Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, So on this midweek mom chat, I
Speaker 1: am just going to answer questions because I asked, y'all,
Speaker 1: what do you want me to talk about? And a
Speaker 1: bunch of you all have questions, so let's just go
Speaker 1: through them question number one, and I get a lot
Speaker 1: of I get a lot of questions about this diet
Speaker 1: and exercise and when you allow yourself to splurge or
Speaker 1: eat out. Okay, So, as you guys know, I have
Speaker 1: been talking about a new system I've been doing this
Speaker 1: year called Profile by Sanford. And also, as y'all know,
Speaker 1: I've struggled with different like eating disorders, nothing ever crazy,
Speaker 1: but like I struggled with like being believing a little
Speaker 1: bit here and there. Um. I call it exercise interrexia,
Speaker 1: where you work out a ton to try to burn
Speaker 1: off all the calories that you eight um. Every diet
Speaker 1: in the world from Adkins which just like no carbs too, juice,
Speaker 1: cleanses too, vegetarian too, which is a great lifestyle. Actually
Speaker 1: pretty much try to eat vegetarian when I can. I
Speaker 1: eat meat too, but I just sometimes meat grosses me out.
Speaker 1: I just prefer the vegetarian lifestyle. But I've just done
Speaker 1: every fad diet that you could eat that cayenne pepper
Speaker 1: and like lemon and water juice cleans. I've done everything,
Speaker 1: diet pills, all the stuff. And I so once I
Speaker 1: got pregnant and had Sunny, I am really started to
Speaker 1: be my body differently, and I started realizing that my
Speaker 1: body is amazing, and then I'm getting to grow this
Speaker 1: life inside of me. And I didn't want to focus
Speaker 1: on body image because what was what I was doing
Speaker 1: was so spiritual and as also y'all know people who
Speaker 1: fought along with me on this journey. We tried to
Speaker 1: have a baby for like a year, and we went
Speaker 1: through miscarriages and stuff like that, and so like when
Speaker 1: I got pregnant, I was like, Okay, my body is amazing,
Speaker 1: Like I I really like I am so grateful for
Speaker 1: this opportunity, Like I do not want to be plagued
Speaker 1: by body image stuff and like miss this spiritual experience.
Speaker 1: So I really stopped dieting. And I had stopped writing
Speaker 1: before that because I just didn't want to just I
Speaker 1: couldn't do it anymore. Like I found how yoga that
Speaker 1: actually really helped me, to be honest with you, how
Speaker 1: yoga started transforming my mind my life and my body,
Speaker 1: and I started. It was first exercise I found that
Speaker 1: I loved. So that's something I would encourage you to do,
Speaker 1: is find an exercise that you actually love to do,
Speaker 1: even if it's just walking, because if you're making yourself
Speaker 1: like get on a treadmill and run, and you hate
Speaker 1: getting on a treadmill and running, then it's going to
Speaker 1: feel like work or torture. If you're making yourself go
Speaker 1: to the gym and do StairMaster and do eights and
Speaker 1: stuff and you hate it, then like it's gonna feel awful.
Speaker 1: So I would just find a way to move your
Speaker 1: body that you love. For me, it has been hard
Speaker 1: having since having Sunny to exercise just because my days
Speaker 1: are so jam packed, and I know all y'all's days
Speaker 1: are probably so jam packed, and it's so hard to
Speaker 1: find out to exercise, and when you do have a
Speaker 1: little bit of downtime, the last thing you want to
Speaker 1: do is to go exercise. But what I'm doing is walking,
Speaker 1: and my husband and I love to go for a walk,
Speaker 1: So Michael and I will go we'll go for like
Speaker 1: four mile walks, And we went for a four mile
Speaker 1: walk the other day with Sunny and the sunshine, and
Speaker 1: that is really what I love and you can get
Speaker 1: a great workout. So but I've been doing Profile by Sanford,
Speaker 1: which is this awesome company. I really really have enjoyed
Speaker 1: working with them because they taylor make a program for
Speaker 1: you based on your lifestyle and your goals and what
Speaker 1: is really achievable for you. Not like that's another thing,
Speaker 1: like I'm not trying to set myself out for failure
Speaker 1: this year. I don't want to have all these goals
Speaker 1: that I can't keep because there's there they're too hard
Speaker 1: for me to keep at this point in my life.
Speaker 1: Like I know, right now in my life, I taking
Speaker 1: care of Sonny, keeping this house going, keeping all her
Speaker 1: needs met, keeping all my needs, Michael's needs met, running
Speaker 1: my podcast, running my business, which is just me and
Speaker 1: it's a lot like I am actually about to start
Speaker 1: trying to get to try to get a little help,
Speaker 1: try to try to have a part time someone help
Speaker 1: me with social media and UM content creating. So if
Speaker 1: y'all act, if any of you guys are good at
Speaker 1: content creating and running websites and YouTube and UM editing videos,
Speaker 1: please email me. I'm looking for someone to help me
Speaker 1: a little bit part time in Nashville and take pictures anyway.
Speaker 1: But I like profile by Sandford because I went in
Speaker 1: there and I was like, listen, I and you get
Speaker 1: a coach every week. My coach is Colleen and she's awesome.
Speaker 1: I love her and we actually have like therapy sessions together.
Speaker 1: She's great. Um. I was like, listen, I've had a
Speaker 1: bad relationship with food in my past, and whereas like
Speaker 1: certain foods are bad, certain foods are good. You can't
Speaker 1: eat this, you can only eat this. You gotta work
Speaker 1: out diet diet, diet, diet, die diet diet, and I'm
Speaker 1: not trying to live that life. And she was like,
Speaker 1: I totally hear you. We don't do diets here. It's
Speaker 1: all about helping yourself just make healthy choices and come
Speaker 1: up with good eating plans. They have amazing shakes that
Speaker 1: I love, so if you're ever starving or in a bind,
Speaker 1: I just make one of these shakes and they have
Speaker 1: tons of flavors like strawberry and the banana cream pie
Speaker 1: and it's great and like Quinn, it like gets that
Speaker 1: um sweet tooth craving. And they just like go through
Speaker 1: each week meal plans and like talk about your cravings
Speaker 1: and what you want and come up with better options
Speaker 1: instead of eating a kitcat bar, eat a shake or make, um,
Speaker 1: what is that kind of putting with the the chiese
Speaker 1: seed puttings or have some oat milk or make I mean,
Speaker 1: just like they help you come up with plants, and
Speaker 1: then they also pre made food and bars and all
Speaker 1: sorts of stuff. I've really enjoyed it, so y'all check
Speaker 1: them out. Profile by Stanford UM. I have a on
Speaker 1: my highlight reel on my um Instagram. I have a
Speaker 1: thing that says profile, So if you are wanting to
Speaker 1: follow along with my journey, check that out. But I
Speaker 1: really enjoyed that. And they're also encouraging me callings, encouraging
Speaker 1: me to exercise and just don't do anything I can't do,
Speaker 1: because I was like, I can't go four times a week.
Speaker 1: I can't, like at this point in my life, I
Speaker 1: just don't have the energy for it. I don't have
Speaker 1: the time for it. I'm not gonna leave sunny. We
Speaker 1: have the pellets on bike and I've got to start
Speaker 1: doing that because I do love it. But I'm just
Speaker 1: tired and I'm not trying to make an excuse but
Speaker 1: I am tired at the end of the day, and
Speaker 1: I know everyone is tired at the end of the
Speaker 1: day that i haven't wanted to exercise. So I've just
Speaker 1: started walking and I've loved that, and I've started adding
Speaker 1: in yoga. I went to hot Yoga last week and
Speaker 1: I'm trying to go once a week. Baby steps, baby
Speaker 1: steps back in And that's why I like Profile because
Speaker 1: Profile by Standford, the program, Profile by Sandford the program,
Speaker 1: because they just help me take help me, help me
Speaker 1: to take those baby steps, and they're not forcing me
Speaker 1: to like move at a pace that's too fast for
Speaker 1: me because right now I'm just working my way back
Speaker 1: into it. So I to answer your question, that was
Speaker 1: a long roundabout way to get to your question. I
Speaker 1: allow myself to splourage and eat on anytime I want to.
Speaker 1: I do not want. I mean I want to on
Speaker 1: the daily eat healthy. But if I am craving something,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go have it. Like I'm not I'm not
Speaker 1: going to live my life in deprivation. If there's another
Speaker 1: choice that does the trick, then that's healthy for me.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go with that. But if I have to
Speaker 1: have a hot chocolate chip, cookie with ice cream. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna say no, but I'm just gonna try to
Speaker 1: be reasonable about it. Um, I don't know, so that's
Speaker 1: how I'm doing it. I just don't want to put
Speaker 1: any pressure on myself or make myself feel bad, because
Speaker 1: I think when you start making yourself feel bad, then
Speaker 1: you're not enjoying what you're doing. And if you're gonna
Speaker 1: go ahead and eat the kickcat or the chocolate chip cookie,
Speaker 1: you might as well enjoy it and not feel bad.
Speaker 1: You know. I just don't over eat. I really, That's
Speaker 1: another thing. I used to overreach, binge and purge and
Speaker 1: all that, and like, I just do not overad anymore.
Speaker 1: Like when I'm full and full, I know I can
Speaker 1: have it again later, Like I don't have to eat
Speaker 1: the whole thing right now. UM relationships post baby, that's
Speaker 1: a great question. I mean, I think every relationship I
Speaker 1: have has changed post baby because my whole life has changed.
Speaker 1: I don't view life the same at all anymore. UM. Friendships.
Speaker 1: I used to be the friend that would if I
Speaker 1: got invited, I would go. UM. I loved social events.
Speaker 1: My husband and I are really social and we love
Speaker 1: going out and being involved with the community and all
Speaker 1: sorts of off and we still love that. But like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, after having Sunny, I don't want to leave,
Speaker 1: Like I still get anxiety leaving her the babysitter. I
Speaker 1: have several babysitters in our night nurse Paula from Nashville
Speaker 1: baby Boss, you'll check her out, Um that I trust,
Speaker 1: But still like I like being the one with Sunny.
Speaker 1: I like, I like being here and doing her routine
Speaker 1: with her and feeding her and playing with her and
Speaker 1: loving on her and having moments with her every day
Speaker 1: and putting her to sleep and giving her bath, Like
Speaker 1: I want to be that one to do that. And
Speaker 1: so I'm also like worried that you know, people don't
Speaker 1: other people are going to do it the way that
Speaker 1: I want to do it, or I don't know. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I just have that mama bird super protective
Speaker 1: vibea for her, which I think is normal and a
Speaker 1: lot of most moms haven't, especially new moms. So I,
Speaker 1: UM don't want to leave her. So for me to
Speaker 1: go somewhere and do something, it has to really, it
Speaker 1: has to really. Um, I'm very selective now, let's put
Speaker 1: it that way. He used to before I would go
Speaker 1: to lunch with friends all the time I was out
Speaker 1: and about doing everything, And now it's like, I'm not
Speaker 1: just gonna go have a casual lunch with a friend,
Speaker 1: Like if I haven't caught up with a friend in
Speaker 1: a long time and we need to catch up, or
Speaker 1: if there's something happening, if there's like a woman's group
Speaker 1: get together, that matters to me, Like I do prioritize
Speaker 1: that stuff because I do think it's important to keep
Speaker 1: your girlfriends and your friendships up and you stay connected,
Speaker 1: Like you don't want to get totally on an island
Speaker 1: where you're just all by yourself if you can help it, um,
Speaker 1: but even just a phone call, like I'll have phone
Speaker 1: dates now with people more, and because when Sunday's napping,
Speaker 1: I'll just call people on the phone or you know,
Speaker 1: just check it in that way, like you don't. I
Speaker 1: just every relationship has changed because Sunday is the priority
Speaker 1: she is, and like being here for her and being
Speaker 1: able to take care of her, and then I work
Speaker 1: all the other times. Like I'm literally it is nine
Speaker 1: o'clock right now and I'm recording podcast at night because
Speaker 1: I have literally recorded a podcast earlier today. I was
Speaker 1: editing a video, I was doing some brand stuff and
Speaker 1: taking care of Sonny. And now it's nine o'clock and
Speaker 1: I'm just now having time to get to this, and
Speaker 1: I want to get to this, but it's like you
Speaker 1: just don't have any time. I don't have any extra
Speaker 1: time anymore. And if I do have extra time, I
Speaker 1: just want to spend it with Michael and Sunny. So
Speaker 1: and my relationship with Michael has changed because I mean,
Speaker 1: we're both tired, you know, like it's gotten deeper on it.
Speaker 1: It's everyone always says that, like it gets deeper, and
Speaker 1: it has gotten deeper because we now have something so
Speaker 1: much bigger than I don't know if I'm gonna say
Speaker 1: this right. It's not bigger than our love, like Michael
Speaker 1: and I still love each other so much, but like
Speaker 1: our love made a human and now we are fully
Speaker 1: in charge of this human's life right now. And it's
Speaker 1: like whoa, I think we both just we're just we
Speaker 1: feel driven to work harder in our careers. We feel
Speaker 1: driven to show up for Sunny all the time. Like
Speaker 1: you just you're tired because you're NonStop doing stuff. And
Speaker 1: so it's like before, I mean, Michael and I would work,
Speaker 1: and then we'd have all the rest of the time
Speaker 1: to do whatever we want to want, you know, And
Speaker 1: now it's like we're working and he's on the road
Speaker 1: in a musician. So when he goes on the road,
Speaker 1: he obviously doesn't get to be a sunny which I
Speaker 1: know he misses her, but he can kind of have
Speaker 1: a little um bit of and I guess not I
Speaker 1: wouldn't be it's not a little bit of just having
Speaker 1: that old lifestyle a little bit where you know, you
Speaker 1: can wake up when you want to wake up or
Speaker 1: need to wake up, not when the baby wakes you
Speaker 1: up and all that. But for the most part we
Speaker 1: are twenty pretty much just on an intense sunny schedule,
Speaker 1: and it's great and it's amazing. And I would say
Speaker 1: everything has gotten harder in the sense that like you
Speaker 1: just are going, going, going, NonStop, and every second of
Speaker 1: your day is valuable. Whereas before I had a lot
Speaker 1: of time that I could just leisurely spin places and
Speaker 1: that's why I was super social. Now it's like I
Speaker 1: am not super social, but I'm grateful for the season
Speaker 1: of my life right now because I love it. I
Speaker 1: love that no is my first response to things instead
Speaker 1: of yes, Like I love that I'm being selective and
Speaker 1: my time management has gotten so good. I mean, I
Speaker 1: unfortunately show up late now because getting out of the
Speaker 1: house with a kid, like I feel like I'm like
Speaker 1: twenty minutes late everywhere I go just terrible. But like
Speaker 1: if she's napping and she's not up yet, and there's
Speaker 1: something happening, like a friends get together or somebody's having
Speaker 1: like a birthday party, like I'm gonna let her finish
Speaker 1: her nap because if she didn't finish her nap, she's
Speaker 1: gonna be crying and she's gonna be tired. I mean,
Speaker 1: you know, it's just like your priority has completely changed.
Speaker 1: Or if she wakes up and I got a feed her,
Speaker 1: and like she's not taking her bottle, like I want
Speaker 1: to get the bottle down before we get in the car.
Speaker 1: And then when you get in the car, you gotta
Speaker 1: pack like seventeen thousand things to get out of the house.
Speaker 1: So everything has changed because it's like I said, it's
Speaker 1: like harder to leave, like it's much more of an ordeal.
Speaker 1: You gotta get a babysitter, you gotta pack up basically
Speaker 1: your whole baby nursery. When you leave like all that stuff,
Speaker 1: but it is so fulfilling and it's made me just
Speaker 1: get the laser focused on what matters to me, and
Speaker 1: that for that, I'm grateful because I I definitely know
Speaker 1: what matters to me, Like when something comes up or
Speaker 1: I get an opportunity to do something, I know immediately
Speaker 1: if it's worth going to the trouble to get there
Speaker 1: with Sonny, or or to go into the trouble to
Speaker 1: get a babysitter to go, or if it's just not
Speaker 1: going to happen for me right now. And so it's
Speaker 1: definitely allowed me to filter and prioritize what really matters.
Speaker 1: And at the end of the day, nothing matters more
Speaker 1: than her. It does matter to me to keep my
Speaker 1: self going, to keep my career growing going and growing,
Speaker 1: and to keep my life going and my friendships going on,
Speaker 1: my marriage going like that all matters to me. So
Speaker 1: there is balance. But um, I would say my relationships
Speaker 1: have changed just I just don't have all this time
Speaker 1: to just be anywhere any time doing anything. I'm just
Speaker 1: not on my own schedule anymore. I'm on Sunday schedule,
Speaker 1: and so um it has to be a major hell
Speaker 1: yes for me to leave her, and so that's how
Speaker 1: it's all changed. But as far as like romance and stuff,
Speaker 1: Michael and I still have romance and we still love
Speaker 1: each other. I think when you're young and your twenties
Speaker 1: and you're working and you don't have any other responsibility,
Speaker 1: and it's a lot easier to have romance all the time.
Speaker 1: But we prioritize each other and so you just prioritize
Speaker 1: it and you don't forget that you love each other
Speaker 1: and you know, make time for each other. It's not like,
Speaker 1: you know, you're not like just rolling around the bed
Speaker 1: twenty four hours a day maybe like you did in
Speaker 1: your early twenties or when you first were meeting without kids.
Speaker 1: But it's still there and it's deeper, and I feel
Speaker 1: grateful for it because we're just we have a big focus,
Speaker 1: like we have big goals and we have a family,
Speaker 1: and it's like awesome to be in this family unit
Speaker 1: with someone and to be on somebody's team and we
Speaker 1: both I really have passion and a big purpose together
Speaker 1: and it's awesome. So I would say it's hard, but
Speaker 1: heart isn't bad. Heart is good, Like nothing worth doing
Speaker 1: is easy, and so it's hard, but like it's good hard.
Speaker 1: Everything I'm doing I want to do. And I said
Speaker 1: that to myself the other day. Like, I'm busier than
Speaker 1: I've ever been, and I'm more tired than i've ever
Speaker 1: been in My days are so jam packed, more than
Speaker 1: they've ever been. But everything I'm doing I love to do.
Speaker 1: I love getting to wake up and take care of Sunny.
Speaker 1: I love getting to wake up and do my podcast
Speaker 1: and work on brand deals that I love and like
Speaker 1: partner with different companies that I love, and collaborate with
Speaker 1: people that I love. I love getting to dream with
Speaker 1: Michael and be a part of his career, and I
Speaker 1: love watching him work so hard to cheat his school.
Speaker 1: So I love what we're doing. I love my family.
Speaker 1: I love my friends. I love making time for them. Um,
Speaker 1: I love. I love my life. It's I'm tired more
Speaker 1: than I've ever been, but I love it and everything
Speaker 1: I'm doing has meaning to me, and that feels really,
Speaker 1: really good. What advice would you tell your twenty year
Speaker 1: old self? Be free, live it up, and do exactly
Speaker 1: what you did. Like, I love how my twenty year
Speaker 1: old self did it. I would tell her to drop
Speaker 1: the anxiety, but I would tell myself that now at
Speaker 1: thirty six, like, try not to have anxiety because anxiety
Speaker 1: it doesn't give you anywhere, and worrying is a waste
Speaker 1: of time and what you worry about most likely will
Speaker 1: never happen. And there's so many things that can happen.
Speaker 1: Nobody's exempt from stuff happening. There's so much fear in
Speaker 1: the world, but also there's so much love and joy
Speaker 1: in the world, and so we can't control what's gonna happen.
Speaker 1: Like I and that's what happened to me with Sonny
Speaker 1: in the beginning, her first three months of life, Like
Speaker 1: I was so and I still have anxiety, but I
Speaker 1: was so anxious about everything, so worried about everything that
Speaker 1: could happen to her, like anything that could go wrong. Finally,
Speaker 1: I'm like, I just can't live like that. There's so
Speaker 1: many things that could go right, too, And if something
Speaker 1: is going to happen to any of us, it's going
Speaker 1: to probably happen, whether we're worried about it or not.
Speaker 1: And so why not enjoy the people in your life,
Speaker 1: Like I want to wake up every day and enjoy
Speaker 1: Sonny without a not in my stomach because I'm fearful
Speaker 1: of what can happen in the world. I want to
Speaker 1: wake up every day and have peace in my stomach
Speaker 1: and be like, I'm gonna love the ship out of
Speaker 1: this child today because she is such a blessing to me.
Speaker 1: I love her little smile, her little laugh. I love
Speaker 1: watching her try to do new things, like today she's
Speaker 1: trying to learn how to crawl. I don't want to
Speaker 1: sit around and live with fear. I want to be
Speaker 1: in that moment and whatever comes our way, I will
Speaker 1: lean on God and deal with it then. But I
Speaker 1: am not going to sit around and doomsday myself and
Speaker 1: miss my beautiful blessings in my life that I prayed
Speaker 1: so much for, and then I am so grateful to
Speaker 1: have because I'm sitting around worry about all this awful
Speaker 1: ship circulating in the world. I'm gonna deal with what
Speaker 1: I need to deal with when I need to deal
Speaker 1: with it, and until then, I'm not gonna I'm really
Speaker 1: try hard not to have anxiety. And that's what I
Speaker 1: have told my younger self. I would have said, you're
Speaker 1: doing it you because I went for if. I still
Speaker 1: do like, I'm not scared to jump, I'm not scared
Speaker 1: to take a risk. I'm not scared to go all in.
Speaker 1: I'm not scared to fall flat on my face. I'm
Speaker 1: not scared to pick myself up. I'm always always good
Speaker 1: at following my heart. And when I get those nudges
Speaker 1: and that instinct and those big pushes inside of me
Speaker 1: that I feel like I gotta go somewhere and make
Speaker 1: a move and do it, and like this is the
Speaker 1: right direction. Even if I have no idea what I'm doing,
Speaker 1: I will go for it. I always have, I always will,
Speaker 1: And I did that a lot of my twenties, and
Speaker 1: it was so great to end up doing the amazing race.
Speaker 1: A couple of times. I've been in a couple of
Speaker 1: record deals. I've gotten to travel the world, meet awesome people,
Speaker 1: get amazing experiences, and learn so much, had awesome jobs,
Speaker 1: and I just kind of learn so much and experience
Speaker 1: so much because I was never scared to take a risk.
Speaker 1: But I would say, what would I tell my twenty
Speaker 1: year OLDSLF go for it. When you get opportunities, take them,
Speaker 1: take them now ever, abandoned the responsibilities that you have
Speaker 1: in your life. If you are a young mom, or
Speaker 1: if you are in a relationship, you know, like a
Speaker 1: marriage or something, and if it's not abusive, like, never
Speaker 1: abandon your responsibilities if you have, if you have big responsibilities,
Speaker 1: to take care of those responsibilities. But also when you
Speaker 1: get it an opportunity that works with your responsibilities, take
Speaker 1: those opportunities. And if you don't have any responsibilities, fly
Speaker 1: a little bird, Fly fly fly. You have the rest
Speaker 1: of your life to be tied up in a job
Speaker 1: and be in a relationship and all that stuff is wonderful.
Speaker 1: But be free as long long as you feel like
Speaker 1: you want to be free if you can, because it's
Speaker 1: a beautiful thing to have that kind of freedom. A
Speaker 1: lot of people don't get the chance to be that free.
Speaker 1: A lot of people people don't get the chance to
Speaker 1: follow their heart. I mean every I pray that everyone
Speaker 1: does get a chance to follow hard That's not what
Speaker 1: I mean. Everyone can follow their heart. But if you
Speaker 1: have a chance to be just wide open and free,
Speaker 1: be safe, be smart, but be adventurous, and go for
Speaker 1: it because this is there one life, and we never
Speaker 1: know how long we get, so go for it at
Speaker 1: any phase of your life. I would continue on with
Speaker 1: this conversation by saying, wherever you are in your life,
Speaker 1: go for it, like you hear all these stories of
Speaker 1: people who are in all different types of situations and
Speaker 1: they make their dreams come true and they take a
Speaker 1: jump and they go for it. But like, live your
Speaker 1: life in a way that you feel excited to wake
Speaker 1: up every day and figure out how to do that.
Speaker 1: Like wherever you are, figure out how you can be
Speaker 1: excited to wake up every day. What makes you excited?
Speaker 1: My dad always says, you need to have something you're
Speaker 1: looking forward to at all times, whether that is just
Speaker 1: coming home and making a chocolate Danish because you love
Speaker 1: to cook and taking a bubble bath or whatever, or
Speaker 1: if it's taken along, we can get away and going
Speaker 1: camping and a park. I don't know, something that excites
Speaker 1: you that makes you feel excited and eager to be alive.
Speaker 1: Find something that you look forward to and find a
Speaker 1: reason to wake up every day that makes you excited. Um,
Speaker 1: because that's this is our life. This is it, y'all
Speaker 1: were in it. You don't just want to get through it.
Speaker 1: You want to thrive and you want to be happy,
Speaker 1: and you want to enjoy it however you can, and
Speaker 1: there is a way to enjoy it at any circumstances,
Speaker 1: at any situation You're in there's something to have hope
Speaker 1: for and enjoy and find it. Find it, find your
Speaker 1: motivation to be alive every day. Um. Post part of anxiety, yep,
Speaker 1: I have had that terribly. I've had a really bad
Speaker 1: post part of anxiety. The first like three to four
Speaker 1: months were really intense for me. I was weeping all
Speaker 1: the time, not to my stomach, constantly, fear um of
Speaker 1: what could go wrong. Overwhelming is of love that was
Speaker 1: so overwhelming it hurt me like like literally maybe physically
Speaker 1: feel ill and hurt, painful, like inside of me, like
Speaker 1: feeling pain. Um. And I think that I'm just dealing
Speaker 1: with it in the way that I try to deal
Speaker 1: with everything and just hey, I let myself feel stuff
Speaker 1: because I think you've got to feel it, and I
Speaker 1: think you can't suppress stuff. So I let myself feel
Speaker 1: all my deep feelings. I let myself cry and UM.
Speaker 1: I talked to Laura hut List. She was on one
Speaker 1: of my podcasts, and she's done a lot of work
Speaker 1: on grief and crying. Tears are a way to get
Speaker 1: that grief that's locked up, grief and pain out of
Speaker 1: your body. So I think if you can cry, cry
Speaker 1: and sob and beat a pillow and let it out
Speaker 1: and feel it all the way to the very bottom.
Speaker 1: And I do that. I'm really good at feeling stuff
Speaker 1: all the way to the bottom. And then once I've
Speaker 1: done that a few times and I'm I get I
Speaker 1: get tired of being at the b them, Like I
Speaker 1: get tired of that overwhelming feeling of it just sadness
Speaker 1: and like overwhelmingness, and it's like, Okay, I gotta make
Speaker 1: a move. I can't stay here anymore. I've let myself
Speaker 1: feel it, So what are we gonna do now? And
Speaker 1: I just let myself take the next baby step and
Speaker 1: then the next baby step and then the next baby steps.
Speaker 1: The same thing I'm doing with like working out and
Speaker 1: eating well and getting back in shape. It's like, I'm
Speaker 1: not trying to get to Cindy Crawford's supermol supermodel status
Speaker 1: today or ever. But what I am trying to do
Speaker 1: is take baby steps every day to just move towards
Speaker 1: the light, move towards improvement, move towards feeling good, move
Speaker 1: towards happiness, move towards peace, and move away from anxiety
Speaker 1: and move away from shame or like I have not
Speaker 1: shamed my body this whole pregnancy. Like I have had
Speaker 1: so much grace with the body, even though like it
Speaker 1: has been crazy to look at the changes, I always
Speaker 1: knew what a miracle, So like, I haven't had shame
Speaker 1: with any of that. But with my anxiety, I've had
Speaker 1: so much anxiety, but I just baby step it. So
Speaker 1: it's like, Okay, for a while, I couldn't get out
Speaker 1: of it. It was very overwhelming and I had to
Speaker 1: feel it all the way to the bottom. Then I
Speaker 1: got to a point where I was done with feeling
Speaker 1: it on that heavy of a level. And so it's like, okay,
Speaker 1: let me let me work in some walks and some
Speaker 1: exercise just to like, like, let me go for a
Speaker 1: walk to try to just move some of this energy
Speaker 1: out to breathe are to keep going. Let me listen
Speaker 1: to some podcasts that are encouraging. Let me talk to
Speaker 1: some friends who can give me some good advice. Let
Speaker 1: me realize that there's so much anxiety about that I
Speaker 1: can't it's almost not worth having anxiety because I can't
Speaker 1: have enough anxiety to eliminate all the anxiety that exists
Speaker 1: out there for things that can happen. So it's like
Speaker 1: I might as well give it up to God, if
Speaker 1: that makes any sense. So that's how I've been working
Speaker 1: on that. Um finances of having a baby. I mean,
Speaker 1: you know, babies are there and stuff because you gotta
Speaker 1: get all that stuff, but you can also get there's
Speaker 1: a lot of stuff, but then there's also just like
Speaker 1: bare necessities that you need, like you need a crib
Speaker 1: of some sort. Um. There's a lot of bottles and
Speaker 1: all sorts of supplies. But then I mean they are expensive,
Speaker 1: but it's like you can people have babies on all
Speaker 1: different types of budgets all the time. I think you
Speaker 1: just have to get intentional with your budgeting and like not,
Speaker 1: you know, you just can't. You just have to really
Speaker 1: be aware of where you're spending and what really matters.
Speaker 1: And it all just goes back to being intentional and
Speaker 1: like getting what you need and not anything extra. Don't
Speaker 1: go shopping. If you need money is tight, then don't
Speaker 1: spend it on stuff that you don't need. It's only
Speaker 1: spend it on stuff you need. And like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: just I think intentional living comes full for us. So
Speaker 1: the baby and everything you do, including finances, it's like no,
Speaker 1: no longer am I going to just I don't know,
Speaker 1: like I saw anybody else done, because I don't want
Speaker 1: to spend seventy dollars every two just three weeks to
Speaker 1: get my nails done. It's not a priority to me.
Speaker 1: I'd rather put that money somewhere else. So it's just
Speaker 1: like figuring out where you can cut costs. You know
Speaker 1: that you don't really need. Um. I kind of talked
Speaker 1: about romance e for baby and now Michael and I
Speaker 1: we're so sexy. Were getting bed and we put our
Speaker 1: mouthguards in and our socks and I sometimes I'll sleep
Speaker 1: in like my whole outfit the head on that day,
Speaker 1: like sweatpants and sweatshirt, and I'm like, oh my god, Okay,
Speaker 1: I gotta get I gotta get back to cute pajamas.
Speaker 1: And but you know what, it's great because I mean,
Speaker 1: I think we're in this scene together. We're a team,
Speaker 1: and that is really sexy. If you ask me to
Speaker 1: have a partner who I was looking that this sounds creepy.
Speaker 1: I was watching Michael breathe last night because I was
Speaker 1: wide awake at like three in the morning. I couldn't
Speaker 1: my mind was racing. Of course I need to go
Speaker 1: to sleep. I'm so tired. But when I finally getting
Speaker 1: I can't go to sleep. My mind's racing. And I
Speaker 1: was watching him breathe, and I was like, man, this
Speaker 1: man shows up for me every day, Like he lays
Speaker 1: next to me in bed every day, He comes home
Speaker 1: to me every day, He loves on sunny every day,
Speaker 1: He loves on me every day. He chooses me every day.
Speaker 1: Like I was like, here he is sleeping next to me.
Speaker 1: How many nights have we slept next together? And people
Speaker 1: take that for granted, but I'm like, here's the one
Speaker 1: who loves me, And it's like picking me every day,
Speaker 1: and I'm picking him every day. And that is really
Speaker 1: like big. That is romantic, That is sexy, That is love,
Speaker 1: That is like commitment, and that it feels so good
Speaker 1: to have a partner who wants to be here and
Speaker 1: wants to show up and be in this and build
Speaker 1: a life with me. Like that, to me is so antic.
Speaker 1: And I'm so thankful for Michael that he is that
Speaker 1: kind of guy. And I'm I don't take it for granted.
Speaker 1: I mean, sometimes we get on each other's nerves, no doubt,
Speaker 1: but I don't take it for granted that he picks
Speaker 1: me every day and I don't know something about the
Speaker 1: fact last night that he and just clicked in my head,
Speaker 1: like he sleeps in bed next to me every day,
Speaker 1: like he that's where he comes home to, Like this
Speaker 1: is his home like me, I'm his home and he's mine.
Speaker 1: And we've just decided to choose each other. And that's
Speaker 1: really a big decision and it's a choice you make
Speaker 1: every single day. And we've been making that for ever,
Speaker 1: like we've been i mean married almost six years now.
Speaker 1: It's awesome. It's so cool and just remembering to be
Speaker 1: grateful for those kind of things, like you don't have
Speaker 1: to throw each otherverything. It's a wall every day and
Speaker 1: that's fun. Yeah, so we had that in our life
Speaker 1: of course, so what other waves of it, Yes, but
Speaker 1: like we have like okay, a deep bond and I
Speaker 1: don't know, I just think that that's really really cool
Speaker 1: and really beautiful and really special. Like I'm so thankful. Um,
Speaker 1: someone's so nice to me, how amazing you are and
Speaker 1: how you're killing the mom game. Oh that's that's my
Speaker 1: best friend, Katie. Katie, aren't you nice to me? Hey,
Speaker 1: Katie Araby, you're killing the mom game. You know what
Speaker 1: we're all killing the mom game. We're trying as hard
Speaker 1: as we can and we're doing the best we can,
Speaker 1: and we're making it work, and we're evolving as we go.
Speaker 1: That's all we can do. And give ourselves grace and
Speaker 1: love and just try to be the best you can
Speaker 1: every single day, and choose, choose, take moments of pause,
Speaker 1: Like if you feel stressed or frustrated, let yourself feel
Speaker 1: what you need to feel, but like take a minute
Speaker 1: before reacting and trying to respond, and love always to
Speaker 1: yourself as well. That would someone said, working on mom
Speaker 1: guilt and self care. Um, I think for self care.
Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna wrap up on this one, you guys,
Speaker 1: because um, I'm tired. I'm gonna get bed. It's moments
Speaker 1: start with self care. Okay, this would be my self care.
Speaker 1: Like I am gonna go get in bed. I gotta
Speaker 1: pump um and then Michael and I are gonna watch
Speaker 1: a little Netflix and go to bed. Even just like
Speaker 1: I took a bath tonight when sunny want to sleep.
Speaker 1: I took a bath like twenty minutes and I just
Speaker 1: like let myself relax. I think if you can just
Speaker 1: find a tiny little moment to give yourself care, self
Speaker 1: self care and something that I want to encourage you guys.
Speaker 1: I interviewed Mary Mary Lawlessly today. Her podcast is coming
Speaker 1: out Monday. It's so good. She is a big time
Speaker 1: fashion blogger. Her blog is called Happily Gray, and she
Speaker 1: was talking about how she and her husband just put
Speaker 1: on praise music in the morning when they're getting ready
Speaker 1: um for work, and listen to it together and how
Speaker 1: that's just set the tone for her day. So, even
Speaker 1: if you don't have a whole lot of time for
Speaker 1: self care, like to do something that takes time. If
Speaker 1: you're in a commute or you're driving, put on praise music,
Speaker 1: put on an inspirational podcast, put on a book on
Speaker 1: tape that lifts you up. Do something in tandem with
Speaker 1: something else. So like if you have to commute to
Speaker 1: get somewhere, put on something that you can hear that
Speaker 1: goes all over your body, that changes your mood, that
Speaker 1: calms you down, that makes you think about something bigger
Speaker 1: than yourself, that higher power, your bigger purpose. Um. So,
Speaker 1: whether it's like listening like I said, listening to book
Speaker 1: on type of podcast, praise music when you're driving to
Speaker 1: work or on your lunch break or I don't know
Speaker 1: any anywhere, Just like when you're getting ready for work,
Speaker 1: making an intentional choice to stop the noise of the
Speaker 1: day that's gonna just keep rolling and rolling and rolling,
Speaker 1: and you're gonna get lost in that, like a train
Speaker 1: on a track, like you're just gonna get rolled over.
Speaker 1: But instead, put some intentional breaks in your day where
Speaker 1: you're putting something else in your mind that reminds you
Speaker 1: to connect with yourself and love yourself, and then in
Speaker 1: turn that will allow you to love others and be
Speaker 1: a better person and be kinder person, because we're all
Speaker 1: really good people in our hearts. Just the way it is,
Speaker 1: we all started off really pure and innocent, and we're
Speaker 1: all really good people when we're trying the best we can,
Speaker 1: and we just gotta remember to give ourselves a break
Speaker 1: and then to give others a break too. I love y'all.
Speaker 1: Good night,