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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry letter subject it is over before

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Speaker 1: you know it. Here Stephen Shirley. I'm a twenty nine

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Speaker 1: year old married woman. My husband and I have been

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Speaker 1: married for almost three years. We met at work, and

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Speaker 1: we fell for each other rather quickly. We also began

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Speaker 1: to have sex early on in our relationship. At first,

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Speaker 1: the sex was okay, it was what I needed then,

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Speaker 1: But as time went on, our encounter started to be

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Speaker 1: a problem because he could not last long at all.

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Speaker 1: He was getting all of the pleasure and I wasn't

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Speaker 1: getting any well. We eventually got married. I married him

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Speaker 1: because I loved him and I saw a future with him.

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Speaker 1: But I definitely underestimated the importance of good sex in

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Speaker 1: a relationship. I find myself fantasizing, watching porn and daydreaming

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Speaker 1: about other men. I realized in theory that sex isn't everything,

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Speaker 1: but gosh, darnett, I need him good quality stuff, and

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Speaker 1: I needed quick. I don't know how long I can

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Speaker 1: be in this marriage. I have talked to him about it,

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Speaker 1: and he doesn't see this as a problem. What's a

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Speaker 1: girl to do? Please help? Well? Two lines that I

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Speaker 1: never thought that would be together. Was well, we eventually

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Speaker 1: got married after you know, you talked about your encounters.

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Speaker 1: Your sexual encounter started to be a problem because he

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Speaker 1: couldn't last that long. But you know you eventually married

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Speaker 1: him anyway, So you said you married him because you

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Speaker 1: loved him and you saw a future with him. But

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Speaker 1: you definitely underestimated how important sex wasn't a marriage, And yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're right, sex is very important in a marriage. It is.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, have you guys gone to the doctor.

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Speaker 1: Is it a medical issue? Perhaps he needs to, you know,

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Speaker 1: see a doctor about it. You've talked to him and

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Speaker 1: he doesn't think it's such a big deal, but to you,

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Speaker 1: it is a big deal. And you're his wife and

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Speaker 1: he should think what's important to you should be important

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Speaker 1: to him. Can she go fast? You? Can she go fast?

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Speaker 1: Let's keep up? Oh this is on her? You know

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Speaker 1: the pace? Get with anyway. I'm just sorry though, I

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Speaker 1: think watching porn and things like that, I think it

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Speaker 1: can make it worse because you know you're gonna once

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Speaker 1: you're already inadequate husband to do what you to do

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Speaker 1: to you what you see him those people do on

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Speaker 1: the screen. So I don't think that's necessarily a way

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Speaker 1: to cure this. I if I were you, I would say,

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Speaker 1: you guys need to go and check it out. And

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Speaker 1: perhaps it is a medical condition. Steve, you naked, dug.

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Speaker 1: Come on, well, lady, you're twenty nine. You got a

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Speaker 1: lot of living in front of you, living like you've

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Speaker 1: been living for three years. This don't sound like much

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Speaker 1: of a life you got coming. I'm gonna just go

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Speaker 1: on and paint a picture, real dog for you. Ain't

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Speaker 1: no sunnyside to this, damn it. It's raining. It ain't

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Speaker 1: partly cloudy. It's raining fully cloudy, Danny, And it ain't

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Speaker 1: raining on nobody but you, so black cloud following you

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Speaker 1: here where you go. You can't get nothing from him.

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Speaker 1: We all we began. You met at work. You're fell

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Speaker 1: in love rather quickly. He's a nice guy, great guy.

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Speaker 1: But we also began having sex early in our relationship.

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Speaker 1: That what she mean in first week, that what she

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Speaker 1: meant at first and sex was okay, it was just

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Speaker 1: all right. It never Mars never was. You never heard

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Speaker 1: and cried. You ain't never been in the corner, sucking

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Speaker 1: up in the teeth chattering. You ain't knocking nothing off

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Speaker 1: the knights. Then you ain't broke the head. Boy, You

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Speaker 1: ain't been into the pillar. You ain't told the folk

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Speaker 1: and realize you was bleeding. You ain't none none of

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Speaker 1: this when this boy up here working, you ain't had

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Speaker 1: none of that because it was just okay. But at

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Speaker 1: the time when on that encounter started to be a

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Speaker 1: first of all, let me pay you a compliment. Sometimes

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Speaker 1: when a man can't last long, let's just be honest.

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Speaker 1: It's just that damn good. Oh it's so good that

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Speaker 1: lord him. I say, I want to work, but I'm

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Speaker 1: the more work get put on me. So that's what now.

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Speaker 1: The only solution to this is married ladies. If you're

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Speaker 1: having trouble or you're dating a man that doesn't have

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Speaker 1: your point in relationship where you are not using protected sex.

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Speaker 1: Ask him to wear a condom that would give him

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Speaker 1: minute Yeah, could be ten, could be much longer. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but it released could get you where you needed to be.

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Speaker 1: Just ask him to wear a condom that will help him.

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Speaker 1: Now you needed to know that, all right? Just twenty

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Speaker 1: nine year old married woman got this man, been married

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Speaker 1: three years and they met it work fair with each other,

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Speaker 1: beginning was okay, but now it's developed into a problem.

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Speaker 1: Homeboard can't last. Thank you, sugar? Did he have a breathing?

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Speaker 1: Thank you heavy breathing? Than well, you can thank the

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Speaker 1: Lord if you want to. I have nothing to be

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Speaker 1: grateful for at this point, because you're too fast now

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Speaker 1: my suggesting you are, No, he is. Just have him

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Speaker 1: Ask him to wear a condom that should give you

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Speaker 1: married him because I love him and I saw a

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Speaker 1: future with him. But I definitely underestimated the porting of

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Speaker 1: good sex and relationship. I find myself fantasizing watching poem

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Speaker 1: and daydreaming about other men. And we're gonna get back

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Speaker 1: to that. I realized in theory that sex isn't everything,

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Speaker 1: but gosh done it. No sex is everything as come

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Speaker 1: on and talk to me. It's nothing you. Cars and

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Speaker 1: houses ain't good as that. Look how you get in

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Speaker 1: m I got nice cars. None of them good is nice? Yeah? Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're right. You're right, you know because I get in

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Speaker 1: my cars on none of my cars. Maybe me go

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Speaker 1: now one of them. I'm with you when you're right now,

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Speaker 1: one of them, and I'd have said in it for hours.

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Speaker 1: Not one car, not one car made you do what?

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Speaker 1: You just don't do it when you close the door

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Speaker 1: and don't when you close the door and sitting in

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Speaker 1: the level seats and don't. How about this room that

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Speaker 1: don't get it? Let me hear one more time. If

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Speaker 1: we haven't reading, thank you now listen to me. Now

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Speaker 1: let's go back. I find myself fantasizing and watching pawn

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Speaker 1: and daydreaming about other men. Listen to me. You got

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Speaker 1: to stop watching that poem because your husband is not

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Speaker 1: poorn star material. He ain't long gone, he ain't thunderbolt,

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Speaker 1: he ain't master built, he ain't matted the truck barbecue,

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Speaker 1: He ain't ding dung hung like come something else? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he ain't. Woo Lord, good God, amighty, what you gonna

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Speaker 1: do it? All that? Yeah? You know you're crazy Points

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Speaker 1: no stripper name too much. Yeah, you ain't't none of that.

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Speaker 1: So now you're watching Pawn and you got to get

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Speaker 1: back over here with half broke? With what half broke?

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Speaker 1: Little man shout speedy gunzans quick drama draw, Yeah, mighty mouse,

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Speaker 1: you're over here with all these shot little references. You

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Speaker 1: got to deal with minute race. Yeah you over here,

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Speaker 1: Uncle Bean, Rice, Rony, you don't hear rhymen, noodles, minute grits. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you over hear. Michael Wayne, you're over here with him.

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Speaker 1: Now you're watching pawn. Big boy come out just swinging.

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Speaker 1: He just up in here schlanging, and then you go

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Speaker 1: back to him. So you've got to stop watching Point

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Speaker 1: and now you're fantasizing about other men. So what is

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Speaker 1: the answer this. I want to talk to him about it,

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Speaker 1: and he doesn't see it as a problem. I have

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Speaker 1: tried talking to him and he don't see it as no,

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Speaker 1: because he's getting his what's a girl to do? Please help?

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Speaker 1: He gonna have to get it, and that's a damn ship. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you don't get it, somebody else will. But how he

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Speaker 1: do walk with me for thank you? And she's sitting

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Speaker 1: there with her homes as a person on the radio.

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Speaker 1: I want to help you out, but I can't. What

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Speaker 1: do you mean? I mean? I want to offer a

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Speaker 1: solution I just don't have. Yeah, I mean mean time

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Speaker 1: to send people money and stuff like that over the years.

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Speaker 1: Come tell you. I mean, you know, we helped as

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Speaker 1: she can start with herself. Well, she can't go down

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Speaker 1: some stuff down there. You have seen in that poll.

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Speaker 1: Look at the time stuff. I don't know how to

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Speaker 1: hear you use that power. Try. I saw a girl

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Speaker 1: one time with a bat I said, we love. I

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Speaker 1: couldn't follow that. No, that's the head. That's the head

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Speaker 1: lighted up. Stuff down that use gasoline had accord on it.

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Speaker 1: Whoa you You got a lawn moore putting on the stag.

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, we gotta go. Email us your Instagram.

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Speaker 1: That's your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter at My Girls, Shirley,

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