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Speaker 1: You're listening to mess.

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Speaker 2: Wow, ah, Sidney, you look really pretty today. Really, I

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Speaker 2: wish the listeners could see you. Oh my god, they

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Speaker 2: don't know what I've been through today or just last

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Speaker 2: night last night? Friends, what happened last night?

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Speaker 3: Oh? Okay, this we're starting off really strong with the Mess.

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Speaker 1: I saw you last night. Oh you didn't see me

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Speaker 1: when I got home?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, well, let me cross my legs.

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Speaker 1: What girl now?

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Speaker 3: TikTok is supposed to be getting banned, and I am

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Speaker 3: fully against it, except for the reason why I'm a

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Speaker 3: mess right now. I have been watching videos. Bad Bunny

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Speaker 3: came out with a song, so it's a d t MF.

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Speaker 3: It's a song, and it's about like I should have

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Speaker 3: took more photos, I should have kissed and hugged you more.

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Speaker 3: And people are just posting video of families and a

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Speaker 3: family member's friends, pets, of people who passed away, and

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Speaker 3: I'm sobbing.

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Speaker 1: I can't stop crying. I cried for an hour and

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Speaker 1: a half last night. Why not just stop watching the video? Stop?

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Speaker 1: I couldn't stop. I was stuck in a hole. You

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Speaker 1: ere just be in a hole, not a hole that

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Speaker 1: I put myself in a hole. Full of tears. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I put myself there. Oh they got a band take

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Speaker 1: Why are you crying?

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Speaker 3: Like shaking convulsively? Kids, I was crying. Yeah, girl, you

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Speaker 3: are funny. You did your big one with that.

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Speaker 1: It was so good.

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Speaker 3: And actually there's a TikTok of him like crying because

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Speaker 3: he's like, thank you, thank you for posting your loved ones,

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Speaker 3: your people, your pets.

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Speaker 2: Was he really crying or was he just squeezing his eyes?

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Speaker 2: He was crying so that a tear would fall out.

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Speaker 3: He's crying. Everybody's crying in the club. We're all crying

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Speaker 3: in the cleared We're all sad. Yeah, we're all sad.

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Speaker 3: So that's your mess that I mean, I have more mess.

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Speaker 3: But that's why it was nice of you saying that

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Speaker 3: I look good. But last night, baby, this morning I

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Speaker 3: had to put like little ice stuff on underneath my eyes.

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Speaker 2: How long were you watching these videos and crying?

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Speaker 1: I told you an hour and a half. Were you listening?

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Speaker 1: I am confusion? I am also confusion. Bad money. Why

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Speaker 1: would you do that to me? Sidney? You did that

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Speaker 1: to you? No, Marie, when's the last time you cried? Hmmm?

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Speaker 1: I have no idea, But when I do cry.

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Speaker 2: It feels like, you know, a release, Sure is a release,

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Speaker 2: like poo, like I took a poop. Yeah, but with tears. Yes,

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Speaker 2: I'm pooping through my eyes, yes, but I'm not. I

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Speaker 2: don't know, Sidney. This just feels like these are tears

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Speaker 2: you could have saved for something else else.

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Speaker 1: Nah Sis.

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Speaker 3: I think every month or so, I gotta have like

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Speaker 3: a random cry because you know how, I'm also dehydrated.

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Speaker 1: So I was surprised I was able to get any

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Speaker 1: of that out.

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Speaker 2: To be honest, while you're saying every month or so,

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Speaker 2: I feel like you cry every other day about something, Sydney.

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Speaker 2: You called me the other day you were crying, but

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Speaker 2: you also laughed away.

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Speaker 1: That's right.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, this is another mess that I have.

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Speaker 3: So I move into my beautiful new neighbor apark. Marie

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Speaker 3: has come over. We spend the night there twice. Yes,

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Speaker 3: we've been in the projector's situation, order food, all this stuff.

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Speaker 3: So I'm very happy to be there. I have a

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Speaker 3: nice little deli that's on the corner. So it's been

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Speaker 3: very windy, mind you, So I like stomp my little

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Speaker 3: feet all the way over there. I like this pineapple

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Speaker 3: spicy drink that's about eleven dollars.

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Speaker 2: Sidney loves a fusion gentrified white people juice. Yes, absolutely right, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's why I'm dehiped an eleven dollars.

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Speaker 1: And it's like, I don't know how many ounces, but

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Speaker 1: it's not enough. It's smaller like a thing of orange juice.

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Speaker 3: Yes, it is right, so I should be getting drop

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Speaker 3: of canna, but I want this.

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Speaker 2: Mysis needs a small business loan to buy these juice.

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Speaker 2: And she continues to buy this glass thing of juice.

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Speaker 1: Okay, boom. So I go in get the juice, I

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Speaker 1: get something else. I walk out. I'm listening to.

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Speaker 3: The podcast, literally listening to the podcast. Out of nowhere,

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Speaker 3: a big ass trash can hits me, knocks me down,

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Speaker 3: Juice splashes juice everywhere. People are walking over me, like

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Speaker 3: Beyonce and Kelly walked over Michelle and one oh six in.

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Speaker 1: Part can you keep up? No, no you can. I'm late,

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Speaker 1: sprawled out. I hit my elbow bat Juice is splashing

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Speaker 1: on me. Our voices are laughing, laughing, you were laughing.

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Speaker 1: It was like you were laughing at me while this

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Speaker 1: is happening. Then a man from across the street bronto.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, are you okay? And then he's like

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Speaker 1: I saw when it hits you. And he's trying to

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Speaker 1: pick me up, and I said, get off of me.

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Speaker 1: I'm fine, but I was like, damn my juice. So

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Speaker 1: I go back in juices everywhere.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, hey, I just I just fell in front

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Speaker 3: of your establishment.

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Speaker 1: Can I get another juice?

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Speaker 3: There's a big ass sign that's like no refunds, none

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Speaker 3: of that, no jake, bad take. He's like, no, I

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Speaker 3: have to I have to charge you if you want

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Speaker 3: to get another one.

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Speaker 1: I said, are you serious? I just moved here. I

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Speaker 1: came here every day. There's no like like a good neighbor.

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Speaker 1: This bodega is here. No no, no girl.

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Speaker 3: So then he they they he speaks the language to

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Speaker 3: another guy who works there. The guy runs out and

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Speaker 3: sees the whole scene and he comes back, glass.

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Speaker 1: And juice all over the front. N it looks like

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Speaker 1: she took a tumble. I think he said that his language.

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Speaker 1: And the guy's like, so, I'm gonna charge you five dollars.

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Speaker 2: So now it's a sixteen dollar tiny juice. I think

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Speaker 2: the universe was telling you that juice no more.

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Speaker 3: I call you I'm crying, crying, crying, laughing, crying, and

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Speaker 3: I feel like you were crying with me. But yeah,

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Speaker 3: that was my message. It was I took a tumble,

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Speaker 3: it hit me, and then I come back out, it

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Speaker 3: falls again and then it starts following me. I took

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Speaker 3: a video of it just so people. I'm not making

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Speaker 3: this up. We're gonna add it to the We're gonna

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Speaker 3: put it in the dump.

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Speaker 1: I sent it to you.

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Speaker 2: I saw it, like, Sydney, this is something. What shoes

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Speaker 2: were you wearing when you couldn't? It was these booths,

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Speaker 2: these these boots are not made for walking.

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Speaker 3: Baby, the naked, the fake naked woof the naked wolf do. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: so I've been through it, That's what I'm saying. You're like,

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Speaker 3: I cry once every few That's not true, Sydney. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it's okay to be you a pisces too. Do you

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Speaker 3: want some of my tears?

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Speaker 4: Friend?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 3: No, but I have a glass of water. Cheers. Everybody

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Speaker 3: pick up a glass of water and cheers. Every time

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Speaker 3: you hear something messy, cheers get hydrated. Oh that guess

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Speaker 3: is plastic a smr. Are we doing bad? We can't

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Speaker 3: afford glass here?

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Speaker 1: It's not a glass. This Glas is Marie. What's up

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Speaker 1: with you? How you doing? Okay? So I'm doing swell. Sis.

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Speaker 2: I would like to share some mess that I overheard

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Speaker 2: this week.

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Speaker 3: Okay, overheard overheard imported mess.

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Speaker 2: Friend of a friend Okay, in a relationship with this

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Speaker 2: guy Okay, goes home for the weekend. Huh, and usually

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Speaker 2: messages their boyfriend to say, Hey, I'll be back at

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Speaker 2: this time on this day on whatever. For whatever reason,

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Speaker 2: wanted to surprise her boo this random week. So she

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Speaker 2: gets there, she like hides all her stuff.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's not there.

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Speaker 2: She hears him come in, jumps in the bedroom closet

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Speaker 2: to hide so she can be like surprise.

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Speaker 1: Uh huh.

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Speaker 2: The boyfriend comes in with another woman, No, now.

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Speaker 1: With another woman.

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Speaker 2: The friend in the closet is too stun to speak, right.

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Speaker 2: They come into the bedroom, they sit on their bed

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Speaker 2: in their outside clothes.

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Speaker 1: Now that is the offense. That's where you call the

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Speaker 1: cops for sure. Girl, This girl.

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Speaker 2: Is in the closet in shock because first of all,

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Speaker 1: You and why is there some hole here?

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Speaker 2: And why are y'all in the bedroom again in the

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Speaker 2: outside clothes, yeting on a bed. She's standing there, like

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Speaker 2: trying to listen and trying to silence her phone and

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Speaker 2: trying to like make sure that I don't know she

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Speaker 2: jumps out at the right time. She's gonna jump out.

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Speaker 2: She was thinking, I think that was what the plan was.

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Speaker 2: And they're just talking. They're in the room talking for

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Speaker 2: like ten to fifteen minutes. Finally this person in the

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Speaker 2: closet has had enough and she sends a text like.

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Speaker 1: Hey, on my way, be there soon.

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Speaker 2: She said that they like didn't make out, they didn't

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Speaker 2: hook up, but it felt like there was something in

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Speaker 2: the air. Yeah, it was some tension. It was like

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Speaker 2: she was waiting for him to make a move. He

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Speaker 2: was waiting for her to make a move. Turns out

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Speaker 2: this is the person's ex girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: No, the ex.

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Speaker 2: Girlfriend the girlfriend from before. Right, is the boyfriend a lesbian?

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Speaker 1: Oh, because that feels like that happens to lesbians a lot.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll be in the bed with inside globe and no,

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Speaker 2: we just still talked to our exes and you know,

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Speaker 1: I don't know about their life, but I hear it often.

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Speaker 1: How many ex'es are you still cool with?

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Speaker 4: That?

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Speaker 1: Are women? Yes? Oh, we're not talking about the I'm like, ah,

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Speaker 1: I think about two two or three that means four. No,

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Speaker 1: two or three in lesbian means four. Right.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, the guy gets the text and immediately everybody jumps

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Speaker 2: up and now they's scurrying to get out and blah

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Speaker 2: blah blah blah blah like it's given guilty.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's giving.

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Speaker 2: You probably shouldn't be here, You definitely shouldn't be in

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Speaker 2: this room. No, so he jumps up, She gets up,

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Speaker 2: and he walks her to the parking lot, to the car.

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Speaker 2: My friend's friend jumps out of the closet and also

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Speaker 2: runs out of the apartment because now it's got to

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Speaker 2: look like I just got here.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, now I'm acting. Now I'm an act tour.

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Speaker 1: That sounds like a fun day. It's exciting. Is it

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Speaker 1: more exciting than getting hit about trash can?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Oh I care about that. Trash can trash can hate crime.

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Speaker 3: I thought we moved on you ever, just be like

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Speaker 3: having the same type of day every day, Shake it

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Speaker 3: up a bit, get hit by a trash can come

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Speaker 3: in and your your your boyfriend is bringing in an

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Speaker 3: ex that a live.

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Speaker 1: And what would you do? Would I jump out? Would you?

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Speaker 2: Would you I mean, I feel like Sidney, if you

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Speaker 2: were hiding in the closet, your phone would start ringing NonStop.

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Speaker 2: And I mean Sidney would be on FaceTime in the closet.

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Speaker 3: No, no, I let me tell you what happened. You

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Speaker 3: know what would like, let's set it off, said the alarm.

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Speaker 3: I would have gas, you know, have really bad flatulence.

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Speaker 2: Girl, Sydney, you have we gotta change this game narrative.

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Speaker 1: It's just what it is. It's been happening. I don't smet. Well,

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Speaker 3: Over and I didn't know that it came out and

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Speaker 3: Amina was like, what was that?

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Speaker 2: No, Amina, amena, I mean a sentence, go to sentences?

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Speaker 2: Did somebody fart?

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Speaker 3: And then you were like, it'smell like boiled eggs in here?

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Speaker 3: And I was like, I did have too boiled eggs

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Speaker 1: That's too many eggs. That's too many eggs, mama.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So my gas would be the number thing, that

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Speaker 3: number one thing. That'd be like somebody in here or

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Speaker 5: Now?

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Speaker 2: Are you a silent but deadly or are you like

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Speaker 2: a question mark fark girl?

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Speaker 1: Like a worm.

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Speaker 3: It's a it's a mixed bag. You never know what

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I think I think waiting in the closet for what

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Speaker 1: Oh? No, no, no, hello, I what's going on?

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Speaker 2: Knock knock, so mighty sleep in man, mabitbbed.

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Speaker 3: I would have started singing that. Actually, I would have

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Speaker 1: Trapped in the what would you have done?

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Speaker 2: Part of me would want to jump out as soon

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Speaker 1: But you're doing it for the plot, so you're gonna.

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Speaker 2: Wait, right, But the other part of me would want

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Speaker 2: to know what was gonna happen before I jumped out,

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Speaker 2: So yeah, fifty chance of h well, well, well what

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Speaker 2: have we got here? Just to see their faces? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but I don't know, girl, I think that, uh maybe

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Speaker 2: I would have made a noise. You know, my sins,

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Speaker 1: I think that's crazy.

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Speaker 3: That's crazy work to bring somebody into your home. Even

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Speaker 3: have they learned nothing from Loraina Bobbit? No, people need

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Speaker 3: to know their history. Mama said, Chop Chop were not

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Speaker 3: playing these games no more.

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Speaker 2: I think that's the thing that we got to take

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Speaker 2: back in twenty twenty five. What do we have to say?

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Speaker 2: Men are not afraid of them scared of us. They're

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Speaker 2: not afraid of us. They haven't been afraid of us.

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Speaker 2: They meet us online and they be like, come over

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Speaker 2: and I'll cook, And it's like I should come over

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Speaker 2: there and murder your plants, your family, cut up your

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Speaker 2: Chelsea boots, Like why are you so confident to be like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: come to the crib.

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Speaker 3: I mean, for me, when I was dating guys, it

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Speaker 3: was always like the marryo out for me.

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Speaker 1: I'm taking a towel. I'm taking They.

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Speaker 2: Only got one towel and they haven't watched it since

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Speaker 2: nineteen ninety nine.

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Speaker 1: Why are you taking a take.

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Speaker 3: Something something so they know, like, hey, someone can steal,

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Speaker 1: Girl.

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Speaker 2: I'm not taking a towel, the towel that they used

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Speaker 2: to wipe their face, their butt, their hands, their their goochs.

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Speaker 2: I'm taking no man's towel.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what kind of men you be around,

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Speaker 3: but the ones I had, they had multiple towels to do.

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Speaker 1: They let me it was a towel as well.

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Speaker 2: Girl, you think it was multiple towels. They just flipped

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Speaker 2: it upside down and you know it's rubbing the talent

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Speaker 2: seeing if it's crunchy or not. I'm like, crunchy towels.

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Speaker 1: This is really if this is a really clean towel. Girl,

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Speaker 1: you ever put your face right and you're like, if

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Speaker 1: you're a man and you're if you're a man and

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Speaker 1: you're listening to this, please tell me how often you

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Speaker 1: wash your towels. Also, how many towels do you have?

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Speaker 3: You gotta have more towels, guys, everybody, This is for

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Speaker 3: anyone the amount of to because you have to assume

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Speaker 1: But also what if you have guests. Have you ever

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Speaker 1: had a guest come over and you're like, damn, I

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Speaker 1: think I might gotta have to run out to Target

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Speaker 1: to get you something that you know what? Actually I

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Speaker 1: was gonna use this for me. But you can have

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Speaker 1: a friend. I don't.

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Speaker 3: I I have I have like Mitch mac towels before

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Speaker 3: I've done that where it's like nothing is together, ill set.

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Speaker 3: But one time, oh it's bad. I had to come over.

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Speaker 3: I had to give them a dish rack to.

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Speaker 1: Wipe their bodies. Who was showing at your house? Hey?

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Speaker 3: You just you know, I used to work at the club,

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Speaker 3: so like all types of club people and you know,

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Speaker 3: not even care. They just needed something scrubbing a body

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Speaker 3: just to get the you know, the glore.

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Speaker 2: The club dust, club dust, club dust. The title clip

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Speaker 2: dust club dust.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so wait, hold on, club can also be ketmye keteminees.

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Speaker 3: Also club club dust, yes, m d m A club dust.

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Speaker 1: Yes.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So that happened to your friend. What advice did

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Speaker 3: you give? Well, it had already happened.

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Speaker 1: It already happened.

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Speaker 2: It had already happened. Like what advice can I give?

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Speaker 2: Dump him?

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Speaker 3: I mean, what would make you stay in a situation

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Speaker 2: I guess it depends on how nice the apartment is,

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Speaker 2: stop it how you know, but that's where you live

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Speaker 2: affects how you feel it is.

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Speaker 1: It's like, is it a too bad? Too bad? I mean, well,

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Speaker 1: if you were in one of the rooms, I'll just

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Speaker 2: I dated a guy who had a cute loft and

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Speaker 2: all like I'm gonna have to stay a little bit

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Speaker 2: expect if it's a nice place in a nice neighborhood.

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm not mad.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes you last stay a little bit longer, just while

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Speaker 2: you get your stuff.

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Speaker 1: Together, while you get yourself.

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Speaker 3: That's probably that's the reason why someone would let somebody

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Speaker 3: go down. They're like, well, I'm not going to leave

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Speaker 3: them because I don't have an apartment yet.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to break up. I gotta have housing

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Speaker 1: over everything. How we learned here and on this pod,

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Speaker 1: housing first, housing first integrity set, that's no third fourth,

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Speaker 1: what second housing first housing eating? Oh, housing eating second

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Speaker 1: integrity third. Yes, absolutely, I'm not mad at that.

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Speaker 2: I'm not mad at it either, But I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I feel like that's the thing. Cost of living is

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Speaker 2: going up. Yes, it's a lot of couples that can't

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Speaker 2: afford to break up because they can't you know, they

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Speaker 2: need a gap retour or they can't afford to live

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Speaker 3: Girl me, you know what happened to me. My ex

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Speaker 3: had broke up with me. I had to stayed with

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Speaker 3: her for a whole month before you can leave, before

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Speaker 3: I could leave. That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: And we in the bed like, same bed, same bed,

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Speaker 1: same bed, same b Yeah, what are you gonna do?

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Speaker 1: I'm not sleeping on the couch. No, you broke up

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Speaker 1: with me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my back is not also gonna be broken because

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Speaker 2: of this exactly.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, You're just gonna have to deal. Damn. You

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Speaker 1: should have thought about that before you broke up with me.

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Speaker 1: Were y'all spooning?

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Speaker 3: I'm not really a spooner anyway, So are you not? No, Marie,

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Speaker 3: you've slept it in the bed with me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't spoon me because you know I don't

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Speaker 2: like spoon Oh, but I mean my body kind of

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Speaker 2: does what it?

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Speaker 1: What it does? You tell me all the time you

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Speaker 1: wake up, Sydney, you cannot sleep, like starting kicking me,

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Speaker 1: Sydney be scratching me with her toenails. Its lot, Yo.

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Speaker 3: My somebody that I'm with was like, Yo, I don't

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Speaker 3: know how anybody sleeps with you.

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Speaker 1: You're you're you're insane with it. You be voging in

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Speaker 1: the bed but snooze, but yeah, you be flailing. So Marie,

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Speaker 1: I have another I have another mess for you for me.

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Speaker 1: Tell me what you think? Okay, you know, so you

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Speaker 1: know I will you.

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Speaker 3: Know, I'm not gonna nea no names, but uh, a

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Speaker 3: friend of ours got a calendar, made a calendar for

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Speaker 3: me with all of like my close friends. Yeah, I

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Speaker 3: mean she threw some people in there and I was like,

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Speaker 3: who is this? But she reached out to our friends

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Speaker 3: and everybody's sent a photo. First of all, I have

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Speaker 3: an issue when somebody is asking for a photo. Everybody's

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Speaker 3: gotta be aesthetically pleasing, the background, everything, don't just give anything.

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Speaker 3: The pictures that I got, I did like some of them,

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Speaker 3: but the other no, I was.

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Speaker 1: I was worried. I was worried. I was like, what

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Speaker 1: if I passed away and this is the ship that

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Speaker 1: you're sending for the power point that's gonna be like

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Speaker 1: above my casket?

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Speaker 3: How fucking dare you? You want a casket PowerPoint? If

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Speaker 3: you could project it on the casket. I the casket,

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Speaker 3: that might be dope. If I get an all white

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Speaker 3: casket and then you just project the pictures on top

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Speaker 3: of it, that might be sick.

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Speaker 1: Okay, If anybody's taking notes.

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Speaker 2: Please add this to since since will back up, please

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Speaker 2: add this to Sydney's Witch.

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Speaker 1: I was some of the photos, I was like, who

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Speaker 1: are all these people cross. I don't need all of these.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy. What month were you most disappointed in?

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Speaker 3: I forgot, but I'm gonna write it down and i'll

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Speaker 3: let you know then. The then the other thing was

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Speaker 3: reached out to a friend. A friend just didn't turn

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Speaker 3: it in, And then I confronted the friend and I

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Speaker 3: was like, Yo, what's up? Why you didn't send the photos?

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Speaker 3: Just like I was busy every time she messaged me.

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Speaker 1: I was busy. I was like, really because I see.

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Speaker 3: You, I see how you work what And then she's like,

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Speaker 3: we're friends in real life, like you don't need a photo,

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Speaker 3: And I was like, excuse me, am, I am I

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Speaker 3: wilding out for feeling the way I feel.

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Speaker 2: No, I think it's justified. I think it's definitely justified.

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Speaker 2: It's twenty twenty five. We all have favorite photos of

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Speaker 2: ourselves on our phones. We all have thirty thousand pictures.

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Speaker 2: It's sixteen thousand videos, Like.

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Speaker 3: The person hurt a lot of photos because just in case,

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Speaker 3: I'm like, every time there's a birthday that or like

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Speaker 3: something reminds me of that, I'll like send to a person.

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Speaker 2: Like yeah look at this, Yeah this is cheery cabag

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Speaker 2: that person must be upset with you, or maybe they

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Speaker 2: had they lost their phone and they had to get

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Speaker 2: a new one and there's not no picture. I don't know,

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Speaker 2: I have no idea. Or maybe you outshine them in

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Speaker 2: every single photo.

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Speaker 3: I too, I'm fucking missing your tooth on the side.

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Speaker 3: And that's the other thing.

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Speaker 1: People were sending photos and I'm like, I don't know

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Speaker 1: if I'll look good on this.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but when you ask somebody to send a picture

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Speaker 2: of you and them, they will send a picture that

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Speaker 2: they look the best.

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Speaker 3: And that is mess. We both have to be eating.

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Speaker 3: It can't just be one person, Like how hard is it?

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Speaker 3: How hard is it to tear up a photo?

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00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:22,879
Speaker 1: Girl? How hard is Hitney? Please? What you are my

440
00:22:23,040 --> 00:22:27,359
Speaker 1: most photogenic friend? It's saying you are. That's not true.

441
00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:29,320
Speaker 2: That is true because there's a million pictures of me.

442
00:22:29,359 --> 00:22:31,600
Speaker 2: Where I look, I'll be like, wow, is that how

443
00:22:31,720 --> 00:22:32,760
Speaker 2: round my head is?

444
00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:37,280
Speaker 1: Damn? Where is my round head? Where is my hairline? Here?

445
00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:40,440
Speaker 1: Oh my god? How many chins do I need to

446
00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:41,280
Speaker 1: be alive?

447
00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:41,720
Speaker 4: Maria?

448
00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:44,520
Speaker 2: It's not a lie I've seen. I'm a city. You

449
00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:47,959
Speaker 2: are my most photo Jennick friend.

450
00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:50,399
Speaker 3: And you know on the carousel I'm gonna post pictures

451
00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:51,400
Speaker 3: where I look insane.

452
00:22:51,640 --> 00:22:55,080
Speaker 2: Please do please do it, because the people don't believe

453
00:22:55,119 --> 00:23:00,520
Speaker 2: they exist for you to be like, ah, why would

454
00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:02,639
Speaker 2: you send this picture? People just trying to find a

455
00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:04,400
Speaker 2: picture where they can they can keep.

456
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:04,840
Speaker 1: Up with you.

457
00:23:05,280 --> 00:23:10,280
Speaker 2: Stop and realistically, you know, sometimes you're like, wow, I

458
00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:12,640
Speaker 2: look hot, I look amazing, I look fantastic today. I've

459
00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:14,760
Speaker 2: never looked better, And then someone takes a picture of you,

460
00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:16,280
Speaker 2: and you'd be like, am I ugly?

461
00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:17,680
Speaker 1: Every single time?

462
00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:21,159
Speaker 3: I think what it is is some people are not

463
00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:23,840
Speaker 3: holding the camera. I don't understand these people who'll be

464
00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:27,720
Speaker 3: put in a camera this low? What is this week?

465
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 3: You're underneath? You're underneath my chin? That's what you are?

466
00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:32,920
Speaker 1: Well, hold on, let me take a picture from below?

467
00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:35,159
Speaker 1: And I don't like it? Should we try? Should we

468
00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:39,560
Speaker 1: do it? Take one low okay, and then take one high? Oh,

469
00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:42,480
Speaker 1: already so much better? Yeah, high is just better. It's

470
00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:43,520
Speaker 1: so much better. Yeah.

471
00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:46,840
Speaker 3: I think everyone should take a little like photography class.

472
00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 1: Everybody.

473
00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:50,560
Speaker 3: Everyone should take a photography one on one class and

474
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:54,680
Speaker 3: just see and just see what angles are lighting and care.

475
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:56,480
Speaker 3: You have to care. If you don't want to take

476
00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:58,880
Speaker 3: the photo, I'd rather be like nah, and I'll set

477
00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:01,200
Speaker 3: up a little tripod to situation. I put a little

478
00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:03,239
Speaker 3: cup and put the phone on top of it. I

479
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:05,560
Speaker 3: can make shift some shit because don't be taking some

480
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:07,680
Speaker 3: photo and it's like there you go.

481
00:24:08,320 --> 00:24:10,440
Speaker 1: Do you hate me? Are you mad at me? Are

482
00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:10,840
Speaker 1: we fighting?

483
00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:12,679
Speaker 2: Also, if I ask you to take a photo of me,

484
00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:15,400
Speaker 2: that means you gotta take like six pictures of me.

485
00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:20,640
Speaker 3: If I say six, that means minimum minimum six minimum

486
00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:21,960
Speaker 3: sex whate means ten.

487
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:22,880
Speaker 1: I agree.

488
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:25,960
Speaker 3: If you really about if you are really about that person,

489
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:28,439
Speaker 3: you're gonna go all out. You're gonna want the photo.

490
00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:31,000
Speaker 3: But then, but then I want to hit you with

491
00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:34,920
Speaker 3: some other real shit. After ten, you should have gotten

492
00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:38,520
Speaker 3: what you've gotten. You should if we into the like twenty.

493
00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:42,040
Speaker 3: If we're taking twenty photos and it's still not right, baby,

494
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:43,959
Speaker 3: you're gonna have to talk to Jesus. Well, that's up

495
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:46,040
Speaker 3: with God. God is not. It's not for you.

496
00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:48,480
Speaker 1: That's up. You gotta talk to God and doctor Miami.

497
00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:49,600
Speaker 1: I agree with you.

498
00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:52,160
Speaker 2: But if you're taking a picture of somebody and you're

499
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:55,440
Speaker 2: taking a bunch, you gotta say something while you're taking

500
00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:59,119
Speaker 2: up shit. I need to hear me up a little bit.

501
00:24:59,560 --> 00:25:01,920
Speaker 2: You're like, Oh, I agree.

502
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:05,600
Speaker 3: I think that's silently taking a photo, not giving directions.

503
00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:06,920
Speaker 1: That's out. That's last year.

504
00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:09,840
Speaker 3: This year, we're giving directions, we're hyping people up, we're

505
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:12,600
Speaker 3: getting involved. If you can't do any of that, get away.

506
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 3: That's why I stop asking strangers to take photos.

507
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 2: What is worse someone silently taking a photo of you

508
00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:21,400
Speaker 2: or having silent sex with somebody.

509
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 3: Ooh, I'm gonna say it's worse. I'm going to say

510
00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:26,680
Speaker 3: they are the same.

511
00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:29,040
Speaker 1: Oh, yes, they are the same.

512
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:32,120
Speaker 3: Why how do I know if I'm not if I'm

513
00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 3: doing a good job, if you're not saying anything with

514
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:38,440
Speaker 3: sex and photo sex and photo.

515
00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:40,359
Speaker 1: Silent sex, I think is worse.

516
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:45,400
Speaker 2: No, silent sex is worse because it's like, why are

517
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:45,920
Speaker 2: you right?

518
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:47,399
Speaker 1: All I can hear is your breath.

519
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:49,960
Speaker 3: But sometimes I want to also put that out there

520
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:52,960
Speaker 3: because you know, I've been I've been out there, I've

521
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:56,320
Speaker 3: had I've had a time. I'm retired now, but i've

522
00:25:56,359 --> 00:26:00,359
Speaker 3: been out there some people. No, I don't want you're

523
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:01,640
Speaker 3: talking anything that you say.

524
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:06,359
Speaker 1: It's weird, like how it feel inside, what it's inside.

525
00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:08,679
Speaker 2: Like that, how it feels inside, how it feel inside?

526
00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:10,880
Speaker 2: Saying that a man, how.

527
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:11,439
Speaker 1: It feel inside?

528
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:11,640
Speaker 2: Man?

529
00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 1: Feel that? First of all, how am I supposed to

530
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:16,720
Speaker 1: know how it feel inside? You're inside me? Will you

531
00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:18,200
Speaker 1: how I feeling?

532
00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:18,560
Speaker 4: Side?

533
00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:22,720
Speaker 3: Yes, exactly. And then it's weird. It's sometimes it's weird

534
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 3: as no as lesbian. Every single time me asking the

535
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:29,680
Speaker 3: person how does it feel? It's like it's not real,

536
00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:32,800
Speaker 3: so like it's not real, it's not but it is

537
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:38,120
Speaker 3: the no, the feeling like obviously it's like a connection thing.

538
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:41,760
Speaker 3: It's not just like someone being inside, but asking someone

539
00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 3: who has a strap on, how does it feel?

540
00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:44,719
Speaker 4: Is?

541
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:48,320
Speaker 3: I mean, I guess we're getting it's crazy work that

542
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:54,720
Speaker 3: is also acting it feels good? No, they always say

543
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:57,439
Speaker 3: it's amazing. Well, it's like, how do you know if

544
00:26:57,520 --> 00:26:58,680
Speaker 3: it's tight or what?

545
00:26:58,800 --> 00:26:58,960
Speaker 1: Like?

546
00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:07,400
Speaker 3: I guess because it's not falling out something that's around there.

547
00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 2: You're like, oh, day, it's maybe it's well, I don't know,

548
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:14,960
Speaker 2: maybe it's too wet, maybe it's well, what what whis

549
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:16,560
Speaker 2: a dollar?

550
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:40,399
Speaker 1: Oh? Okay, so I have I have some topic that

551
00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:41,879
Speaker 1: kind of leads into this.

552
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:43,879
Speaker 2: You could have just let into a baby. Yeah, this

553
00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 2: is how transitions work. Beg you, Sidney. We've been doing

554
00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:52,160
Speaker 2: podcasts together. For like seventeen years and every time okay,

555
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:55,560
Speaker 2: you know what nobody say, Well tell them how you feel.

556
00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:57,639
Speaker 2: Get off podcasts. I feel, you know, I like to

557
00:27:57,760 --> 00:27:59,760
Speaker 2: just be like did you did? Like roll into it.

558
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:02,720
Speaker 3: That's why we different, and that's they should get best

559
00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:03,439
Speaker 3: of both worlds.

560
00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 1: You know what they should, and they do. They thank

561
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:07,080
Speaker 1: a friend. Okay.

562
00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 3: While I was crying last night, then I got into

563
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:16,400
Speaker 3: like the funny stuff, the funny video. This one creator

564
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:19,880
Speaker 3: was saying that a lot of women are having trouble

565
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:25,600
Speaker 3: with men because some of them are gay. The women

566
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:28,560
Speaker 3: are gay, okay, and that's why they're having some It's

567
00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:31,719
Speaker 3: the same way we were like men, they're having all

568
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:33,600
Speaker 3: these issues with women because they're gay.

569
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 1: He flipped it.

570
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 3: He said, no, no, no, no, He's like, I write a

571
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 3: tweet where it's like a lot of the women are

572
00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 3: dl and they're not coming out and so they're dating

573
00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 3: these men and then that's not who they really want

574
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 3: to be or they're just not connecting. So he said,

575
00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 3: he's like it's time for the women to come out.

576
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:50,959
Speaker 3: He said, you keep talking about all these problems with

577
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 3: these men. It might be useless, might be you sexually.

578
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, but like, what if I'm I'm not attracted

579
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 2: to women, and I'm not I've never been a lesbian.

580
00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 2: But I'm just saying, I'm just saying, what if that's

581
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 2: not that's not what I want. But you're saying that

582
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:15,640
Speaker 2: it's not working because that is what I want. How

583
00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 2: am I supposed to know that that's what I'm supposed to do.

584
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:21,400
Speaker 2: You're saying, just try it, Just do it, Marie.

585
00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:25,400
Speaker 3: I've known you for years. You are straight than you are. Hey,

586
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 3: y'all be out here, DM and me, So, like, what's

587
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:28,520
Speaker 3: up with Marie?

588
00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:30,840
Speaker 1: What do you mean? What's up with her? She is Haitian,

589
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 1: she is, and she is she is very straight, and

590
00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 1: if she was gay, she would be with me. No,

591
00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:41,520
Speaker 1: come on now, I'm irresistible.

592
00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:49,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's like he he I think he kind

593
00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:53,520
Speaker 3: of is making some of a valid point. He's like,

594
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 3: but he's like, women have been so like controlled and

595
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:03,720
Speaker 3: manipulated with her sexuality and like religion, and it's it's

596
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:04,960
Speaker 3: the way it affects.

597
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 1: Men, it affects women too. Yeah, so going gay in

598
00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:11,520
Speaker 1: twenty five you don't have to go gay.

599
00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:14,000
Speaker 3: But he's just saying that it's it's so easy to

600
00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 3: be like, the men are gay. The men are gay.

601
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 3: He's like, the women are gay too, he said, and

602
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:22,880
Speaker 3: what are the women gay? I don't know the girl gay?

603
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:26,200
Speaker 3: Are the girls gay? That's a great question. I know

604
00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:29,120
Speaker 3: I'm gay, but you know, you know you gay.

605
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:31,920
Speaker 2: But after the gay didn't work out X amount of

606
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 2: years ago, you've betting back to streight.

607
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:37,320
Speaker 3: Come on now, well, hold on now, I'm gonna get

608
00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 3: this really straight.

609
00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, literally get it straight.

610
00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 3: To say, what happened was is that I was I now,

611
00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:47,840
Speaker 3: I've dealt with depression for a long time, and I

612
00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 3: was also depressed also was coming back.

613
00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 1: I'm also in my late thirties. I said, fuck it,

614
00:30:53,960 --> 00:30:54,680
Speaker 1: you never know.

615
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:59,280
Speaker 3: Maybe you know, it's thirteen years of being gay, maybe

616
00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 3: I've been women before.

617
00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:01,280
Speaker 1: Maybe I could be back with them.

618
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:04,360
Speaker 3: Let's see for me, I was like, I'm always open,

619
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:05,960
Speaker 3: I'm an open book, you know.

620
00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:08,680
Speaker 2: So maybe that's what we should be saying, because I

621
00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 2: know a lot of women, not a lot.

622
00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 1: I know a couple of women who.

623
00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 2: Had been straight their whole lives, maybe married to men,

624
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 2: divorce now and now they're more open to exploring themselves

625
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:21,840
Speaker 2: with women.

626
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 1: And some of these women are now in relationships with

627
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 1: women with women.

628
00:31:25,440 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 2: So maybe that's what it is. You break up with somebody,

629
00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:31,800
Speaker 2: you have a type, it hasn't been working.

630
00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:34,320
Speaker 1: Try something that's not your type. Maybe that's what we

631
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:37,600
Speaker 1: should be saying. Switch it, switch it. Do the complete

632
00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:38,680
Speaker 1: opposite of what you've been doing.

633
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:41,960
Speaker 3: Okay, but I want to say that I was completely

634
00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:42,760
Speaker 3: being toxic.

635
00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 1: I was using these men.

636
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:50,479
Speaker 3: I didn't I had no real connection or future or

637
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 3: And I think sometimes that's what women do to other

638
00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 3: women who are they are not really straight. They're just like, well,

639
00:31:57,200 --> 00:31:59,200
Speaker 3: I'll just see how it works with this girl, but

640
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:00,960
Speaker 3: like or they're like, I'm bisexual.

641
00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:02,480
Speaker 1: But it's like, you'll hook up with a.

642
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 3: Girl, but you'll never take a girl serious, you won't

643
00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:07,720
Speaker 3: cheat them, you won't bring them home and so, and

644
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 3: I think that is that's toxic, that's messed up. So

645
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:12,920
Speaker 3: I completely say that what I was doing to these

646
00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 3: men was wrong.

647
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 1: And sorry, how is it wrong? Not them?

648
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:21,240
Speaker 2: Inside you? That feels like it was wrong? A gift

649
00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:24,600
Speaker 2: that that was wrong? It was wrong for me, it

650
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:27,480
Speaker 2: was it was abuse. It was self abuse. You were

651
00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:30,760
Speaker 2: blessing them the abuse for me with access to your

652
00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:33,440
Speaker 2: wou soir juices, that's a gift.

653
00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 1: It was they.

654
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:37,160
Speaker 3: And the thing is is that which was wild for

655
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:39,320
Speaker 3: me is I was on the app.

656
00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:42,120
Speaker 1: I was I didn't say what my sexuality was.

657
00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 3: So I was getting you know, everybody, but mainly men

658
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:48,360
Speaker 3: were coming my way. And so I would get to

659
00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:51,760
Speaker 3: the day and I would say, hey, I'm actually a lesbian,

660
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:55,200
Speaker 3: and their face would be like hmm, and I said,

661
00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:59,520
Speaker 3: but the way the confidence of a man is like

662
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 3: They're like, yeah, but you're here, and it's like, yeah,

663
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 3: I'm here, but I'm also unemployed, I'm also broke, I'm

664
00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:08,160
Speaker 3: also bored.

665
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:11,560
Speaker 1: So I have all the time to be here and get.

666
00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 3: These steaken eggs, so staking eggs, steaking eggs.

667
00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was ordering that. It was on them.

668
00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:19,080
Speaker 3: I might as well while I'm figuring my things out,

669
00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:22,040
Speaker 3: I might as well eat well, right, And so I

670
00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 3: would tell them. I would be very like honest, but like, yeah,

671
00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:29,160
Speaker 3: I think that. Like after all of that, I went

672
00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 3: through all of that, I said, no, I'm not supposed

673
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:32,320
Speaker 3: to be with guys.

674
00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:33,800
Speaker 1: I don't like them for real.

675
00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 3: And even when I did think that I liked a guy,

676
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:44,600
Speaker 3: I like the idea of the mystery. This is somebody

677
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:49,400
Speaker 3: that I cannot penetrate emotionally and that was attractive. It

678
00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 3: was like, oh, I don't know you, I don't get you.

679
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:54,720
Speaker 3: I have limericks. I'm thinking that maybe this is more

680
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 3: than what it is. As soon as that went away,

681
00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:58,880
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, I didn't really like this person.

682
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:02,000
Speaker 1: This wasn't really for me. I don't know. I don't

683
00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 1: know what how I feel about this. What you mean?

684
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, like I talk to me.

685
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:12,920
Speaker 2: I think that you know, say it, talk to us,

686
00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:15,200
Speaker 2: use your Oh my god.

687
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:16,040
Speaker 5: I just.

688
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:24,399
Speaker 2: I feel like everybody should date outside their box this year.

689
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:25,040
Speaker 1: I think so.

690
00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 3: I think whatever you think your type is, throw it away,

691
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:33,319
Speaker 3: because imagine having the same type and every single time

692
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:36,440
Speaker 3: it doesn't work out, you're actually driving yourself insane.

693
00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:38,320
Speaker 1: Literally, just a little bit. Literally.

694
00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:41,360
Speaker 3: Now what are we taking away from our type? Because

695
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:43,719
Speaker 3: if you say your type is tall, I think we

696
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:45,759
Speaker 3: could throw that away. If you say, hey, my my

697
00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:49,360
Speaker 3: type is uh successful.

698
00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:52,200
Speaker 1: We thrown away successful. I don't know.

699
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 3: We're right now we're work shopping.

700
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Speaker 1: My type is successful. So now I got a date

701
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Speaker 1: to boom No, don't data, mom My pipe is hood dudes.

702
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:06,000
Speaker 1: So now I got a date A finance bro in

703
00:35:06,080 --> 00:35:09,560
Speaker 1: a patagony events. Yeah. Well, yeah, I'm open to that.

704
00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 1: I'm looking for a man and finance brown Eyes six five. Yeah,

705
00:35:15,640 --> 00:35:16,640
Speaker 1: you know whatever that is?

706
00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:20,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, girl, whatever I mean, maybe your type is black

707
00:35:21,000 --> 00:35:22,600
Speaker 3: and now it's white.

708
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:25,480
Speaker 1: No, if my type is black, then I say, yeah,

709
00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:29,000
Speaker 1: try white. See how it? What happened? Try white? Try

710
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:32,279
Speaker 1: white is the title of the podcast right up this episode. Girl,

711
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:36,080
Speaker 1: I'm not there. It's try white. Yes, that's why it

712
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:36,720
Speaker 1: would be funny.

713
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:39,840
Speaker 2: Try when the episode is off white, off white. I

714
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:42,920
Speaker 2: like that white. We're off white. But maybe if your

715
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:47,120
Speaker 2: type is black, try chan. Try you know a little

716
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Speaker 2: hispanic dude.

717
00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 1: Try try everything, try everything, try tie.

718
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Speaker 3: This is listen, this is Baskin Robbins thirty one flavors.

719
00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:57,239
Speaker 1: Baby, get them all, get them all in.

720
00:35:57,440 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 3: In the month of Black History Month, yes, you're uh,

721
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,360
Speaker 3: number one on the call sheet is black.

722
00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:10,839
Speaker 2: But on the weekends, try something else. Yeah okay, yeah,

723
00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:14,080
Speaker 2: try something different, try something different. And Black History Month

724
00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:16,920
Speaker 2: is a short month, so you know, maybe black will

725
00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:19,480
Speaker 2: be a history, be a dating history.

726
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:23,480
Speaker 3: What's crazy for Black History Month is that you know

727
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:29,320
Speaker 3: the guy Digimon who did Amistade and he used to

728
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 3: blood Diamond, Blood Diamond, and he was married to Colemoralie Simmons.

729
00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:37,839
Speaker 3: Variety put out an article he said that he is

730
00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:42,279
Speaker 3: underpaid and struggling to make a living. But when he

731
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 3: was out, he there wasn't a thing that he wasn't

732
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Speaker 3: in that was not winning awards.

733
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Speaker 1: He was the man. He was getting book book book,

734
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Speaker 1: book books.

735
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:52,720
Speaker 3: But that was a while ago though, to be honest,

736
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Speaker 3: I think I saw him in h what is it?

737
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Speaker 1: The silent? What is this silence? Something with Lupita?

738
00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:03,440
Speaker 3: With Lupita, Yes, he was in quiet place. He was

739
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 3: in a quiet place. The reason one, Yeah, he was

740
00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:06,920
Speaker 3: like somebody's husband.

741
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:07,600
Speaker 1: He was.

742
00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:10,200
Speaker 3: He was like number eight on the call sheet for sure.

743
00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 3: But he said he's struggling bad, he's down bad. And

744
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 3: people were just like you guys have to stop saying

745
00:37:16,560 --> 00:37:18,239
Speaker 3: that these celebrities are rich, because they're not.

746
00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 1: They're not all of them, a lot of them. It's

747
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 1: a lot of fluff.

748
00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:24,600
Speaker 3: What people don't understand is like you could book book, book, book, book,

749
00:37:24,760 --> 00:37:27,760
Speaker 3: but then when are you getting paid. You could book

750
00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:32,040
Speaker 3: something and then not get paid for six months. Also,

751
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:35,120
Speaker 3: as a black actor, you're not getting paid.

752
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:38,000
Speaker 2: You're not getting paid what your page counterparts are making.

753
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:39,799
Speaker 2: It's just not gonna happen.

754
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:40,400
Speaker 1: It's not happening.

755
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:43,200
Speaker 2: And if I'm on the call sheet, I'm number eight.

756
00:37:43,600 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 2: I don't know how much. Maybe I made like one

757
00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:46,960
Speaker 2: hundred thousand dollars.

758
00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:50,200
Speaker 3: One hundred thousand dollars after you pay out your people,

759
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:52,759
Speaker 3: which is twenty five percent and then taxes.

760
00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:57,160
Speaker 1: Girl, it's gone. What's that sixty it's not enough? Fifty thousand?

761
00:37:57,440 --> 00:37:59,440
Speaker 1: Well how long was that? How much was sixty thousand

762
00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 1: last year? Well? You know what, you're very you're you

763
00:38:02,160 --> 00:38:03,360
Speaker 1: know you've been you've been spending.

764
00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:06,319
Speaker 3: But I feel like you're always thinking about not You're like,

765
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:08,239
Speaker 3: how do how can somebody else pay for this?

766
00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 1: I don't want I don't have to pay for all

767
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:13,200
Speaker 1: of it. That you make me sound like a bum.

768
00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 2: No, you like, now you're cute unemployed friend. You'll be like,

769
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:20,960
Speaker 2: how are you gonna get somebody else to pay for this?

770
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:21,399
Speaker 5: Girl?

771
00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:24,800
Speaker 2: I am a independent black beach that don't like spend

772
00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 2: my money, and I I'm not gonna apologize for that.

773
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:30,600
Speaker 3: You should send first of all, that is not being

774
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 3: a bum. You know, I worked in night life. People

775
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:35,160
Speaker 3: are constantly getting things paid for.

776
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:38,640
Speaker 1: The men who have it are spending, and you're gonna

777
00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:40,799
Speaker 1: say no, but not always. This is how to rich

778
00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:42,520
Speaker 1: stay rich. They don't spend their own they do not

779
00:38:42,560 --> 00:38:43,240
Speaker 1: spend their money.

780
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 3: They get somebody else to delegate the things and get

781
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:48,480
Speaker 3: it done. They're calling, they're making favors like how can

782
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:51,760
Speaker 3: you how can we get this? Or when they're trying

783
00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:54,799
Speaker 3: to hire people, they're not paying them their actual rate,

784
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:57,120
Speaker 3: they're like, well, we're cool, you know, how can I

785
00:38:57,160 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 3: get this? You know they're they're undercutting these people. It's happening.

786
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:02,520
Speaker 3: I hear it all the time.

787
00:39:02,719 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 2: A lot of the more famous younger influencers that y'all

788
00:39:07,080 --> 00:39:10,960
Speaker 2: love to follow love double tap on they making money

789
00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 2: and they're not.

790
00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 1: They're not paying people well at all.

791
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 2: Now. They're not spending money when they go out, they

792
00:39:17,640 --> 00:39:19,760
Speaker 2: want to be they want bottle sent to the table,

793
00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:22,799
Speaker 2: they want people to dress them for free. They're not

794
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:24,440
Speaker 2: coming out of pocket to pay for anything.

795
00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:27,760
Speaker 3: So because but there's also people who want that because

796
00:39:27,760 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 3: they are actually not getting paid that much. I remember

797
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:35,160
Speaker 3: when I went to the Emmys, went to the I

798
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:38,400
Speaker 3: went to the Creative Emmys. Let's just that's still that's

799
00:39:38,400 --> 00:39:40,360
Speaker 3: still in me. But like you have to pay for

800
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 3: a stylist that's about fifteen hundred dollars.

801
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 1: That's not your own clothes. You have to pay.

802
00:39:44,320 --> 00:39:45,680
Speaker 3: You got to pay to get your hair done, you

803
00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:48,200
Speaker 3: got to pay to get there. You got to you're

804
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:50,920
Speaker 3: paying so already before you get there. And I was

805
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:54,600
Speaker 3: like the low end. I'm already spending over two thousand

806
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 3: dollars to be somewhere.

807
00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:57,880
Speaker 1: And that's not even including the price of your dress.

808
00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:00,200
Speaker 3: That's not it's not in your shoes, and you're it's

809
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:05,920
Speaker 3: not credicure. Yes, So imagine if you're you know, somebody

810
00:40:05,920 --> 00:40:09,600
Speaker 3: who's up for an Emmy, you're getting the best of

811
00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:12,960
Speaker 3: the best, and these people's rates, it's not it's.

812
00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:14,800
Speaker 1: Not like five hundred dollars they're spending.

813
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 3: That whole day is going to cost them probably five

814
00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:20,080
Speaker 3: thousand dollars just off rip.

815
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:22,480
Speaker 1: So it's like, yes, people.

816
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:25,520
Speaker 3: Are famous and notoriety and all this other stuff, but

817
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:29,360
Speaker 3: if you really get into this industry, it's all a scam.

818
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:31,759
Speaker 3: It's all about how can how much you want to

819
00:40:31,800 --> 00:40:34,000
Speaker 3: be in it, how bad, and how much are you

820
00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:35,839
Speaker 3: willing to spend. You're going to be making a lot

821
00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:38,440
Speaker 3: of money, but you're also gonna be spending it on

822
00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:40,320
Speaker 3: a ship ton to keep up with the Joneses.

823
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:45,680
Speaker 2: Well, let's read what Djimon said.

824
00:40:45,760 --> 00:40:49,840
Speaker 1: Digitmon Digimon, Digimon. I don't know, he might need to

825
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:52,440
Speaker 1: hit Kimora up full little. Well, that's what I'm saying.

826
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Speaker 3: In the comments, they were like, no, baby, Kimora is

827
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:58,440
Speaker 3: hitting you for that child support babe, that's why you're

828
00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:00,960
Speaker 3: gonna worth more than him. It don't matter how much

829
00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:03,560
Speaker 3: child support could he possibly be paying. Girl, Wait, you

830
00:41:03,600 --> 00:41:06,600
Speaker 3: didn't You didn't see about this other one? The oh girl,

831
00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:08,160
Speaker 3: I put so much in the in the doc.

832
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:10,440
Speaker 2: I'm just I'm just hold I saw what you put

833
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:12,680
Speaker 2: in there, But I'm just saying I thought the way

834
00:41:12,760 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 2: child support worked is the person who made more paid,

835
00:41:18,840 --> 00:41:20,520
Speaker 2: not the person who makes less.

836
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:22,319
Speaker 1: I mean, but think about it.

837
00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:24,360
Speaker 3: At that time, he probably was making a ton of

838
00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 3: money when they were together. He probably was worth the

839
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:29,239
Speaker 3: net worth all that stuff. He probably did have a

840
00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 3: ton of money. But after you, how long does child

841
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 3: support last?

842
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:35,759
Speaker 2: I feel like she's had more money than him the

843
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:36,600
Speaker 2: entire time.

844
00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 1: But that's what we think. We don't know.

845
00:41:38,680 --> 00:41:42,399
Speaker 2: She was with Russell Simmons, who is worth more than him?

846
00:41:42,640 --> 00:41:45,240
Speaker 2: Is he because he's in Thailand, he's not coming back. Baby,

847
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:48,520
Speaker 2: he's in Thailand, in Thailand, and Thailand is cheap, so

848
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:51,280
Speaker 2: he's absolutely saving money by being in Thailand.

849
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:53,239
Speaker 1: Can we get him on the car? Can we get him?

850
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:57,120
Speaker 2: Let's get Russell Simmons on the line. Call her number to.

851
00:41:57,320 --> 00:41:58,000
Speaker 1: You on the air.

852
00:41:58,160 --> 00:42:01,399
Speaker 3: I mean, allegedly he's assaulted some people, so we don't

853
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 3: really want no, not in Thailand.

854
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:06,040
Speaker 2: Well, listen, if you're in Hollywood and you've been in

855
00:42:06,040 --> 00:42:09,920
Speaker 2: Hollywood for twenty plush years and you haven't assaulted somebody,

856
00:42:10,239 --> 00:42:14,279
Speaker 2: are you even famous anyway? But our docres Yeah, this

857
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:17,439
Speaker 2: dude said, I'm still struggling to make a living. I've

858
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:19,920
Speaker 2: been in the filmmaking business for over two decades, with

859
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:24,040
Speaker 2: two Oscar nominations and many blockbuster films, and yet I'm

860
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 2: still struggling financially. I'm definitely underpaid. I was nominated for

861
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:31,040
Speaker 2: the Golden Globe, but they ignored me for the Oscars

862
00:42:31,080 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 2: because they thought I had just come off the boat

863
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:37,640
Speaker 2: and the streets. Even though I successfully did that, they

864
00:42:37,680 --> 00:42:39,839
Speaker 2: didn't feel like I was an actor to whom they

865
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:40,920
Speaker 2: could pay any respect.

866
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:41,920
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

867
00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:46,000
Speaker 2: I'm nominated for multiple Good Awards and y'all are like,

868
00:42:46,040 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 2: but we don't want to nominate him for this because

869
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:51,800
Speaker 2: I think he's the dude from the Pirates movie.

870
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:53,759
Speaker 1: Like what, yeah, I mean.

871
00:42:53,840 --> 00:42:56,360
Speaker 3: The thing is is that we just know like we are,

872
00:42:56,840 --> 00:43:00,160
Speaker 3: we are boots on the ground in this industry, and

873
00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:02,760
Speaker 3: we just want you to know that whatever you think

874
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:06,719
Speaker 3: of your celebrity people that you love, there's a lot

875
00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:10,400
Speaker 3: of time where it's all smokes and mirrors. Like you

876
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:13,960
Speaker 3: think they got a great big payout and they didn't,

877
00:43:14,120 --> 00:43:16,920
Speaker 3: or they did, but then after they have to you know,

878
00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:17,760
Speaker 3: pay PR.

879
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:22,400
Speaker 1: Someone does PR for three months. That's over twenty thousand dollars.

880
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:25,480
Speaker 3: That's just for the hope that you get in a

881
00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:29,360
Speaker 3: magazine or you get an interview, or they do some

882
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:31,200
Speaker 3: type of you know press for you.

883
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:34,719
Speaker 1: That's that's potential. You might not even get.

884
00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:37,239
Speaker 3: You spent twenty thousand dollars on a press runt and

885
00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 3: people could just say no. So say, from an instance,

886
00:43:41,040 --> 00:43:43,279
Speaker 3: you did make one hundred thousand dollars off a movie,

887
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:45,400
Speaker 3: which a lot of people are getting that.

888
00:43:45,600 --> 00:43:47,920
Speaker 1: Sure, we have the A list people, and then.

889
00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:49,880
Speaker 3: We have the people who are underneath that they're not

890
00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:52,080
Speaker 3: making that at all. You get one hundred thousand dollars,

891
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:54,239
Speaker 3: you're getting tax, you pay your people out, you pay

892
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:58,920
Speaker 3: pr what do you forty thousand dollars afterwards? And then

893
00:43:58,960 --> 00:44:01,880
Speaker 3: you have to keep up with your celebrity, so you

894
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:03,719
Speaker 3: have to go out. You gotta go to events. You

895
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 3: got to have this like take cars, it's a lot

896
00:44:06,640 --> 00:44:07,120
Speaker 3: of money.

897
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:07,920
Speaker 1: Take cars.

898
00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:10,800
Speaker 2: I don't know is rich and he takes the subway?

899
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:13,879
Speaker 2: People at see Keanu reeves on the train every other

900
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:17,200
Speaker 2: week and he'd be ready. He got his little Starbucks cup,

901
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:20,280
Speaker 2: you know he or maybe not storry. Maybe he drinks

902
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:23,960
Speaker 2: like Joe and the juice and uh, you know, so

903
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:28,400
Speaker 2: I get it. But now, as a famous person who's

904
00:44:28,400 --> 00:44:31,360
Speaker 2: not a rich person, do you need to act like

905
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 2: a rich person for people to respect you or can

906
00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 2: you just be like a regular person that more people

907
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:37,600
Speaker 2: know than everybody else?

908
00:44:37,920 --> 00:44:38,360
Speaker 1: I don't know.

909
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:41,720
Speaker 3: It's it's a really it's it's a hard thing because

910
00:44:41,840 --> 00:44:46,280
Speaker 3: if you are celebrity and act like a celebrity, that's alluring.

911
00:44:46,480 --> 00:44:49,000
Speaker 3: People want to be a part of that. That's inspiring.

912
00:44:49,160 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 3: That's what people want. They don't want to be a

913
00:44:52,080 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 3: regular person that everybody knows. Is that what people really

914
00:44:56,120 --> 00:45:00,880
Speaker 3: are working hard for? Absolutely not. That's ridiculous. If I'm

915
00:45:00,960 --> 00:45:04,880
Speaker 3: making all these movies or shows or they making people laugh,

916
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:06,439
Speaker 3: making people come out.

917
00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:10,480
Speaker 1: Why should I be underground? No, I should be.

918
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 2: I'm a regular person and I don't want to be

919
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:14,680
Speaker 2: on the ground with the rats. So I get I'm

920
00:45:14,719 --> 00:45:18,560
Speaker 2: just saying, shout out to Keanu. But that's you can

921
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:21,120
Speaker 2: you can take the train, you can be frugal or whatever.

922
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:23,160
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, and you see

923
00:45:23,160 --> 00:45:24,879
Speaker 1: how insane fans are.

924
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:27,480
Speaker 3: They don't care about your personal space. They don't care

925
00:45:27,520 --> 00:45:29,759
Speaker 3: about what you're going through. You're in the middle of

926
00:45:29,840 --> 00:45:31,520
Speaker 3: eating linguity and they got.

927
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 1: Their phone out. Hey can you take a bitch of

928
00:45:33,239 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 1: me with my family? And you like.

929
00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:39,120
Speaker 2: No, mom, no, mama, come down, Come down, mama.

930
00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:42,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't want to be amongst the pedestrians. Put

931
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:44,240
Speaker 3: me in the back room, honey.

932
00:45:44,360 --> 00:45:44,520
Speaker 5: Yeah.

933
00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:48,520
Speaker 1: Is there a chef table here? Yeah? And that costs money.

934
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:49,920
Speaker 1: That costs money.

935
00:45:49,960 --> 00:45:52,120
Speaker 3: So it's just like that's the same thing with all

936
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:55,359
Speaker 3: the la fires. They're just like, oh this people are rich.

937
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:58,839
Speaker 3: Those are everybody. They can get another home, that's their

938
00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:01,600
Speaker 3: second home. It's like, wait, hold on, I need you

939
00:46:01,680 --> 00:46:04,319
Speaker 3: to put the phone down. These are real people. And

940
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 3: even if they're rich, and they can get afforded their home.

941
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:09,040
Speaker 1: Their whole home burned.

942
00:46:08,680 --> 00:46:11,440
Speaker 3: Down to the ground, all their stuff, all their memories go,

943
00:46:12,160 --> 00:46:12,760
Speaker 3: it's gone.

944
00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:16,760
Speaker 2: Now let's talk about this. Okay, your house is on fire. Yeah,

945
00:46:16,880 --> 00:46:21,560
Speaker 2: you have five minutes. What three things you grabbing from.

946
00:46:21,440 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 1: Your your hot house?

947
00:46:24,080 --> 00:46:28,239
Speaker 2: Meet my wig and some shoes? Now this wig or not?

948
00:46:28,440 --> 00:46:28,759
Speaker 1: Do you have?

949
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:29,879
Speaker 5: Is this wig?

950
00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:34,120
Speaker 3: This wik You know I was in a fire, right,

951
00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 3: we brought nothing. We literally was like we have to

952
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:38,840
Speaker 3: get out of it. Well, I'm saying for this scenario,

953
00:46:39,000 --> 00:46:41,279
Speaker 3: you got a couple of minutes. What's the three things

954
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:43,640
Speaker 3: that you grabbing from from your hot house? I need

955
00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:46,800
Speaker 3: my passport yet, Well that's your ID. I need my passport,

956
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:50,520
Speaker 3: slash wallet that everything is in it, literally everything. I'm

957
00:46:50,520 --> 00:46:53,759
Speaker 3: grabbing my passport, so hopefully my purse that has all

958
00:46:53,800 --> 00:46:55,360
Speaker 3: of my important papers, because.

959
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:57,359
Speaker 1: That do you does your purse have all your important papers?

960
00:46:58,080 --> 00:47:00,840
Speaker 1: Your one time I had like a like a little

961
00:47:00,920 --> 00:47:02,880
Speaker 1: zip up and it had my social it had my

962
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:07,360
Speaker 1: birth certificate, it had five hundred dollars, it had my passport. Yeah,

963
00:47:07,400 --> 00:47:10,040
Speaker 1: and this was just in your purse and my purse.

964
00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:12,840
Speaker 1: Is it still in there now? You're lost it? Oh?

965
00:47:12,880 --> 00:47:15,640
Speaker 1: Absolutely there's two.

966
00:47:15,480 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 2: Sydney Washington's walking around right now? Somebody is you right now?

967
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:20,960
Speaker 1: I dare someone to try to take my identity.

968
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 3: You won't be able to open up shit, baby, Well

969
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:24,400
Speaker 3: I'm actually getting my credit together.

970
00:47:24,719 --> 00:47:26,920
Speaker 1: But no, you still won't be able to open up anything.

971
00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:29,400
Speaker 3: You're not getting a new line of credit with what

972
00:47:29,440 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 3: I'm working with.

973
00:47:30,080 --> 00:47:31,960
Speaker 2: If I walk up and my house was on fire,

974
00:47:32,040 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 2: I'm grabbing my passport.

975
00:47:34,120 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 1: I'm grabbing my laptop. You're getting your laptop. Well, yes,

976
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:42,440
Speaker 1: you're will work. What do you mean shorts in the cloud?

977
00:47:42,480 --> 00:47:43,880
Speaker 3: But like, how do I access the cloud if I

978
00:47:43,920 --> 00:47:47,120
Speaker 3: don't have a laptop. You save everything on the cloud

979
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:47,759
Speaker 3: and then you.

980
00:47:47,719 --> 00:47:50,960
Speaker 1: Can taking my laptop. Okay, do you hear me, Babe?

981
00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:53,600
Speaker 1: The passport, the laptop. Now, I gotta get the charger.

982
00:47:54,320 --> 00:47:58,120
Speaker 2: But also I sleep butt naked, so if I wake

983
00:47:58,160 --> 00:47:59,600
Speaker 2: up in my face is on fire. Now I gotta

984
00:47:59,600 --> 00:48:01,759
Speaker 2: find something to wear. Now, I'm like, do I want

985
00:48:01,760 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 2: to wear these shoes you're burning?

986
00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:07,120
Speaker 1: And that I'm just letting you know.

987
00:48:07,840 --> 00:48:10,840
Speaker 2: And I gotta grab my retainer because a retainer is expected.

988
00:48:11,000 --> 00:48:13,200
Speaker 1: Lord, you think about the wrong things, friend, How am

989
00:48:13,239 --> 00:48:14,920
Speaker 1: I thinking about my teeth?

990
00:48:15,360 --> 00:48:18,880
Speaker 2: My travel, my my, my laptop.

991
00:48:18,960 --> 00:48:22,000
Speaker 3: No, I'm telling you. When we were in that fire,

992
00:48:22,320 --> 00:48:25,200
Speaker 3: they literally could not. And also, if you're not an

993
00:48:25,320 --> 00:48:28,839
Speaker 3: organized person, you're gonna be doing circles and laps looking

994
00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:31,120
Speaker 3: for the stuff. Just get out. You have to just

995
00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:33,600
Speaker 3: get out. If you have a pet, take your pet,

996
00:48:33,800 --> 00:48:34,400
Speaker 3: but you gotta go.

997
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:36,000
Speaker 2: What if I can't find the pet? A lot of

998
00:48:36,040 --> 00:48:39,240
Speaker 2: people were doing that. Cats like to hide. A dog

999
00:48:39,360 --> 00:48:42,120
Speaker 2: is like a doofy, like shadow a y'all will follow you.

1000
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:44,960
Speaker 2: But a cat is like, well it's warm here, you know,

1001
00:48:45,040 --> 00:48:47,720
Speaker 2: cats like to be warm. To stop it now, it's like, well,

1002
00:48:48,280 --> 00:48:48,960
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1003
00:48:49,160 --> 00:48:51,879
Speaker 3: I feel like if it's if this is like your

1004
00:48:51,920 --> 00:48:54,160
Speaker 3: family pet that's been in there for a while, I

1005
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:56,399
Speaker 3: think you're gonna be in there searching, but don't.

1006
00:48:56,440 --> 00:48:58,040
Speaker 1: I can't get it out. So now me and this

1007
00:48:58,120 --> 00:49:00,759
Speaker 1: family pet gotta die together. More money will be on

1008
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:02,560
Speaker 1: a gofund me. I'll tell you that if you have

1009
00:49:02,840 --> 00:49:05,240
Speaker 1: what they'll go for me. That doesn't benefit me because

1010
00:49:05,280 --> 00:49:08,080
Speaker 1: I've died. Well, don't you need money for your funeral?

1011
00:49:08,800 --> 00:49:11,200
Speaker 1: Do you have a will? Marie? I don't have a will.

1012
00:49:11,280 --> 00:49:14,680
Speaker 1: Do you say, do you have life insurance? No? Marie,

1013
00:49:14,680 --> 00:49:17,160
Speaker 1: that's mad. My sister, do you have life insurance? No,

1014
00:49:17,320 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 1: then that's a mess. I'm so sacity.

1015
00:49:21,239 --> 00:49:24,680
Speaker 2: I don't even know how life insurance works. So I

1016
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:28,200
Speaker 2: pay every month to this thing, and if I die,

1017
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:29,840
Speaker 2: then who gets this money?

1018
00:49:30,520 --> 00:49:32,879
Speaker 3: Well, it'll be put towards all the things that need

1019
00:49:32,920 --> 00:49:35,120
Speaker 3: to be worked out after your death.

1020
00:49:35,120 --> 00:49:37,719
Speaker 2: I'm gonna just put my mom's name on my bank accounts,

1021
00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:39,799
Speaker 2: like she's been telling me to do for years, and

1022
00:49:39,840 --> 00:49:41,640
Speaker 2: if something happens to me, then she can access my

1023
00:49:41,640 --> 00:49:43,440
Speaker 2: bank account and she can pay for my stuff.

1024
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:46,520
Speaker 1: What about your sister or your brother my life insurance?

1025
00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:49,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, well my sister put me at She just got

1026
00:49:49,160 --> 00:49:50,920
Speaker 2: life insurance last week and she put me on her.

1027
00:49:51,080 --> 00:49:53,880
Speaker 1: I think, please, that is mess. We're of that age.

1028
00:49:54,040 --> 00:49:56,080
Speaker 1: We need to get that in order.

1029
00:49:56,280 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 2: I need somebody to explain life insurance to me, like

1030
00:49:59,200 --> 00:50:03,279
Speaker 2: I'm four, okay, like I'm a child. Why because I.

1031
00:50:03,239 --> 00:50:06,360
Speaker 1: Need to know how it works. Because some people policies.

1032
00:50:05,960 --> 00:50:09,319
Speaker 2: Be like if this person is murdered, we're not paying out.

1033
00:50:09,680 --> 00:50:11,960
Speaker 1: And if this person is in a fire, were not

1034
00:50:12,080 --> 00:50:15,160
Speaker 1: paying out. If you commit suicide that we're not out.

1035
00:50:15,680 --> 00:50:18,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, So it's like it sounds like you kind of

1036
00:50:18,719 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 3: know about life insurance rent.

1037
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:23,759
Speaker 2: Well, that's because I watch snaps. Yeah, that sounds like

1038
00:50:23,800 --> 00:50:26,239
Speaker 2: you can get it snapped. Be like, this person took

1039
00:50:26,239 --> 00:50:28,719
Speaker 2: out a million dollar life insurance policy, So what does

1040
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:30,880
Speaker 2: that mean? I have to pay into it up to

1041
00:50:30,960 --> 00:50:33,280
Speaker 2: a million dollars and then if I die, someone gets

1042
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 2: a million dollars.

1043
00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:34,879
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1044
00:50:35,080 --> 00:50:36,919
Speaker 3: I don't know everything because I don't have it either.

1045
00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:39,160
Speaker 3: But I think it is a mess that we are

1046
00:50:39,600 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 3: of this age and we need to get our things

1047
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:44,400
Speaker 3: in order. This is a thing that needs to be

1048
00:50:44,400 --> 00:50:47,239
Speaker 3: in order because if anything happens, then it falls on

1049
00:50:47,560 --> 00:50:48,279
Speaker 3: the people that you.

1050
00:50:48,239 --> 00:50:51,759
Speaker 1: Love the most. Oh, well, what are you gonna do?

1051
00:50:52,360 --> 00:51:06,680
Speaker 5: What you gonna do?

1052
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:13,720
Speaker 1: Oh? And also you were asking about child support.

1053
00:51:13,840 --> 00:51:18,239
Speaker 3: Yes, Jimmy Butler's baby mama, who he's had three kids with.

1054
00:51:18,840 --> 00:51:21,680
Speaker 1: He pays her fifty five.

1055
00:51:22,239 --> 00:51:26,439
Speaker 3: Thousand dollars a month. This beach wants ten thousand more.

1056
00:51:27,360 --> 00:51:28,919
Speaker 3: She wants ten thousand more.

1057
00:51:29,480 --> 00:51:34,640
Speaker 1: Pays her fifty five thousand dollars a month. Yep, Oh

1058
00:51:34,719 --> 00:51:36,480
Speaker 1: that's cute. What's that coming for that?

1059
00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:41,799
Speaker 3: So he I think it's six hundred and sixty one

1060
00:51:41,880 --> 00:51:43,040
Speaker 3: hundred thousand dollars.

1061
00:51:43,600 --> 00:51:51,200
Speaker 2: That comes to six hundred and sixty thousand dollars a year. Yeah, Jimmy, Hey, Jimmy,

1062
00:51:51,360 --> 00:51:52,000
Speaker 2: call me baby.

1063
00:51:52,239 --> 00:51:54,319
Speaker 3: So you were asking, you were like, how much is

1064
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:57,360
Speaker 3: like child support? It depends on I think it's like

1065
00:51:57,400 --> 00:51:58,319
Speaker 3: all these different like.

1066
00:51:58,360 --> 00:51:59,759
Speaker 1: It depends on how much you make and how many

1067
00:51:59,800 --> 00:52:01,560
Speaker 1: kids you guys, how many kids you have? And so

1068
00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:03,160
Speaker 1: people were like, what is she needed for?

1069
00:52:03,239 --> 00:52:07,320
Speaker 3: Because also there's like nanny's but she doesn't work, she's unemployed,

1070
00:52:07,400 --> 00:52:09,600
Speaker 3: So it's like, how why do you need a nanny?

1071
00:52:09,600 --> 00:52:12,879
Speaker 3: You're at but also taking care of kids is a lot.

1072
00:52:13,320 --> 00:52:15,160
Speaker 3: But it's kind of like, girl, what do you need

1073
00:52:15,200 --> 00:52:18,120
Speaker 3: all this money for? But also it's like why y'all.

1074
00:52:18,040 --> 00:52:21,319
Speaker 1: Keep coming in these women? Why y'all keep coming in

1075
00:52:21,440 --> 00:52:22,320
Speaker 1: these women?

1076
00:52:22,960 --> 00:52:26,319
Speaker 2: That's a mess, you know where you're literally a mess

1077
00:52:26,360 --> 00:52:29,640
Speaker 2: anywhere the wall, the pillowcase, the duvet.

1078
00:52:29,520 --> 00:52:34,440
Speaker 4: The towel, the towel that one town, her upper, her opera,

1079
00:52:34,760 --> 00:52:39,400
Speaker 4: her her butt, her baby hair, her baby hairs, the

1080
00:52:39,520 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 4: plant that's bought a bed, in your passport.

1081
00:52:42,360 --> 00:52:44,759
Speaker 1: Come in your and on your glass. There's so many

1082
00:52:44,760 --> 00:52:48,960
Speaker 1: places to come, just not inside of her. And three times,

1083
00:52:49,000 --> 00:52:53,040
Speaker 1: three freaking times, we know y'all both come on now,

1084
00:52:53,200 --> 00:52:55,480
Speaker 1: this is Jimmy. Jimmy Butler.

1085
00:52:55,800 --> 00:53:00,000
Speaker 3: Jay Jimmy, listen, man, this is on you, like even

1086
00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:02,080
Speaker 3: and if you're saying this is not right, I think

1087
00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:04,959
Speaker 3: this is what men have to think about when they're

1088
00:53:05,000 --> 00:53:06,279
Speaker 3: about to ejaculate.

1089
00:53:06,320 --> 00:53:09,040
Speaker 1: It's like, hey, I don't have a condom one.

1090
00:53:09,200 --> 00:53:13,839
Speaker 3: She could get pregnant, and then is she worth all

1091
00:53:13,880 --> 00:53:15,600
Speaker 3: of this money that I'm gonna have to dish out.

1092
00:53:15,880 --> 00:53:19,239
Speaker 1: She must be because he keep coming back, keep coming back, and.

1093
00:53:19,160 --> 00:53:21,640
Speaker 2: It's like at this point, how I mean, I don't

1094
00:53:21,640 --> 00:53:23,840
Speaker 2: know what his his contract is.

1095
00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:25,640
Speaker 1: I'm trying to I'm trying to find.

1096
00:53:25,920 --> 00:53:29,239
Speaker 3: Uh, you were supposed to make a good penny, a

1097
00:53:29,280 --> 00:53:32,320
Speaker 3: good penny, I mean also.

1098
00:53:32,120 --> 00:53:34,880
Speaker 1: Fifty million dollars he was supposed to make. I don't know.

1099
00:53:35,000 --> 00:53:37,840
Speaker 2: I'm just throwing I'm making fifty million dollars for the year. Yeah,

1100
00:53:37,880 --> 00:53:41,319
Speaker 2: but I'll say this about it. I think when you're

1101
00:53:41,880 --> 00:53:46,480
Speaker 2: rich and you have children that are you know, have

1102
00:53:46,560 --> 00:53:49,120
Speaker 2: recognizable last names, yeah, I think you got to put

1103
00:53:49,160 --> 00:53:51,160
Speaker 2: them up. I just saw the baby mom's photo and

1104
00:53:51,200 --> 00:53:58,680
Speaker 2: it makes sense. That makes sense. Okay, y'all gotta stop nutting.

1105
00:53:58,680 --> 00:53:59,399
Speaker 2: And these women, but.

1106
00:53:59,360 --> 00:54:05,239
Speaker 1: Specifically these women, yeah, these specific women. The thing is

1107
00:54:05,239 --> 00:54:06,520
Speaker 1: is that a vasectomy?

1108
00:54:07,080 --> 00:54:10,080
Speaker 3: It's always available and then if you are like, hey,

1109
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:11,839
Speaker 3: I actually want to have kids, you can.

1110
00:54:12,239 --> 00:54:13,400
Speaker 1: It's it's reversible.

1111
00:54:13,600 --> 00:54:15,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think of the sect to me is

1112
00:54:15,239 --> 00:54:20,319
Speaker 2: like twenty dollars, like start it. I think if you

1113
00:54:20,440 --> 00:54:23,680
Speaker 2: use a groupon, yeah, vaseect me, like I think, I think.

1114
00:54:23,560 --> 00:54:25,279
Speaker 3: You can get a visected me and then go to

1115
00:54:25,360 --> 00:54:26,919
Speaker 3: the club that same day.

1116
00:54:27,200 --> 00:54:29,440
Speaker 1: No, I mean it's it's doable.

1117
00:54:29,640 --> 00:54:32,640
Speaker 3: It doesn't hurt, and like it saves you all this

1118
00:54:32,840 --> 00:54:39,000
Speaker 3: problem and drama. Marie, can we do messages living and

1119
00:54:39,040 --> 00:54:40,480
Speaker 3: then one mess messages?

1120
00:54:40,480 --> 00:54:42,680
Speaker 1: Can we do that? Absolutely? Let's do it, friend, Okay,

1121
00:54:42,880 --> 00:54:46,320
Speaker 1: messages living canceling on a baby shower one hour before.

1122
00:54:46,840 --> 00:54:53,239
Speaker 1: Oh I've done this Marie, No, what happened? You know

1123
00:54:53,320 --> 00:54:55,319
Speaker 1: you are SVP because you think I'm a beat there

1124
00:54:55,840 --> 00:54:58,880
Speaker 1: and then you you check the party for address and

1125
00:54:58,880 --> 00:55:02,319
Speaker 1: you like by yeah, like that's far.

1126
00:55:02,960 --> 00:55:06,480
Speaker 2: I'm gonna just send a gift or send some money

1127
00:55:07,360 --> 00:55:08,439
Speaker 2: and I'm not gonna be a girl.

1128
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:11,000
Speaker 3: You better send your plate and a gift because it

1129
00:55:11,080 --> 00:55:13,400
Speaker 3: costs money to do these these events.

1130
00:55:13,440 --> 00:55:16,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, people are paying for how many people are gonna

1131
00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:16,359
Speaker 1: be there?

1132
00:55:16,760 --> 00:55:16,920
Speaker 2: Oh?

1133
00:55:16,920 --> 00:55:17,520
Speaker 1: They do food?

1134
00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:21,399
Speaker 3: They Yeah, like people are catering these things and like

1135
00:55:21,560 --> 00:55:24,799
Speaker 3: having accounting for all these like how many heads is

1136
00:55:24,800 --> 00:55:25,399
Speaker 3: gonna be in here?

1137
00:55:25,760 --> 00:55:25,920
Speaker 5: Oh?

1138
00:55:26,440 --> 00:55:29,239
Speaker 2: Yes, girl, I want to think canceling baby showers. I

1139
00:55:29,280 --> 00:55:31,240
Speaker 2: don't think about the plate.

1140
00:55:31,719 --> 00:55:37,919
Speaker 3: The plate, and that's a mess, okay. Donating twenty dollars

1141
00:55:38,000 --> 00:55:40,520
Speaker 3: to a GoFundMe mess or just living what we funded

1142
00:55:41,400 --> 00:55:45,759
Speaker 3: you know, uh, you know the fire or someone a

1143
00:55:45,840 --> 00:55:49,759
Speaker 3: death or someone lost their job or I.

1144
00:55:49,719 --> 00:55:52,239
Speaker 2: Think you gotta donate what you can. If you can

1145
00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:55,319
Speaker 2: donate twenty, donate twenty. If you can't donate nothing, don't

1146
00:55:55,360 --> 00:55:58,400
Speaker 2: donate nothing, Okay. And I think also I go to

1147
00:55:58,440 --> 00:56:02,080
Speaker 2: go fundmes that I don't always donate to, and I rank.

1148
00:56:02,200 --> 00:56:04,760
Speaker 2: I go top donors. I want to see who donated

1149
00:56:04,760 --> 00:56:06,600
Speaker 2: the most, and then I want to see who donated

1150
00:56:06,600 --> 00:56:06,919
Speaker 2: the least.

1151
00:56:06,960 --> 00:56:08,960
Speaker 1: And sometimes it's a lot of twenties. It's some fifties

1152
00:56:09,000 --> 00:56:10,120
Speaker 1: in there, but it's a lot of twenties.

1153
00:56:10,160 --> 00:56:11,919
Speaker 3: And sometimes I look at the people who make way

1154
00:56:11,920 --> 00:56:13,680
Speaker 3: more money than me, and I'm like, oh, they donated

1155
00:56:13,719 --> 00:56:15,400
Speaker 3: twenty dollars. They do it.

1156
00:56:15,960 --> 00:56:17,200
Speaker 1: Again, that's how the rich they is.

1157
00:56:17,239 --> 00:56:18,960
Speaker 3: And I said they could have been anonymous, but they

1158
00:56:19,000 --> 00:56:20,440
Speaker 3: got their name. Want to and it's twenty dollars and

1159
00:56:20,480 --> 00:56:23,640
Speaker 3: we don't how much we going to the Forbes the Forbes.

1160
00:56:23,640 --> 00:56:25,399
Speaker 1: Listen, you want that baby, you.

1161
00:56:25,400 --> 00:56:34,960
Speaker 2: Thirty under thirty and you donated under thirty.

1162
00:56:31,200 --> 00:56:35,120
Speaker 1: Okay, and then coming to a party, it's spending most

1163
00:56:35,120 --> 00:56:38,160
Speaker 1: of your time hanging out with the friend's pet.

1164
00:56:38,600 --> 00:56:42,320
Speaker 2: Well, does that mean the music is bad, the food's

1165
00:56:42,360 --> 00:56:45,800
Speaker 2: not good? Like is the pet wearing a cute sweater?

1166
00:56:46,080 --> 00:56:46,239
Speaker 4: Like?

1167
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:47,279
Speaker 1: What that was me?

1168
00:56:47,400 --> 00:56:50,960
Speaker 3: We went to our friend's birthday brunch party whatever yesterday

1169
00:56:51,440 --> 00:56:54,160
Speaker 3: and I was there, but I spent a lot of

1170
00:56:54,200 --> 00:56:55,360
Speaker 3: time upstairs.

1171
00:56:54,960 --> 00:56:57,680
Speaker 1: With the cat. I don't know something, something is in

1172
00:56:57,680 --> 00:56:58,280
Speaker 1: my head.

1173
00:56:58,120 --> 00:57:01,160
Speaker 3: Now that I feel like I'm an extrovert introvert where

1174
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:02,799
Speaker 3: like I do like hanging out.

1175
00:57:02,840 --> 00:57:04,239
Speaker 1: I want to be out. I want to be out

1176
00:57:04,280 --> 00:57:04,880
Speaker 1: of my house.

1177
00:57:05,200 --> 00:57:07,560
Speaker 3: But I also when I get to somebody else's house,

1178
00:57:07,719 --> 00:57:09,399
Speaker 3: then I kind of want to revert back to if

1179
00:57:09,400 --> 00:57:11,359
Speaker 3: I'm like in my own home and I don't want

1180
00:57:11,360 --> 00:57:14,879
Speaker 3: to be amongst the masses. If it's twenty people there,

1181
00:57:15,360 --> 00:57:18,000
Speaker 3: you don't need me, So then why come? I know

1182
00:57:18,320 --> 00:57:21,400
Speaker 3: that's a good question. Yeah, what's what's the good answer?

1183
00:57:21,480 --> 00:57:24,320
Speaker 1: Come moll, It's not really fun if you're not hanging

1184
00:57:24,320 --> 00:57:25,880
Speaker 1: out with the people downstairs, because.

1185
00:57:25,640 --> 00:57:28,320
Speaker 3: Then you're there and you're like, do you need me

1186
00:57:28,400 --> 00:57:30,480
Speaker 3: right now? Then when people start leaving, that's when I

1187
00:57:30,520 --> 00:57:32,040
Speaker 3: go back down. That's when I shine.

1188
00:57:32,080 --> 00:57:34,240
Speaker 1: It sounds like you up there snoop and systems. I'm not.

1189
00:57:34,560 --> 00:57:38,360
Speaker 2: It's giving you runing gin it's giving you opening captains.

1190
00:57:38,840 --> 00:57:41,680
Speaker 1: You're opening little doors you under the bed to see

1191
00:57:41,680 --> 00:57:43,800
Speaker 1: how nothing it is. You're a mess.

1192
00:57:44,360 --> 00:57:47,960
Speaker 2: Speaking of mess let's talk. Let's read a message, message

1193
00:57:48,000 --> 00:57:52,520
Speaker 2: from a messy. Yeah, it's a messy messy something are Messiah, Messiah?

1194
00:57:52,600 --> 00:57:55,000
Speaker 1: Somebody said Mexicans, Mexicans.

1195
00:57:55,000 --> 00:57:59,280
Speaker 3: No, Mexicans, mess Mexicans Messicans is actually kind of cute,

1196
00:57:59,400 --> 00:58:01,240
Speaker 3: kind of funny, Messicans Messicans.

1197
00:58:01,280 --> 00:58:05,000
Speaker 1: Okay, we'll vote. Well, do you care which one I

1198
00:58:05,040 --> 00:58:09,360
Speaker 1: read first? No, I don't do it. Okay, here we go,

1199
00:58:10,120 --> 00:58:11,320
Speaker 1: Hello Marie and Sydney.

1200
00:58:11,800 --> 00:58:15,080
Speaker 2: This is a six month old mess but I'm petty

1201
00:58:15,200 --> 00:58:19,120
Speaker 2: and bitter, real love it, and I want to get

1202
00:58:19,120 --> 00:58:21,320
Speaker 2: it off my chest. I am a gay man and

1203
00:58:21,360 --> 00:58:23,760
Speaker 2: I've been dating this fool for over a year and

1204
00:58:23,800 --> 00:58:24,120
Speaker 2: a half.

1205
00:58:24,480 --> 00:58:28,120
Speaker 1: He's mad upset. Well, he did say he's bitter.

1206
00:58:28,640 --> 00:58:32,480
Speaker 2: Everything was mostly smooth and whatever disagreement, not Dick, Sorry,

1207
00:58:33,160 --> 00:58:36,680
Speaker 2: everything was mostly smooth, and whatever disagreements we had, it

1208
00:58:36,760 --> 00:58:40,240
Speaker 2: was handled like adults, or we got a couple's therapists input.

1209
00:58:40,400 --> 00:58:41,120
Speaker 1: Okay, Rich.

1210
00:58:42,160 --> 00:58:44,720
Speaker 2: After a few weeks of staying distant and him raising

1211
00:58:44,720 --> 00:58:47,760
Speaker 2: concerns that we're not connecting, as in him taking an

1212
00:58:47,760 --> 00:58:50,400
Speaker 2: impromptum vacation for two weeks, I tried to have a

1213
00:58:50,440 --> 00:58:53,120
Speaker 2: conversation with our therapists, during which me and the therapist

1214
00:58:53,160 --> 00:58:55,400
Speaker 2: can clearly see he was already checked out.

1215
00:58:55,560 --> 00:58:57,400
Speaker 1: Gone right, We say, let's.

1216
00:58:57,280 --> 00:58:59,680
Speaker 2: Take a few days and discuss me Wanting to give

1217
00:58:59,720 --> 00:59:02,120
Speaker 2: it my all, I sent him an email acknowledging his

1218
00:59:02,160 --> 00:59:05,200
Speaker 2: feelings and how much I want us to work things out.

1219
00:59:05,440 --> 00:59:08,800
Speaker 1: Okay, you just want on a vacation. What feelings right?

1220
00:59:08,840 --> 00:59:09,600
Speaker 1: You've been relaxing.

1221
00:59:09,880 --> 00:59:13,480
Speaker 2: He responds with a breakup email he attached. The email

1222
00:59:13,520 --> 00:59:15,840
Speaker 2: didn't sound like him. It ended with let me know

1223
00:59:15,880 --> 00:59:18,560
Speaker 2: if you want to discuss further. That's business speak.

1224
00:59:18,680 --> 00:59:19,760
Speaker 1: That's so business.

1225
00:59:19,920 --> 00:59:25,360
Speaker 2: Okay, that's business speak and not some a whole breaking

1226
00:59:25,400 --> 00:59:28,120
Speaker 2: through email. So I took his email to one of

1227
00:59:28,160 --> 00:59:31,160
Speaker 2: the AI detection sites and tested my email that I

1228
00:59:31,200 --> 00:59:34,600
Speaker 2: wrote myself, and his mine came back zero percent AI

1229
00:59:34,680 --> 00:59:39,120
Speaker 2: generated and his was eighty five percent AI generated. Now,

1230
00:59:39,240 --> 00:59:42,680
Speaker 2: breakup suck and aren't necessary. But after a year and

1231
00:59:42,720 --> 00:59:44,880
Speaker 2: a half together, you send a breakup email that was

1232
00:59:45,000 --> 00:59:49,960
Speaker 2: AI generated. Oh I am pissed. Yeah, don't do that, folks.

1233
00:59:50,280 --> 00:59:53,640
Speaker 2: The least you can do is do it through the phone.

1234
00:59:53,760 --> 00:59:55,760
Speaker 2: I didn't bother to discuss further with him since there

1235
00:59:55,840 --> 00:59:57,800
Speaker 2: was nothing to discuss. He showed a kind of person

1236
00:59:57,840 --> 00:59:59,920
Speaker 2: he was, and I didn't want to waste my time.

1237
01:00:00,960 --> 01:00:03,520
Speaker 2: WHOA should I read the breakup email?

1238
01:00:03,840 --> 01:00:08,760
Speaker 1: I think you should the breakup email they sent? Lol. Hi,

1239
01:00:09,960 --> 01:00:10,840
Speaker 1: Hi Sammy.

1240
01:00:11,120 --> 01:00:13,320
Speaker 2: Thank you for your recent email and for sharing your

1241
01:00:13,320 --> 01:00:14,320
Speaker 2: feelings so openly.

1242
01:00:14,440 --> 01:00:16,960
Speaker 3: Oh no, no, no, no, no, b's ready. I'm mad for you,

1243
01:00:17,040 --> 01:00:20,000
Speaker 3: Sammy clicking out. I'm not reading the rest. I'm not

1244
01:00:20,040 --> 01:00:22,280
Speaker 3: reading that. That sounds like that. That was a response

1245
01:00:22,280 --> 01:00:22,920
Speaker 3: from LinkedIn.

1246
01:00:23,240 --> 01:00:23,640
Speaker 1: Babe.

1247
01:00:23,960 --> 01:00:26,520
Speaker 2: It's given to whom it may consult, whom it made.

1248
01:00:26,600 --> 01:00:32,320
Speaker 2: It's given burger burger post it Yeah, oh what chat

1249
01:00:32,360 --> 01:00:36,200
Speaker 2: GPT breakup is the new posted yep up okay boom.

1250
01:00:36,560 --> 01:00:38,480
Speaker 2: Thank you for your recent email and for sharing your

1251
01:00:38,480 --> 01:00:39,400
Speaker 2: feelings so openly.

1252
01:00:39,920 --> 01:00:40,560
Speaker 1: It was given.

1253
01:00:40,760 --> 01:00:42,800
Speaker 2: It has given me the space to reflect deeply on

1254
01:00:42,840 --> 01:00:46,720
Speaker 2: our relationship and everything we've experienced together. After much thought,

1255
01:00:48,400 --> 01:00:50,720
Speaker 2: after much thought, I've come to the conclusion that it

1256
01:00:50,760 --> 01:00:52,840
Speaker 2: would be best for both of us to part ways.

1257
01:00:53,480 --> 01:00:56,880
Speaker 2: The decision comes with a heavy heart that is given.

1258
01:00:56,800 --> 01:01:00,680
Speaker 3: Beard, Yeah, that you need to cancel that chat, GB

1259
01:01:00,960 --> 01:01:01,600
Speaker 3: whoever did this.

1260
01:01:01,960 --> 01:01:03,920
Speaker 2: The decision comes with a heavy heart as you mean

1261
01:01:04,040 --> 01:01:06,200
Speaker 2: so much to me, not enough to write an email

1262
01:01:06,560 --> 01:01:07,600
Speaker 2: as you mean so much to me.

1263
01:01:07,840 --> 01:01:09,680
Speaker 1: And it's not a conclusion I reached lightly.

1264
01:01:09,960 --> 01:01:13,200
Speaker 2: There are many struggles we face individually that impact our relationship.

1265
01:01:13,360 --> 01:01:16,600
Speaker 2: Our time together has been profoundly important to me. It

1266
01:01:16,640 --> 01:01:19,960
Speaker 2: has shaped a significant part of my understanding and experience

1267
01:01:20,000 --> 01:01:24,200
Speaker 2: of love and relationship. However, no one says however in

1268
01:01:24,200 --> 01:01:28,240
Speaker 2: real life, nobody However, I feel girl, However, I feel

1269
01:01:28,280 --> 01:01:31,360
Speaker 2: myself withdrawing emotionally, and it wouldn't be fair to either

1270
01:01:31,400 --> 01:01:34,560
Speaker 2: of us for me to continue while facing these internal conflicts.

1271
01:01:35,080 --> 01:01:35,800
Speaker 1: You've taught me so.

1272
01:01:35,800 --> 01:01:38,320
Speaker 2: Much, and I hold no regrets about the effort and

1273
01:01:38,360 --> 01:01:41,160
Speaker 2: love I've invested in us. You are absolutely worth it.

1274
01:01:41,480 --> 01:01:42,440
Speaker 2: Yet it seems we've.

1275
01:01:42,320 --> 01:01:44,720
Speaker 1: Reached a point where our paths diverge.

1276
01:01:46,080 --> 01:01:49,200
Speaker 2: The thought of ending our relationship saddens me greatly, and

1277
01:01:49,280 --> 01:01:52,760
Speaker 2: I've spent the past week processing the disgriefed lies use

1278
01:01:52,800 --> 01:01:53,720
Speaker 2: on vacation.

1279
01:01:53,560 --> 01:01:55,800
Speaker 3: On Vaca, you were on the beach with a kulata.

1280
01:01:55,880 --> 01:01:56,920
Speaker 3: You was not thinking about this.

1281
01:01:57,360 --> 01:01:58,120
Speaker 1: Let me wrap this up.

1282
01:01:58,160 --> 01:02:00,440
Speaker 2: I believe in your future and your capacit city to

1283
01:02:00,480 --> 01:02:03,720
Speaker 2: find love that fully complements the beautiful person you are.

1284
01:02:04,040 --> 01:02:07,560
Speaker 2: For now, I think it's best we move independently, cherishing

1285
01:02:07,640 --> 01:02:10,800
Speaker 2: the memories and growing from our experiences. I still love

1286
01:02:10,840 --> 01:02:13,320
Speaker 2: you and want the best for you and me. Let

1287
01:02:13,320 --> 01:02:15,520
Speaker 2: me know if you still want to chat and discuss further.

1288
01:02:15,960 --> 01:02:18,280
Speaker 1: Beach girl, I want to say that it was a

1289
01:02:18,280 --> 01:02:19,680
Speaker 1: couple of lines. It was kind of cute and there

1290
01:02:19,680 --> 01:02:19,920
Speaker 1: I said.

1291
01:02:19,920 --> 01:02:22,240
Speaker 3: It was more to me because I might, you know,

1292
01:02:22,320 --> 01:02:25,360
Speaker 3: we might can use some You can't have all together

1293
01:02:25,800 --> 01:02:28,160
Speaker 3: because that makes it sound like somebody else. But if

1294
01:02:28,200 --> 01:02:31,400
Speaker 3: you take one of those lines to you know, spread

1295
01:02:31,400 --> 01:02:32,720
Speaker 3: it out, it could work.

1296
01:02:33,160 --> 01:02:36,360
Speaker 2: I think if you're gonna do an AI generated breakup,

1297
01:02:36,760 --> 01:02:39,960
Speaker 2: every other paragraph gotta be you and then the AI.

1298
01:02:39,960 --> 01:02:43,840
Speaker 1: Every other This whole thing is it sounds somebody else.

1299
01:02:43,840 --> 01:02:48,160
Speaker 1: Somebody else was doing this for There's too many multi

1300
01:02:48,240 --> 01:02:49,200
Speaker 1: syllable words in there.

1301
01:02:49,320 --> 01:02:51,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's it just it also doesn't feel like

1302
01:02:52,200 --> 01:02:55,040
Speaker 3: you're connected, It doesn't feel emotional.

1303
01:02:55,480 --> 01:02:58,240
Speaker 1: It feels like this is the right thing to say.

1304
01:02:59,200 --> 01:03:01,080
Speaker 1: This was the wrong thing. Wrong.

1305
01:03:01,640 --> 01:03:04,240
Speaker 3: The fact that they copied and paste and then press

1306
01:03:04,320 --> 01:03:07,160
Speaker 3: send you dirty, dirty, dirty.

1307
01:03:06,800 --> 01:03:10,600
Speaker 1: Bitch mess mess sammy word with you, Beach. We are

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Speaker 1: so sorry. Listen, guys. That will conclude.

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Speaker 3: Our episode of Off White. We truly adore our messies

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Speaker 3: and Mexicans, we need.

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Speaker 1: You to send more mess, more mess that. I love that.

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Speaker 3: I love that they also sent the breakup letter. Y'all

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Speaker 3: are doing great work. You're doing great work, amazing work.

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Speaker 3: Continue to give us reviews on Apple and Spotify. We

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Speaker 3: love all your comments, even the nasty ones.

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Speaker 2: Continue to listen to the podcast at work. So when

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Speaker 2: you laugh, people will look over the cubicle and be like,

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Speaker 2: what you laughing out of that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and you can be like it to you. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's a mess and that is mess. Okay, see you

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Speaker 1: guys that week. Bye Bye. Mess with Sydney Washington and

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Speaker 1: Marie Foston is a production by Will Ferrell's Big Money

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Speaker 1: Players and iHeartRadio Podcasts, created and hosted by Sidney Washington

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Speaker 1: and Marie Fouston. Executive produced by Olivia Aguilar and Hans Sonny,

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Speaker 1: super produced by Becca Ramos, edited and mixed by Brian Jeffries.

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Speaker 1: If you would like your messages read on air, please

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Speaker 1: email us at Messthopodcast at gmail dot com or call

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Speaker 1: for your messages to be played at seven six three

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