WEBVTT - Understand your jealousy

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of My Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to understand your jealousy. When you know

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<v Speaker 1>why certain things get to you, you can analyze your

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<v Speaker 1>life with this in mind and take something useful from

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<v Speaker 1>that jealousy that can actually improve your life. I am

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<v Speaker 1>a pretty contented person. I enjoy my work, I have

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<v Speaker 1>a large and healthy family, but I am not immune

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<v Speaker 1>to jealousy when I look at certain posts on social media.

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<v Speaker 1>Over the past few weeks, I have been thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>which posts those are and why they feel like a

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<v Speaker 1>kick in the stomach while others just don't bother me

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<v Speaker 1>at all. So what gets me well tales of adults

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<v Speaker 1>only socializing or people getting to relax in general, pictures

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<v Speaker 1>of big families all in matching outfits, smiling with mom

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<v Speaker 1>looking completely pulled together, or where people are talking about

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<v Speaker 1>some sort of family activity where everyone was happy and

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<v Speaker 1>no one was fighting. I also get jealous of people's

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<v Speaker 1>writing retreats and when the whole family seems focused on

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<v Speaker 1>letting them focus. Now, believe me, I know that much

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<v Speaker 1>of social media is fake. That put together mom has

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<v Speaker 1>a job, of looking great while selling products through her posts.

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<v Speaker 1>She has someone doing her hair and makeup and then

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<v Speaker 1>taking lots of photos to get the right one. This

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<v Speaker 1>is not your average mom putting her iPhone on a

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<v Speaker 1>tripod and snaping some shots. This is a commercial enterprise,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's being treated as such. The same thing goes

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<v Speaker 1>for photos of fun family activities. They're probably paid for

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<v Speaker 1>by whatever resort or hotel or amusement park is sponsoring

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<v Speaker 1>the post and requiring the write up of happiness. But

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<v Speaker 1>even so, I find that I don't care about people's

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<v Speaker 1>fancy cars or fancy houses. Those posts don't bother me,

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<v Speaker 1>even if they are just as fake and just as sponsored.

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<v Speaker 1>So I have analyzed my jealousy and realized a certain thing.

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<v Speaker 1>With a toddler and a job, I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>am not getting nearly enough time to relax. It also

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<v Speaker 1>turns out that I don't feel like putting a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of effort into my appearance see the whole job and

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<v Speaker 1>toddler thing, and that has predictable results. With the logistics

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<v Speaker 1>of five kids and a home renovation going on, I

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<v Speaker 1>am probably not getting as much uninterrupted writing time as

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<v Speaker 1>I want either. The good news, though, is that when

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<v Speaker 1>we identify pain points, we can do something about them.

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<v Speaker 1>I have arranged for a little bit of childcare for

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<v Speaker 1>my toddler on some weekends. I've drawn up a different

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<v Speaker 1>during the week's schedule where I am driving less so

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<v Speaker 1>I have more time for writing. And well, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>exactly care enough to have a stylist and photographer follow

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<v Speaker 1>me around, but if I decided that was a priority,

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<v Speaker 1>I suppose I could try it out. In any case,

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<v Speaker 1>I could probably take a few minutes to do my

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<v Speaker 1>hair more days than I do. Maybe you have certain

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<v Speaker 1>pain points too, Maybe in your case it's something more substantial,

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<v Speaker 1>like other people having grandkids and that doesn't look like

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<v Speaker 1>it's in the cards for you. Or maybe it's just

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<v Speaker 1>more humdrum. How are people's playrooms that organized? How do

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<v Speaker 1>they only have color coordinated wooden toys? But when you

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<v Speaker 1>figure out exactly what it is that gets you riled up,

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<v Speaker 1>you can address these issues. Well, I mean, you can't

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<v Speaker 1>suddenly conjure up grandchildren. But if you decide that you

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<v Speaker 1>want small people in your life, you could volunteer to

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<v Speaker 1>teach Sunday school, or work in an after school program,

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<v Speaker 1>or help out your neighbors who have young children. If

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<v Speaker 1>you crave an organized and color coordinated space, maybe you

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<v Speaker 1>can designate some part of your house as your sanctuary.

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<v Speaker 1>The kids playroom is probably asking a bit much. I

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<v Speaker 1>suspect those folks on social media have two play rooms,

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<v Speaker 1>one with the beautiful coordinated wooden toys and one with

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<v Speaker 1>the explosion of plastic pieces that the kids at really

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<v Speaker 1>play in. I'm not saying that thinking about this will

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<v Speaker 1>make the jealousy go away, but it is easy to

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<v Speaker 1>let jealousy eat at you. Using it to make positive

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<v Speaker 1>changes in your life that make you happier is far

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<v Speaker 1>more productive, and I am definitely a fan of being

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<v Speaker 1>productive when we can. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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