Speaker 1: Welcome back to another episode of Good Mom's Love Flowers.
Speaker 2: I'm Erica and I'm Mela, and I'm already high. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm here trying to act not high.
Speaker 1: I'm like mentally, I almost forgot that I was higher,
Speaker 1: but then you just reminded me, and I'm high.
Speaker 2: I guess what we're gonna do and get more hard.
Speaker 2: I wanted to get hygien.
Speaker 3: If you're just tuning in, this is a show where
Speaker 3: we talk about cannabis, comment on current events, and talk
Speaker 3: high thoughts.
Speaker 2: Yep, that's what we do.
Speaker 1: We get high and we just let all the high
Speaker 1: things come that come to mind, just let them flow.
Speaker 1: You know, sometimes when you get high and all those
Speaker 1: crazy questions that come to your head inside your head,
Speaker 1: you don't tell anybody because you're like, is this stupid?
Speaker 1: It probably is, But here we say it out loud
Speaker 1: because you're probably thinking the same shait with things.
Speaker 3: So I want to fully encourage you to get high
Speaker 3: with us. So pause, pause the video, Go grab your weed,
Speaker 3: roll up with us, because it's gonna get it's gonna
Speaker 3: get a little foggy in here.
Speaker 2: I want to solicit to the people, but not solicit.
Speaker 2: That's maybe the wrong word.
Speaker 1: I want to ask the people, could you does any
Speaker 1: if any artists out there?
Speaker 2: I think we need to have like a roll up
Speaker 2: theme song, like rolling with the weed, rolling.
Speaker 3: Up, I get ha ha, that's progressive, rolling with the hommies, Rolanda.
Speaker 4: Can you can you insert that right?
Speaker 2: Sure?
Speaker 1: Can you do this rolling with the homemade?
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's do it, because that's so that's like clueless.
Speaker 1: It's like lash and it's rolling and we're with our homie.
Speaker 1: Or it could be like it's seven pm Friday, we
Speaker 1: do have.
Speaker 2: We we could use Lizzie. We actually she talks about
Speaker 2: us getting high.
Speaker 3: That's true, Okay, with that good smoking on my good mom,
Speaker 3: listen to good Mom, smoking on that good bomb, listening
Speaker 3: to good.
Speaker 1: Moms, even though she thought she said smoking on that
Speaker 1: good bomb, because we're smoking that good bomb and I
Speaker 1: got that good bomb.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm. Well let me go ahead, and are you
Speaker 2: want to roll today? Sure? Pass me that backwood true
Speaker 2: rat baby.
Speaker 3: Okay, but first I want to show you how beautifully
Speaker 3: prepared your rolling experience.
Speaker 2: It's like tarcouterie of weed. We have cannabis.
Speaker 4: I feel like Vana White.
Speaker 3: We have this beautiful, sacred, feminine flower. I believe this
Speaker 3: is a hybrid as I'm hoping, because this is my
Speaker 3: preferred choice of cannabis. And over to the riot, we
Speaker 3: have beautiful, ethically sourced from nature rose petals mixed with
Speaker 3: just a little dash of lavender, because lavender is soothing
Speaker 3: and calming and rose is a heart opener, and when
Speaker 3: you mix this with motherflower, it is quite quite delectable experience.
Speaker 1: And then to bring the flavors together, we've actually paired
Speaker 1: it with a deliciously robust hand tobacco rolled backwood, just
Speaker 1: to keep keep the urban in it. We want to
Speaker 1: keep it classy, we want to keep it soft and feminine,
Speaker 1: but just so we have just enough masculine, just so
Speaker 1: we let bitches.
Speaker 2: Know not to be We're not to be fucked we
Speaker 2: fucked with. It's the balance you need, the masculine and
Speaker 2: the feminine, and.
Speaker 1: This is how we balance it in our backwood. We
Speaker 1: get the backwood for the masculine, and then we get
Speaker 1: the flowers for the soft, and then we combine them
Speaker 1: together and we soak car saliva in it because that's
Speaker 1: the God's nectar, and together and we pair it with
Speaker 1: a weed drink, and so.
Speaker 3: For the haters who are hating on my Backwood intake.
Speaker 3: That is the reason I didn't know it was until
Speaker 3: this very moment, but I knew it. My body intrinsically
Speaker 3: knew it.
Speaker 2: Did you know Backwoods was made in the Dominican Republic?
Speaker 2: Interesting really backwards.
Speaker 1: We're available to come through some taste testing and some ingredients.
Speaker 1: We've been We've offered ourselves many times. We've solicited ourselves
Speaker 1: to Backwoods to fly us out Dominican Republic so that
Speaker 1: we can show you the flavors potential that you have.
Speaker 1: So I think maybe didn't get the email the last
Speaker 1: four So just collar.
Speaker 3: And again we're smoking the true wraps because the traps
Speaker 3: are my new fave because I don't have to do
Speaker 3: any work.
Speaker 2: They just come out ready to row.
Speaker 1: And you know what, this year we're in the second half.
Speaker 1: It's all about more money, less work. So baby, thank
Speaker 1: you for this already perfectly cut, smooth brown Dominican Republic.
Speaker 2: To back overall.
Speaker 4: Let me get this together for us.
Speaker 1: You would think we would still from any point we
Speaker 1: would get a lighter in here, but no, never gonna happen.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, we have our matches. So it's been
Speaker 2: up to my lovely love.
Speaker 3: Oh what's been up? Well, I've just been enjoying my
Speaker 3: life like it's golden, doing a lot of nude tanning,
Speaker 3: trying to get my color up. I'm not sure if
Speaker 3: it's working, because bitch still looks pretty fucking light.
Speaker 1: We're going about to be on our way to colored
Speaker 1: up sunshine Caribbean, closer to the equator, away from the
Speaker 1: ghettowness so soon. I can't wait to get sun kissed.
Speaker 1: And I I'm an avid baither like, I believe that
Speaker 1: for the health of your whole body, you need to
Speaker 1: be naked in the sun at least like a thousand
Speaker 1: hours a year.
Speaker 2: I believe so. I believe so.
Speaker 3: I think that it's really important for people to get
Speaker 3: actually naked, and not just their bathing suit.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you think it's just a small piece of
Speaker 1: clothing and it doesn't make a difference, But removing that
Speaker 1: small piece of clothing really really activates something inside. I
Speaker 1: think charge you super charged through your nipples and your vagina.
Speaker 1: If you haven't tried Yoni charging, definitely she gets some
Speaker 1: yony bathing in the Next time you're in a private
Speaker 1: place and you but be careful, will get burned.
Speaker 3: And for those who don't know what a yoni is
Speaker 3: or what yoni bathing is, your yonie is.
Speaker 2: Your volva noviovagina. And when you yoni bathe, you do
Speaker 2: something like this. Step one, this.
Speaker 1: Is the yoni bathing song. We don't know what they're saying,
Speaker 1: but it sounds right.
Speaker 2: Step one, they make the stallion. Step two, you lay back.
Speaker 1: And if you might need a friend to help you,
Speaker 1: you just and this would be the sun here just
Speaker 1: beaming down straight direct sunlight to the kuchi. Just so
Speaker 1: you know, the inner thigh can get some color, and
Speaker 1: the inner laby is the iner and out of labias
Speaker 1: can get full sun blast. Because this is how you activate. Okay,
Speaker 1: so say this is the sun and she's gonna charge up.
Speaker 1: These lights we have in here are actually from the sun,
Speaker 1: So this is equivalent.
Speaker 2: I'm showing you how. I hope, I hope you realize
Speaker 2: the importance in this.
Speaker 1: If you're not on YouTube, what the fuck are you doing?
Speaker 1: That's the only way you're going to see this intricate
Speaker 1: move on how exactly?
Speaker 2: Don't tell me I never taught you anything.
Speaker 1: We're actually going to offer a workshop on this before
Speaker 1: the end of the summer. It's called the Yoni Sunshine Class.
Speaker 1: We'll all gather around a body of water, probably a pool,
Speaker 1: and we don't give them too much in Okay, sorry,
Speaker 1: you got to you gotta find out. We've already gave
Speaker 1: Fay the pussy fairies on the way.
Speaker 2: But there's more to that.
Speaker 3: But that's step one. That's the tip of the Yonie
Speaker 3: Sunshine Iceberg.
Speaker 1: I love good moms with flowers, and we always have
Speaker 1: We always have really good tips because we're smart, I mean,
Speaker 1: know stuff.
Speaker 2: And we actually do it in our real life. You know,
Speaker 2: I'd really be putting my pussy up to the sunlight.
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's what I've been doing.
Speaker 3: Actually too, I've been doing some Yoni bathing out there
Speaker 3: in the backyard. I've been doing some nude hooping.
Speaker 1: I love this because this reminds me of like an
Speaker 1: Instagram bio, Like I teach women how to nude, how
Speaker 1: to how to yoni bathe, nude hooping, and how to
Speaker 1: have the best self confidence of their life. And for
Speaker 1: five hundred dollars a month, you can know how to
Speaker 1: bathe too.
Speaker 2: Do you know what?
Speaker 3: Because I was we were looking I was looking at
Speaker 3: at another girl's retreat and she had all this intricate
Speaker 3: information and I was like, that's so interesting. And then
Speaker 3: she she had all the healers or the facilitators that
Speaker 3: were going to be at the retreat, and they all
Speaker 3: had such interesting job like just job descriptions. Because now
Speaker 3: we're in the age of like audas can just make
Speaker 3: whatever the fuck else, whatever whatever you want up.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the age of audacity, or you could do
Speaker 1: whoever the fuck you want.
Speaker 3: And I kind of was like, well, shit, if that's
Speaker 3: really what she does, like she should be able to
Speaker 3: say it, right.
Speaker 2: I mean, it's I think it's it's.
Speaker 3: That line between like are you actually doing this versus
Speaker 3: do you actually do Like I'm not really doing this,
Speaker 3: and that's where the the line of audacity becomes a
Speaker 3: little bit of just fuckery. But and then I was like, well,
Speaker 3: the bitch, maybe she is. Maybe she does she does
Speaker 3: do this, so why can't she be called that?
Speaker 4: I may you everyone.
Speaker 1: I feel like the next time I'm like in a
Speaker 1: restaurant and someone's choking and they need the high look
Speaker 1: and move, I'm like, move out of my way. I'm
Speaker 1: a first aid kid, I know tattoo art. I'm a
Speaker 1: last check. I'm I'm a fucking sexologist and I'm trauma informed.
Speaker 1: Please get out the way.
Speaker 3: I think my I think the title I'm working towards
Speaker 3: right now is I'm a hoop priestress. I think that's
Speaker 3: I'm a I know, I like the hoop priestress.
Speaker 1: A hoop priestress, okay, so not priestess priestress. So it's
Speaker 1: like a combination of seamstress, no hooper, and a priest.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, you had it right, Okay, it was priestess.
Speaker 2: I'm just high. I told Atlanta that I wanted to
Speaker 2: be the the poop priestess.
Speaker 1: I told Orlanta I wanted to be the pleasure priestess,
Speaker 1: and he said, it sounds like I'm selling pussy on
Speaker 1: the internet. So he killed my dreams immediately before you
Speaker 1: even got it on the bio.
Speaker 2: It's so interesting people's perspective. That word. That word means
Speaker 2: a lot of different things to people.
Speaker 1: Pussy, your priestess, pleasure, Oh, pleasure, I'm sorry if my pleasure.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was here in busy man, Yeah, I know pleasure.
Speaker 3: I think pleasure gets an interesting wrap people in their mind.
Speaker 2: It's so interesting, you know.
Speaker 1: I think particularly yeah, particularly for women and particularly for moms.
Speaker 1: It's like saying like happiness, pleasure, joy or like or
Speaker 1: like trigger words like we're not supposed to use them,
Speaker 1: Like why would you be happy and that be a priority,
Speaker 1: And why would priority prioritizing your pleasure be your priority?
Speaker 1: Because your priority should be your kids and if it's
Speaker 1: not your kids, then you're a fucked up person. And
Speaker 1: if you want to prioritize pleasure, it also like for
Speaker 1: some reason implies that you're just like you don't take
Speaker 1: it and you don't take anything serious.
Speaker 3: You don't take anything anything seriously, no discipline. But mostly
Speaker 3: I feel like the word pleasure is is grossly.
Speaker 2: Linked to something overtly sexual.
Speaker 1: Which it can be, but also why is overtly sexual
Speaker 1: and negative connotation? Like I even think about like this
Speaker 1: is probably not the best example, but this is what
Speaker 1: came to mind. Like for instance, okay, like like obviously
Speaker 1: nobody ever wants to hear their parents have sex, right,
Speaker 1: but like, uh, in the case like in our households,
Speaker 1: if that has happened, or if there's anything you know,
Speaker 1: any mention of sex growing up, you're like every it
Speaker 1: like shuts down any conversation instead of it being like, of.
Speaker 2: Course I'm having sex with your dad.
Speaker 1: We love each other, and it's if this is what
Speaker 1: this is, what's married people.
Speaker 2: Do, it becomes perverse.
Speaker 1: Yes, it becomes reverse when it's there's nothing really perverse
Speaker 1: about making love and creating and like being in love
Speaker 1: and being in union with someone. It's actually a beautiful,
Speaker 1: enlightening thing that could be like, you know, very divine,
Speaker 1: but from small children we are. We're in doctrine into
Speaker 1: this idea that indulging in sex and pleasure in that
Speaker 1: way is perverse, even if it's in like a healthy manner.
Speaker 2: You have the.
Speaker 1: Reprogram the world over weed speaking a pleasure. Baby, You
Speaker 1: ready for this motherfucking backway.
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Speaker 2: Thank you, you're welcome. Wait can we lately hmm, there
Speaker 2: we go.
Speaker 3: Yeah, lesson to cleanse the weed because we don't know
Speaker 3: whose hands this cannabis has passed through. So we just
Speaker 3: ask that the most High Mother Nature that she cleansed
Speaker 3: this weed for us so that we can ingest it
Speaker 3: in system beautifully, easefully, that it creates inspiration, abundance and
Speaker 3: energy in our bodies.
Speaker 2: Amen, Lord knows I need energy now, time for this backward.
Speaker 3: So the other day, I was having a conversation with
Speaker 3: my Mayan's and we were talking about my man.
Speaker 2: What was that I saw you did?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 1: Speaking of your man, I noticed a hard lotch on Instagram.
Speaker 2: La la la la la.
Speaker 3: We'll talk about that on Patreon. But anyway, I was, yesked,
Speaker 3: I was talking with my man about emotional cheating. And
Speaker 3: you know, as I'm designing my relationship because I feel
Speaker 3: like I'm in such an interesting point because it's early on,
Speaker 3: and like I feel like this is where we can
Speaker 3: really kind of create the the I guess the terms
Speaker 3: and agreements of how we view our the negotiation right
Speaker 3: now in the negotiation period, in the negotiation redlining.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well also.
Speaker 3: Like sitting and really thinking, like what do I want
Speaker 3: this to feel? Like if I have a partner that's
Speaker 3: really open to being really designing it with me, Like
Speaker 3: what is it that I actually want? Anyway, So we're
Speaker 3: talking about emotional cheating, and it's like we had we
Speaker 3: had like conflicting views, not really conflicting so much, just
Speaker 3: little nuances that I had never even considered about, just
Speaker 3: like what emotional cheating actually means to me? Because most
Speaker 3: of the time, I think as women, we view emotional
Speaker 3: cheating as like either someone is like sending nudes, someone
Speaker 3: is confiding in your relation in the relationship, send sending
Speaker 3: news or or or emotionally divulging information about the person
Speaker 3: you're in a relationship with, or just sharing information that
Speaker 3: maybe your partner doesn't even know about you.
Speaker 1: Like so whether it's sharing information like that maybe you
Speaker 1: were sharing with someone else that I don't know about you.
Speaker 3: Like imagine if like Orlando were to share something super
Speaker 3: vulnerable about.
Speaker 2: His childhood that he has yet to ever share with you.
Speaker 1: But like I'm going through something right now, I'm super depressed,
Speaker 1: but you haven't expressed that to me.
Speaker 2: Is that emotional cheating?
Speaker 4: Hell yeah, that's cheating.
Speaker 1: Emotional cheating is cheating to me, like cheating is cheating,
Speaker 1: is cheating, and cheating, I think that I would have
Speaker 1: a problem with that.
Speaker 2: What about you?
Speaker 3: Well, so, okay, well my first reaction was that, and
Speaker 3: I think that that is, like, I think that's how
Speaker 3: most people, most women feel, I think emotional cheating. There
Speaker 3: also needs to be some sort of like underlining, maybe
Speaker 3: not even underlining. Maybe it's very overt. Sexual tension needs
Speaker 3: to exist because you can have a girlfriend, like like
Speaker 3: your partner could have a friend that's a woman that
Speaker 3: there is really tonic and be sharing vulnerable things with
Speaker 3: and it's just some women would be like, that's still
Speaker 3: emotional cheating, and other women might say that's not emotional cheating.
Speaker 3: But I do have questions as to why you felt
Speaker 3: you needed to share this with her and not me.
Speaker 1: Well, I think it's really sticky when you say the
Speaker 1: part about the about the sexual tension, right, because the
Speaker 1: part about that is no one nobody's ever going to
Speaker 1: be honest about that. If you're a relationship and your nigga,
Speaker 1: your bitch catches you having in a like deep set, Like.
Speaker 3: But I think the sexual tension would be probably you
Speaker 3: would be you would be able to identify it.
Speaker 4: Yes, but the nigga's deny, deny, deny.
Speaker 2: I mean, but you could.
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm just saying, like, if you're looking at
Speaker 3: someone's phone and this person says there's this is my friend,
Speaker 3: usually there's you could read between the lines and see
Speaker 3: that there's something different.
Speaker 2: But yeah, no, you're right, I understand that too.
Speaker 3: If that doesn't exist, how do you actually know if
Speaker 3: there's sexual tension without them expressing it or you witnessing it.
Speaker 1: I mean, I agree, you definitely witness it. I can
Speaker 1: smell sexual tension from a mile away. Don't fucking play
Speaker 1: with me. Yeah, I think it's it's tricky, It could
Speaker 1: become tricky. Where did you draw the line? Like, what
Speaker 1: are your thoughts on that?
Speaker 3: I felt like, So when I was thinking about my
Speaker 3: partner divulging something personal to a friend, a female friend
Speaker 3: that he hasn't divulged to me, how that would make
Speaker 3: me feel? I don't think I would. I would not
Speaker 3: consider that emotional cheating per se. I feel like every
Speaker 3: person has their own right to share parts of themselves
Speaker 3: that they want with other people. I would more so
Speaker 3: want to understand why you didn't feel comfortable sharing that
Speaker 3: with me, Like what about our relationship dynamic?
Speaker 2: Is that?
Speaker 3: Or maybe like you needed to share that first so
Speaker 3: that you knew how to share it with me later
Speaker 3: than Okay, then maybe I understand that. But there is
Speaker 3: a level of like I do want you to be
Speaker 3: like I'm your lover, hold me and best friend, like Nigga,
Speaker 3: you tell me everything. Why would you share this with
Speaker 3: her not with me? Intentionally keep this from me with
Speaker 3: no planned sharing.
Speaker 2: It with me.
Speaker 3: That to me, I don't want to say it's cheating.
Speaker 3: I don't think it's cheating. It's just troublesome. I feel
Speaker 3: like it creates trouble. It can create trouble and a
Speaker 3: dynamic and whether or not, because then I thought, okay, well,
Speaker 3: like my man is fine, Like I'm fine. I think
Speaker 3: that the men in my life that are my friends
Speaker 3: a lot nine times out of ten, a lot of
Speaker 3: times we're human. If I made a pass or I
Speaker 3: actively pursued.
Speaker 2: One of my male friends in my life, would they
Speaker 2: fuck me? Probably? And vice versa. So then like where
Speaker 2: do you draw the line?
Speaker 3: Is it's just like your nigga can't have no female
Speaker 3: friends because he's fine and women can't control themselves, and
Speaker 3: if they were left to their own devices and he
Speaker 3: pursued them, they might fuck them. So they're really not
Speaker 3: friends or are they just humans that share attraction and
Speaker 3: you can't really so you're supposed to not have friendships
Speaker 3: with any woman that or male that could potentially be
Speaker 3: attracted to your finance.
Speaker 1: Which then it gets sticky. No, I don't think that's
Speaker 1: realistic at all. I don't and I think men have
Speaker 1: operated in the way like niggas don't want no nigga
Speaker 1: wants to be your friend. I dot times I've heard
Speaker 1: that niggas don't want to be your friend. I'm like,
Speaker 1: but I have a good personality. I'm really funny, and
Speaker 1: it's true a lot of times niggas do have ulterior motives,
Speaker 1: but sometimes they don't. But also I think that men
Speaker 1: underestimate and are a little bit slow, so they or
Speaker 1: maybe they're not just acting slow, they sometimes miss when
Speaker 1: women have ulterior And.
Speaker 3: That's what I said to him too, I said women.
Speaker 3: I think women don't trust men's discernment with their female
Speaker 3: friends because they often play either play dumb or they
Speaker 3: actually are stupid, or women are just really koi and
Speaker 3: we just know we understand the coin is the women,
Speaker 3: and understand the koi and flirting are sometimes one and
Speaker 3: the same, and.
Speaker 2: Women are women? Are we we?
Speaker 1: When I say wait, I mean we operate on a
Speaker 1: level and I know like women sometimes will I think
Speaker 1: there's this there's just false belief. Well, actually it's true
Speaker 1: because there's just more women in the world than there
Speaker 1: are men, just like metrically, we're not in an even space.
Speaker 1: And then take like the stupid ones they ain't shit ones,
Speaker 1: and then the gaze that brings our percentage down really low.
Speaker 1: So I think there's this idea that there's need, there's
Speaker 1: this need for competitiveness between women for men, and so
Speaker 1: if even in like maybe it is your homegirl, but
Speaker 1: she's always like thought you were attractive, but now you're
Speaker 1: being like, really, you're in a really beautiful relationship with
Speaker 1: a woman, and maybe your friend, your female friend, is
Speaker 1: not and there's an envy like, oh, well we've been
Speaker 1: friends for X amount of time, Like why wouldn't you
Speaker 1: Why why couldn't I pursue this type of relationship, especially.
Speaker 2: Why don't I deserve this why don't I deserve this?
Speaker 1: And maybe I have seniority over this bitch, So maybe
Speaker 1: like I can be your friend, but eventually you'll come
Speaker 1: over here and I'll have what you guys have. There's
Speaker 1: like this, I think there's like this, that happy tail.
Speaker 4: Ending, that fairy what is it?
Speaker 2: What the fairy tale?
Speaker 1: Er happy tale? Fairy tale? You know, the one that
Speaker 1: they'd be writing in the books. Is such a prevalent
Speaker 1: programming for women that we like will cut over like
Speaker 1: the happily ever after relationship. And I don't think men
Speaker 1: realize how cut throat it is for women, or they
Speaker 1: we think it is that we'll try to, like we
Speaker 1: could try to infiltrate as a friend, but beyond some
Speaker 1: other shit.
Speaker 3: I believe that, But I also believe that is the
Speaker 3: problem is that women don't trust other women. And when
Speaker 3: you when you begin to heal that wound that women share.
Speaker 3: I believe that when we do, because I believe that
Speaker 3: we can, that won't even exist, that dynamic doesn't even exist.
Speaker 3: And no world does a woman want to take your
Speaker 3: man because you respect that woman even if you don't
Speaker 3: know her. There is just a universal respect that women
Speaker 3: have for one another and it's not based in this
Speaker 3: like feeling of lackness or I deserve you know. It's like,
Speaker 3: that's why it's so important, I think the work that
Speaker 3: we do with women, because that's where I really feel
Speaker 3: it's rooted in a lot of it is our distrust
Speaker 3: for women is the center of that whole dynamic and
Speaker 3: men men too. But yes, but for all, I can't worry.
Speaker 3: I can't do anything about that, do you.
Speaker 2: Know what I mean?
Speaker 1: No, I never ever want to operate in a relationship
Speaker 1: where I'm like, I'm so paranoid about you leaving me
Speaker 1: or potentially doing something fucked up that I want to
Speaker 1: cut you off from all potential friendships, all potential interactions.
Speaker 1: If you dance on the dance floor with the bitch,
Speaker 1: if you're having small talk, then I'm cutting you with
Speaker 1: my eyes from across the room. Like I don't desire
Speaker 1: that for myself, and I know women like historically in relationships,
Speaker 1: people are like, well that I'm in a relationship now,
Speaker 1: and that's how you that's the.
Speaker 4: Way to be respectful.
Speaker 1: It's like cutting yourself off from half of the entire
Speaker 1: population by the opposite sex is not a way of
Speaker 1: like an ode to loving someone, it's it's asking for trouble, honestly,
Speaker 1: because you're going to start. It's just like locking a
Speaker 1: teenage girl in her room and telling her she can't
Speaker 1: do shit. She's gonna fucking sneak out and then she's
Speaker 1: gonna start drinking and she's gonna act and ask and
Speaker 1: get pregnant early.
Speaker 2: It's like taking away the thing.
Speaker 4: And so it's like like.
Speaker 1: That that fucking forbidden fruit theory, you know, and so
Speaker 1: I don't believe in that. And it's like, yeah, trust,
Speaker 1: we have to trust each other, you know, Like you
Speaker 1: have to trust you're the person you're dating, and you
Speaker 1: have to trust your the they have discernment and decisions,
Speaker 1: and that goes a long way.
Speaker 4: Who are we choosing as partners?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 1: Because if I have to worry about you when you
Speaker 1: fucking turn the corner and niggat, I got time, I
Speaker 1: can hardly keep up with the shit I gotta keep
Speaker 1: up with.
Speaker 2: Now, I got to worry about what you're doing around
Speaker 2: the corner, like.
Speaker 3: And the trust also goes And to just further talk
Speaker 3: about that aspect is like trusting that even if your
Speaker 3: man did have a friend who crossed the line at
Speaker 3: some point that he would have the discernment to put
Speaker 3: a boundary in that relation, in that relationship, And that's
Speaker 3: where I think a lot of women don't trust their men.
Speaker 3: It's like, he might not do it, but is he
Speaker 3: actually going? Is he going to continue the friendship because
Speaker 3: he feels like he has the discernment to like navigate
Speaker 3: the relationship even though she's crossed the line. And it's like,
Speaker 3: how do you feel about that? Do you think that
Speaker 3: he should in that instance? Should a man totally discard
Speaker 3: of that friendship now because he's had to he's had
Speaker 3: to check this woman, or and now she's gonna now
Speaker 3: she's gonna respect the bounds of his relationship. Or does
Speaker 3: he just ignore it and just like carry on like
Speaker 3: nothing exists, or does he actually discard the relationship?
Speaker 2: I guess is the alternative.
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm not what would you want? I'm not
Speaker 4: a fan of you know, I'm a big fan of you.
Speaker 1: Make the decision so I can see how you move,
Speaker 1: and then I will make the decision if I want
Speaker 1: to fuck with you. But I'm also the type of
Speaker 1: person who I'm always leaning towards cutting people off. I
Speaker 1: feel you, I feel like it's just lower, like lower
Speaker 1: potential for accidents to happen, which is probably not the
Speaker 1: best route either. But then to even make it even
Speaker 1: in more intricate, do you believe and what if they
Speaker 1: have had sex before you, but they have maintained a friendship,
Speaker 1: do you trust and can you trust it they can
Speaker 1: cease that sexual relationship and still have the platonic relationship
Speaker 1: despite the fact that they've crossed that line before or
Speaker 1: is it.
Speaker 4: Easier to fall into that.
Speaker 2: I say yes, because I've done that, because I can
Speaker 2: do it. If I can do a nigga, you could
Speaker 2: do it.
Speaker 4: But I will let niggas do it well.
Speaker 3: And that back to the person you've chosen and if
Speaker 3: you trust that person and the other person and how
Speaker 3: they respect that relationship and what your I guess rules
Speaker 3: around that look like in your relationship too. So some
Speaker 3: people are like, I don't want to do I don't
Speaker 3: want to be with someone who has exes as friends.
Speaker 2: That's my non negotiable. That's it. That's like no, a
Speaker 2: no for me.
Speaker 1: Well, that's probably because Johnny said that was his sister
Speaker 1: and he was actually fucking her and so he lied
Speaker 1: to you for five years And now you have scars,
Speaker 1: and now you're like, I'm never dating someone who has
Speaker 1: any female friends or your fucking sister from up the street, Pooky,
Speaker 1: who you know for ten years, is not your fucking.
Speaker 4: Sister Pooky, And so I'm a hard no for that.
Speaker 1: So then it's like carrying that wound into every other
Speaker 1: relationship that maybe not have anything to personally actually do
Speaker 1: with that person, and maybe you'll miss out on a
Speaker 1: great relationship because they're not willing to release that friendship,
Speaker 1: you know, or like you know, you can't. I do
Speaker 1: believe like you can't come into somebody's life and be like,
Speaker 1: cut that bitch off, cut that bitch off is me,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like I don't believe in
Speaker 1: like rearranging someone's life, like I want to supplement it.
Speaker 1: But if this relationship is so important to you, I'm
Speaker 1: just going to watch you, nigga, and watch this bitch
Speaker 1: very closely, and I'm going to tell you how like
Speaker 1: whether or not I'm going to be in the scenario
Speaker 1: because I feel like women we know, and I like
Speaker 1: if it depends on how you interact with the woman
Speaker 1: interacts with you, and how they interact with each other.
Speaker 3: So yeah, yeah, I believe that you can tell a
Speaker 3: lot by how the woman interacts with you, and also
Speaker 3: you can tell a lot even by your partner. He
Speaker 3: might not even be Epsen no good, but he keeps
Speaker 3: them separate. He keeps them separate just because he doesn't
Speaker 3: want to deal with it. But he wants to keep
Speaker 3: his friendship. But he also wants to keep his bitch. Then,
Speaker 3: but that keeps them separate even though his intentions are
Speaker 3: not in malice necessarily, And that's where shit gets fucked
Speaker 3: up too.
Speaker 1: Well, maybe they that man also has trauma from a woman,
Speaker 1: you know, being super jealous, and so he's like, I
Speaker 1: don't even want to play into this. But then that's
Speaker 1: the that's the worst thing to do is keep it
Speaker 1: separate because then it feels like he has something to hide.
Speaker 1: And you know what, I think a big conversation with
Speaker 1: this is because I'm really like going deep in my
Speaker 1: mind about it. But it's like it's the crazy that
Speaker 1: women possess in their head, that it's the thoughts, because
Speaker 1: my thoughts would be like nope, like I can I
Speaker 1: can have one notion and I can turn a wheel
Speaker 1: all the way in that direction quickly, and I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: too much of a liability, don't want it. I'm ever
Speaker 1: gonna ask you not to talk to her. I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna stop talking to both the motherfuckers, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean.
Speaker 3: So I feel I but they're gonna do what they're
Speaker 3: gonna do, regardless of whatever it is you'r you think
Speaker 3: or feel. That's what my that's where that's where it
Speaker 3: comes down to my mind. It's like, yes you can.
Speaker 3: It's I think it's important to express how you feel,
Speaker 3: share your boundaries. Watch, but ultimately, nigga's gonna do what
Speaker 3: niggas want to do.
Speaker 1: And my biggest thing this has always protected me, baby,
Speaker 1: the way my God is set up in this motherfucking
Speaker 1: witch intuition. Nigga, good luck if you can get past that,
Speaker 1: past this bitch for ninety days, if you can get
Speaker 1: past this witchy intuition and God's given me the gifts
Speaker 1: of bitch, look to your right, honey, there's God won't
Speaker 1: even let me be in the dark too long because
Speaker 1: he'd be.
Speaker 2: Like, oops, oops, bitch, your niggas cheating. I could be
Speaker 2: turning the channel and be like, is this nigga cheating?
Speaker 2: It's true.
Speaker 1: It's like like somehow the ring camera is on your
Speaker 1: cell phone, never logged in, Like this is the way
Speaker 1: my luck is, Like not even luck.
Speaker 2: When you're supposed to know some shit, you'll be knowing.
Speaker 1: Sometimes bitch has been turning the other cheek because they
Speaker 1: want to keep that man most.
Speaker 2: Of the time. Most of the time. But yes, okay,
Speaker 2: I have a question.
Speaker 1: So if your man had an emotionally cheating relationship but
Speaker 1: it was only via phone, they never physically done it anything,
Speaker 1: But maybe they're having a little bit of inappropriate conversation.
Speaker 1: Maybe there's some nudes being top. But baby, I never
Speaker 1: touched her. It's only you. Was just talking. I was
Speaker 1: just talking. I wasn't going to do nothing. I was
Speaker 1: just flirting. It didn't mean shit, Like I've never touched her.
Speaker 1: Are you going to proceed in that relationship?
Speaker 2: No? No, no, now I can't. I can't anymore because
Speaker 2: now you're a liar. I've moved. I've in twenty twenty three.
Speaker 3: I like, oh my last bit of toxic insecurity.
Speaker 2: And I hung it there and I said no, thank Yeah.
Speaker 1: Okay, after that relationship, you could have done one or
Speaker 1: two things. You could have taken that scar with you
Speaker 1: and that fucking terrible person and then move into the
Speaker 1: next relationship and say cut off every bit you ever met,
Speaker 1: including your mama, because you I know this scenario, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean.
Speaker 4: And then you could have just been, like you know,
Speaker 4: bitter because of it.
Speaker 1: And I can see why a lot of women are,
Speaker 1: because it's happened a lot of times.
Speaker 2: But I just know better, and I knew better.
Speaker 3: I know better, and I just would rather us have
Speaker 3: to battle there are things in our relationship then that
Speaker 3: that's not what I It's not something I care to battle.
Speaker 2: Early on, middle on, I don't care.
Speaker 3: I don't care to battle it well because there's already
Speaker 3: gonna be especially early on, I don't care to battle it.
Speaker 1: There's already so much shit to battle, like the government,
Speaker 1: like health insurance, you know, like how are we going
Speaker 1: to have a house with these prices? There's so much
Speaker 1: to battle, Like you snore, you get on my fucking nerves.
Speaker 1: Now we gotta add on this other bitch. I can't
Speaker 1: control that. That's too much. Yeah, you're right, Like I
Speaker 1: think people really do need to, uh just take an
Speaker 1: itemized look at where where do you have energy?
Speaker 4: For?
Speaker 2: For real?
Speaker 1: Like with all the things going on in the world.
Speaker 1: Do I have energy to work past this? And that's
Speaker 1: another thing, at this big age, at this big ass age,
Speaker 1: especially in this time where everybody's open and everybody's fucking
Speaker 1: poly and everybody's transparent and honest from the internet, telling
Speaker 1: everybody in the stories every single detail about their life
Speaker 1: that nobody mother fucking ask for.
Speaker 2: And this time, why fucking lie?
Speaker 1: Why make an agreement with another an adult and be like,
Speaker 1: I only want you, baby. I'm not gonna stick my
Speaker 1: stupid penis and no other bitch, nor am I gonna
Speaker 1: taxt flirty.
Speaker 2: I just want you.
Speaker 4: Why make that agreement?
Speaker 1: If you know you want to stick your dick in
Speaker 1: another bitch and you want to text flirty.
Speaker 2: Just tell them, just don't make the agreement. Nine times
Speaker 2: on the ten, people are gonna be old.
Speaker 3: I think people go into the relationship with the good intentions,
Speaker 3: even those people, They go in thinking they can do it,
Speaker 3: and then something creeps back in that little itch, that
Speaker 3: little text from that bitch that you didn't block, or
Speaker 3: whatever it is, and insecurity pops up because you're dating
Speaker 3: this beautiful queen and you can't believe it, like whatever
Speaker 3: it might be, Like those things happen. I think that's
Speaker 3: where men like it's. Yes, I believe that too. I
Speaker 3: think there's a large population of men that just need
Speaker 3: to leave fucking women alone because you know where you're
Speaker 3: at and you know it ain't here. And I think
Speaker 3: there's another population of men that have the best intentions
Speaker 3: and go in with true and a true hope to
Speaker 3: be faithful.
Speaker 2: And then.
Speaker 1: I think this is learning lesson that the Straits should
Speaker 1: take from the gaye what the gays, the man on
Speaker 1: man relationships and all my like mos, Oh, the Straits
Speaker 1: need to learn from the gays in this regard because
Speaker 1: most male male relationships, you know from my research from
Speaker 1: reality TV and my gay homeboys, I think most of them,
Speaker 1: I mean not most of them.
Speaker 4: I feel like a lot of them have open relationships.
Speaker 1: Because they already they're already working within the nature of
Speaker 1: themselves niggas. So as a man, I don't think men
Speaker 1: really expect their niggative full time be like monogamous. I
Speaker 1: think there are obviously faithful, loyal, man on male relationships
Speaker 1: that are successful, but a lot of the times it
Speaker 1: comes with the exception of they're probably maybe you know,
Speaker 1: falling around here and there.
Speaker 3: Because they know men well, their sex drive is together.
Speaker 3: I can't even imagine what that kind of energy generates.
Speaker 2: It. It generates a lot of fucking.
Speaker 1: And because they've accepted that, you know, and the problem
Speaker 1: with heterosexual sexual relationships is or refuse to give women
Speaker 1: the option to fuck o their niggas too. They want
Speaker 1: to have the sole option to and utilize, utilize their
Speaker 1: utilized they testicles and they seemen as an excuse to
Speaker 1: fuck everybody. But we also have some disosterone and we'd
Speaker 1: be liking to fuck too, And if you gave us
Speaker 1: equal rights, you'd probably get what you want to. But
Speaker 1: a lot of guys have ego and they refuse to
Speaker 1: let women have the same the same privilege.
Speaker 2: M So basically we should all be Polly.
Speaker 1: No, I don't believe in polly okay.
Speaker 2: But I do just want to make sure understood what
Speaker 2: I mean. I'm just saying we should we should be
Speaker 2: taken from the games.
Speaker 1: We're the I'm just saying, if you're going to be cheating,
Speaker 1: you might as well take that from the gaze and
Speaker 1: just be honest and open about it, because what's the
Speaker 1: point of dragging something along?
Speaker 4: And like, okay, for instance, well do you.
Speaker 2: Think most women want to be open, because that's the thing.
Speaker 1: No, I don't think most women want you, but I
Speaker 1: think women would rather have the option versus being led on.
Speaker 1: Like we have friends. You know we're taking women, but
Speaker 1: we do have friends who are still in the dating pool.
Speaker 4: Bless their hearts. Let's say a prayer for them.
Speaker 1: Dear God, please put your grace on all of our
Speaker 1: single friends.
Speaker 2: I was just there, girl, I feel you.
Speaker 3: I I've only been newly indoctrined into the secret society
Speaker 3: of healed men and healing men and me.
Speaker 1: And I know a lot of us are still out
Speaker 1: there in the streets. And I know it's a dirty
Speaker 1: dog place. It's like the post apopalytic dating world. And
Speaker 1: I know it's hard out here. But God, I would
Speaker 1: just like to put your healthy relationship juice on all
Speaker 1: of the women, Lord, all of our friends, because it
Speaker 1: is hard out here, and we have enough to deal with, Okay,
Speaker 1: enough enough in the politicals and all the things. There's
Speaker 1: so many things to deal with. Lord, for the just
Speaker 1: bless our sisters. Bless them, Bless the single sisters with
Speaker 1: healthy love.
Speaker 3: Healthy love, healthy relationships, good sex, safety, safety, safety, delicious, juicy, wet, nasty, sex.
Speaker 4: Regulated, nervous.
Speaker 3: So the one that you cry because you're happy, not because
Speaker 3: you're sad because that nigga cheated on you and you
Speaker 3: let him fuck by accident.
Speaker 2: You're stressed because why does this feel so good? He
Speaker 2: ain't fucked at once?
Speaker 1: And let the intuition speak to them Lord, and so
Speaker 1: they waste less time with fuck niggas and more time
Speaker 1: with niggas that don't want to waste their timesha.
Speaker 2: Amen.
Speaker 1: So speaking of my single sisters, I've witnessed it just
Speaker 1: watching friends date and I've seen niggas.
Speaker 2: Just straight up lie, just straight up be fake.
Speaker 1: And it's so strange to me, Like why I have
Speaker 1: friends who offered non monogamous options.
Speaker 2: Hey, you're one of them. I'm one of them. Hey,
Speaker 2: non monogamy is here.
Speaker 1: I know about it. I did a lot of research.
Speaker 1: I ask a lot of friends if this is the
Speaker 1: option you'd like to take. I'm open to what this
Speaker 1: looks like. And then here's this other option that you
Speaker 1: probably can't obtain because you're not honest with yourself for
Speaker 1: others and you haven't got to that level of maturity,
Speaker 1: and it's called monogamy. Do you want this one, or
Speaker 1: do you want this one? The level where you can
Speaker 1: maybe work your way up to here and nine times.
Speaker 2: Understand the starter pack. It's a starter pack where you
Speaker 2: know what niggas do.
Speaker 4: They want to be advanced.
Speaker 1: They want to skip the work and they want to
Speaker 1: say I'm advanced, I can do that, and then they
Speaker 1: take the monogamy pack, and then you know what you do?
Speaker 2: You fuck it up because you're stupid.
Speaker 1: Instead of just knowing what level you could read at
Speaker 1: and going to the beginner.
Speaker 2: If you can't read good, it's okay to start where
Speaker 2: you're at. Start where you're at.
Speaker 1: You don't need to go to the advanced book. You
Speaker 1: don't have to read Kill a Mockingbird. Just read something
Speaker 1: basic like The Babysitters Club. I don't know Nancy drew
Speaker 1: fourth grade reading level. The point is, stop with the madness,
Speaker 1: stop with the lying, cheating, bullshit.
Speaker 4: Black women, we don't have time.
Speaker 3: We have to stop making time because we do have time.
Speaker 3: We've got to stop making this. This is not even blackman,
Speaker 3: this is all women. You gotta stop making the time.
Speaker 3: We keep saying we don't have time, but somehow time
Speaker 3: coming up, and we keep making it.
Speaker 1: Like bitch, go to pilates, Go to pilates, go to
Speaker 1: the park, go talk shit with your homegirl, and just
Speaker 1: go over there. Don't go to that niggas house because
Speaker 1: you want to get some Get that rose.
Speaker 2: I need that rose back my charger. I needed a
Speaker 2: new charger, That's what it is.
Speaker 1: I I never replaced mine, and I'm just like, what
Speaker 1: the fuck? I just realized what have I been doing?
Speaker 1: You know, I got this other one that's a mushroom.
Speaker 2: I don't like that one. I like it, you know why.
Speaker 1: I haven't meaning to create this in real life, but
Speaker 1: we need like a diet vibrator, like a light, a
Speaker 1: vibrator light.
Speaker 2: They have those ye are so intense. It's the different
Speaker 2: settings this light to light.
Speaker 1: To intend the light should be the light on the
Speaker 1: intents should be like it should be, should go even lighter.
Speaker 3: Well where the zappie's sissy world. You want to get
Speaker 3: zapped and I don't want to get sap. That's what
Speaker 3: the rose does, zapsy. That's why it goes from zero
Speaker 3: to one hundred and bitches are passing out.
Speaker 1: You know, you gotta put a barrier between it. You
Speaker 1: gotta put like a sheet and then the vibrant.
Speaker 2: What you do really, I ary interesting, like.
Speaker 4: A towel and then the vibrator.
Speaker 1: I've never done that, yeah, because it's just it's but
Speaker 1: if you're a vappy bitch, you might not like that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, might be like, what the fuck is this?
Speaker 3: I think I finally have unzapped myself. I was really
Speaker 3: scared for a while. I thought that I totally zapped
Speaker 3: it off.
Speaker 1: The sheet is like the condom for the for the vibrator.
Speaker 1: It's the only time condoms are good, the protection.
Speaker 2: That's true.
Speaker 1: Speaking of sex, I discovered a new porn site that
Speaker 1: you might want to look into. What is it Ebony Galore?
Speaker 2: Is that it Ethony Galore?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 2: I like that name already and all the good black porns.
Speaker 2: So it's not like the other one.
Speaker 1: No, No, it's actually like a higher quality than Tasty
Speaker 1: Blacks Ebony.
Speaker 3: Galore ebgore dot com.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we can endorse them for real.
Speaker 3: So is it like all black porn, like even from
Speaker 3: the nineties, Like it's like a whole day to day.
Speaker 2: It's like that type of vibe. I'm just wondering, because
Speaker 2: that's how it works. I think they just.
Speaker 1: Pull Why why I don't know if it's basis from.
Speaker 3: The I'm telling Orlandos shaking his head because he don't
Speaker 3: have the fun I'm talking about specifically.
Speaker 2: New porn site? Do you have ninety I was wondering
Speaker 2: because I don't want that.
Speaker 3: I get annoyed when I see old You've had so
Speaker 3: much more fucking that's happened since then.
Speaker 2: Why do we have to watch thank from nineteen ninety
Speaker 2: four like they have ten adyp of the new ship? Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's and I thought you were I thought you were
Speaker 2: seeking no.
Speaker 3: No no, no no no, but maybe but maybe someone is.
Speaker 3: And if you are going new porn because that's where
Speaker 3: that shit is.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so apparently it's dated.
Speaker 1: If anybody in the comments has any input on what
Speaker 1: are the number one porn sites for you, please put
Speaker 1: those in the comment.
Speaker 2: In there keep, you know, share share the wealth because
Speaker 2: it's hard off there be a gatekeeper.
Speaker 3: I searched free I've searched free porn actually not that
Speaker 3: long ago, because I was really tired of my fate
Speaker 3: my other sites and it was like it was whack.
Speaker 3: It was all paid. It was like just ads ads ads.
Speaker 3: I was like, there's nothing here. But I know that
Speaker 3: some people have secret links like Ebony Galore that have
Speaker 3: not been shared in Tasty Blacks, which you know go
Speaker 3: at your own risk and might give your computer virus.
Speaker 2: But I was willing to risk it.
Speaker 3: I really needed to see some new black porn that
Speaker 3: wasn't fucking on.
Speaker 2: It was just this. It's all the same over on
Speaker 2: like those other websites.
Speaker 1: So Roline, I want you to add some magical music
Speaker 1: when I say that, Stardust Stars.
Speaker 2: You're welcome.
Speaker 3: Well anyway, guys, thank you for joining us for another
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