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Speaker 1: to charge eight dollars. You want to charge eight dollars
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Speaker 1: and you know, I mean, I just how nobody would go,
Speaker 1: you know, even just like you know, one of the
Speaker 1: craziest things for me was, you know, I don't want
Speaker 1: to say it, like we got New York on lock,
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Speaker 1: It's been excited. I thought i'ld go to Mexico and
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Speaker 1: So we made it two hundred episodes and this look
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Speaker 1: all probably sucked a hundred people. Oh yeah, I actually
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Speaker 1: welcome to the hundredth episode of Horrible Decisions. This is
Speaker 1: your girl, Mandy Be and I'm wheezy. Hi. I love
Speaker 1: you a hundred times over? How about that. No, I'm
Speaker 1: super excited. I'm glad that we finally made it here.
Speaker 1: It was only right to have one of the motherfucker's
Speaker 1: that made the most sense to come on full episode.
Speaker 1: Motherfucking one hundred is the most sense, bitch. But the episode,
Speaker 1: like we've done MAD solo episode. I was in Japan
Speaker 1: when you came on. I was tight. Yeah. So first
Speaker 1: of all, listening to the episode and I'm like, because
Speaker 1: I can't get internet, right, so I download the episode
Speaker 1: on the plane sixteen fucking hours. I didn't know what
Speaker 1: you look like, and I was like just pretending with myself,
Speaker 1: like ugly. No. So, guys, um, if you haven't already
Speaker 1: looked at the title, which you probably should have, we
Speaker 1: have King noir Um who is in the building with
Speaker 1: us today. And so he came on well maybe episode
Speaker 1: twenty six, like he came on Mad long ago. Maybe
Speaker 1: let's remember especially like we weren't even doing video then,
Speaker 1: and you were like, oh, I have to get video
Speaker 1: for him, and I'm like this, yeah, I know, I
Speaker 1: got video specifically for him just to show the flogging.
Speaker 1: I know, because I was like, oh, this gotta be
Speaker 1: a video beach um. But so for the hundredth episode,
Speaker 1: I guess, well, before we get started, um in our icebreaker,
Speaker 1: can you go ahead and introduce yourself to our listeners
Speaker 1: and new listeners who may not know who you are?
Speaker 1: All right, what's going on? My name is King the
Speaker 1: Wall of Royal Fetish Films, jet Setting, Jasmine llc Um
Speaker 1: a master fetish trainer, Erodeck Touch Massure, and I do
Speaker 1: porn and stuff and do you need come on? Drop
Speaker 1: the wife? Yeah, I mean that's actually how we started.
Speaker 1: We started with her company, jet Setting Jasmine. And are
Speaker 1: you married? We are not married, but that's my partner
Speaker 1: in all things. Yeah. I know that's right, because I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you've had some episode we learned married don't
Speaker 1: mean a fucking thing. Don't don't get started. I thought
Speaker 1: she would be a shady, because you'd be shady. I
Speaker 1: know you would know. I really enjoy watching like, um,
Speaker 1: you know your your your pictures together. I really love it. Um.
Speaker 1: For those of you who don't know, King Nora and
Speaker 1: jet Setting Jasmine. Um, I've never had the pleasure of
Speaker 1: me either of you. But you guys just had a
Speaker 1: baby and like you're just so body positive and like
Speaker 1: it just seems like you love her so much and
Speaker 1: it's so great to watch a woman be so comfordent.
Speaker 1: You guys are Polly, which is what we discussed the
Speaker 1: Polly and Jazz now describes herself as a sexual opportunist.
Speaker 1: That's the next titles. Like the word Polly, I don't like.
Speaker 1: I don't like what polyamory kind of means because I'm
Speaker 1: hear it's like from what my friends tell me and
Speaker 1: Polly friends actually opening yourself for love with other people.
Speaker 1: I don't like that and that I'm not really vible with.
Speaker 1: Like now that I think about it, I don't like
Speaker 1: the word Polly either, because everyone's my childhood. I'm thinking
Speaker 1: of Polly Pocket. We probably shouldn't be thinking. I think
Speaker 1: we're polyamory. Now it's kind of gotten a little bit
Speaker 1: of a connotation like swinging hats, you know, like swinging swinging.
Speaker 1: At a certain point, though people start to have like
Speaker 1: this idea of what it is when actually it can
Speaker 1: be whatever it means to you. Like whatever your relationship
Speaker 1: is as a couple, and y'all are swingers might not
Speaker 1: be the same as two other people who are also swingers.
Speaker 1: They might be like, well, we do soft swap, same room.
Speaker 1: Somebody else might be like, man, we go out on
Speaker 1: full dates with somebody right another woman coming in my correct,
Speaker 1: well swap I think is more like they don't do
Speaker 1: full penetration or whatever. It might just be like kissing
Speaker 1: and touching and things like that. I ever describe myself
Speaker 1: more like like an ethical nomenogamous, like I you know,
Speaker 1: I like being able to date to other people. But
Speaker 1: I know if I'm as open to um full blown relationships,
Speaker 1: which is what I believe Polly can be, am I correct, Okay, okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: and I'm into just swinging. Like with my partner, I
Speaker 1: don't want him dating anyone else. I don't want him
Speaker 1: having feelings with anyone else. Don't even take the bitch
Speaker 1: out to eat, like she can go just fucking leave
Speaker 1: her Like that's that's the type of Glamazon Toyomi said.
Speaker 1: Now you like something she said, if I'm just saying.
Speaker 1: So she was saying or either her husband said on
Speaker 1: the podcast like, you know, maybe she wants to go
Speaker 1: see like a concert, and like, I'm not, no, I
Speaker 1: told you he said that. That was Yeah, it was him.
Speaker 1: So I started the episode out talking about B two
Speaker 1: K and you were like, I'm not really I didn't
Speaker 1: even realize that it was him that said that. He
Speaker 1: was like, listen, like, I don't really like B two K,
Speaker 1: but I'm not going to keep you from enjoying that
Speaker 1: moment with someone who may be able to enjoy interesting.
Speaker 1: So what's up, Like, you're not going with jam what
Speaker 1: if she want to go to and I'm sure there
Speaker 1: a whole lot of people that will take it to
Speaker 1: see where you live at so there's no Florida south
Speaker 1: to Atlanta. So she's going with another neigh She's gonna
Speaker 1: have a good time too, because you know, if she
Speaker 1: told me, I'll be like, man, I want to see
Speaker 1: this ship, you know when Ice Bucks, whether it's not
Speaker 1: okay if you had because I'm sure I'm sure she
Speaker 1: would let me let me roll to like, you know,
Speaker 1: go see some some ship at the same the same age.
Speaker 1: That was what I'm into like like, I'm trying to
Speaker 1: go see rain ghosts right now, and I'm not trying
Speaker 1: to go see I don't even know that is because
Speaker 1: you're looking. You're looking at y'all. That is that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't want to go. I don't want to go
Speaker 1: and see them in like, wait, what are you going?
Speaker 1: It was was meth Man and that, Yeah, but if
Speaker 1: it's just okay, so I just want to go, and
Speaker 1: she like, I'm just trying to go. I go and
Speaker 1: look at methyd I'm only laughing. I think Jasmine would
Speaker 1: go there with methy Man. Was that's all? I want
Speaker 1: to only met this man there. If he's not there,
Speaker 1: I don't want to go. I mean I would like
Speaker 1: it would be something to look at. Hold on, you
Speaker 1: skip the question, how are you? I just turned thirty eight?
Speaker 1: I was about to say thirty seven, was like it
Speaker 1: was literally just my birthday. Three days. It was baby
Speaker 1: had a birthday, Good things happen in threes? Did you
Speaker 1: have birthday sex? I did, but it was like the
Speaker 1: whole week. I don't know if you say, like somebody
Speaker 1: else now we we we actually just came back from
Speaker 1: from a resort in Mexico that we might be doing
Speaker 1: something that we might be doing some work for. We
Speaker 1: was down at desire logging people and all this. I
Speaker 1: was in Mexico for two weeks and someone was like, oh,
Speaker 1: are you going to go to the resort because I
Speaker 1: was telling them I had a sex podcast and I
Speaker 1: was like which one? And they're like none of mine?
Speaker 1: Like why is no one telling me? I had no idea?
Speaker 1: So people go to the resort and are you just
Speaker 1: like a part of that resort, and like, well, we
Speaker 1: were Actually they're doing uh fetish trainings for couples, teaching
Speaker 1: people about impact play. What else could we do? I
Speaker 1: mean minded our own business for a little while, you know,
Speaker 1: we had a We had a good time, man. I
Speaker 1: mean it was beautiful out there, well speaking speaking of
Speaker 1: like a resort and all of this fun stuff. Our
Speaker 1: icebreaker real quick, I thought this would be cool um
Speaker 1: for us to do. I wanted to do different names
Speaker 1: for orgasms, so I thought of this in different ways
Speaker 1: that you could say, come. So I wanted to maybe
Speaker 1: go around the table and see if we can make
Speaker 1: it around and how many times around we can go
Speaker 1: before someone doesn't know a name for an orgasm? Have
Speaker 1: you looked them up, No, bitch, I look, I swear
Speaker 1: I look it up. I swear I look it up.
Speaker 1: And the only upside down Now, The only reason why
Speaker 1: I came up with this game, and I'll tell you
Speaker 1: is because on this b Twok tour, Yin Yang Twins
Speaker 1: are gonna be there. And one of these songs is
Speaker 1: like all skeet ski and I'm like, why was I
Speaker 1: saying that at Levin? Skeet ski is That's gonna be
Speaker 1: my first word for come is skeets um. And then
Speaker 1: we'll go around and see how many words for orgasm
Speaker 1: we can come up with. So skei is the first one.
Speaker 1: He took. My z your turn, spunk, you gotta go,
Speaker 1: I'm out, m splash, slash, ain't no, goddamn a chain
Speaker 1: of my What? What other words is there for for
Speaker 1: a coming orgasm? Are there any of that? We left squirting?
Speaker 1: I was gonna say nuts. Oh nut, that's a nig
Speaker 1: a word. I really missed that one. Huh No, you're
Speaker 1: busting a nut? No, no, no, no busting. I'm busting.
Speaker 1: I just bust. Yeah. I don't know. You just man
Speaker 1: that she was out too quick. That's it. I've never
Speaker 1: heard climax either. No, it was technically busting, like you
Speaker 1: bust a pussy, So busting is not nutting fun y'all.
Speaker 1: You busted open, bitch. You literally said when you were
Speaker 1: sucking a dude, he was bust the nut. I'm about
Speaker 1: to bust a nut whatever. Bro, people will ask you
Speaker 1: be like yo, when he was did you bust? Yes?
Speaker 1: You got me? Sure? Alright, Well, anyway we find a
Speaker 1: go ahead because I don't like a hundred episodes later,
Speaker 1: like what's something that we've like Louise still do because
Speaker 1: your life is still getting with ship, but like I
Speaker 1: am not ghetto. Okay, so we put a gout head,
Speaker 1: get to the next why is that? That is that?
Speaker 1: You know what I need? Her Rod? When you said,
Speaker 1: what's that ship? The Black Panthers were a bode. This
Speaker 1: is what we're doing. This is what we're doing. This
Speaker 1: is what we're gonna do for a hundred episode You
Speaker 1: can't say when white boys, what is it? One was
Speaker 1: actually what I'm gonna say about when I knew you
Speaker 1: were super white. You don't let me say on the
Speaker 1: podcast that, bitch, that's how you know you're super Only
Speaker 1: white people do that ship. So we're gonna go ahead.
Speaker 1: I wanted to get into um our vanilla ship. So
Speaker 1: for vanilla ship, it's where we come up or we
Speaker 1: find an article that has to do with sex, dating relationships,
Speaker 1: and this one was interesting. UM. This article is on
Speaker 1: refinery and it says that I can orgasm without my
Speaker 1: genitals being touched. Am I a freak? So it gets
Speaker 1: into basically how she experienced having an orgasm from just
Speaker 1: meeting a man and them kind of just touching like
Speaker 1: hands wise, and she says that she was able to
Speaker 1: experience an orgasm, and so she reached out to a
Speaker 1: doctor and felt like that there was something wrong with
Speaker 1: her because she busted a nut from just touching this man.
Speaker 1: So it says that there have been studies this show
Speaker 1: that orgasm can be reached without necessarily directly stimulating the genitals,
Speaker 1: says Jessica Shephard, M D. And O B. G. Y
Speaker 1: N at the University of Illinois at Chicago, UM. This
Speaker 1: is much more common. This is where I found it interesting.
Speaker 1: She said, it's actually more common in women and not
Speaker 1: often in men. It's more often for women to reach
Speaker 1: orgasms without being touched in the telly genitally like genital
Speaker 1: gen the genitalles, what are you doing the ninty day?
Speaker 1: I'll tell no, so yeah and not. And actually I
Speaker 1: thought that it would be more so common for men
Speaker 1: because I feel like when they're younger, men just jizz
Speaker 1: in their pants a lot. I think that's a thing
Speaker 1: from movies that we all know. But I mean no,
Speaker 1: or wait, we got a man across from us. Were
Speaker 1: you just jizzing in your pants? Att like crazy? But
Speaker 1: it definitely happened before. Yeah, but I mean there was stimulation,
Speaker 1: you know, I was, I was what they call it
Speaker 1: down self, I was hunting or something, you know. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: I've definitely had a few. I think I have one
Speaker 1: a month where I'm come in my sleep. Women are
Speaker 1: a lot more in tune with their bodies than men
Speaker 1: are because most most men, it's not something that we're
Speaker 1: that we're taught. It's not something that is ever presented
Speaker 1: to us, you know, like from once a woman, once
Speaker 1: you get your period, your mom or older woman is
Speaker 1: going to have that talk with you about your body,
Speaker 1: how to care for your body, how to attend to
Speaker 1: your body in some shape form of fashion, even if
Speaker 1: it's not sexual, even if it's just like this is
Speaker 1: how you care for you are the boys are their penises?
Speaker 1: You're saying men are only aware of their penis is
Speaker 1: in a sense of kind of like you use that
Speaker 1: to funk, which is education. We just are not really
Speaker 1: talk to explore their bodies even sexually, like we're told,
Speaker 1: like you know you're gonna jerk off, or maybe maybe
Speaker 1: somebody says, hey, if you jerk off and you last
Speaker 1: long when you jerk off, you better when you fuck.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like maybe maybe you get
Speaker 1: that little talk if anything. But for the most part,
Speaker 1: men aren't taught how to clean themselves. Men aren't taught
Speaker 1: how Men aren't taught how to even how to even
Speaker 1: connect the brain to their orgasm, which is why most
Speaker 1: men have never experienced the full body orgasm. You think
Speaker 1: women are maybe a little bit better with orgasm because
Speaker 1: it's a lot harder for us to reach orgasms, so
Speaker 1: depending on the woman, because to me, I think I
Speaker 1: mean in general women as a whole, Like this is
Speaker 1: just right from census that has been taken from certain sites,
Speaker 1: like any findings I read, it's generally harder for women
Speaker 1: to achieve orgasm, and I wonder if it's because the
Speaker 1: women that are having them have had to learn how
Speaker 1: to give themselves one. Um. It's it's weird though, because
Speaker 1: are we really more into it with our body. It's
Speaker 1: so weird because I feel like it's so backwards for me.
Speaker 1: So when I and I preach that all women should
Speaker 1: learn how to make themselves come, so I say that
Speaker 1: every people. Yeah, of course, So I masturbate nightly. That's
Speaker 1: how I go to sleep. And when I masturbate, I
Speaker 1: come only through clatoral simulation. However, when it comes to
Speaker 1: me dealing with men, me rubbing my clip does nothing.
Speaker 1: I can only come through penetration, which often people say
Speaker 1: that you're not supposed to be allowed to come through penetration.
Speaker 1: It's all through clatoral. So it's weird. Like when I
Speaker 1: come multiple times with his dick, there's no play with
Speaker 1: my clip, but when I'm by mysel orgasm's gonna be
Speaker 1: find out that. Yeah, I mean, I think that's talk
Speaker 1: about basically like thing I've seen where time women have
Speaker 1: clip stimulation, but so I wanted to have. I think physiologically, though,
Speaker 1: there's the sense that as a woman, everything that you experience,
Speaker 1: we're not everything, but a lot of what you experience
Speaker 1: sexually is internal, so you have you have to experience
Speaker 1: things that are going to go through your body, so
Speaker 1: you have to be in tune, like am I even
Speaker 1: willing to let this person be inside of me? Right?
Speaker 1: And then also for for men, since it's external, we
Speaker 1: never really get to put that one and two together,
Speaker 1: like your brains, Like I get dudes who hit me
Speaker 1: up NonStop in my d M, how do I last longer?
Speaker 1: Or I have my first about with e D how
Speaker 1: do I how do I work with that? So and
Speaker 1: and both of those things really just have to do
Speaker 1: with your mind, you know. I mean, obviously there's some
Speaker 1: things that will just feel amazing, like God damn, but
Speaker 1: usually that's like you let your mind go into that
Speaker 1: so much that you are unable to connect yourself. Medicine
Speaker 1: can help you, but like you do need to work
Speaker 1: it is. I was thinking one thing when when you
Speaker 1: were talking about it, um, when it comes to like
Speaker 1: you know, the orgasm, like notatorially, it could be there's
Speaker 1: like what five or seven thousand nerve endings in our
Speaker 1: clip to the which is why I never wanted to
Speaker 1: even pierce it, like meaning I would be so afraid
Speaker 1: to pierce my clip for that reason, but I wanted
Speaker 1: to talk so reading this article, um and something that
Speaker 1: we even mentioned on yeah you mention, Um, you mentioned
Speaker 1: it on our Sex Resolution episode that you wanted to
Speaker 1: experience a tantric massage. And so is tantric massage? Is
Speaker 1: that dealing with your genitals or is it just the
Speaker 1: massage that makes you come? What is that? Some some does,
Speaker 1: some doesn't mean It all depends on who's the practitioners
Speaker 1: tantra tantric sex. I am not a tantric practitioner, so
Speaker 1: somebody would probably give you a way better definition. But
Speaker 1: I think I think it's really like from what I understand,
Speaker 1: is people who are able to connect like the spiritual,
Speaker 1: the mind and the body for a deeper sexual experience
Speaker 1: than just like yeah, I'm trying to. And that's where
Speaker 1: I heard that women have orgasms. Like watched a couple
Speaker 1: like him given an orgasm just from like breath play
Speaker 1: and like breathing and like she said it took a while,
Speaker 1: but said she watched this girl called Hardest book. Well,
Speaker 1: I know, I know personally, I've I've spoken to people
Speaker 1: and they've told me that I should go like deeper
Speaker 1: into it because I've had orgasms without busting the nut before.
Speaker 1: You have had an orgasm without coming? Yeah, how how
Speaker 1: does that work? Like? How do how does fluid? I
Speaker 1: mean you feel it like I've I've felt orgasms that
Speaker 1: have gone through my body, different things like that. And
Speaker 1: it definitely has to do with things that I've When
Speaker 1: I've spoken to people who actual tantric practitioners, they say,
Speaker 1: it has to do with your breathing, has to do
Speaker 1: with you know, your comfortability, your mind state, and all
Speaker 1: of that. So why so why would you orgasm as
Speaker 1: a man but not ejaculate because I want to keep coming? Okay,
Speaker 1: have you ever had a dude like tell you they
Speaker 1: felt like they came when they were sucking you, but
Speaker 1: they didn't. I've had guys that thought they were going
Speaker 1: to come, so they would pull out so that they
Speaker 1: didn't come, and then they went back. But maybe twice
Speaker 1: in my lifetime I've had someone say, fun like I
Speaker 1: thought like I felt like I came. I thought I came.
Speaker 1: I mean I did have a guy tell me that
Speaker 1: I gave him the best sex ever out of all
Speaker 1: the time. Flex. No, No, I didn't have someone that
Speaker 1: I you didn't let me finish down. So we know
Speaker 1: we have been fucking like for years and so on
Speaker 1: one of the most recent times we had sex, he said,
Speaker 1: oh my god, that was like probably our best time
Speaker 1: having sex. I pinned it to my weight loss, but
Speaker 1: he's like, no, like it just felt really good. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, how he didn't come? He didn't come at all,
Speaker 1: probably because I made him wear a condom the entire
Speaker 1: time and I wasn't working with that bullshit at all
Speaker 1: and so and normally, like, you know, all suck is it?
Speaker 1: And I was just like not in the mood. But
Speaker 1: he told me was the best session he had had
Speaker 1: with me, and and I was confused because he literally
Speaker 1: did not come. Have you sad something different from the
Speaker 1: times that it's happened to you with the sex that
Speaker 1: you were having, Like was there a lot of for play,
Speaker 1: like with anything different that you think happen in those
Speaker 1: moments that don't normally happen. I know the first time
Speaker 1: that it ever happened to me, I was like just checking,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I was like, because if
Speaker 1: it feels almost the same, like the same way that
Speaker 1: your muscles contract and different things like that, but just
Speaker 1: I think time wise, it just has to do it
Speaker 1: more like how how into what I am and just
Speaker 1: how I feel and kind of like if I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm about to come, I'm like I don't want
Speaker 1: to right now, and just kind of like push through
Speaker 1: it and then the body reacts how the body reacts,
Speaker 1: and then it just keep you you kind of like
Speaker 1: keep feeling it and it's like waves like things I've
Speaker 1: heard from women talk about like or like multiple massage
Speaker 1: almost anything like a linga massage is when a woman's massage.
Speaker 1: Like in the linga massage, they say that men reach
Speaker 1: it almost two or three times, like they keep peeking
Speaker 1: and then finally they So this kind of like when
Speaker 1: a man has sex and he comes, and then after
Speaker 1: he comes, he's still hard because I've had that. Nah,
Speaker 1: that just means you kind of skip to refractory period
Speaker 1: like that can happen, but that that has nothing. That's
Speaker 1: not the Yeah, it's different because if I mean that's
Speaker 1: good too, it's great, but multiple orgasms. Men can't experience
Speaker 1: multiple orgasms because of the refractory period, which basically means
Speaker 1: you're dick can't get back up once it ejaculates. Right,
Speaker 1: I want to get into but real quick just to
Speaker 1: go back to what you were saying. Like for example,
Speaker 1: like some of the massages that I have done for
Speaker 1: like erotic touch, there are certain times like I had
Speaker 1: one client, I was just kind of like massaging her
Speaker 1: forearm and she was just like, I've never really been
Speaker 1: touched there before in my life. So when you start
Speaker 1: to in essential way, So I think when it comes
Speaker 1: to massage in general, or tantric massage, erotic massage, sensual massage,
Speaker 1: whatever whatever people are calling it, it's like if you've
Speaker 1: never really had somebody pay attention to your body, if
Speaker 1: you've never had somebody touch you in a certain kind
Speaker 1: of way, and you are someone who is in especially
Speaker 1: a woman who's in you know, in in communication with
Speaker 1: her body and control of her body, could definitely orgasm.
Speaker 1: Have you had one, man? All I know is every
Speaker 1: time I go to a motherfucker massage place, even in Asia,
Speaker 1: all the little Asians, I wouldn't even attracted to them,
Speaker 1: but bitch, my pussy was wet as fun every time
Speaker 1: they massage me. And it was just like a little
Speaker 1: Asian woman. I don't I don't want to suck her,
Speaker 1: but bitch, I kind of was hoping she fingered me,
Speaker 1: but they never did. But I be getting horning. So
Speaker 1: it just part of the massage I've ever had. It
Speaker 1: just made me think of that thing. I don't even
Speaker 1: know if I've about this before. It was my cabs
Speaker 1: and I remember him telling me, like, nobody ever touched
Speaker 1: me like that there freaking I'm like, why am I
Speaker 1: getting excited? It's just my cab. No, I love like
Speaker 1: the inside of my thighs ass and like his fingers
Speaker 1: are kind of close to my post and I'm like
Speaker 1: they're going in. They just close. That's it. It turns
Speaker 1: me on just like that, Like that's all I need.
Speaker 1: So I wanted to get to get into our kink
Speaker 1: of the week, and our kink of the week is
Speaker 1: going to focus on something that you are actually familiar with,
Speaker 1: something that people may not even know exists. Um So
Speaker 1: the kink of the week is fetish training. Um. I
Speaker 1: kind of wanted to get into what fetish training is,
Speaker 1: um and why people may come to you for it,
Speaker 1: What is what it entails? Um? So, can you explain
Speaker 1: to our listeners what fetish training is? Well, fetish training
Speaker 1: is the act of engaging in your fetish. What is
Speaker 1: I think actually it was the first time I ever
Speaker 1: heard determined. It was like when Jazz was trying to say,
Speaker 1: how do we describe what it is we do for people?
Speaker 1: And a lot of people hire us because they don't
Speaker 1: know they have a fetish, But every single person here
Speaker 1: has a fetish, every person in the world, in the world, okay,
Speaker 1: like even just y'all saying, like I got turned on
Speaker 1: by a massile, is your massage? A fetish is basically
Speaker 1: something that is not directly correlated to procreation that turns
Speaker 1: you on sexual glasses. That's what Yeah, that's what I
Speaker 1: was going for them. But the last episode Mandy and
Speaker 1: I were doing um, she was saying, here's the difference
Speaker 1: between a kink and a fetish, which I really think
Speaker 1: is subjective, even though I mean she was reading textbook. Shit,
Speaker 1: can you tell us what you think the difference between
Speaker 1: a kink and a fetishes. Yes, a person can be kinky.
Speaker 1: A person can't be a fetish. Like a lot of times,
Speaker 1: a lot of times, like you'll see people like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, I have a fetish for this type of person,
Speaker 1: uh b b W black man, Asian woman or something
Speaker 1: like that. A human being can't be a fetish. A
Speaker 1: human being is a human being. A person can be kinky,
Speaker 1: like I'm kinkys fuck, you know what I'm saying. But like, uh,
Speaker 1: it's kind of like a fetish is like what it is,
Speaker 1: you know, kind of like more like a definition. However,
Speaker 1: be down it. It's it basically said that a fetish
Speaker 1: is the whole meal. A kink is the salt and pepper.
Speaker 1: It's the seasoning too. You know what you do in
Speaker 1: the bedroom. So what are some of the what are
Speaker 1: some of I guess the fetishes or kinks that go
Speaker 1: on during fetish training, like some of the main ones.
Speaker 1: It ranges. I mean, people come to us because they're
Speaker 1: like I want to expand my my my sexuality, or
Speaker 1: I know what I like but I don't know how
Speaker 1: to engage in it in a safe way, or I
Speaker 1: don't know where to find people who like what I'm into.
Speaker 1: So that's what we help. What's the kinkiest thing that
Speaker 1: someone just wrote my phone? I was trying to be
Speaker 1: quiet by the way listeners gave this advice. They were like, damn, wheezy,
Speaker 1: can't shut the funk up? Type the questions on your phone?
Speaker 1: What did I just type? She said, what are the kinkies?
Speaker 1: What are the kinkids? I wanted to ask, what are
Speaker 1: the kinkiest things you've heard? But what are also things
Speaker 1: like that? Ain't ship that people think it's crazy? I
Speaker 1: mean I don't. I don't ever. I don't ever like,
Speaker 1: oh man, I love spit, but I don't. I don't.
Speaker 1: Let's see, let's see. That's the thing that's what makes
Speaker 1: everybody different in where it's hard for me to say, like,
Speaker 1: that's some wild kinky ship or that's a boring kink,
Speaker 1: you know, because what might be like for you, like, yo,
Speaker 1: this is the edge for me, Like I'm trying it
Speaker 1: all right here and putting it on on the table
Speaker 1: for her, she might be like, that was fine for you.
Speaker 1: I think. I think the one that I was first
Speaker 1: kind of like, what, like, what is this is lunars?
Speaker 1: People who are into into balloons? Oh wait what? I
Speaker 1: don't know if well, a whole lot of year we
Speaker 1: didn't cover that. I used to watch real sex when
Speaker 1: I was a kid because that was the only thing
Speaker 1: I could like hunch the bed too, And I always
Speaker 1: thought a lunar, So what do they do with balloons?
Speaker 1: Some people, some people like Um. Some people like to
Speaker 1: watch people be afraid by a balloon popping, like that's
Speaker 1: what turns the more. Other people like to watch a
Speaker 1: woman just play with a balloon and not pop. It's
Speaker 1: so the first time I ever, the first time someone
Speaker 1: ever hit us up, like can you do a royal
Speaker 1: Fittish lunar video? I was like, I was thinking the moon.
Speaker 1: I was like, what are you talking about that? Right?
Speaker 1: So like so then they were like, well, you know,
Speaker 1: they send over this thing because we do you know,
Speaker 1: we do custom custom films for people. They send over
Speaker 1: this this long like script and then they send jasmine
Speaker 1: like a box of different types of balloons. Like some
Speaker 1: of these balloons, Yo, there's one joint. It's called a
Speaker 1: hippie hot like that ship got fucking handles on it
Speaker 1: and it's like the size of his chair. Okay, that's
Speaker 1: like everything, Yeah, but a balloon being like, they didn't
Speaker 1: send him Some of our some of our fetishes we
Speaker 1: we get from our childhood. Some of them could just happen,
Speaker 1: like on your on your training ride over here, something
Speaker 1: could happen. He's just like, I wonder and you might
Speaker 1: just delve deep into that. But some of the things like,
Speaker 1: you know, some people who are a lunar, they might
Speaker 1: have had an experience as a kid where it was
Speaker 1: a party in a balloon pot and they saw the
Speaker 1: girl they like jumped to it or something, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. Like, some fetishes are like so intricate
Speaker 1: into our brains. That's why fetishes are just as as
Speaker 1: infinite as the mind. I swear to God. Got a
Speaker 1: story about ever realized why I like spitting my mouth
Speaker 1: for me and this dude got an argument when I
Speaker 1: was in high school and he spit on me, and
Speaker 1: I liked, he spit on therapy? You do you absolutely
Speaker 1: need therapy right there? I don't know somebody you enjoying
Speaker 1: the spitting on you. Listen, we were fighting that nigga
Speaker 1: would die. We were close, really face to face. We
Speaker 1: were arguing about me and this other dude and he
Speaker 1: spit on me, and I was like, you were we righting? Fun?
Speaker 1: No way, brow Now it is hands bro, I'll fight
Speaker 1: anybody who spit on me. Bro. Obviously in the bedroom
Speaker 1: I might ask for it, but outside of the bedroom,
Speaker 1: so we're not seeing. I never spoke again, right, but
Speaker 1: I remember being so angry about it. But in that
Speaker 1: moment he was so close to my face. I didn't
Speaker 1: know if I liked it or not. Maybe that's why
Speaker 1: I like spitting and ship. Maybe maybe you need therapy.
Speaker 1: Oh thank you. It might be her glasses, but you
Speaker 1: just psychoanalyze. So what what are If they contact you,
Speaker 1: it can be individuals or it can be couples, and
Speaker 1: so basically what you do is you kind of walk
Speaker 1: them through how to communicate about these or do you
Speaker 1: are you actually showing them what it looks like. We
Speaker 1: also do events all over kinky pop up events, and
Speaker 1: we help people basically if they're like, yo, this is
Speaker 1: what I'm into. Say it's spanking or flogging or something
Speaker 1: like that. You don't really just want to start hitting
Speaker 1: on somebody without knowing what you're doing. We spoke about
Speaker 1: that last time. So okay, So so you brought up flogging.
Speaker 1: You have floggers with you, and we have a better
Speaker 1: video now, so I'm glad that you brought them. If
Speaker 1: you want to, I guess, show the camera what floggers are?
Speaker 1: Can you explain um to our new list what flogging is?
Speaker 1: So flogging is a former impact play? No, bro, that
Speaker 1: ain't that's these are These are actually handmade their leather
Speaker 1: and all that handmade. Wow. So like I have them,
Speaker 1: but they don't like I'm I guess that's why I
Speaker 1: don't hurt. This is like it's not these aren't gonna
Speaker 1: really hurt you like that. These are more they're more
Speaker 1: like a thud. So it's it's more like if you
Speaker 1: get spanked, do we see can we see I gotta
Speaker 1: warmer up? And all you got a warm up? Why
Speaker 1: do you got a warmer up? So that's gonna feel
Speaker 1: good for they don't have gloves on? That looks like
Speaker 1: you got to go ride a bite. No, I use
Speaker 1: I use these gloves actually, Like it's another another thing
Speaker 1: for spanking, right, So like if someone spanks you and
Speaker 1: they use just their fingers, there's more of a sting
Speaker 1: to it. Someone spank you're using using the center of
Speaker 1: their hand, there's more of a cup to it, back
Speaker 1: out the bottom, more hit. Yeah, So if you're more
Speaker 1: of a person who likes the thud, you would enjoy these.
Speaker 1: So I know Mandy is trying to surprise me right
Speaker 1: now with the whole flogging thing. Can I just like
Speaker 1: learn how to spank? Can we like learn? Can you? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you have to spank on Andy. Wait, many has a
Speaker 1: good spanking, but I have less. I don't. I got
Speaker 1: you turn it should be could When I came in
Speaker 1: the studio, she was like, oh, yeah, you're gonna get
Speaker 1: flogged today. And even though I'm totally into it, what
Speaker 1: I really want to say is she's been you want
Speaker 1: to hit me, you hit me? Everybody tells me, and
Speaker 1: my ass is just so chigg Okay, let's just spigure out. Okay,
Speaker 1: so wait, wait, waitle you talk about it first. So
Speaker 1: the hand sorry by the way, Christomer running light, but
Speaker 1: the hand right, these goddamn rings off because in the
Speaker 1: bottom definitely got to take those rings. I'll take my
Speaker 1: rings off. So Fellas, if you have rings on your hand,
Speaker 1: because my daddy Jamaican, he used to wear goals are
Speaker 1: all goddamn every finger. So if you're fucking you would
Speaker 1: suggest to take jewelry off the hand for sure. Okay,
Speaker 1: So slap with your right hand if you married, Fellas,
Speaker 1: because that was so great. This is what I was
Speaker 1: going to make a joke because it's our hundred episode
Speaker 1: that like we didn't fight, I could to hit you
Speaker 1: during Okay, so check it out. When when you're when
Speaker 1: you're talking about impact play before we even get to
Speaker 1: any of the spanking. When you get to impact play,
Speaker 1: it's very important because you can hurt somebody, right, So
Speaker 1: the reason I talk about warming somebody up with things
Speaker 1: like floggers is you want to get all those important
Speaker 1: all those important dopamine and all all the chemicals from
Speaker 1: the brain that relaxes the body. You start really lightly kissing,
Speaker 1: and yeah, I mean you could do that. You know,
Speaker 1: we can keep each other h like for example, like
Speaker 1: if I was flogging, I would start at your shoulders,
Speaker 1: but we practicing, we were spanking and were flogging. I
Speaker 1: want to I want to teach me. So okay, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm so I would take my hand. I'm going to
Speaker 1: use the bottom. Let's maybe see you do the good
Speaker 1: speak first. You really okay? So hold on because I
Speaker 1: want to make sure that you tell the listeners. So
Speaker 1: what's the correct way to spank? So king I just
Speaker 1: stood up. Man, he's sent over YouTube. So women, if
Speaker 1: you're spanking your man, men, if you're spanking your women,
Speaker 1: anybody has uh the same, the same vibe that you're
Speaker 1: gonna get in here from the lady tank, Like we're
Speaker 1: horny you know what I'm saying. No, it's it's all
Speaker 1: in the podendal nerves. Podendal nerves. That's a big word
Speaker 1: from school ship, you know, say what's the what is there?
Speaker 1: As I reading ship, but I never read no, man,
Speaker 1: take that's the other words. So that's where we all
Speaker 1: have these nerves. And when you speak properly is gonna
Speaker 1: send waves through those nerves. But you don't want to
Speaker 1: just run up on somebody like a disrespectful dude at
Speaker 1: the club and just smack the ship out of something. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because then it hurt. That was a real hood rat smack.
Speaker 1: Let's see the I'm a fetish trainer smack. But so
Speaker 1: we start, oh oh my god. See so I want
Speaker 1: to say, I'm watching him do it, and he's starting
Speaker 1: like from the bottom of the child from what I
Speaker 1: see that wave going, because yes, I feel the wave.
Speaker 1: Like if we was we was really into it and
Speaker 1: spank you, then already had me pounding on you and
Speaker 1: pushing that nerve. Okay, so you'd already be warmed up.
Speaker 1: But if you're not warmed up, that's why you work.
Speaker 1: You work some people you can also work to Okay. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the thigh is my spot. I'm not even a lie
Speaker 1: to you. I cannot got just handle this shirt right now, bro,
Speaker 1: like I can't. I'm getting nervous. Okay, me too, is it? Okay?
Speaker 1: This is Benson. Get a climb up there and change
Speaker 1: the a secause I'm sucked up right now. God, Okay,
Speaker 1: let's switch seats. We know yours, so okay, let's just
Speaker 1: I'll just stay here because we can rock like this
Speaker 1: Jesus Christ. But like the same thing with flow. By
Speaker 1: the way, our next guest is sitting here. I want
Speaker 1: you to know this is not something normal. She's probably like,
Speaker 1: what the fund I came there talking about my goddamn book,
Speaker 1: not getting sucked in here come. But like so, like
Speaker 1: for example, that you were working with flogging, you go
Speaker 1: straight to to somebody with something like that. You start
Speaker 1: with the you start up here because like I said,
Speaker 1: that's what releases all those good vibes and from your brain.
Speaker 1: You know that flight like I've seen well, I used
Speaker 1: to have a dumb a few and they would always
Speaker 1: like use the flogger like slightly on my face and
Speaker 1: my chest, like they would kind of put it on
Speaker 1: my body first. I would get to know how it
Speaker 1: feels I've never had someone do, like the shoulder but
Speaker 1: like my breast. Yeah, And like one thing I noticed
Speaker 1: that I've never seen someone do, and I've seen your
Speaker 1: videos is like you all do some kind of acrobatic
Speaker 1: ship where you're like, fucking, what's that calls Florentine? What
Speaker 1: is it? Florentine? The big words. It looks like it's
Speaker 1: basically like a figure eight. It's two different ways to
Speaker 1: do it that will make like let's say, if I
Speaker 1: if I keep my elbows low or something like that,
Speaker 1: it's going to hit you a certain way. If I
Speaker 1: raise my elbows up, it's gonna hit you a different way.
Speaker 1: So kind of like where I'm aiming. Yes, because I'm hot,
Speaker 1: Thanks bro, I'm hot over here. The only time I
Speaker 1: really got super turned on and wet and here was
Speaker 1: when Nina K said, Oh my god, I love cream
Speaker 1: pies all I love when they come in my pussy.
Speaker 1: I was sitting here like professional and right now. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And I never thought I would get this wet from
Speaker 1: watching you. You know you want to watch me, Vin,
Speaker 1: you want to watch me get it? Kind of it's
Speaker 1: like heavier than any flogger I've ever felt. But he's
Speaker 1: also much stronger than you. No, no, no, but I
Speaker 1: mean just touching it. Oh yeah, they all have Like
Speaker 1: I have something that are really light that will sting
Speaker 1: more different kinds of like the throws I made with
Speaker 1: something different. It all depends on kind of like what
Speaker 1: you're going for and the's I like to use with
Speaker 1: people who aren't particularly like, yo, beat the ship out
Speaker 1: of me, you know what I mean? Like, these are
Speaker 1: what you like to use with people that say, don't
Speaker 1: beat the ship out of me when you feel it,
Speaker 1: when you feel it. If I'm not like swinging for
Speaker 1: the fences and nothing like that. If I'm if I'm
Speaker 1: just using it to warm you up, those are very comfortable,
Speaker 1: Like can I just feel like when you don't have
Speaker 1: to warm me up? I just want to feel one good?
Speaker 1: Like you just hit her one time one time? Can
Speaker 1: you just I got a hole in my legs and
Speaker 1: my house. Oh that's fine, that's right, So go over
Speaker 1: and just flog her one time. Oh oh okay, wait too,
Speaker 1: I go sit forward or backwards around just like that,
Speaker 1: all right, y'all. So basically now she is bending over.
Speaker 1: Keep you there, we go. Oh, spread your legs open
Speaker 1: a little bit, hold on that explain a little bit. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she was not here where I think I covered it
Speaker 1: up for you. Okay, so look he's bending her over.
Speaker 1: Oh so that little bit of nervousness that she had,
Speaker 1: Uh huh yeah, oh he said, keep your heads straight.
Speaker 1: I really like feeling it on my shoulder, like more
Speaker 1: than I thought you like it on your shoulder? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I really do. Like I didn't think i'd get excited
Speaker 1: at it from my shoulders. And then when you moved
Speaker 1: down and now he's hitting your ass, can you not move? Oh?
Speaker 1: There you go? All right, I got to say servant,
Speaker 1: somebody man, somebody daddy, and he's doing the figure eight
Speaker 1: motion to now bro um. You know, I honestly I
Speaker 1: forgot people were in the room. Really. Yeah, you're really
Speaker 1: good at what you do. So everybody wants me to
Speaker 1: stop white guys. There you go. So I love that
Speaker 1: we got into this because this is what's going to
Speaker 1: lead into decision you take so much, I guess focus
Speaker 1: on pleasing women, touching them were they'll feel sensations that
Speaker 1: maybe they haven't felt before. And so for the horrible
Speaker 1: decision for this episode, because we do have a lot
Speaker 1: of men listeners um. I wanted to get into a
Speaker 1: conversation on how a man can get into pleasing a woman,
Speaker 1: how they know they're pleasing their woman, and kind of
Speaker 1: the things that maybe they should look to do in
Speaker 1: order to make sure that their woman reaches orgasm because
Speaker 1: of course, as we know, people fake orgasms, um, which
Speaker 1: is an awful thing in en do not reward bad
Speaker 1: But even if it was good sex and you just
Speaker 1: can't get there, like, it's okay to say, like it
Speaker 1: was a good funk, but I didn't come. I've told
Speaker 1: guys that before and they've felt some type of way
Speaker 1: about it. But I think it's important. I would say
Speaker 1: it's been me being into in my head, are stressed
Speaker 1: out or whatever, or like a new experience. Sometimes with
Speaker 1: new people, I'm like a little you know, tense um,
Speaker 1: not now for one person, and foremost, talk to the
Speaker 1: men first. There's too much focus men. We focus too
Speaker 1: much on busting or nut like well, first and foremost like,
Speaker 1: if if that's your entire focus of why you're being
Speaker 1: with somebody sexually, then you're already wrong. Oh I like
Speaker 1: that because it's two people that are there right focus
Speaker 1: on your nut when you're jerking off. Do you think
Speaker 1: that this comes from porn? I've heard I want to
Speaker 1: go see a woman John Dereka Llust and she was like, listen,
Speaker 1: all the porn we watch growing up is showing men
Speaker 1: coming and then it's finished, and we're all waiting for
Speaker 1: that climax, and we're always learning that thing of like, oh,
Speaker 1: if women don't come, it's your fault, and if men
Speaker 1: don't come, it's also your fault. Like, yeah, I think
Speaker 1: I think porn has something to do with it, for sure,
Speaker 1: But I think that this is a mentality that dates
Speaker 1: way back before porn even exists, well at least porn
Speaker 1: as we know it. You know, I think that we
Speaker 1: live in a society that doesn't really value women at all.
Speaker 1: So sea, men, are you getting them sessions? Book? Now? Boys,
Speaker 1: men are only concerned not only with their orgasm, but
Speaker 1: with their point, with their voice, with their thoughts. You know,
Speaker 1: women are overlooked with pretty much things. So when it
Speaker 1: comes down to this most carnal of things, at this
Speaker 1: moment of pleasure, a man is the only thing about.
Speaker 1: Why do you think that is this something that innately
Speaker 1: like do you think it? Did you have sisters? Like,
Speaker 1: what was it about you, then make sure why do
Speaker 1: you think you're so focused on it or what upbringing
Speaker 1: that did you have it affected how you view women
Speaker 1: or treat women during sex or anything like that. What
Speaker 1: do you think it's been different about your life? I mean,
Speaker 1: I was raised by a group of great women who
Speaker 1: did everything. You know what I'm saying, Like, um, not
Speaker 1: to say that there were no good men in my life,
Speaker 1: but I was raised by my mother, my grandmother, my
Speaker 1: great grandmother. But did they have that conversation with you?
Speaker 1: Not really, I mean it was just more like my
Speaker 1: perception of women isn't that women are less than me.
Speaker 1: I think that I think that that's kind of like
Speaker 1: what most men have is no matter what, like even
Speaker 1: some men who were raised by great women still have
Speaker 1: a perception that women are are to be valued less
Speaker 1: in whatever kind of aspect it is. So sex is
Speaker 1: only another aspect of life. So I mean, I wouldn't
Speaker 1: say that I had that conversation specifically, but I definitely
Speaker 1: learned to value all human beings. But also like I
Speaker 1: think that women should be put on a pedestal. I
Speaker 1: think that if especially when it comes to pleasure, and
Speaker 1: this even if even if you have a selfish motive.
Speaker 1: At the end of the day, your sex is going
Speaker 1: to be better if you please the woman you're with. Like,
Speaker 1: even if you're just a selfish asshole and you can't
Speaker 1: look past the selfishness of it, your sex will still
Speaker 1: be better. Focus on what are some of the focuses
Speaker 1: or what are some of the things that you think
Speaker 1: a man can do If he's been one of those
Speaker 1: that just suns to get his nut and now he's
Speaker 1: maybe maturing and wants to please the women that he's fucking,
Speaker 1: what would be some of the first steps that you
Speaker 1: would give that man to make sure that he's going
Speaker 1: into it to please the woman. Ask her what she likes.
Speaker 1: It's so crazy. I just had a tweet and this
Speaker 1: actually applies to women as well. I just had a
Speaker 1: tweet by by one of our listeners and she said, Hey,
Speaker 1: my boyfriend, every time he goes down on me puts
Speaker 1: fingers in my vagina and I really don't like it.
Speaker 1: How do I tell him in a nice way? I
Speaker 1: don't like. I saw you retweet a reply from someone
Speaker 1: that I didn't like either. She was like, why are
Speaker 1: people not why are people doing this? Like kind of
Speaker 1: I think We've got to give women a little bit
Speaker 1: of a break because we're always so focused on men
Speaker 1: and kind of trained that way. I mean, even my
Speaker 1: mother saying, got to make sure you do this for him,
Speaker 1: and got to make sure you do this this for
Speaker 1: your man. We think we can't say when we don't
Speaker 1: like something, right. I mean, this is goes back to
Speaker 1: hate to bring it up, but very much that azizonsary
Speaker 1: moment with people blaming that girl for not knowing when
Speaker 1: to say no. A lot of women don't know when
Speaker 1: to say no. And even though that is a different situation,
Speaker 1: there's so many times in my life, you know, Leaven
Speaker 1: a little bit older, even twenty five, I'll say where
Speaker 1: I've been sucked away him and like I don't really
Speaker 1: like this, but like I'll just let it be finished
Speaker 1: for him. I think. I think there's also kind of
Speaker 1: like this romantic romantic idea that the person that is
Speaker 1: the perfect sexual partner for you is going to know
Speaker 1: everything you like, right. And I think that if you
Speaker 1: think about yourself, to make that point, if you think,
Speaker 1: if you think about yourself today and you think about
Speaker 1: yourself five years ago, chances are most things are gonna
Speaker 1: have changed, even if slightly, not just sexually, but just
Speaker 1: in your entire life. So it's kind of like you
Speaker 1: might you might also like certain things with one person
Speaker 1: and not with somebody else, Like you might be like, yo,
Speaker 1: I love the way you flogged, but this other time
Speaker 1: I got flogged, I did not like it because they
Speaker 1: did A B and C. So that could happen the
Speaker 1: same thing, like men assume that because they listened to
Speaker 1: the show that I'm just like such a submissive, Like
Speaker 1: I don't want you to smack me in the face.
Speaker 1: I like this from certain people i'm with. I don't
Speaker 1: want it from everybody. I think, you know what I'm saying, Like,
Speaker 1: it's I think um a lot of a lot of
Speaker 1: times too. People will say something like, yeah, I'm into kink,
Speaker 1: or I'm into b DSM, or I'm a sub. But
Speaker 1: that doesn't mean you're a sub to everybody, just like
Speaker 1: people think that because I'm a dumb I just walk
Speaker 1: around telling people what to do all day, and that's
Speaker 1: that's not how life works, you know. So it's kind
Speaker 1: of like what I like to do sexually doesn't mean
Speaker 1: that I'm an asshole of people in everyday life. We
Speaker 1: say that about the podcast. Just because we talk about
Speaker 1: sex openly doesn't mean we want to have sex with you.
Speaker 1: And a lot of people automatically assume that because we
Speaker 1: are sex positive and open freely, that now anyone can
Speaker 1: send us dick pics an just like people especially think
Speaker 1: even more than porn stars strippers get because like it's
Speaker 1: really I can't even imagine someone like giving you money
Speaker 1: in that moment, watching you dance and thinking they can
Speaker 1: violate you. Bro, I'd be going off on everybody. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I definitely. It's it's interesting because of my profession. You know,
Speaker 1: I definitely can. I mean I don't. I can't say
Speaker 1: I can walk into woman's shoes, you know what I'm saying. Like,
Speaker 1: I know, y'all deal with it. I'll never have to understand.
Speaker 1: But oh, like from my home girls, Actually it was
Speaker 1: Taomi who said it's like optical rape. You know, I
Speaker 1: get dudes who send me dick picks all the time,
Speaker 1: Like I want to be important, bro or whatever? What
Speaker 1: do you think it's like? Or just men who are
Speaker 1: interested in me, you know, just send me dick picks
Speaker 1: all day. And I'm like, and I get women who
Speaker 1: send me pussy picks. I get all day and it's like,
Speaker 1: I love pussy, but that doesn't mean I want you
Speaker 1: to send me yours, you know, And I'm pretty and
Speaker 1: I'm pretty, and so I think about the sisters I
Speaker 1: know who get dick picks. They might have never even
Speaker 1: talked about sex to a dude. And he's like, just
Speaker 1: some guy I met. I gave him my number, he
Speaker 1: said hi, and send a dick pick. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like that ship is crazy. And it still
Speaker 1: goes back to that thing that we were just talking
Speaker 1: about about men who do not care about women and
Speaker 1: what they think or how they feel. So all of that,
Speaker 1: it's a societal thing and it's gonna be reflecting how
Speaker 1: people have sex. Have you ever, I'm curious to know,
Speaker 1: Like I want to tell you this, but I I
Speaker 1: didn't think I would tell you, but now I want to.
Speaker 1: So when I first had you, I mean when I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: when we first had you on horrible decisions, right, I
Speaker 1: wasn't there A dude I know was like, oh yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: so his fasture ain't ending gay. I was like, why
Speaker 1: would you think that? And he was like I don't know,
Speaker 1: Like I saw like what he does. Have you ever
Speaker 1: noticed that men that are more in tune with their
Speaker 1: sex or like men that do fetish, Like people always
Speaker 1: assume male sex workers are gay, and like, how does
Speaker 1: that play into your role? Because I think I think
Speaker 1: it happens for sure. For one, I've had people say,
Speaker 1: DoD you gay because I think our Kelly is a
Speaker 1: piece of ship. Yeah, I mean no, I'm definite. Like
Speaker 1: arguments that I've had with people online or in person
Speaker 1: where it's like insside with a woman and they'd be like,
Speaker 1: you must be gay or you just do that to
Speaker 1: get pussy, you know what I mean, Like it's one
Speaker 1: or the other. And I'm like, those are two really
Speaker 1: different things, but you're calling me both right now, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Like, I think that there's this
Speaker 1: whole perception that if a man has respect for women,
Speaker 1: or if a man is in tune with his body
Speaker 1: or whatever, that he's gay. First, I don't take it
Speaker 1: as an insult. I know a lot of great people.
Speaker 1: I don't think that gay as an insult. But my
Speaker 1: sexuality is, um, it's women, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: But I think that it's just kind of like people
Speaker 1: might use that as an insult. I really like the
Speaker 1: way you said that. Did y'all see the video of
Speaker 1: the dude that was like, listen, God could deal with
Speaker 1: you the way he wants, but no, shame to the gays,
Speaker 1: but don't send me dick picks. I was like, that
Speaker 1: sounds like shame. Yeah, God can deal with you. Did
Speaker 1: you see that? No? I didn't. It was like circling
Speaker 1: around I don't know if it was a male model
Speaker 1: or a porn star was going around Twitter, and I
Speaker 1: was like, why did they have to say it's so angry?
Speaker 1: Like okay, like you're that fucking fine that everybody wants
Speaker 1: to fuck you. That's it. The interesting thing is, though,
Speaker 1: when when I've told women like, yo, chill, don't don't
Speaker 1: send me that unless I asked for it. You gay women, No,
Speaker 1: women are actually way more like that. I think they
Speaker 1: come back into themselves and be like, oh ship, yeah,
Speaker 1: that was kind of a really but why why do
Speaker 1: you think women then say if you don't like something
Speaker 1: or you don't want to suck them, then you're gay?
Speaker 1: Like why do you think we throw that out? Is
Speaker 1: that our own insecurity? I think that that's just like
Speaker 1: one of those insults that they know will resonate with
Speaker 1: most people. You know. I think that that's like that,
Speaker 1: and your mom is a bit that pretty much set
Speaker 1: off everybody, you know. So it's kind of like those
Speaker 1: are the go to John's right there. Yeah. So I
Speaker 1: wanted to to circle back into a man pleasing his woman,
Speaker 1: UM And I kind of wanted to get this into
Speaker 1: maybe one of the kinks that we've discussed on the
Speaker 1: show previously, um, which would be cuc holding. UM. So
Speaker 1: I wanted to bring this up because in that fashion
Speaker 1: or when I watch it, it makes me feel like
Speaker 1: a man is choosing cup holding as a means to
Speaker 1: please a woman because he can't please his woman. UM.
Speaker 1: So I kind of wanted to get into maybe the
Speaker 1: site key if a man is with his woman and
Speaker 1: chooses maybe to bring another party into the bedroom, what
Speaker 1: that means the psyche of it. And you've done cut holding,
Speaker 1: So I want to know kind of your psyche as
Speaker 1: the person who's being the giver, and that that's actually
Speaker 1: like one of the things that first UM introduced me
Speaker 1: into into B D s M and that whole lifestyle
Speaker 1: cuc holding was before. Yeah, because I actually I started,
Speaker 1: like when I first did porn. Some people started reaching
Speaker 1: out like, hey, would you fuck my wife? You know,
Speaker 1: that's actually kind of like how I got into That's
Speaker 1: how I learned um about domination and submissions. Like cuc
Speaker 1: holding is way a little bit above like just dressing
Speaker 1: up and spitting, and those to me are like baby steps.
Speaker 1: So cut holding being your baby step into beding. Remember
Speaker 1: resturin guy wanted like the cuc holding ship to happen
Speaker 1: all the time. That's kind of crazy and I was
Speaker 1: super into it until he was like, oh, it can
Speaker 1: only be a black guy. And then I was like
Speaker 1: I'm done, and do you get that too? Like being
Speaker 1: definitely get that um. And of course our listeners are
Speaker 1: gonna be like, he's racially ambiguous. I don't know why
Speaker 1: you'll want to call it like they do not want
Speaker 1: to give us the black title for ship, but tell
Speaker 1: that ship to the police and you know, there you go.
Speaker 1: Now when the coucolding does happen, right, the couples hit
Speaker 1: you up so like this is something that they want.
Speaker 1: I mean, I actually get um single males to who
Speaker 1: want to be cuckolded, and I'll just sit there and
Speaker 1: watch me and Jasmine work, or me and another performer
Speaker 1: as well's I think a lot of it has to
Speaker 1: do with what you say. Like some people who feel inadequate, um,
Speaker 1: some people who feel like they can never please a
Speaker 1: woman in in the same way. But for some people,
Speaker 1: it's like the ultimate submission, like there's someone who's so
Speaker 1: dominant over them that they dominate their household, or there's
Speaker 1: someone that's so dominant over them that it's like for
Speaker 1: for some they want to be what's considered like cissified
Speaker 1: or forced to be by That's another where like I
Speaker 1: got it, like they like you forced them to like
Speaker 1: suck your dick or something like that. Are you comfortable
Speaker 1: with that doesn't make you I have not had a
Speaker 1: cluck suck my dick before, but I definitely make them
Speaker 1: eat my comb from shut up, dude, you know what
Speaker 1: I did? I am booking my session. Where do you
Speaker 1: normally come that they lick off up? Like? Well, it
Speaker 1: depends like in um there was if you if you
Speaker 1: go to Royal Fetish x x X dot com, I'm
Speaker 1: joining Like I shot a scene with slave Fluffy and
Speaker 1: Ivory Brooks. I came like all over her stomach and chest.
Speaker 1: I don't know what I was eating that week, but
Speaker 1: I feel like that, did you? Did you? Maybe not
Speaker 1: like he couldn't finish as much as I could, wait,
Speaker 1: but you wanted it like it was kind of his
Speaker 1: task to lick it all up. That was his duty. Yo.
Speaker 1: Shot you see me here on the internet. Look, don't
Speaker 1: be trying to look it up. Yeah, bet you gotta
Speaker 1: pay for his ship. Ain't even freeing on the business account.
Speaker 1: Okay you hear me. Decisions LLC. We're gonna share this
Speaker 1: password that this that this, So it's this scene. She's
Speaker 1: really fucking cute. Yea. So like there was another scene
Speaker 1: I shot with Jasmine for another company and Jazz is
Speaker 1: my partner, so I can't evenside of her and the
Speaker 1: cop ate it out. You made him eat the creams
Speaker 1: my favorite party. She'd be eating like by eating cream pot.
Speaker 1: I look all that ship up. I mean look, did
Speaker 1: I say? Look you nasty? Um? Yeah, I'm so like, hey,
Speaker 1: I can't film it, but if you can block the
Speaker 1: tattoos out, I'm in um look look, but I mean
Speaker 1: it's funny because like for me, that being like one
Speaker 1: of my first like super extreme the first the first
Speaker 1: experience I've ever had. It was it was hit in
Speaker 1: New York it was in Long Island this couple day
Speaker 1: was like nice Long Island, travel out there from Jerors
Speaker 1: or whatever. You know. Were you in the house. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they had this table and all that ship, and I
Speaker 1: destroyed her on the pool table and made him sit
Speaker 1: in the corner and jerk office his ship with two fingers.
Speaker 1: Not one of those those are like that was your
Speaker 1: first experience? That my first Were you excited about it?
Speaker 1: Were you nervous? It was? It was one of those experiences.
Speaker 1: Was like she was hot. I was like I was
Speaker 1: all for it, you know, and you know I left
Speaker 1: with some bread too, so that was great. But I mean,
Speaker 1: you know, they filmed it and all this other stuff
Speaker 1: like it was. It was. It was crazy. I was
Speaker 1: going to ask you if they filmed it, because like
Speaker 1: whenever I'm important hub looking at like amateur, sometimes I
Speaker 1: wonder like yo, I feel like they found this dude
Speaker 1: on tender and they were like yo can and like
Speaker 1: they had and then I feel like the phone is
Speaker 1: always in a position like the other person doesn't know,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm gonna come watching this, but it's
Speaker 1: also sucked up. Yeah, I definitely knew about it ahead
Speaker 1: of time, so that was cool. It was it was
Speaker 1: they reached out through a company that I worked for.
Speaker 1: So so as a man who comes in and does
Speaker 1: the performing while the other man watches, what kind of
Speaker 1: goes through your mind? Or if a man is interested
Speaker 1: in maybe doing that, is there any type of preparation
Speaker 1: mentally that you have to do. I don't know. Everybody
Speaker 1: is different. I mean me, I'm a complete exhibitionist. Like
Speaker 1: when people watch me too, like like when people ask
Speaker 1: like what what what makes you different? Like I look
Speaker 1: at porn and all that. I think of it as
Speaker 1: like being a sexual athlete, you know, like you gotta
Speaker 1: show up, you gotta perform. You we are so grateful
Speaker 1: that you're not accountant, because what a waste of skill,
Speaker 1: you know what. Sometimes I stuck tick and I'd be
Speaker 1: like I should totally feel that, Like that's what makes
Speaker 1: me have so many videos. Someone just told me I
Speaker 1: was born to be a porn star, and I kind
Speaker 1: of take that. It's like, wait, I could do more
Speaker 1: than I gave a laby a massage so good the
Speaker 1: other day and I was like, I can teach the class,
Speaker 1: like you know, and I think in the day and
Speaker 1: age that we live a porn star doesn't limit you
Speaker 1: to just one thing. I think slowly. I mean, there's
Speaker 1: still a whole lot of you know, bad connotation with
Speaker 1: it and all that. But we've seen certain people who
Speaker 1: have come into the business from all kinds of walks
Speaker 1: of life. You see some people who take this business
Speaker 1: and go to other walks of life that back in
Speaker 1: the day they were like, now you can't do that.
Speaker 1: So you know, I think that that for me, Like
Speaker 1: from the first time I was on your show, there
Speaker 1: were people who are like, wow, I didn't know you
Speaker 1: were articulate, Like they automatically think that. Jau. Then you
Speaker 1: came straight out of jail. You couldn't get a knowledge
Speaker 1: you could guess jail because you'd be like, damn, he
Speaker 1: must have read a lot. I could be all sick
Speaker 1: and go to jail. I think, you know, I think
Speaker 1: the way the world works. I think the way the
Speaker 1: world works. I think it's very important for me to
Speaker 1: just break as many boxes as possible. Absolutely, I think
Speaker 1: I think like the work that we do, for example,
Speaker 1: with with our class point in parenting. You know, we're
Speaker 1: not telling people that, you know, you could go out
Speaker 1: there and be porn stars, but we're saying you could
Speaker 1: be a point star on your own bedroom, you know,
Speaker 1: but as a but as a parent, you know, there's
Speaker 1: certain responsibility that you have, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And then also at the same time, how can you
Speaker 1: be a sex positive parent so that your children will
Speaker 1: not be shamed or won't shame themselves, but can still
Speaker 1: live a safe And now I want you, Jasmine and
Speaker 1: the baby in here next time. But I'm not even
Speaker 1: a lie like that. I want her best feed. I
Speaker 1: want to make it a whole mom. That's like a
Speaker 1: thing with me, Like when I go, like if I'm
Speaker 1: sucking a guy and he has a kid in the house,
Speaker 1: I feel like I can't even moan. And I'm a moner.
Speaker 1: I love being loud, but it's nothing. I don't want
Speaker 1: the child to hear me moaning. And that's so that's
Speaker 1: kind of what. Yeah, that's when, that's when you could
Speaker 1: get the pillow. You know. I want to tell you
Speaker 1: thing you just said checking off the boxes. I think
Speaker 1: the most impressive and interesting thing about you that I
Speaker 1: found from just being a listener in that episode was
Speaker 1: that you were a dom that carred so much about
Speaker 1: pleasuring women like you could almost tell it wasn't phony.
Speaker 1: You know that it's a very genuine thing about you,
Speaker 1: Even me saying I want to spank Mandy, you making
Speaker 1: sure that I did it a certain way. Having a
Speaker 1: dom that loves to give pleasure is a great thing.
Speaker 1: Like I've had doms that, you know, spank me, make
Speaker 1: me suck not that don't like, make me suck a dick,
Speaker 1: and it's just like, and I'm going crazy because I'm
Speaker 1: ready to come. And even though that's part of it
Speaker 1: sometimes like I don't know if they necessarily care or
Speaker 1: if it's just part of the play, but I think
Speaker 1: you seem to make it very clear that that is
Speaker 1: a priority, and that's what makes it so fun. I
Speaker 1: think that it should because there's a lot of men
Speaker 1: who are so dominant in the bedroom where like, you know,
Speaker 1: where they like a woman to gag because they you know,
Speaker 1: it's a dumb thing to do and all that stuff.
Speaker 1: And there are some men where I think I've draw
Speaker 1: on the line where I don't feel like they cared
Speaker 1: whether I was being pleased or not and how they
Speaker 1: were treating me, from the slaps to the choking to
Speaker 1: all of that. There's even ways to choke where which
Speaker 1: sometimes it hurts, but there's very ways. There's ways to
Speaker 1: also choke someone where it does it feels good, it
Speaker 1: turns you want Wheezy wants to almost die and no,
Speaker 1: she I'll be honest with you, I don't like to
Speaker 1: have sex with people like that. I have no experience
Speaker 1: has no experience with it yet, know I mean, you can,
Speaker 1: you can definitely hurt somebody. And I think that there
Speaker 1: are people who get into b D s M because
Speaker 1: they want to hurt people and they think that it
Speaker 1: might be a way that they can hurt people in
Speaker 1: a way that's like oh no, no, no no, no, Like
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. I'm a dom and that
Speaker 1: one was so interesting about even though people think it's
Speaker 1: a very vanilla movie in fifty Shades of Gray, when
Speaker 1: he beat her a little too hard because he had
Speaker 1: that in him, Like, I feel so bad to know
Speaker 1: there are doms like that. We've had Kiki on here
Speaker 1: um a sub who was talking about almost like some
Speaker 1: violence ship where I was like, like, but when it
Speaker 1: comes to I think it's important Like for me, I
Speaker 1: think one of the things I love about domming is
Speaker 1: it forces me to I have to pay such attention
Speaker 1: to myself, especially in a session because you're breathing, you
Speaker 1: know how your body responds, like if you're bruising or
Speaker 1: anything like that, especially if you're like, yeah, I want
Speaker 1: to like push it. I want to I won't go crazy,
Speaker 1: so like if we're pushing your limits. But that's also
Speaker 1: different for everybody. And I'm not attentive enough to your
Speaker 1: body to know, like you know, because some subs will
Speaker 1: be like, I don't want to disappoint my dom, so
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say my safety word, but they might
Speaker 1: go past the point where they should have said it
Speaker 1: already if you're not paying enough attention to that person
Speaker 1: to know, like you should cheer for a minute. Let's
Speaker 1: yellow without for a bit, Let's let's relax. That's it
Speaker 1: ready yellow now. I do want to ask if you
Speaker 1: could just tell us about a time where, like you,
Speaker 1: you know, you do erotic massage and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: Have you ever had a time where you did erotic
Speaker 1: massage and started having sex with that? But like y'all
Speaker 1: were just it was getting crazy, and like, do you
Speaker 1: have someone in mind or a person or a moment
Speaker 1: you're thinking about? Watch that on Royal Fetish County. You
Speaker 1: got to take right. She got to charge it to
Speaker 1: the business account. I'm gonna be like, no, but you
Speaker 1: make enought, you gotta take that. I'll be honest with
Speaker 1: you next time you're in New York. I'm really um considering.
Speaker 1: So I've been digging this girl, call her Scissors, and
Speaker 1: we've dated years ago, and I've been talking about bringing
Speaker 1: a guy in the room with us, and you know,
Speaker 1: having an experience, not knowing what it will be, and
Speaker 1: I think sometimes she worries about male energy and maybe
Speaker 1: like how I'll feel about that person, And I think
Speaker 1: that I would love to, if you're down, have a
Speaker 1: session of all three of us and maybe document it
Speaker 1: like together, sure, all of who you and the other
Speaker 1: girl on him. Yeah, don't be trying to put that
Speaker 1: on a business count neither, hope research. I want to
Speaker 1: go ahead before we get out of here, I want
Speaker 1: to get into our homemaale real quick. As you guys know,
Speaker 1: you can submit homemail at Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: This one was actually sent into my d M, and
Speaker 1: normally I don't read y'all motherfucking dia. I hate homel
Speaker 1: and dias, but this one was good and I don't
Speaker 1: know if she wanted me to personally help, because you
Speaker 1: know herd my issues in life. But I was like,
Speaker 1: we have an open man on the show, so let's see, um,
Speaker 1: you know, if maybe you can help us. So it
Speaker 1: says good morning, girly. UM, I have a big question.
Speaker 1: I honestly don't know how to even handle this. I've
Speaker 1: been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for over
Speaker 1: a year and we lived together. I recently found out
Speaker 1: that before me, he lived with a transsexual woman for
Speaker 1: two years, and supposedly he didn't know she still had
Speaker 1: a penis. He even put a restraining order out on her.
Speaker 1: At the end, I'm thinking he only did this to
Speaker 1: cover his own ass with his family. I've called him
Speaker 1: talking to other transsexuals and he just says they're friends.
Speaker 1: Am I wrong to hate him for not telling me
Speaker 1: the truth? I can't even sleep at night with him
Speaker 1: knowing that he likes men like He won't kiss me
Speaker 1: or go down on me, but he'll be quick to
Speaker 1: suck a dick. He drinks a lot, and I think
Speaker 1: it's something that he's been trying to find himself. I
Speaker 1: hate her already, what I like, I see why ending
Speaker 1: of it. When I read the ending of it, I
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, so first off, you have a whole
Speaker 1: issue with identify. You're the reason that motherfuckers have to
Speaker 1: write restraining orders, and frankly, I'm almost embarrassed that you're
Speaker 1: a fucking listener of this show. I hope to god
Speaker 1: you get offended at what I'm saying. You're a piece
Speaker 1: of ship. You're exactly why we have fucking issues with
Speaker 1: Is she black? She she looks Latina. Fine, she probably
Speaker 1: likes to fun niggas and she's sucking them up. This
Speaker 1: is such a toxic way of thinking, Like I don't
Speaker 1: know who raised you with this fucking bullshit, but let's
Speaker 1: stop calling them transsexuals one that's like, really fucking if
Speaker 1: they also identify and carry themselves as women. We are
Speaker 1: too IDENTI to suck a dick. Maybe you just don't
Speaker 1: want to fuck you. Maybe it's not enough with you.
Speaker 1: Maybe that's the fucking problem. Maybe you could d M
Speaker 1: me and we could talk about it more on I Live.
Speaker 1: Because I'm gonna tell you right now the problem with
Speaker 1: men not being comfortable with enjoying other people. I'm not
Speaker 1: even gonna a men or women or whoever other people
Speaker 1: is because of the fear of them looking like whatever
Speaker 1: you're thinking of him. It doesn't make him less of
Speaker 1: a man. It doesn't make him less of a person
Speaker 1: to fucking make a restraining order on somebody over some
Speaker 1: bullshit like that. I really hope he lied to you,
Speaker 1: because you're such a judgmental cunt. And I rarely use
Speaker 1: that word, so I don't care. So when I got
Speaker 1: to the ending of that, I was I felt a
Speaker 1: a little hurt. Um. But also again, I have a
Speaker 1: friend who is also going through this um to where
Speaker 1: it's led him down alcoholism, therapy, depression because he isn't
Speaker 1: two trends women, and he's he knows that his family
Speaker 1: may not be accepting of it because he grew up
Speaker 1: in the church, so hiding that piece of himself from
Speaker 1: his mom. He even told me like, yo, I brought
Speaker 1: a white girl home to my mom one time. Could
Speaker 1: you imagine if I brought you know, x y Z.
Speaker 1: And even just that thought process is just it's unfortunate
Speaker 1: that and we've Wheezy and I have both said it
Speaker 1: before that unfortunately as women, um are just as much
Speaker 1: the root of the cause to men not being able
Speaker 1: to open up sexually, whether it's their kinks that they
Speaker 1: want in the bedroom, um, like pegging or other things
Speaker 1: that I've mentioned on the show, UM, or whether it
Speaker 1: isn't experimenting or finding out what they genuinely like in
Speaker 1: the bedroom in fear of what the women they date,
Speaker 1: or the women they speak with or their women family
Speaker 1: members will think of them. UM. So I like that
Speaker 1: you went as hard as you did. Normally i'd be like,
Speaker 1: I bet she's one of those that loves gaze and
Speaker 1: like I love got yeah, ask mean, okay, same ship, right,
Speaker 1: and then you're shady. So I guess realize you have
Speaker 1: to cull a lot of ship out of your life.
Speaker 1: If you have that much of a problem with trans women,
Speaker 1: a lot of ship out of your life. Gotta go, bitch,
Speaker 1: all the fucking TV shows you watch, all the make up,
Speaker 1: all of it, bitch, just stop, cancel it, Join City Girls,
Speaker 1: what yo? Shut the far? I'm sorry, Like she had,
Speaker 1: I was just like for someone who I was listened
Speaker 1: to our show for you to still be so close minded,
Speaker 1: it kind of like, bitch, have you not been listening
Speaker 1: to what the funk we've been saying on this goddamn
Speaker 1: show I was about to like real something back, but
Speaker 1: I don't care. Yeah, So what would be I guess
Speaker 1: your response to that, or how do you think maybe
Speaker 1: she should approaches you being a man? What would be
Speaker 1: the right way for her to have this conversation with
Speaker 1: her man? I think first and foremost, I just want
Speaker 1: to say that whatever you're into and whoever you're into,
Speaker 1: as long as you leave children, animals and people who
Speaker 1: say no out of it, you're good. Is that description?
Speaker 1: I don't know what right. I don't know think that
Speaker 1: there is, though, there's this perception of what manhood is,
Speaker 1: and unfortunately, the perception of manhood is pretty fucked up,
Speaker 1: Like it's pretty toxic, as you've stated, you know, I
Speaker 1: think that men posture a lot because they don't know
Speaker 1: how and especially unfortunately, I mean in our community, we're
Speaker 1: we're always told that our lives don't matter, whether it's man, woman,
Speaker 1: or trans like, we're all told our lives don't matter.
Speaker 1: But there's this perception in Western society that the man
Speaker 1: is supposed to be the top in the head of everything.
Speaker 1: So in the black and brown community, a lot of
Speaker 1: black and brown men are like, why I gotta be
Speaker 1: the head in the top. So then it leads to
Speaker 1: men bullying transpho at least to men bullying women. And
Speaker 1: then like there was this post. I forget who posted it,
Speaker 1: but it was so real that it was like black
Speaker 1: men have become the white men of our own community
Speaker 1: because because everybody else and I think that now, you know,
Speaker 1: you see women who perceive, um, a man is less
Speaker 1: than a man because he was, you know, and you
Speaker 1: you actually said you just want to go see a streak.
Speaker 1: So James Baldwin is one of my greatest heroes of ever,
Speaker 1: you know, I mean, like, I think that man was
Speaker 1: a man, and he stood up for his people, and
Speaker 1: he stood up for everything the way a human being
Speaker 1: should stand up. You know what I'm saying. His gender
Speaker 1: was just a part of his story, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, just like his blackness is a part of
Speaker 1: his story. And a lot of times we get so
Speaker 1: caught up in all these little things that we try
Speaker 1: to nitpick, to break people apart and break people. And
Speaker 1: that's what she's doing because she's not happy. And maybe
Speaker 1: y'all just don't fucking fit together. It might not be
Speaker 1: because of who he likes. It might not be you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, But I think it's just kind
Speaker 1: of like if you're trying to find all these things
Speaker 1: about him, Like if you love somebody, you love them
Speaker 1: for who they are. If you like them, you like
Speaker 1: them for who they are. If you don't like them,
Speaker 1: then you don't like them at all these other things,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like you're trying to make
Speaker 1: it about other stuff to justify how you feel about
Speaker 1: him instead of just being like, you know, maybe we
Speaker 1: ain't meant to be together. We really can't forget that
Speaker 1: people are humans though, Like just I mean, you said
Speaker 1: you thought she was Latina. Like I can't sit here
Speaker 1: and like be a Black Lives Matter bit and not
Speaker 1: think about latinas or be a feminist and not thinking
Speaker 1: about every woman like I can't. I have to remember
Speaker 1: everybody's sucking human, you know. And sometimes I even get
Speaker 1: little brainwashed in my own Euroses where I'm like, I
Speaker 1: like all the white people and we're like something most
Speaker 1: of them are just a lot of white people are
Speaker 1: not trash, They're just that, you know. And it's like
Speaker 1: I have to really break that shift down and just
Speaker 1: practice what I preach, but also from what she's trying
Speaker 1: to do is label him into putting it like something
Speaker 1: is wrong with him for liking trans women um or
Speaker 1: being into sucking dick or whatever. You know. I think
Speaker 1: that as humans to sit here and classify or degrade
Speaker 1: someone based on their sexual preferences, whether you know, our
Speaker 1: next guys talking about sluts or us liking host shit,
Speaker 1: or if a man likes to engage in other things
Speaker 1: that may not be of the norm. It doesn't make
Speaker 1: anyone less Dan, and you shouldn't sit here and feel
Speaker 1: the need to make him feel less than because those
Speaker 1: maybe his choices behind closed doors. So I like that
Speaker 1: we got on that bitch, you will piece of trash,
Speaker 1: but were gonna hope that you work through this, and
Speaker 1: after we sat here and talk, we hope that you
Speaker 1: see your I can't wait to read her reply. She's
Speaker 1: gonna be like, UM, can I just say it's someone
Speaker 1: I thinks they should be accepting. Y'all don't want to
Speaker 1: make it a teaching moment. No, bitch, we did it.
Speaker 1: It's too late. It's two thousand nineteen. I ain't got
Speaker 1: time to teach all. Well, we wait, let before we
Speaker 1: go just kind of like tell people like um exactly
Speaker 1: what they can look forward to in a session with you,
Speaker 1: because I know that you're in a where to find you,
Speaker 1: but you can definitely explore your kink. I don't ever
Speaker 1: like there's no that's our k phrase. I'm just sorry,
Speaker 1: there's no there's no two sessions that are ever the same.
Speaker 1: It's like I always tell people, if you make love
Speaker 1: the same way twice, you're doing it wrong. What I'm saying,
Speaker 1: it's the same. It's the same thing every girl that
Speaker 1: listens to the show. I mean, it's it's and and
Speaker 1: I'm not saying like, yo, now you gotta go funk
Speaker 1: on a plane, you know what I mean. But I
Speaker 1: mean you can do that. But I mean, if all
Speaker 1: you got is your bedroom, just try a different position,
Speaker 1: try with the lights on, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: It's it's just little things to change it up that
Speaker 1: will make you learn something new about your partner and
Speaker 1: learn something new about yourself. And all the fetish training sessions,
Speaker 1: that's what it's really about. It's about learning about yourself
Speaker 1: and opening yourself up to different forms of pleasure, different
Speaker 1: forms of of kink, and open it up. Do you like?
Speaker 1: So if someone you know messages you like they can
Speaker 1: maybe like do you do a little emailing before hand
Speaker 1: consultation coll because we have we have we have like
Speaker 1: a survey that goes over something like two or three
Speaker 1: hundred different fetishes and it might not be a fetish
Speaker 1: that you would yourself want to experience, but you saying like, like,
Speaker 1: let's just say there's a line of things and it's
Speaker 1: like gag, ball, spit and handcuffs. Do you have yours? Know?
Speaker 1: Or maybe right? And to me, that just lets me
Speaker 1: know a little bit about who you are and what
Speaker 1: you are either a open to, because I don't always
Speaker 1: say like Okay, I'm gonna come in there and then
Speaker 1: we're gonna do five minutes of flogging and you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, it's not how it works. Asking about
Speaker 1: the booty hole, I was like, can I lick it?
Speaker 1: Can I figure it? Can I pay it? Yes? No? Maybe?
Speaker 1: And that's pretty much how I gauge what I can
Speaker 1: and cannot do to the booty can't it? Pretty much?
Speaker 1: But they're like if they're like, yeah, you could do
Speaker 1: all three, you're not just gonna jump them, Tom gotta start.
Speaker 1: You got a woman with it. So it's like the
Speaker 1: same kind of thing within if you're I'm an artist,
Speaker 1: so you're gonna You're just gonna tell me what types
Speaker 1: of paint I'm gonna use, and then we're gonna paint
Speaker 1: from there. I like that if I could a text
Speaker 1: message like that and then take the draw. But can
Speaker 1: you go ahead and let our listeners know where they
Speaker 1: can find you and book you can? You can definitely
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna show easy the ones you don't send me.
Speaker 1: And by the way, paying for porn it's a big
Speaker 1: came here the trailer when they come out, he'd be
Speaker 1: sending me the Can I be in the email? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I had you because he's sending me All of them
Speaker 1: did look beautiful. So y'all think I'm playing. Anybody listening
Speaker 1: thinks I'm playing about like doing this session altogether. Like,
Speaker 1: I think it only makes sense. You say, love what
Speaker 1: you want to invite the whole got them fifty lists. No,
Speaker 1: I don't want to invite them in the bedroom, Like
Speaker 1: I don't want to film it, but I would love
Speaker 1: to just make it something where like we can all
Speaker 1: talk about how it was together, you know, like if
Speaker 1: I was nervous or like, you know what I mean that,
Speaker 1: I just want to watch exhibition. No, the voyer vary,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be the voyer. No, you couldn't say GENITALI anyway,
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Speaker 1: here on Mondays and I'm tired of talking. I just
Speaker 1: want to go jerke off in the bathroom after getting clog,
Speaker 1: I know, I feel like I gotta go white my pussy. Anyways, guys,
Speaker 1: this has been yet another episode of Horrible Decisions y
Speaker 1: In my mind, I sometimes can't watch the same scenes
Speaker 1: over and over. But that's also my problem with probably
Speaker 1: why I haven't been able to mutually masturbate. Because if
Speaker 1: I'm if I'm watching a porn and I'm allowing you
Speaker 1: to play with me while I watch a porn, you
Speaker 1: have to be comfortable. There's gonna be two guys, fucking
Speaker 1: and that one I haven't kind of gotten into yet.
Speaker 1: Literally like literally I'm and even the guys or Tranport,
Speaker 1: so literally even the guys that have allowed me to pay,
Speaker 1: they don't like the idea that I like too many
Speaker 1: men because they like to make it be known that
Speaker 1: they don't like man. So like they're just not into
Speaker 1: gay porn. I even be trying to send them links,
Speaker 1: but they're like, man, what you sent me there for? It? Like,
Speaker 1: but they'll watch t trndport, So would you just say,
Speaker 1: MANDI trand port they'll watch trend porn. I thought you
Speaker 1: said train and then be d D and g trany.
Speaker 1: I thought that, Like I was trying to first off
Speaker 1: it why I know, but the work we got it
Speaker 1: recorded I in sight, So that second um mutual masturbation
Speaker 1: for me. Um the girl needy on the phone stip
Speaker 1: that she on like she gotta be upside down and
Speaker 1: ship because then they got to see and blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: But here's how I've done it right, which I really
Speaker 1: enjoyed one I recently I think was it a year ago? Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: it wasn't this year. Last year I was home for Thanksgiving,
Speaker 1: went home with this guy. He didn't have a condom,
Speaker 1: and I was like, you should remember this, and so
Speaker 1: I did it that way, and like we just were
Speaker 1: side by side and like he and I were like
Speaker 1: making out and touching each other. It was good. I've
Speaker 1: also like almost done a quote unquote scissors position, like
Speaker 1: I've kind of like almost stood on top or like
Speaker 1: was on top of a dude like masturbating. It's like
Speaker 1: my titties was in his face. It was really good.
Speaker 1: And then one that I really love, my best musical masturbation,
Speaker 1: where we were like really far apart. I was at
Speaker 1: lover Boy's crib and he was on the computer doing
Speaker 1: some kind of online gambling ship I don't know whatever
Speaker 1: European ship. He had this couch in front and I
Speaker 1: sat on it while he was on there because he
Speaker 1: wouldn't pay attention to me, and I started masturbating and
Speaker 1: then he came over to my pussy and I told
Speaker 1: him now and he was like what. I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna come like this because you're just so
Speaker 1: fucking busy, see, and I so, I guess I've done
Speaker 1: it out of I've done it out of revenge. Then
Speaker 1: like I remember, um, someone when I brought him up
Speaker 1: on the show before. But I ain't gonna down talking
Speaker 1: right now. But there's been times where we've had sex
Speaker 1: and it wasn't good. I didn't come and he wasn't
Speaker 1: trying to get back up. So I've literally just to
Speaker 1: let him know how much he did not please me.
Speaker 1: I've turned on porn right next to him, loud so
Speaker 1: that he couldn't watch TV and played pussy and when
Speaker 1: he said, like, what are you doing, I'm gonna come
Speaker 1: since you didn't make me, And I've literally sat in
Speaker 1: the bed, girl, I ain't gonna say his name really. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And we argued so much every night. Yeah, So I've
Speaker 1: done that with him and I didn't and I did
Speaker 1: it with an got piste on well now because I
Speaker 1: know I was just really doing it to sun up
Speaker 1: his ego. I really couldn't get in the mood to come,
Speaker 1: but I was just doing it to make it show like, nigga,
Speaker 1: please myself because you were nigga and you ain't make
Speaker 1: me come. What did he do? Is he just sitting there? Oh? No?
Speaker 1: You know we had a whole lass argument about it
Speaker 1: while he was doing it again, you know, like I
Speaker 1: was doing and then like of course I turned up.
Speaker 1: He was mad that my porn was on because he
Speaker 1: was trying to watch a game or something, and I
Speaker 1: was like, so you ain't made me come go to
Speaker 1: the living room. Then I'm sitting right here and I'm
Speaker 1: gonna make myself come since you didn't. So it's really
Speaker 1: more so like fuck you.