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Speaker 1: meant to say would be something along the lines of

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Speaker 1: how do I keep the faith? How do I how

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Speaker 1: do I not lose my faith? Right? And so so

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Speaker 1: that that that goes back to it, there's a couple

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Speaker 1: of things. You can't do anything to earn your privilege

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Speaker 1: from God or to earn your status with God. God

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Speaker 1: does not look at you like like Santa Claus with

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Speaker 1: the checklist and go, okay, Austin, how many things have

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Speaker 1: you done for me today? Because you can't. You're you're

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Speaker 1: not righteous enough. And sometimes when we start thinking of

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Speaker 1: God as Morgan Freeman sitting on a cloud, it messes

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Speaker 1: up our mentality when you look, you look at him,

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Speaker 1: like the Bible says, and he's the creator of all things,

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Speaker 1: and he created He You walk outside, look at the stars,

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Speaker 1: look at the galaxies, look at the Milky Way, look

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Speaker 1: at the moon and the sun, and the Grand Canon

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Speaker 1: in the mouth, mountains and snowflakes. And like I said

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Speaker 1: on a podcast with Amber Eyeballs, he made eyeballs, Like

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Speaker 1: have you ever looked at an eyeball up close? It's crazy.

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Speaker 1: It's crazy. And so that those are all forms of worship.

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Speaker 1: And so what we're created to do, like we are.

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Speaker 1: If you're going to put any kind of obligation on us,

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Speaker 1: it's to worship. And worship comes in all ways. It

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Speaker 1: comes in singing, it comes in praise, It comes in

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Speaker 1: the acknowledgment of your your creator. When you walk outside

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Speaker 1: and you see a beautiful sunset, you take the time

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Speaker 1: and look at it, and you go, God, you created that.

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Speaker 1: That's incredible. You created art, You created music, You created

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Speaker 1: love and humor, and and you you acknowledge those things

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Speaker 1: in a form of praise. And we see this when

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Speaker 1: we walk through the psalms in the Bible. You see

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Speaker 1: this kind of stuff over and over like here I

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Speaker 1: go again, grabbing my grabbing my digital Bible. Okay. Psalm

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Speaker 1: forty two, David writes, as a deer pants for flowing streams,

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Speaker 1: So pants my soul for you, Oh God, my soul

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Speaker 1: thirst for God, for the living God. When shall I

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Speaker 1: come and appear before God? My tears have been my

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Speaker 1: flood day and night. So he's he is so emotional

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Speaker 1: over the fact that he is craving his creator. Can

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Speaker 1: you say that, Austin, Can you say out loud as

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Speaker 1: a deer pants for flowing streams, so pants my soul

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Speaker 1: for you, Oh God, my soul thirst for God. Can

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Speaker 1: you say that? And if you can't, then ask Him

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Speaker 1: for it? Say God, make your presence burn inside me,

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Speaker 1: the passion for you burn within me. That I need you,

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Speaker 1: that I crave you, that I thirst and hunger for you.

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Speaker 1: That's a form of praise. And through that your faith

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Speaker 1: grows and increases. Because no matter all the bad stuff

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Speaker 1: happening around you, and the lack of understanding and the

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Speaker 1: lack of righteousness that you have when you're trying to

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Speaker 1: be good and you can't, when you always flip it

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Speaker 1: and turn around and face God and go. But you,

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Speaker 1: but you, but God, but before the grace of God,

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Speaker 1: you created me for a purpose. And when you continue

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Speaker 1: to look at that through your problems and through your sin,

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Speaker 1: that's praise, that's worship. Yeah, that's good. So I'm trying

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Speaker 1: to think of an answer. I'm trying to put myself

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Speaker 1: in seventeen year old Bernie's position, and what could I say?

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Speaker 1: What could I hear a seventeen year old Bernie that

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Speaker 1: I would be like, that's okay. That impacts me, and Austin,

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure I got it, but I feel like

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Speaker 1: if you go back and read the parable of the

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Speaker 1: sewer and the good soil and the sea that was

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Speaker 1: thrown on the rocky soil, and the thorns and thistles

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Speaker 1: and that whole passage, I think that there's going to

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Speaker 1: be something for you in there, because because really, if

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Speaker 1: you're wanting to stay close to God, you're gonna want

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Speaker 1: this firm foundation. You've got to have good soil. And

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Speaker 1: so just maybe maybe read that and see see if

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Speaker 1: there's something in there for you, and then look around

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Speaker 1: and think think through it, like, Okay, is my faith

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Speaker 1: in the right soil to where it can be nourished,

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Speaker 1: to where it can be protected to where it can grow.

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Speaker 1: I think this is like a trifecta answer as far

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Speaker 1: as the you need what can I do to stay

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Speaker 1: close to God? You need communion first. You need community

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Speaker 1: and you need communication and that communication comes in forms

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Speaker 1: of really processing life's questions and stress testing the scripture

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Speaker 1: as you're wrestling with it with you know wise counsel Austin,

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Speaker 1: we're out of time for this break. We're gonna take

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Speaker 1: a break and get back to the second half of

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Speaker 1: half of Austin's question, going back to this is how

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Speaker 1: what is the best way to deal with people who

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Speaker 1: dislike you because you're a Christian? Love them, Love them.

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Speaker 1: That's that's really the essence of any situation as a Christian.

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Speaker 1: There is there is no judgment, there is there is

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Speaker 1: nothing but love. That's that's that's our requirement as stewards

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Speaker 1: of this message of the gospel. In Austin. You're seventeen, dude,

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Speaker 1: you're that's Burnie and I were saying on the break

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Speaker 1: that's you're asking incredible questions that I did not ask

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Speaker 1: at seventeen. It didn't even really occur to me this

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Speaker 1: kind of stuff. So that's, you know, kudos to you.

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Speaker 1: But if you're dealing with people that dislike you because

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Speaker 1: you're a Christian, first of all, I think there's something

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Speaker 1: missing in that question, like that they're seeing something in

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Speaker 1: you in today's world, like this is not the Roman

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Speaker 1: Empire where they literally burned you at a stake. I

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Speaker 1: think I think they're seeing religion and not Christianity, because

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Speaker 1: if they were seeing true Christianity, it's just you would

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Speaker 1: say I love you, brother, and instead of maybe they're

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Speaker 1: thinking you're going to judge me, or that there's things

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Speaker 1: in the Bible that I don't like and that you're

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Speaker 1: telling you're thinking that about me, and you need to

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Speaker 1: just dismiss that, because this is not about you judging

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Speaker 1: others at seventeen, and this is about you seeking a

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Speaker 1: relationship with Christ and loving them. And it's going to

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Speaker 1: be really hard to dislike you, Austin. If that's the

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Speaker 1: mentality you have, Yeah, that's really good. I think Western

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Speaker 1: that we have created a culture that views Christians in

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Speaker 1: a way of like, oh, well, they're hypocrites and there's

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Speaker 1: going to judge me. So people outside the faith will

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Speaker 1: look at you, you Austin, and automatically make that you know,

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Speaker 1: notion without actually talking to you. So the best thing

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Speaker 1: that you can do is draw near to them the

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Speaker 1: best that you can. If they really don't like you

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Speaker 1: and they're you know whatever, just let them haters gonna hate,

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Speaker 1: you know, to shack out. I have a theory about

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Speaker 1: this that you said Western Christianity. I think it's been

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Speaker 1: Christians since the beginning have messed up. And that's understandable.

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Speaker 1: We mess up. I'm holding my coffee mugs as wretched

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Speaker 1: center right here. I believe this is how Islam started,

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Speaker 1: this is how the Muslim faith started by bad Christians

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Speaker 1: that we're judging and, like you said, hypocrites. And Mohammed

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Speaker 1: has this dream under the tree that angel speaks to

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Speaker 1: him and Gabriels gives him basically the truth, the New Gospel,

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Speaker 1: and Mohammed is able to take that and go to

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Speaker 1: his people and go, hey, guys, do you think that

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Speaker 1: these Christians are hypocrites? And everyone goes, yes, do you

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Speaker 1: think they're judgmental on you? Yes? Well, good because I

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Speaker 1: have a new Gospel and here it is, and it's

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Speaker 1: easier to believe it's like, well, yeah, absolutely, because what

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Speaker 1: They're total hypocrites. So I believe that you have to

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Speaker 1: be right, Muhammed. So I think bad Christianity has caused

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Speaker 1: all kinds of problems in this world, all kinds. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: now that's a good point. But you know, to book

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Speaker 1: in the question, not everybody's gonna like you. I think

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Speaker 1: even the people that don't like you, because you're a Christian,

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Speaker 1: you probably have it way better than people in history.

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Speaker 1: I mean, is that right totally? There's there's been Christians

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Speaker 1: to you. So just check them off and keep the

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Speaker 1: you know, keep trucking along. I think you'll be good.

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Speaker 1: I want to dive into this question, and we could

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Speaker 1: hit this briefly because it was it was more of

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Speaker 1: a statement and not a question. But the subject line

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Speaker 1: is episode one fifteen. It says this comes from Blake,

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Speaker 1: and it says, your faith won't help you. I'm in

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Speaker 1: the army. I promise if you're in a firefight, nothing's

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Speaker 1: going to help you besides great training and a great platoon.

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Speaker 1: I was in for six years, so quickly, I just

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Speaker 1: want to say, and I replied to this. I hardly

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Speaker 1: thank you for your service. Are you an atheist? Blake,

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Speaker 1: if you're listening, you didn't reply back to that. I

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Speaker 1: was going to actually engage with you here, but I'll

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Speaker 1: do it on this podcast because I think it's very

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Speaker 1: important to kind of clarify this. You're saying you must

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Speaker 1: have listened to the podcast and you're probably agnostic or atheists,

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Speaker 1: And you're listening to me talk about faith and how

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Speaker 1: it saves and you're thinking, well, it can't help you

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Speaker 1: in a firefight. And I want to tell you a

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Speaker 1: couple things. One, it absolutely can. It can. But and

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Speaker 1: completely wrong. Faith doesn't stop a bullet from hitting you.

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Speaker 1: It can. God can do anything, but that's not how

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Speaker 1: he hardly ever shows himself to us. Your faith, first

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Speaker 1: of all, will save your soul after the bullet hits you,

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Speaker 1: So it can save It will save you after the

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Speaker 1: bullet hit your skull and you die. It saves your soul.

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Speaker 1: That's what we're talking about on this podcast. So we're

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Speaker 1: not talking about it's going to stop physical harm, because

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Speaker 1: so many times physical harm is needed. That's part of

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Speaker 1: the struggle that we go through in these temporary tints

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Speaker 1: that we live in. So yes, you're of course great

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Speaker 1: training in a great platoon helps you in a firefight.

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Speaker 1: But please don't misunderstand that Bernie and I are saying

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Speaker 1: that if you believe in Jesus that he creates this

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Speaker 1: Star Wars force field around you and bullets bounce off

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Speaker 1: of it, that is never what we're saying, and that's

640
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Speaker 1: never what the Bible says. Like you could go through

641
00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:15,799
Speaker 1: some sometimes like in First Kings, and you could go

642
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 1: through scenarios where God did enter a battle, but that's

643
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 1: that doesn't happen like that. Okay. So I want you

644
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 1: to understand, Blake through your question that I've never said

645
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 1: it will prevent physical harm if you believe in God.

646
00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:33,719
Speaker 1: That's not what I'm saying. God is much greater than that,

647
00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 1: and he has much greater interest in you as a

648
00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 1: temporary being on this earth than the battle that you're

649
00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:43,400
Speaker 1: in right now. He cares about that and it matters

650
00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 1: to him, but he's not willing to just jump down

651
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:50,600
Speaker 1: and block a bullet for you. Got to keep saying it.

652
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:53,560
Speaker 1: He can, but that's not Yeah, I think you've misunderstood

653
00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:56,279
Speaker 1: what we said in this podcast. Yeah, No, I one

654
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:59,160
Speaker 1: hundred percent agree. I want to go to one that

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00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:04,360
Speaker 1: is says subject line question for you and Bernie. My

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Speaker 1: name is Lindsay. I'm from Utah. I love your music

657
00:38:07,000 --> 00:38:10,240
Speaker 1: and your podcast. I know we've touched on this subject

658
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:13,360
Speaker 1: a couple of times on the podcast, but no matter

659
00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 1: how hard I try, I cannot seem to find the

660
00:38:15,680 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 1: answer that makes my heart happy. I'll try and keep

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00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 1: this short, but I'm looking for some help. My husband

662
00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:24,160
Speaker 1: grew up in the LDS Church. My mom gave him.

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00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:27,040
Speaker 1: His mom gave him no choice, and my husband was

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00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 1: forced to choose everything and live the LDS Church beliefs. Myself,

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00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:37,200
Speaker 1: I did not. My parents left religion and left it

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00:38:37,280 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 1: up to us for free choice. Excuse me, let me

667
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:42,759
Speaker 1: say that again. My parents left religion up to us

668
00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 1: as a free choice. My great grandparents lived a very

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Speaker 1: Christian lifestyle, and thanks to my great grandparents we lived

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Speaker 1: we live the Christian lifestyle. I have a strong belief

671
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 1: in God lower case G, and I know that there

672
00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:59,319
Speaker 1: is a higher power. My husband, on the other hand,

673
00:38:59,360 --> 00:39:02,600
Speaker 1: continues to shoot religion down if it gets brought up.

674
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Speaker 1: He is negative. I think after my miscarriage in February,

675
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:08,840
Speaker 1: I was hoping to lean to God lower kse G

676
00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:12,520
Speaker 1: and get the help we both needed to grow and

677
00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:17,239
Speaker 1: work through the miscarriage, but it backfired. I want my son,

678
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:20,480
Speaker 1: who is two, to have a religious freedoms I had

679
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:22,760
Speaker 1: while I was growing up, and to have a belief

680
00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 1: in God lower kse G. But I'm very worried my

681
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:28,440
Speaker 1: husband will continue to shoot any thought or speech of

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00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:31,319
Speaker 1: religion down. What is the best way to work through this.

683
00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:34,560
Speaker 1: I'm very lost and I don't even know how to

684
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:38,799
Speaker 1: have the conversation. Thanks Lindsey. A couple things, A lot

685
00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:44,080
Speaker 1: of things. Geez, there's that word religion. Religion is man made.

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Speaker 1: Living a Christian lifestyle will do nothing for you, lindsay,

687
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 1: means nothing. I'm sorry. It might help you get some

688
00:39:53,800 --> 00:39:56,720
Speaker 1: points in your community because you're helping old lady across

689
00:39:56,719 --> 00:40:06,240
Speaker 1: the street, but it does nothing to go philanthropy, philanthropy, philanthropy. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So I just I want to say that first that religion,

691
00:40:10,560 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 1: religion does nothing for you. Guys, I'm sorry, it does nothing.

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Speaker 1: If you're if you're of a different religion, then that's

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00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:20,279
Speaker 1: that's what you believe. But but but that's not what

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00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:23,360
Speaker 1: you said. You said Christian. You said Christian three times

695
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Speaker 1: in this email. My grandparents lived a very Christian lifestyle.

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Speaker 1: And let me let me just clarify what Granger saying, like,

697
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:33,520
Speaker 1: it does nothing for you. It does nothing for you

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00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:39,719
Speaker 1: in reconciliation with your relationship to God. Correct? Correct? So

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Speaker 1: you are wanting to let your kids have religious freedom.

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00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:48,719
Speaker 1: That sounds like it sounds like a government saying we

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00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:52,680
Speaker 1: want our people to have religious freedom. But but once again,

702
00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 1: that will do nothing for your children, and we'll do

703
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 1: nothing for your husband and for your husband to to

704
00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:02,239
Speaker 1: grow up in the way he did and to look

705
00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:05,760
Speaker 1: at to look at life like it's a judgment system,

706
00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:09,000
Speaker 1: a grading system where if you mess up, then you

707
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:12,040
Speaker 1: have to get better the next time and continue to

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00:41:12,040 --> 00:41:14,040
Speaker 1: get better. Once again, I like to say it like

709
00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:17,960
Speaker 1: a Santa Claus. No, not in good list, not in

710
00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:22,360
Speaker 1: nice list. It does nothing. It does it does nothing.

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Speaker 1: There is one thing that Bernie and I would tell

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00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:28,120
Speaker 1: you when you're talking about Christian lifestyle. First of all,

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00:41:29,200 --> 00:41:35,960
Speaker 1: Jesus didn't manifest himself to Earth to bring Christianity to us.

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00:41:36,440 --> 00:41:39,560
Speaker 1: That again, that even that term that phrased Jesus never

715
00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:43,239
Speaker 1: said Christianity. That is a man made term. That is

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00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:50,160
Speaker 1: categorization of that of that way that sometimes Paul called

717
00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:54,399
Speaker 1: it the way the fault the believers. Paul also said,

718
00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:57,920
Speaker 1: the believers a way to categorize all that is calling

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00:41:58,000 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 1: us Christians followers of Christ. But it does not mean

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00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:07,959
Speaker 1: that the lifestyle matters in your reconciliation. Like Bernie said,

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00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:10,960
Speaker 1: with God, I'm saying all this to just kind of

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00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 1: like deconstruct your whole question and deconstruct your whole email,

723
00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:18,359
Speaker 1: and just I would take your whole email out of

724
00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:22,000
Speaker 1: love and hope, I hope you guys understand that everything

725
00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 1: we say on this podcast, Bernie and I is truly

726
00:42:25,600 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 1: from our heart, is from a place of love, and

727
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:33,399
Speaker 1: it's not it's not my intent to come out here

728
00:42:33,400 --> 00:42:35,800
Speaker 1: and be critical, but I want to take your whole

729
00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:39,080
Speaker 1: email and just completely mush it up and deconstruct it

730
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:43,880
Speaker 1: and say this, your husband and your children will be

731
00:42:44,080 --> 00:42:47,680
Speaker 1: lost if they continue to look at it as religion

732
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:51,839
Speaker 1: like a like a man made system that and this

733
00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:54,480
Speaker 1: is what Jesus came and he just he did. He

734
00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:58,520
Speaker 1: said this to the Pharisees over and over. He deconstructed

735
00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:02,400
Speaker 1: and he he wrecked their world when they were trying

736
00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:06,839
Speaker 1: to live a religious lifestyle to please God. Jesus came

737
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:10,440
Speaker 1: and said, what are you doing? He flipped tables and

738
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:15,359
Speaker 1: he just he completely disorganized everything that they were trying

739
00:43:15,400 --> 00:43:17,719
Speaker 1: to do because he was saying, you guys got it

740
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:20,840
Speaker 1: all wrong. And so that's what I'm telling you, lindsay,

741
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:24,960
Speaker 1: he got it all wrong. The thing is leading your

742
00:43:25,040 --> 00:43:29,440
Speaker 1: husband and your children to Christ, to Jesus to fall

743
00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:32,319
Speaker 1: madly in love with him. As the creator, the one

744
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:37,239
Speaker 1: true God manifested on earth two thousand years ago in

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00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 1: the flesh, living the perfect life as an example. He

746
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 1: came to save sinners like me. I'm corrupt. I was

747
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:48,200
Speaker 1: born with a sinner's heart, a sinner's soul, and Jesus

748
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 1: came to save that for any that choose him to

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00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:53,480
Speaker 1: believe in him. And he died on a cross and

750
00:43:53,640 --> 00:43:57,799
Speaker 1: was killed in the most horrific way. Crucifixion was a

751
00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:03,600
Speaker 1: horrific form of capital punishment by the Roman Empire. And

752
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:07,680
Speaker 1: he died three days later. He was resurrected under in

753
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:10,920
Speaker 1: front of five hundred plus witnesses that saw this and

754
00:44:10,960 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 1: wrote it down and scattered across the globe to write

755
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 1: down these stories so that we could have at the

756
00:44:15,640 --> 00:44:18,440
Speaker 1: Bible is a collection of these stories that we have

757
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 1: that we have over five eight hundred copies of the

758
00:44:21,680 --> 00:44:26,880
Speaker 1: original writings from the first century. It is unbelievable that

759
00:44:26,880 --> 00:44:29,640
Speaker 1: we have a Bible today that has lasted through the

760
00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:33,000
Speaker 1: tyranny and corruption, but we have copies. We have the

761
00:44:33,040 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 1: Dead Sea scrolls. I'm going way off on a tangent

762
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:38,560
Speaker 1: to tell you that all that matters for your husband

763
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:40,680
Speaker 1: and your kids and you and me and Bernie and

764
00:44:40,680 --> 00:44:46,080
Speaker 1: anyone listening is loving Christ, learning him, getting a relationship

765
00:44:46,080 --> 00:44:49,280
Speaker 1: with him, going to him and admitting that you're a sinner,

766
00:44:49,600 --> 00:44:53,200
Speaker 1: telling him, telling him that you have no other hope,

767
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:57,040
Speaker 1: that you're in need of a savior. Lindsey is that

768
00:44:57,040 --> 00:45:06,400
Speaker 1: her name? Yes? So yeah, lindsay. I think until you

769
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Speaker 1: just in hearing your email and kind of where the

770
00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:12,600
Speaker 1: position of your heart is and where your husband's heart

771
00:45:12,719 --> 00:45:24,480
Speaker 1: currently is, until you see yourself on the cross and

772
00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:29,879
Speaker 1: you look over and see Jesus and you say, will

773
00:45:29,920 --> 00:45:34,920
Speaker 1: you remember me when you're in your kingdom, and you

774
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:39,439
Speaker 1: hear him say I tell you this today, you will

775
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:44,440
Speaker 1: be with me in paradise. Nothing else matters, No advice

776
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:49,400
Speaker 1: that we can give you, no eloquent speech or charismatic language,

777
00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 1: anything we can say, doesn't really matter until you, in

778
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:56,480
Speaker 1: your heart of hearts, are moved by the spirit to

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00:45:56,600 --> 00:46:01,120
Speaker 1: actually view yourself as that guy on the cross about

780
00:46:01,200 --> 00:46:04,919
Speaker 1: to die. So he didn't do anything good by any

781
00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 1: religious or worldly or Christian or whatever standards that we

782
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 1: could say. This is a true story he's telling by

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00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:14,560
Speaker 1: the way that really happened. The thief on the cross

784
00:46:14,560 --> 00:46:16,440
Speaker 1: next to Jesus. The thief on the cross, he was

785
00:46:16,480 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 1: a thief like and he was being murdered, and he

786
00:46:21,080 --> 00:46:23,920
Speaker 1: looked over in his last moments and just his eyes

787
00:46:23,960 --> 00:46:28,720
Speaker 1: were open. He was like, he's the Christ, He's the one.

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00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:33,399
Speaker 1: I'm not even worthy enough to ask you to go

789
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:40,400
Speaker 1: and save me, but could you just remember me and Jesus, Hey,

790
00:46:40,440 --> 00:46:43,160
Speaker 1: today you will be with me. And I guarantee you

791
00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:45,200
Speaker 1: the moment that you get to a place in your

792
00:46:45,239 --> 00:46:49,920
Speaker 1: heart where you see yourself in that light that nothing

793
00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 1: you can do is worth anything that you don't deserve it,

794
00:46:53,920 --> 00:46:56,000
Speaker 1: and you look over and you hear him whisper that

795
00:46:56,080 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 1: to you, Oh, the life that you will then experience

796
00:47:01,320 --> 00:47:04,520
Speaker 1: is gonna be awesome. And the words that you hear

797
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:07,239
Speaker 1: from Granger and I and from other people that you

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00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:09,719
Speaker 1: start to hear that are just soaked in the scripture,

799
00:47:10,000 --> 00:47:12,319
Speaker 1: they're gonna start to resonate with you in a different way.

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00:47:12,400 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 1: Right now, it's not going to resonate because your heart's

801
00:47:15,120 --> 00:47:20,080
Speaker 1: not there. So so good that story. So there's there's

802
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:22,640
Speaker 1: two thieves on the cross. There was three men that

803
00:47:22,719 --> 00:47:25,640
Speaker 1: were crucified that same day, Jesus was one of them,

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00:47:25,640 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 1: and then there was two thieves on either side of them.

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00:47:27,920 --> 00:47:32,719
Speaker 1: So one thief was laughing the whole time, like, hey,

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00:47:32,760 --> 00:47:36,120
Speaker 1: if you really are a son of God, save yourself

807
00:47:36,120 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 1: and save us. Come on, man, what you got? What

808
00:47:38,040 --> 00:47:42,280
Speaker 1: you got? Mocking him, and everyone was mocking him around

809
00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 1: except for the other thief on the other side. That's

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00:47:45,080 --> 00:47:47,520
Speaker 1: not what he said. He truly looked at him and

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00:47:47,560 --> 00:47:50,080
Speaker 1: just said, will you remember me when you go into

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00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:52,640
Speaker 1: your kingdom. That's all he said. And we know from

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00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:55,080
Speaker 1: that story that he was saved and nothing else mattered.

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Speaker 1: Nothing he did, no amount of merit that he did,

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00:47:57,840 --> 00:48:01,040
Speaker 1: no amount of teaching or learning. All he did was

816
00:48:01,080 --> 00:48:04,120
Speaker 1: put all of his belief. He gave everything to Christ

817
00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:07,799
Speaker 1: that day. So imagine this, lindsay, imagine your You're at

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00:48:07,840 --> 00:48:11,359
Speaker 1: your house in Utah. You don't say what town you're

819
00:48:11,400 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 1: in Utah, right, and you get a phone call from

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00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:20,440
Speaker 1: some kind of security guy and he says, there's a

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00:48:20,560 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 1: prince in Persia. He's the richest man in the world.

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Speaker 1: He is the richest. I'm just making this up. There's

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Speaker 1: a prince in Persia who's the richest man in the world.

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Speaker 1: He has king a massive kingdom and palaces and castles

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00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:43,000
Speaker 1: and servants and this entire kingdom. And he's gonna come

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Speaker 1: to your house for dinner tonight. And you go, what,

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00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:50,640
Speaker 1: this prince is coming to my house? Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: he's coming. Can you make dinner for us? And you

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00:48:53,680 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 1: go yeah, and it's and he's gonna come in thirty minutes,

830
00:48:57,000 --> 00:48:59,319
Speaker 1: like no time to go to the grocery store, and

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Speaker 1: so you just you frantically go around the house and

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Speaker 1: you start cleaning up, and you're like vacuum and you

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00:49:04,000 --> 00:49:06,600
Speaker 1: start wiping the tables down, and you open the fridge

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Speaker 1: and all you have is last night's left over fried chicken,

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Speaker 1: and you quickly pull it out and you put it

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Speaker 1: in the microwave and you start heating. And then you

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Speaker 1: see these like SUVs all blacked out. They start pulling

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00:49:16,640 --> 00:49:20,520
Speaker 1: up security and suits and radios and they all walk out.

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Speaker 1: They're talking, they got their sunglasses on, they're looking around,

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Speaker 1: and they start coming. Then and more and more limos

841
00:49:25,280 --> 00:49:27,239
Speaker 1: are pulling up, and you're like heating up the fried

842
00:49:27,280 --> 00:49:30,000
Speaker 1: chicken and the microwave and you're like lighting candles to

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00:49:30,000 --> 00:49:32,200
Speaker 1: make it smell good, and you're like running to your

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Speaker 1: closet and you start putting on some like the nicest

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00:49:34,960 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 1: clothes that you have, and the first security guys come in,

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00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:39,800
Speaker 1: and then the entourage, and then here comes the Prince.

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Speaker 1: He's just dressed in white, and he's got all these jewels,

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Speaker 1: and he's just perfect. And he walks in and he

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Speaker 1: goes to your table, your little table, and he sits

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00:49:48,160 --> 00:49:51,440
Speaker 1: down in the chair, and you go, what could I do?

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Speaker 1: What could I do? Do you think at that point

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Speaker 1: that prince could look at you and go, I wish

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Speaker 1: you had done more for me. I wish you had

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Speaker 1: made better food. He's the prince. He has everything. He

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Speaker 1: has everything in his kingdom. There's nothing you could do

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Speaker 1: to him. There's no food that he hasn't eaten, or

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Speaker 1: no delicacy that he hasn't indulged in. There's no fancy

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Speaker 1: table that he hasn't sat in. But he's coming to

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Speaker 1: yours and all you could do. All you could do

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Speaker 1: is bow to him and say thank you for blessing

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Speaker 1: me in my house with your presence. That's what you're

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Speaker 1: doing to the creator of the earth, The creator of

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Speaker 1: the universe is coming to your house. It says this

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Speaker 1: in John fourteen He's coming to your home, and he

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Speaker 1: will make a home with you in your where you

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Speaker 1: are in your life right now, the thief on the cross,

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Speaker 1: where he was right then in his life. He's coming

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Speaker 1: to you to make a home, and all you have

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Speaker 1: to do is open the door and let him in.

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Speaker 1: There's no food, there's no clothes, there's no special chair.

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Speaker 1: You only have what you have to offer. That's what's

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Speaker 1: happening to you right now. That was so good man.

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Speaker 1: If that's not in the book, that needs a book, Man,

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Speaker 1: you got me, good night, I just made that up. Goodness, gracious,

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Speaker 1: that was great. Well, I think that's all the time

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Speaker 1: we got to that. I don't know how you tough

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Speaker 1: that you go anywhere from that. That was so good man.

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Speaker 1: Well then, hey Burns, thanks for coming today. Man, Thank

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Speaker 1: you guys for listening. It's such a privilege to have

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Speaker 1: you on the podcast. And thank you guys for emailing.

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Speaker 1: I hope that the tough love wasn't too tough, and

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Speaker 1: I hope you don't take offense to anything we said.

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Speaker 1: But we're we're trying our best to give you the

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Speaker 1: truth that we know, that we believe, that we that

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Speaker 1: we're so passionate about and I hope that you could

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Speaker 1: take that with a grain of salt and hear that

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Speaker 1: from from two centers, two desperate men just just wanting

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Speaker 1: to Like Vodi Bacham says, we're just too beggars trying

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Speaker 1: to tell you where we found bread. That's good man.

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