WEBVTT - Mature Marriage

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeartRadio and

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<v Speaker 1>the Black Effects. Hey, y'all, what's going on? Welcome back

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<v Speaker 1>to yet another Can'tfully Reckless episode with your girl just

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<v Speaker 1>hilarious and here with me is sheen. I wain't up

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<v Speaker 1>before you step out and take a piss, say what's up?

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<v Speaker 2>What's up? And I don't have to piss? Thank you?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my Ben, you gotta take a shit, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>So we're gonna jump straight into it. We got another

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<v Speaker 1>voice memo today, Drumroe, please leave another voice memo. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not that long, however, it should be good. Now listen

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<v Speaker 1>when y'all hear these stories, I'm just now hearing them too. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>when it's a paragraph and it's written or you know, typed,

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<v Speaker 1>I will skim through it before I do read it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'll be wanting to get my album. I'll be

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<v Speaker 1>wanting y'all to listen to my first reaction, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's the first reaction is always like the truest.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't be reading these stories, and I don't pick

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<v Speaker 1>them based on how good they are. I just pick them,

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<v Speaker 1>that's it. And then I hear them when i'm reading

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<v Speaker 1>them to y'all. So here we are, y'all voice memo.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just christ Off. I want to say I'm a

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<v Speaker 2>big fan.

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<v Speaker 3>Of you, been a fan since you was doing videos

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<v Speaker 3>in your living room with edges. But you grow up.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, motherfucker. I never did videos in my fucking living room.

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<v Speaker 1>You you did, I definitely did. But so what But

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<v Speaker 1>I talked about my head edges back then.

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<v Speaker 2>No you did, d I didn't. All right, It's all right,

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<v Speaker 2>all right, you right, I'm here for it. I'm definitely

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<v Speaker 2>happy for all your success.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>I wish and pray more for you than all your

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<v Speaker 3>heart hand can hold. So I just want to say

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<v Speaker 3>you know that I love you, seceily and and honestly.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm reaching out because I need you to fix

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<v Speaker 2>my mess.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, now you need me for something that you just

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<v Speaker 1>came at my poor ass living room and my no

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<v Speaker 1>edges having ass back in the day. But go ahead,

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm gonna go ahead and fix your mask because

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<v Speaker 1>that they will. They will break it down and build

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<v Speaker 1>you up, won't it. All Right, here we go.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been dating this girl.

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<v Speaker 3>I wasn't dating this girl for a few months, and

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<v Speaker 3>everything was beautiful, lovely.

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<v Speaker 2>The DOPA means that you're fulfilling.

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<v Speaker 3>Everything was on the same frequency vibing, and in the

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<v Speaker 3>blake of an idol came crashing down. Very transparent, an

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<v Speaker 3>honest person, and I'm quite direct.

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<v Speaker 2>So I was up front of all my.

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<v Speaker 3>Flaws and my baggage, and I also, uh, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>let let it be known what my goals are. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>very I have a vision, I have a program. I

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<v Speaker 3>never lied about who I was, who I am, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>and things of that sort. So one of the flaws

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<v Speaker 3>that I informed her about, when it began to show itself,

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<v Speaker 3>she backed out.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, she pulled the road from up under.

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<v Speaker 3>My feet and it just all came crashing down. And

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<v Speaker 3>she basically he told me that she can't give me

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<v Speaker 3>what I need, even though the things that she that

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<v Speaker 3>I needed I informed her in the beginning. So I'm

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<v Speaker 3>asking if I'm crazy for waiting for her.

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<v Speaker 2>And wanting to.

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<v Speaker 3>Take time for myself and her takes time for herself

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<v Speaker 3>and wait for.

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<v Speaker 2>Her to become what I need. A part of me

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<v Speaker 2>feels like that I was. I was, genuinely, I ain't gonna.

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<v Speaker 3>Say a part the whole part of me was genuinely

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<v Speaker 3>and sincerely in love with her, and I do see

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<v Speaker 3>her a wife in her I wanted her to be

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<v Speaker 3>my wife. We went as far as getting almost getting married,

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<v Speaker 3>and like I said, it all can't crash you down.

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<v Speaker 3>For her reasons and her pulling away. You feel what

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<v Speaker 3>I'm saying. I play a role in that I'm not saying,

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<v Speaker 3>and it's.

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<v Speaker 2>All her doing.

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<v Speaker 3>Kind of the reason she pulled away was due to

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<v Speaker 3>the things that I had already informed her about. I

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<v Speaker 3>am my room for wanting to wait around and continue

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<v Speaker 3>to pour into myself, grow and evolve in all aspects

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<v Speaker 3>and wait for her to basically spin a.

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<v Speaker 2>Block on me. And I know that. You know I'm

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<v Speaker 2>a traditional person.

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<v Speaker 3>You feel what I'm saying like I'm a traditional woman,

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<v Speaker 3>you know. And I believe in love and I love love.

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<v Speaker 3>And when I know what I want, you feel me.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm thirty one years old, I'll be thirty two and

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<v Speaker 3>Desummer shout out to my set of service.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh so I'm you know, I know what I want

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<v Speaker 2>and she is that.

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<v Speaker 3>So should I just move on and just let her

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<v Speaker 3>come to me? Because I'm also a hunter. I go

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<v Speaker 3>after what I want and I'm not used to things

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<v Speaker 3>coming after me or things coming to me.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I go after what I want.

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<v Speaker 3>So should I just move on and let her go

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<v Speaker 3>and just just put myself back out there with someone else?

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<v Speaker 3>Or am I crazy for waiting around or waiting for

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<v Speaker 3>her to be what I need her to.

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<v Speaker 2>Be for me because she is what I want?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? Yeah? I feel you even sound like this is

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<v Speaker 1>heavy for you, Like this is heavy on you and

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<v Speaker 1>like you're really really trying to figure it out. It

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<v Speaker 1>definitely seems like it's a lot there. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>know what you're speaking of when you say she knew

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<v Speaker 1>what I was, she knew you know who I was?

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<v Speaker 1>I you know, because it seems as if you were

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<v Speaker 1>one with her. You seem like you're straightforward, you're blunting.

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<v Speaker 1>You also communicated that to mean you're open with everything,

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<v Speaker 1>completely transparent and all aspects of this relationship, and it

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<v Speaker 1>seems like with what was once agreed upon, something changed.

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<v Speaker 1>She's second thought, you know, second having second thoughts and regretting,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, second guess and what's you know, what's going on? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>what you thought was salid? Yeah? I want to know,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and let me know exactly what that is

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<v Speaker 1>if you're okay with that? What were you or what

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<v Speaker 1>you know? What are you?

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<v Speaker 2>Or what you know?

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<v Speaker 1>What I'm saying and I'm just repeating it back to

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<v Speaker 1>you how you you know, presented it to me. You

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<v Speaker 1>do know, things can change in relationships. Things may be overwhelming,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever it is, whatever your past is or whatever, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>whether you want to run, you're a fucking fellon a

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<v Speaker 1>strip of something, you know, a porn star, whatever it

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<v Speaker 1>may be.

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<v Speaker 4>We gotta that's that's the thing we need to know

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<v Speaker 4>to know, you know, we need to know what it

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<v Speaker 4>is that she was accepting of.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because things change, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>But do you feel like it's somebody else? Or yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you ever think of that? That's actually a good question.

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<v Speaker 1>My best friend, you know, she I wouldn't even wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>have even thought of that because I'm I'm trying to

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<v Speaker 1>piece together. I feel like we're talking to Kole's boo.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, or you just probably you know, may not

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<v Speaker 1>be comfortable enough to share that part of it. But

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<v Speaker 1>I can't really advise you on whether to stay or

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<v Speaker 1>goal or to try to fix it or whatever.

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<v Speaker 4>The most I can say is, you know, if a

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<v Speaker 4>person is saying they don't want to be there.

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<v Speaker 1>Say she ain't say that she she didn't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be there. I guess that she's having second thoughts, like

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<v Speaker 1>is communication?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I was just communicated, Like what are we doing?

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<v Speaker 2>You know? What's because like, are we're moving forward? All right?

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<v Speaker 2>Work on it?

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<v Speaker 4>Like what's what's the deal? Can it be safe because

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<v Speaker 4>it's no sitting around. We're not We're not sitting around

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<v Speaker 4>waiting for anybody. We're moving on and if that person

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<v Speaker 4>comes around before we end up with someone else, then okay, cool.

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<v Speaker 4>But I mean it's basically let's talk about it because

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not gonna sit here and wait for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm not. I'm going to live my life. But

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<v Speaker 2>I think you should heal.

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<v Speaker 4>I think she really needs to heal from whatever it

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<v Speaker 4>is that they have or have if this person isn't

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<v Speaker 4>showing them that they want to progress more.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and you're talking about marrying her, like you want

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<v Speaker 1>this to be your wife. This is somebody, this is

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<v Speaker 1>a life partner in your eyes.

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<v Speaker 2>So y'all need to really be having that conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because it just doesn't seem like you were on

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<v Speaker 1>the right page. If you're telling me I'm on the

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<v Speaker 1>same page. I'm sorry, it doesn't seem like you are

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<v Speaker 1>on the same Shut the hell up, damn, it don't

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<v Speaker 1>seem like you two are on the same page. You know.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're you're expressing these these feelings to me for

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<v Speaker 1>this woman, that's the communication thing. Y'a gotta sit down

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<v Speaker 1>and I need to talk about that, and y'all need

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<v Speaker 1>to do it quickly, you know, because time. Yeah, we

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<v Speaker 1>only got time, but we don't have time either, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And we shouldn't take time for granted, so many other

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<v Speaker 1>things that you guys could be doing together or a

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<v Speaker 1>part if that is what your heart desires, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, So get on the same page. Put

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<v Speaker 1>some more meat on his bone if you're comfortable with

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<v Speaker 1>doing so. Because I can't fix your mess if you're

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<v Speaker 1>only give me a little bit of it, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean, If you really really, I can, but

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<v Speaker 1>I would rather be able to help you and the

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<v Speaker 1>entirety of what's going on. You know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>So just update me, reach back out, let me know.

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<v Speaker 1>And also this is important for people to know as well.

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<v Speaker 1>When I'm helping you guys, or I'm fixing your mess,

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<v Speaker 1>you can write me and tell me that you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want this story to air. If you really just really

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<v Speaker 1>need advice, you can do that as well, and say

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want this on the podcast because I.

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<v Speaker 2>Have a lot of serious stories that I feel like.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, some people wouldn't even want exposed on a

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<v Speaker 1>social platform. You know, their voices are being heard, and

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<v Speaker 1>I always joke about it, but you know it's truth

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<v Speaker 1>in every joke. A lot of people don't want their

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<v Speaker 1>voices being heard because people know their voices, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>And a lot of people listen to Carefully Reckless every Wednesday,

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<v Speaker 1>so you can always, you know, say Jess, this is

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<v Speaker 1>just from me to you. If you can find it

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<v Speaker 1>in your heart to lend me some advice you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, without putting it, without making it a

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<v Speaker 1>part of your platforms per podcasts, then I greatly appreciate that.

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<v Speaker 1>And depending on the severity of it, yes, I will

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<v Speaker 1>help you if I do have time. So I'm for

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<v Speaker 1>sure if you love me, you'll listen to this commercial

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<v Speaker 1>and then we'll be right back. We're moving on now.

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<v Speaker 1>This is not a voicemail, though this is a long

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<v Speaker 1>ass too paragraphs, but I see a little bit of

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<v Speaker 1>punctuation marks in there, so we should be fine.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, Hey.

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<v Speaker 1>Jess, First off, I want to say that I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>huge fan for a long time, since the Facebook DS. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>day one, what's going on? I'm reaching out because I

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<v Speaker 1>need you to fix my mess. I'm twenty five years old.

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<v Speaker 1>I just finished my career. You finished your career, Okay

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<v Speaker 1>at twenty five? All right. I'm happily married and I

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<v Speaker 1>have a wonderful husband.

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<v Speaker 5>I know.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why congratulation ons. We have been together for nine years,

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<v Speaker 1>married for five. This man is now. Okay, so you've

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<v Speaker 1>been with this niggas since you was I mean, you've

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<v Speaker 1>been with this man since she was sixteen.

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<v Speaker 2>That's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>This man is not only a partner, but a provider

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<v Speaker 1>as well. He takes care of me and of everything

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<v Speaker 1>that needs to be taken care of. Oh, that's why

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<v Speaker 1>you ended your career regarding finances, Yes, he takes care

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<v Speaker 1>of everything. Now. Emotionally, I do think our relationship has

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<v Speaker 1>shifted a little bit to where I think we're both

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<v Speaker 1>kind of comfortable. Hm. That's never good. I could say

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<v Speaker 1>our relationship is very mature. I don't want to say

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm bored, but it kind of seems like a

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<v Speaker 1>routine that we've been doing for so long. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know why. Lately I've been wanting to feel an excitement

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<v Speaker 1>of dating. What I just seems kind of boring now,

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<v Speaker 1>say this is why y'all need to send in these

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<v Speaker 1>voice notes the help, all right, I think she's trying

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<v Speaker 1>to say it just seems kind of boring now, But

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<v Speaker 1>I just found out that I'm nine weeks pregnant. Okay, congratulations,

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<v Speaker 1>and he's over the moon.

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<v Speaker 2>I know he's happy.

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<v Speaker 1>He is planning the baby shower already and looking for names.

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<v Speaker 1>I see the happiness enjoyed that this news has brought him.

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<v Speaker 1>I would say that it's brought us closer to talk

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<v Speaker 1>more about the future with the baby. This would be

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<v Speaker 1>our first kid. Congrats. My issue is that I don't

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<v Speaker 1>feel excited. Oh, I have so many emotions, and it

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<v Speaker 1>makes me feel guilty that I don't feel as happy

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<v Speaker 1>as he does. I am terrified to carry a baby

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<v Speaker 1>because it is such a big responsibility. I thought that

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<v Speaker 1>I would feel differently being pregnant, but now I just

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<v Speaker 1>feel like my life and freedom is over. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I can't even act the same anymore because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be someone's mother and I need to be more mature.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I have some moments where I do

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<v Speaker 1>feel happy and excited that I'm able to experience this.

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<v Speaker 1>I just need your point of view help me. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a first time all well, first of all, to be

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<v Speaker 1>able to say that is a blessing in itself, being

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<v Speaker 1>as though, you know, we have a lot of women

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<v Speaker 1>out here who can't conceive, who want babies, and there

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<v Speaker 1>they would give their right panky for a baby. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>they would give, you know, almost close to their life

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<v Speaker 1>to be able to produce life.

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<v Speaker 5>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm gonna say congratulations, and then just for some people,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not easy. I know it's not easy. It's not

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<v Speaker 1>easy getting pregnant for some others. But I am very

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<v Speaker 1>very happy for you. I do not want you to

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<v Speaker 1>be so hard on yourself. Oh this is this is

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<v Speaker 1>natural for a lot of first time moms, no matter

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<v Speaker 1>the age, no matter you know, whether you're young or older,

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's it could be very scary. You're blessed to

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<v Speaker 1>have a cope who actually is excited though, because imagine

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<v Speaker 1>being someone who has to do it on their own,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. Although he can't carry the

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<v Speaker 1>baby for you, he can make it a lot easier.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to do it alone. I hate to

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<v Speaker 1>ask you, why are you going to keep it? Because

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<v Speaker 1>I imagine that you are. I would love you too again,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's not my body and it's not your husband's body.

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<v Speaker 2>So how do you feel?

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<v Speaker 1>Overall? Are you religious at all? Do you pray about things?

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<v Speaker 1>That's it's eleven to eleven? Hey? Speaking of uh, you

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<v Speaker 1>know Brandon stuff. Are you religious at all?

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<v Speaker 4>You know?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you pray? Do you meditate? Do you you know?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have a therapist? Is there someone that you

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<v Speaker 1>feel that you could talk to you other than your

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<v Speaker 1>husband that will help you feel better about being a mom,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's important as well.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, there was no room issues.

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<v Speaker 4>Then yeah, she's just the first time mim' she's scared.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh let's go back, little boy, she's bored.

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<v Speaker 1>Hold up, hold up, I know this shit getting good,

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<v Speaker 1>but listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial.

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<v Speaker 1>If you love me, you'll listen. Okay, So let's go

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<v Speaker 1>back before we get to mommy world. Okay, you new

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<v Speaker 1>mommy world, first time mommy world. Let's say that. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so excited for you, girl. I am just happy to

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<v Speaker 1>hear this. However, prior to finding out that you're nine

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<v Speaker 1>weeks pregnant, you were getting bored in your marriage. And

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<v Speaker 1>you've been married for five years, you've been with him

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<v Speaker 1>for almost a decade, and you're twenty five. Answering me this,

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<v Speaker 1>Do you feel like you got married to it or

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<v Speaker 1>too early and it's nothing else? Being honest about it

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<v Speaker 1>with me, or being honest about it in general. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes as women, we keep things bottled up, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>how we depress ourselves. We stress ourselves out, we lose weight,

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<v Speaker 1>you start losing confidence, you know, and just being in

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<v Speaker 1>our own heads. It's better to talk. It's better to communicate,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. I don't care if you have a diary,

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<v Speaker 1>don't hold it in. Do you feel like you got

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<v Speaker 1>married too early? Is this something that you and your

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<v Speaker 1>husband talked about? Does he feel the same way. Have

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<v Speaker 1>you expressed to him that you feel bored? That you

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<v Speaker 1>felt bored? Does he feel like I said, does he

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<v Speaker 1>feel the same way? Did you have your eye on

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<v Speaker 1>someone else before you were you know, before you discovered

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<v Speaker 1>you were pregnant, because you did say that you felt

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<v Speaker 1>the urge to date, to want to date.

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<v Speaker 4>So I wonder if she was talking about them dating

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<v Speaker 4>or her dating outside of them.

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<v Speaker 1>Like like them being open no no, no, or just them

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<v Speaker 1>going on dates more because with each other. Yes, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>because she did say it was routine right right?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Is that things?

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<v Speaker 4>You know?

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<v Speaker 1>Definitely try a new thing, bucket lists. Yeah, it's time

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<v Speaker 1>to have fun, trap all that. Yeah, and you said

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<v Speaker 1>he is financially in doubt. You know, he takes care

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<v Speaker 1>of everything that needs to be taken care of, so

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<v Speaker 1>you guys should travel more. I mean, is that something

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<v Speaker 1>that any guys are in.

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<v Speaker 4>It's crazy because she's pregnant now, so it's like, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>But she look at sexy red doing whole performances, being

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<v Speaker 1>that ass, so shake that ass, how knees on the.

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<v Speaker 2>Flow, So you call it her sexy free?

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<v Speaker 1>No, I'm not, but no means am I not more

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<v Speaker 1>like sexy? No? I said she said, you said, now

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<v Speaker 1>she's pregnant, like they can't.

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<v Speaker 2>Treat it's not stopping sexy.

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<v Speaker 1>It ain't stopping sexy. She out barefoot just as pregnant,

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<v Speaker 1>her gene thongs on on the red wig and just

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<v Speaker 1>doing our things, just she has gene thongs, yes, because

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<v Speaker 1>they big.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah, so don't put on your gene thongs.

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<v Speaker 4>Go ahead and go out and have a good time

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<v Speaker 4>before you your feat swelling.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, girl, I uh, it's just community. Yeah, but I

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<v Speaker 1>think you should tell me answer all those questions and

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<v Speaker 1>ask all those questions.

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<v Speaker 2>You can revisit.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, my point of view is just basking. This ambience

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<v Speaker 1>sounds like this excitement.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it sounds like a really good uh.

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<v Speaker 1>Good relations It sounds like a great marriage. I know

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<v Speaker 1>every marriage has its ups and its downs. No marriage

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<v Speaker 1>is perfect, no, and we've seen that thanks to Will

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<v Speaker 1>and Jade. But yes we as you know, y'all be good. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and y'all still young. I don't know how old. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>your husband is, but if he is your age, you know, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all still got a lot more life to live even

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<v Speaker 1>after that. Baby, girl, babies, I'm not gonna sit here

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<v Speaker 1>and tell you that they don't slow your life down.

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<v Speaker 1>But they don't stop your life, that's right. And you

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<v Speaker 1>already finished your career. So what what you got to do?

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<v Speaker 2>And baby, I don't have none?

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, every night, yeah, that night, yeah, baby, look

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<v Speaker 1>outside every night in the alley. Yeah, okay, living in

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<v Speaker 1>the damn alley. You don't want to be like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, the soud a damn name. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>never mind that that, And just like that, we've come

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<v Speaker 1>to the end of this episode. Her name I did

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<v Speaker 1>not say. I said Sashika. Okay, all right, so yeah, damn.

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<v Speaker 2>So what's that being said?

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<v Speaker 1>What's that being said?

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<v Speaker 5>Y'all?

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<v Speaker 1>Make sure that y'all sending voice notes. And again, like

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<v Speaker 1>I said, if there are any stories that you do

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<v Speaker 1>not want exposed on such a huge platform, like carefully Reckless,

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<v Speaker 1>which is a part of iHeart, and you know it's

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<v Speaker 1>promoted on bigger platforms, you can definitely just let me know, say, Jazz, Hey, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>my story is a little too specific and it's a

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<v Speaker 1>little too much going on for it to be plastered

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<v Speaker 1>all over the N that and all over other socials,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. So I was like, if

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<v Speaker 1>you can fix my messages between us, and then yeah, boom,

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<v Speaker 1>and we can do it just like that, if I

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<v Speaker 1>can get to it, guys, because I am busy as

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<v Speaker 1>well in life, be life and for everybody, not just y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>So in my deepest pan voice, me and Shana will

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<v Speaker 1>be out. Yes, my son is like a little bird.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, we're gonna do it again.

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