Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeartRadio and
Speaker 1: the Black Effects. Hey, y'all, what's going on? Welcome back
Speaker 1: to yet another Can'tfully Reckless episode with your girl just
Speaker 1: hilarious and here with me is sheen. I wain't up
Speaker 1: before you step out and take a piss, say what's up?
Speaker 2: What's up? And I don't have to piss? Thank you?
Speaker 1: Oh my Ben, you gotta take a shit, all right,
Speaker 1: So we're gonna jump straight into it. We got another
Speaker 1: voice memo today, Drumroe, please leave another voice memo. It's
Speaker 1: not that long, however, it should be good. Now listen
Speaker 1: when y'all hear these stories, I'm just now hearing them too. Now,
Speaker 1: when it's a paragraph and it's written or you know, typed,
Speaker 1: I will skim through it before I do read it.
Speaker 1: But I'll be wanting to get my album. I'll be
Speaker 1: wanting y'all to listen to my first reaction, you know,
Speaker 1: because it's the first reaction is always like the truest.
Speaker 1: I don't be reading these stories, and I don't pick
Speaker 1: them based on how good they are. I just pick them,
Speaker 1: that's it. And then I hear them when i'm reading
Speaker 1: them to y'all. So here we are, y'all voice memo.
Speaker 2: It's just christ Off. I want to say I'm a
Speaker 2: big fan.
Speaker 3: Of you, been a fan since you was doing videos
Speaker 3: in your living room with edges. But you grow up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, motherfucker. I never did videos in my fucking living room.
Speaker 1: You you did, I definitely did. But so what But
Speaker 1: I talked about my head edges back then.
Speaker 2: No you did, d I didn't. All right, It's all right,
Speaker 2: all right, you right, I'm here for it. I'm definitely
Speaker 2: happy for all your success.
Speaker 1: Thank you.
Speaker 3: I wish and pray more for you than all your
Speaker 3: heart hand can hold. So I just want to say
Speaker 3: you know that I love you, seceily and and honestly.
Speaker 2: But I'm reaching out because I need you to fix
Speaker 2: my mess.
Speaker 1: Yeah, now you need me for something that you just
Speaker 1: came at my poor ass living room and my no
Speaker 1: edges having ass back in the day. But go ahead,
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna go ahead and fix your mask because
Speaker 1: that they will. They will break it down and build
Speaker 1: you up, won't it. All Right, here we go.
Speaker 2: I've been dating this girl.
Speaker 3: I wasn't dating this girl for a few months, and
Speaker 3: everything was beautiful, lovely.
Speaker 2: The DOPA means that you're fulfilling.
Speaker 3: Everything was on the same frequency vibing, and in the
Speaker 3: blake of an idol came crashing down. Very transparent, an
Speaker 3: honest person, and I'm quite direct.
Speaker 2: So I was up front of all my.
Speaker 3: Flaws and my baggage, and I also, uh, you know,
Speaker 3: let let it be known what my goals are. I'm
Speaker 3: very I have a vision, I have a program. I
Speaker 3: never lied about who I was, who I am, you know,
Speaker 3: and things of that sort. So one of the flaws
Speaker 3: that I informed her about, when it began to show itself,
Speaker 3: she backed out.
Speaker 2: I mean, she pulled the road from up under.
Speaker 3: My feet and it just all came crashing down. And
Speaker 3: she basically he told me that she can't give me
Speaker 3: what I need, even though the things that she that
Speaker 3: I needed I informed her in the beginning. So I'm
Speaker 3: asking if I'm crazy for waiting for her.
Speaker 2: And wanting to.
Speaker 3: Take time for myself and her takes time for herself
Speaker 3: and wait for.
Speaker 2: Her to become what I need. A part of me
Speaker 2: feels like that I was. I was, genuinely, I ain't gonna.
Speaker 3: Say a part the whole part of me was genuinely
Speaker 3: and sincerely in love with her, and I do see
Speaker 3: her a wife in her I wanted her to be
Speaker 3: my wife. We went as far as getting almost getting married,
Speaker 3: and like I said, it all can't crash you down.
Speaker 3: For her reasons and her pulling away. You feel what
Speaker 3: I'm saying. I play a role in that I'm not saying,
Speaker 3: and it's.
Speaker 2: All her doing.
Speaker 3: Kind of the reason she pulled away was due to
Speaker 3: the things that I had already informed her about. I
Speaker 3: am my room for wanting to wait around and continue
Speaker 3: to pour into myself, grow and evolve in all aspects
Speaker 3: and wait for her to basically spin a.
Speaker 2: Block on me. And I know that. You know I'm
Speaker 2: a traditional person.
Speaker 3: You feel what I'm saying like I'm a traditional woman,
Speaker 3: you know. And I believe in love and I love love.
Speaker 3: And when I know what I want, you feel me.
Speaker 3: I'm thirty one years old, I'll be thirty two and
Speaker 3: Desummer shout out to my set of service.
Speaker 2: Oh so I'm you know, I know what I want
Speaker 2: and she is that.
Speaker 3: So should I just move on and just let her
Speaker 3: come to me? Because I'm also a hunter. I go
Speaker 3: after what I want and I'm not used to things
Speaker 3: coming after me or things coming to me.
Speaker 2: You know, I go after what I want.
Speaker 3: So should I just move on and let her go
Speaker 3: and just just put myself back out there with someone else?
Speaker 3: Or am I crazy for waiting around or waiting for
Speaker 3: her to be what I need her to.
Speaker 2: Be for me because she is what I want?
Speaker 1: Okay? Yeah? I feel you even sound like this is
Speaker 1: heavy for you, Like this is heavy on you and
Speaker 1: like you're really really trying to figure it out. It
Speaker 1: definitely seems like it's a lot there. I want to
Speaker 1: know what you're speaking of when you say she knew
Speaker 1: what I was, she knew you know who I was?
Speaker 1: I you know, because it seems as if you were
Speaker 1: one with her. You seem like you're straightforward, you're blunting.
Speaker 1: You also communicated that to mean you're open with everything,
Speaker 1: completely transparent and all aspects of this relationship, and it
Speaker 1: seems like with what was once agreed upon, something changed.
Speaker 1: She's second thought, you know, second having second thoughts and regretting,
Speaker 1: you know, second guess and what's you know, what's going on? Yeah,
Speaker 1: what you thought was salid? Yeah? I want to know,
Speaker 1: you know, and let me know exactly what that is
Speaker 1: if you're okay with that? What were you or what
Speaker 1: you know? What are you?
Speaker 2: Or what you know?
Speaker 1: What I'm saying and I'm just repeating it back to
Speaker 1: you how you you know, presented it to me. You
Speaker 1: do know, things can change in relationships. Things may be overwhelming,
Speaker 1: whatever it is, whatever your past is or whatever, you know,
Speaker 1: whether you want to run, you're a fucking fellon a
Speaker 1: strip of something, you know, a porn star, whatever it
Speaker 1: may be.
Speaker 4: We gotta that's that's the thing we need to know
Speaker 4: to know, you know, we need to know what it
Speaker 4: is that she was accepting of.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because things change, Yeah.
Speaker 2: But do you feel like it's somebody else? Or yeah?
Speaker 1: Did you ever think of that? That's actually a good question.
Speaker 1: My best friend, you know, she I wouldn't even wouldn't
Speaker 1: have even thought of that because I'm I'm trying to
Speaker 1: piece together. I feel like we're talking to Kole's boo.
Speaker 1: But yeah, or you just probably you know, may not
Speaker 1: be comfortable enough to share that part of it. But
Speaker 1: I can't really advise you on whether to stay or
Speaker 1: goal or to try to fix it or whatever.
Speaker 4: The most I can say is, you know, if a
Speaker 4: person is saying they don't want to be there.
Speaker 1: Say she ain't say that she she didn't want to
Speaker 1: be there. I guess that she's having second thoughts, like
Speaker 1: is communication?
Speaker 2: Well, I was just communicated, Like what are we doing?
Speaker 2: You know? What's because like, are we're moving forward? All right?
Speaker 2: Work on it?
Speaker 4: Like what's what's the deal? Can it be safe because
Speaker 4: it's no sitting around. We're not We're not sitting around
Speaker 4: waiting for anybody. We're moving on and if that person
Speaker 4: comes around before we end up with someone else, then okay, cool.
Speaker 4: But I mean it's basically let's talk about it because
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna sit here and wait for you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not. I'm going to live my life. But
Speaker 2: I think you should heal.
Speaker 4: I think she really needs to heal from whatever it
Speaker 4: is that they have or have if this person isn't
Speaker 4: showing them that they want to progress more.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're talking about marrying her, like you want
Speaker 1: this to be your wife. This is somebody, this is
Speaker 1: a life partner in your eyes.
Speaker 2: So y'all need to really be having that conversation.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because it just doesn't seem like you were on
Speaker 1: the right page. If you're telling me I'm on the
Speaker 1: same page. I'm sorry, it doesn't seem like you are
Speaker 1: on the same Shut the hell up, damn, it don't
Speaker 1: seem like you two are on the same page. You know.
Speaker 1: If you're you're expressing these these feelings to me for
Speaker 1: this woman, that's the communication thing. Y'a gotta sit down
Speaker 1: and I need to talk about that, and y'all need
Speaker 1: to do it quickly, you know, because time. Yeah, we
Speaker 1: only got time, but we don't have time either, you know.
Speaker 1: And we shouldn't take time for granted, so many other
Speaker 1: things that you guys could be doing together or a
Speaker 1: part if that is what your heart desires, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, So get on the same page. Put
Speaker 1: some more meat on his bone if you're comfortable with
Speaker 1: doing so. Because I can't fix your mess if you're
Speaker 1: only give me a little bit of it, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, If you really really, I can, but
Speaker 1: I would rather be able to help you and the
Speaker 1: entirety of what's going on. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: So just update me, reach back out, let me know.
Speaker 1: And also this is important for people to know as well.
Speaker 1: When I'm helping you guys, or I'm fixing your mess,
Speaker 1: you can write me and tell me that you don't
Speaker 1: want this story to air. If you really just really
Speaker 1: need advice, you can do that as well, and say
Speaker 1: I don't want this on the podcast because I.
Speaker 2: Have a lot of serious stories that I feel like.
Speaker 1: You know, some people wouldn't even want exposed on a
Speaker 1: social platform. You know, their voices are being heard, and
Speaker 1: I always joke about it, but you know it's truth
Speaker 1: in every joke. A lot of people don't want their
Speaker 1: voices being heard because people know their voices, you know,
Speaker 1: And a lot of people listen to Carefully Reckless every Wednesday,
Speaker 1: so you can always, you know, say Jess, this is
Speaker 1: just from me to you. If you can find it
Speaker 1: in your heart to lend me some advice you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, without putting it, without making it a
Speaker 1: part of your platforms per podcasts, then I greatly appreciate that.
Speaker 1: And depending on the severity of it, yes, I will
Speaker 1: help you if I do have time. So I'm for
Speaker 1: sure if you love me, you'll listen to this commercial
Speaker 1: and then we'll be right back. We're moving on now.
Speaker 1: This is not a voicemail, though this is a long
Speaker 1: ass too paragraphs, but I see a little bit of
Speaker 1: punctuation marks in there, so we should be fine.
Speaker 2: All right, Hey.
Speaker 1: Jess, First off, I want to say that I'm a
Speaker 1: huge fan for a long time, since the Facebook DS. Okay,
Speaker 1: day one, what's going on? I'm reaching out because I
Speaker 1: need you to fix my mess. I'm twenty five years old.
Speaker 1: I just finished my career. You finished your career, Okay
Speaker 1: at twenty five? All right. I'm happily married and I
Speaker 1: have a wonderful husband.
Speaker 5: I know.
Speaker 1: That's why congratulation ons. We have been together for nine years,
Speaker 1: married for five. This man is now. Okay, so you've
Speaker 1: been with this niggas since you was I mean, you've
Speaker 1: been with this man since she was sixteen.
Speaker 2: That's amazing.
Speaker 1: This man is not only a partner, but a provider
Speaker 1: as well. He takes care of me and of everything
Speaker 1: that needs to be taken care of. Oh, that's why
Speaker 1: you ended your career regarding finances, Yes, he takes care
Speaker 1: of everything. Now. Emotionally, I do think our relationship has
Speaker 1: shifted a little bit to where I think we're both
Speaker 1: kind of comfortable. Hm. That's never good. I could say
Speaker 1: our relationship is very mature. I don't want to say
Speaker 1: that I'm bored, but it kind of seems like a
Speaker 1: routine that we've been doing for so long. I don't
Speaker 1: know why. Lately I've been wanting to feel an excitement
Speaker 1: of dating. What I just seems kind of boring now,
Speaker 1: say this is why y'all need to send in these
Speaker 1: voice notes the help, all right, I think she's trying
Speaker 1: to say it just seems kind of boring now, But
Speaker 1: I just found out that I'm nine weeks pregnant. Okay, congratulations,
Speaker 1: and he's over the moon.
Speaker 2: I know he's happy.
Speaker 1: He is planning the baby shower already and looking for names.
Speaker 1: I see the happiness enjoyed that this news has brought him.
Speaker 1: I would say that it's brought us closer to talk
Speaker 1: more about the future with the baby. This would be
Speaker 1: our first kid. Congrats. My issue is that I don't
Speaker 1: feel excited. Oh, I have so many emotions, and it
Speaker 1: makes me feel guilty that I don't feel as happy
Speaker 1: as he does. I am terrified to carry a baby
Speaker 1: because it is such a big responsibility. I thought that
Speaker 1: I would feel differently being pregnant, but now I just
Speaker 1: feel like my life and freedom is over. I feel
Speaker 1: like I can't even act the same anymore because I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be someone's mother and I need to be more mature.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I have some moments where I do
Speaker 1: feel happy and excited that I'm able to experience this.
Speaker 1: I just need your point of view help me. I'm
Speaker 1: a first time all well, first of all, to be
Speaker 1: able to say that is a blessing in itself, being
Speaker 1: as though, you know, we have a lot of women
Speaker 1: out here who can't conceive, who want babies, and there
Speaker 1: they would give their right panky for a baby. You know,
Speaker 1: they would give, you know, almost close to their life
Speaker 1: to be able to produce life.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna say congratulations, and then just for some people,
Speaker 1: it's not easy. I know it's not easy. It's not
Speaker 1: easy getting pregnant for some others. But I am very
Speaker 1: very happy for you. I do not want you to
Speaker 1: be so hard on yourself. Oh this is this is
Speaker 1: natural for a lot of first time moms, no matter
Speaker 1: the age, no matter you know, whether you're young or older,
Speaker 1: it's it's it could be very scary. You're blessed to
Speaker 1: have a cope who actually is excited though, because imagine
Speaker 1: being someone who has to do it on their own,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Although he can't carry the
Speaker 1: baby for you, he can make it a lot easier.
Speaker 1: You don't have to do it alone. I hate to
Speaker 1: ask you, why are you going to keep it? Because
Speaker 1: I imagine that you are. I would love you too again,
Speaker 1: but it's not my body and it's not your husband's body.
Speaker 2: So how do you feel?
Speaker 1: Overall? Are you religious at all? Do you pray about things?
Speaker 1: That's it's eleven to eleven? Hey? Speaking of uh, you
Speaker 1: know Brandon stuff. Are you religious at all?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 1: Do you pray? Do you meditate? Do you you know?
Speaker 1: Do you have a therapist? Is there someone that you
Speaker 1: feel that you could talk to you other than your
Speaker 1: husband that will help you feel better about being a mom,
Speaker 1: because that's important as well.
Speaker 2: You know, there was no room issues.
Speaker 4: Then yeah, she's just the first time mim' she's scared.
Speaker 4: Oh let's go back, little boy, she's bored.
Speaker 1: Hold up, hold up, I know this shit getting good,
Speaker 1: but listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial.
Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen. Okay, So let's go
Speaker 1: back before we get to mommy world. Okay, you new
Speaker 1: mommy world, first time mommy world. Let's say that. I'm
Speaker 1: so excited for you, girl. I am just happy to
Speaker 1: hear this. However, prior to finding out that you're nine
Speaker 1: weeks pregnant, you were getting bored in your marriage. And
Speaker 1: you've been married for five years, you've been with him
Speaker 1: for almost a decade, and you're twenty five. Answering me this,
Speaker 1: Do you feel like you got married to it or
Speaker 1: too early and it's nothing else? Being honest about it
Speaker 1: with me, or being honest about it in general. You know,
Speaker 1: sometimes as women, we keep things bottled up, and that's
Speaker 1: how we depress ourselves. We stress ourselves out, we lose weight,
Speaker 1: you start losing confidence, you know, and just being in
Speaker 1: our own heads. It's better to talk. It's better to communicate,
Speaker 1: you know. I don't care if you have a diary,
Speaker 1: don't hold it in. Do you feel like you got
Speaker 1: married too early? Is this something that you and your
Speaker 1: husband talked about? Does he feel the same way. Have
Speaker 1: you expressed to him that you feel bored? That you
Speaker 1: felt bored? Does he feel like I said, does he
Speaker 1: feel the same way? Did you have your eye on
Speaker 1: someone else before you were you know, before you discovered
Speaker 1: you were pregnant, because you did say that you felt
Speaker 1: the urge to date, to want to date.
Speaker 4: So I wonder if she was talking about them dating
Speaker 4: or her dating outside of them.
Speaker 1: Like like them being open no no, no, or just them
Speaker 1: going on dates more because with each other. Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: because she did say it was routine right right?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Is that things?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 1: Definitely try a new thing, bucket lists. Yeah, it's time
Speaker 1: to have fun, trap all that. Yeah, and you said
Speaker 1: he is financially in doubt. You know, he takes care
Speaker 1: of everything that needs to be taken care of, so
Speaker 1: you guys should travel more. I mean, is that something
Speaker 1: that any guys are in.
Speaker 4: It's crazy because she's pregnant now, so it's like, yeah.
Speaker 1: But she look at sexy red doing whole performances, being
Speaker 1: that ass, so shake that ass, how knees on the.
Speaker 2: Flow, So you call it her sexy free?
Speaker 1: No, I'm not, but no means am I not more
Speaker 1: like sexy? No? I said she said, you said, now
Speaker 1: she's pregnant, like they can't.
Speaker 2: Treat it's not stopping sexy.
Speaker 1: It ain't stopping sexy. She out barefoot just as pregnant,
Speaker 1: her gene thongs on on the red wig and just
Speaker 1: doing our things, just she has gene thongs, yes, because
Speaker 1: they big.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, so don't put on your gene thongs.
Speaker 4: Go ahead and go out and have a good time
Speaker 4: before you your feat swelling.
Speaker 1: Yes, girl, I uh, it's just community. Yeah, but I
Speaker 1: think you should tell me answer all those questions and
Speaker 1: ask all those questions.
Speaker 2: You can revisit.
Speaker 1: Yeah, my point of view is just basking. This ambience
Speaker 1: sounds like this excitement.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds like a really good uh.
Speaker 1: Good relations It sounds like a great marriage. I know
Speaker 1: every marriage has its ups and its downs. No marriage
Speaker 1: is perfect, no, and we've seen that thanks to Will
Speaker 1: and Jade. But yes we as you know, y'all be good. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and y'all still young. I don't know how old. Yeah,
Speaker 1: your husband is, but if he is your age, you know, y'all,
Speaker 1: y'all still got a lot more life to live even
Speaker 1: after that. Baby, girl, babies, I'm not gonna sit here
Speaker 1: and tell you that they don't slow your life down.
Speaker 1: But they don't stop your life, that's right. And you
Speaker 1: already finished your career. So what what you got to do?
Speaker 2: And baby, I don't have none?
Speaker 1: So yeah, every night, yeah, that night, yeah, baby, look
Speaker 1: outside every night in the alley. Yeah, okay, living in
Speaker 1: the damn alley. You don't want to be like that.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, the soud a damn name. All right,
Speaker 1: never mind that that, And just like that, we've come
Speaker 1: to the end of this episode. Her name I did
Speaker 1: not say. I said Sashika. Okay, all right, so yeah, damn.
Speaker 2: So what's that being said?
Speaker 1: What's that being said?
Speaker 5: Y'all?
Speaker 1: Make sure that y'all sending voice notes. And again, like
Speaker 1: I said, if there are any stories that you do
Speaker 1: not want exposed on such a huge platform, like carefully Reckless,
Speaker 1: which is a part of iHeart, and you know it's
Speaker 1: promoted on bigger platforms, you can definitely just let me know, say, Jazz, Hey, uh,
Speaker 1: my story is a little too specific and it's a
Speaker 1: little too much going on for it to be plastered
Speaker 1: all over the N that and all over other socials,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So I was like, if
Speaker 1: you can fix my messages between us, and then yeah, boom,
Speaker 1: and we can do it just like that, if I
Speaker 1: can get to it, guys, because I am busy as
Speaker 1: well in life, be life and for everybody, not just y'all.
Speaker 1: So in my deepest pan voice, me and Shana will
Speaker 1: be out. Yes, my son is like a little bird.
Speaker 1: All right, we're gonna do it again.
Speaker 5: All right, There we go, There we go, There we go.
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