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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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Speaker 1: This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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Speaker 1: tip is that sometimes it is good to be patient.

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Speaker 1: While plenty of things can be done more efficiently, some

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Speaker 1: things just demand more time. The best way to deal

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Speaker 1: with this is to decide to be certain of the

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Speaker 1: outcome while recognizing that the process takes as long as

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Speaker 1: it takes. So I have been thinking about this topic

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Speaker 1: of patience a lot lately because I write books for

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Speaker 1: a living, and that means I spend a lot of

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Speaker 1: time writing. But it also means I spend a lot

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Speaker 1: of time thinking about what my next book should be.

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Speaker 1: The idea has to be big enough to justify seventy

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Speaker 1: thousand words. It has to be new enough not to

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Speaker 1: waste my reader's time, and the concept has to interest

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Speaker 1: me enough to justify spending big chunks of the next

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Speaker 1: two years of my life on it. I get a

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Speaker 1: lot of ideas. I mean, there's a new episode of

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Speaker 1: this podcast every weekday morning, but a book idea is different,

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Speaker 1: and consequently I go through a lot of brainstorming and

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Speaker 1: a lot of trying things out and a lot of

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Speaker 1: false starts Before I feel like I've got anything workable,

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Speaker 1: and sometimes this is frustrating. Searching for the right idea

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Speaker 1: takes a lot of time and a schedule where a

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Speaker 1: lot of time is already spoken for. So when it

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Speaker 1: comes to book ideas, I try to remind myself of

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Speaker 1: a few things. First, it would be better to spend

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Speaker 1: a year thinking and iterating and come up with an

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Speaker 1: excellent idea, then spend a month thinking and iterating and

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Speaker 1: go with something I don't like so much just because

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Speaker 1: I'm impatient to move forward. I have made this choice

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Speaker 1: in the past, and I have had projects fall flat

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Speaker 1: or else feel like I am pulling teeth to write it,

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Speaker 1: or I put a book out into the world and

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Speaker 1: have the world go eh. But alongside this frustration, I

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Speaker 1: can decide to feel certain of the outcome. I have

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Speaker 1: written books before, I will write books again. I will

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Speaker 1: find the right idea, and at some point in the

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Speaker 1: future this next book will take its place with the

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Speaker 1: others on my bookshelf. I just need to recognize that

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Speaker 1: this is an area of life where things take as

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Speaker 1: long as they take. Holding on to that certainty eases

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Speaker 1: a lot of in the moment frustration, so I can

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Speaker 1: keep trying and iterating again. Maybe you have something in

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Speaker 1: your life that is also demanding a large and uncertain

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Speaker 1: quantity of time. Maybe it's finding a new job, maybe

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Speaker 1: it's finding a new house. Maybe it's meeting someone special.

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Speaker 1: Or maybe it's a journey to parenthood. Maybe you're trying

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Speaker 1: to refine a business model, or invent a new product,

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Speaker 1: or design a new study. There is no set timeline

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Speaker 1: for any of these things. There is a hoped for outcome,

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Speaker 1: but no certainty on how long it will take. No

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Speaker 1: one can guarantee that if you look for a job

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Speaker 1: for three months you will absolutely find a great one.

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Speaker 1: No one can guarantee that if you would like to

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Speaker 1: be a parent, in a year you will be holding

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Speaker 1: a newborn. You simply have to trust that most likely

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Speaker 1: in the future you will be in a great job.

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Speaker 1: If you'd like to be a parent, you will be

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Speaker 1: in some way or another. You can take a lot

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Speaker 1: of comfort from holding onto the belief that the outcome

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Speaker 1: will happen, even if the timeline is unclear. Of course,

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Speaker 1: for all these things, just because the timeline isn't clear

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Speaker 1: doesn't mean there's nothing you can do in the meantime.

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Speaker 1: A brilliant and fully formed business model won't just come

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Speaker 1: to you. You are going to have to think about

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Speaker 1: it and talk to people and research and try things out.

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Speaker 1: If you'd like to meet someone special, you should go

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Speaker 1: places where you'll meet people and ask people to set

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Speaker 1: you up, and use the existence of online dating sites

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Speaker 1: to go on lots of first dates. I carve out

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Speaker 1: time each week to think about my book ideas and

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Speaker 1: to write about different topics and see what seems promising.

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Speaker 1: We also shouldn't confuse patience with waiting for perfection. The

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Speaker 1: perfect job doesn't exist, the perfect mate doesn't exist. There

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Speaker 1: is definitely no perfect book idea. At some point, you

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Speaker 1: do have to go with something that excites you and

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Speaker 1: seems good enough. But there is also no point in

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Speaker 1: you don't meet it. I certainly hoped to have a

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Speaker 1: workable book idea by the time my last book came out,

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Speaker 1: and I didn't. I've got something I'm hopeful about now,

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Speaker 1: but it has been a full year. Sometimes in life,

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Speaker 1: it takes as long as it takes better to accept

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Speaker 1: that and be patient. Love, which includes self love, is patient,

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Speaker 1: which is really another word for being generous with time.

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Speaker 1: In the meantime, This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and

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Speaker 1: here's to making the most of our time. Thanks for

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Speaker 1: listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback,

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Speaker 1: you can reach at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com.

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