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Speaker 1: Novel. This show contains adult material and swearing. You have

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Speaker 1: been warned the doctor thing.

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Speaker 2: I'm not sure if I necessarily see myself in a

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Speaker 2: relationship with the doctor, because I feel like our lives

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Speaker 2: would be so different.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, keep come home from saving someone's life and maybe

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Speaker 3: they're doing a TikTok or.

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Speaker 2: My dad and I'm like, babe, what do you think

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Speaker 2: about this joke I've written about analding me. I'm a savage.

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Speaker 1: Are you bored of modern dating?

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Speaker 2: Meeting the same people from the same apps in the

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Speaker 2: same bar you've only chosen because it's close to your

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Speaker 2: house and you can make your usual quick getaway. It's

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Speaker 2: time to change the narrative on how we find love.

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Speaker 2: It's time to start looking for love in all the

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Speaker 2: wrong places. I'm going on a wild dating adventure, only

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Speaker 2: picking people who are the total opposite of my type.

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Speaker 2: And after twenty eight of these dates in two months,

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Speaker 2: will I find that special someone or Well, this experiment

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Speaker 2: proved that I should just give up on dating altogether.

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Speaker 1: It's time to find out.

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Speaker 2: I'm Grace Campbell and this is twenty eight dates later. Okay,

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Speaker 2: so ross, this date was the first time ever in

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Speaker 2: my life that I've been on a date that did

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Speaker 2: not have alcohol involved.

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Speaker 1: Is that really crazy with me? To admit?

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Speaker 3: No, I think maybe it'll be crazy for some people.

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Speaker 3: But even like, I'm not a big drinker, and if

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Speaker 3: I was going a first stade, I would feel like

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Speaker 3: I would need a drink to settle my nerves.

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Speaker 2: You do, because I think, how does one without alcohol

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Speaker 2: on a date get to the point where they're like, Okay,

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Speaker 2: maybe I'm gonna kiss you.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I just can't imagine ever doing that sober for the

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Speaker 2: first time.

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Speaker 3: There's gonna be people listening who are like they can fathom.

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Speaker 3: They're like, yeah, of course I'd go on a date

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Speaker 3: and I'll have a drink. But everyone's different, and I

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Speaker 3: would definitely be on the same page as he was

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Speaker 3: in like going for a date to don't call sober,

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Speaker 3: I would be like, yeah, I think I need to

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Speaker 3: definitely have like a can of Monster or.

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Speaker 1: Something loads of cbdal CB deal.

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Speaker 3: Actually, Monster would be the worst thing because I'd probably

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Speaker 3: tell them my life story. Ye.

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Speaker 1: That would make you too like hyper.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and probably give you the ships as well, which

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Speaker 3: wouldn't be great.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So his name is Aaron and We got set up

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Speaker 2: by a mutual friend and we went to meet in

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Speaker 2: a cafe in the middle of the day. It was

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Speaker 2: a lunchtime date because he is a doctor, which is

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Speaker 2: very cool.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, especially I'm like such a hypochondriac. I

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Speaker 3: think that would be like a dream same.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm like a doctor's worse nightmare. Like, once

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Speaker 2: I got the phone number of a doctor, it's game

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Speaker 2: over because I just literally call them all the time.

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Speaker 2: But actually that's that's what I actually ended up doing

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Speaker 2: for sort of.

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Speaker 3: The first half of the day was totally great.

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Speaker 1: All my ailments, I know, talk about what that's good

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Speaker 1: that you know your name. This is Eddie, my dog.

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, I do love Eddie.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's great, She's very chill. She just goes to sleep.

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Speaker 4: So how do you feel like I spent more attention

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Speaker 4: on Eddie than you.

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Speaker 2: No, I actually would enjoy that because I recently went

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Speaker 2: on a date when I had her and the guy

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Speaker 2: just didn't acknowledge her. It was really weird, like she

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Speaker 1: That's such a red flag.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you're going to have the opposite red flag.

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Speaker 2: Much prefer that she's so hard not to look at.

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Speaker 2: What kind of doctor are you?

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Speaker 4: I'm a GP.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm a hypochondriac. I've got so.

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Speaker 4: Everyone thinks I got something seriously wrong with her. And

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Speaker 4: I'm like, you're twenty.

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Speaker 1: Four, in good health.

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Speaker 4: You're in better shape than me. Actually, like why why

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Speaker 4: why are you here wasting your time in my time?

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Speaker 3: I see there's a running team here where you slightly

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Speaker 3: You know your name.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, Grace, that's what I do. Like it's I'm

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Speaker 2: I'm I'm really means men.

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Speaker 3: When we get to the twenty eight date, we're going

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Speaker 3: to try break you down.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't know where it comes from.

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Speaker 2: It's like it's that clussic, you know, like the girl

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Speaker 2: in like Rugrats or something. She just thinks that like

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Speaker 2: pushes them over, like beats them up. That's why I

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Speaker 2: was like a primary school.

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Speaker 3: I picture you going into a first date not being

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Speaker 3: ball by the horns and actually directing the date. But like,

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Speaker 3: am I wrong? And you nervous going into dates.

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Speaker 1: It really depends. It depends on my mood.

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Speaker 2: It depends on who like the vibes that the person

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Speaker 2: like we're going to have things in common, they're not really.

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Speaker 2: But if I feel like it's a bit random or

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Speaker 2: I'm somewhere a bit out of like my comfort zone,

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Speaker 2: like not in Northwest London, then yeah I am nervous.

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Speaker 2: But like if it's like somewhere familiar and like, I mean,

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Speaker 2: like either have a mutual friend with them or there's

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Speaker 2: So I feel like I've been on so many first

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Speaker 2: dates now that I've just like lost the like energy

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Speaker 2: to be that nervous before. I know, no, little that

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Speaker 2: sound you just made is not really tragic, you know

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Speaker 2: what though?

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Speaker 3: Do you know, like say if you walked in and

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Speaker 3: someone was really really like you were so attracted.

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Speaker 2: Them, then they get nervous under yeah, yeah, one hundred percent,

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Speaker 2: one hundred percent, And then I do get nervous, and

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Speaker 2: like you know, they're there are situations where like people

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Speaker 2: do make me nervous, But on like a first date.

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Speaker 2: Before i've met someone, I'm like, chances are you're not

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Speaker 2: And then maybe I get there and I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 2: this is really exciting, and then I'd start to be like, Okay,

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Speaker 2: I wish i'd like warn an ice are out there.

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Speaker 3: Can I just say if I was going on a

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Speaker 3: I obviously know you. I've listened to your podcast, I've

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Speaker 3: in being very very nervous because you are You come

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Speaker 3: across like a really really strong woman. You are a

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Speaker 3: really strong woman, and you're funny. You're everything I think

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Speaker 3: as a guy coming into the date, they're probably shitting it.

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Speaker 1: I love that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that makes me so happy, just the idea that

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Speaker 2: I make me nervous. The doctor thing, I'm like, amazing,

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Speaker 2: you're a doctor. But also I'm not sure if I

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Speaker 2: necessarily see myself like in a relationship with the doctor,

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Speaker 2: because I feel like our lives would be so different

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Speaker 2: and the way that like what we do as a

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if I was with the doctor, I'd be like, God,

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Speaker 2: you must think my life is ridiculous, Like you must

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Speaker 2: think that I'm like a ridiculous person and nothing in

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Speaker 2: my life is real, and like that would make me

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Speaker 2: really self conscious that like I'm just a frivolous, little,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he'd come home from saving someone's life and maybe

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Speaker 3: they're doing a TikTok of my dogs, and I'd be like,

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Speaker 3: well shit.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, And I'm like, babe, do you what do

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Speaker 2: you think about this joke I've written about anal?

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Speaker 1: It was actually really fun day.

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Speaker 2: The chat was really good because he was just very

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Speaker 2: comfortable and so it was like good flowing conversation.

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Speaker 3: And I have a question, what is the age difference?

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Speaker 3: I know he's younger, but what's the year.

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Speaker 1: I think he was two years younger than me.

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Speaker 3: I think the end thing like when you're above twenty five,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, he told me that he loves stating older women. Oh.

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Speaker 4: If I look back at my dating history, I'd say

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Speaker 4: most of the girls I've ended up with have been

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Speaker 4: older than me. Really, yeah, I think maybe by how

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Speaker 4: four years. I thought I would have been twenty three

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Speaker 4: twenty four, as I was twenty eight. For me, relationships

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Speaker 4: are all about communication anyway, So as long as both

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Speaker 4: people communication with each other, it shouldn't really be a problem.

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Speaker 4: How do you twenty five?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, you're so young.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, you're so young.

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Speaker 1: My god, it's so young. I wish I was twenty five.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what do you think my ex? When I got

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Speaker 2: And I am a bit sexist in the sense that

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Speaker 2: I think it's a bit more normal when the man

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Speaker 3: I don't know why I think when he's over twenty five,

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Speaker 3: I think it's just all about the individual's maturity level.

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Speaker 3: So I think it's fine. And he sounds really mature,

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Speaker 3: like I'm normally seeing like well two minutes of him,

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Speaker 3: but like he's trained to be a doctoring, I mean,

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Speaker 3: this is a last.

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Speaker 1: He's training to be a doctor.

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Speaker 2: And also he was just like talking about communication now, yeah,

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Speaker 2: and I'm like one hundred percent.

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Speaker 1: He's older than his years in maturity.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and do you know what, I've never gone out

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Speaker 3: with someone who's younger than me. I've gone out with

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Speaker 1: And what's the biggest age gap?

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Speaker 3: Eleven years?

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Speaker 1: Wow?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? And I look back and I'm like, oh, you

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Speaker 3: know what, Like I was, I was probably I was

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Speaker 3: in my early twenties and the asiac was too big,

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Speaker 3: you know, like in terms of like we were totally

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Speaker 3: different spectrums of our life, Like, yes, I should have

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Speaker 3: been out enjoying my life and partying, but like, look,

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Speaker 3: I was very mature. I had been traveling the world,

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Speaker 3: I'd been working. I'd left my house when I was seventeen,

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Speaker 3: So I definitely felt older. But I actually it's probably

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Speaker 3: only now that I'm I'm thirty two. Would idate a

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Speaker 3: thirty year old?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Absolutely?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, keep me young, No, I mean now I'm

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Speaker 2: getting older, Like I can so see myself like in

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Speaker 2: my fifties, of like men in their thirties.

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Speaker 1: Like that's I can really see that as I get older.

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Speaker 2: I think it's just when you're still in your twenties,

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Speaker 2: everything feels more like big than it actually is, if

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Speaker 2: So many people aren't good at communicating or because that

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and they're so lucky I think for that because

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it is pretty shit for us, Like we

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Speaker 4: The way I probably express love and affection if we

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Speaker 1: It's not that's not really my dad. But love languages

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Speaker 1: I didn't like that, Rod, do you are you into

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Speaker 3: I have no idea what my love language is, really,

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Speaker 2: So this is how you receive love, so that it's

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Speaker 2: So if somebody comes and fixes your boiler or you've

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Speaker 1: But well, does that make sense?

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Speaker 2: But then which of those do you feel? Is how

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Speaker 3: So I like when people give me backstuff, oh do

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Speaker 3: you yeah? Yeah? But then like say my boyfriend, he

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Speaker 5: So like if I like cleaned the house or like

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and I'm like, here's a cake. The kitchen's in

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Speaker 2: But that's why because you're basically doing what you want.

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Speaker 1: But that's not how he received a game. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I went on a date that was a blind date

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Speaker 4: that's problem, and she pays for hers. I paid for mine,

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Speaker 4: I think, Okay. She's like, you know what, I've never

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Speaker 4: I wasn't even a discussion about paying, she brought up

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Speaker 1: Bless him.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, Yeah, it's absolutely it's peak out there.

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Speaker 3: He's kind of like in the dating world, you know,

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Speaker 2: I used to do stuff like that all the time,

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Speaker 1: I do it like in a relationship.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and look, I think, if we're all honest, a

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Speaker 3: I definitely do that when I was younger as well.

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Speaker 3: But that's kind of what she's doing. She was like

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Speaker 2: But that's so weird to do with someone when A

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Speaker 2: So bless him. I felt I felt like, I don't

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Speaker 3: He seems like a really nice guy. And even the

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Speaker 3: don I know that, like he someone left a date

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he's been thinking about it because he doesn't want

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Speaker 3: And the sad thing is like you're just not physically

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Speaker 2: I'm not for a date capacity, but definitely like as

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Speaker 3: Sure, would you set him up with someone?

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Speaker 1: Definitely I would set him up with someone. Oh that's

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Speaker 3: I always think that, like sometimes you meet someone and

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Speaker 2: That's such a good way to think about it, actually,

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Speaker 2: because then it's not a waste, is it.

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Speaker 3: No, it's like one for me, one for you, one

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Speaker 3: for me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I think he's probably one of the only

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Speaker 2: ones I've been on a date with so far that

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Speaker 3: Good man are good job?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Oh my god. And then if he goes out one

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Speaker 3: of your friends, you can still text me a bit

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Speaker 3: all your ailments.

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Speaker 2: Yes, exactly, exactly. I've got like three doctors on text already.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I'm like driving them all mad next time.

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Speaker 2: On twenty eight Dates Later, not a bag weamons so

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Speaker 4: I don't know if it's because men are a plague,

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Speaker 4: but straight away from like love.

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Speaker 3: The dates that we've listened to, I love her, I

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Speaker 3: love her around me.

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Speaker 1: I'm a savage can it?

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Speaker 2: Twenty eight Dates Later is produced by Novel for iHeartRadio,

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