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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, this time now for the Strawberry Letter Today.

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Speaker 1: The subject is my wife is living like she's single

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Speaker 1: and listen. If you need some advice on relationships, if

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Speaker 1: you need some advice on dating, on work, on sex

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Speaker 1: and parenting and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to

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Speaker 1: We can be reading your letter live on the air,

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Speaker 1: just like we're reading this dating and Mississippi. Buckle up

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Speaker 1: a whole long, tight we got it for you. Here

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Speaker 1: it is the Strawberry Letter. Yeah. This is a letter

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Speaker 1: where you, our audience, write us and we give you advice.

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Speaker 1: We can make this up. No, no, no, people think

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Speaker 1: we do though, because they're so crazy, but no, here

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Speaker 1: we go. Subject my wife is living like she's single.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I have been married to my childhood

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Speaker 1: sweetheart for eight years and we have two wonderful children.

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Speaker 1: Early on, we had problems in our marriage and we

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Speaker 1: separated for a short period. But we work things out

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Speaker 1: and I thought we were back on track. My wife

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Speaker 1: admitted that during our separation she had flings with two

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Speaker 1: other guys. She compared me to the guys she had

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Speaker 1: the flings with and bragged about the money and the

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Speaker 1: nice things they had. I am an educated guy and

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Speaker 1: I have a great full time job and a part

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Speaker 1: time job for extra money, but it's not enough for

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Speaker 1: my wife. She told me that I need to be

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Speaker 1: making six figures to keep her happy. She has a

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Speaker 1: demanding full time job, so she doesn't do much around

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Speaker 1: the house. I cook, I clean, I take the kids

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Speaker 1: too and from school, wash the clothes, help the kids

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Speaker 1: with homework, and maintain the law. She neglects my sexual

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Speaker 1: needs too, because she goes out most days after work

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Speaker 1: to unwind, and when she comes home she says she's exhausted.

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Speaker 1: A few days after Christmas, she told me that I

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Speaker 1: need to find a nice woman that will appreciate me

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Speaker 1: and the little bit I have to offer, because she

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Speaker 1: needs more. She told me that after I found her

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Speaker 1: texting one of her old flings, I asked her to

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Speaker 1: see the text and she showed it to me. The

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Speaker 1: guy was asking her for sex again, and he said

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Speaker 1: that their chemistry is unmatched. I am trying to stick

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Speaker 1: out for my kids, but I cannot be her doormat

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Speaker 1: in the process. She doesn't respect me as the man

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Speaker 1: of the house, and I am not sure how we

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Speaker 1: got to this point, but she is very disrespectful. Do

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Speaker 1: you think I should try to stay for the sake

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Speaker 1: of my kids? Or make her wishes come true and leave?

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Speaker 1: Wroteishness the husband. The husband. It seems like a letter

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Speaker 1: that a wife would write, But now this time the

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Speaker 1: husband wrote this one. And you know, doesn't the grass

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Speaker 1: always look greener on the other side. I mean, she's,

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Speaker 1: you know, thinking that these guys who were taking her

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Speaker 1: spending money in nice things and all that. Yeah, but

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Speaker 1: she came back home. She's not with him, so the

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Speaker 1: grass always looks greener on the other side. I have

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Speaker 1: to ask you, though, what do you want to do?

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Speaker 1: I mean, you're asking us should you stay for the

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Speaker 1: sake of your kids? I'm sure you don't want to

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Speaker 1: stay with a wife who continues to disrespect you like

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Speaker 1: your wife does. I mean, kids are no kids. You

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Speaker 1: don't have to take this man. You don't have to

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Speaker 1: take you, do know that, right? I mean, where's your dignity?

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Speaker 1: Where's your self respect? Getting your kids and leaving her

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Speaker 1: will probably be the best thing you can do to

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Speaker 1: save yourself. And your two children. Okay, from this mama

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Speaker 1: right now, she's just out of order. I mean, you

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Speaker 1: says she's disrespectful, she's all of that. You sound like

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Speaker 1: You know, you're cooking, cleaning and doing all this stuff

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Speaker 1: shouldn't be a dormat for her. So you're right about that.

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Speaker 1: She definitely is disrespecting you, and I think you should

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Speaker 1: take her advice. I really do. I think you there

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Speaker 1: is a nice woman who'll appreciate you. There are plenty

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Speaker 1: you don't have to take this Steve, Wow, this is crazy. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it is my wife living like she's saying. She is

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Speaker 1: just right there. Who wrote this letter? He did? My

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Speaker 1: wife admitted doing our separation. She had a fleeing with

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Speaker 1: just out here just showing her natural two flings. That

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Speaker 1: out that so disciment from me. You ain't fit to brain.

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Speaker 1: You don't fit to come back to Steve Harvet tell

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Speaker 1: me this here who you think I am? But who

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Speaker 1: are you talking to? Then let's go. I am an

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Speaker 1: and a part time job for extra money, but it's

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Speaker 1: not enough for my wife. Somebody told me something one time.

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Speaker 1: I just want to share it with you. A very

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Speaker 1: and it ain't cutting it for you, why would you

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Speaker 1: a job that ain't cutting for, your next movie is

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Speaker 1: you're gonna have to open some type of little hustle

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Speaker 1: on the side of business. But he said, always talking,

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Speaker 1: because you got one job ain't working for, why would

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Speaker 1: a very educational thing I learned. She told me that

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Speaker 1: he needed to be making six figures to keep her happy.

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Speaker 1: Now you got two jobs that ain't making six figures.

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Speaker 1: So you're just working all the day and you still

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Speaker 1: and told you that's what you need to do to

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Speaker 1: get the flaming again. Here's what you probably need to do. Now.

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Speaker 1: She has a demanding full time job, so she don't

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Speaker 1: listen to this right here, he working two jobs already, right,

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Speaker 1: she got a demanding full time job. But he say,

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Speaker 1: Already got two jobs. I just told this health I

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Speaker 1: I ain't got time for this hell, right, hang on,

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Speaker 1: hang on, we're gonna have part two of your response

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Speaker 1: coming up. Subject my wife is living like she's single.

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Speaker 1: Part two of your response to and that's is this

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Speaker 1: woman don't want this man. When they separated, she had

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Speaker 1: He do everything, he do all the work, and he

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Speaker 1: there unwinned after hard day work and when she comes

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Speaker 1: home she's exhausted. Yeah, what you think she exhausted from

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Speaker 1: ass off? That's what is get getting tight. Now she

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Speaker 1: this house tied as hell. Then a few days after Christmas,

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Speaker 1: she told me I need to find a nice woman

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Speaker 1: that appreciate me and a little bit that I had off. Well,

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Speaker 1: you know, she just told you you need to go

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Speaker 1: find you somebody post and dog gonna you can do that?

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Speaker 1: Oh man? Yeah, because she needs most she told me.

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Speaker 1: I found I found her texting one of her old friends.

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Speaker 1: I asked her to see the text. She showed it

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Speaker 1: to me. Of all, you're not fitna be that comfortable

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Speaker 1: texting through him, yet show it to me. You're gonna

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Speaker 1: somebody where you would you would pause and go, you

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Speaker 1: know what. Showing him this text right now probably ain't

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Speaker 1: But na, see, you ain't never demonstrated that. Let me

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Speaker 1: see what you're texting? Hill. Yeah. Oh, you're comfortable with him? Yeah.

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Speaker 1: The guy was asking her for sex again and he

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Speaker 1: and he said that the chemistry is unmatched. I'm trying

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Speaker 1: kid is missing. It's a paragraphs who asked did you start?

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Speaker 1: But what somebody who asked did you start? Before you

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Speaker 1: But I cannot be her doing that in the process.

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Speaker 1: there and had them two fleas. I'm not sure how

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm crystal clear how you got here. Y'all was

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Speaker 1: going wrong in your lives, your childhood, sweetheart, y'all got married,

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Speaker 1: So you ain't use none of the trees now she don't,

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Speaker 1: been just shelding around like you like you've been just dropping.

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Speaker 1: You've been dropping bringing hammelework that ain't hammelework. That's number

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Speaker 1: two leaded pencil work. You've been doing. You ain't been

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Speaker 1: doing what you thought you would do. She went out

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Speaker 1: there in a randy savvy. That's right, Je, don't come here,

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Speaker 1: come to break the heat. Baby. So Bro appreciate your writing,

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Speaker 1: your letter, But two thousand nineteen is over. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's over. Nineteen, it's over. They're on the Telly kids

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Speaker 1: down already, the kids. No, ye, all right, we gotta

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