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Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decision.

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Speaker 2: Welcome you guys to another episode of Horrid BLEA. This

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Speaker 2: is young Baby, I'm your girl. Maybe b aka dat bitch.

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Speaker 1: I'm weazy.

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Speaker 3: And if you're watching the YouTube, Angela Davis, oh jesus,

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Speaker 3: she's not Angela Davis. Bro My nigga woke up and

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Speaker 3: saw me this morn. He said, I really feel like

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Speaker 3: I'm dating a black girl. Now he don't feel like

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Speaker 3: he dated a black girl.

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Speaker 1: The braids got the little boho you know, it's still straight.

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Speaker 1: People be looking at me like I'm commnicate. They're not

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Speaker 1: confused once they see these.

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Speaker 3: And I also want to say, it took me such

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Speaker 3: a long time to love my hair because when I

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Speaker 3: was growing up, I'm so light skinned that everybody was like,

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Speaker 3: why don't you have curly hair, like you know.

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Speaker 1: Mixed girls have that in Florida, That's how they come

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Speaker 1: at you.

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Speaker 3: And it was always making me feel so bad about

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Speaker 3: how my hair looks. But then as the years go on,

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Speaker 3: like I learned to love it. And yeah, honestly, the

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Speaker 3: braids keeping it growing thicker. I haven't put shampoo in

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Speaker 3: my hair in a year and a half. I only

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Speaker 3: do what's called co washing, just conditioner. And the Dominicans

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Speaker 3: take my grades out now and they be looking at

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Speaker 3: me like what bitch.

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Speaker 1: I would say, Like our like.

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Speaker 2: Experience with our hair journeys are all so different, I know,

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Speaker 2: like growing up me and me and my sister with

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Speaker 2: the same daddy, we have similar curl patterns. But my

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Speaker 2: youngest sister, she's Haitian and white and she has she

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Speaker 2: has four sy kiky super tight curls. And when we

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Speaker 2: were growing up, me and my sister wanted her hair,

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Speaker 2: and she wanted our hair, so she constantly wanted her

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Speaker 2: hair straightened or to be like ours, and we were like, bitch,

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Speaker 2: we would killed for your hair.

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Speaker 1: We wanted the thickness because the hair is the validation

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Speaker 1: when you're mixed. To me, it's not well. And that's

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Speaker 1: the thing.

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Speaker 2: And I don't know if it's because me and the

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Speaker 2: sister closest to me weren't raised around any of our

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Speaker 2: white family. Oh bitch, we wanted to be dark. We

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Speaker 2: want to fake curly hair because we only hung around

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Speaker 2: our cousins and shit like, we hated being the light

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Speaker 2: girls where niggas would question if my cousin was my cousin,

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Speaker 2: if my daddy was my daddy.

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Speaker 1: So me and my sister, we only we wanted to be.

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Speaker 2: We couldn't wait until the summertime when we became a

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Speaker 2: motherfucking looking Brazilian shit.

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Speaker 1: And it's funny because I loved our dark skin.

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Speaker 3: I feel like when I say this, there's also this

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Speaker 3: side of society where it's white women being like, I

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Speaker 3: wish I was your color, and I never want to

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Speaker 3: be that black girl. No, I never you know what

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Speaker 3: I'm saying, because they'd be doing that, like they'll say

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Speaker 3: I try to watch how someone else can be perceiving

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Speaker 3: what I'm saying when I express that I want darker skin.

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Speaker 3: I love myself so much more than I did when

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Speaker 3: I was younger because that just was figuring out.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, no, just taking out my hair. Like the

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Speaker 1: other night. Maybe I was taking it out on the plane. Girl.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you saying not.

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Speaker 3: To be a niggle, but if I'm going to pay

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Speaker 3: for a first class with the door, I'm hanging my

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Speaker 3: hair out. No, I'm taking hair, oh okay, like I'm

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Speaker 3: checking it out.

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Speaker 1: Maybe putting the meals in in between, you know.

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Speaker 3: So I flew from la to London for our London show,

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Speaker 3: which was eleven and a half hours. On the way

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Speaker 3: could get the shit out.

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Speaker 1: So you know, they come in with the meals and

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Speaker 1: shit and I'm like, hey, half.

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Speaker 3: The hair out, half of his braids. Every time I

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Speaker 3: go to the bathroom. People are looking to be like,

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Speaker 3: what's the fun? Why does bitch keep looking different?

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Speaker 1: Don't care?

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Speaker 3: And there's no knives on the plane, so I need

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Speaker 3: a little plastic knife to fucking get you know, this

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Speaker 3: is about the knife.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't enough.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, you need you need a little sharp no.

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Speaker 3: But I had to really like get that shit. I

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Speaker 3: think they thought I was trying to make a bomb.

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Speaker 1: Now with taking your hair out, probably because the way

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Speaker 2: I was maybe not this you was making a bomb,

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Speaker 2: but you could have hit some in your hair. Only

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Speaker 2: because my very first international flight, I'm going I got

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Speaker 2: fleued out by a nigga that was playing in Israel.

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Speaker 2: So I'm going to Jerusalem to you know, I was

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Speaker 2: a little nervous. I said, oh, maybe not be going

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Speaker 2: to Jesus, but I fly tel Aviv. That's the airline

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Speaker 2: I fly. Baby, I'm the only person who ain't wrapped up,

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Speaker 2: if you know what I mean. So I'm in line.

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Speaker 2: They pulled me to the side. This is for me

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Speaker 2: to get my boarding pass. This isn't even TSA. I'm

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Speaker 2: in the line to get our boarding pass. Tel Aviv

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Speaker 2: comes and brings me to the side. The most embarrassing thing,

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Speaker 2: and I might have talked about this on the podcast.

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Speaker 2: I had a bun, but you know how we used

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Speaker 2: to take that that that uh we hit the little

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Speaker 1: Baby.

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Speaker 2: They made me take out pin by pen my ponytail.

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Speaker 2: So my little nub was like this because you know,

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Speaker 2: I'm a little I have my little thing here. And

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Speaker 2: then bitch made me take out my whole ponytail and

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Speaker 1: I put it back up.

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Speaker 2: I had to still go get my fucking boarding past.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, are you fucking kidding me? This

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Speaker 2: was my very first international flight, and I was like, oh,

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Speaker 2: I hate it.

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Speaker 1: Your first time going overseas with Israel.

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Speaker 2: For he was playing and uh, yeah, he was playing

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Speaker 3: He was playing in Jerusalem. Jerusalem's only like he was

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Speaker 3: playing in Jerusalem. Oh, that's crazy. They have a basketball

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Speaker 3: Erusalem is in tel Aviv.

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Speaker 1: By the way, well, bitch, it was part all knows.

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Speaker 2: We went to the Tel Aviv park with the clubs, Like,

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Speaker 2: there's Maccabi, that's the big basketball team over there.

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Speaker 1: He played with a small team. Oh okay, yeah.

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Speaker 3: By the way, while we were speaking about Israel, I

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Speaker 1: It's been a really weird time on the internet, in

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Speaker 1: the news, and I.

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Speaker 3: Feel like, and I just posted this today, I am

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Speaker 3: so insulted at the amount of people that think just

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Speaker 3: because I was really I'm not pro Palestine. But it

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Speaker 3: how many people I know and follow that just won't

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Speaker 1: We were having dinner and we were talking about Palestine.

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Speaker 3: He was like, Bro, this is the sickest shit I've

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Speaker 3: The things that we were turning a blind eyes to

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Speaker 3: and I'm like, we why don't you talk about it?

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Speaker 3: And he said, think about how many black people I employ.

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Speaker 3: Are we all going to lose our jobs? Because I

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Speaker 2: I mean, well, then my question would be, this is

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Speaker 2: the first time you're bringing it up here. What kept

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Speaker 3: For I do just not a horrible Okay, I've been

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Speaker 1: People really DM me more about it than anything.

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Speaker 3: So that's probably why, because maybe they're just watching the show,

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Speaker 1: But then I realized that's.

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Speaker 3: The only why people say shit like this, like that

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Speaker 3: But no one's ever seen that on the news, and

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Speaker 3: I don't know. As much as I hate how much

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Speaker 3: there really is a greater good. Like last night, I

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Speaker 3: went to this place in New York called Medusa. It

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Speaker 3: He's kidding, fucking shit was great. But me and my

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Speaker 3: I even heard one girl said she hadn't seen then

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Speaker 3: other one in three years. And all y'all have done

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Speaker 2: I'm not super mad at it, because if y'all followed

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Speaker 2: me on the ground, I'm bitch. I'm I'm taking pictures

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Speaker 2: of my food now, like I want to try to

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Speaker 2: create that content only because what it's done for me

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Speaker 2: I appreciate. So when people constantly us up by the way,

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Speaker 2: if y'all't stop sending me pickle recipes, bitch, I like picklebacks.

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Speaker 1: That is it.

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Speaker 2: Stop sending me fucking pickle dip. Somebody sent me fucking

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Speaker 2: doctor Pepple with pickles in it the other day. I

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Speaker 2: a six ingredient salad that I eat every week and

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Speaker 2: I fucking love it. So to me, what I've gotten

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Speaker 2: from social media, I don't mind giving it back. I

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Speaker 2: listen to podcasts, I listen to podcasts. I love people

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Speaker 2: beats niggas hitting me when they come to New York

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Speaker 2: and being like, can you tell me where I should

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Speaker 2: go to eat or what sex clubs like? To me,

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Speaker 2: if the information is out there, then it's out there,

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Speaker 2: and I don't mind sharing it in that way.

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Speaker 1: But I personally people.

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Speaker 3: Just experiencing something in real life versus experiencing it because

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Speaker 2: A lot of these people when I went my coll

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Speaker 2: it's when you're in these spaces with people who may

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Speaker 2: Those are the people that you hang out with and

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Speaker 2: you create.

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Speaker 1: These these model I don't know people.

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Speaker 3: I think it's I think that people are doing things

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Speaker 3: it's Paris Fashion Week. I love partying out there during

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Speaker 3: I've been doing these HIV awareness dinners. They are specifically

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Speaker 3: However, there was nothing wrong ever women. I didn't say

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Speaker 3: Worried about women getting on prep, and they're not being

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Speaker 3: I only know about my fried raids because I had

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Speaker 1: It lowers it by I literally so wand one of

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Speaker 3: He was like, bro, like I have five packs of

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Speaker 3: I wanted to bring this up because it is a

441
00:19:03,240 --> 00:19:06,000
Speaker 3: group of women that started this from Orlando Koy and

442
00:19:06,080 --> 00:19:09,800
Speaker 3: Chiana and basically are inviting influencers to a dinner just

443
00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:11,960
Speaker 3: to document so that they can spread the word. And

444
00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:14,239
Speaker 3: it's like no gimmick, and it's all because we're not

445
00:19:14,280 --> 00:19:16,560
Speaker 3: talking about getting tested about HIV enough, so they're doing

446
00:19:16,560 --> 00:19:18,840
Speaker 3: one in New Orleans. I might look for some horrehive influencers,

447
00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:22,840
Speaker 3: but when I've learned how much these rates are going up. Now,

448
00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:25,960
Speaker 3: someone close to me had just had three tests too positive,

449
00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:28,399
Speaker 3: one undetected, so they're trying to figure out what's going on.

450
00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:32,240
Speaker 3: And it's just like I never thought we'd be in

451
00:19:32,280 --> 00:19:35,720
Speaker 3: the age where it would be amongst women like this.

452
00:19:35,840 --> 00:19:37,760
Speaker 1: Oh I did. And it's an ignorant thing to say.

453
00:19:37,840 --> 00:19:42,920
Speaker 2: But the way that no one uses condoms, uses them,

454
00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:46,360
Speaker 2: advocates for them, wants to shame me for using them

455
00:19:46,520 --> 00:19:49,800
Speaker 2: or liking condom dick for the fact that we as

456
00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:51,760
Speaker 2: black women, and this is not to blame black women,

457
00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:54,439
Speaker 2: but the fact that as black women, we still have

458
00:19:54,600 --> 00:19:57,600
Speaker 2: yet to create a safe space for our brothers and

459
00:19:57,680 --> 00:20:01,040
Speaker 2: black men to be where they want to be sexually.

460
00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:04,120
Speaker 2: This does not surprise me at all. Like in terms

461
00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:08,000
Speaker 2: of the DL and still the conversations around sex, they

462
00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:10,720
Speaker 2: have not seen to progress over the years and with

463
00:20:11,640 --> 00:20:15,040
Speaker 2: these with with social media, unfortunately, I feel like we

464
00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:18,359
Speaker 2: backtrack quite a bit with the shaming of dating, the

465
00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:20,960
Speaker 2: two the two hundred dollars date conversations, the.

466
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Speaker 1: Fifty to fifty does a man really like you if

467
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Speaker 1: he does this?

468
00:20:23,680 --> 00:20:28,639
Speaker 2: And also, I mean we are at the same time opening.

469
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Speaker 1: Conversations the world.

470
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Speaker 2: I don't know, I feel like we are also opening

471
00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:36,679
Speaker 2: the landscape within our own community to be open and

472
00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:38,400
Speaker 2: fluid and non monogamous.

473
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Speaker 3: To me, those are the safer communities. Like well, you

474
00:20:41,560 --> 00:20:44,520
Speaker 3: don't want to shade to anybody that was at this dinner. However,

475
00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:50,240
Speaker 3: twenty people at this dinner, I think two people hurt

476
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Speaker 3: a prep mandy like that knew that they could take

477
00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:56,439
Speaker 3: prep when or had like a test recently. When I

478
00:20:56,480 --> 00:20:59,120
Speaker 3: tell you, and we know this from all of these

479
00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:02,880
Speaker 3: years in a space, these hoes be getting tested.

480
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Speaker 2: All So that's the no. The sex worker hos get tested.

481
00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:07,720
Speaker 2: Let's be very clear.

482
00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:09,840
Speaker 1: I think lifestyle people are more common about.

483
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Speaker 2: But there's a lot of people that don't even identify

484
00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:14,560
Speaker 2: as lifestyle. They're just not monogamous. So the way that

485
00:21:15,080 --> 00:21:19,000
Speaker 2: men are not leaning forward into the truth or women

486
00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:22,120
Speaker 2: because let's be very clear. I ain't gonna say who,

487
00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:24,600
Speaker 2: but a lot of my friends that didn't been in relationships,

488
00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:28,080
Speaker 2: they don't all cheated on their niggas. So where the conversation. Yes,

489
00:21:28,400 --> 00:21:31,280
Speaker 2: about the sex workers. They are getting tested because they

490
00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:34,080
Speaker 2: have to for work. A lot of people who are

491
00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:39,480
Speaker 2: lifestyle or into casual sex, casual dating and lifestyle activities

492
00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:43,000
Speaker 2: aren't necessarily getting tested at the rates that they should either.

493
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Speaker 3: But I'm good at planned parenthood at least that are

494
00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:51,560
Speaker 3: having more frequent partners. This is a statistic from New

495
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Speaker 3: York State Plant Parentho. The people that are having sex

496
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Speaker 3: with more people in twelve months spans are getting tested

497
00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:02,640
Speaker 3: more frequently than the people that have had one partner

498
00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:03,440
Speaker 3: or less.

499
00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:05,720
Speaker 2: Right, and now one partner probably is cheating and bringing

500
00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:06,800
Speaker 2: something back that point.

501
00:22:06,680 --> 00:22:09,359
Speaker 3: Is that the people that are more promiscuits are probably

502
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Speaker 3: getting tested more.

503
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Speaker 1: I really truly do believe that.

504
00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:14,479
Speaker 3: Okay, like I think that you could believe at so

505
00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:17,080
Speaker 3: then I mean, okay, I mean.

506
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Speaker 1: This isn't even agree to disagree.

507
00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:21,359
Speaker 2: I would just say for you to be at an

508
00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:25,760
Speaker 2: HIV awareness dinner and only two people knowing about PREP

509
00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:29,080
Speaker 2: to me shows that there's still such a huge lack

510
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:33,840
Speaker 2: in sex education for things that could be preventive measures.

511
00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:35,479
Speaker 3: I think that's the reacto that I'm trying to make

512
00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:39,120
Speaker 3: up Andy. The HIV Dinner is created with black influencers,

513
00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:42,760
Speaker 3: Black women mainly, most of them are heterosexual, and my

514
00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:45,240
Speaker 3: point is none of these women are sex educators. All

515
00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:46,919
Speaker 3: of these women just have a platform that they can

516
00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:50,280
Speaker 3: share this on. When we're talking to people in the space,

517
00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:54,560
Speaker 3: they generally have a better idea surrounding sex ed places

518
00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:56,480
Speaker 3: to get tested. Their friends are just kind of a

519
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:58,960
Speaker 3: little more liberal and talking about this shit. These women

520
00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:02,320
Speaker 3: that are quote unquot more normal every day, they're not

521
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:05,159
Speaker 3: talking about this shit. People who listen to Horrible are

522
00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:07,040
Speaker 3: hearing some of these conversations for the first time.

523
00:23:07,119 --> 00:23:08,960
Speaker 1: Like those girls.

524
00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 3: As disappointed as I was, it was I was flying

525
00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:15,120
Speaker 3: to Atlanta actually for black effect. After that, I was like, yo,

526
00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:17,360
Speaker 3: I have to be so happy that all of these

527
00:23:17,359 --> 00:23:19,440
Speaker 3: girls have hundreds of thousand follows and they've just heard that.

528
00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 3: All of them were in shock at the race. All

529
00:23:21,359 --> 00:23:23,280
Speaker 3: of them couldn't believe it. Even me, I couldn't believe,

530
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:25,440
Speaker 3: you know, sixty two percent. I think it's Harris County

531
00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:28,919
Speaker 3: or whatever. But anyway, it's just like to know that

532
00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 3: the average person isn't hearing this, because where are you

533
00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:34,679
Speaker 3: getting this info from? If all your friends are married

534
00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:37,320
Speaker 3: or super chill or not going out too much, maybe

535
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:39,720
Speaker 3: they don't have as much of a sexually chromiscuous life,

536
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:42,840
Speaker 3: So y'all ain't talking about this shit, And then you

537
00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:45,680
Speaker 3: probably fucking want nigga, but he probably ain't only fucking

538
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 3: you not say niggas ain't shit like it is, literally

539
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:54,000
Speaker 3: women not taking advocacy over their own bodies.

540
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:57,239
Speaker 1: HIV is. There's no fault in getting it.

541
00:23:57,280 --> 00:23:59,680
Speaker 3: The only fault you have is not getting tested, because

542
00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:02,280
Speaker 3: if you can can't get on the meds, you're fucked.

543
00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:04,239
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like catching it early, being

544
00:24:04,280 --> 00:24:05,520
Speaker 1: sure you don't pass it down when you want to

545
00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 1: have kids.

546
00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:10,800
Speaker 3: Like I just really have been disappointed with even the

547
00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:14,320
Speaker 3: sex said conversations I've been having, Like I only have

548
00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:16,679
Speaker 3: it on horrible passing it on to my homegirls when

549
00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:18,719
Speaker 3: I'm on the phone, even when we have an episode

550
00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:20,679
Speaker 3: where we're like, damn and we learned something new. Am

551
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:23,439
Speaker 3: I taking it outside of this fucking room? And I

552
00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:25,520
Speaker 3: just think we all have to start doing this in

553
00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:28,679
Speaker 3: our own house and with our kids. And also I

554
00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:30,280
Speaker 3: just got tested. I'm gonna try to get tested on

555
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:31,480
Speaker 3: camera every quarter now.

556
00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:34,480
Speaker 1: I like that. Unless something goes wrong, then I'm gonna

557
00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:35,680
Speaker 1: be like no.

558
00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:37,840
Speaker 2: And if you guys, I want to hear more of

559
00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:42,600
Speaker 2: these conversations, check out periods. This it's very heavily leaning

560
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:47,080
Speaker 2: into the disparities within the healthcare community and kind of

561
00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:50,959
Speaker 2: what we experience as black and brown and underserved communities,

562
00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:53,919
Speaker 2: and so these conversations are very important to me.

563
00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:56,639
Speaker 1: And so yeah, make sure you check out periods. This

564
00:24:56,760 --> 00:24:58,600
Speaker 1: season two is back, and.

565
00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:01,119
Speaker 2: Y'all know I'm trying to make a goddamn tune to

566
00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:06,040
Speaker 2: literally make these more prevalent. And you know conversations that

567
00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:12,880
Speaker 2: are having. Now you brought it up, so we're gonna

568
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:15,760
Speaker 2: bring it up in the vanilla shit. Now, this was

569
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:19,960
Speaker 2: recently brought up in a wrap beef. But y'all male

570
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:23,080
Speaker 2: ozimpic users, now I get it. Some of y'all want

571
00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 2: to add some of y'all want to have yo sumba

572
00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:29,240
Speaker 2: bodies ready, so y'all tout the pen. However, there's a

573
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:32,879
Speaker 2: report of an awful sexual side effect, and it's saying

574
00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:36,399
Speaker 2: say goodbye to sex ozipic has been linked to a

575
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:40,000
Speaker 2: host of unfortunate side effects, from personality changes to weight

576
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:44,000
Speaker 2: gain after getting off the medic medication. Now, however, male

577
00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:47,199
Speaker 2: users of the ever popular weight loss remedy are claiming

578
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 2: to suffer from what could be the most mortifying symptom

579
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 2: yet a rectile dysfunction, as were baled by multiple posts

580
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 2: blowing up on Reddit.

581
00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:58,200
Speaker 3: I did want to add to this any more, hose

582
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:00,000
Speaker 3: and not being able to suck them as nuts?

583
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:02,600
Speaker 1: Crazy? What is Ross doing? What is the what is

584
00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:05,679
Speaker 1: the purpose of it? Yeah? But to me, if you

585
00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:07,920
Speaker 1: fuck Rick Ross is because you like big niggas.

586
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:11,720
Speaker 2: Like no, I'm saying, child aspection, you can't fuck Oh

587
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:14,240
Speaker 2: but oh yeah, but I don't know. I ain't gonna

588
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 2: say what I was about to say. I ain't gonna

589
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:18,560
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna go Okay, we all know I pe

590
00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:21,159
Speaker 2: will say what I'm about to say. But that is

591
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 2: actually what's been happening to mail users.

592
00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:26,439
Speaker 1: Women know.

593
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:31,639
Speaker 2: No, I was gonna say. The opposite has been shown

594
00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:35,200
Speaker 2: for women. So women on social media who have been

595
00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:42,080
Speaker 2: using ozempic are actually reporting that they're becoming pregnant easier.

596
00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:42,400
Speaker 1: Now.

597
00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's the fact that it's counterbalancing

598
00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:50,760
Speaker 2: their birth control or as much as the way we've

599
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 2: talked about Plan B not really working once you're above

600
00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 2: a certain weight. The same works for pregnancy. So if

601
00:26:57,520 --> 00:26:59,760
Speaker 2: you are trying to conceive with your partner and your

602
00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:02,400
Speaker 2: can considered obese, one of the things your doctor will

603
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:05,320
Speaker 2: probably tell you is to lose weight, because obesity is

604
00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:08,120
Speaker 2: one of the things that can keep you from getting pregnant.

605
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:11,800
Speaker 1: So it could just be with the fact that they're

606
00:27:11,800 --> 00:27:12,720
Speaker 1: losing weight, but it's.

607
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:15,080
Speaker 3: Women on birth control though. That's that's one of the

608
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:16,400
Speaker 3: things that they're saying about zoom.

609
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:18,920
Speaker 2: Yeah while they were taking and it does say following

610
00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:21,399
Speaker 2: obesity can raise the risk of heart disease and may

611
00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:24,159
Speaker 2: be linked to diabetes and cancer, and for women, it

612
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:25,480
Speaker 2: could also impact fertility.

613
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:28,360
Speaker 3: I'm alos getting pressant with the parts control. I'm gonna

614
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:30,600
Speaker 3: tell you right now, if I got pregnant, I'm about

615
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:33,120
Speaker 3: to start the patch. I've just had too many months

616
00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:36,680
Speaker 3: of being scared, like literally every month it's like this,

617
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:39,639
Speaker 3: and I don't know, I can't kind of.

618
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:41,680
Speaker 1: Dick y'all be asking, oh my god, but don't it

619
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:42,160
Speaker 1: feel better?

620
00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:45,040
Speaker 3: Wrong, nigga, it feel better knowing that my period gonna

621
00:27:45,040 --> 00:27:46,800
Speaker 3: come on when it says it's gonna come on. Yeah,

622
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:48,360
Speaker 3: but you didn't do that when you had a boyfriend,

623
00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 3: did you. There was another reason why I didn't have

624
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 3: to worry about that. Oh okay, I mean but the

625
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:55,560
Speaker 3: thing I didn't have to worry about that with my ex.

626
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:58,359
Speaker 3: But I ain't gonna hold you like moving forward, like

627
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:01,440
Speaker 3: whether I'm even with somebody or not. Like I'm very

628
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 3: adamant that I do not want birth control and I

629
00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:05,959
Speaker 3: won't get on it, and I don't want a baby,

630
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:09,320
Speaker 3: so I would like to talk about him getting snipped,

631
00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 3: and I would love a nigga who's already snipped, Like

632
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:16,479
Speaker 3: that's my goal. Like if you have enough kids, my conversation.

633
00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:18,160
Speaker 2: You haven't enough, because like one of the guys I'm

634
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:20,639
Speaker 2: talking to is poor kids, and I'm fine with him

635
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 2: having four kids. If you don't want any more, because

636
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:24,720
Speaker 2: you're happy with that and I'm happy with it, that

637
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:27,520
Speaker 2: would be my conversation before just fucking wrong, Like and

638
00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:28,560
Speaker 2: I'm not getting on birth control.

639
00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:31,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think in my situation, like we want kids

640
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:33,880
Speaker 3: honestly two or three years bitch. My mom literally said

641
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:35,480
Speaker 3: to him the other day, like don't get her pregnant

642
00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 3: before the book tour. I didn't get her pregnant before

643
00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:37,879
Speaker 3: the book tour, and.

644
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 1: I'm like, y'all want me to be Ali won't.

645
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:44,640
Speaker 3: But anyway, basically, I was just like, yo, I really

646
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 3: want to get on birth control. He's like, no, let's

647
00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:49,440
Speaker 3: just check your basil type andture like please, Like, bitch.

648
00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 2: Why doesn't he want you on birth control? Because as

649
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:53,800
Speaker 2: I've never heard, oh, okay.

650
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 3: Most men be like, you want the pill, the shot,

651
00:28:57,160 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 3: not pig know that's not the you know, the greatest.

652
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:03,480
Speaker 3: But I will say this, considering I'm trying to shrink

653
00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 3: my fibroids, it's seeming like birth control could possibly be

654
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 3: a good option for getting my hormones in check. But yeah,

655
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 3: I've been on birth control in the years, maybe ten years.

656
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 3: Like I was on the Depot shot and I got

657
00:29:14,800 --> 00:29:20,000
Speaker 3: really fat. So I'm scared because me with weight on

658
00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:21,400
Speaker 3: a bottle, I literally hot.

659
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:24,840
Speaker 2: I literally just had to ask if not in the

660
00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 2: depot shot is even still around? It is like, I

661
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:30,840
Speaker 2: none of my friends have I heard like are on depot.

662
00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:33,000
Speaker 2: I don't even hear it talked about it anymore. But

663
00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:36,800
Speaker 2: I got on the shot thing I only took two shots.

664
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 2: All I know is I didn't have a fucking period

665
00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:40,960
Speaker 2: for a year, and then when that shit came back,

666
00:29:41,040 --> 00:29:42,480
Speaker 2: I bled for like a month and a half.

667
00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 1: I was like, this is raggedy, this is super right.

668
00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:49,680
Speaker 2: That's why you know, I finally am happy with my

669
00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:53,520
Speaker 2: with my skin, with my weight, with everything. There's no

670
00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:56,680
Speaker 2: way I'm gonna let just for the satisfaction of a

671
00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:58,960
Speaker 2: nigga to bust up Emmy, for me to have to

672
00:29:59,000 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 2: deal with that shit again, you know.

673
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 3: I mean, well, I don't really feel like that's the

674
00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:04,880
Speaker 3: case for me, Like, no, that that was just for

675
00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:07,640
Speaker 3: my That's why, Yeah, I don't. I think that a

676
00:30:07,680 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 3: lot of people do think the pill is selfish for

677
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:13,240
Speaker 3: men's part, But like, you gotta have some autonomy over

678
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:16,320
Speaker 3: yourself if you know that, Like it may be super

679
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:18,160
Speaker 3: difficult for you to always grab a condom or the

680
00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:21,400
Speaker 3: frequency of your sex. Like it's tough when you're when

681
00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:23,360
Speaker 3: you're like in it all the time every day. I

682
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 3: got the couples that live together, I told y'all, I

683
00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:26,920
Speaker 3: don't know if it was on Patreon and one of

684
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:30,720
Speaker 3: them last motherfucking solos, Baby, I know what nigga.

685
00:30:31,160 --> 00:30:33,120
Speaker 1: Niggas is coming over now, and I know I'm judged.

686
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:36,640
Speaker 2: I have condoms in my bookshelf in the kitchen and

687
00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:38,760
Speaker 2: my bottom drawer in my luggage.

688
00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 1: That's where I felt, I know too for new niggas.

689
00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:44,600
Speaker 2: Like so I'm casually dating, I'm only speaking from someone

690
00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:47,000
Speaker 2: who's casually dating, who does not want to be on

691
00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:50,000
Speaker 2: birth control, who also believes that none of these niggas

692
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:52,120
Speaker 2: does are wrong. Cooch, I can only speak from a

693
00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 2: single casual sex person right now because I'm not in

694
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:57,440
Speaker 2: a relationship speaking of the whole dirt for this week

695
00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 2: is about casual fucking hookups now, Like we talked about

696
00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:03,680
Speaker 2: the condoms, and I would like to ask you Wolf

697
00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:07,840
Speaker 2: back in your day, how you prepared for casual sex.

698
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 2: This one comes from GQ magazine, and it's telling you

699
00:31:12,080 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 2: to be prepared and not prepared with your pH not

700
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:18,480
Speaker 2: prepared with any of those things, but prepared with your place.

701
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:22,960
Speaker 2: If you're in the market for casual hookups, always operate

702
00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:25,760
Speaker 2: under the assumption that you too will be heading back

703
00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:28,120
Speaker 2: to your place at the end of the night, which

704
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:29,080
Speaker 2: is what I nigga.

705
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 1: I will I will know if a nigga's coming over

706
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:32,280
Speaker 1: before the night.

707
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:36,120
Speaker 2: Start by if my house is presentable or not. Okay, period,

708
00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 2: it gotta be clean first.

709
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 1: That's the metric. As the metric, I know.

710
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:42,440
Speaker 2: I might get some dick if my house is clean,

711
00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:45,440
Speaker 2: like my cleaner just left, I'm going out. I may

712
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 2: be able to have a nigga come over tonight. So

713
00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:51,600
Speaker 2: even though you'll inevitably end up staying elsewhere from time

714
00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:54,840
Speaker 2: to time, casualness is something that you should exude through

715
00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:58,480
Speaker 2: your attitude, not your apartment's clonliness. So best to just

716
00:31:58,560 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 2: be prepared. Own more than one towel, own at least

717
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:07,960
Speaker 2: as many pillows as sex participants, which is great. I

718
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 2: ain't gonna hold you how many times Habituals in her

719
00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:13,400
Speaker 2: twenties went over and Nigga had one limp ass pillow. Nigga,

720
00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 2: you better have at least two. And if you want

721
00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:18,640
Speaker 2: a three someome, you need three pillows. The amenities don't

722
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,280
Speaker 2: need to be expensive or luxurious, because you're not opening

723
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 2: a spa, but you should definitely want your guests to

724
00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:26,440
Speaker 2: feel comfortable. Perhaps the most important thing to have on

725
00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 2: hand condoms. You're definitely going to need a stash of those.

726
00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 2: None of this hemming and hawing about how it feels

727
00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:35,600
Speaker 2: better without one. If that's you, then do yourself a

728
00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 2: favor and buy some better ones. Buy seventeen different kinds

729
00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 2: so you can switch it up every night if you're

730
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 2: having casual sex, if you're having casual sex, except that

731
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:45,920
Speaker 2: condoms will always be part of the equation.

732
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:49,200
Speaker 1: I wanted to add to this where one of.

733
00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:53,360
Speaker 2: My casual partners's he maybe has too much casual sex.

734
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 2: He has had extra toothbrushes for me every time I

735
00:32:56,480 --> 00:32:59,160
Speaker 2: went to his house and he has been like, would

736
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:01,480
Speaker 2: you like some sweat pants? I have left with sweatpants

737
00:33:01,520 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 2: and a T shirt each time that he has not

738
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 2: asked for ever.

739
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:06,800
Speaker 1: Again. Yes, he's rich, his fun and I'm like, damn,

740
00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:09,760
Speaker 1: I'm really walking around and he's tall as fun, six seven,

741
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 1: six eighth. Let's just guess he has a deal with

742
00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:12,720
Speaker 1: whoever sweatpants are.

743
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 2: No, I'm not gonna say what they had on them,

744
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 2: because maybe that is possible that is the case.

745
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:19,440
Speaker 1: But no, they were both different.

746
00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:22,520
Speaker 3: One was clear, the other had that word he's six

747
00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:25,640
Speaker 3: seven and that's tall or whatever he paying anymore, well

748
00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 3: he gave.

749
00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:29,080
Speaker 2: I've been there twice and he's given me clothes to

750
00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:31,920
Speaker 2: leave with and he is giving a movie and he

751
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:34,200
Speaker 2: has given me twoth brushes. There is a movie where

752
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 2: this bitch opened up and he had all of that.

753
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 1: No, no, no, there's a movie where he gave her

754
00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:41,000
Speaker 1: like a to go back.

755
00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:43,880
Speaker 2: Yeah closed, yeah, it was that. It was with some

756
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:47,680
Speaker 2: white people. It was with white people, and he said

757
00:33:47,680 --> 00:33:49,560
Speaker 2: thank you for coming over, and he gave her the

758
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 2: bag to go.

759
00:33:50,320 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 3: Honestly though, with the tooth brushes, I do have a

760
00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 3: pack of twenty.

761
00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 1: I'm one of those people that changes every week. Yeah

762
00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 1: I can't, and I have a lot of friends that

763
00:33:58,440 --> 00:33:59,240
Speaker 1: come over and leave it.

764
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:02,120
Speaker 3: Also, like pro tip if you want to be a

765
00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 3: little social justice wory like me, it works for two things.

766
00:34:05,760 --> 00:34:08,680
Speaker 3: Every time I leave a hotel, I always order a

767
00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:10,960
Speaker 3: bunch of toothbrushes up to the room, a bunch of

768
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:12,959
Speaker 3: soaps and stuff like that, and I give it away

769
00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:15,239
Speaker 3: to homeless people. But I also keep the toothbrushes fro

770
00:34:15,239 --> 00:34:19,000
Speaker 3: when people come over, and like, I think the best

771
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:23,440
Speaker 3: things to have in your home to make someone feel cozy,

772
00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:28,799
Speaker 3: especially men listening good sheets. Girls definitely want to feel

773
00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:30,000
Speaker 3: cozy in your home.

774
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:32,440
Speaker 2: And make it their bad, probably because they don't want

775
00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 2: bitches to get too comfortable.

776
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:36,399
Speaker 3: No, niggas, just don't be thinking about niggas. Don't give

777
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:38,799
Speaker 3: a fuck about danotype is. Go on to Target and

778
00:34:38,840 --> 00:34:43,160
Speaker 3: be like queen sheets thirty two or forty two. I'm

779
00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:45,600
Speaker 3: gonna go with thirty two, you know, like thirty two dollars.

780
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:47,560
Speaker 3: So I think you've got to have some good sheets,

781
00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 3: some nice candles in your home to kind of set

782
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 3: the tone for sure. Don't make the space junkie, you

783
00:34:54,600 --> 00:34:56,719
Speaker 3: know what I mean. I think, like when it comes

784
00:34:56,760 --> 00:34:59,000
Speaker 3: to cleanliness for men and sometimes just leaving it all

785
00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 3: over the place, or have good closet that you could stash.

786
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:06,359
Speaker 3: I would say toothbrushes. I don't wipes now, you don't have.

787
00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:07,080
Speaker 1: To get makeup wipes.

788
00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:08,319
Speaker 3: If you don't want to look like a true ho,

789
00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:10,560
Speaker 3: you just have to get at least a little Huggies,

790
00:35:10,560 --> 00:35:12,080
Speaker 3: like some booty wipe so that she could take her

791
00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:15,160
Speaker 3: makeup off and keep your cleating sheets for.

792
00:35:15,080 --> 00:35:18,480
Speaker 1: The make I mean, if I'm at someone's house like

793
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 1: my house, no extra, Yeah, my.

794
00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:24,160
Speaker 2: Makeup coming on your pillow cases, you better wash them,

795
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:26,839
Speaker 2: bitches for real. You don't see your makeup off with Huggies. No,

796
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:30,239
Speaker 2: I'd rather sleep with my makeup. Oh, I'm sleeping with

797
00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 2: my makeup on and it's getting all over your your

798
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:35,880
Speaker 2: your your dick, your stomach, your sheet, your pillowcases.

799
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:38,520
Speaker 3: My makeup doesn't look good on my face in the morning.

800
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:40,680
Speaker 3: I'd rather just take it off when you see that,

801
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:42,840
Speaker 3: not with no huggies though you don't see you nigga.

802
00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 3: Having wipes is a little too prepared, though, because you

803
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:48,560
Speaker 3: should have like to take off makeup.

804
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. No, that's why I said it

805
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 1: has to be.

806
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:53,600
Speaker 2: I'm not using a booty wipe on my face because

807
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:55,239
Speaker 2: the booty wipe not going on my face.

808
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:57,719
Speaker 1: It's not made for the face. I've used my face

809
00:35:57,760 --> 00:35:59,799
Speaker 1: for sure. Oh yeah, no, baby, Like I said, I

810
00:35:59,800 --> 00:36:00,600
Speaker 1: got skin right.

811
00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:02,719
Speaker 2: If I'm finna put booty wipes on my face, I

812
00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:05,200
Speaker 2: may as well get birth control. Like, I don't feel

813
00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:06,800
Speaker 2: like I'm gonna be able to control my skill with

814
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:07,839
Speaker 2: the booty whites to the face.

815
00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:09,439
Speaker 1: Wait, maybe have a cue cover smell.

816
00:36:10,120 --> 00:36:12,319
Speaker 2: I definitely don't want nothing since it on my face. Oh,

817
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 2: I don't do nothing with sense.

818
00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:16,480
Speaker 1: Oh oh I'm there. I just learned, you know what

819
00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:18,400
Speaker 1: I mean. I just learned my little facial routine.

820
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 3: Baby, I think, what do you think the best things

821
00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:23,799
Speaker 3: you've found in a nigga's house where like the most

822
00:36:23,800 --> 00:36:24,640
Speaker 3: comfortable you've been.

823
00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:25,840
Speaker 1: What was their house like.

824
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 2: Rich big where I was like, oh, I want to

825
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:33,880
Speaker 2: live here, Like that's it like to me?

826
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:36,200
Speaker 1: Like a really nice clean house.

827
00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:39,319
Speaker 2: Like to me, the cleanliness, especially for men who live

828
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:40,759
Speaker 2: by themselves, is important to me.

829
00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:42,880
Speaker 1: It's funny because.

830
00:36:42,640 --> 00:36:45,680
Speaker 2: I just came across like this, this skit that this

831
00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:48,880
Speaker 2: guy said, I I want a nigga's house to be

832
00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:51,759
Speaker 2: so clean and so nice. I'm looking under the rug

833
00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 2: asking where is she? Where the bitch at Where the

834
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:56,440
Speaker 2: bitch that designed this shit she in the closet?

835
00:36:56,480 --> 00:36:56,600
Speaker 1: Oh?

836
00:36:56,640 --> 00:37:00,440
Speaker 2: You live here with a bitch, dude. I want nigga's

837
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:02,319
Speaker 2: house that looked like it got to touch a bitch.

838
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:05,360
Speaker 2: That's what I want.

839
00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 1: You many niggas with the plants now.

840
00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:09,400
Speaker 2: Be like I need I need to I need to

841
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:11,919
Speaker 2: touch a bitch and I needed to smell good.

842
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:14,280
Speaker 1: I mean in terms of like all of.

843
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:17,560
Speaker 2: The necessities after a one night stand or just a

844
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:19,280
Speaker 2: night out and having fun.

845
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:19,680
Speaker 1: Mm hm.

846
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:23,400
Speaker 2: To me, when I'm provided with the toothbrush and the

847
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:26,759
Speaker 2: sweatpants and the T shirt and the ride home or

848
00:37:27,280 --> 00:37:30,440
Speaker 2: it's like, okay, you did this a lot. Okay, but

849
00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:33,520
Speaker 2: it was fun what I do. In the back of

850
00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:35,480
Speaker 2: my head, I'm like, I'm judging you because I'm like, oh,

851
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 2: you got a routine, Nicks.

852
00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:37,080
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

853
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:39,840
Speaker 2: Udge, I don't judge, not loud, but I know you

854
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:42,840
Speaker 2: got a routine. The same way when niggas see I

855
00:37:42,840 --> 00:37:45,320
Speaker 2: got condoms stored in every inch of my house.

856
00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:48,239
Speaker 1: You I know that. I know in the back of

857
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 1: your head, like damn, at least I know she got them.

858
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:56,720
Speaker 3: But also so like the other thing too. When actually

859
00:37:56,719 --> 00:38:00,440
Speaker 3: one of my homeboys said it recently. Uh, I was

860
00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 3: in La I think I had a house guest or something,

861
00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:06,759
Speaker 3: whatever it was. I was just like, bro, I don't

862
00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 3: feel like going home. He's like, go to my crib.

863
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:11,719
Speaker 3: I have a door code. He was like, just just

864
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:13,400
Speaker 3: go in, like you're in the area anyway. I was

865
00:38:13,400 --> 00:38:14,120
Speaker 3: in Santa Mona, CoA.

866
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:15,839
Speaker 1: I was like, no, no, no, I'm good.

867
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:17,239
Speaker 3: He's like, no, no, no, I want you to see why

868
00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:19,840
Speaker 3: these holes can't leave my crib. My shit cozy as fuck, nigga,

869
00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:24,760
Speaker 3: go look when inside his crib, I was like, Okay,

870
00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 3: I walk in The first thing I noticed in the

871
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 3: his living rooms on the front and he's got the

872
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 3: Marshall speaker like a little hotel. The blankets were cozy

873
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 3: and heavy and the L shaped sectional so you could

874
00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:42,880
Speaker 3: lay lay up together in the fridge. He had to

875
00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 3: right shit, and I was like, oh, you literally are

876
00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:48,839
Speaker 3: catering your home for people. Like when you know how

877
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:51,759
Speaker 3: to host, that's what makes a great time. Making sure

878
00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 3: you can practice for your friends. It'll be the same.

879
00:38:54,040 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 3: Like I'm telling you, my man never want to leave

880
00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:57,759
Speaker 3: my house. That nigga really be coming over like what

881
00:38:57,800 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 3: we gonna eat? Like you know, it's really because I

882
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:02,160
Speaker 3: know I'm setting the vibe and I do the same

883
00:39:02,200 --> 00:39:02,960
Speaker 3: when friends come over.

884
00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:06,319
Speaker 2: So fellas you get that ship down. I got I

885
00:39:06,320 --> 00:39:09,200
Speaker 2: gotta chill with my hosting. I gotta make sure I

886
00:39:09,320 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 2: was well. I wasn't prepared the last time this nigga

887
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 2: came over. So I'm dating someone who doesn't drink and

888
00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:18,720
Speaker 2: dating someone and fucking him who drinks a lot.

889
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:21,400
Speaker 1: And so when he comes over, what's dight drinking?

890
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:24,560
Speaker 2: Oh bitch, all I know is, ladies, I'm gonna tell

891
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 2: you how to be prepared. Make sure you have the

892
00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:30,279
Speaker 2: cheap version of a bottle if you had the expensive shits, because, bitch,

893
00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 2: the fact that we had to get to where we

894
00:39:31,719 --> 00:39:33,840
Speaker 2: killed a bottle of nineteen forty two nigga, this was

895
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 2: for like yourself.

896
00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 3: Well it was halfway we killed it, oh bitch and died.

897
00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 3: If it was half a bottle, that's not bad.

898
00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:43,279
Speaker 2: It's just me and him, mind you. This was after

899
00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:45,839
Speaker 2: we already had we killed the rest. I only had

900
00:39:45,880 --> 00:39:48,400
Speaker 2: like this much Tito's left, so I was like, okay,

901
00:39:48,440 --> 00:39:52,000
Speaker 2: well we can't go brown bitch. And I was like, damn,

902
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:53,239
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna hold you next time.

903
00:39:53,280 --> 00:39:58,360
Speaker 1: He come. I got the malageral sitting up there. You

904
00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:00,759
Speaker 1: ain't killing my nineteen man.

905
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:03,440
Speaker 3: He said that the nigga sent me six bottles, and

906
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:05,880
Speaker 3: I don't know, someone must have randomly. I don't know

907
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:07,319
Speaker 3: if you've ever gotten this, Like you're just part of

908
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:09,120
Speaker 3: like a seating package. You're like, why do I keep

909
00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:11,840
Speaker 3: getting suff from these people? I got six bottles in

910
00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:14,279
Speaker 3: the lagress, and I said to myself, they must be

911
00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:15,560
Speaker 3: having a hard time.

912
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 1: Well you said this.

913
00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 2: What's crazy is it kind of looked like the Knight

914
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:20,160
Speaker 2: tea forty two bottle.

915
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:23,280
Speaker 1: So it's long, it's tall as brown and skinny.

916
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:25,840
Speaker 2: So all I know is I was like, this nigga

917
00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 2: ain't coming over and killing another one of my expensive

918
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 2: ass bottles.

919
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:32,279
Speaker 1: No more. Then my other nigga came over, So why

920
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:33,760
Speaker 1: don't you require him to bring a bottle.

921
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:35,640
Speaker 2: I mean, he could bring if he brings the nineteen

922
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:37,359
Speaker 2: forty two, we could kill the nineteen forty two. But

923
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:40,480
Speaker 2: I also have a bar, like I constantly bring people over.

924
00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:42,959
Speaker 2: So then my other nigga came over not too long ago,

925
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:43,920
Speaker 2: and he's.

926
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:46,040
Speaker 1: Looking at the bar number one, two three where no.

927
00:40:46,160 --> 00:40:47,920
Speaker 2: So this is one of my old niggas who just

928
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:49,799
Speaker 2: came in town. He flew here just to take me

929
00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 2: to lunch. But he met me at my house and

930
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:53,359
Speaker 2: then we went to go to lunch. And so when

931
00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:55,359
Speaker 2: he came over, this is one of my old heads.

932
00:40:55,360 --> 00:40:56,880
Speaker 2: He flew to take you to lunch for fuck, he

933
00:40:56,920 --> 00:40:59,319
Speaker 2: flew to take me to lunch. Hit some Tito spell.

934
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:02,120
Speaker 2: We went and had acting and tea. He literally flew here,

935
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:03,720
Speaker 2: landed at eleven, left a seven.

936
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:07,239
Speaker 1: He killed it. It fun flew here for lunch.

937
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 2: I'll say off air the tea you had to share

938
00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:13,280
Speaker 2: because he's back on the roster. Anyways, So he came

939
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:16,799
Speaker 2: and literally he's he's what tea you got to share that?

940
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:17,279
Speaker 1: You can't say?

941
00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:17,320
Speaker 3: It?

942
00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:20,400
Speaker 2: Said, oh no, baby, he planned it like he planned,

943
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:22,200
Speaker 2: I want to come and take you to lunch, and

944
00:41:22,200 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 2: then booked a fucking t rope to give me the tea.

945
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 1: Oh bitch, we ate caviar.

946
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:29,360
Speaker 3: He couldn't taided on the phone. He probably could have,

947
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:31,160
Speaker 3: but he wanted to see my face. Bitch, I get

948
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:33,560
Speaker 3: these niggas. I get the niggas going. The nigga flew

949
00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 3: you to take me to lunch.

950
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:38,759
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, So he came, mind you. I feel so

951
00:41:38,880 --> 00:41:41,480
Speaker 2: bad because I had to say sorry. He bought me

952
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:45,560
Speaker 2: one of those like three hundred dollars cocktail makers when

953
00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:48,600
Speaker 2: I first moved into the apartment. Bitch, everything's still in

954
00:41:48,640 --> 00:41:50,919
Speaker 2: the box. It's on my bar, but I have yet

955
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:53,399
Speaker 2: to use it, and so here go him. It's okay,

956
00:41:53,480 --> 00:41:57,240
Speaker 2: I bought another bitch one and she uses it. Great, okay, Patty,

957
00:41:57,680 --> 00:41:58,960
Speaker 2: But this is how we talk to each other, so

958
00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:00,920
Speaker 2: it's whatever, We're good. She used it, Maybe I'll use

959
00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:03,279
Speaker 2: it in my next apartment. So he's looking at my

960
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:06,439
Speaker 2: bar and he's letting me know he knows I'm fucking

961
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:09,280
Speaker 2: with hood niggas. And I said, I don't like the judgment.

962
00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:11,920
Speaker 2: Why do you think I'm fucking with hood niggas? And

963
00:42:12,000 --> 00:42:16,200
Speaker 2: he literally is like, where's the McAllen? Where's the He

964
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 2: starts naming all like the highest scotches and whiskeys. I

965
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 2: was like, nigga, I got Bourbon, I got I got

966
00:42:22,120 --> 00:42:24,320
Speaker 2: bullet rye and I got Jack Daniels.

967
00:42:24,480 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 1: That ain't no nah, And so literally he gave me

968
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 1: the list.

969
00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:30,080
Speaker 2: He was like, if you're gonna have gentlemen over of

970
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:33,120
Speaker 2: higher stature, you should maybe have some of this at

971
00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:33,719
Speaker 2: your he said, but.

972
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:35,440
Speaker 1: I guess you won't be unless I come back for lunch.

973
00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:37,040
Speaker 2: You know, it's okay, And then I made him take

974
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 2: a shot. We killed our my costume eagles bottle. But yeah, anyways,

975
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 2: those are my dating right now. I'm learning it's fun?

976
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:48,160
Speaker 1: Is it old? And I feel like the older I get,

977
00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:49,400
Speaker 1: the more I'm like, oh, I'll.

978
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:52,719
Speaker 2: Turn out to what is old to us? Now we're

979
00:42:52,719 --> 00:42:53,320
Speaker 2: in her thirties.

980
00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:55,760
Speaker 3: What is considered old because he's I mean sorry older,

981
00:42:56,160 --> 00:43:01,160
Speaker 3: like because the niggas like drinking, younges will drink cheap shit.

982
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:03,719
Speaker 3: My homegirls is not about to kill a fucking cheap

983
00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:06,239
Speaker 3: ass bottle of nothing because they know we were gonna

984
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 3: get sick the next.

985
00:43:06,920 --> 00:43:09,279
Speaker 1: No, No, I don't have Aristotle in my fucking house.

986
00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:10,400
Speaker 1: But I haven't.

987
00:43:10,719 --> 00:43:16,759
Speaker 2: It's a look, we know, look those Aristotle Aristotle's like

988
00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:19,839
Speaker 2: the ship that uh they poured you at.

989
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:21,759
Speaker 1: Like if you go to a college party, like a

990
00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:22,680
Speaker 1: Pinnacle vodka.

991
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:25,759
Speaker 2: No, it's worth the Pinnacle. It's the cover is like

992
00:43:25,920 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 2: red redis shit.

993
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:29,799
Speaker 1: Y'all have all drank dave.

994
00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:34,160
Speaker 3: I know you know this one the worst liquor I

995
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:38,400
Speaker 3: would say mine was Pinnacle Coconut. I remember that hangover.

996
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:42,399
Speaker 3: I thought I was gonna die. They said that an

997
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:44,959
Speaker 3: ivy costs two fifty. I was broke at the time,

998
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:47,400
Speaker 3: so I couldn't have someone come over. I walked to

999
00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:51,280
Speaker 3: an urgent care for the ivy. It wasn't enough, bitch,

1000
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:53,280
Speaker 3: you know how I know it was bad. I didn't

1001
00:43:53,280 --> 00:43:54,600
Speaker 3: only throw up, I had diarrhea.

1002
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:57,200
Speaker 1: Bitch, you ever been dog? It was coming out.

1003
00:43:57,280 --> 00:44:01,040
Speaker 2: I was definitely liquor poisoning from Pinnacle because I'm like,

1004
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:03,399
Speaker 2: we all know Hennessy gonna make cream.

1005
00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:04,680
Speaker 1: It wasn't coconut, it was that whip cream.

1006
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 2: For the whip cream, because Hennessy gonna make you shit

1007
00:44:07,040 --> 00:44:10,439
Speaker 2: the next day for sure, Like Nigga, I don't even

1008
00:44:11,000 --> 00:44:11,640
Speaker 2: I can't.

1009
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 1: Even smell Hennessy.

1010
00:44:12,960 --> 00:44:15,759
Speaker 2: Now, if y'all are over thirty, still giving Hennessy a

1011
00:44:15,920 --> 00:44:18,880
Speaker 2: try to get drunk and lit. Baby, I'll remember the

1012
00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 2: heney dick I was getting. Don't want it, it's not good.

1013
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:24,399
Speaker 2: And then that ship in the morning. Bro, You when

1014
00:44:24,440 --> 00:44:27,839
Speaker 2: you ship out that Hennessy, it's almost embarrassing, like, oh,

1015
00:44:27,880 --> 00:44:29,719
Speaker 2: a nigga was just inside of me and this is

1016
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:30,520
Speaker 2: what's coming out.

1017
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:35,240
Speaker 1: Oh my god, y'all remember the four logo feelings?

1018
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:39,719
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, no, bro, they came back. Hold on, I

1019
00:44:39,719 --> 00:44:42,520
Speaker 3: don't never ever tried this, but I tried this for

1020
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:42,960
Speaker 3: the first time.

1021
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:43,839
Speaker 1: I know if I brought it up.

1022
00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:47,440
Speaker 3: I went to Malta for DLT last year and we

1023
00:44:47,480 --> 00:44:50,000
Speaker 3: was hanging with these fucking crazy yarro hoes. They were

1024
00:44:50,040 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 3: black as were and the party is black. And this

1025
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:56,480
Speaker 3: girl brought out the nicotine that you put in your cheek.

1026
00:44:56,600 --> 00:45:00,440
Speaker 3: Y'all ever seen this and it looks like powder. No,

1027
00:45:00,440 --> 00:45:01,920
Speaker 3: no one's ever heard something. It's called snuff.

1028
00:45:02,239 --> 00:45:03,160
Speaker 1: Oh.

1029
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:05,719
Speaker 3: You basically put it in your lip and you just

1030
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:07,560
Speaker 3: let us sit there right, and like they get fucked

1031
00:45:07,640 --> 00:45:09,160
Speaker 3: up like this.

1032
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:13,239
Speaker 1: This was probably the worst I had ever felt.

1033
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:15,400
Speaker 3: And this is something they all like get into, like

1034
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:17,440
Speaker 3: in Europe because they don't really got shit else to do.

1035
00:45:17,520 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 1: And apparently young teenagers do it too. No they were black, but.

1036
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:24,719
Speaker 3: Like even when we were in London just now was

1037
00:45:24,719 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 3: at Shortage House, I saw the black people doing it too.

1038
00:45:26,640 --> 00:45:28,680
Speaker 1: They put it right here in the cheek. Dog.

1039
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 3: When I tell you something, it felt like a four loco.

1040
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:33,520
Speaker 3: I was spinning left right left, mind you, Me and

1041
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 3: my homeboy in a car, these four bitches.

1042
00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:36,320
Speaker 1: He's like, bro, I'm gonna throw up on them. I

1043
00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:38,640
Speaker 1: don't know what we're gonna do. I'm telling you the

1044
00:45:38,800 --> 00:45:41,520
Speaker 1: cheap ways to get fucked up. I don't want it anymore.

1045
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:44,880
Speaker 1: I don't want it. I'd rather drink Zephyr Hill's all

1046
00:45:44,960 --> 00:45:45,239
Speaker 1: night time.

1047
00:45:45,960 --> 00:45:48,239
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie when I go to like the

1048
00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:51,920
Speaker 2: happy Hours and like the Taco Tuesdays and they have

1049
00:45:52,160 --> 00:45:54,800
Speaker 2: just tequila vodka and it's just tequila.

1050
00:45:55,000 --> 00:45:57,319
Speaker 1: They can't all like that. No, no, no, no, give me.

1051
00:45:58,040 --> 00:46:01,560
Speaker 2: And what's crazy is Tito's should be like it's you

1052
00:46:01,600 --> 00:46:10,120
Speaker 2: ever had a y It's migosh, no, it's good.

1053
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:10,920
Speaker 1: Got no.

1054
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:13,319
Speaker 2: I know when they be trying to tell me it's

1055
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:15,799
Speaker 2: just as good as no bitch, then you wouldn't be

1056
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:17,359
Speaker 2: selling it for four dollars.

1057
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:18,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, whatn't.

1058
00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 3: I had a Jagermeister shot when I was in London.

1059
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 3: I thought it was Hennessy and there's.

1060
00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:30,360
Speaker 2: No way you how do you think Jaeger smells like

1061
00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 2: like peppermint?

1062
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:35,239
Speaker 3: Well, the trap niggas had Fantasy on the table and

1063
00:46:35,280 --> 00:46:36,680
Speaker 3: I know they just bought a bunch of shots for

1064
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:39,320
Speaker 3: everybody to take, and I was like, is this the repertoire?

1065
00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 1: I can't do it.

1066
00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:43,120
Speaker 3: And I'll tell you right now. I love to be

1067
00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:45,000
Speaker 3: a party girl, but I have my limits. I am

1068
00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:47,840
Speaker 3: getting older and I have limits. One of my limits

1069
00:46:47,920 --> 00:46:50,719
Speaker 3: is congestion in the club. I could be having the

1070
00:46:50,760 --> 00:46:53,799
Speaker 3: best time and I'm going to go. I don't care

1071
00:46:54,000 --> 00:46:56,680
Speaker 3: how fucking lit that I'm a piano is piano piano

1072
00:46:56,840 --> 00:46:58,239
Speaker 3: goes by out.

1073
00:46:58,480 --> 00:47:01,200
Speaker 2: I went to DC. They were drinking, they were we

1074
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:03,560
Speaker 2: were in the VIP. They were drinking Hennessy. I said,

1075
00:47:03,600 --> 00:47:05,880
Speaker 2: absolutely not and then there was a bar and in

1076
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:08,840
Speaker 2: the VIP hold on. The VIP didn't even have club soda.

1077
00:47:09,520 --> 00:47:11,120
Speaker 2: I said, I'm not doing juice.

1078
00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:11,839
Speaker 1: Was it even via?

1079
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:14,160
Speaker 2: This is what I'm saying, Like I wouldn't even do juice,

1080
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:16,760
Speaker 2: as I'm saying. It was a makeshift bar in our area.

1081
00:47:16,800 --> 00:47:18,960
Speaker 2: I had to go to the actual place to get

1082
00:47:19,120 --> 00:47:19,479
Speaker 2: the gun.

1083
00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:21,920
Speaker 1: What are some of the good parties that you've been

1084
00:47:21,920 --> 00:47:24,840
Speaker 1: to recently? I can only name two?

1085
00:47:25,360 --> 00:47:28,759
Speaker 2: Oh see you party I go to like in my

1086
00:47:29,000 --> 00:47:31,200
Speaker 2: only like industry ship. That's where I have the most fun,

1087
00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:33,680
Speaker 2: Like I mean yeah, but I'll walk into people that

1088
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:36,200
Speaker 2: can go out to the party, I mean album listening

1089
00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:38,920
Speaker 2: parties or like highlight room in LA But I do

1090
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:41,520
Speaker 2: like what I'm going to one.

1091
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:44,680
Speaker 1: Tomorrow going to industry parties. No, it's not even industry

1092
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:46,280
Speaker 1: parties like that industry.

1093
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:46,600
Speaker 3: No.

1094
00:47:46,719 --> 00:47:49,200
Speaker 2: And I went in London, which I've decided is my

1095
00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:51,000
Speaker 2: second and his favorite country in the world.

1096
00:47:51,000 --> 00:47:55,000
Speaker 1: But that's another conversation. I went though because thank you

1097
00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:57,880
Speaker 1: guys for coving to the show. My homegirl. My homegirl

1098
00:47:58,320 --> 00:48:02,359
Speaker 1: brought me. It's her there. But I personally don't really

1099
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:03,440
Speaker 1: look to do those.

1100
00:48:04,520 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 2: To me, it's just even all the apt parties I

1101
00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:09,600
Speaker 2: did at dream Bill, Like, it's just like they tell

1102
00:48:09,640 --> 00:48:11,640
Speaker 2: me to pull up. I don't really like the themed

1103
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:14,080
Speaker 2: parties who have to buy a ticket and then some

1104
00:48:14,160 --> 00:48:16,880
Speaker 2: of them don't have seats and chairs. It's funny Reazy

1105
00:48:17,040 --> 00:48:19,160
Speaker 2: I Reasy was hitting me because she was like, what

1106
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:20,600
Speaker 2: party are you going to? And she brought up the

1107
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 2: party you went to, and I was like, yeah, but

1108
00:48:23,120 --> 00:48:25,120
Speaker 2: the way I party like right now, I still just

1109
00:48:25,160 --> 00:48:27,799
Speaker 2: want to a I want open bar. There has to

1110
00:48:27,840 --> 00:48:30,520
Speaker 2: be a place to sit, and I don't like ownsons,

1111
00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 2: so to me, if there's osos, if there's not a

1112
00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:37,040
Speaker 2: section that I can sit in, or if I have

1113
00:48:37,080 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 2: to fight with the bar to get my drink, I

1114
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:39,239
Speaker 2: don't want to go.

1115
00:48:39,480 --> 00:48:41,759
Speaker 1: I will give you all some really good wrecks in

1116
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:43,759
Speaker 1: New York. It's like the party Listen, no Wheezy, she

1117
00:48:43,840 --> 00:48:44,080
Speaker 1: got you.

1118
00:48:44,239 --> 00:48:47,560
Speaker 3: Descendants is one of the best parties i've or eventually

1119
00:48:47,560 --> 00:48:49,319
Speaker 3: I hate blowing it up, but Descendants is a really

1120
00:48:49,320 --> 00:48:51,640
Speaker 3: good party. I think it's going to turn into something

1121
00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 3: else sooner, so it might be over because it's that's

1122
00:48:53,640 --> 00:48:55,520
Speaker 3: how good it is. And every time I go, it's

1123
00:48:55,520 --> 00:48:57,799
Speaker 3: getting more full and like more packed or selling out faster.

1124
00:48:57,880 --> 00:49:00,440
Speaker 3: It's phenomenal in the sound system in Brooklyn that this

1125
00:49:00,600 --> 00:49:01,960
Speaker 3: place they do it that is great. Shout out to

1126
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:05,120
Speaker 3: Medi who's the DJ there, sold out Jerk and Jaeloff

1127
00:49:05,480 --> 00:49:07,880
Speaker 3: Amazing party link up, y'all know I love him my

1128
00:49:07,880 --> 00:49:10,680
Speaker 3: way Andre Power Amazing party. He's an amazing DJ if

1129
00:49:10,719 --> 00:49:12,600
Speaker 3: you want to hear really good house music and just

1130
00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:15,600
Speaker 3: be around DJs that are unique.

1131
00:49:15,640 --> 00:49:16,320
Speaker 1: Fucking great.

1132
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:18,360
Speaker 3: But the parties that have been out for years, and

1133
00:49:18,360 --> 00:49:21,479
Speaker 3: I won't say which ones them, shit's turning them. Shit's

1134
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:23,080
Speaker 3: an't as good as they used to be because I

1135
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:25,080
Speaker 3: think they've been spread out too much. But I love

1136
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:27,200
Speaker 3: the layout. I consider that to be a party in

1137
00:49:27,239 --> 00:49:29,880
Speaker 3: New York that I plan to do. I will be

1138
00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:32,399
Speaker 3: at Fort Green this summer. I like a lot of

1139
00:49:32,480 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 3: the the piano people I went to in London was

1140
00:49:34,480 --> 00:49:35,560
Speaker 3: my first time. I've been want to go to the

1141
00:49:35,560 --> 00:49:39,919
Speaker 3: party for years. But yeah, like people are curating really

1142
00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:44,520
Speaker 3: dope vibes in spaces that I've wanted to chase or

1143
00:49:44,520 --> 00:49:46,080
Speaker 3: be in for a long time, and so those parties

1144
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:50,280
Speaker 3: I name are definitely in for me. Obviously an exclusive

1145
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:52,120
Speaker 3: party will be the best, but I do think you

1146
00:49:52,160 --> 00:49:54,480
Speaker 3: can definitely catch up vibes still at some of these

1147
00:49:54,520 --> 00:49:58,160
Speaker 3: ticket joints. I'm trying to kind of find my thing

1148
00:49:58,239 --> 00:50:00,759
Speaker 3: for that. In La I would recommend Black Market Flee.

1149
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:03,400
Speaker 3: I think they do a phenomenal job. It's normally always

1150
00:50:03,440 --> 00:50:05,279
Speaker 3: the same weekend as Black on the Block. It's a

1151
00:50:05,360 --> 00:50:09,719
Speaker 3: daytime thing. But I love being in a party that's

1152
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:14,320
Speaker 3: not crazy Rara. I actually don't like bottle popping culture,

1153
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:16,719
Speaker 3: so that's probably why all of the parties I name

1154
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:18,560
Speaker 3: I'm into. You may be able to get a table,

1155
00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:20,120
Speaker 3: but that ain't really the party. I even had to

1156
00:50:20,120 --> 00:50:21,959
Speaker 3: beg the Descendants people to give me a fucking table

1157
00:50:22,000 --> 00:50:23,960
Speaker 3: because I know that's not really the vibe day on,

1158
00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:26,600
Speaker 3: like going back to that original just like we came

1159
00:50:26,680 --> 00:50:28,080
Speaker 3: to dance type of vibe.

1160
00:50:28,400 --> 00:50:30,040
Speaker 1: And that's truly why I think people in New York

1161
00:50:30,120 --> 00:50:30,680
Speaker 1: love to lay out.

1162
00:50:30,680 --> 00:50:32,080
Speaker 3: If you've never heard of it or you don't live

1163
00:50:32,080 --> 00:50:34,640
Speaker 3: in New York, it's in Brooklyn at Fort Green Park,

1164
00:50:34,640 --> 00:50:38,440
Speaker 3: I think, yeah, and it's just a place where you

1165
00:50:38,640 --> 00:50:42,080
Speaker 3: vibe literally layout not even picnic vibes. You could definitely

1166
00:50:42,800 --> 00:50:45,200
Speaker 3: buy yourself a nutcracker, which if you've never heard of,

1167
00:50:45,239 --> 00:50:47,400
Speaker 3: you gotta come and get when this summer there's DJs,

1168
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:50,759
Speaker 3: there's music, but I think it's just this original is

1169
00:50:50,800 --> 00:50:51,160
Speaker 3: a park.

1170
00:50:51,200 --> 00:50:53,400
Speaker 1: I wouldn't consider that they have do DJs. I mean

1171
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:54,120
Speaker 1: there's a DJ, but.

1172
00:50:54,360 --> 00:50:56,839
Speaker 2: I don't I wouldn't consider that a party. So maybe

1173
00:50:56,840 --> 00:50:58,520
Speaker 2: that like we're defining that different.

1174
00:50:58,200 --> 00:51:01,560
Speaker 3: Maybe Soul Summit layout. I'm thinking Soul some it's a

1175
00:51:01,560 --> 00:51:03,239
Speaker 3: really good party. Is that what I'm thinking about?

1176
00:51:03,280 --> 00:51:03,520
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1177
00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:05,520
Speaker 3: When the Soul Summit is at layout, that's when I

1178
00:51:05,520 --> 00:51:07,000
Speaker 3: actually have never been to the layout when they didn't

1179
00:51:07,000 --> 00:51:07,359
Speaker 3: have a DJ.

1180
00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:11,160
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, the layout juneteenth, I can't wait. There's nowhere niggas.

1181
00:51:11,280 --> 00:51:15,640
Speaker 2: They will have a DJ coming from Oklahoma City doing

1182
00:51:16,080 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 2: June teenth on the east And literally I bought the

1183
00:51:19,239 --> 00:51:21,759
Speaker 2: earliest flight I land at eleven just so I can

1184
00:51:21,800 --> 00:51:23,759
Speaker 2: make sure to make the layout this year, because I

1185
00:51:23,840 --> 00:51:25,920
Speaker 2: flew into the layout but got there at like seven

1186
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:27,880
Speaker 2: o'clock last year, and that's like, you know, that's the

1187
00:51:28,000 --> 00:51:30,960
Speaker 2: end everybody going. And I think last year was the

1188
00:51:31,120 --> 00:51:35,799
Speaker 2: end of what's the hookah spot that closed down that

1189
00:51:35,880 --> 00:51:37,879
Speaker 2: everyone used to go to started with to.

1190
00:51:37,840 --> 00:51:39,920
Speaker 1: Be Damn, I really don't smoke puff.

1191
00:51:41,080 --> 00:51:42,560
Speaker 2: It started with to Be, but they closed down the

1192
00:51:42,560 --> 00:51:45,680
Speaker 2: house like a members only club. Anyways, before we get

1193
00:51:45,719 --> 00:51:47,920
Speaker 2: out of here, I do want to do one last

1194
00:51:47,960 --> 00:51:49,839
Speaker 2: home mail because we barely get to get to our

1195
00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:50,279
Speaker 2: home mail.

1196
00:51:50,400 --> 00:51:52,200
Speaker 3: And by the way, I brought that party shit up

1197
00:51:52,239 --> 00:51:53,640
Speaker 3: because that's where the niggas at.

1198
00:51:53,920 --> 00:51:56,200
Speaker 1: Don't go for my nigga, but the niggas be there.

1199
00:51:56,360 --> 00:52:00,960
Speaker 3: I'm telling y'all, these dating apps were circling aroundverybody's fucking everybody.

1200
00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:03,120
Speaker 3: Now go outside, meet him in the real world, and

1201
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:04,680
Speaker 3: then you go meet them with the other three bitches

1202
00:52:04,680 --> 00:52:07,160
Speaker 3: they fucking in that same party. Hey, may the best

1203
00:52:07,160 --> 00:52:13,480
Speaker 3: one win hunger game. All right, here's the wholemail.

1204
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:15,000
Speaker 2: If you have a homemail for us, please send it

1205
00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:18,160
Speaker 2: to Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. Hey, ladies, call

1206
00:52:18,239 --> 00:52:21,320
Speaker 2: me d I am forever grateful for finding Horrible Decisions.

1207
00:52:21,640 --> 00:52:25,440
Speaker 2: I've become much more confident in my sexuality over the

1208
00:52:25,520 --> 00:52:29,080
Speaker 2: last few years. It's refreshing to see black women own

1209
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:31,279
Speaker 2: who they are. Let me tell you some shit I've

1210
00:52:31,320 --> 00:52:35,319
Speaker 2: tried since listened to y'all. I pegged a man, I

1211
00:52:35,480 --> 00:52:38,400
Speaker 2: ate some cooch, had two threesomes, and went to a

1212
00:52:38,440 --> 00:52:40,480
Speaker 2: ghetto ass sex story slash club.

1213
00:52:41,600 --> 00:52:42,600
Speaker 1: And here's the question.

1214
00:52:42,960 --> 00:52:45,439
Speaker 2: I've been seeing this man for a while, we've never

1215
00:52:45,520 --> 00:52:47,160
Speaker 2: met in person, so.

1216
00:52:47,160 --> 00:52:48,799
Speaker 1: Bitch, you ain't been seeing him. I don't know what

1217
00:52:48,840 --> 00:52:50,239
Speaker 1: you've been doing, but it ain't seeing him.

1218
00:52:50,280 --> 00:52:52,160
Speaker 2: I mean we've never met in person, but we have

1219
00:52:52,280 --> 00:52:54,880
Speaker 2: formed a solid bond over time we FaceTime.

1220
00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:56,799
Speaker 1: Okay, you see him on the screen and talk on

1221
00:52:56,800 --> 00:52:57,320
Speaker 1: the phone.

1222
00:52:57,680 --> 00:53:03,399
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, he sent me money on multiple occasions. He's

1223
00:53:03,440 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 2: tried to send for me and come see me for

1224
00:53:06,040 --> 00:53:09,759
Speaker 2: a while. Now I put it off because sadly, I'm

1225
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:13,600
Speaker 2: not one hundred percent physically attracted to him. He literally

1226
00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:17,840
Speaker 2: checks off every other box. He is also accepting of

1227
00:53:17,920 --> 00:53:21,560
Speaker 2: my sexual appetite. Do y'all need to be one hundred

1228
00:53:21,600 --> 00:53:26,080
Speaker 2: percent attracted to your significant other? Is medium ugly acceptable?

1229
00:53:26,600 --> 00:53:27,520
Speaker 1: Thanks? Deep?

1230
00:53:27,920 --> 00:53:31,239
Speaker 3: Well? According to Brionda, No, but I'll say this, I've

1231
00:53:31,320 --> 00:53:35,080
Speaker 3: dated medium ugly, but I was attracted to them, so

1232
00:53:35,800 --> 00:53:38,160
Speaker 3: I think I don't give a fuck.

1233
00:53:38,239 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 1: Who thinks my man looked? You know what I'm saying.

1234
00:53:41,120 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 3: I am dating someone who's super conventionally handsome and fine.

1235
00:53:44,239 --> 00:53:46,719
Speaker 3: But if I wasn't and I found out it gonna

1236
00:53:46,760 --> 00:53:49,680
Speaker 3: be fine, I wouldn't care like I am. If I

1237
00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:51,919
Speaker 3: could be shallow, how I would if I could see

1238
00:53:51,920 --> 00:53:54,000
Speaker 3: who I want to see? Like, that's okay to me?

1239
00:53:54,000 --> 00:53:57,120
Speaker 3: Medium ugly is fine if you are attracted to them.

1240
00:53:57,160 --> 00:53:59,040
Speaker 3: If you are not attracted to the person you're dating,

1241
00:53:59,239 --> 00:54:00,000
Speaker 3: you shouldn't be dating.

1242
00:54:01,160 --> 00:54:04,080
Speaker 2: I agree with that to an extent and minded this

1243
00:54:04,160 --> 00:54:07,640
Speaker 2: is coming from the shallow person. To me, a chool

1244
00:54:07,680 --> 00:54:09,839
Speaker 2: depends on your age, depends what you want.

1245
00:54:10,280 --> 00:54:13,040
Speaker 1: If this man. And I'm only leaning into the fact that.

1246
00:54:13,600 --> 00:54:17,000
Speaker 2: You said he checks off every other box, but you

1247
00:54:17,080 --> 00:54:19,759
Speaker 2: also said he's medium ogg. You ain't saying he ugly.

1248
00:54:20,520 --> 00:54:23,600
Speaker 2: There's a difference there. So to me, there's something that

1249
00:54:23,640 --> 00:54:26,319
Speaker 2: you might find attractive in the least bit.

1250
00:54:26,600 --> 00:54:27,160
Speaker 1: I think that.

1251
00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:31,200
Speaker 2: At the same time, I would suggest you to see

1252
00:54:31,280 --> 00:54:35,440
Speaker 2: him because a pictures and videos sometimes do niggas no justice.

1253
00:54:36,120 --> 00:54:38,120
Speaker 2: I will tell you there are like one of the

1254
00:54:38,440 --> 00:54:40,960
Speaker 2: guys I'm dating now, I told him to his face

1255
00:54:41,520 --> 00:54:46,280
Speaker 2: way finer in person, Like his page is cute, but baby,

1256
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:48,319
Speaker 2: in person, I want to eat him the fuck up.

1257
00:54:48,600 --> 00:54:50,719
Speaker 3: So could you tell him videos that he was good looking?

1258
00:54:50,920 --> 00:54:53,080
Speaker 3: Because videos are better to me than photo.

1259
00:54:53,520 --> 00:54:53,719
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1260
00:54:53,760 --> 00:54:56,880
Speaker 2: But to me, there there is something about an energy,

1261
00:54:56,960 --> 00:55:01,680
Speaker 2: a swag like I've been out with wait motherfuckers. Like

1262
00:55:01,719 --> 00:55:03,640
Speaker 2: one of my other niggas, Oh they all back. One

1263
00:55:03,640 --> 00:55:06,520
Speaker 2: of my other niggas is not even six feet tall. Baby,

1264
00:55:06,560 --> 00:55:08,040
Speaker 2: you can't tell me I don't like him and he

1265
00:55:08,160 --> 00:55:11,680
Speaker 2: not six seven will be together in the bedroom outside.

1266
00:55:12,040 --> 00:55:14,080
Speaker 2: I'm standing next to him like he is my tall

1267
00:55:14,160 --> 00:55:16,799
Speaker 2: king because he has that aura of him and I

1268
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 2: know the epussy real.

1269
00:55:18,239 --> 00:55:20,560
Speaker 1: That's the dating app problem. Sometimes I meet dudes and

1270
00:55:20,560 --> 00:55:23,200
Speaker 1: maybe a little doofy. Yeah, why he won't I agree?

1271
00:55:23,239 --> 00:55:25,680
Speaker 2: So to me, if you've been talking to this man

1272
00:55:25,760 --> 00:55:28,560
Speaker 2: and he checks off all these other things that actually

1273
00:55:28,600 --> 00:55:31,319
Speaker 2: are on your checklist, to me, I would give him

1274
00:55:31,480 --> 00:55:34,480
Speaker 2: the chance and opportunity to be with you in person.

1275
00:55:35,200 --> 00:55:37,759
Speaker 3: Check the vibes, check the temperature. Wait, I haven't met

1276
00:55:37,760 --> 00:55:39,280
Speaker 3: in person on the street. No, they haven't met Afari.

1277
00:55:39,320 --> 00:55:40,239
Speaker 3: That's a that's a good one.

1278
00:55:40,280 --> 00:55:42,319
Speaker 2: So I'm like, meet that nigga in person and then

1279
00:55:42,360 --> 00:55:45,520
Speaker 2: you can ast him out because he could be better

1280
00:55:45,560 --> 00:55:47,680
Speaker 2: looking in person than what you see him on FaceTime

1281
00:55:47,800 --> 00:55:48,320
Speaker 2: or his pictures.

1282
00:55:48,360 --> 00:55:51,440
Speaker 1: I also would say, don't kill too much time.

1283
00:55:52,400 --> 00:55:55,760
Speaker 3: I'm talking to anybody that is fucking listening or viewing

1284
00:55:55,760 --> 00:55:57,680
Speaker 3: this and has been dating someone online.

1285
00:55:57,800 --> 00:56:00,560
Speaker 1: The more time you take to not meet them. If

1286
00:56:00,600 --> 00:56:04,360
Speaker 1: it's a dub in person, it's almost like I wasted

1287
00:56:04,400 --> 00:56:05,880
Speaker 1: all my time and I could have been fucking up

1288
00:56:05,920 --> 00:56:07,959
Speaker 1: the last Yeah. Nah, bruh.

1289
00:56:08,360 --> 00:56:10,320
Speaker 3: Do you feel like you're in a relationship with someone

1290
00:56:10,640 --> 00:56:13,120
Speaker 3: even when you're not in front of them, like somebody

1291
00:56:13,120 --> 00:56:15,960
Speaker 3: haven't met yet, because you're so addicted to chatting, it

1292
00:56:16,040 --> 00:56:19,160
Speaker 3: becomes so fun, it becomes a routine. You guys kind

1293
00:56:19,160 --> 00:56:21,440
Speaker 3: of get in this groove. Meet that nigga bro, not

1294
00:56:21,480 --> 00:56:24,560
Speaker 3: only meet him, I might. I want to add to

1295
00:56:24,600 --> 00:56:29,440
Speaker 3: it in terms of the casual dating. Be honest with

1296
00:56:29,520 --> 00:56:32,680
Speaker 3: what you want, Like I've been very clear that I.

1297
00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:36,799
Speaker 2: Am just now getting healed over a breakup and right

1298
00:56:36,840 --> 00:56:39,279
Speaker 2: now I want to enjoy having fun. I think I'm

1299
00:56:39,320 --> 00:56:44,359
Speaker 2: learning how to date in a place of confidence financially, physically, emotionally,

1300
00:56:44,440 --> 00:56:49,560
Speaker 2: mentally that I would like a relationship, but as of

1301
00:56:49,600 --> 00:56:52,319
Speaker 2: right now, I'm not. And if someone wants to take

1302
00:56:52,360 --> 00:56:54,000
Speaker 2: me off the market, they need to show the fuck

1303
00:56:54,080 --> 00:56:55,879
Speaker 2: up because I'm willing to have that.

1304
00:56:55,960 --> 00:56:59,000
Speaker 1: But I'm not willing to just be in limbo with

1305
00:56:59,000 --> 00:56:59,440
Speaker 1: a nigga.

1306
00:56:59,520 --> 00:57:02,759
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have my fun If you're not consistent, I'm

1307
00:57:02,760 --> 00:57:05,399
Speaker 2: not consistent, and we're just gonna figure it out that way.

1308
00:57:05,520 --> 00:57:09,319
Speaker 3: Consistency feels like the only thing sometimes that will let

1309
00:57:09,360 --> 00:57:13,040
Speaker 3: you know someone's actually into you, at least for me,

1310
00:57:13,680 --> 00:57:16,320
Speaker 3: Like I know a lot of people say things like

1311
00:57:16,800 --> 00:57:18,560
Speaker 3: if you can't make time, they're not really into you.

1312
00:57:19,640 --> 00:57:22,360
Speaker 3: As long as someone's consistent and showing me that they're like,

1313
00:57:22,600 --> 00:57:25,120
Speaker 3: you know, that's enough. We've all been busy or we've

1314
00:57:25,120 --> 00:57:28,040
Speaker 3: all been overwhelmed with life, but like that is something.

1315
00:57:28,040 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 3: And I know it's getting harder and harder because dating

1316
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:34,840
Speaker 3: is becoming so fucking difficult. And I think through writing

1317
00:57:34,840 --> 00:57:37,720
Speaker 3: this book, I realize, like, fuck, I have a chapter

1318
00:57:38,400 --> 00:57:43,280
Speaker 3: that I'm writing about Old Bay currently and so many

1319
00:57:43,280 --> 00:57:44,320
Speaker 3: embarrassing things I admit.

1320
00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:45,880
Speaker 1: I read it to my man today.

1321
00:57:46,600 --> 00:57:49,520
Speaker 3: He was like, I'm not trying to judge you, but like,

1322
00:57:50,040 --> 00:57:53,360
Speaker 3: I actually can't believe how much shit you put up with.

1323
00:57:54,400 --> 00:57:56,960
Speaker 3: And I was like, you know, thirty percent of it

1324
00:57:57,040 --> 00:57:59,720
Speaker 3: is COVID and this other percent of it is I

1325
00:58:00,320 --> 00:58:03,520
Speaker 3: just thought I'll eat another nigga at some point, like,

1326
00:58:03,840 --> 00:58:05,760
Speaker 3: but you just don't realize it goes on this many years.

1327
00:58:06,280 --> 00:58:08,680
Speaker 3: And even one of the things I wrote about was like,

1328
00:58:09,200 --> 00:58:11,080
Speaker 3: when I caught him cheating the first time, I didn't

1329
00:58:11,120 --> 00:58:13,960
Speaker 3: tell him right, And then I wrote when I was writing,

1330
00:58:14,000 --> 00:58:18,680
Speaker 3: I said, I let two days go without telling him

1331
00:58:18,680 --> 00:58:20,840
Speaker 3: that I knew, and then I was like, oh, now

1332
00:58:20,840 --> 00:58:22,160
Speaker 3: I can't tell him because now I just held on

1333
00:58:22,240 --> 00:58:22,560
Speaker 3: this water.

1334
00:58:22,640 --> 00:58:24,479
Speaker 1: So how long is it gonna go on? Is this hard?

1335
00:58:24,880 --> 00:58:25,240
Speaker 1: Like to.

1336
00:58:27,680 --> 00:58:30,600
Speaker 2: Is it hard looking back and seeing what you accepted

1337
00:58:31,240 --> 00:58:33,720
Speaker 2: or looking back to see the partner you chose to

1338
00:58:33,720 --> 00:58:34,560
Speaker 2: be with for so long?

1339
00:58:36,880 --> 00:58:37,000
Speaker 1: Uh?

1340
00:58:37,480 --> 00:58:41,200
Speaker 3: I don't blame myself. It's a little embarrassing. It's not hard.

1341
00:58:41,400 --> 00:58:44,520
Speaker 3: It's embarrassing for the people that know you as someone strong.

1342
00:58:45,280 --> 00:58:48,160
Speaker 3: But I actually don't know if I was weak for

1343
00:58:48,240 --> 00:58:50,760
Speaker 3: what I did. I also wrote that I was using

1344
00:58:50,840 --> 00:58:54,760
Speaker 3: him for stability, not financially. I was kind of sad

1345
00:58:54,840 --> 00:58:57,920
Speaker 3: during COVID. I didn't you know, so I gave up

1346
00:58:57,920 --> 00:58:59,600
Speaker 3: my crib when I moved to Mexico to a friend.

1347
00:58:59,640 --> 00:59:03,000
Speaker 3: It was actual, so I couldn't just have this escape

1348
00:59:03,040 --> 00:59:04,760
Speaker 3: from him. I didn't want my parents to know I

1349
00:59:04,800 --> 00:59:06,120
Speaker 3: was going through it and move in with them in

1350
00:59:06,200 --> 00:59:08,600
Speaker 3: Orlando at the time, that's where they lived. I didn't

1351
00:59:08,640 --> 00:59:09,720
Speaker 3: want to go back to my old crib and I

1352
00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:11,800
Speaker 3: want to stay with friends. I was like, damn, I

1353
00:59:11,840 --> 00:59:14,400
Speaker 3: just gotta thug it. I also committed to this apartment

1354
00:59:14,440 --> 00:59:16,080
Speaker 3: in Mexico, with him too, right, So I'm like this

1355
00:59:16,200 --> 00:59:19,080
Speaker 3: is still my home too, So there was that other

1356
00:59:19,160 --> 00:59:21,520
Speaker 3: layer of like people think I'm just staying with him,

1357
00:59:21,520 --> 00:59:23,360
Speaker 3: but I'm like, I ain't leaving my shit, nigga tulum

1358
00:59:23,480 --> 00:59:23,840
Speaker 3: is lit.

1359
00:59:24,120 --> 00:59:26,040
Speaker 1: I don't want to leave. So it was kind of

1360
00:59:26,080 --> 00:59:27,120
Speaker 1: just like what am I gonna do?

1361
00:59:27,200 --> 00:59:30,400
Speaker 3: And yeah, I got my lick back, But it still

1362
00:59:30,520 --> 00:59:33,760
Speaker 3: was like I just stayed with him thinking I'd meet

1363
00:59:33,760 --> 00:59:35,840
Speaker 3: someone else while I was with him. That's sick, but

1364
00:59:35,920 --> 00:59:37,800
Speaker 3: that's what I would think about. And the other thing

1365
00:59:37,840 --> 00:59:42,720
Speaker 3: about it. He was a cheater, which made him which

1366
00:59:42,760 --> 00:59:45,560
Speaker 3: made me angry with him, but everything else about him

1367
00:59:45,640 --> 00:59:48,680
Speaker 3: was okay. We had a fun life. He had bread,

1368
00:59:48,720 --> 00:59:50,840
Speaker 3: so we were able to move around. And it's not

1369
00:59:50,880 --> 00:59:52,960
Speaker 3: like I was using him for the money. Keep in mind,

1370
00:59:53,080 --> 00:59:55,720
Speaker 3: I have money too, So when you have a counterpart

1371
00:59:55,760 --> 00:59:57,960
Speaker 3: that you could do things with during a time where

1372
00:59:57,960 --> 00:59:59,520
Speaker 3: the world is closed, we can grab this one hundred

1373
00:59:59,520 --> 01:00:01,680
Speaker 3: dollars flight to go to fucking Cartahana or whatever. Like

1374
01:00:02,000 --> 01:00:03,480
Speaker 3: how many people were able to do that a lot

1375
01:00:03,520 --> 01:00:06,560
Speaker 3: of people jobs were fucked. So I kind of think

1376
01:00:06,600 --> 01:00:08,480
Speaker 3: I liked that. And when I say I used him

1377
01:00:08,480 --> 01:00:10,960
Speaker 3: for stability, I used him to be the grounding thing.

1378
01:00:11,280 --> 01:00:12,280
Speaker 1: Horrible was off tour.

1379
01:00:12,440 --> 01:00:14,400
Speaker 3: We didn't never have black Effect deal yet I was

1380
01:00:14,400 --> 01:00:16,479
Speaker 3: still writing sex cells and figuring out what that would

1381
01:00:16,480 --> 01:00:19,720
Speaker 3: look like. Everything kind of felt flighty. And so now

1382
01:00:19,840 --> 01:00:23,240
Speaker 3: to be a little more secure in my independence, not

1383
01:00:23,440 --> 01:00:28,480
Speaker 3: again financially, but just like being dolo. I don't think

1384
01:00:28,480 --> 01:00:31,200
Speaker 3: I was ready to be alone during the pandemic. I

1385
01:00:31,400 --> 01:00:34,080
Speaker 3: was not ready to be by myself in a world

1386
01:00:34,120 --> 01:00:37,360
Speaker 3: where we already were isolated. So I think I just

1387
01:00:37,440 --> 01:00:39,640
Speaker 3: used him for the companionship, and in my brain, I

1388
01:00:39,680 --> 01:00:43,240
Speaker 3: was like, Okay, he fucking some Hozho cares. But there

1389
01:00:43,320 --> 01:00:47,040
Speaker 3: is a lot of trauma that comes with cheating because

1390
01:00:47,040 --> 01:00:51,680
Speaker 3: I've realized so many partners were cheating. And it's tough

1391
01:00:51,760 --> 01:00:55,440
Speaker 3: because when we talk about nominogamy and it's something I

1392
01:00:55,520 --> 01:00:58,640
Speaker 3: enjoy and I've done healthy, I hate that people have

1393
01:00:58,680 --> 01:01:01,560
Speaker 3: taken advantage of it. But it's like niggas will take

1394
01:01:01,560 --> 01:01:06,360
Speaker 3: advantage of you when you argumentogamoust So where's where's the line?

1395
01:01:06,440 --> 01:01:09,200
Speaker 3: Like where can you keep blaming yourself? There's not many

1396
01:01:09,240 --> 01:01:12,000
Speaker 3: steps I could take to save my heart when it's

1397
01:01:12,040 --> 01:01:14,680
Speaker 3: on someone else's hands. So there's so much blaming that

1398
01:01:14,720 --> 01:01:17,880
Speaker 3: we do in breakups and I've fucking let that go. No,

1399
01:01:18,120 --> 01:01:21,320
Speaker 3: it's no one's fault, even you, bandy, when you're like, well,

1400
01:01:21,360 --> 01:01:22,960
Speaker 3: I went back to my X y Z times, like

1401
01:01:24,000 --> 01:01:25,360
Speaker 3: you could blame yourself for that, but.

1402
01:01:25,360 --> 01:01:26,040
Speaker 1: Y'are no, I'm not.

1403
01:01:26,240 --> 01:01:31,480
Speaker 2: I understand the demon monster that I was with because

1404
01:01:31,600 --> 01:01:34,640
Speaker 2: he was a narcissist and the powers in which they

1405
01:01:34,680 --> 01:01:39,840
Speaker 2: have for manipulation, Like there was a psychological pull that

1406
01:01:40,280 --> 01:01:43,000
Speaker 2: because the first bitch they called me woman to woman,

1407
01:01:43,320 --> 01:01:46,520
Speaker 2: don't hit me again this week wanting us to go

1408
01:01:47,080 --> 01:01:49,440
Speaker 2: like I guess she wants us to bond as trauma sisters,

1409
01:01:49,760 --> 01:01:51,760
Speaker 2: And I'm like, bitch, we already asked my sisters, my

1410
01:01:51,840 --> 01:01:53,840
Speaker 2: ex cheated on me with you. You chose to say

1411
01:01:53,840 --> 01:01:55,960
Speaker 2: after you called me, and now you're done with him,

1412
01:01:55,960 --> 01:01:57,919
Speaker 2: and now you want to I said, you don't get

1413
01:01:57,960 --> 01:02:01,720
Speaker 2: to bring me back to living what he was. I

1414
01:02:01,720 --> 01:02:05,439
Speaker 2: think the hardest thing about that relationship is the fact

1415
01:02:05,520 --> 01:02:12,040
Speaker 2: that despite how manipulative, how psychologically draining that relationship was,

1416
01:02:13,560 --> 01:02:16,160
Speaker 2: I really really am holding on to how great he

1417
01:02:16,240 --> 01:02:20,520
Speaker 2: made me feel in certain moments. So there's a chapter

1418
01:02:20,600 --> 01:02:23,640
Speaker 2: I'm working on for the book where and I just

1419
01:02:23,680 --> 01:02:27,640
Speaker 2: had to call the owner of the dungeon. We went

1420
01:02:27,680 --> 01:02:31,720
Speaker 2: to a dungeon together, and that chapter when I said

1421
01:02:31,760 --> 01:02:33,480
Speaker 2: I wanted it in the book, we were still together,

1422
01:02:34,200 --> 01:02:39,200
Speaker 2: and it was this you fork kind of twist on

1423
01:02:39,920 --> 01:02:43,360
Speaker 2: finally finding someone who makes me feel safe, who makes

1424
01:02:43,360 --> 01:02:46,720
Speaker 2: me feel seen as a back, as a black man. Well,

1425
01:02:46,800 --> 01:02:49,520
Speaker 2: we did things, like I shared about it on the pod.

1426
01:02:49,840 --> 01:02:51,640
Speaker 2: He did electro play with me, and I put him

1427
01:02:51,640 --> 01:02:54,640
Speaker 2: in a chastity belt. But that whole night was us

1428
01:02:54,840 --> 01:02:56,880
Speaker 2: trusting each other to do things that we both said

1429
01:02:56,880 --> 01:02:59,120
Speaker 2: we would never really want to do, but we would

1430
01:02:59,160 --> 01:03:01,360
Speaker 2: allow the other person and to do it because that's

1431
01:03:01,360 --> 01:03:04,160
Speaker 2: how that's how much we trusted each other. And so

1432
01:03:04,240 --> 01:03:07,760
Speaker 2: to now be revisiting this chapter on a night that

1433
01:03:07,920 --> 01:03:12,640
Speaker 2: was centered around trust and safety, to be reliving that

1434
01:03:12,800 --> 01:03:15,720
Speaker 2: night with a man who does not make me feel safe,

1435
01:03:16,000 --> 01:03:18,640
Speaker 2: who I do not trust, who betrayed me in every

1436
01:03:18,680 --> 01:03:24,160
Speaker 2: way possible, and who now I feel like genuinely manipulated

1437
01:03:24,200 --> 01:03:26,919
Speaker 2: me and all these other women that he's been like with,

1438
01:03:27,560 --> 01:03:31,480
Speaker 2: it's hard for me to really view this person and

1439
01:03:31,560 --> 01:03:35,280
Speaker 2: view those memories as real. Because I did feel so good.

1440
01:03:35,520 --> 01:03:37,840
Speaker 2: He made me feel good, He made me He was

1441
01:03:37,880 --> 01:03:41,000
Speaker 2: my peace and that's my thing. Like with these relationships,

1442
01:03:41,040 --> 01:03:43,000
Speaker 2: I have zero desire to just be with a nigga,

1443
01:03:43,000 --> 01:03:44,880
Speaker 2: to be with a nigga, I have zero desire to

1444
01:03:44,880 --> 01:03:45,160
Speaker 2: be with.

1445
01:03:45,120 --> 01:03:46,280
Speaker 1: A nigga, to lay with one.

1446
01:03:46,480 --> 01:03:49,920
Speaker 2: To me my peace, I would much rather be single,

1447
01:03:50,280 --> 01:03:52,160
Speaker 2: like and I know I probably shouldn't put that out

1448
01:03:52,200 --> 01:03:54,880
Speaker 2: in the universe, where yes, a relationship and a partner

1449
01:03:54,960 --> 01:03:55,600
Speaker 2: would be nice.

1450
01:03:55,920 --> 01:03:57,320
Speaker 1: I'm not lonely right now.

1451
01:03:57,600 --> 01:03:59,200
Speaker 2: Which is what I feel like a lot of people

1452
01:03:59,240 --> 01:04:02,200
Speaker 2: seek in relateationships like they don't want to feel alone.

1453
01:04:02,320 --> 01:04:07,640
Speaker 2: And my friends are so fucking heavily involved with my

1454
01:04:07,760 --> 01:04:10,880
Speaker 2: life and I love them so much and they're what

1455
01:04:11,000 --> 01:04:13,760
Speaker 2: brings happiness to me that I don't feel lonely. So

1456
01:04:13,840 --> 01:04:15,760
Speaker 2: now it's what we talked about in one of our

1457
01:04:15,760 --> 01:04:19,600
Speaker 2: previous solo episodes. It's okay. I know I yearned for intimacy,

1458
01:04:19,760 --> 01:04:22,120
Speaker 2: So if I can get those from niggas without having

1459
01:04:22,120 --> 01:04:24,840
Speaker 2: to deal with the fucking drama or the betrayal or

1460
01:04:24,880 --> 01:04:27,880
Speaker 2: a nigga fucking off on me or embarrassing me, I'm

1461
01:04:27,920 --> 01:04:31,400
Speaker 2: so cool with just where I'm at having these partners

1462
01:04:31,400 --> 01:04:33,680
Speaker 2: in my life. Like I said, the one that came back,

1463
01:04:33,720 --> 01:04:36,080
Speaker 2: that came up and just took me out to motherfucking lunch.

1464
01:04:36,480 --> 01:04:40,160
Speaker 2: I love those partnerships, but I'm really dealing in therapy

1465
01:04:40,240 --> 01:04:43,640
Speaker 2: right now reliving my sexual assaults, reliving all my relationships

1466
01:04:43,640 --> 01:04:45,720
Speaker 2: with men, with the fact that I only and have

1467
01:04:45,840 --> 01:04:49,080
Speaker 2: only been with black men. I have only been violated

1468
01:04:49,080 --> 01:04:52,200
Speaker 2: by black men, and I have never in my life

1469
01:04:52,240 --> 01:04:56,520
Speaker 2: felt safe with black men. So I'm currently you never

1470
01:04:56,560 --> 01:04:57,080
Speaker 2: feel safe.

1471
01:04:57,200 --> 01:04:58,760
Speaker 1: No, no, And I.

1472
01:04:58,720 --> 01:05:02,040
Speaker 2: Asked my mom that question on the phone. I said, Mom,

1473
01:05:02,480 --> 01:05:04,360
Speaker 2: what man has made you feel safe in your life?

1474
01:05:05,160 --> 01:05:07,440
Speaker 2: And maybe I'm sharing too much. The man that she

1475
01:05:07,560 --> 01:05:09,960
Speaker 2: said to me led her to od to where I

1476
01:05:10,000 --> 01:05:12,000
Speaker 2: almost lost her because of this man.

1477
01:05:12,440 --> 01:05:13,280
Speaker 1: So I'm like, the.

1478
01:05:13,120 --> 01:05:15,280
Speaker 2: Only nigga that made you say is the nigga that

1479
01:05:15,280 --> 01:05:17,840
Speaker 2: made you try to overdose? You got me fucked up.

1480
01:05:18,160 --> 01:05:21,880
Speaker 2: So I've literally been going through so much of my

1481
01:05:22,080 --> 01:05:24,880
Speaker 2: mom's trauma that she's now been opening to sharing me

1482
01:05:25,240 --> 01:05:28,360
Speaker 2: got She's now going to therapy. I've sat back and

1483
01:05:28,480 --> 01:05:31,200
Speaker 2: went through my sexual assaults in this chapter. They were

1484
01:05:31,240 --> 01:05:33,920
Speaker 2: black men. To where to where my sexual assault on

1485
01:05:33,960 --> 01:05:36,720
Speaker 2: the train I brought up in therapy where I was like,

1486
01:05:36,800 --> 01:05:39,240
Speaker 2: I'm over it. I was so upset that it was

1487
01:05:39,240 --> 01:05:41,720
Speaker 2: a black man that did that to me. Like, so, no,

1488
01:05:41,880 --> 01:05:46,720
Speaker 2: I don't have these experiences of violation with any other man.

1489
01:05:46,920 --> 01:05:49,919
Speaker 2: Mind you, my dad is black. Baby, really don't feel

1490
01:05:49,960 --> 01:05:52,960
Speaker 2: safe with that nigga. My mom needed more child support

1491
01:05:53,000 --> 01:05:56,360
Speaker 2: and he said, deuces, Oh you want more money? Yeah,

1492
01:05:56,400 --> 01:05:58,560
Speaker 2: fuck fuck the kids. When it came to my abortion,

1493
01:05:58,880 --> 01:06:01,880
Speaker 2: my dad said, that's your friend. So even my uncle

1494
01:06:02,320 --> 01:06:05,160
Speaker 2: just got deported because he chose to violate my cousin,

1495
01:06:05,240 --> 01:06:07,600
Speaker 2: like so many of the men in my life.

1496
01:06:07,680 --> 01:06:10,160
Speaker 1: Just I think that I think there hasn't been another.

1497
01:06:10,440 --> 01:06:11,200
Speaker 1: I will just say this.

1498
01:06:12,400 --> 01:06:13,920
Speaker 2: I don't good ben out there. By the way, I

1499
01:06:13,960 --> 01:06:15,920
Speaker 2: am not saying and I want to make that clear too.

1500
01:06:16,200 --> 01:06:20,520
Speaker 2: I'm friends. I have really good friendships with black men

1501
01:06:20,560 --> 01:06:24,480
Speaker 2: in my life, really strong connections. What I'm saying is

1502
01:06:24,520 --> 01:06:28,200
Speaker 2: from a familial space, family wise, and from a romantic

1503
01:06:28,240 --> 01:06:33,040
Speaker 2: space that safety, especially with my ex experiencing that to

1504
01:06:33,080 --> 01:06:36,080
Speaker 2: where I had finally felt safe and heard and seen

1505
01:06:36,600 --> 01:06:39,760
Speaker 2: and for that to be betrayed, and my sexual assaults

1506
01:06:39,760 --> 01:06:42,440
Speaker 2: and things like that. I'm navigating because at the end

1507
01:06:42,480 --> 01:06:45,320
Speaker 2: of the fucking day, I only see myself with a

1508
01:06:45,320 --> 01:06:47,360
Speaker 2: black man. I've never seen it clear. Told you, I

1509
01:06:47,360 --> 01:06:50,680
Speaker 2: don't like them krackers, never wanted to Cheico. Sorry, I

1510
01:06:50,800 --> 01:06:53,800
Speaker 2: only want a black man. So there's also forgiveness in

1511
01:06:53,880 --> 01:06:57,080
Speaker 2: probably so many black women who have that same experience

1512
01:06:57,360 --> 01:06:58,120
Speaker 2: that still.

1513
01:06:57,880 --> 01:06:58,800
Speaker 1: Only want a black man.

1514
01:06:58,840 --> 01:07:01,120
Speaker 2: And I'm willing to show up and see men, give

1515
01:07:01,160 --> 01:07:03,919
Speaker 2: them the chance, and continuously date and give myself to them.

1516
01:07:04,400 --> 01:07:07,400
Speaker 2: But I'm also working through the trauma that No, there's

1517
01:07:07,400 --> 01:07:10,240
Speaker 2: not one black man I feel that has made me

1518
01:07:10,240 --> 01:07:11,480
Speaker 2: feel fully safe or seen.

1519
01:07:11,520 --> 01:07:13,880
Speaker 3: I gotta be real with you, there are very few

1520
01:07:13,880 --> 01:07:17,560
Speaker 3: times in my life and in situations that we ever

1521
01:07:17,600 --> 01:07:19,320
Speaker 3: talked about on Horrible where I want to take grace

1522
01:07:19,360 --> 01:07:23,720
Speaker 3: out of it. None of my Latino homegirls have one

1523
01:07:24,080 --> 01:07:28,400
Speaker 3: close Asian homegirl white friends. All of them have problems

1524
01:07:28,440 --> 01:07:28,720
Speaker 3: with men.

1525
01:07:28,840 --> 01:07:30,440
Speaker 1: No, so wait, wait, wait, let me just get this.

1526
01:07:30,520 --> 01:07:32,000
Speaker 1: I just don't let me just go out with other

1527
01:07:32,040 --> 01:07:33,400
Speaker 1: colored men at all.

1528
01:07:34,240 --> 01:07:39,320
Speaker 3: I don't even think we realize that the patterns of

1529
01:07:39,400 --> 01:07:43,960
Speaker 3: behavior bat men have like we haven't been able to

1530
01:07:44,040 --> 01:07:47,240
Speaker 3: read the flags or see the signs because it's like

1531
01:07:47,480 --> 01:07:51,160
Speaker 3: it's a perpetual cycle. But what you're talking about, one

1532
01:07:51,160 --> 01:07:53,040
Speaker 3: of my friends hasn't been able to date black men.

1533
01:07:53,120 --> 01:07:55,480
Speaker 1: She started dating other types of men. Because of her trauma,

1534
01:07:56,200 --> 01:07:56,800
Speaker 1: and I'm like.

1535
01:07:57,560 --> 01:07:59,360
Speaker 2: Oh, that's not the answer, and that's why that's never

1536
01:07:59,360 --> 01:08:03,040
Speaker 2: been my answer. However, I'm in therapy really seeking because

1537
01:08:03,080 --> 01:08:05,960
Speaker 2: my experience in my whole life has only been with

1538
01:08:06,000 --> 01:08:08,000
Speaker 2: black men. I went to all black schools, I dated

1539
01:08:08,080 --> 01:08:10,640
Speaker 2: only black men. My father is black, my uncles are black.

1540
01:08:10,760 --> 01:08:12,320
Speaker 2: I don't even know my white side of my family.

1541
01:08:12,720 --> 01:08:15,120
Speaker 2: And as an adult, niggas who I laid down for

1542
01:08:15,360 --> 01:08:16,760
Speaker 2: in whatever capacity we're black.

1543
01:08:16,840 --> 01:08:19,760
Speaker 3: Maybe you should have sketched you a little Rihanna's X

1544
01:08:19,880 --> 01:08:20,720
Speaker 3: man situation.

1545
01:08:21,120 --> 01:08:24,400
Speaker 1: Get you a fine little bibie ting. I don't want

1546
01:08:24,400 --> 01:08:26,240
Speaker 1: to move. That's the thing. I want a black king.

1547
01:08:26,400 --> 01:08:29,519
Speaker 3: I'm not trying to I'm joking, but I think I

1548
01:08:29,520 --> 01:08:32,080
Speaker 3: think that's something that could be fun in your dating life.

1549
01:08:32,720 --> 01:08:36,640
Speaker 3: I think if you opened yourself up to because for

1550
01:08:36,760 --> 01:08:40,320
Speaker 3: me probably actually a separate from white. I've never dated

1551
01:08:40,360 --> 01:08:42,559
Speaker 3: like a whigger because for me, it's like, why am

1552
01:08:42,560 --> 01:08:43,120
Speaker 3: I gonna do that?

1553
01:08:43,439 --> 01:08:45,519
Speaker 1: Like I'd rather thy lor RC white boy or whatever.

1554
01:08:46,040 --> 01:08:49,080
Speaker 1: But sometimes opening up to different cultures.

1555
01:08:49,439 --> 01:08:54,040
Speaker 3: It's interesting because my friends that are my closest friends

1556
01:08:54,040 --> 01:08:56,960
Speaker 3: that are in a different country live in France and

1557
01:08:57,080 --> 01:08:59,360
Speaker 3: all of the girls talk about men from different countries

1558
01:08:59,360 --> 01:09:01,400
Speaker 3: like they're different, even though they only date Black men,

1559
01:09:01,960 --> 01:09:04,680
Speaker 3: and they've all expressed different qualities about them, whether it

1560
01:09:04,680 --> 01:09:07,720
Speaker 3: be talking about africanmen who worship you or whatever, or

1561
01:09:07,800 --> 01:09:09,960
Speaker 3: Caribbean men that africanmen, things like that.

1562
01:09:10,160 --> 01:09:12,240
Speaker 1: So my point is, I think it would be cool

1563
01:09:12,360 --> 01:09:13,439
Speaker 1: still black men, I.

1564
01:09:13,360 --> 01:09:15,360
Speaker 3: Think it would be cool for you to date people

1565
01:09:15,439 --> 01:09:18,439
Speaker 3: from other places, and I think you might be able

1566
01:09:18,479 --> 01:09:21,160
Speaker 3: to maybe even enjoy because it almost feels like sometimes

1567
01:09:21,200 --> 01:09:22,920
Speaker 3: even in New York or whatever city, we're in a

1568
01:09:22,960 --> 01:09:25,080
Speaker 3: bubble of people that know each other. I think it

1569
01:09:25,080 --> 01:09:27,679
Speaker 3: could be fun for you, especially when you're traveling, maybe

1570
01:09:27,800 --> 01:09:30,000
Speaker 3: just opening yourself up to that, and if it's not

1571
01:09:30,120 --> 01:09:34,519
Speaker 3: black shit, it's just like something different. Like, I think

1572
01:09:34,560 --> 01:09:37,920
Speaker 3: it could really help your dating experiences. And truthfully, I.

1573
01:09:37,920 --> 01:09:41,679
Speaker 2: Mean, I had a whole diplomat and I'm impacting like anything.

1574
01:09:41,680 --> 01:09:42,880
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm just saying I'm trying.

1575
01:09:43,080 --> 01:09:46,320
Speaker 2: I've stepped out and I've dated. When I say black men,

1576
01:09:46,360 --> 01:09:49,280
Speaker 2: it's not that they're not from different countries. Like I've dated,

1577
01:09:49,760 --> 01:09:51,760
Speaker 2: Like I'll try to stay clear from Jamaicans, but I've

1578
01:09:51,800 --> 01:09:53,040
Speaker 2: dated Haitians, I've dated Jamaicans.

1579
01:09:53,080 --> 01:09:55,880
Speaker 1: I've dated Africans. To me, when I say black men is.

1580
01:09:55,880 --> 01:09:59,200
Speaker 2: The full diaspora of black men, I don't date all

1581
01:09:59,240 --> 01:10:00,000
Speaker 2: the same type of gas.

1582
01:10:00,640 --> 01:10:03,639
Speaker 1: They've all been different. They might look kind of alike,

1583
01:10:04,000 --> 01:10:06,559
Speaker 1: but they're all different. To me. I'm just in a

1584
01:10:06,600 --> 01:10:09,080
Speaker 1: space currently of healing.

1585
01:10:10,040 --> 01:10:11,800
Speaker 3: Just fuck one white guy that I was like, I

1586
01:10:11,840 --> 01:10:14,840
Speaker 3: don't want to fuck no cracking anyway, y'all ain't fucking none.

1587
01:10:14,680 --> 01:10:16,240
Speaker 1: Of y'all ain't naming white boys.

1588
01:10:16,280 --> 01:10:19,879
Speaker 2: You like no, Bro Jake j When I say Jake Jillenhall,

1589
01:10:19,880 --> 01:10:20,719
Speaker 2: that don't mean I'm finished.

1590
01:10:20,800 --> 01:10:23,360
Speaker 1: You wouldn't give uci. You wouldn't if you met him.

1591
01:10:23,120 --> 01:10:25,720
Speaker 2: And what about just giving Jake Jillahal couchie for you

1592
01:10:25,760 --> 01:10:27,719
Speaker 2: think I'm just gonna give a white man couchie for free.

1593
01:10:27,840 --> 01:10:29,800
Speaker 3: I think if you were having fun with him and

1594
01:10:29,800 --> 01:10:31,400
Speaker 3: you already think he's cute, I.

1595
01:10:31,320 --> 01:10:34,080
Speaker 2: Mean, I think he's an attractive He looked like he

1596
01:10:34,120 --> 01:10:36,479
Speaker 2: got a little twitch, like something's just cool about him.

1597
01:10:36,520 --> 01:10:39,200
Speaker 2: But I don't think I like no like me saying

1598
01:10:39,400 --> 01:10:44,160
Speaker 2: after that rote Tom Brady Jason Momoa that Jason Momoa

1599
01:10:44,200 --> 01:10:46,439
Speaker 2: can get it and he's still not white.

1600
01:10:46,479 --> 01:10:48,320
Speaker 1: I don't want to in you should get that. No

1601
01:10:48,439 --> 01:10:50,360
Speaker 1: I'm a real shit, I'm not joking. Uh.

1602
01:10:50,720 --> 01:10:53,639
Speaker 3: Tom Brady was looking finest fuck on that roast bitch.

1603
01:10:53,920 --> 01:10:56,240
Speaker 3: I don't know what bowtocks they put or what fat

1604
01:10:56,280 --> 01:10:57,920
Speaker 3: from his own ass man.

1605
01:10:58,240 --> 01:11:00,960
Speaker 1: That man was fine, And then me think, should I

1606
01:11:00,960 --> 01:11:03,160
Speaker 1: start looking for sugar Daddy's being for fun? But I don't.

1607
01:11:03,160 --> 01:11:05,200
Speaker 1: Don't none of them look like that. They all look

1608
01:11:05,840 --> 01:11:08,360
Speaker 1: like they're old and should belong in a nursing home.

1609
01:11:08,360 --> 01:11:11,120
Speaker 1: The y'all look like Bill Belichick. Yeah, that's what they

1610
01:11:11,160 --> 01:11:12,719
Speaker 1: look like, whoys the way I talk to our price.

1611
01:11:13,360 --> 01:11:15,559
Speaker 2: Well, guys, thank y'all for tuning in to another episode

1612
01:11:15,560 --> 01:11:18,040
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1613
01:11:18,040 --> 01:11:20,240
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1614
01:11:20,320 --> 01:11:25,800
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1615
01:11:26,560 --> 01:11:29,240
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1616
01:11:29,280 --> 01:11:31,439
Speaker 2: part of any of our top tiers, you can join

1617
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1618
01:11:34,160 --> 01:11:36,439
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1619
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1620
01:11:38,880 --> 01:11:41,160
Speaker 2: us again. That's Patreon dot com back slash Poor Decisions,

1621
01:11:41,280 --> 01:11:43,639
Speaker 2: And this has been yet another episode of poor decisions.

1622
01:11:43,720 --> 01:11:47,360
Speaker 1: Hi everybody, it's bonus be.

1623
01:11:49,240 --> 01:11:52,880
Speaker 3: Welcome back to another episode on our Patreon, which have

1624
01:11:53,560 --> 01:11:55,519
Speaker 3: truly become my favorite episodes to me.

1625
01:11:55,760 --> 01:11:58,000
Speaker 2: Because we just gonna sit here and shoot you all

1626
01:11:58,000 --> 01:12:00,920
Speaker 2: the shit. I'll shoot you all this, shoot y'all the ship.

1627
01:12:01,040 --> 01:12:03,639
Speaker 2: I can't say that, like shoot the ship. You ain't

1628
01:12:03,640 --> 01:12:05,960
Speaker 2: never heard to shoot the ship. Yeah, but shoot y'all,

1629
01:12:06,000 --> 01:12:06,920
Speaker 2: shoot y'all the ship.

1630
01:12:08,400 --> 01:12:12,240
Speaker 1: We No, I can't say that, we're not gonna do this.

1631
01:12:12,280 --> 01:12:18,120
Speaker 1: I'm gonna shoot you the ship. Were shooting y'all the ship? Sure, baby, Okay.

1632
01:12:18,360 --> 01:12:25,599
Speaker 2: Anyways, I actually we gotta be able to schedule this

1633
01:12:25,640 --> 01:12:28,960
Speaker 2: because this is considered a part two continuation of a

1634
01:12:29,040 --> 01:12:32,160
Speaker 2: regular episode. But y'all know we Bevoke recording, so here

1635
01:12:32,200 --> 01:12:35,080
Speaker 2: it is. But wanted to, you know, keep it flowing,

1636
01:12:35,240 --> 01:12:35,880
Speaker 2: keep it going.

1637
01:12:36,040 --> 01:12:39,960
Speaker 3: Okay, So we are at the point where you said

1638
01:12:40,800 --> 01:12:44,960
Speaker 3: he is super ambitious the okay, so really like him.

1639
01:12:45,400 --> 01:12:48,960
Speaker 3: Then I share with you the nigga that I fucked

1640
01:12:49,479 --> 01:12:52,600
Speaker 3: after not fucking for almost four years, right, and now

1641
01:12:52,640 --> 01:12:55,639
Speaker 3: I fucked and it's good boom.

1642
01:12:55,880 --> 01:13:00,479
Speaker 2: So the two other niggas, So let's start with niggaumber three.

1643
01:13:00,560 --> 01:13:03,760
Speaker 2: So nigga number three is it's been door number three nigga.

1644
01:13:03,840 --> 01:13:06,720
Speaker 2: Number three was about to be the nigga that would

1645
01:13:06,760 --> 01:13:10,639
Speaker 2: have been if I played my cards out this week,

1646
01:13:11,920 --> 01:13:14,479
Speaker 2: it would be another artist nigga didn't show you about.

1647
01:13:14,479 --> 01:13:15,680
Speaker 1: That's what I'm about to show you too. Oh so

1648
01:13:15,720 --> 01:13:17,400
Speaker 1: this three nigga, I'm about to tell you Jesus Christ.

1649
01:13:17,840 --> 01:13:22,160
Speaker 1: So the three niggas. He was about to be number three. Okay.

1650
01:13:22,360 --> 01:13:26,920
Speaker 2: So I've been having the hardest dilemma with him because

1651
01:13:28,600 --> 01:13:32,000
Speaker 2: this is Patreon, and no I am not shaming, No,

1652
01:13:32,120 --> 01:13:32,879
Speaker 2: I'm not judging.

1653
01:13:33,200 --> 01:13:38,320
Speaker 1: But he's a sex worker. He has an only fan, Okay.

1654
01:13:39,280 --> 01:13:42,120
Speaker 2: But we've been talking from before he had the only

1655
01:13:42,160 --> 01:13:45,400
Speaker 2: fans back when I was bat bitch. We've been talking

1656
01:13:45,439 --> 01:13:48,120
Speaker 2: since twenty seventeen. But now he's like, what did he

1657
01:13:48,160 --> 01:13:49,520
Speaker 2: do before lely fans?

1658
01:13:49,760 --> 01:13:52,879
Speaker 1: I think he was just a bro fine nigga, okay,

1659
01:13:53,760 --> 01:13:54,240
Speaker 1: and now.

1660
01:13:55,600 --> 01:14:00,719
Speaker 3: He's a lit only let's see to come to okay.

1661
01:14:00,960 --> 01:14:02,800
Speaker 3: So oh, I'll show you the content.

1662
01:14:02,840 --> 01:14:05,160
Speaker 1: Then let me go to Twitter first. Okay.

1663
01:14:05,280 --> 01:14:07,120
Speaker 2: Before showing you, I was gonna show you his pretty

1664
01:14:07,120 --> 01:14:09,120
Speaker 2: smile and his lovely face.

1665
01:14:09,200 --> 01:14:10,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't care. But since you actually want to

1666
01:14:10,960 --> 01:14:16,400
Speaker 1: see the dick and so this is oh, let me

1667
01:14:16,439 --> 01:14:20,559
Speaker 1: turn down. So I heard the shower bitch. So that's

1668
01:14:20,640 --> 01:14:23,160
Speaker 1: who I've seen him before.

1669
01:14:23,280 --> 01:14:25,760
Speaker 2: Yes, I'm sure everyone has seen him before. So I'm

1670
01:14:25,760 --> 01:14:31,320
Speaker 2: supposed to be sucking him this week. And we've been talking.

1671
01:14:31,400 --> 01:14:32,840
Speaker 1: Why do you keep trying to suck my type of

1672
01:14:32,880 --> 01:14:33,519
Speaker 1: niggas with dreads?

1673
01:14:33,560 --> 01:14:33,720
Speaker 3: Bro?

1674
01:14:33,920 --> 01:14:34,599
Speaker 1: This is bro.

1675
01:14:34,680 --> 01:14:37,719
Speaker 2: I've been talking to him since he have dreads. Okay,

1676
01:14:38,680 --> 01:14:42,360
Speaker 2: he had like I think of a low cut.

1677
01:14:43,000 --> 01:14:43,400
Speaker 1: Look at the.

1678
01:14:45,000 --> 01:14:50,440
Speaker 3: Baby that you take these don't do that, don't don't,

1679
01:14:50,680 --> 01:14:53,000
Speaker 3: don't day you're So.

1680
01:14:53,080 --> 01:14:56,519
Speaker 1: That's another reason why I didn't want niggas before. The

1681
01:14:56,600 --> 01:14:59,320
Speaker 1: videos of Hitch he deleted all of them. I don't

1682
01:14:59,320 --> 01:15:02,360
Speaker 1: know what's happening. Is giving solo? I even subscribe to

1683
01:15:02,439 --> 01:15:04,760
Speaker 1: prepare to his own fans subscribe. Is he one of

1684
01:15:04,800 --> 01:15:06,760
Speaker 1: the niggas that bitch has been accusing us some shiit? No,

1685
01:15:07,240 --> 01:15:09,760
Speaker 1: he's actually not. That's his real come coming up.

1686
01:15:09,800 --> 01:15:14,880
Speaker 2: Bro, it is it's hot And he just said, Babe,

1687
01:15:14,880 --> 01:15:16,160
Speaker 2: if you want me to spend the night, I'll spend

1688
01:15:16,200 --> 01:15:16,439
Speaker 2: the night.

1689
01:15:16,760 --> 01:15:20,200
Speaker 1: So I'm like, babe, he's been calling me babe. I'm like,

1690
01:15:20,200 --> 01:15:21,000
Speaker 1: what are we doing here?

1691
01:15:21,360 --> 01:15:21,400
Speaker 3: Not?

1692
01:15:21,520 --> 01:15:25,320
Speaker 1: Bang? Not girlfriend? Experienced. Sorry, I'm okay, No, bitch, I'm

1693
01:15:25,320 --> 01:15:28,920
Speaker 1: in marsh you know he's God damn babe. So this

1694
01:15:29,000 --> 01:15:32,600
Speaker 1: is this is the niggas. It's already any funny ow

1695
01:15:32,640 --> 01:15:35,040
Speaker 1: niggas will lost me wearing a bonding session. It's already

1696
01:15:35,080 --> 01:15:42,400
Speaker 1: prescribed prescribe schedule. I don't know what's in your We're bitch,

1697
01:15:43,240 --> 01:15:46,920
Speaker 1: we are fucking on Wednesday. Okay. The problem is it's Monday.

1698
01:15:47,760 --> 01:15:49,960
Speaker 2: I could have a nigga slot over tonight, but then

1699
01:15:49,960 --> 01:15:51,760
Speaker 2: the nigga actually like we going on a dat.

1700
01:15:51,880 --> 01:15:53,599
Speaker 1: You need to suck someone before him, so it's open

1701
01:15:54,200 --> 01:15:57,799
Speaker 1: because it's big, right, Yeah, I don't like this advice.

1702
01:15:59,600 --> 01:16:03,280
Speaker 1: What is that not crazy? That's not crazy to say?

1703
01:16:03,560 --> 01:16:03,720
Speaker 3: Bro?

1704
01:16:04,120 --> 01:16:08,200
Speaker 1: Is anyone watching on his dick has been? Is the

1705
01:16:08,200 --> 01:16:11,240
Speaker 1: girth of this water is big? Hold on and it's

1706
01:16:11,439 --> 01:16:14,679
Speaker 1: like it's what you is big?

1707
01:16:15,200 --> 01:16:18,519
Speaker 3: So anyways, that my thing is gonna confuse your pussy

1708
01:16:18,520 --> 01:16:19,360
Speaker 3: from your asshole.

1709
01:16:19,479 --> 01:16:23,439
Speaker 1: So I'm supposed to fuck him on Wednesday. Then this

1710
01:16:23,520 --> 01:16:24,920
Speaker 1: is the nigga. Is he just gonna come over you

1711
01:16:24,960 --> 01:16:27,519
Speaker 1: guys gonnaet drinks first? No, girl, I'm gonna be in Atlanta.

1712
01:16:27,920 --> 01:16:30,360
Speaker 2: He's gonna come through to the hotel, hotel sex bitch,

1713
01:16:30,960 --> 01:16:32,120
Speaker 2: hotel sex bitch.

1714
01:16:32,920 --> 01:16:33,719
Speaker 1: He coming through.

1715
01:16:35,200 --> 01:16:37,720
Speaker 2: He's spending the night. I got a production date to

1716
01:16:37,760 --> 01:16:38,880
Speaker 2: do the next day, but.

1717
01:16:39,520 --> 01:16:42,280
Speaker 1: He's gonna wait. Why is he spending the night? So

1718
01:16:42,320 --> 01:16:43,559
Speaker 1: that's what we've already talked about.

1719
01:16:43,960 --> 01:16:44,040
Speaker 3: So