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Speaker 1: Hey, it's Bob getting here for the Bachelor and of

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Speaker 1: course a co host of almost famous to OG's. And

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Speaker 1: I'm Jason Meslik.

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Speaker 2: I was a batchler a long, long time ago, and

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Speaker 2: I'm your real estate agent here in Seattle.

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Speaker 1: That's right, And this is I do Part two, a

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Speaker 1: podcast all about finding left the second time around. Now

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Speaker 1: we are going to pop some questions. All right, are

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Speaker 1: you ready? Let's go? All right, Jason, here we go.

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Speaker 1: First question, if you sleep with a woman on the

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Speaker 1: first date, are you thinking about her now for a

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Speaker 1: long term relationship? You know, I would.

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Speaker 2: I think the world's so different now. I think if

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Speaker 2: I didn't, it'd be a super double standard.

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Speaker 1: Oh, agreed, I totally agree with that. And sometimes love

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Speaker 1: at first sight actually exists, right, all right, here we go.

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Speaker 1: Do men get turned off if a woman double text,

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Speaker 1: you know, like sends another message before you even had

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Speaker 2: It depends on how long of a break is. Like

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Speaker 2: if she text like, you know, and the next text

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Speaker 2: is an hour later, probably not. But if it's like

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Speaker 2: every two or three minutes, might get a little creepy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, a little much, right, a little much? Just let

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Speaker 1: me answer it. Let me get it done here on

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Speaker 1: a date. Should a woman offer to pay? Sure? Why not?

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Speaker 2: I mean, like I think the world's different. Now, I'm

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Speaker 2: not saying that you'd let her pay, but like, if

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Speaker 2: she wants to offer, that's a nice thing, nice gesture.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I actually agree. My my wife would always be like,

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Speaker 1: you're not gonna pay, and she's like no, but I

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Speaker 1: at least want you to think I'm trying. And I'm

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Speaker 1: like okay, And I loved that, Like I thought it

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Speaker 1: was really really small when you.

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Speaker 2: Listen to the Bob here, like sometimes.

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Speaker 1: Oh, here's a good question, and this is good. This

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Speaker 1: could be another double standard kind of question. Do guys

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Speaker 1: care about a woman's body count? Do you know what

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Speaker 2: I don't think, Like, I mean, unless you're Wilt Chamberlain,

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Speaker 2: and like it's like ten thousand or something like that.

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Speaker 2: You know, I who knows who Wilt Chamberlain is. But

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Speaker 2: like otherwise, if it's a reasonable, reasonable number, I don't think, right, Well, I.

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Speaker 1: Think too that could be an age appropriate thing too, right,

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Speaker 1: Just not ten thousand. I'm just gonna say ten thousand.

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Speaker 1: Keep it below ten thousand, and there shouldn't be any

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Speaker 1: conversation about it, right. Is ghosting ever acceptable? And have

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Speaker 2: I don't think it's acceptable. I mean I may have

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Speaker 2: you don't need a ghost anybody that's not cool.

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Speaker 1: Just be a gentleman, right, I mean, from the standpoint

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Speaker 1: I have not. This is not my style. I would

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Speaker 2: And I've talked to like friends, family members about this.

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Speaker 2: it's just being caught like and I'm not saying yes

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Speaker 1: A shot before you jump in deep, that's all I'd say.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it never works out right, backfires on you. I mean,

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Speaker 1: What's one thing that all women need know if they

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Speaker 2: Jason's awesome and tie super cute. But I think the

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Speaker 1: Just ask because all of a sudden it's it's turnkey family, right.

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Speaker 2: To also like be attentive to it, like you've got

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Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, I agree, I agree with that. I think

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Speaker 1: God so true. All right, Now we're going to get

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Speaker 2: You know, it blows my mind because I, like I personally,

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Speaker 2: But I will say, in my personal opinion, like things

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Speaker 1: thanks again, buddy, And hey, guys, if you're listening and

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