1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,320 Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeartRadio and 2 00:00:03,360 --> 00:00:16,800 Speaker 1: the Black Effects. Hey, y'all, what's going on? Welcome back 3 00:00:16,840 --> 00:00:19,119 Speaker 1: to yet another Can'tfully Reckless episode with your girl just 4 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: hilarious and here with me is sheen. I wain't up 5 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:24,040 Speaker 1: before you step out and take a piss, say what's up? 6 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:26,159 Speaker 2: What's up? And I don't have to piss? Thank you? 7 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:29,480 Speaker 1: Oh my Ben, you gotta take a shit, all right, 8 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:31,360 Speaker 1: So we're gonna jump straight into it. We got another 9 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:36,520 Speaker 1: voice memo today, Drumroe, please leave another voice memo. It's 10 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:39,680 Speaker 1: not that long, however, it should be good. Now listen 11 00:00:39,880 --> 00:00:43,640 Speaker 1: when y'all hear these stories, I'm just now hearing them too. Now, 12 00:00:43,760 --> 00:00:46,560 Speaker 1: when it's a paragraph and it's written or you know, typed, 13 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 1: I will skim through it before I do read it. 14 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:50,600 Speaker 1: But I'll be wanting to get my album. I'll be 15 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 1: wanting y'all to listen to my first reaction, you know, 16 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:57,760 Speaker 1: because it's the first reaction is always like the truest. 17 00:00:58,120 --> 00:00:59,959 Speaker 1: I don't be reading these stories, and I don't pick 18 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:02,880 Speaker 1: them based on how good they are. I just pick them, 19 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:05,280 Speaker 1: that's it. And then I hear them when i'm reading 20 00:01:05,280 --> 00:01:08,480 Speaker 1: them to y'all. So here we are, y'all voice memo. 21 00:01:09,360 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 2: It's just christ Off. I want to say I'm a 22 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:12,440 Speaker 2: big fan. 23 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:16,200 Speaker 3: Of you, been a fan since you was doing videos 24 00:01:16,280 --> 00:01:19,960 Speaker 3: in your living room with edges. But you grow up. 25 00:01:22,480 --> 00:01:25,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, motherfucker. I never did videos in my fucking living room. 26 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 1: You you did, I definitely did. But so what But 27 00:01:29,959 --> 00:01:32,759 Speaker 1: I talked about my head edges back then. 28 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 2: No you did, d I didn't. All right, It's all right, 29 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 2: all right, you right, I'm here for it. I'm definitely 30 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:40,560 Speaker 2: happy for all your success. 31 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:41,280 Speaker 1: Thank you. 32 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:43,560 Speaker 3: I wish and pray more for you than all your 33 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 3: heart hand can hold. So I just want to say 34 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:51,080 Speaker 3: you know that I love you, seceily and and honestly. 35 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 2: But I'm reaching out because I need you to fix 36 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:53,880 Speaker 2: my mess. 37 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, now you need me for something that you just 38 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:58,400 Speaker 1: came at my poor ass living room and my no 39 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 1: edges having ass back in the day. But go ahead, 40 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:03,200 Speaker 1: But I'm gonna go ahead and fix your mask because 41 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:05,559 Speaker 1: that they will. They will break it down and build 42 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:07,280 Speaker 1: you up, won't it. All Right, here we go. 43 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 2: I've been dating this girl. 44 00:02:09,240 --> 00:02:11,680 Speaker 3: I wasn't dating this girl for a few months, and 45 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 3: everything was beautiful, lovely. 46 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:15,920 Speaker 2: The DOPA means that you're fulfilling. 47 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 3: Everything was on the same frequency vibing, and in the 48 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 3: blake of an idol came crashing down. Very transparent, an 49 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:28,360 Speaker 3: honest person, and I'm quite direct. 50 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:30,799 Speaker 2: So I was up front of all my. 51 00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:35,760 Speaker 3: Flaws and my baggage, and I also, uh, you know, 52 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 3: let let it be known what my goals are. I'm 53 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:41,040 Speaker 3: very I have a vision, I have a program. I 54 00:02:41,120 --> 00:02:44,440 Speaker 3: never lied about who I was, who I am, you know, 55 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:47,200 Speaker 3: and things of that sort. So one of the flaws 56 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:49,920 Speaker 3: that I informed her about, when it began to show itself, 57 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:52,160 Speaker 3: she backed out. 58 00:02:52,720 --> 00:02:54,680 Speaker 2: I mean, she pulled the road from up under. 59 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 3: My feet and it just all came crashing down. And 60 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:02,360 Speaker 3: she basically he told me that she can't give me 61 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:05,440 Speaker 3: what I need, even though the things that she that 62 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:11,920 Speaker 3: I needed I informed her in the beginning. So I'm 63 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:16,520 Speaker 3: asking if I'm crazy for waiting for her. 64 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:19,440 Speaker 2: And wanting to. 65 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 3: Take time for myself and her takes time for herself 66 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:25,760 Speaker 3: and wait for. 67 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:29,240 Speaker 2: Her to become what I need. A part of me 68 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:34,080 Speaker 2: feels like that I was. I was, genuinely, I ain't gonna. 69 00:03:33,880 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 3: Say a part the whole part of me was genuinely 70 00:03:38,520 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 3: and sincerely in love with her, and I do see 71 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:45,680 Speaker 3: her a wife in her I wanted her to be 72 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:49,360 Speaker 3: my wife. We went as far as getting almost getting married, 73 00:03:49,640 --> 00:03:52,160 Speaker 3: and like I said, it all can't crash you down. 74 00:03:52,240 --> 00:03:58,200 Speaker 3: For her reasons and her pulling away. You feel what 75 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 3: I'm saying. I play a role in that I'm not saying, 76 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 3: and it's. 77 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:00,960 Speaker 2: All her doing. 78 00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 3: Kind of the reason she pulled away was due to 79 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 3: the things that I had already informed her about. I 80 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 3: am my room for wanting to wait around and continue 81 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:16,800 Speaker 3: to pour into myself, grow and evolve in all aspects 82 00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:19,719 Speaker 3: and wait for her to basically spin a. 83 00:04:19,720 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 2: Block on me. And I know that. You know I'm 84 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:25,240 Speaker 2: a traditional person. 85 00:04:26,040 --> 00:04:29,000 Speaker 3: You feel what I'm saying like I'm a traditional woman, 86 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:32,880 Speaker 3: you know. And I believe in love and I love love. 87 00:04:33,200 --> 00:04:35,720 Speaker 3: And when I know what I want, you feel me. 88 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:37,720 Speaker 3: I'm thirty one years old, I'll be thirty two and 89 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:39,400 Speaker 3: Desummer shout out to my set of service. 90 00:04:39,640 --> 00:04:42,680 Speaker 2: Oh so I'm you know, I know what I want 91 00:04:42,760 --> 00:04:43,440 Speaker 2: and she is that. 92 00:04:44,800 --> 00:04:49,520 Speaker 3: So should I just move on and just let her 93 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:51,920 Speaker 3: come to me? Because I'm also a hunter. I go 94 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:54,320 Speaker 3: after what I want and I'm not used to things 95 00:04:54,360 --> 00:04:57,000 Speaker 3: coming after me or things coming to me. 96 00:04:57,480 --> 00:04:58,799 Speaker 2: You know, I go after what I want. 97 00:04:58,920 --> 00:05:01,479 Speaker 3: So should I just move on and let her go 98 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 3: and just just put myself back out there with someone else? 99 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:13,200 Speaker 3: Or am I crazy for waiting around or waiting for 100 00:05:13,320 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 3: her to be what I need her to. 101 00:05:16,040 --> 00:05:17,840 Speaker 2: Be for me because she is what I want? 102 00:05:19,400 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 1: Okay? Yeah? I feel you even sound like this is 103 00:05:23,720 --> 00:05:26,200 Speaker 1: heavy for you, Like this is heavy on you and 104 00:05:27,200 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 1: like you're really really trying to figure it out. It 105 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:33,719 Speaker 1: definitely seems like it's a lot there. I want to 106 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 1: know what you're speaking of when you say she knew 107 00:05:37,880 --> 00:05:40,919 Speaker 1: what I was, she knew you know who I was? 108 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:43,120 Speaker 1: I you know, because it seems as if you were 109 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:46,679 Speaker 1: one with her. You seem like you're straightforward, you're blunting. 110 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:49,560 Speaker 1: You also communicated that to mean you're open with everything, 111 00:05:49,800 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: completely transparent and all aspects of this relationship, and it 112 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:59,120 Speaker 1: seems like with what was once agreed upon, something changed. 113 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:03,600 Speaker 1: She's second thought, you know, second having second thoughts and regretting, 114 00:06:04,240 --> 00:06:09,360 Speaker 1: you know, second guess and what's you know, what's going on? Yeah, 115 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 1: what you thought was salid? Yeah? I want to know, 116 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 1: you know, and let me know exactly what that is 117 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:20,800 Speaker 1: if you're okay with that? What were you or what 118 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:22,600 Speaker 1: you know? What are you? 119 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:23,240 Speaker 2: Or what you know? 120 00:06:23,279 --> 00:06:26,120 Speaker 1: What I'm saying and I'm just repeating it back to 121 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:31,920 Speaker 1: you how you you know, presented it to me. You 122 00:06:31,960 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 1: do know, things can change in relationships. Things may be overwhelming, 123 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:39,760 Speaker 1: whatever it is, whatever your past is or whatever, you know, 124 00:06:39,880 --> 00:06:42,359 Speaker 1: whether you want to run, you're a fucking fellon a 125 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:46,840 Speaker 1: strip of something, you know, a porn star, whatever it 126 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:47,240 Speaker 1: may be. 127 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:50,200 Speaker 4: We gotta that's that's the thing we need to know 128 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 4: to know, you know, we need to know what it 129 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:55,280 Speaker 4: is that she was accepting of. 130 00:06:55,640 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, because things change, Yeah. 131 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:01,799 Speaker 2: But do you feel like it's somebody else? Or yeah? 132 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:05,119 Speaker 1: Did you ever think of that? That's actually a good question. 133 00:07:05,200 --> 00:07:08,679 Speaker 1: My best friend, you know, she I wouldn't even wouldn't 134 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:10,960 Speaker 1: have even thought of that because I'm I'm trying to 135 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 1: piece together. I feel like we're talking to Kole's boo. 136 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:17,880 Speaker 1: But yeah, or you just probably you know, may not 137 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:20,480 Speaker 1: be comfortable enough to share that part of it. But 138 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:24,160 Speaker 1: I can't really advise you on whether to stay or 139 00:07:24,160 --> 00:07:25,920 Speaker 1: goal or to try to fix it or whatever. 140 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:27,880 Speaker 4: The most I can say is, you know, if a 141 00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:31,400 Speaker 4: person is saying they don't want to be there. 142 00:07:33,160 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 1: Say she ain't say that she she didn't want to 143 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:38,520 Speaker 1: be there. I guess that she's having second thoughts, like 144 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:40,240 Speaker 1: is communication? 145 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:42,720 Speaker 2: Well, I was just communicated, Like what are we doing? 146 00:07:42,920 --> 00:07:46,120 Speaker 2: You know? What's because like, are we're moving forward? All right? 147 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:46,640 Speaker 2: Work on it? 148 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 4: Like what's what's the deal? Can it be safe because 149 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:51,840 Speaker 4: it's no sitting around. We're not We're not sitting around 150 00:07:51,840 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 4: waiting for anybody. We're moving on and if that person 151 00:07:55,080 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 4: comes around before we end up with someone else, then okay, cool. 152 00:07:59,160 --> 00:08:02,840 Speaker 4: But I mean it's basically let's talk about it because 153 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 4: I'm not gonna sit here and wait for you. 154 00:08:04,960 --> 00:08:07,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not. I'm going to live my life. But 155 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 2: I think you should heal. 156 00:08:09,240 --> 00:08:12,360 Speaker 4: I think she really needs to heal from whatever it 157 00:08:12,400 --> 00:08:15,720 Speaker 4: is that they have or have if this person isn't 158 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:19,120 Speaker 4: showing them that they want to progress more. 159 00:08:20,280 --> 00:08:24,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're talking about marrying her, like you want 160 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:25,680 Speaker 1: this to be your wife. This is somebody, this is 161 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:27,160 Speaker 1: a life partner in your eyes. 162 00:08:27,240 --> 00:08:29,240 Speaker 2: So y'all need to really be having that conversation. 163 00:08:29,320 --> 00:08:31,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, because it just doesn't seem like you were on 164 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:33,320 Speaker 1: the right page. If you're telling me I'm on the 165 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:35,360 Speaker 1: same page. I'm sorry, it doesn't seem like you are 166 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:40,480 Speaker 1: on the same Shut the hell up, damn, it don't 167 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 1: seem like you two are on the same page. You know. 168 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:48,880 Speaker 1: If you're you're expressing these these feelings to me for 169 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:52,880 Speaker 1: this woman, that's the communication thing. Y'a gotta sit down 170 00:08:52,880 --> 00:08:54,360 Speaker 1: and I need to talk about that, and y'all need 171 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:57,840 Speaker 1: to do it quickly, you know, because time. Yeah, we 172 00:08:57,880 --> 00:09:00,800 Speaker 1: only got time, but we don't have time either, you know. 173 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:04,080 Speaker 1: And we shouldn't take time for granted, so many other 174 00:09:04,120 --> 00:09:06,520 Speaker 1: things that you guys could be doing together or a 175 00:09:06,559 --> 00:09:10,400 Speaker 1: part if that is what your heart desires, you know 176 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:12,480 Speaker 1: what I'm saying, So get on the same page. Put 177 00:09:12,520 --> 00:09:15,120 Speaker 1: some more meat on his bone if you're comfortable with 178 00:09:15,240 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 1: doing so. Because I can't fix your mess if you're 179 00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:21,280 Speaker 1: only give me a little bit of it, you know 180 00:09:21,280 --> 00:09:23,760 Speaker 1: what I mean, If you really really, I can, but 181 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:28,160 Speaker 1: I would rather be able to help you and the 182 00:09:28,320 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 1: entirety of what's going on. You know what I'm saying, 183 00:09:30,880 --> 00:09:33,360 Speaker 1: So just update me, reach back out, let me know. 184 00:09:33,720 --> 00:09:37,960 Speaker 1: And also this is important for people to know as well. 185 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:41,840 Speaker 1: When I'm helping you guys, or I'm fixing your mess, 186 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:44,320 Speaker 1: you can write me and tell me that you don't 187 00:09:44,360 --> 00:09:48,079 Speaker 1: want this story to air. If you really just really 188 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 1: need advice, you can do that as well, and say 189 00:09:51,760 --> 00:09:54,120 Speaker 1: I don't want this on the podcast because I. 190 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:56,560 Speaker 2: Have a lot of serious stories that I feel like. 191 00:09:56,640 --> 00:10:01,440 Speaker 1: You know, some people wouldn't even want exposed on a 192 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:05,400 Speaker 1: social platform. You know, their voices are being heard, and 193 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:07,880 Speaker 1: I always joke about it, but you know it's truth 194 00:10:07,920 --> 00:10:09,440 Speaker 1: in every joke. A lot of people don't want their 195 00:10:09,480 --> 00:10:11,720 Speaker 1: voices being heard because people know their voices, you know, 196 00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:15,000 Speaker 1: And a lot of people listen to Carefully Reckless every Wednesday, 197 00:10:15,040 --> 00:10:20,120 Speaker 1: so you can always, you know, say Jess, this is 198 00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:22,480 Speaker 1: just from me to you. If you can find it 199 00:10:22,520 --> 00:10:26,160 Speaker 1: in your heart to lend me some advice you know 200 00:10:26,160 --> 00:10:29,080 Speaker 1: what I'm saying, without putting it, without making it a 201 00:10:29,120 --> 00:10:34,480 Speaker 1: part of your platforms per podcasts, then I greatly appreciate that. 202 00:10:34,679 --> 00:10:36,840 Speaker 1: And depending on the severity of it, yes, I will 203 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:39,680 Speaker 1: help you if I do have time. So I'm for 204 00:10:39,800 --> 00:10:42,800 Speaker 1: sure if you love me, you'll listen to this commercial 205 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:47,920 Speaker 1: and then we'll be right back. We're moving on now. 206 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:50,640 Speaker 1: This is not a voicemail, though this is a long 207 00:10:50,720 --> 00:10:53,200 Speaker 1: ass too paragraphs, but I see a little bit of 208 00:10:53,440 --> 00:10:56,200 Speaker 1: punctuation marks in there, so we should be fine. 209 00:10:56,720 --> 00:10:58,240 Speaker 2: All right, Hey. 210 00:10:58,160 --> 00:11:00,240 Speaker 1: Jess, First off, I want to say that I'm a 211 00:11:00,320 --> 00:11:03,079 Speaker 1: huge fan for a long time, since the Facebook DS. Okay, 212 00:11:03,200 --> 00:11:06,000 Speaker 1: day one, what's going on? I'm reaching out because I 213 00:11:06,040 --> 00:11:08,440 Speaker 1: need you to fix my mess. I'm twenty five years old. 214 00:11:08,559 --> 00:11:12,400 Speaker 1: I just finished my career. You finished your career, Okay 215 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:17,120 Speaker 1: at twenty five? All right. I'm happily married and I 216 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:18,440 Speaker 1: have a wonderful husband. 217 00:11:18,440 --> 00:11:18,640 Speaker 5: I know. 218 00:11:18,720 --> 00:11:22,040 Speaker 1: That's why congratulation ons. We have been together for nine years, 219 00:11:22,040 --> 00:11:25,439 Speaker 1: married for five. This man is now. Okay, so you've 220 00:11:25,440 --> 00:11:26,920 Speaker 1: been with this niggas since you was I mean, you've 221 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 1: been with this man since she was sixteen. 222 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:29,560 Speaker 2: That's amazing. 223 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:31,959 Speaker 1: This man is not only a partner, but a provider 224 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:34,200 Speaker 1: as well. He takes care of me and of everything 225 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:36,360 Speaker 1: that needs to be taken care of. Oh, that's why 226 00:11:36,360 --> 00:11:40,880 Speaker 1: you ended your career regarding finances, Yes, he takes care 227 00:11:40,920 --> 00:11:44,679 Speaker 1: of everything. Now. Emotionally, I do think our relationship has 228 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 1: shifted a little bit to where I think we're both 229 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:52,680 Speaker 1: kind of comfortable. Hm. That's never good. I could say 230 00:11:52,760 --> 00:11:56,200 Speaker 1: our relationship is very mature. I don't want to say 231 00:11:56,240 --> 00:11:58,360 Speaker 1: that I'm bored, but it kind of seems like a 232 00:11:58,440 --> 00:12:02,280 Speaker 1: routine that we've been doing for so long. I don't 233 00:12:02,320 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 1: know why. Lately I've been wanting to feel an excitement 234 00:12:05,600 --> 00:12:10,200 Speaker 1: of dating. What I just seems kind of boring now, 235 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:12,000 Speaker 1: say this is why y'all need to send in these 236 00:12:12,080 --> 00:12:15,080 Speaker 1: voice notes the help, all right, I think she's trying 237 00:12:15,080 --> 00:12:17,560 Speaker 1: to say it just seems kind of boring now, But 238 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:20,840 Speaker 1: I just found out that I'm nine weeks pregnant. Okay, congratulations, 239 00:12:21,040 --> 00:12:22,200 Speaker 1: and he's over the moon. 240 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:23,439 Speaker 2: I know he's happy. 241 00:12:23,800 --> 00:12:27,040 Speaker 1: He is planning the baby shower already and looking for names. 242 00:12:27,080 --> 00:12:30,120 Speaker 1: I see the happiness enjoyed that this news has brought him. 243 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:33,280 Speaker 1: I would say that it's brought us closer to talk 244 00:12:33,360 --> 00:12:36,040 Speaker 1: more about the future with the baby. This would be 245 00:12:36,040 --> 00:12:39,400 Speaker 1: our first kid. Congrats. My issue is that I don't 246 00:12:39,440 --> 00:12:43,240 Speaker 1: feel excited. Oh, I have so many emotions, and it 247 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:45,439 Speaker 1: makes me feel guilty that I don't feel as happy 248 00:12:45,480 --> 00:12:48,880 Speaker 1: as he does. I am terrified to carry a baby 249 00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:52,080 Speaker 1: because it is such a big responsibility. I thought that 250 00:12:52,120 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 1: I would feel differently being pregnant, but now I just 251 00:12:54,760 --> 00:12:57,880 Speaker 1: feel like my life and freedom is over. I feel 252 00:12:57,920 --> 00:13:00,760 Speaker 1: like I can't even act the same anymore because I'm 253 00:13:00,760 --> 00:13:04,640 Speaker 1: gonna be someone's mother and I need to be more mature. 254 00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:07,160 Speaker 1: I don't know, I have some moments where I do 255 00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:10,160 Speaker 1: feel happy and excited that I'm able to experience this. 256 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:12,640 Speaker 1: I just need your point of view help me. I'm 257 00:13:12,679 --> 00:13:15,840 Speaker 1: a first time all well, first of all, to be 258 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:18,439 Speaker 1: able to say that is a blessing in itself, being 259 00:13:18,480 --> 00:13:20,440 Speaker 1: as though, you know, we have a lot of women 260 00:13:20,480 --> 00:13:22,839 Speaker 1: out here who can't conceive, who want babies, and there 261 00:13:22,920 --> 00:13:25,760 Speaker 1: they would give their right panky for a baby. You know, 262 00:13:25,880 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 1: they would give, you know, almost close to their life 263 00:13:29,520 --> 00:13:30,880 Speaker 1: to be able to produce life. 264 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:31,120 Speaker 5: You know. 265 00:13:31,200 --> 00:13:34,120 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna say congratulations, and then just for some people, 266 00:13:34,440 --> 00:13:38,440 Speaker 1: it's not easy. I know it's not easy. It's not 267 00:13:38,559 --> 00:13:43,319 Speaker 1: easy getting pregnant for some others. But I am very 268 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:47,120 Speaker 1: very happy for you. I do not want you to 269 00:13:47,160 --> 00:13:49,120 Speaker 1: be so hard on yourself. Oh this is this is 270 00:13:49,200 --> 00:13:51,960 Speaker 1: natural for a lot of first time moms, no matter 271 00:13:52,000 --> 00:13:54,840 Speaker 1: the age, no matter you know, whether you're young or older, 272 00:13:55,160 --> 00:13:58,400 Speaker 1: it's it's it could be very scary. You're blessed to 273 00:13:58,600 --> 00:14:04,760 Speaker 1: have a cope who actually is excited though, because imagine 274 00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:07,880 Speaker 1: being someone who has to do it on their own, 275 00:14:08,160 --> 00:14:09,880 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Although he can't carry the 276 00:14:09,880 --> 00:14:13,680 Speaker 1: baby for you, he can make it a lot easier. 277 00:14:13,840 --> 00:14:17,000 Speaker 1: You don't have to do it alone. I hate to 278 00:14:17,040 --> 00:14:18,640 Speaker 1: ask you, why are you going to keep it? Because 279 00:14:18,800 --> 00:14:23,560 Speaker 1: I imagine that you are. I would love you too again, 280 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:26,720 Speaker 1: but it's not my body and it's not your husband's body. 281 00:14:27,280 --> 00:14:29,400 Speaker 2: So how do you feel? 282 00:14:29,480 --> 00:14:32,800 Speaker 1: Overall? Are you religious at all? Do you pray about things? 283 00:14:33,480 --> 00:14:38,000 Speaker 1: That's it's eleven to eleven? Hey? Speaking of uh, you 284 00:14:38,040 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 1: know Brandon stuff. Are you religious at all? 285 00:14:42,040 --> 00:14:42,240 Speaker 4: You know? 286 00:14:42,360 --> 00:14:45,920 Speaker 1: Do you pray? Do you meditate? Do you you know? 287 00:14:46,960 --> 00:14:48,960 Speaker 1: Do you have a therapist? Is there someone that you 288 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:51,520 Speaker 1: feel that you could talk to you other than your 289 00:14:51,560 --> 00:14:55,200 Speaker 1: husband that will help you feel better about being a mom, 290 00:14:55,960 --> 00:14:57,280 Speaker 1: because that's important as well. 291 00:14:57,640 --> 00:15:00,480 Speaker 2: You know, there was no room issues. 292 00:15:00,520 --> 00:15:03,360 Speaker 4: Then yeah, she's just the first time mim' she's scared. 293 00:15:03,440 --> 00:15:05,480 Speaker 4: Oh let's go back, little boy, she's bored. 294 00:15:06,160 --> 00:15:08,080 Speaker 1: Hold up, hold up, I know this shit getting good, 295 00:15:08,080 --> 00:15:10,400 Speaker 1: but listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. 296 00:15:10,440 --> 00:15:14,760 Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen. Okay, So let's go 297 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:17,120 Speaker 1: back before we get to mommy world. Okay, you new 298 00:15:17,240 --> 00:15:20,560 Speaker 1: mommy world, first time mommy world. Let's say that. I'm 299 00:15:20,600 --> 00:15:24,760 Speaker 1: so excited for you, girl. I am just happy to 300 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:30,360 Speaker 1: hear this. However, prior to finding out that you're nine 301 00:15:30,360 --> 00:15:35,040 Speaker 1: weeks pregnant, you were getting bored in your marriage. And 302 00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:37,280 Speaker 1: you've been married for five years, you've been with him 303 00:15:37,320 --> 00:15:41,040 Speaker 1: for almost a decade, and you're twenty five. Answering me this, 304 00:15:41,080 --> 00:15:42,400 Speaker 1: Do you feel like you got married to it or 305 00:15:42,560 --> 00:15:46,440 Speaker 1: too early and it's nothing else? Being honest about it 306 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:49,160 Speaker 1: with me, or being honest about it in general. You know, 307 00:15:49,240 --> 00:15:52,160 Speaker 1: sometimes as women, we keep things bottled up, and that's 308 00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:55,480 Speaker 1: how we depress ourselves. We stress ourselves out, we lose weight, 309 00:15:55,560 --> 00:16:00,160 Speaker 1: you start losing confidence, you know, and just being in 310 00:16:00,280 --> 00:16:03,600 Speaker 1: our own heads. It's better to talk. It's better to communicate, 311 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:06,040 Speaker 1: you know. I don't care if you have a diary, 312 00:16:06,120 --> 00:16:09,640 Speaker 1: don't hold it in. Do you feel like you got 313 00:16:09,920 --> 00:16:12,040 Speaker 1: married too early? Is this something that you and your 314 00:16:12,080 --> 00:16:15,600 Speaker 1: husband talked about? Does he feel the same way. Have 315 00:16:15,760 --> 00:16:19,320 Speaker 1: you expressed to him that you feel bored? That you 316 00:16:19,400 --> 00:16:21,920 Speaker 1: felt bored? Does he feel like I said, does he 317 00:16:21,960 --> 00:16:25,080 Speaker 1: feel the same way? Did you have your eye on 318 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:28,280 Speaker 1: someone else before you were you know, before you discovered 319 00:16:28,280 --> 00:16:30,960 Speaker 1: you were pregnant, because you did say that you felt 320 00:16:31,360 --> 00:16:33,480 Speaker 1: the urge to date, to want to date. 321 00:16:33,720 --> 00:16:35,880 Speaker 4: So I wonder if she was talking about them dating 322 00:16:36,000 --> 00:16:37,800 Speaker 4: or her dating outside of them. 323 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:41,360 Speaker 1: Like like them being open no no, no, or just them 324 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:45,200 Speaker 1: going on dates more because with each other. Yes, yes, 325 00:16:45,240 --> 00:16:48,600 Speaker 1: because she did say it was routine right right? 326 00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:50,880 Speaker 2: Yeah? Is that things? 327 00:16:51,160 --> 00:16:51,360 Speaker 4: You know? 328 00:16:51,640 --> 00:16:59,120 Speaker 1: Definitely try a new thing, bucket lists. Yeah, it's time 329 00:16:59,160 --> 00:17:03,120 Speaker 1: to have fun, trap all that. Yeah, and you said 330 00:17:03,240 --> 00:17:07,800 Speaker 1: he is financially in doubt. You know, he takes care 331 00:17:07,840 --> 00:17:10,919 Speaker 1: of everything that needs to be taken care of, so 332 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:13,160 Speaker 1: you guys should travel more. I mean, is that something 333 00:17:13,160 --> 00:17:14,000 Speaker 1: that any guys are in. 334 00:17:14,760 --> 00:17:18,960 Speaker 4: It's crazy because she's pregnant now, so it's like, yeah. 335 00:17:19,040 --> 00:17:24,760 Speaker 1: But she look at sexy red doing whole performances, being 336 00:17:24,840 --> 00:17:28,679 Speaker 1: that ass, so shake that ass, how knees on the. 337 00:17:28,720 --> 00:17:30,160 Speaker 2: Flow, So you call it her sexy free? 338 00:17:30,280 --> 00:17:34,560 Speaker 1: No, I'm not, but no means am I not more 339 00:17:34,680 --> 00:17:38,000 Speaker 1: like sexy? No? I said she said, you said, now 340 00:17:38,119 --> 00:17:40,000 Speaker 1: she's pregnant, like they can't. 341 00:17:39,840 --> 00:17:41,280 Speaker 2: Treat it's not stopping sexy. 342 00:17:41,359 --> 00:17:47,000 Speaker 1: It ain't stopping sexy. She out barefoot just as pregnant, 343 00:17:48,400 --> 00:17:51,800 Speaker 1: her gene thongs on on the red wig and just 344 00:17:51,880 --> 00:17:55,320 Speaker 1: doing our things, just she has gene thongs, yes, because 345 00:17:55,320 --> 00:17:56,160 Speaker 1: they big. 346 00:17:56,640 --> 00:17:59,919 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, so don't put on your gene thongs. 347 00:18:00,119 --> 00:18:01,720 Speaker 4: Go ahead and go out and have a good time 348 00:18:01,800 --> 00:18:04,080 Speaker 4: before you your feat swelling. 349 00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:10,480 Speaker 1: Yes, girl, I uh, it's just community. Yeah, but I 350 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:13,440 Speaker 1: think you should tell me answer all those questions and 351 00:18:13,520 --> 00:18:15,159 Speaker 1: ask all those questions. 352 00:18:15,640 --> 00:18:16,400 Speaker 2: You can revisit. 353 00:18:16,640 --> 00:18:21,199 Speaker 1: Yeah, my point of view is just basking. This ambience 354 00:18:21,280 --> 00:18:22,600 Speaker 1: sounds like this excitement. 355 00:18:22,880 --> 00:18:25,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds like a really good uh. 356 00:18:25,240 --> 00:18:28,560 Speaker 1: Good relations It sounds like a great marriage. I know 357 00:18:28,800 --> 00:18:31,119 Speaker 1: every marriage has its ups and its downs. No marriage 358 00:18:31,119 --> 00:18:33,320 Speaker 1: is perfect, no, and we've seen that thanks to Will 359 00:18:33,359 --> 00:18:38,280 Speaker 1: and Jade. But yes we as you know, y'all be good. Yeah, 360 00:18:38,320 --> 00:18:40,280 Speaker 1: and y'all still young. I don't know how old. Yeah, 361 00:18:40,320 --> 00:18:45,600 Speaker 1: your husband is, but if he is your age, you know, y'all, 362 00:18:45,680 --> 00:18:47,840 Speaker 1: y'all still got a lot more life to live even 363 00:18:47,920 --> 00:18:50,760 Speaker 1: after that. Baby, girl, babies, I'm not gonna sit here 364 00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:52,920 Speaker 1: and tell you that they don't slow your life down. 365 00:18:52,960 --> 00:18:55,320 Speaker 1: But they don't stop your life, that's right. And you 366 00:18:55,440 --> 00:18:57,879 Speaker 1: already finished your career. So what what you got to do? 367 00:18:57,960 --> 00:18:59,000 Speaker 2: And baby, I don't have none? 368 00:18:59,080 --> 00:19:06,200 Speaker 1: So yeah, every night, yeah, that night, yeah, baby, look 369 00:19:06,480 --> 00:19:12,720 Speaker 1: outside every night in the alley. Yeah, okay, living in 370 00:19:12,760 --> 00:19:14,720 Speaker 1: the damn alley. You don't want to be like that. 371 00:19:15,200 --> 00:19:17,400 Speaker 1: Oh my god, the soud a damn name. All right, 372 00:19:18,040 --> 00:19:20,600 Speaker 1: never mind that that, And just like that, we've come 373 00:19:20,640 --> 00:19:23,360 Speaker 1: to the end of this episode. Her name I did 374 00:19:23,359 --> 00:19:30,360 Speaker 1: not say. I said Sashika. Okay, all right, so yeah, damn. 375 00:19:29,840 --> 00:19:30,880 Speaker 2: So what's that being said? 376 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:31,920 Speaker 1: What's that being said? 377 00:19:32,000 --> 00:19:32,359 Speaker 5: Y'all? 378 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:36,760 Speaker 1: Make sure that y'all sending voice notes. And again, like 379 00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:40,359 Speaker 1: I said, if there are any stories that you do 380 00:19:40,480 --> 00:19:45,720 Speaker 1: not want exposed on such a huge platform, like carefully Reckless, 381 00:19:45,840 --> 00:19:48,400 Speaker 1: which is a part of iHeart, and you know it's 382 00:19:48,440 --> 00:19:54,480 Speaker 1: promoted on bigger platforms, you can definitely just let me know, say, Jazz, Hey, uh, 383 00:19:54,560 --> 00:19:57,040 Speaker 1: my story is a little too specific and it's a 384 00:19:57,080 --> 00:19:59,320 Speaker 1: little too much going on for it to be plastered 385 00:19:59,320 --> 00:20:02,919 Speaker 1: all over the N that and all over other socials, 386 00:20:02,960 --> 00:20:06,120 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So I was like, if 387 00:20:06,119 --> 00:20:08,840 Speaker 1: you can fix my messages between us, and then yeah, boom, 388 00:20:08,920 --> 00:20:11,240 Speaker 1: and we can do it just like that, if I 389 00:20:11,280 --> 00:20:13,560 Speaker 1: can get to it, guys, because I am busy as 390 00:20:13,640 --> 00:20:17,159 Speaker 1: well in life, be life and for everybody, not just y'all. 391 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:20,640 Speaker 1: So in my deepest pan voice, me and Shana will 392 00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:24,800 Speaker 1: be out. Yes, my son is like a little bird. 393 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:26,160 Speaker 1: All right, we're gonna do it again. 394 00:20:28,320 --> 00:21:00,119 Speaker 5: All right, There we go, There we go, There we go. 395 00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:43,960 Speaker 1: Can't Fully Reckless is a production of iHeart Radio and 396 00:21:44,040 --> 00:21:47,400 Speaker 1: The Black Effect. 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