WEBVTT - The Body Doubling 0:00:00.680 --> 0:00:04.960 From Hollywood. See you, thank you for listening to us 0:00:06.440 --> 0:00:15.160 with Ryan Seacrest. Good morning. Today is National Buttered Corn Day. 0:00:15.520 --> 0:00:17.360 I see that's one that I don't know. Do you 0:00:17.400 --> 0:00:20.960 need that day? Do you need a day for buttered 0:00:22.160 --> 0:00:24.000 I mean, look, no disrespect to the butter makers in 0:00:24.040 --> 0:00:29.560 the corn growers, but a day this summer you should have. 0:00:29.640 --> 0:00:31.840 We so we have these uh you buys when you 0:00:31.840 --> 0:00:35.760 barbecue corn. We have these things you stick in the 0:00:36.520 --> 0:00:39.599 like like a rolling pin in your mouth. Just roll 0:00:39.680 --> 0:00:41.519 through those and I like my corn chart a little bit. 0:00:41.640 --> 0:00:46.680 Oh me too, the best. Today, August twenty three is 0:00:46.680 --> 0:00:52.280 the first day of school for el Unified from by 0:00:52.360 --> 0:00:55.560 Fast also got a second date update this morning. We'll 0:00:55.600 --> 0:00:57.960 tell you about that. That's gonna happen at seven twenty 0:00:58.320 --> 0:01:01.680 Damnie Levado tickets post loan tickets every hour. It is 0:01:01.680 --> 0:01:04.360 a Tuesday, which is the one of the more difficult 0:01:04.400 --> 0:01:06.080 days to get through. We'll try and make it good 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:08.480 well and towards the end of August here and Tony, 0:01:08.560 --> 0:01:09.959 you have a trending report coming up. What do you 0:01:09.959 --> 0:01:11.880 got well? Since it's the start of a new school 0:01:11.920 --> 0:01:14.880 year for some people, so why not get a little 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:35.520 advice from we s Witherspoon herself from West Come Here, 0:01:36.360 --> 0:01:49.960 Come here next on air with Ryan Seacret, I don't know. 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:52.800 I love endorphin released a couple of minutes ago. There 0:01:53.560 --> 0:02:01.560 Tuesday need that. Well, we do have one. Are you 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:07.640 convinced that you thought? You said? Reese Witherspoon said, we said, 0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:13.239 it's so clear, But like what, because it's hard to 0:02:13.240 --> 0:02:16.240 say times if you're if you're thinking fast. Often this 0:02:16.280 --> 0:02:18.240 happens to me where my brain is on what I'm 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:20.800 gonna say, and you know, you know her name, so 0:02:20.800 --> 0:02:22.320 you kind of focus on her name, you focus on 0:02:22.360 --> 0:02:30.600 what you're about to say. Yeah, you skip, skip, she said, haven't, 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:37.840 I said with Georgia comely. Concerning we Witherspoon is in 0:02:37.880 --> 0:02:42.760 the trend, Reeson Witherspoon is image reboard hard to say 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:49.520 if you're not paying attention yourself, I R Witherspoon, Well 0:02:49.560 --> 0:02:51.880 what about her? I don't even know what we're talking about? Okay, 0:02:52.000 --> 0:02:55.040 So you mentioned earlier we're entering into a new school year, 0:02:55.080 --> 0:02:57.400 so people are starting a new grade or a new 0:02:57.480 --> 0:03:02.640 chapter specifically today shout out to elsa unified. Yes, so um, 0:03:02.680 --> 0:03:04.880 if you are doing that, I found something that I 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:07.600 think we all could think about going into this next chapter, 0:03:08.160 --> 0:03:11.960 and it was from Reese witherspoon Um and kind of 0:03:12.000 --> 0:03:13.840 something that she's learned over the years. She said, the 0:03:13.919 --> 0:03:16.839 sooner you figure out that other people's opinions of you 0:03:16.960 --> 0:03:20.640 are never your business, and it literally doesn't matter what 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:24.880 they think of you, you become free, totally free. And 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:27.079 I'm like, this goes into so many areas of life. 0:03:27.080 --> 0:03:29.400 And I actually was thinking about you, Ryan, because you 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:31.480 always say you don't post stuff on Instagram because you 0:03:31.520 --> 0:03:34.120 don't want to read the comments. So you're constantly worried 0:03:34.160 --> 0:03:41.040 about other people's opinions. No, keep postment. Yeah, I postings 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:43.480 all the time. I just do not read the comments 0:03:43.520 --> 0:03:46.600 intentionally because I don't need that anxiety. Okay, So, but 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:51.600 I need him in halls accuracy post more than like 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:53.320 the most out of the three best. Well, guess what 0:03:53.400 --> 0:03:57.680 I have a meeting? Yeah no, no, no, You're gonna 0:03:57.680 --> 0:04:02.240 start seeing some real content, to see some coffee content 0:04:02.520 --> 0:04:05.440 and some food content. Dave and I have a meeting 0:04:05.720 --> 0:04:10.800 a social media content. But okay, So what I'm saying is, okay, 0:04:11.000 --> 0:04:14.280 take Ryan out of it. This anxiety plagues a lot 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:16.400 of people. They don't want to post uff. You have 0:04:16.480 --> 0:04:18.280 to take me out of it. I do have what 0:04:18.320 --> 0:04:21.240 you were saying, keep that because you think about what 0:04:21.279 --> 0:04:23.800 other people are going to think about your photo or 0:04:23.839 --> 0:04:26.240 your caption or what what you're doing, and people are 0:04:26.279 --> 0:04:29.320 You're over analyzing what other people think. And it's like 0:04:29.360 --> 0:04:33.080 if you took that chip out and just lived free, 0:04:33.160 --> 0:04:36.120 could you imagine just being fully free? Yeah, we all 0:04:36.160 --> 0:04:40.159 lived it before social media. No easier. We lived it easier. 0:04:40.160 --> 0:04:42.520 But you know, in the Four Agreements, that simple book 0:04:42.520 --> 0:04:45.600 that I love so much, he talks about that. Yeah, 0:04:46.720 --> 0:04:50.880 you have it with you have it with me reading it. 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:54.200 Read the section, grab it, no, grab the section about 0:04:54.200 --> 0:04:58.120 this what it's like, let's just let's live free. Uh, 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:00.760 it's the third or it's second. No, no no, go to 0:05:00.800 --> 0:05:02.840 the table of contents and it should just give you 0:05:03.080 --> 0:05:07.680 like the inn order. Mm hmmmm. But yes, you're right, 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:11.560 and those are very strong, powerful and accurate words. As 0:05:11.560 --> 0:05:14.039 sooner you figure out that other people's opinions of you 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:18.200 are never your business. It doesn't matter what they think, 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:20.440 and true what they think is kind of on them, 0:05:20.480 --> 0:05:23.800 Like why why does it influence us? It's on them, 0:05:23.839 --> 0:05:27.360 it's their thought, it's their anxiety. It's their judgments, their opinion. 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:30.240 It shouldn't really you can't control it either, Yes, you 0:05:30.279 --> 0:05:32.680 really can't. And like everybody's gonna have an opinion about something. 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:34.760 It's like, oh, you're posting too much about your boyfriend. 0:05:34.760 --> 0:05:36.440 Oh you're posting to little Why aren't you posting his space? 0:05:36.440 --> 0:05:39.200 It's like over social media and you don't care what 0:05:39.279 --> 0:05:41.520 people think. No, I still do. Sometimes I'm like, no, 0:05:41.560 --> 0:05:43.160 maybe I shouldn't. It's too much, it's too many, and 0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:45.000 I'm like, no, I'm having such a good time. Go. 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:47.320 And as a parent, you think about this all the time. 0:05:47.360 --> 0:05:49.680 Anytime I post stuff with the kids, I'm always thinking 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:51.719 I'm gonna get mom shamed for whatever, Like the car 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:54.440 seat strap isn't high enough on their armpits on their chest, 0:05:54.480 --> 0:05:56.280 like whatever. It is like there's people that just come 0:05:56.279 --> 0:05:58.760 out of the woodworks and just grind it out with you, 0:05:59.440 --> 0:06:02.160 is it? It don't take anything personally? Is it that? 0:06:02.720 --> 0:06:05.600 So just summarize or whatever happens around you, don't take 0:06:05.640 --> 0:06:08.760 it personally. Using an earlier example, if I see you 0:06:08.839 --> 0:06:11.600 on the street, I say, hey, you are so stupid 0:06:11.680 --> 0:06:14.159 without knowing you. It's not about you, it's about me. 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:17.120 If you take it personally, then perhaps you believe that 0:06:17.160 --> 0:06:19.839 you are stupid. Maybe you think it to yourself. How 0:06:19.880 --> 0:06:24.160 does he know? And so it goes on basically time story, 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:30.080 Where's the Big Bad Wolf? I gotta tell you if 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:32.440 you this is such a well known book, and if 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:36.800 you've never picked it up, read it, get any book ordered. 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:40.240 It is by Don Miguel Ruiz and it is called 0:06:40.240 --> 0:06:45.000 The Four Grams. It's amazing great. Um, Jeremy is on 0:06:45.040 --> 0:06:46.920 the line for a second day up. They put on 0:06:46.960 --> 0:06:53.400 your thinking caps here. If you have been out with 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:56.479 someone and you just thought, wow, this is called great 0:06:56.880 --> 0:07:02.400 and then you hit a wall because it stops and 0:07:02.440 --> 0:07:04.240 you can't figure out why. It's kind of why we 0:07:04.279 --> 0:07:07.240 created this moment here called second date Update. But Jeremy's 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:10.520 in North Hollywood. So they went out a few weeks ago. Um, 0:07:10.560 --> 0:07:13.040 she was with her friends, he was with his. I 0:07:13.080 --> 0:07:17.040 guess they connected by making eyes. I never made eyes 0:07:17.720 --> 0:07:21.520 and connected that way. I just feel uncomfortable. But Jeremy, 0:07:21.560 --> 0:07:25.840 you did that. Yeah, you know, we just kind of 0:07:25.840 --> 0:07:28.400 met eyes and it was like instant attraction. You know, 0:07:30.080 --> 0:07:33.160 don't y'all look every time anybody were to look at me, 0:07:33.200 --> 0:07:38.080 I look away always. You know, sometimes it could be intimidating, 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:41.440 but like if you really have that kind of connection 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:43.920 with somebody, which is why I'm calling, because like I 0:07:43.960 --> 0:07:46.040 felt like it was such a I've never had something 0:07:46.120 --> 0:07:49.320 quite like that before. She wa instant connection. Did you 0:07:49.360 --> 0:07:51.120 I'm reading your email. Did you make out with her 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:53.680 there when you met her? Yeah, right in front of 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:58.240 her building on the first meeting. Yeah, I'm telling you. 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:02.520 It was lightning. Okay, that's fast. And then what happened 0:08:02.600 --> 0:08:07.640 in your mind from there, well, everything went great. I'mlike 0:08:07.640 --> 0:08:10.080 completely at a loss. We started m ng, it was 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:14.200 getting really flirty, it was really awesome. Like, I don't know, 0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:16.880 I'm kind of like just at a loss of what happened. 0:08:19.040 --> 0:08:21.640 I mean, there has to be she's dating somebody else 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:25.960 and she just no, no, no, no, no no, she's never 0:08:26.320 --> 0:08:29.560 I just this is just me hypothesizing because you weren't there. Yeah. 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:31.600 I don't know them, um, but she probably is not 0:08:31.680 --> 0:08:37.160 exclusive with a couple of people and pulling her a 0:08:37.160 --> 0:08:40.320 little bit further along. Yeah. You know, I don't want 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:42.839 to believe that, but I can't deny that. That's crossed 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:44.520 my mind. All right, What you have to hold on 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:45.840 one second. Let's see what we can find it. We're 0:08:45.840 --> 0:08:48.520 gonna get her on the line, so we're in a 0:08:48.520 --> 0:08:51.959 second date. Update, Jeremy, hooked up, made out, whatever you 0:08:51.960 --> 0:08:55.800 wanna call it. Hooked up is making out? Looked up? 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:59.840 Could be yea, you say we hooked up outside her, 0:08:59.840 --> 0:09:02.640 aren't I hope that we all assume it was a kiss. 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:09.280 It's like it's like a square and a rectangle, right, 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:15.200 I don't know what the other, but it can be. Oh, 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:22.120 they're both, they're both shapes. No, I think what is it? 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:24.000 My rectangle can be a square, but square can be 0:09:24.040 --> 0:09:28.959 a rectangle. I believe that's correct us that knowledge in 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:32.800 a long time. But you see, there's an umbrella theme. 0:09:32.960 --> 0:09:35.440 So hooking up could be many many many things would 0:09:35.480 --> 0:09:39.439 be as as many bases basis the shapes. But yeah, 0:09:39.440 --> 0:09:42.760 I lost myself. Actually, uh, fifth graders could call me 0:09:42.840 --> 0:09:45.760 and correct me right now. Anyway, So we've got to 0:09:45.840 --> 0:09:47.600 live you on the line. Let me get to Jeremy 0:09:47.640 --> 0:09:49.960 to tell him. Jeremy, we have Olivia that you met 0:09:50.600 --> 0:09:52.840 that you guys connected with. You said it was lightning. 0:09:52.840 --> 0:09:54.720 You made out at noh day and then she blew 0:09:54.760 --> 0:09:56.360 you off. You were dem in for a while and it 0:09:56.320 --> 0:09:59.080 it was going great. But now she's totally stopped. Tanya 0:09:59.160 --> 0:10:02.880 thinks because she's got another dude or two. So hold 0:10:02.920 --> 0:10:05.720 for a second. We have the key. Jeremy here is 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:09.120 no matter what you feel, are here. Try to be 0:10:09.200 --> 0:10:12.760 very quiet until we bring you in. Okay, okay, sounds good. 0:10:12.840 --> 0:10:15.319 Here we go, Jeremy. I'm gonna bring her und Olivia. 0:10:15.440 --> 0:10:20.720 How are you? I'm all right? How are you? Thank 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:22.400 you for agreeing to come on? Let me just jump 0:10:22.480 --> 0:10:26.320 into it. We're calling you about a guy that you 0:10:26.440 --> 0:10:31.080 met named Jeremy in North Hollywood. Apparently you guys connected 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:35.800 while you're out. Yeah, I totally remember him. I was 0:10:36.160 --> 0:10:39.800 really into him. So you say, was what happened? Why 0:10:39.840 --> 0:10:43.960 were you into him? Um? I mean we just had 0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:47.400 like a connection right away. I really put myself out there, 0:10:47.440 --> 0:10:52.559 but he was he was not as into me. Um, 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:55.560 So how do you determine that? Like what made you 0:10:55.640 --> 0:10:59.640 feel he's just not that into you? I mean I 0:10:59.760 --> 0:11:01.640 just I got the feeling I was like one one 0:11:01.679 --> 0:11:06.640 of many girls and like a long line, Um, it 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:13.800 was I kind of put myself out there and was yeah, 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:17.839 and it was not. I don't Yeah, did you guys 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:23.720 connect afterwards in any way or what's happened since? Um? Yeah, 0:11:23.800 --> 0:11:28.760 we exchanged a lot of messages back and forth. Um, 0:11:28.960 --> 0:11:32.680 and then I put myself out there and she kind 0:11:32.679 --> 0:11:35.079 of it was I don't know it was did he 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:39.600 hold on? Did he put you up to this? Well? 0:11:39.600 --> 0:11:41.880 I can't say it's just random that I'm calling you 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:47.000 with all this information. Yeah, I mean, like, Olivia, I 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:50.600 just want to say that I'm beginning to feel very happy, 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:53.520 and it's because I do have Jeremy on the line. 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:55.280 And I'm just going to tell you right now that 0:11:55.360 --> 0:11:59.440 Jeremy feels all this way about you. I mean, this 0:11:59.559 --> 0:12:02.040 is the thing about dating and not being able to 0:12:02.040 --> 0:12:05.520 talk because it's also new. He's into you, you're into him, 0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:07.800 but both of you think the others not Jeremy and 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:12.400 absolutely Olivia, Like, I don't. I don't know what I 0:12:12.400 --> 0:12:15.679 did to make you feel that way, But I'm sorry, 0:12:15.760 --> 0:12:19.760 I'm not. I really like you a lot. Wait, Jeremy, 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:24.079 I'm sorry. Why would you reject me and humiliate me 0:12:24.200 --> 0:12:28.079 and then call a radio station to track me down? 0:12:28.520 --> 0:12:32.000 This does not make any sense. Oh my god, Like, 0:12:32.040 --> 0:12:34.760 I'm so confused. What what did I do? I mean, 0:12:35.040 --> 0:12:37.720 I wouldn't go through all the trouble, like, you know, 0:12:38.120 --> 0:12:40.240 how did he reject you? What do you mean happened? 0:12:41.000 --> 0:12:45.040 Come on, dude, Come on, like, come on, what happened? 0:12:45.040 --> 0:12:48.720 What happened? Jeremy? What don't we know? I'm not sure either. 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:56.960 I'm actually tell us you're gonna make me say it. Yeah, 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:58.960 I don't. I really, I don't know what's going on. 0:13:00.480 --> 0:13:07.839 I sent you a nude? What a nude? I think, dude? 0:13:07.960 --> 0:13:14.480 And you never responded, Oh my god, I didn't get Look, 0:13:14.520 --> 0:13:17.000 I would have remembered that I did not see it. 0:13:17.040 --> 0:13:20.640 I swear, yes, you did. You had to have seen it. 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:22.800 You you have to cap it to make it show up. 0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:26.120 And it's said that you'd read it. Oh no. The 0:13:26.200 --> 0:13:28.240 next day you were just like, how is your day going? 0:13:28.440 --> 0:13:33.040 Clearly you're getting them all the time. Oh my god. 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:35.520 Like I'm actually kind of like shocked. I mean, it 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:37.800 must have been some weird thing with the phone or 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:43.320 like my WiFi, I mean, my weird stuff. I wait, Olivia, 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:47.560 are you sure you sent it to the right Jeremy. No, 0:13:47.880 --> 0:13:54.360 I definitely sent it to Jeremy. I have approached approach history. 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:58.080 Jeremy sending her nude and let her respond and let's 0:13:58.080 --> 0:14:01.800 start from scratch. Answer. I mean, I don't hate it. 0:14:01.960 --> 0:14:07.560 I don't hate it, Jeremy, do fire up your ring light. 0:14:07.720 --> 0:14:12.400 Let's get you know, listening, getting new together, make a 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:15.520 new I mean you know that sounds good to me. 0:14:15.720 --> 0:14:19.000 I swear I would have remembered. And then I'm going 0:14:19.040 --> 0:14:22.880 to respond with how is your day? Yes, and then 0:14:24.800 --> 0:14:27.080 I will say it was excellent because I saw some 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:32.280 things I wanted to see and listen, Jeremy, Olivia, this 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:34.280 is why we do second date update, because you know 0:14:34.360 --> 0:14:37.360 sometimes it's difficult. Now you're gonna look back and laugh 0:14:37.400 --> 0:14:41.000 about this story once you're dating. Oh my god, I 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:44.240 can't believe. So you never saw you. Gotta check your history, 0:14:44.280 --> 0:14:48.480 make sure you I would not. I'm so sorry. I 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:51.080 would not have rejected you like that. Guy's enough with us. 0:14:51.080 --> 0:14:53.440 You've worked to do, Jeremy. Thank you very much, Olivia, 0:14:53.560 --> 0:15:04.320 and congratulations on air with Ryan Seacrest. So. Dr Anthony Fauci, 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:08.280 the nation's top infectious disease expert, announced yesterday he will 0:15:08.360 --> 0:15:11.720 leave the federal government in December after more than five 0:15:11.840 --> 0:15:14.800 decades of service. 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The series of upgrades are expected 0:15:51.880 --> 0:15:56.520 to be completed by late four The arena will remain 0:15:56.560 --> 0:15:59.240 open throughout the course of construction to ensure that we 0:15:59.240 --> 0:16:02.640 can all continue to enjoy it. In the meantime. Scott 0:16:02.720 --> 0:16:07.040 Dissi crashed his Lamborghini SUV and Calabasas over the weekend 0:16:07.120 --> 0:16:10.720 and suffered minor injuries. The primary cause of the traffic 0:16:10.760 --> 0:16:15.640 collision was reported at least speed and Disneyland Monorail is 0:16:15.800 --> 0:16:18.880 back in service for the first time since the start 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:22.600 of the pandemic. According to Disneyland's website, guests can ride 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:26.440 the monorail until eleven pm at night, and early entry 0:16:26.480 --> 0:16:30.840 starts as early as seven thirty in the morning. On 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:38.520 air with Ryan Seacrets, let's get to Isabel and Montebello. So, Isabel, 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:42.280 how are you? It's Ryan's Hisney and Tanya. Okay, I'm good. 0:16:42.280 --> 0:16:45.240 How are you guys? Good morning, We're doing well. Now 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:49.720 as this say, I need to understand which um advice 0:16:49.760 --> 0:16:56.760 cap we're wearing? Is this a wedding advice cap? Yeah? Okay, 0:16:57.600 --> 0:17:02.560 So what happened? So one of my best friends from 0:17:02.600 --> 0:17:07.200 college was supposed to get married last December and um 0:17:07.240 --> 0:17:10.800 so basically like a few weeks before the wedding date, 0:17:10.880 --> 0:17:13.040 we all got an email saying that it was off 0:17:13.560 --> 0:17:16.800 and that they broke up and so like I felt 0:17:16.880 --> 0:17:20.760 really bad for her, but like we haven't been that 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:23.919 close in the last few years, so I kind of 0:17:23.960 --> 0:17:29.359 like kept my distance. But anyways, I sent them a gift. Yeah, 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:32.080 actually I sent them a carbon steel fine pand it 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:35.359 was like ducks. So like, as far as I can tell, like, 0:17:36.200 --> 0:17:39.160 I think she kept the pans because like I definitely 0:17:39.160 --> 0:17:42.240 have not gotten them back, and I didn't want to 0:17:42.240 --> 0:17:46.240 say anything because like obviously, like that's super devastating, right, 0:17:46.960 --> 0:17:51.080 and um, I don't want to like even sensitive, but 0:17:51.160 --> 0:17:55.879 like it's been well, it's been six months, Like do 0:17:56.000 --> 0:17:58.280 I bring it up or do I just like kind 0:17:58.280 --> 0:18:01.119 of like take my eyes and you know for a 0:18:01.119 --> 0:18:03.040 fact it has not been returned on your credit card 0:18:03.080 --> 0:18:07.920 like you've seen for the last six months. You're sure, right, No, yeah, definitely, 0:18:08.280 --> 0:18:11.440 I would is about here's the way I gotta look 0:18:11.480 --> 0:18:16.960 at it for you. I think you went into the 0:18:17.000 --> 0:18:20.520 purchase knowing you were going to give it to the couple, 0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:22.440 but knowing you were not going to get it back 0:18:22.600 --> 0:18:24.840 or get a credit or get it for yourself. You 0:18:24.920 --> 0:18:29.480 knew you were gonna give it away, right, So I 0:18:29.520 --> 0:18:32.439 think you've got to keep that mindset because it sounds 0:18:32.440 --> 0:18:36.560 like your friends going through it and you had already 0:18:36.600 --> 0:18:38.960 decided in your mind that you were giving it as 0:18:39.040 --> 0:18:41.280 a gift. It didn't end up in the two hands 0:18:41.440 --> 0:18:44.119 four hands that you thought it would, but it is 0:18:44.160 --> 0:18:46.440 with your friend whose wedding gut called off at the 0:18:46.520 --> 0:18:50.080 last minute. I don't think you called to ask for 0:18:50.119 --> 0:18:53.800 a back, No, you don't do that. Plus you don't 0:18:53.800 --> 0:18:55.840 even know like how this was handled. Maybe she was 0:18:55.880 --> 0:18:57.840 so devastated she gave all the gifts to her parents 0:18:57.840 --> 0:18:59.240 and she's like, can you guys deal with it? And 0:18:59.240 --> 0:19:05.159 then they never did. You know, who knows the intent 0:19:05.320 --> 0:19:07.080 going in was you were going to give it away? 0:19:07.280 --> 0:19:10.879 It's away? What if opening the gifts made her like 0:19:10.960 --> 0:19:13.199 brought her so much joy in that moment? Know who 0:19:13.240 --> 0:19:15.320 opens the gifts and brings joy? If you called the 0:19:15.320 --> 0:19:18.359 wedding no, I probably would really, Oh my gosh, I'd 0:19:18.359 --> 0:19:20.439 be like devastated. Yeah, I would do anything to make 0:19:20.480 --> 0:19:25.200 me happy. That would make me sad. So it's about 0:19:25.240 --> 0:19:26.600 I don't know ifindly what you want to hear, but 0:19:26.640 --> 0:19:30.199 I think that's like probably the right thing to do. 0:19:30.720 --> 0:19:35.520 If you want to push it, then nuts on you. Yeah, 0:19:35.560 --> 0:19:38.520 I mean it's supposed to be for both of them, 0:19:38.560 --> 0:19:41.920 you know, and it's like like divorced, like who keeps 0:19:41.960 --> 0:19:46.880 the gifts? Like you know what I mean? Like it's 0:19:46.920 --> 0:19:51.840 a bad, uncomfortable, unfortunate situation for everybody involved, but worse 0:19:51.960 --> 0:19:58.000 I think for your friend. Yeah, yeah, all right, I guess, okay, 0:19:58.160 --> 0:20:00.280 you're paying it forward. Thank you? As about for call it? 0:20:03.440 --> 0:20:05.520 I mean you wonder what happened there at the last 0:20:05.520 --> 0:20:13.560 minute right show before we go on last hour, we 0:20:13.680 --> 0:20:18.040 did a great trending report on some stage guidance from 0:20:18.080 --> 0:20:20.400 I guess did you read that somewhere? Reese? Withersmith said 0:20:20.400 --> 0:20:24.360 that what was that guidance? It was standby, I don't 0:20:24.359 --> 0:20:28.040 want to misquote Reese. Why not get a little advice 0:20:28.119 --> 0:20:33.000 from Weese Witherspoon herself. She said she didn't say it, 0:20:33.119 --> 0:20:36.320 she did. I knew we heard it. What's happened to 0:20:36.320 --> 0:20:39.760 me so many times with different things where just like 0:20:40.840 --> 0:20:45.560 just the wrong continant comes out. Wow, it happens the 0:20:45.640 --> 0:20:48.199 sooner you figure out that other people's opinions of you 0:20:48.240 --> 0:20:51.199 are never your business, and it literally doesn't matter what 0:20:51.240 --> 0:20:54.639 they think of you. You become free. And I said, 0:20:54.960 --> 0:20:59.000 that's so true. It's hard to do. But Don Miguel 0:20:59.119 --> 0:21:02.159 Ruiz wrote about it in The Four Agreements, which is 0:21:02.200 --> 0:21:07.239 a great book to read and reread. And I know 0:21:07.359 --> 0:21:10.080 because I'm trying to reread it and I'm like, I 0:21:10.080 --> 0:21:11.639 don't know something. I had me put it in my 0:21:11.640 --> 0:21:13.960 purse this morning, like like I'm going to have time 0:21:14.000 --> 0:21:20.679 today that comes up on what is today? August? This 0:21:20.760 --> 0:21:26.399 comes up body doubling. Now I'm confused. With AI and 0:21:28.000 --> 0:21:32.080 way too intense. There has nothing to do with that intense. Okay, 0:21:32.240 --> 0:21:34.240 school's back in session for most people at L A U, 0:21:34.320 --> 0:21:36.040 s D and a bunch of other districts and whatnot. 0:21:36.040 --> 0:21:39.120 So if you have a hard time studying, this actually 0:21:39.160 --> 0:21:41.560 could be working for you. It's called body doubling. It's 0:21:41.600 --> 0:21:45.520 when another person works simultaneously with you, either in the 0:21:45.560 --> 0:21:49.800 same room or virtually so sometimes it's called an accountability 0:21:49.840 --> 0:21:53.520 buddy or for example, like maybe you're somebody that works 0:21:53.520 --> 0:21:55.520 from home, but you tend to go to a coffee 0:21:55.520 --> 0:21:57.320 shop just to be surrounded by other people that are 0:21:57.320 --> 0:21:59.840 on their laptops. You get to work out of the 0:22:00.040 --> 0:22:03.080 him with other people versus working out on your own 0:22:03.200 --> 0:22:05.639 or alone at home. And when I mentioned that you 0:22:05.640 --> 0:22:08.600 can do this virtually, there are hundreds and thousands of 0:22:08.680 --> 0:22:11.280 videos on YouTube that you can find of people just studying, 0:22:11.400 --> 0:22:13.680 like they're just staring at the computer. They don't say 0:22:13.680 --> 0:22:15.480 anything for an hour and a half in the video 0:22:15.520 --> 0:22:17.400 and you just play the video. A lot of gen 0:22:17.520 --> 0:22:20.159 z ears do this to study, and they'll have a 0:22:20.240 --> 0:22:24.400 laptop with a stranger that's essentially studying at the same time, 0:22:24.640 --> 0:22:28.399 and it forces them to study better. This backfires on me. 0:22:28.760 --> 0:22:33.720 Why because I remember as a kid when we were 0:22:33.800 --> 0:22:40.960 reading silently in a room we're studying, and the students 0:22:41.040 --> 0:22:42.640 near me or next to me read the page so much, 0:22:42.720 --> 0:22:44.760 turned their pages so much faster, and I was still 0:22:44.800 --> 0:22:47.720 on the first page that I felt already then that 0:22:47.800 --> 0:22:50.520 distracted me from comprehending what I was reading, and I 0:22:50.560 --> 0:22:52.639 felt like I was slore. For example, when you watch 0:22:52.760 --> 0:22:56.880 a series or a movie and after it they put 0:22:56.960 --> 0:23:01.280 up a paragraph of words mean, I have to pause 0:23:01.320 --> 0:23:05.080 it the screen moosa for I'm done reading anything. Even 0:23:05.080 --> 0:23:09.840 TikTok's like I have to p wait hold on, you 0:23:09.840 --> 0:23:11.480 know you watch the documentary. At the end, they're like, 0:23:11.760 --> 0:23:14.480 well five years later he went to prison, and and 0:23:14.520 --> 0:23:17.639 I'm like wait wait wait, wait wait wait, So this 0:23:17.800 --> 0:23:21.399 is backfire on me already. Well, I don't think it 0:23:21.440 --> 0:23:24.240 does it It actually works when Also when it comes 0:23:24.280 --> 0:23:27.119 to community, like I remember going to coffee being in 0:23:27.200 --> 0:23:30.879 tea leaf you sail a campus when I was taking 0:23:30.920 --> 0:23:33.679 classes at San Monica Community College, but we would go 0:23:33.760 --> 0:23:38.560 study u c l A. Right, No people thought you 0:23:38.600 --> 0:23:40.080 were going to u c l A. Or you're going 0:23:40.080 --> 0:23:45.240 to the community college, but you were at it's terrible. 0:23:45.800 --> 0:23:48.040 It's so lame, but we would go. You want to 0:23:48.080 --> 0:23:52.080 go to the coffee bean in Westwood Camp based on 0:23:52.160 --> 0:23:55.240 campus open up comp literally look like your U. C 0:23:55.359 --> 0:23:59.199 L A studying student and would you study? Well, no, 0:23:59.280 --> 0:24:02.560 he'd be distracted it by those frozen I'm telling you 0:24:04.000 --> 0:24:05.719 what was that? Was that thing we used to love 0:24:05.760 --> 0:24:09.119 from coffee being that frozen drink. Yeah, they still have them. 0:24:09.160 --> 0:24:10.960 It was like the cookies and cream something. It's a 0:24:11.040 --> 0:24:15.160 vanilla thing. Look it up, frozen vanilla. I was way 0:24:15.200 --> 0:24:20.440 before ice cold bruise. It was like that, but their 0:24:20.560 --> 0:24:23.040 version it was the point was I would be distracted 0:24:23.119 --> 0:24:26.119