WEBVTT - Find a role model

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that when you are trying to do something new,

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<v Speaker 1>find someone you think does it well and model yourself

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<v Speaker 1>on that person. So we probably all have skills we

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<v Speaker 1>are confident in and skills where we are less secure.

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<v Speaker 1>If there is something you would like to do and

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<v Speaker 1>you want guidance about how to do it, find someone

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<v Speaker 1>who can be your role model and do what you

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<v Speaker 1>think they would do. You do not need to actually

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<v Speaker 1>know this person. You just need to know of them

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<v Speaker 1>and be able to find and picture enough information about

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<v Speaker 1>them that they can be helpful to dress in a confident,

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<v Speaker 1>classic style. Maybe Jackie Onassis or Audrey Hepburn or Michelle

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<v Speaker 1>Obama could be your role model. When you pick a

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<v Speaker 1>style icon, then when you are deciding whether or not

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<v Speaker 1>to buy a dress or a scarf for how to

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<v Speaker 1>put together an outfit, you can ask yourself what your

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<v Speaker 1>style icon would do and then follow her lead. If

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<v Speaker 1>you're new to writing a newsletter, posting on LinkedIn, speaking

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<v Speaker 1>in front of big groups, leading meetings, or some other

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<v Speaker 1>activity like that, find a role model whose approach you

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<v Speaker 1>like and try to match it. In figuring out whether

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<v Speaker 1>your tone is right, or how you should kick off

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<v Speaker 1>your meeting, or whether or not to use planned humor

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<v Speaker 1>in a speech, you can ask what your role model

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<v Speaker 1>would do and aim to do the same. If you're

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<v Speaker 1>having trouble navigating office politics, identify someone who does that well.

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<v Speaker 1>When you encounter a sticky situation, imagine what you think

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<v Speaker 1>they would do, and do the same. Not sure what

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<v Speaker 1>to serve for a dinner party, think about a friend

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<v Speaker 1>who is a rock star host and serve what she

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<v Speaker 1>served the last time you had dinner at her house.

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<v Speaker 1>When you pick a role model who is a good fit,

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<v Speaker 1>you get a powerful guide for your own choices. What

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<v Speaker 1>you initially do because it's what your role model would do,

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<v Speaker 1>will over time become behavior that feels natural to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Or maybe you'll tweak their behavior until you find what

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<v Speaker 1>suits you best. I am reminded of Amy Cuddy's TED

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<v Speaker 1>talk about body language. She advised assuming positions that convey

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<v Speaker 1>confidence and power, even if you don't feel especially confident.

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<v Speaker 1>Over time, this will lead to confidence. She advised, fake

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<v Speaker 1>it until you become it. I think something similar happens

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<v Speaker 1>when you emulate a role model. You are not becoming

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<v Speaker 1>the role model, but you are becoming a version of

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<v Speaker 1>yourself who is just as confident and skilled as the

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<v Speaker 1>role model. So if you are trying something new or

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<v Speaker 1>trying to become more confident and something familiar, find a

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<v Speaker 1>role model and let them be your guide. Pretty soon

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<v Speaker 1>you'll be doing whatever it is with style. In the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making

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<v Speaker 1>the most of our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast.

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<v Speaker 1>me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast

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