14:04,080 --> 01:14:10,360
Speaker 3: Month, that's not really now, that's sixty five k.

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01:14:11,000 --> 01:14:14,439
Speaker 9: No, nigga, what you make on that and what you

1547
01:14:14,680 --> 01:14:17,160
Speaker 9: net and bring that and you can't spend our two

1548
01:14:17,280 --> 01:14:24,439
Speaker 9: totally different numbers, and the numbers are not in your favor.

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01:14:24,800 --> 01:14:26,800
Speaker 4: And that's what these women are facing with today.

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01:14:26,880 --> 01:14:31,640
Speaker 1: Look, okay, I just have and marry myself refer to

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01:14:32,040 --> 01:14:32,879
Speaker 1: marriage episode.

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01:14:33,000 --> 01:14:35,880
Speaker 2: I'm gonna dismantle patriarchy by just being with myself, being

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01:14:35,960 --> 01:14:37,080
Speaker 2: a bad, holy single woman.

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01:14:37,200 --> 01:14:39,960
Speaker 6: You better or you better spend some money on your nigga, damn,

1555
01:14:41,960 --> 01:14:44,720
Speaker 6: or you could be on birthday because if we not, you.

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01:14:44,720 --> 01:14:46,320
Speaker 4: Know what, listen, it should be.

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01:14:46,439 --> 01:14:50,280
Speaker 6: If we trying to dismantle patriarchy, it doesn't matter who's

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01:14:50,280 --> 01:14:52,960
Speaker 6: spending the money, as long as we are loving each

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01:14:53,000 --> 01:14:54,800
Speaker 6: other and enjoying the experience.

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01:14:55,200 --> 01:14:57,240
Speaker 4: Nobody gave a fuck when that nigga took you to

1561
01:14:57,360 --> 01:14:59,439
Speaker 4: the fucking Eiffel Tower on his dime.

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01:14:59,600 --> 01:15:01,080
Speaker 6: You should and give a funk if you take them

1563
01:15:01,080 --> 01:15:03,040
Speaker 6: to the Eiffel Tower one your dom, if this is

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01:15:03,080 --> 01:15:04,400
Speaker 6: your nigga and who you really love.

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01:15:04,920 --> 01:15:06,960
Speaker 4: I was in places before when my women made way

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01:15:07,040 --> 01:15:07,720
Speaker 4: more bread than me.

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01:15:08,479 --> 01:15:10,919
Speaker 8: This also is in a conversation what I've realized.

1568
01:15:11,560 --> 01:15:15,200
Speaker 6: This also is in the conversation about Mentalizingchy.

1569
01:15:15,280 --> 01:15:18,679
Speaker 8: That was the conversation about dating people as.

1570
01:15:20,240 --> 01:15:22,200
Speaker 4: Beings. Yeah, and y'all are having.

1571
01:15:22,200 --> 01:15:28,679
Speaker 13: It's kicking y'all as no, No, it's kicking all three.

1572
01:15:30,360 --> 01:15:31,920
Speaker 13: Y'all are gonna listen back to this, and you're gonna

1573
01:15:31,920 --> 01:15:33,040
Speaker 13: realize everything I just said.

1574
01:15:33,280 --> 01:15:35,719
Speaker 4: This is you stopped ting Field.

1575
01:15:36,800 --> 01:15:41,280
Speaker 6: We literally stopped talking about dismantling patriarchy eighty minutes ago.

1576
01:15:43,200 --> 01:15:45,320
Speaker 6: We have did it, and we have discussed and identified

1577
01:15:45,400 --> 01:15:48,720
Speaker 6: the last eighty minutes is how we should date each other,

1578
01:15:49,200 --> 01:15:53,360
Speaker 6: being fair and complete humans. That that doesn't even start

1579
01:15:53,439 --> 01:15:56,720
Speaker 6: to actuate patriarch. We just are getting to the bottom level.

1580
01:15:56,760 --> 01:15:59,600
Speaker 6: And it's not kicking y'all ass. But you spin with

1581
01:15:59,720 --> 01:16:04,559
Speaker 6: You said you ain't spend no money on women. You say,

1582
01:16:05,840 --> 01:16:08,160
Speaker 6: I said some money these bites.

1583
01:16:09,560 --> 01:16:11,160
Speaker 3: I heard. I did not say that at all.

1584
01:16:11,400 --> 01:16:14,599
Speaker 6: I said, Yo, I'm not paying for companionship. I'll spend

1585
01:16:14,680 --> 01:16:17,160
Speaker 6: money on women specifics. And you said paying for women.

1586
01:16:17,160 --> 01:16:19,519
Speaker 6: You said spending money on women isn't my thing, that's specific.

1587
01:16:20,040 --> 01:16:22,120
Speaker 3: She said, okay, so what is she saying?

1588
01:16:22,160 --> 01:16:26,639
Speaker 4: What did I say? She said bush?

1589
01:16:27,439 --> 01:16:31,200
Speaker 6: No. To be honest, it's really kicking y'all because you

1590
01:16:31,680 --> 01:16:34,639
Speaker 6: you said, I want to demand y'all dismantal patriarchy.

1591
01:16:35,360 --> 01:16:36,360
Speaker 3: But he said, but you can't.

1592
01:16:36,400 --> 01:16:39,920
Speaker 4: I'm not brocast mother stuff. I'm not paying for no trips.

1593
01:16:40,439 --> 01:16:42,599
Speaker 4: So and then you call niggas pussy. They don't want

1594
01:16:42,640 --> 01:16:43,400
Speaker 4: to go shoot the niggas.

1595
01:16:43,880 --> 01:16:47,080
Speaker 3: You literally, this is not about patriarchy.

1596
01:16:47,360 --> 01:16:50,360
Speaker 4: This is about wanting. And I'm not being funny either.

1597
01:16:50,720 --> 01:16:53,559
Speaker 6: This is about getting to the base level of being

1598
01:16:53,640 --> 01:16:56,320
Speaker 6: able to show up and date one another as full,

1599
01:16:56,479 --> 01:16:59,519
Speaker 6: complete human beings and what do feel and complete human

1600
01:16:59,560 --> 01:17:00,720
Speaker 6: beings want and need?

1601
01:17:01,520 --> 01:17:02,000
Speaker 4: Fairness?

1602
01:17:02,560 --> 01:17:05,680
Speaker 6: That's it fairness I want you to, not equality. That's

1603
01:17:05,680 --> 01:17:08,200
Speaker 6: where the equality and fairness get us fucked up. Every

1604
01:17:08,280 --> 01:17:12,479
Speaker 6: time we want women that I interact with, they don't

1605
01:17:12,520 --> 01:17:14,640
Speaker 6: want equality as much as they want fairness. They so

1606
01:17:14,880 --> 01:17:16,960
Speaker 6: know they don't want to give your gender roles, but

1607
01:17:17,040 --> 01:17:19,080
Speaker 6: they don't want you to treat them like less than

1608
01:17:19,160 --> 01:17:22,080
Speaker 6: humans because they partake in your gender role that help

1609
01:17:22,280 --> 01:17:23,280
Speaker 6: benefit your.

1610
01:17:23,320 --> 01:17:23,880
Speaker 4: Life to.

1611
01:17:26,080 --> 01:17:30,200
Speaker 3: Talking about that's not this way, you what the fairness

1612
01:17:30,320 --> 01:17:30,920
Speaker 3: doesn't work?

1613
01:17:31,040 --> 01:17:32,680
Speaker 4: That way works.

1614
01:17:32,840 --> 01:17:35,560
Speaker 6: Fairness works in a way that you are doing what

1615
01:17:35,800 --> 01:17:38,519
Speaker 6: you are doing because it's the right thing to do.

1616
01:17:39,000 --> 01:17:41,560
Speaker 8: Is that she does what she does because it's the

1617
01:17:41,840 --> 01:17:44,160
Speaker 8: rights in the middle y'all have.

1618
01:17:44,560 --> 01:17:47,160
Speaker 4: That's not true because fairness is relative. But what you

1619
01:17:47,320 --> 01:17:49,120
Speaker 4: might be a man and think is fair treatment of

1620
01:17:49,160 --> 01:17:51,840
Speaker 4: your chick. She may think it's unfair, so you have

1621
01:17:52,720 --> 01:17:53,400
Speaker 4: your woman.

1622
01:17:53,840 --> 01:17:56,680
Speaker 3: I think the better term for it is just mutually beneficial.

1623
01:17:57,040 --> 01:18:01,639
Speaker 1: Right because fairness, like he said, that could be unfair

1624
01:18:01,680 --> 01:18:03,080
Speaker 1: to you, right like you could think it's fair.

1625
01:18:03,160 --> 01:18:03,519
Speaker 4: She can not.

1626
01:18:03,720 --> 01:18:08,680
Speaker 3: But but you might think it's fair, but she may not.

1627
01:18:08,840 --> 01:18:10,400
Speaker 8: Think it's a part of a relationship. This is what

1628
01:18:10,479 --> 01:18:10,960
Speaker 8: I keep saying.

1629
01:18:11,200 --> 01:18:14,240
Speaker 6: If we're doing a relationship, you what you deem fair

1630
01:18:14,640 --> 01:18:17,479
Speaker 6: have to be priority to me if I am dating you.

1631
01:18:17,600 --> 01:18:19,639
Speaker 4: But that's what I think is fair.

1632
01:18:19,760 --> 01:18:25,840
Speaker 3: Is what you think is more on target. Because it

1633
01:18:26,000 --> 01:18:27,840
Speaker 3: may not be equal.

1634
01:18:27,640 --> 01:18:29,760
Speaker 8: And it may not be fair, we agree with it.

1635
01:18:29,840 --> 01:18:31,920
Speaker 8: It won't equal because patriarchy will not go on you.

1636
01:18:32,760 --> 01:18:33,160
Speaker 4: I want to.

1637
01:18:33,160 --> 01:18:38,200
Speaker 2: Dismantle the god damn patriot. I have a question for

1638
01:18:38,320 --> 01:18:41,840
Speaker 2: y'all after our conversation, has your mind changed. Is patriarchy

1639
01:18:41,920 --> 01:18:45,080
Speaker 2: beneficial in some respects like dating? Or should we burn

1640
01:18:45,160 --> 01:18:47,439
Speaker 2: patriarchy to hell and start all.

1641
01:18:47,360 --> 01:18:48,200
Speaker 3: The way over with it?

1642
01:18:48,360 --> 01:18:50,639
Speaker 2: I want y'all to share your answers and the comments

1643
01:18:50,960 --> 01:18:53,120
Speaker 2: over on our social media page and especially if you

1644
01:18:53,160 --> 01:18:56,880
Speaker 2: are over on our Patreon, make sure you join the discord.

1645
01:18:56,640 --> 01:18:58,040
Speaker 1: And keep the conversation going.

1646
01:18:58,360 --> 01:19:01,600
Speaker 2: Where can people hear more of y'all goddamn rhetoric up

1647
01:19:01,640 --> 01:19:02,720
Speaker 2: holding the patriarchy?

1648
01:19:03,040 --> 01:19:03,559
Speaker 4: Please share?

1649
01:19:03,680 --> 01:19:05,880
Speaker 1: Cuddy will start with you for all the women wanting

1650
01:19:05,920 --> 01:19:08,280
Speaker 1: to date these men in this damn.

1651
01:19:08,120 --> 01:19:09,640
Speaker 8: Well my passport, cud, you can find me on an

1652
01:19:09,640 --> 01:19:10,439
Speaker 8: express book.

1653
01:19:17,520 --> 01:19:19,160
Speaker 4: Back right side of taking my seat.

1654
01:19:19,400 --> 01:19:20,040
Speaker 3: Remember the front.

1655
01:19:21,400 --> 01:19:29,240
Speaker 1: I like they said, I'm on Instagram, Twitter and uh

1656
01:19:29,479 --> 01:19:33,800
Speaker 1: TikTok at passport, underscore Cuddy, I have books, and I

1657
01:19:34,520 --> 01:19:39,600
Speaker 1: have games, and I do advice calls on dating, relationships

1658
01:19:39,720 --> 01:19:41,240
Speaker 1: and everything else under the sun.

1659
01:19:41,760 --> 01:19:44,240
Speaker 4: I would like to ask you a question, yeah, advice. Yeah,

1660
01:19:44,240 --> 01:19:46,880
Speaker 4: I'm not asking advice. I just I mean, it's all.

1661
01:19:47,640 --> 01:19:49,560
Speaker 4: What was the moment where you were like, oh, I

1662
01:19:49,600 --> 01:19:50,920
Speaker 4: should be giving advice.

1663
01:19:51,040 --> 01:19:54,559
Speaker 1: When everybody started emailing me asking me for advice? Okay,

1664
01:19:55,200 --> 01:19:58,120
Speaker 1: it was like literally that, like tons and tons and

1665
01:19:58,160 --> 01:20:01,320
Speaker 1: tons of emails of people want in my opinion based

1666
01:20:01,360 --> 01:20:03,519
Speaker 1: on what I was tweeting and stuff like that.

1667
01:20:03,720 --> 01:20:06,920
Speaker 3: So yeah, Mouse, where can people, I guess hear more

1668
01:20:06,960 --> 01:20:07,200
Speaker 3: from you?

1669
01:20:07,360 --> 01:20:12,160
Speaker 7: Jesus right now tending like a little sabbatical, I don't

1670
01:20:12,160 --> 01:20:14,960
Speaker 7: want you to hear me, and I mean bitches and niggas,

1671
01:20:16,320 --> 01:20:20,000
Speaker 7: So y'all can read what I have to say over

1672
01:20:20,080 --> 01:20:22,320
Speaker 7: there on the Twitter or ex whatever it's called.

1673
01:20:24,040 --> 01:20:25,680
Speaker 4: I'm over there, but I ain't saying nothing. I don't

1674
01:20:26,200 --> 01:20:29,000
Speaker 4: because there's too much work. I don't put three three things.

1675
01:20:29,040 --> 01:20:34,920
Speaker 6: Ain't nobody saying that to that way, I'm appreciated, So

1676
01:20:35,040 --> 01:20:38,880
Speaker 6: I'm still Yeah, Mouse Jones, everything Instagram, Twitter TikTok all

1677
01:20:38,960 --> 01:20:42,679
Speaker 6: that if you are live, experience trap karaoke.

1678
01:20:42,880 --> 01:20:43,519
Speaker 4: We are on tour.

1679
01:20:43,560 --> 01:20:48,080
Speaker 6: We're everywhere, so mouse drones, no trap karaoke follow get

1680
01:20:48,120 --> 01:20:53,080
Speaker 6: your tickets and Oh dead Ass a comedy show every

1681
01:20:53,200 --> 01:20:54,880
Speaker 6: if you're in the New York City Tristate area.

1682
01:20:55,240 --> 01:20:55,639
Speaker 4: Every month.

1683
01:20:55,680 --> 01:20:57,920
Speaker 8: We're selling out s obs every first third day of

1684
01:20:57,960 --> 01:20:58,320
Speaker 8: the month.

1685
01:20:59,200 --> 01:20:59,800
Speaker 4: So we had come on.

1686
01:21:00,720 --> 01:21:05,880
Speaker 6: I love yeah this third day coming up. Ye's a

1687
01:21:05,920 --> 01:21:07,479
Speaker 6: comedy show, okay, and.

1688
01:21:07,640 --> 01:21:09,479
Speaker 3: It's where can they listen to you and your thoughts?

1689
01:21:11,680 --> 01:21:12,559
Speaker 3: I'm listening right.

1690
01:21:12,479 --> 01:21:18,880
Speaker 4: Now Joe Budden podcasts. My socials are that's that ish?

1691
01:21:19,400 --> 01:21:20,080
Speaker 3: That's that ish?

1692
01:21:20,200 --> 01:21:22,200
Speaker 1: Hey, y'all could get his merch to that he wearing?

1693
01:21:22,360 --> 01:21:23,600
Speaker 1: I do y'all want to go in it' support that?

1694
01:21:23,680 --> 01:21:24,679
Speaker 3: Oh did you bring my hoodie?

1695
01:21:25,400 --> 01:21:26,600
Speaker 4: That's not patriot.

1696
01:21:28,000 --> 01:21:29,640
Speaker 3: I pay nigga, don't do that.

1697
01:21:29,680 --> 01:21:34,519
Speaker 4: I support by looking for this by gotten a dollar money.

1698
01:21:34,920 --> 01:21:37,639
Speaker 3: So you're asking for him free because you're a woman.

1699
01:21:38,560 --> 01:21:39,000
Speaker 4: Provision.

1700
01:21:40,640 --> 01:21:43,080
Speaker 3: You want to come in here and provide, you know what,

1701
01:21:43,240 --> 01:21:44,040
Speaker 3: Get the fuck out of here.

1702
01:21:44,760 --> 01:21:44,920
Speaker 4: Ya.

1703
01:21:44,960 --> 01:21:46,160
Speaker 1: At the end of the day, you can hate it

1704
01:21:46,280 --> 01:21:46,760
Speaker 1: or you can love it.

1705
01:21:46,840 --> 01:21:49,280
Speaker 2: Either way, are you choosing to be selectively ignorant or

1706
01:21:49,360 --> 01:21:51,920
Speaker 2: are you choosing to be educated? See you next week

1707
01:21:52,000 --> 01:21:55,360
Speaker 2: for another episode. Y'all, I'm signing out bane.

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01:21:56,439 --> 01:22:02,639
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