WEBVTT - It's Time To Go! 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:03.640 There comes a point in every relationship when the grandparents 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:04.840 ain't so grand no more. 0:00:07.200 --> 0:00:13.400 It's time. That's a sound bite, dead ass. 0:00:13.640 --> 0:00:13.840 Wow. 0:00:16.000 --> 0:00:19.120 It all started with real talk, unfiltered, honest and straight 0:00:19.160 --> 0:00:21.160 from the heart. Since then, we've gone on to become 0:00:21.200 --> 0:00:24.639 Webby award winning podcasters in New York Times bestselling authors. 0:00:24.680 --> 0:00:26.680 Dead Ass was more than a podcast for us. 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:29.480 It was about our growth, a place where we could 0:00:29.480 --> 0:00:30.440 be vulnerable, be. 0:00:30.480 --> 0:00:33.520 Wrang or, but most apportly be us. 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:36.479 But as we know, life keeps evolving, and so do we, 0:00:36.560 --> 0:00:40.080 and through it all, one thing has never changed this. 0:00:42.760 --> 0:00:44.600 Because we got a lot to talk about. 0:00:44.840 --> 0:00:46.800 Story time, I got a funny story for y'all. 0:00:47.720 --> 0:00:49.800 And the funny thing is it really don't got much 0:00:49.840 --> 0:00:53.559 to do with the grandkids, and they got more to 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:57.480 do with the grandparents and the parents. Kadeen and I 0:00:57.520 --> 0:01:00.520 had come home from traveling. I forgot exactly where we 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:04.000 come home from traveling from. But Kadeen always has the 0:01:04.000 --> 0:01:06.920 cleaners come and clean up before we come back from traveling. 0:01:07.560 --> 0:01:11.800 And one of Kadeen's big rules is that she likes 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:16.360 to have the countertops clear. So we walk in the 0:01:16.360 --> 0:01:19.040 house after traveling. We was going for about four days. 0:01:19.280 --> 0:01:21.360 Cleaners was here on Friday, which means we came back 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:24.479 on like a Tuesday. We walked back in the house 0:01:24.520 --> 0:01:27.959 on a Tuesday. Mom is there greeting us. The kids 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:31.120 has already sleep because it's late at night, and Kadeen 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:33.720 walks into the kitchen and I'm hungry because we always 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:36.200 travel late. I walk in there, I'm like, oh, snap, 0:01:36.800 --> 0:01:40.160 we got curry goat because Mom made my favorite curry goat. 0:01:40.280 --> 0:01:42.440 She made the curry go she's preparing the curry goat. 0:01:42.840 --> 0:01:45.039 Kadeen is gone. I don't know where Kadeen at. So 0:01:45.040 --> 0:01:47.760 I'm sitting there awaiting, like I'm away for Kadeen to come. 0:01:47.600 --> 0:01:51.120 Back to eat. So I'm sitting there, food getting cold 0:01:51.200 --> 0:01:53.480 now because Kadeen ain't coming back. 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:56.440 I go back in the back room. Kadeen already in 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:58.800 the shower, like was she getting ready for bed? And 0:01:58.800 --> 0:02:02.560 I'm like, okay, you ain't gonna eat. She goes, I 0:02:02.600 --> 0:02:05.240 cannot go in that kitchen with them counters looking the 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:07.960 way they are and eat anything out of that kitchen. 0:02:08.520 --> 0:02:11.800 So I was like, you're not gonna eat nothing. She 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:14.120 looks at me and she says, I've been eating, not 0:02:14.240 --> 0:02:18.360 having my counters clean for six years. I'm tired of 0:02:18.400 --> 0:02:22.760 eating it, and she went to sleep. Now me, I 0:02:22.840 --> 0:02:26.640 went back and got I'm sure I was hungry, but 0:02:26.720 --> 0:02:30.040 it was in that moment I realized, uh, oh, I 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:32.440 think something is happening right underneath my nose, and I 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:35.040 better get ahead of it before it gets ahead of me. 0:02:38.040 --> 0:02:38.519 Karaoke. 0:02:38.639 --> 0:02:43.079 In honor of that happened, I got a song, and 0:02:43.160 --> 0:02:47.400 it's in honor of all things Jackson right now, because 0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:48.360 that's been on my brain. 0:02:48.480 --> 0:02:51.400 Pause. But this song is perfect for what I'm thinking. 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:57.440 It thoughts like this then and and and then then 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:07.160 and don't want your man beat it. 0:03:07.280 --> 0:03:10.840 Yes, that's point. 0:03:11.000 --> 0:03:13.800 That's see. Mine was gonna be a little softer, you 0:03:13.840 --> 0:03:16.480 know what I'm saying. Mine was going to be moving. 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:19.000 On up to the side. 0:03:21.639 --> 0:03:24.000 And this guy, Sorry, y'all, I'm getting off of a 0:03:24.000 --> 0:03:26.160 side of affection. So if I sound crazy, just knowing 0:03:26.160 --> 0:03:28.400 that's what it is. These Georgia alities are killing me. 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:31.560 But I was thinking that because aside from the fact 0:03:31.600 --> 0:03:35.200 beat it is definitely very much, you know, trend, it's 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:36.920 on trend exactly what his. 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:39.160 Top five songs are all trending on Billboard. 0:03:39.160 --> 0:03:41.080 Oh yeah, that's all the kids have been mis Cairo 0:03:41.200 --> 0:03:44.040 is literally breaking down choreography eight count by eight count. 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:46.960 It's amazing to see. But yeah, I'm thinking. 0:03:47.240 --> 0:03:51.280 I thought of that song because I'm excited and really happy, 0:03:51.440 --> 0:03:54.920 genuinely that both of our parents are going to have 0:03:55.840 --> 0:04:00.640 the opportunity to purchase themselves their dreams. 0:04:00.720 --> 0:04:04.480 And that's we're doing the whole podcast about helping the parents, yeah, 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:07.000 get set up for retirement. So we're gonna do a 0:04:07.000 --> 0:04:09.400 whole podcast about that. But this one is about them 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:11.120 not moving on up and moving on out. 0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:13.560 For sure. 0:04:14.160 --> 0:04:15.840 All right, we're back. 0:04:16.160 --> 0:04:17.239 We are back. 0:04:18.120 --> 0:04:21.240 This is our first episode of season nineteen, no Oper, 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:22.680 no Ope. 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:24.320 How are you feeling what we're talking about? 0:04:24.640 --> 0:04:28.000 I feel great? Yeah, as good as good can feel. 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:31.280 Yeah, I love that for you trip that I'm lying though, 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:32.000 I feel terrible. 0:04:34.720 --> 0:04:37.880 Don't we all do that? They feel great? I feel amazing, 0:04:38.920 --> 0:04:39.320 make it. 0:04:39.920 --> 0:04:42.799 Yeah, So that's what we're doing. Okay, Opera, no Op. 0:04:43.120 --> 0:04:46.400 These are not gonna have anything to do with today's topic. Okay, 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:48.159 because I love me, me and Papa. 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:51.760 You know, we all do, we all. 0:04:52.640 --> 0:04:54.960 So here's one thing. This is not really Oper no Op, 0:04:55.000 --> 0:04:57.280 but I was on Instagram the other day and remember 0:04:57.560 --> 0:04:58.800 the Dead Ass Tour. 0:04:58.880 --> 0:04:59.320 Baby. 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:04.359 Yes, she's like talking now, she's a humanity. 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:06.839 I think I think her name is Jordan. Is Jordan? 0:05:07.480 --> 0:05:11.120 I don't so I still follow it. It is okay 0:05:11.160 --> 0:05:13.360 because that was I still follow on Instagram. 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:14.440 She should be almost two. 0:05:14.600 --> 0:05:16.040 Yeah, she's a year and a half. 0:05:16.080 --> 0:05:18.880 It seems Oh my goodness, shout out to our podcast 0:05:19.120 --> 0:05:20.239 or baby. 0:05:20.200 --> 0:05:22.920 Yes, that was such a good moment. That's probably definitely 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:23.360 top five. 0:05:23.400 --> 0:05:24.920 That's if I wanted top five moments. 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:28.680 What everybody else's like, top top moment in our podcasting tour? 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:30.800 Can you think of one that was like an insane one? 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:35.320 The number number number one for me would have to 0:05:35.360 --> 0:05:38.719 be hit that man finding out that he was having 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:41.920 another baby, Like when I saw on his face and 0:05:42.080 --> 0:05:43.400 he was so excited. 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:46.240 And the reason why it was important to me is 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:49.599 because during the time, it's twenty twenty four, gender wars 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:51.799 were at his peak, and it was all this conversation 0:05:51.880 --> 0:05:53.919 about men not wanting to be around their families and 0:05:53.960 --> 0:05:55.640 not wanting to you know, and where these men aren't, 0:05:55.640 --> 0:05:58.720 here's this guy begging and pleading his wife that they 0:05:58.720 --> 0:06:01.120 want to. It just felt so good that in real 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:03.200 life we get to see something different than what we 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:04.640 were seeing in the digital space. 0:06:04.960 --> 0:06:06.760 It just really felt so good to see that. That's 0:06:06.839 --> 0:06:12.520 number one for me. Number two yeah, I would have. 0:06:12.440 --> 0:06:14.920 To say Josh's surprise Bailiff. 0:06:17.320 --> 0:06:19.120 That was that was mad funny. 0:06:20.600 --> 0:06:22.599 I think we might keep that, like if we do 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:24.919 decide to like do another show or something. 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:27.200 Which I like that ass court. 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:31.559 It was fun to Three for me is definitely watching 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:33.120 Kadeen's dong get swallowed. 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:41.520 Was so stupid chair we did not know it did 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:42.440 not a chance. 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:45.640 You got to see it on TikTok so oper no 0:06:45.839 --> 0:06:48.120 op on this. This is something I came across the 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:51.760 other day on threads. There's a couple. It's an Asian 0:06:51.839 --> 0:06:55.039 South Asian husband maybe he's like Indian or Pakistani maybe 0:06:55.320 --> 0:06:58.359 and a black wife. And the caption was the video 0:06:58.480 --> 0:07:02.000 was just them too effort. And the caption and the video. 0:07:01.880 --> 0:07:05.880 Was it took us twelve years to make curry fried chicken. 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:13.320 And then they introduced a baby. They were referring to 0:07:13.360 --> 0:07:16.840 they had a baby again. 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:17.960 I get curry. 0:07:18.000 --> 0:07:21.080 It's like watermelon eggro Yeah. 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:24.640 My girl asked because her husband. 0:07:24.280 --> 0:07:28.000 And Asian Cambodian. Ye, her name is watermelon. 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:28.800 That is adorable. 0:07:29.080 --> 0:07:32.440 I have. First, I was, I was thinking about curried chick. 0:07:32.680 --> 0:07:33.320 Why would you do that? 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:35.680 Who? 0:07:36.240 --> 0:07:36.320 Like? 0:07:36.400 --> 0:07:37.400 Who does that? 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:39.920 And even when you get say, for example, fried chicken 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:42.400 at the takeout spot, you get still gravy on the right, 0:07:42.440 --> 0:07:43.760 you don't really get carry curry. 0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:46.160 Ever put curry gravy. 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:48.320 But I'm not opposed to curry fried chicken. 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:48.880 Though I was. 0:07:48.960 --> 0:07:51.120 I was waiting to see a plate of chicken. 0:07:51.160 --> 0:07:52.080 See, but here's my thing. 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:52.400 I want. 0:07:52.480 --> 0:07:53.800 I want to know what that is. And I'm gonna 0:07:53.800 --> 0:07:55.720 ask y'all because y'all are truly Jamaican. 0:07:55.800 --> 0:07:58.160 When I get curry gold and I get fried chicken 0:07:58.200 --> 0:07:59.680 on the same plate, I don't want them to touch. 0:08:00.360 --> 0:08:03.840 Like flavors are so unique in what they are. So 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:06.160 I'm asking y'all because I don't touch, don't don't have 0:08:06.200 --> 0:08:07.680 my curfry go touch my fried chicken. 0:08:08.360 --> 0:08:12.200 My question is what scenario would you be eating both 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:14.120 curry goat and fried chicken. 0:08:17.720 --> 0:08:18.400 Thanksgiving? 0:08:18.520 --> 0:08:18.800 Yeah? 0:08:18.840 --> 0:08:25.200 For sure? Yeah yeah every time. Yeah, there is a 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:28.040 fried chicken, there's a roast beef, there's a curry chicken, 0:08:28.240 --> 0:08:30.680 there's a curry goat, there's a lasagna. 0:08:30.800 --> 0:08:33.080 Yeah, it's like a staple, like you kind of have 0:08:33.200 --> 0:08:34.439 to have something curry, wh. 0:08:35.200 --> 0:08:38.320 What type of event everybody not getting? Still expensive? 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:47.280 Definitely chicken. I'm like, what holiday is coming up next day? 0:08:47.320 --> 0:08:48.160 We can make the spread. 0:08:49.160 --> 0:08:51.080 You gotta cook. I'm not letting that go. 0:08:53.960 --> 0:08:55.440 Christmas, Thanksgiving? You were here. 0:08:55.640 --> 0:08:58.240 Thanksgiving, y'all don't eat pork. 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:03.040 Not really kind of America to starty pork? 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:09.120 I did. I never because last night I made lasagna 0:09:09.559 --> 0:09:12.800 and I made the sauce from scratch, everything from scratch, 0:09:13.320 --> 0:09:15.160 and I was gonna bring it, but it has it 0:09:15.200 --> 0:09:17.560 has a lot of cheese, and it has no bring it. 0:09:17.559 --> 0:09:18.360 It has pork. 0:09:19.679 --> 0:09:22.640 Por sauage. Yeah, your dad like that with I Italian. 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:25.120 Oh my god, taste so good with pork sauage. And 0:09:26.080 --> 0:09:27.720 I just can't. I can't do it anymore. 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:30.760 Like all of these reports coming out about our pork 0:09:30.840 --> 0:09:32.920 being banned in like one hundred and seventy five countries, 0:09:32.920 --> 0:09:34.480 it kind of makes you wonder, like, then, why are 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:35.480 we allowed to eat. 0:09:35.320 --> 0:09:39.200 This farm a whole different story. 0:09:39.240 --> 0:09:42.160 Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, I said, some drunk pork from 0:09:42.880 --> 0:09:45.600 if pork. But we cut bacon, We cut pork a lot. 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:49.240 We definitely cut sausage all the processed foods, so we can. 0:09:49.440 --> 0:09:53.520 I love sausage. Pause, but you you dice some some 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:55.000 sausage and put it in a lasagna. 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:57.959 Oh yeah, it elevates the flavor. Profo. 0:09:58.800 --> 0:09:59.480 Yeah, it's really good. 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:04.240 My first time making lasagna from scratch, and it's actually fire. 0:10:04.480 --> 0:10:06.800 I didn't do it quite right, but it tastes good. 0:10:06.920 --> 0:10:09.760 So how scratches scratched? Like you out there getting tomatoes 0:10:09.760 --> 0:10:10.640 and making your own sauce. 0:10:11.360 --> 0:10:15.640 You made the sced make I don't have a I 0:10:15.640 --> 0:10:16.240 don't have a kid. 0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:20.560 That joint? Oh wow, I used. 0:10:21.880 --> 0:10:24.400 What do they call it? Starts with a pee? Plum 0:10:24.440 --> 0:10:26.160 tomatoes Italian plum tomatoes. 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:26.400 Yeah. 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:30.360 So wait a second. 0:10:30.480 --> 0:10:32.480 So when Papa has his garden, we got to make 0:10:32.480 --> 0:10:34.360 sure that he grows tomatoes so we can hand him 0:10:34.360 --> 0:10:36.760 off the dribble to make the sauce. 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:41.920 Slow Trible, got the sauce. Got the sauce. Make you dribble, 0:10:43.200 --> 0:10:44.320 it's actually fire. 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:53.480 Make you dribble, Make you dribble, and then. 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:57.680 You can have the jingle for you if. 0:10:57.600 --> 0:10:59.800 You try to real good. 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:04.880 Why my father character, colonel. 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:08.600 He could totally be like your poster child. 0:11:09.200 --> 0:11:12.240 A picture in Jamaica with the colonel behind him, I can't. 0:11:16.000 --> 0:11:16.559 From school. 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:22.199 The Colonel is most popular in the Caribbean. I'll say that. 0:11:22.679 --> 0:11:26.040 Jackson has only had KFC in the Caribbean. He has 0:11:26.080 --> 0:11:27.760 not had KFC's keep it. 0:11:28.679 --> 0:11:29.960 Well, that's it, that's the. 0:11:29.880 --> 0:11:32.640 Only had I love that. 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:36.160 Well, let's let's talk about living with your in laws. 0:11:36.640 --> 0:11:40.320 Let's go back, all right, because I'm not gonna lie. 0:11:40.320 --> 0:11:41.240 I was a little conflicted. 0:11:41.320 --> 0:11:42.840 Can I go back to the story real quick before 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:45.880 you go on there? So yeah, my thing is I 0:11:45.960 --> 0:11:47.800 just enjoy when my countertops are clear. 0:11:48.240 --> 0:11:50.439 And you know, it's a lot. We have a fairly 0:11:50.520 --> 0:11:51.080 large house. 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:54.000 At any given moment, there's a minimum of eight people 0:11:54.040 --> 0:11:56.760 in this house. So that's a lot of people and 0:11:56.800 --> 0:12:00.600 a lot of foot traffic to you know that behind 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:02.760 if you're not worried, I have four sons. Like I 0:12:02.800 --> 0:12:04.800 had to be realistic when I moved here to be 0:12:04.880 --> 0:12:09.320 like Cleean, your OCD needs to take a rest because 0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:11.560 I was driving my own self crazy trying to run 0:12:11.640 --> 0:12:14.880 after everybody to clean up. So after I realized that, 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:17.360 you know, it's me against seven other people, I just 0:12:17.440 --> 0:12:18.560 kind of threw my hands up in the air and 0:12:18.559 --> 0:12:20.400 its It's like whatever. As long as the house is clean, 0:12:20.800 --> 0:12:25.880 it's not dirty, like I'm fine. So anytime the cleaners come, 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:27.520 I think it might just be a black thing. 0:12:27.880 --> 0:12:29.680 I'm not sure. Y'all can let me know all of 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:30.559 my non black folks. 0:12:30.600 --> 0:12:33.920 You pre clean before the cleaners got the same way 0:12:33.920 --> 0:12:35.800 I'm gonna clean up a hotel room before I leave 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:36.640 and check out. 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:37.959 I'm pre clean the house. 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:41.320 But the pre cleaning is more so about kind of 0:12:41.400 --> 0:12:44.240 sorting and organizing things that are out so they may 0:12:44.280 --> 0:12:47.120 not know where to put, you know, certain clothing. Again, 0:12:47.280 --> 0:12:49.760 eight sets of clothes in one house? Who has what 0:12:49.880 --> 0:12:52.600 we're so I have to pre clean beforehand, and the 0:12:52.600 --> 0:12:55.360 pre cleaning sometimes just takes a lot out of Mom. 0:12:55.160 --> 0:12:55.800 And I to do. 0:12:56.200 --> 0:12:58.440 So anytime I let her know on the calendar, hey Mom, 0:12:58.480 --> 0:13:00.600 the cleaners are coming on this date, it's like a 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:03.320 dreaded countdown for her for when the cleaners come. So 0:13:03.360 --> 0:13:05.520 this last time that they came, for example, I said, 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:08.079 hey Mom, remember the cleaners are coming on Wednesday. And 0:13:08.120 --> 0:13:12.679 she's like, oh my god, the stress. 0:13:12.720 --> 0:13:16.040 And I was like, ma, it's literally like that. 0:13:16.120 --> 0:13:17.280 She's so stressful. 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:19.920 I said, the stress of what I said, they're cleaning 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:20.200 the house. 0:13:20.240 --> 0:13:22.400 You're not she's like a sort and finished the long tree, 0:13:22.400 --> 0:13:24.600 and I said, first of all, you're not the help. 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:26.880 You're not doing this by yourself. You and I will 0:13:26.920 --> 0:13:28.360 go and short things, put them away. I have the 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:30.800 boys taking care of their rooms. I'm like, everybody will 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:32.760 do their separate spaces and then they'll come and clean. 0:13:33.640 --> 0:13:35.120 And then she didn't. 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:36.680 Feel prepared because she was so stressed that she was 0:13:36.679 --> 0:13:39.760 stressing me out that I moved the cleaners and said, hey, 0:13:39.800 --> 0:13:41.400 can y'all come Monday instead? Let me give me the 0:13:41.400 --> 0:13:43.839 weekend to sort through things. But I'm like, mom, the 0:13:43.880 --> 0:13:46.439 cleaners are coming at least once a month. Sis like, 0:13:46.600 --> 0:13:49.240 get get, get it through your mind, you know. So 0:13:49.280 --> 0:13:51.520 the countertop thing is another thing that I just I hate. 0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:53.760 They'll wash dishes and like leave all the dishes to 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:55.319 drain on top of the countertop. 0:13:55.320 --> 0:13:56.520 I'm like, we have a dishwasher. 0:13:57.160 --> 0:13:59.160 Either put them in the dishwasher or if you want 0:13:59.160 --> 0:14:01.560 a hand wash, wash and then put them in the 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:05.040 dishwasher racks to just dry because we don't have any rack. 0:14:05.200 --> 0:14:08.199 Because I don't like stuff on my countertops. Every time 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:11.960 the cleaners come. The County taps last a mint maximum 0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:16.320 two to three is that they're on. Any given moment, 0:14:16.320 --> 0:14:18.160 you'll catch my mother walking out the house. She has 0:14:18.840 --> 0:14:22.040 a yetti cup with like a Stanley joint with with 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:25.240 her smoothie. She has another one with coffee, and then 0:14:25.240 --> 0:14:26.480 she has another one with water. 0:14:26.560 --> 0:14:28.000 You can see how serious she is about this. 0:14:28.120 --> 0:14:32.440 She's not. She has them three joints and she'll walk out. 0:14:32.600 --> 0:14:34.080 I'm going to tennis, and I'm like, why do you 0:14:34.120 --> 0:14:36.000 have an abundance of cups? 0:14:36.000 --> 0:14:37.280 And she's like, oh, well, I have this and that 0:14:37.320 --> 0:14:39.440 and this and that, and then she'll just leave them 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:41.200 on the countertop whenever she comes in. 0:14:41.600 --> 0:14:43.760 So I'm constantly just like taking cups and putting them in. 0:14:43.800 --> 0:14:46.400 So I'm going to when the time comes and they're 0:14:46.480 --> 0:14:48.120 closed on their house and they're getting ready to prepare 0:14:48.120 --> 0:14:50.320 their things to move out, I'm going to she can. 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:52.560 Have cups galore. Man, take all the cups. 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:55.640 You have no idea how many cups and mugs. 0:14:55.800 --> 0:14:58.600 You see. She's so thoughtful too. 0:14:58.640 --> 0:15:00.560 And that's the funny thing while I laugh time multaneously 0:15:00.600 --> 0:15:03.520 because she made all of us personalized mugs. 0:15:03.520 --> 0:15:07.240 So de Val has his, I have mine, Matt. At 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:08.400 this point, you got to ask me. 0:15:08.280 --> 0:15:10.680 Me for one because when you be here, you know, 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:12.560 all the boys have their own tea cups. 0:15:12.600 --> 0:15:15.720 My father has his own. Devows parents have their own. 0:15:15.760 --> 0:15:17.360 So that was like a part of her Christmas gift 0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:18.600 this year, like stock and stuffers. 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:21.200 So she's super thoughtful. But I'm gonna send them cups 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:22.960 for her two to her new house. They can have 0:15:23.040 --> 0:15:23.840 them over there. 0:15:26.080 --> 0:15:28.160 In the box. Girl, all your cups. 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:31.960 It's so funny how frustrating it is when because this 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:34.440 happens nobody lives with me, but when I have guests, 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:36.520 I have to tell my guests, like if I come 0:15:36.560 --> 0:15:39.000 in with groceries, don't touch nothing. 0:15:39.760 --> 0:15:41.640 If you got dishes, just. 0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:42.360 Put them in a sink. 0:15:42.480 --> 0:15:44.200 You don't need to clean anything, because if you put 0:15:44.240 --> 0:15:47.280 the dishes in the wrong place, I'm gonna want to 0:15:47.320 --> 0:15:50.760 put you out. And so it's so funny, just like 0:15:51.280 --> 0:15:54.560 not being able to organize your house the way you 0:15:54.600 --> 0:15:57.520 want it organized and have to constantly work around somebody 0:15:57.520 --> 0:15:59.840 else's like way of doing things. 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:02.960 Absolutely, I'm glad that, y'all. I'm glad. I let you 0:16:03.000 --> 0:16:06.080 get that off your chest. Clearly, clearly that was bothering her. 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:09.240 While on the topic. 0:16:09.600 --> 0:16:11.120 She was steaming about that. 0:16:11.440 --> 0:16:14.680 But this this is where my my conundrum comes in, right, 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:18.800 because I struggle with the fact that I know that 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:23.240 K needs help right and selfishly I want my wife. 0:16:24.400 --> 0:16:26.520 So I'm like, yo, Mom, you hear you helping do 0:16:26.600 --> 0:16:28.600 the dishes. You help with the boys. Da da da 0:16:28.640 --> 0:16:31.880 da da dah. So I appreciate having mine pops here 0:16:31.960 --> 0:16:35.640 because they help. I know for a fact, the minute 0:16:35.640 --> 0:16:38.360 Mom and Pops leave and all of this stuff falls 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:40.960 on K, I'm not gonna get the wife the same 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:43.840 way I had the wife. Oh No, that's my conundrum 0:16:43.840 --> 0:16:47.400 because on one second, I know when K be tired, 0:16:47.760 --> 0:16:48.560 this would be the difference. 0:16:48.600 --> 0:16:51.280 So y'all know, y'all come in here, Kay got on 0:16:51.320 --> 0:16:52.960 them red booty shorts and the crop top. 0:16:53.520 --> 0:16:57.080 K's been rested right when y'all come in here, and 0:16:57.200 --> 0:16:59.720 Kay got on that that freaking that big. 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:04.160 And she's sliding around the house. 0:17:04.160 --> 0:17:06.560 Somebody then pissed her horse, bab. 0:17:06.760 --> 0:17:09.560 And I got to deal with the fact that sometimes 0:17:09.640 --> 0:17:11.200 me and me be the one pissing her horn. 0:17:11.359 --> 0:17:13.760 So the one who's supposed to be helping me get 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:16.520 to the shorts, it's helping me put the rope back 0:17:16.600 --> 0:17:18.840 on because I swear when she come out when I 0:17:18.880 --> 0:17:21.560 walk out in the morning, and because I know where 0:17:21.600 --> 0:17:22.920 my room is, I come out. 0:17:22.920 --> 0:17:24.880 The first thing I do is I look down that hallway. 0:17:25.320 --> 0:17:27.280 When I look down that hallway, I get to see 0:17:27.280 --> 0:17:32.119 the silhouette. The silhouette is either shorts crop top or 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:33.680 the silhouettees. 0:17:33.080 --> 0:17:35.919 Look like a moonment and it's a big ass triangle. 0:17:36.000 --> 0:17:37.920 And sometimes she got the one with the hood on. 0:17:38.280 --> 0:17:39.840 She got the rope with the hood on. So I'm like, 0:17:39.840 --> 0:17:41.960 I don't get to see nothing. The men and I 0:17:41.960 --> 0:17:45.119 walk in that kitchen that countertop beat and I was like, 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:48.280 this is why she got the road. And I start 0:17:48.320 --> 0:17:50.199 cleaning up the countertop and She's like, no, leave it. 0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:51.880 Leave it because when they walk in here, I want 0:17:51.880 --> 0:17:53.240 them to see exactly what it looks like. 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:56.200 And I'm like, oh my god, I'm backer. 0:17:57.520 --> 0:17:59.639 Sometimes I'll just be like what, but don't sleep on 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:06.280 the rope because a lot of Grandma's generations. 0:18:04.119 --> 0:18:06.920 And assumed that the met there was a good night 0:18:06.960 --> 0:18:08.480 and Kadeen just rode out of bed. 0:18:08.640 --> 0:18:15.240 Sometimes kids ready for school, that is a fact for sure, 0:18:15.480 --> 0:18:16.840 But you know who some of the stuff is gonna 0:18:16.840 --> 0:18:20.200 fall on now, the boys, because one of the detriments 0:18:20.240 --> 0:18:23.520 that's happened with living with my parents is that they 0:18:23.600 --> 0:18:25.879 do a lot of things just out of habit, not 0:18:25.920 --> 0:18:28.400 that they're trying to absolve the boys of their chores. 0:18:28.800 --> 0:18:31.480 But you know, Jackson, for a while, his laundry, it 0:18:31.560 --> 0:18:34.040 seemed like him and Mimi had this covert agreement that 0:18:34.119 --> 0:18:36.920 she would be low key doing his laundry. And after 0:18:36.960 --> 0:18:38.879 a while I was like, sir, are you doing your laundry? 0:18:38.880 --> 0:18:39.679 Whin's the last time. 0:18:39.520 --> 0:18:39.760