Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,
Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's
Speaker 1: tip is that when you are trying to do something new,
Speaker 1: find someone you think does it well and model yourself
Speaker 1: on that person. So we probably all have skills we
Speaker 1: are confident in and skills where we are less secure.
Speaker 1: If there is something you would like to do and
Speaker 1: you want guidance about how to do it, find someone
Speaker 1: who can be your role model and do what you
Speaker 1: think they would do. You do not need to actually
Speaker 1: know this person. You just need to know of them
Speaker 1: and be able to find and picture enough information about
Speaker 1: them that they can be helpful to dress in a confident,
Speaker 1: classic style. Maybe Jackie Onassis or Audrey Hepburn or Michelle
Speaker 1: Obama could be your role model. When you pick a
Speaker 1: style icon, then when you are deciding whether or not
Speaker 1: to buy a dress or a scarf for how to
Speaker 1: put together an outfit, you can ask yourself what your
Speaker 1: style icon would do and then follow her lead. If
Speaker 1: you're new to writing a newsletter, posting on LinkedIn, speaking
Speaker 1: in front of big groups, leading meetings, or some other
Speaker 1: activity like that, find a role model whose approach you
Speaker 1: like and try to match it. In figuring out whether
Speaker 1: your tone is right, or how you should kick off
Speaker 1: your meeting, or whether or not to use planned humor
Speaker 1: in a speech, you can ask what your role model
Speaker 1: would do and aim to do the same. If you're
Speaker 1: having trouble navigating office politics, identify someone who does that well.
Speaker 1: When you encounter a sticky situation, imagine what you think
Speaker 1: they would do, and do the same. Not sure what
Speaker 1: to serve for a dinner party, think about a friend
Speaker 1: who is a rock star host and serve what she
Speaker 1: served the last time you had dinner at her house.
Speaker 1: When you pick a role model who is a good fit,
Speaker 1: you get a powerful guide for your own choices. What
Speaker 1: you initially do because it's what your role model would do,
Speaker 1: will over time become behavior that feels natural to you.
Speaker 1: Or maybe you'll tweak their behavior until you find what
Speaker 1: suits you best. I am reminded of Amy Cuddy's TED
Speaker 1: talk about body language. She advised assuming positions that convey
Speaker 1: confidence and power, even if you don't feel especially confident.
Speaker 1: Over time, this will lead to confidence. She advised, fake
Speaker 1: it until you become it. I think something similar happens
Speaker 1: when you emulate a role model. You are not becoming
Speaker 1: the role model, but you are becoming a version of
Speaker 1: yourself who is just as confident and skilled as the
Speaker 1: role model. So if you are trying something new or
Speaker 1: trying to become more confident and something familiar, find a
Speaker 1: role model and let them be your guide. Pretty soon
Speaker 1: you'll be doing whatever it is with style. In the meantime,
Speaker 1: this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making
Speaker 1: the most of our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast.
Speaker 1: If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach
Speaker 1: me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast
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