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Speaker 1: This is the most dramatic podcast ever an iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 1: Chris Harrison coming to you from the home office in Austin, Texas.

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Speaker 1: Really excited about the show today because of my guests,

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Speaker 1: Brian Austin Green of course nine oh two to one

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Speaker 1: oh fame and his fiance now Sharna Burgess. They have

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Speaker 1: a podcast together. They were on Dancing with the Stars together,

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Speaker 1: but they are now madly in love and we just

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Speaker 1: found out from Las Vegas when they were there together

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Speaker 1: in the iHeartRadio Festival that they got engaged and actually

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Speaker 1: got engaged a couple of months ago. So can't wait

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Speaker 1: to talk to him about the engagement, how it went down,

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Speaker 1: why they kept it a secret. But Brian Austin Green,

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Speaker 1: very interesting guy, obviously a child actor nine O two

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Speaker 1: to one oh fame and then famously married and had

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Speaker 1: to have found peace in his life. Was Sharna and

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Speaker 1: Sharna a big star in her own right from Dancing

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Speaker 1: with the Stars over in Australia and here in America,

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Speaker 1: and they just have this amazing relationship that I want

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Speaker 1: to dive into. So without further ado, Brian Austin Green.

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Speaker 1: Sharna joined me. Now, where are you got y'all in La?

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Speaker 2: We are, We're in Bell Canyon at home.

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Speaker 1: Can I start off with a really stupid question, because

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Speaker 1: that's how I like to start off all my interviews.

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Speaker 2: Fantastic. Please do Where does the Brian Austin Green come from?

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Speaker 3: Oh? That's actually a fun stary.

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Speaker 2: I've never fun I've never out of all the things

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Speaker 2: I've read about you, known about you, I don't know

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Speaker 2: why you have three names. Yeah. So I was born

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Speaker 2: Brian Green. Legally I'm Brian Green. I had no middle name,

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Speaker 2: and there was already a Brian Green that was in

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Speaker 2: sag So at the point when I joined the Union,

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Speaker 2: they were like, oh, you need what's your middle name?

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Speaker 2: We have to do something to differentiate yourself that makes sense.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, I don't have one. Oh, you

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Speaker 2: need to come up with one. So Brian Green is

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Speaker 2: a as simple as that name is, it's a really

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Speaker 2: difficult name to find a middle name for. It doesn't

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Speaker 2: flow over because Brian is the typical middle name.

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Speaker 3: I guess it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's hard to have that middle name when

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Speaker 1: your first name is the middle name exactly.

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Speaker 2: Okay, see I like, how you go. I'm so happy

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Speaker 2: that we're talking to you. So how did I come

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Speaker 2: up with Austin? We went, We ended up settling on

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Speaker 2: the map and we were we were looking through cities

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Speaker 2: and states trying to find We went through everything. My

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Speaker 2: my mother's father, his name was Peter. I never met him.

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Speaker 2: He passed away before I was born. So I was thinking, like, oh,

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Speaker 2: Brian Peter Green, we can make that work. And then

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Speaker 2: we started thinking the initial Brian p. Green. It's like

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Speaker 2: that's I'm kind of opening myself yet for a lifetime

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Speaker 2: of hurt with that one.

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Speaker 1: So well, I'm coming to you from Austin, Texas, and

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm I'm glad that are you really? I live

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Speaker 1: in Austin, so I love the middle name. But I'm

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Speaker 1: also glad to report to everybody he's not an assassin,

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Speaker 1: because typically that's the three names is in America. Sharna's like, what,

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Speaker 1: so all of our assassins are always known by their

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Speaker 1: full names. It's like, you know, Lee Harvey Austin, John

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Speaker 1: Wilkes Booth.

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Speaker 2: It's true, Brian Austin, Right, yeah, I'm not I'm not

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Speaker 2: a killer. I thought I hadn't been recently. I stopped

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Speaker 2: a while ago. My gosh, before that's clearly not an

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Speaker 2: Australian thing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, not an Australian thing at all. I mean, listen,

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Speaker 3: we've got a couple of serial killers, but not.

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Speaker 2: Well, it wasn't only the Misfits to start, I mean truly. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Maybe we just don't know. Maybe they're just good at it.

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Speaker 2: Australia is a pretty peaceful place though. I love Australia.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's amazing.

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Speaker 2: I went for the first time this year during the summer.

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Speaker 2: We did Sharna was there judging Dancing with the Stars,

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Speaker 2: I did an episode of The Mass Singer Australia and

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Speaker 2: so we brought all the kids out there and we

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Speaker 2: did kind of a family vacation in Sydney and it

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Speaker 2: was amazing. I mean, we went, we flew up North

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Speaker 2: Sharna's hometown. She's from Wagga Wagga, so we uh, we

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Speaker 2: kind of visited everything. But we were there for about

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Speaker 2: two and a half weeks. So wait, Wagga Wagga. Is

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Speaker 2: that is that where the rock is? Is that like

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Speaker 2: the rock?

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Speaker 3: Wait? What do you know?

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Speaker 4: big massive one as Rock, which is now Ularu.

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Speaker 3: No, that's pretty much in the middle of Australia.

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Speaker 1: Okay, because that's we shot there. We because we we

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Speaker 1: all that. But uh so where so where's your hometown?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? What is it called again?

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Speaker 2: It's halfway between Sydney and Melbourne.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly, baby, it's halfway between Sydney and Melbourne, but inland.

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Speaker 4: So Ularu is in a completely different state. In the

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Speaker 2: It is hot.

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Speaker 3: It is hot the middle.

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Speaker 2: So you said you beautiful, you said you took all

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Speaker 2: your kids. Okay, tell me what is the do We

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Speaker 2: have four total five total five total of four young kids,

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Speaker 2: four young kids. The fifth one, the oldest one, is

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Speaker 2: twenty one. So he's living his best life. He's living

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Speaker 2: his best life. Yeah, yeah, he's what's he doing?

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Speaker 1: So, because you and I are about the same age,

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Speaker 1: I'm fifty two. You just turned fifty, right, just turned

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Speaker 1: fifty and so you have a twenty one year old.

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Speaker 1: I have a twenty two year old as of yesterday,

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Speaker 1: and a nineteen year old daughter.

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Speaker 2: Birthday to the but I stopped. You've kept going, my friend.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he says he's alfa.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, twenty one and fifteen months, that's pretty big.

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Speaker 2: I think I'm going to get the prison tattoo the

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Speaker 2: clock with no hand. Like my manager's going through the

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Speaker 2: whole like empty nest thing now her three kids are

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Speaker 2: grown up and moved out, and I, at the very least,

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Speaker 2: I've got another eighteen years, Cigar, at the least, like I,

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Speaker 2: you know, and that is like turns eighteen, and he's like, peace,

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Speaker 2: I'm out of here, right. That never happens ever, never, No,

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Speaker 2: it never happens. It's very interesting like being here. They

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Speaker 2: so you know, if anything, they're just a couple of

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what what is that life like for you guys?

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Speaker 1: I am in the empty nesting phase where both my

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Speaker 1: because I do love babies. I know well enough that

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Speaker 1: I don't want to do it again. So what was

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Speaker 1: we're having a baby if we're doing this.

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Speaker 2: We talked early on when we first met, and it

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Speaker 2: was actually something It was a conversation that came up

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Speaker 2: very like heavy sort of conversations. And Sean and I

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Speaker 2: had just started dating, really and I had this conversation

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Speaker 2: you know, I I've been blessed enough to have four

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Speaker 2: kids now, and the reality is Shawna has not had

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Speaker 2: for her to not experience that. Yeah, so I knew

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Speaker 2: I was like, listen, I'm not really ready to have

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Speaker 2: worry that you are wasting this time in your life

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Speaker 2: when you should be having kids and experiencing life with me,

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Speaker 2: and that's of no interest.

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Speaker 1: that really meant a lot to you to have that conversation.

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Speaker 4: What was really cool about that conversation is I was

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Speaker 4: turning up to a date that day ready to speak

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Speaker 2: Knew to have that conversation.

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Speaker 4: Ye right, I knew that he you know, he's already

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Speaker 3: And for me, I knew that.

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Speaker 4: This was a guy I could really feel deeply for

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Speaker 4: not want to continue down that road if kids weren't

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Speaker 4: and we had that happen quite a bit in our

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Speaker 4: dating life, Like we just intuitively knew things to bring

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Speaker 4: tell me the stuff you've been working on, Like tell

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Speaker 4: me what's been your what's your worst quality or your

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Speaker 4: hardest thing to overcome. He talked about his impatience. I

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Speaker 4: talked about my sensitivity. Like we really got into those things,

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Speaker 4: so nothing was off the table for us to talk

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Speaker 4: to bring up the subject of kids too, especially the

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Speaker 4: man that you're dating right, Well, that happens early.

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Speaker 1: I mean I went through this as well with Lauren,

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Speaker 1: when I quickly realized I love this girl and I

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Speaker 1: think there's something special here, but I don't want to

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Speaker 1: it's amazing how you know, conversations you would never have

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Speaker 1: when you were younger, you cut through the bullshit when

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Speaker 2: Yeah you so, yeah, we I mean, Sharna had been

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Speaker 2: single for five five years at that point, I had

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Speaker 2: been not newly divorced, but I mean I'd only been

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Speaker 2: neither one of us at that point were really we

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Speaker 2: weren't really looking to date like we when we first

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Speaker 2: met each other. It wasn't it wasn't really like a

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Speaker 2: date setup. It was much more like, hey, let's oh,

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Speaker 2: I've heard really good things about her, and we have

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Speaker 2: a business manager in common, and so yeah, let's kind

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Speaker 2: shop date? Yeah, during it was during COVID. It was

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Speaker 1: Misery loves company. Let's yeah, absolutely, let's do COVID together. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: totally exactly. So how quickly did it? Did it move

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Speaker 1: on from the coffee date or was it pretty instantaneous

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Speaker 1: You're like you leave that date thinking.

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Speaker 3: No, we've tried to take it slow.

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Speaker 4: Honestly, we had that first date and we sat down

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Speaker 4: for coffee and it was very easy. That's the best

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Speaker 4: word I can use to describe it. Was the easiest

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Speaker 4: thing I ever did. We lost time. We ended up

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Speaker 4: sitting there for five hours. I almost missed turning up

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Speaker 4: I could rehearse that.

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Speaker 3: Day, like all the things. It was like, oh my god,

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Speaker 2: It was great because we were we were all together,

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Speaker 3: And I would just ignore it. Just let it go,

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Speaker 3: They were a part of how we announced that we

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Speaker 4: We are a tribe, you know what I mean, We

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Speaker 4: that moment in that video. So it really he you know,

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Speaker 3: Let's well get to it when we get to it.

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Speaker 2: Well, congratulations, guys, that's awesome, Thank you, very happy for you.

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Speaker 1: Brian's like easy. One of the things I do admire

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Speaker 1: That's that's really parents. You have to deal with it.

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Speaker 4: end of the day, it's all about the kids. It

439
00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:19,840
Speaker 4: doesn't have anything to do with us or our egos.

440
00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:21,920
Speaker 4: It's about creating this safe space for them.

441
00:21:22,119 --> 00:21:27,520
Speaker 2: Sharna has been from the very beginning very very conscious

442
00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:32,800
Speaker 2: and aware of the kid's experience in everything because she wanted,

443
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:36,640
Speaker 2: she's always wanted to have a really good relationship with them,

444
00:21:36,680 --> 00:21:41,280
Speaker 2: and she knew instinctually that that isn't something that you

445
00:21:41,359 --> 00:21:46,600
Speaker 2: can rush or make happen before it just naturally does.

446
00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:52,919
Speaker 2: The kids have loved her from day one. I remember

447
00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:56,080
Speaker 2: Noah's saying to me, sharn is one of the nicest

448
00:21:56,119 --> 00:21:59,840
Speaker 2: people I've ever met, and that meant so much to

449
00:21:59,880 --> 00:22:03,400
Speaker 2: me to hear because we were very we were very

450
00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:06,200
Speaker 2: careful in the beginning. You know, you never know how

451
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:10,200
Speaker 2: kids are going to react, yeah, bringing somebody new around,

452
00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:13,119
Speaker 2: and so we were we were fortunate enough to have

453
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 2: little things like, uh, Seana had dogs, these cute little dogs.

454
00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:20,840
Speaker 2: So it became a thing of like, oh, Duke and

455
00:22:20,880 --> 00:22:22,639
Speaker 2: days you're gonna come by and hang out. You'll get

456
00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 2: to see them today, and then you know, and then

457
00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:26,159
Speaker 2: it was like, oh, well, you know, can Duke and

458
00:22:26,240 --> 00:22:28,440
Speaker 2: Daisy spend the night? And I had to say, well,

459
00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:32,439
Speaker 2: Sean asked to spend the night too. If so, it

460
00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:36,000
Speaker 2: was like it all became they were a part of

461
00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:40,639
Speaker 2: the decision making and and the reality is, uh you know,

462
00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:45,120
Speaker 2: which which I think a lot of people unfortunately don't

463
00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:49,760
Speaker 2: take to heart, is if things hadn't been the way

464
00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:54,840
Speaker 2: they were, kids really came first in that moment, they'd

465
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:58,640
Speaker 2: come out of something so uh so tough to deal

466
00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:02,720
Speaker 2: with and having parents that say, operate, but we were

467
00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:07,000
Speaker 2: just so fortunate. Sharna has just from day one been

468
00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 2: so amazing with them. They absolutely love her. They're obsessed

469
00:23:13,119 --> 00:23:17,439
Speaker 2: with Zane, our newest. I said, the kids.

470
00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 1: The kids didn't choose this, so you don't. You don't

471
00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:23,200
Speaker 1: get to put them in the middle, you don't get.

472
00:23:23,000 --> 00:23:23,720
Speaker 2: To use them.

473
00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 1: And absolutely that sounds like what you guys did, and

474
00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:31,840
Speaker 1: Sharna did you reached out to Megan, I believe correct,

475
00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:32,760
Speaker 1: I did.

476
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:33,200
Speaker 3: Yeah.

477
00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:36,200
Speaker 4: We had been dating for a couple months at this point,

478
00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:39,000
Speaker 4: and I was around the kids a lot, and I'd

479
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:42,480
Speaker 4: been thinking to myself, I wanted to meet her for

480
00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:44,480
Speaker 4: this purpose of like, I'm around the kids. But I

481
00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:47,439
Speaker 4: was very new to a relationship that already had kids

482
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:50,840
Speaker 4: in it, right, I'd never dated someone that had kids, and.

483
00:23:52,520 --> 00:23:54,880
Speaker 3: It was like, God, what is what would I want

484
00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:55,880
Speaker 3: if I was a mother?

485
00:23:55,920 --> 00:23:59,480
Speaker 4: Trying to hypothetically put myself in that position, and it

486
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,880
Speaker 4: just came down to being you know, respectful of people,

487
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:06,440
Speaker 4: and it just I think it was the universe putting

488
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:08,680
Speaker 4: her in my path or putting us in each other's path,

489
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:10,520
Speaker 4: because it was time, and this had been on my

490
00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 4: mind of like, I think it's time that I meet

491
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:14,680
Speaker 4: her so she knows who's around her kids and to

492
00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:17,879
Speaker 4: let her know I can if there's anything she needs

493
00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:20,480
Speaker 4: or wants or wants me to help with, I'm here.

494
00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:23,119
Speaker 4: Something she wants to know about me, I'm here, like

495
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:26,199
Speaker 4: let's chat. You know, what do you what do you

496
00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:28,120
Speaker 4: want for your kids? I want to be a part

497
00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:31,160
Speaker 4: of what's happening, not change anything or you know, disrupt

498
00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:35,400
Speaker 4: And so yeah, the universe had us cross paths, and

499
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:38,720
Speaker 4: we were at the same restaurant in Los Angeles, and

500
00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 4: I didn't see Megan and Colslon come in, but my girlfriend,

501
00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:45,720
Speaker 4: actually Peter Murgatroyd, was sitting next to me, and I

502
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:48,040
Speaker 4: looked at the left and she just her beautiful big

503
00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:51,080
Speaker 4: eyes were sticking out of her head like a cartoon character,

504
00:24:51,200 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 4: and she's just like trying to like nudge her head

505
00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:57,800
Speaker 4: all discreetly, but not so discreetly in the director of Megan.

506
00:24:57,840 --> 00:24:59,439
Speaker 3: I was like, I don't understand what's going on here.

507
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:02,240
Speaker 4: And as I look from her from my left over

508
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:04,159
Speaker 4: to the right to who was speaking in our group,

509
00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:07,960
Speaker 4: I caught Megan and Colson in my ilight and we

510
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:11,680
Speaker 4: caught eyes for just a second, and I decided to

511
00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 4: not go back to that and to not go over

512
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 4: to the table because way too many eyes would be

513
00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 4: on that situation, and it's just no, and it just

514
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:23,920
Speaker 4: that felt uncomfortable. So it also felt uncomfortable ignoring her

515
00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:26,680
Speaker 4: in that space. But but it was like, no, this

516
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:30,160
Speaker 4: is probably the better of two not so great options.

517
00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 3: And I got out of that.

518
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:33,680
Speaker 4: Restaurant and I text Bryce straight away and I was like, hey,

519
00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:35,800
Speaker 4: I ran into Meghan at the restaurant and I think

520
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:38,879
Speaker 4: it's time that her and I meet, you know, I would,

521
00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 4: I'd love to introduce myself. And he was like, absolutely,

522
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:43,840
Speaker 4: here's her number. And I think you let her know though,

523
00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 4: that I was going to reach out, right.

524
00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:47,920
Speaker 2: I did, yeah, just out of respect so.

525
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:49,800
Speaker 4: She didn't feel also like, how did you you know,

526
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 4: a blindsided by it? Respectfully let her know that, you know,

527
00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 4: he passed on her number to me and I was

528
00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:56,360
Speaker 4: just going to say hi.

529
00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:58,159
Speaker 3: And look, she really appreciated it.

530
00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:00,320
Speaker 1: I know it doesn't sound like much maybe as you're

531
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:04,280
Speaker 1: telling this story, but what you're just describing is such

532
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:08,439
Speaker 1: a huge step and I'm sure made Brian love you

533
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 1: even more, Lauren, the way she took on my kids

534
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:16,399
Speaker 1: and dealing with my ex, and because it is a lot,

535
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:18,639
Speaker 1: and it's something if you've never dealt with it before,

536
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:20,800
Speaker 1: you're just trying to figure it out, and there is

537
00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:24,960
Speaker 1: no perfect way, no two ways are alike, and there's

538
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:27,439
Speaker 1: no book written that's like this. These are the steps

539
00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:29,800
Speaker 1: you take. So the fact that you did that really

540
00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:30,720
Speaker 1: says a lot about you.

541
00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:32,520
Speaker 3: Thank you, Chris.

542
00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:35,800
Speaker 4: I appreciate that it felt like the right move, you know,

543
00:26:36,119 --> 00:26:40,760
Speaker 4: and it certainly was. It was received and respected, and

544
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:43,399
Speaker 4: again it was just thinking what would I want and

545
00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:45,560
Speaker 4: if I was her in this situation.

546
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:47,199
Speaker 1: Because it's not easy, and Brian, I know you have

547
00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:49,160
Speaker 1: to deal with it, you know, on the other side

548
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:51,960
Speaker 1: as well, because the kids aren't with you all the time,

549
00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:55,160
Speaker 1: you know, and you don't you don't know what's going

550
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:56,000
Speaker 1: on in the other house.

551
00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:56,520
Speaker 2: You don't know.

552
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:59,600
Speaker 1: You'd love to have that communication, but when you get divorced,

553
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 1: that's one of the things you lose, is that control

554
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:02,520
Speaker 1: to always.

555
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:04,479
Speaker 2: Kind of get what's going on. Yeah, you give up

556
00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:07,760
Speaker 2: that that half of their life and you sort of

557
00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 2: We talked about this actually before on the podcast. We

558
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:17,600
Speaker 2: were talking about in co parenting when you split up

559
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:19,879
Speaker 2: with the other parent and then you realize like, Okay,

560
00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:22,679
Speaker 2: I am now only going to have my children in

561
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:25,400
Speaker 2: my life fifty percent of the time, and the rest

562
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 2: of the time. You have these ideas of what works

563
00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 2: better for you or how you think they should be,

564
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:35,680
Speaker 2: you know, raised in school, or what their bedtime should

565
00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:38,040
Speaker 2: be or all of these things. You can you can

566
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:41,399
Speaker 2: either nitpick all of those and you can just keep

567
00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:45,160
Speaker 2: things into like a perpetual almost like state of war

568
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:48,520
Speaker 2: with the person that you're no longer with or you

569
00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:51,600
Speaker 2: can pick your battles on those things. And at the

570
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:54,119
Speaker 2: end of the day, it's not you know, I'm not

571
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:57,280
Speaker 2: going to be able to change her mind or say

572
00:27:57,320 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 2: anything on bedtimes or diet or things like that.

573
00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:05,040
Speaker 4: No need to either, Like everyone has their best interests

574
00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 4: at the kid's best interests at heart, and as Bryce said,

575
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:09,800
Speaker 4: you can only worry about what you can control.

576
00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:12,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, And then honestly, like, try and make

577
00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:15,359
Speaker 2: make the experience of them going back and forth the

578
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:20,639
Speaker 2: best you possibly can. And and instead of talking negatively

579
00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 2: about the other person and the differences between the two houses,

580
00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 2: make it something special and exciting, like, hey, you get

581
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:29,359
Speaker 2: to go you know, you're going to Mom's house, and

582
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 2: you know what happens at Mom's house. You get more

583
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 2: you know, you get more of this, or if you're

584
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 2: going to come into my house, you get more desserts,

585
00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:38,719
Speaker 2: or you get more Like it's it's that the life

586
00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 2: is different, and so if you make it enjoyable and

587
00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:44,480
Speaker 2: you make it a celebration, like, oh my god, you

588
00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:46,240
Speaker 2: guys are gonna have so much fun over at Mom's

589
00:28:46,280 --> 00:28:48,040
Speaker 2: house and I can't wait to hear all about it

590
00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:50,800
Speaker 2: on Tuesday when you come back, and so it doesn't

591
00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 2: become even though deep down it hurts and it's hard. Yeah,

592
00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:56,920
Speaker 2: it's well it's hard at first, but then you start

593
00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 2: kind of it's I feel like it's a muscle. Like

594
00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 2: the more you use it and the more you're in that,

595
00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:05,479
Speaker 2: the more you start finding the silver linings in it all.

596
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 2: Like I was I was saying that you start realizing

597
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:13,080
Speaker 2: how nice it is when you have a four day

598
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:17,760
Speaker 2: break from the of recharging of like we we get

599
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:20,480
Speaker 2: to go do adult things. We go to restaurants, we

600
00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:22,320
Speaker 2: go to the movies, we do these things, so we

601
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:25,760
Speaker 2: kind of recharge ourselves. So then when they come back

602
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 2: over you can die. You can have a thousand percent

603
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:32,800
Speaker 2: of us for the next five days. We're not We're

604
00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 2: not going anywhere. We're not going to get tired. We're not,

605
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:37,840
Speaker 2: you know, and then and then vice versa. It happens

606
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:41,520
Speaker 2: the other way around also, so it's you start you're

607
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:47,240
Speaker 2: you're forced into the situation, but you can find silver

608
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 2: linings in most of the things that happen in your life,

609
00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 2: even when they're incredibly difficult and you think this is

610
00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 2: what what good is possibly going to come out of this.

611
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:02,120
Speaker 2: It's shocking the good things that come out of damn

612
00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 2: near every experience that you have.

613
00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:19,440
Speaker 1: I just watched episode one at the time of this taping,

614
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 1: Episode one of Special Forces. Here's a weird note. They

615
00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:31,920
Speaker 1: asked me to be on this season? Did they casting

616
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 1: called me and asked me to be on this season

617
00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:34,520
Speaker 1: of Special Forces?

618
00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:36,520
Speaker 2: Brian and I would have been on together. You should

619
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:36,880
Speaker 2: have done it.

620
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:37,840
Speaker 3: That would have been so fun.

621
00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 2: You should have done it. It was pretty awesome.

622
00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:41,400
Speaker 3: What do you think of the show, Chris? Would you

623
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:41,720
Speaker 3: do it?

624
00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:46,600
Speaker 2: I clearly know obviously it wasn't there. Here's the thing,

625
00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:47,600
Speaker 2: it's not that I wouldn't.

626
00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:50,000
Speaker 1: If I was going to do any of these shows,

627
00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 1: reality shows where I was actually a contestant, that would

628
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 1: be one.

629
00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:55,120
Speaker 2: And it's funny.

630
00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 1: I kind of put myself in your shoes because we're

631
00:30:57,000 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 1: about the same age, and you really good at what

632
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:04,640
Speaker 1: I noticed just in, you know, putting on my reality

633
00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 1: producing hat last night. Brian's really good at He's athletic enough.

634
00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:15,480
Speaker 1: But you're not such a big target that you're gonna

635
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:17,000
Speaker 1: be a problem that they're gonna.

636
00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:19,600
Speaker 2: Need to take down. You know, like you're a good guy.

637
00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:22,160
Speaker 1: I can see that you're good at taking shit, like

638
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 1: you're good you don't mind taking the heat. I was like, Oh,

639
00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 1: this guy's gonna do really well on this show because

640
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:31,320
Speaker 1: you're athletic enough, but you're not somebody I feel like

641
00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to worry about like some of these

642
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:36,000
Speaker 1: other guys. Like it's like you look at Dez Bryant,

643
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 1: you look at even Tyler Cameron. Those guys are you know,

644
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 1: huge egos and huge names. I'm like, they're coming at.

645
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:44,960
Speaker 2: A targe guys. Oh yeah, they're targets. Like if you're

646
00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:46,880
Speaker 2: gonna mess with people, those are the ones you mess

647
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 2: with I and believe me. I like that was one

648
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 2: of the game plans going into the whole thing for

649
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:58,320
Speaker 2: me was I want to be as off the radar

650
00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:01,880
Speaker 2: as I possibly can. I just want to, like you know,

651
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:06,800
Speaker 2: not not create problems, not rock the boat, try my

652
00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:09,960
Speaker 2: hardest on these on these things that happen, give it

653
00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:14,400
Speaker 2: my all, and and just really fly under the radar

654
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 2: as far as like little smirks they see here because

655
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:23,000
Speaker 2: I so funny enough. I'm somebody that I mess with

656
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:25,800
Speaker 2: people a lot, Like I joke with people a lot.

657
00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:29,280
Speaker 2: It's it's fun for me. I like I joke with

658
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:33,680
Speaker 2: people because I have no problem in being self deprecating either.

659
00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:36,360
Speaker 2: So it's I I feel like you really disarm people

660
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 2: when you're that way, and then you you joke about them. Also,

661
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:42,720
Speaker 2: it's like, oh, we're sort of all it's the playing

662
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:48,120
Speaker 2: field is level. Yeah. But Sharna early on before I left,

663
00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:51,120
Speaker 2: was like, hey, so you know you can't be that

664
00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:55,720
Speaker 2: way there, like when you're when you're on cameras stark

665
00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:58,959
Speaker 2: with the stuff, please please please, staff will not like

666
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:01,200
Speaker 2: will not let you going. And I was like, no,

667
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:05,600
Speaker 2: will be used against you. I not be smiling in

668
00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:08,640
Speaker 2: their direction. But it's hard because there are times when

669
00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 2: you feel really proud of yourself for what you did,

670
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:15,000
Speaker 2: and so you kind of want to give yourself a

671
00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:17,640
Speaker 2: little pat on the back, and you're like, I can't

672
00:33:18,680 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 2: just take it. It's too much of a risk. So

673
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 2: I obviously did not do the show. They went after.

674
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 1: Tyler and Jack Vial, who were from the Bachelor franchise.

675
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:32,120
Speaker 1: I know you can't tell me a whole bunch, but like,

676
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:34,640
Speaker 1: how were they how was it being around them?

677
00:33:34,680 --> 00:33:37,920
Speaker 2: How they do they were? They were great? They both

678
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 2: tons of heart. I mean, Tyler is just a beast. Yeah,

679
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:46,360
Speaker 2: he is. He's a he's a beast. I mean, he's

680
00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 2: like I I remember when I first met him, I

681
00:33:49,040 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 2: was like, Oh, this dude's like if if I was

682
00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 2: going to put I'm not a betting man, but if

683
00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:57,200
Speaker 2: I was, this is somebody that I would absolutely bet on.

684
00:33:57,640 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 1: It does bring back in the day and ty now

685
00:34:00,840 --> 00:34:02,120
Speaker 1: like those guys are jacked.

686
00:34:02,320 --> 00:34:06,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then honestly too, Uh, Nick was fantastic. Nick

687
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:09,480
Speaker 2: was Uh. Nick and I got along really well. We

688
00:34:09,560 --> 00:34:12,560
Speaker 2: knew each other before doing the show.

689
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:14,800
Speaker 3: We've done his podcast actually.

690
00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:17,600
Speaker 2: So you know, it's it's really important you realize when

691
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:21,719
Speaker 2: you get there, for as immersive as the experience is,

692
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 2: to have people around you that you become a team with.

693
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:31,920
Speaker 2: It's all about uh teamwork on that show. It's not

694
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:34,520
Speaker 2: it's not every man fir him self kind of thing.

695
00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:38,960
Speaker 2: It's really about like, if somebody's moving slow, help them,

696
00:34:39,320 --> 00:34:41,200
Speaker 2: if they're you know, if they're missing a button on there,

697
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:43,719
Speaker 2: help them do that, help them make sure their pack

698
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:46,799
Speaker 2: is on that You're you're constantly looking out for the

699
00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:50,400
Speaker 2: entire team because you want to function well as a unit.

700
00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:55,720
Speaker 2: That is, when you stay off off the radar the most.

701
00:34:56,280 --> 00:34:58,920
Speaker 2: If if you're not, you're the entire team is called

702
00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:02,239
Speaker 2: out for it. If if one person is given push

703
00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:05,560
Speaker 2: ups for something, everybody's doing push ups, Like it's a

704
00:35:05,719 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 2: it's an all or nothing kind of situation.

705
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 1: And you've done a number of these shows now, from

706
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:12,120
Speaker 1: Dancing with the Stars or whatever, Like how would you

707
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:17,560
Speaker 1: rank this singer, Yeah, mass singer, special mess, singer, special forces.

708
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:18,920
Speaker 3: They're very different.

709
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 2: They're all very different. So this one was fun because

710
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:29,279
Speaker 2: I I don't function well in reality television, like in

711
00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:33,200
Speaker 2: true reality television, like producers around director like, hey, let's

712
00:35:33,200 --> 00:35:35,759
Speaker 2: make a show, let's do the stuff. It'd be great

713
00:35:35,800 --> 00:35:37,480
Speaker 2: if you said this, or you guys, should you know

714
00:35:37,640 --> 00:35:41,359
Speaker 2: do this? Or I don't work that well that that

715
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 2: way at all. Like I've been acting since I was nine,

716
00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:48,759
Speaker 2: So for me, my like the bullshit meter for me

717
00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:53,680
Speaker 2: and stuff is very it's very sensitive, Like I as

718
00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:56,440
Speaker 2: soon as I feel like something is not authentic, it

719
00:35:56,560 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 2: drives me insane with Yeah, this this experience is shot

720
00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 2: like a documentary, so you do like a pre interview.

721
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:08,719
Speaker 2: You sit down for a few hours and you sort

722
00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:11,439
Speaker 2: of talk about the whole experience and what why you're

723
00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:13,239
Speaker 2: doing it and what you're hoping to get out of

724
00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:15,920
Speaker 2: it and the whole thing. And then you go do it,

725
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:19,920
Speaker 2: and there there are cameras on their drone cameras. There

726
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:24,359
Speaker 2: are cameras, you know, these unmanned like dome cameras sort

727
00:36:24,400 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 2: of hidden around the property. And then there are a

728
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 2: couple people with cameras themselves, but nobody speaks to you.

729
00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:34,439
Speaker 2: The only people that speak are the staff and us

730
00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 2: to ourselves. When the staff's not around, we don't speak.

731
00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:40,879
Speaker 2: We don't speak at all. And the staff is there

732
00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:44,560
Speaker 2: unless they ask us a specific question, we're answering directly.

733
00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 3: So it's really the time experience.

734
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:51,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, was really it was. It was like doing a

735
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:55,720
Speaker 2: show like, you know, like a Bear Grills kind of failure.

736
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:58,799
Speaker 2: You're out in the and you're surviving and they're just

737
00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 2: documenting the exp.

738
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:01,839
Speaker 1: It is the only type of show I would ever

739
00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 1: do if I ever did something like that.

740
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:06,960
Speaker 2: It was really cool that way. And for me turning fifty,

741
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 2: coming from the health things that I come from, it

742
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:15,600
Speaker 2: was just really it was important for me because the

743
00:37:15,640 --> 00:37:18,640
Speaker 2: neurological stuff that I went through was in my early forties,

744
00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:22,240
Speaker 2: so I came out of that around forty four forty

745
00:37:22,239 --> 00:37:27,600
Speaker 2: five and at that age, you're not sure how many

746
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:31,840
Speaker 2: memory things are from recouping from this neurological stuff that

747
00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 2: I did, or just from age. It was hard to

748
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:40,359
Speaker 2: differentiate between the two, and so for me, the experience

749
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 2: of that show, that was a big part of it.

750
00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:46,760
Speaker 2: For me, it was like, I want to see because

751
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:49,759
Speaker 2: when I was younger, I was always really coordinated. I

752
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:54,439
Speaker 2: was really athletic. I was really good at so doing

753
00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:57,719
Speaker 2: flips and gymnastics and doing things like that. I was

754
00:37:57,960 --> 00:38:01,360
Speaker 2: very active. I was I would skateboard, I I was

755
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:04,080
Speaker 2: into like freestyle biking and riding ramps and doing all

756
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:06,839
Speaker 2: and like you know, and motocross riding and doing all

757
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 2: sorts of stuff. So for me, it was a real

758
00:38:10,400 --> 00:38:13,520
Speaker 2: like what am I still capable of? I'm really curious

759
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:18,319
Speaker 2: to see And there's no there's honestly nothing like a

760
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:22,840
Speaker 2: situation like that. Yeah, the only way in life you

761
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:26,680
Speaker 2: could experience that is if you're in the military. So

762
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 2: that wasn't lost on me, the fact that this is

763
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:36,080
Speaker 2: a real I'm incredibly lucky to be able to possibly

764
00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 2: have an experience like this and have it with such

765
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:42,760
Speaker 2: a great group of people, on such a great network

766
00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:46,120
Speaker 2: that I'd worked on before and continue to work on

767
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:50,000
Speaker 2: and so the whole experience was fantastic. It really was.

768
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 1: Well, Sharna's not that I needed another reason to pick

769
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 1: a bone with ABC. They're now even more on my

770
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:03,880
Speaker 1: shit list. Well tell me why, because you're not doing dancing? Ah,

771
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:06,600
Speaker 1: what'd you think he was saying? I caught that one.

772
00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:08,680
Speaker 2: I was like, why, what else is happening? Chris, tell

773
00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:11,440
Speaker 2: me you're not doing dancing and that.

774
00:39:11,600 --> 00:39:13,440
Speaker 3: You have not there this season?

775
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:16,400
Speaker 4: I listen, it's you know, it's one of those everything

776
00:39:16,400 --> 00:39:19,439
Speaker 4: happens for a reason, right, And I definitely went through

777
00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:20,919
Speaker 4: my rollercoaster, but why?

778
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 3: But why?

779
00:39:21,640 --> 00:39:24,480
Speaker 4: And the hurt and that I didn't know why and

780
00:39:24,719 --> 00:39:27,480
Speaker 4: they're giving no answers and no warning.

781
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:29,480
Speaker 3: Thing is going to suck always.

782
00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:33,360
Speaker 4: But truly, it happens for a reason, and I know

783
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:35,880
Speaker 4: it's creating space for me for other things.

784
00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:38,760
Speaker 3: And they have an incredible cast put together.

785
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:41,120
Speaker 4: You know, we're we're also at a point where like

786
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 4: hiring people like Riley Arnold, an incredibly talented young dancer,

787
00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:48,360
Speaker 4: makes so much sense because she can give that show

788
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:51,359
Speaker 4: ten years, you know what I mean, She's got longevity

789
00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:54,879
Speaker 4: and she's incredible, and so I love what the show

790
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 4: is doing and where it's moving to, and for whatever

791
00:39:57,719 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 4: reason this season that didn't align, and that's okay.

792
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:03,840
Speaker 3: Who knows if it will ever align again.

793
00:40:04,000 --> 00:40:06,799
Speaker 4: To be honest, you know, I am and I'm not

794
00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:08,759
Speaker 4: saying I'm old by any means. I should be able

795
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 4: to be on that show when I'm forty, But at

796
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:13,120
Speaker 4: this point in my life, who knows what I'll be

797
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 4: doing next year. You know, I could be working on

798
00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 4: something else, could have another baby, don't don't freak out.

799
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:22,560
Speaker 4: You know, whatever it is, I'm at that point in

800
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:25,120
Speaker 4: my life where we'll see. But I will still cheer

801
00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 4: the show on and be very very excited for those

802
00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:32,440
Speaker 4: that are on it. And thankfully everything cleared for them

803
00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 4: to be on air this season, which.

804
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:37,600
Speaker 1: Is crazy the way the strike went down, they needed

805
00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:39,359
Speaker 1: a show and so yeah, the fact that it's back

806
00:40:39,400 --> 00:40:43,319
Speaker 1: on the network or whatever, and my buddy Alfonso was

807
00:40:44,160 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 1: hosting it this year, so I am excited for Alphonso.

808
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:51,520
Speaker 1: But by the way, I mean, what an amazing attitude

809
00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:55,279
Speaker 1: you have. I mean, is this I see why you

810
00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:57,799
Speaker 1: are easy for Brian to fall in love with. I mean,

811
00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:02,479
Speaker 1: your attitude is you always Both of you definitely seem

812
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:06,640
Speaker 1: to have that optimistic, find the silver lining always.

813
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:09,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's something you learn when you've been

814
00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:09,840
Speaker 3: through life.

815
00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 4: Right. You can either choose to fall into the negative

816
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:15,640
Speaker 4: side of it, or you can choose to look at

817
00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:17,840
Speaker 4: try and find the positives, try and find the reason.

818
00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:20,800
Speaker 4: I'm a big believer that everything happens for a reason.

819
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:24,160
Speaker 4: I'm also a believer that everything is a choice. I

820
00:41:24,400 --> 00:41:27,520
Speaker 4: choose how I get to have this experience. I choose

821
00:41:27,560 --> 00:41:30,040
Speaker 4: how I move forward from this experience. I choose to

822
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:33,239
Speaker 4: either make it negative or positive. And sometimes it takes

823
00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:35,960
Speaker 4: a little bit longer to like, of course, call in

824
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:39,799
Speaker 4: the emotions and process and understand. But we are definitely

825
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:42,920
Speaker 4: always about trying to find the reason and the positive

826
00:41:44,280 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 4: light in everything. And sometimes we even keep each other

827
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:48,719
Speaker 4: accountable for that. You know, if we feel like the

828
00:41:48,760 --> 00:41:50,960
Speaker 4: other one is really having a moment, it's like, hey,

829
00:41:51,000 --> 00:41:51,919
Speaker 4: but look at it this way.

830
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:52,280
Speaker 2: Party.

831
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:54,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, no one wants to join the pitty

832
00:41:54,520 --> 00:41:55,920
Speaker 4: party or get out the mini violin.

833
00:41:56,080 --> 00:41:58,480
Speaker 3: You know, we don't really do that for each other.

834
00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:02,600
Speaker 1: Well, it's definitely evident why you guys are perfect for

835
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:05,040
Speaker 1: each other while you make such a great couple, and

836
00:42:05,600 --> 00:42:07,839
Speaker 1: I'm truly grateful you guys took the time to come

837
00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:10,160
Speaker 1: on and talk family life and everything going on.

838
00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:11,600
Speaker 2: Really enjoyed it.

839
00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:12,799
Speaker 3: Thank you.

840
00:42:12,840 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 4: It's been really fun chatting with you too. And I

841
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:18,719
Speaker 4: love Lauren. She is amazing anytime I've sat and talked

842
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 4: with her, and she's a wonderful woman.

843
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:21,879
Speaker 3: So you're a very lucky man.

844
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 1: Your light reminds me a lot of hers. Where she

845
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 1: does the positivity, the good energy, the way she has

846
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:31,720
Speaker 1: jumped into my kids and co parenting is it's very similar.

847
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:33,840
Speaker 2: And I love that it takes.

848
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:36,680
Speaker 1: An effort and you and Lauren have made it look

849
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:39,280
Speaker 1: easy and it's not easy, which is why I respect

850
00:42:39,280 --> 00:42:41,839
Speaker 1: it so much because it takes a lot of effort,

851
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:44,279
Speaker 1: and so I know Brian appreciates.

852
00:42:44,280 --> 00:42:46,520
Speaker 2: Parenting is the hard part. Like we've talked about that before.

853
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:48,759
Speaker 2: You know, a lot of people can have kids. That

854
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:51,880
Speaker 2: the hard part is when you decide to become a parent.

855
00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:55,480
Speaker 2: When you're doing when you're doing the work, when you're

856
00:42:55,520 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 2: getting up early, when you're doing homework, when you're going

857
00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:01,360
Speaker 2: to the school events, when you're doing those things, that's

858
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:06,359
Speaker 2: that's the part that gets exhausting, and and Shina does

859
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:09,960
Speaker 2: it with such grace and such ease. It's amazing to watch.

860
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:12,240
Speaker 4: I get excited for the school projects, in the homework.

861
00:43:12,360 --> 00:43:14,960
Speaker 4: I'm doing all the things that them some math guys.

862
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 4: They probably sick of me at this point.

863
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:21,760
Speaker 1: Congratulations whenever you guys choose to tie the knot, Congratulations

864
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:22,040
Speaker 1: to you.

865
00:43:22,239 --> 00:43:23,520
Speaker 2: Wish you all the very best.

866
00:43:23,800 --> 00:43:26,840
Speaker 3: Thank you so much, Chris, really great talking with you.

867
00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:29,840
Speaker 2: So nice to meet you all right, guys, take care, thankye.

868
00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 1: Thanks for listening. Follow us on Instagram at the most

869
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 1: dramatic pod ever, and make sure to write us a

870
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:36,719
Speaker 1: review and leave us five stars.

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Speaker 2: I'll talk to you next time.