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Speaker 1: All right, guys, this time now for today's Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: And if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey

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Speaker 1: FM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could

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Speaker 1: be reading your letter. Well that's for you, Jay. We

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Speaker 1: could be reading your letter live on the air, just

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Speaker 1: like we're gonna read this one right here, right now.

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Speaker 1: You never know it could be yours. Buckle up and

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Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you. Here it

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Speaker 1: is Strawberry Letter. Thank you nephew. Subject, Oh no, she didn't.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm in my late thirties, and I

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Speaker 1: found out that my husband of ten years has a

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Speaker 1: and he picks her up from work, takes her to dinner,

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Speaker 1: and then comes home. I even know where she lives,

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Speaker 1: and I've sat outside her house and blew the horn

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Speaker 1: and waved at her. She knows who I am, so

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Speaker 1: it's odd that she's never mentioned anything to my husband.

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Speaker 1: A few weeks ago, I noticed a change in my

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Speaker 1: husband's pattern. He stopped picking her up from work, so

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Speaker 1: I thought they had broken up. I sat outside her

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Speaker 1: was in a robe at the door. She noticed my

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Speaker 1: car and threw a finger sign at me. Oh no,

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Speaker 1: she didn't. I was beyond mad, but couldn't do a

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Speaker 1: thing because she might have a gun. As you can

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Speaker 1: probably tell, I don't care about my husband cheating because

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Speaker 1: I barely have sex with him anymore, but in the

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Speaker 1: few times I do, I don't want him giving me

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Speaker 1: any kind of cooties that she may have given him.

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Speaker 1: I don't like that she's giving it up to other

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Speaker 1: men besides my husband, because that's just nasty. I did

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Speaker 1: not go back to her house because I don't want

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Speaker 1: any problems, but I did notice that my husband still

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Speaker 1: sees her. I have tracked him for so long, and

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Speaker 1: I finally decided to tell him about it. I told

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Speaker 1: him he's been followed, track spied on, and everything else.

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Speaker 1: He tried to lie and defend himself, but I told

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Speaker 1: him there was no way to fix this. I let

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Speaker 1: him know that the bigger problem is that his girlfriend

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Speaker 1: is bound to give him a disease sooner or later

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Speaker 1: because she's fooling around with other men. He said, I'm crazy,

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Speaker 1: and he brought up divorcing me so much for trying

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Speaker 1: to help him and keep him safe. How can I

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Speaker 1: fix this? Is a crazy letter right here is this

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Speaker 1: letter makes no sense? Why do you think you have

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Speaker 1: to fix this? You can shut it down or threaten

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Speaker 1: their lives and stop it, but your husband should be

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Speaker 1: the one to quote or unquote fix it. I mean,

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Speaker 1: this is a mess he created, and that's for your

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Speaker 1: husband to do if it is at all fixable, and

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Speaker 1: it doesn't look like it is. He's already thrown around

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Speaker 1: the D word talking about divorce and what kind of

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Speaker 1: marriage is this anyway? I mean, he has a side

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Speaker 1: chick who you know about, and you say you don't

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Speaker 1: care about him anyway, and you don't have sex with him. Really,

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Speaker 1: all you're concerned about is him bringing home a disease

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Speaker 1: in those rare times you do have sex with him.

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Speaker 1: Of course that's a valid concern, But you know you

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Speaker 1: don't have to stay in this loveless marriage and worry

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Speaker 1: about his side chick having a gun if you roll

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Speaker 1: up on her. You don't have to stay in this.

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Speaker 1: You don't have that to worry about. You're a miserable.

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Speaker 1: He's miserable. The only one who seems to be, you know,

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Speaker 1: having any fun in this thing is the side chick.

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Speaker 1: You know, she's with your man, she's with other men.

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Speaker 1: She's giving you the finger, flipping you off. So again,

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Speaker 1: what is there to fix in all of this? I mean,

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Speaker 1: your marriage is a sham, it's unhappy, and you and

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Speaker 1: your husband don't even like each other. You all don't

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Speaker 1: even like each other. I mean, surely you don't want

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Speaker 1: So how can you fix this? It sounds unfixable to me.

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Speaker 1: I mean there's no mention of love. There's no mention

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Speaker 1: you know, that's what you want to do save your marriage,

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Speaker 1: and certainly your husband doesn't feel that way either, Steve,

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Speaker 1: I just see so much in this letter, writer. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the title of the letter. Oh no, she didn't what

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Speaker 1: just lady? Did you listen to your letter when you

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Speaker 1: wrote it? Did you read back through it? Did you

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Speaker 1: not know that when Shirley got through giving you her advice,

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Speaker 1: didn't you know I was gonna get this letter and

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Speaker 1: I was bennt do something. I'm in my late thirties.

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Speaker 1: He picks her up from work, takes her to dinner,

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Speaker 1: in comes home, comes home to what no hell, no fury, no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: no car windows, no, no pausing in the food. No,

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Speaker 1: And you ain't trying to stab him? He come home

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Speaker 1: and then y'all, y'all what nothing? I even know where

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Speaker 1: waving at her? Fault? What is you what? Why are

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Speaker 1: you outside this woman out blowing the horn, waving at her?

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Speaker 1: She knows who I am. So it's odd that she's

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Speaker 1: It's odd to me that she's never mentioned anything to

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Speaker 1: my husband. Wait a minute, that's the odd part where

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Speaker 1: it was odd that when you blew the horn and

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Speaker 1: you waved at her, she ain't come out on y'all talk.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't care. She knows who I am, so as

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Speaker 1: od she never mentioned anything to my husband. A few

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Speaker 1: weeks ago, I noticed a change of my husband patterned.

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Speaker 1: He stopped picking her off from work, So I thought

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Speaker 1: they broken up. Oh, I said, our house and saw

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Speaker 1: a finger at me. Oh no she didn't. What hold on,

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Speaker 1: We'll have her two of Steve's response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour, Today's Strawberry letter, subject

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Speaker 1: don't know she didn't. We'll get back into it right

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Speaker 1: after this. You're listening Morning show, All right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter and subject, Oh no she didn't.

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Speaker 1: This one of the dumbest latterators we didn't had. Oh

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Speaker 1: no she didn't. Don't found out your man got a husband,

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Speaker 1: got girlfriend for ten years on the side, and he

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Speaker 1: picked up from work, take her to dinner. Then he

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Speaker 1: come home without any consequences none, He just come home.

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Speaker 1: I even know where she lives, and I've said outside

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Speaker 1: her house and blew the horn and waved at her

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Speaker 1: what issue waving at her phone. She went on back

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Speaker 1: in the house, so she knows who I am. So

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Speaker 1: it's odd that she ain't never mentioned anything to excuse

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Speaker 1: me my husband, your husband, it's odd that she ain't

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Speaker 1: mentioned nothing to him. I can't believe you ain't saying

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Speaker 1: nothing to us an, I really can't. What kind of

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Speaker 1: this letter. A few weeks ago, I noticed a change

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Speaker 1: So I thought they had broken up. Oh, I bet

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Speaker 1: you was relieved about that. You didn't have to go

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Speaker 1: tracking no more. Oh, but I said, I was side

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Speaker 1: and she was in the road at the door. She

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Speaker 1: Oh no she didn't. You mad at her throwing up

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Speaker 1: husband been picking her up, taking her to dinner, screwing

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Speaker 1: her and depart You mad at is she had on

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Speaker 1: the dough. She said, I was beyond man, but I

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Speaker 1: couldn't do anything about it because she might have a gun.

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Speaker 1: Oh on top of all this, now, you skinned boy,

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Speaker 1: you live in shame and fear. As you can probably

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Speaker 1: tell I don't care about my husband cheating because I

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Speaker 1: barely have sex with him anymore. Still does, but barely

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Speaker 1: has sex, but in a few times I do. I

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Speaker 1: don't want him giving me any kind of cooties that

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Speaker 1: she may have given him. Listen to this next ignorant

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Speaker 1: ass line. I don't like that she's giving it up

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Speaker 1: to other men besides my husband. What did you just type? Lady?

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Speaker 1: You you you really type this to some people. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you know, if you're telling it to somebody, I could

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Speaker 1: see somebody going, what did you just say? But when

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Speaker 1: and then you press sin you sent it to us.

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Speaker 1: I don't like that she's giving it up to other

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Speaker 1: tell you something in this letter, man, This lady is

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Speaker 1: mad at all the wrong stuff. You just mad at

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Speaker 1: everything the wrong Damn. Wait. Look, oh, I did not

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Speaker 1: go back to her house because I don't want any problems.

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Speaker 1: All the problem is at your house. The cooties is

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Speaker 1: at your house, the cheetah is at your house. But

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Speaker 1: no way to fix this. He ain't trying to fix it.

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Speaker 1: I heard in your letter where he trying to fix it.

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Speaker 1: I let him know that the bigger problem is WHOA,

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Speaker 1: There's a bigger problem than your husband cheating on you,

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Speaker 1: taking another woman to dinner then coming home to you.

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Speaker 1: Here's the bigger problem is that his girlfriend is bound

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Speaker 1: to give him a disease sooner or later because she's

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Speaker 1: fooling around with other men. Now, I bet dadda hurt

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Speaker 1: your ass. He said, I'm crazy. He's right, And I

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Speaker 1: brought up and brought up divorcing me so much for

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Speaker 1: trying to help him. Wait wait, wait, wad lady, what

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Speaker 1: did you just say so much for trying to help him?

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Speaker 1: What are you trying to help him for? What are

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Speaker 1: you trying to help him? Do? So much for trying

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Speaker 1: to help him and keep him safe? How can I

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Speaker 1: fix this? Wait a minute, let me make this perfectly clear.

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Speaker 1: You are a fool. You're a fool. How can I

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Speaker 1: fix this. What are you trying to fix? Why are

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Speaker 1: you trying to help him? He ain't trying to fix it?

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Speaker 1: But see you mad at all the wrong things. Lady,

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Speaker 1: You mad because he pick up and you ain't you mad?

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Speaker 1: You ain't mad because he pick up from work and

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Speaker 1: finger up at you. That's what you're mad at. And

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Speaker 1: you mad at your husband because you're trying to help him. Ma'am,

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Speaker 1: you are a fool and you should stop being a fool.

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Speaker 1: You're a fool for him, and he ain't crazy about you.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why you want this man as your husband.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what it is you call yourself trying

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Speaker 1: to fix. You have nothing to fix. You've told this

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Speaker 1: he taught brought up divorce. Now you want to fix it,

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Speaker 1: to go back into what Lady, stop being a fool,

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Speaker 1: Stop being a fool. Let this man go, all right,

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Steve. Look leave your comments on Today's Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter on Instagram, at and Facebook, and at Steve Harvey FM.

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Speaker 1: Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand as well.

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Speaker 1: We'll be back with more of the Steve Harvey Morning

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Speaker 1: Show right after this. You're listening to The Stave Harvey

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Speaker 1: Morning Show.