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Speaker 1: This is How Men Think with brooks Like and Gavin

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Speaker 1: to grab and I heard radio podcast. Welcome to another

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Speaker 1: episode of How Men Think. My name is brooks Like

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Speaker 1: and wearing his patriotic hat to my left always. Mr

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Speaker 1: Gavin de Gros, you know you've got some amazing you know,

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Speaker 1: that's it. You know you're really riveting our audience. Thank

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Speaker 1: you bringing the house now with that knowledge, you're supposed

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Speaker 1: to understand that Brooks Um, yeah, I know. Um. He

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Speaker 1: surprises me every time on this show. I never know

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Speaker 1: what I'm going to get from. Yeah, It's kind of

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Speaker 1: why I love doing the show. I never know what

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna get with myself either. For our listeners out there,

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Speaker 1: this is what happens. The rest of us get a

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Speaker 1: like breakdown of what the episode is going to be about,

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Speaker 1: so our producer Amy will send us an email. This

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Speaker 1: is what the episode is about. Review this. Here's some questions.

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Speaker 1: What are your thoughts? Come in prepared a little bit

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Speaker 1: for it. We don't even send those to Gavin. It's true.

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Speaker 1: I'm too busy playing single players. Yes, he doesn't even

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Speaker 1: get them. So he's off the cuff, which is how

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Speaker 1: we prefer. And I hope you guys enjoyed listening like that.

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Speaker 1: I would like to see you, like prepare one day

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Speaker 1: and see if it's just terrible or if you're actually

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Speaker 1: better if you're prepared. Yeah, but what if I came

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Speaker 1: in and I actually like some kind of scientists like Gav,

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Speaker 1: this sucks, man, You're way too ready for this. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's what I'd like to see. Where my pocket protector,

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Speaker 1: your peman, wearing my clinical lab coat, I could see

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Speaker 1: you doing that. I don't I get a chalk part

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Speaker 1: up here. I could write out some equations of how

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Speaker 1: I think you'll answer certain questions and see how right

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Speaker 1: I was. I'm gonna be honest. That doesn't sound like

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Speaker 1: a fun Gavin to me boring yea, so I say so.

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Speaker 1: I agree the other boys that you here. We have

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Speaker 1: Dmitri in house with us. Dmitri is that brother? How

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Speaker 1: are you doing? Fantastic? We missed you in the last

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Speaker 1: two episodes. This is your first new or first podcast

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Speaker 1: the new decade. Yeah, so coming out of the gate

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Speaker 1: a little late, but I'm ready to go. Yeah, ready

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Speaker 1: and strong. And we also got we also got Rick

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Speaker 1: for flying down from Oakland. Hey, thank you. I actually

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Speaker 1: get the email, but I just don't read it. No damn,

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Speaker 1: by the way, so I'm kind of I'm kind of

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Speaker 1: flying off the handle tape. I'd take prepared Rick over

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Speaker 1: unprepared Rick. I think he wants to be like Gavin.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he looks up to Gavin. He's like, damn, that

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Speaker 1: guy's cool. I want to try that. Can I say that?

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Speaker 1: I like? I like Rick's glasses with the white T shirt.

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Speaker 1: It's looking like a little bit like scientists, an adult

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Speaker 1: version stand by me, the old school blackgroom glasses with

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Speaker 1: the T shirt. You know what I mean. I like it.

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Speaker 1: You guys can't see it, but you just made Rick's day.

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Speaker 1: Our listeners can't see it. But well, if they go

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Speaker 1: to the Instagram, hopefully they'll post the photos. You know,

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Speaker 1: who knows. But the reality is that I didn't want

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Speaker 1: to pay the eight dollars for the WiFi on the Southwestlide.

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Speaker 1: That's why I didn't get the email. So I don't know.

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Speaker 1: It's unscripted. Perfect, it's perfect though. This this episode today

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Speaker 1: is unscripted. So today we're gonna have a lot of fun.

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Speaker 1: We're doing Remember, like as a kid, you throw stuff

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Speaker 1: that with questions today. So we always said we started

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Speaker 1: this podcast, and we always said, our mission here is

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Speaker 1: to be real, unauthentic and genuine and open and vulnerable

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Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff. Uh. And so we piled

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Speaker 1: a hat, and Amy's gonna introduce us. But this is

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Speaker 1: what we're gonna do. We want to answer your questions.

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Speaker 1: And I'm challenging all three of you, gentlemen, and Amy

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Speaker 1: at this because our mission is to serve our listeners,

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Speaker 1: think and how we approach things. So I'm challenging all

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Speaker 1: Danielle Tory and I worked all week. We combiled questions

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Speaker 1: chopped it up. Here are the rules. You are not

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Speaker 1: allowed to pass. You cannot say pass. You cannot toss

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Speaker 1: You must answer, and you must tell the truth. And

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Speaker 1: this game is called We have three options for what

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Speaker 1: can be called great Minds Think alike, get it like

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Speaker 1: like l A like how men think sure sure sure sure,

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Speaker 1: I like that double on tender, come to think of

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Speaker 1: it for wishful thinking? What should we call this game.

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Speaker 1: I like the first one. I feel like this is great.

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Speaker 1: Minds think alike, Well, okay, except we don't think alike though.

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Speaker 1: How about here's how you burn down your own career

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Speaker 1: That's pretty good, pretty good, Chuck, set the clock for

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Speaker 1: it's four seventeen, it's four seventeen. At five seventeen. Can

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Speaker 1: The topic is crying. How do you feel when your

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Speaker 1: like that. With crying is a sign of great weakness, polarity,

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Speaker 1: this out of the hat. Oh, here we go, because

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Speaker 1: it's it's very timely Valentine's Day. Love it or dread it?

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Speaker 1: holiday from me. Wow, Gav says. The two married guys

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Speaker 1: have the eternal romantic, the eternal romantic Valentine's Day? Dread

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Speaker 1: you know, what I mean, it's it's a chick holiday.

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Speaker 1: I think I think it's a good diver a holiday.

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Speaker 1: Valentine's Day was created by Hallmark and Good Diva. I

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Speaker 1: and uh. Then that's the only reason I can recognize

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00:22:48,840 --> 00:22:52,080
Speaker 1: the light is because I've been in that darkness. That's awesome, man,

424
00:22:52,119 --> 00:22:55,240
Speaker 1: thank you for sharing. And Dmitri, the guy ahead of you,

425
00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:58,359
Speaker 1: just hit a grand slam, so you're I mean, I

426
00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:00,400
Speaker 1: don't I don't know what to say now. Like at first,

427
00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:01,840
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, nine and a half, that's cool,

428
00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:03,400
Speaker 1: and then he gave all that and I'm like, no,

429
00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:05,920
Speaker 1: Now I feel like I should be happy, but I

430
00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:08,600
Speaker 1: don't know, Like I'm money between nine and a two,

431
00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:17,160
Speaker 1: that's a seven? Where are you doing your math? Seventh

432
00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:19,679
Speaker 1: in the middle of nine and two? Uh? You know,

433
00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:22,720
Speaker 1: I I'd say six, six, and that's not a pull

434
00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:26,080
Speaker 1: the seven out, So I defaulted to sex. I'd say six, Yeah, okay,

435
00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:29,240
Speaker 1: we gonna turn. But but I'm but I'm hopeful and

436
00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:31,359
Speaker 1: I'm optimistic that things just right now. If you were

437
00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:33,000
Speaker 1: to ask, I think things you know, and what's your

438
00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:36,840
Speaker 1: reason for saying six? Meaning what's got me happy at

439
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:40,479
Speaker 1: a sex? What or what's not got you happy at

440
00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:44,639
Speaker 1: a ten? Um? You know, I'm I'm always I'm always

441
00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:47,119
Speaker 1: happy with my with my family and my kids and everything.

442
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:50,800
Speaker 1: But um, you know, I feel like um, I feel

443
00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:54,479
Speaker 1: like you know, I feel a little spread thin m hm.

444
00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:57,440
Speaker 1: So yeah, are you feeling like you can't get through

445
00:23:57,440 --> 00:24:00,199
Speaker 1: the entire hour right now? Well? I think you you know,

446
00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:01,600
Speaker 1: you ate up a good point. You have to leave

447
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:06,440
Speaker 1: early today. One more question from you and we'll be done.

448
00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:10,160
Speaker 1: So I think we're fine. Okay, next question, I pulled

449
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:13,040
Speaker 1: this one. Do you ever work late? But really it's

450
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:14,520
Speaker 1: because you don't want to deal with the kids and

451
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:18,400
Speaker 1: the kids stuff. Don't have kids, so no, I work

452
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 1: late so I don't have to deal with these guys kids.

453
00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:25,160
Speaker 1: I mean, I went, I went through it like I'm

454
00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:27,240
Speaker 1: I'm spending an extra four hours at the office just

455
00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:28,679
Speaker 1: because I don't want to go home and deal and

456
00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:30,199
Speaker 1: deal with all the food and everything like that. But

457
00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:32,360
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, an hour or something like there

458
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:35,320
Speaker 1: there are days where I just don't want to go home,

459
00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:37,520
Speaker 1: and and maybe it's not even of the kids. It's

460
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:39,840
Speaker 1: may just be like entering back into the house and

461
00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:42,720
Speaker 1: being part of the family and doing engaging back in that.

462
00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 1: Have you ever considered trading up, like trading the kids

463
00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:48,960
Speaker 1: for older kids who don't need you there as much

464
00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:52,040
Speaker 1: your kids already in school surprisingly not like you know,

465
00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:54,280
Speaker 1: like your twelve year old kid for like it's maybe

466
00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:56,359
Speaker 1: a seventeen year old on their way out of the house,

467
00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:58,720
Speaker 1: like almost off to college soon. So you're like, I

468
00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:01,160
Speaker 1: don't really need to be there. Joanne is doing okay?

469
00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:06,120
Speaker 1: Just so we're clear, you're not playing. Yeah, I haven't

470
00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 1: just adopted a twenty one year older Uh yeah, So

471
00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:18,719
Speaker 1: I will say real quick, I'll say, um, yeah. If

472
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:20,320
Speaker 1: there are times if I'm heading home and I realized

473
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:22,080
Speaker 1: it's right around bedtime and it's gonna be kid, and

474
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:24,040
Speaker 1: I can wait a half hour, then I'll do that.

475
00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:36,880
Speaker 1: You always need to fill up the car right, stay

476
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 1: at home? Dad's p t A dad? Does it work

477
00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:42,679
Speaker 1: or is it weird? What's PTA? Dad mean? Like the

478
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:44,639
Speaker 1: one that goes to all the school events and parent

479
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:48,480
Speaker 1: teacher association is that association? I hope I get to

480
00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:50,439
Speaker 1: do that when I have kids, I'd love to like

481
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:52,560
Speaker 1: do because I don't know what that's like. But I

482
00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:54,600
Speaker 1: want to be involved in my child's life. When I

483
00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:58,000
Speaker 1: UM stay at home dad, I couldn't do that. I

484
00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 1: want to be an actively involved dad, but like to

485
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 1: just stay at home. I think that would like I

486
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:07,160
Speaker 1: would love my kids, but I think my soul would

487
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 1: somewhat die doing that. It's hard. It's hard for me.

488
00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 1: I will I will go crazy if I don't do

489
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:18,159
Speaker 1: something for me. Not too far off topic, but specifically

490
00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:22,560
Speaker 1: because you you travel so much, Brooks, do you think

491
00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:27,240
Speaker 1: you could ever live in one place permanently to raise

492
00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 1: a kid in to be like, I'm going to commit

493
00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:31,680
Speaker 1: to this one town. This is where they're going to

494
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 1: grow up. They're gonna kill her eighteen years old. Do

495
00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:35,600
Speaker 1: you think you could do that? I think I could,

496
00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 1: um because my my mom and dad still live in

497
00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:40,600
Speaker 1: the house that I grew up in. So I love that.

498
00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:43,480
Speaker 1: I love that sort of stability type thing, and that's

499
00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:45,520
Speaker 1: something I want to bring to my family. Do you

500
00:26:45,640 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 1: love that? As an adult? Now? Though you think you

501
00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:50,000
Speaker 1: could be in one place because you've tasted the life

502
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 1: of somebody on the road who's in a new town

503
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,920
Speaker 1: or new new exciting town or city, or out in

504
00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:58,359
Speaker 1: the wilderness or whatever. You've you've had a life that

505
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Speaker 1: affords that you think you can really So here's the thing.

506
00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 1: It's not a choice of It's not black or white.

507
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 1: It's not a or B. I think I want both.

508
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:09,399
Speaker 1: So as much as I want a home and a

509
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:12,640
Speaker 1: stable environment for the kids to be in, I also

510
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:14,920
Speaker 1: want to expose them to the world and to take

511
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:18,120
Speaker 1: them everywhere with me. It's how like my dog right now?

512
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:20,719
Speaker 1: I take my dog everywhere I go. If I go

513
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 1: to Idaho, if I go to New York, if I

514
00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:26,439
Speaker 1: go to Miami, dog with you, of course. But but

515
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:30,040
Speaker 1: do you think you can raise somebody for eighteen years

516
00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:32,119
Speaker 1: of their live and say our home base will be

517
00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:34,960
Speaker 1: in I think I think it's easy. I mean, you

518
00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 1: can be honest with you that time flies. And then

519
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:38,960
Speaker 1: the other thing is the kids obviously become the priority.

520
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:41,520
Speaker 1: So basically you're in once they start hitting school, they're

521
00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:44,000
Speaker 1: making friends, they're in they're in groups, they're in sports,

522
00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:46,679
Speaker 1: there and dance, whatever you want to call it. Do

523
00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 1: you there there in that? Do you have dogs? I

524
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:55,520
Speaker 1: will on Sunday? Do you have dogs? Can I ask

525
00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 1: you questions? My man, you're getting dog. That's amazing. It

526
00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:01,000
Speaker 1: makes me nervous because he's told us he doesn't like dogs.

527
00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:03,760
Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question. What's harder? What's wait?

528
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:06,520
Speaker 1: What's easier? Flying with the child or with a dog.

529
00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:10,159
Speaker 1: You can't put your You can't put your child down below,

530
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:13,920
Speaker 1: you know that, right, But walking on the plane, my

531
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:16,280
Speaker 1: dog flies with me. My dog flew with me last night,

532
00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:19,840
Speaker 1: we flew my dog is pretty easy. But you have

533
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:22,119
Speaker 1: kids and you've had a dog, so which is easier

534
00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 1: to child? Younger kids are harder because they're kind of

535
00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:25,879
Speaker 1: scrambling and they're out of control and they're they're a

536
00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:27,920
Speaker 1: little bit more needy. But right now, my my kids

537
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:29,960
Speaker 1: are thirteen eleven and they just chill and there, they're

538
00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 1: in their seats and it's no problem. They watch something,

539
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:34,080
Speaker 1: they go the broom on the run. Because the younger

540
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 1: ones are tough. Let's get back on topic, Dmitri, Dad,

541
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 1: could you do it? Um? I couldn't do that fully. No, Um,

542
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:45,040
Speaker 1: very similar to what you said. But I will say

543
00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:47,560
Speaker 1: this my schedule right now, Although it sounds funny because

544
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:49,640
Speaker 1: I just said I feel stretched thin or whatever, but

545
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 1: my schedule right now is easy to allow me to

546
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:54,080
Speaker 1: spend a lot of time with the kids. So I

547
00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 1: work heavy in the morning and then I so I

548
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:57,360
Speaker 1: picked them up every day and I do a lot

549
00:28:57,360 --> 00:29:00,800
Speaker 1: of stuff with them in the afternoon. Um, so I

550
00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:02,760
Speaker 1: get a little bit of both. But if that was

551
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:04,720
Speaker 1: fully it and I didn't have the other stuff, it

552
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:07,560
Speaker 1: would be very difficult for me. Yeah, And I think so.

553
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:09,800
Speaker 1: I have a friend of a friend that basically he

554
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 1: is the stay at home dad and she has a

555
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: very successful job and he's at home. He's part of

556
00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 1: the p t A and he's raising he's raising the kids.

557
00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 1: He's got a couple of boys, and I think a

558
00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 1: third child that's a girl. And I was talking to

559
00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:27,600
Speaker 1: him one time and he was telling me that he

560
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:29,280
Speaker 1: is part of the PTA and that it's that it's

561
00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:32,000
Speaker 1: odd that that he wants to be a part of

562
00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:34,440
Speaker 1: his kids families to that degree brooks where he's in

563
00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 1: the p t A. But he also is realized where

564
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 1: he's going into a group or a crowd that's predominantly

565
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:43,720
Speaker 1: all women or all moms, all stages that way, they

566
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 1: don't let the boys wrestle and kindergarten, what because I

567
00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:51,040
Speaker 1: know guys in the p t A. They don't want

568
00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:54,400
Speaker 1: the boys. But it's an awkward socially thing for him.

569
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:58,720
Speaker 1: But like, you know, so, um, I forget what the

570
00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:01,960
Speaker 1: question was, but basically, you know, I think it's good

571
00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:04,400
Speaker 1: that he does it, but I think it's a weird

572
00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:06,600
Speaker 1: he's in a weird spot. I'll say this. I get

573
00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:09,040
Speaker 1: this because I'm at the school a lot. I get often.

574
00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 1: I'll get because my wife works. They'll be like, so,

575
00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:12,800
Speaker 1: where's your wife. We haven't seen her? And for ed

576
00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:15,680
Speaker 1: like just constantly constantly with that, and it's like, and

577
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 1: it's different from me because I'm not a stay at

578
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 1: home dad. I work, but my hours are just odd.

579
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 1: So they'll say that. So lately I've been hitting him with,

580
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:29,000
Speaker 1: well she left me. So just just jars them right

581
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:31,160
Speaker 1: and just stops them in their tracks and shut them

582
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 1: up like that. Um, by the way, I see nothing.

583
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 1: I see absolutely nothing wrong with a stay at home dad.

584
00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:39,920
Speaker 1: I don't either, but it's just not for me. I

585
00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 1: could not do that level of just there's I have

586
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:45,440
Speaker 1: my own personal goals and that's maybe selfish, but it

587
00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 1: will make me happy and we'll make me a better

588
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:49,360
Speaker 1: dad to be honest, let's see. I agree with that

589
00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:51,960
Speaker 1: Amy just grunted. So if anybody's gonna marry Amy, be

590
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:55,240
Speaker 1: prepared to work. Question markis I get it, and I

591
00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:57,440
Speaker 1: think it does work for some people, but I think

592
00:30:57,560 --> 00:31:02,640
Speaker 1: it is tough. I think I'll get letters, but I

593
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 1: think there is something you don't find it sexy. Oh no, no, no,

594
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:14,920
Speaker 1: the masculine too much squished down when I do think

595
00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:18,760
Speaker 1: there's an important part of being the feminine role and

596
00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 1: the masculine role when you're a man and a woman.

597
00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:26,920
Speaker 1: So I don't know, it's really tough to break down

598
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 1: because I think in theory, yes, sometimes it's you have

599
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:33,080
Speaker 1: to do that, but I think it is very challenging

600
00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 1: for the man. I think he feels emasculated. And I

601
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 1: think Rick is alluding to that, Rick saying this guy

602
00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:39,480
Speaker 1: is doing it, but it is hard to be the

603
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:43,160
Speaker 1: dude in the room with eight five ladies in the

604
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:46,920
Speaker 1: p t A. That would be so difficult. I would

605
00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:49,000
Speaker 1: actually love to hear from any of our listeners out

606
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 1: there that if you are this man, if you are

607
00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 1: a stay at home man or stay at home dad,

608
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 1: and in the p t A, any of that, I'd

609
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:57,120
Speaker 1: love for you to send us an email, reach out

610
00:31:57,160 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 1: to us on Instagram and just hear your thought on

611
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 1: it and what a man, what your struggles with it are.

612
00:32:02,840 --> 00:32:05,240
Speaker 1: Maybe it depends on how hot the moms are in

613
00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 1: the class. I saw Rick light up when they said

614
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:09,400
Speaker 1: when she said one guy in like five moms, you

615
00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 1: were like, whoa, I gotta get it on this pt

616
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:15,560
Speaker 1: A thing. So I will say when I pulled I

617
00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 1: pulled a bunch of men about this question, and they

618
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:24,160
Speaker 1: said it doesn't work, and it's sometimes it can be

619
00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:28,000
Speaker 1: a downfall for the relationship. I could be wrong, but

620
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 1: this is the research. What if he's staying home because

621
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:33,160
Speaker 1: it's cheaper to work on your own house than to

622
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 1: hire somebody, and uh, he doesn't make as much money

623
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 1: as say it would cost to renovate the home. That

624
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:43,480
Speaker 1: seems like a job, kind of a job staying while

625
00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:45,760
Speaker 1: he renovates. Yeah, I think that's cool, you know what

626
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:48,160
Speaker 1: I mean, because it costs quite a bit of money

627
00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 1: to rebuild a house. You know. I love the idea

628
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 1: of guys in that scenario. My dad, my dad was

629
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 1: working on our house all the time while he had

630
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 1: job at the same time. But he was always you know,

631
00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 1: swinging a hammer. I love the idea of the kids

632
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:00,760
Speaker 1: running around while you're building and swinging a hammer and

633
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:03,520
Speaker 1: doing that stuff. Then yeah, no, that's a terrible idea.

634
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:06,040
Speaker 1: Sounds pretty safe. We helped him, I mean, I thought

635
00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 1: it was good for us. Okay, go ahead, have you

636
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:10,479
Speaker 1: got a question? All right, here's the here's the one

637
00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 1: I pulled out of the hat. Thanks for this one.

638
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:18,360
Speaker 1: Women who don't wear a bra? Who's sexy or not?

639
00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 1: I find I haven't worn a bra in a long time,

640
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:26,120
Speaker 1: so it affects me not at all. And my boobs

641
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 1: are right in the same spot as they've always been

642
00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:33,640
Speaker 1: and still care. You're not allowed to avoid the question, cups.

643
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 1: So anyway, how do I feel about that? Well, I

644
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:39,400
Speaker 1: guess it depends, you know, I mean it, it depends

645
00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 1: on you know, how much out there that it is.

646
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 1: We can see that you are are not wearing a bra,

647
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 1: and you know, some people don't wear a bra and

648
00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:51,240
Speaker 1: they don't wear pretty much anything else on top of

649
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:54,680
Speaker 1: that either, So it depends on how how clad give

650
00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:59,720
Speaker 1: they are answer, Mr politician, depends if they've got a

651
00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:02,960
Speaker 1: hot bod, then I'd say, by all means to do

652
00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:05,400
Speaker 1: is you'd like to do? You know what I mean.

653
00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:08,799
Speaker 1: If it's uh, if it's the old you know, the

654
00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:12,399
Speaker 1: old pancake bod rocking the yoga pants, and then you're like,

655
00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 1: what are you doing? Break out? Because Rick was the

656
00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:17,360
Speaker 1: one who had this topic, so I feel like he

657
00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 1: has a story that he's being shy about. By the way,

658
00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:23,040
Speaker 1: but by the way, what's with everybody wearing yoga pants?

659
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 1: Everybody all the time? Leisure? I just assumed they were

660
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:32,319
Speaker 1: all doing yoga? Is that not ateist creation of all mankind? No? No, no,

661
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:36,880
Speaker 1: that depends on the neighborhood, my friend. So you know what,

662
00:34:37,200 --> 00:34:41,680
Speaker 1: when did this become just normal socially socially acceptable? You

663
00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:46,160
Speaker 1: know what it is? They're like, I give up, pants up,

664
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:51,320
Speaker 1: I give up. That's what the right one that's listen,

665
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:55,279
Speaker 1: have you been? This depends on the neighborhood. You guys

666
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:58,400
Speaker 1: are living in Hollywood, Okay, there's people here who exercise

667
00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:01,880
Speaker 1: nine hours a day. That's one that's like they're on

668
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:07,839
Speaker 1: their way to exercise class. But if you're not okay

669
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:10,759
Speaker 1: and you're rocking, rocking that stuff, absolutely, everyone like what

670
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:15,399
Speaker 1: is this? They're like, like just leggings to just I'd

671
00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 1: love to have our female Everything is exposed, you can

672
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 1: see everything. I'd love to have our female listeners way

673
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 1: in this a what about the guys you want us

674
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 1: wearing like we look like that happens, I don't want

675
00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:33,240
Speaker 1: that means they're wearing stuff they shouldn't be, Peter, Pan, Peter.

676
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:35,279
Speaker 1: I think that goes back to the question is you

677
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:39,560
Speaker 1: know in terms of the braw thing, It's like, you know,

678
00:35:39,600 --> 00:35:41,320
Speaker 1: I was going through the airport the other day and

679
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:43,680
Speaker 1: I saw this cute, kind of younger, attractive girl and

680
00:35:43,719 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 1: she wasn't wearing a bra, and I was like, Wow,

681
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:48,600
Speaker 1: that's actually that's very attractive. But then you get to

682
00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 1: the other side of that. What her dad say? What

683
00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:57,520
Speaker 1: fight are you on? Go ahead, get to the other side.

684
00:35:57,719 --> 00:36:00,399
Speaker 1: The other side of it is you get. You get

685
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:02,640
Speaker 1: the people that are wearing maybe the yoga pants that

686
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:04,279
Speaker 1: shouldn't be, or the people that aren't wearing a bra

687
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:09,440
Speaker 1: that maybe should be. Why No, I think good, I

688
00:36:09,480 --> 00:36:14,000
Speaker 1: like that. Why shouldn't they be they shouldn't be? Um,

689
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:17,040
Speaker 1: maybe it's an expression of freedom. M See, I have

690
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:20,640
Speaker 1: no problem with it. I actually I actually can find

691
00:36:20,640 --> 00:36:23,239
Speaker 1: it sexy. Hey listen, if I'm obviously we all have

692
00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:25,360
Speaker 1: different taste, but if you're attracted to the body, and

693
00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 1: you see a certain thing when they're not wearying, of

694
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:30,400
Speaker 1: course you're gonna go wow, oh my god. You know what?

695
00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:35,359
Speaker 1: I think the bra unlike maybe in the fifties where

696
00:36:35,360 --> 00:36:38,560
Speaker 1: the bra was like just to hold the boobs. Now

697
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:42,919
Speaker 1: it's part of fashion. So like like tonight, I'm wearing

698
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:45,040
Speaker 1: a bra, I'm wearing a shirt right now, but later

699
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:46,719
Speaker 1: tonight when we all go out, I'm gonna take the

700
00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:53,000
Speaker 1: shirt off because the bra is supposed to it's supposed

701
00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:57,280
Speaker 1: to show. And bras have become much more like cute

702
00:36:57,320 --> 00:37:00,440
Speaker 1: and fashionable, So I think they're more like a fashion

703
00:37:00,520 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 1: statement than just serving the purpose. But I don't know.

704
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 1: I like both. Both can be extremely sexy. I'll go,

705
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 1: let's go, or Rick, you want to go, oh oh holy.

706
00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 1: This is like a question kay driving, Um, let's go this.

707
00:37:16,600 --> 00:37:19,160
Speaker 1: Why do men always drive when a couple is in

708
00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:22,200
Speaker 1: the car, The man is always driving? Why what if

709
00:37:22,239 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 1: your wife girlfriend wanted to drive. I watched a hundred

710
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:25,759
Speaker 1: cars go by in Lake Tahoe and it was a

711
00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:28,360
Speaker 1: couple in front of a man that was driving. Nine Barrett,

712
00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:30,920
Speaker 1: And if it was a couple, it was the man driving.

713
00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:34,240
Speaker 1: The time do men think they are better drivers than women?

714
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 1: One of those cars in Tahoe was Gavin and I

715
00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:41,120
Speaker 1: and he was driving. Wait a minute, men think women?

716
00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:44,000
Speaker 1: Why do men always drive? Rick? I don't know the

717
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 1: answer to that question. But I just went on a

718
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 1: road trip with my family and I drove the entire

719
00:37:47,719 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 1: time and my wife was like, Hey, do you want

720
00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:50,799
Speaker 1: me to drive? Do you want me to drive? I'm like, no,

721
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:52,840
Speaker 1: I got it. It's all good. Like for some reason,

722
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:55,520
Speaker 1: I just feel more comfortable and more in control of

723
00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 1: the car when I'm driving instead of versus her, even

724
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:02,000
Speaker 1: though she's a great driver. Okay, but Dmitri, yeah, we

725
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:05,879
Speaker 1: all know they're just horrible drivers, right boy, We're gonna

726
00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:10,279
Speaker 1: get some hate mail this decade. I'm writing one right now. Um.

727
00:38:10,400 --> 00:38:13,320
Speaker 1: But I think I drive most of the time or

728
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:15,960
Speaker 1: all the time. But it's not like that's just the

729
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:17,719
Speaker 1: way it is. I think maybe my wife doesn't want

730
00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:19,719
Speaker 1: to drive. I will say this. I was dating a

731
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 1: girl one time and I was like, Oh, do you

732
00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:23,440
Speaker 1: want to drive? And she's like what? And I was like,

733
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:25,799
Speaker 1: did you want to drive? She's like, uh, this is

734
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:28,320
Speaker 1: shortly after college and she's like, I've never been around

735
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:29,880
Speaker 1: a guy that didn't want to drive, and I was like,

736
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:31,840
Speaker 1: I don't know what to tell you, but maybe I was.

737
00:38:31,880 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 1: I think I said, I don't feel like driving. I

738
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:34,400
Speaker 1: was like, maybe you should go back and date the

739
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:36,040
Speaker 1: guys that you did that you did it before, Like

740
00:38:36,280 --> 00:38:38,239
Speaker 1: who cares? Like I didn't feel like driving? I said,

741
00:38:38,239 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 1: do you want to drive? Like? I don't care. I

742
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:42,719
Speaker 1: do most of the driving, I think, but it's just

743
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 1: I think maybe my wife doesn't want to drive, and

744
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:47,920
Speaker 1: that's why it happens. Yev I prefer doing the driving.

745
00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:51,600
Speaker 1: I love to drive. I get a thrill from driving.

746
00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:55,239
Speaker 1: What is the thrill? Let's hear the other option is

747
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:59,440
Speaker 1: your dog driving? Like gambling with my life? The other

748
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:03,280
Speaker 1: thing I love to drive. I just enjoy the act

749
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 1: of driving. I truly get a kick out of it. Yeah.

750
00:39:05,600 --> 00:39:07,359
Speaker 1: I like the joy of driving, but I also like

751
00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:09,239
Speaker 1: it has nothing to do with a man or a

752
00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:12,200
Speaker 1: woman driving. It's just I sometimes when I'm not driving,

753
00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:15,279
Speaker 1: I don't always feel safe, and so I'm always the

754
00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 1: one that's putting my foot, you know, when there's a

755
00:39:17,120 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 1: break or if I'm in the back of my back driver,

756
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:21,239
Speaker 1: and it's like I just, you know, unless I know

757
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:23,880
Speaker 1: the person well enough where I'm like, okay, yeah, Gavin,

758
00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 1: you're you're a good driver. We've driven a lot together.

759
00:39:26,320 --> 00:39:28,759
Speaker 1: I get it. Would you let your wife drive? Like,

760
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 1: do you think she is a good driver? Totally? Yeah.

761
00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 1: It's actually sometimes fun to like because I would probably

762
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:38,640
Speaker 1: drive the time too, but it's actually sometimes fun. It's

763
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 1: like a novelty when my wife drives and I get

764
00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:43,240
Speaker 1: to like just chill and run tunes and look around,

765
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:46,480
Speaker 1: and I'm like, this is awesome. I do understand as

766
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:49,399
Speaker 1: a woman, I drive percent at the time, but when

767
00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:52,799
Speaker 1: I am in a car with like a boyfriend, there

768
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:55,680
Speaker 1: is something sort of charming about them driving, Like I

769
00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:58,360
Speaker 1: get that, and you're sort of the it's it's very

770
00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 1: feminine and masculine. You're like one of those. And then

771
00:40:01,640 --> 00:40:08,680
Speaker 1: he comes around and opens the door. It's really cute.

772
00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:12,160
Speaker 1: So I have a question. I pulled this one out

773
00:40:12,160 --> 00:40:13,960
Speaker 1: because I want I don't want it to get missed.

774
00:40:14,440 --> 00:40:17,920
Speaker 1: And you have to tell the truth, Like, seriously, you

775
00:40:17,960 --> 00:40:21,160
Speaker 1: have to tell the truth. Oh man, do you think

776
00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:26,239
Speaker 1: you are good in bed? Or do you maybe need improvement?

777
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:28,640
Speaker 1: Every guy's going to say they're good. Can we change

778
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 1: that to great? Because good is like I like where

779
00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:36,160
Speaker 1: you're going are you great in bad? So the question

780
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:40,320
Speaker 1: is the question now is are you good great in bed?

781
00:40:40,480 --> 00:40:43,359
Speaker 1: Or do you need work? Or do you need work?

782
00:40:43,480 --> 00:40:50,560
Speaker 1: I'll go with this, Um, I don't know, I would say,

783
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:52,960
Speaker 1: because one of my goals this year is to really

784
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:57,279
Speaker 1: explore like learning about sexuality. The amount of time in

785
00:40:57,320 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 1: my life that I've studied hockey, athletics, training, nutrition, pressure,

786
00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:05,520
Speaker 1: high performance, mindset, all of that stuff you're going to

787
00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:12,000
Speaker 1: dedicate essentially, But I did the opposite. I studied sex

788
00:41:12,000 --> 00:41:13,839
Speaker 1: with my whole life. Now I'm doing hockey. There you go.

789
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:16,319
Speaker 1: But so here's the thing is, that's what people think

790
00:41:16,360 --> 00:41:19,200
Speaker 1: that people people think that, and we've had some amazing

791
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:23,600
Speaker 1: um sexologists on this show that people think that sexuality

792
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 1: is just the act of sex, of just having sex,

793
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 1: and there's so much more to it. Here's a question,

794
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:32,360
Speaker 1: this is an honest question for everybody in this room

795
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:38,400
Speaker 1: and every single person listening. Are you fully, a hundred percent,

796
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:43,360
Speaker 1: fully expressed in your true sexuality with your partner, with

797
00:41:43,520 --> 00:41:47,320
Speaker 1: everything you could not imagine having a better sex life.

798
00:41:47,680 --> 00:41:51,680
Speaker 1: Are you truly there? No? And I'm not either. I'm

799
00:41:51,680 --> 00:41:53,799
Speaker 1: not either. So that's what one of my goals this

800
00:41:53,880 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 1: year is to really dive into so then we're all

801
00:41:57,480 --> 00:42:00,319
Speaker 1: essentially that's a state of suffering. We're not We're not

802
00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:02,600
Speaker 1: tens out of tens were It doesn't mean you're the

803
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:06,160
Speaker 1: best performer. It just means are you fully expressed? Do

804
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:10,880
Speaker 1: you even know who you are? Sexually? And I truly,

805
00:42:11,400 --> 00:42:14,280
Speaker 1: to my core do not. But I'm super excited about

806
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:18,120
Speaker 1: that journey to really learn about sexuality and also get

807
00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:20,960
Speaker 1: better at the performance of it, but also just the

808
00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:23,640
Speaker 1: understanding of who I am, who my wife is that

809
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 1: sort of dance. How do you all feel about receiving

810
00:42:27,480 --> 00:42:31,280
Speaker 1: um instruction during it? And I want everybody to answer

811
00:42:31,280 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 1: the first question, which is are you great? But also

812
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:35,840
Speaker 1: like in the midst of it, are you open to

813
00:42:35,880 --> 00:42:38,520
Speaker 1: the woman saying let's try this? Or what do you

814
00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:40,680
Speaker 1: think about this? Or I read this in a book?

815
00:42:40,680 --> 00:42:42,440
Speaker 1: Can we try it? Because she pass you the I

816
00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:44,520
Speaker 1: ke Emmanuel and be like, this is how you need

817
00:42:44,560 --> 00:42:46,839
Speaker 1: to put the shell together? Well, you guys should all

818
00:42:46,840 --> 00:42:48,880
Speaker 1: read you all should read Sorry, I have to like

819
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 1: kind of touch Rick a little bit on purpose. Uh,

820
00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:55,720
Speaker 1: you guys should all read this book called Slow Sex.

821
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:58,239
Speaker 1: It's by I think her name is Nicole Day done.

822
00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:02,920
Speaker 1: And it talks about or asthmic meditation and I highly

823
00:43:03,280 --> 00:43:05,479
Speaker 1: I know that's what my guy said when I said,

824
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:09,400
Speaker 1: can we try this? And he's all, I highly recommend.

825
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 1: It's supposed to be life changing, and I think it

826
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:14,600
Speaker 1: could you say orgasmic meditation? Do you want me to

827
00:43:16,000 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 1: quickly what it is? In a nutshell? For fifteen minutes?

828
00:43:20,120 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 1: For fifteen minutes, the man is fully clothed, the woman

829
00:43:25,000 --> 00:43:27,400
Speaker 1: is half naked, and you do something. You have to

830
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 1: read it in the book to her for fifteen straight minutes,

831
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:33,680
Speaker 1: and it's supposed to be like life changing. Okay, back

832
00:43:33,680 --> 00:43:38,000
Speaker 1: to the time. What's like what annoy her? Yeah, because

833
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:42,880
Speaker 1: that's what happened. What happened? Hey? Those coming off now?

834
00:43:43,000 --> 00:43:45,279
Speaker 1: Or no? No? I mean, I'm not gonna lie, But

835
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:47,960
Speaker 1: when would be a good time you touch a part

836
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 1: of her? Hold on? Hold on? Can you leave the

837
00:43:50,600 --> 00:43:53,040
Speaker 1: room for the fifteen minutes and come back? Let's hold on.

838
00:43:53,280 --> 00:43:57,800
Speaker 1: I'm I'm raining this in because this is this is honestly,

839
00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 1: this is a really horton question. Minutes, get off your sandwich.

840
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:08,480
Speaker 1: Kick here, here's here's rick. This is this is to

841
00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 1: me the eyes, This is a really important question. These

842
00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:12,800
Speaker 1: topics like this are really why we do this podcast.

843
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:15,799
Speaker 1: Back to the original question, are you do you feel

844
00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:18,880
Speaker 1: you are good and great and bad or are you

845
00:44:19,120 --> 00:44:22,480
Speaker 1: willing to like have some assistance and and learn more

846
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 1: about it and get And I'm definitely up for more assistance.

847
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:27,360
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm great. I think I'm good. I

848
00:44:27,440 --> 00:44:31,440
Speaker 1: think there's tons for a room room of improvement. Um.

849
00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:34,760
Speaker 1: But again, like I mean, all these things that Amy's

850
00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 1: bringing up in the books and stuff like that, it's like,

851
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:40,320
Speaker 1: I'm just lucky to get laid like once a week. Seriously,

852
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:42,759
Speaker 1: how are you? How are you gonna once a week?

853
00:44:43,080 --> 00:44:48,040
Speaker 1: Come on, you need more? It's true, Like come on, Dmitri,

854
00:44:48,239 --> 00:44:51,799
Speaker 1: pick me up here, bro. So it's like I don't

855
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:56,560
Speaker 1: have fifteen minutes to sit there and go. It's like

856
00:44:57,120 --> 00:45:00,879
Speaker 1: like like' just ride. It's like, hey, bail the room

857
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:02,759
Speaker 1: for fifteen minutes ago. Are they laying there in their

858
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:09,720
Speaker 1: yoga pants? So I think, yeah, I think I'm pretty

859
00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:14,200
Speaker 1: I think I'm pretty good, but I definitely there's tons

860
00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:21,279
Speaker 1: of room for improvement. Yeah, gav, life is good, you know, politician,

861
00:45:21,320 --> 00:45:25,279
Speaker 1: answer the question. I get the job done, you know,

862
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:28,840
Speaker 1: I think you know, I'm very happy and uh and

863
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:34,719
Speaker 1: and they're happy. The only true sort of like criticism

864
00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:39,360
Speaker 1: of this conversation. You have fifteen minutes, Rick to try it.

865
00:45:39,760 --> 00:45:43,400
Speaker 1: It's fifteen minutes that if your wife came to you

866
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:46,320
Speaker 1: with this book and it changes people's lives, you have

867
00:45:46,600 --> 00:45:48,880
Speaker 1: I'm asking for fifteen minutes. And I'm not mad at

868
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:50,880
Speaker 1: you because my guy did the same thing. He was like,

869
00:45:51,640 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 1: I'm not doing that, but then he did do it.

870
00:45:53,960 --> 00:45:57,160
Speaker 1: So it's fifteen minutes and it's supposed to really be

871
00:45:57,360 --> 00:45:59,719
Speaker 1: life changing, Like, why don't you go home and try

872
00:45:59,800 --> 00:46:02,520
Speaker 1: it and then tell us if it works? I was

873
00:46:02,600 --> 00:46:09,360
Speaker 1: he wearing the bra when you guys did it? Modified?

874
00:46:09,880 --> 00:46:12,200
Speaker 1: So Amy, I'm on your side on this. And so

875
00:46:12,360 --> 00:46:15,759
Speaker 1: here's my question and and the concept I want to

876
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:18,759
Speaker 1: propose UM because I'm like, this is an area of

877
00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 1: my life I'm actively like pursuing it right truthfully at UM.

878
00:46:24,120 --> 00:46:29,520
Speaker 1: There's a concept called pleasure first. Pleasure first, So your day,

879
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 1: the most important thing in your day is pleasure. And

880
00:46:33,040 --> 00:46:35,279
Speaker 1: when I read that, when I started thinking about that,

881
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:38,080
Speaker 1: how often in my life have I woke up thinking, Okay,

882
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 1: I gotta feed the dog, gotta get the dogs out

883
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:42,080
Speaker 1: to pee walk them, I want to work out, I

884
00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:44,000
Speaker 1: got this stuff, I want to do all of this stuff,

885
00:46:44,040 --> 00:46:47,080
Speaker 1: and then oh, I try and fit pleasure in after

886
00:46:47,239 --> 00:46:49,399
Speaker 1: that or maybe at at night when we go to bed.

887
00:46:49,600 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 1: But what if I looked at my life and what

888
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:54,080
Speaker 1: would the quality of my life be if I woke

889
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 1: up prioritizing pleasure as the absolute most important thing in

890
00:46:59,239 --> 00:47:01,040
Speaker 1: my day. It's hard to have pleasure when the dogs

891
00:47:01,040 --> 00:47:04,040
Speaker 1: are crapping on the rug though, But yeah, but if

892
00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:06,840
Speaker 1: you have, if you're in pleasure, if you have pleasure,

893
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:09,360
Speaker 1: you probably don't give a damn about that. Think about

894
00:47:09,360 --> 00:47:12,960
Speaker 1: how you're feeling after you've been pleasure, after you've expressed yourself.

895
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:15,920
Speaker 1: You are more loving, more kind, more patient, We have

896
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:19,200
Speaker 1: more gratitude for everything. Everybody's awesome, things are funnier. Maybe

897
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 1: pleasure first is a new concept that I'm trying to

898
00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:24,920
Speaker 1: like explore in my life because it's not been. It's

899
00:47:24,960 --> 00:47:29,080
Speaker 1: been almost last in the course of my life. Can't

900
00:47:29,160 --> 00:47:32,120
Speaker 1: listen to anyone say they don't have fifteen minutes. You do?

901
00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:34,560
Speaker 1: You have fifteen minutes a few times a week to

902
00:47:34,640 --> 00:47:38,280
Speaker 1: try it. You meditate, sex, meditate. We actually have fifteen

903
00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 1: minutes left in this sixty minutes. Question, What do you

904
00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:44,759
Speaker 1: do when you wanted to have pleasure first, but your

905
00:47:44,840 --> 00:47:49,560
Speaker 1: dog is jumping on your bed looking at you, saying me,

906
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:53,960
Speaker 1: put lock the door, put them outside. I got I

907
00:47:54,000 --> 00:47:57,240
Speaker 1: got a question. It's gonna take fifteen minutes. Ton, Okay,

908
00:47:57,640 --> 00:48:00,200
Speaker 1: it's something. This is like a paragraph. It's some we've

909
00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:03,000
Speaker 1: talked about before, scheduling sex. I'm gonna rattle down the

910
00:48:03,040 --> 00:48:05,840
Speaker 1: bullet points here. How do we really feel about it?

911
00:48:06,080 --> 00:48:08,120
Speaker 1: I used to think it was ridiculous, but my boyfriend

912
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:09,719
Speaker 1: this is from the person that wrote it. But my

913
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:12,399
Speaker 1: boyfriend works has a ton going on as the kids,

914
00:48:12,480 --> 00:48:14,640
Speaker 1: have the time and traveled, so we scheduled sex. I

915
00:48:14,719 --> 00:48:17,960
Speaker 1: knew only options this week were Wednesday and Thursday. It

916
00:48:18,080 --> 00:48:19,560
Speaker 1: was kind of fun to think about it ahead of

917
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:21,239
Speaker 1: time and to get excited. I get why you need

918
00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:22,799
Speaker 1: to do it, but I can't let it go by

919
00:48:22,840 --> 00:48:24,960
Speaker 1: the wayside. I will say, I think he did it

920
00:48:25,080 --> 00:48:27,200
Speaker 1: to make me happy when he wasn't quite as into

921
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:28,440
Speaker 1: it as part of it. He thought it was a

922
00:48:28,480 --> 00:48:30,200
Speaker 1: little tough. So I need to figure out how to

923
00:48:30,280 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 1: work on that. So she tried scheduling sex. She seems

924
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:34,200
Speaker 1: to like it, but she has to get her boyfriend

925
00:48:34,239 --> 00:48:37,040
Speaker 1: more on it. So this this is a perfect follow

926
00:48:37,160 --> 00:48:38,880
Speaker 1: up question to what I was just talking about, because

927
00:48:39,200 --> 00:48:42,760
Speaker 1: why can't they like if I that, I would totally

928
00:48:42,760 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 1: be up for scheduling sex because I know it's going

929
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:47,680
Speaker 1: down here and it's like a hockey game like seven

930
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:51,759
Speaker 1: pm Saturday night, like it's go time. Like I know,

931
00:48:52,200 --> 00:48:54,719
Speaker 1: I would totally be in for that. Life changes my

932
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:56,399
Speaker 1: alarm just one off. I'm supposed to be having sex

933
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:59,440
Speaker 1: right now, but now I'm here, can I ask a question?

934
00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:04,279
Speaker 1: Can you see? It sounds crazy to me, but I'm

935
00:49:04,320 --> 00:49:06,279
Speaker 1: down for that, as long as you can have sex

936
00:49:06,600 --> 00:49:10,480
Speaker 1: before that time too, like whenever, Like okay, we'll do

937
00:49:10,600 --> 00:49:13,400
Speaker 1: that time too. But I don't want it to be like, Okay,

938
00:49:13,760 --> 00:49:16,160
Speaker 1: you're not gonna do this like three months from now

939
00:49:16,280 --> 00:49:20,759
Speaker 1: when it's I'm not do it. But we're not quite

940
00:49:20,840 --> 00:49:25,399
Speaker 1: there yet. This summer summer, it's going to be really

941
00:49:26,719 --> 00:49:29,840
Speaker 1: form count is act activated. Just stay on the question.

942
00:49:30,360 --> 00:49:32,680
Speaker 1: Nobody is saying you can't have sex other times. She's

943
00:49:32,719 --> 00:49:34,600
Speaker 1: just just saying just to make sure that there is

944
00:49:34,680 --> 00:49:40,600
Speaker 1: an absolute must must time at least that time, whatever

945
00:49:40,680 --> 00:49:44,160
Speaker 1: time that is, so per day, per week, per weekend,

946
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:48,080
Speaker 1: whatever y'all do it. But Okay, I get it. I

947
00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:50,680
Speaker 1: just said I don't have fifteen minutes, Like this woman

948
00:49:50,840 --> 00:49:54,080
Speaker 1: is going ahead and saying, here is fifteen minutes, here

949
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:56,960
Speaker 1: is an hour. You are not free to book other

950
00:49:57,080 --> 00:50:01,120
Speaker 1: things to get it. Okay, I understand. But on the surface,

951
00:50:01,200 --> 00:50:04,239
Speaker 1: when I hear these types of things, it's so hard

952
00:50:04,280 --> 00:50:05,879
Speaker 1: for me to wrap my head around it, like we're

953
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:08,680
Speaker 1: gonna schedule sex like, well, you've got a different lifestyle

954
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:11,560
Speaker 1: to what I mean. It's like what but in your

955
00:50:11,640 --> 00:50:14,959
Speaker 1: lives where it seems to make sense to at least

956
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:17,440
Speaker 1: make sure that there's a time to do it. But

957
00:50:18,160 --> 00:50:20,200
Speaker 1: it's hard for me to still understand. I have to say,

958
00:50:20,320 --> 00:50:24,439
Speaker 1: if I, if I may, candidly speaking say, it's hard

959
00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:26,759
Speaker 1: for me to wrap my head around the concept of

960
00:50:27,960 --> 00:50:33,080
Speaker 1: not having the desire enough to go that long to

961
00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:34,600
Speaker 1: the point where you feel like you have to have

962
00:50:34,680 --> 00:50:36,800
Speaker 1: it on the schedule. No, she's just looking at the

963
00:50:36,840 --> 00:50:39,440
Speaker 1: calendar saying, it's busy. I want to have connection with you.

964
00:50:39,560 --> 00:50:41,600
Speaker 1: Here's the thing. Let me propose it this way. Let's

965
00:50:41,640 --> 00:50:46,400
Speaker 1: say there's an absolutely beautiful, lovely woman that you are

966
00:50:47,200 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 1: so into. You are just into this person, and she

967
00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:53,359
Speaker 1: says to you, I'm super busy, you're super busy this week.

968
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:56,040
Speaker 1: I want to carve out an hour where we can

969
00:50:56,120 --> 00:51:00,279
Speaker 1: totally explore and connect physically and everything that you want

970
00:51:00,400 --> 00:51:02,960
Speaker 1: sexually we can explore in that hour. You're telling me

971
00:51:03,120 --> 00:51:06,319
Speaker 1: you wouldn't be just dying for seven o'clock or nine

972
00:51:06,360 --> 00:51:08,560
Speaker 1: o'clock to come around. Okay, I can. I can embrace

973
00:51:08,640 --> 00:51:10,680
Speaker 1: that concept. I'll tell you where I'd have a hard

974
00:51:10,760 --> 00:51:13,440
Speaker 1: time if we showed up. I knew we had an hour.

975
00:51:13,680 --> 00:51:20,880
Speaker 1: In the first fifteen minutes she was meditating. Well, we

976
00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 1: made some progress there, Rick DoD you have any thought

977
00:51:24,239 --> 00:51:28,680
Speaker 1: on that? No, it's all good. Yeah, with the bank. Okay,

978
00:51:31,480 --> 00:51:37,680
Speaker 1: here's a question. Here's a question a month my door,

979
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:42,279
Speaker 1: Nash is coming in thirty Um. The new topic you're

980
00:51:42,560 --> 00:51:49,080
Speaker 1: moving on here here clowns? Snoring? Any of you snore?

981
00:51:49,239 --> 00:51:52,400
Speaker 1: Snoring can destroy relationships. It's mostly men that snored you.

982
00:51:52,480 --> 00:51:54,800
Speaker 1: Men snore more when they are out of shape or overweight.

983
00:51:55,080 --> 00:51:56,880
Speaker 1: What do you do if your partner snores? Should you

984
00:51:56,960 --> 00:51:59,560
Speaker 1: sleep in separate bedrooms? Do you do? Men think snoring

985
00:51:59,600 --> 00:52:01,520
Speaker 1: as a d a breaker for women? Do any of

986
00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:04,200
Speaker 1: your wives or girlfriend's snore a lot? Of just any

987
00:52:04,239 --> 00:52:06,839
Speaker 1: topic on story. Let's go by snore. I mean I don't.

988
00:52:06,840 --> 00:52:09,040
Speaker 1: I'm not one of those, like, you know, like a

989
00:52:09,160 --> 00:52:11,000
Speaker 1: bear kind of a store. But I mean I do snore,

990
00:52:11,080 --> 00:52:12,879
Speaker 1: like if I'm in a deep sleep. I've been told

991
00:52:12,920 --> 00:52:15,520
Speaker 1: that I do snore. Um. I caught myself actually on

992
00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:16,920
Speaker 1: the plane the other day. I was flying back from

993
00:52:16,960 --> 00:52:18,719
Speaker 1: New York, and I fell asleep before we even took off,

994
00:52:18,719 --> 00:52:24,399
Speaker 1: and it was like I could almost hear myself like, uh, yeah,

995
00:52:24,600 --> 00:52:32,799
Speaker 1: I was that dude somebody putting a sock. But shut

996
00:52:32,880 --> 00:52:36,759
Speaker 1: this guy up. But I'm not a huge store, you know,

997
00:52:36,800 --> 00:52:39,200
Speaker 1: and I don't have like or I don't have any

998
00:52:39,200 --> 00:52:42,840
Speaker 1: of that other kind of stuff. I do think. I

999
00:52:42,880 --> 00:52:45,239
Speaker 1: don't think it ruins relationship. It's just a fact of life.

1000
00:52:45,280 --> 00:52:47,000
Speaker 1: You know. It's like, dude, part of either getting old

1001
00:52:47,120 --> 00:52:48,759
Speaker 1: or it's getting gray hair or you know, what are

1002
00:52:48,760 --> 00:52:50,440
Speaker 1: you gonna do get divorced because you're getting great hair

1003
00:52:50,520 --> 00:52:52,680
Speaker 1: or you're balding or whatever. That's like, so what you're snoring?

1004
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:57,759
Speaker 1: That being said, disruptive. It is disruptive. Very can be

1005
00:52:57,920 --> 00:53:01,520
Speaker 1: very disruptive what I typically do. My wife will occasionally snore.

1006
00:53:02,600 --> 00:53:05,120
Speaker 1: She's gonna kill me is I just grabbed the pillow

1007
00:53:05,200 --> 00:53:11,640
Speaker 1: and kind of toss it on or all like no, no, no, no.

1008
00:53:11,800 --> 00:53:13,920
Speaker 1: It's just like I'll, you know, kind of push her

1009
00:53:13,960 --> 00:53:16,200
Speaker 1: and say, hey, baby, you're snoring, and she's like okay, okay,

1010
00:53:16,680 --> 00:53:19,840
Speaker 1: and then as long as you're comfortable pal. So I

1011
00:53:19,880 --> 00:53:21,080
Speaker 1: don't know what you guys think of this, but my

1012
00:53:21,320 --> 00:53:24,000
Speaker 1: guy snores, and the odds are we will never sleep

1013
00:53:24,040 --> 00:53:26,239
Speaker 1: in the same room for like an entire night. We

1014
00:53:26,360 --> 00:53:30,000
Speaker 1: just always have. But there's there's a there's a mouthpiece

1015
00:53:30,080 --> 00:53:32,000
Speaker 1: that goes in and puts their jaw back and so

1016
00:53:32,280 --> 00:53:34,600
Speaker 1: so there's you can do, like a snore guard. You

1017
00:53:34,680 --> 00:53:37,720
Speaker 1: can do different ways of your air passages. Separate rooms

1018
00:53:37,760 --> 00:53:40,680
Speaker 1: is not a deal breaker. It's okay if you are

1019
00:53:41,280 --> 00:53:43,680
Speaker 1: lucky enough to have an extra room. It's a little

1020
00:53:43,719 --> 00:53:47,040
Speaker 1: tricky when traveling, like to a hotel, but we figure

1021
00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:51,880
Speaker 1: it out. You're not bs. You're not gonna go get

1022
00:53:51,920 --> 00:53:53,640
Speaker 1: a separate room. You're not gonna get married and live

1023
00:53:53,680 --> 00:53:56,960
Speaker 1: in a separate room like that. Just a story for

1024
00:53:57,400 --> 00:54:01,680
Speaker 1: I'm saying people that are married here. Story. When I

1025
00:54:01,719 --> 00:54:03,520
Speaker 1: was eighteen, I was playing hockey in Seattle and so

1026
00:54:03,640 --> 00:54:05,840
Speaker 1: my billet family, the family that I lived within Seattle.

1027
00:54:06,239 --> 00:54:10,640
Speaker 1: The man snored like a freaking semitruck, Like he just

1028
00:54:10,840 --> 00:54:14,400
Speaker 1: snored outrageously. And they slept in different rooms. They literally

1029
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:17,520
Speaker 1: had their own bedrooms. I thought it was weird as hell,

1030
00:54:18,000 --> 00:54:21,160
Speaker 1: and I don't think I never want my relationship ever

1031
00:54:21,239 --> 00:54:22,959
Speaker 1: to come to that. Did they seem like a happy couple.

1032
00:54:23,920 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 1: They did not. They did not seem like they had

1033
00:54:26,239 --> 00:54:30,040
Speaker 1: romance or connection or affection present in their lives. They

1034
00:54:30,680 --> 00:54:32,759
Speaker 1: to me, maybe they did, but to me, it felt

1035
00:54:32,800 --> 00:54:35,920
Speaker 1: like they were roommates. Did he wear like a mouthpiece

1036
00:54:36,040 --> 00:54:39,080
Speaker 1: or anything to kind of prevent the snoring? There's tons

1037
00:54:39,160 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 1: of cures. How about a motorcycle him? How side? Just

1038
00:54:43,560 --> 00:54:47,560
Speaker 1: you know, in there, just question what's the whole helmet?

1039
00:54:48,120 --> 00:54:51,960
Speaker 1: You know? Go ahead, who is your best friend? And

1040
00:54:52,040 --> 00:54:54,880
Speaker 1: tell us one thing about him? You can't say my

1041
00:54:55,040 --> 00:55:00,399
Speaker 1: wife boring? All right, Rick's wife is off the table. Guys. Yeah,

1042
00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:09,200
Speaker 1: my answer, um telling me to go first. You say

1043
00:55:10,160 --> 00:55:11,680
Speaker 1: it was kind of an open ended question. You got

1044
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:16,040
Speaker 1: a little awkward there. Um. I got a buddy of mine.

1045
00:55:16,480 --> 00:55:18,480
Speaker 1: I consider him as my best My best buddy, we

1046
00:55:18,600 --> 00:55:20,759
Speaker 1: can we talk about stuff. We all we all, Uh,

1047
00:55:20,960 --> 00:55:23,920
Speaker 1: this is where it gets even more awkward. Um, you know,

1048
00:55:24,000 --> 00:55:26,320
Speaker 1: but we talked about stuff, and UM, we can be

1049
00:55:26,480 --> 00:55:28,319
Speaker 1: honest and you know, we got each other back, give

1050
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:33,319
Speaker 1: each other honest things. But we also, um take screenshots

1051
00:55:33,360 --> 00:55:35,960
Speaker 1: of people's like face, stupid Facebook posts and stuff when

1052
00:55:36,000 --> 00:55:37,319
Speaker 1: we just text them like all day long and make

1053
00:55:37,360 --> 00:55:41,440
Speaker 1: fun of it keeps you laughing all day long. I

1054
00:55:41,520 --> 00:55:44,600
Speaker 1: got a good buddy. And what what makes my relationship

1055
00:55:44,640 --> 00:55:47,439
Speaker 1: with him so special is whenever we get together, it's

1056
00:55:47,480 --> 00:55:49,560
Speaker 1: like we're still back in high school, or we're still

1057
00:55:49,680 --> 00:55:53,400
Speaker 1: back in college, we're still whatever, Like nothing changes, and

1058
00:55:53,480 --> 00:55:55,000
Speaker 1: it's like you just pick up and you're back to

1059
00:55:55,160 --> 00:55:57,279
Speaker 1: You're telling the same stupid jokes, you're talking about the

1060
00:55:57,320 --> 00:56:01,680
Speaker 1: same people, you're you know, you're rinking, messing around, doing

1061
00:56:01,719 --> 00:56:04,600
Speaker 1: whatever you're doing. Um, And and that's what to me

1062
00:56:04,920 --> 00:56:09,239
Speaker 1: makes a best friend or you know, a best friend. Yeah,

1063
00:56:10,920 --> 00:56:13,720
Speaker 1: that's my best buddy right there. Yes, bring him in, actually,

1064
00:56:14,040 --> 00:56:17,279
Speaker 1: bring him get over here. Come on, I've been let's

1065
00:56:17,680 --> 00:56:20,759
Speaker 1: t him up here up. He doesn't like this, uh,

1066
00:56:20,960 --> 00:56:23,520
Speaker 1: this type of stuff, this type of let's have his

1067
00:56:23,600 --> 00:56:26,239
Speaker 1: you know, his name is Joey me and but me

1068
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:29,200
Speaker 1: and Joey have been buddies since we were let's see

1069
00:56:29,200 --> 00:56:35,160
Speaker 1: you about twenty years and uh, let's see I was

1070
00:56:35,200 --> 00:56:41,359
Speaker 1: about twenty one when I met Joey two and Joey

1071
00:56:41,520 --> 00:56:46,000
Speaker 1: was working a cafe in a neighborhood I was living in, right,

1072
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:49,440
Speaker 1: and we became friends from hanging out there, and uh,

1073
00:56:49,840 --> 00:56:53,560
Speaker 1: we wasn't friends friendly at first, right, he think I

1074
00:56:53,640 --> 00:56:55,600
Speaker 1: think he thought I was a dick. Right, you got

1075
00:56:55,680 --> 00:57:03,520
Speaker 1: you got your Joey the mic he you were well

1076
00:57:03,520 --> 00:57:07,120
Speaker 1: at least you didn't say you are. Yeah, yeah yeah,

1077
00:57:07,360 --> 00:57:10,680
Speaker 1: And uh, anyway, we became friends over time, and it's

1078
00:57:10,760 --> 00:57:12,879
Speaker 1: my best buddy, man, So you know, we we worked

1079
00:57:12,920 --> 00:57:16,120
Speaker 1: together and uh, travel together. Man. We were you know,

1080
00:57:16,160 --> 00:57:19,280
Speaker 1: our our families are you know, we know each other's families.

1081
00:57:19,320 --> 00:57:22,000
Speaker 1: And he's a great guy man, you know. And I

1082
00:57:22,080 --> 00:57:25,400
Speaker 1: think part of that friendship is because we met at

1083
00:57:25,440 --> 00:57:29,120
Speaker 1: a very important time in our lives as well, you know,

1084
00:57:29,360 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 1: your early twenties, one years old probably and um, and

1085
00:57:35,320 --> 00:57:37,200
Speaker 1: you know, I've had I still you know, I still

1086
00:57:37,280 --> 00:57:39,080
Speaker 1: am tight with guys I grew up with, you know,

1087
00:57:39,160 --> 00:57:41,800
Speaker 1: my best friend growing up, I'm still super tight with,

1088
00:57:42,600 --> 00:57:44,760
Speaker 1: you know, and my best buddies going up, I'm still

1089
00:57:44,760 --> 00:57:46,880
Speaker 1: super tight with. I still hang out with their families

1090
00:57:46,960 --> 00:57:50,000
Speaker 1: and see them and and all those great things and

1091
00:57:50,080 --> 00:57:53,200
Speaker 1: other guys I met throughout time. Um, and I'm still

1092
00:57:53,280 --> 00:57:55,760
Speaker 1: tight with a bunch of bunch of dudes. But but

1093
00:57:56,000 --> 00:57:59,000
Speaker 1: me and him, we just it's like it's like we

1094
00:58:00,040 --> 00:58:02,640
Speaker 1: you just see the world in very much the same way.

1095
00:58:03,320 --> 00:58:08,480
Speaker 1: I think we came up in a particular in a

1096
00:58:08,600 --> 00:58:12,919
Speaker 1: particular time in our lives that we identify with even

1097
00:58:12,960 --> 00:58:16,840
Speaker 1: though we grew up differently. Um and Uh, I think

1098
00:58:16,880 --> 00:58:18,880
Speaker 1: we share a lot of the same values and and

1099
00:58:19,040 --> 00:58:22,959
Speaker 1: things like that. You know, I think, um and he's

1100
00:58:23,040 --> 00:58:27,160
Speaker 1: and he his his his creative mind is similar to

1101
00:58:27,240 --> 00:58:30,640
Speaker 1: my creative mind, but his pragmatic mind is similar to

1102
00:58:30,720 --> 00:58:33,000
Speaker 1: my pragmatic mind. You guys met at an important time

1103
00:58:33,000 --> 00:58:34,640
Speaker 1: in your life. You needed a sandwich, and he worked

1104
00:58:34,680 --> 00:58:39,360
Speaker 1: in a cafe. Boom boom boom. Actually, since he used

1105
00:58:39,400 --> 00:58:41,480
Speaker 1: all the oxygen in the room, might not be real quick?

1106
00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:47,640
Speaker 1: Are you dead yet? Like my brother Jordan's uh, my

1107
00:58:47,760 --> 00:58:50,240
Speaker 1: brother Derek, uh. And then all my all my buddies

1108
00:58:50,240 --> 00:58:52,760
Speaker 1: growing up. Man, I've been buddies for thirty six years

1109
00:58:52,800 --> 00:58:55,360
Speaker 1: of these guys. Um, my buddy Corey here in town.

1110
00:58:55,400 --> 00:58:58,840
Speaker 1: I got Curtis Blake, Uh, my buddy Ryan, my buddy scummy,

1111
00:58:59,360 --> 00:59:05,560
Speaker 1: um scummy. His last name is skull Moski. Um. I

1112
00:59:05,680 --> 00:59:08,360
Speaker 1: have too many. I have too many amazing buddies to

1113
00:59:08,400 --> 00:59:10,760
Speaker 1: even just list one. Blake Tyrrell, Like just so, you

1114
00:59:10,800 --> 00:59:13,880
Speaker 1: don't have a person you talk to the most, talk

1115
00:59:13,960 --> 00:59:17,400
Speaker 1: to the most all of them. But right now, who

1116
00:59:17,400 --> 00:59:19,200
Speaker 1: who would be your joy in the corner? Who's the

1117
00:59:19,280 --> 00:59:20,920
Speaker 1: one you talked to the most? Because I talk I

1118
00:59:21,040 --> 00:59:22,720
Speaker 1: talked to all those guys here. The one I was

1119
00:59:23,120 --> 00:59:24,320
Speaker 1: the one I would talk to the most. He I

1120
00:59:24,400 --> 00:59:25,920
Speaker 1: talked to the most, The one I would the two

1121
00:59:26,040 --> 00:59:27,960
Speaker 1: that I would talk to the most would be uh,

1122
00:59:28,400 --> 00:59:30,360
Speaker 1: Derek and Corey here in town because they both live

1123
00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:33,040
Speaker 1: here in l A. So that proximity, Like it's easy

1124
00:59:33,120 --> 00:59:35,080
Speaker 1: for me to drive the DS. Corey comes and works

1125
00:59:35,080 --> 00:59:36,680
Speaker 1: out of my house five times a week, so I

1126
00:59:36,760 --> 00:59:39,840
Speaker 1: see those guys more. Um so those who would I

1127
00:59:39,840 --> 00:59:41,440
Speaker 1: talk to the most of those. But there, but there is,

1128
00:59:41,800 --> 00:59:44,960
Speaker 1: but but there is that that love. You know, there's

1129
00:59:45,040 --> 00:59:50,480
Speaker 1: elements of the guys you grow up with, your your youngest,

1130
00:59:50,560 --> 00:59:54,640
Speaker 1: youngest times in your life. They're almost more like family

1131
00:59:54,920 --> 00:59:57,720
Speaker 1: than than anything else. You know what I'm saying. It's

1132
00:59:57,760 --> 01:00:00,320
Speaker 1: kind of like when you know someone since you're three,

1133
01:00:01,800 --> 01:00:09,520
Speaker 1: it's it's it's weird, honest with you, it's uh, blood blood,

1134
01:00:10,000 --> 01:00:12,880
Speaker 1: you know. And me and Joey became blood, you know

1135
01:00:12,960 --> 01:00:15,080
Speaker 1: what I mean. And so that's the thing, you know

1136
01:00:15,160 --> 01:00:17,360
Speaker 1: what I mean, We're still talking about We're still talking

1137
01:00:17,400 --> 01:00:20,680
Speaker 1: about Joey. Joey your your book is coming out. I'm

1138
01:00:20,720 --> 01:00:25,439
Speaker 1: gonna flick. I'm gonna flick and his brick. Okay, next question,

1139
01:00:25,640 --> 01:00:27,520
Speaker 1: this one, I want to make this. I want to

1140
01:00:27,560 --> 01:00:30,160
Speaker 1: stipulate this. This has a kids in the question, but

1141
01:00:30,240 --> 01:00:31,840
Speaker 1: I think you can answer it if you don't have kids. So,

1142
01:00:31,880 --> 01:00:33,840
Speaker 1: if you were to have kids one day, what is

1143
01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 1: one thing you don't want your kids to know about

1144
01:00:36,040 --> 01:00:43,680
Speaker 1: you that you were friends with? Gavin? What's one thing

1145
01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:45,840
Speaker 1: I don't want my kids to know about me? I'll

1146
01:00:45,880 --> 01:00:47,440
Speaker 1: tell you all the stuff you guys that want your

1147
01:00:47,520 --> 01:00:49,800
Speaker 1: kids to know. Yeah, I mean, to be honest, I

1148
01:00:49,880 --> 01:00:53,760
Speaker 1: think probably looking back on like smoking weed or you know,

1149
01:00:53,960 --> 01:00:57,400
Speaker 1: doing doing a doing a drag or two. Um, I

1150
01:00:57,480 --> 01:01:00,560
Speaker 1: mean I'm ashamed of that, all right, to be ashamed

1151
01:01:00,560 --> 01:01:01,840
Speaker 1: of that, because I mean, I'm spending a lot of

1152
01:01:01,880 --> 01:01:04,000
Speaker 1: time right now. My son's at a pivotal age where

1153
01:01:04,520 --> 01:01:07,960
Speaker 1: he's either getting introduced to that or whatever the case

1154
01:01:08,040 --> 01:01:10,440
Speaker 1: may be, and it's like, no, don't do that, or

1155
01:01:10,920 --> 01:01:13,200
Speaker 1: you know, be careful about this. And I was going

1156
01:01:13,240 --> 01:01:15,160
Speaker 1: through the same time, but I was I made the

1157
01:01:15,400 --> 01:01:18,640
Speaker 1: you know, I tried it, you know. So it's like

1158
01:01:19,400 --> 01:01:21,840
Speaker 1: that part is I'm ashamed of. I mean, I know

1159
01:01:21,960 --> 01:01:24,040
Speaker 1: he's gonna do it, so it's it's it is what

1160
01:01:24,240 --> 01:01:25,880
Speaker 1: it is, and he's at some point going to make

1161
01:01:25,920 --> 01:01:28,600
Speaker 1: his own decisions. Um. I can't look back on my

1162
01:01:28,680 --> 01:01:30,600
Speaker 1: life where I'm like, oh, I totally regret this. I

1163
01:01:30,640 --> 01:01:34,840
Speaker 1: would never never tell my kids, you know, um, not

1164
01:01:35,040 --> 01:01:37,200
Speaker 1: to make you straight too much, but I have a question.

1165
01:01:38,560 --> 01:01:40,400
Speaker 1: Are you gonna tell your kids not to do any

1166
01:01:40,520 --> 01:01:43,720
Speaker 1: of it? No? Are you gonna address certain lines because

1167
01:01:44,000 --> 01:01:46,200
Speaker 1: do you think that there's a certain line that's sort

1168
01:01:46,240 --> 01:01:50,680
Speaker 1: of permissible because if you dropped too too much of

1169
01:01:50,760 --> 01:01:53,120
Speaker 1: a hammer on him, are you afraid they're gonna overdo

1170
01:01:53,200 --> 01:01:56,160
Speaker 1: it when they finally do something wrong? Totally? I'm afraid

1171
01:01:56,200 --> 01:01:58,920
Speaker 1: of it all, um. And I'm I'm pretty liberal in

1172
01:01:59,080 --> 01:02:02,720
Speaker 1: terms of having those conversations and and being open about

1173
01:02:03,240 --> 01:02:06,600
Speaker 1: experimenting with things. You know. I I've come to kind

1174
01:02:06,640 --> 01:02:09,400
Speaker 1: of the reality that he's they're gonna try it, So

1175
01:02:10,040 --> 01:02:12,840
Speaker 1: I think it's more of like, what are your decisions

1176
01:02:13,040 --> 01:02:16,919
Speaker 1: after you try it? Are you gonna get in a car?

1177
01:02:17,120 --> 01:02:18,840
Speaker 1: Are you gonna let your friend get in a car?

1178
01:02:19,040 --> 01:02:21,880
Speaker 1: Are you gonna what are you gonna do? And I

1179
01:02:22,000 --> 01:02:25,240
Speaker 1: think those are the those are the concerns that I have,

1180
01:02:25,400 --> 01:02:27,760
Speaker 1: and and that would be the I mean, I'm not

1181
01:02:27,800 --> 01:02:29,520
Speaker 1: going to drop the hammer. I mean, it really kind

1182
01:02:29,560 --> 01:02:33,040
Speaker 1: of depends on what the what the scenario is, right, Dmitri.

1183
01:02:34,120 --> 01:02:36,000
Speaker 1: What what I don't want my kids to know about

1184
01:02:36,040 --> 01:02:39,040
Speaker 1: me is the things that the the emotion, things that

1185
01:02:39,160 --> 01:02:42,160
Speaker 1: make me selfish when I shouldn't be so. For example,

1186
01:02:42,320 --> 01:02:45,000
Speaker 1: if I'm talking them into sleep and I'm so tired

1187
01:02:45,400 --> 01:02:47,000
Speaker 1: and one of them just starts telling a story, and

1188
01:02:47,040 --> 01:02:48,840
Speaker 1: they have every right to tell that story, but in

1189
01:02:48,960 --> 01:02:52,880
Speaker 1: my head, I'm like, shut up, I'm so tired right now.

1190
01:02:54,960 --> 01:02:56,680
Speaker 1: I don't want them to know because I think it's

1191
01:02:56,680 --> 01:02:58,320
Speaker 1: so sweet that they have these stories they want to share,

1192
01:02:58,520 --> 01:02:59,640
Speaker 1: but I don't want them to know that there have

1193
01:02:59,720 --> 01:03:01,240
Speaker 1: been time is when I've been like, come on, man,

1194
01:03:01,560 --> 01:03:07,680
Speaker 1: let's zip it up, let's go um. I appreciate that honestly, dude,

1195
01:03:07,720 --> 01:03:09,560
Speaker 1: that's not an easy thing to say. And I appreciate

1196
01:03:09,600 --> 01:03:12,360
Speaker 1: because and then and the truth is like, yeah, that happens.

1197
01:03:12,400 --> 01:03:14,240
Speaker 1: But I also like, I don't want them to know

1198
01:03:14,280 --> 01:03:16,280
Speaker 1: it because that's my problem. That's me being tired. That's

1199
01:03:16,280 --> 01:03:18,000
Speaker 1: not anything that they do. So I don't want them

1200
01:03:18,040 --> 01:03:20,880
Speaker 1: to think wrong from that. Here's here's mine. I don't

1201
01:03:20,920 --> 01:03:23,680
Speaker 1: have kids, but here's what the question is. What would

1202
01:03:23,680 --> 01:03:27,240
Speaker 1: I not want them to know? Um, I would like

1203
01:03:27,480 --> 01:03:31,200
Speaker 1: my kids to know that I've just been with their mom,

1204
01:03:31,680 --> 01:03:33,800
Speaker 1: like with my wife, Like I would love to have

1205
01:03:34,000 --> 01:03:37,520
Speaker 1: our kids see us as a unit, just as know

1206
01:03:37,800 --> 01:03:40,760
Speaker 1: us as a unit. I'm sorry for a minute, I

1207
01:03:40,760 --> 01:03:42,440
Speaker 1: thought you meant like I had just been with your

1208
01:03:42,480 --> 01:03:46,400
Speaker 1: mom two minutes. Know, like like my mom and dad right,

1209
01:03:46,480 --> 01:03:49,000
Speaker 1: like like my mom and dad don't tell stories of

1210
01:03:49,480 --> 01:03:51,480
Speaker 1: x is or of like like when I see my

1211
01:03:51,560 --> 01:03:54,280
Speaker 1: mom and dad, they've been married forty five years, their

1212
01:03:54,480 --> 01:03:57,640
Speaker 1: mom and dad together and they don't share. And I

1213
01:03:57,680 --> 01:03:59,760
Speaker 1: don't know if that's good or bad that they don't share.

1214
01:03:59,800 --> 01:04:02,400
Speaker 1: But I love just the notion of looking at my

1215
01:04:02,480 --> 01:04:05,640
Speaker 1: mom and dad as a partnership. And I hope and

1216
01:04:06,200 --> 01:04:08,880
Speaker 1: that's just I hope when I have kids that um,

1217
01:04:09,320 --> 01:04:13,640
Speaker 1: that they know me and my wife as their mom

1218
01:04:13,680 --> 01:04:16,640
Speaker 1: and dad as a partnership, as a togetherness um, and

1219
01:04:16,800 --> 01:04:19,440
Speaker 1: not know other stuff about our past. I don't know

1220
01:04:19,480 --> 01:04:21,680
Speaker 1: if that's right or wrong, but that's a truthful answer

1221
01:04:21,680 --> 01:04:27,720
Speaker 1: to that question. My niece penis on my iPad, So

1222
01:04:27,880 --> 01:04:31,640
Speaker 1: what a follow up? So I always let them. I

1223
01:04:31,760 --> 01:04:33,880
Speaker 1: just have to admit it. So I always let them

1224
01:04:34,000 --> 01:04:37,479
Speaker 1: use my iPads when I go games only games only.

1225
01:04:37,720 --> 01:04:39,919
Speaker 1: So then I go over and my nieces are looking

1226
01:04:39,960 --> 01:04:42,960
Speaker 1: at photos on my iPad and I go, oh god,

1227
01:04:43,000 --> 01:04:45,240
Speaker 1: I had a total panic. And I go, you guys,

1228
01:04:45,720 --> 01:04:49,600
Speaker 1: there's weird photos in there for my work. My little

1229
01:04:49,720 --> 01:04:52,520
Speaker 1: niece it was nine. She goes, we know, Auntie, we

1230
01:04:52,640 --> 01:04:55,400
Speaker 1: saw that. We just went past it. And then they

1231
01:04:55,440 --> 01:04:59,760
Speaker 1: were like, my aunt works with penises. Gave what's something?

1232
01:05:00,000 --> 01:05:01,840
Speaker 1: If you had kids, you would never want them to know.

1233
01:05:05,040 --> 01:05:09,800
Speaker 1: We don't have a lot of time. You got two sentences.

1234
01:05:10,560 --> 01:05:17,320
Speaker 1: Um good, Sure, I'm not sure, man, I mean there's plenty.

1235
01:05:18,560 --> 01:05:25,960
Speaker 1: Probably the amount of destruction I went through or self

1236
01:05:26,120 --> 01:05:31,000
Speaker 1: created until I got it right, m hm, you know

1237
01:05:31,000 --> 01:05:37,520
Speaker 1: what I mean? And you know I wouldn't say it

1238
01:05:37,640 --> 01:05:40,760
Speaker 1: was total self destruction. But I would say that it

1239
01:05:40,880 --> 01:05:44,640
Speaker 1: certainly wasn't all necessarily you know, all building towards a

1240
01:05:44,760 --> 01:05:46,800
Speaker 1: good thing my whole life, you know what I mean,

1241
01:05:46,960 --> 01:05:50,560
Speaker 1: so um, but there was certainly you know bad. There

1242
01:05:50,600 --> 01:05:52,920
Speaker 1: are plenty of bad decisions along the way, you know,

1243
01:05:53,080 --> 01:05:56,200
Speaker 1: and a lot of selfish decisions, so that that's probably

1244
01:05:56,600 --> 01:06:00,280
Speaker 1: some of the stuff i'd i'd want to keep keep

1245
01:06:00,560 --> 01:06:03,919
Speaker 1: them protected from, you know. Um. But at the same time,

1246
01:06:04,920 --> 01:06:07,240
Speaker 1: I don't necessarily want to try to convince my kids

1247
01:06:07,280 --> 01:06:10,120
Speaker 1: I was some kind of angel, because because I wasn't

1248
01:06:10,200 --> 01:06:12,320
Speaker 1: and I'm not and uh and I think that sets

1249
01:06:12,400 --> 01:06:15,280
Speaker 1: the bar too high, and I think it allows them

1250
01:06:15,680 --> 01:06:18,880
Speaker 1: to see their own disappointment a little too clearly if

1251
01:06:18,920 --> 01:06:21,400
Speaker 1: they're not a little angel. And I don't believe in

1252
01:06:21,560 --> 01:06:25,200
Speaker 1: um creating this uh, I don't believe in the complete

1253
01:06:25,240 --> 01:06:31,000
Speaker 1: idyllic uh uh lie that children are sold about how

1254
01:06:31,080 --> 01:06:34,120
Speaker 1: they should behave, how perfect they have to be, because

1255
01:06:34,160 --> 01:06:39,360
Speaker 1: I think that creates a a box that is I think,

1256
01:06:40,000 --> 01:06:43,200
Speaker 1: far more evil than the things you could expose them to.

1257
01:06:43,440 --> 01:06:46,600
Speaker 1: That to show them that, um, you know, the world

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Speaker 1: is imperfect and it's okay if you're not perfect, and uh,

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Speaker 1: you know, dad wasn't perfect either, and your aunt has

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Speaker 1: penis pectures on your iPad and exactly, exactly exactly. I

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Speaker 1: think creating some of these impossible standards, it creates more

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Speaker 1: of the of their creative creates, more of them being

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Speaker 1: self conscious about themselves and things like this. And I

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Speaker 1: think it's more destructive to children to create impossible standards

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Speaker 1: and to be at least somewhat real as an adult

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Speaker 1: about how imperfect we are. And what I think is

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Speaker 1: important is usually using your experiences to help guide them

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Speaker 1: through their life. You know, like it's not all cookie cutter,

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Speaker 1: it's not all perfect, and so like you're using your

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Speaker 1: either failures or successes and to help shape them. That's

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Speaker 1: that's the most important thing. As apparent, time is up.

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Speaker 1: Time is up. So we are going to do the

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Speaker 1: last few questions as a speed round. Ready, Yes, you

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Speaker 1: speed round means you have to go fast. Here we go.

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Speaker 1: Let me put it in fifty. Like taking baths, I do.

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Speaker 1: I don't. I love a bath man. I'll never take

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Speaker 1: one unless it's with my wife. Yeah, I take them.

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Speaker 1: I love a bath. First. Celebrity crushed periscope Christie Brinkley,

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Speaker 1: Lisa malano I think, Jessica Alba, I don't remember. Do

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Speaker 1: you pee in the shower? Only in the shower, even

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Speaker 1: if I'm not showering, I get in the shower only

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Speaker 1: like three times. I actually, I actually think it's disgusting

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Speaker 1: because I watched so many dudes piss in the shower

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Speaker 1: for years, and I'm just like, that's not just kidding me.

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Speaker 1: You don't pee in the shower. It's not I'm not

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Speaker 1: saying I don't I have, it's not. I'm not proud

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Speaker 1: of it. Someone told me it is bad for the drain.

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Speaker 1: Do you feel Brad Pitt is fairly handsome? Yes? Sure?

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Speaker 1: Do I think he's Yeah, he's handsome Brad Pitt or

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Speaker 1: Leo brad Pitt. Brad Pitt looks tougher. When your wife, girlfriend,

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Speaker 1: or teenage daughter needs you to buy tampons, how do

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Speaker 1: you really feel about it? I don't know, buy him

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Speaker 1: give her the apple pay? I mean, I don't give it. Obviously,

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Speaker 1: I go and by them. I don't give you them,

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Speaker 1: but I usually make a joke out of it because

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Speaker 1: you bring it up to the thing and I'll be like,

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Speaker 1: so are there instructions for me to use these? That

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Speaker 1: was a great that Dmitri, you put a great bow

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Speaker 1: on this episode. Um, that was awesome, guys. I always

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Speaker 1: I love when we get to answer listener questions, So

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Speaker 1: I want to I want to one applaud all of

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Speaker 1: you guys, because people listening it's not easy too, It's

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Speaker 1: not always easy to be in our seat and share

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Speaker 1: things that are personal to us and about our lives

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Speaker 1: and our families and people in our lives. So I

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Speaker 1: want to, uh, just give a nod to all you guys.

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Speaker 1: We're really committing to this episode. That was That was awesome.

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Speaker 1: I think yeah, we provided some great value. I hope

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Speaker 1: and anybody listening, if you have more questions, we always

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Speaker 1: want them. Send us an email, Um, what's our email?

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Speaker 1: Man at our heart radio dot com and and always

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Speaker 1: on Instagram? How many make sure you're sending the questions

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Speaker 1: because I'm tired of writing all of them. Yours was

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Speaker 1: the egg one. Hey, by the way, guys, I appreciate

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Speaker 1: I appreciate you guys. This was fun. I'm up to

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Speaker 1: a six point five now. Yeah. The best thing is

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Speaker 1: now you get to skip right over seven and you'll

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Speaker 1: be at an eight PC. Seven is like the thirteen

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Speaker 1: in the elevator now just skipping it over. That's it

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Speaker 1: for this episode. Thank you guys, thank you everyone for listening.

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Speaker 1: We appreciate you so much. Happy New Year, Happy new decade,

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Speaker 1: and we'll see you right back here next week. Till then,

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Speaker 1: take care of one another, love one another, have a

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Speaker 1: fantastic week.