1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:04,920 Speaker 1: Subjeclide says, does attraction matter? I got asked out by 2 00:00:05,040 --> 00:00:07,440 Speaker 1: a good Christian. I've known him for a while and 3 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:10,880 Speaker 1: he's a genuinely great guy. He checks all the boxes. 4 00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 1: I just don't really feel attracted to him in a 5 00:00:15,520 --> 00:00:31,280 Speaker 1: romantic way. Does attraction matter? What's up? Everybody? Welcome back 6 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:34,200 Speaker 1: to the podcast. Granger Smith Podcast is where I answer 7 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:38,800 Speaker 1: your questions. You email me Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. 8 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:42,400 Speaker 1: We just walked through it like we're friends, and we 9 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:47,159 Speaker 1: kind of are right. I agree. Really excited at this 10 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:52,000 Speaker 1: season of my life and this podcast because I have 11 00:00:52,000 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 1: a book coming out August first, called Like a River, 12 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:56,640 Speaker 1: and it's just been top of mind for me because 13 00:00:56,640 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 1: I just literally just finished recording the audiobook for it, 14 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:03,760 Speaker 1: and I've been, you know, working on how we're going 15 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 1: to roll it out and you know, the promos behind 16 00:01:06,240 --> 00:01:07,840 Speaker 1: you know, the publisher has to come up with all 17 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 1: these ideas on how it's going to roll out on 18 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:14,120 Speaker 1: August first, and right now, it's going to be on 19 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:16,720 Speaker 1: pretty much every place that you could find a book. 20 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:20,440 Speaker 1: It's going to be there, but including the audiobook, which 21 00:01:20,440 --> 00:01:22,520 Speaker 1: is which I'm excited about. But what I'm excited to 22 00:01:23,920 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: in relation to this podcast is that a lot of 23 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:31,040 Speaker 1: these questions I get, we can I could I could say, hey, 24 00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:33,720 Speaker 1: check out the book. You know, chapter six I talked 25 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:36,640 Speaker 1: about this happened to me. Your question happened to me, 26 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 1: and here's a here's a here's the answer of how 27 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 1: I walked through it. Take it as you please, right. 28 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:47,640 Speaker 1: And then the other thing is the other side of 29 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:50,360 Speaker 1: that is you guys could say, hey, I noticed that 30 00:01:50,440 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: this happened to you, and I saw you wrestle it 31 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:57,080 Speaker 1: with with it this way, and I did it this way, 32 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:00,320 Speaker 1: and we could discuss that way anyway. I think it's 33 00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:05,280 Speaker 1: a great conversation starter, and so I'll probably talking about 34 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 1: that as we continue on, and maybe maybe we can 35 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: get more in depth about what the book is about. 36 00:02:11,480 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: It's about surviving grief, but it's just it's this is 37 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:20,000 Speaker 1: a heads up that we have fun times coming with 38 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:24,000 Speaker 1: the podcast, especially after Like a River August. First, let's 39 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:27,600 Speaker 1: get to the first question here. I don't I don't 40 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:32,280 Speaker 1: prepare for these, so this is all random. Subdecline says 41 00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:36,320 Speaker 1: mental health for me and my family. Hey, Grindrick, my 42 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:39,880 Speaker 1: name is Zach. Your music helps me get through a lot. 43 00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:44,840 Speaker 1: My grandma and Grandpa are declining in health and won't 44 00:02:44,919 --> 00:02:48,480 Speaker 1: take care of themselves. When me or my wife or 45 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 1: my mom try to help them, they get upset and 46 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:54,080 Speaker 1: get mad at us for trying to help. Where we 47 00:02:54,160 --> 00:02:57,160 Speaker 1: schedule doctor's appointments and they won't go, and then they 48 00:02:57,160 --> 00:03:00,800 Speaker 1: blame us for that as well. I'm trying to find 49 00:03:00,800 --> 00:03:03,840 Speaker 1: peace with the whole situation. And on top of that, 50 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:05,800 Speaker 1: my family gets upset when we reach out to my 51 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:10,840 Speaker 1: grandparents because they favor my aunt and her kids. Okay, 52 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 1: So then he ends up by saying any kind of 53 00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:18,440 Speaker 1: guidance would be appreciated, Thank you, Zach. Zach sounds like 54 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:20,560 Speaker 1: it sounds like, especially at the end there, there's like 55 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:23,120 Speaker 1: some family dynamics that I don't know about, but that 56 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: I don't think that's the point of your email. Let's 57 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 1: talk about your grandparents. They're declining in health, they won't 58 00:03:30,760 --> 00:03:32,600 Speaker 1: take care, they won't take care of themselves, and they 59 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 1: get mad if you try. Well, I don't think. I 60 00:03:38,080 --> 00:03:42,160 Speaker 1: don't think yet you have thought about it from their perspective, 61 00:03:44,240 --> 00:03:47,600 Speaker 1: and that's probably where I would go in my you know, 62 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:51,040 Speaker 1: fireside chat with you. That's what we're doing. We're sitting 63 00:03:51,040 --> 00:03:55,800 Speaker 1: by the campfire, and I would say, Zach, just because 64 00:03:55,840 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 1: somebody that you love doesn't want or need or ask 65 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 1: for your help, it doesn't mean that they don't love you, 66 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 1: or that you don't love them enough or you're not 67 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:14,360 Speaker 1: trying hard enough. What if they're just content with where 68 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:18,360 Speaker 1: and who they are. That's sometimes that's hard to swallow, 69 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 1: as you know a grandson like you are, and you're like, hey, 70 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:23,760 Speaker 1: I want you guys to take care of yourself so 71 00:04:23,960 --> 00:04:26,320 Speaker 1: that I can get ten or fifteen more years out 72 00:04:26,360 --> 00:04:31,400 Speaker 1: of you. Hey, I know that deep down you wouldn't 73 00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:33,760 Speaker 1: say that. I wouldn't say that, No one would say 74 00:04:33,800 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 1: that out loud. But deep down that's the issue here, 75 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:42,840 Speaker 1: isn't it. You want them on this earth so you 76 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:46,719 Speaker 1: could be with them and benefit from them and you 77 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 1: don't have to hurt from the loss of them four, ten, fifteen, 78 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:55,359 Speaker 1: twenty more years. What if you take yourself out of 79 00:04:55,360 --> 00:04:58,520 Speaker 1: it and listen, I'm trying to kind of tread lightly 80 00:04:58,560 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 1: on this, but what if you take yourself out of 81 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:03,600 Speaker 1: and you're like, they are happy right now. They don't 82 00:05:03,600 --> 00:05:07,040 Speaker 1: want to worry about medical stuff and hearing the doctor 83 00:05:07,080 --> 00:05:09,960 Speaker 1: tell them that they're getting old and they have something 84 00:05:09,960 --> 00:05:13,080 Speaker 1: else wrong with them that might require surgery or some 85 00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:16,040 Speaker 1: kind of hospital stay. They cost a lot of money. 86 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:21,359 Speaker 1: They would rather just do their thing, just do the 87 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:24,479 Speaker 1: routine that they love to do. And if that cost 88 00:05:24,600 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 1: them a little bit earlier passing in their life, if that, 89 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:32,239 Speaker 1: if that costs them, you know, a little bit less 90 00:05:32,279 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 1: off to the top of their life, then they're okay 91 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:40,040 Speaker 1: with that. The question is are you okay with them 92 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 1: being content? You could still love them in a way 93 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:48,919 Speaker 1: that you go, Hey, I'm concerned about you, guys, but 94 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:52,719 Speaker 1: I'm not going to push anything because you've lived a 95 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:55,760 Speaker 1: lot longer than me. Grandpa. You've seen this, You've seen 96 00:05:55,760 --> 00:05:59,320 Speaker 1: a lot more stuff than I have. And maybe, just maybe, 97 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:01,359 Speaker 1: by the time I get to your age, Lord Willing, 98 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:03,880 Speaker 1: I feel the same way as you. It's like, Hey, 99 00:06:04,480 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 1: don't want to go to doctor. It's gonna get me 100 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:09,560 Speaker 1: more years. He's gonna keep me alive for a few 101 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:14,719 Speaker 1: more years. I don't know if I want that. It's interesting, 102 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:17,000 Speaker 1: but I don't think you've thought of it that way, 103 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 1: and so I want to suggest it. Okay, just love them, 104 00:06:21,320 --> 00:06:24,200 Speaker 1: Just love them. You don't have to Loving someone doesn't 105 00:06:24,240 --> 00:06:26,120 Speaker 1: mean you got to keep up with them. And make 106 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:30,680 Speaker 1: sure they're taking their medicine. That doesn't mean that just 107 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 1: be there for him, be there to facilitate whatever they want, right, 108 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:38,359 Speaker 1: I mean you don't want to. I'm not saying go 109 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:41,920 Speaker 1: too far and let them. Actually they're physically hurting themselves, 110 00:06:42,640 --> 00:06:45,120 Speaker 1: but to some extent if they want some they want 111 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 1: to eat some ice cream, and they got high cholesterol 112 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:51,960 Speaker 1: and they're eighty five years old, just let them eat 113 00:06:51,960 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 1: the ice cream. Right. Thanks for the emailing, buddy. Next question, 114 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:04,719 Speaker 1: Sepicliente says, does attraction matter? Hey, Grainder been listening to 115 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:07,120 Speaker 1: the podcast for a while now, and I've gotten so 116 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 1: much good advice from it. Thank you. I got to 117 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:15,840 Speaker 1: ask a question. Excuse me. I got asked out by 118 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 1: a good Christian a few days ago. I've known him 119 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 1: for a while and he's a genuinely great guy. He 120 00:07:23,960 --> 00:07:28,400 Speaker 1: checks all the boxes. I just don't really feel attracted 121 00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 1: to him in a romantic way. Does attraction matter? Or 122 00:07:33,800 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 1: should I listen to what logically makes sense? Thanks for 123 00:07:38,720 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 1: all you do, Anonymous, Anonymous, thank you for the email. 124 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 1: I think it's a good question. I think it's a 125 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:48,760 Speaker 1: good question because we all know these people that kind 126 00:07:48,800 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 1: of check all the right boxes, except there's just nothing there. 127 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:58,600 Speaker 1: There's no chemistry, nothing gives you the butterflies. And you ask, 128 00:07:58,760 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 1: doesn't matter? I say, yes, I think it does. I 129 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:08,840 Speaker 1: think attraction is is there for a reason, it's it's 130 00:08:09,640 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 1: attraction isn't just frivolous. We could look at it. Sometimes 131 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:16,920 Speaker 1: we go, oh, you know, appearances on the outside don't 132 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:19,120 Speaker 1: matter as much as the inside. We say that all 133 00:08:19,160 --> 00:08:22,800 Speaker 1: the time, right, just tell someone you can't judge a 134 00:08:22,840 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 1: book by this cover. We say that, okay, and and 135 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:30,680 Speaker 1: that's right. There's nothing wrong with saying that and believing 136 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:34,880 Speaker 1: those those you know, core virtues that what's on the 137 00:08:34,920 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 1: inside is more valuable and more longer lasting, and that 138 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 1: everything on the outside will eventually get old and wither 139 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:46,079 Speaker 1: away and be gone. Right, So we don't We don't 140 00:08:46,720 --> 00:08:51,600 Speaker 1: stay because of the way someone looks. We stay with 141 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 1: them because of the connection we have in our heart 142 00:08:54,280 --> 00:08:58,360 Speaker 1: and the the the inner connection of who they are 143 00:08:58,400 --> 00:09:02,520 Speaker 1: as a person. That's what makes a lasting relationship, and 144 00:09:02,559 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 1: that's what everyone ultimately wants, is that person that you 145 00:09:05,480 --> 00:09:07,760 Speaker 1: could sit on the porch with in the rocking chair 146 00:09:08,240 --> 00:09:11,120 Speaker 1: when you're eighty years old and you're holding hands. You know, 147 00:09:11,880 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 1: and at that point doesn't matter what they look like anymore. No, 148 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:19,600 Speaker 1: But because of all that all just said, I don't 149 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:24,120 Speaker 1: think we just toss away attraction because it's a natural 150 00:09:24,520 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 1: part of relationships. It's a natural part of how we're 151 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:33,640 Speaker 1: created to be. It's a natural part of boy meets girl. 152 00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:37,760 Speaker 1: Boy is attracted by girl and therefore ask her out 153 00:09:38,679 --> 00:09:44,839 Speaker 1: because initially he sees that attraction initially, right, and then 154 00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:46,720 Speaker 1: he gets to know her and he falls in love 155 00:09:46,760 --> 00:09:50,120 Speaker 1: with her and who she is. But it's there for 156 00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 1: a reason, so that he doesn't just ask everyone out. 157 00:09:53,240 --> 00:09:56,080 Speaker 1: He doesn't see every girl on a street that's around 158 00:09:56,080 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 1: his age, and regardless of what they look like, he 159 00:09:58,920 --> 00:10:01,560 Speaker 1: just ask him out and tries to get coffee with 160 00:10:01,640 --> 00:10:04,440 Speaker 1: them to see if there's a connection. That that's why 161 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:09,560 Speaker 1: attraction exists, right, So we don't count it out. And yes, 162 00:10:09,920 --> 00:10:13,360 Speaker 1: to answer your question, does it matter, Yes, it matters. 163 00:10:14,600 --> 00:10:17,679 Speaker 1: So you got a guy he checks all the boxes. 164 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:22,240 Speaker 1: I wouldn't count him out yet, because hey, y'all correct 165 00:10:22,240 --> 00:10:27,480 Speaker 1: me if I'm wrong. But girls can be attracted later 166 00:10:28,120 --> 00:10:31,480 Speaker 1: after their heart's a little bit more connected. I don't 167 00:10:31,480 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 1: think guys do that as much. They can. It's possible, 168 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:39,320 Speaker 1: but it's more likely that a girl could get to 169 00:10:39,400 --> 00:10:41,679 Speaker 1: be friends with the guy that she's not attracted to, 170 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:45,800 Speaker 1: and then gets a little more intimate in their conversations. 171 00:10:45,800 --> 00:10:47,760 Speaker 1: She finds out how sweet he is, how he serves 172 00:10:47,840 --> 00:10:51,120 Speaker 1: his mother, how he you know, what a good guy 173 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:53,560 Speaker 1: he is when they go, you know, when she sees 174 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:56,360 Speaker 1: him out and walking his dog or whatever, and then 175 00:10:56,400 --> 00:10:58,640 Speaker 1: she's like, man, I'm really starting to like this guy. 176 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:03,000 Speaker 1: Guys don't do that as often, but girls can so. 177 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:04,760 Speaker 1: For you, I would say, don't don't kick him to 178 00:11:04,800 --> 00:11:10,280 Speaker 1: the curb, continue to talk with them, go grab coffee, 179 00:11:11,160 --> 00:11:17,400 Speaker 1: hang out in groups. But if there's not an attraction, ultimately, 180 00:11:17,440 --> 00:11:20,520 Speaker 1: it's not going to work. You can't just put that 181 00:11:20,559 --> 00:11:24,360 Speaker 1: off forever and say eventually, it doesn't matter if I 182 00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:26,440 Speaker 1: like him or not, it's all about what's on the inside. 183 00:11:27,280 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 1: He's not handsome at all. To me. Is that what 184 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:35,520 Speaker 1: you want? Is that what you deserve? Anonymous? Is that 185 00:11:35,559 --> 00:11:38,320 Speaker 1: what you want? A guy that checks the boxes but 186 00:11:38,320 --> 00:11:41,719 Speaker 1: you're not attracted to him. I think you're going to 187 00:11:41,760 --> 00:11:44,120 Speaker 1: find a guy that you are attracted to and you 188 00:11:44,200 --> 00:11:48,000 Speaker 1: connect with that checks all the boxes. That's the guy 189 00:11:48,040 --> 00:11:51,920 Speaker 1: for you. I don't think that's too much to ask. 190 00:11:55,640 --> 00:11:59,000 Speaker 1: Next question, subject client says, what should I do? They're 191 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:02,040 Speaker 1: going Your name is Kyle eighteen from New Jersey. Just 192 00:12:02,080 --> 00:12:05,000 Speaker 1: recently found your podcast and I've been listening and it's 193 00:12:05,040 --> 00:12:08,440 Speaker 1: really helped me grow. And I'm also going through a breakup. 194 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:11,400 Speaker 1: This girl and I broke up because her dad is 195 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:15,280 Speaker 1: very controlling in her life and thought that she was 196 00:12:15,400 --> 00:12:18,439 Speaker 1: not focused on school because she was in a relationship 197 00:12:18,440 --> 00:12:25,000 Speaker 1: with me. But he also liked me. But he made 198 00:12:25,120 --> 00:12:28,720 Speaker 1: her and her twin sister block me on social media 199 00:12:29,160 --> 00:12:32,000 Speaker 1: trying to follow this email here and I never got 200 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:34,920 Speaker 1: a reason or anything behind it. They stopped contacting me, 201 00:12:35,320 --> 00:12:37,679 Speaker 1: and I've not contacted them. It's been two months since 202 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:40,680 Speaker 1: it's happened. I was wondering should I reach out or 203 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:43,880 Speaker 1: let it be. I've moved on, but at the same time, 204 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:46,480 Speaker 1: I want to know why all of this treatment happened 205 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:49,840 Speaker 1: to me. I'm going to college with her sister next year, 206 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:51,720 Speaker 1: so I'm not sure if I should wait till I ask. 207 00:12:51,840 --> 00:12:54,560 Speaker 1: Then it was the biggest wake up call in my life, 208 00:12:54,559 --> 00:12:59,000 Speaker 1: and I found myself and was able to self supply 209 00:12:59,240 --> 00:13:01,960 Speaker 1: my own happiness. Yes, but I would not love but 210 00:13:02,080 --> 00:13:04,360 Speaker 1: I would love to get your opinion here. Thank you, Kyle. 211 00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:08,320 Speaker 1: All Right, Kyle, I think I'm following when your brother. 212 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:11,439 Speaker 1: Thank you for the email. I appreciate it and shout 213 00:13:11,440 --> 00:13:17,400 Speaker 1: out to New Jersey. Let's break this down here. First 214 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:22,360 Speaker 1: of all, let's talk about the relationship, the breakup, the dad. 215 00:13:23,040 --> 00:13:26,840 Speaker 1: Let's justify the dad real quick. The dad is telling 216 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:29,240 Speaker 1: his daughter, I don't think I don't think you should 217 00:13:29,280 --> 00:13:32,480 Speaker 1: be with this guy because he's making you not focus 218 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:38,680 Speaker 1: on school. Okay, we can't blame him for that, especially 219 00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:40,720 Speaker 1: since we don't know. I don't know all the information, 220 00:13:41,480 --> 00:13:44,200 Speaker 1: but I don't think he just made that up. I 221 00:13:44,200 --> 00:13:48,400 Speaker 1: think there would be some kind of legitimate reason that 222 00:13:48,480 --> 00:13:51,160 Speaker 1: he thinks you are taking more attention away from her 223 00:13:51,240 --> 00:13:53,839 Speaker 1: school and she needs to be focusing on school right now. 224 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:57,320 Speaker 1: She's probably about sixteen, seventeen, eighteen years old, and I 225 00:13:57,320 --> 00:14:02,240 Speaker 1: can't say I disagree with dad. Right I've got a daughter. 226 00:14:02,320 --> 00:14:04,480 Speaker 1: I think I might tell her the same thing if 227 00:14:04,480 --> 00:14:06,800 Speaker 1: she was getting a little too close to some guy. 228 00:14:07,120 --> 00:14:09,839 Speaker 1: It's like, hey, I need you to back away from 229 00:14:09,840 --> 00:14:11,640 Speaker 1: this guy because I need you to focus on school 230 00:14:11,720 --> 00:14:15,040 Speaker 1: right now. There's plenty of time for this later. I 231 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:17,600 Speaker 1: don't think that's a bad thing, So let's not blame 232 00:14:17,679 --> 00:14:21,960 Speaker 1: dad without knowing the whole story. Secondly, he made her 233 00:14:22,280 --> 00:14:24,920 Speaker 1: and her sister block you on social media. Now there's 234 00:14:24,920 --> 00:14:27,160 Speaker 1: a lot of reasons for that. I don't think that 235 00:14:27,160 --> 00:14:30,120 Speaker 1: that's not necessarily a bad thing either. I talk about 236 00:14:30,160 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 1: that all the time or recommend people block people on 237 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:35,480 Speaker 1: social media on this podcast all the time. It has 238 00:14:35,520 --> 00:14:38,840 Speaker 1: nothing to do with not liking the person. It's more 239 00:14:38,880 --> 00:14:41,520 Speaker 1: about just being able to health, have a lot of 240 00:14:41,560 --> 00:14:45,760 Speaker 1: health and moving on and just be be be out 241 00:14:45,760 --> 00:14:48,960 Speaker 1: of side, out of mind for your own heart to heal, 242 00:14:49,160 --> 00:14:53,400 Speaker 1: not for not for you know, being a bad guy 243 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:56,760 Speaker 1: to the other person. Right, So I'm not blaming him 244 00:14:56,760 --> 00:14:59,760 Speaker 1: for either of these things. So then it comes to you, 245 00:14:59,760 --> 00:15:03,320 Speaker 1: what should you do. You're confused, you don't know why 246 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:07,000 Speaker 1: they did this, and the dad said break up and 247 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:13,120 Speaker 1: then block him. So then you're asking this question. I've 248 00:15:13,160 --> 00:15:16,880 Speaker 1: been wondering if I should reach out or let it be, Kyle, 249 00:15:16,960 --> 00:15:21,840 Speaker 1: let it be, don't reach out, let it be. Nothing 250 00:15:21,920 --> 00:15:25,560 Speaker 1: good can happen from this. You're not gonna go in 251 00:15:25,600 --> 00:15:29,280 Speaker 1: there and change things like all of a sudden, now 252 00:15:29,600 --> 00:15:31,920 Speaker 1: the dad likes you, or now the dad's out of 253 00:15:31,920 --> 00:15:34,160 Speaker 1: the picture, and he doesn't speak into her life as 254 00:15:34,240 --> 00:15:38,080 Speaker 1: much like he'd used to. It's been two months, brother. No, 255 00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:42,680 Speaker 1: you're done. You're done. You're blocked. You're blocked on social media. 256 00:15:42,840 --> 00:15:45,040 Speaker 1: If I tell someone on this podcast to block somebody 257 00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:49,400 Speaker 1: on social media, it's for their own healing. And so 258 00:15:49,440 --> 00:15:52,160 Speaker 1: I don't want that person, the person they blocked, going 259 00:15:52,160 --> 00:15:55,200 Speaker 1: through the back door and coming in through the window 260 00:15:55,200 --> 00:15:58,840 Speaker 1: in the kitchen and interrupting their life. Again, it's no 261 00:15:58,880 --> 00:16:02,520 Speaker 1: offense to you, that's just what the scenario is calling for. No, 262 00:16:02,720 --> 00:16:06,880 Speaker 1: you're done. Now, that's finished. Now let's go to the 263 00:16:06,960 --> 00:16:09,320 Speaker 1: end of the email, because to me, it gets even 264 00:16:09,320 --> 00:16:14,280 Speaker 1: more interesting you say this last sentence. It was the 265 00:16:14,320 --> 00:16:17,240 Speaker 1: biggest wake up call in my life, and I found 266 00:16:17,240 --> 00:16:21,040 Speaker 1: myself and was able to self supply my own happiness. 267 00:16:23,200 --> 00:16:29,440 Speaker 1: H I don't believe you, Kyle. I love you, brother, 268 00:16:29,840 --> 00:16:31,440 Speaker 1: and I wish I could talk to you face to face, 269 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:34,360 Speaker 1: But I don't believe you because I was once eighteen 270 00:16:36,560 --> 00:16:39,520 Speaker 1: and the fact that you could find your you found 271 00:16:39,560 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 1: yourself once again, Kyle. I letna say all this out 272 00:16:42,640 --> 00:16:45,440 Speaker 1: of love. Okay, this is just tough love. I'm gonna 273 00:16:45,440 --> 00:16:48,280 Speaker 1: say all this because I actually care about you, and 274 00:16:48,360 --> 00:16:53,359 Speaker 1: not not because I dislike you. But you found yourself? 275 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:57,400 Speaker 1: Where were you hiding? Where did you go? How did 276 00:16:57,440 --> 00:17:03,120 Speaker 1: you lose yourself? That's my first question. And you go, ah, Granger, 277 00:17:03,280 --> 00:17:05,760 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Man, I've found myself Like 278 00:17:05,800 --> 00:17:08,720 Speaker 1: I didn't. I didn't know who who, I hadn't come 279 00:17:08,720 --> 00:17:12,119 Speaker 1: into my own yet. I'm like, I get it. But 280 00:17:12,200 --> 00:17:17,320 Speaker 1: I'm saying, if you were lost, you found yourself where? 281 00:17:18,119 --> 00:17:21,520 Speaker 1: How did you What did you read? Who did you 282 00:17:21,600 --> 00:17:24,760 Speaker 1: hear from? What did you do in the two months 283 00:17:24,800 --> 00:17:26,840 Speaker 1: since you broke up with your girlfriend? You go, oh, 284 00:17:27,040 --> 00:17:29,760 Speaker 1: now I found myself. I was lost before, but now 285 00:17:29,800 --> 00:17:33,440 Speaker 1: I'm found. Tell me more about that. Second of all, 286 00:17:34,200 --> 00:17:36,760 Speaker 1: I want talked about the lie that you the lie 287 00:17:36,960 --> 00:17:39,760 Speaker 1: that has been fed to you. It's not your lie, 288 00:17:40,320 --> 00:17:42,440 Speaker 1: it's a lie of the world that has been fed 289 00:17:42,480 --> 00:17:46,399 Speaker 1: to you that tells you that you have the ability 290 00:17:46,760 --> 00:17:53,800 Speaker 1: to quote self supply your own happiness. How do you 291 00:17:53,840 --> 00:17:58,160 Speaker 1: do that? Can you produce more of that and sell 292 00:17:58,200 --> 00:18:00,239 Speaker 1: it to other people so that they could buy some 293 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:03,520 Speaker 1: of your happiness because you are a self supplier of it. 294 00:18:04,400 --> 00:18:07,720 Speaker 1: I want to tell you, brother, that's not possible. You 295 00:18:07,840 --> 00:18:15,040 Speaker 1: have been. I don't want to try. I want to 296 00:18:15,080 --> 00:18:18,520 Speaker 1: tread lightly here because I don't want to I don't 297 00:18:18,520 --> 00:18:21,120 Speaker 1: want you to take it the wrong way that I'm 298 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:24,800 Speaker 1: just kind of dogging on you. But I want to 299 00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:28,240 Speaker 1: tell you. I want to give you a warning. I 300 00:18:28,280 --> 00:18:34,760 Speaker 1: was once eighteen, for sure. And if you come to 301 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:38,560 Speaker 1: the conclusion that you have the ability to find yourself 302 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:41,719 Speaker 1: when you're lost and self supply your own happiness, I 303 00:18:41,760 --> 00:18:44,359 Speaker 1: promise you that is leading down a path that you 304 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:46,720 Speaker 1: will not be able to recover from. Let me put 305 00:18:46,760 --> 00:18:52,080 Speaker 1: it this way. If you're driving down a road and 306 00:18:52,160 --> 00:18:56,119 Speaker 1: you realize that you have control of the vehicle, and 307 00:18:56,200 --> 00:18:58,440 Speaker 1: you finally realize that not only do you have control 308 00:18:58,480 --> 00:19:01,280 Speaker 1: of the vehicle, but you have control of the road itself, 309 00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:04,600 Speaker 1: then that might work for a little bit. You might 310 00:19:04,600 --> 00:19:07,560 Speaker 1: be able to get around some potholes, you might be 311 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:10,960 Speaker 1: able to avoid a couple of head on incidents from 312 00:19:10,960 --> 00:19:13,879 Speaker 1: people driving on the wrong side of the road. But 313 00:19:14,000 --> 00:19:18,440 Speaker 1: one day the bridge will be out. You'll be driving 314 00:19:18,480 --> 00:19:23,280 Speaker 1: down the road and the bridge is gone, and suddenly 315 00:19:23,760 --> 00:19:27,960 Speaker 1: you driving your car and control realize you might be 316 00:19:27,960 --> 00:19:30,920 Speaker 1: able to control that, but you cannot control the road itself. 317 00:19:32,880 --> 00:19:38,160 Speaker 1: And at that point, what will you rely on your 318 00:19:38,240 --> 00:19:45,840 Speaker 1: self supplied happiness? What happens when your self supply runs out? 319 00:19:46,560 --> 00:19:48,560 Speaker 1: This is something I want you to wrestle with. I 320 00:19:48,560 --> 00:19:52,240 Speaker 1: want you to think on hard, and it's not something 321 00:19:52,240 --> 00:19:54,040 Speaker 1: that you might just come up with all at once, 322 00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:56,880 Speaker 1: But I want to challenge you and say you didn't 323 00:19:56,920 --> 00:20:02,360 Speaker 1: find yourself, you weren't lost, and you cannot self supply 324 00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:10,000 Speaker 1: your own happiness. Keep listening to this podcast. I appreciate you. Brother. 325 00:20:10,720 --> 00:20:13,080 Speaker 1: Let's catch up one of these days. In first, we'll 326 00:20:13,119 --> 00:20:19,440 Speaker 1: take a break and be read back. Podcast is brought 327 00:20:19,440 --> 00:20:22,760 Speaker 1: to you all today by manscathed breaking news here. Manscaped 328 00:20:22,840 --> 00:20:27,200 Speaker 1: now sells beard products. 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You could hit me up 372 00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:57,240 Speaker 1: Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. Grangersmith podcast at gmail 373 00:22:57,280 --> 00:22:59,560 Speaker 1: dot com. That's my email and I will go through 374 00:22:59,560 --> 00:23:02,119 Speaker 1: these emails now. Okay, no notes in front of me, 375 00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:05,879 Speaker 1: no quotes, books, you know, So making this up as 376 00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:08,240 Speaker 1: I go and hearing this as I read it for 377 00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:13,160 Speaker 1: the first time with you. Okay, the next question here 378 00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:17,560 Speaker 1: is subject line says anonymous, because they know that sometimes 379 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:22,600 Speaker 1: I mess that up. Anonymous scripture direction email says, hey Granger, 380 00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:26,480 Speaker 1: I have a deep rooted battle with rejection that stems 381 00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:29,960 Speaker 1: back to my toddler years. I have endured several different 382 00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:33,760 Speaker 1: levels of abuse from physical, sexual, verbal, and mental. After 383 00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:38,440 Speaker 1: eight years of not dating and focusing on myself healthy, 384 00:23:39,400 --> 00:23:43,480 Speaker 1: on getting myself healthy, and even finally obtaining my VA 385 00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:48,160 Speaker 1: and MBA, but my new boyfriend did something not maliciously 386 00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:53,200 Speaker 1: and unknowingly that seemed to send me back into fear, 387 00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:57,880 Speaker 1: insecurity and self doubt of rejection. My question is what 388 00:23:58,040 --> 00:24:02,240 Speaker 1: scripture can you recommend? And battling my own heart and 389 00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:11,840 Speaker 1: mind about the rejection, insecurities, and self doubt. Thanks for everything, Anonymous. Okay, 390 00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:15,200 Speaker 1: I am going to keep you anonymous because you said 391 00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:19,800 Speaker 1: it three times and I will respect that. Thank you 392 00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:21,760 Speaker 1: so much for the email, Thanks for being vulnerable, Thanks 393 00:24:21,800 --> 00:24:24,119 Speaker 1: for listening to the podcast and trusting me with something 394 00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:28,159 Speaker 1: that's very very difficult for you. And so that's I 395 00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:32,040 Speaker 1: don't take that lightly. That's not lost on me. I 396 00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:34,400 Speaker 1: don't know the details. I don't know and I don't 397 00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:37,240 Speaker 1: need to know what you've battled with stemming back to 398 00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,640 Speaker 1: your toddler years. And I don't need to know what 399 00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:44,400 Speaker 1: your new boyfriend did, but I can answer your question 400 00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:51,240 Speaker 1: about scripture. You say this, what scripture can be recommended 401 00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:54,400 Speaker 1: in battling my own heart and mind about the rejection, 402 00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:58,679 Speaker 1: insecurities and self doubt? Okay, great, I'm glad you said this. 403 00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:06,040 Speaker 1: Let's dive into this. Love you, I appreciate you, and 404 00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:09,760 Speaker 1: I want you to know that I feel strongly about 405 00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:15,440 Speaker 1: this subject. I feel strongly about this. We cannot look 406 00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:17,879 Speaker 1: at the Bible as an encyclopedia that we go and 407 00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:20,880 Speaker 1: we grab something, we've pulled it out, and we open 408 00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:24,520 Speaker 1: it up to learn about something, and then we put 409 00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:29,480 Speaker 1: that that number of the encyclopedia collection back onto the shelf. 410 00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:35,040 Speaker 1: Just kids. Not intended to be that way. It never was. 411 00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:38,600 Speaker 1: That's what's crazy. It never was intended to be that way. 412 00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:43,359 Speaker 1: It became that way recently, and like the last probably 413 00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:47,200 Speaker 1: sixty seventy years out of two thousand since the since 414 00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:53,359 Speaker 1: the Cannon was completed, roughly and just recently did we 415 00:25:53,440 --> 00:26:00,680 Speaker 1: start using it for certain aspects of life and not everything, 416 00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:06,639 Speaker 1: but some like insecurities, like you're asking about rejection self 417 00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:14,119 Speaker 1: doubt or suffering or hope, are managing wealth or prayer, 418 00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:22,080 Speaker 1: life or marriage or church. We just recently started pulling 419 00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:27,080 Speaker 1: these things out, these truths out, and offering them in 420 00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:32,840 Speaker 1: the form of literature and devotionals, so that you could 421 00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:36,000 Speaker 1: pick up a devotional and flip to the page that 422 00:26:36,119 --> 00:26:41,160 Speaker 1: says insecurities, and you read two or three verses about insecurities, 423 00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:44,560 Speaker 1: and then you read a commentary written by some man 424 00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:48,480 Speaker 1: or woman about those verses, and it's about a page 425 00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:50,959 Speaker 1: and a half and you close the devotional and you 426 00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:53,600 Speaker 1: slide it back onto the shelf and you say, Okay, 427 00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:58,680 Speaker 1: that was awesome, that felt really good. And then two 428 00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:01,880 Speaker 1: or three days go by and you I'm struggling again. 429 00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:05,600 Speaker 1: I'm struggling with this insecurity again. And you fumble down 430 00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:07,920 Speaker 1: the shelf and you pull out that devotional and you 431 00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:10,800 Speaker 1: pull it back out and you read those verses again 432 00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:13,399 Speaker 1: and it feels kind of nice, and you read what 433 00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:15,960 Speaker 1: the commentator said, and you go, okay, I feel feel 434 00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:18,080 Speaker 1: a little bit better again. You put it back on 435 00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:20,720 Speaker 1: the shelf, and now even less time goes by, you're 436 00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:25,479 Speaker 1: already worried and anxious and insecure again. So then you go, 437 00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:29,200 Speaker 1: maybe there's something else. Maybe all Google, maybe there's another book. 438 00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:31,360 Speaker 1: And so you find a book on Amazon and it's 439 00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:35,320 Speaker 1: called it's called Insecurities in the Modern World. I'm making 440 00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:39,040 Speaker 1: this up that doesn't exist. Insecurities in the modern World 441 00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:41,120 Speaker 1: of a Christian And you go, oh, that's pretty good 442 00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:45,159 Speaker 1: paperback seven ninety nine, it's about one hundred and twenty pages, 443 00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:47,199 Speaker 1: I'll buy it. So it comes in and it's like, 444 00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:49,000 Speaker 1: you open up the first page and he goes, are 445 00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:53,520 Speaker 1: you insecure? Yeah? Do you feel rejection? Yeah? Yeah, you 446 00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:56,880 Speaker 1: feel self doubt? Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, me. Well, join 447 00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:59,359 Speaker 1: the ranks of many others. And in the Bible we 448 00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:02,080 Speaker 1: could find a few verses that can help us feel 449 00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:04,359 Speaker 1: better about this. And you start reading, and this is 450 00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:06,280 Speaker 1: what we do, this is how we seek it, this 451 00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:09,399 Speaker 1: is what we go for, and it's just not the 452 00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:14,840 Speaker 1: way it was intended to be. Right, you've tracked so far. 453 00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:23,600 Speaker 1: So here's my point. The remedy to your feeling of rejection, 454 00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:30,320 Speaker 1: your feeling of insecurity, your feeling of self doubt. The 455 00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:36,280 Speaker 1: remedy of that lies within the knowledge, your knowledge of 456 00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:43,800 Speaker 1: who God is, if you understand him and what he 457 00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:47,400 Speaker 1: is doing, what he will do, and what he has 458 00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:54,560 Speaker 1: done your insecurities, your anxiety, your worry, your self doubt, 459 00:28:54,880 --> 00:29:02,280 Speaker 1: your fear of rejection, starts breaking apart. That's what it's 460 00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:06,560 Speaker 1: supposed to do. That's what scripture is supposed to do. 461 00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:10,880 Speaker 1: Not by finding one word or one line or three 462 00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:13,960 Speaker 1: lines that Paul wrote and you pull it out of 463 00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:16,120 Speaker 1: the context of what he meant to say to the 464 00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:19,120 Speaker 1: Corinthians or to the Galatians or to the Romans, and 465 00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:22,800 Speaker 1: you pull it out and somebody else commentates on that 466 00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:27,840 Speaker 1: as if it never existed with the entire letter. Then 467 00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:32,480 Speaker 1: it doesn't have the healing effect because guess what, you 468 00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:36,520 Speaker 1: don't know who God is. You just heard a few 469 00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:41,040 Speaker 1: really nice words written by a man in first century Jerusalem, 470 00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:46,440 Speaker 1: interpreted by some other man in twenty twenty three. But 471 00:29:46,600 --> 00:29:49,480 Speaker 1: you don't know who God is. Out of that, you 472 00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:55,280 Speaker 1: just know some pretty nice words. Instead, you start a 473 00:29:55,320 --> 00:30:00,080 Speaker 1: reading plan consistent every morning, every night, every after. I 474 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:03,920 Speaker 1: don't care when it is, but you don't miss You 475 00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:09,040 Speaker 1: treat it like your daily bread, because it is give 476 00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:13,960 Speaker 1: us this day our daily bread. We need to go 477 00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:18,280 Speaker 1: there and feast on that bread. In the context of 478 00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:21,920 Speaker 1: the whole cannon I'm talking sixty six books. I'm talking 479 00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:23,840 Speaker 1: slowly absorbing it. So it's going to take you a 480 00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:26,320 Speaker 1: year to do this. But as you're walking through, you 481 00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:28,800 Speaker 1: start gaining those truths. And as you make it all 482 00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:31,320 Speaker 1: the way through, you're gaining a certain amount of truths. 483 00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:34,200 Speaker 1: And then you start again and you read it through again, 484 00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:36,000 Speaker 1: and this is a journey that you'll take the rest 485 00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:39,440 Speaker 1: of your life. Well, this is not the answer you 486 00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:42,280 Speaker 1: wanted right now. You wanted something quick. You wanted to 487 00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:47,880 Speaker 1: fix something that has been hurting you since you were 488 00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:52,320 Speaker 1: a toddler. Something has been affecting you since you were 489 00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:54,240 Speaker 1: a toddler. And did you really think that on this 490 00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:57,440 Speaker 1: podcast I was going to give you one scripture or 491 00:30:57,520 --> 00:31:01,440 Speaker 1: two that would heal you from that. The scripture, those 492 00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:05,520 Speaker 1: words don't heal you. It is who those words are 493 00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:11,360 Speaker 1: that heals. John One says, in the beginning was the word, 494 00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:15,680 Speaker 1: and the word was with God, and the word was God. 495 00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:20,800 Speaker 1: Skip down a few verses it says the word became flesh. 496 00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:26,720 Speaker 1: So we read through the Bible not looking for little 497 00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:29,240 Speaker 1: little gold nuggets, little things that we could hang up 498 00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:31,840 Speaker 1: in the kitchen, But instead we read to learn who 499 00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:36,040 Speaker 1: God is, how by the promises He made, by things 500 00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:38,640 Speaker 1: that he has done, the things that he is doing, 501 00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:41,440 Speaker 1: and things that he will do. And we see all 502 00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:44,040 Speaker 1: of those truths over and over and over and over 503 00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:49,920 Speaker 1: and over until it pounds into our numb and insecure brains. 504 00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:52,120 Speaker 1: It's like, this is who I am. This is why 505 00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:54,960 Speaker 1: I called you, This is your purpose. This is how 506 00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:57,479 Speaker 1: long I've been planning it. Since the beginning of time, 507 00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:00,840 Speaker 1: since before you were even a thing, I was planning 508 00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:04,320 Speaker 1: you and your purpose. I made you, I knit you 509 00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:07,000 Speaker 1: in your mother's womb. Every single hair on your head 510 00:32:07,040 --> 00:32:09,800 Speaker 1: is numbered and counted, and I know every day left 511 00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:12,120 Speaker 1: in your life. I know everything about you. I know 512 00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:15,000 Speaker 1: everything you've gone through. I've ordained all the things that 513 00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:17,120 Speaker 1: have happened to you. If there was evil that happened 514 00:32:17,120 --> 00:32:20,440 Speaker 1: to you, I ordained it for a reason, to prepare 515 00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:24,440 Speaker 1: you for something to How can you ever look anonymous? 516 00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:31,360 Speaker 1: How could you ever be full of forgiveness unless someone 517 00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:34,360 Speaker 1: did something, Unless someone didn't do something to you that 518 00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:39,760 Speaker 1: needed to be forgiven. You become a forgiver, which you 519 00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:43,360 Speaker 1: should be, because people do things to you that need 520 00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:48,960 Speaker 1: to be forgiven. How do you become brave? You become 521 00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:52,880 Speaker 1: brave from going through things that scare you, and you 522 00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:59,840 Speaker 1: conquer it and you grow with bravery. Right, this goes 523 00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:05,320 Speaker 1: with any virtue. Any virtue requires some kind of fired 524 00:33:05,360 --> 00:33:08,080 Speaker 1: to walkthrough, to refine you to get to that virtue. 525 00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:10,360 Speaker 1: So God made you in a way that he needed 526 00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:13,720 Speaker 1: you to have all these virtues. So he put this 527 00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:16,560 Speaker 1: in your life. You Ordainity, planned it, purposed it for 528 00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:19,440 Speaker 1: a reason. And as you go through the Bible and 529 00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:22,480 Speaker 1: you see all of these truths over and over and 530 00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:25,480 Speaker 1: pound it into your brain, and you go, I know 531 00:33:25,640 --> 00:33:29,480 Speaker 1: my God and everything I didn't have before, everything I lacked, 532 00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:32,680 Speaker 1: all the knowledge I didn't understand was it didn't come 533 00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:35,160 Speaker 1: from me not knowing a certain scripture. It came from 534 00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:40,240 Speaker 1: me not knowing who God is. Hmmm, That's how I 535 00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:50,080 Speaker 1: feel about that question. Let's go another one here. The 536 00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:53,640 Speaker 1: question subject line says family problems. Hey Granger. My name 537 00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:57,560 Speaker 1: is MICHAELA. I'm sixteen. I'm from Afton, Wyoming. Here's the backstory. 538 00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:00,680 Speaker 1: My dad's in the military. He originally went a Marine, 539 00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:03,200 Speaker 1: but he switched to the Guard to be closer to home. 540 00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:06,720 Speaker 1: He was also a police officer, but he quit recently. 541 00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:09,680 Speaker 1: I tell my dad slash family that I want to 542 00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:13,000 Speaker 1: join the military, but they seem like they are very 543 00:34:13,000 --> 00:34:15,839 Speaker 1: disappointed in me when I talk about it. I feel 544 00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:18,080 Speaker 1: like if I joined the military, they're gonna hate me 545 00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:21,160 Speaker 1: or something. My mom doesn't like the idea any better 546 00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:24,320 Speaker 1: than his than he does. But this has been a 547 00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:26,840 Speaker 1: dream of mine for almost my whole life. My question 548 00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:30,080 Speaker 1: is should I join the military or should I find 549 00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:32,080 Speaker 1: something else to do as a career to make them 550 00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:35,400 Speaker 1: happy and keep a good relationship with them. Of the podcast, 551 00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:39,920 Speaker 1: Love the Channel Thinks. But Kayla, okay, Mikhayela, thank you 552 00:34:39,960 --> 00:34:42,560 Speaker 1: for the question. It's a good one. Let me tell 553 00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:47,960 Speaker 1: you something, one hundred and ninety some odd episodes of 554 00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:50,960 Speaker 1: this podcast, this is not the first time I've heard 555 00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:53,920 Speaker 1: a question just like this one that has to do 556 00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:58,480 Speaker 1: with either the military or law enforcement. And I say 557 00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:05,640 Speaker 1: that in a way to encourage you that you're not alone. 558 00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:08,839 Speaker 1: So many times we see when families have a father 559 00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:12,560 Speaker 1: or mother that's in law enforcement or the military, they 560 00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:16,560 Speaker 1: see some things, look at it from their perspective, they 561 00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:19,759 Speaker 1: see some things that they don't want their daughter to 562 00:35:19,800 --> 00:35:24,480 Speaker 1: see or their son. So let me ask you this, MICHAELA, 563 00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:26,680 Speaker 1: just for a second, step back, just for a second, 564 00:35:27,160 --> 00:35:31,320 Speaker 1: can you blame them? Can you blame them? Your dad 565 00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:36,839 Speaker 1: has seen things, done things, And when he was doing 566 00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:41,680 Speaker 1: these things deployed, he had a little baby, beautiful baby 567 00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:45,280 Speaker 1: girl at home named Michaela. And he thought to himself, 568 00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:48,040 Speaker 1: I promise you, he thought to himself, as he saw 569 00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:52,200 Speaker 1: these horrors of war. He thought, I'm over here fighting 570 00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:55,280 Speaker 1: to do everything I can to make sure my daughter 571 00:35:55,320 --> 00:36:02,440 Speaker 1: Mikayla doesn't ever have to see something like this. I 572 00:36:02,440 --> 00:36:05,760 Speaker 1: promise you. It's out of love. And so then several 573 00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:09,440 Speaker 1: years go by, Mikaela comes to dad, Dad, I want 574 00:36:09,480 --> 00:36:11,960 Speaker 1: to do that. That's my dream. I want to go 575 00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:15,319 Speaker 1: to war. And he says, oh Lord, no, no, no, 576 00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:20,840 Speaker 1: no, no no. He thinks he justifies it by saying, you see, 577 00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:23,600 Speaker 1: you see the camaraderie, you see the uniform, you see 578 00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:27,160 Speaker 1: the paycheck, you see the traveling the world. You know, 579 00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:30,279 Speaker 1: you get the world traveler, you see that, But you 580 00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:33,239 Speaker 1: don't see what I know. I've seen some stuff you 581 00:36:33,239 --> 00:36:35,839 Speaker 1: don't want to see. I need to protect you from that, 582 00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:38,719 Speaker 1: and I will make sure you don't get into this. 583 00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:43,359 Speaker 1: That's what he's thinking. So michaeleb, first of all, start there. 584 00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:46,960 Speaker 1: Start there. He's not being mean and look at your 585 00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:50,919 Speaker 1: mother's perspective. Look at the mother's perspective. The dad calls home, 586 00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:52,640 Speaker 1: he's deployed, right, I'm making a lot of this up. 587 00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:54,239 Speaker 1: I'm just kind of filling in gaps that I don't 588 00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:57,799 Speaker 1: know about. I'm filling in blanks. Dad calls mom, how 589 00:36:57,880 --> 00:37:00,960 Speaker 1: is your day? I saw something stuff out here. It's 590 00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:06,840 Speaker 1: no good, no good. And she says, honey, I'm so sorry, 591 00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:11,440 Speaker 1: and he goes, go hug her baby, girl, Go give go, 592 00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:14,279 Speaker 1: give Mikayla a kiss for me, and tell her that 593 00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:16,600 Speaker 1: we're over here fighting so that we could have a 594 00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:18,560 Speaker 1: free country where she doesn't have to deal with stuff. 595 00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:21,080 Speaker 1: And she said, Mama said, okay, you got it, honey. 596 00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:25,600 Speaker 1: I will fast forward. Here comes Mikayla. Hey, Mom, I'm 597 00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:29,759 Speaker 1: going to join the military. That's their perspective. You got 598 00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:31,359 Speaker 1: to see that. You got to see it comes from love. 599 00:37:31,640 --> 00:37:33,680 Speaker 1: I want you to realize that, Mikayla, and then from 600 00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:36,720 Speaker 1: then on, from then, at that point, you move forward 601 00:37:36,760 --> 00:37:41,480 Speaker 1: by conversations and you use you stand on the you 602 00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:44,160 Speaker 1: stand on the platform, on the on the foundation that 603 00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:46,560 Speaker 1: you know, the firm ground you know, and this is 604 00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:50,359 Speaker 1: what you know. They love you stand there, don't stand 605 00:37:50,400 --> 00:37:53,080 Speaker 1: on this like defensive. You never let me do what 606 00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:54,759 Speaker 1: I want to do. Why should I do things just 607 00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:56,799 Speaker 1: to make you happy? I wanted the things that makes me. 608 00:37:57,080 --> 00:38:00,680 Speaker 1: Don't stand there, sit them down, and good dad. Mom. 609 00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:06,320 Speaker 1: First of all, I feel so loved in this family, 610 00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:10,239 Speaker 1: and I want to thank you for always wanting what's 611 00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:14,920 Speaker 1: best for me out of love, including this whole military idea. 612 00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:19,360 Speaker 1: I love the idea, probably because I love Dad and 613 00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:21,239 Speaker 1: I've looked up to you for so long, Dad, and 614 00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:24,719 Speaker 1: I've seen the man that you are and I love 615 00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:27,960 Speaker 1: that and I love you, and being in the military 616 00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:34,000 Speaker 1: for me is part of that journey being more like Dad. 617 00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:38,960 Speaker 1: But I know and I respect your opinions. I respect 618 00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:41,200 Speaker 1: that you don't want me to see some things or 619 00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:44,439 Speaker 1: do some things that you had to do, and you'll 620 00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:48,680 Speaker 1: always protect your little girl and I love you for that, Dad. 621 00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:53,920 Speaker 1: But all I'm asking is, kid, we talk about it, 622 00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:57,920 Speaker 1: is this? Can this be an ongoing discussion? And if 623 00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:01,080 Speaker 1: you say no, I'm gonna honor you. I'm gonna honor 624 00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:04,279 Speaker 1: your word on this. But all I ask is that 625 00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:08,080 Speaker 1: we just keep the door open that possibly in the 626 00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:12,320 Speaker 1: future you can consider what a career in the military 627 00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:17,600 Speaker 1: might look for me. What if you started there, Michaelum, 628 00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:23,400 Speaker 1: that's what I think you should do. I'll say it 629 00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:36,279 Speaker 1: one more here. Subject line says feeling lost and behind. Hey, 630 00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:38,680 Speaker 1: grand I'd like to remain anonymous. I'm twenty four years old. 631 00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:42,120 Speaker 1: Recently decided to move in with my older brother, his wife, 632 00:39:42,160 --> 00:39:45,800 Speaker 1: and they're two older kids in order to save money. 633 00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:49,919 Speaker 1: I'm sorry I read that wrong. His wife and their 634 00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:53,920 Speaker 1: two year old kid, in order to save money for 635 00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:57,040 Speaker 1: a house I planned to buy within six months. I 636 00:39:57,080 --> 00:39:59,799 Speaker 1: could stay here, but it would take me possibly years 637 00:39:59,800 --> 00:40:02,640 Speaker 1: to say save up of what I could in just 638 00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:05,880 Speaker 1: months of living with them. With how high rent is. 639 00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:08,920 Speaker 1: Right now, I've always felt ahead of my peers in 640 00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:11,160 Speaker 1: life thus far, and have been living on my own 641 00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:14,200 Speaker 1: for six years. I'm scared to go backwards with my independence. 642 00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:18,160 Speaker 1: I know I'm gonna I'm gonna save money and reach 643 00:40:18,239 --> 00:40:21,719 Speaker 1: my goals faster, but I can't help feeling like I'm 644 00:40:21,760 --> 00:40:25,440 Speaker 1: a failure. On top of all this, I'm really struggling 645 00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:28,440 Speaker 1: with feeling behind while all my other friends are getting 646 00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:32,279 Speaker 1: married and having kids. I'm also content being single, but 647 00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:36,680 Speaker 1: sometimes I feel the pressure to be always progressing. I 648 00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:40,960 Speaker 1: want to enjoy this season without feeling like a failure. 649 00:40:41,440 --> 00:40:43,759 Speaker 1: I've been praying to God for peace and guidance, but 650 00:40:43,800 --> 00:40:45,920 Speaker 1: would love your opinion. Thank you, Thank you for all 651 00:40:45,920 --> 00:40:51,480 Speaker 1: you do with your podcast. All right, Anonymous twenty four 652 00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:56,919 Speaker 1: years old. Thank you for sharing and opening up here. 653 00:40:57,560 --> 00:40:59,200 Speaker 1: I'm glad that you I'm glad you did I'm glad 654 00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:03,759 Speaker 1: you could trust me with that. And I appreciate your 655 00:41:03,760 --> 00:41:06,480 Speaker 1: heart and where your heart is your position on all this. 656 00:41:07,400 --> 00:41:10,359 Speaker 1: You're trying to do the right thing, and you're trying 657 00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:13,200 Speaker 1: to do the best thing for your family and for 658 00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:17,239 Speaker 1: you and for your future, and you're thinking through. The 659 00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:19,360 Speaker 1: only part I don't like about your email really is 660 00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:23,400 Speaker 1: when you started getting into this struggling feeling because of 661 00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:26,280 Speaker 1: other people and what they're doing, and they're getting married 662 00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:30,520 Speaker 1: and they're having kids and you're not. That's the part 663 00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:34,560 Speaker 1: I don't like. And social media helps just make that 664 00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:38,839 Speaker 1: a really big deal. Okay, so that's something you got 665 00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:44,440 Speaker 1: to deal with outside of this problem itself, but that's 666 00:41:44,480 --> 00:41:47,439 Speaker 1: also a normal feeling. So stop looking around. You see 667 00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:50,120 Speaker 1: those people getting married. They're not as happy as you think. 668 00:41:50,560 --> 00:41:52,520 Speaker 1: You see they're all having babies over there, They're not 669 00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:55,040 Speaker 1: as happy as you think. I promise you. I promise you. 670 00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:58,640 Speaker 1: Everyone is dealing with something. Everyone is struggling or feeling 671 00:41:58,680 --> 00:42:01,799 Speaker 1: inadequate in some way. Okay, even if they're married and 672 00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:05,279 Speaker 1: have kids and you don't. In fact, there's a lot 673 00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:07,759 Speaker 1: of good, good things going on with you at twenty 674 00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:09,839 Speaker 1: four years old and you're still single. There's a lot 675 00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,000 Speaker 1: of good things. You got a clean slate right now, 676 00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:14,200 Speaker 1: because I got a lot of people emailing that have 677 00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:17,600 Speaker 1: problems at twenty four. They got divorces going on, they 678 00:42:17,680 --> 00:42:21,479 Speaker 1: got child support, it's problems. You got a clean slate. 679 00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:25,719 Speaker 1: You're doing good. I think you ask for my opinion. 680 00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:31,320 Speaker 1: I think if you're your older brother and wife and 681 00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:34,040 Speaker 1: two year old, if they're cool with this, if they 682 00:42:34,040 --> 00:42:37,360 Speaker 1: feel good about this, I feel good about it. Moving 683 00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:39,560 Speaker 1: in with them, you get a couple things out of this. 684 00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:44,160 Speaker 1: You get to be an aunt to your two year 685 00:42:44,200 --> 00:42:48,960 Speaker 1: old nephew right in a wather you never could if 686 00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:51,520 Speaker 1: you didn't live there. So this is going to be 687 00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:53,600 Speaker 1: a very special season because two year olds. I got 688 00:42:53,719 --> 00:42:56,120 Speaker 1: almost two year old in my house right now. Two 689 00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:59,319 Speaker 1: year olds are special in a lot of ways, good 690 00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:02,840 Speaker 1: and bad. But they're absorbing the world around them, and 691 00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:06,520 Speaker 1: it's really fun, really neat to see an aunt moves 692 00:43:06,520 --> 00:43:09,160 Speaker 1: in and gets to be with this two year old 693 00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:12,880 Speaker 1: in a very critical time, a very a time of 694 00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:16,719 Speaker 1: growth for this child. I think it's really special. And 695 00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:18,960 Speaker 1: if if the if mom and dad are cool with it, 696 00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:23,359 Speaker 1: I think you go and you do this, and you 697 00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:26,000 Speaker 1: you look at it from a perspective of you talking 698 00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:29,560 Speaker 1: about independence, you're talking about progressing. Look at it as 699 00:43:29,600 --> 00:43:33,480 Speaker 1: a moment a season of your life of serving. So 700 00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:35,240 Speaker 1: you're gonna go in there and you're gonna you're gonna 701 00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:39,200 Speaker 1: serve your brother and your sister in law, and you're 702 00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:41,960 Speaker 1: gonna help clean the house. You're gonna help out with groceries. 703 00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:45,399 Speaker 1: You're gonna help with the two year old, which is huge. 704 00:43:45,520 --> 00:43:47,799 Speaker 1: All it's huge to be able to go into like 705 00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:52,319 Speaker 1: offer babysitting. You're gonna you're gonna help with yard work 706 00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:54,400 Speaker 1: or you know, the different things around the house, different 707 00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:58,120 Speaker 1: ways you can contribute and serve them because they need you. 708 00:43:58,160 --> 00:43:59,839 Speaker 1: A family with a two year old and a young 709 00:43:59,840 --> 00:44:02,640 Speaker 1: fan family, they need you come in and serve them. 710 00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:06,200 Speaker 1: This is the season for serving, and what you get 711 00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:07,680 Speaker 1: out of it is you're gonna get to save some 712 00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:11,239 Speaker 1: rent money for the future. So I think if you 713 00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:13,400 Speaker 1: go in and you have a plan and you say 714 00:44:13,600 --> 00:44:17,600 Speaker 1: we're gonna do this four twelve months, maybe that's a 715 00:44:17,600 --> 00:44:19,960 Speaker 1: good amount of time. We're gonna do this for twelve months. 716 00:44:21,440 --> 00:44:24,120 Speaker 1: I'm gonna serve you, and you're gonna write it down 717 00:44:24,120 --> 00:44:26,799 Speaker 1: so you don't ever become a mooch. But you're gonna 718 00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:28,799 Speaker 1: be like, I'm gonna do this, this, this for you. 719 00:44:29,520 --> 00:44:33,160 Speaker 1: I'm gonna babysit two days a week, I'm gonna take 720 00:44:33,200 --> 00:44:36,279 Speaker 1: care of I'm gonna cook a meal once a week. Uh. 721 00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:38,600 Speaker 1: You know, I'm gonna help you with this and this right, 722 00:44:40,120 --> 00:44:43,640 Speaker 1: and then you've got it in writing. There's no ambiguous 723 00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:47,520 Speaker 1: problems going on, like these dishes are always out. But 724 00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:50,240 Speaker 1: I don't know if that's my responsibility or not, okay, 725 00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:53,080 Speaker 1: because that stuff could happen. And then you just pour 726 00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:55,440 Speaker 1: into your little nephew and then you save money. I 727 00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:57,319 Speaker 1: think this is a great plan. I don't think there's 728 00:44:57,360 --> 00:45:00,399 Speaker 1: anything wrong with it. And all the while, you're not 729 00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:03,600 Speaker 1: caring about other people or what they're doing, or although 730 00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:06,120 Speaker 1: all your friends getting married, you're not thinking about that 731 00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:09,600 Speaker 1: because you are investing in your future, not only by 732 00:45:09,640 --> 00:45:13,920 Speaker 1: saving money, but by learning how to serve your family. 733 00:45:14,600 --> 00:45:17,480 Speaker 1: I think it's great. That's all we have today, guys. 734 00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:21,279 Speaker 1: Sure love y'all. We'll see you next Monday. Thanks for 735 00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:25,040 Speaker 1: joining me on the Grangersmith Podcast. I appreciate all of you. Guys. 736 00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:28,000 Speaker 1: You could help me out by rating this podcast on iTunes. 737 00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:31,359 Speaker 1: If you're on YouTube, subscribe to this channel. 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