1 00:00:06,080 --> 00:00:08,960 Speaker 1: Hi, babes. Because I didn't think you were getting enough 2 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:12,559 Speaker 1: of me. I have decided to shove myself down your 3 00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:16,080 Speaker 1: throats even further with a give them La La bout 4 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:18,040 Speaker 1: episode each week. 5 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 2: You're welcome for the first ever. 6 00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:24,439 Speaker 1: It is, and we're gonna give you just enough. It's 7 00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:27,520 Speaker 1: like just the tip, just your yes. I wanted to 8 00:00:27,520 --> 00:00:30,920 Speaker 1: do bonus episodes that were more structured. So how this 9 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:32,519 Speaker 1: is gonna work, how I would like it to work, 10 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 1: because you know, we're dipping our toe in again just 11 00:00:35,280 --> 00:00:41,480 Speaker 1: the tip. The first podcast bonus podcast of each month 12 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:46,280 Speaker 1: will be an og episode of VPR that will be 13 00:00:46,360 --> 00:00:48,960 Speaker 1: honing in on breaking down. You guys can weigh in 14 00:00:49,080 --> 00:00:53,880 Speaker 1: the rest of the episodes. I would like structured ames 15 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:57,600 Speaker 1: so today, because I know what it's like going into 16 00:00:57,600 --> 00:01:00,680 Speaker 1: the holidays, and I feel like I'm very blessed and 17 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:05,120 Speaker 1: privileged to have a beautiful community around me, friends, family, 18 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 1: But the holidays are tough, and coming out of the 19 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:11,400 Speaker 1: holidays is also tough because you've got so much build 20 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:14,760 Speaker 1: up and then it's just over and you've got like 21 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: gray snow outside wom WoT mm hmm, and then you 22 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:23,080 Speaker 1: go straight into Valentine's Day, which is like love, you 23 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 1: don't have a husband, you don't have much, just a 24 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 1: lot like and I want to know your guys' thoughts 25 00:01:28,080 --> 00:01:29,920 Speaker 1: because I know I'm not the only one sitting here 26 00:01:29,959 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 1: being like, why am I a little bummed? 27 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 3: Yeah? 28 00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 1: Why am I a little bummed out? 29 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 4: There's so many great, great answers and things you guys 30 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:39,840 Speaker 4: wrote in So thank you already. 31 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you. 32 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:44,039 Speaker 1: Told me that there's like a lot of good good 33 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:45,960 Speaker 1: shizzle my nizzle in the am s. 34 00:01:46,160 --> 00:01:49,040 Speaker 4: Absolutely, all right, let's go off. I do want to 35 00:01:49,080 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 4: start off with this one. It's because I think both 36 00:01:51,120 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 4: of you could really help dealing Oh well, reminder of 37 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:58,640 Speaker 4: the question was what's the most difficult part about going 38 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 4: into the holidays as well as coming out of them? 39 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:06,000 Speaker 4: So this one is dealing with the grief since my 40 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:08,840 Speaker 4: mother passed. Holidays are honestly the worst lately. 41 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, that takes me right back to like 42 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:15,600 Speaker 1: the first Christmas. Oh it makes me want to vomit. 43 00:02:15,880 --> 00:02:18,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I don't. Here's the thing, it's it's a 44 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:21,920 Speaker 3: mental thing, and you for me, I had to just 45 00:02:22,040 --> 00:02:23,440 Speaker 3: trump the negative thoughts. 46 00:02:23,680 --> 00:02:25,320 Speaker 1: Okay, so that's what I did. 47 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 3: So like having a glass of eggnog for my dad 48 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:31,520 Speaker 3: was a happy thought for me. So little things like 49 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:35,080 Speaker 3: that are what got me through. But it is it's shitty, 50 00:02:35,120 --> 00:02:38,120 Speaker 3: it's heart wrenching that, you know, you go through all 51 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:41,520 Speaker 3: these you know, holidays and you have your whole family 52 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:45,120 Speaker 3: and just one is taken and then it's never the same. 53 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:47,840 Speaker 1: No, But we do have a tight. 54 00:02:47,720 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 3: Knit group and it's it's easy to get through the 55 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:52,680 Speaker 3: holidays with the love and support that we all give 56 00:02:52,720 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 3: each other. 57 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 1: So you also have to remember where like what almost 58 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:59,800 Speaker 1: six six six years in but the first one, it 59 00:02:59,840 --> 00:03:03,160 Speaker 1: was like I used to go home every holiday, every 60 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:06,200 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving and every Christmas. And then when my dad passed away, 61 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 1: it was like Easton and my mom didn't want to 62 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:11,920 Speaker 1: be in Utah because they had the constant reminder of, like, 63 00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:14,800 Speaker 1: we're still living in the home that I shared with 64 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:19,680 Speaker 1: my husband or my dad for my whole life. So 65 00:03:19,840 --> 00:03:23,239 Speaker 1: I had the luxury of like I had moved out, 66 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:25,880 Speaker 1: you know, like I kind of had a life. Started 67 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:28,639 Speaker 1: Not saying that it was easy for me to get 68 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 1: through my dad's passing, but it was like they started 69 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 1: coming out to la for holidays and just everything shifted. 70 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:38,440 Speaker 1: And once that happened, holidays didn't feel like holidays anymore. Yeah, 71 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 1: you know, like I used to go home and it 72 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:46,320 Speaker 1: was like my childhood home looked like Christmas had thrown 73 00:03:46,440 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 1: up all over it, right, you know, like Thanksgiving was 74 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 1: very structured and so much fun, and we had so 75 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:56,440 Speaker 1: many things to look forward to, and it was like 76 00:03:56,480 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: the weather suit the time of year, you know, like 77 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:03,200 Speaker 1: out here, it's like why is the sun shining on 78 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:07,120 Speaker 1: December twenty fifth? Right, why is the sun out? Okay, 79 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 1: I don't get it. So just like everything shifted and 80 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:13,800 Speaker 1: it felt very weird. Now, like Easton said, I think 81 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:18,280 Speaker 1: implementing things into your holiday that so like the memory 82 00:04:18,520 --> 00:04:22,480 Speaker 1: of that parent is still in the home is very important. 83 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:27,000 Speaker 1: And again, holidays are tough, so you better find you 84 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:28,200 Speaker 1: better find the spirit. 85 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 3: Really, it's up to you too. Like that's the other thing. 86 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:33,919 Speaker 3: I can't help anybody get through it. You have to 87 00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:36,640 Speaker 3: help yourself get through it. And there's no right or wrong. 88 00:04:36,839 --> 00:04:39,560 Speaker 3: You just got to do what gets you through it healthy, 89 00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:42,919 Speaker 3: not over drinking or exactly. But like just like like 90 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:46,120 Speaker 3: I said, celebrating with a glass of eggnog for me 91 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:49,560 Speaker 3: was for my dad. Pistachios that was for my dad. 92 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:52,280 Speaker 3: They're just little things that I do to keep his 93 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:53,080 Speaker 3: memory alive. 94 00:04:53,279 --> 00:04:57,600 Speaker 1: Even making sure yeah you know, well, even watching Christmas Vacation, 95 00:04:58,040 --> 00:05:03,280 Speaker 1: like Christmas Eve and on Christmas Day and on Thanksgiving, 96 00:05:03,279 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 1: like yeah, that shoved into our household, like down the 97 00:05:07,360 --> 00:05:09,160 Speaker 1: one thing I wish that we would do though tt 98 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:12,720 Speaker 1: Like when we turned Christmas Vacation on when my dad 99 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:16,400 Speaker 1: was alive, Like we were sitting down watching Christmas Vacation. Right, 100 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:19,599 Speaker 1: it wasn't background noise, it was sit your flat asses 101 00:05:19,640 --> 00:05:23,320 Speaker 1: down and watch fucking Grizzly we did playing on the 102 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 1: heater like we had no one was on the phone, 103 00:05:28,080 --> 00:05:30,840 Speaker 1: So that I would like to start doing like we're 104 00:05:30,880 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 1: sitting down and watching a movie as a family. Yeah, 105 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:39,159 Speaker 1: no electronics, no, No, like dusting mom. No, Like you 106 00:05:39,160 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 1: can wrap Christmas presents and that's about while watching it, right, 107 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 1: but nothing else. 108 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:45,680 Speaker 3: Right, So to the point, I think, yeah, you just 109 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:47,440 Speaker 3: got to keep the memory alive. And I feel like 110 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:50,480 Speaker 3: that kind of helps you get through the holidays in 111 00:05:50,560 --> 00:05:52,280 Speaker 3: a healthy, happy spirit. 112 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:54,080 Speaker 2: I love that. I think that's beautiful. 113 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:57,760 Speaker 4: I think it's different for every everyone. I'm just going 114 00:05:57,800 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 4: off of my grandpa because I was super close to him, 115 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:01,840 Speaker 4: and of course my grandma. 116 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:04,800 Speaker 2: We did. We talked about it because. 117 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 4: I remember the feeling of my grandma not we were 118 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 4: getting closer to the first Christmas without him, and he 119 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:11,600 Speaker 4: made Christmas so special, just. 120 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:13,240 Speaker 2: Like like you said, like stunning. 121 00:06:13,279 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 4: The house was gorgeous, and and then she was kind 122 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:18,359 Speaker 4: of she was decorating with like her sons instead of 123 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:21,360 Speaker 4: her husband. So I felt her going in the route 124 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:23,920 Speaker 4: of not talking about him, and every time things were 125 00:06:23,920 --> 00:06:27,719 Speaker 4: brought up, like switching the subject. So I just made it, 126 00:06:27,760 --> 00:06:30,599 Speaker 4: started making it a tradition every Christmas when I'm home, 127 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:34,160 Speaker 4: every Christmas Eve morning, going over having coffee two hours 128 00:06:34,200 --> 00:06:36,560 Speaker 4: just like talking about him and being like remember when 129 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:39,120 Speaker 4: he did this, And of course yes we cry and 130 00:06:39,160 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 4: all that, but it's like beautiful because then we've got 131 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:44,200 Speaker 4: it out his like energies in the home, and then 132 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:46,599 Speaker 4: we go into the day like ready to take on 133 00:06:46,640 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 4: the home. 134 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:49,040 Speaker 1: I love that, Jess. Yeah, I feel like that's a 135 00:06:49,080 --> 00:06:53,520 Speaker 1: generational thing. Like heartbreak. Rough times, you sweep it under 136 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:55,719 Speaker 1: the rug. We don't discuss it, We keep a stiff 137 00:06:55,800 --> 00:07:00,320 Speaker 1: upper lip. Yeah you don't cry. Yeah, I love it's 138 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:04,440 Speaker 1: so like Mom said, God gave you tears for a reason. 139 00:07:06,360 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 1: Emotions are beautiful. People should share them. 140 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:11,720 Speaker 4: I totally agree, So thank you guys for sharing that. 141 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 4: This one is very common. Weight gain zero time to 142 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:21,400 Speaker 4: exercise off all the Tamali's, Ravioli's, beverages and bread. 143 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:25,480 Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. Enjoy the hell out of 144 00:07:25,520 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 1: the holidays. Think of yourself like a bear. All right. 145 00:07:29,040 --> 00:07:32,480 Speaker 1: You know what bears do. They go out. They are 146 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:36,040 Speaker 1: freaking savages. They put on their winter weight because you 147 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:38,760 Speaker 1: know what, it's time to go into hibernation. We got 148 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:41,240 Speaker 1: to be warm, We got to be well fed before 149 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:44,600 Speaker 1: we power down. Look at the holidays as that. Enjoy 150 00:07:44,920 --> 00:07:48,480 Speaker 1: all the good food in the freaking world. Know your 151 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:51,040 Speaker 1: game plan when you come out of the holidays. But 152 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:55,160 Speaker 1: give yourself some like room to chill, have some fun. 153 00:07:55,240 --> 00:07:58,440 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Like people say you can't talk about this 154 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:00,680 Speaker 1: because you're a thin person, but don't twist it. There 155 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:02,280 Speaker 1: are times I look in the mirror and I'm like, bitch, 156 00:08:02,320 --> 00:08:05,840 Speaker 1: you look, you're looking skinny, soft like this is not cute. 157 00:08:07,080 --> 00:08:08,400 Speaker 1: But then you take a step back. We all have 158 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:10,840 Speaker 1: our insecurities, no matter who you are, even the most 159 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 1: the baddest bitch on the planet, who you think is 160 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:15,239 Speaker 1: the baddest bitch stands in the mirror naked and says, 161 00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:19,040 Speaker 1: I'm not digging X, Y and Z just not okay. 162 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:23,680 Speaker 1: So give yourself a little bit of like grace and 163 00:08:23,760 --> 00:08:26,760 Speaker 1: go and eat the sheet cake, Eat the fucking turkey 164 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:29,200 Speaker 1: if you want it. Who gives a shit you want 165 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:33,240 Speaker 1: three rolls, Eat the three rolls. It's time to freaking 166 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:34,000 Speaker 1: celebrate and. 167 00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:36,040 Speaker 2: Eat good, allowing yourself. 168 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:39,559 Speaker 4: And this isn't interesting because I Kyle will have consultations 169 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:41,440 Speaker 4: with his clients at home, and I will listen to 170 00:08:41,480 --> 00:08:43,240 Speaker 4: things he says because usually they're helpful for me. 171 00:08:43,360 --> 00:08:45,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, you should talk about this because you've got someone 172 00:08:45,920 --> 00:08:50,280 Speaker 1: in the house who's like healthy and also doesn't what 173 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:53,880 Speaker 1: is it He doesn't What is it when you keep something? 174 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:55,840 Speaker 1: He doesn't deprive you of. 175 00:08:55,760 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 2: Good food, of good food. 176 00:08:57,080 --> 00:09:00,520 Speaker 4: And well, he's all about moderation, all of it. Extra size, 177 00:09:00,559 --> 00:09:04,120 Speaker 4: eating sweets, eating healthy. If you overdo anything, it's in 178 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:06,640 Speaker 4: his opinion, very unhealthy, even EXTRACI. 179 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:11,960 Speaker 2: But also well, on. 180 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:19,320 Speaker 4: That note, there was someone who was saying, I know 181 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:21,280 Speaker 4: myself and there's gonna be a cake and I'm gonna 182 00:09:21,280 --> 00:09:24,040 Speaker 4: overeat it. They had talked about having an eating disorder, 183 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:26,360 Speaker 4: a binge eating disorder and like, I know myself and 184 00:09:26,880 --> 00:09:29,120 Speaker 4: I'm afraid. They're like, I know I'm gonna do it. 185 00:09:29,280 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 4: I'm afraid of the guilt and the shame I feel after. 186 00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:35,720 Speaker 4: And he said that is something. Of course it's different 187 00:09:35,720 --> 00:09:39,920 Speaker 4: for everyone. But let's say you have you're a binge 188 00:09:39,960 --> 00:09:42,160 Speaker 4: eater and you're trying to and the holidays are so 189 00:09:42,240 --> 00:09:45,440 Speaker 4: tough for you, and you binge you there's a whole 190 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:48,520 Speaker 4: cake and you eat it, and it's the guilt and 191 00:09:48,559 --> 00:09:54,120 Speaker 4: the shame afterwards is so difficult to deal with. But 192 00:09:54,200 --> 00:09:56,920 Speaker 4: that's something that he really encourages you to be like, look, 193 00:09:57,280 --> 00:10:00,679 Speaker 4: you ate it, move on, drink a bunch of water, right, 194 00:10:00,960 --> 00:10:03,720 Speaker 4: maybe focus having a salad with your next meal. 195 00:10:03,920 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 3: In fact, you're already you did it. 196 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:07,439 Speaker 2: You did it. 197 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:07,840 Speaker 1: Do not. 198 00:10:07,920 --> 00:10:09,880 Speaker 4: The guilt and shame is just gonna take you in 199 00:10:09,920 --> 00:10:12,640 Speaker 4: a deeper hole, and you're gonna think, I already binge 200 00:10:12,679 --> 00:10:14,400 Speaker 4: it yesterday, I might as well do it today. 201 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:16,400 Speaker 2: Everything. No, you did it. 202 00:10:16,480 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 4: Now move on and be thankful that you enjoyed that, 203 00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 4: and now have a little extra water, add some veggies 204 00:10:23,520 --> 00:10:26,000 Speaker 4: to your dinner. It's the it's the really trying to 205 00:10:26,080 --> 00:10:28,720 Speaker 4: keep yourself out of the spiraling and the guilt and 206 00:10:28,760 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 4: shame that goes with the holidays and eating. And I 207 00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:33,440 Speaker 4: know not we don't all deal with that, but it 208 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:35,880 Speaker 4: was something I heard him talking about with a lovely woman, 209 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:38,120 Speaker 4: and I was like, that's a great tip. 210 00:10:38,320 --> 00:10:40,679 Speaker 1: You know what. I have so much respect for this 211 00:10:40,760 --> 00:10:45,079 Speaker 1: woman that she could pinpoint exactly what she's like. She's 212 00:10:45,120 --> 00:10:48,840 Speaker 1: self aware, she knows that she struggles, and she talked 213 00:10:48,840 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 1: about her fears if she does something that she knows 214 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:54,640 Speaker 1: she's probably going to do. Yes. Yeah, I have mad 215 00:10:54,679 --> 00:10:55,680 Speaker 1: respect for that chick. 216 00:10:55,920 --> 00:10:58,000 Speaker 4: Me too, because it's like every year she was saying. 217 00:10:58,000 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 4: Every year I go in, I'm not gonna binge. I'm 218 00:10:59,920 --> 00:11:00,720 Speaker 4: not gonna binge. 219 00:11:00,760 --> 00:11:02,679 Speaker 2: She's like, and I'm really afraid of it because I 220 00:11:02,760 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 2: know it happens every time. I like can't help it. 221 00:11:04,920 --> 00:11:08,080 Speaker 4: And he's like, Okay, if we know it's gonna happen, great, 222 00:11:08,280 --> 00:11:08,960 Speaker 4: it's gonna happen. 223 00:11:09,000 --> 00:11:12,520 Speaker 1: And then here's the game plan for when it's all off. Yes, exactly, see, 224 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:15,520 Speaker 1: so you said it, but you've got like the professionalism 225 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:17,880 Speaker 1: to back it up. For me, it's like, go into 226 00:11:17,960 --> 00:11:21,160 Speaker 1: the holiday and just enjoy life is so freaking stressful 227 00:11:21,240 --> 00:11:23,600 Speaker 1: as it is We're constantly trying to play keep up, 228 00:11:23,679 --> 00:11:28,000 Speaker 1: catch up and just go into the holiday, eat whatever 229 00:11:28,080 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 1: you want. But no, before you do that, this is 230 00:11:31,280 --> 00:11:33,600 Speaker 1: my game plan starting on this day. And I know 231 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:36,000 Speaker 1: New Year's resolutions and the working out, I get it. 232 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:37,600 Speaker 1: I do the same thing where I'm like, I'm gonna 233 00:11:37,640 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 1: work out every day. Tunny, tunny, far. But let me 234 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:45,840 Speaker 1: tell you something. The guilt that you feel after you 235 00:11:45,920 --> 00:11:48,800 Speaker 1: do something is going to kill you much quicker than 236 00:11:48,800 --> 00:11:51,400 Speaker 1: what you're actually doing. I remember when I was trying 237 00:11:51,400 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 1: to kick the vape, which we finally kicked, but I 238 00:11:54,160 --> 00:11:57,559 Speaker 1: would go a full day and then at the very 239 00:11:57,600 --> 00:11:59,600 Speaker 1: end of the day see Easton's and be like, I'm 240 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:01,800 Speaker 1: fucking it and it feels so much guilt, And then 241 00:12:01,800 --> 00:12:03,160 Speaker 1: my mom would pile on and I was like, you 242 00:12:03,160 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 1: know what, I've just learned. The stress in the guilt 243 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 1: is going to kill me before the v Yes, I 244 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:13,760 Speaker 1: can't have why at the end of the day, give. 245 00:12:13,640 --> 00:12:14,960 Speaker 2: Me the fucking vape. 246 00:12:15,480 --> 00:12:20,240 Speaker 1: I need something, right, right? I know I have nothing. 247 00:12:21,600 --> 00:12:24,760 Speaker 3: I know, well, I don't hit the vape in front 248 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:25,640 Speaker 3: of her for that reason. 249 00:12:25,760 --> 00:12:28,120 Speaker 1: You hit it on the way into podcasts, so it 250 00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:31,560 Speaker 1: fell on the ground, so I couldn't hide something that 251 00:12:31,600 --> 00:12:32,960 Speaker 1: fell on the ground, so I was like, you know what, 252 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:35,560 Speaker 1: on the ground in the mouth and all it's all good. 253 00:12:35,960 --> 00:12:38,360 Speaker 1: That's how I used to think about dicks on the ground, 254 00:12:38,400 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 1: in the ground, in the mouth, hanging on the ground. Oh, 255 00:12:42,960 --> 00:12:48,680 Speaker 1: trust me to the ground. That hurts me? Third leg, 256 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:49,559 Speaker 1: try potting. 257 00:12:50,520 --> 00:12:53,320 Speaker 3: Let's move on quickly, quickly, There we go on to 258 00:12:53,360 --> 00:12:53,680 Speaker 3: the next. 259 00:12:53,720 --> 00:12:55,359 Speaker 1: There we go happ. 260 00:12:58,200 --> 00:13:02,960 Speaker 4: Okay, be on your own at home and missing your 261 00:13:03,000 --> 00:13:04,360 Speaker 4: work social life. 262 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:05,720 Speaker 2: This is a good one because a lot of people 263 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:06,839 Speaker 2: are like the break. 264 00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:09,959 Speaker 4: But what about the people that maybe struggle at home 265 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:12,520 Speaker 4: right like work and miss their friends at work? 266 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:15,920 Speaker 1: You guys, this justin there are people who actually enjoy 267 00:13:15,960 --> 00:13:16,480 Speaker 1: their jobs. 268 00:13:16,640 --> 00:13:18,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, me being one of them. 269 00:13:18,440 --> 00:13:23,240 Speaker 1: Bravo. Jobs that are fun to exist. You can find them. 270 00:13:24,120 --> 00:13:26,440 Speaker 1: You don't have to be tortured every day of your 271 00:13:26,480 --> 00:13:30,760 Speaker 1: life just to earn a paycheck. Actually that is I've 272 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:34,760 Speaker 1: never had to think about that. But I actually love 273 00:13:34,840 --> 00:13:36,960 Speaker 1: that question because what if you go to work and 274 00:13:37,000 --> 00:13:40,440 Speaker 1: it's like I enjoy going because those people may be 275 00:13:40,600 --> 00:13:43,200 Speaker 1: like my coworkers, but they're actually my friends as well. 276 00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:46,360 Speaker 1: Like me and Becky straight up talk about a lot 277 00:13:46,400 --> 00:13:48,160 Speaker 1: of cool shit, and it's. 278 00:13:48,040 --> 00:13:50,040 Speaker 2: Your social life, right kind of yeah? 279 00:13:50,160 --> 00:13:52,400 Speaker 1: Right, and then all of your work friends maybe go 280 00:13:52,480 --> 00:13:54,680 Speaker 1: and they have like their families or they got a 281 00:13:54,679 --> 00:13:56,599 Speaker 1: boyfriend that they're going home to, whatever it may be, 282 00:13:56,720 --> 00:13:59,600 Speaker 1: and you go home and be by yourself. That is 283 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:02,840 Speaker 1: when this is a much bigger issue, right, This is 284 00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:05,560 Speaker 1: more than just the holidays, Like you really have to 285 00:14:05,640 --> 00:14:12,319 Speaker 1: become okay being by yourself and pampering the fuck out 286 00:14:12,360 --> 00:14:18,400 Speaker 1: of yourself. Right, Enjoy the silence, take a warm, yummy bath, 287 00:14:18,720 --> 00:14:20,880 Speaker 1: get some like scrubs, and I get it. The break 288 00:14:21,160 --> 00:14:25,360 Speaker 1: is long, but now it's your job to start checking in. 289 00:14:25,400 --> 00:14:27,680 Speaker 1: There's other people who are going to be staying in 290 00:14:27,720 --> 00:14:31,480 Speaker 1: town for the holiday, Like, go find other people you 291 00:14:31,520 --> 00:14:35,960 Speaker 1: know who would be great at answering this. My mother, yeah, yeah, 292 00:14:36,000 --> 00:14:40,280 Speaker 1: she's terrified at being by herself when she first moved 293 00:14:40,280 --> 00:14:41,760 Speaker 1: out here. She's like, you're going out to dinner with 294 00:14:41,800 --> 00:14:45,120 Speaker 1: your friends. I'm like, you'll be okay. Take a warm bath, 295 00:14:45,200 --> 00:14:48,440 Speaker 1: light a candle, right, what do you mean, I'm like 296 00:14:49,400 --> 00:14:52,200 Speaker 1: in pamper yourself. Some people don't know how to take 297 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:55,800 Speaker 1: a load off. Binge, watch a show, shut your brain down, 298 00:14:56,200 --> 00:14:57,600 Speaker 1: don't look at social media. 299 00:14:58,360 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 2: Read books. 300 00:14:59,120 --> 00:15:01,920 Speaker 4: No, Yeah, that is one that is a great point 301 00:15:02,080 --> 00:15:03,000 Speaker 4: during the holidays. 302 00:15:03,120 --> 00:15:06,480 Speaker 1: Stay off. Yeah. Social if you're a home alone. 303 00:15:05,920 --> 00:15:07,960 Speaker 4: Yeah, and you don't have a big family and you 304 00:15:08,000 --> 00:15:10,320 Speaker 4: don't have anyone to go to. Let's say you're spending 305 00:15:10,360 --> 00:15:14,400 Speaker 4: the holidays alone. Social media is, in my opinion, toxic 306 00:15:14,560 --> 00:15:15,520 Speaker 4: because you see. 307 00:15:15,280 --> 00:15:16,600 Speaker 2: What you're missing out on. 308 00:15:17,080 --> 00:15:19,120 Speaker 4: You see all the big families, you see all the 309 00:15:19,160 --> 00:15:21,520 Speaker 4: all the presents under the tree, and it will get 310 00:15:21,560 --> 00:15:25,160 Speaker 4: you depressed. I totally co sign on the spoiling yourself, 311 00:15:25,200 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 4: even if it is just reading a book or binging 312 00:15:27,720 --> 00:15:29,480 Speaker 4: a show for ten hours. When can you sit at 313 00:15:29,480 --> 00:15:31,160 Speaker 4: home and binge a show for ten hours? 314 00:15:31,240 --> 00:15:33,320 Speaker 1: That's what I mean. So try to sink into like, 315 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:36,640 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, we're going into a break. This is 316 00:15:36,680 --> 00:15:40,120 Speaker 1: going I am solely focusing on myself. I'm gonna try 317 00:15:40,120 --> 00:15:44,240 Speaker 1: this recipe. I'm gonna turn on I'm gonna binge watch Girls. Hello, 318 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:48,400 Speaker 1: you have to be okay with two seasons ten episodes each. Yeah, 319 00:15:48,400 --> 00:15:51,560 Speaker 1: I'm gonna watch Christmas Vacation. I'm gonna make a homemade 320 00:15:51,880 --> 00:15:52,720 Speaker 1: bath scrub. 321 00:15:53,080 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 4: Yeah. 322 00:15:53,320 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 1: There's so many things that you can just like hunker 323 00:15:56,360 --> 00:15:58,720 Speaker 1: down and try to enjoy being with you. 324 00:15:59,080 --> 00:16:01,960 Speaker 4: Yeah, journal, make your goal if you're into that sort 325 00:16:02,000 --> 00:16:04,040 Speaker 4: of thing, make your goal list for twenty twenty four 326 00:16:04,200 --> 00:16:06,600 Speaker 4: things that will uplift you and make you happy. 327 00:16:06,960 --> 00:16:10,280 Speaker 2: Go on a nice walk. I mean, I love being alone, 328 00:16:10,320 --> 00:16:11,160 Speaker 2: so this is hard. 329 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:12,480 Speaker 1: For me, but that's what I mean. I do too. 330 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:15,120 Speaker 1: When my mom and Easton went and left and I 331 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:18,120 Speaker 1: was childless as well, I was like, I had friends 332 00:16:18,120 --> 00:16:20,120 Speaker 1: that were like, let's go out, and I'm like, when 333 00:16:20,160 --> 00:16:22,320 Speaker 1: I have the whole house, do I say, are you tripping? 334 00:16:22,480 --> 00:16:27,080 Speaker 1: I'm masturbating twenty seven times from that masturbating all masturbate. 335 00:16:27,320 --> 00:16:30,720 Speaker 4: Yes, Play with a few toys. Figure out what you like. 336 00:16:30,800 --> 00:16:32,840 Speaker 4: Maybe it's a new year, New year, new you. 337 00:16:33,320 --> 00:16:36,680 Speaker 1: Maybe like I hope it helped. It sounds awesome. I 338 00:16:36,760 --> 00:16:39,320 Speaker 1: want to go be alone right now. I love you. 339 00:16:40,200 --> 00:16:43,000 Speaker 1: That sounds awesome. Light a candle, get in the tub 340 00:16:43,040 --> 00:16:46,480 Speaker 1: and play with yourself and before you know it, you're 341 00:16:46,520 --> 00:16:49,400 Speaker 1: back at work. It's very time consuming. 342 00:16:49,520 --> 00:16:54,120 Speaker 2: Okay, spoil yourself. Oh this is a good one. 343 00:16:54,840 --> 00:16:58,280 Speaker 4: Pressure from family to be places and buy gifts. 344 00:16:58,400 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 2: Even my grandparents expect gifts with like. 345 00:17:00,840 --> 00:17:04,280 Speaker 1: A oh my, you know what I would tell them. 346 00:17:04,320 --> 00:17:06,600 Speaker 1: You know what, Graham, You've lost the spirit of Christmas, 347 00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:09,159 Speaker 1: and in lieu of a gift, I've made a donation 348 00:17:09,240 --> 00:17:12,200 Speaker 1: to the Humane Society in your name. They'll really start 349 00:17:12,200 --> 00:17:15,000 Speaker 1: hating gifts after that. Yes, we're not doing gifts anymore. 350 00:17:15,280 --> 00:17:19,719 Speaker 4: Okay, perfect, make them something homemade, they'll stop asking. 351 00:17:19,920 --> 00:17:22,080 Speaker 2: Make them a card, they'll stop asking for gifts. 352 00:17:22,240 --> 00:17:22,320 Speaker 3: No. 353 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:25,120 Speaker 1: But really, I think anyone who's putting pressure on you, 354 00:17:25,200 --> 00:17:28,120 Speaker 1: I think you have to be completely honest. Say it's 355 00:17:28,160 --> 00:17:31,399 Speaker 1: the holiday. Maybe you've lost sight about what with what 356 00:17:31,520 --> 00:17:34,679 Speaker 1: the holidays are about. They're very much about being with family, 357 00:17:34,680 --> 00:17:37,160 Speaker 1: but it's also about enjoying yourself and taking a load off. 358 00:17:37,160 --> 00:17:39,480 Speaker 1: So I will not be there. Also, I'm feeling a 359 00:17:39,480 --> 00:17:42,800 Speaker 1: lot of pressure with getting you a gift. Give them 360 00:17:42,840 --> 00:17:45,000 Speaker 1: a card that says you've made a donation in their honor. 361 00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 2: Yeah. 362 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:48,760 Speaker 4: And also if you don't have the money, or if 363 00:17:48,800 --> 00:17:51,560 Speaker 4: you're struggling, or if you're really saving or pinching pennies, 364 00:17:52,040 --> 00:17:55,840 Speaker 4: just being upfront and honest about that, and if anyone 365 00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:57,680 Speaker 4: wants to give you shit about it, if you say, hey, 366 00:17:57,720 --> 00:18:01,240 Speaker 4: this year's been financially maybe I'm really budgeting, so I'm 367 00:18:01,240 --> 00:18:03,520 Speaker 4: not buying gifts, but I'll give you my time or 368 00:18:03,520 --> 00:18:04,320 Speaker 4: ten minutes. 369 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:04,800 Speaker 2: To grab it. 370 00:18:04,800 --> 00:18:08,040 Speaker 1: It's like present, give me yes, So I'm giving you 371 00:18:08,080 --> 00:18:10,640 Speaker 1: the best gift of all, which is spending time with. 372 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:13,440 Speaker 4: Me, or zoom with them if you can't be with them, 373 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:16,040 Speaker 4: or a four to flight home zoom with Say, I'm 374 00:18:16,040 --> 00:18:17,520 Speaker 4: going to zoom with you and we'll share a little 375 00:18:17,520 --> 00:18:20,880 Speaker 4: cocktail or non alcoholic beverage over zoom and cheers. 376 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:22,720 Speaker 2: Make it cute. And if anyone wants to give you 377 00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:23,800 Speaker 2: shit about that, then. 378 00:18:25,280 --> 00:18:28,240 Speaker 1: That's the other thing. When someone has an issue, let 379 00:18:28,280 --> 00:18:31,040 Speaker 1: it just be their issue, you know, don't. 380 00:18:30,920 --> 00:18:32,320 Speaker 2: Let them put it on you. 381 00:18:32,359 --> 00:18:35,720 Speaker 3: Now, that's what I and everybody who has an issue 382 00:18:35,880 --> 00:18:38,240 Speaker 3: just shut up. It's not their issue, it's yours. 383 00:18:38,640 --> 00:18:41,199 Speaker 1: Eat it. There's so many issues that happen without it 384 00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:44,000 Speaker 1: being the holidays. Don't bring the issue into the holidays. 385 00:18:44,240 --> 00:18:46,159 Speaker 1: If there's one thing I love about the holidays, it 386 00:18:46,240 --> 00:18:51,240 Speaker 1: is that with my family there is no pressure. That's 387 00:18:51,240 --> 00:18:53,800 Speaker 1: a zero. And maybe it's because we don't have a 388 00:18:53,800 --> 00:18:56,320 Speaker 1: big family, but it's like, this is where we're going 389 00:18:56,400 --> 00:18:59,680 Speaker 1: to be. The more, the merrier. This is what we're 390 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:01,920 Speaker 1: having for dinner. If you like to come, we're here. 391 00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:04,800 Speaker 1: If you don't want to that's great too. We totally understand. 392 00:19:05,359 --> 00:19:08,960 Speaker 4: But yeah, I love that about my family too. It's 393 00:19:08,960 --> 00:19:11,400 Speaker 4: no pressure, no pressure, no pressure at all. 394 00:19:11,640 --> 00:19:14,000 Speaker 1: Send a group chat, in a group chat, just like 395 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:17,640 Speaker 1: I refuse to have pressure this year. I'm so excited 396 00:19:17,640 --> 00:19:20,840 Speaker 1: for the holiday. I hope that during this time we 397 00:19:20,840 --> 00:19:24,400 Speaker 1: can remember what's important. And this is what I'll be doing. 398 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:26,160 Speaker 1: And I love you all so so much, and I'll 399 00:19:26,160 --> 00:19:27,920 Speaker 1: see you in the new year. Yeah, can't wait. 400 00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:29,200 Speaker 2: Bye bye. 401 00:19:29,320 --> 00:19:34,440 Speaker 1: I'm going to Barbados with my friends. Merry Christmas, very good. 402 00:19:35,520 --> 00:19:38,320 Speaker 2: Oh oh oh no, no, this. 403 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:40,399 Speaker 1: Is however reason could you imagine if we told Mom 404 00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:42,720 Speaker 1: we're not spending Christmas with her, she would lose her. 405 00:19:43,359 --> 00:19:45,919 Speaker 3: You imagine me going, I don't think I'm gonna make 406 00:19:45,920 --> 00:19:46,520 Speaker 3: it to Palm Spring. 407 00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:48,879 Speaker 1: Oh, by the way, I would have lost it. I 408 00:19:48,920 --> 00:19:51,200 Speaker 1: would have been like, it is Christmas, but. 409 00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:55,840 Speaker 2: The pressure, the But you guys are close, there's no pressure. 410 00:19:55,840 --> 00:19:58,160 Speaker 5: It's like, I'm going, there's all of four of us 411 00:19:58,240 --> 00:20:03,120 Speaker 5: host you will be coming to Okay, you have no girlfriend, 412 00:20:04,080 --> 00:20:05,919 Speaker 5: but the pressure, what do you have nothing? 413 00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:09,440 Speaker 4: As a parent, feeling like you didn't get a holiday 414 00:20:09,480 --> 00:20:11,880 Speaker 4: because everything is all about the kids. 415 00:20:12,760 --> 00:20:16,359 Speaker 2: That's a good one. I'm sure. I mean, I'm sure 416 00:20:16,359 --> 00:20:18,200 Speaker 2: not a very apparent experience is but. 417 00:20:20,200 --> 00:20:23,600 Speaker 1: No, but I mean ocean kicked our butts during the holiday, fool. 418 00:20:23,640 --> 00:20:25,880 Speaker 3: But like I still didn't feel like it was like 419 00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:27,040 Speaker 3: I still felt the spirit. 420 00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:29,720 Speaker 1: It wasn't just like you know, That's what I feel like. 421 00:20:29,960 --> 00:20:35,160 Speaker 1: Is also, once Christmas ends and then you have that 422 00:20:35,440 --> 00:20:39,920 Speaker 1: chunk of time between the twenty sixth and the new year. 423 00:20:40,680 --> 00:20:45,400 Speaker 1: That's why I think that having structure throughout the year 424 00:20:45,520 --> 00:20:48,800 Speaker 1: is so important because once the kids go to bed, 425 00:20:49,880 --> 00:20:53,320 Speaker 1: it is your time to just chill out and zen. 426 00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:57,399 Speaker 1: And I think that's why motherhood got extremely hard for 427 00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:00,320 Speaker 1: me for a while, because there was no structure in Moore. 428 00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:03,720 Speaker 1: There was no bedtime. It was like, you're going to 429 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:06,560 Speaker 1: bed when I go to bed, and I can't even 430 00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:08,360 Speaker 1: like take a bath because if I take a bath, 431 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:10,160 Speaker 1: you're gonna get out of my bed and come sit 432 00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:11,840 Speaker 1: with me, and then you're gonna undress and you're gonna 433 00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:13,200 Speaker 1: want to get in the bath with me. It was 434 00:21:13,400 --> 00:21:18,879 Speaker 1: zero alone time. So I think that even during the 435 00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:22,199 Speaker 1: holiday where it's so much fun to probably stay up 436 00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:24,280 Speaker 1: late with mom and dad and then you get them 437 00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:26,800 Speaker 1: to bed and you gotta fucking wrapped presence, and then 438 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:29,080 Speaker 1: you gotta pretend like Santa came and eat the cookies 439 00:21:29,119 --> 00:21:31,080 Speaker 1: and set out the fucking milk. It's a lot of 440 00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:34,800 Speaker 1: freaking work. Yeah. Right, So on the twenty sixth, shit 441 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:38,240 Speaker 1: goes back to normal. Right, you get to still be 442 00:21:38,320 --> 00:21:40,680 Speaker 1: off you get all day tomorrow, but you're still going 443 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:42,480 Speaker 1: to bed. You don't have to go to bed. But 444 00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:44,879 Speaker 1: leave me the fuck alone. Yeah, don't talk to me. 445 00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:47,560 Speaker 1: I'm off limits now, mom time is over. 446 00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:51,600 Speaker 4: Fend for yourselves, right, fend for yourself setting boundaries. 447 00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:56,200 Speaker 1: Being I set boundaries with your children. 448 00:21:57,400 --> 00:22:00,000 Speaker 4: I can't even I am obviously not a pair of 449 00:22:00,119 --> 00:22:03,639 Speaker 4: But I remember a few years where my parents had 450 00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:06,480 Speaker 4: five kids, and there were a few years we were 451 00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:11,040 Speaker 4: all home at once, and there were years where I 452 00:22:11,080 --> 00:22:13,840 Speaker 4: could tell my parents were so extremely stressed, and there 453 00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:16,200 Speaker 4: were years that it was easy peasy, And I remember 454 00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:19,400 Speaker 4: talking with it with my mom about it years later 455 00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:21,680 Speaker 4: and being like, what was the difference, And she said, 456 00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:24,520 Speaker 4: the years we were crazy stressed is when I know 457 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:26,879 Speaker 4: everyone can't do this. But my mom said, when we 458 00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:31,200 Speaker 4: kind of pushed everything, we didn't pre plan. She was like, we, 459 00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:34,840 Speaker 4: you know, last minute Christmas shopping. We were wrapping a 460 00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:37,600 Speaker 4: million gifts. The night of Christmas Eve, we were up 461 00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:41,719 Speaker 4: until five am. I was exhausted, I over spent, I 462 00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:44,800 Speaker 4: overdid all these things, she said, versus the years where 463 00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:47,600 Speaker 4: honestly we didn't get you guys as much. But I 464 00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:49,280 Speaker 4: would be out in the summer and I'd like buy 465 00:22:49,280 --> 00:22:50,400 Speaker 4: a couple gifts here and there. 466 00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:51,920 Speaker 2: It was low key. 467 00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:55,960 Speaker 4: The meals weren't like wildly extravagant, but they were so cute. 468 00:22:56,000 --> 00:23:00,480 Speaker 4: And she said, I structured our time off, had something 469 00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:02,920 Speaker 4: planned every day to where your dad and I could 470 00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:04,960 Speaker 4: be like, Okay, on the twenty seventh, you guys have 471 00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:08,040 Speaker 4: a babysitter. We're going out to dinner like she planned it. 472 00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:11,919 Speaker 4: And again, I know that's not very easy for everyone, 473 00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:14,639 Speaker 4: especially working moms, but she said those years that she 474 00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:17,560 Speaker 4: pre planned it, it was like night and day. 475 00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:20,159 Speaker 1: Yeah. I know so too. I think you have to 476 00:23:20,600 --> 00:23:22,320 Speaker 1: do it a very Yeah. 477 00:23:23,000 --> 00:23:25,919 Speaker 3: Christmas, Yeah, we were buying Christmas gifts in summer. 478 00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:27,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, September October. 479 00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:29,520 Speaker 2: Shove them in the closet, hide them. 480 00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:35,480 Speaker 1: And I've been buying her her Birthday presents also since 481 00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:35,880 Speaker 1: that time. 482 00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:38,160 Speaker 3: That's so nice, didn't you say that you had left 483 00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:39,280 Speaker 3: over Christmas for her birthday. 484 00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:43,600 Speaker 1: She was so overwhelmed and she I had unopened gifts 485 00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:47,560 Speaker 1: that she had no desire to open, ye, which is 486 00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:50,320 Speaker 1: very strange. I know. So we're recycling. I told you, 487 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:53,560 Speaker 1: guys that tell me about that photo real quick before 488 00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:57,399 Speaker 1: we sign off. You said that you saw something online 489 00:23:57,480 --> 00:24:00,080 Speaker 1: a girl with her dad and they went to I 490 00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:00,679 Speaker 1: think it was it. 491 00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:02,560 Speaker 4: Was a video you guys probably saw. It was a 492 00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:06,960 Speaker 4: TikTok or Instagram reels. It was so beautiful. I just 493 00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:09,480 Speaker 4: got goosbunch thinking about it. And it was a girl 494 00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:11,920 Speaker 4: and she was sitting at a pizza restaurant, like a 495 00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:14,639 Speaker 4: Dominoes or a Pizza or something, and her dad was 496 00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,879 Speaker 4: across from her, and she like was smiling, and there 497 00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:19,479 Speaker 4: was one pizza in between the two of them, and 498 00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:21,800 Speaker 4: he was eating the pizza and he looked so happy, 499 00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:25,199 Speaker 4: so happy, and she was smiling. And it was just 500 00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:28,639 Speaker 4: a quick video of them, and the caption read, you know, 501 00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:31,879 Speaker 4: remember the people who don't have huge families to go 502 00:24:31,960 --> 00:24:34,719 Speaker 4: home with and celebrate the holidays with, and there are 503 00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:38,080 Speaker 4: some of us who just have our dads and just 504 00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:38,919 Speaker 4: are sharing. 505 00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:41,080 Speaker 2: A pizza on Christmas. Even this is good enough for 506 00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:41,760 Speaker 2: the two of us. 507 00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:45,040 Speaker 1: But I love that. That's the spirit of Christmas. 508 00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:47,760 Speaker 3: Thing that I didn't like about that video is the 509 00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:51,200 Speaker 3: music she put behind me, because like, it's the video 510 00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:54,800 Speaker 3: and she put like this sad toned music that was 511 00:24:54,840 --> 00:25:01,960 Speaker 3: like she would have used like yeah, thing because it 512 00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:04,920 Speaker 3: was like it was it was the cutest moment ever, 513 00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:06,879 Speaker 3: and she was like with the music, it was like 514 00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:09,119 Speaker 3: feel bad for it, but it was like, no, this 515 00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:10,480 Speaker 3: is such a beautiful moment. 516 00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:15,160 Speaker 2: Were just hanging with your Dad's awesome. There's no expectations. 517 00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:18,240 Speaker 3: You guys are just sitting here eating a pizza, about 518 00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:20,359 Speaker 3: to go home probably and get a little ice cream 519 00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:23,240 Speaker 3: and watch a movie. The most so simple thing. 520 00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:24,960 Speaker 1: That was the only thing I didn't like. I was like, 521 00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:26,200 Speaker 1: why did she use this music? 522 00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:27,960 Speaker 3: I know a happy video. 523 00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:30,440 Speaker 4: I do wonder The one thing I wonder is if 524 00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:36,280 Speaker 4: we don't have background context, did they lose someone. 525 00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:37,560 Speaker 1: I could have? It could be first Christmas without Mama 526 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:38,400 Speaker 1: and that I will say. 527 00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:40,000 Speaker 3: But I mean, yeah, that was the only thing. But 528 00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:42,160 Speaker 3: I looked at it and I was like, what I'd 529 00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:44,600 Speaker 3: get for one night to go to pizza with my 530 00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:45,200 Speaker 3: dad again? 531 00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:48,520 Speaker 2: Beautiful? 532 00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:51,159 Speaker 3: Those are the little things that the sad music. 533 00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:55,159 Speaker 1: No, but that's the Can I tell you that video 534 00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:57,760 Speaker 1: is the Christmas spirit? 535 00:25:58,080 --> 00:25:58,639 Speaker 2: Yeah? 536 00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:03,200 Speaker 1: Yeah? And the quick we all remember the spirit behind 537 00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:07,720 Speaker 1: why we're celebrating the happier our holidays. It's good to me. 538 00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:09,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, And that's why I love a Christmas story when 539 00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,399 Speaker 3: they have to go into the Chinese restaurant to have dinner. 540 00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:14,600 Speaker 1: So good, so good. 541 00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:16,920 Speaker 3: I would I would do that every year because it 542 00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:20,080 Speaker 3: would be so great. 543 00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 2: But this, yep, every year. 544 00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:25,680 Speaker 1: I could do it without the deck. Before we sign off, 545 00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:28,800 Speaker 1: can I tell you what I fear going into a 546 00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:31,320 Speaker 1: new year? Yes. So I was talking to Jess and 547 00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:34,040 Speaker 1: Easton about this, and I don't want to get dark, 548 00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:37,440 Speaker 1: but this is where I think not only my head goes, 549 00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:40,520 Speaker 1: but I'm sure people who have experienced a tough year 550 00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:44,160 Speaker 1: or tough years in the past, but you sit there 551 00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:48,000 Speaker 1: and you're like, oh my gosh, we had such a 552 00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:51,840 Speaker 1: great year in twenty twenty three. We're gonna leave the 553 00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:55,000 Speaker 1: lows behind us, and like we're gonna take on twenty 554 00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:59,840 Speaker 1: twenty four. When I look back going into twenty eighteen 555 00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:03,920 Speaker 1: and I remember celebrating and having the best time ever, 556 00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:06,480 Speaker 1: and I'm like, yes, we're going into a new year. 557 00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:09,600 Speaker 1: Little did I know twenty eighteen was going to hold 558 00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:13,159 Speaker 1: the death of my dad, Right, So I always fear 559 00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:17,480 Speaker 1: going into a new year, like it could be great. 560 00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:20,119 Speaker 1: I'm expecting it to be great, but I know that 561 00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:24,120 Speaker 1: life happens. What is going to happen this year? That's 562 00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:26,600 Speaker 1: going to make me a little bit different of a person? 563 00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:28,000 Speaker 3: What speed bumps are. 564 00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:30,200 Speaker 1: We gonna What speed bumps are we gonna hit? Where 565 00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:32,359 Speaker 1: like I'm no longer gonna be the person that I 566 00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:34,520 Speaker 1: was in twenty twenty three. 567 00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:38,440 Speaker 4: That's an amazing, amazing point because we don't see that enough. 568 00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:41,040 Speaker 2: When you said that to me earlier, we. 569 00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:43,800 Speaker 4: See all the it's gonna be a great year, write 570 00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:47,800 Speaker 4: down your goals, And I was telling you, like I 571 00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,520 Speaker 4: am privileged enough to be able to go into a 572 00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:53,119 Speaker 4: year and be like, what amazing things are gonna happen. 573 00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:56,160 Speaker 4: But imagine if I was someone who every year had 574 00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:58,800 Speaker 4: some sort of trauma, like for the past five years, 575 00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:02,320 Speaker 4: a death that I'm gonna slowly, my brain's slowly going 576 00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:04,679 Speaker 4: to start programming to be like, what the fuck am 577 00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:06,320 Speaker 4: I gonna have to deal with this year? And it's 578 00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:08,760 Speaker 4: like I don't we don't think about those people enough, 579 00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:11,719 Speaker 4: I think, because that just to say, okay, just to 580 00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:12,600 Speaker 4: have hope. 581 00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:13,760 Speaker 2: Going into a new year is enough. 582 00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:17,280 Speaker 1: Sometimes That's what I think, yes, going into twenty twenty 583 00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:20,760 Speaker 1: four being hopeful. So for with that, I didn't mean 584 00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:23,000 Speaker 1: to bring down the mood, but just know that I'm 585 00:28:23,040 --> 00:28:27,240 Speaker 1: wishing you all a very happy and healthy twenty twenty four. 586 00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:32,000 Speaker 1: May God bless you all, and remember God will never 587 00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:34,159 Speaker 1: take you to what He cannot take you through. I 588 00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:36,399 Speaker 1: hope you all believe in God. If not, just know 589 00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:40,000 Speaker 1: your higher power has got your back, all right. I 590 00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:44,040 Speaker 1: hope you enjoyed the first Bonus episode. That was fun. 591 00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:46,720 Speaker 1: Ever it was that the forever right? Yeah, Ever, I've 592 00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:49,200 Speaker 1: never done a twenty four hit, right there? Help the 593 00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:54,719 Speaker 1: Bonus save you a boner. I love you, guys, and 594 00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:57,880 Speaker 1: I will catch you by the next Bonus episode. 595 00:28:58,000 --> 00:29:01,680 Speaker 3: Can master, but I'll see you next time.