WEBVTT - Episode 117: Feat. Nick Hawk 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:08.039 Guess she's back in the motherfucker house. That's right. It's 0:00:08.039 --> 0:00:12.680 a lip service. Your mouth don't go like that something. Um, okay, 0:00:12.720 --> 0:00:15.480 you take it too far. I was just trying to 0:00:15.560 --> 0:00:17.959 use the part that was appropriate, but it's lip service. 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:21.840 I'm Angela Yee, I'm Stephanie Santiago, I'm gg maguire, I'm Gloria. 0:00:22.079 --> 0:00:24.880 Now we got Nick Hawkey's back again. What's up? What's up? 0:00:24.920 --> 0:00:27.160 What's up? Let me tell you. I was catching up 0:00:27.200 --> 0:00:30.320 on Jiggielow by the way, you know, just to kind 0:00:30.360 --> 0:00:35.120 of look at certain things from It was actually very 0:00:35.280 --> 0:00:37.680 very interesting certain things that I was noticing. And I 0:00:37.680 --> 0:00:39.320 know we're gonna talk about your book in a second, 0:00:39.720 --> 0:00:45.120 but um you guys are really great at identifying how 0:00:45.159 --> 0:00:48.960 to connect with women, like probably more than the average man. 0:00:49.560 --> 0:00:51.960 And I kept thinking like, is this game or do 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:53.960 they care for real? Or are they like this is 0:00:54.000 --> 0:00:56.720 just a job. It's all the above. It's it's game. 0:00:56.840 --> 0:00:59.360 But yeah, number one, we got to make the client comfortable. 0:00:59.520 --> 0:01:02.120 And that's saw That's definitely a skill that we need 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:03.880 to learn early on. And if you fail like that, 0:01:03.920 --> 0:01:06.319 you got you got nowhere to go, right, Because I 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:09.880 feel like men like escorts for a different reason than 0:01:09.959 --> 0:01:15.440 women like them for wouldn't you say a little bit um? 0:01:15.959 --> 0:01:18.280 I think I don't know if men would admit to 0:01:18.560 --> 0:01:21.320 getting a woman for the same reasons most women get 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:25.319 a man for. But I think everybody has the same 0:01:25.840 --> 0:01:27.440 wants and desires at the end of the day, men 0:01:27.560 --> 0:01:29.520 or women. One of the most interesting things you did 0:01:29.560 --> 0:01:31.360 was you had sex with the women who couldn't Well, 0:01:31.400 --> 0:01:32.720 you didn't have sex with her because it was too 0:01:32.760 --> 0:01:35.680 painful for her. She has some what was it called vogue? 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:37.920 I was trying to pronounce it. You don't remember either, 0:01:38.240 --> 0:01:40.480 but but she it was so she had something wrong 0:01:40.480 --> 0:01:42.240 where like it was too painful for her to have 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:47.039 sex like ever, I'm so sorry to hear that. Yeah, 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:49.480 is it like a certain dick size or she just 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:54.840 nick maybe you wouldn't expand on man. That was like 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:57.559 a quick shoot. I don't really remember that much about it. Yeah, 0:01:57.560 --> 0:02:01.160 it was. I think it was a condition. It didn't 0:02:01.160 --> 0:02:05.080 make that much sense to me. But then I'm sure 0:02:05.080 --> 0:02:07.640 that's not something that often happens, Like, was that the 0:02:07.680 --> 0:02:14.640 only time that ever happened? It happens every time, but 0:02:14.639 --> 0:02:17.440 but this one, no, Yeah, we just we just had 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:20.600 some solo play, right, Yeah, yeah we didn't. We didn't 0:02:20.960 --> 0:02:24.320 like you tied her up and you did some fun. Yeah, 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:26.320 you still have some fun. Can you imagine not being 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:28.320 able to have sex because it's too painful? Way she 0:02:28.360 --> 0:02:32.400 couldn't could she do? A know? Like? Was that her normal? 0:02:34.600 --> 0:02:36.760 I mean, if she can't take it in her vagina? No, 0:02:36.880 --> 0:02:40.000 but it's like something wrong we had with her vagina, 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:44.040 but is meant to expand. Yeah, but I've heard of 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:47.680 Remember we had um someone else? Um? Remember when we 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:50.320 had um and it was too painful her? What's his name? 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:54.080 The guy who has a podcast the graph senting no 0:02:54.320 --> 0:02:58.160 my favorite premium pete. Yes, Remember he spoke about how 0:02:58.440 --> 0:02:59.960 he met a girl and she could only get fun 0:03:00.080 --> 0:03:04.400 than the ask because she remembered where her vasa was 0:03:04.440 --> 0:03:07.840 really small, like probably the same thing, right, That's that's 0:03:07.840 --> 0:03:09.720 what it sounded like. That's why I was I'm sure 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:11.680 she couldn't have you know, I don't think that affects 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:17.840 the anus too, And right, you know, there's man I 0:03:17.880 --> 0:03:20.520 think it'd be I don't. I don't know if I 0:03:20.520 --> 0:03:22.760 want to go there. But you know, there's there's there's 0:03:22.760 --> 0:03:29.520 other there's there's other ways and it almost be a 0:03:29.520 --> 0:03:31.840 relief in some ways, I think, to not to not 0:03:31.960 --> 0:03:36.320 have to have sex, worry about the complications of sex 0:03:36.360 --> 0:03:38.760 and getting pregnant, and then but you're still with someone 0:03:38.840 --> 0:03:42.600 and still getting satisfied. You know, there's there's definitely more 0:03:42.600 --> 0:03:46.280 ways to satisfying women than just having sex. But about 0:03:46.480 --> 0:03:49.440 like men, I feel like men have to have sex, 0:03:49.480 --> 0:03:51.880 but women I think would be all right without it, 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:54.680 if they were satisfied in the inappropriate But then what man, 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:56.640 because you have that, would you know what I'm saying, 0:03:56.680 --> 0:03:58.520 you have like no man went and get tired of 0:03:58.600 --> 0:04:03.160 sucking an asshole, know, I guess. And it's more I 0:04:03.520 --> 0:04:06.440 hope it's you know, more than that most relationships anyways, 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:10.560 where it's it's an emotional connection and everybody's got to 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:13.080 get off, you know how they get off. You know, 0:04:13.120 --> 0:04:16.600 there's there's different ways to do that. No, I understand, 0:04:16.720 --> 0:04:20.920 I understand. I mean I put me personally, I don't 0:04:20.960 --> 0:04:24.520 think I would be satisfied without you know, having actual 0:04:26.000 --> 0:04:28.640 but if it was too pain but you would have to, right, 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:30.680 That's what I'm saying. But what he's saying is right, 0:04:30.720 --> 0:04:33.640 there's other ways, like I can come without anything going 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:38.640 inside of me, you know what I mean? So yeah, yeah, right, 0:04:39.000 --> 0:04:44.920 you can always be a lesbian too, right, but lesbians 0:04:45.040 --> 0:04:48.520 do they't so don't have to. They don't have to 0:04:48.600 --> 0:04:52.599 wait each other like fingers just not a dick because 0:04:52.600 --> 0:04:55.840 the fingers are small, So that probably don't hurt. That's 0:04:55.880 --> 0:05:00.160 doing that because you're long nails and making me hurt. 0:05:00.160 --> 0:05:06.960 You that sparkly galactic nails for the moon and beyond. 0:05:07.400 --> 0:05:09.920 Now you have this book out, one Kicks in the Ass, right, 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:12.800 a guide to gaining confidence and reaching your full potential. 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:14.840 So I was gonna said, let me ask you this, 0:05:15.279 --> 0:05:17.159 what's the reason that you've ever had to cut somebody 0:05:17.240 --> 0:05:20.359 off like in your life? For what? Just? I mean, like, 0:05:20.400 --> 0:05:22.400 what's the reason to be like that person is toxic 0:05:22.440 --> 0:05:25.360 to me? I can't funk with them anymore. I cut 0:05:25.360 --> 0:05:27.200 a lot of people off in life. I don't. I 0:05:27.240 --> 0:05:29.520 don't let anybody drag me down anymore. I don't care 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:32.440 if it's family members, I don't care. How long have 0:05:32.600 --> 0:05:36.560 you know the person? Yeah, yeah, somebody should not be 0:05:36.640 --> 0:05:38.880 in your life just because they're a family member, end 0:05:38.880 --> 0:05:40.800 of story. I don't. I don't care how much you've 0:05:40.800 --> 0:05:42.480 went through, how much they've they've done for you. If 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:44.600 they're they're toxic to you, if they don't support you, 0:05:44.640 --> 0:05:47.919 if if they you know, abuse alcohol or drugs, and 0:05:47.960 --> 0:05:49.720 then and they then they weigh you down, and they 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:52.560 don't give you the guidance and support that you need. 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:55.320 They should not be in your life. But you've had 0:05:55.360 --> 0:05:57.880 issues too, so I'm sure that you know people have 0:05:57.960 --> 0:06:01.080 given you other chances like second to it's his thirty chances. 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:05.240 You know, you gotta be a little bit like it's 0:06:05.360 --> 0:06:07.719 I know, you don't have to immediately cut someone off, 0:06:07.920 --> 0:06:10.560 obviously approach him an intelligent manner and have a conversation 0:06:10.600 --> 0:06:13.760 with them. This I'm not liking this. You're being too negative. 0:06:13.920 --> 0:06:15.880 You're weighing me down. I don't like it. You know, 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:17.440 we don't we don't have to see eye to eye 0:06:17.520 --> 0:06:20.719 on everything, but you know, I don't like. I don't 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:23.400 like the way you you you approach me. I don't like. 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:26.440 I don't like your your attitude or if it's usually drugs, 0:06:26.440 --> 0:06:28.440 a drug and alcohol problems. That's the main reason why 0:06:28.440 --> 0:06:31.760 I cut people off, people who you know, I can't 0:06:31.800 --> 0:06:34.039 keep their ship together and they're incompetent because of that. 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:37.480 What about you ladies cutting somebody off. Like the last 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:40.320 time you cut somebody off, it was the reason, um 0:06:40.600 --> 0:06:46.480 heng I've cut people off for numerous problems. Betrayal, lying, stealing. 0:06:47.480 --> 0:06:51.440 You know, lying, it's good, I think lying. Yeah, somebody 0:06:51.480 --> 0:06:54.599 stole from you. That's sucked up. Yep, Like though what 0:06:54.720 --> 0:06:59.240 your man or its money? Money? Okay? Yeah? When I 0:06:59.279 --> 0:07:02.320 said man, she was like no. But you know what, 0:07:02.440 --> 0:07:04.600 it's hard to accuse somebody is stealing money because how 0:07:04.600 --> 0:07:08.120 can you really prove it? Sometimes when somebody okay, let 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:10.480 me paying the scenario because you know, sometimes it's hard. 0:07:10.520 --> 0:07:13.240 You're like, kind of scenario. You have someone go pick 0:07:13.320 --> 0:07:15.880 up money for you for an important reason that you 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:18.240 need it for, and they pick up the money and 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:19.600 spend it on what they want to spend it on 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:22.760 and never give you the money. WHOA, Well, that's a 0:07:23.360 --> 0:07:26.920 that's stealing. Yeah, that's definitely stealing. That's beyond still and 0:07:26.960 --> 0:07:33.240 that's because you that's bold. Well need the whole thing with, 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:37.640 you know, second chances and forgiving people. Um, I'm not 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:41.480 a fan of forgiving somebody. We we never forgive some 0:07:41.560 --> 0:07:44.200 when someone wrongs you, we don't forgive them, even if 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:47.440 we say that or the accept their apology or they 0:07:47.680 --> 0:07:50.920 however sorry they are. We never we never fully restore 0:07:51.000 --> 0:07:53.800 that that trust, that amount of trust that we had 0:07:53.800 --> 0:07:56.040 in somebody. So once you know someone wrongs you, steals 0:07:56.040 --> 0:07:57.520 from you, or something like that, you know they're they're 0:07:57.560 --> 0:07:59.200 cut down, and you can keep cutting them down more 0:07:59.240 --> 0:08:00.640 and more and more. You can cover a little bit. 0:08:00.680 --> 0:08:02.000 You're never gonna get all the way back to up 0:08:02.000 --> 0:08:03.920 to where you were. You're not gonna have that that 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:06.680 full trust if you do something horrible like that. You know, 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:09.560 we're desperate at times. We make mistakes, and you can, 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:12.000 you can recover from that ship. But if somebody keeps 0:08:12.000 --> 0:08:13.880 going down and down and down, there's a point where 0:08:13.960 --> 0:08:15.840 you need to cut them off for good. What about 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:17.720 in a relationship if somebody teach on you and then 0:08:17.720 --> 0:08:20.520 you forgive them, say, don't you think sometimes it could 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:24.400 make your relationship stronger. Well, we we shouldn't have committed 0:08:24.440 --> 0:08:28.360 relationships in that way to begin with. You know, I don't. 0:08:28.480 --> 0:08:32.080 I don't. My life. My philosophy on dating is, um 0:08:32.880 --> 0:08:38.480 he sounds like every man before you finish. I feel 0:08:38.520 --> 0:08:42.160 that we should. We should, everybody should. The most intelligent 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:45.040 way to approach a relationship is in an open manner, 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:48.520 not not a wide open manner, in a trustfully open manner. 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:51.800 I don't think it's healthy to be completely tied down 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:56.800 to somebody without any boundaries to explore. And if you're 0:08:56.840 --> 0:08:59.199 with somebody and you trust them and you have this, 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:02.760 this commit admits some type of open, you know, restraint. 0:09:02.920 --> 0:09:04.800 I think it's best not to hear about what goes 0:09:04.840 --> 0:09:06.760 on outside of that. I do. That's something else that 0:09:06.800 --> 0:09:09.360 we we can touch on. But you should have freedoms 0:09:09.360 --> 0:09:11.920 to explore out because most of the time, when you 0:09:11.920 --> 0:09:13.920 go out and explore and you you have fun, you 0:09:13.960 --> 0:09:15.920 funk around with somebody, you realize what you got back 0:09:15.960 --> 0:09:18.559 at home, and that shouldn't sunk up everything. And when 0:09:18.559 --> 0:09:20.120 you make that commitment and say I'm never going to 0:09:20.200 --> 0:09:23.240 sleep around and I will never betray you, I'll never 0:09:23.280 --> 0:09:25.640 be with another woman, you know, it's it's a lie. 0:09:25.760 --> 0:09:27.480 You know, you know, it's just like just like marriage. 0:09:27.520 --> 0:09:29.920 And I don't support marriage either. It's it's it's not 0:09:30.040 --> 0:09:32.560 a real commitment. You don't know who you're gonna be tomorrow, 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:36.120 much less weeks from now, much from much less who 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:38.280 they're gonna be. I I don't like it. I don't 0:09:38.320 --> 0:09:41.000 like the foundation of that's what what's that built? And 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:45.760 having everything based on just one one time like like 0:09:45.840 --> 0:09:49.240 one like one one promise. You can't promise somebody forever, 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:53.440 and uh why not? You like, you don't know who 0:09:53.480 --> 0:09:55.800 you're gonna be tomorrow, you really don't know. You can 0:09:55.840 --> 0:09:58.080 say it right now, right now, right now, right now. 0:09:58.120 --> 0:10:01.040 I love you, I plan on I it's great to 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:03.480 be in a relationship that's that's committed and grow with 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:06.760 somebody forever. But you can't promise somebody forever. You don't 0:10:06.800 --> 0:10:09.200 know who you're gonna be. I hope, I hope that 0:10:09.240 --> 0:10:11.280 we stay together. We can reminisce, we can have all 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:14.000 this free and we can. Yeah, that's what you do. 0:10:14.080 --> 0:10:15.560 That's that's a good thing with being in a long 0:10:15.800 --> 0:10:18.120 term relationship. You can look back on things that you've 0:10:18.120 --> 0:10:20.600 done and re explore those things and grow. But people 0:10:20.679 --> 0:10:24.400 grow apart, and and it's it's okay, no no, no, no, no, 0:10:24.400 --> 0:10:27.920 no no wait wait wait okay, can I go? That goes? 0:10:28.000 --> 0:10:30.760 That is in my turn. I you know, I feel 0:10:30.800 --> 0:10:34.480 like to each his or her own opinion all the time, 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:37.040 you know what I mean. But I think that you 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:41.199 can find someone and you can continually grow with them. 0:10:41.240 --> 0:10:44.480 It's continually a word, it is, Okay, I just wanted 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:48.520 to be continuously. Yeah, it's both both the words. Okay, Okay, 0:10:49.080 --> 0:10:51.600 you know, but you guys know what I'm not gonna record, 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:56.000 all right. You know, I think you can. I think 0:10:56.000 --> 0:10:59.000 you could, you know, grow with somebody forever. I feel 0:10:59.000 --> 0:11:01.320 like you can. You can change and you are going 0:11:01.360 --> 0:11:04.600 to change, just like what I said, you know, just 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:07.600 like you know change, You change every day. Yesterday I 0:11:07.679 --> 0:11:09.679 might have felt some way about something that I feel 0:11:09.679 --> 0:11:12.600 totally different about today. But I feel like you can 0:11:12.679 --> 0:11:17.200 find that love where you can grow together. That's that's 0:11:17.200 --> 0:11:19.080 that's that's what we hope for. That's that's that's what 0:11:19.120 --> 0:11:21.680 we want. But if you marriage, if you marry somebody, 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:24.000 you promise them forever, you commit to them forever, and 0:11:24.040 --> 0:11:27.200 something happens like they do in over cases now, but 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:29.360 then when something and then it's then it's then it's 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:31.840 a lie because you promised them forever. You should never promise. 0:11:32.040 --> 0:11:34.440 But you know what, because then if if it happens 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:38.040 and you do grow apart like over of relationships do now, 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:41.040 then it's it's okay, and you guys can stay friends, 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:43.120 and it's not no, you're leaving me. You lied to me, 0:11:43.200 --> 0:11:45.920 and then there's this hostile This is what I always say. 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:48.760 This is what I always say about relationships, Like people 0:11:48.880 --> 0:11:53.280 are so focused on cheating, you know, people betraying each 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:56.000 other with other people, you know, in a relationship. But 0:11:56.040 --> 0:11:58.880 I always say, there's so many other things that could 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:02.480 be a problem, and is a problem growing apart, you 0:12:02.520 --> 0:12:06.360 know what I mean? And I just feel like, you know, yeah, 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:10.800 people grow apart, for sure, But in relationships, when something happens, 0:12:10.880 --> 0:12:14.160 when there's something, when something happens, somebody did something wrong, 0:12:14.320 --> 0:12:19.240 something happened, and financial reason and financial reasons people. I mean, 0:12:19.360 --> 0:12:21.600 it doesn't happen every day. It might not happen with me, 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:23.920 It might not happen with you, It might happen with 0:12:23.960 --> 0:12:27.240 all of us, who knows. But people can work on 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:30.800 those problems and stay together and grow together, and you know, 0:12:31.240 --> 0:12:35.000 and and not live happily ever after, but live love 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:41.360 one person. Happen right now, but maybe when you're like right, listen, 0:12:41.400 --> 0:12:43.000 I'm not gonna lie. I always say this. My ex 0:12:43.040 --> 0:12:45.480 boyfriend's mom told me that men settle down when they 0:12:45.520 --> 0:12:48.840 get too old and lazy to run around anymore and 0:12:48.840 --> 0:12:51.880 they just settled in. I'm down for a committed relationship. 0:12:51.920 --> 0:12:55.000 I'm open to having someone continually in my personal life. 0:12:55.080 --> 0:12:57.959 I just I think it's a mistake to promise somebody forever. 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:00.559 I don't think it's something that we can honestly do 0:13:00.640 --> 0:13:02.080 because we don't know who we're going to be in 0:13:02.080 --> 0:13:05.320 the future. And I think it's a mistake to commit 0:13:05.360 --> 0:13:07.200 to somebody and tell them I'm never going to sleep 0:13:07.200 --> 0:13:09.920 with somebody ever again. And then if you do once 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:12.280 in both of those situations, if you do, and it 0:13:12.400 --> 0:13:15.160 usually happens, usually if you're with someone for ten twenty years, 0:13:15.240 --> 0:13:17.640 usually someone's gonna gonna sunk up. And it shouldn't be 0:13:17.679 --> 0:13:19.160 that big of a deal once once again, when you 0:13:19.160 --> 0:13:21.480 go outside and explore and you do funk up, you 0:13:21.559 --> 0:13:23.760 realize what you have at home. But and then when 0:13:23.800 --> 0:13:26.319 you do, that shouldn't ruin everything. I don't feel like 0:13:26.360 --> 0:13:29.959 it should be thatgree I'm confused as to what you 0:13:30.080 --> 0:13:34.040 think I'll commit a relationship is because with your occupation, 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:38.920 you do things, So would you stop doing things if 0:13:38.960 --> 0:13:41.959 you were in a No, I don't plan and stop 0:13:42.080 --> 0:13:46.800 doing that ever ever. Ever, I would commit to somebody 0:13:46.800 --> 0:13:48.680 in my personal life, and she would be the only 0:13:48.679 --> 0:13:50.320 one that I'd be with in my personal And I 0:13:50.360 --> 0:13:53.880 think that work is working. That's fair. But but if 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:55.960 somebody means you and that's what you were doing and 0:13:56.000 --> 0:14:00.120 he's honor, I would never be with somebody and tell 0:14:00.160 --> 0:14:02.920 her I don't want if I was with somebody, to 0:14:02.960 --> 0:14:04.199 tell I don't want to sleep and around for a 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:05.920 lot of dudes. If if it happened, I don't want 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:07.679 to know about it. That's that's what I would tell her. 0:14:07.720 --> 0:14:10.040 If you if I'm not fulfilling you, if you're not 0:14:10.080 --> 0:14:12.400 you're not happy, just be honest with me. And you know, 0:14:12.800 --> 0:14:14.800 I think that you can find a woman who will 0:14:14.840 --> 0:14:17.160 only sleep with you and be okay with your job. 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:20.440 It has it hasn't been a problem exactly. I think 0:14:20.480 --> 0:14:23.400 you can find I am open and honest about that ship. Yeah, 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:26.640 you know. I why not get married? You've seen the show? 0:14:26.720 --> 0:14:29.720 Google me. Why not get marriages based on something I 0:14:29.760 --> 0:14:34.760 don't agree with her? Okay, whatever, I think marriage was beautiful. 0:14:35.720 --> 0:14:38.720 I like I'm I'm I'm a romantic. I'm I'm a 0:14:38.720 --> 0:14:41.600 hopeless not a hopeless romantic, but a romantic a little bit. 0:14:41.640 --> 0:14:45.320 And I like a little bit, a little bit one 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:47.520 weekend here and there, you know, a couple of times 0:14:47.560 --> 0:14:54.800 a year. Romantic. I don't. I don't know anymore. What 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:57.760 is what is romantic to me? I kind of I wasn't. 0:14:57.760 --> 0:15:00.840 I was only thinking it is caring. Romance is the 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:04.280 little thing I feel like if because roadmance is kind 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:06.800 of a lost just hitting it off with somebody and 0:15:07.680 --> 0:15:10.360 not worrying about anything else that's going on, and just 0:15:10.640 --> 0:15:13.000 being in the moment in time with them and enjoying 0:15:13.040 --> 0:15:15.640 that that night and weekend. And this has happened with 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:17.480 with clients as well, where I lose myself with them. 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:20.600 We just have this great connection and everything's flowing great. 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:25.480 But yeah, how much do looks matter when you have 0:15:25.560 --> 0:15:27.960 a client? Like? Can you be attracted to somebody but 0:15:28.000 --> 0:15:31.240 not be attracted to how they look physically? You can 0:15:31.280 --> 0:15:34.600 be more attractive to someone than than others. I prefer 0:15:34.600 --> 0:15:37.000 a fit woman, you know, I don't. I don't mind 0:15:37.040 --> 0:15:39.880 being with uh an overweight women. They just they just 0:15:39.920 --> 0:15:43.000 need to take care of themselves, you know, hygiene smelling good. 0:15:44.240 --> 0:15:46.000 There's a lot of pussy eating on that show, and 0:15:46.040 --> 0:15:48.520 I always wondered, does it ever happen like with somebody 0:15:48.680 --> 0:15:51.720 hygienically is like a little bit of a turn off. Yeah, 0:15:51.800 --> 0:15:54.600 for sure. I mean that's that's the it's it's a 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:57.680 it's a common thing with women I wish not not 0:15:57.760 --> 0:16:02.040 with Yeah, well, this is something I found out when 0:16:02.040 --> 0:16:04.120 I was a stripper, So hold on one second, but 0:16:04.160 --> 0:16:07.640 this is with with my well and and when women 0:16:07.760 --> 0:16:11.640 have their period, after their period, they don't awesome down there. 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:13.560 That's you know, it is a common thing. It happens 0:16:13.600 --> 0:16:16.960 once a month, is just about every woman. But no, 0:16:17.160 --> 0:16:19.360 most most of my clients take take very good care 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:22.120 of themselves. But now, when I used to strip and 0:16:22.160 --> 0:16:25.680 do Bachelor Right parties, I uh we we you know, 0:16:25.720 --> 0:16:27.680 they placed dollar bills all over and put in the 0:16:27.680 --> 0:16:29.280 pants and everything, and I'd go down in the pants 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:30.960 and grab the dollar bill out of the pants. And 0:16:31.400 --> 0:16:34.120 I was just dumbfounding on how many girls I that 0:16:34.240 --> 0:16:36.520 smelled bad down there. It blew me away how often 0:16:36.520 --> 0:16:42.160 that happened. Literally, it literally is yes, no, that's not good. 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:44.240 And a lot of women out there don't know that, Like, 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:47.000 there shouldn't be any unless it's right after your period. 0:16:47.000 --> 0:16:48.720 There shouldn't be any smell down there. At all. You 0:16:48.720 --> 0:16:50.320 need to take care of yourself. You need to talk 0:16:50.320 --> 0:16:53.880 to your your doctor kind of colleges. You need to 0:16:53.960 --> 0:17:00.880 change your diet somebody you don't do. Yes, you have. Yeah, yeah, 0:17:01.280 --> 0:17:04.000 I've told a few planes. How do you say? How 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:14.440 do you say it? Tellaria right now that yeah, I'm 0:17:14.440 --> 0:17:19.280 not letting letting up emails best with very carefully worded 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:22.440 words to you know, make them not feel horrible. Yeah, 0:17:22.560 --> 0:17:26.320 to make them not feel horrible about themselves. Ship. But 0:17:26.359 --> 0:17:28.200 what if you're about to go down there and it happens, 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:32.880 do you tell them like, here's a wet white boy, 0:17:33.000 --> 0:17:37.240 so you just still go in? Older when you're talking 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:40.840 about decent you're not talking about like a musty odor, 0:17:40.920 --> 0:17:43.960 you're talking about an older from the inside, like an 0:17:44.040 --> 0:17:46.760 unhealthy one. Not like I was out all day and 0:17:46.920 --> 0:17:53.760 he liked fish, Like Yeah, I can't believe how many 0:17:53.760 --> 0:17:55.840 girls I pulled that dollar out of their pants smelled. 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:58.320 I couldn't. I didn't think that was a getting back 0:17:58.359 --> 0:18:02.159 to that too many? So many, Like ladies, if you're 0:18:02.160 --> 0:18:04.280 going to go to a bachelorette party and there's gonna 0:18:04.280 --> 0:18:08.200 be strippers, like they really you know, being your body, 0:18:08.480 --> 0:18:11.520 like take a bath, us, and I don't get it. 0:18:11.520 --> 0:18:13.800 I think I think one of the biggest mistakes is 0:18:14.520 --> 0:18:16.439 you can over cleanse it. I mean, it's it's a 0:18:16.440 --> 0:18:19.919 it's a bacterial system down there. It's it's its own system, 0:18:19.920 --> 0:18:22.200 and you can't funk with it too much and tamp 0:18:23.320 --> 0:18:26.280 do that. Sex. Sex can suck you up real bad too, 0:18:26.960 --> 0:18:29.560 you know. And uh, you know. So that's that's something 0:18:29.600 --> 0:18:31.600 women need to know as well. And and some women 0:18:31.680 --> 0:18:33.800 douche and clean too well. Down there it's it's its 0:18:33.800 --> 0:18:38.439 own environment and it takes her infection. Yeah, but if 0:18:38.480 --> 0:18:40.360 if it smells bad, you have a yeast infection, yeah, 0:18:40.400 --> 0:18:42.159 you gotta get that cleaned up. You gotta have that 0:18:42.240 --> 0:18:44.119 taken care of. Now, what if somebody hired you and 0:18:44.160 --> 0:18:46.959 they had a yeast infection and they didn't say anything 0:18:46.960 --> 0:18:49.680 about it, and then, now, what what do you mean 0:18:49.680 --> 0:18:52.080 if I you know, let's just say you come in 0:18:52.119 --> 0:18:55.240 there and you're like, oh, ship, there's like cottage cheese 0:18:55.280 --> 0:19:00.280 or something like, do you just leave? Like what happens? 0:19:01.240 --> 0:19:07.080 If that happened, what I had address that? You'd have 0:19:07.160 --> 0:19:10.720 to address that. You know, a little a little unpleasantness 0:19:10.800 --> 0:19:13.080 down there isn't and the world it smells bad. Nothing's 0:19:13.119 --> 0:19:17.120 gonna happen. But you probably say something about that, right, 0:19:18.880 --> 0:19:20.720 I don't. I don't want to go there. It doesn't happen. 0:19:20.760 --> 0:19:22.679 I don't. I don't think it's good. I hope it doesn't. 0:19:22.800 --> 0:19:26.119 But I would address that situation a time that you 0:19:26.119 --> 0:19:29.680 couldn't get an erection, not when, not when I wanted to, 0:19:29.760 --> 0:19:31.919 and I used to. I used to take pills. That 0:19:31.960 --> 0:19:34.119 I don't take pills anymore. I don't put anything unnatural 0:19:34.240 --> 0:19:37.719 in my body anymore. UM, and you when I used 0:19:37.760 --> 0:19:40.159 to struggle with some of these fears and anxieties, and 0:19:40.200 --> 0:19:43.280 in the beginning, UM, if I didn't have a pill 0:19:43.320 --> 0:19:45.879 and I was in some type of situations, you know, 0:19:45.920 --> 0:19:48.359 there's there's a lot going on, though you know I asked. 0:19:48.359 --> 0:19:51.119 My book says I had horrible anxiety and confidence issues. 0:19:51.119 --> 0:19:52.360 When I was a child. I was scared to speak 0:19:52.400 --> 0:19:53.880 up in front of my family at the dinner table 0:19:53.880 --> 0:19:57.399 and at or something. I faked that that was I 0:19:57.440 --> 0:19:59.320 was in school, Yes, I was scared to that to 0:19:59.359 --> 0:20:02.960 get called on, you get called on in class to 0:20:03.040 --> 0:20:05.320 answer a question or or something like that, because I 0:20:05.320 --> 0:20:07.320 had freak out and I had panic and I would 0:20:07.400 --> 0:20:08.760 have to come up with ship and I faked a 0:20:08.800 --> 0:20:10.720 fucking heart attack when I was a kid and fell 0:20:10.760 --> 0:20:12.840 on the floor, Like I haven't heard that. It just 0:20:12.880 --> 0:20:17.359 came to me more energy getting myself out of that situation. 0:20:17.440 --> 0:20:19.560 Then it's just so pointless to have this fear. We 0:20:19.600 --> 0:20:22.439 do these ridiculous things and it's senseless. And as I 0:20:22.560 --> 0:20:25.760 talk a lot about that in the book, and so 0:20:25.880 --> 0:20:27.760 I had a lot of these fears and anxieties that 0:20:27.760 --> 0:20:29.720 I was getting over when I started jiggalo in a 0:20:29.720 --> 0:20:33.000 little bit. And uh yeah, if I allowed that fear 0:20:33.000 --> 0:20:37.240 and anxiety to take over, because we have this, you know, 0:20:37.359 --> 0:20:41.480