Speaker 1: This is How Men Think with brooks Like and Gavin
Speaker 1: to grab and I heard radio podcast. Welcome to another
Speaker 1: episode of How Men Think. My name is brooks Like
Speaker 1: and wearing his patriotic hat to my left always. Mr
Speaker 1: Gavin de Gros, you know you've got some amazing you know,
Speaker 1: that's it. You know you're really riveting our audience. Thank
Speaker 1: you bringing the house now with that knowledge, you're supposed
Speaker 1: to understand that Brooks Um, yeah, I know. Um. He
Speaker 1: surprises me every time on this show. I never know
Speaker 1: what I'm going to get from. Yeah, It's kind of
Speaker 1: why I love doing the show. I never know what
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get with myself either. For our listeners out there,
Speaker 1: this is what happens. The rest of us get a
Speaker 1: like breakdown of what the episode is going to be about,
Speaker 1: so our producer Amy will send us an email. This
Speaker 1: is what the episode is about. Review this. Here's some questions.
Speaker 1: What are your thoughts? Come in prepared a little bit
Speaker 1: for it. We don't even send those to Gavin. It's true.
Speaker 1: I'm too busy playing single players. Yes, he doesn't even
Speaker 1: get them. So he's off the cuff, which is how
Speaker 1: we prefer. And I hope you guys enjoyed listening like that.
Speaker 1: I would like to see you, like prepare one day
Speaker 1: and see if it's just terrible or if you're actually
Speaker 1: better if you're prepared. Yeah, but what if I came
Speaker 1: in and I actually like some kind of scientists like Gav,
Speaker 1: this sucks, man, You're way too ready for this. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what I'd like to see. Where my pocket protector,
Speaker 1: your peman, wearing my clinical lab coat, I could see
Speaker 1: you doing that. I don't I get a chalk part
Speaker 1: up here. I could write out some equations of how
Speaker 1: I think you'll answer certain questions and see how right
Speaker 1: I was. I'm gonna be honest. That doesn't sound like
Speaker 1: a fun Gavin to me boring yea, so I say so.
Speaker 1: I agree the other boys that you here. We have
Speaker 1: Dmitri in house with us. Dmitri is that brother? How
Speaker 1: are you doing? Fantastic? We missed you in the last
Speaker 1: two episodes. This is your first new or first podcast
Speaker 1: the new decade. Yeah, so coming out of the gate
Speaker 1: a little late, but I'm ready to go. Yeah, ready
Speaker 1: and strong. And we also got we also got Rick
Speaker 1: in studio. Top Rick. I want to acknowledge you always
Speaker 1: for flying down from Oakland. Hey, thank you. I actually
Speaker 1: get the email, but I just don't read it. No damn,
Speaker 1: by the way, so I'm kind of I'm kind of
Speaker 1: flying off the handle tape. I'd take prepared Rick over
Speaker 1: unprepared Rick. I think he wants to be like Gavin.
Speaker 1: Maybe he looks up to Gavin. He's like, damn, that
Speaker 1: guy's cool. I want to try that. Can I say that?
Speaker 1: I like? I like Rick's glasses with the white T shirt.
Speaker 1: It's looking like a little bit like scientists, an adult
Speaker 1: version stand by me, the old school blackgroom glasses with
Speaker 1: the T shirt. You know what I mean. I like it.
Speaker 1: You guys can't see it, but you just made Rick's day.
Speaker 1: Our listeners can't see it. But well, if they go
Speaker 1: to the Instagram, hopefully they'll post the photos. You know,
Speaker 1: who knows. But the reality is that I didn't want
Speaker 1: to pay the eight dollars for the WiFi on the Southwestlide.
Speaker 1: That's why I didn't get the email. So I don't know.
Speaker 1: It's unscripted. Perfect, it's perfect though. This this episode today
Speaker 1: is unscripted. So today we're gonna have a lot of fun.
Speaker 1: We're doing Remember, like as a kid, you throw stuff
Speaker 1: in a hat and you'd pull a draw out of
Speaker 1: a hat, or if you still do it, we're doing
Speaker 1: that with questions today. So we always said we started
Speaker 1: this podcast, and we always said, our mission here is
Speaker 1: to be real, unauthentic and genuine and open and vulnerable
Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff. Uh. And so we piled
Speaker 1: together a bunch of listener questions that you guys have
Speaker 1: sent in for us. Amy has chopped them all up,
Speaker 1: put him in a hat, and we're gonna pull from
Speaker 1: a hat, and Amy's gonna introduce us. But this is
Speaker 1: what we're gonna do. We want to answer your questions.
Speaker 1: And I'm challenging all three of you, gentlemen, and Amy
Speaker 1: you'll probably chime in on this too. Two really go
Speaker 1: at this because our mission is to serve our listeners,
Speaker 1: to serve our audience, UM, and to share how men
Speaker 1: think and how we approach things. So I'm challenging all
Speaker 1: of you guys want to level up this podcast. Gavin's
Speaker 1: already laughing. Your buddy Joey's here, So if you don't
Speaker 1: tell the honest story, we're gonna get Joey, because I
Speaker 1: know Joey knows the real story. I agree with Brooks.
Speaker 1: You guys need to be more honest, more vulnerable, houlnerable,
Speaker 1: tell us like it is, because sometimes I think you
Speaker 1: guys are a little bit too nice, a little bit
Speaker 1: too vanilla, a little bit too safe. Bring it vanilla
Speaker 1: is a fine flavor. Favor. Is there an alternate hat
Speaker 1: that also has all the answers that we could just
Speaker 1: draw some random Okay, here's much. Here's what we did.
Speaker 1: Danielle Tory and I worked all week. We combiled questions
Speaker 1: from Instagram, from listeners, from other women we know, and
Speaker 1: we did extensive research into what do women want to know?
Speaker 1: And we put all of it into a hat. We
Speaker 1: chopped it up. Here are the rules. You are not
Speaker 1: allowed to pass. You cannot say pass. You cannot toss
Speaker 1: the question back into the hat or avoid answering it.
Speaker 1: You must answer, and you must tell the truth. And
Speaker 1: this game is called We have three options for what
Speaker 1: the title is of the game. You guys pick. It
Speaker 1: can be called great Minds Think alike, get it like
Speaker 1: like l A like how men think sure sure sure sure,
Speaker 1: I like that double on tender, come to think of
Speaker 1: it for wishful thinking? What should we call this game.
Speaker 1: I like the first one. I feel like this is great.
Speaker 1: Minds think alike, Well, okay, except we don't think alike though.
Speaker 1: How about here's how you burn down your own career
Speaker 1: in forty minutes. About about g having a good time,
Speaker 1: having a good time. Alright, we're gaving a good time tonight.
Speaker 1: That's pretty good, pretty good, Chuck, set the clock for
Speaker 1: sixty minutes. This game is a sixty minute game. When
Speaker 1: it is sixty minutes, it is up, it is over,
Speaker 1: and you are out of the studio. It's four sixteen,
Speaker 1: it's four seventeen, it's four seventeen. At five seventeen. Can
Speaker 1: you put a window up of the outdoor so it
Speaker 1: kind of like when king out? I will not chime
Speaker 1: in too much, too much. Okay, here is question number one,
Speaker 1: and then I'm going to pass the hat onto Brooks.
Speaker 1: The topic is crying. How do you feel when your
Speaker 1: wife or partner cries? You understand it and want to help?
Speaker 1: Question Mark, You wish it would stop? Question Mark, would
Speaker 1: you prefer that she do that crying alone or with
Speaker 1: her girlfriends? Or are you okay with being the shoulder
Speaker 1: to cry on if it is not necessarily your fault?
Speaker 1: Is it easier to help her with her tears? If
Speaker 1: it is your fault, what do you do crying? I'm
Speaker 1: fine with, completely fine with like emotions. This is one
Speaker 1: thing I've really learned in my life. Emotions are real,
Speaker 1: Like they are real things. And for us to judge
Speaker 1: anybody else's emotions or what somebody else's going through, for
Speaker 1: them to cry and express, for them to be courageous
Speaker 1: enough to express what they're going through, and and my
Speaker 1: wife to do that, Like, yeah, I am. I am
Speaker 1: absolutely fine with crying and actually really improud to be
Speaker 1: a person that she trusts to to move through something
Speaker 1: like that. With crying is a sign of great weakness, polarity,
Speaker 1: polarity on this show. You know it crying it depends listen.
Speaker 1: You know you want to be the shoulder to cry
Speaker 1: on um, but also it depends. There's a lot of
Speaker 1: it's not you don't want it's not like you don't
Speaker 1: want to be the shoulder to crime, but also a
Speaker 1: lot of it it's also you know, what is the
Speaker 1: cause of the emotions? So what is the root of
Speaker 1: that that sadness or or um that issue, And uh,
Speaker 1: the one thing you don't want to be is the
Speaker 1: source of the crying, right, So it depends you know,
Speaker 1: if you're if you're the reason that they are crying,
Speaker 1: you know, then, um, that can be a really difficult
Speaker 1: scenario to be and trying to work through the problems
Speaker 1: of relationship and this and that. Um. But there's so
Speaker 1: many different versions of what could cause somebody to have
Speaker 1: that that sort of emotional response. So yeah, you definitely
Speaker 1: want to be able to be there for somebody in
Speaker 1: that scenario. But sometimes, to be honest, sometimes the the
Speaker 1: scenario can be actually very uncomfortable. Um. And so it
Speaker 1: it really it happens to be. It's case specific, and
Speaker 1: I think it can go a lot of different directions.
Speaker 1: I think a lot of guys have a hard time
Speaker 1: being around when are you a politician? You've talked for
Speaker 1: two minutes but haven't said one way or the other,
Speaker 1: Yes I have, Yes, I have, you're a politician. Yuys,
Speaker 1: there's a whole hour I need to fill up here.
Speaker 1: This is called philibus. So so so here's the thing.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing. A lot of guys have a hard
Speaker 1: time being around when they're significant others starts crying and
Speaker 1: they don't want to be there because they feel partially guilty,
Speaker 1: even if they're not the source of what it is.
Speaker 1: They feel like they're not doing a good job helping.
Speaker 1: And I think a lot of guys become overwhelmed with
Speaker 1: that because a lot of guys, um men don't necessarily
Speaker 1: have a propensity to demonstrate their ability to cry right,
Speaker 1: So a lot of times it's hard for them to
Speaker 1: process someone else crying near them. Um And I think
Speaker 1: a lot of men operate out of out of sort
Speaker 1: of potential guilty scenario. And you're like, oh God, I
Speaker 1: hope I didn't I hope I didn't cause this. You know,
Speaker 1: I had a quick question. We probably want to move
Speaker 1: on the next question, but I want to say or ask,
Speaker 1: is like, do do chicks just go into the crying mode?
Speaker 1: They're like, you know, like as like a defense mechanism
Speaker 1: or like because sometimes that pisces me off. You know,
Speaker 1: it's like you're in an argument, like and then all
Speaker 1: of a sudden they go into cry mode. So like
Speaker 1: they're becoming because yeah, it's like, you know, screw you,
Speaker 1: like stop crying, like we're talking about you know, we're
Speaker 1: in an argument, like get over it. Or sometimes it
Speaker 1: come out of left field, big Hey, I'm thinking about
Speaker 1: we should go get some dinner. Right now, you can
Speaker 1: walk out and go by yourself, Party one, Dmitri. Listen,
Speaker 1: I don't like when people cry. I don't want to
Speaker 1: be the source of the crying. But depending on what
Speaker 1: it is, I'll take it for a little while. But
Speaker 1: to be honest, I have a little bit of a
Speaker 1: fuse that where it's like, all right, well we've done
Speaker 1: the crying, so now shut the up. The hammer comes
Speaker 1: down from next question? All right, next question, I'm pulling
Speaker 1: this out of the hat. Oh, here we go, because
Speaker 1: it's it's very timely Valentine's Day. Love it or dread it?
Speaker 1: Love it or dread it? I hate it to not
Speaker 1: holiday from me. Wow, Gav says. The two married guys
Speaker 1: have the eternal romantic, the eternal romantic Valentine's Day? Dread
Speaker 1: it could be either or man? Can this can be
Speaker 1: an either or thing? Listen, depends if you're dating somebody
Speaker 1: or not. It depends if if they're taking it more
Speaker 1: seriously than you are. Right, there's a lot of other
Speaker 1: options here. So it could be like, oh Valentine's Day,
Speaker 1: what are you talking about? It? Like we just met,
Speaker 1: you know, what I mean, it's it's a chick holiday.
Speaker 1: I mean, is there a dude holiday? I think it's
Speaker 1: I think I think it's a good diver a holiday.
Speaker 1: Rick is throwing some heat. I love it. I think
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day was created by Hallmark and Good Diva. I
Speaker 1: think they got together, they had a giant meeting and
Speaker 1: they were like, we gotta sell some cards, we gotta
Speaker 1: sell some job. I don't I don't know why are
Speaker 1: we being romantic because everyone else is being like, there's
Speaker 1: nothing more uncomfortable than going to the restaurant and sitting
Speaker 1: there and everyone else is there and you have the
Speaker 1: short menu. It's like, do you want to go to
Speaker 1: a nice restaurant, go to a nice restaurant on a
Speaker 1: different day, but to go out because it's Valentine's Day?
Speaker 1: Everyone else is doing it. I feel like you're just
Speaker 1: going through the motions. I can't stand Valentine's I equally
Speaker 1: like it and believed rd it. I think it's fun.
Speaker 1: It can be a fun event. It's fun to plan
Speaker 1: something to surprise my wife with. But also then when
Speaker 1: you're like right now, you're thinking like, oh man, I
Speaker 1: have no idea what I'm gonna do for Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1: It can be stressful and then if there's expectation with
Speaker 1: it too as a dude, that's like, oh god, it
Speaker 1: just puts heat on you. To me, to me, it's
Speaker 1: an opportunity to wear my favorite teddy. Um, I think
Speaker 1: next question, I can't wait to break that thing out
Speaker 1: every year. I'm like, this one's got the fuzziness on it.
Speaker 1: The lady talking about Teddy Barry. I just want to
Speaker 1: see if I could fit in it again, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? Like, look to this. I have another question.
Speaker 1: Let's rock that thing you are. You are given one
Speaker 1: thousand dollars? What do you do with it? No one
Speaker 1: will ever know you received it, you won't be taxed
Speaker 1: or judged. What do you truly want to do with it?
Speaker 1: And be selfish if that's what you want to do, Okay,
Speaker 1: go ahead, Dmitri you what do you want to do?
Speaker 1: Underground cash? Boom, hundred grand cash straight. I'd probably buy
Speaker 1: a few gifts for myself. I buy some gifts for people,
Speaker 1: Like what what give me a gift? Um? I don't know,
Speaker 1: I mean, I probably you know what. I'd probably buy
Speaker 1: a car. What kind of car? I don't know the
Speaker 1: one you drive, Tessa, Oh you have the S. I
Speaker 1: gotta get the X because I've got four kids. Yeah,
Speaker 1: do that. It's either get that or send them to college.
Speaker 1: So I'm trying to I'm debating right now. But you
Speaker 1: get to do whatever you That's what I'm saying. That's
Speaker 1: why I would get that. Yeah, I would. I would
Speaker 1: be a little selfish with it. I would also do
Speaker 1: some nice stuff though. I would help some people that
Speaker 1: don't have things for sure. Who knows, man, I mean,
Speaker 1: I definitely I like to give. I'd like to give
Speaker 1: gifts to people, you know, or like buy dinners and
Speaker 1: stuff like that. So I'd probably be uh kind of
Speaker 1: long long those lines, you know. I'd like to pay
Speaker 1: for people's dinners and stuff like that. What about like,
Speaker 1: what about a way goose steak for the boys here? Oh? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that'd be nice. I'd like to buy stuff from my
Speaker 1: friends Ricky, rick I can't believe he's talking about you
Speaker 1: like that, right, So Brooks and I get steaks then, right?
Speaker 1: It's just terrible. Um, this is this is probably the lamest,
Speaker 1: most boring answer. I would invest it, and I would
Speaker 1: just watch that baby grow. I tuck that thing away
Speaker 1: and what Rick's making some code here. I have no
Speaker 1: idea what it is you need to donate that to Ryan? Oh?
Speaker 1: I mean Ryan doesn't get any But what I would
Speaker 1: do as I would invest it and then I would
Speaker 1: text Bryan how much it goes up each month? You
Speaker 1: know what? You know what? You know? What it might
Speaker 1: be a thing to do, like put that money aside
Speaker 1: and like when you have kids, you put it aside
Speaker 1: and say, look, I'm gonna either pay for college. I'm
Speaker 1: going to give you all the money for college. I
Speaker 1: would not even say college. I think, in all honesty,
Speaker 1: Hunter grant isn't a whole lot. Like it's gonna go
Speaker 1: pretty fast. You start buying a few watches, you Rick,
Speaker 1: what's you doing with your money? Give us, give us something.
Speaker 1: What's you're doing with a Hunter ground cash? I think
Speaker 1: I would save half of it. This is kind of
Speaker 1: the story of my life. I'd save half of it
Speaker 1: and then I'd go and spend the other half Trusted
Speaker 1: Speedo nice yeah one. All the cross all right? As
Speaker 1: it crusted my opportunity when I hate reading in public?
Speaker 1: How do you like your eggs frozen? So sorry, that's
Speaker 1: for you. Gavin you're running out to get his breakfast. Uh.
Speaker 1: Anybody want to answer this for me? Let me ask Brooks,
Speaker 1: how do you like your eggs? Traditionally scrambled? But like
Speaker 1: the last two months, I've switched to easy over because
Speaker 1: I scrambled my entire life and something I just want
Speaker 1: to try to feel like I'm gonna get crazy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm going wild with some easy overs? Is it because
Speaker 1: you like you risk hurt over? Easy to it? And
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't cook sounds like some some fishing
Speaker 1: gear like fans, And when I don't know, I don't
Speaker 1: think I can cook them that way. That's why I
Speaker 1: just scrambled eggs because I'm not a very good cooking
Speaker 1: I just I'm not a good push them around. And
Speaker 1: I had some scrambled eggs today. But when I eat
Speaker 1: it like a restaurant, Yeah, I want the easy over
Speaker 1: easy over easies. I go scramble if I'm in a
Speaker 1: short if I don't have much time. If I have time,
Speaker 1: I go poached. I love poached eggs and I like
Speaker 1: cooking them. There's a whole science too. You gotta spin
Speaker 1: the water, you gotta throw a little vinegar in there,
Speaker 1: and then you gotta watch them and time it and
Speaker 1: poke them and looking forward to science, looking forward a
Speaker 1: brunch of your science. I know how you did in
Speaker 1: school over easy. It's a very bougie answer. I like
Speaker 1: my eggs over medium, very specific. Did you say? Rick's
Speaker 1: answer was bougie? The same guy that said, you know,
Speaker 1: a hundred grand isn't a lot of guys. I like
Speaker 1: my eggs poached. But I mean those are all pretty
Speaker 1: fundamental answers. Does anybody here not prefer like waves rancheros
Speaker 1: because those are pretty damn good. Okay, yeah, but it
Speaker 1: didn't take it said, yeah, okay, you're right. Rick got
Speaker 1: a question. Everybody kept it real simple. We're like, let's
Speaker 1: it was a question about because I wasn't gonna go
Speaker 1: super deep on it. Okay, next question, How happy are
Speaker 1: you on a scale of one to ten? One reason
Speaker 1: why you were, why you are where you are on
Speaker 1: the scale. How happy are you on a scale of
Speaker 1: one to ten? Go Rick, I mean this second, let's
Speaker 1: see happy. Actually, you know what, going into this year,
Speaker 1: I've been really happy. I've been I'd probably give myself
Speaker 1: about a seven. Okay, here's here's the rule for this.
Speaker 1: You cannot on a one to ten scale. There's a
Speaker 1: rule for anything on a one, you can't pick a
Speaker 1: seven because six is like everybody goes seven, it's a
Speaker 1: safe play. Six is like, oh, I'm not doing so good.
Speaker 1: Eight I'm doing really good. The safe spot, the safe play,
Speaker 1: the vanilla play is a seven. Sevens are out. You
Speaker 1: cannot pick a seven. So I on a scale from yes,
Speaker 1: come on no sevens rick m that makes that makes
Speaker 1: eight the new seventh. I found it interesting that he said,
Speaker 1: I'm really I've been really happy. A seven Like seven
Speaker 1: doesn't sound that's not a tent. A ten is like perfect.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know. Uh, I don't know. Screw
Speaker 1: you Brooks. Are you he was really happy until you
Speaker 1: brought I've gone down to a four and a half.
Speaker 1: So okay, I'll go at this. I would say right now,
Speaker 1: I would be an eight point five. Um, I can't
Speaker 1: do eight point five. New rule, okay, eight, fine, whatever,
Speaker 1: eight point five you don't want to go over. It's
Speaker 1: like the prices right. Um. Here's the thing. I loved
Speaker 1: the turn of the new year. I love the turn
Speaker 1: of the new decade. Um in my life, there's a
Speaker 1: lot of things I'm really working towards and and things.
Speaker 1: I'm I want to step into a new stage in
Speaker 1: my life. I'm trying this year. I'm really excited about
Speaker 1: retiring from hockey and that there's a lot of culture
Speaker 1: and conditioning that came with it that I want to get.
Speaker 1: I want to let go, not get rid of because
Speaker 1: it's a part of me, but I want to let
Speaker 1: go of some of that stuff. And so I've never
Speaker 1: really had a New Year's because most days, or most years,
Speaker 1: we would play at twelve thirty at like at noon
Speaker 1: on New Year's Day, so we'd be sleeping the night
Speaker 1: before because we have a game at new like the
Speaker 1: Winter Classic. Yeah, we'd play it the next day, so
Speaker 1: big massive game. We wouldn't get New Years. So this
Speaker 1: is like the first year that I got to do
Speaker 1: New Year's and really have like an excitement and a
Speaker 1: Hope movie and a new decade and stuff and so um,
Speaker 1: I would say, like I'm an eight, there's things in
Speaker 1: my life I really want to improve and work on,
Speaker 1: but like I love my life, and there's good days
Speaker 1: and there's bad, but I love my life. That's good.
Speaker 1: Good answer, you buddy, good answer. I'm like in the
Speaker 1: nine nine five place I feel because I damn, that's
Speaker 1: I feel really good, just plummeting over here. If you
Speaker 1: guys are that high, I'm screwed, single man. I mean,
Speaker 1: if you're under a nine and a half, you're doing something.
Speaker 1: When he said seven, I was like, I'm duncan on
Speaker 1: this right now. The I just feel really good. I
Speaker 1: feel like, you know, like, I just feel like good
Speaker 1: things are happening, good things are coming. And um, uh,
Speaker 1: you know, maybe it's over maybe I'm over confident about
Speaker 1: about um, about where where I'm at in my in
Speaker 1: my world, in my life. But I think I just
Speaker 1: have a lot of hope, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's if that's turned into overconfidence
Speaker 1: or I just feel very hopeful, you know, UM, And
Speaker 1: I feel like things are going in a really good direction.
Speaker 1: I feel like, UM, over the course of the last
Speaker 1: two to three years, two and a half three years,
Speaker 1: I got through a lot of difficult things and UM,
Speaker 1: and so it gave me perspective and um, it's been emotional,
Speaker 1: but but it having gone through a lot of difficult times,
Speaker 1: I can reflect on where I'm at now as compared
Speaker 1: to those times, and it gave me a new barometer
Speaker 1: on what it means and what that scale means, because
Speaker 1: in my in the darkest depths, they were definitely way
Speaker 1: below four, you know what I mean. And um so
Speaker 1: I know what that is. I've been and I have
Speaker 1: been way below for and so that's why I feel
Speaker 1: like where I'm at now is certainly more in the
Speaker 1: nine to nine and a half range in relationship to
Speaker 1: where I was. The world's away from each other. Thanks,
Speaker 1: that's powerful for people listening to that's your example of
Speaker 1: somebody from the outside. It looks like you have an
Speaker 1: amazing life. You're doing what you love, your opportunity all
Speaker 1: around you. But even just hearing that you go struggles,
Speaker 1: that I go through, struggle horrible struggles. We all do,
Speaker 1: and we all de humanizes you to our listeners. And
Speaker 1: if if you're listening out there and that's you going
Speaker 1: through a tough time, just know that there's better to
Speaker 1: do as ahead. And I love the word you used
Speaker 1: was hope. It's such a powerful it's hope because I've
Speaker 1: been hopeless. You know I've been. I've been in on
Speaker 1: the phone. When you hear uh, you know your mom's
Speaker 1: gonna die? You know what I mean? There's no stop
Speaker 1: in this train. I've been on that phone call. You know,
Speaker 1: I've seen that train wreck, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: And uh and she did die, you know. And that
Speaker 1: was followed by my grandmother immediately, you know, then followed
Speaker 1: by my grandfather and that was a very hard and uh.
Speaker 1: And so I so I know, I know that darkness
Speaker 1: and uh. Then that's the only reason I can recognize
Speaker 1: the light is because I've been in that darkness. That's awesome, man,
Speaker 1: thank you for sharing. And Dmitri, the guy ahead of you,
Speaker 1: just hit a grand slam, so you're I mean, I
Speaker 1: don't I don't know what to say now. Like at first,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, nine and a half, that's cool,
Speaker 1: and then he gave all that and I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: Now I feel like I should be happy, but I
Speaker 1: don't know, Like I'm money between nine and a two,
Speaker 1: that's a seven? Where are you doing your math? Seventh
Speaker 1: in the middle of nine and two? Uh? You know,
Speaker 1: I I'd say six, six, and that's not a pull
Speaker 1: the seven out, So I defaulted to sex. I'd say six, Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: we gonna turn. But but I'm but I'm hopeful and
Speaker 1: I'm optimistic that things just right now. If you were
Speaker 1: to ask, I think things you know, and what's your
Speaker 1: reason for saying six? Meaning what's got me happy at
Speaker 1: a sex? What or what's not got you happy at
Speaker 1: a ten? Um? You know, I'm I'm always I'm always
Speaker 1: happy with my with my family and my kids and everything.
Speaker 1: But um, you know, I feel like um, I feel
Speaker 1: like you know, I feel a little spread thin m hm.
Speaker 1: So yeah, are you feeling like you can't get through
Speaker 1: the entire hour right now? Well? I think you you know,
Speaker 1: you ate up a good point. You have to leave
Speaker 1: early today. One more question from you and we'll be done.
Speaker 1: So I think we're fine. Okay, next question, I pulled
Speaker 1: this one. Do you ever work late? But really it's
Speaker 1: because you don't want to deal with the kids and
Speaker 1: the kids stuff. Don't have kids, so no, I work
Speaker 1: late so I don't have to deal with these guys kids.
Speaker 1: I mean, I went, I went through it like I'm
Speaker 1: I'm spending an extra four hours at the office just
Speaker 1: because I don't want to go home and deal and
Speaker 1: deal with all the food and everything like that. But
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, an hour or something like there
Speaker 1: there are days where I just don't want to go home,
Speaker 1: and and maybe it's not even of the kids. It's
Speaker 1: may just be like entering back into the house and
Speaker 1: being part of the family and doing engaging back in that.
Speaker 1: Have you ever considered trading up, like trading the kids
Speaker 1: for older kids who don't need you there as much
Speaker 1: your kids already in school surprisingly not like you know,
Speaker 1: like your twelve year old kid for like it's maybe
Speaker 1: a seventeen year old on their way out of the house,
Speaker 1: like almost off to college soon. So you're like, I
Speaker 1: don't really need to be there. Joanne is doing okay?
Speaker 1: Just so we're clear, you're not playing. Yeah, I haven't
Speaker 1: just adopted a twenty one year older Uh yeah, So
Speaker 1: I will say real quick, I'll say, um, yeah. If
Speaker 1: there are times if I'm heading home and I realized
Speaker 1: it's right around bedtime and it's gonna be kid, and
Speaker 1: I can wait a half hour, then I'll do that.
Speaker 1: You always need to fill up the car right, stay
Speaker 1: at home? Dad's p t A dad? Does it work
Speaker 1: or is it weird? What's PTA? Dad mean? Like the
Speaker 1: one that goes to all the school events and parent
Speaker 1: teacher association is that association? I hope I get to
Speaker 1: do that when I have kids, I'd love to like
Speaker 1: do because I don't know what that's like. But I
Speaker 1: want to be involved in my child's life. When I
Speaker 1: UM stay at home dad, I couldn't do that. I
Speaker 1: want to be an actively involved dad, but like to
Speaker 1: just stay at home. I think that would like I
Speaker 1: would love my kids, but I think my soul would
Speaker 1: somewhat die doing that. It's hard. It's hard for me.
Speaker 1: I will I will go crazy if I don't do
Speaker 1: something for me. Not too far off topic, but specifically
Speaker 1: because you you travel so much, Brooks, do you think
Speaker 1: you could ever live in one place permanently to raise
Speaker 1: a kid in to be like, I'm going to commit
Speaker 1: to this one town. This is where they're going to
Speaker 1: grow up. They're gonna kill her eighteen years old. Do
Speaker 1: you think you could do that? I think I could,
Speaker 1: um because my my mom and dad still live in
Speaker 1: the house that I grew up in. So I love that.
Speaker 1: I love that sort of stability type thing, and that's
Speaker 1: something I want to bring to my family. Do you
Speaker 1: love that? As an adult? Now? Though you think you
Speaker 1: could be in one place because you've tasted the life
Speaker 1: of somebody on the road who's in a new town
Speaker 1: or new new exciting town or city, or out in
Speaker 1: the wilderness or whatever. You've you've had a life that
Speaker 1: affords that you think you can really So here's the thing.
Speaker 1: It's not a choice of It's not black or white.
Speaker 1: It's not a or B. I think I want both.
Speaker 1: So as much as I want a home and a
Speaker 1: stable environment for the kids to be in, I also
Speaker 1: want to expose them to the world and to take
Speaker 1: them everywhere with me. It's how like my dog right now?
Speaker 1: I take my dog everywhere I go. If I go
Speaker 1: to Idaho, if I go to New York, if I
Speaker 1: go to Miami, dog with you, of course. But but
Speaker 1: do you think you can raise somebody for eighteen years
Speaker 1: of their live and say our home base will be
Speaker 1: in I think I think it's easy. I mean, you
Speaker 1: can be honest with you that time flies. And then
Speaker 1: the other thing is the kids obviously become the priority.
Speaker 1: So basically you're in once they start hitting school, they're
Speaker 1: making friends, they're in they're in groups, they're in sports,
Speaker 1: there and dance, whatever you want to call it. Do
Speaker 1: you there there in that? Do you have dogs? I
Speaker 1: will on Sunday? Do you have dogs? Can I ask
Speaker 1: you questions? My man, you're getting dog. That's amazing. It
Speaker 1: makes me nervous because he's told us he doesn't like dogs.
Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question. What's harder? What's wait?
Speaker 1: What's easier? Flying with the child or with a dog.
Speaker 1: You can't put your You can't put your child down below,
Speaker 1: you know that, right, But walking on the plane, my
Speaker 1: dog flies with me. My dog flew with me last night,
Speaker 1: we flew my dog is pretty easy. But you have
Speaker 1: kids and you've had a dog, so which is easier
Speaker 1: to child? Younger kids are harder because they're kind of
Speaker 1: scrambling and they're out of control and they're they're a
Speaker 1: little bit more needy. But right now, my my kids
Speaker 1: are thirteen eleven and they just chill and there, they're
Speaker 1: in their seats and it's no problem. They watch something,
Speaker 1: they go the broom on the run. Because the younger
Speaker 1: ones are tough. Let's get back on topic, Dmitri, Dad,
Speaker 1: could you do it? Um? I couldn't do that fully. No, Um,
Speaker 1: very similar to what you said. But I will say
Speaker 1: this my schedule right now, Although it sounds funny because
Speaker 1: I just said I feel stretched thin or whatever, but
Speaker 1: my schedule right now is easy to allow me to
Speaker 1: spend a lot of time with the kids. So I
Speaker 1: work heavy in the morning and then I so I
Speaker 1: picked them up every day and I do a lot
Speaker 1: of stuff with them in the afternoon. Um, so I
Speaker 1: get a little bit of both. But if that was
Speaker 1: fully it and I didn't have the other stuff, it
Speaker 1: would be very difficult for me. Yeah, And I think so.
Speaker 1: I have a friend of a friend that basically he
Speaker 1: is the stay at home dad and she has a
Speaker 1: very successful job and he's at home. He's part of
Speaker 1: the p t A and he's raising he's raising the kids.
Speaker 1: He's got a couple of boys, and I think a
Speaker 1: third child that's a girl. And I was talking to
Speaker 1: him one time and he was telling me that he
Speaker 1: is part of the PTA and that it's that it's
Speaker 1: odd that that he wants to be a part of
Speaker 1: his kids families to that degree brooks where he's in
Speaker 1: the p t A. But he also is realized where
Speaker 1: he's going into a group or a crowd that's predominantly
Speaker 1: all women or all moms, all stages that way, they
Speaker 1: don't let the boys wrestle and kindergarten, what because I
Speaker 1: know guys in the p t A. They don't want
Speaker 1: the boys. But it's an awkward socially thing for him.
Speaker 1: But like, you know, so, um, I forget what the
Speaker 1: question was, but basically, you know, I think it's good
Speaker 1: that he does it, but I think it's a weird
Speaker 1: he's in a weird spot. I'll say this. I get
Speaker 1: this because I'm at the school a lot. I get often.
Speaker 1: I'll get because my wife works. They'll be like, so,
Speaker 1: where's your wife. We haven't seen her? And for ed
Speaker 1: like just constantly constantly with that, and it's like, and
Speaker 1: it's different from me because I'm not a stay at
Speaker 1: home dad. I work, but my hours are just odd.
Speaker 1: So they'll say that. So lately I've been hitting him with,
Speaker 1: well she left me. So just just jars them right
Speaker 1: and just stops them in their tracks and shut them
Speaker 1: up like that. Um, by the way, I see nothing.
Speaker 1: I see absolutely nothing wrong with a stay at home dad.
Speaker 1: I don't either, but it's just not for me. I
Speaker 1: could not do that level of just there's I have
Speaker 1: my own personal goals and that's maybe selfish, but it
Speaker 1: will make me happy and we'll make me a better
Speaker 1: dad to be honest, let's see. I agree with that
Speaker 1: Amy just grunted. So if anybody's gonna marry Amy, be
Speaker 1: prepared to work. Question markis I get it, and I
Speaker 1: think it does work for some people, but I think
Speaker 1: it is tough. I think I'll get letters, but I
Speaker 1: think there is something you don't find it sexy. Oh no, no, no,
Speaker 1: the masculine too much squished down when I do think
Speaker 1: there's an important part of being the feminine role and
Speaker 1: the masculine role when you're a man and a woman.
Speaker 1: So I don't know, it's really tough to break down
Speaker 1: because I think in theory, yes, sometimes it's you have
Speaker 1: to do that, but I think it is very challenging
Speaker 1: for the man. I think he feels emasculated. And I
Speaker 1: think Rick is alluding to that, Rick saying this guy
Speaker 1: is doing it, but it is hard to be the
Speaker 1: dude in the room with eight five ladies in the
Speaker 1: p t A. That would be so difficult. I would
Speaker 1: actually love to hear from any of our listeners out
Speaker 1: there that if you are this man, if you are
Speaker 1: a stay at home man or stay at home dad,
Speaker 1: and in the p t A, any of that, I'd
Speaker 1: love for you to send us an email, reach out
Speaker 1: to us on Instagram and just hear your thought on
Speaker 1: it and what a man, what your struggles with it are.
Speaker 1: Maybe it depends on how hot the moms are in
Speaker 1: the class. I saw Rick light up when they said
Speaker 1: when she said one guy in like five moms, you
Speaker 1: were like, whoa, I gotta get it on this pt
Speaker 1: A thing. So I will say when I pulled I
Speaker 1: pulled a bunch of men about this question, and they
Speaker 1: said it doesn't work, and it's sometimes it can be
Speaker 1: a downfall for the relationship. I could be wrong, but
Speaker 1: this is the research. What if he's staying home because
Speaker 1: it's cheaper to work on your own house than to
Speaker 1: hire somebody, and uh, he doesn't make as much money
Speaker 1: as say it would cost to renovate the home. That
Speaker 1: seems like a job, kind of a job staying while
Speaker 1: he renovates. Yeah, I think that's cool, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, because it costs quite a bit of money
Speaker 1: to rebuild a house. You know. I love the idea
Speaker 1: of guys in that scenario. My dad, my dad was
Speaker 1: working on our house all the time while he had
Speaker 1: job at the same time. But he was always you know,
Speaker 1: swinging a hammer. I love the idea of the kids
Speaker 1: running around while you're building and swinging a hammer and
Speaker 1: doing that stuff. Then yeah, no, that's a terrible idea.
Speaker 1: Sounds pretty safe. We helped him, I mean, I thought
Speaker 1: it was good for us. Okay, go ahead, have you
Speaker 1: got a question? All right, here's the here's the one
Speaker 1: I pulled out of the hat. Thanks for this one.
Speaker 1: Women who don't wear a bra? Who's sexy or not?
Speaker 1: I find I haven't worn a bra in a long time,
Speaker 1: so it affects me not at all. And my boobs
Speaker 1: are right in the same spot as they've always been
Speaker 1: and still care. You're not allowed to avoid the question, cups.
Speaker 1: So anyway, how do I feel about that? Well, I
Speaker 1: guess it depends, you know, I mean it, it depends
Speaker 1: on you know, how much out there that it is.
Speaker 1: We can see that you are are not wearing a bra,
Speaker 1: and you know, some people don't wear a bra and
Speaker 1: they don't wear pretty much anything else on top of
Speaker 1: that either, So it depends on how how clad give
Speaker 1: they are answer, Mr politician, depends if they've got a
Speaker 1: hot bod, then I'd say, by all means to do
Speaker 1: is you'd like to do? You know what I mean.
Speaker 1: If it's uh, if it's the old you know, the
Speaker 1: old pancake bod rocking the yoga pants, and then you're like,
Speaker 1: what are you doing? Break out? Because Rick was the
Speaker 1: one who had this topic, so I feel like he
Speaker 1: has a story that he's being shy about. By the way,
Speaker 1: but by the way, what's with everybody wearing yoga pants?
Speaker 1: Everybody all the time? Leisure? I just assumed they were
Speaker 1: all doing yoga? Is that not ateist creation of all mankind? No? No, no,
Speaker 1: that depends on the neighborhood, my friend. So you know what,
Speaker 1: when did this become just normal socially socially acceptable? You
Speaker 1: know what it is? They're like, I give up, pants up,
Speaker 1: I give up. That's what the right one that's listen,
Speaker 1: have you been? This depends on the neighborhood. You guys
Speaker 1: are living in Hollywood, Okay, there's people here who exercise
Speaker 1: nine hours a day. That's one that's like they're on
Speaker 1: their way to exercise class. But if you're not okay
Speaker 1: and you're rocking, rocking that stuff, absolutely, everyone like what
Speaker 1: is this? They're like, like just leggings to just I'd
Speaker 1: love to have our female Everything is exposed, you can
Speaker 1: see everything. I'd love to have our female listeners way
Speaker 1: in this a what about the guys you want us
Speaker 1: wearing like we look like that happens, I don't want
Speaker 1: that means they're wearing stuff they shouldn't be, Peter, Pan, Peter.
Speaker 1: I think that goes back to the question is you
Speaker 1: know in terms of the braw thing, It's like, you know,
Speaker 1: I was going through the airport the other day and
Speaker 1: I saw this cute, kind of younger, attractive girl and
Speaker 1: she wasn't wearing a bra, and I was like, Wow,
Speaker 1: that's actually that's very attractive. But then you get to
Speaker 1: the other side of that. What her dad say? What
Speaker 1: fight are you on? Go ahead, get to the other side.
Speaker 1: The other side of it is you get. You get
Speaker 1: the people that are wearing maybe the yoga pants that
Speaker 1: shouldn't be, or the people that aren't wearing a bra
Speaker 1: that maybe should be. Why No, I think good, I
Speaker 1: like that. Why shouldn't they be they shouldn't be? Um,
Speaker 1: maybe it's an expression of freedom. M See, I have
Speaker 1: no problem with it. I actually I actually can find
Speaker 1: it sexy. Hey listen, if I'm obviously we all have
Speaker 1: different taste, but if you're attracted to the body, and
Speaker 1: you see a certain thing when they're not wearying, of
Speaker 1: course you're gonna go wow, oh my god. You know what?
Speaker 1: I think the bra unlike maybe in the fifties where
Speaker 1: the bra was like just to hold the boobs. Now
Speaker 1: it's part of fashion. So like like tonight, I'm wearing
Speaker 1: a bra, I'm wearing a shirt right now, but later
Speaker 1: tonight when we all go out, I'm gonna take the
Speaker 1: shirt off because the bra is supposed to it's supposed
Speaker 1: to show. And bras have become much more like cute
Speaker 1: and fashionable, So I think they're more like a fashion
Speaker 1: statement than just serving the purpose. But I don't know.
Speaker 1: I like both. Both can be extremely sexy. I'll go,
Speaker 1: let's go, or Rick, you want to go, oh oh holy.
Speaker 1: This is like a question kay driving, Um, let's go this.
Speaker 1: Why do men always drive when a couple is in
Speaker 1: the car, The man is always driving? Why what if
Speaker 1: your wife girlfriend wanted to drive. I watched a hundred
Speaker 1: cars go by in Lake Tahoe and it was a
Speaker 1: couple in front of a man that was driving. Nine Barrett,
Speaker 1: And if it was a couple, it was the man driving.
Speaker 1: The time do men think they are better drivers than women?
Speaker 1: One of those cars in Tahoe was Gavin and I
Speaker 1: and he was driving. Wait a minute, men think women?
Speaker 1: Why do men always drive? Rick? I don't know the
Speaker 1: answer to that question. But I just went on a
Speaker 1: road trip with my family and I drove the entire
Speaker 1: time and my wife was like, Hey, do you want
Speaker 1: me to drive? Do you want me to drive? I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: I got it. It's all good. Like for some reason,
Speaker 1: I just feel more comfortable and more in control of
Speaker 1: the car when I'm driving instead of versus her, even
Speaker 1: though she's a great driver. Okay, but Dmitri, yeah, we
Speaker 1: all know they're just horrible drivers, right boy, We're gonna
Speaker 1: get some hate mail this decade. I'm writing one right now. Um.
Speaker 1: But I think I drive most of the time or
Speaker 1: all the time. But it's not like that's just the
Speaker 1: way it is. I think maybe my wife doesn't want
Speaker 1: to drive. I will say this. I was dating a
Speaker 1: girl one time and I was like, Oh, do you
Speaker 1: want to drive? And she's like what? And I was like,
Speaker 1: did you want to drive? She's like, uh, this is
Speaker 1: shortly after college and she's like, I've never been around
Speaker 1: a guy that didn't want to drive, and I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't know what to tell you, but maybe I was.
Speaker 1: I think I said, I don't feel like driving. I
Speaker 1: was like, maybe you should go back and date the
Speaker 1: guys that you did that you did it before, Like
Speaker 1: who cares? Like I didn't feel like driving? I said,
Speaker 1: do you want to drive? Like? I don't care. I
Speaker 1: do most of the driving, I think, but it's just
Speaker 1: I think maybe my wife doesn't want to drive, and
Speaker 1: that's why it happens. Yev I prefer doing the driving.
Speaker 1: I love to drive. I get a thrill from driving.
Speaker 1: What is the thrill? Let's hear the other option is
Speaker 1: your dog driving? Like gambling with my life? The other
Speaker 1: thing I love to drive. I just enjoy the act
Speaker 1: of driving. I truly get a kick out of it. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I like the joy of driving, but I also like
Speaker 1: it has nothing to do with a man or a
Speaker 1: woman driving. It's just I sometimes when I'm not driving,
Speaker 1: I don't always feel safe, and so I'm always the
Speaker 1: one that's putting my foot, you know, when there's a
Speaker 1: break or if I'm in the back of my back driver,
Speaker 1: and it's like I just, you know, unless I know
Speaker 1: the person well enough where I'm like, okay, yeah, Gavin,
Speaker 1: you're you're a good driver. We've driven a lot together.
Speaker 1: I get it. Would you let your wife drive? Like,
Speaker 1: do you think she is a good driver? Totally? Yeah.
Speaker 1: It's actually sometimes fun to like because I would probably
Speaker 1: drive the time too, but it's actually sometimes fun. It's
Speaker 1: like a novelty when my wife drives and I get
Speaker 1: to like just chill and run tunes and look around,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, this is awesome. I do understand as
Speaker 1: a woman, I drive percent at the time, but when
Speaker 1: I am in a car with like a boyfriend, there
Speaker 1: is something sort of charming about them driving, Like I
Speaker 1: get that, and you're sort of the it's it's very
Speaker 1: feminine and masculine. You're like one of those. And then
Speaker 1: he comes around and opens the door. It's really cute.
Speaker 1: So I have a question. I pulled this one out
Speaker 1: because I want I don't want it to get missed.
Speaker 1: And you have to tell the truth, Like, seriously, you
Speaker 1: have to tell the truth. Oh man, do you think
Speaker 1: you are good in bed? Or do you maybe need improvement?
Speaker 1: Every guy's going to say they're good. Can we change
Speaker 1: that to great? Because good is like I like where
Speaker 1: you're going are you great in bad? So the question
Speaker 1: is the question now is are you good great in bed?
Speaker 1: Or do you need work? Or do you need work?
Speaker 1: I'll go with this, Um, I don't know, I would say,
Speaker 1: because one of my goals this year is to really
Speaker 1: explore like learning about sexuality. The amount of time in
Speaker 1: my life that I've studied hockey, athletics, training, nutrition, pressure,
Speaker 1: high performance, mindset, all of that stuff you're going to
Speaker 1: dedicate essentially, But I did the opposite. I studied sex
Speaker 1: with my whole life. Now I'm doing hockey. There you go.
Speaker 1: But so here's the thing is, that's what people think
Speaker 1: that people people think that, and we've had some amazing
Speaker 1: um sexologists on this show that people think that sexuality
Speaker 1: is just the act of sex, of just having sex,
Speaker 1: and there's so much more to it. Here's a question,
Speaker 1: this is an honest question for everybody in this room
Speaker 1: and every single person listening. Are you fully, a hundred percent,
Speaker 1: fully expressed in your true sexuality with your partner, with
Speaker 1: everything you could not imagine having a better sex life.
Speaker 1: Are you truly there? No? And I'm not either. I'm
Speaker 1: not either. So that's what one of my goals this
Speaker 1: year is to really dive into so then we're all
Speaker 1: essentially that's a state of suffering. We're not We're not
Speaker 1: tens out of tens were It doesn't mean you're the
Speaker 1: best performer. It just means are you fully expressed? Do
Speaker 1: you even know who you are? Sexually? And I truly,
Speaker 1: to my core do not. But I'm super excited about
Speaker 1: that journey to really learn about sexuality and also get
Speaker 1: better at the performance of it, but also just the
Speaker 1: understanding of who I am, who my wife is that
Speaker 1: sort of dance. How do you all feel about receiving
Speaker 1: um instruction during it? And I want everybody to answer
Speaker 1: the first question, which is are you great? But also
Speaker 1: like in the midst of it, are you open to
Speaker 1: the woman saying let's try this? Or what do you
Speaker 1: think about this? Or I read this in a book?
Speaker 1: Can we try it? Because she pass you the I
Speaker 1: ke Emmanuel and be like, this is how you need
Speaker 1: to put the shell together? Well, you guys should all
Speaker 1: read you all should read Sorry, I have to like
Speaker 1: kind of touch Rick a little bit on purpose. Uh,
Speaker 1: you guys should all read this book called Slow Sex.
Speaker 1: It's by I think her name is Nicole Day done.
Speaker 1: And it talks about or asthmic meditation and I highly
Speaker 1: I know that's what my guy said when I said,
Speaker 1: can we try this? And he's all, I highly recommend.
Speaker 1: It's supposed to be life changing, and I think it
Speaker 1: could you say orgasmic meditation? Do you want me to
Speaker 1: quickly what it is? In a nutshell? For fifteen minutes?
Speaker 1: For fifteen minutes, the man is fully clothed, the woman
Speaker 1: is half naked, and you do something. You have to
Speaker 1: read it in the book to her for fifteen straight minutes,
Speaker 1: and it's supposed to be like life changing. Okay, back
Speaker 1: to the time. What's like what annoy her? Yeah, because
Speaker 1: that's what happened. What happened? Hey? Those coming off now?
Speaker 1: Or no? No? I mean, I'm not gonna lie, But
Speaker 1: when would be a good time you touch a part
Speaker 1: of her? Hold on? Hold on? Can you leave the
Speaker 1: room for the fifteen minutes and come back? Let's hold on.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm raining this in because this is this is honestly,
Speaker 1: this is a really horton question. Minutes, get off your sandwich.
Speaker 1: Kick here, here's here's rick. This is this is to
Speaker 1: me the eyes, This is a really important question. These
Speaker 1: topics like this are really why we do this podcast.
Speaker 1: Back to the original question, are you do you feel
Speaker 1: you are good and great and bad or are you
Speaker 1: willing to like have some assistance and and learn more
Speaker 1: about it and get And I'm definitely up for more assistance.
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm great. I think I'm good. I
Speaker 1: think there's tons for a room room of improvement. Um.
Speaker 1: But again, like I mean, all these things that Amy's
Speaker 1: bringing up in the books and stuff like that, it's like,
Speaker 1: I'm just lucky to get laid like once a week. Seriously,
Speaker 1: how are you? How are you gonna once a week?
Speaker 1: Come on, you need more? It's true, Like come on, Dmitri,
Speaker 1: pick me up here, bro. So it's like I don't
Speaker 1: have fifteen minutes to sit there and go. It's like
Speaker 1: like like' just ride. It's like, hey, bail the room
Speaker 1: for fifteen minutes ago. Are they laying there in their
Speaker 1: yoga pants? So I think, yeah, I think I'm pretty
Speaker 1: I think I'm pretty good, but I definitely there's tons
Speaker 1: of room for improvement. Yeah, gav, life is good, you know, politician,
Speaker 1: answer the question. I get the job done, you know,
Speaker 1: I think you know, I'm very happy and uh and
Speaker 1: and they're happy. The only true sort of like criticism
Speaker 1: of this conversation. You have fifteen minutes, Rick to try it.
Speaker 1: It's fifteen minutes that if your wife came to you
Speaker 1: with this book and it changes people's lives, you have
Speaker 1: I'm asking for fifteen minutes. And I'm not mad at
Speaker 1: you because my guy did the same thing. He was like,
Speaker 1: I'm not doing that, but then he did do it.
Speaker 1: So it's fifteen minutes and it's supposed to really be
Speaker 1: life changing, Like, why don't you go home and try
Speaker 1: it and then tell us if it works? I was
Speaker 1: he wearing the bra when you guys did it? Modified?
Speaker 1: So Amy, I'm on your side on this. And so
Speaker 1: here's my question and and the concept I want to
Speaker 1: propose UM because I'm like, this is an area of
Speaker 1: my life I'm actively like pursuing it right truthfully at UM.
Speaker 1: There's a concept called pleasure first. Pleasure first, So your day,
Speaker 1: the most important thing in your day is pleasure. And
Speaker 1: when I read that, when I started thinking about that,
Speaker 1: how often in my life have I woke up thinking, Okay,
Speaker 1: I gotta feed the dog, gotta get the dogs out
Speaker 1: to pee walk them, I want to work out, I
Speaker 1: got this stuff, I want to do all of this stuff,
Speaker 1: and then oh, I try and fit pleasure in after
Speaker 1: that or maybe at at night when we go to bed.
Speaker 1: But what if I looked at my life and what
Speaker 1: would the quality of my life be if I woke
Speaker 1: up prioritizing pleasure as the absolute most important thing in
Speaker 1: my day. It's hard to have pleasure when the dogs
Speaker 1: are crapping on the rug though, But yeah, but if
Speaker 1: you have, if you're in pleasure, if you have pleasure,
Speaker 1: you probably don't give a damn about that. Think about
Speaker 1: how you're feeling after you've been pleasure, after you've expressed yourself.
Speaker 1: You are more loving, more kind, more patient, We have
Speaker 1: more gratitude for everything. Everybody's awesome, things are funnier. Maybe
Speaker 1: pleasure first is a new concept that I'm trying to
Speaker 1: like explore in my life because it's not been. It's
Speaker 1: been almost last in the course of my life. Can't
Speaker 1: listen to anyone say they don't have fifteen minutes. You do?
Speaker 1: You have fifteen minutes a few times a week to
Speaker 1: try it. You meditate, sex, meditate. We actually have fifteen
Speaker 1: minutes left in this sixty minutes. Question, What do you
Speaker 1: do when you wanted to have pleasure first, but your
Speaker 1: dog is jumping on your bed looking at you, saying me,
Speaker 1: put lock the door, put them outside. I got I
Speaker 1: got a question. It's gonna take fifteen minutes. Ton, Okay,
Speaker 1: it's something. This is like a paragraph. It's some we've
Speaker 1: talked about before, scheduling sex. I'm gonna rattle down the
Speaker 1: bullet points here. How do we really feel about it?
Speaker 1: I used to think it was ridiculous, but my boyfriend
Speaker 1: this is from the person that wrote it. But my
Speaker 1: boyfriend works has a ton going on as the kids,
Speaker 1: have the time and traveled, so we scheduled sex. I
Speaker 1: knew only options this week were Wednesday and Thursday. It
Speaker 1: was kind of fun to think about it ahead of
Speaker 1: time and to get excited. I get why you need
Speaker 1: to do it, but I can't let it go by
Speaker 1: the wayside. I will say, I think he did it
Speaker 1: to make me happy when he wasn't quite as into
Speaker 1: it as part of it. He thought it was a
Speaker 1: little tough. So I need to figure out how to
Speaker 1: work on that. So she tried scheduling sex. She seems
Speaker 1: to like it, but she has to get her boyfriend
Speaker 1: more on it. So this this is a perfect follow
Speaker 1: up question to what I was just talking about, because
Speaker 1: why can't they like if I that, I would totally
Speaker 1: be up for scheduling sex because I know it's going
Speaker 1: down here and it's like a hockey game like seven
Speaker 1: pm Saturday night, like it's go time. Like I know,
Speaker 1: I would totally be in for that. Life changes my
Speaker 1: alarm just one off. I'm supposed to be having sex
Speaker 1: right now, but now I'm here, can I ask a question?
Speaker 1: Can you see? It sounds crazy to me, but I'm
Speaker 1: down for that, as long as you can have sex
Speaker 1: before that time too, like whenever, Like okay, we'll do
Speaker 1: that time too. But I don't want it to be like, Okay,
Speaker 1: you're not gonna do this like three months from now
Speaker 1: when it's I'm not do it. But we're not quite
Speaker 1: there yet. This summer summer, it's going to be really
Speaker 1: form count is act activated. Just stay on the question.
Speaker 1: Nobody is saying you can't have sex other times. She's
Speaker 1: just just saying just to make sure that there is
Speaker 1: an absolute must must time at least that time, whatever
Speaker 1: time that is, so per day, per week, per weekend,
Speaker 1: whatever y'all do it. But Okay, I get it. I
Speaker 1: just said I don't have fifteen minutes, Like this woman
Speaker 1: is going ahead and saying, here is fifteen minutes, here
Speaker 1: is an hour. You are not free to book other
Speaker 1: things to get it. Okay, I understand. But on the surface,
Speaker 1: when I hear these types of things, it's so hard
Speaker 1: for me to wrap my head around it, like we're
Speaker 1: gonna schedule sex like, well, you've got a different lifestyle
Speaker 1: to what I mean. It's like what but in your
Speaker 1: lives where it seems to make sense to at least
Speaker 1: make sure that there's a time to do it. But
Speaker 1: it's hard for me to still understand. I have to say,
Speaker 1: if I, if I may, candidly speaking say, it's hard
Speaker 1: for me to wrap my head around the concept of
Speaker 1: not having the desire enough to go that long to
Speaker 1: the point where you feel like you have to have
Speaker 1: it on the schedule. No, she's just looking at the
Speaker 1: calendar saying, it's busy. I want to have connection with you.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing. Let me propose it this way. Let's
Speaker 1: say there's an absolutely beautiful, lovely woman that you are
Speaker 1: so into. You are just into this person, and she
Speaker 1: says to you, I'm super busy, you're super busy this week.
Speaker 1: I want to carve out an hour where we can
Speaker 1: totally explore and connect physically and everything that you want
Speaker 1: sexually we can explore in that hour. You're telling me
Speaker 1: you wouldn't be just dying for seven o'clock or nine
Speaker 1: o'clock to come around. Okay, I can. I can embrace
Speaker 1: that concept. I'll tell you where I'd have a hard
Speaker 1: time if we showed up. I knew we had an hour.
Speaker 1: In the first fifteen minutes she was meditating. Well, we
Speaker 1: made some progress there, Rick DoD you have any thought
Speaker 1: on that? No, it's all good. Yeah, with the bank. Okay,
Speaker 1: here's a question. Here's a question a month my door,
Speaker 1: Nash is coming in thirty Um. The new topic you're
Speaker 1: moving on here here clowns? Snoring? Any of you snore?
Speaker 1: Snoring can destroy relationships. It's mostly men that snored you.
Speaker 1: Men snore more when they are out of shape or overweight.
Speaker 1: What do you do if your partner snores? Should you
Speaker 1: sleep in separate bedrooms? Do you do? Men think snoring
Speaker 1: as a d a breaker for women? Do any of
Speaker 1: your wives or girlfriend's snore a lot? Of just any
Speaker 1: topic on story. Let's go by snore. I mean I don't.
Speaker 1: I'm not one of those, like, you know, like a
Speaker 1: bear kind of a store. But I mean I do snore,
Speaker 1: like if I'm in a deep sleep. I've been told
Speaker 1: that I do snore. Um. I caught myself actually on
Speaker 1: the plane the other day. I was flying back from
Speaker 1: New York, and I fell asleep before we even took off,
Speaker 1: and it was like I could almost hear myself like, uh, yeah,
Speaker 1: I was that dude somebody putting a sock. But shut
Speaker 1: this guy up. But I'm not a huge store, you know,
Speaker 1: and I don't have like or I don't have any
Speaker 1: of that other kind of stuff. I do think. I
Speaker 1: don't think it ruins relationship. It's just a fact of life.
Speaker 1: You know. It's like, dude, part of either getting old
Speaker 1: or it's getting gray hair or you know, what are
Speaker 1: you gonna do get divorced because you're getting great hair
Speaker 1: or you're balding or whatever. That's like, so what you're snoring?
Speaker 1: That being said, disruptive. It is disruptive. Very can be
Speaker 1: very disruptive what I typically do. My wife will occasionally snore.
Speaker 1: She's gonna kill me is I just grabbed the pillow
Speaker 1: and kind of toss it on or all like no, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: It's just like I'll, you know, kind of push her
Speaker 1: and say, hey, baby, you're snoring, and she's like okay, okay,
Speaker 1: and then as long as you're comfortable pal. So I
Speaker 1: don't know what you guys think of this, but my
Speaker 1: guy snores, and the odds are we will never sleep
Speaker 1: in the same room for like an entire night. We
Speaker 1: just always have. But there's there's a there's a mouthpiece
Speaker 1: that goes in and puts their jaw back and so
Speaker 1: so there's you can do, like a snore guard. You
Speaker 1: can do different ways of your air passages. Separate rooms
Speaker 1: is not a deal breaker. It's okay if you are
Speaker 1: lucky enough to have an extra room. It's a little
Speaker 1: tricky when traveling, like to a hotel, but we figure
Speaker 1: it out. You're not bs. You're not gonna go get
Speaker 1: a separate room. You're not gonna get married and live
Speaker 1: in a separate room like that. Just a story for
Speaker 1: I'm saying people that are married here. Story. When I
Speaker 1: was eighteen, I was playing hockey in Seattle and so
Speaker 1: my billet family, the family that I lived within Seattle.
Speaker 1: The man snored like a freaking semitruck, Like he just
Speaker 1: snored outrageously. And they slept in different rooms. They literally
Speaker 1: had their own bedrooms. I thought it was weird as hell,
Speaker 1: and I don't think I never want my relationship ever
Speaker 1: to come to that. Did they seem like a happy couple.
Speaker 1: They did not. They did not seem like they had
Speaker 1: romance or connection or affection present in their lives. They
Speaker 1: to me, maybe they did, but to me, it felt
Speaker 1: like they were roommates. Did he wear like a mouthpiece
Speaker 1: or anything to kind of prevent the snoring? There's tons
Speaker 1: of cures. How about a motorcycle him? How side? Just
Speaker 1: you know, in there, just question what's the whole helmet?
Speaker 1: You know? Go ahead, who is your best friend? And
Speaker 1: tell us one thing about him? You can't say my
Speaker 1: wife boring? All right, Rick's wife is off the table. Guys. Yeah,
Speaker 1: my answer, um telling me to go first. You say
Speaker 1: it was kind of an open ended question. You got
Speaker 1: a little awkward there. Um. I got a buddy of mine.
Speaker 1: I consider him as my best My best buddy, we
Speaker 1: can we talk about stuff. We all we all, Uh,
Speaker 1: this is where it gets even more awkward. Um, you know,
Speaker 1: but we talked about stuff, and UM, we can be
Speaker 1: honest and you know, we got each other back, give
Speaker 1: each other honest things. But we also, um take screenshots
Speaker 1: of people's like face, stupid Facebook posts and stuff when
Speaker 1: we just text them like all day long and make
Speaker 1: fun of it keeps you laughing all day long. I
Speaker 1: got a good buddy. And what what makes my relationship
Speaker 1: with him so special is whenever we get together, it's
Speaker 1: like we're still back in high school, or we're still
Speaker 1: back in college, we're still whatever, Like nothing changes, and
Speaker 1: it's like you just pick up and you're back to
Speaker 1: You're telling the same stupid jokes, you're talking about the
Speaker 1: same people, you're you know, you're rinking, messing around, doing
Speaker 1: whatever you're doing. Um, And and that's what to me
Speaker 1: makes a best friend or you know, a best friend. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's my best buddy right there. Yes, bring him in, actually,
Speaker 1: bring him get over here. Come on, I've been let's
Speaker 1: t him up here up. He doesn't like this, uh,
Speaker 1: this type of stuff, this type of let's have his
Speaker 1: you know, his name is Joey me and but me
Speaker 1: and Joey have been buddies since we were let's see
Speaker 1: you about twenty years and uh, let's see I was
Speaker 1: about twenty one when I met Joey two and Joey
Speaker 1: was working a cafe in a neighborhood I was living in, right,
Speaker 1: and we became friends from hanging out there, and uh,
Speaker 1: we wasn't friends friendly at first, right, he think I
Speaker 1: think he thought I was a dick. Right, you got
Speaker 1: you got your Joey the mic he you were well
Speaker 1: at least you didn't say you are. Yeah, yeah yeah,
Speaker 1: And uh, anyway, we became friends over time, and it's
Speaker 1: my best buddy, man, So you know, we we worked
Speaker 1: together and uh, travel together. Man. We were you know,
Speaker 1: our our families are you know, we know each other's families.
Speaker 1: And he's a great guy man, you know. And I
Speaker 1: think part of that friendship is because we met at
Speaker 1: a very important time in our lives as well, you know,
Speaker 1: your early twenties, one years old probably and um, and
Speaker 1: you know, I've had I still you know, I still
Speaker 1: am tight with guys I grew up with, you know,
Speaker 1: my best friend growing up, I'm still super tight with,
Speaker 1: you know, and my best buddies going up, I'm still
Speaker 1: super tight with. I still hang out with their families
Speaker 1: and see them and and all those great things and
Speaker 1: other guys I met throughout time. Um, and I'm still
Speaker 1: tight with a bunch of bunch of dudes. But but
Speaker 1: me and him, we just it's like it's like we
Speaker 1: you just see the world in very much the same way.
Speaker 1: I think we came up in a particular in a
Speaker 1: particular time in our lives that we identify with even
Speaker 1: though we grew up differently. Um and Uh, I think
Speaker 1: we share a lot of the same values and and
Speaker 1: things like that. You know, I think, um and he's
Speaker 1: and he his his his creative mind is similar to
Speaker 1: my creative mind, but his pragmatic mind is similar to
Speaker 1: my pragmatic mind. You guys met at an important time
Speaker 1: in your life. You needed a sandwich, and he worked
Speaker 1: in a cafe. Boom boom boom. Actually, since he used
Speaker 1: all the oxygen in the room, might not be real quick?
Speaker 1: Are you dead yet? Like my brother Jordan's uh, my
Speaker 1: brother Derek, uh. And then all my all my buddies
Speaker 1: growing up. Man, I've been buddies for thirty six years
Speaker 1: of these guys. Um, my buddy Corey here in town.
Speaker 1: I got Curtis Blake, Uh, my buddy Ryan, my buddy scummy,
Speaker 1: um scummy. His last name is skull Moski. Um. I
Speaker 1: have too many. I have too many amazing buddies to
Speaker 1: even just list one. Blake Tyrrell, Like just so, you
Speaker 1: don't have a person you talk to the most, talk
Speaker 1: to the most all of them. But right now, who
Speaker 1: who would be your joy in the corner? Who's the
Speaker 1: one you talked to the most? Because I talk I
Speaker 1: talked to all those guys here. The one I was
Speaker 1: the one I would talk to the most. He I
Speaker 1: talked to the most, The one I would the two
Speaker 1: that I would talk to the most would be uh,
Speaker 1: Derek and Corey here in town because they both live
Speaker 1: here in l A. So that proximity, Like it's easy
Speaker 1: for me to drive the DS. Corey comes and works
Speaker 1: out of my house five times a week, so I
Speaker 1: see those guys more. Um so those who would I
Speaker 1: talk to the most of those. But there, but there is,
Speaker 1: but but there is that that love. You know, there's
Speaker 1: elements of the guys you grow up with, your your youngest,
Speaker 1: youngest times in your life. They're almost more like family
Speaker 1: than than anything else. You know what I'm saying. It's
Speaker 1: kind of like when you know someone since you're three,
Speaker 1: it's it's it's weird, honest with you, it's uh, blood blood,
Speaker 1: you know. And me and Joey became blood, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. And so that's the thing, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, We're still talking about We're still talking
Speaker 1: about Joey. Joey your your book is coming out. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna flick. I'm gonna flick and his brick. Okay, next question,
Speaker 1: this one, I want to make this. I want to
Speaker 1: stipulate this. This has a kids in the question, but
Speaker 1: I think you can answer it if you don't have kids. So,
Speaker 1: if you were to have kids one day, what is
Speaker 1: one thing you don't want your kids to know about
Speaker 1: you that you were friends with? Gavin? What's one thing
Speaker 1: I don't want my kids to know about me? I'll
Speaker 1: tell you all the stuff you guys that want your
Speaker 1: kids to know. Yeah, I mean, to be honest, I
Speaker 1: think probably looking back on like smoking weed or you know,
Speaker 1: doing doing a doing a drag or two. Um, I
Speaker 1: mean I'm ashamed of that, all right, to be ashamed
Speaker 1: of that, because I mean, I'm spending a lot of
Speaker 1: time right now. My son's at a pivotal age where
Speaker 1: he's either getting introduced to that or whatever the case
Speaker 1: may be, and it's like, no, don't do that, or
Speaker 1: you know, be careful about this. And I was going
Speaker 1: through the same time, but I was I made the
Speaker 1: you know, I tried it, you know. So it's like
Speaker 1: that part is I'm ashamed of. I mean, I know
Speaker 1: he's gonna do it, so it's it's it is what
Speaker 1: it is, and he's at some point going to make
Speaker 1: his own decisions. Um. I can't look back on my
Speaker 1: life where I'm like, oh, I totally regret this. I
Speaker 1: would never never tell my kids, you know, um, not
Speaker 1: to make you straight too much, but I have a question.
Speaker 1: Are you gonna tell your kids not to do any
Speaker 1: of it? No? Are you gonna address certain lines because
Speaker 1: do you think that there's a certain line that's sort
Speaker 1: of permissible because if you dropped too too much of
Speaker 1: a hammer on him, are you afraid they're gonna overdo
Speaker 1: it when they finally do something wrong? Totally? I'm afraid
Speaker 1: of it all, um. And I'm I'm pretty liberal in
Speaker 1: terms of having those conversations and and being open about
Speaker 1: experimenting with things. You know. I I've come to kind
Speaker 1: of the reality that he's they're gonna try it, So
Speaker 1: I think it's more of like, what are your decisions
Speaker 1: after you try it? Are you gonna get in a car?
Speaker 1: Are you gonna let your friend get in a car?
Speaker 1: Are you gonna what are you gonna do? And I
Speaker 1: think those are the those are the concerns that I have,
Speaker 1: and and that would be the I mean, I'm not
Speaker 1: going to drop the hammer. I mean, it really kind
Speaker 1: of depends on what the what the scenario is, right, Dmitri.
Speaker 1: What what I don't want my kids to know about
Speaker 1: me is the things that the the emotion, things that
Speaker 1: make me selfish when I shouldn't be so. For example,
Speaker 1: if I'm talking them into sleep and I'm so tired
Speaker 1: and one of them just starts telling a story, and
Speaker 1: they have every right to tell that story, but in
Speaker 1: my head, I'm like, shut up, I'm so tired right now.
Speaker 1: I don't want them to know because I think it's
Speaker 1: so sweet that they have these stories they want to share,
Speaker 1: but I don't want them to know that there have
Speaker 1: been time is when I've been like, come on, man,
Speaker 1: let's zip it up, let's go um. I appreciate that honestly, dude,
Speaker 1: that's not an easy thing to say. And I appreciate
Speaker 1: because and then and the truth is like, yeah, that happens.
Speaker 1: But I also like, I don't want them to know
Speaker 1: it because that's my problem. That's me being tired. That's
Speaker 1: not anything that they do. So I don't want them
Speaker 1: to think wrong from that. Here's here's mine. I don't
Speaker 1: have kids, but here's what the question is. What would
Speaker 1: I not want them to know? Um, I would like
Speaker 1: my kids to know that I've just been with their mom,
Speaker 1: like with my wife, Like I would love to have
Speaker 1: our kids see us as a unit, just as know
Speaker 1: us as a unit. I'm sorry for a minute, I
Speaker 1: thought you meant like I had just been with your
Speaker 1: mom two minutes. Know, like like my mom and dad right,
Speaker 1: like like my mom and dad don't tell stories of
Speaker 1: x is or of like like when I see my
Speaker 1: mom and dad, they've been married forty five years, their
Speaker 1: mom and dad together and they don't share. And I
Speaker 1: don't know if that's good or bad that they don't share.
Speaker 1: But I love just the notion of looking at my
Speaker 1: mom and dad as a partnership. And I hope and
Speaker 1: that's just I hope when I have kids that um,
Speaker 1: that they know me and my wife as their mom
Speaker 1: and dad as a partnership, as a togetherness um, and
Speaker 1: not know other stuff about our past. I don't know
Speaker 1: if that's right or wrong, but that's a truthful answer
Speaker 1: to that question. My niece penis on my iPad, So
Speaker 1: what a follow up? So I always let them. I
Speaker 1: just have to admit it. So I always let them
Speaker 1: use my iPads when I go games only games only.
Speaker 1: So then I go over and my nieces are looking
Speaker 1: at photos on my iPad and I go, oh god,
Speaker 1: I had a total panic. And I go, you guys,
Speaker 1: there's weird photos in there for my work. My little
Speaker 1: niece it was nine. She goes, we know, Auntie, we
Speaker 1: saw that. We just went past it. And then they
Speaker 1: were like, my aunt works with penises. Gave what's something?
Speaker 1: If you had kids, you would never want them to know.
Speaker 1: We don't have a lot of time. You got two sentences.
Speaker 1: Um good, Sure, I'm not sure, man, I mean there's plenty.
Speaker 1: Probably the amount of destruction I went through or self
Speaker 1: created until I got it right, m hm, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? And you know I wouldn't say it
Speaker 1: was total self destruction. But I would say that it
Speaker 1: certainly wasn't all necessarily you know, all building towards a
Speaker 1: good thing my whole life, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: so um, but there was certainly you know bad. There
Speaker 1: are plenty of bad decisions along the way, you know,
Speaker 1: and a lot of selfish decisions, so that that's probably
Speaker 1: some of the stuff i'd i'd want to keep keep
Speaker 1: them protected from, you know. Um. But at the same time,
Speaker 1: I don't necessarily want to try to convince my kids
Speaker 1: I was some kind of angel, because because I wasn't
Speaker 1: and I'm not and uh and I think that sets
Speaker 1: the bar too high, and I think it allows them
Speaker 1: to see their own disappointment a little too clearly if
Speaker 1: they're not a little angel. And I don't believe in
Speaker 1: um creating this uh, I don't believe in the complete
Speaker 1: idyllic uh uh lie that children are sold about how
Speaker 1: they should behave, how perfect they have to be, because
Speaker 1: I think that creates a a box that is I think,
Speaker 1: far more evil than the things you could expose them to.
Speaker 1: That to show them that, um, you know, the world
Speaker 1: is imperfect and it's okay if you're not perfect, and uh,
Speaker 1: you know, dad wasn't perfect either, and your aunt has
Speaker 1: penis pectures on your iPad and exactly, exactly exactly. I
Speaker 1: think creating some of these impossible standards, it creates more
Speaker 1: of the of their creative creates, more of them being
Speaker 1: self conscious about themselves and things like this. And I
Speaker 1: think it's more destructive to children to create impossible standards
Speaker 1: and to be at least somewhat real as an adult
Speaker 1: about how imperfect we are. And what I think is
Speaker 1: important is usually using your experiences to help guide them
Speaker 1: through their life. You know, like it's not all cookie cutter,
Speaker 1: it's not all perfect, and so like you're using your
Speaker 1: either failures or successes and to help shape them. That's
Speaker 1: that's the most important thing. As apparent, time is up.
Speaker 1: Time is up. So we are going to do the
Speaker 1: last few questions as a speed round. Ready, Yes, you
Speaker 1: speed round means you have to go fast. Here we go.
Speaker 1: Let me put it in fifty. Like taking baths, I do.
Speaker 1: I don't. I love a bath man. I'll never take
Speaker 1: one unless it's with my wife. Yeah, I take them.
Speaker 1: I love a bath. First. Celebrity crushed periscope Christie Brinkley,
Speaker 1: Lisa malano I think, Jessica Alba, I don't remember. Do
Speaker 1: you pee in the shower? Only in the shower, even
Speaker 1: if I'm not showering, I get in the shower only
Speaker 1: like three times. I actually, I actually think it's disgusting
Speaker 1: because I watched so many dudes piss in the shower
Speaker 1: for years, and I'm just like, that's not just kidding me.
Speaker 1: You don't pee in the shower. It's not I'm not
Speaker 1: saying I don't I have, it's not. I'm not proud
Speaker 1: of it. Someone told me it is bad for the drain.
Speaker 1: Do you feel Brad Pitt is fairly handsome? Yes? Sure?
Speaker 1: Do I think he's Yeah, he's handsome Brad Pitt or
Speaker 1: Leo brad Pitt. Brad Pitt looks tougher. When your wife, girlfriend,
Speaker 1: or teenage daughter needs you to buy tampons, how do
Speaker 1: you really feel about it? I don't know, buy him
Speaker 1: give her the apple pay? I mean, I don't give it. Obviously,
Speaker 1: I go and by them. I don't give you them,
Speaker 1: but I usually make a joke out of it because
Speaker 1: you bring it up to the thing and I'll be like,
Speaker 1: so are there instructions for me to use these? That
Speaker 1: was a great that Dmitri, you put a great bow
Speaker 1: on this episode. Um, that was awesome, guys. I always
Speaker 1: I love when we get to answer listener questions, So
Speaker 1: I want to I want to one applaud all of
Speaker 1: you guys, because people listening it's not easy too, It's
Speaker 1: not always easy to be in our seat and share
Speaker 1: things that are personal to us and about our lives
Speaker 1: and our families and people in our lives. So I
Speaker 1: want to, uh, just give a nod to all you guys.
Speaker 1: We're really committing to this episode. That was That was awesome.
Speaker 1: I think yeah, we provided some great value. I hope
Speaker 1: and anybody listening, if you have more questions, we always
Speaker 1: want them. Send us an email, Um, what's our email?
Speaker 1: Man at our heart radio dot com and and always
Speaker 1: on Instagram? How many make sure you're sending the questions
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Speaker 1: the egg one. Hey, by the way, guys, I appreciate
Speaker 1: I appreciate you guys. This was fun. I'm up to
Speaker 1: a six point five now. Yeah. The best thing is
Speaker 1: now you get to skip right over seven and you'll
Speaker 1: be at an eight PC. Seven is like the thirteen
Speaker 1: in the elevator now just skipping it over. That's it
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