WEBVTT - Popping The Question with Men of Bachelor Nation

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, it's Bob getting here for the Bachelor and of

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<v Speaker 1>course a co host of almost famous to OG's. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Jason Meslik.

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<v Speaker 2>I was a batchler a long, long time ago, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm your real estate agent here in Seattle.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right, And this is I do Part two, a

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<v Speaker 1>podcast all about finding left the second time around. Now

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<v Speaker 1>we are going to pop some questions. All right, are

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<v Speaker 1>you ready? Let's go? All right, Jason, here we go.

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<v Speaker 1>First question, if you sleep with a woman on the

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<v Speaker 1>first date, are you thinking about her now for a

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<v Speaker 1>long term relationship? You know, I would.

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<v Speaker 2>I think the world's so different now. I think if

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't, it'd be a super double standard.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, agreed, I totally agree with that. And sometimes love

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<v Speaker 1>at first sight actually exists, right, all right, here we go.

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<v Speaker 1>Do men get turned off if a woman double text,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like sends another message before you even had

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<v Speaker 1>a chance to answer the first one.

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<v Speaker 2>It depends on how long of a break is. Like

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<v Speaker 2>if she text like, you know, and the next text

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<v Speaker 2>is an hour later, probably not. But if it's like

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<v Speaker 2>every two or three minutes, might get a little creepy.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, a little much, right, a little much? Just let

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<v Speaker 1>me answer it. Let me get it done here on

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<v Speaker 1>a date. Should a woman offer to pay? Sure? Why not?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, like I think the world's different. Now, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not saying that you'd let her pay, but like, if

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<v Speaker 2>she wants to offer, that's a nice thing, nice gesture.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I actually agree. My my wife would always be like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, reaching for her wallet. I'm like, oh, come on,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not gonna pay, and she's like no, but I

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<v Speaker 1>at least want you to think I'm trying. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like okay, And I loved that, Like I thought it

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<v Speaker 1>was really really small when you.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen to the Bob here, like sometimes.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, here's a good question, and this is good. This

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<v Speaker 1>could be another double standard kind of question. Do guys

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<v Speaker 1>care about a woman's body count? Do you know what

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<v Speaker 1>that means? Like a woman's number, magic number? Do guys

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<v Speaker 1>care about that?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think, Like, I mean, unless you're Wilt Chamberlain,

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<v Speaker 2>and like it's like ten thousand or something like that.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I who knows who Wilt Chamberlain is. But

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<v Speaker 2>like otherwise, if it's a reasonable, reasonable number, I don't think, right, Well, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Think too that could be an age appropriate thing too, right,

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<v Speaker 1>Like if someone's twenty two and they've got, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>a considerable amount racked up there. And then someone who's

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<v Speaker 1>you know, forty or fifty or whatever you know, and

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I don't know, maybe it doesn't matter who knows.

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<v Speaker 1>Just not ten thousand. I'm just gonna say ten thousand.

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<v Speaker 1>Keep it below ten thousand, and there shouldn't be any

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<v Speaker 1>conversation about it, right. Is ghosting ever acceptable? And have

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<v Speaker 1>you ever ghosted?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think it's acceptable. I mean I may have

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<v Speaker 2>done it, but like, here's what's happening now. So my

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<v Speaker 2>son's at the dating age, he's in college, and a

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<v Speaker 2>girl he was dating last year started ghosting him a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit and seeing how he reacted to it, it

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<v Speaker 2>pissed me off, right, meaning like, just don't you can

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<v Speaker 2>just say, hey, things aren't going well, I'm moving on,

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<v Speaker 2>whatever it might be. I don't think, like, come on,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't need a ghost anybody that's not cool.

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<v Speaker 1>Just be a gentleman, right, I mean, from the standpoint

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<v Speaker 1>of a guy, I don't know what you'd say to

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<v Speaker 1>a to a woman a one, but I agree to

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<v Speaker 1>a lady, yeah, I would. I would literally say if

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<v Speaker 1>it was my son to Granny's only so he's not

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<v Speaker 1>he's not ghosting yet, thank god, but yeah, when he

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<v Speaker 1>gets older, I think I would say, like, come on, dude,

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<v Speaker 1>just be a gentleman, you know whatever. She might not

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<v Speaker 1>be that into you. You never know. Oh have I ever ghosted?

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<v Speaker 2>Ah?

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<v Speaker 1>I have not. This is not my style. I would

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<v Speaker 1>never ghost. I think what I would do is I

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<v Speaker 1>would do what Jason. I would do what you're saying, Jason.

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<v Speaker 1>I would be like, hey, this just isn't working out,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. But I will say back in the day

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<v Speaker 1>when I when I dated a lot, I would often

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<v Speaker 1>make it so that they wanted to break up with me.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I would just be like, you're like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>what's wrong with this guy? No, but it's true. Like

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<v Speaker 1>I would always try to like not be as like

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<v Speaker 1>if I were if I was just kind of over

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship, I wouldn't be as responsive, but I would

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<v Speaker 1>still be responsive. But I wouldn't be like, Hey, what's

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<v Speaker 1>going on. I'd love to see you today. I'd be

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<v Speaker 1>more like, you know, oh, hey Debbie, Yeah, what's up.

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<v Speaker 1>How you been you know, sorry, can't get together today

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever? You know. I wouldn't be as uh as

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<v Speaker 1>as I guess available is the best way to put it.

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<v Speaker 1>Two questions specifically, Jason, I know you went through this one,

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<v Speaker 1>so this is a good one. How soon would you

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<v Speaker 1>introduce a woman that you're dating to your kids, right,

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<v Speaker 1>so we could go to your past life, right to

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<v Speaker 1>your first stage of your life.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I mean I would actually say in the first stage,

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<v Speaker 2>I had done it too soon.

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<v Speaker 1>Right.

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<v Speaker 2>There are times where, like I thought mentally I was ready,

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<v Speaker 2>right even though I was not ready. So again, like

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's some of that comes with maturity when

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<v Speaker 2>back then, you know, in my early this is my

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<v Speaker 2>late twenties, I thought I was mature, and there were

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<v Speaker 2>times where I did introduce somebody to my son way

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<v Speaker 2>too soon, right.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>But if again, if you're on a TV show, like

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<v Speaker 2>you're gonna do it right away because that's interest.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they're rolling that out hot. Now, what if your

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<v Speaker 1>kids don't like a woman that you're dating, are you

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<v Speaker 1>basically like, Okay, we're not doing this, this is over.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. That's a really tough one.

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<v Speaker 2>And I've talked to like friends, family members about this.

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<v Speaker 2>I know that, Like even me, my mom brought in

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<v Speaker 2>my stepdad when we were teenagers, who moved in really

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<v Speaker 2>really quick.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't like we didn't like him.

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<v Speaker 2>We didn't even know it, right, right, But I think

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<v Speaker 2>it's just being caught like and I'm not saying yes

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<v Speaker 2>or no, right, but like if somebody is abusive, that's

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<v Speaker 2>one thing, even if verbally abusive, right, I'm physically abusive,

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<v Speaker 2>but knowing that, like, give it.

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<v Speaker 1>A shot before you jump in deep, that's all I'd say.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because I have jumped in really quick.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it never works out right, backfires on you. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you know that's kind of to that end. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, that's like what you and Molly did. I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's so great you stayed in your life. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean I got the same Chris Harrison advice. And I

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<v Speaker 1>love telling people to this day. You know, I'll be

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<v Speaker 1>hosting something now and they'll go, you know, so is

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<v Speaker 1>this all you do? I'm like, no, I never quit

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<v Speaker 1>my day job. Man. I still do the same thing

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<v Speaker 1>I've always done. It's just this is kind of the

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<v Speaker 1>fun side thing I get to do, you know, on

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<v Speaker 1>the weekends or whatever. But yeah, you know, and that

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<v Speaker 1>was great Harrison advice. I think your advice might kind

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<v Speaker 1>of be right there with it. And they should listen

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<v Speaker 1>to what you're talking about, because I think that's huge.

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<v Speaker 1>What's one thing that all women need know if they

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<v Speaker 1>want to have a success dating a divorce man?

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<v Speaker 2>Uh?

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<v Speaker 1>Be patient?

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<v Speaker 2>I think, well, be patient and then ask yourself if

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<v Speaker 2>this is really what you want because it could be

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<v Speaker 2>a challenged right. I look about what my stepdad went

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<v Speaker 2>through with us, and I look what Molly went through.

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<v Speaker 2>MOLLI was like, oh, it's ezy. Like I looked at

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<v Speaker 2>Jason's awesome and tie super cute. But I think the

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<v Speaker 2>real part of this of like how is he gonna

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<v Speaker 2>look at me? What's the relationship going to be?

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>I think you really this is and only you know that,

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<v Speaker 2>Like if you don't love, if you never wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>have kids and you know that, what's it like, what

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<v Speaker 2>is it going to be like if you're dating somebody

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<v Speaker 2>with a little kid or I can't.

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<v Speaker 1>Just ask because all of a sudden it's it's turnkey family, right.

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<v Speaker 1>You gotta be on you and you got and you got.

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<v Speaker 2>To also like be attentive to it, like you've got

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<v Speaker 2>to really care about them. Like I know Ty has

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<v Speaker 2>got a stepdad for my ex wife, and he is

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<v Speaker 2>a great stepdad, like we get along awesome and making

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<v Speaker 2>sure that's something you really want, but only you truly

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<v Speaker 2>truly know that.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, Yeah, I agree, I agree with that. I think

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<v Speaker 1>one of the pieces of advice I would give when

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<v Speaker 1>dating a divorce guy, because I was a divorce guy

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<v Speaker 1>without kids from my previous relationship, was and this is

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<v Speaker 1>a terrible thing to say, because I do think it's

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<v Speaker 1>a little double standardish, but getting too comfortable too fast? Yeah, right, So, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it's almost got to be an accident that

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<v Speaker 1>you'll leave something over at the house the first time, Right,

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<v Speaker 1>it can't be that you put your stuff in a

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<v Speaker 1>drawer and be like, you know, it's almost gotta be

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<v Speaker 1>like whoa I mean, because everything to a divorced guy,

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<v Speaker 1>whether they wanted to be the divorce person or not,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, whether they wanted to not stand that previous

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<v Speaker 1>relationship or not, is they don't want to make the

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<v Speaker 1>same mistakes over again. So it's going to be cautious

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<v Speaker 1>optimism at best.

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<v Speaker 2>Well I would even say, like, be conscious and I

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<v Speaker 2>did this, how much does it affect the kids? Right?

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<v Speaker 2>And like there was a girl I remember brought around.

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<v Speaker 2>She was awesome and even though it didn't work out.

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<v Speaker 2>After it ended, he started asking like where did she go?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh? Yeah, and he was.

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<v Speaker 2>So little, Ty was so little that he didn't have

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<v Speaker 2>any idea like who she was, why she was around.

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<v Speaker 2>But just be conscious that, like your decisions really impact

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<v Speaker 2>everybody around you.

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<v Speaker 1>God so true. All right, Now we're going to get

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<v Speaker 1>into a little bit more of you know, some a

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<v Speaker 1>little more CD stuff. So what is the biggest red

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<v Speaker 1>flag that you think women ignore when they're dating? What's

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<v Speaker 1>the biggest red flag? Yeah, like, what's something that they

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<v Speaker 1>see from a guy? And like if you're on the app?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I actually know what I'm gonna say to this one, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and I've seen it and I and I know it.

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<v Speaker 1>So let me go first. I'll go first and let

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<v Speaker 1>you think of this, okay. All right, So when a

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<v Speaker 1>dude just is radio silent for long periods of time

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<v Speaker 1>and then it's very shady about where they've been, right,

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<v Speaker 1>Like to me, I was always pretty much an open book,

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, like it's always still canyon. I would say,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I don't ever want anything I'm doing or

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<v Speaker 1>saying when you're not around to you know, like make

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<v Speaker 1>you look like you're the joke or you're the butt

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<v Speaker 1>of the joke. You know. So here's here's what I do,

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<v Speaker 1>Here's where i'm at, Here's what I'm at. Even if

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<v Speaker 1>it was something that I knew she might not like,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's just like, I'm doing this with boys to

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<v Speaker 1>night whatever. It was like this, this brutal honesty to

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<v Speaker 1>a certain degree that I felt like, man, when we

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<v Speaker 1>were still together, you know, three years later, I was like, geez,

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<v Speaker 1>she really actually loves me, you know, because I wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>exactly I was like, I'm going with my guys to

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<v Speaker 1>do this, and it was brazen at times, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>but at least she knew where I was. And I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like sometimes people make excuses for people there dating

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<v Speaker 1>who all of a sudden will be like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, I went out my buddies last night. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>is that why I never heard from me from seven

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<v Speaker 1>o'clock until today two in the afternoon, rise day. You

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean. It's like, come on, man, if

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<v Speaker 1>you got a certain rapport going with someone, then you know,

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<v Speaker 1>anything out of that has to be a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>of a red.

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<v Speaker 2>Flag, right again, like if they want you around, Like

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<v Speaker 2>I think the biggest red flag I guess to me

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<v Speaker 2>would be like if they're only calling you late at night, right,

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<v Speaker 2>So like again, like if they really care and they

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<v Speaker 2>want you around, they want you around other times than

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<v Speaker 2>those those moments exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, they want you around those times too, but

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<v Speaker 1>they actually want to do like other stuff. Yeah. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually think one of the coolest things and I

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<v Speaker 1>and I definitely saw this with with my wife was

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<v Speaker 1>when I would do stuff with the guys and I

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<v Speaker 1>would actually like want her to be there. It wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't feel that need to have this like guy time.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. It was more like, why don't you join us,

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to watch the game, you know whatever. And

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<v Speaker 1>you know, did she have the choice whether she wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to come or not, you know, but it was like

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<v Speaker 1>I always wanted her to feel that inclusiveness. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>she's often told me that that was one of the

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<v Speaker 1>things that she loved about our early relationship. Oh this

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<v Speaker 1>is a good one. Why do guys send unsolicited dick pics?

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<v Speaker 1>And why so quickly? I think that's a new thing

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<v Speaker 1>because I can tell you honestly, I have never sent

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<v Speaker 1>a tick pick.

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<v Speaker 2>I have never either, like I don't like and again

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<v Speaker 2>like this might be a maybe it's because we still

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<v Speaker 2>have phones that don't drow pictures. Got a really good point.

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<v Speaker 2>You can't take a picture of the landline. I've tried,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know like it. And again like maybe this

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<v Speaker 2>is like, you know, I'm married to somebody from the Midwest.

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<v Speaker 2>None of that stuff would ever fly.

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<v Speaker 1>Right right same, I just and I just wouldn't do it,

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<v Speaker 1>Like part of me was always like you know, And

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<v Speaker 1>I guess maybe it's because I you know, I mean, gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>I was thirty two when I went on The Bachelor,

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<v Speaker 1>and even then I remember I was I mean that

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<v Speaker 1>was two thousand and five or four, late two thousand

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<v Speaker 1>and three. Oh my god, when I was the Bachelor,

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<v Speaker 1>and uh so, I mean, cell phones weren't that good.

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<v Speaker 1>Defines weren't there yet. Huh. We didn't have a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of funds yet. And I mean I may have even

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<v Speaker 1>had a flip phone during my Bachelor run. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>I can't remember exactly, but I do remember thinking to

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<v Speaker 1>myself when people were I was already you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>got married after the Bachelor, then divorced, then three years

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<v Speaker 1>later met Canyon, and by that point I was kind

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<v Speaker 1>of you know, well known, and so I wasn't sending

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<v Speaker 1>Dick pics at that point, that's for sure. So I

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<v Speaker 1>kind of missed the window of opportunity had I had

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<v Speaker 1>that been something I wanted to do.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it blows my mind because I, like I personally,

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<v Speaker 2>I've never even asked my friends about this, but you

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<v Speaker 2>see it in the media right where like a technical

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<v Speaker 2>figure has done something like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, what the heck is going on in their

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<v Speaker 1>brain to do that? Right? Honestly, Like, don't you know

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<v Speaker 1>that they can send that picture to like forty other

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<v Speaker 1>people go hey, this is bills, you know whatever. It's like,

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<v Speaker 1>That's how I think of it. Yeah, all right, and

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<v Speaker 1>I got one more. This is gonna be the last

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<v Speaker 1>question that we have during our speed round, which probably

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<v Speaker 1>hasn't been as speedy as the producers would have liked

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<v Speaker 1>because we're talking so much. But this is what happens

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<v Speaker 1>when you get two guys who actually like each other

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<v Speaker 1>on a call together who haven't seen each other a while,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're gonna have to go back in the annals

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<v Speaker 1>for this one, back in the dating annuals. Got it?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm back, all right? Is sexting ever a good idea

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<v Speaker 1>and when and when not would you do it sexting?

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<v Speaker 1>That's good, that's a good question.

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<v Speaker 2>Again, Like I'm going back to, like I'm married to

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<v Speaker 2>somebody from the Midwest, and this stuff doesn't that's not something, right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>But like if you are in a trusting, committed relationship, right, right,

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<v Speaker 2>somebody that you trust, like you trust, right, it's beyond

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<v Speaker 2>having kids, right, It's like there may be a place

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<v Speaker 2>for something that is.

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<v Speaker 1>Unique.

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<v Speaker 2>But I will say, in my personal opinion, like things

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<v Speaker 2>on your cell phone are always findable, right, right. I

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<v Speaker 2>remember that, and I can't remember it was it Jennifer

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<v Speaker 2>Anderson or somebody, some celebrity, like all these pictures came

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<v Speaker 2>out and she thought.

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<v Speaker 1>They were private. Just remember that.

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<v Speaker 2>I think about what I'm telling my son right now,

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<v Speaker 2>about what you should post or not post on Instagram

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<v Speaker 2>or whatnote the internet, your phone.

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<v Speaker 1>It freaking lives forever, absolutely, dude. I think about it

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. I tell my nephew that he's twenty

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<v Speaker 1>five now, and I was like, dude, just you know,

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<v Speaker 1>watch what you write out there, because you know I

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<v Speaker 1>get it. In the heat of the moment, you feel

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<v Speaker 1>this way. But six months from now, it's probably not

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<v Speaker 1>that big of a deal now that's going to follow

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<v Speaker 1>you around, so just you know, wow, I think about

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<v Speaker 1>it at the time, man, I really do so. I

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<v Speaker 1>kind of keep my stuff to a very lighthearted, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>level set medium at all times.

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<v Speaker 2>There's cute winky face emojis for a reason.

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<v Speaker 1>That is so true. Well, dude, I love it, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I love catching up with you. Thanks for doing the

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<v Speaker 1>rapid fire question with maybe that I do part two.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm so glad when they called me and

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<v Speaker 1>said that they were going to have you on it

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<v Speaker 1>with me, and I was very excited about that and

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<v Speaker 1>great to get to meet Gary on the first the

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<v Speaker 1>first stuff pot of the show and for us to

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<v Speaker 1>get to catch up with all of this. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>anything you learned from my answers today, because I learned

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<v Speaker 1>a lot from yours, well, I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you know what really took me to is

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<v Speaker 2>just like talking to people that are like, even though

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<v Speaker 2>you're a couple of years older than me in my

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<v Speaker 2>in our age group, but Gary, like Gary's in a

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<v Speaker 2>different sit stage in life. He's retired, he's looking for

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<v Speaker 2>the word. He kept on using his companionship, and I

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<v Speaker 2>think if even the younger people that are listening or

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<v Speaker 2>watching right now about that word, like, what does that mean?

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<v Speaker 2>He didn't say anything about attraction or we'll jumping on it,

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<v Speaker 2>jumping jumping somebody's bones or to somebody something like that.

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<v Speaker 1>You talk about it. I think he's looking for a partner. Yeah, no,

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that's interesting because I think we all are.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just that, you know, when we're in our younger years,

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<v Speaker 1>we we don't really realize that that's going to be

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<v Speaker 1>the thing that makes us so happy in the end,

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<v Speaker 1>is that person that you know, hopefully we grow old

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<v Speaker 1>with and we you know, we have these experiences with

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<v Speaker 1>to share and we look back and it's you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's all puppy dogs and rainbows, right, but we all

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<v Speaker 1>know that's not always all puppy dogs and rainbows. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>when you have a five year old, there's no right now,

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<v Speaker 1>there's no puppy dog in there. It doesn't seem to

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<v Speaker 1>ever be a light at the end of the tunnel

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<v Speaker 1>or a potogold at the end of the rainbow. But

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<v Speaker 1>I know it's coming. I know it's coming. I swear well,

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<v Speaker 1>thanks again, buddy, And hey, guys, if you're listening and

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<v Speaker 1>you're ready to get back out there. But you want

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