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Speaker 1: First Date is follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Jenna is on the phone today and she's getting ghosted

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Speaker 2: by dude named Pete. We're gonna help her find out

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Speaker 2: why in just a second. But first, Jenna, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Pete.

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Speaker 3: It's been a week or so, I'd say.

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Speaker 1: And how many times have you reached out to him?

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Speaker 3: I reached out a few times. I haven't heard anything.

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Speaker 3: You know, we had a great first date. We met

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Speaker 3: at a sports bar. I met him on Hinge and

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Speaker 3: then we found out that we have some mutual friends,

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Speaker 3: and you know, they were like, yeah, you guys definitely

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Speaker 3: need to hang out.

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Speaker 2: So you met him on Hinge and then you found

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Speaker 2: out you had mutual friends, and then you told your

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Speaker 2: friends and they were like, yeah, you guys would be

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Speaker 2: a good fit. Yeah, okay, so tell us about the date.

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Speaker 3: So we went to the sports bar. You know, our

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Speaker 3: mutual friends both said that we're laid back, so we

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Speaker 3: both decided to just go to a sports bar, get

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Speaker 3: some wings and some beers, and you know, he was

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Speaker 3: such a gentleman the whole time.

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Speaker 1: He opened.

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Speaker 3: The door for me, and he even let out my chair.

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Speaker 3: That's never happened before. And I just don't know. He's

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Speaker 3: super hot. He's like a ten out of ten, a

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Speaker 3: gentleman and super good looking. So I'm really into him.

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Speaker 3: I was personality, great personality. I mean, his mannerisms were

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Speaker 3: a one. You know. The thing is I noticed he

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Speaker 3: was using a napkin when eating the wings. And the

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Speaker 3: only thing I can think about why he goes to

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Speaker 3: me was maybe I was like licking my fingers when

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Speaker 3: I was eating my wings that might have grossed him.

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Speaker 1: Rather than using a napkin or like washing them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he was like, he's nae a napkhan. He was

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Speaker 3: really like prim improper. I don't want him to think

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Speaker 3: like I'm this gross girl.

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Speaker 1: He's the weird one. In my opinion.

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Speaker 4: You're supposed to like your fingers after you eat wings,

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Speaker 4: right right, yeah right, I.

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Speaker 1: Mean, give me some tea everything. They were good.

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Speaker 2: That's the only thing you can think of is maybe

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Speaker 2: he thought that you were a barbarian because you were

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Speaker 2: licking your fingers instead of using a napkin like a

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Speaker 2: classy lad.

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Speaker 1: That's the only thing I can think about. So, what

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Speaker 1: was your last interaction, Like.

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Speaker 3: I texted him to let him know, like, what a

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Speaker 3: great date, and he just never responded.

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Speaker 1: I mean the end of the day, it was great.

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Speaker 1: You know, did you like kids or anything?

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Speaker 5: We did.

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Speaker 3: We had a little small It wasn't like you know,

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Speaker 3: tongueing down, but the conversation was really well. I mean,

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Speaker 3: he talked about his grandparents and how he admired their relationship,

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Speaker 3: and we talked about music. We have a lot of

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Speaker 3: artists that we like, some of the same artists and.

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Speaker 1: Music compatibility is really important on a day, right.

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Speaker 3: I mean it was pretty light, laid back.

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Speaker 1: I mean what really.

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Speaker 3: Got me is that he was just such a gentleman.

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Speaker 3: I've never had that before, okay never, And he completely

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Speaker 3: ghosted me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we'll see if we can figure it out. We'll

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Speaker 2: play a song come back, and then call him and

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Speaker 2: then ask him why he's ghosting you see if he

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Speaker 2: tells us, and then maybe get you another date if

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Speaker 2: you still want one. Okay, okay, all right, we'll play

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Speaker 2: a song, come back, and get your first a follow

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Speaker 2: up next if you're just joining us for today's first

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Speaker 2: day follow up. Jenna is on the phone and she's

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Speaker 2: getting ghosted by Pete. So we're about to call him

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Speaker 2: and see if we can figure out why he's getting

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Speaker 2: ghosted and maybe get her another date if she's still

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Speaker 2: into it after she hears the reason. Before we do that, though, Jenna,

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Speaker 2: why don't you catch everybody up on your time with Pete.

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Speaker 3: My time with Pete was incredible. He's an awesome guy.

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Speaker 3: He's everything that I'm looking for in a man. He's

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Speaker 3: really good looking, and I just don't know what happened.

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Speaker 3: I text him and never heard anything back from him.

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Speaker 3: We just have so much in common, common friends, common music.

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Speaker 3: I mean, he's Yeah, I think that that was the issue.

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Speaker 3: If I had to assume I was licking my fingers

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Speaker 2: I mean, the only weird thing about that would have been

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Speaker 1: I don't see that it's a weird thing. All right,

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Speaker 1: We're about to call him. You ready, Yeah, I'm ready?

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Speaker 2: Okay, here we go, I MA, I speak to Pete please. Yeah, Hey, Pete,

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Speaker 2: how are you? My name is Jewbel, host the radio

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Speaker 2: show and it's called the Jubil Show. Yeah, hi, Pete,

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Speaker 2: the show is here as well. My name is Nina, Hi,

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Speaker 2: and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 4: Hi.

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Speaker 2: How's it going?

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Speaker 5: Uh? Yeah, I mean it's going okay. What's what's going on?

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Speaker 2: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? No, I've listened to the show. And I mean,

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Speaker 5: did I win something? I mean that would be great.

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Speaker 2: Maybe you could have won something. I'm not really sure yet. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I'm not sure if you were heard a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up before. But that's where if you go out

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Speaker 2: on a date with somebody and then you get ghosted,

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Speaker 2: you can email us to get that person on the

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Speaker 2: phone and ask why you're getting ghosted. So you are

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Speaker 2: currently ghosting somebody and they want to know why.

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Speaker 5: Oh, okay, who am I ghosting?

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Speaker 4: You don't know who you're ghosting. I'm not on any

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Speaker 4: dates and just stop talking to somebody recently.

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Speaker 5: Oh, you guys are talking about jen oran't you?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 5: So yeah, no, Jenna. I mean, don't get me wrong.

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Speaker 5: I had a lot of fun on the date, you know.

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Speaker 5: I yeah, I thought we you know, shared a bunch

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Speaker 5: But I don't know what happened, but a couple drinks

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Speaker 5: in and she starts calling me Steve, and I understand that,

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Speaker 5: you know, Pete and Steve kind of sound the same.

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Speaker 5: Definitely have you know, certain consonants at play here, So

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Speaker 5: I don't know why, and I kind of I was

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Speaker 5: trying to like write it off, you know, but yeah, no,

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Speaker 5: she she kept calling me Steve, and it was it

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Speaker 5: was a turnoff. It kind of it seemed disrespectful. I

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Speaker 5: don't know if she has a thing for a guy

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Speaker 5: named Steve's still hung up on somebody. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Did you say anything to her when she called you Steve?

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Speaker 1: Did you correct her? Did you ask Steve?

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Speaker 5: At first, she was like slurring her words a little bit.

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Speaker 5: And don't get me wrong, like I you know, I

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Speaker 5: can hold my own when it comes to alcohol, and

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Speaker 5: I've dealt with a couple of lightweights, so I didn't

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Speaker 5: think much of it. But then I realized, you know, yeah,

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Speaker 5: it wasn't any kind of mistake she was. She was

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Speaker 5: definitely saying Steve over and over again, so I just

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Speaker 5: it really started to wear on me. I didn't want

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Speaker 5: disrespectful to her because she was, you know, getting more

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Speaker 5: to call it there. One time, I was trying to

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Speaker 5: get things back on track, and I was like telling

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Speaker 5: name in there. I was like, you know, a friend

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Speaker 5: was like, hey, Pete, and I was like yeah, and

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Speaker 5: they were like, Pete, can you do this for me?

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Speaker 5: You know, I was trying to like reiterate, and she

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Speaker 5: wasn't getting hit. I don't know. So that's why I

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Speaker 5: haven't followed up. That's why I haven't like returned to

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Speaker 5: any text or anything, just because I felt a bit disrespected,

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Speaker 5: mistake you made for some other dude.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, Well thanks for telling Steve. Appreciate that,

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 5: Thanks for that. That's great. Now, your entire listenership, I

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Speaker 5: appreciate that. My name is Pete.

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Speaker 2: Pete on the record, got you Pete, Well, I guess what.

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Speaker 2: On the record, Jenna is actually on the phone too,

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Speaker 2: and she's listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 5: Goodness, brilliant.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Hi and I Jenna. It's Pete.

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Speaker 3: Hi, Pete. I'm so sorry. I was super nervous on

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Speaker 3: our date, and I apologize completely. Steve is my boss

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Speaker 3: and I'm with oh all day and it's just kind

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Speaker 3: of by default. I don't want to say anything because

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Speaker 3: we're on the radio and he might be listening in

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Speaker 3: So great boss, But yeah, I work a lot, and.

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Speaker 1: I'm I try to do my job as best as

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Speaker 1: I can. So I'm I'm a little bit of a workaholic.

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Speaker 1: So please forgive me.

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Speaker 3: I know your name is Pete, and I just asked

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Speaker 1: Chance to get it right. I'm sorry. I can't get

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Speaker 1: over this boss thing. Victoria.

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Speaker 4: Can you imagine going on a date and calling some

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Speaker 4: bjuble Can you text me to ask me questions? I purposely.

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Speaker 2: Later.

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Speaker 1: I know, Jenna, when you're nervous, things happen. But that's

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Speaker 1: so funny. I know. I would have never imagined that

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry. How many times did I call you Steve?

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Speaker 5: I mean I lost count after the first eleven on

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Speaker 5: the Steve Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: You probably called them Steve more times than you call

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Speaker 1: them Pete.

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Speaker 5: I admittedly.

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Speaker 4: No.

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Speaker 5: I can appreciate, you know, the work ethic and everything,

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Speaker 5: and I can appreciate having a hard boss. So that

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Speaker 5: is I'm glad it's not next. That's understandable.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not into anybody. I have no one in

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Speaker 3: my life. I'm totally interested in where things go with

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Speaker 3: you and I. So just to make that clear.

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Speaker 2: Pete, would you like to go out with Jenna again

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Speaker 2: on another day? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 5: You know that sounds that sounds like a lot of fun.

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Speaker 5: I did have fun on the Bear with Jenna, And

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Speaker 5: you know, just as long as there are no other

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Speaker 5: names tossed around besides Pete and Jenna that then then

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Speaker 5: I'm okay, that's fine.

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Speaker 2: We'll find a place to send you that involves name tags.

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Speaker 2: Just to be safe, bring your own.

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Speaker 1: My name is.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. Please let's go.

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Speaker 1: You loose firsty follow up