WEBVTT - The Mom Chop

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<v Speaker 1>Wind down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh guys, Hi, Hi, you're good. I am not, but

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<v Speaker 2>I am I the mend.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you on the meds as well? What have you done? Kramer?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So I texted Catherine, I texted you yesterday and

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<v Speaker 2>I said something like, welp, welp.

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<v Speaker 1>I love a good just FYI starting with a good

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<v Speaker 1>Welp is my favorite thing ever.

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<v Speaker 2>And I didn't tell you what happened because I thought

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<v Speaker 2>it would be a good topic to just bring to

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<v Speaker 2>the couch. Okay, right, all right, So obviously y'all have

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<v Speaker 2>heard my my voice the last.

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<v Speaker 4>Couple of weeks phone sex operator.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Jane, and I'm like, I will not go to

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<v Speaker 3>the doctor. I will not get on an antibiotic.

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<v Speaker 4>I'll drink this orange juice and my hope and Jesus

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<v Speaker 4>will solve all of this.

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<v Speaker 1>This was last week, seven days later, so fourteen days

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<v Speaker 1>later from when it started.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and it started wow?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so fourteen literally that would be it would be

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<v Speaker 2>fourteen days today. Yeah, So but it was fifteen days

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<v Speaker 2>ago was when I started the symptoms. Want to go

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<v Speaker 2>get the IVY because I was so speak on to

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<v Speaker 2>San France in La So I'm one of those where

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just gonna ride it out because I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>the antibiotics and there's just so much going on.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm leaving you, guys, I booked a movie away.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell us, uh, so I leave tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait what, I don't see? We need a different system.

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<v Speaker 4>Haven't you learned the kind of creature and friend I am.

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<v Speaker 4>The sudden abandonment does not go well in a nervous system.

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<v Speaker 2>I got this call a couple of weeks ago, actually

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<v Speaker 2>passed originally on the movie.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay. Why you know I'm in a season where.

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<v Speaker 4>A Christmas season too soon is that I get sung

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<v Speaker 4>by the chimney with care go ahead.

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<v Speaker 2>Where I'm just I'm trying to value my worth a

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<v Speaker 2>bit more. I'm not saying I'm better than a Christmas

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<v Speaker 2>That's not what I'm saying at all. And I don't

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<v Speaker 2>even want to get into the whole long spiel of it.

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<v Speaker 2>But you do have dreams I do?

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<v Speaker 4>And inspirations, yeah, aspirations eiration.

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<v Speaker 3>We should talk for a living. Do you think it's

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<v Speaker 3>worth noting you're so uneducated?

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<v Speaker 4>Apparently I can't, So we'll just move right past that

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<v Speaker 4>one boot but I do feel like you just you

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<v Speaker 4>just do have.

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<v Speaker 3>Other dreach the things you want to do.

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<v Speaker 4>Sorry, there's no reverse bo I'd like to boot back.

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<v Speaker 3>My boot back is.

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<v Speaker 2>I am actually good uneducated. I'm privileged and uneducated boy.

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<v Speaker 4>And there is the clickbait for the next but that's

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<v Speaker 4>what I've been told.

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<v Speaker 2>It is a privilege to protect my piece. So I

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<v Speaker 2>guess I am privileged to protect my piece totally.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm on.

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<v Speaker 2>Educated an uneducated, but I'm willing to be educated when

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<v Speaker 2>yes the education percent yes, so.

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<v Speaker 3>Boot boot back. So we're moving forward. Three boops.

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<v Speaker 4>And you have other things that you would like to

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<v Speaker 4>do in your life besides in addition to Christmas movies,

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<v Speaker 4>and I think that it is okay, thank you, but

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<v Speaker 4>I also love a Christmas movie.

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<v Speaker 3>We'll take a Christmas I'd like to.

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<v Speaker 2>I also need to support my family, of course, and

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<v Speaker 2>I love to work.

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<v Speaker 3>I think working begets work. Yep, yep.

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<v Speaker 2>I also have an opportunity with this movie. They sweeten

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<v Speaker 2>the deal a little bit, and I don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>say what it is yet. Oh, but I might have

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<v Speaker 2>an opportunity to do something that I've been wanting to

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<v Speaker 2>do for That's that I've been not I want to say,

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<v Speaker 2>for a while, but it's something that I've it's been

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<v Speaker 2>brewing in my soul a bit to do. So with

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<v Speaker 2>this opportunity comes the next possible opportunity, and so I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, let's go, let's do it. And so

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<v Speaker 2>Kat's coming sorry boop, all right?

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<v Speaker 3>Can we start in the beginning? And in defense, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>pretty sure tomorrow so it's not just Jamna everyone.

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<v Speaker 4>Hey, guys, I hope you'll turn in next week to

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<v Speaker 4>this episode of Wine Down where it's just me alone

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<v Speaker 4>on a couch and they abandoned friends j Seline dion

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<v Speaker 4>Ah bye my.

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<v Speaker 1>In all defense, this guy went back and forth a

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<v Speaker 1>lot and it was decided I mean less than a

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<v Speaker 1>week ago.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, I ended.

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<v Speaker 4>It came back around where are you guys going?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, this hurts my Michigan heart Cleveland, Ohio? Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and I got nothing where I'm going.

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<v Speaker 3>What I'm doing?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So I was like, Cat, can you come with

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<v Speaker 2>me for a couple of days? And so she's coming

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<v Speaker 2>with me for a couple of days. Okay, So this

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<v Speaker 2>is very that part is very exciting for you. I've

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<v Speaker 2>already packed yes, yes to get already packed the Rummy Cube.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I don't forget them cube really oh I grew up.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my grandma used to We used to gamble Nickels

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<v Speaker 4>and Rummy Cube. We should do that together. We should also,

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<v Speaker 4>it was so fun. How did how do we not

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<v Speaker 4>know this?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't talk about it. I just don't see you

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<v Speaker 3>as ever playing games really? Yeah? Well I just don't. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>because I don't play because you don't want to play this. Well, no,

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<v Speaker 3>I just don't play with you, off with you. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't play uker so I'm not in the game night.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, we used to do game nights that were not

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<v Speaker 1>ker yeah, and then those just went away.

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<v Speaker 4>But you've seen me at catchphrase like I love a game.

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<v Speaker 4>That's true, I have a game. I'm just not as

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<v Speaker 4>good at card games as you guys. But Rummy Cube

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<v Speaker 4>anywaybe Yeah, we have wasted minutes of people's lives. But

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<v Speaker 4>you are going to do a movie in Ohio without

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<v Speaker 4>me and play Rummy Cube.

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<v Speaker 3>Cub Yeah yep, just so all cut up? Yep, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>cap that is the catch up.

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<v Speaker 2>So I have had let's see, I'm like at the

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<v Speaker 2>script on Friday. So Friday Saturday Sunday, Monday, Today's tuesdays.

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<v Speaker 2>So I've had five days to learn the script. So

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<v Speaker 2>I've got my script all print it out. It's been

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<v Speaker 2>attached to my hip the last few days. I do

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<v Speaker 2>not know how you do that. But the problem is

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<v Speaker 2>the problem was is I continue to not feel well.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, I forgot really started.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Roman has not has also got a fee. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I think he's got a different There's like three million

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<v Speaker 2>different things going wrong. There's the flu, there's this really

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<v Speaker 2>bad cold, there's something else.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what he has.

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<v Speaker 4>But and the belly bug is still alive. And well

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<v Speaker 4>that's great, yep, not for us, great yuck.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's all been happening, and so I know that

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<v Speaker 2>we're leaving tomorrow for Cleveland. I still cannot hear out

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<v Speaker 2>of my left ear. No stuff's coming out of my nose,

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<v Speaker 2>and so I'm like, okay, but I don't have a fever.

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<v Speaker 2>So in my mind, I'm like, Jane, just just keep riding, ride, ride, ride.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm like, all right, if I'm leaving wednesday, I

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<v Speaker 2>gotta be smart about this. Something must be going on

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<v Speaker 2>because I can't hear it and it hurts right like

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<v Speaker 2>it it's and you're headed into yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Whether yeah, airplanes, airplanes. That does not feel good working.

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<v Speaker 2>All day, you know, fourteen hour days. So I go

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<v Speaker 2>to the doctor's walk this walking clinic, and I, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>all the nurse, the whole thing, and I said, well,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I feel really silly actually being here because

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<v Speaker 2>you know, it's been two weeks and I'm actually on

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<v Speaker 2>the men like I'm not blowing my nose is that much?

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<v Speaker 2>And then the sweet, sweet older doctor man came in

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<v Speaker 2>and I then tell the story to him, Well, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>it's been two weeks and I haven't, like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not blown my nose that much. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>but my ear really does hurt, so but I'm sure

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<v Speaker 2>it's nothing, but I just want to make sure that

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<v Speaker 2>it is it isn't something. And I mean I just

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<v Speaker 2>word vomit like all over him, the symptoms, the things.

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm sure it's fine.

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<v Speaker 2>He looks in my ear and he goes, honey, he goes,

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't seen an ear infection that bad in a.

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<v Speaker 3>Really long time. Oh, I can still get ear infection.

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<v Speaker 2>We can.

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<v Speaker 3>Apparently I didn't know at our age. And so when

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<v Speaker 3>things go and there's all maybe that's why I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And so he's like, you need an antibiotic. And

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<v Speaker 2>then he goes, and I want to talk to you

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<v Speaker 2>some I want to talk to you about something off

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<v Speaker 2>the chart. And then I just, you know, when you

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<v Speaker 2>start to feel like a little swelling up of maybe

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<v Speaker 2>possible emotions. And he's just like, I was reading your chart,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was reading your anxiety PTSD stuff on your chart.

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<v Speaker 2>He goes, have you ever read the book The Body

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<v Speaker 2>Keeps a Score? Yes, I've heard of it. Such an

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<v Speaker 2>amazing book. It's so good, and I've read it before

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<v Speaker 2>because I throw anxiety stuff and all the things. But

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<v Speaker 2>I instantly he's like saying this, but I just like

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<v Speaker 2>instantly start crying because I'm overwhelmed too, you know what

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<v Speaker 2>I mean. I'm like, I haven't been feeling good for

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<v Speaker 2>the last fourteen days. I've got a movie that I

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<v Speaker 2>don't even know. And then I'm you know, trying to learn,

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<v Speaker 2>trying to manage the kids, all the things, and he's

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<v Speaker 2>just like, I really just think He's like, he just

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<v Speaker 2>wrote another book called and I wrote. I actually ordered

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<v Speaker 2>it and it's downstairs. It came overnight, so I can

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<v Speaker 2>bring it to Cleveland, but it words to building a

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<v Speaker 2>non anxious life. Sweet doctor was like, I really, he's like,

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<v Speaker 2>on top of the antibiotics, I'm going to prescribe you

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<v Speaker 2>that Amazon book.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, I'm sorry for the tears.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm just really stressed out right now.

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<v Speaker 3>And then my ear really does hurt. So thank you

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<v Speaker 3>for validating my feeling my ear. But what an incredible

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<v Speaker 3>doctor to be sweet.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like so often you're more likely than not

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<v Speaker 4>going to get a doctor that is just going to

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<v Speaker 4>take care of what is medical, not the whole person.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's really special.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's what made me like start to cry because

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like I needed obviously he could sense. He goes,

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<v Speaker 2>you just seem like you're a little You didn't say

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<v Speaker 2>high strong, but he could tell that. I was like stressed,

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<v Speaker 2>you wouldn't say high strong, holding yeah, our husband's seat, ye,

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<v Speaker 2>holding this anxious stuff and then reading He goes, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I think this would be really helpful for you. I

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<v Speaker 2>just thought it was the sweetest thing ever. This man

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<v Speaker 2>is so sweet, I know, so I just saw positivity

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<v Speaker 2>to me. I know, the sweet man doctor at the

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<v Speaker 2>Vanderbilt on the queue and walk in shout out to you.

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<v Speaker 2>What a sweet man I ordered it saw that's I'm

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<v Speaker 2>reading on the Planet I Love while learning my lines.

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<v Speaker 4>But yeah, you've got a lot to read and taking

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<v Speaker 4>your moxas already.

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<v Speaker 2>So but here's I started thinking about this though, is

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<v Speaker 2>and I really don't think it's just me. I think

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<v Speaker 2>moms do this too, because I'm I was, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>Roman's been sick, okay a couple days, all right, he's

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<v Speaker 2>got to go to the doctor's. He either probably is

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<v Speaker 2>a strap or maybe he is an ear infection too

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<v Speaker 2>or something. But it's like I did the same thing

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<v Speaker 2>two years ago when I waited too long and I

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<v Speaker 2>had a terrible case of strap, which is so bad

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<v Speaker 2>to wait that long.

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<v Speaker 3>You do ever think it's strap? Do not wait?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I was just like, oh, it's just my

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<v Speaker 2>thaar out like it's but I'm like, we don't take

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<v Speaker 2>care of ourselves. We should be the first ones to

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<v Speaker 2>take care of like we should be number one, but

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<v Speaker 2>we're not doing that. And that was another I think

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<v Speaker 2>what made me upset too, is I'm like I would

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<v Speaker 2>have been flying to Cleveland with this terrible ear infection

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<v Speaker 2>just because I'm not taking care of myself, like we

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<v Speaker 2>got to take care of ourselves. So reminder of the moms,

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<v Speaker 2>don't let things wait and take care of yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, and I think a lot of it you're you

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<v Speaker 1>want it to be. You don't want to feel silly.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm so that.

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<v Speaker 2>Way because if I walked in there and I walked

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<v Speaker 2>out without something, I'd been like, well, i just wasted

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<v Speaker 2>an hour of this and now I'm going to feel silly.

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<v Speaker 2>Big I didn't have anything right, but like my knee,

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<v Speaker 2>when I didn't have when it wasn't actually a torn something,

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<v Speaker 2>I felt so silly, like yeah there was a little

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<v Speaker 2>stuff that he could scope, but he's like it's fine.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you know, like it's just you just But would

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<v Speaker 3>we feel that way for our kids?

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<v Speaker 1>No, you know, like if we went I mean, how

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<v Speaker 1>many times do we take our kids and they're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not strep or flu or whatever. We're like just

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like at least we made sure, yeah, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like wild do we do that?

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<v Speaker 2>And then we beat ourselves up that we wasted time

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<v Speaker 2>and this, that and the other.

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<v Speaker 1>Exactly, you're so right, and so yes, no need to

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<v Speaker 1>feel silly. It's better to hear that it's nothing and

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<v Speaker 1>they needn't have a book.

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<v Speaker 4>I know exactly, Yeah, but it was something this time

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<v Speaker 4>was yeah, and now you know, and you get a

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<v Speaker 4>book and a moxicillia.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought you were going to say it was bronk.

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<v Speaker 1>Aren't you really prone to getting bronchitis?

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<v Speaker 3>I used to be. You used to get it a

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<v Speaker 3>lot when you guys think. So I was worried about that.

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<v Speaker 1>I almost said that last week when You're like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not getting an antibiotic and I was like.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh god, we're going to what is usually it does

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<v Speaker 3>go to my does go to your chest? Yeah? Well

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<v Speaker 3>I'm glad you're better. We're on the mend wind down,

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<v Speaker 3>So glad. So that's that. So going to Cleveland working.

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<v Speaker 3>But other updates anything? Love?

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<v Speaker 4>What got taken out of her big fat cast?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh? Yeah, sweet girl?

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<v Speaker 4>And she's in her below the elbow?

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<v Speaker 3>How there she do at the cheer comp on the

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<v Speaker 3>on the side. Great?

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<v Speaker 4>I could get emotional talking about this, Yeah I did.

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<v Speaker 3>Could you tell it was understand? Yeah, I'm going to detach.

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<v Speaker 4>I can just report it like the news, I think,

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<v Speaker 4>because it was incredible. Of course we're going to go

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<v Speaker 4>to cheercomp, you know, Preston was like, I think we

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<v Speaker 4>should go the other half of our duo win on

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<v Speaker 4>a cruise, and he's like, I think we should cancel

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<v Speaker 4>cheercomp and you guys should go we should go on

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<v Speaker 4>the cruise instead.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like that no, and So.

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<v Speaker 1>Said, yeah, they don't. I mean, I think everyone doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>understand that world though. I think any anybody would say well,

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<v Speaker 1>just don't go there, not on you know, like it's

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<v Speaker 1>so that's what I thought was.

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<v Speaker 2>Someone that's not in I think Nick and Alan might

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<v Speaker 2>because they know the sports, like you should go there

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<v Speaker 2>to support your team, but I think maybe a pressise,

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<v Speaker 2>he's not a sports guy.

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<v Speaker 1>Even part of Nick would even be like really like

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<v Speaker 1>even part of him that's like if they're hurt, like

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<v Speaker 1>why do they go to I mean, I mean it

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<v Speaker 1>hasn't really so it's like they go to practice.

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<v Speaker 3>Why are they spending the time?

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<v Speaker 4>You know?

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<v Speaker 1>He even still gets a little bit like that, but

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<v Speaker 1>mostly understands.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, it's a lot of money, Like, you know, we

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<v Speaker 4>spent money to go to the throat and you're still

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<v Speaker 4>Saint Louis and.

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<v Speaker 3>You're still paying regardless of being hurt or not.

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<v Speaker 4>She's at practice standing there with the coaches and playing

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<v Speaker 4>DJ and high fiving with my hand and we're still

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<v Speaker 4>paying that membership and we're paying for the travel, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>but it Saint Louis has some of the best human

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<v Speaker 4>beings on the planet period. The end, I just freaking

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<v Speaker 4>love the people of Saint Louis. They are so friendly

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<v Speaker 4>and so lovely, and she the grace of I won't

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<v Speaker 4>make this long, but the night before we were supposed

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<v Speaker 4>to leave, we were traveling with a mother and daughter

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<v Speaker 4>and the mom texting me, so os, my daughter is sick.

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<v Speaker 3>She's thrown up everywhere.

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<v Speaker 4>And I was like, no, so I you know, we

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<v Speaker 4>were going to potentially be driving by ourselves at Saint Louis.

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<v Speaker 3>No big deal. I can handle a road trip.

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<v Speaker 4>But what I hated for her is she's been waiting

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<v Speaker 4>three years to get to a travel camp, and that

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<v Speaker 4>this is our first travel camp, and she's been waiting

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<v Speaker 4>for the.

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<v Speaker 3>Car rides and the hotel share and that out today

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<v Speaker 3>we're supposed to share room with them as well.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, and we I just could feel it come over me.

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<v Speaker 4>It's ten o'clock at night, the night before leaving. Everyone's

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<v Speaker 4>got their plans. We're not all staying in the same

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<v Speaker 4>hotel block. It just was like, it's a very scattered

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<v Speaker 4>because we are a different kind of team. We're just

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<v Speaker 4>a sweet club team, you know. And anyways, I sent

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<v Speaker 4>an SOS to two moms who deserve to live in history,

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<v Speaker 4>Cammi and Joy, and I said, if there is They

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<v Speaker 4>were leaving at nine am. My husband wasn't even landing

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<v Speaker 4>back in Nashville until ninet thirty. So I sent a

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<v Speaker 4>note and I said, if there is any room in

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<v Speaker 4>your schedule to just we don't have to we can caravan.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, I just want us to not be riding

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<v Speaker 4>completely alone safety wise too, you know. But these women

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<v Speaker 4>paused at their worlds and let they all left two

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<v Speaker 4>hours later than they wanted to, and we all rode

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<v Speaker 4>together and Love had the time of her life five

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<v Speaker 4>hours in the.

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<v Speaker 3>Car, enjoyed. It made a million memories. So cute. So

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<v Speaker 3>what did y'all do about rooming? Did you still? I

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<v Speaker 3>just I just kept my own room.

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<v Speaker 1>But how did if y'all only had one room planned?

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<v Speaker 1>How did y'all both end up with a hotel room?

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<v Speaker 1>Did they not go?

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<v Speaker 3>They didn't end up going at all?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, throwing up, that's nice.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so definitely go even if we're throwing up.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, they wanted her to, but this mom was nervous.

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<v Speaker 4>She'd be five hours there and I gotta be honest

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<v Speaker 4>with you.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'd be a nervous wreck. Would you might be.

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<v Speaker 4>Really proud of this kreamer. I'd be really extra proud

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<v Speaker 4>of this. She was like, she's throwing up, and I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, yeah, I don't want a carpool. I've had

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<v Speaker 4>my fair share sicknesses. I'm not usually that mom. But

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<v Speaker 4>I thought, you know what, it's kind of irresponsible for

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<v Speaker 4>me to bring the air for five hours twelve hours

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<v Speaker 4>after a vomiting So we went ahead and canceled that.

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<v Speaker 4>But watching Love sit and coach next to her coach

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<v Speaker 4>and do the motions and do the big smiles, I

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<v Speaker 4>have just never been more proud of a human. And

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<v Speaker 4>I'm just in awe of her athleticism in this moment.

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<v Speaker 4>It is just so I kept checking in on her feelings.

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<v Speaker 4>I wanted to check in on the feelings without giving

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<v Speaker 4>her feelings, you know, like I don't want to say

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<v Speaker 4>are you sad? Or does make you feel left out?

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<v Speaker 4>Or you know, because this is what she's been training

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<v Speaker 4>for since August this particular routine. Yeah, I was just

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<v Speaker 4>blown away. She was like, I'm nervous for them. They

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<v Speaker 4>did amazing and they took first in their division, second overall,

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<v Speaker 4>which was sweet.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah that's great.

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<v Speaker 4>But I feel just really proud of the person and

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<v Speaker 4>teammates she's been So that's been awesome. I love that

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<v Speaker 4>now she's got a slimmer cast. It's pink and glitter.

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<v Speaker 4>We're feeling better. I love that two more weeks than

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<v Speaker 4>a cast than we brace in the good memory. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>it's really cool. And you were also at a cheer comp.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I wish we were at the same one. Cat,

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<v Speaker 3>this one is huge.

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't been to this one in Yeah, I haven't

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<v Speaker 1>been to this one in probably eight years or so.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, how was the mom drama because I saw some

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<v Speaker 2>it was in there.

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<v Speaker 1>No drama great, well mostly note no drama between the moms.

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<v Speaker 3>This weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>It was actually a really really good weekend. Right the

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<v Speaker 1>weekend before that was a little weirder and it's still

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<v Speaker 1>a little different, but we were all at the same hotel,

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<v Speaker 1>which is not always the case. So it was all

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<v Speaker 1>but I am in like this new mentality of I'm

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<v Speaker 1>having fun and I'm happy no matter what. Okay, that's

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<v Speaker 1>where I'm just like, yeah, right there, I want to

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<v Speaker 1>do something. I'm going to reach out and I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>tell I'm not going to worry about what everybody else

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<v Speaker 1>is doing, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>So it was a great It was actually a really

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<v Speaker 3>great weekend. And how is Emmy with second?

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<v Speaker 1>Amazing great because the team that won got a ninety

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<v Speaker 1>nine point five and the highest of the thirty one

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<v Speaker 1>thousand people that were there. Wow, so thirty, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>it's huge. I saw pictures of it. Did you see

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<v Speaker 1>Ashley's posts?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 3>I saw that.

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<v Speaker 4>No, I just saw our cheer coaches sent us a

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<v Speaker 4>picture and said because ours was teen yeah, yeah, like

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<v Speaker 4>teeny junny. And it was funny because they were like

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<v Speaker 4>we could have been here and they sent the picture

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<v Speaker 4>and I was like my throat, baggie, my children while

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<v Speaker 4>I'm staring at it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's definitely the most overwhelming one and I hadn't been

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<v Speaker 1>since Emmy was probably like seven, and I can remember

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<v Speaker 1>having her there like finding a child that was lost

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<v Speaker 1>and trying to help her find a parent.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, it's overwhelming.

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<v Speaker 1>There's so many people, but they had a great day

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<v Speaker 1>one but they jumped almost two points higher the next day,

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<v Speaker 1>so that second place felt like a win.

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<v Speaker 3>So it was great.

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<v Speaker 2>How do you guys deal with the disappointment when they

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<v Speaker 2>don't win? And I kind of had my first experience

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<v Speaker 2>with Jason. You guys, come on, but his little basketball tournament.

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<v Speaker 2>They were I got to give mad props to my

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<v Speaker 2>ex because he coached them so well this season. They

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<v Speaker 2>were the I would say, the lowest ranking team in

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<v Speaker 2>the beginning. We ended up being Parker and Mackenzie's team.

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<v Speaker 3>That's awesome.

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<v Speaker 2>They crushed us in the beginning of the season and

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<v Speaker 2>then we came back. I mean again, Mike just did

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<v Speaker 2>great with these kids, and they were I mean, they

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<v Speaker 2>should have won the tournament, but they you know did

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<v Speaker 2>they just made some mistakes and the you know, the

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<v Speaker 2>last But seeing Jason's face, I mean they lost by two.

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<v Speaker 3>Points, and they were and they.

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<v Speaker 2>Were ahead ten points like almost the entire game, and

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<v Speaker 2>just to see his face, I was just he was

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<v Speaker 2>so I saw the disappointment for the first time, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like he's been disappointed when he would strike out in baseball.

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<v Speaker 2>But it was like they knew they were the underdogs

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<v Speaker 2>that came back and just and then.

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<v Speaker 4>It's also a wild hard because for a long time,

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like they don't care.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, they win or lose.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, And so when it starts registering did we win?

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<v Speaker 4>Did we win?

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<v Speaker 3>It's like and then when.

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<v Speaker 2>They know, they see the thing and I mean it

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<v Speaker 2>was just his little face and uddie and I was

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<v Speaker 2>just like, body, I'm so proud of you and you

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<v Speaker 2>guys went out there and you did amazing. I'm trying

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<v Speaker 2>to but also let them have their feelings. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>how have you guys got heart? We've done this for

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<v Speaker 2>a long time.

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<v Speaker 1>And I can I mean even I mean, it all

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<v Speaker 1>gets to me. I mean, Cayden is playing a not

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<v Speaker 1>even serious basketball tournament and I'm still like, oh, what

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<v Speaker 1>a heartbreaker. I mean, it's like football players playing basketball

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<v Speaker 1>for fun, Like it never changes. Like as many times

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<v Speaker 1>as Emmy's gone to a cheer comp since she was five,

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<v Speaker 1>how many first place has she gotten? I mean probably

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<v Speaker 1>a handful really if you look at it, but it

0:20:40.480 --> 0:20:44.199
<v Speaker 1>never goes away, Like even getting that second place the

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<v Speaker 1>other day, Emmy didn't have necessarily her best day. Just

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<v Speaker 1>she's usually I'm not gonna say flawless, but like she's

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<v Speaker 1>usually pretty and there were two things to her that

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<v Speaker 1>just were not perfect. So she came off disappointed, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>And so it never goes away. It literally, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think ever goes away.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm curious what you say to her, because Alan

0:21:03.320 --> 0:21:05.800
<v Speaker 2>and I've been reading this book called Us by Terrence Reel,

0:21:05.880 --> 0:21:08.119
<v Speaker 2>and it's all about you learn a lot about like

0:21:08.119 --> 0:21:11.240
<v Speaker 2>your adaptive child and your wounded child, and it's been

0:21:11.400 --> 0:21:13.919
<v Speaker 2>such a beautiful book to read together. But he was

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<v Speaker 2>talking about how as parents, some of the things that

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<v Speaker 2>we might have learned as kids, like we might have

0:21:18.920 --> 0:21:22.040
<v Speaker 2>gotten either the abandonment or false empowerment. So the false

0:21:22.040 --> 0:21:25.720
<v Speaker 2>empowerment that we received as kids then led us to

0:21:25.880 --> 0:21:28.960
<v Speaker 2>being the superiority when we're like, oh, we just think

0:21:29.000 --> 0:21:34.399
<v Speaker 2>we're this grandiose thoughts about ourselves and because our parents

0:21:34.440 --> 0:21:37.040
<v Speaker 2>are like, well, you're amazing this, and yes, we want

0:21:37.040 --> 0:21:39.520
<v Speaker 2>to empower them, but there's this piece of false empowerment

0:21:39.560 --> 0:21:43.119
<v Speaker 2>too that in those moments like how do you like

0:21:43.200 --> 0:21:46.320
<v Speaker 2>give them the empowerment but also not build them up

0:21:46.359 --> 0:21:48.920
<v Speaker 2>so much that they're just like, yeah, screw that other team,

0:21:49.040 --> 0:21:50.880
<v Speaker 2>you know, or you know right where it's like where

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<v Speaker 2>they they don't have this like grandiose.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a that's a fine line. I think.

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<v Speaker 1>As as a parent, that's a really hard question. I

0:21:59.520 --> 0:22:03.960
<v Speaker 1>think in most kids instances and in most sports, you're

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<v Speaker 1>not always winning, So it knocks you down on its own. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not going to stay this now. Where I do

0:22:10.280 --> 0:22:13.320
<v Speaker 1>think it's detrimental to kids is when they are on

0:22:13.480 --> 0:22:17.920
<v Speaker 1>a team that is always winning. Detrimental, Like, they cannot

0:22:18.040 --> 0:22:21.000
<v Speaker 1>always be on a team that's always winning, because then

0:22:21.640 --> 0:22:23.840
<v Speaker 1>you might get to a point where you don't and

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<v Speaker 1>nine times out of ten that and you know, they

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<v Speaker 1>feel like they're the top dog and they have bad

0:22:30.240 --> 0:22:32.280
<v Speaker 1>attitudes when they lose. So I think the best thing

0:22:32.400 --> 0:22:34.399
<v Speaker 1>you can do if that starts happening is to make

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<v Speaker 1>sure they're on a team that's not always winning.

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<v Speaker 3>As hard as that is, I know.

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<v Speaker 2>That because that's for us too, Like we we like

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<v Speaker 2>to win when we play games.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, so that's what I was going to ask, because

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<v Speaker 4>I don't care about winning, okay, yep, no, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,

0:22:49.960 --> 0:22:52.720
<v Speaker 4>you don't yeah yeah, no, Like I mean, of course

0:22:52.720 --> 0:22:53.720
<v Speaker 4>everyone would love to win.

0:22:53.880 --> 0:22:56.439
<v Speaker 3>Of course, we're human. Not like no, I like him

0:22:56.480 --> 0:22:57.200
<v Speaker 3>more about that.

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<v Speaker 4>We have a great time doing it, but I think

0:22:59.040 --> 0:23:01.239
<v Speaker 4>that's also why I was a cross country runner, right,

0:23:01.280 --> 0:23:03.639
<v Speaker 4>Like I wasn't in sports where it was it was

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<v Speaker 4>just me versus me, right, But when we play games,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't care about winning. I always just want us

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<v Speaker 4>to have like the best time possible. So but I

0:23:13.720 --> 0:23:15.919
<v Speaker 4>Preston and I have had to talk about this because

0:23:16.440 --> 0:23:19.600
<v Speaker 4>that can foster something in kids too that isn't necessarily beneficial.

0:23:19.640 --> 0:23:22.440
<v Speaker 4>I don't want to make mediocre, lackluster athletes because I'm like, well,

0:23:22.440 --> 0:23:24.240
<v Speaker 4>did you have a good time? Well, then that's enough,

0:23:24.320 --> 0:23:27.160
<v Speaker 4>you know, because you want to win and you want

0:23:27.160 --> 0:23:27.920
<v Speaker 4>to bring there's.

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<v Speaker 3>A happy medium.

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<v Speaker 1>I think for me, I usually go to the every

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<v Speaker 1>did you do everything that you felt like that you could?

0:23:34.800 --> 0:23:35.879
<v Speaker 3>Did you do your best?

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<v Speaker 1>And that's where Emmy was upset with herself because she

0:23:38.080 --> 0:23:40.800
<v Speaker 1>didn't feel like she did her She was not upset

0:23:40.840 --> 0:23:43.119
<v Speaker 1>at anyone else. She was not, you know, And so

0:23:43.200 --> 0:23:45.400
<v Speaker 1>teaching them at the end of the day, with these

0:23:45.440 --> 0:23:49.760
<v Speaker 1>team sports, all you can control is yourself, all you

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<v Speaker 1>and if a mistake happens, a mistake happens, So you

0:23:52.480 --> 0:23:54.720
<v Speaker 1>did your best, but a mistake still happened, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's all you can really do you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you can empower them, but they're you know,

0:24:01.960 --> 0:24:03.640
<v Speaker 1>I think there's I don't think you have to say

0:24:03.680 --> 0:24:07.359
<v Speaker 1>you're the best or you know, do your best. I

0:24:07.359 --> 0:24:09.840
<v Speaker 1>think that becomes very important to kind of answer your

0:24:09.920 --> 0:24:13.920
<v Speaker 1>question and how you know, if something's very easy for them,

0:24:14.240 --> 0:24:15.600
<v Speaker 1>why was this hard for you this time?

0:24:15.640 --> 0:24:17.080
<v Speaker 3>Or why did we mess this up? Did we not

0:24:17.200 --> 0:24:18.359
<v Speaker 3>try our hardest? You know?

0:24:18.480 --> 0:24:21.000
<v Speaker 1>Or if something's really hard for them and they did

0:24:21.040 --> 0:24:23.200
<v Speaker 1>it really well, wow, like that's always been.

0:24:23.080 --> 0:24:23.959
<v Speaker 3>Really hard for you.

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<v Speaker 1>I just think focusing on those little things, I think

0:24:26.760 --> 0:24:28.600
<v Speaker 1>is about all you can do. But you can't do

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<v Speaker 1>anything about the disappointment, can't do anything about the tears.

0:24:32.040 --> 0:24:33.000
<v Speaker 3>That's the hardest thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I Mean, we had cheer coaches that would yell at

0:24:34.840 --> 0:24:36.600
<v Speaker 1>them for crying, and I'm like, don't kill their spirit,

0:24:36.800 --> 0:24:39.600
<v Speaker 1>Like that's a competitive edge that you don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>go away. You want them to feel that. You want

0:24:42.400 --> 0:24:44.679
<v Speaker 1>them to be a little upset and is if they're not,

0:24:45.080 --> 0:24:47.320
<v Speaker 1>they're not upset and disappointed, they're not going to do

0:24:47.359 --> 0:24:48.879
<v Speaker 1>their best and work their hardest.

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<v Speaker 3>In my opinion, I agree.

0:24:50.480 --> 0:24:54.200
<v Speaker 2>I always say, of course that hurts, of course, that's yeah,

0:24:54.200 --> 0:24:57.679
<v Speaker 2>of course you're sad that that's This actually is a

0:24:57.720 --> 0:25:03.320
<v Speaker 2>really great example. I I am speaking just like on feelings,

0:25:03.320 --> 0:25:04.920
<v Speaker 2>and there's a kind of a teaching moment for my

0:25:05.000 --> 0:25:10.480
<v Speaker 2>daughter too. I there's a whole other layer, and I'm

0:25:10.520 --> 0:25:12.280
<v Speaker 2>not going to cry, Oh my goodness, because I am

0:25:12.320 --> 0:25:13.920
<v Speaker 2>fighting my sinus all the things.

0:25:13.960 --> 0:25:15.920
<v Speaker 3>I can't do it buck it up.

0:25:18.440 --> 0:25:21.600
<v Speaker 2>Because it's such a bigger conversation that But I had

0:25:21.600 --> 0:25:25.560
<v Speaker 2>a really hard conversation with Alan about something that I

0:25:25.560 --> 0:25:27.760
<v Speaker 2>don't even it's not it was it's not about our relationship.

0:25:27.800 --> 0:25:29.720
<v Speaker 2>It's about my own personal work and stuff.

0:25:29.880 --> 0:25:35.040
<v Speaker 3>Sure, and it was This was not.

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<v Speaker 2>In the car, but when I was in the car,

0:25:38.560 --> 0:25:42.920
<v Speaker 2>we were actually leaving church and something that the pastor said,

0:25:42.960 --> 0:25:44.399
<v Speaker 2>I kind of looked to Alan and I started to

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<v Speaker 2>get teary because he knew like where my emotion level

0:25:47.520 --> 0:25:52.720
<v Speaker 2>was at and I was basically so that you know,

0:25:52.760 --> 0:25:54.560
<v Speaker 2>the audition that I sent. So I ended up not

0:25:54.560 --> 0:25:56.639
<v Speaker 2>getting the part or whatever, and it started to make me.

0:25:56.720 --> 0:25:58.280
<v Speaker 2>I just had a bunch of feelings and I'll talk

0:25:58.280 --> 0:26:00.679
<v Speaker 2>about it later because I'm just in this like, yeah.

0:26:00.560 --> 0:26:01.639
<v Speaker 4>It's okay to sort it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I needs to take kind of a minute with

0:26:03.359 --> 0:26:06.399
<v Speaker 2>it sure, but Jolie it kind of like saw me

0:26:06.480 --> 0:26:09.040
<v Speaker 2>like wiping away some tears or whatever, and she's she

0:26:09.040 --> 0:26:11.639
<v Speaker 2>she has a little Apple watch. And so we're in

0:26:11.640 --> 0:26:15.359
<v Speaker 2>the Starbucks line and you know, I got my glasses.

0:26:15.400 --> 0:26:17.720
<v Speaker 2>I'm just like, you know, Alan holds my hand. I'm

0:26:17.720 --> 0:26:19.840
<v Speaker 2>just wiping away some tears and he and she goes, Mommy,

0:26:19.840 --> 0:26:20.560
<v Speaker 2>you don't look okay.

0:26:20.600 --> 0:26:21.200
<v Speaker 3>Are you okay?

0:26:22.280 --> 0:26:24.199
<v Speaker 2>And instead of being like, no, baby, I'm fine, I

0:26:24.200 --> 0:26:25.800
<v Speaker 2>look back and I go, you know what, baby, I

0:26:25.840 --> 0:26:27.800
<v Speaker 2>was like, Oh, your message is so sweet. I go, Actually,

0:26:27.840 --> 0:26:31.119
<v Speaker 2>mommy's feelings, I go, Mommy's sad. I go, you know

0:26:31.160 --> 0:26:33.040
<v Speaker 2>that part I was really excited about. I said, Mommy

0:26:33.280 --> 0:26:36.040
<v Speaker 2>just got the word that you know that I didn't

0:26:36.040 --> 0:26:39.600
<v Speaker 2>get it on Friday, and it makes mommy sad. Even

0:26:39.640 --> 0:26:41.680
<v Speaker 2>at forty two and been acting for so long, I said,

0:26:41.680 --> 0:26:44.919
<v Speaker 2>I'm I'm really disappointed and I'm sad, you know. And

0:26:44.960 --> 0:26:47.080
<v Speaker 2>I think it's I think it's good for kids to

0:26:47.119 --> 0:26:50.600
<v Speaker 2>see that, even at this age and this long, I

0:26:50.600 --> 0:26:54.080
<v Speaker 2>said that it still affects me yes day. I said,

0:26:54.080 --> 0:26:56.440
<v Speaker 2>but you know, Mommy's gonna keep on going. I said,

0:26:56.480 --> 0:26:58.040
<v Speaker 2>but it does hurt mommy's heart.

0:26:58.400 --> 0:27:00.560
<v Speaker 3>In this moment, I said, but I love you guys. Yeah,

0:27:00.560 --> 0:27:03.080
<v Speaker 3>we're all good. I think that was absolutely like the

0:27:03.119 --> 0:27:06.119
<v Speaker 3>best thing to do. But I wanted to say, I'm fine, right,

0:27:06.240 --> 0:27:08.600
<v Speaker 3>all good? And how many times have we done that million?

0:27:08.720 --> 0:27:10.679
<v Speaker 3>You know, I mean down to a earache?

0:27:10.880 --> 0:27:14.440
<v Speaker 1>And they can be such lessons for them. Yeah, if

0:27:14.480 --> 0:27:16.639
<v Speaker 1>we just aren't trying to make ourselves. I mean, I

0:27:16.640 --> 0:27:16.919
<v Speaker 1>get it.

0:27:16.960 --> 0:27:18.960
<v Speaker 3>We don't always be, you know, sometimes we like wipe

0:27:19.800 --> 0:27:22.520
<v Speaker 3>of course, always right right.

0:27:23.000 --> 0:27:24.480
<v Speaker 1>I know there are moments where I'm like, what am

0:27:24.480 --> 0:27:27.320
<v Speaker 1>I doing is stupid? But I think there are usually

0:27:27.520 --> 0:27:28.880
<v Speaker 1>good teaching moments for them.

0:27:28.920 --> 0:27:30.440
<v Speaker 3>Agreed, sweet girl.

0:27:30.640 --> 0:27:32.000
<v Speaker 2>Side note of it, any of you guys watched the

0:27:32.200 --> 0:27:33.840
<v Speaker 2>d I know we talked a little bit about Olympics,

0:27:33.840 --> 0:27:35.400
<v Speaker 2>but has anybody else watched anything else?

0:27:35.560 --> 0:27:37.680
<v Speaker 3>Not really just about the I've been watching.

0:27:38.280 --> 0:27:41.240
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Molina, I don't want to butcher his name, but

0:27:41.280 --> 0:27:43.959
<v Speaker 2>the figure skater who fell a bunch during his routine

0:27:44.040 --> 0:27:46.959
<v Speaker 2>saw the about it, Yeah, which broke my heart for him,

0:27:46.960 --> 0:27:50.080
<v Speaker 2>because you know, he is twenty one years old. He

0:27:50.320 --> 0:27:53.640
<v Speaker 2>does all the quads favored to win. You know, he

0:27:54.560 --> 0:27:56.760
<v Speaker 2>popped a lot of his jumps, fell on a couple

0:27:56.800 --> 0:28:00.560
<v Speaker 2>of them, ended up in eighth place. But the pressure

0:28:00.840 --> 0:28:04.520
<v Speaker 2>that he was to have that pressure being that star

0:28:04.720 --> 0:28:07.439
<v Speaker 2>always like in that number one position, and it's like

0:28:08.080 --> 0:28:10.399
<v Speaker 2>it wasn't able to handle that pressure too, And I

0:28:10.480 --> 0:28:12.720
<v Speaker 2>can't imagine that for you know, yes he's not a

0:28:13.160 --> 0:28:17.320
<v Speaker 2>kid anymore, but growing being the favorite Yeah yeah, favored

0:28:17.400 --> 0:28:19.439
<v Speaker 2>person too, you know, but yes, but still is.

0:28:19.480 --> 0:28:21.680
<v Speaker 3>But it's still so young even if you think about it.

0:28:21.720 --> 0:28:22.760
<v Speaker 3>But yeah, that pressure.

0:28:23.600 --> 0:28:26.200
<v Speaker 2>And then he said too, it's like fighting invisible battles,

0:28:26.280 --> 0:28:28.000
<v Speaker 2>you know, that people don't know about.

0:28:28.040 --> 0:28:32.240
<v Speaker 3>So it's aren't we all we're all just that it

0:28:32.320 --> 0:28:34.600
<v Speaker 3>all comes in when you're when you're doing that on

0:28:34.640 --> 0:28:36.520
<v Speaker 3>the biggest stage, it's just like made me sad.

0:28:36.600 --> 0:28:38.960
<v Speaker 4>Represent the whole country like that is just can you

0:28:39.000 --> 0:28:39.920
<v Speaker 4>imagine the pressure?

0:28:40.760 --> 0:28:43.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I can't at all, But I'm just maybe just

0:28:43.680 --> 0:28:46.760
<v Speaker 2>think about kids too and the pressure that when they're

0:28:47.120 --> 0:28:49.840
<v Speaker 2>always winning, like you to your point, always on the

0:28:49.880 --> 0:28:55.000
<v Speaker 2>winning team. Yeah, how that might make them have this Yeah.

0:28:55.000 --> 0:28:56.480
<v Speaker 1>I mean my sister in law brings that up to

0:28:56.520 --> 0:28:58.520
<v Speaker 1>me all the time because her son was like that

0:28:58.600 --> 0:29:00.880
<v Speaker 1>in basketball for years and she's like, we're not doing

0:29:00.880 --> 0:29:02.880
<v Speaker 1>this anymore. We're taking to a different team. You're going

0:29:02.920 --> 0:29:04.239
<v Speaker 1>to go on a team that's got to fight for

0:29:04.280 --> 0:29:06.760
<v Speaker 1>it because this is not good for you. I mean,

0:29:06.800 --> 0:29:09.200
<v Speaker 1>because they just get you know, you get used to it.

0:29:09.400 --> 0:29:09.600
<v Speaker 4>Well.

0:29:09.680 --> 0:29:11.200
<v Speaker 3>I kind of see that with Amy because I feel

0:29:11.200 --> 0:29:13.280
<v Speaker 3>like they always won. No, they don't always win. I

0:29:13.320 --> 0:29:15.560
<v Speaker 3>just really oh yeah, okay, And a lot of times

0:29:15.600 --> 0:29:20.080
<v Speaker 3>I was like, man, yes, and I mean yeah, yes, definitely.

0:29:20.120 --> 0:29:21.200
<v Speaker 3>And and that's the thing.

0:29:21.440 --> 0:29:24.960
<v Speaker 1>Even this season we have gone we won the first one,

0:29:25.280 --> 0:29:29.160
<v Speaker 1>we bombed the second one. Three and a half of deductions,

0:29:29.480 --> 0:29:32.720
<v Speaker 1>you know, I mean it's like and then we did

0:29:32.760 --> 0:29:35.400
<v Speaker 1>okay day one, but then killed day two. It is

0:29:35.480 --> 0:29:38.080
<v Speaker 1>all over the place. And that's where your emotions if

0:29:38.120 --> 0:29:40.880
<v Speaker 1>you can't like kind of keep them in check because again,

0:29:41.280 --> 0:29:42.640
<v Speaker 1>it's just it can you know.

0:29:42.920 --> 0:29:45.040
<v Speaker 4>And that's why we chose the music industry, because defeat

0:29:45.120 --> 0:29:46.600
<v Speaker 4>is every day and you can.

0:29:46.440 --> 0:29:47.400
<v Speaker 3>Never get too big for.

0:29:49.360 --> 0:29:49.440
<v Speaker 4>You.

0:29:50.200 --> 0:29:53.280
<v Speaker 3>That's a great nas we're navigating at the bros. Houses.

0:29:53.760 --> 0:29:56.640
<v Speaker 1>And then they take this into adulthood because that's all

0:29:56.680 --> 0:29:59.000
<v Speaker 1>that they really can compare it to is the sports

0:29:59.000 --> 0:30:01.040
<v Speaker 1>that they play. And then and it's like, hello, like

0:30:01.200 --> 0:30:04.880
<v Speaker 1>life beat you down, yeah, and you are not always

0:30:05.320 --> 0:30:06.360
<v Speaker 1>as an adult.

0:30:18.640 --> 0:30:22.400
<v Speaker 2>Perfect segue. Into wine about it. Oh, does anybody got anything?

0:30:23.360 --> 0:30:24.959
<v Speaker 1>I have a little wine about it. But it's like

0:30:25.040 --> 0:30:27.680
<v Speaker 1>so silly, go for it, y'all. I'm starting to get gray.

0:30:28.240 --> 0:30:30.600
<v Speaker 3>I found my first. Oh it's been here, and I

0:30:30.640 --> 0:30:32.640
<v Speaker 3>know that. I know. I'm blessed. Hashtag blessed. I don't

0:30:32.640 --> 0:30:33.360
<v Speaker 3>even need the hate.

0:30:33.400 --> 0:30:37.360
<v Speaker 2>So, y'all, I think I don't have a gray yet,

0:30:37.480 --> 0:30:39.480
<v Speaker 2>and I'm shocked I found one.

0:30:39.640 --> 0:30:41.120
<v Speaker 3>She came out. She's right at the bank.

0:30:41.200 --> 0:30:45.840
<v Speaker 1>I've got a several several, Yeah, I do you Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>she's she happened.

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<v Speaker 3>They've been there for a little while. I'm surprised you'll

0:30:50.240 --> 0:30:53.440
<v Speaker 3>haven't noticed. But it's going to Are we going to

0:30:53.560 --> 0:30:53.880
<v Speaker 3>keep it?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, that's what I need to know. Well, here's is

0:30:56.960 --> 0:30:58.960
<v Speaker 2>great with it? Like look at Hillary Burton.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, she does rock it like right now.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just like, you know, there's like three or four

0:31:04.160 --> 0:31:06.200
<v Speaker 1>or five guys sitting there, and then there's some random ones,

0:31:06.280 --> 0:31:07.760
<v Speaker 1>you know, and I'll pluck them every now and then,

0:31:07.840 --> 0:31:09.560
<v Speaker 1>and then one day they're curly. Then you know, it's

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<v Speaker 1>all It's It's just that's my question. Okay, so you

0:31:13.400 --> 0:31:15.800
<v Speaker 1>start to get a couple. I don't dye my hair

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<v Speaker 1>ever ever, you've never once, never, once. I did a

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<v Speaker 1>semi permanent when I was a teenager's.

0:31:23.640 --> 0:31:26.840
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, why you just day beautiful human to me?

0:31:27.040 --> 0:31:29.160
<v Speaker 1>Well, I did a semi permanent not to get to whatever,

0:31:29.240 --> 0:31:32.000
<v Speaker 1>but I had alopecia, yes, and so I was scared

0:31:32.560 --> 0:31:34.640
<v Speaker 1>to dye my hair. I was like, I'm afraid it's

0:31:34.680 --> 0:31:36.520
<v Speaker 1>going to fall out, you know. I was terrified of it.

0:31:36.600 --> 0:31:38.520
<v Speaker 1>So one time I was like, He's like, we could

0:31:38.520 --> 0:31:40.360
<v Speaker 1>try a semi permanent. It's not going to kill your hair.

0:31:40.560 --> 0:31:42.600
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, it's fine, but like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>care enough to keep up with.

0:31:44.080 --> 0:31:46.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, you also have a beautiful natural wells. So

0:31:46.920 --> 0:31:49.200
<v Speaker 2>what do you feel when the girl when you see

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<v Speaker 2>the gray.

0:31:50.560 --> 0:31:53.320
<v Speaker 1>Not a lot of emotion about it, right at all.

0:31:53.760 --> 0:31:55.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm just like I wish I said, I wish I

0:31:55.840 --> 0:31:58.000
<v Speaker 1>could say that. Yeah, I mean I had emotion.

0:31:58.160 --> 0:31:58.880
<v Speaker 3>I had an emotion.

0:31:59.520 --> 0:32:01.480
<v Speaker 1>I just still I don't know what it is and

0:32:01.520 --> 0:32:05.120
<v Speaker 1>I should probably care more. No, But when stuff like that,

0:32:05.120 --> 0:32:06.800
<v Speaker 1>I don't know why it doesn't bother me. I just

0:32:06.880 --> 0:32:08.000
<v Speaker 1>need to know that's great.

0:32:08.280 --> 0:32:09.960
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean I guess it is good.

0:32:09.840 --> 0:32:11.520
<v Speaker 1>You know, but there's a point where I'm gonna my

0:32:11.960 --> 0:32:14.280
<v Speaker 1>I guess my point in saying it is this, though.

0:32:14.680 --> 0:32:16.400
<v Speaker 1>My problem is, you know, like I just throw it

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<v Speaker 1>up in a bun, people criticize it. I don't care,

0:32:18.680 --> 0:32:21.000
<v Speaker 1>you know, criticize what your bun, yeah, like do something

0:32:21.000 --> 0:32:24.000
<v Speaker 1>with your hair, and I just don't care. But my problem,

0:32:24.080 --> 0:32:26.720
<v Speaker 1>my worry is that I don't care so much. Just

0:32:26.720 --> 0:32:28.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm gona get to point people are gonna be like.

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<v Speaker 4>No, we would tell you girls got a dire hair.

0:32:30.200 --> 0:32:32.600
<v Speaker 4>I think we would tell you. I think so gray

0:32:32.800 --> 0:32:36.120
<v Speaker 4>is so cool. Yeah, I just don't think it starts.

0:32:35.640 --> 0:32:39.440
<v Speaker 1>Like being like once it's like all gray, yeah cool,

0:32:40.120 --> 0:32:41.720
<v Speaker 1>but like just little spurts of gray.

0:32:42.600 --> 0:32:45.120
<v Speaker 4>Good with spurts. I don't think the spirts are beautiful.

0:32:45.640 --> 0:32:50.240
<v Speaker 2>Do we touch up until I would probably if it

0:32:50.280 --> 0:32:53.000
<v Speaker 2>was me, I would touch up until it was more.

0:32:53.080 --> 0:32:55.080
<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm wondering, because it's like, you know, it's

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<v Speaker 1>just like and it's not like a big like clump.

0:32:57.560 --> 0:32:59.040
<v Speaker 1>It's just like a hair and hair and hair, and

0:32:59.080 --> 0:33:01.560
<v Speaker 1>then there's like a few like random ones or whatever.

0:33:01.680 --> 0:33:04.040
<v Speaker 2>But also it's still like I can't I can't tell

0:33:04.120 --> 0:33:06.840
<v Speaker 2>and it still looks good, you know, Yeah, I.

0:33:06.760 --> 0:33:09.120
<v Speaker 1>Mean it's not bad yet, but it's happening, and it's

0:33:09.160 --> 0:33:13.480
<v Speaker 1>weird almost. It's like now I notice, I'm like another one. Yeah,

0:33:13.480 --> 0:33:16.080
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, wait, this one wasn't here the other day,

0:33:16.200 --> 0:33:19.720
<v Speaker 1>you know. So it's like I'm like, it's coming, it's coming. Yeah,

0:33:19.760 --> 0:33:21.239
<v Speaker 1>that's my that's my wine about it.

0:33:21.560 --> 0:33:23.240
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we're there.

0:33:23.480 --> 0:33:26.240
<v Speaker 4>I think that is was the emotion which we've talked

0:33:26.240 --> 0:33:28.080
<v Speaker 4>about and I've talked about for I don't really feel

0:33:28.120 --> 0:33:28.640
<v Speaker 4>forty four.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, I truly don't feel. Yeah.

0:33:30.600 --> 0:33:32.720
<v Speaker 4>I feel like we're all just taking great care of

0:33:32.720 --> 0:33:35.320
<v Speaker 4>ourselves and really proud of that for us. Like, but

0:33:35.440 --> 0:33:38.680
<v Speaker 4>it's weird when you have these like super sobering moments

0:33:38.680 --> 0:33:40.880
<v Speaker 4>are like, yeah, well now that's a great and I

0:33:40.920 --> 0:33:43.479
<v Speaker 4>came to get Now Preston is getting He's going to

0:33:44.280 --> 0:33:45.440
<v Speaker 4>kill me for saying this thought.

0:33:45.880 --> 0:33:50.080
<v Speaker 2>He's getting very salty, and I love. I think Alan's

0:33:50.200 --> 0:33:52.520
<v Speaker 2>the same thing. He's like, babe, He's like, I'm getting gray,

0:33:52.520 --> 0:33:52.800
<v Speaker 2>and I.

0:33:52.720 --> 0:33:54.680
<v Speaker 3>Was like, yeah, same. I think it's cute. I'm like,

0:33:54.720 --> 0:33:56.880
<v Speaker 3>I think it's been great for a while in his beard. Yeah.

0:33:56.960 --> 0:33:57.240
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:33:57.320 --> 0:33:59.480
<v Speaker 4>But I think because he's in this industry where it's

0:33:59.520 --> 0:34:02.080
<v Speaker 4>like look younger, be younger, and don't sit your age,

0:34:02.120 --> 0:34:04.440
<v Speaker 4>you know whatever. And so I came into him. I

0:34:04.480 --> 0:34:08.560
<v Speaker 4>was like, baby, look it right here, and he's like, well,

0:34:08.600 --> 0:34:09.759
<v Speaker 4>you just you just got one.

0:34:09.800 --> 0:34:10.080
<v Speaker 3>That's it.

0:34:10.160 --> 0:34:12.080
<v Speaker 4>Like it was almost like but it was such a

0:34:12.120 --> 0:34:14.400
<v Speaker 4>weird because I I guess I'm in some sort.

0:34:14.400 --> 0:34:16.560
<v Speaker 3>Did y'all ever get gray hairs when you were young? Ever?

0:34:16.960 --> 0:34:18.920
<v Speaker 3>So Jolie remember that one time? Yeah? Do you remember

0:34:18.920 --> 0:34:20.480
<v Speaker 3>when she was like four, three or four?

0:34:20.640 --> 0:34:23.040
<v Speaker 2>It was in Los Angeles and I'm like, I plucked

0:34:23.040 --> 0:34:24.399
<v Speaker 2>a gray she had one?

0:34:24.600 --> 0:34:25.439
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, gray hair.

0:34:25.560 --> 0:34:27.160
<v Speaker 4>Didn't we all get gray hair from that chapter?

0:34:29.680 --> 0:34:31.320
<v Speaker 3>That was the chapter that age just saw like a

0:34:31.360 --> 0:34:43.399
<v Speaker 3>presidential term, very joy. Even Jo's poster little gray. That's

0:34:43.440 --> 0:34:44.560
<v Speaker 3>why I'm surprised.

0:34:45.800 --> 0:34:48.480
<v Speaker 1>You really fared well, friend, But like I can remember

0:34:48.520 --> 0:34:51.000
<v Speaker 1>finding them in seventh grade, So I think that's why

0:34:51.000 --> 0:34:53.440
<v Speaker 1>it also hasn't hit me as like necessarily like an

0:34:53.440 --> 0:34:55.479
<v Speaker 1>old thing. Like I remember being at the lunch table

0:34:55.520 --> 0:34:56.840
<v Speaker 1>and somebody be like, you got a gray hair, and

0:34:56.880 --> 0:34:58.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh, that's interesting, and.

0:34:58.800 --> 0:35:01.239
<v Speaker 3>Maybe, yeah, I know it's a blonde too.

0:35:01.400 --> 0:35:03.759
<v Speaker 2>I think there's an iron deficion, there's something, and I

0:35:03.800 --> 0:35:04.640
<v Speaker 2>do have low iron.

0:35:04.760 --> 0:35:07.480
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so I'm surprised. I'm not I probably just made

0:35:07.520 --> 0:35:09.719
<v Speaker 3>that up. And I'm not gonna chat because Chad doesn't

0:35:09.719 --> 0:35:11.520
<v Speaker 3>tell me the truth all the time. But I'm just

0:35:11.560 --> 0:35:12.920
<v Speaker 3>saying boop.

0:35:13.840 --> 0:35:17.680
<v Speaker 2>But I I remember looking at it, and I've seen

0:35:17.760 --> 0:35:19.719
<v Speaker 2>the doctor and they said, because I'm like, why is

0:35:19.760 --> 0:35:22.399
<v Speaker 2>my four or three four year old having a right?

0:35:22.520 --> 0:35:25.359
<v Speaker 2>But and I want to but I don't know. I'm

0:35:25.400 --> 0:35:26.879
<v Speaker 2>so uneducated.

0:35:29.880 --> 0:35:31.520
<v Speaker 3>Let us know. I don't know.

0:35:31.560 --> 0:35:33.800
<v Speaker 1>I will look into that because I mean, I've always

0:35:33.840 --> 0:35:36.600
<v Speaker 1>had low iron, so maybe.

0:35:36.600 --> 0:35:38.560
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but I take iron simplement. I don't know how.

0:35:38.600 --> 0:35:39.040
<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

0:35:39.120 --> 0:35:40.360
<v Speaker 4>I don't know how I feel about it, but I

0:35:40.400 --> 0:35:41.919
<v Speaker 4>am getting I've gotten I think one of the low

0:35:42.000 --> 0:35:44.040
<v Speaker 4>iron is strongly linked to premature graying.

0:35:44.920 --> 0:35:47.440
<v Speaker 3>But is this premature greg Well, that's what I don't know.

0:35:47.560 --> 0:35:49.680
<v Speaker 3>Maybe it was when I was in seventh grade. Right

0:35:49.840 --> 0:35:52.000
<v Speaker 3>when is it? When do we google that?

0:35:52.200 --> 0:35:52.399
<v Speaker 4>Yes?

0:35:52.800 --> 0:35:55.600
<v Speaker 1>When is the normal age to start graying? Because I

0:35:55.600 --> 0:35:57.640
<v Speaker 1>don't know that it's well, I know.

0:35:57.680 --> 0:36:01.400
<v Speaker 3>Is there maybe an average to get gray hair? Yeah?

0:36:01.440 --> 0:36:04.879
<v Speaker 2>Well, okay, most people start to notice their first gray

0:36:04.880 --> 0:36:07.000
<v Speaker 2>hairs in their thirties or early forties.

0:36:07.040 --> 0:36:08.280
<v Speaker 3>Okay, so that's normal.

0:36:08.400 --> 0:36:10.000
<v Speaker 1>But maybe it was fun when I was like seventh

0:36:10.040 --> 0:36:12.000
<v Speaker 1>grade and had one, and then Jolie when she was young.

0:36:12.640 --> 0:36:13.960
<v Speaker 3>Why is a young kid.

0:36:15.640 --> 0:36:16.680
<v Speaker 4>A chat?

0:36:17.320 --> 0:36:18.600
<v Speaker 3>This is Google? Okay?

0:36:18.840 --> 0:36:23.320
<v Speaker 2>Which ya it's called by like vitamin deficiencies, iron or whatever.

0:36:23.680 --> 0:36:25.640
<v Speaker 1>Okay, that would make sense for why I would have

0:36:25.640 --> 0:36:27.560
<v Speaker 1>seen one when I was younger, I'm sure. Yeah, because

0:36:27.600 --> 0:36:29.200
<v Speaker 1>I didn't find out I was low and iron and

0:36:29.200 --> 0:36:30.920
<v Speaker 1>stress environment hair stuff happened.

0:36:31.040 --> 0:36:32.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, do you have a.

0:36:32.600 --> 0:36:34.719
<v Speaker 4>We can make this quick, but I actually wanted to

0:36:34.719 --> 0:36:36.359
<v Speaker 4>ask y'all on a text message, so might as well

0:36:36.400 --> 0:36:37.799
<v Speaker 4>just ask it here in front of all of.

0:36:37.719 --> 0:36:40.040
<v Speaker 3>Our friends that can judge me for it. Do you

0:36:40.120 --> 0:36:40.640
<v Speaker 3>think that.

0:36:40.560 --> 0:36:43.120
<v Speaker 4>There is an age where you should no longer have

0:36:43.160 --> 0:36:46.719
<v Speaker 4>longer hair? Because I'm starting to feel I don't want short.

0:36:46.480 --> 0:36:49.160
<v Speaker 3>Short there yet? Well, I don't actually don't know.

0:36:49.200 --> 0:36:51.880
<v Speaker 4>For me, something has happened between forty two and forty

0:36:51.920 --> 0:36:53.799
<v Speaker 4>four that is really shifting for me.

0:36:53.800 --> 0:36:58.240
<v Speaker 1>It's sixty really, yes, we don't need to wait too,

0:36:58.960 --> 0:37:00.040
<v Speaker 1>this is too early.

0:37:00.080 --> 0:37:02.800
<v Speaker 4>Wait which I'm not talking about going like short short

0:37:02.960 --> 0:37:06.239
<v Speaker 4>like because like fifty year olds and stuff have long hair.

0:37:06.640 --> 0:37:09.960
<v Speaker 3>Well like just say though, yet the fifty year olds

0:37:10.000 --> 0:37:13.720
<v Speaker 3>we know do well, Pam just chopped her She chopped

0:37:13.760 --> 0:37:14.520
<v Speaker 3>it but it's not like.

0:37:17.440 --> 0:37:20.240
<v Speaker 4>No, but she's on her like she's but I'm saying

0:37:20.239 --> 0:37:24.800
<v Speaker 4>that to my Hey, Pam, it was really a pleasure

0:37:25.239 --> 0:37:27.960
<v Speaker 4>me listen to this episode.

0:37:27.960 --> 0:37:30.239
<v Speaker 3>We are not I feel like we are.

0:37:31.160 --> 0:37:33.360
<v Speaker 4>I'm one year away from being on the back side.

0:37:33.160 --> 0:37:38.080
<v Speaker 3>And maybe that's because I'm great gray away from a

0:37:38.160 --> 0:37:40.200
<v Speaker 3>second Sorry, can we get in my asthmosis?

0:37:40.320 --> 0:37:40.400
<v Speaker 2>No?

0:37:40.560 --> 0:37:42.960
<v Speaker 4>She like you know, like even Pam is getting in

0:37:43.080 --> 0:37:45.440
<v Speaker 4>her later forties. She talks about the very openly, so,

0:37:45.560 --> 0:37:48.359
<v Speaker 4>but she did chop. I'm just wondering fifty year olds

0:37:48.400 --> 0:37:51.160
<v Speaker 4>still have long I missed my last hair appointment by

0:37:51.239 --> 0:37:53.560
<v Speaker 4>I'm like months out right now, which is fine because

0:37:53.560 --> 0:37:55.520
<v Speaker 4>color wise, I'm going more natural, so it's not really

0:37:55.560 --> 0:37:57.520
<v Speaker 4>big deal. But I've noticed I always grow my hair

0:37:57.560 --> 0:38:00.879
<v Speaker 4>pretty fast, and so I have just felt like you've

0:38:00.920 --> 0:38:03.120
<v Speaker 4>noticed this has been this is the mo for the

0:38:03.200 --> 0:38:05.440
<v Speaker 4>last two episodes, because it's so long and gross and

0:38:05.520 --> 0:38:09.000
<v Speaker 4>just feels like it feels youthfully long for my age,

0:38:09.000 --> 0:38:11.919
<v Speaker 4>like it's starting like I'm I don't I don't feel

0:38:11.920 --> 0:38:12.759
<v Speaker 4>like I match it.

0:38:13.280 --> 0:38:16.160
<v Speaker 2>Oh, there's no specific age to cut your hair short.

0:38:16.280 --> 0:38:20.040
<v Speaker 2>Modern dialing trends allow for long, healthy hair at any age.

0:38:20.040 --> 0:38:23.000
<v Speaker 2>While many women historically cut their hair around age fifty

0:38:23.040 --> 0:38:26.560
<v Speaker 2>to sixty due to changing their texture, thinning, easy maintenance

0:38:26.640 --> 0:38:30.560
<v Speaker 2>makes sense. I will say, though, I too, have looked

0:38:30.760 --> 0:38:35.759
<v Speaker 2>around at other forties mid forties people with their hair

0:38:35.800 --> 0:38:38.880
<v Speaker 2>length because I am as well, feeling like I'm not

0:38:38.880 --> 0:38:41.840
<v Speaker 2>fitting my long hair anymore, and I'm thinking about a chop.

0:38:42.320 --> 0:38:44.200
<v Speaker 3>I'm ready, so we need to cut it. So everyone's

0:38:44.200 --> 0:38:45.320
<v Speaker 3>cutting it in their forties.

0:38:45.600 --> 0:38:47.960
<v Speaker 2>But also I then I remember getting on my mom.

0:38:48.000 --> 0:38:50.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, Mom, don't chop your don't mom chop? Yeah,

0:38:50.120 --> 0:38:51.359
<v Speaker 2>you know, like keep your long hair.

0:38:51.520 --> 0:38:53.840
<v Speaker 4>But I don't think it's mom chopping anymore because now

0:38:53.960 --> 0:38:54.840
<v Speaker 4>it is cute.

0:38:55.000 --> 0:38:56.520
<v Speaker 3>It's like mom chopping.

0:38:56.560 --> 0:39:01.680
<v Speaker 4>No no, no, no, like lobbing like like no, like no.

0:39:02.040 --> 0:39:05.640
<v Speaker 1>That's like seventy eighty okay, yeah, so we're just gradually.

0:39:05.880 --> 0:39:07.840
<v Speaker 1>It's so funny. I'll bring this up though. This weekend,

0:39:07.840 --> 0:39:09.359
<v Speaker 1>literally I had so many friends and be like, oh

0:39:09.360 --> 0:39:10.560
<v Speaker 1>my gosh, your hair is so long.

0:39:10.600 --> 0:39:11.399
<v Speaker 3>It looks so good.

0:39:11.800 --> 0:39:14.719
<v Speaker 1>So I was like, thanks, I'll keep it long, and no,

0:39:14.960 --> 0:39:17.680
<v Speaker 1>guess what we're chopping and touching it up?

0:39:18.800 --> 0:39:20.080
<v Speaker 3>You do you boo?

0:39:20.360 --> 0:39:24.719
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, well you want to do the strong opinion about

0:39:24.719 --> 0:39:25.560
<v Speaker 4>me cutting though.

0:39:25.400 --> 0:39:28.520
<v Speaker 2>He doesn't want you to see. Alan's like baby, He's like,

0:39:28.680 --> 0:39:29.359
<v Speaker 2>do whatever you want.

0:39:29.440 --> 0:39:30.759
<v Speaker 4>Well, it's going to be cute no matter what.

0:39:30.840 --> 0:39:32.000
<v Speaker 3>I've never seen your hair short.

0:39:32.560 --> 0:39:34.520
<v Speaker 1>I've seen your hair short and I love it short,

0:39:34.640 --> 0:39:35.640
<v Speaker 1>so that doesn't bother me.

0:39:35.920 --> 0:39:39.040
<v Speaker 3>Oh, thank you, great news because my car. When I

0:39:39.040 --> 0:39:41.080
<v Speaker 3>got the Catherine approval, and then I thought, do I

0:39:41.120 --> 0:39:43.040
<v Speaker 3>get a bang? I used to get banged every fall

0:39:43.040 --> 0:39:46.600
<v Speaker 3>without it, I don't think bang. No, Wow, it's okay.

0:39:46.680 --> 0:39:48.560
<v Speaker 4>We can have strong opinions, sang, and I got to

0:39:48.600 --> 0:39:49.480
<v Speaker 4>tidy up my vision board.

0:39:49.560 --> 0:39:57.000
<v Speaker 2>Okay maybe no, I don't know. I just remember I'm

0:39:57.080 --> 0:40:01.399
<v Speaker 2>just a showrunner. Actually are one Tree Hill showrunner. He said,

0:40:01.400 --> 0:40:03.040
<v Speaker 2>if you would have had bangs, you wouldn't have been hired.

0:40:03.200 --> 0:40:05.440
<v Speaker 2>He hated bangs. He always says it's where women keep

0:40:05.480 --> 0:40:07.760
<v Speaker 2>their secrets, but well, that's where we keep our secret.

0:40:07.840 --> 0:40:10.640
<v Speaker 3>He's not the gunner. So how did that work out? Yeah,

0:40:10.640 --> 0:40:12.360
<v Speaker 3>he's probably twenty so shut up.

0:40:12.400 --> 0:40:17.520
<v Speaker 2>Ten no and so, but I I had bangs when

0:40:17.520 --> 0:40:19.279
<v Speaker 2>I was like, you know, bangs are super cute, but

0:40:19.320 --> 0:40:20.640
<v Speaker 2>once you have them, they're you know.

0:40:20.960 --> 0:40:24.000
<v Speaker 4>Well, I got bangs when I got pregnant with lion because.

0:40:23.680 --> 0:40:26.560
<v Speaker 3>I remember, but they were like, no, they're not.

0:40:26.680 --> 0:40:26.879
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:40:26.880 --> 0:40:29.120
<v Speaker 3>I was never going to get like they're they're like longer.

0:40:29.200 --> 0:40:32.359
<v Speaker 3>I remember that question across. I remember it was cute.

0:40:32.360 --> 0:40:34.120
<v Speaker 4>I always felt pretty because I felt like it always

0:40:34.120 --> 0:40:36.080
<v Speaker 4>brought out my eyes. I used to do every single fall,

0:40:36.120 --> 0:40:37.600
<v Speaker 4>and then I would just grow them out through the winter.

0:40:38.560 --> 0:40:40.520
<v Speaker 3>I don't know, but I I touch up.

0:40:40.560 --> 0:40:44.000
<v Speaker 1>You go put up those banks and we'll be good.

0:40:44.040 --> 0:40:46.960
<v Speaker 3>Well I can't, now, yes you can. We can do

0:40:47.000 --> 0:41:01.120
<v Speaker 3>whatever we want, all right.

0:41:01.160 --> 0:41:05.480
<v Speaker 2>So headline this week, which is sad because James Vanderbeek

0:41:06.320 --> 0:41:10.600
<v Speaker 2>has passed away from cancer and I just from colorectal

0:41:10.719 --> 0:41:13.480
<v Speaker 2>cancer at the age of forty eight. It's so incredibly sad,

0:41:13.480 --> 0:41:15.320
<v Speaker 2>as leaving his wife Kimberly and six kids.

0:41:15.560 --> 0:41:16.760
<v Speaker 3>I mean, it's awful.

0:41:17.000 --> 0:41:20.160
<v Speaker 2>I mean just mel Dawson's creek cart and I even

0:41:20.239 --> 0:41:22.960
<v Speaker 2>texted Mary who played you know his mom and just

0:41:22.960 --> 0:41:25.520
<v Speaker 2>like all the like he was such we had the

0:41:25.560 --> 0:41:28.640
<v Speaker 2>opportunity to interview him on when I did like the

0:41:28.719 --> 0:41:34.040
<v Speaker 2>Massing Earth thing. Such a nice guy, like just so lovely.

0:41:34.640 --> 0:41:38.760
<v Speaker 2>So it's absolutely awful. And I even hate speaking about

0:41:38.800 --> 0:41:42.920
<v Speaker 2>this headline given that he's passed, but there's some controversy

0:41:42.920 --> 0:41:47.040
<v Speaker 2>going around, so let's dive into it. James Vanderbeek's financial

0:41:47.080 --> 0:41:49.320
<v Speaker 2>situation after his passing on FIBRU eleven set up a

0:41:49.320 --> 0:41:53.040
<v Speaker 2>firestorm of controversy on the internet. So immediately after his death,

0:41:53.040 --> 0:41:54.920
<v Speaker 2>a gofund me account was set up to assist the

0:41:55.000 --> 0:41:58.440
<v Speaker 2>large family with their uncertain future. The funds were to

0:41:58.480 --> 0:42:02.040
<v Speaker 2>help Kimberly and the children for essential living expenses, pay bills,

0:42:02.080 --> 0:42:05.600
<v Speaker 2>and support the children's education with Within a matter of days,

0:42:05.600 --> 0:42:09.080
<v Speaker 2>the account raised over two point six million dollars. But

0:42:09.239 --> 0:42:12.760
<v Speaker 2>then his rep explained to the out Outlet that James

0:42:12.760 --> 0:42:15.279
<v Speaker 2>secured a down payment for the Texas ranch for the

0:42:15.320 --> 0:42:18.160
<v Speaker 2>family with the help of friends through a trust so

0:42:18.200 --> 0:42:20.640
<v Speaker 2>they could shift from rent to mortgage. The thirty six

0:42:20.880 --> 0:42:24.040
<v Speaker 2>acre ranch was purchased on January ninth for four point

0:42:24.080 --> 0:42:26.919
<v Speaker 2>seven six million dollars. And that's when the backlash began.

0:42:27.000 --> 0:42:31.680
<v Speaker 2>So a lot of people that had contributed to the GoFundMe.

0:42:32.280 --> 0:42:35.000
<v Speaker 2>You know, people are saying like, must have had, must

0:42:35.000 --> 0:42:37.720
<v Speaker 2>not have had real financial issues of taking on responsibilities

0:42:37.719 --> 0:42:40.960
<v Speaker 2>of multimillion dollar property. One critic said, an x and

0:42:41.000 --> 0:42:43.040
<v Speaker 2>the GoFundMe is going to pay for the rest. Mind

0:42:43.080 --> 0:42:45.640
<v Speaker 2>boggling to me that regular people are donating for someone

0:42:45.719 --> 0:42:49.839
<v Speaker 2>to maintain their luxury lifestyle and someone else wrote great,

0:42:49.880 --> 0:42:52.360
<v Speaker 2>so his family doesn't need donations from poor people making

0:42:52.400 --> 0:42:54.960
<v Speaker 2>thirty k per year. And what I think, just what

0:42:55.080 --> 0:42:58.719
<v Speaker 2>makes me sad, first and foremost is that this is

0:42:59.440 --> 0:43:02.719
<v Speaker 2>overshadowing the little life that was taken, and it's it's

0:43:02.840 --> 0:43:07.000
<v Speaker 2>very sad, but there is outrage obviously, so.

0:43:06.280 --> 0:43:08.960
<v Speaker 4>So was the GoFundMe opened, and then days later the

0:43:09.000 --> 0:43:11.759
<v Speaker 4>rep starts talking about it being a four point seven

0:43:11.800 --> 0:43:14.640
<v Speaker 4>million dollar property. Yes, okay, I believe that people were

0:43:14.680 --> 0:43:18.120
<v Speaker 4>donating before we knew that this was a four point

0:43:18.160 --> 0:43:18.880
<v Speaker 4>seven Yes.

0:43:18.760 --> 0:43:21.160
<v Speaker 3>That's how I've understood it. Yeah, correct me, Yes, okay.

0:43:21.200 --> 0:43:24.120
<v Speaker 1>So the go fund me was already out, was raising money,

0:43:24.120 --> 0:43:27.120
<v Speaker 1>and it was public, so it's not like it was

0:43:27.200 --> 0:43:28.840
<v Speaker 1>just going to some friends.

0:43:28.920 --> 0:43:30.319
<v Speaker 3>I saw people posting about us.

0:43:30.400 --> 0:43:34.879
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and then you know, and then he went from

0:43:34.920 --> 0:43:39.480
<v Speaker 1>renting to purchasing to have a mortgage, which I posted

0:43:39.520 --> 0:43:43.280
<v Speaker 1>the GoFundMe was it. I'm sure like friends and family.

0:43:43.320 --> 0:43:46.680
<v Speaker 1>I would think I think friends and family. Okay, you know.

0:43:46.840 --> 0:43:49.719
<v Speaker 1>My opinion on this is man obviously all of this

0:43:49.760 --> 0:43:53.239
<v Speaker 1>is so sad, and I can so understand being a

0:43:53.280 --> 0:43:56.680
<v Speaker 1>man and wanting them to not be renting and to

0:43:56.760 --> 0:43:59.200
<v Speaker 1>be in a home, to be comfortable and have the

0:43:59.239 --> 0:44:01.760
<v Speaker 1>mortgage and the bills and all of that paid. Where

0:44:01.800 --> 0:44:04.960
<v Speaker 1>this went wrong was the public gofund me. In my opinion,

0:44:06.760 --> 0:44:12.560
<v Speaker 1>I just it's a very tricky thing anyway for you know,

0:44:12.680 --> 0:44:14.120
<v Speaker 1>for celebrities to.

0:44:15.239 --> 0:44:17.840
<v Speaker 3>Just want to correction one thing. His wife launched the GoFundMe.

0:44:18.280 --> 0:44:21.719
<v Speaker 1>Okay, so his wife started the gofund me account, And

0:44:21.800 --> 0:44:25.560
<v Speaker 1>I can understand as a wife being mortified, I mean

0:44:25.600 --> 0:44:29.319
<v Speaker 1>and terrified, not mortified, terrified for their future where they

0:44:29.480 --> 0:44:32.160
<v Speaker 1>care of their kids. Six kids they're renting, which is

0:44:32.239 --> 0:44:38.120
<v Speaker 1>probably astronomical amount, you know, this huge estate they're you

0:44:38.160 --> 0:44:40.640
<v Speaker 1>know they're in California, I zoom or I don't know

0:44:40.680 --> 0:44:43.480
<v Speaker 1>where they're Texas, but either way, spending a lot of

0:44:43.520 --> 0:44:46.040
<v Speaker 1>money on rent. So I can understand all of this

0:44:46.200 --> 0:44:49.520
<v Speaker 1>needing to go to like a purchase situation before he

0:44:49.560 --> 0:44:52.319
<v Speaker 1>passes away, to make sure everybody's taken care of. I

0:44:52.400 --> 0:44:55.279
<v Speaker 1>understand that. Again, where I think it went wrong is

0:44:55.320 --> 0:44:58.960
<v Speaker 1>going to a public gofund me. Because I think people

0:44:59.160 --> 0:45:02.799
<v Speaker 1>are are right to be a little outraged if you

0:45:02.920 --> 0:45:05.400
<v Speaker 1>gave some money and you're barely making any money and

0:45:05.440 --> 0:45:06.920
<v Speaker 1>then you do that, and then to find out that

0:45:07.200 --> 0:45:10.920
<v Speaker 1>he spent or they spent sorry not they spent four

0:45:10.960 --> 0:45:14.480
<v Speaker 1>points something million dollars on a home like that just

0:45:14.520 --> 0:45:18.000
<v Speaker 1>gets really tricky. And I understand that celebrities can be

0:45:18.080 --> 0:45:20.680
<v Speaker 1>making zero. I mean, you can be a celebrity and

0:45:20.719 --> 0:45:22.080
<v Speaker 1>be on a show back in the day. I'm not

0:45:22.080 --> 0:45:24.440
<v Speaker 1>saying he was making zero, but he could have been

0:45:24.480 --> 0:45:26.719
<v Speaker 1>on a show Dawson's Creek and then not ever really

0:45:26.760 --> 0:45:29.520
<v Speaker 1>worked again. But be a celebrity, but not be bringing

0:45:29.560 --> 0:45:30.520
<v Speaker 1>in any money.

0:45:30.320 --> 0:45:32.759
<v Speaker 2>Right if he's not acting exactly And I don't know

0:45:32.800 --> 0:45:35.800
<v Speaker 2>the residuals how that played a role back in the

0:45:35.880 --> 0:45:38.400
<v Speaker 2>day too, so I'm sure he got some sort of

0:45:38.440 --> 0:45:41.040
<v Speaker 2>but sometimes they do a residual payout, so then they

0:45:41.080 --> 0:45:43.480
<v Speaker 2>don't end up having residuals at right.

0:45:43.360 --> 0:45:45.799
<v Speaker 1>Or maybe it's not enough to support Like I can

0:45:46.000 --> 0:45:49.920
<v Speaker 1>understand all of that. I don't think everyone fully understands

0:45:49.920 --> 0:45:52.719
<v Speaker 1>that though. I don't think everyone. Once you know a celebrity,

0:45:52.760 --> 0:45:54.919
<v Speaker 1>you think of them as being rich, right, you think

0:45:54.920 --> 0:45:57.359
<v Speaker 1>of them as having money. That's not I mean, how

0:45:57.360 --> 0:45:59.560
<v Speaker 1>many people have we seen that have blown all their money,

0:45:59.640 --> 0:46:01.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, or they're just they had they were a

0:46:01.480 --> 0:46:03.799
<v Speaker 1>one hit wonder, but we know their name, but that

0:46:03.880 --> 0:46:06.800
<v Speaker 1>didn't do anything for them for the next twenty thirty years.

0:46:07.280 --> 0:46:10.000
<v Speaker 1>So it's just tricky, you know. I just think that

0:46:10.520 --> 0:46:12.719
<v Speaker 1>the most people don't fully understand that.

0:46:13.040 --> 0:46:15.680
<v Speaker 3>And then you're giving money your heart and money know

0:46:15.800 --> 0:46:16.200
<v Speaker 3>that part?

0:46:16.239 --> 0:46:18.200
<v Speaker 2>Then then how does so let's just say he didn't

0:46:18.920 --> 0:46:22.880
<v Speaker 2>have that, is it's still then okay? Because so just

0:46:22.960 --> 0:46:25.040
<v Speaker 2>on the other side of that, Yeah, knowing that is

0:46:25.080 --> 0:46:25.759
<v Speaker 2>the case.

0:46:26.160 --> 0:46:28.760
<v Speaker 1>I I think it's okay.

0:46:29.719 --> 0:46:30.520
<v Speaker 3>I truly do.

0:46:30.640 --> 0:46:33.160
<v Speaker 1>I think it's okay. But where I think then that

0:46:33.239 --> 0:46:36.879
<v Speaker 1>goes wrong is I love y'all. I'm going to take

0:46:36.920 --> 0:46:40.520
<v Speaker 1>care of y'all. We're going to downsize, yeah, like the

0:46:41.080 --> 0:46:44.000
<v Speaker 1>we're gonna responsible. Yeah, And I think you have to

0:46:44.040 --> 0:46:46.399
<v Speaker 1>be upfront. I think this has to be a hey,

0:46:47.600 --> 0:46:50.880
<v Speaker 1>and you explain it. Like I know that my husband

0:46:51.480 --> 0:46:54.680
<v Speaker 1>was a celebrity. You know, this is our money situation.

0:46:54.960 --> 0:46:57.759
<v Speaker 1>It drained us. We've obviously been living on this and

0:46:57.800 --> 0:46:59.520
<v Speaker 1>I would love for my kids to be able to

0:46:59.600 --> 0:47:02.680
<v Speaker 1>keep this lifestyle, but that's not reality. We're going to

0:47:02.800 --> 0:47:06.000
<v Speaker 1>have to you know, it just gets a little tricky

0:47:06.040 --> 0:47:08.880
<v Speaker 1>when you're saying I'm not making any more money, and

0:47:08.920 --> 0:47:12.000
<v Speaker 1>then you're buying a four point something million dollar house

0:47:12.160 --> 0:47:14.640
<v Speaker 1>and did you who, where did the money come from?

0:47:14.719 --> 0:47:16.919
<v Speaker 1>Did you have the money? It just gets tricky. And again,

0:47:17.000 --> 0:47:21.360
<v Speaker 1>I don't think it's wrong necessarily to ask for money,

0:47:21.400 --> 0:47:24.520
<v Speaker 1>but then to ask for money and then buy a

0:47:24.560 --> 0:47:28.800
<v Speaker 1>four point six million I think it just gets that's where, yeah.

0:47:28.560 --> 0:47:29.120
<v Speaker 3>And I get that.

0:47:29.160 --> 0:47:32.200
<v Speaker 4>I think we're also living in an economic climate where

0:47:33.360 --> 0:47:39.080
<v Speaker 4>we are all downsizing or refinancing or trying to save

0:47:39.280 --> 0:47:42.600
<v Speaker 4>or picking up different habits for spending or not spending

0:47:42.600 --> 0:47:46.280
<v Speaker 4>that help us be in a different position. So listen,

0:47:46.480 --> 0:47:48.799
<v Speaker 4>I would love to live on a thirty six acre, right,

0:47:49.680 --> 0:47:52.600
<v Speaker 4>I mean, that's the dream, right. And I can also

0:47:52.920 --> 0:47:56.920
<v Speaker 4>understand the great loss. I mean I can't understand, but

0:47:56.960 --> 0:47:59.440
<v Speaker 4>I can empathize with the loss of a husband and

0:47:59.520 --> 0:48:02.880
<v Speaker 4>wanting to keep a state of life for kids that

0:48:02.960 --> 0:48:07.239
<v Speaker 4>just lost their dad. I just it's a that's a

0:48:07.280 --> 0:48:10.040
<v Speaker 4>really big part. I mean, that's a huge property. Four

0:48:10.040 --> 0:48:13.000
<v Speaker 4>point seven million dollars is and especially in Texas, by

0:48:13.040 --> 0:48:15.320
<v Speaker 4>the way, because in Texas we can get money to

0:48:15.360 --> 0:48:18.120
<v Speaker 4>go a little bit further in some areas. So I

0:48:18.280 --> 0:48:23.160
<v Speaker 4>just I I also do think I can understand. I

0:48:23.280 --> 0:48:26.799
<v Speaker 4>understand like the fans have wanted to. I think that's the.

0:48:26.800 --> 0:48:28.120
<v Speaker 3>Only way they can sometimes connect.

0:48:28.239 --> 0:48:32.320
<v Speaker 4>Right, So like it feels good to to give Dawson

0:48:32.440 --> 0:48:34.880
<v Speaker 4>some money, it feels like something. Yeah, Like it just

0:48:34.920 --> 0:48:37.080
<v Speaker 4>feels like, okay, this is the least we can do.

0:48:37.200 --> 0:48:39.799
<v Speaker 4>How do we mourn or grieve, and so here take

0:48:39.880 --> 0:48:43.359
<v Speaker 4>some of this. It's probably wasn't like they're not It's

0:48:43.400 --> 0:48:46.040
<v Speaker 4>just sweet. Actually, I think it's really sweet. And then

0:48:46.040 --> 0:48:47.560
<v Speaker 4>it just felt like a little bit of a slap

0:48:47.560 --> 0:48:49.919
<v Speaker 4>in the face. It was like, oh right, I feel

0:48:49.960 --> 0:48:50.360
<v Speaker 4>like we.

0:48:50.200 --> 0:48:53.239
<v Speaker 1>Were helping because of your medical bills and we just

0:48:53.320 --> 0:48:55.840
<v Speaker 1>help you buy a four point something million dollar health.

0:48:55.800 --> 0:48:59.279
<v Speaker 2>Here's a question. Do you wish the rep would have

0:48:59.360 --> 0:49:01.640
<v Speaker 2>not said anything? Or is it good that the rep

0:49:01.680 --> 0:49:04.480
<v Speaker 2>said something? To be honest about the situation. This is

0:49:04.520 --> 0:49:05.240
<v Speaker 2>a little avoidant.

0:49:05.280 --> 0:49:07.279
<v Speaker 4>I wish they wouldn't have just because I do feel

0:49:07.320 --> 0:49:09.879
<v Speaker 4>like now it's overshadowing the loss of this really great

0:49:09.960 --> 0:49:13.799
<v Speaker 4>human And so now this is the headline over the world,

0:49:13.880 --> 0:49:17.480
<v Speaker 4>warning the loss of this talented actor and dad and father.

0:49:17.680 --> 0:49:20.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean, and husband yeah, and I agree with that.

0:49:20.120 --> 0:49:23.160
<v Speaker 1>I just think, on the other hand, it should know, yeah,

0:49:23.239 --> 0:49:25.319
<v Speaker 1>like you should know where your money's go. But I

0:49:25.320 --> 0:49:28.000
<v Speaker 1>don't even know if we're clear if that money went

0:49:28.120 --> 0:49:30.120
<v Speaker 1>towards that, or if that money did go to pay

0:49:30.160 --> 0:49:32.960
<v Speaker 1>bills or you know, someone could have said they could

0:49:32.960 --> 0:49:35.400
<v Speaker 1>have done a GoFundMe and someone could have said he

0:49:35.560 --> 0:49:37.879
<v Speaker 1>was my favorite person in the whole where here's five

0:49:37.880 --> 0:49:40.600
<v Speaker 1>million dollars. After that happens, like we don't know the

0:49:40.640 --> 0:49:45.360
<v Speaker 1>exact specifics, like that money might not have gone towards that, sure,

0:49:45.640 --> 0:49:48.560
<v Speaker 1>but you know, so I don't know. Some transparency I

0:49:48.560 --> 0:49:51.440
<v Speaker 1>think is very important, but it is overshadowing, so that's tough.

0:49:51.840 --> 0:49:53.600
<v Speaker 2>I could use some advice on how to handle feeling

0:49:53.640 --> 0:49:56.880
<v Speaker 2>overwhelmed and isolated, sometimes to the point where life feels impossible.

0:49:56.960 --> 0:49:59.879
<v Speaker 2>I feel guilty for having these feelings, especially as a mother.

0:50:00.320 --> 0:50:03.000
<v Speaker 2>My partner works crazy hours and isn't able to be

0:50:03.040 --> 0:50:05.640
<v Speaker 2>around a lot. I work full time and I live

0:50:05.719 --> 0:50:08.720
<v Speaker 2>a couple of hour ways hour aways from family and friends.

0:50:08.920 --> 0:50:11.040
<v Speaker 2>It doesn't sound super crazy, but when there's a lot

0:50:11.080 --> 0:50:13.000
<v Speaker 2>going on, or I have to rush to the ear

0:50:13.040 --> 0:50:16.239
<v Speaker 2>with a baby by myself, I can feel overwhelming and stressful.

0:50:16.480 --> 0:50:17.160
<v Speaker 3>Maybe are you right?

0:50:19.239 --> 0:50:22.200
<v Speaker 2>Just hey, gad a friends sign KB, just wondering what

0:50:22.360 --> 0:50:25.759
<v Speaker 2>helps with the littles and traveling husbands. I remember KB

0:50:26.000 --> 0:50:28.480
<v Speaker 2>just recently and Jana mentioning husbands have to be away

0:50:28.520 --> 0:50:31.000
<v Speaker 2>and not having family help while dealing sick or her babies.

0:50:31.040 --> 0:50:32.480
<v Speaker 2>In my heart goes out to any mom who has

0:50:32.480 --> 0:50:34.719
<v Speaker 2>to go through this. I admire and respect to each

0:50:34.760 --> 0:50:36.680
<v Speaker 2>of you as women and as mothers. Any advice you'd

0:50:36.680 --> 0:50:40.160
<v Speaker 2>be greatly appreciated and helpful. Love you girls, KB, take

0:50:40.160 --> 0:50:40.439
<v Speaker 2>it away.

0:50:40.480 --> 0:50:42.600
<v Speaker 4>I mean, I really just been living this for the

0:50:42.640 --> 0:50:45.000
<v Speaker 4>last ten years, but more specifically the last year. I

0:50:45.040 --> 0:50:47.279
<v Speaker 4>do Okay. So one thing I feel really proud of

0:50:47.320 --> 0:50:52.160
<v Speaker 4>myself for and I because I don't know if it's

0:50:52.200 --> 0:50:53.640
<v Speaker 4>the way we're raised. I don't know if it's the

0:50:53.719 --> 0:50:56.360
<v Speaker 4>alcohol drug addicted family and very resilient do by myself

0:50:56.400 --> 0:51:00.000
<v Speaker 4>independent blah blah blah. I just don't ask for help,

0:51:00.080 --> 0:51:04.120
<v Speaker 4>like I don't phone a friend to say, like, you know, so,

0:51:04.480 --> 0:51:07.000
<v Speaker 4>for instance, just a recent example, like love has to

0:51:07.040 --> 0:51:08.399
<v Speaker 4>go into the e ar they're going to put her under.

0:51:08.440 --> 0:51:10.080
<v Speaker 4>I'm obviously not going to take all three kids if

0:51:10.120 --> 0:51:12.200
<v Speaker 4>I can help it. But we don't have family. And

0:51:12.239 --> 0:51:14.640
<v Speaker 4>I'm also at that point, I had been in it all day,

0:51:14.680 --> 0:51:17.160
<v Speaker 4>and I'm like, who do who lives close to here

0:51:17.200 --> 0:51:18.960
<v Speaker 4>that I'm not taking? You know, like I have this

0:51:19.440 --> 0:51:22.520
<v Speaker 4>such I think we probably all share this, Like it's

0:51:22.640 --> 0:51:24.319
<v Speaker 4>very hard for me to ask for help because I

0:51:24.320 --> 0:51:26.200
<v Speaker 4>know then I'm taking you away from your family or

0:51:26.239 --> 0:51:29.880
<v Speaker 4>your family. So I will say and I'll try not

0:51:29.880 --> 0:51:34.000
<v Speaker 4>to get emotional during this, but it was probably like

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<v Speaker 4>the most I'm gonna probably get emotional. It's I have

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<v Speaker 4>never experienced community like I did when love broke her arm.

0:51:41.560 --> 0:51:43.960
<v Speaker 4>I've never seen and I think a lot of that

0:51:44.040 --> 0:51:46.000
<v Speaker 4>is not that the community hasn't been available to me.

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<v Speaker 4>So that's the one thing I would want to just

0:51:48.520 --> 0:51:51.640
<v Speaker 4>pass along more than anything is. I think sometimes we

0:51:51.760 --> 0:51:54.839
<v Speaker 4>feel more lonely than we actually are, and we get

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<v Speaker 4>in our own way because we feel indebted if we ask,

0:51:58.600 --> 0:52:00.239
<v Speaker 4>or we feel like it's weakness if we ask for

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<v Speaker 4>me We've just been conditioned to just never have help,

0:52:02.239 --> 0:52:04.000
<v Speaker 4>so it's not our default to think for help, like

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<v Speaker 4>that's my default is just to not ask for help

0:52:06.120 --> 0:52:10.240
<v Speaker 4>because notoriously and historically no one has showed up for me. Family, wise,

0:52:10.920 --> 0:52:15.160
<v Speaker 4>and so the coaches actually had had message and said,

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<v Speaker 4>can we come sit with you? My first gut reaction

0:52:17.360 --> 0:52:19.720
<v Speaker 4>is no, because I also know that I do better

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<v Speaker 4>because it's comfortable to me to be alone. I just

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<v Speaker 4>just leave me alone, just me and my bible, you know.

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<v Speaker 4>And I actually just gutterly said yes. And when they

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<v Speaker 4>showed up, I don't know how they got there so fast,

0:52:31.960 --> 0:52:33.480
<v Speaker 4>It felt like ten minutes. They came with a stack

0:52:33.520 --> 0:52:36.120
<v Speaker 4>of cards. They were the ones that paused the doctors

0:52:36.120 --> 0:52:38.520
<v Speaker 4>to pray over love, and they led the prayer so

0:52:38.560 --> 0:52:40.200
<v Speaker 4>that I didn't have to sit there weeping like a

0:52:40.440 --> 0:52:45.560
<v Speaker 4>ridiculous mom. And when everything was done, they so timely

0:52:45.600 --> 0:52:48.480
<v Speaker 4>and sweetly exited. They sat in the background. They weren't

0:52:48.560 --> 0:52:51.600
<v Speaker 4>looking for attention. I think too, if you grew up

0:52:51.640 --> 0:52:54.279
<v Speaker 4>a certain type of parent, it becomes about them. And

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<v Speaker 4>in those instances, I have found that being alone is

0:52:56.760 --> 0:52:58.839
<v Speaker 4>just easier than having to deal with another personality.

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<v Speaker 3>And so.

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<v Speaker 4>I just want to maybe ask the question back to you,

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<v Speaker 4>dearest gentle reader, if you have people you can lean into,

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<v Speaker 4>are you just not taking advantage of that? Because that

0:53:11.400 --> 0:53:13.680
<v Speaker 4>has been my experience. Like I know, if I call

0:53:13.719 --> 0:53:16.000
<v Speaker 4>either of you you're going to get to me. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>you just will. It's my own issue to not overcome asking.

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<v Speaker 3>You for the help.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and if you're able to also maybe get extra

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<v Speaker 2>help with someone that can help with the kids, to pay,

0:53:27.760 --> 0:53:31.080
<v Speaker 2>you know, a part time sitter or something. Yeah, Like

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<v Speaker 2>I do think there's there's other options the friends aren't available.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, Like I you know, I reached out to one

0:53:37.000 --> 0:53:39.120
<v Speaker 4>of the people that used to sit for us, and

0:53:39.160 --> 0:53:40.960
<v Speaker 4>they were kind of like not super jumping on the

0:53:41.040 --> 0:53:42.600
<v Speaker 4>chance to get there for us that night, and I

0:53:42.640 --> 0:53:45.520
<v Speaker 4>was like, so I ended up texting Cheney because she

0:53:45.560 --> 0:53:47.399
<v Speaker 4>lives so close. I'm like, I don't know when I'm going.

0:53:47.480 --> 0:53:49.480
<v Speaker 4>I don't, but I knew she had Josh home and

0:53:49.520 --> 0:53:51.320
<v Speaker 4>she was like, of course, you know, like the kids

0:53:51.600 --> 0:53:53.719
<v Speaker 4>are comfortable with her, and it was like no big

0:53:53.719 --> 0:53:57.960
<v Speaker 4>deal for her, but it was so My whole point

0:53:58.040 --> 0:54:00.000
<v Speaker 4>is I think that there might be more of a communie.

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<v Speaker 4>Then we lean into We're just so used to doing

0:54:02.280 --> 0:54:05.240
<v Speaker 4>things alone that that becomes our default. And I'm trying

0:54:05.239 --> 0:54:08.040
<v Speaker 4>really hard to reframe my brain. This is my goal

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<v Speaker 4>for myself this year, just to find the village a

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<v Speaker 4>little more or lean into the.

0:54:11.800 --> 0:54:12.560
<v Speaker 3>Village a little more.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, And I do think there is you know, if

0:54:15.840 --> 0:54:19.000
<v Speaker 4>you can get even a couple hours of mother's helper,

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<v Speaker 4>like it doesn't have to be even leave the building

0:54:21.040 --> 0:54:22.759
<v Speaker 4>just to lock yourself in your room for like an hour.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think, you know, getting the village is key.

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<v Speaker 1>And I mean, I have a husband that's home all

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<v Speaker 1>the time and we have a huge village that helps

0:54:31.680 --> 0:54:34.279
<v Speaker 1>us that we could not do it without, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>And so I think, like you said, it's very important

0:54:37.200 --> 0:54:38.600
<v Speaker 1>to lean into that. And at the end of the day,

0:54:38.640 --> 0:54:41.399
<v Speaker 1>the village means you're also helping. So to me, there's

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<v Speaker 1>there's no reason. I understand the guilt part of it,

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<v Speaker 1>but there's truly no reason to feel guilt over that

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<v Speaker 1>because it's a give and take. It's not like, you know,

0:54:50.280 --> 0:54:53.240
<v Speaker 1>as long as not one person's always the one giving,

0:54:53.680 --> 0:54:53.920
<v Speaker 1>you know.

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<v Speaker 3>And maybe it's hard.

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<v Speaker 1>For you to find that village and that case, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>for whatever reason, maybe you don't have a neighborhood or

0:55:01.239 --> 0:55:04.040
<v Speaker 1>maybe you don't have those people. But I would definitely

0:55:04.760 --> 0:55:07.280
<v Speaker 1>say that's going to be your best bet to find

0:55:07.360 --> 0:55:10.560
<v Speaker 1>someone that y'all can give and take where you can

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<v Speaker 1>help when you have some energy and extra time and

0:55:12.800 --> 0:55:13.480
<v Speaker 1>they can help you.

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<v Speaker 2>And I would say too, it's okay to hold the

0:55:15.719 --> 0:55:17.319
<v Speaker 2>feelings that you want it to be your husband, because

0:55:17.320 --> 0:55:21.040
<v Speaker 2>I think that's where you sometimes go into that where

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<v Speaker 2>it's but I want my husband to be there.

0:55:23.160 --> 0:55:23.440
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you want to do life with the person you

0:55:25.640 --> 0:55:27.799
<v Speaker 4>chose to do life with. Yeah, that's what I think

0:55:27.880 --> 0:55:31.040
<v Speaker 4>has been the hardest. But the reality also is that

0:55:31.520 --> 0:55:35.799
<v Speaker 4>in order for us to have a life, he has

0:55:35.880 --> 0:55:37.840
<v Speaker 4>to go make money, and making money for us is

0:55:37.880 --> 0:55:39.640
<v Speaker 4>away from us. It sounds like current I have that

0:55:39.680 --> 0:55:45.080
<v Speaker 4>in common. So it's like you just I think there

0:55:45.160 --> 0:55:48.040
<v Speaker 4>is a level of acceptance that I've hit which I

0:55:48.160 --> 0:55:51.560
<v Speaker 4>felt like, felt like in my body it translated to defeat.

0:55:51.640 --> 0:55:53.600
<v Speaker 4>So I had to really reframe that and work through that,

0:55:53.719 --> 0:55:57.120
<v Speaker 4>like accepting something and being defeated by something or different,

0:55:57.520 --> 0:56:01.880
<v Speaker 4>and also just finding some space and some village is

0:56:02.000 --> 0:56:04.400
<v Speaker 4>really important, even if it just starts with you and

0:56:04.440 --> 0:56:08.080
<v Speaker 4>a girlfriend together and one of you runs out and

0:56:08.120 --> 0:56:09.920
<v Speaker 4>does an Aaron and you watch their kids. We you know,

0:56:10.000 --> 0:56:13.359
<v Speaker 4>like flip flop whatever, Just get some comfortability, because it's

0:56:13.400 --> 0:56:15.439
<v Speaker 4>really it just is game.

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<v Speaker 1>I will say too, we didn't truly get like a

0:56:18.560 --> 0:56:22.279
<v Speaker 1>village village until the third child and to say, now

0:56:22.280 --> 0:56:25.600
<v Speaker 1>that's where we all have the breaking point, right we did,

0:56:25.680 --> 0:56:28.160
<v Speaker 1>but like it truly fell into place with that third kid,

0:56:28.200 --> 0:56:31.919
<v Speaker 1>and Ramsey just went on a cruise with that second mother.

0:56:32.000 --> 0:56:34.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean we basically call her her second mom, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And so it's like there's other positives to that too.

0:56:37.160 --> 0:56:39.520
<v Speaker 1>You know, it's good for the kids. They've got the relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's good for them to learn to behave

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<v Speaker 1>for other people in their home and all this.

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<v Speaker 3>So I think there's a lot of positives to that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And I would also like to recommend a book

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<v Speaker 2>building a non.

0:56:50.440 --> 0:56:53.480
<v Speaker 3>Anxious life, because I stress.

0:56:53.160 --> 0:56:55.640
<v Speaker 2>About the schedule of things, just as I'm stressing about how,

0:56:55.800 --> 0:56:58.600
<v Speaker 2>you know, getting you know, the schedule for the movie

0:56:58.600 --> 0:57:00.719
<v Speaker 2>and the kids making sure I see them and so

0:57:00.800 --> 0:57:04.040
<v Speaker 2>it's but also what Keith has been helping me is

0:57:04.080 --> 0:57:06.239
<v Speaker 2>just staying really present in today. And that's been the

0:57:06.280 --> 0:57:09.360
<v Speaker 2>one main thing that's helping me not be as anxious

0:57:09.400 --> 0:57:12.719
<v Speaker 2>about because, you know, opportunities like I know Alan's going

0:57:12.760 --> 0:57:14.600
<v Speaker 2>to get the opportunity one day, and as he should

0:57:14.600 --> 0:57:16.760
<v Speaker 2>because he's an amazing coach to head coach, But I

0:57:16.800 --> 0:57:19.920
<v Speaker 2>don't need to stress about that right now, correct I.

0:57:19.960 --> 0:57:21.800
<v Speaker 2>You know, we will figure it out when it happens,

0:57:22.080 --> 0:57:24.560
<v Speaker 2>you know. And I hope it happens for him, you know.

0:57:24.800 --> 0:57:27.800
<v Speaker 2>But I think it's just staying present what is right

0:57:27.840 --> 0:57:31.960
<v Speaker 2>now and what can I do today too, not be

0:57:32.000 --> 0:57:34.120
<v Speaker 2>anxious about it and good the people around.

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<v Speaker 3>So hope that helps. Love you guys, Hey, Catherine, you

0:57:38.880 --> 0:57:43.400
<v Speaker 3>ready to go to clueland almost boop?

0:57:44.200 --> 0:57:49.560
<v Speaker 2>Send me a both guard well will zoomy and baby girl? Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>well zoom me in a podcast next week.

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<v Speaker 3>Bye bye