1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:06,680 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of My Heart Radio. 2 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:15,360 Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. 3 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:21,880 Speaker 1: Today's tip is to understand your jealousy. When you know 4 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:25,520 Speaker 1: why certain things get to you, you can analyze your 5 00:00:25,560 --> 00:00:29,440 Speaker 1: life with this in mind and take something useful from 6 00:00:29,440 --> 00:00:35,760 Speaker 1: that jealousy that can actually improve your life. I am 7 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:40,600 Speaker 1: a pretty contented person. I enjoy my work, I have 8 00:00:40,720 --> 00:00:44,720 Speaker 1: a large and healthy family, but I am not immune 9 00:00:44,760 --> 00:00:48,320 Speaker 1: to jealousy when I look at certain posts on social media. 10 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:51,920 Speaker 1: Over the past few weeks, I have been thinking about 11 00:00:52,120 --> 00:00:56,240 Speaker 1: which posts those are and why they feel like a 12 00:00:56,360 --> 00:00:59,680 Speaker 1: kick in the stomach while others just don't bother me 13 00:00:59,720 --> 00:01:05,399 Speaker 1: at all. So what gets me well tales of adults 14 00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 1: only socializing or people getting to relax in general, pictures 15 00:01:11,720 --> 00:01:16,760 Speaker 1: of big families all in matching outfits, smiling with mom 16 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:21,600 Speaker 1: looking completely pulled together, or where people are talking about 17 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:26,000 Speaker 1: some sort of family activity where everyone was happy and 18 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:30,240 Speaker 1: no one was fighting. I also get jealous of people's 19 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:34,160 Speaker 1: writing retreats and when the whole family seems focused on 20 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:39,440 Speaker 1: letting them focus. Now, believe me, I know that much 21 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:44,039 Speaker 1: of social media is fake. That put together mom has 22 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 1: a job, of looking great while selling products through her posts. 23 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:52,000 Speaker 1: She has someone doing her hair and makeup and then 24 00:01:52,080 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 1: taking lots of photos to get the right one. This 25 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:58,760 Speaker 1: is not your average mom putting her iPhone on a 26 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:03,840 Speaker 1: tripod and snaping some shots. This is a commercial enterprise, 27 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:08,360 Speaker 1: and it's being treated as such. The same thing goes 28 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: for photos of fun family activities. They're probably paid for 29 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 1: by whatever resort or hotel or amusement park is sponsoring 30 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:21,160 Speaker 1: the post and requiring the write up of happiness. But 31 00:02:21,800 --> 00:02:25,320 Speaker 1: even so, I find that I don't care about people's 32 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 1: fancy cars or fancy houses. Those posts don't bother me, 33 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: even if they are just as fake and just as sponsored. 34 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 1: So I have analyzed my jealousy and realized a certain thing. 35 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 1: With a toddler and a job, I feel like I 36 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 1: am not getting nearly enough time to relax. It also 37 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:50,240 Speaker 1: turns out that I don't feel like putting a lot 38 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: of effort into my appearance see the whole job and 39 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:58,440 Speaker 1: toddler thing, and that has predictable results. With the logistics 40 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:02,200 Speaker 1: of five kids and a home renovation going on, I 41 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:05,799 Speaker 1: am probably not getting as much uninterrupted writing time as 42 00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:10,360 Speaker 1: I want either. The good news, though, is that when 43 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 1: we identify pain points, we can do something about them. 44 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:18,440 Speaker 1: I have arranged for a little bit of childcare for 45 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 1: my toddler on some weekends. I've drawn up a different 46 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:26,000 Speaker 1: during the week's schedule where I am driving less so 47 00:03:26,040 --> 00:03:30,640 Speaker 1: I have more time for writing. And well, I don't 48 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: exactly care enough to have a stylist and photographer follow 49 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:37,240 Speaker 1: me around, but if I decided that was a priority, 50 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:40,800 Speaker 1: I suppose I could try it out. In any case, 51 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 1: I could probably take a few minutes to do my 52 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:48,360 Speaker 1: hair more days than I do. Maybe you have certain 53 00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:53,080 Speaker 1: pain points too, Maybe in your case it's something more substantial, 54 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:56,800 Speaker 1: like other people having grandkids and that doesn't look like 55 00:03:56,840 --> 00:04:00,200 Speaker 1: it's in the cards for you. Or maybe it's just 56 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:06,800 Speaker 1: more humdrum. How are people's playrooms that organized? How do 57 00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 1: they only have color coordinated wooden toys? But when you 58 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:15,040 Speaker 1: figure out exactly what it is that gets you riled up, 59 00:04:15,800 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 1: you can address these issues. Well, I mean, you can't 60 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:23,599 Speaker 1: suddenly conjure up grandchildren. But if you decide that you 61 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:27,359 Speaker 1: want small people in your life, you could volunteer to 62 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:31,360 Speaker 1: teach Sunday school, or work in an after school program, 63 00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:35,000 Speaker 1: or help out your neighbors who have young children. If 64 00:04:35,040 --> 00:04:39,680 Speaker 1: you crave an organized and color coordinated space, maybe you 65 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:44,160 Speaker 1: can designate some part of your house as your sanctuary. 66 00:04:44,800 --> 00:04:49,000 Speaker 1: The kids playroom is probably asking a bit much. I 67 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:52,599 Speaker 1: suspect those folks on social media have two play rooms, 68 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:57,080 Speaker 1: one with the beautiful coordinated wooden toys and one with 69 00:04:57,120 --> 00:05:00,280 Speaker 1: the explosion of plastic pieces that the kids at really 70 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:04,200 Speaker 1: play in. I'm not saying that thinking about this will 71 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:07,560 Speaker 1: make the jealousy go away, but it is easy to 72 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:12,560 Speaker 1: let jealousy eat at you. Using it to make positive 73 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:15,760 Speaker 1: changes in your life that make you happier is far 74 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 1: more productive, and I am definitely a fan of being 75 00:05:20,440 --> 00:05:26,559 Speaker 1: productive when we can. 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