WEBVTT - EP 372: Ozempic Is Getting Y’all Pregnant


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<v Speaker 1>Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decision.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome you guys to another episode of Horrid BLEA. This

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<v Speaker 2>is young Baby, I'm your girl. Maybe b aka dat bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm weazy.

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<v Speaker 3>And if you're watching the YouTube, Angela Davis, oh jesus,

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<v Speaker 3>she's not Angela Davis. Bro My nigga woke up and

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<v Speaker 3>saw me this morn. He said, I really feel like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm dating a black girl. Now he don't feel like

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<v Speaker 3>he dated a black girl.

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<v Speaker 1>The braids got the little boho you know, it's still straight.

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<v Speaker 1>People be looking at me like I'm commnicate. They're not

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<v Speaker 1>confused once they see these.

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<v Speaker 3>And I also want to say, it took me such

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<v Speaker 3>a long time to love my hair because when I

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<v Speaker 3>was growing up, I'm so light skinned that everybody was like,

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<v Speaker 3>why don't you have curly hair, like you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Mixed girls have that in Florida, That's how they come

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<v Speaker 1>at you.

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<v Speaker 3>And it was always making me feel so bad about

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<v Speaker 3>how my hair looks. But then as the years go on,

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<v Speaker 3>like I learned to love it. And yeah, honestly, the

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<v Speaker 3>braids keeping it growing thicker. I haven't put shampoo in

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<v Speaker 3>my hair in a year and a half. I only

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<v Speaker 3>do what's called co washing, just conditioner. And the Dominicans

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<v Speaker 3>take my grades out now and they be looking at

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<v Speaker 3>me like what bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>I would say, Like our like.

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<v Speaker 2>Experience with our hair journeys are all so different, I know,

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<v Speaker 2>like growing up me and me and my sister with

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<v Speaker 2>the same daddy, we have similar curl patterns. But my

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<v Speaker 2>youngest sister, she's Haitian and white and she has she

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<v Speaker 2>has four sy kiky super tight curls. And when we

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<v Speaker 2>were growing up, me and my sister wanted her hair,

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<v Speaker 2>and she wanted our hair, so she constantly wanted her

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<v Speaker 2>hair straightened or to be like ours, and we were like, bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>we would killed for your hair.

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<v Speaker 1>We wanted the thickness because the hair is the validation

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<v Speaker 1>when you're mixed. To me, it's not well. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>the thing.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't know if it's because me and the

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<v Speaker 2>sister closest to me weren't raised around any of our

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<v Speaker 2>white family. Oh bitch, we wanted to be dark. We

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<v Speaker 2>want to fake curly hair because we only hung around

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<v Speaker 2>our cousins and shit like, we hated being the light

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<v Speaker 2>girls where niggas would question if my cousin was my cousin,

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<v Speaker 2>if my daddy was my daddy.

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<v Speaker 1>So me and my sister, we only we wanted to be.

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<v Speaker 2>We couldn't wait until the summertime when we became a

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<v Speaker 2>motherfucking looking Brazilian shit.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's funny because I loved our dark skin.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like when I say this, there's also this

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<v Speaker 3>side of society where it's white women being like, I

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<v Speaker 3>wish I was your color, and I never want to

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<v Speaker 3>be that black girl. No, I never you know what

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<v Speaker 3>I'm saying, because they'd be doing that, like they'll say

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<v Speaker 3>that to black women and it's super insulting. So sometimes

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<v Speaker 3>I try to watch how someone else can be perceiving

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<v Speaker 3>what I'm saying when I express that I want darker skin.

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<v Speaker 3>I love myself so much more than I did when

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<v Speaker 3>I was younger because that just was figuring out.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, no, just taking out my hair. Like the

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<v Speaker 1>other night. Maybe I was taking it out on the plane. Girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me tell you saying not.

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<v Speaker 3>To be a niggle, but if I'm going to pay

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<v Speaker 3>for a first class with the door, I'm hanging my

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<v Speaker 3>hair out. No, I'm taking hair, oh okay, like I'm

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<v Speaker 3>checking it out.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe putting the meals in in between, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>So I flew from la to London for our London show,

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<v Speaker 3>which was eleven and a half hours. On the way

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<v Speaker 3>back it was eight and I was like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 3>could get the shit out.

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<v Speaker 1>So you know, they come in with the meals and

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<v Speaker 1>shit and I'm like, hey, half.

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<v Speaker 3>The hair out, half of his braids. Every time I

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<v Speaker 3>go to the bathroom. People are looking to be like,

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<v Speaker 3>what's the fun? Why does bitch keep looking different?

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<v Speaker 1>Don't care?

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<v Speaker 3>And there's no knives on the plane, so I need

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<v Speaker 3>a little plastic knife to fucking get you know, this

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<v Speaker 3>is about the knife.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't enough.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, no, you need you need a little sharp no.

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<v Speaker 3>But I had to really like get that shit. I

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<v Speaker 3>think they thought I was trying to make a bomb.

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<v Speaker 1>Now with taking your hair out, probably because the way

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<v Speaker 1>I was like using shit. I will say I had

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<v Speaker 1>a nail clipper.

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<v Speaker 2>I was maybe not this you was making a bomb,

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<v Speaker 2>but you could have hit some in your hair. Only

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<v Speaker 2>because my very first international flight, I'm going I got

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<v Speaker 2>fleued out by a nigga that was playing in Israel.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm going to Jerusalem to you know, I was

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<v Speaker 2>a little nervous. I said, oh, maybe not be going

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<v Speaker 2>to Jesus, but I fly tel Aviv. That's the airline

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<v Speaker 2>I fly. Baby, I'm the only person who ain't wrapped up,

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<v Speaker 2>if you know what I mean. So I'm in line.

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<v Speaker 2>They pulled me to the side. This is for me

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<v Speaker 2>to get my boarding pass. This isn't even TSA. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>in the line to get our boarding pass. Tel Aviv

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<v Speaker 2>comes and brings me to the side. The most embarrassing thing,

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<v Speaker 2>and I might have talked about this on the podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>I had a bun, but you know how we used

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<v Speaker 2>to take that that that uh we hit the little

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<v Speaker 2>weave ponytail and wrap that shit into a bun.

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<v Speaker 1>Baby.

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<v Speaker 2>They made me take out pin by pen my ponytail.

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<v Speaker 2>So my little nub was like this because you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a little I have my little thing here. And

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<v Speaker 2>then bitch made me take out my whole ponytail and

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<v Speaker 2>carry it back.

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<v Speaker 1>I put it back up.

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<v Speaker 2>I had to still go get my fucking boarding past.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, are you fucking kidding me? This

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<v Speaker 2>was my very first international flight, and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I hate it.

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<v Speaker 1>Your first time going overseas with Israel.

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<v Speaker 2>For he was playing and uh, yeah, he was playing

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<v Speaker 2>in j Rusalem. And then we did like a weekend

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<v Speaker 2>trip to Tel Aviv.

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<v Speaker 3>He was playing in Jerusalem. Jerusalem's only like he was

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<v Speaker 3>playing in Jerusalem. Oh, that's crazy. They have a basketball

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<v Speaker 3>Erusalem is in tel Aviv.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, well, bitch, it was part all knows.

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<v Speaker 2>We went to the Tel Aviv park with the clubs, Like,

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<v Speaker 2>there's Maccabi, that's the big basketball team over there.

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<v Speaker 1>He played with a small team. Oh okay, yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>By the way, while we were speaking about Israel, I

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<v Speaker 3>mentioned this at the London Show.

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<v Speaker 1>It's been a really weird time on the internet, in

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<v Speaker 1>the news, and I.

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<v Speaker 3>Feel like, and I just posted this today, I am

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<v Speaker 3>so insulted at the amount of people that think just

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<v Speaker 3>because I was really I'm not pro Palestine. But it

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<v Speaker 3>also is making me think a lot about Hollywood and

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<v Speaker 3>how many people I know and follow that just won't

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<v Speaker 3>post anything. And one person that I know in Hollywood

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<v Speaker 3>recently I kind of had a conversation with them.

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<v Speaker 1>We were having dinner and we were talking about Palestine.

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<v Speaker 3>He was like, Bro, this is the sickest shit I've

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<v Speaker 3>ever seen in my life, Like in my of being alive.

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<v Speaker 3>The things that we were turning a blind eyes to

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm like, we why don't you talk about it?

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<v Speaker 3>And he said, think about how many black people I employ.

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<v Speaker 3>Are we all going to lose our jobs? Because I

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<v Speaker 3>said something, I'm like, that's the way you think of this.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, well, then my question would be, this is

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<v Speaker 2>the first time you're bringing it up here. What kept

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<v Speaker 2>you from posting or talking about it publicly?

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<v Speaker 3>For I do just not a horrible Okay, I've been

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<v Speaker 3>posting about Palestine and shit like that, but now sometimes

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<v Speaker 3>I'll just see stuff in horrible comments like or like

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<v Speaker 3>on a.

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<v Speaker 1>People really DM me more about it than anything.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's probably why, because maybe they're just watching the show,

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<v Speaker 3>but I post about it. But now I really feel

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<v Speaker 3>like we're in a weird era of silencing. And I

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<v Speaker 3>remember on the TS Madison episode, I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>I kind of wish TikTok goes away because like, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>tired of the Internet.

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<v Speaker 1>But then I realized that's.

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<v Speaker 3>The only why people say shit like this, like that

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<v Speaker 3>dude that blew himself up or set himself on fire

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<v Speaker 3>in front of the way like last words were free valistine, right,

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<v Speaker 3>But no one's ever seen that on the news, and

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know. As much as I hate how much

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<v Speaker 3>social media has taken over, I have to like stop

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<v Speaker 3>being vain about the things that I'm seeing and realize

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<v Speaker 3>there really is a greater good. Like last night, I

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<v Speaker 3>went to this place in New York called Medusa. It

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<v Speaker 3>was my first time going. Oh, I ran into sad

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<v Speaker 3>He's kidding, fucking shit was great. But me and my

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<v Speaker 3>Nia get sitting down to the table of six people,

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<v Speaker 3>some girls, some guys. When the food came out, everybody's like,

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<v Speaker 3>don't eat and they all start videotaping. They all start flashing,

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm looking at him and I'm like, bro, I

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<v Speaker 3>hate this. I hate this era that we're in. How

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<v Speaker 3>can you not eat? How can you not enjoy your friends?

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<v Speaker 3>I even heard one girl said she hadn't seen then

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<v Speaker 3>other one in three years. And all y'all have done

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<v Speaker 3>was make content this whole time.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not super mad at it, because if y'all followed

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<v Speaker 2>me on the ground, I'm bitch. I'm I'm taking pictures

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<v Speaker 2>of my food now, like I want to try to

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<v Speaker 2>create that content only because what it's done for me

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<v Speaker 2>I appreciate. So when people constantly us up by the way,

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<v Speaker 2>if y'all't stop sending me pickle recipes, bitch, I like picklebacks.

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<v Speaker 1>That is it.

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<v Speaker 2>Stop sending me fucking pickle dip. Somebody sent me fucking

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<v Speaker 2>doctor Pepple with pickles in it the other day. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want everything with pickles. But to me, I have

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<v Speaker 2>a six ingredient salad that I eat every week and

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<v Speaker 2>I fucking love it. So to me, what I've gotten

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<v Speaker 2>from social media, I don't mind giving it back. I

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<v Speaker 2>think that that's why, like I love like you don't

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<v Speaker 2>listen to podcasts, I listen to podcasts. I love people

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<v Speaker 2>creating content, and I know so many people are making

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<v Speaker 2>money off of it. I don't mind sharing it. It

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<v Speaker 2>beats niggas hitting me when they come to New York

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<v Speaker 2>and being like, can you tell me where I should

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<v Speaker 2>go to eat or what sex clubs like? To me,

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<v Speaker 2>if the information is out there, then it's out there,

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't mind sharing it in that way.

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<v Speaker 1>But I personally people.

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<v Speaker 3>Just experiencing something in real life versus experiencing it because

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<v Speaker 3>you're you want to film it.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of these people when I went my coll

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<v Speaker 2>close friends, we take the least amount of content. To me,

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<v Speaker 2>it's when you're in these spaces with people who may

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<v Speaker 2>not be friends, people who you may not actually give

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<v Speaker 2>a fuck about their livelihood, if they're doing well, if

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<v Speaker 2>their job is paying well, if their family is good.

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<v Speaker 2>Those are the people that you hang out with and

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<v Speaker 2>you create.

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<v Speaker 1>These these model I don't know people.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's I think that people are doing things

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<v Speaker 3>to film it. I think people are experiencing restaurants, hotels,

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<v Speaker 3>trips even like that are instagrammable more than they are

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<v Speaker 3>worried about the memory they'll keep for themselves. Like, think

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<v Speaker 3>about when we go to a concert, is anyone really

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<v Speaker 3>watching it?

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<v Speaker 1>Or are they looking at it through the screen? Nigga fireworks?

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<v Speaker 3>There's always so many jokes about how trash they look

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<v Speaker 3>on Instagram, but like, really, how many times can we

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<v Speaker 3>like sit and enjoy the moment?

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<v Speaker 1>And what does the holidays with fireworks? All I know

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<v Speaker 1>is Memorial Day? Doesn't know, dude, does Memorial have fireworks too?

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<v Speaker 3>Well?

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<v Speaker 2>I know maybe New there is depending on the city.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh I know is maybe New Year's one. I was

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<v Speaker 2>gonna say maybe the last five years all the holidays

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<v Speaker 2>with fireworks.

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<v Speaker 1>Bitch, I'll be too lit.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll be passed out before the goddamn fireworks or especially

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<v Speaker 2>Fourth of July. Baby, weeping, eating fucking Glizzies and drinking

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<v Speaker 2>since twelve o'clock, I can skip you. You thought I

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<v Speaker 2>was wait and we in like dogs freaking out. I

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<v Speaker 2>den on daylight saving time where it's dark. It don't

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<v Speaker 2>get dark until nine o'clock. Baby, I'm sleep by the

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<v Speaker 2>time the sun go down. I can't see no fireworks.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sleepy. I'm gonna be up. These little two.

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<v Speaker 3>Hot days in New York got me, honey, I'm just

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<v Speaker 3>walking down the street with this was only I am

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<v Speaker 3>so happy to be believe you were walking like in

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<v Speaker 3>the soutfit.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't walk with the boots. Oh then it wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>the outfit. Oh no, were the breakers. I was just

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<v Speaker 1>it was just a little one beat.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>If you did this with the boots just too much.

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<v Speaker 2>If you put the booths on, I was gonna be like, girl, it.

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<v Speaker 1>Was price going. I walk outside me say, why are

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<v Speaker 1>you love being a fucking horror? I was like, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know something, I'm going to work. No, but on

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<v Speaker 1>some real shit.

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<v Speaker 3>I know that like people that live in cloth places,

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<v Speaker 3>people anywhere around the world warm weather. Call it clothed place.

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<v Speaker 3>Cold places, oh cold. But I know people that live

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<v Speaker 3>in warm weather. Of course we all feel like this,

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<v Speaker 3>but specifically when you're in a cold place and you

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<v Speaker 3>get that heat. Bruh, we just act different. I never

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<v Speaker 3>enjoyed the summer in Florida like this. It feels like

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<v Speaker 3>in the ways summer. No, I know, I'm saying, I

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<v Speaker 3>never really like cared about these months.

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<v Speaker 1>Yea.

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<v Speaker 3>I never felt like gotta be out tonight. I mean

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<v Speaker 3>the rooftop, the ways that I'm planning, just like all

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<v Speaker 3>of it. And honestly, I'm such a euro bitch in

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<v Speaker 3>the summer that I almost want to chill out and

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<v Speaker 3>just be in New York.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I'm taking the summer off id horror. I'm already

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<v Speaker 2>setting up and letting it be known to the to

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<v Speaker 2>the neglets on my line that I am open and

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<v Speaker 2>available for travel.

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<v Speaker 1>I do have.

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<v Speaker 2>One that sounds like a real or you know what

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<v Speaker 2>they tour day. Oh no, bitch, I'm letting them know

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<v Speaker 2>I am gonna be off from about June fifteenth to

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<v Speaker 2>about August.

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<v Speaker 1>First.

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<v Speaker 2>I have like, like I may be doing some recordings,

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<v Speaker 2>but in terms of touring and constant travel. The only

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<v Speaker 2>travel I will be doing is on some dick. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so I'm ready. I got, I got maybe doing Trinidad.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to do Can, but Can would be for work,

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<v Speaker 2>not for dick. But I am still trying to have

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<v Speaker 2>a nigg of paper can. So I'm trying to I'm

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<v Speaker 2>I'm back to Japan. Japan is gonna be in August,

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<v Speaker 2>August or September. Japan's gonna be.

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<v Speaker 1>Fall well, end of Sunday. Don't go in October because

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<v Speaker 1>it was monsoon season.

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<v Speaker 2>When I went, oh wait, now all the yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>looking for August and September.

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<v Speaker 1>I went for Halloween because I was like, this will

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<v Speaker 1>be a fun time to go. I was in tears.

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<v Speaker 1>One day.

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<v Speaker 3>I was on my on a bike. I was biking

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<v Speaker 3>around Kyoto. It rained so much that I couldn't see.

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<v Speaker 3>I couldn't hold my phone for the directions because it

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<v Speaker 3>was so wet. It was I was stranded. They love

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<v Speaker 3>some little Japanese ladies me in her house because I

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<v Speaker 3>think she thought I was homeless.

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<v Speaker 1>It was terrible. I came back crying in shambles. Also,

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<v Speaker 1>what sucks about Google maps.

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<v Speaker 3>Or anything when you're in a place where there's not

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<v Speaker 3>alphabet or English lettering. When you're hearing the sign in

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<v Speaker 3>the street it tells you to turn on. How fuck

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<v Speaker 3>am I supposed to know what it is?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what that is. Oh bitch, it was hard.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna lie. That's my stress. I realized I

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<v Speaker 2>like going too countries that speak English. But that's just

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<v Speaker 2>my ignorance, American fucking ignorance I do.

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<v Speaker 1>I do like countries that don't.

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<v Speaker 3>But like, I just need the letter not me, So

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<v Speaker 3>if I could, if I need to sound it out.

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<v Speaker 3>This summer, I am getting rid of my apartment in

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<v Speaker 3>LA and gonna be nomadic and just visit my parents. Well,

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<v Speaker 3>my mom has to move too, so I'm thinking about this.

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<v Speaker 3>Y'all tell me what you think I should do. I

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<v Speaker 3>hope she just doesn't get back to her right now,

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<v Speaker 3>I have two crips. My mom and I lived across

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<v Speaker 3>the streets from each other. I'm like, damn, bro, that

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<v Speaker 3>is a lot of money. Like, that's you got to

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<v Speaker 3>moving huh, you got to move her in. I'm thinking

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<v Speaker 3>about getting a crib for.

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<v Speaker 1>All of us.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, that I've been said that that's what you

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<v Speaker 2>should have done in la. However, sometimes I get in

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<v Speaker 2>the car.

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<v Speaker 3>With my mom and it's only been six minutes and

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<v Speaker 3>I already think I'm gonna kill her. So if I

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<v Speaker 3>was in the same house as her, maybe a killer

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<v Speaker 3>And I just want us to get along. And then

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<v Speaker 3>my mom likes to do this thing whenever I visited

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<v Speaker 3>her in Orlando, because I have a place in Orlando.

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<v Speaker 3>But she'll just knock on the door after hearing me

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<v Speaker 3>on the phone for a second. Let's just say I

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<v Speaker 3>was yelling bel some come in. So were you talking

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<v Speaker 3>about him or him?

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<v Speaker 1>No?

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, no, I'm not trying to stress you out.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just saying, who was it? I could talk about work.

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<v Speaker 3>She'll come in and make a suggestion for me. Well,

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<v Speaker 3>why aren't you guys gonna trure in the fall? Then

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<v Speaker 3>if you're worried about travel dates and I'm like, yo,

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<v Speaker 3>let me yet not shut off. Anyway, I'm considering it.

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<v Speaker 3>I know that it's the adult thing to do. It's

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<v Speaker 3>also making me think I should buy, but uh.

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<v Speaker 1>I just don't know what to do.

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<v Speaker 3>But Anya, I'm gona get rid of my crib put everything

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<v Speaker 3>is storage, and I'm gonna travel and just focus on

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<v Speaker 3>new York. The only thing I have that's a hard Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>it's Paris Fashion Week. I love partying out there during

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<v Speaker 3>fashion week. I want to take my Buddha Puglia, like Tuscany.

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<v Speaker 1>Area in Italy. I really love Italy and all Malfy

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<v Speaker 1>coasts and stuff. And it's kind of cheap around Italy.

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<v Speaker 3>Not the Capri and all those places, but like the

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<v Speaker 3>small towns.

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<v Speaker 1>I just kind of want to live cheap and ride

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<v Speaker 1>bikes and drink wine. Yeah. When I said take by

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<v Speaker 1>the way, I ain't mean trick. I just meant show

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<v Speaker 1>him what I know.

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<v Speaker 3>I realized, no, no, no, he doesn't have pocket, but

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<v Speaker 3>we're gonna get it to the vanilla shit.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to bring up something really quick. Uh.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to give a shout out to risky dinner conversations.

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<v Speaker 3>I've been doing these HIV awareness dinners. They are specifically

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<v Speaker 3>to talk about black women rising HIV rates. No men

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<v Speaker 3>are allowed to actually try to bring viney in one city,

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<v Speaker 3>and they're like, this is just for black women because

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<v Speaker 3>black women are the newest leading cases of HIV in

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<v Speaker 3>the States. Specifically, we went to Houston in Dallas and

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<v Speaker 3>this shape was crazy. The rates are so high for

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<v Speaker 3>HIV and everybody's trying to figure out why. It's literally

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<v Speaker 3>attributed to the fact that when abortion became illegal, women

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<v Speaker 3>don't trust fucking health care clinics because what if they're

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<v Speaker 3>pregnant and then you have toirpport this pregnancy, and what

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<v Speaker 3>if the pregnancy is gone?

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<v Speaker 1>So a lot of people aren't even going in there

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<v Speaker 1>to get.

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<v Speaker 2>Fucking tested anymore. I think what else is really good?

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<v Speaker 2>And I have to I have to talk to her

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<v Speaker 2>to get the exact name. But I was with Cinnamon

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<v Speaker 2>Love in Atlanta and we were both talking. We're both

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<v Speaker 2>looking to maybe document us both going to get on PREP.

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<v Speaker 2>And there's a prep now that they are allowing for

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<v Speaker 2>women to get. PREP was often very much denied to

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<v Speaker 2>women and was only given to.

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<v Speaker 1>It brought you up. You told me that they told

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<v Speaker 1>you know about preperson Well that was years ago. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, but I remember that, but it was always okay, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that was that was years ago ed still probably depending

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<v Speaker 1>on where you go. No, that's not true. Gilliad Sciences

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<v Speaker 1>is keep provides it. That's fine. I'm telling you. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>the health care provider.

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<v Speaker 2>When I went for my checkup and requested PREP, it

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<v Speaker 2>was not Also, this was uh. There's also been conversations

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<v Speaker 2>with other women who have attempted to get it in

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<v Speaker 2>the sex club space, as well as Cinnamon who's a

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<v Speaker 2>sex worker, and she was not given it. However, there

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<v Speaker 2>is now something where they are allowing people so whether

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<v Speaker 2>the pharmaceutical says it can or cannot be given for

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of healthcare practitioners, they were denying women access

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<v Speaker 2>to getting that.

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<v Speaker 1>Correct.

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<v Speaker 3>However, there was nothing wrong ever women. I didn't say

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<v Speaker 3>there was no, but I want to be clear about this.

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<v Speaker 3>I was wanting to get health care providers were not

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<v Speaker 3>giving women prep in fear that almost the so zimpic

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<v Speaker 3>thing would happen.

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<v Speaker 1>So they were so.

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<v Speaker 3>Worried about women getting on prep, and they're not being

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<v Speaker 3>enough available to gay men or whoever they would assume

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<v Speaker 3>would get this HIV quicker than someone else. And so

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<v Speaker 3>now because of these disparaging rates, now they're offering prep

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<v Speaker 3>to women with your experience in particular, I remember it's

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<v Speaker 3>all about advocating for yourself. When you're going to get

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<v Speaker 3>a wellness exam or a PAP. Very few times are

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<v Speaker 3>they offering HIV tests. You have to advocate for yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>I only know about my fried raids because I had

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<v Speaker 3>to ask for an ultrasound over and over, which they

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<v Speaker 3>didn't even want to give to me because they were like, well,

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<v Speaker 3>are you having issues?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you not? It's just all about advocating.

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<v Speaker 3>There's also another thing called doxy prep that I want

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<v Speaker 3>everyone to look into that ever has a moment where

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<v Speaker 3>you'd maybe not use a condom, and a condom break

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<v Speaker 3>some shit happens. It's a pill that you can take

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<v Speaker 3>after sex. I believe it's twenty four to forty eight

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<v Speaker 3>hours and it lowers your chances by getting STDs by

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<v Speaker 3>seventy two percent. Please look into this if you're not

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<v Speaker 3>on prep or anything like that. Syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhea, most

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<v Speaker 3>blood diseases, but seventy two percent.

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<v Speaker 1>It lowers it by I literally so wand one of

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<v Speaker 1>my homeboys about this was kind of a hoe.

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<v Speaker 3>He was like, bro, like I have five packs of

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<v Speaker 3>it in my bag now, Like I've literally given it

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<v Speaker 3>to friends while on vacation, Like thank you. I had

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<v Speaker 3>never even heard of this until those Risky dinners, but

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted to bring this up because it is a

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<v Speaker 3>group of women that started this from Orlando Koy and

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<v Speaker 3>Chiana and basically are inviting influencers to a dinner just

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<v Speaker 3>to document so that they can spread the word. And

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<v Speaker 3>it's like no gimmick, and it's all because we're not

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<v Speaker 3>talking about getting tested about HIV enough, so they're doing

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<v Speaker 3>one in New Orleans. I might look for some horrehive influencers,

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<v Speaker 3>but when I've learned how much these rates are going up. Now,

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<v Speaker 3>someone close to me had just had three tests too positive,

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<v Speaker 3>one undetected, so they're trying to figure out what's going on.

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<v Speaker 3>And it's just like I never thought we'd be in

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<v Speaker 3>the age where it would be amongst women like this.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I did. And it's an ignorant thing to say.

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<v Speaker 2>But the way that no one uses condoms, uses them,

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<v Speaker 2>advocates for them, wants to shame me for using them

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<v Speaker 2>or liking condom dick for the fact that we as

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<v Speaker 2>black women, and this is not to blame black women,

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<v Speaker 2>but the fact that as black women, we still have

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<v Speaker 2>yet to create a safe space for our brothers and

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<v Speaker 2>black men to be where they want to be sexually.

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<v Speaker 2>This does not surprise me at all. Like in terms

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<v Speaker 2>of the DL and still the conversations around sex, they

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<v Speaker 2>have not seen to progress over the years and with

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<v Speaker 2>these with with social media, unfortunately, I feel like we

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<v Speaker 2>backtrack quite a bit with the shaming of dating, the

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<v Speaker 2>two the two hundred dollars date conversations, the.

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<v Speaker 1>Fifty to fifty does a man really like you if

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<v Speaker 1>he does this?

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<v Speaker 2>And also, I mean we are at the same time opening.

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<v Speaker 1>Conversations the world.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, I feel like we are also opening

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<v Speaker 2>the landscape within our own community to be open and

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<v Speaker 2>fluid and non monogamous.

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<v Speaker 3>To me, those are the safer communities. Like well, you

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<v Speaker 3>don't want to shade to anybody that was at this dinner. However,

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<v Speaker 3>twenty people at this dinner, I think two people hurt

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<v Speaker 3>a prep mandy like that knew that they could take

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<v Speaker 3>prep when or had like a test recently. When I

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<v Speaker 3>tell you, and we know this from all of these

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<v Speaker 3>years in a space, these hoes be getting tested.

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<v Speaker 2>All So that's the no. The sex worker hos get tested.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's be very clear.

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<v Speaker 1>I think lifestyle people are more common about.

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<v Speaker 2>But there's a lot of people that don't even identify

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<v Speaker 2>as lifestyle. They're just not monogamous. So the way that

0:21:15.080 --> 0:21:19.000
<v Speaker 2>men are not leaning forward into the truth or women

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<v Speaker 2>because let's be very clear. I ain't gonna say who,

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<v Speaker 2>but a lot of my friends that didn't been in relationships,

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<v Speaker 2>they don't all cheated on their niggas. So where the conversation. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>about the sex workers. They are getting tested because they

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<v Speaker 2>have to for work. A lot of people who are

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<v Speaker 2>lifestyle or into casual sex, casual dating and lifestyle activities

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<v Speaker 2>aren't necessarily getting tested at the rates that they should either.

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm good at planned parenthood at least that are

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<v Speaker 3>having more frequent partners. This is a statistic from New

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<v Speaker 3>York State Plant Parentho. The people that are having sex

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<v Speaker 3>with more people in twelve months spans are getting tested

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<v Speaker 3>more frequently than the people that have had one partner

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<v Speaker 3>or less.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, and now one partner probably is cheating and bringing

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<v Speaker 2>something back that point.

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<v Speaker 3>Is that the people that are more promiscuits are probably

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<v Speaker 3>getting tested more.

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<v Speaker 1>I really truly do believe that.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, like I think that you could believe at so

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<v Speaker 3>then I mean, okay, I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>This isn't even agree to disagree.

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<v Speaker 2>I would just say for you to be at an

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<v Speaker 2>HIV awareness dinner and only two people knowing about PREP

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<v Speaker 2>to me shows that there's still such a huge lack

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<v Speaker 2>in sex education for things that could be preventive measures.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's the reacto that I'm trying to make

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<v Speaker 3>up Andy. The HIV Dinner is created with black influencers,

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<v Speaker 3>Black women mainly, most of them are heterosexual, and my

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<v Speaker 3>point is none of these women are sex educators. All

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<v Speaker 3>of these women just have a platform that they can

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<v Speaker 3>share this on. When we're talking to people in the space,

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<v Speaker 3>they generally have a better idea surrounding sex ed places

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<v Speaker 3>to get tested. Their friends are just kind of a

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<v Speaker 3>little more liberal and talking about this shit. These women

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<v Speaker 3>that are quote unquot more normal every day, they're not

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<v Speaker 3>talking about this shit. People who listen to Horrible are

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<v Speaker 3>hearing some of these conversations for the first time.

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<v Speaker 1>Like those girls.

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<v Speaker 3>As disappointed as I was, it was I was flying

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<v Speaker 3>to Atlanta actually for black effect. After that, I was like, yo,

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<v Speaker 3>I have to be so happy that all of these

0:23:17.359 --> 0:23:19.440
<v Speaker 3>girls have hundreds of thousand follows and they've just heard that.

0:23:19.720 --> 0:23:21.320
<v Speaker 3>All of them were in shock at the race. All

0:23:21.359 --> 0:23:23.280
<v Speaker 3>of them couldn't believe it. Even me, I couldn't believe,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, sixty two percent. I think it's Harris County

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<v Speaker 3>or whatever. But anyway, it's just like to know that

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<v Speaker 3>the average person isn't hearing this, because where are you

0:23:32.320 --> 0:23:34.679
<v Speaker 3>getting this info from? If all your friends are married

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<v Speaker 3>or super chill or not going out too much, maybe

0:23:37.320 --> 0:23:39.720
<v Speaker 3>they don't have as much of a sexually chromiscuous life,

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<v Speaker 3>So y'all ain't talking about this shit, And then you

0:23:42.920 --> 0:23:45.680
<v Speaker 3>probably fucking want nigga, but he probably ain't only fucking

0:23:45.720 --> 0:23:50.600
<v Speaker 3>you not say niggas ain't shit like it is, literally

0:23:50.680 --> 0:23:54.000
<v Speaker 3>women not taking advocacy over their own bodies.

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<v Speaker 1>HIV is. There's no fault in getting it.

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<v Speaker 3>The only fault you have is not getting tested, because

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<v Speaker 3>if you can can't get on the meds, you're fucked.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, Like catching it early, being

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<v Speaker 1>sure you don't pass it down when you want to

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<v Speaker 1>have kids.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I just really have been disappointed with even the

0:24:10.880 --> 0:24:14.320
<v Speaker 3>sex said conversations I've been having, Like I only have

0:24:14.400 --> 0:24:16.679
<v Speaker 3>it on horrible passing it on to my homegirls when

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<v Speaker 3>I'm on the phone, even when we have an episode

0:24:18.720 --> 0:24:20.679
<v Speaker 3>where we're like, damn and we learned something new. Am

0:24:20.720 --> 0:24:23.439
<v Speaker 3>I taking it outside of this fucking room? And I

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<v Speaker 3>just think we all have to start doing this in

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<v Speaker 3>our own house and with our kids. And also I

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<v Speaker 3>just got tested. I'm gonna try to get tested on

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<v Speaker 3>camera every quarter now.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that. Unless something goes wrong, then I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be like no.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you guys, I want to hear more of

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<v Speaker 2>these conversations, check out periods. This it's very heavily leaning

0:24:42.640 --> 0:24:47.080
<v Speaker 2>into the disparities within the healthcare community and kind of

0:24:47.080 --> 0:24:50.959
<v Speaker 2>what we experience as black and brown and underserved communities,

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<v Speaker 2>and so these conversations are very important to me.

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<v Speaker 1>And so yeah, make sure you check out periods. This

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<v Speaker 1>season two is back, and.

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<v Speaker 2>Y'all know I'm trying to make a goddamn tune to

0:25:01.160 --> 0:25:06.040
<v Speaker 2>literally make these more prevalent. And you know conversations that

0:25:06.080 --> 0:25:12.880
<v Speaker 2>are having. Now you brought it up, so we're gonna

0:25:12.880 --> 0:25:15.760
<v Speaker 2>bring it up in the vanilla shit. Now, this was

0:25:15.840 --> 0:25:19.960
<v Speaker 2>recently brought up in a wrap beef. But y'all male

0:25:20.200 --> 0:25:23.080
<v Speaker 2>ozimpic users, now I get it. Some of y'all want

0:25:23.080 --> 0:25:25.280
<v Speaker 2>to add some of y'all want to have yo sumba

0:25:25.320 --> 0:25:29.240
<v Speaker 2>bodies ready, so y'all tout the pen. However, there's a

0:25:29.280 --> 0:25:32.879
<v Speaker 2>report of an awful sexual side effect, and it's saying

0:25:33.520 --> 0:25:36.399
<v Speaker 2>say goodbye to sex ozipic has been linked to a

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<v Speaker 2>host of unfortunate side effects, from personality changes to weight

0:25:40.040 --> 0:25:44.000
<v Speaker 2>gain after getting off the medic medication. Now, however, male

0:25:44.080 --> 0:25:47.199
<v Speaker 2>users of the ever popular weight loss remedy are claiming

0:25:47.200 --> 0:25:49.840
<v Speaker 2>to suffer from what could be the most mortifying symptom

0:25:49.960 --> 0:25:53.960
<v Speaker 2>yet a rectile dysfunction, as were baled by multiple posts

0:25:53.960 --> 0:25:55.840
<v Speaker 2>blowing up on Reddit.

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<v Speaker 3>I did want to add to this any more, hose

0:25:58.280 --> 0:26:00.000
<v Speaker 3>and not being able to suck them as nuts?

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<v Speaker 1>Crazy? What is Ross doing? What is the what is

0:26:02.640 --> 0:26:05.679
<v Speaker 1>the purpose of it? Yeah? But to me, if you

0:26:05.760 --> 0:26:07.920
<v Speaker 1>fuck Rick Ross is because you like big niggas.

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<v Speaker 2>Like no, I'm saying, child aspection, you can't fuck Oh

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<v Speaker 2>but oh yeah, but I don't know. I ain't gonna

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<v Speaker 2>say what I was about to say. I ain't gonna

0:26:15.840 --> 0:26:18.560
<v Speaker 2>I ain't gonna go Okay, we all know I pe

0:26:18.680 --> 0:26:21.159
<v Speaker 2>will say what I'm about to say. But that is

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<v Speaker 2>actually what's been happening to mail users.

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<v Speaker 1>Women know.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I was gonna say. The opposite has been shown

0:26:31.680 --> 0:26:35.200
<v Speaker 2>for women. So women on social media who have been

0:26:35.320 --> 0:26:42.080
<v Speaker 2>using ozempic are actually reporting that they're becoming pregnant easier.

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<v Speaker 1>Now.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if it's the fact that it's counterbalancing

0:26:47.680 --> 0:26:50.760
<v Speaker 2>their birth control or as much as the way we've

0:26:50.800 --> 0:26:54.280
<v Speaker 2>talked about Plan B not really working once you're above

0:26:54.320 --> 0:26:57.480
<v Speaker 2>a certain weight. The same works for pregnancy. So if

0:26:57.520 --> 0:26:59.760
<v Speaker 2>you are trying to conceive with your partner and your

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<v Speaker 2>can considered obese, one of the things your doctor will

0:27:02.400 --> 0:27:05.320
<v Speaker 2>probably tell you is to lose weight, because obesity is

0:27:05.320 --> 0:27:08.120
<v Speaker 2>one of the things that can keep you from getting pregnant.

0:27:08.359 --> 0:27:11.800
<v Speaker 1>So it could just be with the fact that they're

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<v Speaker 1>losing weight, but it's.

0:27:12.600 --> 0:27:15.080
<v Speaker 3>Women on birth control though. That's that's one of the

0:27:15.119 --> 0:27:16.400
<v Speaker 3>things that they're saying about zoom.

0:27:16.280 --> 0:27:18.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah while they were taking and it does say following

0:27:18.920 --> 0:27:21.399
<v Speaker 2>obesity can raise the risk of heart disease and may

0:27:21.440 --> 0:27:24.159
<v Speaker 2>be linked to diabetes and cancer, and for women, it

0:27:24.200 --> 0:27:25.480
<v Speaker 2>could also impact fertility.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm alos getting pressant with the parts control. I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 3>tell you right now, if I got pregnant, I'm about

0:27:30.600 --> 0:27:33.120
<v Speaker 3>to start the patch. I've just had too many months

0:27:33.119 --> 0:27:36.680
<v Speaker 3>of being scared, like literally every month it's like this,

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<v Speaker 3>and I don't know, I can't kind of.

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<v Speaker 1>Dick y'all be asking, oh my god, but don't it

0:27:41.720 --> 0:27:42.160
<v Speaker 1>feel better?

0:27:42.200 --> 0:27:45.040
<v Speaker 3>Wrong, nigga, it feel better knowing that my period gonna

0:27:45.040 --> 0:27:46.800
<v Speaker 3>come on when it says it's gonna come on. Yeah,

0:27:46.800 --> 0:27:48.360
<v Speaker 3>but you didn't do that when you had a boyfriend,

0:27:48.400 --> 0:27:50.960
<v Speaker 3>did you. There was another reason why I didn't have

0:27:50.960 --> 0:27:53.840
<v Speaker 3>to worry about that. Oh okay, I mean but the

0:27:53.880 --> 0:27:55.560
<v Speaker 3>thing I didn't have to worry about that with my ex.

0:27:55.600 --> 0:27:58.359
<v Speaker 3>But I ain't gonna hold you like moving forward, like

0:27:58.440 --> 0:28:01.440
<v Speaker 3>whether I'm even with somebody or not. Like I'm very

0:28:01.480 --> 0:28:04.280
<v Speaker 3>adamant that I do not want birth control and I

0:28:04.280 --> 0:28:05.959
<v Speaker 3>won't get on it, and I don't want a baby,

0:28:06.160 --> 0:28:09.320
<v Speaker 3>so I would like to talk about him getting snipped,

0:28:09.600 --> 0:28:12.000
<v Speaker 3>and I would love a nigga who's already snipped, Like

0:28:12.040 --> 0:28:16.479
<v Speaker 3>that's my goal. Like if you have enough kids, my conversation.

0:28:16.040 --> 0:28:18.160
<v Speaker 2>You haven't enough, because like one of the guys I'm

0:28:18.160 --> 0:28:20.639
<v Speaker 2>talking to is poor kids, and I'm fine with him

0:28:20.680 --> 0:28:22.600
<v Speaker 2>having four kids. If you don't want any more, because

0:28:22.600 --> 0:28:24.720
<v Speaker 2>you're happy with that and I'm happy with it, that

0:28:24.760 --> 0:28:27.520
<v Speaker 2>would be my conversation before just fucking wrong, Like and

0:28:27.560 --> 0:28:28.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm not getting on birth control.

0:28:28.640 --> 0:28:31.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think in my situation, like we want kids

0:28:31.160 --> 0:28:33.880
<v Speaker 3>honestly two or three years bitch. My mom literally said

0:28:33.880 --> 0:28:35.480
<v Speaker 3>to him the other day, like don't get her pregnant

0:28:35.480 --> 0:28:37.280
<v Speaker 3>before the book tour. I didn't get her pregnant before

0:28:37.280 --> 0:28:37.879
<v Speaker 3>the book tour, and.

0:28:37.880 --> 0:28:39.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, y'all want me to be Ali won't.

0:28:40.400 --> 0:28:44.640
<v Speaker 3>But anyway, basically, I was just like, yo, I really

0:28:44.640 --> 0:28:46.320
<v Speaker 3>want to get on birth control. He's like, no, let's

0:28:46.320 --> 0:28:49.440
<v Speaker 3>just check your basil type andture like please, Like, bitch.

0:28:49.200 --> 0:28:51.800
<v Speaker 2>Why doesn't he want you on birth control? Because as

0:28:51.840 --> 0:28:53.800
<v Speaker 2>I've never heard, oh, okay.

0:28:54.040 --> 0:28:57.040
<v Speaker 3>Most men be like, you want the pill, the shot,

0:28:57.160 --> 0:29:00.000
<v Speaker 3>not pig know that's not the you know, the greatest.

0:29:00.240 --> 0:29:03.480
<v Speaker 3>But I will say this, considering I'm trying to shrink

0:29:03.520 --> 0:29:07.080
<v Speaker 3>my fibroids, it's seeming like birth control could possibly be

0:29:07.160 --> 0:29:10.960
<v Speaker 3>a good option for getting my hormones in check. But yeah,

0:29:10.960 --> 0:29:13.400
<v Speaker 3>I've been on birth control in the years, maybe ten years.

0:29:13.440 --> 0:29:14.760
<v Speaker 3>Like I was on the Depot shot and I got

0:29:14.800 --> 0:29:20.000
<v Speaker 3>really fat. So I'm scared because me with weight on

0:29:20.080 --> 0:29:21.400
<v Speaker 3>a bottle, I literally hot.

0:29:21.520 --> 0:29:24.840
<v Speaker 2>I literally just had to ask if not in the

0:29:24.920 --> 0:29:28.080
<v Speaker 2>depot shot is even still around? It is like, I

0:29:28.360 --> 0:29:30.840
<v Speaker 2>none of my friends have I heard like are on depot.

0:29:30.880 --> 0:29:33.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't even hear it talked about it anymore. But

0:29:33.520 --> 0:29:36.800
<v Speaker 2>I got on the shot thing I only took two shots.

0:29:37.000 --> 0:29:38.640
<v Speaker 2>All I know is I didn't have a fucking period

0:29:38.640 --> 0:29:40.960
<v Speaker 2>for a year, and then when that shit came back,

0:29:41.040 --> 0:29:42.480
<v Speaker 2>I bled for like a month and a half.

0:29:42.760 --> 0:29:45.760
<v Speaker 1>I was like, this is raggedy, this is super right.

0:29:45.880 --> 0:29:49.680
<v Speaker 2>That's why you know, I finally am happy with my

0:29:50.040 --> 0:29:53.520
<v Speaker 2>with my skin, with my weight, with everything. There's no

0:29:53.560 --> 0:29:56.680
<v Speaker 2>way I'm gonna let just for the satisfaction of a

0:29:56.720 --> 0:29:58.960
<v Speaker 2>nigga to bust up Emmy, for me to have to

0:29:59.000 --> 0:29:59.880
<v Speaker 2>deal with that shit again, you know.

0:30:00.160 --> 0:30:02.280
<v Speaker 3>I mean, well, I don't really feel like that's the

0:30:02.360 --> 0:30:04.880
<v Speaker 3>case for me, Like, no, that that was just for

0:30:05.000 --> 0:30:07.640
<v Speaker 3>my That's why, Yeah, I don't. I think that a

0:30:07.680 --> 0:30:09.880
<v Speaker 3>lot of people do think the pill is selfish for

0:30:09.960 --> 0:30:13.240
<v Speaker 3>men's part, But like, you gotta have some autonomy over

0:30:13.240 --> 0:30:16.320
<v Speaker 3>yourself if you know that, Like it may be super

0:30:16.320 --> 0:30:18.160
<v Speaker 3>difficult for you to always grab a condom or the

0:30:18.200 --> 0:30:21.400
<v Speaker 3>frequency of your sex. Like it's tough when you're when

0:30:21.440 --> 0:30:23.360
<v Speaker 3>you're like in it all the time every day. I

0:30:23.360 --> 0:30:25.400
<v Speaker 3>got the couples that live together, I told y'all, I

0:30:25.400 --> 0:30:26.920
<v Speaker 3>don't know if it was on Patreon and one of

0:30:26.960 --> 0:30:30.720
<v Speaker 3>them last motherfucking solos, Baby, I know what nigga.

0:30:31.160 --> 0:30:33.120
<v Speaker 1>Niggas is coming over now, and I know I'm judged.

0:30:33.360 --> 0:30:36.640
<v Speaker 2>I have condoms in my bookshelf in the kitchen and

0:30:36.760 --> 0:30:38.760
<v Speaker 2>my bottom drawer in my luggage.

0:30:38.800 --> 0:30:41.200
<v Speaker 1>That's where I felt, I know too for new niggas.

0:30:41.360 --> 0:30:44.600
<v Speaker 2>Like so I'm casually dating, I'm only speaking from someone

0:30:44.640 --> 0:30:47.000
<v Speaker 2>who's casually dating, who does not want to be on

0:30:47.120 --> 0:30:50.000
<v Speaker 2>birth control, who also believes that none of these niggas

0:30:50.040 --> 0:30:52.120
<v Speaker 2>does are wrong. Cooch, I can only speak from a

0:30:52.160 --> 0:30:54.400
<v Speaker 2>single casual sex person right now because I'm not in

0:30:54.400 --> 0:30:57.440
<v Speaker 2>a relationship speaking of the whole dirt for this week

0:30:57.800 --> 0:31:01.680
<v Speaker 2>is about casual fucking hookups now, Like we talked about

0:31:01.760 --> 0:31:03.680
<v Speaker 2>the condoms, and I would like to ask you Wolf

0:31:04.440 --> 0:31:07.840
<v Speaker 2>back in your day, how you prepared for casual sex.

0:31:08.240 --> 0:31:12.040
<v Speaker 2>This one comes from GQ magazine, and it's telling you

0:31:12.080 --> 0:31:15.400
<v Speaker 2>to be prepared and not prepared with your pH not

0:31:15.480 --> 0:31:18.480
<v Speaker 2>prepared with any of those things, but prepared with your place.

0:31:19.360 --> 0:31:22.960
<v Speaker 2>If you're in the market for casual hookups, always operate

0:31:23.120 --> 0:31:25.760
<v Speaker 2>under the assumption that you too will be heading back

0:31:25.800 --> 0:31:28.120
<v Speaker 2>to your place at the end of the night, which

0:31:28.160 --> 0:31:29.080
<v Speaker 2>is what I nigga.

0:31:29.160 --> 0:31:31.760
<v Speaker 1>I will I will know if a nigga's coming over

0:31:31.800 --> 0:31:32.280
<v Speaker 1>before the night.

0:31:32.360 --> 0:31:36.120
<v Speaker 2>Start by if my house is presentable or not. Okay, period,

0:31:36.240 --> 0:31:37.240
<v Speaker 2>it gotta be clean first.

0:31:37.360 --> 0:31:39.640
<v Speaker 1>That's the metric. As the metric, I know.

0:31:39.560 --> 0:31:42.440
<v Speaker 2>I might get some dick if my house is clean,

0:31:42.520 --> 0:31:45.440
<v Speaker 2>like my cleaner just left, I'm going out. I may

0:31:45.440 --> 0:31:47.600
<v Speaker 2>be able to have a nigga come over tonight. So

0:31:48.240 --> 0:31:51.600
<v Speaker 2>even though you'll inevitably end up staying elsewhere from time

0:31:51.640 --> 0:31:54.840
<v Speaker 2>to time, casualness is something that you should exude through

0:31:54.840 --> 0:31:58.480
<v Speaker 2>your attitude, not your apartment's clonliness. So best to just

0:31:58.560 --> 0:32:04.080
<v Speaker 2>be prepared. Own more than one towel, own at least

0:32:04.160 --> 0:32:07.960
<v Speaker 2>as many pillows as sex participants, which is great. I

0:32:07.960 --> 0:32:10.080
<v Speaker 2>ain't gonna hold you how many times Habituals in her

0:32:10.080 --> 0:32:13.400
<v Speaker 2>twenties went over and Nigga had one limp ass pillow. Nigga,

0:32:13.440 --> 0:32:15.240
<v Speaker 2>you better have at least two. And if you want

0:32:15.240 --> 0:32:18.640
<v Speaker 2>a three someome, you need three pillows. The amenities don't

0:32:18.640 --> 0:32:21.280
<v Speaker 2>need to be expensive or luxurious, because you're not opening

0:32:21.280 --> 0:32:23.600
<v Speaker 2>a spa, but you should definitely want your guests to

0:32:23.600 --> 0:32:26.440
<v Speaker 2>feel comfortable. Perhaps the most important thing to have on

0:32:26.560 --> 0:32:29.840
<v Speaker 2>hand condoms. You're definitely going to need a stash of those.

0:32:30.200 --> 0:32:32.800
<v Speaker 2>None of this hemming and hawing about how it feels

0:32:32.840 --> 0:32:35.600
<v Speaker 2>better without one. If that's you, then do yourself a

0:32:35.640 --> 0:32:38.440
<v Speaker 2>favor and buy some better ones. Buy seventeen different kinds

0:32:38.480 --> 0:32:40.520
<v Speaker 2>so you can switch it up every night if you're

0:32:40.600 --> 0:32:44.040
<v Speaker 2>having casual sex, if you're having casual sex, except that

0:32:44.080 --> 0:32:45.920
<v Speaker 2>condoms will always be part of the equation.

0:32:46.280 --> 0:32:49.200
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to add to this where one of.

0:32:49.160 --> 0:32:53.360
<v Speaker 2>My casual partners's he maybe has too much casual sex.

0:32:53.880 --> 0:32:56.400
<v Speaker 2>He has had extra toothbrushes for me every time I

0:32:56.480 --> 0:32:59.160
<v Speaker 2>went to his house and he has been like, would

0:32:59.200 --> 0:33:01.480
<v Speaker 2>you like some sweat pants? I have left with sweatpants

0:33:01.520 --> 0:33:02.920
<v Speaker 2>and a T shirt each time that he has not

0:33:03.000 --> 0:33:04.040
<v Speaker 2>asked for ever.

0:33:04.080 --> 0:33:06.800
<v Speaker 1>Again. Yes, he's rich, his fun and I'm like, damn,

0:33:06.880 --> 0:33:09.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm really walking around and he's tall as fun, six seven,

0:33:09.880 --> 0:33:11.680
<v Speaker 1>six eighth. Let's just guess he has a deal with

0:33:11.680 --> 0:33:12.720
<v Speaker 1>whoever sweatpants are.

0:33:12.920 --> 0:33:15.880
<v Speaker 2>No, I'm not gonna say what they had on them,

0:33:15.880 --> 0:33:18.080
<v Speaker 2>because maybe that is possible that is the case.

0:33:18.080 --> 0:33:19.440
<v Speaker 1>But no, they were both different.

0:33:19.480 --> 0:33:22.520
<v Speaker 3>One was clear, the other had that word he's six

0:33:22.680 --> 0:33:25.640
<v Speaker 3>seven and that's tall or whatever he paying anymore, well

0:33:25.800 --> 0:33:26.200
<v Speaker 3>he gave.

0:33:26.880 --> 0:33:29.080
<v Speaker 2>I've been there twice and he's given me clothes to

0:33:29.200 --> 0:33:31.920
<v Speaker 2>leave with and he is giving a movie and he

0:33:31.920 --> 0:33:34.200
<v Speaker 2>has given me twoth brushes. There is a movie where

0:33:34.320 --> 0:33:35.760
<v Speaker 2>this bitch opened up and he had all of that.

0:33:35.960 --> 0:33:38.160
<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, there's a movie where he gave her

0:33:38.280 --> 0:33:41.000
<v Speaker 1>like a to go back.

0:33:41.440 --> 0:33:43.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah closed, yeah, it was that. It was with some

0:33:43.920 --> 0:33:47.680
<v Speaker 2>white people. It was with white people, and he said

0:33:47.680 --> 0:33:49.560
<v Speaker 2>thank you for coming over, and he gave her the

0:33:49.560 --> 0:33:50.120
<v Speaker 2>bag to go.

0:33:50.320 --> 0:33:53.880
<v Speaker 3>Honestly though, with the tooth brushes, I do have a

0:33:53.920 --> 0:33:54.520
<v Speaker 3>pack of twenty.

0:33:54.560 --> 0:33:56.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm one of those people that changes every week. Yeah

0:33:56.360 --> 0:33:58.360
<v Speaker 1>I can't, and I have a lot of friends that

0:33:58.440 --> 0:33:59.240
<v Speaker 1>come over and leave it.

0:33:59.480 --> 0:34:02.120
<v Speaker 3>Also, like pro tip if you want to be a

0:34:02.120 --> 0:34:05.520
<v Speaker 3>little social justice wory like me, it works for two things.

0:34:05.760 --> 0:34:08.680
<v Speaker 3>Every time I leave a hotel, I always order a

0:34:08.719 --> 0:34:10.960
<v Speaker 3>bunch of toothbrushes up to the room, a bunch of

0:34:11.040 --> 0:34:12.959
<v Speaker 3>soaps and stuff like that, and I give it away

0:34:12.960 --> 0:34:15.239
<v Speaker 3>to homeless people. But I also keep the toothbrushes fro

0:34:15.239 --> 0:34:19.000
<v Speaker 3>when people come over, and like, I think the best

0:34:19.040 --> 0:34:23.440
<v Speaker 3>things to have in your home to make someone feel cozy,

0:34:23.760 --> 0:34:28.799
<v Speaker 3>especially men listening good sheets. Girls definitely want to feel

0:34:28.840 --> 0:34:30.000
<v Speaker 3>cozy in your home.

0:34:30.280 --> 0:34:32.440
<v Speaker 2>And make it their bad, probably because they don't want

0:34:32.440 --> 0:34:33.600
<v Speaker 2>bitches to get too comfortable.

0:34:33.800 --> 0:34:36.399
<v Speaker 3>No, niggas, just don't be thinking about niggas. Don't give

0:34:36.400 --> 0:34:38.799
<v Speaker 3>a fuck about danotype is. Go on to Target and

0:34:38.840 --> 0:34:43.160
<v Speaker 3>be like queen sheets thirty two or forty two. I'm

0:34:43.160 --> 0:34:45.600
<v Speaker 3>gonna go with thirty two, you know, like thirty two dollars.

0:34:45.760 --> 0:34:47.560
<v Speaker 3>So I think you've got to have some good sheets,

0:34:48.360 --> 0:34:50.200
<v Speaker 3>some nice candles in your home to kind of set

0:34:50.239 --> 0:34:54.600
<v Speaker 3>the tone for sure. Don't make the space junkie, you

0:34:54.600 --> 0:34:56.719
<v Speaker 3>know what I mean. I think, like when it comes

0:34:56.760 --> 0:34:59.000
<v Speaker 3>to cleanliness for men and sometimes just leaving it all

0:34:59.000 --> 0:35:01.520
<v Speaker 3>over the place, or have good closet that you could stash.

0:35:02.120 --> 0:35:06.359
<v Speaker 3>I would say toothbrushes. I don't wipes now, you don't have.

0:35:06.320 --> 0:35:07.080
<v Speaker 1>To get makeup wipes.

0:35:07.080 --> 0:35:08.319
<v Speaker 3>If you don't want to look like a true ho,

0:35:08.719 --> 0:35:10.560
<v Speaker 3>you just have to get at least a little Huggies,

0:35:10.560 --> 0:35:12.080
<v Speaker 3>like some booty wipe so that she could take her

0:35:12.120 --> 0:35:15.160
<v Speaker 3>makeup off and keep your cleating sheets for.

0:35:15.080 --> 0:35:18.480
<v Speaker 1>The make I mean, if I'm at someone's house like

0:35:18.560 --> 0:35:21.920
<v Speaker 1>my house, no extra, Yeah, my.

0:35:21.920 --> 0:35:24.160
<v Speaker 2>Makeup coming on your pillow cases, you better wash them,

0:35:24.160 --> 0:35:26.839
<v Speaker 2>bitches for real. You don't see your makeup off with Huggies. No,

0:35:26.880 --> 0:35:30.239
<v Speaker 2>I'd rather sleep with my makeup. Oh, I'm sleeping with

0:35:30.239 --> 0:35:32.640
<v Speaker 2>my makeup on and it's getting all over your your

0:35:32.760 --> 0:35:35.880
<v Speaker 2>your your dick, your stomach, your sheet, your pillowcases.

0:35:36.680 --> 0:35:38.520
<v Speaker 3>My makeup doesn't look good on my face in the morning.

0:35:38.560 --> 0:35:40.680
<v Speaker 3>I'd rather just take it off when you see that,

0:35:40.880 --> 0:35:42.840
<v Speaker 3>not with no huggies though you don't see you nigga.

0:35:42.880 --> 0:35:45.120
<v Speaker 3>Having wipes is a little too prepared, though, because you

0:35:45.120 --> 0:35:48.560
<v Speaker 3>should have like to take off makeup.

0:35:48.600 --> 0:35:50.120
<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying. No, that's why I said it

0:35:50.160 --> 0:35:50.480
<v Speaker 1>has to be.

0:35:51.320 --> 0:35:53.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm not using a booty wipe on my face because

0:35:53.640 --> 0:35:55.239
<v Speaker 2>the booty wipe not going on my face.

0:35:55.280 --> 0:35:57.719
<v Speaker 1>It's not made for the face. I've used my face

0:35:57.760 --> 0:35:59.799
<v Speaker 1>for sure. Oh yeah, no, baby, Like I said, I

0:35:59.800 --> 0:36:00.600
<v Speaker 1>got skin right.

0:36:00.640 --> 0:36:02.719
<v Speaker 2>If I'm finna put booty wipes on my face, I

0:36:02.719 --> 0:36:05.200
<v Speaker 2>may as well get birth control. Like, I don't feel

0:36:05.200 --> 0:36:06.800
<v Speaker 2>like I'm gonna be able to control my skill with

0:36:06.840 --> 0:36:07.839
<v Speaker 2>the booty whites to the face.

0:36:07.920 --> 0:36:09.439
<v Speaker 1>Wait, maybe have a cue cover smell.

0:36:10.120 --> 0:36:12.319
<v Speaker 2>I definitely don't want nothing since it on my face. Oh,

0:36:12.320 --> 0:36:13.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't do nothing with sense.

0:36:13.760 --> 0:36:16.480
<v Speaker 1>Oh oh I'm there. I just learned, you know what

0:36:16.520 --> 0:36:18.400
<v Speaker 1>I mean. I just learned my little facial routine.

0:36:18.400 --> 0:36:21.520
<v Speaker 3>Baby, I think, what do you think the best things

0:36:21.520 --> 0:36:23.799
<v Speaker 3>you've found in a nigga's house where like the most

0:36:23.800 --> 0:36:24.640
<v Speaker 3>comfortable you've been.

0:36:24.760 --> 0:36:25.840
<v Speaker 1>What was their house like.

0:36:26.040 --> 0:36:30.120
<v Speaker 2>Rich big where I was like, oh, I want to

0:36:30.120 --> 0:36:33.880
<v Speaker 2>live here, Like that's it like to me?

0:36:34.120 --> 0:36:36.200
<v Speaker 1>Like a really nice clean house.

0:36:36.280 --> 0:36:39.319
<v Speaker 2>Like to me, the cleanliness, especially for men who live

0:36:39.360 --> 0:36:40.759
<v Speaker 2>by themselves, is important to me.

0:36:41.960 --> 0:36:42.880
<v Speaker 1>It's funny because.

0:36:42.640 --> 0:36:45.680
<v Speaker 2>I just came across like this, this skit that this

0:36:45.760 --> 0:36:48.880
<v Speaker 2>guy said, I I want a nigga's house to be

0:36:48.920 --> 0:36:51.759
<v Speaker 2>so clean and so nice. I'm looking under the rug

0:36:51.840 --> 0:36:54.400
<v Speaker 2>asking where is she? Where the bitch at Where the

0:36:54.440 --> 0:36:56.440
<v Speaker 2>bitch that designed this shit she in the closet?

0:36:56.480 --> 0:36:56.600
<v Speaker 1>Oh?

0:36:56.640 --> 0:37:00.440
<v Speaker 2>You live here with a bitch, dude. I want nigga's

0:37:00.440 --> 0:37:02.319
<v Speaker 2>house that looked like it got to touch a bitch.

0:37:03.040 --> 0:37:05.360
<v Speaker 2>That's what I want.

0:37:04.040 --> 0:37:07.080
<v Speaker 1>You many niggas with the plants now.

0:37:07.120 --> 0:37:09.400
<v Speaker 2>Be like I need I need to I need to

0:37:09.400 --> 0:37:11.919
<v Speaker 2>touch a bitch and I needed to smell good.

0:37:12.040 --> 0:37:14.280
<v Speaker 1>I mean in terms of like all of.

0:37:14.120 --> 0:37:17.560
<v Speaker 2>The necessities after a one night stand or just a

0:37:17.680 --> 0:37:19.280
<v Speaker 2>night out and having fun.

0:37:19.400 --> 0:37:19.680
<v Speaker 1>Mm hm.

0:37:20.680 --> 0:37:23.400
<v Speaker 2>To me, when I'm provided with the toothbrush and the

0:37:23.600 --> 0:37:26.759
<v Speaker 2>sweatpants and the T shirt and the ride home or

0:37:27.280 --> 0:37:30.440
<v Speaker 2>it's like, okay, you did this a lot. Okay, but

0:37:30.560 --> 0:37:33.520
<v Speaker 2>it was fun what I do. In the back of

0:37:33.560 --> 0:37:35.480
<v Speaker 2>my head, I'm like, I'm judging you because I'm like, oh,

0:37:35.480 --> 0:37:36.480
<v Speaker 2>you got a routine, Nicks.

0:37:36.520 --> 0:37:37.080
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying.

0:37:37.440 --> 0:37:39.840
<v Speaker 2>Udge, I don't judge, not loud, but I know you

0:37:39.840 --> 0:37:42.840
<v Speaker 2>got a routine. The same way when niggas see I

0:37:42.840 --> 0:37:45.320
<v Speaker 2>got condoms stored in every inch of my house.

0:37:46.120 --> 0:37:48.239
<v Speaker 1>You I know that. I know in the back of

0:37:48.239 --> 0:37:51.680
<v Speaker 1>your head, like damn, at least I know she got them.

0:37:51.719 --> 0:37:56.720
<v Speaker 3>But also so like the other thing too. When actually

0:37:56.719 --> 0:38:00.440
<v Speaker 3>one of my homeboys said it recently. Uh, I was

0:38:00.520 --> 0:38:05.040
<v Speaker 3>in La I think I had a house guest or something,

0:38:05.239 --> 0:38:06.759
<v Speaker 3>whatever it was. I was just like, bro, I don't

0:38:06.760 --> 0:38:08.600
<v Speaker 3>feel like going home. He's like, go to my crib.

0:38:08.640 --> 0:38:11.719
<v Speaker 3>I have a door code. He was like, just just

0:38:11.760 --> 0:38:13.400
<v Speaker 3>go in, like you're in the area anyway. I was

0:38:13.400 --> 0:38:14.120
<v Speaker 3>in Santa Mona, CoA.

0:38:14.840 --> 0:38:15.839
<v Speaker 1>I was like, no, no, no, I'm good.

0:38:15.840 --> 0:38:17.239
<v Speaker 3>He's like, no, no, no, I want you to see why

0:38:17.239 --> 0:38:19.840
<v Speaker 3>these holes can't leave my crib. My shit cozy as fuck, nigga,

0:38:19.920 --> 0:38:24.760
<v Speaker 3>go look when inside his crib, I was like, Okay,

0:38:25.880 --> 0:38:29.120
<v Speaker 3>I walk in The first thing I noticed in the

0:38:29.400 --> 0:38:32.400
<v Speaker 3>his living rooms on the front and he's got the

0:38:32.440 --> 0:38:36.160
<v Speaker 3>Marshall speaker like a little hotel. The blankets were cozy

0:38:36.200 --> 0:38:39.680
<v Speaker 3>and heavy and the L shaped sectional so you could

0:38:39.719 --> 0:38:42.880
<v Speaker 3>lay lay up together in the fridge. He had to

0:38:42.960 --> 0:38:46.080
<v Speaker 3>right shit, and I was like, oh, you literally are

0:38:46.160 --> 0:38:48.839
<v Speaker 3>catering your home for people. Like when you know how

0:38:48.880 --> 0:38:51.759
<v Speaker 3>to host, that's what makes a great time. Making sure

0:38:51.800 --> 0:38:53.920
<v Speaker 3>you can practice for your friends. It'll be the same.

0:38:54.040 --> 0:38:56.200
<v Speaker 3>Like I'm telling you, my man never want to leave

0:38:56.200 --> 0:38:57.759
<v Speaker 3>my house. That nigga really be coming over like what

0:38:57.800 --> 0:39:00.560
<v Speaker 3>we gonna eat? Like you know, it's really because I

0:39:00.600 --> 0:39:02.160
<v Speaker 3>know I'm setting the vibe and I do the same

0:39:02.200 --> 0:39:02.960
<v Speaker 3>when friends come over.

0:39:03.000 --> 0:39:06.319
<v Speaker 2>So fellas you get that ship down. I got I

0:39:06.320 --> 0:39:09.200
<v Speaker 2>gotta chill with my hosting. I gotta make sure I

0:39:09.320 --> 0:39:12.040
<v Speaker 2>was well. I wasn't prepared the last time this nigga

0:39:12.080 --> 0:39:14.560
<v Speaker 2>came over. So I'm dating someone who doesn't drink and

0:39:14.680 --> 0:39:18.720
<v Speaker 2>dating someone and fucking him who drinks a lot.

0:39:19.239 --> 0:39:21.400
<v Speaker 1>And so when he comes over, what's dight drinking?

0:39:21.480 --> 0:39:24.560
<v Speaker 2>Oh bitch, all I know is, ladies, I'm gonna tell

0:39:24.560 --> 0:39:27.120
<v Speaker 2>you how to be prepared. Make sure you have the

0:39:27.200 --> 0:39:30.279
<v Speaker 2>cheap version of a bottle if you had the expensive shits, because, bitch,

0:39:30.360 --> 0:39:31.640
<v Speaker 2>the fact that we had to get to where we

0:39:31.719 --> 0:39:33.840
<v Speaker 2>killed a bottle of nineteen forty two nigga, this was

0:39:33.840 --> 0:39:34.920
<v Speaker 2>for like yourself.

0:39:35.560 --> 0:39:38.520
<v Speaker 3>Well it was halfway we killed it, oh bitch and died.

0:39:38.680 --> 0:39:40.160
<v Speaker 3>If it was half a bottle, that's not bad.

0:39:40.880 --> 0:39:43.279
<v Speaker 2>It's just me and him, mind you. This was after

0:39:43.360 --> 0:39:45.839
<v Speaker 2>we already had we killed the rest. I only had

0:39:45.880 --> 0:39:48.400
<v Speaker 2>like this much Tito's left, so I was like, okay,

0:39:48.440 --> 0:39:52.000
<v Speaker 2>well we can't go brown bitch. And I was like, damn,

0:39:52.000 --> 0:39:53.239
<v Speaker 2>I ain't gonna hold you next time.

0:39:53.280 --> 0:39:58.360
<v Speaker 1>He come. I got the malageral sitting up there. You

0:39:58.400 --> 0:40:00.759
<v Speaker 1>ain't killing my nineteen man.

0:40:00.880 --> 0:40:03.440
<v Speaker 3>He said that the nigga sent me six bottles, and

0:40:03.480 --> 0:40:05.880
<v Speaker 3>I don't know, someone must have randomly. I don't know

0:40:05.880 --> 0:40:07.319
<v Speaker 3>if you've ever gotten this, Like you're just part of

0:40:07.360 --> 0:40:09.120
<v Speaker 3>like a seating package. You're like, why do I keep

0:40:09.160 --> 0:40:11.840
<v Speaker 3>getting suff from these people? I got six bottles in

0:40:11.880 --> 0:40:14.279
<v Speaker 3>the lagress, and I said to myself, they must be

0:40:14.600 --> 0:40:15.560
<v Speaker 3>having a hard time.

0:40:15.800 --> 0:40:16.680
<v Speaker 1>Well you said this.

0:40:16.920 --> 0:40:19.120
<v Speaker 2>What's crazy is it kind of looked like the Knight

0:40:19.120 --> 0:40:20.160
<v Speaker 2>tea forty two bottle.

0:40:20.520 --> 0:40:23.280
<v Speaker 1>So it's long, it's tall as brown and skinny.

0:40:23.480 --> 0:40:25.840
<v Speaker 2>So all I know is I was like, this nigga

0:40:25.920 --> 0:40:29.000
<v Speaker 2>ain't coming over and killing another one of my expensive

0:40:29.000 --> 0:40:29.640
<v Speaker 2>ass bottles.

0:40:29.640 --> 0:40:32.279
<v Speaker 1>No more. Then my other nigga came over, So why

0:40:32.280 --> 0:40:33.760
<v Speaker 1>don't you require him to bring a bottle.

0:40:34.160 --> 0:40:35.640
<v Speaker 2>I mean, he could bring if he brings the nineteen

0:40:35.680 --> 0:40:37.359
<v Speaker 2>forty two, we could kill the nineteen forty two. But

0:40:37.400 --> 0:40:40.480
<v Speaker 2>I also have a bar, like I constantly bring people over.

0:40:40.680 --> 0:40:42.959
<v Speaker 2>So then my other nigga came over not too long ago,

0:40:43.400 --> 0:40:43.920
<v Speaker 2>and he's.

0:40:43.719 --> 0:40:46.040
<v Speaker 1>Looking at the bar number one, two three where no.

0:40:46.160 --> 0:40:47.920
<v Speaker 2>So this is one of my old niggas who just

0:40:47.960 --> 0:40:49.799
<v Speaker 2>came in town. He flew here just to take me

0:40:49.840 --> 0:40:51.480
<v Speaker 2>to lunch. But he met me at my house and

0:40:51.520 --> 0:40:53.359
<v Speaker 2>then we went to go to lunch. And so when

0:40:53.360 --> 0:40:55.359
<v Speaker 2>he came over, this is one of my old heads.

0:40:55.360 --> 0:40:56.880
<v Speaker 2>He flew to take you to lunch for fuck, he

0:40:56.920 --> 0:40:59.319
<v Speaker 2>flew to take me to lunch. Hit some Tito spell.

0:41:00.040 --> 0:41:02.120
<v Speaker 2>We went and had acting and tea. He literally flew here,

0:41:02.360 --> 0:41:03.720
<v Speaker 2>landed at eleven, left a seven.

0:41:03.840 --> 0:41:07.239
<v Speaker 1>He killed it. It fun flew here for lunch.

0:41:07.360 --> 0:41:09.160
<v Speaker 2>I'll say off air the tea you had to share

0:41:09.680 --> 0:41:13.280
<v Speaker 2>because he's back on the roster. Anyways, So he came

0:41:13.680 --> 0:41:16.799
<v Speaker 2>and literally he's he's what tea you got to share that?

0:41:16.840 --> 0:41:17.279
<v Speaker 1>You can't say?

0:41:17.280 --> 0:41:17.320
<v Speaker 3>It?

0:41:17.360 --> 0:41:20.400
<v Speaker 2>Said, oh no, baby, he planned it like he planned,

0:41:20.400 --> 0:41:22.200
<v Speaker 2>I want to come and take you to lunch, and

0:41:22.200 --> 0:41:25.200
<v Speaker 2>then booked a fucking t rope to give me the tea.

0:41:25.760 --> 0:41:27.080
<v Speaker 1>Oh bitch, we ate caviar.

0:41:27.160 --> 0:41:29.360
<v Speaker 3>He couldn't taided on the phone. He probably could have,

0:41:29.400 --> 0:41:31.160
<v Speaker 3>but he wanted to see my face. Bitch, I get

0:41:31.160 --> 0:41:33.560
<v Speaker 3>these niggas. I get the niggas going. The nigga flew

0:41:33.560 --> 0:41:34.960
<v Speaker 3>you to take me to lunch.

0:41:35.080 --> 0:41:38.759
<v Speaker 2>Okay, okay, So he came, mind you. I feel so

0:41:38.880 --> 0:41:41.480
<v Speaker 2>bad because I had to say sorry. He bought me

0:41:41.560 --> 0:41:45.560
<v Speaker 2>one of those like three hundred dollars cocktail makers when

0:41:45.560 --> 0:41:48.600
<v Speaker 2>I first moved into the apartment. Bitch, everything's still in

0:41:48.640 --> 0:41:50.919
<v Speaker 2>the box. It's on my bar, but I have yet

0:41:50.920 --> 0:41:53.399
<v Speaker 2>to use it, and so here go him. It's okay,

0:41:53.480 --> 0:41:57.240
<v Speaker 2>I bought another bitch one and she uses it. Great, okay, Patty,

0:41:57.680 --> 0:41:58.960
<v Speaker 2>But this is how we talk to each other, so

0:41:59.000 --> 0:42:00.920
<v Speaker 2>it's whatever, We're good. She used it, Maybe I'll use

0:42:00.960 --> 0:42:03.279
<v Speaker 2>it in my next apartment. So he's looking at my

0:42:03.320 --> 0:42:06.439
<v Speaker 2>bar and he's letting me know he knows I'm fucking

0:42:06.480 --> 0:42:09.280
<v Speaker 2>with hood niggas. And I said, I don't like the judgment.

0:42:09.640 --> 0:42:11.920
<v Speaker 2>Why do you think I'm fucking with hood niggas? And

0:42:12.000 --> 0:42:16.200
<v Speaker 2>he literally is like, where's the McAllen? Where's the He

0:42:16.320 --> 0:42:20.120
<v Speaker 2>starts naming all like the highest scotches and whiskeys. I

0:42:20.200 --> 0:42:22.040
<v Speaker 2>was like, nigga, I got Bourbon, I got I got

0:42:22.120 --> 0:42:24.320
<v Speaker 2>bullet rye and I got Jack Daniels.

0:42:24.480 --> 0:42:27.160
<v Speaker 1>That ain't no nah, And so literally he gave me

0:42:27.200 --> 0:42:27.560
<v Speaker 1>the list.

0:42:27.600 --> 0:42:30.080
<v Speaker 2>He was like, if you're gonna have gentlemen over of

0:42:30.200 --> 0:42:33.120
<v Speaker 2>higher stature, you should maybe have some of this at

0:42:33.120 --> 0:42:33.719
<v Speaker 2>your he said, but.

0:42:33.719 --> 0:42:35.440
<v Speaker 1>I guess you won't be unless I come back for lunch.

0:42:35.520 --> 0:42:37.040
<v Speaker 2>You know, it's okay, And then I made him take

0:42:37.080 --> 0:42:42.000
<v Speaker 2>a shot. We killed our my costume eagles bottle. But yeah, anyways,

0:42:42.040 --> 0:42:45.520
<v Speaker 2>those are my dating right now. I'm learning it's fun?

0:42:45.960 --> 0:42:48.160
<v Speaker 1>Is it old? And I feel like the older I get,

0:42:48.200 --> 0:42:49.400
<v Speaker 1>the more I'm like, oh, I'll.

0:42:49.239 --> 0:42:52.719
<v Speaker 2>Turn out to what is old to us? Now we're

0:42:52.719 --> 0:42:53.320
<v Speaker 2>in her thirties.

0:42:53.360 --> 0:42:55.760
<v Speaker 3>What is considered old because he's I mean sorry older,

0:42:56.160 --> 0:43:01.160
<v Speaker 3>like because the niggas like drinking, younges will drink cheap shit.

0:43:01.560 --> 0:43:03.719
<v Speaker 3>My homegirls is not about to kill a fucking cheap

0:43:03.760 --> 0:43:06.239
<v Speaker 3>ass bottle of nothing because they know we were gonna

0:43:06.239 --> 0:43:07.000
<v Speaker 3>get sick the next.

0:43:06.920 --> 0:43:09.279
<v Speaker 1>No, No, I don't have Aristotle in my fucking house.

0:43:09.600 --> 0:43:10.400
<v Speaker 1>But I haven't.

0:43:10.719 --> 0:43:16.759
<v Speaker 2>It's a look, we know, look those Aristotle Aristotle's like

0:43:16.800 --> 0:43:19.839
<v Speaker 2>the ship that uh they poured you at.

0:43:19.840 --> 0:43:21.759
<v Speaker 1>Like if you go to a college party, like a

0:43:21.840 --> 0:43:22.680
<v Speaker 1>Pinnacle vodka.

0:43:22.800 --> 0:43:25.759
<v Speaker 2>No, it's worth the Pinnacle. It's the cover is like

0:43:25.920 --> 0:43:27.080
<v Speaker 2>red redis shit.

0:43:28.640 --> 0:43:29.799
<v Speaker 1>Y'all have all drank dave.

0:43:29.920 --> 0:43:34.160
<v Speaker 3>I know you know this one the worst liquor I

0:43:34.160 --> 0:43:38.400
<v Speaker 3>would say mine was Pinnacle Coconut. I remember that hangover.

0:43:39.600 --> 0:43:42.399
<v Speaker 3>I thought I was gonna die. They said that an

0:43:42.440 --> 0:43:44.959
<v Speaker 3>ivy costs two fifty. I was broke at the time,

0:43:45.040 --> 0:43:47.400
<v Speaker 3>so I couldn't have someone come over. I walked to

0:43:47.440 --> 0:43:51.280
<v Speaker 3>an urgent care for the ivy. It wasn't enough, bitch,

0:43:51.640 --> 0:43:53.280
<v Speaker 3>you know how I know it was bad. I didn't

0:43:53.280 --> 0:43:54.600
<v Speaker 3>only throw up, I had diarrhea.

0:43:54.680 --> 0:43:57.200
<v Speaker 1>Bitch, you ever been dog? It was coming out.

0:43:57.280 --> 0:44:01.040
<v Speaker 2>I was definitely liquor poisoning from Pinnacle because I'm like,

0:44:01.320 --> 0:44:03.399
<v Speaker 2>we all know Hennessy gonna make cream.

0:44:03.440 --> 0:44:04.680
<v Speaker 1>It wasn't coconut, it was that whip cream.

0:44:04.680 --> 0:44:06.960
<v Speaker 2>For the whip cream, because Hennessy gonna make you shit

0:44:07.040 --> 0:44:10.439
<v Speaker 2>the next day for sure, Like Nigga, I don't even

0:44:11.000 --> 0:44:11.640
<v Speaker 2>I can't.

0:44:11.440 --> 0:44:12.560
<v Speaker 1>Even smell Hennessy.

0:44:12.960 --> 0:44:15.759
<v Speaker 2>Now, if y'all are over thirty, still giving Hennessy a

0:44:15.920 --> 0:44:18.880
<v Speaker 2>try to get drunk and lit. Baby, I'll remember the

0:44:18.920 --> 0:44:21.640
<v Speaker 2>heney dick I was getting. Don't want it, it's not good.

0:44:22.120 --> 0:44:24.399
<v Speaker 2>And then that ship in the morning. Bro, You when

0:44:24.440 --> 0:44:27.839
<v Speaker 2>you ship out that Hennessy, it's almost embarrassing, like, oh,

0:44:27.880 --> 0:44:29.719
<v Speaker 2>a nigga was just inside of me and this is

0:44:29.760 --> 0:44:30.520
<v Speaker 2>what's coming out.

0:44:30.640 --> 0:44:35.240
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, y'all remember the four logo feelings?

0:44:35.800 --> 0:44:39.719
<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, no, bro, they came back. Hold on, I

0:44:39.719 --> 0:44:42.520
<v Speaker 3>don't never ever tried this, but I tried this for

0:44:42.560 --> 0:44:42.960
<v Speaker 3>the first time.

0:44:43.040 --> 0:44:43.839
<v Speaker 1>I know if I brought it up.

0:44:43.840 --> 0:44:47.440
<v Speaker 3>I went to Malta for DLT last year and we

0:44:47.480 --> 0:44:50.000
<v Speaker 3>was hanging with these fucking crazy yarro hoes. They were

0:44:50.040 --> 0:44:53.480
<v Speaker 3>black as were and the party is black. And this

0:44:53.520 --> 0:44:56.480
<v Speaker 3>girl brought out the nicotine that you put in your cheek.

0:44:56.600 --> 0:45:00.440
<v Speaker 3>Y'all ever seen this and it looks like powder. No,

0:45:00.440 --> 0:45:01.920
<v Speaker 3>no one's ever heard something. It's called snuff.

0:45:02.239 --> 0:45:03.160
<v Speaker 1>Oh.

0:45:02.520 --> 0:45:05.719
<v Speaker 3>You basically put it in your lip and you just

0:45:05.800 --> 0:45:07.560
<v Speaker 3>let us sit there right, and like they get fucked

0:45:07.640 --> 0:45:09.160
<v Speaker 3>up like this.

0:45:09.160 --> 0:45:13.239
<v Speaker 1>This was probably the worst I had ever felt.

0:45:13.239 --> 0:45:15.400
<v Speaker 3>And this is something they all like get into, like

0:45:15.520 --> 0:45:17.440
<v Speaker 3>in Europe because they don't really got shit else to do.

0:45:17.520 --> 0:45:22.920
<v Speaker 1>And apparently young teenagers do it too. No they were black, but.

0:45:23.000 --> 0:45:24.719
<v Speaker 3>Like even when we were in London just now was

0:45:24.719 --> 0:45:26.480
<v Speaker 3>at Shortage House, I saw the black people doing it too.

0:45:26.640 --> 0:45:28.680
<v Speaker 1>They put it right here in the cheek. Dog.

0:45:28.719 --> 0:45:31.200
<v Speaker 3>When I tell you something, it felt like a four loco.

0:45:31.640 --> 0:45:33.520
<v Speaker 3>I was spinning left right left, mind you, Me and

0:45:33.560 --> 0:45:35.080
<v Speaker 3>my homeboy in a car, these four bitches.

0:45:35.080 --> 0:45:36.320
<v Speaker 1>He's like, bro, I'm gonna throw up on them. I

0:45:36.360 --> 0:45:38.640
<v Speaker 1>don't know what we're gonna do. I'm telling you the

0:45:38.800 --> 0:45:41.520
<v Speaker 1>cheap ways to get fucked up. I don't want it anymore.

0:45:42.120 --> 0:45:44.880
<v Speaker 1>I don't want it. I'd rather drink Zephyr Hill's all

0:45:44.960 --> 0:45:45.239
<v Speaker 1>night time.

0:45:45.960 --> 0:45:48.239
<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna lie when I go to like the

0:45:48.320 --> 0:45:51.920
<v Speaker 2>happy Hours and like the Taco Tuesdays and they have

0:45:52.160 --> 0:45:54.800
<v Speaker 2>just tequila vodka and it's just tequila.

0:45:55.000 --> 0:45:57.319
<v Speaker 1>They can't all like that. No, no, no, no, give me.

0:45:58.040 --> 0:46:01.560
<v Speaker 2>And what's crazy is Tito's should be like it's you

0:46:01.600 --> 0:46:10.120
<v Speaker 2>ever had a y It's migosh, no, it's good.

0:46:09.680 --> 0:46:10.920
<v Speaker 1>Got no.

0:46:11.080 --> 0:46:13.319
<v Speaker 2>I know when they be trying to tell me it's

0:46:13.400 --> 0:46:15.799
<v Speaker 2>just as good as no bitch, then you wouldn't be

0:46:15.800 --> 0:46:17.359
<v Speaker 2>selling it for four dollars.

0:46:17.680 --> 0:46:18.280
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, whatn't.

0:46:18.560 --> 0:46:21.680
<v Speaker 3>I had a Jagermeister shot when I was in London.

0:46:22.680 --> 0:46:25.640
<v Speaker 3>I thought it was Hennessy and there's.

0:46:25.480 --> 0:46:30.360
<v Speaker 2>No way you how do you think Jaeger smells like

0:46:30.360 --> 0:46:31.520
<v Speaker 2>like peppermint?

0:46:31.560 --> 0:46:35.239
<v Speaker 3>Well, the trap niggas had Fantasy on the table and

0:46:35.280 --> 0:46:36.680
<v Speaker 3>I know they just bought a bunch of shots for

0:46:36.680 --> 0:46:39.320
<v Speaker 3>everybody to take, and I was like, is this the repertoire?

0:46:39.880 --> 0:46:40.600
<v Speaker 1>I can't do it.

0:46:40.760 --> 0:46:43.120
<v Speaker 3>And I'll tell you right now. I love to be

0:46:43.160 --> 0:46:45.000
<v Speaker 3>a party girl, but I have my limits. I am

0:46:45.040 --> 0:46:47.840
<v Speaker 3>getting older and I have limits. One of my limits

0:46:47.920 --> 0:46:50.719
<v Speaker 3>is congestion in the club. I could be having the

0:46:50.760 --> 0:46:53.799
<v Speaker 3>best time and I'm going to go. I don't care

0:46:54.000 --> 0:46:56.680
<v Speaker 3>how fucking lit that I'm a piano is piano piano

0:46:56.840 --> 0:46:58.239
<v Speaker 3>goes by out.

0:46:58.480 --> 0:47:01.200
<v Speaker 2>I went to DC. They were drinking, they were we

0:47:01.200 --> 0:47:03.560
<v Speaker 2>were in the VIP. They were drinking Hennessy. I said,

0:47:03.600 --> 0:47:05.880
<v Speaker 2>absolutely not and then there was a bar and in

0:47:05.880 --> 0:47:08.840
<v Speaker 2>the VIP hold on. The VIP didn't even have club soda.

0:47:09.520 --> 0:47:11.120
<v Speaker 2>I said, I'm not doing juice.

0:47:11.320 --> 0:47:11.839
<v Speaker 1>Was it even via?

0:47:12.000 --> 0:47:14.160
<v Speaker 2>This is what I'm saying, Like I wouldn't even do juice,

0:47:14.200 --> 0:47:16.760
<v Speaker 2>as I'm saying. It was a makeshift bar in our area.

0:47:16.800 --> 0:47:18.960
<v Speaker 2>I had to go to the actual place to get

0:47:19.120 --> 0:47:19.479
<v Speaker 2>the gun.

0:47:19.560 --> 0:47:21.920
<v Speaker 1>What are some of the good parties that you've been

0:47:21.920 --> 0:47:24.840
<v Speaker 1>to recently? I can only name two?

0:47:25.360 --> 0:47:28.759
<v Speaker 2>Oh see you party I go to like in my

0:47:29.000 --> 0:47:31.200
<v Speaker 2>only like industry ship. That's where I have the most fun,

0:47:31.360 --> 0:47:33.680
<v Speaker 2>Like I mean yeah, but I'll walk into people that

0:47:33.680 --> 0:47:36.200
<v Speaker 2>can go out to the party, I mean album listening

0:47:36.200 --> 0:47:38.920
<v Speaker 2>parties or like highlight room in LA But I do

0:47:39.040 --> 0:47:41.520
<v Speaker 2>like what I'm going to one.

0:47:41.440 --> 0:47:44.680
<v Speaker 1>Tomorrow going to industry parties. No, it's not even industry

0:47:44.680 --> 0:47:46.280
<v Speaker 1>parties like that industry.

0:47:46.440 --> 0:47:46.600
<v Speaker 3>No.

0:47:46.719 --> 0:47:49.200
<v Speaker 2>And I went in London, which I've decided is my

0:47:49.400 --> 0:47:51.000
<v Speaker 2>second and his favorite country in the world.

0:47:51.000 --> 0:47:55.000
<v Speaker 1>But that's another conversation. I went though because thank you

0:47:55.040 --> 0:47:57.880
<v Speaker 1>guys for coving to the show. My homegirl. My homegirl

0:47:58.320 --> 0:48:02.359
<v Speaker 1>brought me. It's her there. But I personally don't really

0:48:02.440 --> 0:48:03.440
<v Speaker 1>look to do those.

0:48:04.520 --> 0:48:07.040
<v Speaker 2>To me, it's just even all the apt parties I

0:48:07.040 --> 0:48:09.600
<v Speaker 2>did at dream Bill, Like, it's just like they tell

0:48:09.640 --> 0:48:11.640
<v Speaker 2>me to pull up. I don't really like the themed

0:48:11.640 --> 0:48:14.080
<v Speaker 2>parties who have to buy a ticket and then some

0:48:14.160 --> 0:48:16.880
<v Speaker 2>of them don't have seats and chairs. It's funny Reazy

0:48:17.040 --> 0:48:19.160
<v Speaker 2>I Reasy was hitting me because she was like, what

0:48:19.160 --> 0:48:20.600
<v Speaker 2>party are you going to? And she brought up the

0:48:20.600 --> 0:48:22.560
<v Speaker 2>party you went to, and I was like, yeah, but

0:48:23.120 --> 0:48:25.120
<v Speaker 2>the way I party like right now, I still just

0:48:25.160 --> 0:48:27.799
<v Speaker 2>want to a I want open bar. There has to

0:48:27.840 --> 0:48:30.520
<v Speaker 2>be a place to sit, and I don't like ownsons,

0:48:30.960 --> 0:48:34.560
<v Speaker 2>so to me, if there's osos, if there's not a

0:48:34.680 --> 0:48:37.040
<v Speaker 2>section that I can sit in, or if I have

0:48:37.080 --> 0:48:38.680
<v Speaker 2>to fight with the bar to get my drink, I

0:48:38.719 --> 0:48:39.239
<v Speaker 2>don't want to go.

0:48:39.480 --> 0:48:41.759
<v Speaker 1>I will give you all some really good wrecks in

0:48:41.800 --> 0:48:43.759
<v Speaker 1>New York. It's like the party Listen, no Wheezy, she

0:48:43.840 --> 0:48:44.080
<v Speaker 1>got you.

0:48:44.239 --> 0:48:47.560
<v Speaker 3>Descendants is one of the best parties i've or eventually

0:48:47.560 --> 0:48:49.319
<v Speaker 3>I hate blowing it up, but Descendants is a really

0:48:49.320 --> 0:48:51.640
<v Speaker 3>good party. I think it's going to turn into something

0:48:51.640 --> 0:48:53.640
<v Speaker 3>else sooner, so it might be over because it's that's

0:48:53.640 --> 0:48:55.520
<v Speaker 3>how good it is. And every time I go, it's

0:48:55.520 --> 0:48:57.799
<v Speaker 3>getting more full and like more packed or selling out faster.

0:48:57.880 --> 0:49:00.440
<v Speaker 3>It's phenomenal in the sound system in Brooklyn that this

0:49:00.600 --> 0:49:01.960
<v Speaker 3>place they do it that is great. Shout out to

0:49:02.000 --> 0:49:05.120
<v Speaker 3>Medi who's the DJ there, sold out Jerk and Jaeloff

0:49:05.480 --> 0:49:07.880
<v Speaker 3>Amazing party link up, y'all know I love him my

0:49:07.880 --> 0:49:10.680
<v Speaker 3>way Andre Power Amazing party. He's an amazing DJ if

0:49:10.719 --> 0:49:12.600
<v Speaker 3>you want to hear really good house music and just

0:49:13.400 --> 0:49:15.600
<v Speaker 3>be around DJs that are unique.

0:49:15.640 --> 0:49:16.320
<v Speaker 1>Fucking great.

0:49:16.719 --> 0:49:18.360
<v Speaker 3>But the parties that have been out for years, and

0:49:18.360 --> 0:49:21.479
<v Speaker 3>I won't say which ones them, shit's turning them. Shit's

0:49:21.520 --> 0:49:23.080
<v Speaker 3>an't as good as they used to be because I

0:49:23.080 --> 0:49:25.080
<v Speaker 3>think they've been spread out too much. But I love

0:49:25.120 --> 0:49:27.200
<v Speaker 3>the layout. I consider that to be a party in

0:49:27.239 --> 0:49:29.880
<v Speaker 3>New York that I plan to do. I will be

0:49:29.920 --> 0:49:32.399
<v Speaker 3>at Fort Green this summer. I like a lot of

0:49:32.480 --> 0:49:34.440
<v Speaker 3>the the piano people I went to in London was

0:49:34.480 --> 0:49:35.560
<v Speaker 3>my first time. I've been want to go to the

0:49:35.560 --> 0:49:39.919
<v Speaker 3>party for years. But yeah, like people are curating really

0:49:39.960 --> 0:49:44.520
<v Speaker 3>dope vibes in spaces that I've wanted to chase or

0:49:44.520 --> 0:49:46.080
<v Speaker 3>be in for a long time, and so those parties

0:49:46.080 --> 0:49:50.280
<v Speaker 3>I name are definitely in for me. Obviously an exclusive

0:49:50.280 --> 0:49:52.120
<v Speaker 3>party will be the best, but I do think you

0:49:52.160 --> 0:49:54.480
<v Speaker 3>can definitely catch up vibes still at some of these

0:49:54.520 --> 0:49:58.160
<v Speaker 3>ticket joints. I'm trying to kind of find my thing

0:49:58.239 --> 0:50:00.759
<v Speaker 3>for that. In La I would recommend Black Market Flee.

0:50:00.840 --> 0:50:03.400
<v Speaker 3>I think they do a phenomenal job. It's normally always

0:50:03.440 --> 0:50:05.279
<v Speaker 3>the same weekend as Black on the Block. It's a

0:50:05.360 --> 0:50:09.719
<v Speaker 3>daytime thing. But I love being in a party that's

0:50:09.840 --> 0:50:14.320
<v Speaker 3>not crazy Rara. I actually don't like bottle popping culture,

0:50:14.680 --> 0:50:16.719
<v Speaker 3>so that's probably why all of the parties I name

0:50:16.800 --> 0:50:18.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm into. You may be able to get a table,

0:50:18.560 --> 0:50:20.120
<v Speaker 3>but that ain't really the party. I even had to

0:50:20.120 --> 0:50:21.959
<v Speaker 3>beg the Descendants people to give me a fucking table

0:50:22.000 --> 0:50:23.960
<v Speaker 3>because I know that's not really the vibe day on,

0:50:24.120 --> 0:50:26.600
<v Speaker 3>like going back to that original just like we came

0:50:26.680 --> 0:50:28.080
<v Speaker 3>to dance type of vibe.

0:50:28.400 --> 0:50:30.040
<v Speaker 1>And that's truly why I think people in New York

0:50:30.120 --> 0:50:30.680
<v Speaker 1>love to lay out.

0:50:30.680 --> 0:50:32.080
<v Speaker 3>If you've never heard of it or you don't live

0:50:32.080 --> 0:50:34.640
<v Speaker 3>in New York, it's in Brooklyn at Fort Green Park,

0:50:34.640 --> 0:50:38.440
<v Speaker 3>I think, yeah, and it's just a place where you

0:50:38.640 --> 0:50:42.080
<v Speaker 3>vibe literally layout not even picnic vibes. You could definitely

0:50:42.800 --> 0:50:45.200
<v Speaker 3>buy yourself a nutcracker, which if you've never heard of,

0:50:45.239 --> 0:50:47.400
<v Speaker 3>you gotta come and get when this summer there's DJs,

0:50:47.400 --> 0:50:50.759
<v Speaker 3>there's music, but I think it's just this original is

0:50:50.800 --> 0:50:51.160
<v Speaker 3>a park.

0:50:51.200 --> 0:50:53.400
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't consider that they have do DJs. I mean

0:50:53.400 --> 0:50:54.120
<v Speaker 1>there's a DJ, but.

0:50:54.360 --> 0:50:56.839
<v Speaker 2>I don't I wouldn't consider that a party. So maybe

0:50:56.840 --> 0:50:58.520
<v Speaker 2>that like we're defining that different.

0:50:58.200 --> 0:51:01.560
<v Speaker 3>Maybe Soul Summit layout. I'm thinking Soul some it's a

0:51:01.560 --> 0:51:03.239
<v Speaker 3>really good party. Is that what I'm thinking about?

0:51:03.280 --> 0:51:03.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

0:51:03.560 --> 0:51:05.520
<v Speaker 3>When the Soul Summit is at layout, that's when I

0:51:05.520 --> 0:51:07.000
<v Speaker 3>actually have never been to the layout when they didn't

0:51:07.000 --> 0:51:07.359
<v Speaker 3>have a DJ.

0:51:07.440 --> 0:51:11.160
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, the layout juneteenth, I can't wait. There's nowhere niggas.

0:51:11.280 --> 0:51:15.640
<v Speaker 2>They will have a DJ coming from Oklahoma City doing

0:51:16.080 --> 0:51:19.200
<v Speaker 2>June teenth on the east And literally I bought the

0:51:19.239 --> 0:51:21.759
<v Speaker 2>earliest flight I land at eleven just so I can

0:51:21.800 --> 0:51:23.759
<v Speaker 2>make sure to make the layout this year, because I

0:51:23.840 --> 0:51:25.920
<v Speaker 2>flew into the layout but got there at like seven

0:51:25.920 --> 0:51:27.880
<v Speaker 2>o'clock last year, and that's like, you know, that's the

0:51:28.000 --> 0:51:30.960
<v Speaker 2>end everybody going. And I think last year was the

0:51:31.120 --> 0:51:35.799
<v Speaker 2>end of what's the hookah spot that closed down that

0:51:35.880 --> 0:51:37.879
<v Speaker 2>everyone used to go to started with to.

0:51:37.840 --> 0:51:39.920
<v Speaker 1>Be Damn, I really don't smoke puff.

0:51:41.080 --> 0:51:42.560
<v Speaker 2>It started with to Be, but they closed down the

0:51:42.560 --> 0:51:45.680
<v Speaker 2>house like a members only club. Anyways, before we get

0:51:45.719 --> 0:51:47.920
<v Speaker 2>out of here, I do want to do one last

0:51:47.960 --> 0:51:49.839
<v Speaker 2>home mail because we barely get to get to our

0:51:49.880 --> 0:51:50.279
<v Speaker 2>home mail.

0:51:50.400 --> 0:51:52.200
<v Speaker 3>And by the way, I brought that party shit up

0:51:52.239 --> 0:51:53.640
<v Speaker 3>because that's where the niggas at.

0:51:53.920 --> 0:51:56.200
<v Speaker 1>Don't go for my nigga, but the niggas be there.

0:51:56.360 --> 0:52:00.960
<v Speaker 3>I'm telling y'all, these dating apps were circling aroundverybody's fucking everybody.

0:52:00.960 --> 0:52:03.120
<v Speaker 3>Now go outside, meet him in the real world, and

0:52:03.120 --> 0:52:04.680
<v Speaker 3>then you go meet them with the other three bitches

0:52:04.680 --> 0:52:07.160
<v Speaker 3>they fucking in that same party. Hey, may the best

0:52:07.160 --> 0:52:13.480
<v Speaker 3>one win hunger game. All right, here's the wholemail.

0:52:13.520 --> 0:52:15.000
<v Speaker 2>If you have a homemail for us, please send it

0:52:15.040 --> 0:52:18.160
<v Speaker 2>to Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. Hey, ladies, call

0:52:18.239 --> 0:52:21.320
<v Speaker 2>me d I am forever grateful for finding Horrible Decisions.

0:52:21.640 --> 0:52:25.440
<v Speaker 2>I've become much more confident in my sexuality over the

0:52:25.520 --> 0:52:29.080
<v Speaker 2>last few years. It's refreshing to see black women own

0:52:29.200 --> 0:52:31.279
<v Speaker 2>who they are. Let me tell you some shit I've

0:52:31.320 --> 0:52:35.319
<v Speaker 2>tried since listened to y'all. I pegged a man, I

0:52:35.480 --> 0:52:38.400
<v Speaker 2>ate some cooch, had two threesomes, and went to a

0:52:38.440 --> 0:52:40.480
<v Speaker 2>ghetto ass sex story slash club.

0:52:41.600 --> 0:52:42.600
<v Speaker 1>And here's the question.

0:52:42.960 --> 0:52:45.439
<v Speaker 2>I've been seeing this man for a while, we've never

0:52:45.520 --> 0:52:47.160
<v Speaker 2>met in person, so.

0:52:47.160 --> 0:52:48.799
<v Speaker 1>Bitch, you ain't been seeing him. I don't know what

0:52:48.840 --> 0:52:50.239
<v Speaker 1>you've been doing, but it ain't seeing him.

0:52:50.280 --> 0:52:52.160
<v Speaker 2>I mean we've never met in person, but we have

0:52:52.280 --> 0:52:54.880
<v Speaker 2>formed a solid bond over time we FaceTime.

0:52:54.920 --> 0:52:56.799
<v Speaker 1>Okay, you see him on the screen and talk on

0:52:56.800 --> 0:52:57.320
<v Speaker 1>the phone.

0:52:57.680 --> 0:53:03.399
<v Speaker 2>Yes, yes, he sent me money on multiple occasions. He's

0:53:03.440 --> 0:53:06.000
<v Speaker 2>tried to send for me and come see me for

0:53:06.040 --> 0:53:09.759
<v Speaker 2>a while. Now I put it off because sadly, I'm

0:53:09.760 --> 0:53:13.600
<v Speaker 2>not one hundred percent physically attracted to him. He literally

0:53:13.680 --> 0:53:17.840
<v Speaker 2>checks off every other box. He is also accepting of

0:53:17.920 --> 0:53:21.560
<v Speaker 2>my sexual appetite. Do y'all need to be one hundred

0:53:21.600 --> 0:53:26.080
<v Speaker 2>percent attracted to your significant other? Is medium ugly acceptable?

0:53:26.600 --> 0:53:27.520
<v Speaker 1>Thanks? Deep?

0:53:27.920 --> 0:53:31.239
<v Speaker 3>Well? According to Brionda, No, but I'll say this, I've

0:53:31.320 --> 0:53:35.080
<v Speaker 3>dated medium ugly, but I was attracted to them, so

0:53:35.800 --> 0:53:38.160
<v Speaker 3>I think I don't give a fuck.

0:53:38.239 --> 0:53:40.000
<v Speaker 1>Who thinks my man looked? You know what I'm saying.

0:53:41.120 --> 0:53:44.120
<v Speaker 3>I am dating someone who's super conventionally handsome and fine.

0:53:44.239 --> 0:53:46.719
<v Speaker 3>But if I wasn't and I found out it gonna

0:53:46.760 --> 0:53:49.680
<v Speaker 3>be fine, I wouldn't care like I am. If I

0:53:49.719 --> 0:53:51.919
<v Speaker 3>could be shallow, how I would if I could see

0:53:51.920 --> 0:53:54.000
<v Speaker 3>who I want to see? Like, that's okay to me?

0:53:54.000 --> 0:53:57.120
<v Speaker 3>Medium ugly is fine if you are attracted to them.

0:53:57.160 --> 0:53:59.040
<v Speaker 3>If you are not attracted to the person you're dating,

0:53:59.239 --> 0:54:00.000
<v Speaker 3>you shouldn't be dating.

0:54:01.160 --> 0:54:04.080
<v Speaker 2>I agree with that to an extent and minded this

0:54:04.160 --> 0:54:07.640
<v Speaker 2>is coming from the shallow person. To me, a chool

0:54:07.680 --> 0:54:09.839
<v Speaker 2>depends on your age, depends what you want.

0:54:10.280 --> 0:54:13.040
<v Speaker 1>If this man. And I'm only leaning into the fact that.

0:54:13.600 --> 0:54:17.000
<v Speaker 2>You said he checks off every other box, but you

0:54:17.080 --> 0:54:19.759
<v Speaker 2>also said he's medium ogg. You ain't saying he ugly.

0:54:20.520 --> 0:54:23.600
<v Speaker 2>There's a difference there. So to me, there's something that

0:54:23.640 --> 0:54:26.319
<v Speaker 2>you might find attractive in the least bit.

0:54:26.600 --> 0:54:27.160
<v Speaker 1>I think that.

0:54:27.760 --> 0:54:31.200
<v Speaker 2>At the same time, I would suggest you to see

0:54:31.280 --> 0:54:35.440
<v Speaker 2>him because a pictures and videos sometimes do niggas no justice.

0:54:36.120 --> 0:54:38.120
<v Speaker 2>I will tell you there are like one of the

0:54:38.440 --> 0:54:40.960
<v Speaker 2>guys I'm dating now, I told him to his face

0:54:41.520 --> 0:54:46.280
<v Speaker 2>way finer in person, Like his page is cute, but baby,

0:54:46.320 --> 0:54:48.319
<v Speaker 2>in person, I want to eat him the fuck up.

0:54:48.600 --> 0:54:50.719
<v Speaker 3>So could you tell him videos that he was good looking?

0:54:50.920 --> 0:54:53.080
<v Speaker 3>Because videos are better to me than photo.

0:54:53.520 --> 0:54:53.719
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:54:53.760 --> 0:54:56.880
<v Speaker 2>But to me, there there is something about an energy,

0:54:56.960 --> 0:55:01.680
<v Speaker 2>a swag like I've been out with wait motherfuckers. Like

0:55:01.719 --> 0:55:03.640
<v Speaker 2>one of my other niggas, Oh they all back. One

0:55:03.640 --> 0:55:06.520
<v Speaker 2>of my other niggas is not even six feet tall. Baby,

0:55:06.560 --> 0:55:08.040
<v Speaker 2>you can't tell me I don't like him and he

0:55:08.160 --> 0:55:11.680
<v Speaker 2>not six seven will be together in the bedroom outside.

0:55:12.040 --> 0:55:14.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm standing next to him like he is my tall

0:55:14.160 --> 0:55:16.799
<v Speaker 2>king because he has that aura of him and I

0:55:16.840 --> 0:55:18.160
<v Speaker 2>know the epussy real.

0:55:18.239 --> 0:55:20.560
<v Speaker 1>That's the dating app problem. Sometimes I meet dudes and

0:55:20.560 --> 0:55:23.200
<v Speaker 1>maybe a little doofy. Yeah, why he won't I agree?

0:55:23.239 --> 0:55:25.680
<v Speaker 2>So to me, if you've been talking to this man

0:55:25.760 --> 0:55:28.560
<v Speaker 2>and he checks off all these other things that actually

0:55:28.600 --> 0:55:31.319
<v Speaker 2>are on your checklist, to me, I would give him

0:55:31.480 --> 0:55:34.480
<v Speaker 2>the chance and opportunity to be with you in person.

0:55:35.200 --> 0:55:37.759
<v Speaker 3>Check the vibes, check the temperature. Wait, I haven't met

0:55:37.760 --> 0:55:39.280
<v Speaker 3>in person on the street. No, they haven't met Afari.

0:55:39.320 --> 0:55:40.239
<v Speaker 3>That's a that's a good one.

0:55:40.280 --> 0:55:42.319
<v Speaker 2>So I'm like, meet that nigga in person and then

0:55:42.360 --> 0:55:45.520
<v Speaker 2>you can ast him out because he could be better

0:55:45.560 --> 0:55:47.680
<v Speaker 2>looking in person than what you see him on FaceTime

0:55:47.800 --> 0:55:48.320
<v Speaker 2>or his pictures.

0:55:48.360 --> 0:55:51.440
<v Speaker 1>I also would say, don't kill too much time.

0:55:52.400 --> 0:55:55.760
<v Speaker 3>I'm talking to anybody that is fucking listening or viewing

0:55:55.760 --> 0:55:57.680
<v Speaker 3>this and has been dating someone online.

0:55:57.800 --> 0:56:00.560
<v Speaker 1>The more time you take to not meet them. If

0:56:00.600 --> 0:56:04.360
<v Speaker 1>it's a dub in person, it's almost like I wasted

0:56:04.400 --> 0:56:05.880
<v Speaker 1>all my time and I could have been fucking up

0:56:05.920 --> 0:56:07.959
<v Speaker 1>the last Yeah. Nah, bruh.

0:56:08.360 --> 0:56:10.320
<v Speaker 3>Do you feel like you're in a relationship with someone

0:56:10.640 --> 0:56:13.120
<v Speaker 3>even when you're not in front of them, like somebody

0:56:13.120 --> 0:56:15.960
<v Speaker 3>haven't met yet, because you're so addicted to chatting, it

0:56:16.040 --> 0:56:19.160
<v Speaker 3>becomes so fun, it becomes a routine. You guys kind

0:56:19.160 --> 0:56:21.440
<v Speaker 3>of get in this groove. Meet that nigga bro, not

0:56:21.480 --> 0:56:24.560
<v Speaker 3>only meet him, I might. I want to add to

0:56:24.600 --> 0:56:29.440
<v Speaker 3>it in terms of the casual dating. Be honest with

0:56:29.520 --> 0:56:32.680
<v Speaker 3>what you want, Like I've been very clear that I.

0:56:32.600 --> 0:56:36.799
<v Speaker 2>Am just now getting healed over a breakup and right

0:56:36.840 --> 0:56:39.279
<v Speaker 2>now I want to enjoy having fun. I think I'm

0:56:39.320 --> 0:56:44.359
<v Speaker 2>learning how to date in a place of confidence financially, physically, emotionally,

0:56:44.440 --> 0:56:49.560
<v Speaker 2>mentally that I would like a relationship, but as of

0:56:49.600 --> 0:56:52.319
<v Speaker 2>right now, I'm not. And if someone wants to take

0:56:52.360 --> 0:56:54.000
<v Speaker 2>me off the market, they need to show the fuck

0:56:54.080 --> 0:56:55.879
<v Speaker 2>up because I'm willing to have that.

0:56:55.960 --> 0:56:59.000
<v Speaker 1>But I'm not willing to just be in limbo with

0:56:59.000 --> 0:56:59.440
<v Speaker 1>a nigga.

0:56:59.520 --> 0:57:02.759
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna have my fun If you're not consistent, I'm

0:57:02.760 --> 0:57:05.399
<v Speaker 2>not consistent, and we're just gonna figure it out that way.

0:57:05.520 --> 0:57:09.319
<v Speaker 3>Consistency feels like the only thing sometimes that will let

0:57:09.360 --> 0:57:13.040
<v Speaker 3>you know someone's actually into you, at least for me,

0:57:13.680 --> 0:57:16.320
<v Speaker 3>Like I know a lot of people say things like

0:57:16.800 --> 0:57:18.560
<v Speaker 3>if you can't make time, they're not really into you.

0:57:19.640 --> 0:57:22.360
<v Speaker 3>As long as someone's consistent and showing me that they're like,

0:57:22.600 --> 0:57:25.120
<v Speaker 3>you know, that's enough. We've all been busy or we've

0:57:25.120 --> 0:57:28.040
<v Speaker 3>all been overwhelmed with life, but like that is something.

0:57:28.040 --> 0:57:30.520
<v Speaker 3>And I know it's getting harder and harder because dating

0:57:30.600 --> 0:57:34.840
<v Speaker 3>is becoming so fucking difficult. And I think through writing

0:57:34.840 --> 0:57:37.720
<v Speaker 3>this book, I realize, like, fuck, I have a chapter

0:57:38.400 --> 0:57:43.280
<v Speaker 3>that I'm writing about Old Bay currently and so many

0:57:43.280 --> 0:57:44.320
<v Speaker 3>embarrassing things I admit.

0:57:44.680 --> 0:57:45.880
<v Speaker 1>I read it to my man today.

0:57:46.600 --> 0:57:49.520
<v Speaker 3>He was like, I'm not trying to judge you, but like,

0:57:50.040 --> 0:57:53.360
<v Speaker 3>I actually can't believe how much shit you put up with.

0:57:54.400 --> 0:57:56.960
<v Speaker 3>And I was like, you know, thirty percent of it

0:57:57.040 --> 0:57:59.720
<v Speaker 3>is COVID and this other percent of it is I

0:58:00.320 --> 0:58:03.520
<v Speaker 3>just thought I'll eat another nigga at some point, like,

0:58:03.840 --> 0:58:05.760
<v Speaker 3>but you just don't realize it goes on this many years.

0:58:06.280 --> 0:58:08.680
<v Speaker 3>And even one of the things I wrote about was like,

0:58:09.200 --> 0:58:11.080
<v Speaker 3>when I caught him cheating the first time, I didn't

0:58:11.120 --> 0:58:13.960
<v Speaker 3>tell him right, And then I wrote when I was writing,

0:58:14.000 --> 0:58:18.680
<v Speaker 3>I said, I let two days go without telling him

0:58:18.680 --> 0:58:20.840
<v Speaker 3>that I knew, and then I was like, oh, now

0:58:20.840 --> 0:58:22.160
<v Speaker 3>I can't tell him because now I just held on

0:58:22.240 --> 0:58:22.560
<v Speaker 3>this water.

0:58:22.640 --> 0:58:24.479
<v Speaker 1>So how long is it gonna go on? Is this hard?

0:58:24.880 --> 0:58:25.240
<v Speaker 1>Like to.

0:58:27.680 --> 0:58:30.600
<v Speaker 2>Is it hard looking back and seeing what you accepted

0:58:31.240 --> 0:58:33.720
<v Speaker 2>or looking back to see the partner you chose to

0:58:33.720 --> 0:58:34.560
<v Speaker 2>be with for so long?

0:58:36.880 --> 0:58:37.000
<v Speaker 1>Uh?

0:58:37.480 --> 0:58:41.200
<v Speaker 3>I don't blame myself. It's a little embarrassing. It's not hard.

0:58:41.400 --> 0:58:44.520
<v Speaker 3>It's embarrassing for the people that know you as someone strong.

0:58:45.280 --> 0:58:48.160
<v Speaker 3>But I actually don't know if I was weak for

0:58:48.240 --> 0:58:50.760
<v Speaker 3>what I did. I also wrote that I was using

0:58:50.840 --> 0:58:54.760
<v Speaker 3>him for stability, not financially. I was kind of sad

0:58:54.840 --> 0:58:57.920
<v Speaker 3>during COVID. I didn't you know, so I gave up

0:58:57.920 --> 0:58:59.600
<v Speaker 3>my crib when I moved to Mexico to a friend.

0:58:59.640 --> 0:59:03.000
<v Speaker 3>It was actual, so I couldn't just have this escape

0:59:03.040 --> 0:59:04.760
<v Speaker 3>from him. I didn't want my parents to know I

0:59:04.800 --> 0:59:06.120
<v Speaker 3>was going through it and move in with them in

0:59:06.200 --> 0:59:08.600
<v Speaker 3>Orlando at the time, that's where they lived. I didn't

0:59:08.640 --> 0:59:09.720
<v Speaker 3>want to go back to my old crib and I

0:59:09.800 --> 0:59:11.800
<v Speaker 3>want to stay with friends. I was like, damn, I

0:59:11.840 --> 0:59:14.400
<v Speaker 3>just gotta thug it. I also committed to this apartment

0:59:14.440 --> 0:59:16.080
<v Speaker 3>in Mexico, with him too, right, So I'm like this

0:59:16.200 --> 0:59:19.080
<v Speaker 3>is still my home too, So there was that other

0:59:19.160 --> 0:59:21.520
<v Speaker 3>layer of like people think I'm just staying with him,

0:59:21.520 --> 0:59:23.360
<v Speaker 3>but I'm like, I ain't leaving my shit, nigga tulum

0:59:23.480 --> 0:59:23.840
<v Speaker 3>is lit.

0:59:24.120 --> 0:59:26.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to leave. So it was kind of

0:59:26.080 --> 0:59:27.120
<v Speaker 1>just like what am I gonna do?

0:59:27.200 --> 0:59:30.400
<v Speaker 3>And yeah, I got my lick back, But it still

0:59:30.520 --> 0:59:33.760
<v Speaker 3>was like I just stayed with him thinking I'd meet

0:59:33.760 --> 0:59:35.840
<v Speaker 3>someone else while I was with him. That's sick, but

0:59:35.920 --> 0:59:37.800
<v Speaker 3>that's what I would think about. And the other thing

0:59:37.840 --> 0:59:42.720
<v Speaker 3>about it. He was a cheater, which made him which

0:59:42.760 --> 0:59:45.560
<v Speaker 3>made me angry with him, but everything else about him

0:59:45.640 --> 0:59:48.680
<v Speaker 3>was okay. We had a fun life. He had bread,

0:59:48.720 --> 0:59:50.840
<v Speaker 3>so we were able to move around. And it's not

0:59:50.880 --> 0:59:52.960
<v Speaker 3>like I was using him for the money. Keep in mind,

0:59:53.080 --> 0:59:55.720
<v Speaker 3>I have money too, So when you have a counterpart

0:59:55.760 --> 0:59:57.960
<v Speaker 3>that you could do things with during a time where

0:59:57.960 --> 0:59:59.520
<v Speaker 3>the world is closed, we can grab this one hundred

0:59:59.520 --> 1:00:01.680
<v Speaker 3>dollars flight to go to fucking Cartahana or whatever. Like

1:00:02.000 --> 1:00:03.480
<v Speaker 3>how many people were able to do that a lot

1:00:03.520 --> 1:00:06.560
<v Speaker 3>of people jobs were fucked. So I kind of think

1:00:06.600 --> 1:00:08.480
<v Speaker 3>I liked that. And when I say I used him

1:00:08.480 --> 1:00:10.960
<v Speaker 3>for stability, I used him to be the grounding thing.

1:00:11.280 --> 1:00:12.280
<v Speaker 1>Horrible was off tour.

1:00:12.440 --> 1:00:14.400
<v Speaker 3>We didn't never have black Effect deal yet I was

1:00:14.400 --> 1:00:16.479
<v Speaker 3>still writing sex cells and figuring out what that would

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<v Speaker 3>look like. Everything kind of felt flighty. And so now

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<v Speaker 3>to be a little more secure in my independence, not

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<v Speaker 3>again financially, but just like being dolo. I don't think

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<v Speaker 3>I was ready to be alone during the pandemic. I

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<v Speaker 3>was not ready to be by myself in a world

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<v Speaker 3>where we already were isolated. So I think I just

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<v Speaker 3>used him for the companionship, and in my brain, I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, Okay, he fucking some Hozho cares. But there

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<v Speaker 3>is a lot of trauma that comes with cheating because

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<v Speaker 3>I've realized so many partners were cheating. And it's tough

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<v Speaker 3>because when we talk about nominogamy and it's something I

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<v Speaker 3>enjoy and I've done healthy, I hate that people have

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<v Speaker 3>taken advantage of it. But it's like niggas will take

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<v Speaker 3>advantage of you when you argumentogamoust So where's where's the line?

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<v Speaker 3>Like where can you keep blaming yourself? There's not many

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<v Speaker 3>steps I could take to save my heart when it's

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<v Speaker 3>on someone else's hands. So there's so much blaming that

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<v Speaker 3>we do in breakups and I've fucking let that go. No,

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<v Speaker 3>it's no one's fault, even you, bandy, when you're like, well,

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<v Speaker 3>I went back to my X y Z times, like

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<v Speaker 3>you could blame yourself for that, but.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'are no, I'm not.

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<v Speaker 2>I understand the demon monster that I was with because

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<v Speaker 2>he was a narcissist and the powers in which they

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<v Speaker 2>have for manipulation, Like there was a psychological pull that

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<v Speaker 2>because the first bitch they called me woman to woman,

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<v Speaker 2>don't hit me again this week wanting us to go

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<v Speaker 2>like I guess she wants us to bond as trauma sisters,

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, bitch, we already asked my sisters, my

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<v Speaker 2>ex cheated on me with you. You chose to say

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<v Speaker 2>after you called me, and now you're done with him,

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<v Speaker 2>and now you want to I said, you don't get

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<v Speaker 2>to bring me back to living what he was. I

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<v Speaker 2>think the hardest thing about that relationship is the fact

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<v Speaker 2>that despite how manipulative, how psychologically draining that relationship was,

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<v Speaker 2>I really really am holding on to how great he

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<v Speaker 2>made me feel in certain moments. So there's a chapter

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<v Speaker 2>I'm working on for the book where and I just

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<v Speaker 2>had to call the owner of the dungeon. We went

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<v Speaker 2>to a dungeon together, and that chapter when I said

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted it in the book, we were still together,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was this you fork kind of twist on

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<v Speaker 2>finally finding someone who makes me feel safe, who makes

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<v Speaker 2>me feel seen as a back, as a black man. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>we did things, like I shared about it on the pod.

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<v Speaker 2>He did electro play with me, and I put him

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<v Speaker 2>in a chastity belt. But that whole night was us

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<v Speaker 2>trusting each other to do things that we both said

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<v Speaker 2>we would never really want to do, but we would

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<v Speaker 2>allow the other person and to do it because that's

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<v Speaker 2>how that's how much we trusted each other. And so

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<v Speaker 2>to now be revisiting this chapter on a night that

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<v Speaker 2>was centered around trust and safety, to be reliving that

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<v Speaker 2>night with a man who does not make me feel safe,

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<v Speaker 2>who I do not trust, who betrayed me in every

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<v Speaker 2>way possible, and who now I feel like genuinely manipulated

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<v Speaker 2>me and all these other women that he's been like with,

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<v Speaker 2>it's hard for me to really view this person and

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<v Speaker 2>view those memories as real. Because I did feel so good.

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<v Speaker 2>He made me feel good, He made me He was

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<v Speaker 2>my peace and that's my thing. Like with these relationships,

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<v Speaker 2>I have zero desire to just be with a nigga,

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<v Speaker 2>to be with a nigga, I have zero desire to

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<v Speaker 2>be with.

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<v Speaker 1>A nigga, to lay with one.

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<v Speaker 2>To me my peace, I would much rather be single,

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<v Speaker 2>like and I know I probably shouldn't put that out

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<v Speaker 2>in the universe, where yes, a relationship and a partner

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<v Speaker 2>would be nice.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not lonely right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Which is what I feel like a lot of people

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<v Speaker 2>seek in relateationships like they don't want to feel alone.

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<v Speaker 2>And my friends are so fucking heavily involved with my

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<v Speaker 2>life and I love them so much and they're what

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<v Speaker 2>brings happiness to me that I don't feel lonely. So

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<v Speaker 2>now it's what we talked about in one of our

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<v Speaker 2>previous solo episodes. It's okay. I know I yearned for intimacy,

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<v Speaker 2>So if I can get those from niggas without having

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<v Speaker 2>to deal with the fucking drama or the betrayal or

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<v Speaker 2>a nigga fucking off on me or embarrassing me, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>so cool with just where I'm at having these partners

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<v Speaker 2>in my life. Like I said, the one that came back,

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<v Speaker 2>that came up and just took me out to motherfucking lunch.

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<v Speaker 2>I love those partnerships, but I'm really dealing in therapy

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<v Speaker 2>right now reliving my sexual assaults, reliving all my relationships

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<v Speaker 2>with men, with the fact that I only and have

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<v Speaker 2>only been with black men. I have only been violated

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<v Speaker 2>by black men, and I have never in my life

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<v Speaker 2>felt safe with black men. So I'm currently you never

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<v Speaker 2>feel safe.

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<v Speaker 1>No, no, And I.

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<v Speaker 2>Asked my mom that question on the phone. I said, Mom,

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<v Speaker 2>what man has made you feel safe in your life?

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<v Speaker 2>And maybe I'm sharing too much. The man that she

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<v Speaker 2>said to me led her to od to where I

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<v Speaker 2>almost lost her because of this man.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm like, the.

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<v Speaker 2>Only nigga that made you say is the nigga that

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<v Speaker 2>made you try to overdose? You got me fucked up.

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<v Speaker 2>So I've literally been going through so much of my

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<v Speaker 2>mom's trauma that she's now been opening to sharing me

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<v Speaker 2>got She's now going to therapy. I've sat back and

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<v Speaker 2>went through my sexual assaults in this chapter. They were

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<v Speaker 2>black men. To where to where my sexual assault on

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<v Speaker 2>the train I brought up in therapy where I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm over it. I was so upset that it was

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<v Speaker 2>a black man that did that to me. Like, so, no,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have these experiences of violation with any other man.

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<v Speaker 2>Mind you, my dad is black. Baby, really don't feel

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<v Speaker 2>safe with that nigga. My mom needed more child support

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<v Speaker 2>and he said, deuces, Oh you want more money? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>fuck fuck the kids. When it came to my abortion,

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<v Speaker 2>my dad said, that's your friend. So even my uncle

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<v Speaker 2>just got deported because he chose to violate my cousin,

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<v Speaker 2>like so many of the men in my life.

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<v Speaker 1>Just I think that I think there hasn't been another.

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<v Speaker 1>I will just say this.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't good ben out there. By the way, I

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<v Speaker 2>am not saying and I want to make that clear too.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm friends. I have really good friendships with black men

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<v Speaker 2>in my life, really strong connections. What I'm saying is

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<v Speaker 2>from a familial space, family wise, and from a romantic

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<v Speaker 2>space that safety, especially with my ex experiencing that to

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<v Speaker 2>where I had finally felt safe and heard and seen

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<v Speaker 2>and for that to be betrayed, and my sexual assaults

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<v Speaker 2>and things like that. I'm navigating because at the end

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<v Speaker 2>of the fucking day, I only see myself with a

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<v Speaker 2>black man. I've never seen it clear. Told you, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't like them krackers, never wanted to Cheico. Sorry, I

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<v Speaker 2>only want a black man. So there's also forgiveness in

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<v Speaker 2>probably so many black women who have that same experience

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<v Speaker 2>that still.

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<v Speaker 1>Only want a black man.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm willing to show up and see men, give

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<v Speaker 2>them the chance, and continuously date and give myself to them.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm also working through the trauma that No, there's

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<v Speaker 2>not one black man I feel that has made me

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<v Speaker 2>feel fully safe or seen.

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<v Speaker 3>I gotta be real with you, there are very few

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<v Speaker 3>times in my life and in situations that we ever

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<v Speaker 3>talked about on Horrible where I want to take grace

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<v Speaker 3>out of it. None of my Latino homegirls have one

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<v Speaker 3>close Asian homegirl white friends. All of them have problems

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<v Speaker 3>with men.

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<v Speaker 1>No, so wait, wait, wait, let me just get this.

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<v Speaker 1>I just don't let me just go out with other

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<v Speaker 1>colored men at all.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't even think we realize that the patterns of

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<v Speaker 3>behavior bat men have like we haven't been able to

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<v Speaker 3>read the flags or see the signs because it's like

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<v Speaker 3>it's a perpetual cycle. But what you're talking about, one

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<v Speaker 3>of my friends hasn't been able to date black men.

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<v Speaker 1>She started dating other types of men. Because of her trauma,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, that's not the answer, and that's why that's never

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<v Speaker 2>been my answer. However, I'm in therapy really seeking because

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<v Speaker 2>my experience in my whole life has only been with

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<v Speaker 2>black men. I went to all black schools, I dated

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<v Speaker 2>only black men. My father is black, my uncles are black.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't even know my white side of my family.

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<v Speaker 2>And as an adult, niggas who I laid down for

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<v Speaker 2>in whatever capacity we're black.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe you should have sketched you a little Rihanna's X

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<v Speaker 3>man situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Get you a fine little bibie ting. I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to move. That's the thing. I want a black king.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not trying to I'm joking, but I think I

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<v Speaker 3>think that's something that could be fun in your dating life.

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<v Speaker 3>I think if you opened yourself up to because for

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<v Speaker 3>me probably actually a separate from white. I've never dated

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<v Speaker 3>like a whigger because for me, it's like, why am

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<v Speaker 3>I gonna do that?

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'd rather thy lor RC white boy or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>But sometimes opening up to different cultures.

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<v Speaker 3>It's interesting because my friends that are my closest friends

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<v Speaker 3>that are in a different country live in France and

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<v Speaker 3>all of the girls talk about men from different countries

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<v Speaker 3>like they're different, even though they only date Black men,

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<v Speaker 3>and they've all expressed different qualities about them, whether it

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<v Speaker 3>be talking about africanmen who worship you or whatever, or

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<v Speaker 3>Caribbean men that africanmen, things like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So my point is, I think it would be cool

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<v Speaker 1>still black men, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Think it would be cool for you to date people

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<v Speaker 3>from other places, and I think you might be able

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<v Speaker 3>to maybe even enjoy because it almost feels like sometimes

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<v Speaker 3>even in New York or whatever city, we're in a

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<v Speaker 3>bubble of people that know each other. I think it

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<v Speaker 3>could be fun for you, especially when you're traveling, maybe

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<v Speaker 3>just opening yourself up to that, and if it's not

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<v Speaker 3>black shit, it's just like something different. Like, I think

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<v Speaker 3>it could really help your dating experiences. And truthfully, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Mean, I had a whole diplomat and I'm impacting like anything.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe I'm just saying I'm trying.

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<v Speaker 2>I've stepped out and I've dated. When I say black men,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not that they're not from different countries. Like I've dated,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I'll try to stay clear from Jamaicans, but I've

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<v Speaker 2>dated Haitians, I've dated Jamaicans.

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<v Speaker 1>I've dated Africans. To me, when I say black men is.

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<v Speaker 2>The full diaspora of black men, I don't date all

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<v Speaker 2>the same type of gas.

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<v Speaker 1>They've all been different. They might look kind of alike,

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<v Speaker 1>but they're all different. To me. I'm just in a

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<v Speaker 1>space currently of healing.

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<v Speaker 3>Just fuck one white guy that I was like, I

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<v Speaker 3>don't want to fuck no cracking anyway, y'all ain't fucking none.

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<v Speaker 1>Of y'all ain't naming white boys.

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<v Speaker 2>You like no, Bro Jake j When I say Jake Jillenhall,

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<v Speaker 2>that don't mean I'm finished.

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<v Speaker 1>You wouldn't give uci. You wouldn't if you met him.

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<v Speaker 2>And what about just giving Jake Jillahal couchie for you

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<v Speaker 2>think I'm just gonna give a white man couchie for free.

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<v Speaker 3>I think if you were having fun with him and

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<v Speaker 3>you already think he's cute, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Mean, I think he's an attractive He looked like he

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<v Speaker 2>got a little twitch, like something's just cool about him.

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<v Speaker 2>But I don't think I like no like me saying

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<v Speaker 2>after that rote Tom Brady Jason Momoa that Jason Momoa

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<v Speaker 2>can get it and he's still not white.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to in you should get that. No

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a real shit, I'm not joking. Uh.

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<v Speaker 3>Tom Brady was looking finest fuck on that roast bitch.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what bowtocks they put or what fat

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<v Speaker 3>from his own ass man.

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<v Speaker 1>That man was fine, And then me think, should I

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<v Speaker 1>start looking for sugar Daddy's being for fun? But I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't none of them look like that. They all look

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<v Speaker 1>like they're old and should belong in a nursing home.

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<v Speaker 1>The y'all look like Bill Belichick. Yeah, that's what they

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<v Speaker 1>look like, whoys the way I talk to our price.

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<v Speaker 2>And this has been yet another episode of poor decisions.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi everybody, it's bonus be.

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<v Speaker 3>Welcome back to another episode on our Patreon, which have

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<v Speaker 3>truly become my favorite episodes to me.

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<v Speaker 2>Because we just gonna sit here and shoot you all

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<v Speaker 2>the shit. I'll shoot you all this, shoot y'all the ship.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't say that, like shoot the ship. You ain't

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<v Speaker 2>never heard to shoot the ship. Yeah, but shoot y'all,

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<v Speaker 2>shoot y'all the ship.

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<v Speaker 1>We No, I can't say that, we're not gonna do this.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna shoot you the ship. Were shooting y'all the ship? Sure, baby, Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyways, I actually we gotta be able to schedule this

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<v Speaker 2>because this is considered a part two continuation of a

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<v Speaker 2>regular episode. But y'all know we Bevoke recording, so here

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<v Speaker 2>it is. But wanted to, you know, keep it flowing,

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<v Speaker 2>keep it going.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So we are at the point where you said

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<v Speaker 3>he is super ambitious the okay, so really like him.

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<v Speaker 3>Then I share with you the nigga that I fucked

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<v Speaker 3>after not fucking for almost four years, right, and now

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<v Speaker 3>I fucked and it's good boom.

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<v Speaker 2>So the two other niggas, So let's start with niggaumber three.

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<v Speaker 2>So nigga number three is it's been door number three nigga.

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<v Speaker 2>Number three was about to be the nigga that would

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<v Speaker 2>have been if I played my cards out this week,

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<v Speaker 2>it would be another artist nigga didn't show you about.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm about to show you too. Oh so

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<v Speaker 1>this three nigga, I'm about to tell you Jesus Christ.

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<v Speaker 1>So the three niggas. He was about to be number three. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So I've been having the hardest dilemma with him because

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<v Speaker 2>this is Patreon, and no I am not shaming, No,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not judging.

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<v Speaker 1>But he's a sex worker. He has an only fan, Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>But we've been talking from before he had the only

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<v Speaker 2>fans back when I was bat bitch. We've been talking

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<v Speaker 2>since twenty seventeen. But now he's like, what did he

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<v Speaker 2>do before lely fans?

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<v Speaker 1>I think he was just a bro fine nigga, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and now.

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<v Speaker 3>He's a lit only let's see to come to okay.

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<v Speaker 3>So oh, I'll show you the content.

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<v Speaker 1>Then let me go to Twitter first. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Before showing you, I was gonna show you his pretty

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<v Speaker 2>smile and his lovely face.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't care. But since you actually want to

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<v Speaker 1>see the dick and so this is oh, let me

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<v Speaker 1>turn down. So I heard the shower bitch. So that's

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<v Speaker 1>who I've seen him before.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I'm sure everyone has seen him before. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>supposed to be sucking him this week. And we've been talking.

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<v Speaker 1>Why do you keep trying to suck my type of

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<v Speaker 1>niggas with dreads?

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<v Speaker 3>Bro?

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<v Speaker 1>This is bro.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been talking to him since he have dreads. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>he had like I think of a low cut.

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<v Speaker 1>Look at the.

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<v Speaker 3>Baby that you take these don't do that, don't don't,

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<v Speaker 3>don't day you're So.

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<v Speaker 1>That's another reason why I didn't want niggas before. The

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<v Speaker 1>videos of Hitch he deleted all of them. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what's happening. Is giving solo? I even subscribe to

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<v Speaker 1>prepare to his own fans subscribe. Is he one of

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<v Speaker 1>the niggas that bitch has been accusing us some shiit? No,

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<v Speaker 1>he's actually not. That's his real come coming up.

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<v Speaker 2>Bro, it is it's hot And he just said, Babe,

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<v Speaker 2>if you want me to spend the night, I'll spend

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<v Speaker 2>the night.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm like, babe, he's been calling me babe. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>what are we doing here?

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<v Speaker 3>Not?

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<v Speaker 1>Bang? Not girlfriend? Experienced. Sorry, I'm okay, No, bitch, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>in marsh you know he's God damn babe. So this

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<v Speaker 1>is this is the niggas. It's already any funny ow

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<v Speaker 1>niggas will lost me wearing a bonding session. It's already

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<v Speaker 1>prescribed prescribe schedule. I don't know what's in your We're bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>we are fucking on Wednesday. Okay. The problem is it's Monday.

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<v Speaker 2>I could have a nigga slot over tonight, but then

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<v Speaker 2>the nigga actually like we going on a dat.

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<v Speaker 1>You need to suck someone before him, so it's open

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<v Speaker 1>because it's big, right, Yeah, I don't like this advice.

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<v Speaker 1>What is that not crazy? That's not crazy to say?

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<v Speaker 3>Bro?

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<v Speaker 1>Is anyone watching on his dick has been? Is the

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<v Speaker 1>girth of this water is big? Hold on and it's

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<v Speaker 1>like it's what you is big?

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<v Speaker 3>So anyways, that my thing is gonna confuse your pussy

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<v Speaker 3>from your asshole.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm supposed to fuck him on Wednesday. Then this

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<v Speaker 1>is the nigga. Is he just gonna come over you

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<v Speaker 1>guys gonnaet drinks first? No, girl, I'm gonna be in Atlanta.

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<v Speaker 2>He's gonna come through to the hotel, hotel sex bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>hotel sex bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>He coming through.

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<v Speaker 2>He's spending the night. I got a production date to

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<v Speaker 2>do the next day, but.

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<v Speaker 1>He's gonna wait. Why is he spending the night? So

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<v Speaker 1>that's what we've already talked about.

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<v Speaker 3>So