Speaker 1: Looking jubil in the morning. You've got to be careful
Speaker 1: when joking around on a first date because the other
Speaker 1: person might not get your sense of humor. Like, I
Speaker 1: don't know how many dates have been ruined that I've
Speaker 1: been on when in the middle of it, I just
Speaker 1: dropped my fork and I look her dead in the
Speaker 1: eye and just go, how many other people know you're
Speaker 1: out with me right now? That's a really funny joke.
Speaker 1: They never get it. It just ruins the mood right there.
Speaker 1: And Maggie, who is on the phone with us right
Speaker 1: now to do a second date update, apparently made a
Speaker 1: poorly time joke on her date and she thinks that's
Speaker 1: why she's not getting a call back today. We'll find
Speaker 1: out what her joke is in a second hopefully it's
Speaker 1: as good as mine. But first let's find out a
Speaker 1: little bit about the guy that she wants to call. Maggie,
Speaker 1: how are you? I'm good? How are you good? So
Speaker 1: you want to call a guy named Ray today? Well,
Speaker 1: actually I want you to call him good. Point. I
Speaker 1: guess that is how the second DA updates work, right,
Speaker 1: I called him? Well, you want me to call a
Speaker 1: guy named Ray to day? Where'd you meet Ray. Ray
Speaker 1: and I met at a bar a couple of weeks ago.
Speaker 1: I was out with some of my girlfriends, not expecting
Speaker 1: to meet me buddy, and I meet this great guy
Speaker 1: and he and I end up talking for most of
Speaker 1: the night. Did he approach you or did you approach him? He?
Speaker 1: You know, he approached me. Did he use like a
Speaker 1: cheesy line or was he pretty cool? You know? He
Speaker 1: actually he came over with two shots of fireball, Um, yeah,
Speaker 1: and he said can I warm you up? And that worked? Huh?
Speaker 1: Well I was a few drinks in, so, yeah, you're sober,
Speaker 1: that probably wouldn't have worked exactly right. Yeah, you're the
Speaker 1: type of girl that never turns down free alcohol, is
Speaker 1: what it sounds like, right, I'm not. No. So we
Speaker 1: just started talking after that, and I get home from
Speaker 1: the bar and he texted me. Was it a booty
Speaker 1: call text? Or was it a nice place? He just
Speaker 1: said it was great to meet me, and he loved
Speaker 1: to go out for coffee later that week's Yeah, which
Speaker 1: was great. Normally guys will text me a picture my number,
Speaker 1: especially if you had a bar and you've been drinking
Speaker 1: fireball all night. It's like, I know how to I
Speaker 1: know how to seal the deal. Here, give her a
Speaker 1: little sample of the goods. Yeah, yeah, So anyway to
Speaker 1: h getting pictures, but I didn't this time, which was surprising,
Speaker 1: and it's so sad that that's the exception to the rule.
Speaker 1: Is the one guy that doesn't send you is junk,
Speaker 1: I know. I mean that's kind of the day and
Speaker 1: age we live in right now. There's a beautiful time
Speaker 1: we're living in. So how was coffee then? It was awesome.
Speaker 1: He was very sweet. He you know, pulled the chair
Speaker 1: up for me when we got to the coffee bar,
Speaker 1: and he even paid for my coffee. He was very gentleman.
Speaker 1: Where standards really are low normally if I get pictures
Speaker 1: after a night of fireball, yeah, my standards are pretty
Speaker 1: low right now. But that sounds good. I mean, it
Speaker 1: sounds like he was generally excited to see you, because
Speaker 1: sometimes after a you know, inebriated night in a dark bar,
Speaker 1: daylight dates can be a little shocking, exactly right. So
Speaker 1: it was a great date. So tell me about the
Speaker 1: joke though, you said that you made a joke you
Speaker 1: thought might have been poorly timed or he didn't get
Speaker 1: it or something. Yeah, Okay, what happened? So I'm a
Speaker 1: pretty sarcastic person anyway, and he and I were talking
Speaker 1: and he says something like, I bet you get asked
Speaker 1: out by a lot of guys. And I said, yeah, man,
Speaker 1: you know i've in this past week alone. You're my
Speaker 1: thirtieth date, ampletely joking. Yeah. He gives me this blank look.
Speaker 1: He didn't get it. No, he thought I was being sperited, Like, whoa,
Speaker 1: you didn't have to be honest, right? Did you clarify
Speaker 1: for him that it was a joke. I didn't, you know.
Speaker 1: A few seconds when five him not laughing, and I said,
Speaker 1: we find kidding, Like, obviously I haven't gone out with
Speaker 1: thirty guys in the past week because I made that
Speaker 1: awkward joke. So okay, So that's the reason you think
Speaker 1: that he's not calling you back is he thought you
Speaker 1: might not have been joking about dating thirty guys. You
Speaker 1: think so? Yeah? I think, all right, Well, how did
Speaker 1: the date end? Then again, very gentlemanly, he gave me
Speaker 1: a hug and a peck on the cheek and he said,
Speaker 1: this was fun. We should do dinner sometime. Okay, that's good. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I thought it ended on a high note. You
Speaker 1: should have messed with him some more and be like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's good, I'll fit you in. I got like forty
Speaker 1: five other dudes if you would get it. Yeah, all right,
Speaker 1: And he hasn't responded to any of your text messages
Speaker 1: a phone call since that day. No, and that was
Speaker 1: a couple of weeks ago. I'm surprised that you want
Speaker 1: to see him, just because I think it's pretty unattractive
Speaker 1: when a guy can't laugh at things. You know, I'm
Speaker 1: not used to going out with gentlemanly guys. So I mean,
Speaker 1: he was really sweet, and I get I can't blame
Speaker 1: him for not getting the joke. You know, we don't
Speaker 1: even really know if that's why he's not calling you
Speaker 1: about through now. Yeah, yeah, it could have been something
Speaker 1: completely different. Right, Well, we'll find out what it is.
Speaker 1: We'll play song, come back, call him and get your
Speaker 1: second date update. Okay, all right, hang on brooking jubil
Speaker 1: in the morning. Second This could be a second date update. First, Maggie,
Speaker 1: who's on the phone to do a second day update today,
Speaker 1: just admitted to us that she has been with thirty
Speaker 1: guys in the last week. The impressive statistics Maggie, Good
Speaker 1: job girl. If you missed the first part of the
Speaker 1: second date update, Maggie met this guy named Ray at
Speaker 1: a bar. They went out for a coffee date. After
Speaker 1: meeting up, she said everything was going well, but she
Speaker 1: made a joke to him when he said like something
Speaker 1: along the lines of I bet you go out on
Speaker 1: a lot of dates. Her response was, yeah, I've been
Speaker 1: on thirty dates in the past week. The only thing
Speaker 1: is he didn't get the joke, and he just kind
Speaker 1: of sat there like, oh my god. And that's why
Speaker 1: she thinks she's not getting a call back because he
Speaker 1: still doesn't think that it's a joke. It's pretty hard
Speaker 1: to go out with that many people in one week.
Speaker 1: So hopefully, maybe Maggie, we can get him to realize
Speaker 1: that and go out with you again. Are you ready
Speaker 1: to give him a call? Yes for sure. Okay, this
Speaker 1: one's so weird to me because he asked you to
Speaker 1: go out to dinner at the end of the day.
Speaker 1: I mean, he was obviously complimenting your looks when he
Speaker 1: said you must get asked out a lot. I don't
Speaker 1: get that one little joke would make him not call you.
Speaker 1: I know, I know, so I'm excited to see what
Speaker 1: the problem is. One little joke. If you didn't get
Speaker 1: the fact that he was if like he was thinking
Speaker 1: that you really went out with thirty guys in a week,
Speaker 1: that's bigger than a little joke. All right, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: die with one of her right now and see we
Speaker 1: get him on the phone. Okay, okay, Hello, can I
Speaker 1: speak to Ray? Please? Yeah? This is Ray? Hey, Ray,
Speaker 1: how are you? This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel
Speaker 1: in the Morning. Who Jewel from Brook and Jewel in
Speaker 1: the Morning. It's a radio show. Okay, how's it going fine?
Speaker 1: Any idea why I'm calling you? Uh? No, We recently
Speaker 1: got an email about you from one of our listeners.
Speaker 1: Her name is Maggie, and you recently went out on
Speaker 1: a date with Maggie. Okay, okay, do you remember that happening? Yeah, okay, Well,
Speaker 1: Maggie emailed us because she's wondering why you haven't given
Speaker 1: her a call back, especially at the end of the
Speaker 1: day when you were like talking about maybe meeting up
Speaker 1: for dinner or something. She hasn't heard from you, so
Speaker 1: she asked if maybe we could get you on the
Speaker 1: phone to find out why. Oh is there a reason
Speaker 1: you're not calling Maggie back. Uh. I mean, it's just
Speaker 1: it's probably not going to work out. Oh man, why
Speaker 1: is that? Uh? I don't know. I just I don't
Speaker 1: think we're I don't think we're a good match. Is
Speaker 1: there a specific reason? Why do you think that? Um Ray,
Speaker 1: you're a hard guy to read. I agree, Why don't
Speaker 1: at all? Why don't you think you guys would be
Speaker 1: a good match? I don't know. I mean, Maggie, she's
Speaker 1: a really nice girl, probably one of the nicest girls
Speaker 1: I've met in a little while here. But she just
Speaker 1: she likes to do a lot of stuff. What do
Speaker 1: you mean by that, like drugs? She didn't. Yeah, what
Speaker 1: do you mean by she likes to do a lot
Speaker 1: of stuff? She just like, I don't know. We were
Speaker 1: we were talking about stuff. She was saying all the
Speaker 1: things she likes to do. She likes to take cooking classes,
Speaker 1: and she like rides a bike, and she, I don't know,
Speaker 1: always goes out with her friends. And she sounds like
Speaker 1: a fun, interesting person. By the thing you said, it
Speaker 1: sounds like normal interests to me. You're right, She's totally interesting,
Speaker 1: normal person. I'm the one I'm not very normal, Like
Speaker 1: when she asked me what I like to do, I
Speaker 1: don't really like to do very much, and I don't
Speaker 1: hold up against her. So you don't have any hobbies
Speaker 1: or interests. I mean, I like watching TV, you know,
Speaker 1: hanging around the house, and maybe maybe that's one of
Speaker 1: the things that she likes to do too. Did you
Speaker 1: talk to her about that? Well? I think probably she does,
Speaker 1: but I don't know if I could keep up with
Speaker 1: all that other stuff. You don't have to go biking
Speaker 1: with her or hiking or whatever she likes to dods. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I could just tell I think I
Speaker 1: think she deserves someone really amazing. I don't know if
Speaker 1: I'm really up to snuff. You just sound like you
Speaker 1: just have really bad self esteem, buddy. No, I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm It's not my fault that I'm like this. It's
Speaker 1: just it was probably the way I was raised. But
Speaker 1: I don't have a problem with it. I just don't
Speaker 1: think it maybe matches up with her lifestyle. Okay, but
Speaker 1: don't you think that's a decision she should make, not
Speaker 1: you for her, because you don't know how she feels. Well.
Speaker 1: She might even be okay with it now, but I
Speaker 1: know that in a little bit she's gonna see like
Speaker 1: what I see now, which is that I mean, she's
Speaker 1: not gonna like it. I mean, for instance, I don't
Speaker 1: want to be expected to do things. Hey. Look, I
Speaker 1: am one hundred percent with you on that, Ray. Whenever
Speaker 1: I'm in a relationship, it's the worst when you're expected
Speaker 1: to do things. But you don't know if she's going
Speaker 1: to ask you to go bike you can. You know,
Speaker 1: both have your own separate lives. We're just two totally
Speaker 1: different people. I mean, she's fun like to do things
Speaker 1: and I'm not. I'm just boring. Well, maybe have you
Speaker 1: thought about this? Maybe if you date her, you could
Speaker 1: learn to do some activities that you like. See that
Speaker 1: sounds like a lot of pressure right there. All right, well, Ray,
Speaker 1: if that's if that's not enough pressure for you, hear
Speaker 1: some more pressure. She's actually on the other line listening
Speaker 1: to this conversation and wants to talk to you. What hello, Hi, Nah?
Speaker 1: Like it really breaks my heart to hear you talk
Speaker 1: about yourself like that. I don't feel bad about it.
Speaker 1: And I'm just boring And you're not boring. You don't
Speaker 1: want to date me. You're being really hard on yourself. Ray,
Speaker 1: Are you always like this? I'm not trying to be
Speaker 1: a downer. I'm just being realistic just how things are.
Speaker 1: Being honest, Well, I had a really great time with
Speaker 1: you a couple of weeks ago, and talking to you
Speaker 1: now you sound like a completely different person. I mean
Speaker 1: when you asked me what I like to do, didn't
Speaker 1: you notice that it took me like ten minutes to
Speaker 1: get back to you On that You asked me what
Speaker 1: my interests were, and I realized I don't really do anything.
Speaker 1: I don't really have any interest, So I don't know.
Speaker 1: I kind of feel like maybe I should look at that.
Speaker 1: You are you saying that your date with Maggie like
Speaker 1: changed your whole perspective on life. I'm just looking at
Speaker 1: things a little differently now. Wow, Maggie, what did you do?
Speaker 1: You mean? Right? You really don't think this about yourself?
Speaker 1: I just think I need to take some time with
Speaker 1: myself and just you know, I think you're really sweet,
Speaker 1: and I think you are really onto something. If you're
Speaker 1: onto something, and Maggie, you keep doing what you're doing,
Speaker 1: you're onto something. So Ray, let me ask you this, Ray,
Speaker 1: I will pay for a second date if you guys
Speaker 1: go out again? Will you go out with Maggie one
Speaker 1: more time? Oh? My God? Really likes you, Ray. She
Speaker 1: thinks you're interesting and fun and attractive. I do, Ray,
Speaker 1: you know, I like that. You're really sweet and you're gentlemanly.
Speaker 1: I mean you pulled my chair up for me at
Speaker 1: the restaurant. You know, guys don't do that. So I
Speaker 1: would love to see you again. M hm. Oh what
Speaker 1: in that list you forgot? Boring? You know I like
Speaker 1: doing boring stuff too. I like sitting around doing nothing.
Speaker 1: That's that's fun for me sometimes, you know, if you're
Speaker 1: just saying that to impress me, that's how you really
Speaker 1: impress a lot of people. Yeah, I'm super boring. Ray.
Speaker 1: Is there any way we can get you to go
Speaker 1: with Maggie again? I mean you're paying for it. Yes,
Speaker 1: you're in a slump. You need this. You could be
Speaker 1: boring and she won't mind. M fine, but don't expect much.
Speaker 1: So so is that yes? Then you'll go out with Maggie? Yeah? Yes, congratulations, Maggie,
Speaker 1: you got a second date. I don't so you are
Speaker 1: excited about this? Well, yeah, I'm excited. It just sounds
Speaker 1: like he's going a many slump, so I'm I'm excited
Speaker 1: to help him get out of it. Good. Well, you
Speaker 1: can be raised slumpbuster, then I'm not in a slump.
Speaker 1: This is how I am. Please don't expect more. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm excited to hear about how this whole date turns
Speaker 1: out with you guys too. It's close to you know,
Speaker 1: a romance novel or something. I won't be too exciting
Speaker 1: broken juwel in the morning,