Speaker 1: I like to call it the Pie of life. I
Speaker 1: just started couple's therapy and it's helped me a lot,
Speaker 1: because this is what helps us as individuals become our
Speaker 1: best selves. Those are the five physical, emotional, social, spiritual,
Speaker 1: and intellectual. And I like to add rest. That's something
Speaker 1: that I learned in twenty eighteen, the importance of rest.
Speaker 1: Even if you don't have someone in your life right now,
Speaker 1: I think it's good to get yourself ready for that person,
Speaker 1: for you to become the person that you want to attract.
Speaker 1: What up, guys, Happy Monday to everyone listening to the
Speaker 1: podcast on a Monday. I hope you all had a
Speaker 1: really safe and fun Halloween. I definitely did. I had
Speaker 1: a great time, and I'm looking forward to the next
Speaker 1: big holiday, Thanksgiving, my favorite holiday. So I'm so excited
Speaker 1: to spend some quality time with the people who matter
Speaker 1: the most to me. Anyway, on today's episode, we're going
Speaker 1: to be talking about something I learned about in therapy.
Speaker 1: It's called the Pie of a life. That's what I
Speaker 1: call it. It's really the aspects of being human. I
Speaker 1: thought it'd be really interesting and it's helped me a lot,
Speaker 1: so I wanted to share it with you, guys, So
Speaker 1: let's get into it. This is Cheeky's and chill, Okay,
Speaker 1: So I like to call it the Pie of Life,
Speaker 1: but it is really aspects of being human. They gave
Speaker 1: me this chart or this It literally looks like a
Speaker 1: pie and it's sliced in five pieces and I'll explain
Speaker 1: to you what each section is. I just started a
Speaker 1: couple's therapy with a medium and it's really helped me.
Speaker 1: It's helped me a lot because this is what helps
Speaker 1: us as individuals become our best selves. And it's crazy
Speaker 1: because before knowing about this Pie of life or this
Speaker 1: aspects of being human, I was already doing it. So
Speaker 1: it's just confirmation to me that I am very intuitive.
Speaker 1: I am a person that listens to her body and
Speaker 1: I know what's going on and I know what makes
Speaker 1: me feel good. So it made me very very happy
Speaker 1: to know that this exists out there, that there is
Speaker 1: a chart for it, and so I wanted to share
Speaker 1: it with you guys, because I think it's super important.
Speaker 1: I'm going to make this episode as short and sweet
Speaker 1: as possible because I just want to give you the
Speaker 1: information and for you to go out in the world
Speaker 1: and try your best to use it on a daily
Speaker 1: basis so that you can find balance in your life.
Speaker 1: That's what it's all about, finding balance. I always talk
Speaker 1: about balance because it is so important. So with that
Speaker 1: being said, so the aspects of being human and this
Speaker 1: pie of life that I like to call it, it's
Speaker 1: the physical part, emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual. I would
Speaker 1: like to recreate the pie of life the aspects of
Speaker 1: being human in six parts. I feel like rest is
Speaker 1: a very important and essential part of living and becoming
Speaker 1: a successful best version of yourself. Rest. So in my
Speaker 1: pie of life and the one I just invented right now,
Speaker 1: it has all these things I just mentioned, but also
Speaker 1: it has rest. So I wish I could show you
Speaker 1: guys what it looks like. But basically the physical aspect,
Speaker 1: for instance, I always tell you guys, this working out
Speaker 1: sweating on a daily basis is very very important. This
Speaker 1: is stuff that you guys are going to do as
Speaker 1: an individual. So what my therapist said was, I need
Speaker 1: you guys to work and to strengthen yourself as an
Speaker 1: individual so that you guys can come together in Medio
Speaker 1: and I and have a good partnership. It's all about
Speaker 1: strengthening yourself as an individual. So this is for you
Speaker 1: as a person, okay, and then you put it into
Speaker 1: your relationship and so on and so forth. So physical aspect.
Speaker 1: The physical aspect is working out, is sweating, is taking
Speaker 1: the time to exercise your body, to move your body
Speaker 1: as much as possible. I try to do three to
Speaker 1: five times a week. Sometimes I don't even do one
Speaker 1: because I'm so busy or I'm just so exhausted. But
Speaker 1: I then feel the difference when I don't work out,
Speaker 1: because yes, I want to look better, I want to
Speaker 1: lose weight, but also it makes me feel better mentally physically, emotionally,
Speaker 1: you're releasing endorphins, You're releasing toxins when you sweat. So
Speaker 1: physical activity is very important, at least twenty minutes a day,
Speaker 1: twenty to thirty forty five minutes. It's important and essential
Speaker 1: for the balance, emotional balance more than anything. Then you
Speaker 1: have the emotional aspect. What is that that is I
Speaker 1: would say going to therapy, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Doing something that is connecting you to your emotions, not
Speaker 1: ignoring your emotions. A lot of people want to go
Speaker 1: through life and ignore I'm feeling this, I'm feeling that
Speaker 1: I'm sad. Some people don't even want to say the
Speaker 1: word depressed or anxiety because that's a sign of quote
Speaker 1: unquote weakness. But that's not the truth. That is absolutely false.
Speaker 1: If you can't afford therapy, then it's reading a book,
Speaker 1: it's being connected in some way with your emotions, expressing
Speaker 1: to a friend, you know what I mean, Like releasing yourself,
Speaker 1: releasing these emotions and not holding them inside. That's a
Speaker 1: huge part of your mental health and your emotional health
Speaker 1: by releasing and expressing your emotions. Okay. Spirituality it's another one. Praying, meditating,
Speaker 1: whatever that means to you. Going to church, Catholic, Christian,
Speaker 1: whatever church and religion you go to, is just having faith,
Speaker 1: being connected on a daily basis. Spirituality is important. Spirituality okay,
Speaker 1: So again this is stuff that we should try to
Speaker 1: do every day. Okay, So we have the physical, emotional,
Speaker 1: and spiritual. I'm not saying to go to therapy every
Speaker 1: single day. What I'm saying is being connected with your emotions,
Speaker 1: like tapping in with yourself is what I mean. Tapping in, Hey,
Speaker 1: how do I feel today? I'm feeling this? Okay, cool,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put this to the side. I'm gonna focus
Speaker 1: on this, but it's like tapping in with yourself and
Speaker 1: then spirituality. I always say, start your day connecting to
Speaker 1: the higher power, having faith. Social that's another thing, having
Speaker 1: some type of social life. This is where the balance
Speaker 1: comes in, where it's yes, you gotta work hard, but
Speaker 1: also you have to balance your life with having being
Speaker 1: connected socially with either a friend or your family or whatever.
Speaker 1: Having that part of your life like saying, Okay, I
Speaker 1: work Monday through Friday and then on the weekends, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna spend time with my loved ones. I'm gonna go
Speaker 1: see my mom, I'm gonna go whatever. It's having that
Speaker 1: social aspect of your life, especially in a relationship you guys,
Speaker 1: because that was a huge one because I'm more social
Speaker 1: than Emilio is. I'm more of like, oh, I have
Speaker 1: dinner with my friends. I plan that I thrive on
Speaker 1: connecting with my friends, on having connections. That's where the
Speaker 1: social part comes in. Emilio is not as social as
Speaker 1: I am, and the therapist was saying, you know, you
Speaker 1: really need to tap into your social like if she
Speaker 1: goes out with her friends, it's okay for you to
Speaker 1: go out with your friends. That's all healthy, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like being healthy and being our best
Speaker 1: selves individually so that we can come back to each
Speaker 1: other and appreciate each other even more. So then we
Speaker 1: have intellectual reading a book, feeding your soul. I always
Speaker 1: tell you guys, knowledge is power. Knowledge is power. That
Speaker 1: can also mean taking courses on your craft, you know,
Speaker 1: learning more about your craft or your job or whatever,
Speaker 1: or even something that you want to learn in the future,
Speaker 1: even if you have a job wherever. It may be
Speaker 1: a nine to five, but at night you're like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm going to take a little online course or I'm
Speaker 1: going to read a book on something I'm interested in.
Speaker 1: I don't know, like it could be anything, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. It's really tapping into being intentional with
Speaker 1: you know, learning and growing and feeding your mind. You know.
Speaker 1: That's something that I will admit I used to do
Speaker 1: a lot more was reading books at night instead of
Speaker 1: watching TV. I would read a book and Emilia and
Speaker 1: I want to start that again. It's crazy because we're
Speaker 1: doing couples therapy with my therapist that I see like
Speaker 1: on my own and then her husband. They have like
Speaker 1: this whole thing where they do couples therapy like restoring
Speaker 1: relations and stuff, so it's premarital. I think it's super important,
Speaker 1: you guys know. I'm a huge advocate for that. So
Speaker 1: it's crazy because I've learned so much with her as
Speaker 1: an individual individually like therapy, and now I'm learning so
Speaker 1: much more now that it's like all of us in
Speaker 1: one room. It's four of us, and we talk about
Speaker 1: so many things and they share so many things. So
Speaker 1: I had forgotten that side of myself, Like I'll read
Speaker 1: like when I'm on an airplane and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: Like I love to read, but before I used to
Speaker 1: read so much more. Like when they say kids read
Speaker 1: at least half an hour a day, like adults do
Speaker 1: it too. We need to not forget to read books,
Speaker 1: you guys, Like, it is so important to feed our
Speaker 1: mind instead of just watching TV at night. The last
Speaker 1: thing we should do is read something and not just
Speaker 1: be on social media and look at all this other stuff.
Speaker 1: It's read and like, really try to feed your mind
Speaker 1: and your soul, you know. So those are the five right,
Speaker 1: It's physical, emotional, social, spiritual, and intellectual. And I like
Speaker 1: to add rest. That's something that I learned in twenty eighteen.
Speaker 1: The importance of rest. Yes, you can work hard, but
Speaker 1: you should also rest. Know what that is. I come
Speaker 1: from a background with my family that it's the harder
Speaker 1: you work, the more valuable you are, the cooler you are.
Speaker 1: It's you gotta work, work, work, work, work, like to
Speaker 1: the bone, and f vacations and f this and f that.
Speaker 1: Like I don't know. With me, I feel like it changed.
Speaker 1: Even my mom was like that. My mom was like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna wake up at five. She wouldn't really rest.
Speaker 1: She would work till really late, and then again same thing.
Speaker 1: And we would go on vacations and she didn't know
Speaker 1: how to just turn off. And sometimes I find myself
Speaker 1: doing that. And the one that brings me back is
Speaker 1: in medio is like, hey, like put your phone down
Speaker 1: for a second, like be present. And I'm like, oh shit,
Speaker 1: you're right because I'm a hippie. You know, Jane's a hippie.
Speaker 1: You guys. When it comes to Cheeky, Cheeky's is more
Speaker 1: of like work work, like I gotta do videos, I
Speaker 1: gotta do this. But like sometimes I feel like Cheeky's
Speaker 1: will get into Janey's mind. You know, I know this
Speaker 1: sounds weird, but it's the truth. I have to remind
Speaker 1: myself and bring myself back. So I'm really grateful that
Speaker 1: a media reminds me of that. And I I want
Speaker 1: to remind you guys and let you guys know that
Speaker 1: it is okay to just rest, even if you don't
Speaker 1: go on a vacation. For you just to say I'm
Speaker 1: not doing anything but going to church on Sunday and
Speaker 1: relaxing at home and just taking time to recharge my batteries.
Speaker 1: That is also a part of my job now. It
Speaker 1: is an essential part of my job. For me. It's
Speaker 1: like now I'm starting to unwind. It's the end of
Speaker 1: the year, Like I want to unwind. I want to
Speaker 1: work less, but the days that I work make them
Speaker 1: count because I want to prepare myself for the new
Speaker 1: year that's coming. So a lot of people don't understand that.
Speaker 1: It's kind of like, well, you got to work, work, work.
Speaker 1: It's like, yes, like don't lose a momentum. Yes, I
Speaker 1: don't want to lose a momentum. But I also in
Speaker 1: order to have momentum in order for me to be
Speaker 1: my best self, I need to slow my freaking breaks.
Speaker 1: You know, I need to wait, pop my breaks, let
Speaker 1: me enjoy the moment, let me enjoy my home, Let
Speaker 1: me get myself aligned again in order to give you
Speaker 1: my best. So some people don't understand that. People that
Speaker 1: I work with and I think slowly, I always tell
Speaker 1: them like, hey, you need to rest, like turn off
Speaker 1: your phone. Don't answer me like it's okay, Like take
Speaker 1: a weekend, go hang out with your family, because that
Speaker 1: is so important, you guys. So I've learned that yes,
Speaker 1: it's good to work hard and to be a hustler, absolutely,
Speaker 1: but also to enjoy your life and what you work
Speaker 1: so hard for. So now my motto is I want
Speaker 1: to work smarter, not harder. And I grew up learning
Speaker 1: work as hard as you can to the bone because
Speaker 1: that is what people respect. And yes, I respect that,
Speaker 1: but I also don't want to miss everything else, like
Speaker 1: my family. And like when they say stop and smell
Speaker 1: the roses, you guys, really like it's like, wait, take
Speaker 1: a moment. You're busy, busy, busy on your phone, working
Speaker 1: work and working, but wait, stop, put your phone down
Speaker 1: and look at the sky and literally smell the roses.
Speaker 1: Stop and just admire what's around you. It's all about balance.
Speaker 1: And that's what this episode is all about. It's finding
Speaker 1: the balance in your life and doing a little bit
Speaker 1: of this, a little bit of that in order for
Speaker 1: you to feel that's how you're going to feel whole.
Speaker 1: Then it's going to take time, you guys. It's not
Speaker 1: something that's going to happen from one day to another.
Speaker 1: It takes practice, it takes you. Being intentional. That's another
Speaker 1: word that I love on the podcast. It's being intentional
Speaker 1: doing things with intent for you. It's like not just
Speaker 1: by accident or by chance. No, it's I choose to
Speaker 1: do this. I choose to want to do this, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. It's choosing. It's being intentional. Going
Speaker 1: back to the pie of life that I like to
Speaker 1: call it, Emilia and I. He has one and I
Speaker 1: have one. It's the same one, but they gave us
Speaker 1: one each. And I think it's super important. Even if
Speaker 1: you don't have someone in your life right now, I
Speaker 1: think it's good to get yourself ready for that person,
Speaker 1: for you to become the person that you want to attract.
Speaker 1: And this is a huge part of it. It's having
Speaker 1: all these pieces that are essential in order for you
Speaker 1: to have the best future. By yourself and with someone else.
Speaker 1: Not feeling like you need someone else to come and
Speaker 1: complete this pie. You complete it yourself, and then that
Speaker 1: person that comes into your life is just what my
Speaker 1: mom used to call it dessert, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like you have your full course meal, which is what
Speaker 1: all these things that I just mentioned, and the person
Speaker 1: that comes into your life is hopefully also whole in
Speaker 1: these things, which is why it's important for Amilia and
Speaker 1: I to really just be as healthy as we possibly
Speaker 1: can individually by ourselves, so that that way we can
Speaker 1: be our best selves together for each other. And I
Speaker 1: think that if you can do this, a little bit
Speaker 1: of it every day would be great, if not throughout
Speaker 1: the week. There's seven days in a week, so it's
Speaker 1: just really figuring out what works best for you and
Speaker 1: trying to do a little bit of it every day,
Speaker 1: if not throughout the seven days of the week that
Speaker 1: makes sense, and making the seventh day your rest day,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, where it's like I'm gonna rest,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna detox whatever however it looks. It's not right
Speaker 1: or wrong. It's whatever works best for your lifestyle, for
Speaker 1: your job, but always keeping in mind, Okay, I'm feeling
Speaker 1: a little and easy. I'm feeling I have a little anxiety,
Speaker 1: maybe jumping on the treadmill. You haven't done that for
Speaker 1: a few days, Try doing that. Like that happened to me,
Speaker 1: you guys, Like I was so busy, I've been so
Speaker 1: busy for the past like two months, that I felt
Speaker 1: like I was becoming a little lazy with my meditation,
Speaker 1: you know, not waking up early enough to really do
Speaker 1: my meditation the way I like. And it was I
Speaker 1: felt very imbalanced, and I started feeling very irritable, like
Speaker 1: very overwhelmed. And when I have my shit together, when
Speaker 1: I'm doing all these things that I just mentioned as
Speaker 1: often as I possibly can, I feel aligned. I feel
Speaker 1: like I am connected to the earth and to the sky,
Speaker 1: to the heavens, you know. And that's what it's about.
Speaker 1: It's like really being grounded and grounding yourself and praying
Speaker 1: and being spiritually connected, and you just feel better in
Speaker 1: every single way. And when I do this and I
Speaker 1: follow this the aspects of being human, I feel balanced,
Speaker 1: and I feel happier, and I feel more joyful, more hopeful.
Speaker 1: And I'm telling you and I'm sharing this because it's
Speaker 1: also something that I want to this episode, I want
Speaker 1: to also listen back to and remind myself. And hopefully
Speaker 1: while I'm reminding myself, I'm helping some of you guys
Speaker 1: as well. So if you are feeling antsy, irritable, overwhelmed, stressed, depressed,
Speaker 1: really try to implement these things that I just told you,
Speaker 1: which is physical, emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual and adding
Speaker 1: rest the social part. I think it's also some people
Speaker 1: are very introverted and they don't really want to go
Speaker 1: out or really don't feel comfortable. It gives them anxiety.
Speaker 1: But it's just really stepping out of your comfort zone
Speaker 1: and saying, you know what, I'm going to try something different.
Speaker 1: Maybe it don't make me feel good, little by little,
Speaker 1: taking baby steps. It doesn't have to be something like,
Speaker 1: oh I'm going to go to a freaking concert and
Speaker 1: I'm going to be around so many people. It's like
Speaker 1: little by little, like start off with a cousin, going
Speaker 1: out and having a coffee and just having that connection
Speaker 1: with someone else, you know, and I'm going to find
Speaker 1: a way. I'm going to say if I can post
Speaker 1: it on socials, you guys, you guys could see the
Speaker 1: pie of life, so that you guys can print it out.
Speaker 1: You can find a way for you guys to print
Speaker 1: it out. I have this cabinet that I open every
Speaker 1: day and that's where I have all my spiritual stuff
Speaker 1: and my books and everything that I do, like my
Speaker 1: morning meditation, morning routine thing, and I have it there.
Speaker 1: I like to keep it there so that it reminds
Speaker 1: me every day. I think it's a good thing for
Speaker 1: you to place it somewhere where you could see it.
Speaker 1: Maybe in your closet when you're getting dressed, on your mirror,
Speaker 1: when you're doing with brushing your teeth. In a little
Speaker 1: place you know, you can have your spiritual sanctuary, you
Speaker 1: can have it there. Anything that'd be like, okay, cool,
Speaker 1: what am I missing? I haven't really like tapped into
Speaker 1: my spirituality. Maybe I'm gonna go to church this Sunday
Speaker 1: or you know what, I'm feeling a little like sad.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna call my sister. Hey, sister, I just need
Speaker 1: to talk. Let me just express myself. If you don't
Speaker 1: have a therapist, physical man, I haven't worked out in
Speaker 1: a few days. You know what, I'm gonna jump on
Speaker 1: the damn treadmill. I'm going to do twenty minutes. Little
Speaker 1: by little, you know, oh you know, I haven't read
Speaker 1: a book. I haven't picked up a book in a
Speaker 1: long time. You know what, let me join a book club.
Speaker 1: I don't know, you know, like start like little by little.
Speaker 1: Just it'll help. It'll remind you. And if you're feeling
Speaker 1: like overactive, then you need a rest. Then you need
Speaker 1: to be like, you know what, I need to just
Speaker 1: close out the world. Just stay home, listen to Chiggy's
Speaker 1: and chill, or watch a Netflix and chill where you
Speaker 1: could just relax and be It's very important. Get in
Speaker 1: the bathtub. I always tell you guys, that's such an
Speaker 1: I need to actually do that. I need to get
Speaker 1: in the bathtub. I haven't used my bathtub in a minute.
Speaker 1: So yes, like you know, keep it somewhere where you
Speaker 1: can see it, and it's a reminder for you. And
Speaker 1: again I fall off the wagon as well. I get
Speaker 1: off track as well. It's okay, be patient and be
Speaker 1: compassionate with yourself because life happens. There's so much going on.
Speaker 1: We are being pulled in so many different directions, and
Speaker 1: it is okay. It's always coming back and tapping into
Speaker 1: yourself and aligning yourself and telling yourself, you know what, wait,
Speaker 1: let me take a deep breath, let me center myself,
Speaker 1: let me do these things that make me feel good,
Speaker 1: and also make a list of things that make you
Speaker 1: feel good, What makes you feel good, what makes your
Speaker 1: soul excited to live? Write those things down and when
Speaker 1: you're feeling all these things that we feel that I
Speaker 1: feel as well, say, you know what, what makes me
Speaker 1: feel good is going to my grandma's house. I don't know,
Speaker 1: it could be anything. For me. I like spending time
Speaker 1: with my nieces and nephews. I'll be like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I need a little bit of that. This month, I'm
Speaker 1: going to do my best to go and spend some time,
Speaker 1: some quality time with my nieces and nephews because that
Speaker 1: makes me so happy. So it's different for all of us. Anyways,
Speaker 1: I want to make the short and sweet and hopefully
Speaker 1: this episode can help you guys. It's something that means
Speaker 1: a lot to me because I feel that we all
Speaker 1: have the tools within ourselves to be happy and have
Speaker 1: a happy life, even if we don't necessarily have everything
Speaker 1: we think we need to have materialistically to be happy.
Speaker 1: Because some people feel if I don't have a big
Speaker 1: house or an extravagant car, or this close and that clothes,
Speaker 1: all these material things, I will never be happy. But
Speaker 1: that is so false, you guys. All that stuff is materialistic,
Speaker 1: it's exterior. It's when you are balanced within yourself and
Speaker 1: you're happy within yourself that you find this joy that
Speaker 1: I can't even explain, where all those things don't even
Speaker 1: matter anymore. You start seeing life in a different way
Speaker 1: where you just feel like you feel whole. And in
Speaker 1: order to feel whole, I truly believe and I feel
Speaker 1: and I have practice. And this is just my opinion
Speaker 1: and my advice that these things, all these things that
Speaker 1: I mentioned in this episode have helped me become a
Speaker 1: successful person, is really finding that balance. So anyways, that
Speaker 1: is it. And I do want to leave you guys
Speaker 1: with a motivational quote. Although this entire episode was to
Speaker 1: motivate you. I hope here it is. Balance is not
Speaker 1: something you find. It is something you create. Ooh, bring
Speaker 1: it back. Balance is not something you find, it is
Speaker 1: something you create. We are creating ourselves every single day.
Speaker 1: We have to be intentional, have to want to be different,
Speaker 1: We have to choose every day to do something different
Speaker 1: in order to see a difference, to feel a difference.
Speaker 1: It's tapping in to your inner authentic self and centering yourself.
Speaker 1: So thank you for listening. I hope that I was
Speaker 1: able to help. I love you guys so much. You
Speaker 1: guys are definitely a very happy part of my life.
Speaker 1: I love doing my podcast. I love listening to you
Speaker 1: guys on Dear Cheeky's as well. You have no idea.
Speaker 1: I'm just grateful. And even when I'm having a bad
Speaker 1: day and I'm feeling overwhelmed and I do my podcast,
Speaker 1: I feel so much better. So you guys, thank you. Anyways,
Speaker 1: I love you guys. Have a beautiful rest of your week.
Speaker 1: Kick ass, and I'm sending you a big kiss. Okay,
Speaker 1: love you guys. Do you need advice on love, relationships,
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