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Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous people. It is your main bitch La La Kent.

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Speaker 1: How if everybody Jess You're good?

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Speaker 2: Hi everyone, it's me Jess once again.

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Speaker 1: I'm good.

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Speaker 2: How are you?

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Speaker 1: I feel kind of awesome? Do you? I mean in

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Speaker 2: Right? Okay, Chris, I love doing the podcast. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 2: Christmas is in three days. How are you feeling about that?

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Speaker 2: How are you feeling about this past week? Give me

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Speaker 2: all of it.

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling so excited about Christmas. My little brother's coming

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Speaker 1: back to the roots, back to how I am used

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Speaker 1: to celebrating Christmas.

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Speaker 2: Yes, you know, that's so exciting. Also, something very exciting

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Speaker 1: So, for those of you living under a rock, just kidding,

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Speaker 1: welcome to the Give Them La La squad. If you

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Speaker 1: are not a part of it, then maybe you don't

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Speaker 1: know about this. We are going on tour. I'm going

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Speaker 1: on tour woo Give Them La La brand new tour. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I know it's going to be very exciting. It was

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Speaker 1: pushed off a couple of times due to COVID, pushed

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Speaker 1: It's happening. I'm doing it solo. I'm going to have

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Speaker 1: incredible guests come. The format is going to be a

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Speaker 1: little bit different. You know, I love the word inspired. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's like I love that word. I want people to

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Speaker 1: come and I want us to have a great time. Girls'

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Speaker 1: night out. Of course, bring your boo, bring you your dudes,

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Speaker 1: your usbands, everyone is welcome. But I I think at

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Speaker 1: to talk about the female empowerment. I want to bring

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Speaker 1: women on stage who have incredible stories and how they

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Speaker 1: bounced back from everything from betrayal to maybe financial woes

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Speaker 1: that they weren't expecting. Just something to make all of

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Speaker 1: us feel less alone. Now, with that being said, let's

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Speaker 1: not get it twisted. I may be sober, but most

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Speaker 1: I'm assuming of the people coming to the show are not.

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Speaker 1: So I want everyone to catch a good buzz. Yes,

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Speaker 1: to know my I hate calling them this my fans,

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Speaker 1: my people. Yeah, you're my people. My rider dies.

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Speaker 2: The way that Laala's been talking about how much she

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Speaker 2: is so exciting because I just think back to, like,

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Speaker 2: I haven't gone to a show since before COVID, I

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Speaker 2: a show where I was like, Oh, this person's gonna

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Speaker 1: So I mean, yeah, let's be honest. My people are

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Speaker 1: with all of that fun stuff about what the show

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Speaker 1: announce some cities. You can find the dates follow me

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Speaker 1: on Instagram. If you don't follow me on the gram,

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Speaker 1: what are you doing? We are going to Fort Lauderdale, Clearwater, Orlando, Atlanta, Nashville,

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Speaker 1: New Orleans, Houston, Austin, and Dallas. And you guys, we

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Speaker 1: have added shows. We've added shows. Obviously Nashville is new

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Speaker 1: So many people were like, wtf, mate, you're not doing

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, it's it's gonna be so much fun.

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Speaker 2: You are going to kill it and I think everyone

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So tickets are on sale now at give them

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Speaker 1: And I cannot wait to see you. Wooo. I know vibe.

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Speaker 2: So then I know, I asked you about your past week,

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Speaker 1: Like I said, I find things out daily. And if

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Speaker 1: tune in next season. Right, this season is fantastic. Okay,

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Speaker 1: it's episode three. I believe there's a new episode on tonight.

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Speaker 1: But last week's episode there's this stunning woman named Noela. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So if people get anything from this podcast, I don't care.

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Speaker 2: That's heartbreaking, but so yeah, absolutely so smart. There's nothing more.

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Speaker 1: Right, I'm extremely passionate about this topic at this time.

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Speaker 1: Do we have any voicemails, Jazz, Yes, we do.

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Speaker 3: Hi, Lama, I just want to say that you are

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Speaker 3: I just want to say thank you for that. My

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Speaker 3: question is that I just want to know how you

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Speaker 3: Advice on that how to communicate that. But yeah, thank

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Speaker 3: you have a great day and love your podcast.

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Speaker 1: Oh Natalie, communicating well with a partner before we deep

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Speaker 1: dive into that congratulations on your sobriety. There's so many

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Speaker 1: to say you're not going to hit bumps in the road.

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Speaker 1: I mean, life happens still. Just because you get sober

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Speaker 3: Okay, Hey, my name is Morgan. I've been a huge

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Speaker 1: get a job at the age of six, you know, Oh,

437
00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 1: but I'm like these kids are acting, making money, doing

438
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:31,840
Speaker 1: what they love. Like I want to do that. Unfortunately

439
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:34,159
Speaker 1: I didn't have a stage mom. Yeah, which might have

440
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 1: been a good thing.

441
00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:37,760
Speaker 2: That's probably a good thing, but also incredible at that

442
00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 2: time you thought that because little six year old me

443
00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:44,160
Speaker 2: was like, look at this Hannah and Ta. I don't

444
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:47,040
Speaker 2: know who I was watching, but this is actually her.

445
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:50,720
Speaker 2: Didn't cross my mind these were actors, no way when

446
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:53,159
Speaker 2: I was watching. I don't know why. I like, maybe

447
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 2: not until I was like ten, and then I was like, oh,

448
00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:58,560
Speaker 2: I get it. This is not Oh god, that's probably

449
00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:01,560
Speaker 2: way too old to be realizing whatever. But I don't

450
00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:05,560
Speaker 2: ever remember. That's that is unique because I do not

451
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:08,960
Speaker 2: ever remember watching TV or movies and thinking it all like, oh,

452
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:11,320
Speaker 2: look at these kids, they're acting. I just enjoyed it.

453
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:13,359
Speaker 2: I was that lazy girl on the couch being like,

454
00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:14,240
Speaker 2: I need a chill.

455
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:17,480
Speaker 1: I hope that ocean's like you really, it would break

456
00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 1: my heart if she told me that she was that's

457
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:22,760
Speaker 1: the way she was thinking the way. I pray to

458
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:25,080
Speaker 1: God she doesn't think the way I think. Really, I

459
00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:26,560
Speaker 1: don't feel like it was a healthy way to be

460
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 1: thinking for a child. My mind was was was very

461
00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:37,239
Speaker 1: it was too complex, Yeah, to manage at such a

462
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:37,879
Speaker 1: young age.

463
00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, yeah, very mature. Well, it's like intelligent people.

464
00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:46,320
Speaker 2: A lot of intelligent people, very intelligent, super high at

465
00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:48,679
Speaker 2: qs say, oh no, I wish I was not this

466
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:51,320
Speaker 2: intelligent because it's hard to live life every day.

467
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 1: I'm not as smart as I can't. I don't even

468
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:55,880
Speaker 1: know what my IQ is, but I you know.

469
00:26:56,080 --> 00:27:00,520
Speaker 2: But being an intelligent child and processing things differently, that is,

470
00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 2: I'm sure was a burden but also special.

471
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:06,440
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well it taught me to grow up and I

472
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 1: knew exactly what I wanted. So yeah, it later in

473
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:13,560
Speaker 1: life became a blessing. Yes, you know, yes, but when

474
00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 1: I see kids that think the way I think, yeah,

475
00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:19,359
Speaker 1: like I feel sad for them, Like you have your

476
00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 1: whole life to be thinking. Yes, I just go throw

477
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:25,640
Speaker 1: the baseball around. You know, my friends, my friend's little

478
00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 1: boy has so much anxiety. He worries if he throws

479
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 1: the ball wrong when he plays, you know, his little

480
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 1: baseball games, And I'm like, I so get it, you do. Yes,

481
00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 1: it's anxiety about tests, going to school. It's like, if

482
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 1: you fail the freaking test, who gives a shit? No,

483
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:43,600
Speaker 1: one's gonna be like, well, in the seventh grader or no,

484
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:45,600
Speaker 1: he's not even in the seventh he's seven, so whatever,

485
00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:48,880
Speaker 1: that is fast grade. And I was gonna be like, wow,

486
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:52,119
Speaker 1: we'd love to welcome me to Harvard. But yeah, in

487
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:54,560
Speaker 1: the first grade, you failed your math test, Like.

488
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 2: No, yeah, just be a kid.

489
00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:00,959
Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll work on it. You're you tried as long

490
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:04,480
Speaker 1: as you tried your best. I watched you study. Yeah,

491
00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:07,480
Speaker 1: you just didn't understand it. Let's let's understand it so

492
00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:08,879
Speaker 1: that the next test to do better.

493
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:11,320
Speaker 2: How lucky is ocean you guys, I don't know.

494
00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:17,359
Speaker 1: So because this is the last podcast episode before the

495
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 1: New Year, I want us to deep dive into Christmas traditions,

496
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:25,200
Speaker 1: even New Year's traditions. So when we come back, I'm

497
00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:26,879
Speaker 1: going to share some of mine. Jess, it's going to

498
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:30,639
Speaker 1: share some of hers. It's going to be all things Christmasy,

499
00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:35,200
Speaker 1: my favorite, my favorite topic besides Thanksgiving. We'll be right back.

500
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Speaker 1: We are back. Can I make you refer to me

501
00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:44,680
Speaker 1: as missus Clause for the rest of the.

502
00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:50,320
Speaker 2: Episode, Yes, missus Clause. Absolutely.

503
00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:55,040
Speaker 1: You know I always feel I've always felt this way.

504
00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:58,360
Speaker 1: I used to be really when I thought, oh, I

505
00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:01,600
Speaker 1: hope no one's kids are listening. If your kids are listening,

506
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 1: just turn down this part.

507
00:29:03,880 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 2: If your kids are listening up to this point, right,

508
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 2: don't let them listen at all.

509
00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 1: But let's just say you're one of those you're like,

510
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:15,480
Speaker 1: quote unquote cool mom. No, just I don't want to

511
00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:18,280
Speaker 1: burst their bubble. When I thought Santa Claus was real,

512
00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:22,480
Speaker 1: I was always so jealous of missus clause are you serious?

513
00:29:22,760 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's so cute.

514
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 1: I just thought like, oh my, she gets to live

515
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:31,120
Speaker 1: at the North Pole and it's cozy, and she's always

516
00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 1: in like a.

517
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 2: Robe, Lala, you're living out your dream in the robe.

518
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:40,080
Speaker 2: The robe aspect, You've got cover your right.

519
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 1: Judgica arrives every morning and I'm still in my gray robe.

520
00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 2: The gray robe is iconic at this point.

521
00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:48,200
Speaker 1: It's a fucking vibe.

522
00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:49,200
Speaker 2: It's such a vibe.

523
00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 1: It's just my natural habitat.

524
00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:53,080
Speaker 2: When I see that gray robe on La La, I'm like,

525
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:54,200
Speaker 2: it's gonna be a good day.

526
00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:58,840
Speaker 1: So every day. No, I was just so jealous of

527
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:00,719
Speaker 1: her because I and I I knew she was a

528
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:03,880
Speaker 1: great cook. Yeah, and I knew that there was a

529
00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:07,560
Speaker 1: fireplace in every part of her house, so many fireplaces,

530
00:30:07,600 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 1: And I was like, she gets to see all of

531
00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:10,720
Speaker 1: the toys that are being made.

532
00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:15,160
Speaker 2: Oh that's so cute. When did you stop believing in

533
00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:16,800
Speaker 2: Santa missus clause?

534
00:30:18,120 --> 00:30:21,320
Speaker 1: Oh that's a really sad story. Oh no, I was

535
00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 1: kind of young. I think it was in the third grade.

536
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:23,800
Speaker 1: Is that young?

537
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:27,160
Speaker 2: Third grade to believing? What is that? Not? No, that's

538
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:32,440
Speaker 2: not I was like twelve. I was like, oh god, well, I.

539
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 1: Wish I would believed a little longer. But I used

540
00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:39,479
Speaker 1: to go to my grandma's house every Monday after school,

541
00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:44,080
Speaker 1: and like there were talks about Santa. But I'm gonna

542
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 1: be honest, like I always people that question of Santa

543
00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:50,720
Speaker 1: Claus was real. I always was like, there's no way

544
00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:54,280
Speaker 1: Santa Claus isn't real because I literally get everything that

545
00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 1: I want, right, Like I put it on my list

546
00:30:57,040 --> 00:31:00,360
Speaker 1: and it appears, and.

547
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 2: Like I don't even tell mom my Dad, I put

548
00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:04,080
Speaker 2: it on my list. They there's no way they look

549
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 2: at it, right, they go.

550
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 1: So I sent it to the north Fall, all right,

551
00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:13,440
Speaker 1: But they were like talks, right, So I go to

552
00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:18,320
Speaker 1: my grandma's house. I literally remember there was so much snow.

553
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:22,000
Speaker 1: It was getting dark because it gets dark early when

554
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 1: wintertime hits. And I was just curious, Okay, looking out

555
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:29,080
Speaker 1: the front window all the snow, and I asked, my grandmother,

556
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:35,920
Speaker 1: is Santa Claus real? And she looked me dead in

557
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:43,240
Speaker 1: my fucking eyes. Instead, Lauren, Santa Claus is not real?

558
00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 1: Are you kidding me? And I was devastated.

559
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,720
Speaker 2: Oh my God, keeping it real, Grandma.

560
00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 1: And that's when my dad was like, how could you

561
00:31:57,200 --> 00:31:59,160
Speaker 1: tell Lauren that Santa Claus isn't real? And she was

562
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 1: like she and we have to be honest.

563
00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:04,160
Speaker 2: That's actually really beautiful.

564
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 1: But also so Sadd's like, she's nine, you lie, okay?

565
00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:13,600
Speaker 1: And for me, like it was never about the I see.

566
00:32:13,640 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 1: I was one of those kids where I always got

567
00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:19,959
Speaker 1: the feels during Christmas time because I was like, it's Jesus' birthday,

568
00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:22,960
Speaker 1: and like I think people are when I start talking

569
00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 1: about God. Here's the thing. I don't care what religion

570
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:29,120
Speaker 1: you are. I don't like to talk about religion or

571
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:32,480
Speaker 1: my belief system. Right now I'm relying a lot on

572
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:36,080
Speaker 1: my belief system, so I'm talking about it more. But

573
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:40,960
Speaker 1: I was definitely raised going to a non denominational Christian church.

574
00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:46,080
Speaker 1: I was raised much more spiritual rather than here's the

575
00:32:46,080 --> 00:32:51,040
Speaker 1: Bible and this is what we oh byde bye right, Yeah,

576
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 1: but I just always got the fields, you know, and

577
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 1: Christmas time in Utah with the snow and there's like

578
00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:03,200
Speaker 1: Nate Pivoty scenes everywhere, and I just like couldn't help

579
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:07,880
Speaker 1: every Christmas, but feel like the spirit is with me

580
00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 1: amen sick men, you know, yes, like all the Christmas songs.

581
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:18,960
Speaker 1: One on on Alabama Christmas it's called Joseph and Mary's

582
00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 1: Boy Can we hear? And the preacher said less Sunday

583
00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 1: it was jose Mary's Boy. And I like literally would

584
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:32,720
Speaker 1: sob in the back of my mom's car because I

585
00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:34,920
Speaker 1: just felt the spirit.

586
00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 2: Oh, you felt the feeling, yes, So it.

587
00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 1: Was like the presents were the bonus from me.

588
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:40,840
Speaker 3: You know.

589
00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:43,680
Speaker 1: Yes, kids talk. I mean obviously I'm a kid. I

590
00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 1: want my Barbie doll that I act for, Yes, But

591
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 1: it was the whole time of year, you know, and

592
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,840
Speaker 1: we'd go and see the temple lights. We weren't Mormon,

593
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:59,320
Speaker 1: but the temple lights in Salt Lake City are absolutely stunning. Really,

594
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:03,960
Speaker 1: the temple rounds during Christmas, it's like a hole. If

595
00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:09,719
Speaker 1: you have not seen them, I totally recommend going just

596
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:13,000
Speaker 1: to see them. I mean it's spectacular and there's this

597
00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:16,120
Speaker 1: giant window, and they have. And by the way, we're not.

598
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 1: I don't want anyone to be turned off by this episode.

599
00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 1: I'm just talking about my the way I grew up

600
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 1: with Christmas. If you if you celebrate Christmas but you're

601
00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:29,760
Speaker 1: Jewish or any other religion, love it, any holiday, anything

602
00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:33,320
Speaker 1: very holiday you want to celebrate, you do you boo.

603
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:37,040
Speaker 1: I'm with it. If you're if you're feeling something and

604
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:39,040
Speaker 1: you rely on a higher power that may be different

605
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:40,439
Speaker 1: from mine, doesn't matter.

606
00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:42,040
Speaker 2: Respect love it.

607
00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:45,360
Speaker 1: But I always remember this window when we would go

608
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 1: and see the lights and there was this statue of Jesus. Yeah,

609
00:34:51,040 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 1: and the way the light would shine on him. I

610
00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:56,239
Speaker 1: just like And I was a small kid, but I

611
00:34:56,280 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 1: would you just get like so emotional beyond.

612
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:02,799
Speaker 2: That's so beautiful.

613
00:35:03,080 --> 00:35:06,279
Speaker 1: That's why I tell people it doesn't matter what your

614
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:08,719
Speaker 1: higher power is or what your religion is. If you

615
00:35:08,800 --> 00:35:12,879
Speaker 1: speak about your religion or you read something and you

616
00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 1: get those chills and you feel something, yeah, stick with that.

617
00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:19,520
Speaker 2: I love that. I love that.

618
00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:20,480
Speaker 1: That's what it's all about.

619
00:35:21,320 --> 00:35:24,759
Speaker 2: So then you was that a tradition. I'd love to

620
00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:27,360
Speaker 2: hear some of your did you go to the temple lights?

621
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 2: Is that what they're called it, they're called the Temple lights.

622
00:35:29,120 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 1: We would plant it with my entire family, Okay, my

623
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:35,360
Speaker 1: immediate family, my dad's brothers, sisters, all of their kids.

624
00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:39,640
Speaker 1: We'd meet at Grandma's house. We would have dinner downtown.

625
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:42,879
Speaker 1: Then we'd all get our little hot chocolates. We'd walk

626
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:45,720
Speaker 1: over to the temple grounds and look at the lights

627
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:47,440
Speaker 1: and you'd be all cozy, even though it would be

628
00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 1: frigid outside, yes, and freezing, and it was just like

629
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:56,279
Speaker 1: downtown Salt Lake during Christmas. It just doesn't get any better.

630
00:35:56,760 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 1: That's you feel like you're in a Christmas movie.

631
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:02,920
Speaker 2: That's so beautiful. Now, what was this Christmas Eve? Was

632
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:04,960
Speaker 2: this like a Christmas Eve tradition where you'd go and

633
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 2: look at the lights or just around Christmas time?

634
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:10,200
Speaker 1: Around Christmas time? And then we always did the same

635
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:14,440
Speaker 1: dinner on Christmas Eve with my dad's brother and his kids, okay,

636
00:36:14,640 --> 00:36:16,279
Speaker 1: and that was always fun. And then we'd go back

637
00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:22,959
Speaker 1: to my uncle's house and decorate our little like gingingerbread houses. Yeah,

638
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 1: and we would talk about Sama's coming, and you know,

639
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:28,440
Speaker 1: like my dad did the whole thing of like putting

640
00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:30,960
Speaker 1: on the news Santa's on his way. We got to

641
00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 1: get home. There's this you know play Look there he is,

642
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:37,160
Speaker 1: and it was just like such a freaking vibe. I

643
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 1: want Ocean to grow up with Christmases like that.

644
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:42,319
Speaker 2: Oh absolutely So. Then would you spend the night at

645
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:44,160
Speaker 2: your uncles and would Santa come to your uncle?

646
00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 1: No? We you, We would go home, We'd do our thing.

647
00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:48,959
Speaker 1: The next day. It was like we go to Grandma's house. Yeah,

648
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:53,600
Speaker 1: the whole family again, and it just for me, family

649
00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:57,680
Speaker 1: was like the ultimate of everything. Like Christmas Bingo. We

650
00:36:57,719 --> 00:37:00,200
Speaker 1: would play and that's you know, if you want, and

651
00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:02,840
Speaker 1: you would get this gift because you were your last

652
00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:05,720
Speaker 1: your last chip on the bingo that got you Bingo

653
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:07,800
Speaker 1: was blue and this gift has the blue tag, so

654
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:10,799
Speaker 1: here you go. Like, it was just fantastic.

655
00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:11,839
Speaker 2: I want to play that game.

656
00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:13,839
Speaker 1: Now we all should play that game now.

657
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:16,279
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that sounds so fun. And now it's

658
00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:20,440
Speaker 2: giving me more insight into why quality time means so

659
00:37:20,520 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 2: much too, because this is like all just quality. It's

660
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:24,560
Speaker 2: like quality time with your family, and.

661
00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:26,959
Speaker 1: It's always always in.

662
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 2: The morning on Christmas morning. Would it be just you,

663
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:31,839
Speaker 2: your mom, your dad, your brother, or you have more?

664
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:35,440
Speaker 1: Okay, no, it was always my older brother is much older,

665
00:37:35,520 --> 00:37:38,640
Speaker 1: so I remember being very young and he would be there,

666
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:43,560
Speaker 1: but I remember my dad would We would sit, Ea said,

667
00:37:43,560 --> 00:37:45,320
Speaker 1: and I would sit on the top of the stairs.

668
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:49,560
Speaker 1: We weren't allowed to come down because my mom had

669
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 1: to make sure that everything was good. And I still

670
00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:55,759
Speaker 1: thinking Santa Claus real, okay, my mom and dad had

671
00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:58,120
Speaker 1: to make sure everything was good, and we would waltz

672
00:37:58,160 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 1: on down. We would put the cookies and the milk

673
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:05,600
Speaker 1: in the little letter in the in the what is

674
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:07,399
Speaker 1: it called the living room? I would know that people

675
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:09,840
Speaker 1: still have living rooms. It's like a formal living room. Yeah,

676
00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:11,880
Speaker 1: and we would read it. And I'm telling you, Christmas

677
00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:15,919
Speaker 1: at my house, there's no way you would think Santa wasn't.

678
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:18,600
Speaker 1: Really you wouldn't.

679
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:20,800
Speaker 2: Would there be bites out of the cookie?

680
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:23,719
Speaker 1: Bites out of the cookie. My dad took little raisins.

681
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:26,600
Speaker 1: It looked like they pooped. He took big boots, huge,

682
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:30,480
Speaker 1: huge boots stock to make it look like Santa had walked.

683
00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:32,800
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

684
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 1: Yeah. Carrots, carrots. We left carrots outside too for the reindeer.

685
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 2: Would they eat them?

686
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, my dad would eat them.

687
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 2: I meant the reindeer, but she just spoiled it for

688
00:38:44,200 --> 00:38:44,640
Speaker 2: all of us.

689
00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:48,520
Speaker 1: My dad would eat them, spit them on the ground outside,

690
00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:50,960
Speaker 1: so it looked like that's so beautiful.

691
00:38:51,120 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 2: Is there a certain gift that you remember when you're

692
00:38:54,040 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 2: you were a child where you were just like floored,

693
00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:58,839
Speaker 2: Like I feel like all kids have maybe this one

694
00:38:58,880 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 2: special gift that's in their memory. Do you have that?

695
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:05,640
Speaker 1: I have two of those. One was a hockey table, oh,

696
00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 1: like a hockey air hockey table. The other one was

697
00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 1: I wanted this baby doll crib from Fao Schwartz that

698
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:17,239
Speaker 1: I got, and I was just so beside myself. I

699
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:19,440
Speaker 1: was like over the moon that I got it. Really,

700
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:22,240
Speaker 1: those two things I remember. I did start to question

701
00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:26,839
Speaker 1: Santa when one year I asked for a hummer, like

702
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:29,800
Speaker 1: a hummer car, Yeah, like the big things they drive,

703
00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:33,239
Speaker 1: like the real not like like a hummer.

704
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:37,239
Speaker 2: Okay, no, I didn't get it.

705
00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:41,680
Speaker 1: How old were you? She's like twelve second great because

706
00:39:41,719 --> 00:39:44,280
Speaker 1: my friend's brother got a hummer.

707
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:49,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I was like, I want Santa come through,

708
00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:51,840
Speaker 2: like I was every little box.

709
00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:54,880
Speaker 1: I was like there's cues in there, but stop. And

710
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:56,319
Speaker 1: you were a dad. I was like, he's not going

711
00:39:56,400 --> 00:39:59,200
Speaker 1: to breathe a seven year old car. And I was like,

712
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:00,000
Speaker 1: that makes sense.

713
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:00,960
Speaker 3: You're right.

714
00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:05,640
Speaker 2: Oh my, that's the funniest thing ever. Little seven year

715
00:40:05,680 --> 00:40:08,520
Speaker 2: old Lalla like, I know there's a hummer somewhere.

716
00:40:08,400 --> 00:40:11,200
Speaker 1: Right, because Sanna is real and if you want a hummer,

717
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:14,680
Speaker 1: then you can get one. Oh my god, what are

718
00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:18,520
Speaker 1: your holiday traditions? Holiday? You have a lot of siblings?

719
00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:22,160
Speaker 2: Die there's four four siblings, Well, there's five of us.

720
00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:28,280
Speaker 2: My oldest brother is thirty three. Oh god, Jason, I'm sorry,

721
00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:29,439
Speaker 2: thirty three or thirty five?

722
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:30,279
Speaker 1: That's your oldest brother.

723
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 2: Yes, and my youngest is eighteen. Mister Bobb's Danny, love

724
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 2: him to death, love him. But so yeah, huge family.

725
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:46,359
Speaker 2: I come from a very religious family, but I am

726
00:40:46,880 --> 00:40:49,920
Speaker 2: love them because they're very open. Like I have the

727
00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:53,359
Speaker 2: most fabulous little brother in the world. He wouldn't mind

728
00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:55,279
Speaker 2: me saying this. He came out to my family like

729
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:58,799
Speaker 2: last year, and he's just My family's very accepting. I

730
00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 2: feel like when I say really, it just people are like, oh,

731
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:04,880
Speaker 2: you know, a little maybe turned off. Yeah, they're amazing,

732
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:08,640
Speaker 2: they're very accepting, wonderful. But I say that to say

733
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 2: we go to Christmas Mass, that's just a tradition. Okay,

734
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:14,280
Speaker 2: So it used to be midnight Mass until I started

735
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 2: falling asleep and snoring so loud that it would embarrass

736
00:41:17,640 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 2: my whole family, and they're like, we're not doing this.

737
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:22,960
Speaker 2: No more midnight Mass. So it's like either Christmas Eve

738
00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 2: at like five pm or we'll go to Christmas Morning Mass.

739
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:27,719
Speaker 2: It's cute, it's beautiful.

740
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:28,239
Speaker 1: I love it.

741
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:33,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really sweet. So that's a tradition. The when

742
00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:35,960
Speaker 2: we would wake up. My siblings and I would wake

743
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:38,279
Speaker 2: up at like three am. But there was yeah, there

744
00:41:38,360 --> 00:41:41,080
Speaker 2: was a rule. My parents were like, nothing, do not

745
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:43,680
Speaker 2: wake us up before six am. We know Santa came.

746
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:47,200
Speaker 2: They would my parents now I know, they would stay

747
00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:50,760
Speaker 2: up Christmas Eve and drink together and wrap all the gifts.

748
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:51,880
Speaker 1: That's that nice.

749
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:54,400
Speaker 2: They would just get it was like there. When we

750
00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 2: were older, we found out. My mom and dad were

751
00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:58,279
Speaker 2: like it was the most fun because we would just

752
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:00,480
Speaker 2: have all this wine and it'd be us and we'd

753
00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 2: be wrapping the gifts terribly by the end. It was

754
00:42:03,239 --> 00:42:05,120
Speaker 2: just like but anyways.

755
00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:07,040
Speaker 1: So I wish the listeners could see my face, because.

756
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:09,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, so great.

757
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 2: So they would have just gone to bed at like

758
00:42:12,160 --> 00:42:14,920
Speaker 2: one to two thirty and we would have got gotten

759
00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:17,200
Speaker 2: up around three three thirty. We weren't allowed to wake

760
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:20,960
Speaker 2: them up until six. We would six am. Yeah, they

761
00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:23,919
Speaker 2: would like, oh hell no, they were tired all day

762
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:25,880
Speaker 2: and we were always just like, you know, that was

763
00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:28,480
Speaker 2: just but you know, my mom would make a big

764
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:32,319
Speaker 2: Christmas breakfast. We'd wake up, my dad would come out.

765
00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:34,320
Speaker 2: We'd have to wait for my mom to make our coffee,

766
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:38,279
Speaker 2: put on the Christmas music, light candles, and then my

767
00:42:38,440 --> 00:42:40,680
Speaker 2: dad would hand out gifts one by one. So we'd

768
00:42:40,680 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 2: be like to Jessica from Santa to Jason, and we'd

769
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:46,239
Speaker 2: have to watch everyone and like be excited for them.

770
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:49,359
Speaker 1: Yeah. Okay, so there was a learning experience there was Wow,

771
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:50,800
Speaker 1: be happy for others.

772
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:55,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, patients exactly, and I love that, appreciate it. But yeah,

773
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 2: that was our thing. I'm going home for Christmas this

774
00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:00,759
Speaker 2: year for them, perst because it's.

775
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:02,359
Speaker 1: Going to be snowy there, huh. I hope.

776
00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:05,200
Speaker 2: So the past few years of State New York, you guys,

777
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:09,440
Speaker 2: it hasn't been snowy on Christmas. But going home this

778
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:12,239
Speaker 2: year for actual Christmas for the first time in like

779
00:43:12,800 --> 00:43:16,200
Speaker 2: years no way, Yeah, it's been like four years.

780
00:43:16,400 --> 00:43:16,920
Speaker 1: Wow.

781
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:20,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I'm really excited. I'm going with Kyle and

782
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:25,279
Speaker 2: we just yeah, we spend Christmas Day at my grandma's

783
00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:29,480
Speaker 2: and you know, this year she's had some health problems,

784
00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:32,080
Speaker 2: so it's just so important that we spend it with her. Yeah,

785
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:34,719
Speaker 2: and it's going to be really sweet and yeah.

786
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:36,799
Speaker 1: So then where did you usually spend Christmas?

787
00:43:36,960 --> 00:43:39,480
Speaker 2: Christmas went? Oh, so if you didn't go home the

788
00:43:39,520 --> 00:43:42,040
Speaker 2: past four years, Like last year, I spent it with Kyle.

789
00:43:42,160 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 2: It was just the two of us. We went where

790
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:48,520
Speaker 2: did we We just spent it here. We woke up together,

791
00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:52,560
Speaker 2: open presence the year before, same thing. So I would

792
00:43:52,560 --> 00:43:55,120
Speaker 2: spend actual I've been with Kyle for like five years,

793
00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 2: so we would spend actual Christmas together, but then I

794
00:43:58,560 --> 00:44:00,840
Speaker 2: would go home like a week later, and he would

795
00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:03,200
Speaker 2: go either to his moms or his dadsy. So we

796
00:44:03,239 --> 00:44:05,560
Speaker 2: would do that and we like buy presents for each other,

797
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:10,160
Speaker 2: wrap them, do all that, and then we would go

798
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:12,520
Speaker 2: home later. So I would always be home for quote

799
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:16,520
Speaker 2: unquote Christmas, but maybe not until January or something. This

800
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:19,840
Speaker 2: is like waking up with the family. Haven't done it

801
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 2: in a couple of years. It's been like four years.

802
00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:28,560
Speaker 1: You know. I was always hoping that my Christmas traditions

803
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:32,680
Speaker 1: would carry on through like when I have kids and

804
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:36,600
Speaker 1: all of that, But I don't have a huge family,

805
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:39,880
Speaker 1: Like my immediate family is not big. Yeah, you know

806
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:43,319
Speaker 1: I have Easton since not married, doesn't have kids. We

807
00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:46,400
Speaker 1: lost my dad. My older brother is from a different mama,

808
00:44:46,480 --> 00:44:48,839
Speaker 1: so he kind of goes and does his thing over there.

809
00:44:49,160 --> 00:44:51,839
Speaker 1: And you know, I've lived in LA for eight years. Yeah,

810
00:44:51,880 --> 00:44:54,600
Speaker 1: and I haven't been home for Christmas and probably around

811
00:44:54,640 --> 00:44:58,319
Speaker 1: the same amount of time that around five years. How

812
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:01,920
Speaker 1: well its been since I've gone home for Christmas? How

813
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:05,080
Speaker 1: do you feel about that? I hate it. Yeah, you know,

814
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:07,880
Speaker 1: I'm not from LA. I love it here, but like

815
00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:12,960
Speaker 1: it doesn't feel like Christmas. Yeah, work outsides freaking sunny. Yeah,

816
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 1: they like try to make it Christmas by throwing up lights,

817
00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:16,520
Speaker 1: but it's.

818
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:20,120
Speaker 2: Like yeah no, yeah, and like fake snow that smells

819
00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:23,040
Speaker 2: like soap. So I think it's soap. I think I'm

820
00:45:23,080 --> 00:45:23,919
Speaker 2: pretty sure it's soap.

821
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:26,680
Speaker 1: Well, it's like Christmas lights don't belong in a palm.

822
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:30,320
Speaker 2: Tree, I know, I know. The funniest to me is

823
00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 2: the palm trees that have the bigger tops. Yeah, so

824
00:45:33,480 --> 00:45:37,960
Speaker 2: the Christmas and the bigger bottoms and then the thinner

825
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:41,319
Speaker 2: middle so it looks like just a big giant lit penis.

826
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 2: And then they don't light like the palms. It's just

827
00:45:45,200 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 2: the trunk. Great, it's amazing.

828
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:47,960
Speaker 1: Love me.

829
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:53,719
Speaker 2: But it snows in Utah, correct, Yes? So have you

830
00:45:53,760 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 2: had every Every Christmas in Utah is probably snowy, and.

831
00:45:57,800 --> 00:46:02,160
Speaker 1: Every Christmas if it's not actually snowing, there is snow

832
00:46:02,200 --> 00:46:02,720
Speaker 1: on the ground.

833
00:46:03,040 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 2: So it's cold.

834
00:46:03,960 --> 00:46:04,520
Speaker 1: It's cold.

835
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:06,799
Speaker 2: So that okay, So I feel you there because to me,

836
00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:08,600
Speaker 2: Christmas needs to be cold.

837
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:11,520
Speaker 1: I agree. Yeah, it's cold in La right now. But

838
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:15,200
Speaker 1: the sun is out shine in a way. It is

839
00:46:15,520 --> 00:46:18,239
Speaker 1: blue skies, palm trees everywhere in sight.

840
00:46:18,440 --> 00:46:18,960
Speaker 3: Yeah.

841
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:21,640
Speaker 2: Do you think are you planning on maybe so your

842
00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:24,239
Speaker 2: ideal Christmas would be spent in Utah? Is that fair

843
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:24,919
Speaker 2: to say? Yeah?

844
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:27,880
Speaker 1: I think in the future, if able, I will go

845
00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:28,760
Speaker 1: home for Christmas.

846
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:31,759
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah. But this year, what are you going to

847
00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:33,239
Speaker 2: do this year?

848
00:46:34,640 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 1: My mom is here, Easton's gonna come out yay. My

849
00:46:39,280 --> 00:46:41,640
Speaker 1: older brother and his wife and their two kids are

850
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:45,400
Speaker 1: going to come out after Christmas, Okay, which will be great.

851
00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:48,160
Speaker 1: I'm super excited for them to come. Hopefully they spend

852
00:46:48,160 --> 00:46:52,400
Speaker 1: New Year's here, and I just want it to be

853
00:46:52,600 --> 00:46:58,960
Speaker 1: focused on Ocean. Yeah, you know, like I told my family,

854
00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:03,280
Speaker 1: no gift, right, I don't want anything. I don't need anything.

855
00:47:06,120 --> 00:47:07,800
Speaker 1: I don't want to get you guys anything.

856
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:12,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, like no this year. Oh my god, just chill.

857
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 1: I know that sounds rude, but it's like I just

858
00:47:15,080 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 1: need to remember the importance of things, and like the

859
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:21,160
Speaker 1: importance of things is actually not the things. Yes, you know,

860
00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:25,680
Speaker 1: I got Ocean a bunch of stuff. She's the priority.

861
00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:29,080
Speaker 1: Everything under the tree will be for her. Everything else

862
00:47:29,440 --> 00:47:31,240
Speaker 1: we're giving each other experiences.

863
00:47:31,600 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that. Are there any you may have

864
00:47:35,600 --> 00:47:38,560
Speaker 2: not thought about this yet, any traditions you're like, I

865
00:47:38,640 --> 00:47:41,279
Speaker 2: want to start that, any new traditions that you're like,

866
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:44,280
Speaker 2: I want to do this, or I want to start

867
00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 2: this with Ocean.

868
00:47:46,120 --> 00:47:52,160
Speaker 1: I want her to spend Christmas in Utah. You know,

869
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:55,280
Speaker 1: I want to do the things that I grew up doing. Okay,

870
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:57,400
Speaker 1: you know, I want to take her up to Park City.

871
00:47:57,440 --> 00:47:59,359
Speaker 1: I want to do this sledding and the two being

872
00:47:59,400 --> 00:48:01,000
Speaker 1: and I want to get the hot chocolate. And I

873
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:03,040
Speaker 1: want her to be with you know, my friends that

874
00:48:03,080 --> 00:48:04,879
Speaker 1: I grew up with, they now have kids. I want

875
00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:09,640
Speaker 1: her to be around them. That's really there's like no

876
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:14,319
Speaker 1: one specific thing that I want to do every year

877
00:48:14,360 --> 00:48:18,200
Speaker 1: on Christmas with her. However, I want to surround her

878
00:48:18,239 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 1: with the same people, like every year we go with

879
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:22,200
Speaker 1: this family.

880
00:48:22,560 --> 00:48:26,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, yes, and something different to look forward

881
00:48:26,760 --> 00:48:30,279
Speaker 2: to exactly. Oh that's really sweet. That's really And she's

882
00:48:30,320 --> 00:48:33,520
Speaker 2: never gone I mean, oh my god, she's never seen snow.

883
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:36,040
Speaker 1: No, she's never seen snow. All.

884
00:48:36,280 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 2: The first time she sees snow as gonna.

885
00:48:38,360 --> 00:48:40,839
Speaker 1: Be so cute. I am so excited. She already has

886
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:44,560
Speaker 1: a snowsuit and sledding. I know all of it. I'm

887
00:48:44,560 --> 00:48:48,080
Speaker 1: telling you, Like I remember going to my junior high

888
00:48:48,120 --> 00:48:50,440
Speaker 1: that had this big hill. We would go with all

889
00:48:50,480 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 1: of my cousins, get all cozy, go sledding over there.

890
00:48:55,200 --> 00:48:59,759
Speaker 1: It's just, you know, I'm missing that. I'm not from

891
00:48:59,760 --> 00:49:02,160
Speaker 1: a but I'm from a small city. I'm missing that

892
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:03,480
Speaker 1: small city vibe.

893
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:05,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you know.

894
00:49:05,480 --> 00:49:07,920
Speaker 1: Yes, Like out in La right now, it gets dark.

895
00:49:08,520 --> 00:49:13,240
Speaker 1: Don't go outside, that's true. Don't go outside. Yeah, doesn't

896
00:49:13,239 --> 00:49:16,200
Speaker 1: even matter where you live. Do not go outside when

897
00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:19,080
Speaker 1: the sun goes down, that's true. Unfortunately I did not

898
00:49:19,080 --> 00:49:19,759
Speaker 1: grow up that way.

899
00:49:19,880 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

900
00:49:20,800 --> 00:49:26,640
Speaker 1: No, no walking everywhere. Yeah, calling your friends from the Landline.

901
00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:29,320
Speaker 2: Being like, let's walk over to Eastwood Elementary and sled

902
00:49:30,480 --> 00:49:34,280
Speaker 2: you know, yeah, did you have an ice skating town?

903
00:49:34,360 --> 00:49:36,080
Speaker 2: Did you or city? Did you guys go ice skating?

904
00:49:36,160 --> 00:49:36,879
Speaker 2: Or is that not a thing?

905
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:39,880
Speaker 1: Jessica? What you are out of your damn mind if

906
00:49:39,920 --> 00:49:43,440
Speaker 1: you think that. I am strapping razor blades to my

907
00:49:43,640 --> 00:49:47,239
Speaker 1: feet and just like going on my merry way. Same

908
00:49:47,239 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 1: with skiing. Everyone asks, are you you must be a

909
00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:54,719
Speaker 1: scarier from Utah. It's like, what part of strapping like

910
00:49:54,800 --> 00:49:58,120
Speaker 1: a device to your feet and flying down a hill

911
00:49:58,320 --> 00:49:59,400
Speaker 1: sounds safe?

912
00:50:00,120 --> 00:50:01,280
Speaker 2: Know what's crazy?

913
00:50:01,400 --> 00:50:01,680
Speaker 1: Lalla?

914
00:50:02,400 --> 00:50:04,600
Speaker 2: I want to witness you trying this. I think you'd

915
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:06,720
Speaker 2: be an insane snowboarder. And I'm not kidding.

916
00:50:06,719 --> 00:50:07,520
Speaker 1: That terrifies me.

917
00:50:07,640 --> 00:50:10,760
Speaker 2: No, I've met snow boarders. I see the good ones.

918
00:50:11,040 --> 00:50:13,799
Speaker 2: I could see you being such a good snowboarder.

919
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:17,080
Speaker 1: I used to have zero fear, yeah, and now I'm

920
00:50:17,160 --> 00:50:19,799
Speaker 1: just I'm like, if I do that, I could break

921
00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:22,879
Speaker 1: a leg, I could chip a tooth. Yeah, I could die.

922
00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:25,680
Speaker 1: I don't need to do it, that's true. I don't

923
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:26,480
Speaker 1: know what happened to me.

924
00:50:26,600 --> 00:50:27,680
Speaker 2: But you sled.

925
00:50:28,840 --> 00:50:33,120
Speaker 1: Sitting down, Yeah, and you can bail easier, nothing strapped

926
00:50:33,239 --> 00:50:34,000
Speaker 1: to my body.

927
00:50:34,520 --> 00:50:37,799
Speaker 2: You know that is I thought for sure you'd be

928
00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:39,719
Speaker 2: like Jessica, you're out of your damn mind. If you

929
00:50:39,760 --> 00:50:41,719
Speaker 2: don't think, If you don't think, I go.

930
00:50:42,120 --> 00:50:42,680
Speaker 1: I don't know.

931
00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:44,879
Speaker 2: I'm skating every day.

932
00:50:45,040 --> 00:50:49,359
Speaker 1: No, no, I want no part of it. My dad

933
00:50:49,360 --> 00:50:53,319
Speaker 1: took me night skiing in the seventh grade and I

934
00:50:53,360 --> 00:50:55,920
Speaker 1: had to be rescued. Stop.

935
00:50:56,719 --> 00:50:57,400
Speaker 2: Did you really?

936
00:50:57,880 --> 00:51:01,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, you want to what happened? What my dad was

937
00:51:01,120 --> 00:51:04,640
Speaker 1: so cute? Why he put one of my skis on

938
00:51:04,680 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 1: his shoulder and then I took the other one off

939
00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:10,839
Speaker 1: and I sat on it and I went and you went. Yeah.

940
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:13,200
Speaker 1: The snowmobile person came to rescue me, and my dad

941
00:51:13,239 --> 00:51:14,320
Speaker 1: was like, she's fine.

942
00:51:15,719 --> 00:51:17,799
Speaker 2: You know what, Lala, Now that you're putting this into

943
00:51:17,840 --> 00:51:22,200
Speaker 2: the universe, I hate to tell you. You might have an

944
00:51:22,200 --> 00:51:26,160
Speaker 2: ocean who loves it, who is like, mom, take me.

945
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:28,239
Speaker 1: Skiing, take oh, but I won't do anything for her

946
00:51:28,280 --> 00:51:30,840
Speaker 1: if she's but Mama may be stuck on the bunny

947
00:51:30,840 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 1: bill for a little longer. Then you might think that's

948
00:51:34,719 --> 00:51:39,040
Speaker 1: hilarious and Lisa, Mama, Lisa great at it? Really? Oh yeah,

949
00:51:39,800 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 1: flying down the hill. My uncle who lives in Montana

950
00:51:42,719 --> 00:51:47,279
Speaker 1: fights fires. Yeah, black Diamond, What the hell?

951
00:51:48,080 --> 00:51:50,400
Speaker 2: What about Easton? Is it just the kids?

952
00:51:50,760 --> 00:51:55,040
Speaker 1: I don't know. Easton's extremely talented at everything. Yeah. Yeah,

953
00:51:55,080 --> 00:51:56,040
Speaker 1: you know, like I could see that.

954
00:51:56,080 --> 00:51:57,640
Speaker 2: I could see him being a snowboarder.

955
00:51:57,760 --> 00:51:59,000
Speaker 1: He loves snowboarding.

956
00:51:59,120 --> 00:52:01,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, interesting.

957
00:52:02,120 --> 00:52:04,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm more of a lodger. Lodger.

958
00:52:06,200 --> 00:52:08,279
Speaker 2: The lodge is nice, though, that's the best. But I

959
00:52:08,360 --> 00:52:11,319
Speaker 2: love like the getting the exercise first and then you're

960
00:52:11,360 --> 00:52:13,920
Speaker 2: exhausted and then you just like lodge it up with

961
00:52:14,000 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 2: hot cocoa and the fire.

962
00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:18,120
Speaker 1: Yeah. But when I was drinking, I was exhausted from

963
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:20,439
Speaker 1: the drinking. So I was like, I was just as

964
00:52:20,480 --> 00:52:24,000
Speaker 1: tired as everyone else. Yeah. Yeah, they've been skiing. I've

965
00:52:24,040 --> 00:52:28,160
Speaker 1: been drinking. Time for a nap, you know. I love it.

966
00:52:28,360 --> 00:52:30,600
Speaker 1: But I always did like the thought of skiing. Yeah,

967
00:52:31,080 --> 00:52:34,759
Speaker 1: the thought, Yeah, thought of skiing sounded awesome. Yeah. And

968
00:52:34,800 --> 00:52:36,279
Speaker 1: when I would see people and they'd come in and

969
00:52:36,320 --> 00:52:38,520
Speaker 1: they were, you know, clonking around in their boots coming

970
00:52:38,560 --> 00:52:41,680
Speaker 1: in for lunch, I'm like, oh, that does look fun.

971
00:52:41,960 --> 00:52:43,399
Speaker 2: But still not doing it.

972
00:52:43,640 --> 00:52:46,919
Speaker 1: Still not doing it because there you could die.

973
00:52:47,239 --> 00:52:48,360
Speaker 2: Yeah you could.

974
00:52:48,760 --> 00:52:51,120
Speaker 1: It's a small chance, but it's not a chance I'm

975
00:52:51,160 --> 00:52:51,759
Speaker 1: willing to take.

976
00:52:52,000 --> 00:52:55,439
Speaker 2: And do you really want to go like that doing

977
00:52:55,480 --> 00:52:58,120
Speaker 2: something You're not crazy? If you were crazy passionate about it,

978
00:52:58,120 --> 00:53:00,600
Speaker 2: I'd be like, take the chance if you love it.

979
00:53:00,640 --> 00:53:02,680
Speaker 2: But if you're not passionate about it.

980
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 1: No, No, it's not the way I am going out.

981
00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:07,160
Speaker 1: Are you crazy?

982
00:53:07,400 --> 00:53:09,839
Speaker 2: No? Have you ever went skydiving?

983
00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:12,680
Speaker 1: No? But I want to you do? Yeah?

984
00:53:12,680 --> 00:53:14,879
Speaker 2: Okay, so she wants to go skydiving.

985
00:53:14,280 --> 00:53:17,320
Speaker 1: But she makes us no sense, it makes zero sense.

986
00:53:17,560 --> 00:53:20,319
Speaker 2: I've gone twice. I'll go with you if you want

987
00:53:20,360 --> 00:53:20,560
Speaker 2: to go.

988
00:53:21,160 --> 00:53:24,000
Speaker 1: And what's weird is I said if something strapped to me,

989
00:53:24,040 --> 00:53:26,520
Speaker 1: I feel unsafe. But if I were strapped to somebody

990
00:53:26,520 --> 00:53:27,080
Speaker 1: that can do.

991
00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:30,479
Speaker 2: It interesting Well. On the note of skydiving, I want

992
00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:33,560
Speaker 2: to know how you feel going into twenty twenty two.

993
00:53:34,080 --> 00:53:36,120
Speaker 2: What do you hope for your year?

994
00:53:36,680 --> 00:53:39,880
Speaker 1: Oh, what a great way to wrap up this last

995
00:53:39,920 --> 00:53:43,600
Speaker 1: episode before the new year. I hope in the new year,

996
00:53:44,520 --> 00:53:48,920
Speaker 1: I'm hoping for resolve and after that, I'm looking to

997
00:53:49,320 --> 00:53:54,080
Speaker 1: just be happy. I love that, you know, whatever that

998
00:53:54,480 --> 00:53:58,319
Speaker 1: means for me, wherever it, you know, I could be

999
00:53:58,440 --> 00:54:00,960
Speaker 1: placed to somewhere that I never thought i'd be placed

1000
00:54:01,640 --> 00:54:05,000
Speaker 1: doing something I never thought i'd be doing. But if

1001
00:54:05,040 --> 00:54:08,480
Speaker 1: I'm happy, then that's all I really want for this

1002
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:10,560
Speaker 1: new year. And I feel like that's going to happen

1003
00:54:10,600 --> 00:54:12,799
Speaker 1: for me. I do too, you do.

1004
00:54:13,360 --> 00:54:15,319
Speaker 2: I feel like twenty twenty two is going to be

1005
00:54:15,800 --> 00:54:18,239
Speaker 2: your best year yet, I really do.

1006
00:54:18,800 --> 00:54:22,920
Speaker 1: I'm excited for it. Yeah, what are your big plans

1007
00:54:23,080 --> 00:54:26,440
Speaker 1: or your I because every time someone asks what your

1008
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:30,600
Speaker 1: new Year's resolution is, I feel like some of us

1009
00:54:30,680 --> 00:54:34,319
Speaker 1: make these big plans that when we don't achieve them

1010
00:54:35,520 --> 00:54:37,400
Speaker 1: in a bumber field. It's a bummer and you just

1011
00:54:37,480 --> 00:54:41,200
Speaker 1: feel like, you know, it's a leaddown. Yeah, you beat

1012
00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:45,279
Speaker 1: yourself up over it. Yeah, So are your resolutions big

1013
00:54:45,320 --> 00:54:47,399
Speaker 1: and grand? I so are.

1014
00:54:47,680 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 2: I'm one to make big and grand resolutions. But I

1015
00:54:50,600 --> 00:54:53,200
Speaker 2: love I'm going to take from you because I feel

1016
00:54:53,200 --> 00:54:56,799
Speaker 2: like it's such a peaceful feeling going into twenty twenty

1017
00:54:56,840 --> 00:55:00,640
Speaker 2: two being like, I'm going to focus on being happy. So,

1018
00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:02,120
Speaker 2: so that's what it's going to be. I'm going to

1019
00:55:02,160 --> 00:55:05,640
Speaker 2: focus on being happy. I'm going to focus on thriving,

1020
00:55:06,120 --> 00:55:09,480
Speaker 2: working my ass off because I know that we're going

1021
00:55:09,560 --> 00:55:11,440
Speaker 2: to take off. You know what I'm saying, It's going

1022
00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:14,919
Speaker 2: to be our year Jess thrive and thrive. But yeah,

1023
00:55:15,040 --> 00:55:21,440
Speaker 2: I think happiness is key. And since meeting you and

1024
00:55:21,480 --> 00:55:24,080
Speaker 2: working for you, it's really been up there. It's really

1025
00:55:24,160 --> 00:55:26,160
Speaker 2: nice you guys to wake up and like look forward

1026
00:55:26,200 --> 00:55:27,120
Speaker 2: to going to work every.

1027
00:55:27,040 --> 00:55:29,000
Speaker 1: Day, and that makes me so happy and.

1028
00:55:28,960 --> 00:55:29,880
Speaker 2: It's really nice.

1029
00:55:30,000 --> 00:55:34,640
Speaker 1: It's great because with you're the first person that I've

1030
00:55:34,719 --> 00:55:41,399
Speaker 1: hired personally, and there are two goals. One to make

1031
00:55:41,440 --> 00:55:45,240
Speaker 1: sure that we get the job done, we excel every

1032
00:55:45,280 --> 00:55:49,680
Speaker 1: single day, but also that I'm creating a healthy and

1033
00:55:49,800 --> 00:55:55,120
Speaker 1: happy work environment. If I can do both of those things, yeah,

1034
00:55:55,800 --> 00:55:59,719
Speaker 1: we're good. We're gonna I'm so excited to see what

1035
00:56:00,719 --> 00:56:03,400
Speaker 1: that give them. Lala brand does in twenty twenty two.

1036
00:56:04,200 --> 00:56:07,080
Speaker 2: Very exciting, and that's a good thing to take into

1037
00:56:07,080 --> 00:56:10,879
Speaker 2: twenty twenty two. Listeners, It's not worth it because I've

1038
00:56:10,920 --> 00:56:16,359
Speaker 2: been there working for someone or a company that you're

1039
00:56:16,400 --> 00:56:19,479
Speaker 2: not waking up every day feeling excited about. I would

1040
00:56:19,560 --> 00:56:22,640
Speaker 2: start if that's not the case, because Lala is right.

1041
00:56:22,680 --> 00:56:24,839
Speaker 2: You know, you don't realize that until you do work

1042
00:56:24,840 --> 00:56:29,240
Speaker 2: for someone like Lala who makes it a happy, healthy

1043
00:56:29,320 --> 00:56:34,319
Speaker 2: environment and focuses on you being mentally happy and just

1044
00:56:34,400 --> 00:56:37,799
Speaker 2: like all of that, so this is my little note

1045
00:56:37,800 --> 00:56:40,840
Speaker 2: to you. When I started working for Lala, I realized

1046
00:56:41,320 --> 00:56:46,480
Speaker 2: other toxic working situations I have been in, and it's

1047
00:56:46,480 --> 00:56:48,840
Speaker 2: not worth it. Wake up being happy to go to

1048
00:56:48,880 --> 00:56:51,280
Speaker 2: work if you have to start planning and plotting now

1049
00:56:51,680 --> 00:56:55,080
Speaker 2: on how to get out of your current situation that

1050
00:56:55,160 --> 00:56:58,360
Speaker 2: isn't making you happy and work towards something that will,

1051
00:56:58,440 --> 00:57:01,240
Speaker 2: then do it because that's you deserve it for twenty

1052
00:57:01,280 --> 00:57:01,759
Speaker 2: twenty two.

1053
00:57:02,080 --> 00:57:07,120
Speaker 1: I love that. On that note, Jess, Yes, You're fucking amazing.

1054
00:57:07,239 --> 00:57:10,720
Speaker 2: Oh I love you.

1055
00:57:08,360 --> 00:57:13,000
Speaker 4: You've been such a bright light in my world and

1056
00:57:13,040 --> 00:57:15,960
Speaker 4: I'm beyond grateful for you. And I know it's been

1057
00:57:16,000 --> 00:57:18,920
Speaker 4: a very strange working environment the past.

1058
00:57:20,240 --> 00:57:24,160
Speaker 1: Few months, and I want to thank everyone who's listened

1059
00:57:24,160 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 1: to the podcast and sent me amazing dms. You've left

1060
00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:35,800
Speaker 1: awesome voicemails. I'm so beyond grateful for all of you,

1061
00:57:36,400 --> 00:57:39,640
Speaker 1: and I hope that you all go into twenty twenty

1062
00:57:39,640 --> 00:57:42,880
Speaker 1: two and you thrive and you just have all that

1063
00:57:42,960 --> 00:57:45,280
Speaker 1: happiness in the world and that you're healthy and that

1064
00:57:45,320 --> 00:57:51,560
Speaker 1: you're safe. And I really adore all of you. So

1065
00:57:51,680 --> 00:57:56,200
Speaker 1: these are happy grateful to hear as I promise. Yeah,

1066
00:57:56,960 --> 00:58:00,520
Speaker 1: Merry Christmas, Happy holidays. Please be day for our New

1067
00:58:00,600 --> 00:58:03,040
Speaker 1: Year's and we will catch you in twenty twenty two.