WEBVTT - A Takeaway from Couples Therapy: The Pie of Life 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:04.920 I like to call it the Pie of life. I 0:00:04.960 --> 0:00:07.760 just started couple's therapy and it's helped me a lot, 0:00:07.840 --> 0:00:12.119 because this is what helps us as individuals become our 0:00:12.200 --> 0:00:16.880 best selves. Those are the five physical, emotional, social, spiritual, 0:00:16.920 --> 0:00:19.759 and intellectual. And I like to add rest. That's something 0:00:19.800 --> 0:00:22.640 that I learned in twenty eighteen, the importance of rest. 0:00:23.400 --> 0:00:25.880 Even if you don't have someone in your life right now, 0:00:26.079 --> 0:00:29.000 I think it's good to get yourself ready for that person, 0:00:29.040 --> 0:00:31.640 for you to become the person that you want to attract. 0:00:38.479 --> 0:00:41.400 What up, guys, Happy Monday to everyone listening to the 0:00:41.400 --> 0:00:43.720 podcast on a Monday. I hope you all had a 0:00:43.760 --> 0:00:46.800 really safe and fun Halloween. I definitely did. I had 0:00:46.840 --> 0:00:48.840 a great time, and I'm looking forward to the next 0:00:48.840 --> 0:00:52.720 big holiday, Thanksgiving, my favorite holiday. So I'm so excited 0:00:52.720 --> 0:00:55.000 to spend some quality time with the people who matter 0:00:55.160 --> 0:00:58.440 the most to me. Anyway, on today's episode, we're going 0:00:58.480 --> 0:01:00.680 to be talking about something I learned about in therapy. 0:01:01.000 --> 0:01:02.920 It's called the Pie of a life. That's what I 0:01:02.960 --> 0:01:06.080 call it. It's really the aspects of being human. I 0:01:06.120 --> 0:01:08.520 thought it'd be really interesting and it's helped me a lot, 0:01:08.600 --> 0:01:10.240 so I wanted to share it with you, guys, So 0:01:10.440 --> 0:01:20.319 let's get into it. This is Cheeky's and chill, Okay, 0:01:20.440 --> 0:01:22.760 So I like to call it the Pie of Life, 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:26.680 but it is really aspects of being human. They gave 0:01:26.760 --> 0:01:30.120 me this chart or this It literally looks like a 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:33.280 pie and it's sliced in five pieces and I'll explain 0:01:33.360 --> 0:01:36.760 to you what each section is. I just started a 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:40.080 couple's therapy with a medium and it's really helped me. 0:01:40.160 --> 0:01:43.800 It's helped me a lot because this is what helps 0:01:43.880 --> 0:01:48.760 us as individuals become our best selves. And it's crazy 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:52.360 because before knowing about this Pie of life or this 0:01:52.520 --> 0:01:55.600 aspects of being human, I was already doing it. So 0:01:55.600 --> 0:01:59.720 it's just confirmation to me that I am very intuitive. 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:03.880 I am a person that listens to her body and 0:02:04.120 --> 0:02:06.160 I know what's going on and I know what makes 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:08.240 me feel good. So it made me very very happy 0:02:08.280 --> 0:02:10.960 to know that this exists out there, that there is 0:02:11.080 --> 0:02:13.160 a chart for it, and so I wanted to share 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:15.400 it with you guys, because I think it's super important. 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:18.080 I'm going to make this episode as short and sweet 0:02:18.080 --> 0:02:19.960 as possible because I just want to give you the 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:22.160 information and for you to go out in the world 0:02:22.760 --> 0:02:24.960 and try your best to use it on a daily 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:27.840 basis so that you can find balance in your life. 0:02:27.880 --> 0:02:31.200 That's what it's all about, finding balance. I always talk 0:02:31.240 --> 0:02:34.080 about balance because it is so important. So with that 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:37.040 being said, so the aspects of being human and this 0:02:37.160 --> 0:02:39.639 pie of life that I like to call it, it's 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:45.160 the physical part, emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual. I would 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:47.680 like to recreate the pie of life the aspects of 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:51.960 being human in six parts. I feel like rest is 0:02:52.000 --> 0:02:55.760 a very important and essential part of living and becoming 0:02:55.919 --> 0:03:00.320 a successful best version of yourself. Rest. So in my 0:03:00.440 --> 0:03:02.920 pie of life and the one I just invented right now, 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:05.680 it has all these things I just mentioned, but also 0:03:05.720 --> 0:03:08.360 it has rest. So I wish I could show you 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:11.400 guys what it looks like. But basically the physical aspect, 0:03:11.440 --> 0:03:14.000 for instance, I always tell you guys, this working out 0:03:14.160 --> 0:03:18.320 sweating on a daily basis is very very important. This 0:03:18.360 --> 0:03:19.720 is stuff that you guys are going to do as 0:03:19.720 --> 0:03:23.160 an individual. So what my therapist said was, I need 0:03:23.200 --> 0:03:25.920 you guys to work and to strengthen yourself as an 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:28.400 individual so that you guys can come together in Medio 0:03:28.440 --> 0:03:31.160 and I and have a good partnership. It's all about 0:03:31.400 --> 0:03:35.240 strengthening yourself as an individual. So this is for you 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:37.320 as a person, okay, and then you put it into 0:03:37.320 --> 0:03:40.080 your relationship and so on and so forth. So physical aspect. 0:03:40.160 --> 0:03:44.080 The physical aspect is working out, is sweating, is taking 0:03:44.120 --> 0:03:47.440 the time to exercise your body, to move your body 0:03:48.080 --> 0:03:50.560 as much as possible. I try to do three to 0:03:50.600 --> 0:03:53.200 five times a week. Sometimes I don't even do one 0:03:53.320 --> 0:03:55.680 because I'm so busy or I'm just so exhausted. But 0:03:55.720 --> 0:03:58.680 I then feel the difference when I don't work out, 0:03:58.760 --> 0:04:00.640 because yes, I want to look better, I want to 0:04:00.640 --> 0:04:05.240 lose weight, but also it makes me feel better mentally physically, emotionally, 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:09.320 you're releasing endorphins, You're releasing toxins when you sweat. So 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:14.160 physical activity is very important, at least twenty minutes a day, 0:04:14.240 --> 0:04:17.680 twenty to thirty forty five minutes. It's important and essential 0:04:17.839 --> 0:04:21.520 for the balance, emotional balance more than anything. Then you 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:24.880 have the emotional aspect. What is that that is I 0:04:24.920 --> 0:04:27.360 would say going to therapy, you know what I mean, 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:32.200 Doing something that is connecting you to your emotions, not 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:35.279 ignoring your emotions. A lot of people want to go 0:04:35.320 --> 0:04:38.640 through life and ignore I'm feeling this, I'm feeling that 0:04:38.760 --> 0:04:40.680 I'm sad. Some people don't even want to say the 0:04:40.720 --> 0:04:44.320 word depressed or anxiety because that's a sign of quote 0:04:44.400 --> 0:04:48.640 unquote weakness. But that's not the truth. That is absolutely false. 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:52.960 If you can't afford therapy, then it's reading a book, 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:56.680 it's being connected in some way with your emotions, expressing 0:04:56.720 --> 0:04:59.839 to a friend, you know what I mean, Like releasing yourself, 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:03.720 releasing these emotions and not holding them inside. That's a 0:05:03.800 --> 0:05:06.560 huge part of your mental health and your emotional health 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:15.480 by releasing and expressing your emotions. Okay. Spirituality it's another one. Praying, meditating, 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:18.560 whatever that means to you. Going to church, Catholic, Christian, 0:05:18.839 --> 0:05:22.520 whatever church and religion you go to, is just having faith, 0:05:22.600 --> 0:05:29.560 being connected on a daily basis. Spirituality is important. Spirituality okay, 0:05:29.600 --> 0:05:31.880 So again this is stuff that we should try to 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:35.320 do every day. Okay, So we have the physical, emotional, 0:05:35.560 --> 0:05:37.480 and spiritual. I'm not saying to go to therapy every 0:05:37.520 --> 0:05:40.600 single day. What I'm saying is being connected with your emotions, 0:05:40.600 --> 0:05:43.839 like tapping in with yourself is what I mean. Tapping in, Hey, 0:05:43.839 --> 0:05:46.200 how do I feel today? I'm feeling this? Okay, cool, 0:05:46.720 --> 0:05:48.400 I'm gonna put this to the side. I'm gonna focus 0:05:48.440 --> 0:05:50.240 on this, but it's like tapping in with yourself and 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:53.479 then spirituality. I always say, start your day connecting to 0:05:53.520 --> 0:05:58.839 the higher power, having faith. Social that's another thing, having 0:05:58.880 --> 0:06:02.400 some type of social life. This is where the balance 0:06:02.440 --> 0:06:05.200 comes in, where it's yes, you gotta work hard, but 0:06:05.279 --> 0:06:08.800 also you have to balance your life with having being 0:06:08.839 --> 0:06:12.120 connected socially with either a friend or your family or whatever. 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:14.599 Having that part of your life like saying, Okay, I 0:06:14.680 --> 0:06:17.440 work Monday through Friday and then on the weekends, I'm 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:19.200 gonna spend time with my loved ones. I'm gonna go 0:06:19.240 --> 0:06:23.240 see my mom, I'm gonna go whatever. It's having that 0:06:23.400 --> 0:06:26.680 social aspect of your life, especially in a relationship you guys, 0:06:26.680 --> 0:06:29.320 because that was a huge one because I'm more social 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:31.440 than Emilio is. I'm more of like, oh, I have 0:06:31.480 --> 0:06:33.839 dinner with my friends. I plan that I thrive on 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:37.320 connecting with my friends, on having connections. That's where the 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:40.760 social part comes in. Emilio is not as social as 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:42.839 I am, and the therapist was saying, you know, you 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:44.840 really need to tap into your social like if she 0:06:44.880 --> 0:06:46.240 goes out with her friends, it's okay for you to 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:47.920 go out with your friends. That's all healthy, you know 0:06:47.960 --> 0:06:51.240 what I mean, Like being healthy and being our best 0:06:51.240 --> 0:06:53.520 selves individually so that we can come back to each 0:06:53.560 --> 0:07:03.240 other and appreciate each other even more. So then we 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:07.240 have intellectual reading a book, feeding your soul. I always 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:11.800 tell you guys, knowledge is power. Knowledge is power. That 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:15.520 can also mean taking courses on your craft, you know, 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:19.120 learning more about your craft or your job or whatever, 0:07:19.320 --> 0:07:21.640 or even something that you want to learn in the future, 0:07:21.640 --> 0:07:23.600 even if you have a job wherever. It may be 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:25.600 a nine to five, but at night you're like, Okay, 0:07:25.600 --> 0:07:27.480 I'm going to take a little online course or I'm 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:29.360 going to read a book on something I'm interested in. 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:31.640 I don't know, like it could be anything, you know 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:35.280 what I mean. It's really tapping into being intentional with 0:07:36.000 --> 0:07:39.080 you know, learning and growing and feeding your mind. You know. 0:07:39.200 --> 0:07:41.520 That's something that I will admit I used to do 0:07:41.560 --> 0:07:44.360 a lot more was reading books at night instead of 0:07:44.360 --> 0:07:47.600 watching TV. I would read a book and Emilia and 0:07:47.640 --> 0:07:50.760 I want to start that again. It's crazy because we're 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:53.680 doing couples therapy with my therapist that I see like 0:07:53.800 --> 0:07:57.160 on my own and then her husband. They have like 0:07:57.200 --> 0:07:59.679 this whole thing where they do couples therapy like restoring 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:03.400 relations and stuff, so it's premarital. I think it's super important, 0:08:03.400 --> 0:08:05.280 you guys know. I'm a huge advocate for that. So 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:07.280 it's crazy because I've learned so much with her as 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:10.680 an individual individually like therapy, and now I'm learning so 0:08:10.800 --> 0:08:13.000 much more now that it's like all of us in 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:14.800 one room. It's four of us, and we talk about 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:17.080 so many things and they share so many things. So 0:08:17.680 --> 0:08:20.160 I had forgotten that side of myself, Like I'll read 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:21.960 like when I'm on an airplane and stuff like that. 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:24.560 Like I love to read, but before I used to 0:08:24.640 --> 0:08:26.920 read so much more. Like when they say kids read 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:29.480 at least half an hour a day, like adults do 0:08:29.520 --> 0:08:31.600 it too. We need to not forget to read books, 0:08:31.640 --> 0:08:33.760 you guys, Like, it is so important to feed our 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:36.440 mind instead of just watching TV at night. The last 0:08:36.480 --> 0:08:39.480 thing we should do is read something and not just 0:08:39.480 --> 0:08:41.600 be on social media and look at all this other stuff. 0:08:41.640 --> 0:08:46.360 It's read and like, really try to feed your mind 0:08:46.520 --> 0:08:49.439 and your soul, you know. So those are the five right, 0:08:49.520 --> 0:08:54.120 It's physical, emotional, social, spiritual, and intellectual. And I like 0:08:54.160 --> 0:08:57.120 to add rest. That's something that I learned in twenty eighteen. 0:08:57.200 --> 0:09:02.080 The importance of rest. Yes, you can work hard, but 0:09:02.200 --> 0:09:05.920 you should also rest. Know what that is. I come 0:09:05.960 --> 0:09:10.560 from a background with my family that it's the harder 0:09:10.600 --> 0:09:14.439 you work, the more valuable you are, the cooler you are. 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:16.760 It's you gotta work, work, work, work, work, like to 0:09:16.840 --> 0:09:20.880 the bone, and f vacations and f this and f that. 0:09:21.080 --> 0:09:23.240 Like I don't know. With me, I feel like it changed. 0:09:23.280 --> 0:09:24.599 Even my mom was like that. My mom was like, 0:09:24.640 --> 0:09:26.439 I'm gonna wake up at five. She wouldn't really rest. 0:09:26.640 --> 0:09:29.120 She would work till really late, and then again same thing. 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:31.000 And we would go on vacations and she didn't know 0:09:31.040 --> 0:09:34.160 how to just turn off. And sometimes I find myself 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:36.200 doing that. And the one that brings me back is 0:09:36.200 --> 0:09:38.080 in medio is like, hey, like put your phone down 0:09:38.120 --> 0:09:39.880 for a second, like be present. And I'm like, oh shit, 0:09:39.920 --> 0:09:43.880 you're right because I'm a hippie. You know, Jane's a hippie. 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:46.120 You guys. When it comes to Cheeky, Cheeky's is more 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:48.120 of like work work, like I gotta do videos, I 0:09:48.160 --> 0:09:50.840 gotta do this. But like sometimes I feel like Cheeky's 0:09:50.960 --> 0:09:53.840 will get into Janey's mind. You know, I know this 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:56.120 sounds weird, but it's the truth. I have to remind 0:09:56.120 --> 0:09:57.960 myself and bring myself back. So I'm really grateful that 0:09:57.960 --> 0:10:00.280 a media reminds me of that. And I I want 0:10:00.280 --> 0:10:02.040 to remind you guys and let you guys know that 0:10:02.120 --> 0:10:05.200 it is okay to just rest, even if you don't 0:10:05.200 --> 0:10:07.360 go on a vacation. For you just to say I'm 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:10.480 not doing anything but going to church on Sunday and 0:10:10.640 --> 0:10:14.480 relaxing at home and just taking time to recharge my batteries. 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:16.880 That is also a part of my job now. It 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:19.000 is an essential part of my job. For me. It's 0:10:19.040 --> 0:10:21.080 like now I'm starting to unwind. It's the end of 0:10:21.080 --> 0:10:22.920 the year, Like I want to unwind. I want to 0:10:23.320 --> 0:10:26.040 work less, but the days that I work make them 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:28.840 count because I want to prepare myself for the new 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:31.719 year that's coming. So a lot of people don't understand that. 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:33.120 It's kind of like, well, you got to work, work, work. 0:10:33.160 --> 0:10:35.040 It's like, yes, like don't lose a momentum. Yes, I 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:36.760 don't want to lose a momentum. But I also in 0:10:36.880 --> 0:10:40.320 order to have momentum in order for me to be 0:10:40.400 --> 0:10:43.320 my best self, I need to slow my freaking breaks. 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:45.800 You know, I need to wait, pop my breaks, let 0:10:45.840 --> 0:10:49.120 me enjoy the moment, let me enjoy my home, Let 0:10:49.120 --> 0:10:52.480 me get myself aligned again in order to give you 0:10:52.720 --> 0:10:56.320 my best. So some people don't understand that. People that 0:10:56.360 --> 0:10:58.959 I work with and I think slowly, I always tell 0:10:59.000 --> 0:11:01.040 them like, hey, you need to rest, like turn off 0:11:01.040 --> 0:11:03.319 your phone. Don't answer me like it's okay, Like take 0:11:03.360 --> 0:11:06.760 a weekend, go hang out with your family, because that 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:10.880 is so important, you guys. So I've learned that yes, 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:14.520 it's good to work hard and to be a hustler, absolutely, 0:11:14.679 --> 0:11:18.720 but also to enjoy your life and what you work 0:11:18.800 --> 0:11:21.320 so hard for. So now my motto is I want 0:11:21.360 --> 0:11:25.240 to work smarter, not harder. And I grew up learning 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:27.880 work as hard as you can to the bone because 0:11:27.920 --> 0:11:31.200 that is what people respect. And yes, I respect that, 0:11:31.600 --> 0:11:35.920 but I also don't want to miss everything else, like 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:38.440 my family. And like when they say stop and smell 0:11:38.440 --> 0:11:41.040 the roses, you guys, really like it's like, wait, take 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:43.040 a moment. You're busy, busy, busy on your phone, working 0:11:43.080 --> 0:11:45.920 work and working, but wait, stop, put your phone down 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:48.840 and look at the sky and literally smell the roses. 0:11:48.880 --> 0:11:52.600 Stop and just admire what's around you. It's all about balance. 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:55.120 And that's what this episode is all about. It's finding 0:11:55.120 --> 0:11:57.400 the balance in your life and doing a little bit 0:11:57.400 --> 0:11:59.160 of this, a little bit of that in order for 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:02.040 you to feel that's how you're going to feel whole. 0:12:02.280 --> 0:12:03.760 Then it's going to take time, you guys. It's not 0:12:03.800 --> 0:12:05.560 something that's going to happen from one day to another. 0:12:05.640 --> 0:12:08.720 It takes practice, it takes you. Being intentional. That's another 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:11.120 word that I love on the podcast. It's being intentional 0:12:11.600 --> 0:12:14.839 doing things with intent for you. It's like not just 0:12:15.120 --> 0:12:18.120 by accident or by chance. No, it's I choose to 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:20.520 do this. I choose to want to do this, you 0:12:20.520 --> 0:12:29.640 know what I mean. It's choosing. It's being intentional. Going 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:31.720 back to the pie of life that I like to 0:12:31.760 --> 0:12:35.080 call it, Emilia and I. He has one and I 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:37.520 have one. It's the same one, but they gave us 0:12:37.600 --> 0:12:42.360 one each. And I think it's super important. Even if 0:12:42.360 --> 0:12:44.840 you don't have someone in your life right now, I 0:12:44.880 --> 0:12:47.640 think it's good to get yourself ready for that person, 0:12:47.720 --> 0:12:50.320 for you to become the person that you want to attract. 0:12:50.360 --> 0:12:52.360 And this is a huge part of it. It's having 0:12:52.800 --> 0:12:55.760 all these pieces that are essential in order for you 0:12:55.840 --> 0:12:59.960 to have the best future. By yourself and with someone else. 0:13:00.520 --> 0:13:02.720 Not feeling like you need someone else to come and 0:13:02.760 --> 0:13:06.480 complete this pie. You complete it yourself, and then that 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:09.560 person that comes into your life is just what my 0:13:09.640 --> 0:13:11.720 mom used to call it dessert, you know what I mean, 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:13.720 Like you have your full course meal, which is what 0:13:13.840 --> 0:13:15.920 all these things that I just mentioned, and the person 0:13:15.960 --> 0:13:19.320 that comes into your life is hopefully also whole in 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:21.400 these things, which is why it's important for Amilia and 0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:24.000 I to really just be as healthy as we possibly 0:13:24.040 --> 0:13:27.600 can individually by ourselves, so that that way we can 0:13:27.640 --> 0:13:31.080 be our best selves together for each other. And I 0:13:31.120 --> 0:13:33.800 think that if you can do this, a little bit 0:13:33.800 --> 0:13:37.200 of it every day would be great, if not throughout 0:13:37.200 --> 0:13:40.960 the week. There's seven days in a week, so it's 0:13:41.080 --> 0:13:44.760 just really figuring out what works best for you and 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:47.280 trying to do a little bit of it every day, 0:13:47.360 --> 0:13:49.920 if not throughout the seven days of the week that 0:13:49.960 --> 0:13:52.280 makes sense, and making the seventh day your rest day, 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:54.080 you know what I mean, where it's like I'm gonna rest, 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:56.600 I'm gonna detox whatever however it looks. It's not right 0:13:56.679 --> 0:13:59.440 or wrong. It's whatever works best for your lifestyle, for 0:13:59.520 --> 0:14:02.480 your job, but always keeping in mind, Okay, I'm feeling 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:04.800 a little and easy. I'm feeling I have a little anxiety, 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:06.760 maybe jumping on the treadmill. You haven't done that for 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:09.040 a few days, Try doing that. Like that happened to me, 0:14:09.080 --> 0:14:11.400 you guys, Like I was so busy, I've been so 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:14.720 busy for the past like two months, that I felt 0:14:14.720 --> 0:14:17.760 like I was becoming a little lazy with my meditation, 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:20.640 you know, not waking up early enough to really do 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:23.280 my meditation the way I like. And it was I 0:14:23.320 --> 0:14:26.520 felt very imbalanced, and I started feeling very irritable, like 0:14:26.720 --> 0:14:29.880 very overwhelmed. And when I have my shit together, when 0:14:29.920 --> 0:14:31.760 I'm doing all these things that I just mentioned as 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:34.960 often as I possibly can, I feel aligned. I feel 0:14:35.000 --> 0:14:37.720 like I am connected to the earth and to the sky, 0:14:38.440 --> 0:14:40.920 to the heavens, you know. And that's what it's about. 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:45.600 It's like really being grounded and grounding yourself and praying 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:48.880 and being spiritually connected, and you just feel better in 0:14:49.040 --> 0:14:51.800 every single way. And when I do this and I 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:55.440 follow this the aspects of being human, I feel balanced, 0:14:55.440 --> 0:14:59.920 and I feel happier, and I feel more joyful, more hopeful. 0:15:01.160 --> 0:15:03.600 And I'm telling you and I'm sharing this because it's 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:06.000 also something that I want to this episode, I want 0:15:06.040 --> 0:15:09.440 to also listen back to and remind myself. And hopefully 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:12.040 while I'm reminding myself, I'm helping some of you guys 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:16.320 as well. So if you are feeling antsy, irritable, overwhelmed, stressed, depressed, 0:15:16.880 --> 0:15:19.360 really try to implement these things that I just told you, 0:15:19.560 --> 0:15:25.280 which is physical, emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual and adding 0:15:25.600 --> 0:15:29.640 rest the social part. I think it's also some people 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:33.000 are very introverted and they don't really want to go 0:15:33.200 --> 0:15:36.120 out or really don't feel comfortable. It gives them anxiety. 0:15:36.160 --> 0:15:38.520 But it's just really stepping out of your comfort zone 0:15:38.520 --> 0:15:40.600 and saying, you know what, I'm going to try something different. 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:43.240 Maybe it don't make me feel good, little by little, 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:45.240 taking baby steps. It doesn't have to be something like, 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:46.720 oh I'm going to go to a freaking concert and 0:15:46.760 --> 0:15:48.120 I'm going to be around so many people. It's like 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:51.320 little by little, like start off with a cousin, going 0:15:51.320 --> 0:15:54.280 out and having a coffee and just having that connection 0:15:54.440 --> 0:15:57.160 with someone else, you know, and I'm going to find 0:15:57.200 --> 0:15:58.480 a way. I'm going to say if I can post 0:15:58.520 --> 0:16:01.160 it on socials, you guys, you guys could see the 0:16:01.200 --> 0:16:04.320 pie of life, so that you guys can print it out. 0:16:04.320 --> 0:16:05.680 You can find a way for you guys to print 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:09.440 it out. I have this cabinet that I open every 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:11.800 day and that's where I have all my spiritual stuff 0:16:11.840 --> 0:16:14.240 and my books and everything that I do, like my 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:18.200 morning meditation, morning routine thing, and I have it there. 0:16:18.320 --> 0:16:19.960 I like to keep it there so that it reminds 0:16:20.000 --> 0:16:21.200 me every day. I think it's a good thing for 0:16:21.240 --> 0:16:23.960 you to place it somewhere where you could see it. 0:16:24.000 --> 0:16:27.120 Maybe in your closet when you're getting dressed, on your mirror, 0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:29.560 when you're doing with brushing your teeth. In a little 0:16:29.560 --> 0:16:31.720 place you know, you can have your spiritual sanctuary, you 0:16:31.760 --> 0:16:33.720 can have it there. Anything that'd be like, okay, cool, 0:16:33.760 --> 0:16:36.120 what am I missing? I haven't really like tapped into 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:38.280 my spirituality. Maybe I'm gonna go to church this Sunday 0:16:38.560 --> 0:16:40.440 or you know what, I'm feeling a little like sad. 0:16:40.440 --> 0:16:42.160 I'm gonna call my sister. Hey, sister, I just need 0:16:42.240 --> 0:16:44.480 to talk. Let me just express myself. If you don't 0:16:44.480 --> 0:16:47.080 have a therapist, physical man, I haven't worked out in 0:16:47.120 --> 0:16:48.480 a few days. You know what, I'm gonna jump on 0:16:48.520 --> 0:16:50.720 the damn treadmill. I'm going to do twenty minutes. Little 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:52.760 by little, you know, oh you know, I haven't read 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:54.000 a book. I haven't picked up a book in a 0:16:54.040 --> 0:16:56.080 long time. You know what, let me join a book club. 0:16:56.200 --> 0:16:59.240 I don't know, you know, like start like little by little. 0:16:59.760 --> 0:17:02.320 Just it'll help. It'll remind you. And if you're feeling 0:17:02.400 --> 0:17:05.199 like overactive, then you need a rest. Then you need 0:17:05.240 --> 0:17:06.800 to be like, you know what, I need to just 0:17:06.960 --> 0:17:10.920 close out the world. Just stay home, listen to Chiggy's 0:17:10.920 --> 0:17:14.080 and chill, or watch a Netflix and chill where you 0:17:14.119 --> 0:17:17.040 could just relax and be It's very important. Get in 0:17:17.040 --> 0:17:18.639 the bathtub. I always tell you guys, that's such an 0:17:18.680 --> 0:17:19.959 I need to actually do that. I need to get 0:17:19.960 --> 0:17:21.920 in the bathtub. I haven't used my bathtub in a minute. 0:17:22.080 --> 0:17:24.720 So yes, like you know, keep it somewhere where you 0:17:24.760 --> 0:17:27.119 can see it, and it's a reminder for you. And 0:17:27.200 --> 0:17:30.040 again I fall off the wagon as well. I get 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:33.040 off track as well. It's okay, be patient and be 0:17:33.080 --> 0:17:36.880 compassionate with yourself because life happens. There's so much going on. 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:39.399 We are being pulled in so many different directions, and 0:17:39.440 --> 0:17:42.080 it is okay. It's always coming back and tapping into 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:45.080 yourself and aligning yourself and telling yourself, you know what, wait, 0:17:45.359 --> 0:17:47.359 let me take a deep breath, let me center myself, 0:17:47.440 --> 0:17:49.280 let me do these things that make me feel good, 0:17:49.960 --> 0:17:51.480 and also make a list of things that make you 0:17:51.480 --> 0:17:53.720 feel good, What makes you feel good, what makes your 0:17:53.920 --> 0:17:57.359 soul excited to live? Write those things down and when 0:17:57.400 --> 0:18:00.560 you're feeling all these things that we feel that I 0:18:00.600 --> 0:18:03.159 feel as well, say, you know what, what makes me 0:18:03.200 --> 0:18:07.159 feel good is going to my grandma's house. I don't know, 0:18:07.200 --> 0:18:10.400 it could be anything. For me. I like spending time 0:18:10.440 --> 0:18:12.719 with my nieces and nephews. I'll be like, you know what, 0:18:12.760 --> 0:18:14.520 I need a little bit of that. This month, I'm 0:18:14.560 --> 0:18:17.000 going to do my best to go and spend some time, 0:18:17.040 --> 0:18:19.480 some quality time with my nieces and nephews because that 0:18:19.560 --> 0:18:23.320 makes me so happy. So it's different for all of us. Anyways, 0:18:23.480 --> 0:18:26.080 I want to make the short and sweet and hopefully 0:18:26.240 --> 0:18:29.359 this episode can help you guys. It's something that means 0:18:29.400 --> 0:18:32.320 a lot to me because I feel that we all 0:18:32.359 --> 0:18:35.639 have the tools within ourselves to be happy and have 0:18:35.680 --> 0:18:39.680 a happy life, even if we don't necessarily have everything 0:18:39.840 --> 0:18:43.119 we think we need to have materialistically to be happy. 0:18:43.480 --> 0:18:46.879 Because some people feel if I don't have a big 0:18:46.920 --> 0:18:49.960 house or an extravagant car, or this close and that clothes, 0:18:49.960 --> 0:18:52.639 all these material things, I will never be happy. But 0:18:52.680 --> 0:18:56.400 that is so false, you guys. All that stuff is materialistic, 0:18:56.480 --> 0:19:01.439 it's exterior. It's when you are balanced within yourself and 0:19:01.480 --> 0:19:05.919 you're happy within yourself that you find this joy that 0:19:05.960 --> 0:19:08.240 I can't even explain, where all those things don't even 0:19:08.280 --> 0:19:11.400 matter anymore. You start seeing life in a different way 0:19:11.440 --> 0:19:14.560 where you just feel like you feel whole. And in 0:19:14.680 --> 0:19:17.760 order to feel whole, I truly believe and I feel 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:19.720 and I have practice. And this is just my opinion 0:19:19.720 --> 0:19:22.680 and my advice that these things, all these things that 0:19:22.720 --> 0:19:25.800 I mentioned in this episode have helped me become a 0:19:25.840 --> 0:19:31.399 successful person, is really finding that balance. So anyways, that 0:19:31.520 --> 0:19:33.399 is it. And I do want to leave you guys 0:19:33.600 --> 0:19:37.399 with a motivational quote. Although this entire episode was to 0:19:37.440 --> 0:19:45.600 motivate you. I hope here it is. Balance is not 0:19:45.680 --> 0:19:50.280 something you find. It is something you create. Ooh, bring 0:19:50.320 --> 0:19:53.320 it back. Balance is not something you find, it is 0:19:53.359 --> 0:19:57.840 something you create. We are creating ourselves every single day. 0:19:58.119 --> 0:20:03.280 We have to be intentional, have to want to be different, 0:20:03.359 --> 0:20:06.200 We have to choose every day to do something different 0:20:06.240 --> 0:20:08.800 in order to see a difference, to feel a difference. 0:20:09.240 --> 0:20:13.719 It's tapping in to your inner authentic self and centering yourself. 0:20:13.840 --> 0:20:16.639 So thank you for listening. I hope that I was 0:20:16.680 --> 0:20:19.919