Speaker 1: One time, when I was much younger, I decided to
Speaker 1: run away for my problems. I thought it would be
Speaker 1: smart to take a backpack with one of my best
Speaker 1: buddies and head down a train track to escape the
Speaker 1: craziness of the world. At the time, the craziness of
Speaker 1: the world was nine to eleven, and it seemed like
Speaker 1: after nine to eleven that there was a lot of
Speaker 1: uncertainty that everything was going to crash around us and
Speaker 1: the very lives that we lived were going to be over.
Speaker 1: So I decided, Hey, take my buddy and we're going
Speaker 1: to throw a backpack on, put some energy bars in
Speaker 1: our bags and some water, and walk down a train track.
Speaker 1: And that's when we almost got hit by a train.
Speaker 1: I brought my buddy. His name is Bernie, and he's
Speaker 1: going to be on the podcast today. Bernie and I
Speaker 1: have kept in touch since then for twenty one years.
Speaker 1: He's one of my best friends in the world. And
Speaker 1: the dude is so smart. I could call this guy
Speaker 1: if I ever need advice or just need to talk
Speaker 1: or need to chat about something. He always gives me
Speaker 1: that sound advice that I need. And it occurred to
Speaker 1: me recently when I was at his House. I was like, man,
Speaker 1: not everybody in the world has a Bernie like I do.
Speaker 1: I feel lucky that I could just call him and
Speaker 1: get some advice, but not everybody has that. So I
Speaker 1: thought I'll bring him on the podcast and he could
Speaker 1: help me kind of dive into some of these questions
Speaker 1: from you guys, which I get from you if you
Speaker 1: email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. So Bernie and
Speaker 1: I are going to talk about some of our stories,
Speaker 1: our misadventures in life. We're going to answer some of
Speaker 1: your questions, and I think it's gonna be a really
Speaker 1: good show. I want to give some shout outs like
Speaker 1: I always do. This first one goes to Tyler Claxton
Speaker 1: and Ontario. Thank you Buddy. Shout out to Tyler. This
Speaker 1: next one goes out to Dakota and he is turning
Speaker 1: thirteen years old from Freedom, Wisconsin. What's Up? A code?
Speaker 1: Shout out to Lee Kaufman from Mandersville, Pennsylvania. What's Up?
Speaker 1: Shout out Johnny House. This goes out to you man.
Speaker 1: He's also a fan of Butcher Bull and all the
Speaker 1: other YouTube series and the song Stutter. What's Up? Johnny?
Speaker 1: Shout out to Josh prouty and Josh even sent me
Speaker 1: a picture. He says he's got the EEE hat on.
Speaker 1: You're looking good, Josh, appreciate you, bro. Nicole Dottie says,
Speaker 1: I'm Nicole and my birthday is coming up on January fourth,
Speaker 1: which we just missed, and she wants to get a
Speaker 1: shout out and her favorite song is Remington. Thank you, Nicole,
Speaker 1: and we'll do another one. But Keegan Woodworth, what's up?
Speaker 1: Keegan from a small town in Michigan. I appreciate you
Speaker 1: so much. If you guys ever want to shout out,
Speaker 1: just same email Granger Smith Podcast, I said gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: This is gonna be a good episode. We are going
Speaker 1: to get to some serious stuff and some stupid stuff too.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the podcast, did Chid and d my tires
Speaker 1: and so long line of my fool of husband down
Speaker 1: fact Rangy cover Nation. So when I moved to Nashville
Speaker 1: to be a songwriter in the year two thousand, I
Speaker 1: knew one person. I take it back, I knew of
Speaker 1: one person from a friend in Texas. That's it. That's only.
Speaker 1: That's the only person I even knew of, And so
Speaker 1: it was one degree of separation. Her name was Angela.
Speaker 1: And that literally came about with one of my friends said, oh,
Speaker 1: I know a girl in Nashville. You're moving there. Cool,
Speaker 1: her name's Angela. Here's her number. I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna call this random person. So I moved
Speaker 1: there July one, two thousand and I remember that, you know,
Speaker 1: mom came and helped me move, and you know, we
Speaker 1: got a nice We went out to a restaurant and
Speaker 1: got like my last hot meal, and then she went
Speaker 1: back to Texas and July second came, July third came,
Speaker 1: and I was like sitting in that apartment by myself,
Speaker 1: and I was like, all right, where's that number, the
Speaker 1: where's that girl? You know? So I pulled I pulled
Speaker 1: out that you know, back then, we didn't have everything
Speaker 1: in our phones. So I remember pulling out that paper. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we didn't have phone, we didn't have phones. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: pulled out that piece of paper. You know it says Angela.
Speaker 1: And I was like dude, and I was like, hey, Angela,
Speaker 1: my name's Granger. I know you threw so and so
Speaker 1: and I just moved here from Texas. I don't know anybody.
Speaker 1: And she was like, oh, well, I have some people
Speaker 1: in my apartment right now. Once you coming over, here's
Speaker 1: the address, I was like, okay, So I drove over
Speaker 1: there and you were there. I was there. They were like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is Bernie. He's a Texan and I was like, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm Granger. And then just instantly we had this connection.
Speaker 1: It was you know, it started because we were Texans.
Speaker 1: But I don't even remember why I was there. I
Speaker 1: don't remember my connection. How I got to that house.
Speaker 1: How did I know Angela? I don't know. Maybe no,
Speaker 1: I don't even remember how I got to that house.
Speaker 1: All I remember is like this, like shining Texas star
Speaker 1: shows up and we couldn't be more different. But then
Speaker 1: Sean got a guitar and you started playing and I
Speaker 1: was like, dude, that was awesome. And then I started
Speaker 1: playing very different music and you were like, dude, that's awesome.
Speaker 1: And so it was as if everybody else faded away
Speaker 1: and me and Granger just became friends. Yeah. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: we obviously we don't keep in touch with those other people,
Speaker 1: but me and you just had this connection and it
Speaker 1: has lasted now twenty years, twenty one years in July
Speaker 1: getting old bro, that's crazy. Yeah, and that our relationship
Speaker 1: has lasted. You know. You moved back to that to
Speaker 1: Texas in two thousand and three or two three oh
Speaker 1: two o two, and then I moved back to Texas
Speaker 1: in four but we still didn't, you know, even when
Speaker 1: we were out of state, we kept in touch. When
Speaker 1: we moved back to Texas, I moved to College Station
Speaker 1: and you were in Austin, were you San Marcus? And
Speaker 1: then so we were we still you're still now you're
Speaker 1: in South Austin and I'm way up and north, and
Speaker 1: so we still don't live close, but we, you know,
Speaker 1: twenty one years later, still keep in touch. And you're
Speaker 1: the guy that I will call if there's something big
Speaker 1: happened in my life or there's a big decision I
Speaker 1: need to make. I'm like, hey, Burns, I got something
Speaker 1: for you. And the cool thing about what we have
Speaker 1: and I'm sure people listening have this kind of relationship
Speaker 1: with somebody, but we have that ability to no matter
Speaker 1: how much time has gone by. Could be eight months
Speaker 1: have gone by, we haven't even talked, which has happened? Yeah,
Speaker 1: and then boom we get on the phone and it's
Speaker 1: like we just saw each other yesterday. We get right
Speaker 1: back into it, and I always value You're such a
Speaker 1: you're a deep thinker, but you're also a really good
Speaker 1: listener and I value that, and I value your opinion.
Speaker 1: And through everything I've done, through getting married to having kids,
Speaker 1: to you know, career changes, you were involved in those decisions,
Speaker 1: whether you know it or not, whether you just listened
Speaker 1: to me. And then we hung up, and I was like,
Speaker 1: Bernie was right. You didn't even have to say thing,
Speaker 1: but the way that you listen would convince me either
Speaker 1: I'm right or I'm not seeing this clearly. Sure. I
Speaker 1: mean I can say the same thing about you. And
Speaker 1: what's cool is that I think we're probably saying back
Speaker 1: and forth things that we both know, but sometimes hearing
Speaker 1: it from the other person and it just kind of
Speaker 1: like sits a little bit differently. It's affirmation of everything
Speaker 1: that you're kind of feeling. And yeah, I hope that
Speaker 1: there's people out there that have a friend like that.
Speaker 1: I think part of that ability to immediately kind of
Speaker 1: like just get back on track is the willingness to
Speaker 1: be kind of real with each other and the depth
Speaker 1: that has been in the relationship. Because if our relationship
Speaker 1: was if any of your friendships or relationships are based
Speaker 1: on like surface things. Then when those surface things change
Speaker 1: and you get back together, it's like, oh, well, you
Speaker 1: don't do this anymore, and there's nothing but it's it's
Speaker 1: been a strange ride with you. Man. There's been so
Speaker 1: many strange times that you've called me and said, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about doing this. I'm like, dude, I'm doing that. Like, hey,
Speaker 1: I haven't talked to you in like over ten times.
Speaker 1: That's happened. Yeah, big life decisions that I'm really deliberating on,
Speaker 1: and I'll call you for some advice, and you're going
Speaker 1: to be like, man, I'm actually going through something very
Speaker 1: similar right now. It's really weird and I can't explain
Speaker 1: that connection we've had. We were together, you know, in
Speaker 1: the same town at nine to eleven, So it's interesting
Speaker 1: with all the crazy stuff going on in the world now,
Speaker 1: me and you experienced nine to eleven together, and part
Speaker 1: of our response to nine to eleven was let's get
Speaker 1: out of here, let's get out, let's run away. Like
Speaker 1: everybody else. We had watched TV for you know, twenty
Speaker 1: four hours straight. Yeah, and eventually we just kind of
Speaker 1: got fed up, and so I think I came over
Speaker 1: to your house with like some toilet paper and a
Speaker 1: sleeping bag. And I was like, bro, we gotta go.
Speaker 1: Let's let's get what are we going to do. We're
Speaker 1: going we got to get away from all this. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And so we set out on foot for what better
Speaker 1: place than a train track? Train track? So we're like,
Speaker 1: let's just and I mean, we were very young, but
Speaker 1: the idea didn't seem dumb at the time. It felt
Speaker 1: like the most brilliant thing that we come up with, Like,
Speaker 1: of course we're going to follow these train tracks. They're
Speaker 1: gonna take us somewhere good. And so I'll skip ahead
Speaker 1: a little bit. So when it got dark, and for
Speaker 1: anybody out there that doesn't know much about trains, you know,
Speaker 1: typically they just have like a really big light, you know,
Speaker 1: on the front of them. They will sound their horn,
Speaker 1: except for when they're in the middle of nowhere. So
Speaker 1: Grange and I Grizz, So I've called him for a
Speaker 1: long time. Me and Griz are out in the middle
Speaker 1: of nowhere. We've gotten to that destination and we're just
Speaker 1: still talking. And the train track is kind of here
Speaker 1: and there's kind of a ravine down into these fences
Speaker 1: on either side and we kind of see this light
Speaker 1: way in the distance and we think like, oh, that's
Speaker 1: we're coming up on something. And we keep coming or
Speaker 1: keep walking, and that thing keeps getting closer to us,
Speaker 1: and we kind of look at each other like, well,
Speaker 1: if it was a train, they would be honking their horn, right,
Speaker 1: we would know it's a train. That thing probably gets
Speaker 1: like fifty feet in front of us, and we now
Speaker 1: hear the engine and we look at each other like no,
Speaker 1: we jump slide down the ravine in between the fence
Speaker 1: and the ravine. This thing is what ten feet from
Speaker 1: our fasts ten feet max. I've never been that close
Speaker 1: to a train before. It's so loud. Yeah, it's terrifying.
Speaker 1: So it's like going past us and we're looking at
Speaker 1: each other like a but we can't hear we can't
Speaker 1: hear each other yelling and so uh so then we
Speaker 1: that took a lot a lot of our confidence out
Speaker 1: of our own our escape. Yeah, we were like, maybe
Speaker 1: following the train track not best idea. Let's go on
Speaker 1: to these people's land that's private property. Let's where we
Speaker 1: make a camp. So we jumped, jumped through the fence,
Speaker 1: jumped to the fence, made a campfire, set up camp
Speaker 1: with no tent or anything. We had toilet paper, We
Speaker 1: just had matches, and we had a little snacks, some snacks. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Eight those in like first five minutes, We're like, damn hungry. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So that's that's our response to nine to eleven. And
Speaker 1: for those of y'all that didn't live through nine to eleven,
Speaker 1: it was crazy. I mean, everyone's looking at the news
Speaker 1: today and they're like, oh, this is this is great,
Speaker 1: this is wacky. But when it was a foreign threat
Speaker 1: that we didn't know why or where they came from,
Speaker 1: or when they were going to hit us again, or
Speaker 1: how we were going to retaliate, we didn't know any
Speaker 1: of those things. That was absolutely terrifying, absolutely terrifying. What's
Speaker 1: crazy is the difference in the response to what's happening now.
Speaker 1: When we are like attacked by an outside threat. It's like,
Speaker 1: I don't care what you look like. You believe, dude,
Speaker 1: we're in this together. We're unified, yes, and through what
Speaker 1: we're experiencing now, it's like, man, can we just remember
Speaker 1: that we're all human, we're all like trying to get
Speaker 1: through this. We're you know, together. So I hope that
Speaker 1: somehow that can come out of this is just a
Speaker 1: reminder of our own you know, humanity, our own similarities
Speaker 1: that hey, we're all just trying to figure this thing out. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I remember nine to eleven. In the aftermath there was
Speaker 1: these pictures of neighborhoods or every single house had American
Speaker 1: flag flying out in by the front door. Yeah, yeah, absolutely,
Speaker 1: And not to say that that stuff is not happening,
Speaker 1: there's exactly. There's a ton of that. And maybe one
Speaker 1: of the biggest differences is the amount of media that
Speaker 1: is available and being consumed in the different platforms. Back then,
Speaker 1: it was like you just turn off your TV and
Speaker 1: you know, you don't have to worry about your phone
Speaker 1: or social media or all these different things kind of
Speaker 1: trying to feed you different perspectives, and for better or
Speaker 1: for worse, it was like, we just turned it off.
Speaker 1: And dude, can you imagine if nine to eleven it
Speaker 1: was the social media age of today and there was
Speaker 1: viral videos of people that were in the buildings that
Speaker 1: were taking video and tweeting it out or sending it
Speaker 1: out right before they jumped out of the window, or
Speaker 1: you know, we would have seen things that you can't
Speaker 1: unsee that's right. Yeah, yeah, man, it's crazy, which is
Speaker 1: evidence that there's no doubt that social media and the
Speaker 1: connectivity of the world now has heightened everyone's fear and alertness.
Speaker 1: And I hear people all the time saying this is
Speaker 1: as bad as it's ever been. We're more divided than
Speaker 1: we've ever been, and I'm like, really, the Civil War, like,
Speaker 1: this is more than that, Like the Revolutionary War, this
Speaker 1: is more than that. Yeah, And I'm not arguing against them,
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, let's just think about the fact that
Speaker 1: we could see it on our phones now and what
Speaker 1: would we have seen in the Civil War if people
Speaker 1: were tweeting out the pictures and images and videos and yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean the things that we have to live with
Speaker 1: that we've been exposed to, the things that our kids
Speaker 1: will now see from a young age that we didn't,
Speaker 1: that our parents didn't like. I think just that exposure
Speaker 1: changes your mind in different ways and maybe even ways
Speaker 1: we don't even understand. I mean, this whole true technology thing,
Speaker 1: especially social media, it's all very new. I feel like
Speaker 1: we're the generation that a couple from now, they're going
Speaker 1: to look at us and be like, man, those idiots
Speaker 1: did not know how to handle their technology. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, we'll be all over the history books. That's
Speaker 1: the idiots. I know. People right now listen to this podcast.
Speaker 1: There's already been a thousand comments already on we're talking about. Well,
Speaker 1: let me just say first, like, I'm very grateful that
Speaker 1: Griz asked me to be on here. I hope you'all
Speaker 1: take it easy on me. I'm just every day dude.
Speaker 1: I don't got all the answers or anything like that,
Speaker 1: but I'm honored to sit next to my friend and
Speaker 1: just talk about life and the dumb mistakes that we've
Speaker 1: made and hopefully other people can learn from them. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I brought you on not just so we could sit
Speaker 1: here and talk, but so that we could engage with
Speaker 1: some questions that other people have asked. Yeah, and the
Speaker 1: reason it's you sitting here is because if it was
Speaker 1: a really tough question I was deliberating with, I would
Speaker 1: call you. And so I like to think that if
Speaker 1: someone doesn't, this will benefit them, because not everyone has
Speaker 1: access to burns on their speed dial like I do. Sure,
Speaker 1: so I feel very blessed to have you on the
Speaker 1: other end of the phone, and I want to be
Speaker 1: able to get some of these people in your ear also. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and we could just kind of tackle some of these questions.
Speaker 1: So if you've followed this podcast before, you know that
Speaker 1: you could ask me anything at any time. Granger Smith
Speaker 1: Podcast at gmail dot com. Email your questions Grangersmith Podcast
Speaker 1: at gmail dot com, and well archive it. Can't get
Speaker 1: to it immediately because there's a lot of them, but
Speaker 1: we'll we'll get to it eventually. And and if you
Speaker 1: send something and you don't hear me answer it, don't
Speaker 1: send it again or don't forward it. I'm archiving. Don't worry.
Speaker 1: It's it's there. Don't worry about that. So Burns I got.
Speaker 1: I kind of went through this morning and I found
Speaker 1: this one, this one, this one. You know. Then they're
Speaker 1: really all over the place. Most of them are a
Speaker 1: little bit of a deep level because the the easy
Speaker 1: questions I could answer on my own time. But but
Speaker 1: there are all different subject matters, so you want to
Speaker 1: jump into it. Yeah, he hit me with it. Let's see. Okay, Hey, Granger,
Speaker 1: my name is Stetson Outlaw. Is that your name? Bro?
Speaker 1: That awesome? Wow, my name is Stetson Outlaw. That's the cool.
Speaker 1: That's one of the cool. Okay, do you don't need
Speaker 1: any answers name? He goes, yes, that's my real name.
Speaker 1: I'm a first gen farmer in rural Saskatchewan and your
Speaker 1: music is the only music allowed to be played in
Speaker 1: our big green tractors. You and Amber are great people
Speaker 1: and helped me to be a better father and husband.
Speaker 1: I have a daughter from a previous relationship, and the
Speaker 1: mom is trying to do everything in her power to
Speaker 1: stop my daughter from seeing me, saying by saying I'm
Speaker 1: too busy, or my new wife takes priority and getting
Speaker 1: to know her half sister that my wife and I
Speaker 1: had together. My question is how would I cope and
Speaker 1: what would I say to my daughter when the time
Speaker 1: comes when she asked why I didn't want to see her.
Speaker 1: She's my savior from a very horrible life, and I
Speaker 1: want nothing more but having my two girls with me
Speaker 1: all the time. I really value your wisdom and opinions.
Speaker 1: You two are the most amazing couple in parents, just says.
Speaker 1: He ends it with Observe everything, admire nothing, stetson. I'm
Speaker 1: a fan of this guy, Yeah for sure. Yeah, he's
Speaker 1: got his head in the right place because he's questioning
Speaker 1: a lot I think a lot of people let this
Speaker 1: moment pass them by and when it's too late and
Speaker 1: the daughter comes to them twenty years later and you're
Speaker 1: dealing with it then. So you're dealing with it now stetson,
Speaker 1: which is awesome And it's hard for burning, no, because
Speaker 1: we don't know all of the details as far as
Speaker 1: when the mom is trying to do everything in her
Speaker 1: power to stop her from seeing you, if that means
Speaker 1: a court order. But my first thought on this is
Speaker 1: be relentless towards your daughter, hold nothing back. If it's
Speaker 1: a court order, you know, like legally you cannot see her,
Speaker 1: which that sounds crazy, but if it is, I would
Speaker 1: start a diary, writing a diary to her. Absolutely. Yeah,
Speaker 1: dear daughter, it's January twenty twenty one. Yeah, I'm doing this, this, this,
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about you. You said, she's my savior from
Speaker 1: a very horrible life. Just talk about talk to her
Speaker 1: through this journal, and then one day, when that day comes,
Speaker 1: if she says, where were you, dad, you go, here's
Speaker 1: these a box of notebooks that I've written to you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's really good. Let me just affirm one of the
Speaker 1: things that he said about Granger number They really are
Speaker 1: two of the best humans that I can think of,
Speaker 1: and I really value everything that he said about me.
Speaker 1: I value me and my wife Leslie, and we value
Speaker 1: them and their life experience, their perspective, just who they are.
Speaker 1: That's why you guys are emailing them questions. It's because
Speaker 1: they're very genuine and authentic what they believe and what
Speaker 1: they stand for and what they say they actually do
Speaker 1: and that's very rare, and so I just want to
Speaker 1: firms that's and yeah, your questions are coming to a really,
Speaker 1: really great place. And so I feel as though time
Speaker 1: will tell the truth. And sometimes it's hard to be patient.
Speaker 1: I think, like Granger said, if you can be diligent
Speaker 1: in your effort, that even though it may feel like
Speaker 1: you're distant now, and she may feel that distant now,
Speaker 1: if you have these kids are really intuitive. And I'm
Speaker 1: not sure how old does he say how old she is? No,
Speaker 1: kids can sense when there's like genuine effort and like
Speaker 1: sacrifice of you know what I want. I don't care
Speaker 1: about that. I just want to be with you. And
Speaker 1: also a lot of times when people say things, it's
Speaker 1: more about them than it is you. So your ex
Speaker 1: wife and her the whatever she's saying to try to
Speaker 1: like separate you and keep you guys. I really think
Speaker 1: it's an opportunity for you to show her some grace
Speaker 1: and to display that for your daughter, because there's gonna
Speaker 1: come a time that she grows up and you guys
Speaker 1: are going to talk about this and for you to
Speaker 1: be able to discuss just the grace that God gave
Speaker 1: you to give to her during this time and that
Speaker 1: truth eventually kind of came up. I think that that
Speaker 1: will definitely help you, know, propel that relationship, sustain that relationship,
Speaker 1: and really just trust in who you are and trust
Speaker 1: in the things that you're doing, and that she's going
Speaker 1: to recognize the effort. Man, that's great, that's great, And
Speaker 1: I totally agree because, like Bernie said, kids are intuitive
Speaker 1: and that foundation that you build with her now of
Speaker 1: showing that effort and the fact that you eve an email,
Speaker 1: you know, a podcast to ask this tells me you
Speaker 1: spent a lot of time in your green tractor thinking
Speaker 1: about it. And I would just encourage you to continue
Speaker 1: thinking about it and continue if that is and I
Speaker 1: think it should be by the way, it should be
Speaker 1: a priority, and if if you believe it is then
Speaker 1: the the effort that you put into it will equal
Speaker 1: how much it means to you. It should anytime someone
Speaker 1: says they really want something, the effort they put into
Speaker 1: that want proves how much they actually wanted it, because
Speaker 1: anyone could say, man, I want to I want a
Speaker 1: six figure job one day. But if you're not putting
Speaker 1: the effort into it, then you didn't really want Yeah,
Speaker 1: so really want her. Pursue her. There's actually a book,
Speaker 1: you know, Wild of Heart, the girl version of that.
Speaker 1: It's called it's written by Eldridge's wife. It's called uh Okay,
Speaker 1: you guys are gonna have to google John. His name
Speaker 1: is John Eldridge, wild Oh Captivating. It's called captivating, and
Speaker 1: it's about it's the it's about raising daughters, and they
Speaker 1: just want daughters want to know that they're worthy and
Speaker 1: they're loved and they're admired, and that they're captivating to first,
Speaker 1: starting with their father. They want to know that they
Speaker 1: can captivate their father. And if you could prove to
Speaker 1: her that that she captivates you regardless of the space
Speaker 1: that's in between you, then she's she's gonna love you
Speaker 1: in the end. Absolutely. And there's ways stetson that you
Speaker 1: could do that even from a distance, coming from a
Speaker 1: broken home. I can attest that if you get creative
Speaker 1: and you just show that effort like he's talking about,
Speaker 1: she's gonna see it. She's going to know the truth.
Speaker 1: It just kids are kids are better than us. That
Speaker 1: just kind of weeding out, you know, the fake and
Speaker 1: seeing the real thing. Yeah, that's of luck to you,
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Speaker 1: gears on questions if you have anything for me? Grangersmith
Speaker 1: podcast at gmail dot com and going from parenthood to
Speaker 1: career slash faith, so that this is the subject is
Speaker 1: your faith versus your career? It says, Hey Granger. I'm
Speaker 1: Daniel from Clemens, North Carolina. My wife and I have
Speaker 1: been following you for a while and all the content
Speaker 1: that you create, we share the same core doctrines of
Speaker 1: faith that you've expressed on your shows. Piper MacArthur and
Speaker 1: wanted to encourage you to keep doing what you're doing.
Speaker 1: Man side note, Bernie introduced me to John Piper question,
Speaker 1: how do you balance your faith with being a country
Speaker 1: music singer when you're appealing to a market where quote
Speaker 1: bad behavior is celebrated and sells. The reason I ask
Speaker 1: as we listen to a lot of your music with
Speaker 1: our kids, so unfortunately I end up skipping your chance
Speaker 1: when other people's songs pop up and the content is
Speaker 1: below our standards. Thanks again for taking the time to
Speaker 1: read this and using your platform to share your faith journey, Daniel,
Speaker 1: So this and this is a common a common question.
Speaker 1: And I heard a guy tell me a long time
Speaker 1: ago that was a Christian that sang country music, and
Speaker 1: he told me that he chose country music over Christian
Speaker 1: music because he preferred trying to be a light in
Speaker 1: a dark place and I'm man, I feel like I
Speaker 1: need to apologize that my music could fall into a
Speaker 1: category that you don't want your kids to hear other
Speaker 1: songs from other artists that fall into the same category.
Speaker 1: But Bernie, you're you're a good guy for this too,
Speaker 1: because you you you are a singer, songwriter, musician. Even
Speaker 1: though you're going to say you're not, you're you've moved
Speaker 1: on from that. But once you are, you always are sure.
Speaker 1: But you're just in a different you. You paid the
Speaker 1: bills with much different career now, so you could understand
Speaker 1: the sentiment. But it's it's not just a music. This
Speaker 1: falls in every career. Everything that you in, every career
Speaker 1: under the sun. You could do it to glorify God
Speaker 1: or you could do it to glorify yourself. And how
Speaker 1: do you make that distinction, hm, with anything that you do?
Speaker 1: How do you so you are in construction do you
Speaker 1: me you you run a building company? How do you
Speaker 1: wake up and say we're going to remodel or build
Speaker 1: and we're going to do that to glorify God? Great question,
Speaker 1: important question. And I think that this can this can
Speaker 1: cross over into any faith and this is this really
Speaker 1: becomes a deeper question of like why do we believe
Speaker 1: that we exist. I think that our culture can become
Speaker 1: very label oriented. We feel safe when things have labels.
Speaker 1: So it's like, oh, that's a Christian artist because it
Speaker 1: has that name. I understand these qualities about it. This
Speaker 1: is a country singer. I understand, you know, with those labels.
Speaker 1: This guy is a construction worker, this guy is a
Speaker 1: you know, a construction company. But I don't feel that's
Speaker 1: the way that we're created. I don't feel like that
Speaker 1: it's that black and white. I could be wrong, and
Speaker 1: perception is reality. I've decided to live my life and
Speaker 1: encourage others to just always go back to God's word
Speaker 1: and what it says. And it's never going to say
Speaker 1: you need to call yourself a Christian artist or a
Speaker 1: Christian author or a country artist. It's really or if
Speaker 1: you're in construction, you only need to build churches and
Speaker 1: that's right. Or South America, or if you're a it's
Speaker 1: it's really like the manifest state. What we do. Our
Speaker 1: work is a manifestation of what we're fashioned to do
Speaker 1: and what our hearts desire and what's coming out and
Speaker 1: as you know, as we experience life, and we experience tragedy,
Speaker 1: we experience heartache, we experience new places and new you know,
Speaker 1: theories of life, and those things can start to shift,
Speaker 1: they can start to broad and hopefully that's what happens,
Speaker 1: is they you know, they start to broaden, and we
Speaker 1: see the world for something so much bigger than these
Speaker 1: tiny little boxes that we've put them in. And there's
Speaker 1: so much freedom in that. So, like my company, like
Speaker 1: our existential question, why do you exist? We exist to
Speaker 1: improve people's lives. And I feel like that actually lines
Speaker 1: up with God's word. Okay, so how do we behave?
Speaker 1: We behave with humility, curiosity, diligence, and confidence. Those are
Speaker 1: those are not Bible verses, but those are so rooted
Speaker 1: in God's word, and that those weren't decided just overnight.
Speaker 1: Those were like many hours of thinking through, like, okay,
Speaker 1: what are these behaviors? If this is what we believe
Speaker 1: and we want people's trust, how do we how do
Speaker 1: we do what we say by these behaviors? I really
Speaker 1: think all of us spending more time really understanding what's
Speaker 1: inside of us, what are we fashioned to do? And
Speaker 1: trust it? You know, if it, if you feel that,
Speaker 1: you know, God is pushing you to be a rapper
Speaker 1: in the secular world, which there are many, you know, Christian,
Speaker 1: very deep strong believers that are in that there is
Speaker 1: a reason and a lot of times we want to
Speaker 1: like make sense of it, of like, well, why is
Speaker 1: Granger doing this and this guy's doing this. It's like
Speaker 1: some things we don't get to know. We have to
Speaker 1: just trust that God is moving in them the same
Speaker 1: way he's moving in us. We're all human trying to
Speaker 1: figure it out, trying to grow closer to Him. And
Speaker 1: the only thing that this person, you and I can
Speaker 1: do is just be still and think about ourselves. What
Speaker 1: is that inside of us? How is the word in
Speaker 1: our hearts? And then how does it come out based
Speaker 1: on the sphere that he's put us in, sphere of
Speaker 1: influence that he's put us in, and the skills that
Speaker 1: he's fashioned us to do. So good man, This is
Speaker 1: why I called Bernie when I need some advice stuff
Speaker 1: like this. Yeah, I think that's awesome, Daniel. And we
Speaker 1: really focused on your subject line, your faith versus your career.
Speaker 1: And I feel like if you were listening to stuff
Speaker 1: with your kids and you're listening to my music and
Speaker 1: then you think of all the people that didn't have
Speaker 1: any kind of faith and they accidentally stumbled across something
Speaker 1: that meant something to him because they were listening to
Speaker 1: all the other artists. And my music, by no means
Speaker 1: is holy. But you could easily listen to Christian music
Speaker 1: and then find out that guy was cheating on his
Speaker 1: wife and you go, wow, see yeah, I knew it. Yep,
Speaker 1: it's just all phony, you know, So you could you
Speaker 1: could throw that in any category. It doesn't matter. We're
Speaker 1: all human. And I mean, I think stripping away those
Speaker 1: those labels, like Bernie said, is it's so important. That's
Speaker 1: such a great way to put it. I think that
Speaker 1: God can use Like just the other day, man, like
Speaker 1: I was having one of those days at work. I
Speaker 1: needed to go for a walk. I needed to just
Speaker 1: like kind of get out, and I put my headphones
Speaker 1: in and I put on country things. I don't you know,
Speaker 1: I don't know why, Like I just went to that
Speaker 1: song because there's there's something in the melody, there's something
Speaker 1: in the the lyrics, there's something that drew me to
Speaker 1: a place of like just exhale, and it was kind
Speaker 1: of what I needed. So what if that wasn't there.
Speaker 1: You know, I think that again, I think that our
Speaker 1: minds just are so small compared to like the ways
Speaker 1: that God can use all of these efforts. That we're
Speaker 1: just trying to use the gifts that we have and
Speaker 1: put them out there. And the hope is is that
Speaker 1: if you are a believer, that you're taking that through
Speaker 1: the filter of His word your life, the propositional truth,
Speaker 1: the experiential truth, like the theeves are lining up, and
Speaker 1: then you just stay with it. Let it go. Man.
Speaker 1: There has to be someone out there that's been struggling
Speaker 1: with that with their own career. Those are great words, Burns,
Speaker 1: and thank you for asking that, Daniel. That's awesome. Let
Speaker 1: me switch gears. This is a total switch and it says,
Speaker 1: Hey Grage, this is Becca from Bismarck, North Dakota. My
Speaker 1: whole family is big fans. My brother Bobby from Dismarck
Speaker 1: has been a lot of your concerts and done a
Speaker 1: lot of meat and greets. My question for you is this,
Speaker 1: My husband of two years recently discovered he had as
Speaker 1: a sex addiction. Over those two years, there have been
Speaker 1: two major incidents of infidelity where other people have contacted
Speaker 1: me telling me what my husband has said to them.
Speaker 1: Every time I try to confront my husband, he lies
Speaker 1: until he knows he's been caught. Then he says this
Speaker 1: is his last time. He's going to do it. And
Speaker 1: just like any other type of addiction, there's a risk
Speaker 1: of relapsing. I'm twenty six years old and wanting to
Speaker 1: start a family soon. If I stay with him through
Speaker 1: this addiction, I will have to give up having a
Speaker 1: family for a few years until we are both in
Speaker 1: a good place. If I walk away from this marriage,
Speaker 1: I will lose many more things than just having children
Speaker 1: for a few years. I need some guidance. I need
Speaker 1: some perspective on this topic. I love this man, but
Speaker 1: when is enough enough? Man? First, that is just really
Speaker 1: heavy to hear. Sorry, you're going through that, man, It's
Speaker 1: really really sad something like that. I mean, I think
Speaker 1: I can speak for Granger and I both just to say, like,
Speaker 1: I don't know if we have an answer to any
Speaker 1: of these questions, and anything that we say is this
Speaker 1: is based on like what we know and have experienced
Speaker 1: to this date, and sometimes those things change as we evolve,
Speaker 1: and so well, we're gonna think here for a second,
Speaker 1: give it our best shot and just try to try
Speaker 1: to guide you in the right path. Look at it
Speaker 1: as if you're calling a friend or inviting a friend
Speaker 1: over and we're sitting in your living room and we're
Speaker 1: just chatting, and when we leave, you do what you want. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: for sure, it sounds like this may be above There
Speaker 1: may need to be some professional help if he's admitted
Speaker 1: to having an addiction. Just having you know, people in
Speaker 1: you know, close to me that have been through you know,
Speaker 1: different addictions, there's there's a place where our encouragement and
Speaker 1: our in support of them just isn't the tools that
Speaker 1: they need. They really need professional help which is out there.
Speaker 1: And you know, alongside that, I think that there's there's
Speaker 1: something to be said for community and living in community.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you are obviously you didn't mention it,
Speaker 1: but if you, if you are living in community with friends,
Speaker 1: close friends that that you have and that he has,
Speaker 1: just having his friends kind of speak in to his
Speaker 1: life and you know, hold him accountable, bring him support,
Speaker 1: encourage him to seek professional help. And then for you
Speaker 1: just not feeling like you have to carry the burden
Speaker 1: all by yourself. I really hope that you have of
Speaker 1: you know, somebody in your corner that uh, you know,
Speaker 1: that's encouraging you and and guiding you correctly. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm back on Yeah, I'm sorry. You're twenty six years old.
Speaker 1: You want to start a family, which is normal. Everything
Speaker 1: you're saying is I agree with and you and you're
Speaker 1: it sounds like you're you're kind of coming at this
Speaker 1: the right way. You're You're definitely right and being majorly concerned.
Speaker 1: You're definitely right in wanting to hold off on starting
Speaker 1: having kids because right down, the last thing you want
Speaker 1: to do is bring children into this, this turbulent environment.
Speaker 1: And and I probably I don't know if I would
Speaker 1: have gone a different direction until you ended it with
Speaker 1: I love this man to death. But when when is
Speaker 1: enough enough? If you hadn't said you love him to death,
Speaker 1: you know this, this could be a little easier. And
Speaker 1: I also don't know about the ultimative that that you
Speaker 1: have given him and what he knows about you, Like,
Speaker 1: does he think that you're just someone that just you're
Speaker 1: just along for the ride. You're gonna you're gonna you
Speaker 1: love him, so you're gonna be there no matter what.
Speaker 1: I mean. The Bible does say that that you could
Speaker 1: divorce him. You're you're in. You're in the perfect order
Speaker 1: to say I'm out, I'm out. I definitely I admire
Speaker 1: you for wanting to hold this together. I wish that
Speaker 1: this man had the same desire and conviction as you
Speaker 1: do to hold together at a marriage. And you're not perfect.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you've made mistakes, same as me. I'm sure
Speaker 1: you've I'm sure you you've done your share. But nothing
Speaker 1: that you've done warrants what has happened to you and
Speaker 1: what he has done to you and the promises that
Speaker 1: he's broken and regardless of addiction. You could talk about,
Speaker 1: you said, just like many other types of addiction. You
Speaker 1: could throw that out there. But at the same time,
Speaker 1: it's this is about discipline and self control. He's not
Speaker 1: hooked on meth. You know, he's not chemically addicted to cocaine.
Speaker 1: It's different, right, I mean, it's different. I don't think
Speaker 1: we could just throw it in go. Yeah, he's got it.
Speaker 1: He has a problem. He's mentally addicted to sex. We
Speaker 1: all are at some level, we're human beings, like you know,
Speaker 1: we're like rabbits. At some level, we're like rabbits, and
Speaker 1: we have to we have to control that. It's called discipline,
Speaker 1: self control, you know. So you know if I was
Speaker 1: with you, Beck, I would probably raise my voice and
Speaker 1: get upset, like I'm starting to get worked up because
Speaker 1: because it's just it's wrong what you're going through. I
Speaker 1: would hold off. Bernie said the exact right thing at
Speaker 1: the exact right time. We don't have an answer. I'm
Speaker 1: not going to have I'm not going to say here's
Speaker 1: what you do step one, step two. We don't have that.
Speaker 1: I think seek professional help. It's going to cost money probably.
Speaker 1: I know that there's free counseling probably at your church,
Speaker 1: but if you want something else, it's going to cost money.
Speaker 1: I think that's a worthy investment to pay money for this.
Speaker 1: And then you tell him, Hey, we're going to do this.
Speaker 1: We're going to seek help from these different places from
Speaker 1: We're going to get counsel in our friends that we trust,
Speaker 1: in our family, We're going to get counseled at the church,
Speaker 1: and then we're going to see a paid psychiatrist. And
Speaker 1: you're going to go to these meetings with me. And
Speaker 1: if you skip any meetings that could be detrimental if
Speaker 1: you wig out in any way in the course of
Speaker 1: this new plan to get better. Then we're gonna have
Speaker 1: to call this marriage off. And I don't want to.
Speaker 1: I love you to death. The last thing I want
Speaker 1: to do is have a divorce against us in my
Speaker 1: in my life. I don't want that. But but I
Speaker 1: can't go on this way and he needs to say
Speaker 1: There's only one thing he could say, and that's absolutely
Speaker 1: tell me what to do, and I'll show up at
Speaker 1: every meeting and I'll work on this. That's the only way. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think also, just knowing ahead of time that it's
Speaker 1: going to be really messy the path forward there is hope.
Speaker 1: I've actually seen marriages restored from this, but it's going
Speaker 1: to be messy, and I would I would encourage you
Speaker 1: to make sure you're taking care of yourself and you know,
Speaker 1: really spending time in the stillness, in the quiet and
Speaker 1: listening to that small voice that will guide us. That
Speaker 1: you're surrounding yourself with people that can help you navigate
Speaker 1: this because you don't go at it alone. That would
Speaker 1: be my biggest advice. You guys, can't go at it
Speaker 1: alone because others will be able to recognize if there
Speaker 1: is a genuine change in his heart that's happening or
Speaker 1: if it's not. And sometimes when we're in the moment,
Speaker 1: we can be deceived and think, oh, yeah, he said
Speaker 1: this and we're doing this. But I think just living
Speaker 1: that thing out and communities is probably, yeah, probably the best.
Speaker 1: So good beckuad. Thank you for being so extremely vulnerable
Speaker 1: and even including your name in your town and bringing
Speaker 1: this to us. This has to be top of mind
Speaker 1: for you every day, and I just appreciate your trust
Speaker 1: and bringing it to a podcast, and it also shows
Speaker 1: your dedication to it. So that's the luck to you. Becca.
Speaker 1: I think we could be Can we hit one more
Speaker 1: on this segment? I'll switch gears again. I like to
Speaker 1: switch gears. Yeah, I like the subject line is called
Speaker 1: the Calling. Okay, okay, it says, hey Granger, I often
Speaker 1: hear you and Amber, among many others throughout my life
Speaker 1: speak of having a calling to do something through Christ.
Speaker 1: I've belonged to a church since I was a little boy,
Speaker 1: and even then people stated they were called by Christ
Speaker 1: to do certain things. My question is, how do you
Speaker 1: know when you're called to do something? And I'm not
Speaker 1: even sure I've ever felt that I was called by
Speaker 1: Christ to do anything. Maybe I have maybe I never
Speaker 1: heard it or I misunderstood it. I am hoping you
Speaker 1: could answer this question so that myself or someone who
Speaker 1: wonders the same could listen and then follow through with
Speaker 1: what they're called to do. I appreciate your doing your
Speaker 1: podcast and opening up to your fans and listeners. Best wishes,
Speaker 1: Sean from Pennsylvania. It's a great question. Great question, man,
Speaker 1: this is hard. I didn't say it's gonna be easy Burns.
Speaker 1: This is hard, man. I didn't say I didn't bring
Speaker 1: in here to answer. Why did I start? Where did
Speaker 1: you I know that? I mean, this is like people's
Speaker 1: lives that I know they are, you know, really listening
Speaker 1: deeply to this, not even the people that put in
Speaker 1: the questions, but all your your fans and the people
Speaker 1: that listen to this, and the weight of that with
Speaker 1: questions that are just like Okay, yeah, I call it.
Speaker 1: I don't. I'm not really sure. I love the question too, Sean, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's good. I don't know. Part of me thinks that
Speaker 1: I don't really know if you know a calling until
Speaker 1: you're in the middle of it. I mean, here's I
Speaker 1: can only speak from my life, and I feel like
Speaker 1: a lot of time I have not seen it written
Speaker 1: in the clouds, go do this, And it's like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go do this. An angel spoke to you
Speaker 1: in your dreams, right, you know, I need to again
Speaker 1: Like I'm the biggest advocate of just stillness and listening,
Speaker 1: quiet and solitude. And I don't know if it's a
Speaker 1: calling as much as just this little nudge in one direction.
Speaker 1: And I think that God's word gives us, hey, this
Speaker 1: is what you do. This is your calling, you know,
Speaker 1: to love your neighbor as yourself, to you know, to
Speaker 1: give yourself up in all things. Like there's these and
Speaker 1: I feel like if we're if that is as a believer,
Speaker 1: that's our calling and we live and that's our motivation.
Speaker 1: Then these career things and maybe this is tying back
Speaker 1: to the other questions, like I think they just kind
Speaker 1: of happen, at least for me. It's just I was
Speaker 1: never intending to do what I'm doing now, and who
Speaker 1: knows what I'm going to be doing five years from now.
Speaker 1: I just feel like I've had kind of this core
Speaker 1: belief of you know, you know, following God's word, being
Speaker 1: still putting others first, loving my community, loving my church,
Speaker 1: and things just kind of happen, and there's kind of
Speaker 1: a nudge of like, Okay, can we do that. I
Speaker 1: don't think we can do that, but I kind of
Speaker 1: feel that nudge, And so maybe that's the calling that
Speaker 1: he's talking about, that little nudge. And what he means
Speaker 1: is too, is that we see other people having examples
Speaker 1: of very specific written in the cloud stuff. My mom
Speaker 1: does that. You know, my mom just has She is
Speaker 1: so faithful. She just has big signs that just happened
Speaker 1: to her. And I kind of get jealous. I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: I wish I could have a sign. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: I wish a bluebird would come out of the snow
Speaker 1: and look at me through the window and you know whatever.
Speaker 1: But man, this is what this is my challenge to you, Jean.
Speaker 1: You wrote this out to me. How do you know
Speaker 1: when you're called to do something? I'm not sure if
Speaker 1: I've ever felt called. Maybe I have, and maybe I
Speaker 1: didn't understand it. I would take that what you asked
Speaker 1: me and go to God with it every day, and
Speaker 1: you could be God knows your heart. You know, God
Speaker 1: knows every thought. He knows your heart, So go to
Speaker 1: him and just go hey God, Sean and Sean, maybe
Speaker 1: you're not a man of prayer, or maybe you're wanting
Speaker 1: to be more, or maybe you are a lot. I
Speaker 1: don't know. But God, what are you calling me to do?
Speaker 1: Are you calling me to be right here and be
Speaker 1: in this today, in my career, in my life? Is
Speaker 1: this what you need me to do? If it is,
Speaker 1: continue to open those doors so that I could walk
Speaker 1: through them and I feel confident that I'm flowing with you.
Speaker 1: And if it's not, throw an obstacle out there, make
Speaker 1: it more difficult, make me feel like I'm swimming upstream
Speaker 1: and nothing makes sense and everything is a closed door,
Speaker 1: and ask him that every day. God, have I missed it?
Speaker 1: Are you giving it to me? That's what the guys
Speaker 1: in the Old Testament did, That's what David would sit
Speaker 1: there every day and just conversation, this fellowship with God.
Speaker 1: Just God. I don't know. I'm confused. God knows you're confused.
Speaker 1: He knows your thoughts, he knows your heart. God, did
Speaker 1: I miss it? He knows, He knows all these answers.
Speaker 1: And he's not going to boom from the clouds. He's not,
Speaker 1: but he could. He could definitely make phone calls happen
Speaker 1: and make illnesses happened or healed, or make I hate
Speaker 1: to say it, but he could make a car accident
Speaker 1: happen that gives you an injury that takes you into
Speaker 1: another career. He can. But if you're aware of what's happening,
Speaker 1: feel the flowel the feel the I like to think
Speaker 1: of it as a stream, and you're Sometimes you feel
Speaker 1: like in life you're just going with the stream, like man,
Speaker 1: I'm just cruising, and sometimes it feels like you're swimming
Speaker 1: up it and nothing makes sense and everything's difficult, and
Speaker 1: every paddle will gets you back, you know, one step forward,
Speaker 1: two steps back, And I would I would do the
Speaker 1: same thing you asked me on this podcast and ask
Speaker 1: God that and I would start my day with it.
Speaker 1: I would think of it when I'm driving, and I
Speaker 1: would end my day with it. If this is something
Speaker 1: that's truly on your heart, God, what am I? What
Speaker 1: are you calling me to do? Me, Sean from Pennsylvania,
Speaker 1: What do you need me to do? And the answer
Speaker 1: may be nothing right now, right, stay it put right?
Speaker 1: It may it may be something very different than what
Speaker 1: you're expecting. And again, I feel like our spiritual journeys
Speaker 1: can be really counterculture. And so if we're if this
Speaker 1: is your heart and you're really I mean, you're sending
Speaker 1: emails to Granger, So obviously this is stirring in you.
Speaker 1: God may not be saying, Hey, your calling is to
Speaker 1: go build this wall. Yeah, but the calling maybe today,
Speaker 1: go pick up one brick and put it over there,
Speaker 1: and are we willing to be faithful to do that?
Speaker 1: And that's what I was saying, like, I don't know
Speaker 1: if you know what the calling is until you're halfway
Speaker 1: up the wall. It's like God's building the wall. Yeah, right,
Speaker 1: And I've been putting these bricks here. I'm not knowing
Speaker 1: why for the last few years, and now I'm kind
Speaker 1: of getting a glimpse of it. And the crazy thing
Speaker 1: is in my life the time I get to the
Speaker 1: top of the wall, he's already kind of got me
Speaker 1: moved on. I don't have any there's no time to
Speaker 1: like boast on look at this calling. Look what I did.
Speaker 1: It's like, oh no, man, he's got me like chopping
Speaker 1: up this wood over here. I don't know why, but man,
Speaker 1: karate kid wax on wax off. Yep, he just wax
Speaker 1: on wax off. And you're like, what am I doing?
Speaker 1: This still just feels ridiculous, and then one day, you know,
Speaker 1: karate and you beat Johnny in the championship. That's right, man,
Speaker 1: great question. Uh, I could we could probably talk about
Speaker 1: this for an hour, but it's so it's so good. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you could go ten years without hearing anything, and that
Speaker 1: could just be that's the brick by brick that Bernie's
Speaker 1: talking about. Or you could literally get a phone call
Speaker 1: from your boss tomorrow and say I'm promoting you, and
Speaker 1: you go, okay, well there's in it. But but regardless,
Speaker 1: just ask him. Bring it to God. Yeah, bring it
Speaker 1: to him over and over and over with it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what he wants. And his word tells us that
Speaker 1: his grace is sufficient. So if you never get to
Speaker 1: see a big wall, you never get a promotion. Man.
Speaker 1: I just feel like I rest all the time, and
Speaker 1: the fact that his grace is all I need, that's sufficient. Dude.
Speaker 1: We got to end it with that. I love so much. Man.
Speaker 1: If you want Bernie comment here, bring Bernie back. I
Speaker 1: got a feeling it's gonna work all right. See you guys.
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