WEBVTT - Tried to outrun a train. Bad idea. 0:00:11.200 --> 0:00:13.920 One time, when I was much younger, I decided to 0:00:14.000 --> 0:00:16.680 run away for my problems. I thought it would be 0:00:16.680 --> 0:00:20.000 smart to take a backpack with one of my best 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:24.840 buddies and head down a train track to escape the 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:27.840 craziness of the world. At the time, the craziness of 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:31.120 the world was nine to eleven, and it seemed like 0:00:31.320 --> 0:00:34.600 after nine to eleven that there was a lot of 0:00:34.680 --> 0:00:39.120 uncertainty that everything was going to crash around us and 0:00:39.280 --> 0:00:41.920 the very lives that we lived were going to be over. 0:00:42.000 --> 0:00:45.280 So I decided, Hey, take my buddy and we're going 0:00:45.360 --> 0:00:48.000 to throw a backpack on, put some energy bars in 0:00:48.080 --> 0:00:51.800 our bags and some water, and walk down a train track. 0:00:51.880 --> 0:00:53.680 And that's when we almost got hit by a train. 0:00:54.680 --> 0:00:58.040 I brought my buddy. His name is Bernie, and he's 0:00:58.040 --> 0:01:00.440 going to be on the podcast today. Bernie and I 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:04.080 have kept in touch since then for twenty one years. 0:01:04.480 --> 0:01:06.360 He's one of my best friends in the world. And 0:01:07.000 --> 0:01:09.760 the dude is so smart. I could call this guy 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:12.400 if I ever need advice or just need to talk 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:15.319 or need to chat about something. He always gives me 0:01:15.400 --> 0:01:18.560 that sound advice that I need. And it occurred to 0:01:18.640 --> 0:01:21.520 me recently when I was at his House. I was like, man, 0:01:22.360 --> 0:01:24.720 not everybody in the world has a Bernie like I do. 0:01:24.800 --> 0:01:26.480 I feel lucky that I could just call him and 0:01:26.480 --> 0:01:29.959 get some advice, but not everybody has that. So I 0:01:29.959 --> 0:01:31.840 thought I'll bring him on the podcast and he could 0:01:31.880 --> 0:01:34.680 help me kind of dive into some of these questions 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:37.880 from you guys, which I get from you if you 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:41.360 email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. So Bernie and 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:43.119 I are going to talk about some of our stories, 0:01:43.560 --> 0:01:45.840 our misadventures in life. We're going to answer some of 0:01:45.880 --> 0:01:48.280 your questions, and I think it's gonna be a really 0:01:48.320 --> 0:01:50.560 good show. I want to give some shout outs like 0:01:50.600 --> 0:01:53.520 I always do. This first one goes to Tyler Claxton 0:01:54.160 --> 0:01:57.720 and Ontario. Thank you Buddy. Shout out to Tyler. This 0:01:57.840 --> 0:02:02.600 next one goes out to Dakota and he is turning 0:02:02.840 --> 0:02:05.960 thirteen years old from Freedom, Wisconsin. What's Up? A code? 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:12.959 Shout out to Lee Kaufman from Mandersville, Pennsylvania. What's Up? 0:02:13.000 --> 0:02:17.680 Shout out Johnny House. This goes out to you man. 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:20.160 He's also a fan of Butcher Bull and all the 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:23.160 other YouTube series and the song Stutter. What's Up? Johnny? 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:27.400 Shout out to Josh prouty and Josh even sent me 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:30.360 a picture. He says he's got the EEE hat on. 0:02:30.840 --> 0:02:35.519 You're looking good, Josh, appreciate you, bro. Nicole Dottie says, 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:39.160 I'm Nicole and my birthday is coming up on January fourth, 0:02:39.200 --> 0:02:42.040 which we just missed, and she wants to get a 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:45.720 shout out and her favorite song is Remington. Thank you, Nicole, 0:02:46.120 --> 0:02:51.240 and we'll do another one. But Keegan Woodworth, what's up? 0:02:51.320 --> 0:02:55.320 Keegan from a small town in Michigan. I appreciate you 0:02:55.400 --> 0:02:57.959 so much. If you guys ever want to shout out, 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:01.320 just same email Granger Smith Podcast, I said gmail dot com. 0:03:01.480 --> 0:03:04.040 This is gonna be a good episode. We are going 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:08.160 to get to some serious stuff and some stupid stuff too. 0:03:08.560 --> 0:03:46.440 Welcome to the podcast, did Chid and d my tires 0:03:46.440 --> 0:03:52.040 and so long line of my fool of husband down 0:03:52.640 --> 0:04:11.320 fact Rangy cover Nation. So when I moved to Nashville 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:16.960 to be a songwriter in the year two thousand, I 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:21.200 knew one person. I take it back, I knew of 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:28.760 one person from a friend in Texas. That's it. That's only. 0:04:29.200 --> 0:04:32.240 That's the only person I even knew of, And so 0:04:32.400 --> 0:04:35.320 it was one degree of separation. Her name was Angela. 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:42.040 And that literally came about with one of my friends said, oh, 0:04:42.240 --> 0:04:44.640 I know a girl in Nashville. You're moving there. Cool, 0:04:44.920 --> 0:04:48.360 her name's Angela. Here's her number. I was like, okay, 0:04:48.440 --> 0:04:52.000 I'm not gonna call this random person. So I moved 0:04:52.040 --> 0:04:57.960 there July one, two thousand and I remember that, you know, 0:04:58.960 --> 0:05:03.120 mom came and helped me move, and you know, we 0:05:03.240 --> 0:05:05.720 got a nice We went out to a restaurant and 0:05:05.760 --> 0:05:08.160 got like my last hot meal, and then she went 0:05:08.240 --> 0:05:13.880 back to Texas and July second came, July third came, 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:16.680 and I was like sitting in that apartment by myself, 0:05:17.240 --> 0:05:18.760 and I was like, all right, where's that number, the 0:05:18.760 --> 0:05:21.240 where's that girl? You know? So I pulled I pulled 0:05:21.240 --> 0:05:23.359 out that you know, back then, we didn't have everything 0:05:23.400 --> 0:05:26.480 in our phones. So I remember pulling out that paper. Yeah, 0:05:26.520 --> 0:05:28.760 we didn't have phone, we didn't have phones. Yeah, I 0:05:28.920 --> 0:05:31.800 pulled out that piece of paper. You know it says Angela. 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:38.760 And I was like dude, and I was like, hey, Angela, 0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:42.240 my name's Granger. I know you threw so and so 0:05:42.920 --> 0:05:46.719 and I just moved here from Texas. I don't know anybody. 0:05:46.839 --> 0:05:48.799 And she was like, oh, well, I have some people 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:50.800 in my apartment right now. Once you coming over, here's 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:54.600 the address, I was like, okay, So I drove over 0:05:54.640 --> 0:05:59.880 there and you were there. I was there. They were like, oh, 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:04.960 this is Bernie. He's a Texan and I was like, hey, 0:06:05.000 --> 0:06:09.000 I'm Granger. And then just instantly we had this connection. 0:06:10.360 --> 0:06:12.920 It was you know, it started because we were Texans. 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:16.800 But I don't even remember why I was there. I 0:06:16.839 --> 0:06:19.320 don't remember my connection. How I got to that house. 0:06:19.520 --> 0:06:23.840 How did I know Angela? I don't know. Maybe no, 0:06:24.640 --> 0:06:26.400 I don't even remember how I got to that house. 0:06:26.400 --> 0:06:31.560 All I remember is like this, like shining Texas star 0:06:32.040 --> 0:06:38.720 shows up and we couldn't be more different. But then 0:06:39.040 --> 0:06:43.200 Sean got a guitar and you started playing and I 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:46.520 was like, dude, that was awesome. And then I started 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:50.320 playing very different music and you were like, dude, that's awesome. 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:52.719 And so it was as if everybody else faded away 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:57.040 and me and Granger just became friends. Yeah. Yeah, and 0:06:57.240 --> 0:06:59.880 we obviously we don't keep in touch with those other people, 0:07:00.640 --> 0:07:04.240 but me and you just had this connection and it 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:08.839 has lasted now twenty years, twenty one years in July 0:07:09.200 --> 0:07:14.520 getting old bro, that's crazy. Yeah, and that our relationship 0:07:14.600 --> 0:07:17.600 has lasted. You know. You moved back to that to 0:07:17.760 --> 0:07:21.640 Texas in two thousand and three or two three oh 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:24.480 two o two, and then I moved back to Texas 0:07:24.520 --> 0:07:27.640 in four but we still didn't, you know, even when 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:30.480 we were out of state, we kept in touch. When 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:32.840 we moved back to Texas, I moved to College Station 0:07:33.960 --> 0:07:39.160 and you were in Austin, were you San Marcus? And 0:07:39.280 --> 0:07:41.960 then so we were we still you're still now you're 0:07:42.000 --> 0:07:45.320 in South Austin and I'm way up and north, and 0:07:45.440 --> 0:07:49.400 so we still don't live close, but we, you know, 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:52.800 twenty one years later, still keep in touch. And you're 0:07:52.920 --> 0:07:57.760 the guy that I will call if there's something big 0:07:57.840 --> 0:08:00.920 happened in my life or there's a big decision I 0:08:01.040 --> 0:08:04.160 need to make. I'm like, hey, Burns, I got something 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:07.120 for you. And the cool thing about what we have 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:09.960 and I'm sure people listening have this kind of relationship 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:14.080 with somebody, but we have that ability to no matter 0:08:14.560 --> 0:08:16.800 how much time has gone by. Could be eight months 0:08:16.840 --> 0:08:19.800 have gone by, we haven't even talked, which has happened? Yeah, 0:08:20.320 --> 0:08:23.600 and then boom we get on the phone and it's 0:08:23.640 --> 0:08:26.000 like we just saw each other yesterday. We get right 0:08:26.080 --> 0:08:31.000 back into it, and I always value You're such a 0:08:32.720 --> 0:08:36.839 you're a deep thinker, but you're also a really good 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:42.120 listener and I value that, and I value your opinion. 0:08:42.559 --> 0:08:47.920 And through everything I've done, through getting married to having kids, 0:08:48.040 --> 0:08:52.000 to you know, career changes, you were involved in those decisions, 0:08:52.000 --> 0:08:54.800 whether you know it or not, whether you just listened 0:08:54.840 --> 0:08:56.679 to me. And then we hung up, and I was like, 0:08:57.080 --> 0:08:59.000 Bernie was right. You didn't even have to say thing, 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:04.560 but the way that you listen would convince me either 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:07.839 I'm right or I'm not seeing this clearly. Sure. I 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:09.959 mean I can say the same thing about you. And 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:15.520 what's cool is that I think we're probably saying back 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:18.720 and forth things that we both know, but sometimes hearing 0:09:18.800 --> 0:09:21.880 it from the other person and it just kind of 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:25.280 like sits a little bit differently. It's affirmation of everything 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:28.640 that you're kind of feeling. And yeah, I hope that 0:09:28.960 --> 0:09:31.679 there's people out there that have a friend like that. 0:09:32.960 --> 0:09:38.079 I think part of that ability to immediately kind of 0:09:38.200 --> 0:09:42.439 like just get back on track is the willingness to 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:44.920 be kind of real with each other and the depth 0:09:45.040 --> 0:09:48.960 that has been in the relationship. Because if our relationship 0:09:49.120 --> 0:09:51.880 was if any of your friendships or relationships are based 0:09:51.920 --> 0:09:55.160 on like surface things. Then when those surface things change 0:09:55.240 --> 0:09:57.079 and you get back together, it's like, oh, well, you 0:09:57.160 --> 0:10:01.760 don't do this anymore, and there's nothing but it's it's 0:10:01.840 --> 0:10:04.800 been a strange ride with you. Man. There's been so 0:10:04.960 --> 0:10:09.120 many strange times that you've called me and said, hey, 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:13.280 I'm thinking about doing this. I'm like, dude, I'm doing that. Like, hey, 0:10:13.520 --> 0:10:15.480 I haven't talked to you in like over ten times. 0:10:15.559 --> 0:10:20.319 That's happened. Yeah, big life decisions that I'm really deliberating on, 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:23.320 and I'll call you for some advice, and you're going 0:10:23.360 --> 0:10:25.960 to be like, man, I'm actually going through something very 0:10:26.000 --> 0:10:31.400 similar right now. It's really weird and I can't explain 0:10:31.840 --> 0:10:35.480 that connection we've had. We were together, you know, in 0:10:35.520 --> 0:10:39.640 the same town at nine to eleven, So it's interesting 0:10:39.720 --> 0:10:41.720 with all the crazy stuff going on in the world now, 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:48.120 me and you experienced nine to eleven together, and part 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:50.400 of our response to nine to eleven was let's get 0:10:50.440 --> 0:10:52.839 out of here, let's get out, let's run away. Like 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:57.360 everybody else. We had watched TV for you know, twenty 0:10:57.400 --> 0:11:01.719 four hours straight. Yeah, and eventually we just kind of 0:11:01.760 --> 0:11:05.000 got fed up, and so I think I came over 0:11:05.120 --> 0:11:09.679 to your house with like some toilet paper and a 0:11:09.800 --> 0:11:13.199 sleeping bag. And I was like, bro, we gotta go. 0:11:13.480 --> 0:11:15.920 Let's let's get what are we going to do. We're 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:18.120 going we got to get away from all this. Yeah, 0:11:19.120 --> 0:11:22.520 And so we set out on foot for what better 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:26.079 place than a train track? Train track? So we're like, 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:33.199 let's just and I mean, we were very young, but 0:11:34.040 --> 0:11:37.000 the idea didn't seem dumb at the time. It felt 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:39.280 like the most brilliant thing that we come up with, Like, 0:11:39.720 --> 0:11:41.480 of course we're going to follow these train tracks. They're 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:45.600 gonna take us somewhere good. And so I'll skip ahead 0:11:45.600 --> 0:11:52.240 a little bit. So when it got dark, and for 0:11:52.480 --> 0:11:57.199 anybody out there that doesn't know much about trains, you know, 0:11:57.920 --> 0:12:02.120 typically they just have like a really big light, you know, 0:12:02.320 --> 0:12:07.120 on the front of them. They will sound their horn, 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:11.160 except for when they're in the middle of nowhere. So 0:12:11.320 --> 0:12:13.839 Grange and I Grizz, So I've called him for a 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:17.280 long time. Me and Griz are out in the middle 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:21.280 of nowhere. We've gotten to that destination and we're just 0:12:21.480 --> 0:12:24.719 still talking. And the train track is kind of here 0:12:24.800 --> 0:12:28.040 and there's kind of a ravine down into these fences 0:12:28.120 --> 0:12:31.800 on either side and we kind of see this light 0:12:31.920 --> 0:12:35.760 way in the distance and we think like, oh, that's 0:12:36.160 --> 0:12:40.480 we're coming up on something. And we keep coming or 0:12:40.600 --> 0:12:42.960 keep walking, and that thing keeps getting closer to us, 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:45.280 and we kind of look at each other like, well, 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:48.120 if it was a train, they would be honking their horn, right, 0:12:48.480 --> 0:12:52.040 we would know it's a train. That thing probably gets 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:55.319 like fifty feet in front of us, and we now 0:12:55.600 --> 0:12:59.319 hear the engine and we look at each other like no, 0:13:00.200 --> 0:13:03.320 we jump slide down the ravine in between the fence 0:13:03.520 --> 0:13:07.839 and the ravine. This thing is what ten feet from 0:13:07.880 --> 0:13:11.520 our fasts ten feet max. I've never been that close 0:13:11.600 --> 0:13:15.400 to a train before. It's so loud. Yeah, it's terrifying. 0:13:15.600 --> 0:13:18.520 So it's like going past us and we're looking at 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:21.640 each other like a but we can't hear we can't 0:13:21.679 --> 0:13:27.760 hear each other yelling and so uh so then we 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:31.040 that took a lot a lot of our confidence out 0:13:31.080 --> 0:13:34.280 of our own our escape. Yeah, we were like, maybe 0:13:34.440 --> 0:13:36.719 following the train track not best idea. Let's go on 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:40.520 to these people's land that's private property. Let's where we 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:44.480 make a camp. So we jumped, jumped through the fence, 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:48.080 jumped to the fence, made a campfire, set up camp 0:13:48.240 --> 0:13:51.199 with no tent or anything. We had toilet paper, We 0:13:51.320 --> 0:13:55.800 just had matches, and we had a little snacks, some snacks. Yeah. 0:13:55.960 --> 0:13:59.320 Eight those in like first five minutes, We're like, damn hungry. Yeah. 0:13:59.440 --> 0:14:02.199 So that's that's our response to nine to eleven. And 0:14:02.440 --> 0:14:04.640 for those of y'all that didn't live through nine to eleven, 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:09.280 it was crazy. I mean, everyone's looking at the news 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:11.959 today and they're like, oh, this is this is great, 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:16.120 this is wacky. But when it was a foreign threat 0:14:16.520 --> 0:14:19.160 that we didn't know why or where they came from, 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:21.920 or when they were going to hit us again, or 0:14:22.000 --> 0:14:23.760 how we were going to retaliate, we didn't know any 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:31.440 of those things. That was absolutely terrifying, absolutely terrifying. What's 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:35.440 crazy is the difference in the response to what's happening now. 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:40.800 When we are like attacked by an outside threat. It's like, 0:14:41.200 --> 0:14:44.000 I don't care what you look like. You believe, dude, 0:14:44.320 --> 0:14:48.000 we're in this together. We're unified, yes, and through what 0:14:48.080 --> 0:14:51.120 we're experiencing now, it's like, man, can we just remember 0:14:51.200 --> 0:14:53.760 that we're all human, we're all like trying to get 0:14:53.800 --> 0:14:58.120 through this. We're you know, together. So I hope that 0:14:58.240 --> 0:15:00.280 somehow that can come out of this is just a 0:15:00.360 --> 0:15:06.800 reminder of our own you know, humanity, our own similarities 0:15:07.120 --> 0:15:10.360 that hey, we're all just trying to figure this thing out. Yeah, 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:13.760 I remember nine to eleven. In the aftermath there was 0:15:13.840 --> 0:15:17.400 these pictures of neighborhoods or every single house had American 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:21.680 flag flying out in by the front door. Yeah, yeah, absolutely, 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:24.600 And not to say that that stuff is not happening, 0:15:25.040 --> 0:15:30.200 there's exactly. There's a ton of that. And maybe one 0:15:30.240 --> 0:15:33.640 of the biggest differences is the amount of media that 0:15:34.000 --> 0:15:38.760 is available and being consumed in the different platforms. Back then, 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:42.440 it was like you just turn off your TV and 0:15:43.440 --> 0:15:44.760 you know, you don't have to worry about your phone 0:15:44.840 --> 0:15:46.800 or social media or all these different things kind of 0:15:46.840 --> 0:15:51.440 trying to feed you different perspectives, and for better or 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:53.120 for worse, it was like, we just turned it off. 0:15:53.160 --> 0:15:57.320 And dude, can you imagine if nine to eleven it 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:01.560 was the social media age of today and there was 0:16:01.640 --> 0:16:04.160 viral videos of people that were in the buildings that 0:16:04.280 --> 0:16:06.840 were taking video and tweeting it out or sending it 0:16:06.880 --> 0:16:09.360 out right before they jumped out of the window, or 0:16:09.480 --> 0:16:11.680 you know, we would have seen things that you can't 0:16:11.760 --> 0:16:16.440 unsee that's right. Yeah, yeah, man, it's crazy, which is 0:16:16.640 --> 0:16:20.480 evidence that there's no doubt that social media and the 0:16:21.920 --> 0:16:28.000 connectivity of the world now has heightened everyone's fear and alertness. 0:16:28.360 --> 0:16:31.720 And I hear people all the time saying this is 0:16:31.760 --> 0:16:33.840 as bad as it's ever been. We're more divided than 0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:36.120 we've ever been, and I'm like, really, the Civil War, like, 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:38.520 this is more than that, Like the Revolutionary War, this 0:16:38.680 --> 0:16:42.480 is more than that. Yeah, And I'm not arguing against them, 0:16:42.720 --> 0:16:45.720 I'm just saying, let's just think about the fact that 0:16:45.840 --> 0:16:49.640 we could see it on our phones now and what 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:52.120 would we have seen in the Civil War if people 0:16:52.160 --> 0:16:57.400 were tweeting out the pictures and images and videos and yeah, yeah, 0:16:57.440 --> 0:16:59.680 I mean the things that we have to live with 0:17:00.560 --> 0:17:03.400 that we've been exposed to, the things that our kids 0:17:03.480 --> 0:17:06.560 will now see from a young age that we didn't, 0:17:06.720 --> 0:17:11.639 that our parents didn't like. I think just that exposure 0:17:12.800 --> 0:17:16.440 changes your mind in different ways and maybe even ways 0:17:16.480 --> 0:17:20.200 we don't even understand. I mean, this whole true technology thing, 0:17:20.720 --> 0:17:24.760 especially social media, it's all very new. I feel like 0:17:24.840 --> 0:17:27.960 we're the generation that a couple from now, they're going 0:17:28.040 --> 0:17:29.679 to look at us and be like, man, those idiots 0:17:29.760 --> 0:17:34.000 did not know how to handle their technology. Oh yeah, 0:17:34.160 --> 0:17:37.080 you know, we'll be all over the history books. That's 0:17:37.119 --> 0:17:40.280 the idiots. I know. People right now listen to this podcast. 0:17:40.760 --> 0:17:45.120 There's already been a thousand comments already on we're talking about. Well, 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:49.080 let me just say first, like, I'm very grateful that 0:17:49.480 --> 0:17:53.240 Griz asked me to be on here. I hope you'all 0:17:53.280 --> 0:17:55.440 take it easy on me. I'm just every day dude. 0:17:56.200 --> 0:17:58.639 I don't got all the answers or anything like that, 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:02.399 but I'm honored to sit next to my friend and 0:18:02.560 --> 0:18:06.240 just talk about life and the dumb mistakes that we've 0:18:06.320 --> 0:18:08.480 made and hopefully other people can learn from them. Yeah. 0:18:08.840 --> 0:18:11.520 I brought you on not just so we could sit 0:18:11.560 --> 0:18:13.600 here and talk, but so that we could engage with 0:18:13.720 --> 0:18:16.560 some questions that other people have asked. Yeah, and the 0:18:16.640 --> 0:18:19.840 reason it's you sitting here is because if it was 0:18:19.920 --> 0:18:23.160 a really tough question I was deliberating with, I would 0:18:23.200 --> 0:18:28.119 call you. And so I like to think that if 0:18:28.200 --> 0:18:31.160 someone doesn't, this will benefit them, because not everyone has 0:18:31.960 --> 0:18:34.600 access to burns on their speed dial like I do. Sure, 0:18:35.400 --> 0:18:38.920 so I feel very blessed to have you on the 0:18:38.960 --> 0:18:40.639 other end of the phone, and I want to be 0:18:40.760 --> 0:18:44.000 able to get some of these people in your ear also. Yeah, 0:18:44.000 --> 0:18:45.919 and we could just kind of tackle some of these questions. 0:18:46.000 --> 0:18:49.399 So if you've followed this podcast before, you know that 0:18:49.520 --> 0:18:54.040 you could ask me anything at any time. Granger Smith 0:18:54.200 --> 0:18:58.679 Podcast at gmail dot com. Email your questions Grangersmith Podcast 0:18:58.720 --> 0:19:02.640 at gmail dot com, and well archive it. Can't get 0:19:02.640 --> 0:19:04.359 to it immediately because there's a lot of them, but 0:19:04.480 --> 0:19:08.520 we'll we'll get to it eventually. And and if you 0:19:08.680 --> 0:19:11.160 send something and you don't hear me answer it, don't 0:19:11.200 --> 0:19:14.080 send it again or don't forward it. I'm archiving. Don't worry. 0:19:14.080 --> 0:19:19.400 It's it's there. Don't worry about that. So Burns I got. 0:19:20.880 --> 0:19:23.480 I kind of went through this morning and I found 0:19:23.600 --> 0:19:25.200 this one, this one, this one. You know. Then they're 0:19:25.280 --> 0:19:29.359 really all over the place. Most of them are a 0:19:29.480 --> 0:19:32.480 little bit of a deep level because the the easy 0:19:32.560 --> 0:19:35.960 questions I could answer on my own time. But but 0:19:36.040 --> 0:19:40.879 there are all different subject matters, so you want to 0:19:40.920 --> 0:19:47.600 jump into it. Yeah, he hit me with it. Let's see. Okay, Hey, Granger, 0:19:47.760 --> 0:19:50.520 my name is Stetson Outlaw. Is that your name? Bro? 0:19:50.760 --> 0:19:56.840 That awesome? Wow, my name is Stetson Outlaw. That's the cool. 0:19:57.000 --> 0:20:00.560 That's one of the cool. Okay, do you don't need 0:20:00.560 --> 0:20:04.280 any answers name? He goes, yes, that's my real name. 0:20:05.560 --> 0:20:10.159 I'm a first gen farmer in rural Saskatchewan and your 0:20:10.280 --> 0:20:13.440 music is the only music allowed to be played in 0:20:13.480 --> 0:20:16.480 our big green tractors. You and Amber are great people 0:20:16.640 --> 0:20:19.280 and helped me to be a better father and husband. 0:20:19.359 --> 0:20:22.159 I have a daughter from a previous relationship, and the 0:20:22.240 --> 0:20:24.639 mom is trying to do everything in her power to 0:20:24.800 --> 0:20:29.000 stop my daughter from seeing me, saying by saying I'm 0:20:29.040 --> 0:20:33.440 too busy, or my new wife takes priority and getting 0:20:33.520 --> 0:20:37.040 to know her half sister that my wife and I 0:20:37.240 --> 0:20:41.600 had together. My question is how would I cope and 0:20:42.560 --> 0:20:44.280 what would I say to my daughter when the time 0:20:44.359 --> 0:20:46.719 comes when she asked why I didn't want to see her. 0:20:47.240 --> 0:20:50.280 She's my savior from a very horrible life, and I 0:20:50.359 --> 0:20:54.200 want nothing more but having my two girls with me 0:20:54.320 --> 0:20:57.680 all the time. I really value your wisdom and opinions. 0:20:57.920 --> 0:21:03.040 You two are the most amazing couple in parents, just says. 0:21:03.160 --> 0:21:10.560 He ends it with Observe everything, admire nothing, stetson. I'm 0:21:10.600 --> 0:21:14.040 a fan of this guy, Yeah for sure. Yeah, he's 0:21:14.080 --> 0:21:17.000 got his head in the right place because he's questioning 0:21:18.200 --> 0:21:19.600 a lot I think a lot of people let this 0:21:19.720 --> 0:21:23.000 moment pass them by and when it's too late and 0:21:23.160 --> 0:21:26.280 the daughter comes to them twenty years later and you're 0:21:26.480 --> 0:21:29.240 dealing with it then. So you're dealing with it now stetson, 0:21:29.280 --> 0:21:35.280 which is awesome And it's hard for burning, no, because 0:21:35.320 --> 0:21:38.520 we don't know all of the details as far as 0:21:38.760 --> 0:21:42.040 when the mom is trying to do everything in her 0:21:42.080 --> 0:21:46.840 power to stop her from seeing you, if that means 0:21:46.880 --> 0:21:54.639 a court order. But my first thought on this is 0:21:56.000 --> 0:22:02.440 be relentless towards your daughter, hold nothing back. If it's 0:22:02.480 --> 0:22:05.679 a court order, you know, like legally you cannot see her, 0:22:05.880 --> 0:22:09.280 which that sounds crazy, but if it is, I would 0:22:09.320 --> 0:22:15.080 start a diary, writing a diary to her. Absolutely. Yeah, 0:22:15.320 --> 0:22:20.359 dear daughter, it's January twenty twenty one. Yeah, I'm doing this, this, this, 0:22:20.600 --> 0:22:25.000 I'm thinking about you. You said, she's my savior from 0:22:25.040 --> 0:22:28.679 a very horrible life. Just talk about talk to her 0:22:29.160 --> 0:22:32.520 through this journal, and then one day, when that day comes, 0:22:32.600 --> 0:22:35.639 if she says, where were you, dad, you go, here's 0:22:35.680 --> 0:22:39.560 these a box of notebooks that I've written to you. Yeah, 0:22:40.720 --> 0:22:44.879 that's really good. Let me just affirm one of the 0:22:44.920 --> 0:22:48.800 things that he said about Granger number They really are 0:22:48.920 --> 0:22:50.639 two of the best humans that I can think of, 0:22:51.080 --> 0:22:54.680 and I really value everything that he said about me. 0:22:54.800 --> 0:22:59.159 I value me and my wife Leslie, and we value 0:22:59.280 --> 0:23:03.840 them and their life experience, their perspective, just who they are. 0:23:04.320 --> 0:23:09.760 That's why you guys are emailing them questions. It's because 0:23:10.000 --> 0:23:13.879 they're very genuine and authentic what they believe and what 0:23:14.040 --> 0:23:16.879 they stand for and what they say they actually do 0:23:17.080 --> 0:23:18.520 and that's very rare, and so I just want to 0:23:18.640 --> 0:23:20.840 firms that's and yeah, your questions are coming to a really, 0:23:21.240 --> 0:23:30.359 really great place. And so I feel as though time 0:23:31.119 --> 0:23:35.840 will tell the truth. And sometimes it's hard to be patient. 0:23:37.480 --> 0:23:39.880 I think, like Granger said, if you can be diligent 0:23:40.119 --> 0:23:46.040 in your effort, that even though it may feel like 0:23:46.520 --> 0:23:49.600 you're distant now, and she may feel that distant now, 0:23:49.720 --> 0:23:53.440 if you have these kids are really intuitive. And I'm 0:23:53.480 --> 0:23:55.720 not sure how old does he say how old she is? No, 0:23:58.280 --> 0:24:02.040 kids can sense when there's like genuine effort and like 0:24:02.240 --> 0:24:07.080 sacrifice of you know what I want. I don't care 0:24:07.119 --> 0:24:10.600 about that. I just want to be with you. And 0:24:11.600 --> 0:24:14.720 also a lot of times when people say things, it's 0:24:14.800 --> 0:24:17.280 more about them than it is you. So your ex 0:24:17.359 --> 0:24:21.440 wife and her the whatever she's saying to try to 0:24:21.600 --> 0:24:25.919 like separate you and keep you guys. I really think 0:24:25.960 --> 0:24:28.119 it's an opportunity for you to show her some grace 0:24:28.400 --> 0:24:33.240 and to display that for your daughter, because there's gonna 0:24:33.440 --> 0:24:35.680 come a time that she grows up and you guys 0:24:35.720 --> 0:24:38.560 are going to talk about this and for you to 0:24:38.720 --> 0:24:43.840 be able to discuss just the grace that God gave 0:24:43.920 --> 0:24:46.720 you to give to her during this time and that 0:24:46.880 --> 0:24:51.000 truth eventually kind of came up. I think that that 0:24:51.160 --> 0:24:57.600 will definitely help you, know, propel that relationship, sustain that relationship, 0:24:58.200 --> 0:25:00.919 and really just trust in who you are and trust 0:25:01.000 --> 0:25:02.960 in the things that you're doing, and that she's going 0:25:03.040 --> 0:25:08.080 to recognize the effort. Man, that's great, that's great, And 0:25:08.160 --> 0:25:14.920 I totally agree because, like Bernie said, kids are intuitive 0:25:15.200 --> 0:25:18.960 and that foundation that you build with her now of 0:25:19.160 --> 0:25:22.080 showing that effort and the fact that you eve an email, 0:25:22.440 --> 0:25:25.600 you know, a podcast to ask this tells me you 0:25:25.680 --> 0:25:28.080 spent a lot of time in your green tractor thinking 0:25:28.119 --> 0:25:32.040 about it. And I would just encourage you to continue 0:25:32.280 --> 0:25:35.080 thinking about it and continue if that is and I 0:25:35.119 --> 0:25:36.720 think it should be by the way, it should be 0:25:36.840 --> 0:25:40.120 a priority, and if if you believe it is then 0:25:41.440 --> 0:25:45.000 the the effort that you put into it will equal 0:25:45.480 --> 0:25:48.280 how much it means to you. It should anytime someone 0:25:48.320 --> 0:25:51.680 says they really want something, the effort they put into 0:25:51.800 --> 0:25:54.960 that want proves how much they actually wanted it, because 0:25:54.960 --> 0:25:57.560 anyone could say, man, I want to I want a 0:25:57.600 --> 0:26:00.480