WEBVTT - #140 - Jana Kramer 0:00:02.200 --> 0:00:05.400 All right, Welcome to Episode one forty Bobby Cast with 0:00:05.559 --> 0:00:10.560 Janet Cramer. That's a good number. I like that, like 0:00:10.640 --> 0:00:12.640 for you or just in general, just like in general, 0:00:12.680 --> 0:00:17.680 for you, for life, for like good well three, but 0:00:17.840 --> 0:00:19.320 you know what that is. I mean, you know what 0:00:19.400 --> 0:00:23.320 that comes from. Not wait, yes, I do where Mr 0:00:23.360 --> 0:00:25.279 Roger documentary. Yes, that's what I was like. I was 0:00:25.280 --> 0:00:29.200 watching it. Did you like that documentary? I loved it, Okay, 0:00:29.520 --> 0:00:31.760 I did. I didn't finish it, but I wanted to 0:00:31.760 --> 0:00:35.440 be more about his life. Um that's where I was disappointed. 0:00:35.479 --> 0:00:37.159 I think it was two hyped up for me and 0:00:37.200 --> 0:00:38.879 everyone's like, you're going to cry, and I was like, 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:41.280 I didn't. I wanted to be more about like him 0:00:41.400 --> 0:00:44.479 and like his upbringing and stuff like that. Not so 0:00:44.600 --> 0:00:46.479 much about the show. I was okay with the direction 0:00:46.479 --> 0:00:50.720 of it. You were, yeah, because he really did a 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:52.680 lot as a show when they were showing for me, 0:00:53.240 --> 0:00:55.000 I'm totally let me do this commercial. I'm gonna come 0:00:55.000 --> 0:00:56.960 back to this. 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But whenever they would show on the Mr. 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:20.000 Rogers documentary, whenever real life things would happen, like the 0:02:20.000 --> 0:02:23.840 assassination of Bobby Kennedy, and he would go, want to go, hey, listen, 0:02:23.919 --> 0:02:27.000 you may hear you may hear the word assassination. Like 0:02:27.040 --> 0:02:30.760 he was tackling really tough subjects for kids. Yeah. Do 0:02:30.800 --> 0:02:33.480 you know what's sad though, this day and age, if 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:35.760 there was a show like that, you can't have a 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:39.359 middle aged dude. That's so sad. It's like he actually 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:42.040 loved these kids, Like he wasn't that we know of, 0:02:42.560 --> 0:02:45.440 you know, pedophile or whatever. But I'm like, in this 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:49.960 day and age, you're like, yeah, yeah, it's just so sad. 0:02:50.000 --> 0:02:52.320 Like that's where like, well, that's where my head went first. 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:53.919 I was like, in this day and age that we're 0:02:53.919 --> 0:02:57.000 probably gonna have a show like that, unless it's like Mr. Wiggles, 0:02:57.160 --> 0:03:03.560 But then anyone it's like three grown men. That's even worse. Yeah, 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:06.799 she's two and a half. She'll be three in January, 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:09.960 and then the baby boys do in November. How excited 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:13.560 was Mike to have a boy? Honestly, he was okay 0:03:13.600 --> 0:03:17.040 having a girl. I really wanted another girl. But he's 0:03:17.080 --> 0:03:18.919 so pomped now and now I'm really excited. I just 0:03:19.000 --> 0:03:21.120 at first and picture myself as a boy mom, but 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:23.880 now I'm like beyond them and so excited. And the 0:03:23.919 --> 0:03:27.359 clothes are so cute for boys. But what about he's 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:30.160 a ballplayer, like doesn't doesn't even want to, you know, 0:03:30.280 --> 0:03:33.640 he does. He's scared because how do I say this? 0:03:35.680 --> 0:03:38.560 He's afraid that he might do the same things in 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:42.120 his upbringing that the cycle. The cycle, he's afraid of. 0:03:42.120 --> 0:03:44.120 The cycle. He's afraid of because I mean his dad. 0:03:44.480 --> 0:03:46.560 You know, not that his dad was bad. His dad's amazing, 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:48.800 but you know, there are certain things that let him 0:03:48.840 --> 0:03:52.080 down certain paths because of how he was raised, and 0:03:52.360 --> 0:03:54.480 he's afraid that that might happen again. But I'm like, 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:56.240 this is where you get to break the cycle. And 0:03:57.160 --> 0:03:59.680 that hopefully won't happen. And now you'll know it's okay 0:03:59.720 --> 0:04:01.680 if you know he does come to you and you 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:03.360 can he can be honest with you and you won't 0:04:03.360 --> 0:04:06.760 get mad at him. And so, and Jenna has a 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:09.440 podcast called wine Down w h I n E where 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:12.000 you guys, is it right? It's w H I n 0:04:12.080 --> 0:04:15.280 E wind Down, Um Jenna Grammar and it's an unhearted 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:18.320 as well as yours, and it's I'm so open book 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:20.440 about everything in my life. So that's why I wanted 0:04:20.520 --> 0:04:23.400 to do a podcast. And Mike's my co host on there, 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:26.080 and we just we talked about it all, but we 0:04:26.120 --> 0:04:28.040 have fun too, like we're not all about like, oh 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:30.200 you know, we don't only talk about affairs. We don't 0:04:30.200 --> 0:04:32.200 only talk about that stuff, but we we tackle the 0:04:32.200 --> 0:04:34.960 subjects that are hard to talk about. So how does 0:04:35.000 --> 0:04:37.200 he do with that? He did not want to talk 0:04:37.240 --> 0:04:39.040 about it at all in the very beginning. I mean 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:42.920 it's been two years he's been out with everything, so 0:04:43.600 --> 0:04:47.160 I mean, as the perpetrator, like he didn't ever want 0:04:47.200 --> 0:04:50.000 to talk about it ever. I mean, he wanted to 0:04:50.000 --> 0:04:53.440 sleep underneath the rug. And for me, it's like there's 0:04:54.720 --> 0:04:57.200 how I've Ever, how I've always dealt with things in 0:04:57.240 --> 0:04:59.880 my life is there's gotta be a reason for the 0:05:00.200 --> 0:05:02.279 that was caused in my life. So if I know 0:05:02.360 --> 0:05:05.200 I'm not the only person so selfishly like, it helps 0:05:05.240 --> 0:05:08.040 me when I reach out and talk about these things 0:05:08.040 --> 0:05:10.039 because there's other people that's like, oh my gosh, my 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:12.520 husband too, or this happened to me, and it's I 0:05:12.520 --> 0:05:16.560 don't feel as alone. So when he did start slowly 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:19.000 starting to talk about it, I would send him messages 0:05:19.040 --> 0:05:21.360 and be like, look like this helped this person hearing 0:05:21.400 --> 0:05:24.039 like the guy's perspective or what maybe the husband could 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:25.560 have been thinking, and he's like, wow, I didn't know 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:29.080 that that could like be like that. So it's been 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:32.200 and it's been really good for us. Yeah. Yeah, I 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:34.400 mean there's times when it's triggering, but at the same time, 0:05:34.400 --> 0:05:36.599 again like keeping the objective of we know why we're 0:05:36.600 --> 0:05:39.039 doing this to try to help people, and just talk 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:42.000 about well, again, we know we're not experts, we're not therapists, 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:43.800 Like we do not have it figured out, I mean 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:47.160 at all, But does anybody ever have figured out I've 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:48.760 determined now at this age in my life that no 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:51.039 one really knows what they're doing, and some people just 0:05:51.040 --> 0:05:52.640 fake it better and they make you feel more insecure 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:54.560 about yourself because they're faking it so well. But really 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:57.040 nobody knows. No, you don't know. And like there's things 0:05:57.080 --> 0:05:58.880 that happen all the time where I still get triggered, 0:05:58.880 --> 0:06:00.680 I still get upset with them. We still have to 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:03.080 you know, and it could happen again, and then I 0:06:03.080 --> 0:06:05.159 have to make my decision what I'm going to do then, 0:06:05.279 --> 0:06:08.200 And so it's just a cycle, and I'm just trying 0:06:08.240 --> 0:06:12.200 to learn every day. You've You've been my confident for this. 0:06:12.480 --> 0:06:16.680 I guess two months probably way before I even accepted 0:06:16.680 --> 0:06:18.680 the Dancing with the Stars. Well, yeah, you wanted to know, 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:20.599 like what it like, what it really was? Is it 0:06:20.640 --> 0:06:23.440 really four hours of dancing? You know? It's not? Oh no, 0:06:23.520 --> 0:06:26.560 it's like, how do I break it to you? I 0:06:26.600 --> 0:06:29.880 feel bad complaining about it because it's such a cool thing. 0:06:30.400 --> 0:06:32.800 And I also people don't understand. They think it's just fun. 0:06:32.880 --> 0:06:36.039 It's not fun. It's really hard work. It's so it's 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:38.280 so hard, but you feel complaining, like, oh, I'm having 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:39.919 a hard time on Dancing with the Stars. It's like 0:06:40.880 --> 0:06:43.080 I understand that, but everyone else is not going to 0:06:43.160 --> 0:06:45.640 understand that they haven't done the show because it's hard, 0:06:46.800 --> 0:06:49.359 and it's hard when you don't know how to even learn, 0:06:49.600 --> 0:06:51.960 like you're learning to learn that's been don't even know 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:53.960 how to like count? Yeah, I didn't need that. I 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:57.839 was like, I don't understand this. What and when only 0:06:57.880 --> 0:07:01.200 one on our show that has a job, oh will Yeah, 0:07:01.560 --> 0:07:04.279 like a full time everyday job, like the other guys 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:05.360 have like things they do. But there are a lot 0:07:05.360 --> 0:07:08.960 of creatives. That's true. That So every day I'm in 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:12.160 here five six seven hours a day and then I 0:07:12.200 --> 0:07:14.320 go dance five six seven hours a day. I try 0:07:14.360 --> 0:07:17.280 to eat. Yeah, I get a little fried. I'm trying 0:07:17.320 --> 0:07:20.720 to be a little run down. Are you forgetting the steps? No, 0:07:21.160 --> 0:07:25.040 my problem isn't forgetting steps. My problem is actually because 0:07:25.040 --> 0:07:28.400 I want to learn all the steps and I'm such 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:31.040 a linear guy. Does she teach you the entire dance 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:35.960 all at once or now? Uh? We do blocks. She's 0:07:36.000 --> 0:07:39.440 tried all everything with me. She's trying. She gets so 0:07:39.480 --> 0:07:42.800 frustrated at me, and she gets no. No, she doesn't 0:07:42.800 --> 0:07:48.600 get mad at me. Sometimes she'll be like, hey, but 0:07:48.720 --> 0:07:50.560 it's for my like it's really for my own good 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:52.720 do you like that she's hard or do you want 0:07:52.720 --> 0:07:56.920 her to be softer? No, I just want consistency. If 0:07:56.960 --> 0:07:59.840 she's always hard, that means when she's softer, she says 0:07:59.840 --> 0:08:02.600 it's good, it means it's really good. As long as 0:08:02.760 --> 0:08:04.880 anything in my life is given to me consistently, I 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:07.360 can gauge the good or bad based on what the 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:10.640 consistent path is. So if she's always hard and she 0:08:10.720 --> 0:08:12.920 doesn't go, oh, you're doing great all the time, well 0:08:13.000 --> 0:08:15.960 she does finally say that it's good, it really means 0:08:15.960 --> 0:08:20.120 it's good, and that's even currency. Yeah, what do you 0:08:20.160 --> 0:08:27.160 think your biggest challenges the mental? It's not Listen, I'm 0:08:27.160 --> 0:08:28.520 the first one there. I'm the last one to leave. 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:31.000 I know you are because in my text thir day, 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:32.640 I was I was quoting your book. I didn't think 0:08:32.679 --> 0:08:36.040 you got it. Probably you're you're like I am. I 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:38.439 was like, no, I'm talking about your book fight grind repeat, 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:43.760 that's yes. I didn't know that at first. It's I 0:08:43.760 --> 0:08:45.760 I really beat myself up when I can't get it right, 0:08:45.760 --> 0:08:47.960 which is not fair because I'm not supposed to get 0:08:47.960 --> 0:08:50.840 it right yet, and I'm just like, I'm so stupid, 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:53.400 And then I don't even dance to the music. I'm 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:57.520 trying to dance with the steps sometimes remember so many steps. Well, 0:08:57.559 --> 0:09:00.040 you have the hardest dance. That's what everybody says. I 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:02.880 don't know the difference. It's hard. I was. That was 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:05.160 my lowest score. Both. I don't think we can say 0:09:05.160 --> 0:09:07.240 what it is yet you can't either. I'm saying I 0:09:07.280 --> 0:09:10.559 don't think so. But it was by far my lowest score. 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:13.040 I had the hardest time with that dance. And to 0:09:13.120 --> 0:09:15.839 know that you got that first, I was like, oh God, why, 0:09:16.080 --> 0:09:17.520 because I think you're going to do good. With like 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:19.240 a frame position, you'll do good. I think, and like 0:09:20.080 --> 0:09:23.959 something where you're like posture, maybe even you're going to 0:09:24.040 --> 0:09:26.160 be good. Regardless, I think there's a good shot I 0:09:26.200 --> 0:09:30.040 go home the first. You're not going home. We're not honestly. 0:09:30.080 --> 0:09:32.319 If you're saying that, though, then you're gonna like you're 0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:34.720 putting it out there, putting out that I don't believe that. 0:09:34.840 --> 0:09:36.880 You don't believe in that. I don't believe it because 0:09:36.920 --> 0:09:38.720 I'm saying it, because I'm saying what I would truly 0:09:38.760 --> 0:09:41.360 feel that it's going to happen. I also don't believe 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:42.840 I'm right now I'm drinking a ferra. I don't believe 0:09:42.880 --> 0:09:46.079 it's gonna pull up outside. Well, okay, what's I believe 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:49.880 Our mindset affects our actions. I just I disagree with you. 0:09:50.120 --> 0:09:53.040 I just think if you like, yes, a Ferrari isn't 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:54.800 going to show up because that's not realistic and it's 0:09:54.800 --> 0:09:55.959 so hard. But I don't believe it's so hard to 0:09:55.960 --> 0:10:00.160 ferrari outside. That's not realistic. You're you don't have any 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:01.880 you don't have a dealer right now for a Ferrari. 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:03.920 Right now, you're on Dancing with the Stars, So that's 0:10:03.920 --> 0:10:08.959 more realistic. I believe that if I show up yes, 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:11.200 and I put in the work yes, and every day 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:13.199 I get a few percent better, that I'm going to 0:10:13.360 --> 0:10:15.680 be on a trajectory to continue to improve. I'm going 0:10:15.720 --> 0:10:17.960 to learn to learn. I like that. That's what I believe. 0:10:18.120 --> 0:10:19.560 That's great. I also believe I could go home the 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:22.360 first week. That win the whole thing. Anyone could go 0:10:22.400 --> 0:10:25.840 home the first week. There's the reality that, yes, you can. 0:10:26.160 --> 0:10:30.000 I think that my story, your story good, Well, you 0:10:30.000 --> 0:10:32.080 you go there, you know what I mean. That's the thing. 0:10:32.160 --> 0:10:33.880 A lot of people don't go there. They don't show 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:36.840 the insides, and you want people want to get to 0:10:36.880 --> 0:10:38.840 know you, like my story is the story of the 0:10:38.840 --> 0:10:40.760 people that listen to my show and listen to this 0:10:41.400 --> 0:10:43.600 and so well, and I feel like I'm idol too, 0:10:43.679 --> 0:10:45.400 Like you gave out and I was like that was awesome. 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:47.600 I remember texting. I was like, like, that's good, Like 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:49.720 you broke down those walls for people that don't know you, 0:10:49.800 --> 0:10:51.960 like I know you. And then I saw that and 0:10:51.960 --> 0:10:54.360 I was like, that's that's Bobby. When you were on 0:10:54.400 --> 0:10:58.000 the show. How was the cast together, Like we guys closer? No, 0:10:58.640 --> 0:11:01.480 it takes a couple of weeks. It definitely takes a 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:04.400 couple of weeks to like kind of get each other's 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:07.120 and some were close and somewhere, you know, it's just 0:11:07.160 --> 0:11:10.720 it's hard. Did you have a best cast friend? Lori 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:13.960 and I were really close Hernandez she was the gymnast, 0:11:14.160 --> 0:11:17.040 the cute little gymnasts ended up actually winning. But but 0:11:17.080 --> 0:11:20.160 then you become so you become friends, like third three 0:11:20.200 --> 0:11:23.240 or four weeks, and then then it comes to the 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:26.600 end and you're like, it's like church, can't everybody goes away? No? 0:11:26.679 --> 0:11:27.880 I was like, no, I don't want to, Like I 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:30.440 need to like I want to beat you now, mean 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:32.800 like yeah, then you get like super competitive. I already 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:34.719 want to see them all fail and because I want 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:38.079 to win. It's cut. But I mean sometimes like you're 0:11:38.120 --> 0:11:39.560 in the back and you're like, oh, they just missed 0:11:39.559 --> 0:11:44.880 a step. Darn, Like what a bummer. That's competition time. Yeah, 0:11:45.200 --> 0:11:47.680 I'm sorry. It's like it's it's work. You know, it's business. 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:49.600 You gotta go out there and kill it. And you're 0:11:49.640 --> 0:11:52.480 gonna do great. I'm so excited. I'm coming. It's going 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:54.440 to be so great. But I just think people don't 0:11:54.480 --> 0:11:57.439 understand the mental game of Dancing with the Stars. There's 0:11:57.480 --> 0:12:00.600 so much because we're those people. The majority of them 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:02.920 are not dancers, the majority, and there are a couple 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:04.920 of that are really good. It's so annoying. Are the 0:12:05.040 --> 0:12:08.199 dancers well that's not fair. One of the girls is 0:12:08.280 --> 0:12:10.000 probably better than the pro dancers because she danced with 0:12:10.080 --> 0:12:12.080 Janet Jackson for a long time. So that's just that 0:12:12.080 --> 0:12:14.960 that drives me crazy. And they're like, well it's different 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:17.480 because it's not like I've never done ballroom. Doesn't matter. 0:12:17.559 --> 0:12:19.600 You know how to move the same thing with like 0:12:19.640 --> 0:12:21.760 some of the gymnasts and figure skaters where I'm like, 0:12:22.280 --> 0:12:25.320 you you get it, like that's how you like. Your 0:12:25.400 --> 0:12:28.400 life was skating and moving and having strong legs like 0:12:28.400 --> 0:12:30.600 glob would always be like stronger, stronger legs. And I'm like, 0:12:30.760 --> 0:12:33.560 this is what I don't know what that means. I'm 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:35.920 pointing my leg out and that's what I know. So 0:12:36.480 --> 0:12:38.160 how else do you want me to make it stronger? 0:12:38.559 --> 0:12:41.560 I'm tightening as hard as I can and it's just 0:12:41.640 --> 0:12:44.559 I didn't. I don't understand. Because a girl, her name 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:47.319 is Alexis Wryne. She's like an Instagram she has like 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:49.200 twelve men and followers, but she had ten years of 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:51.920 dance about so it's like, even though they come in 0:12:51.960 --> 0:12:54.719 as not dancers, So it's frustrating to drink of the 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:59.080 sparkling water. It just bothers me because I'm the lead. 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:01.200 Me and Nikki as of the comedian or the least, 0:13:01.600 --> 0:13:04.440 we have zero training with the only two though they 0:13:04.440 --> 0:13:07.319 have none. That just drives me crazy. It shouldn't be 0:13:07.360 --> 0:13:09.839 that way, it's all you know, But she can tell 0:13:10.080 --> 0:13:12.040 she's super funny and no one else is as funny 0:13:12.040 --> 0:13:13.280 as she is, and she can use that on TV 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:15.480 and no one's as charming and funny as you two, 0:13:15.720 --> 0:13:19.040 so it's like you're the you're the guy version. She's 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:21.040 funnier than I wouldn't watched her do comedy last night. 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:23.760 I think, oh I saw that because you start to 0:13:23.760 --> 0:13:28.960 get trauma bonding and and I don't know and amber 0:13:29.080 --> 0:13:31.520 Rose trauma bonded together because you're just in this bubble 0:13:31.760 --> 0:13:34.640 and you suck at something and it's you're sad and mad, 0:13:35.400 --> 0:13:38.199 so you're finding people and he's like, who else is 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:41.320 sad and mad and depressed in this nex? And we're 0:13:41.360 --> 0:13:44.959 both like writers, we write different things in ways. But 0:13:45.040 --> 0:13:46.839 I went on and watched her do comedy last night. 0:13:47.080 --> 0:13:48.800 Did she said club was really hard on it too. 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:51.080 Oh yeah, she's with your partner. So here's what's funny 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:53.960 about that. So Gleb comes to the and I met Glad. 0:13:54.000 --> 0:13:56.120 Doesn't remember me, but I for sure met him because 0:13:56.120 --> 0:13:57.800 we were doing a show music show together. He was 0:13:57.840 --> 0:14:01.280 with you Maryland or one of the two. And so 0:14:01.640 --> 0:14:03.640 that was a bad concert, by the way, is the terrible, 0:14:04.000 --> 0:14:08.160 the worst worst ever, so bad. It's so bad. But 0:14:08.440 --> 0:14:11.439 so Glad came out and gloves Russian Us and doesn't 0:14:11.520 --> 0:14:15.880 understand nothing wrong with you hacked my phone over hand out. 0:14:17.720 --> 0:14:21.160 We were just we went to her show because he 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:25.120 doesn't get her comedy sometimes because she's super American and 0:14:25.160 --> 0:14:28.200 in your face and dirty a little bit. And so 0:14:28.480 --> 0:14:30.280 he comes to the show and she has a joke 0:14:31.200 --> 0:14:33.240 like you care, I'm not running the joke. Basically, the 0:14:33.320 --> 0:14:36.600 joke is somebody that this is not gonna be funny. 0:14:36.680 --> 0:14:38.480 But it's like if you point your finger at things 0:14:38.480 --> 0:14:40.720 in a picture, your douchebag, and so that that doesn't 0:14:40.720 --> 0:14:43.120 do the joke justice. I don't want to run her joke. Well, 0:14:43.160 --> 0:14:46.120 and he's like, what is wrong with pointing finger and picture? 0:14:46.720 --> 0:14:49.600 And so he's like asked, and it's so sweet and awesome, 0:14:50.320 --> 0:14:52.560 but he doesn't. He just doesn't get it. But we 0:14:52.560 --> 0:14:54.440 wouldn't get Russian here. We go over to Russia and 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:56.000 we go to a comedy clubs, we wouldn't get their 0:14:56.120 --> 0:14:59.680 jokes either, But that's like what glove does, point a lot, 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:04.400 and so he probably felt like insecure. Well yeah, yeah, 0:15:04.480 --> 0:15:08.200 well that's good. It's good to find someone that you 0:15:08.240 --> 0:15:10.960 can connect with. Because Amber and I connected and everyone 0:15:10.960 --> 0:15:15.120 would think, you know, Amber Rose, she's this beautiful um 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:17.720 you know, she was a stripper. Actually that's how she 0:15:17.760 --> 0:15:21.040 got famous. You would think that she would be very 0:15:21.080 --> 0:15:23.480 confident and go out there and dance. She was so 0:15:23.560 --> 0:15:26.680 shy and she had a really really really hard time 0:15:26.680 --> 0:15:28.920 and everyone's like, no one understood like how she couldn't 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:30.880 do it. She's like, I'm just not that person to 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:33.480 come out there and you know, do this kind of dancing. 0:15:33.600 --> 0:15:36.080 So it wasn't which was just crazy to me. But 0:15:36.240 --> 0:15:39.040 we you know, again it's the mental and not feeling 0:15:39.040 --> 0:15:42.360 good enough, and she hated it a lot of childhood. 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:44.320 I'm not good enough. That comes well, I mean just 0:15:44.440 --> 0:15:46.080 ripping out of you. I mean we all have it, 0:15:46.160 --> 0:15:47.600 but then when you do something like this, it just 0:15:47.640 --> 0:15:51.120 comes out like tenfold. I was just like sucking everything. 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:54.200 My dad was right, I'm not good enough. I should 0:15:54.200 --> 0:15:59.080 just quit life. That's funny, because are you doing the 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:03.240 Family Feud? The new version? Yeah, it airs on Stay 0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:08.280 Before Your That was the funniest night ever. Really, I 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:10.160 just got invited to do it. Oh gosh, do it, 0:16:10.240 --> 0:16:13.200 but I don't have here's this EPI. So you know, 0:16:13.320 --> 0:16:15.520 I have a deal with a dealish thing with ABC 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:16.720 where I'm doing a lot of stuff with a lot 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:19.440 of projects with them. And it was Idol and Miss 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:21.680 America and Dancing with the Stars and there are other things. 0:16:22.120 --> 0:16:24.280 And so I was talking to the vice president. He's like, hey, 0:16:24.280 --> 0:16:27.920 come do family feud. And I said, listen, Rob, that's awesome. 0:16:27.920 --> 0:16:30.520 I don't have family like like you know, like I 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:32.720 don't have a family like married, and my mom's not alive. 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:34.680 I don't know my dad, like I don't have a family. 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:37.240 And so if you could do like a country music 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:40.000 family or like my show radio show family, and he 0:16:40.080 --> 0:16:42.640 was like, all right, all right, we should do that. 0:16:43.040 --> 0:16:46.160 And so because I kind of hit him with but 0:16:46.360 --> 0:16:47.760 I did get invited. I don't know if I'm still 0:16:47.760 --> 0:16:50.000 invite because don't have a family. But it does seem 0:16:50.000 --> 0:16:51.600 like a lot of fun. You should do it. What's 0:16:51.640 --> 0:16:53.400 that like? The fun? Oh my gosh, I had the 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:56.680 greatest time ever went on with you. So it was me, 0:16:56.880 --> 0:16:59.880 my husband, Mike, my aunt Susan, uncle Rore, and then 0:16:59.880 --> 0:17:02.320 my brother. We had so much. But I was again 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:09.240 I'm very competitive, so I was very strategic. Oh yeah, 0:17:09.480 --> 0:17:11.280 I was like, if I don't hit this buzzard before 0:17:11.280 --> 0:17:13.240 Gary Bucy, I'm never going to live that one down. 0:17:14.160 --> 0:17:15.879 So it was we had a great time. Was he nuts. 0:17:16.400 --> 0:17:19.080 He's Gary Bucy, He's all over the place. But he 0:17:19.160 --> 0:17:21.320 was the nicest man ever. I mean, he came in, 0:17:21.760 --> 0:17:23.400 he went went sat in our green room and didn't 0:17:23.480 --> 0:17:26.680 leave and just sat and talked and he was awesome. 0:17:27.160 --> 0:17:29.840 I saw I went to the comedy store last night 0:17:29.880 --> 0:17:31.800 and I saw I was going to watch Nikki. But 0:17:31.840 --> 0:17:34.280 then Tom Arnold did a set which remind me is 0:17:34.280 --> 0:17:37.280 Gary was terrible. It was always bad. He didn't tell jokes. 0:17:37.280 --> 0:17:41.840 He just came out and like Gary Bucy did, just 0:17:41.840 --> 0:17:43.720 went on and on, no jokes for like twenty five 0:17:43.760 --> 0:17:46.159 minutes because just drunk. No, I think he was just 0:17:46.400 --> 0:17:49.000 Tom Arnold and Dan Cooke popped out. So you live 0:17:49.040 --> 0:17:51.240 out here now and you go back and forth. Well, 0:17:51.240 --> 0:17:53.480 I'm we're building in Nashville, are you? So we'll be 0:17:53.520 --> 0:17:55.879 full time next year. Take a year though, to build. 0:17:55.960 --> 0:17:59.399 So I'm so excited to get out of here, are you? So? 0:17:59.440 --> 0:18:02.560 What's the differ in Nashville to you? In in Nashville 0:18:02.560 --> 0:18:05.560 Los Angeles? As there's so much um? First of all 0:18:05.640 --> 0:18:07.760 real estate. When I was even looking to buy house 0:18:07.800 --> 0:18:10.120 out here, I was like, I can't afford anything. It's 0:18:10.119 --> 0:18:12.640 so expensive out here. You can have so much more Nashville, 0:18:12.680 --> 0:18:14.359 but then more so is just how I want to 0:18:14.440 --> 0:18:18.240 raise Jolie and the baby boy. It's just, you know, 0:18:18.280 --> 0:18:20.680 I was Midwest and I want Jolie to be able 0:18:20.720 --> 0:18:22.400 to ride her bike to her friend's house, and here 0:18:22.440 --> 0:18:23.919 I'd be like, no, you're not driving your bike to 0:18:23.920 --> 0:18:26.719 your friends use pretty crazy, Like it's just the schools 0:18:26.720 --> 0:18:29.400 are better, just a better and mean, I think there's 0:18:29.440 --> 0:18:30.760 a lot of things to do in l A. And 0:18:30.760 --> 0:18:32.880 I think, you know, I'm not saying it's not good 0:18:32.880 --> 0:18:35.160 to raise kids out here, but just for us personally, 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:37.640