1 00:00:12,440 --> 00:00:16,680 Speaker 1: Every year we think we have a handle on the holidays. 2 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:19,959 Speaker 1: We have to pack, we're going away. We have to 3 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:22,040 Speaker 1: get the holiday stuff out, we have to put it away. 4 00:00:22,079 --> 00:00:23,640 Speaker 1: We have to get the platters. We're cooking. 5 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:24,480 Speaker 2: We got a shop. 6 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 1: We haven't gotten our roots done. We didn't get a manicure. 7 00:00:28,560 --> 00:00:31,800 Speaker 1: We are starting to eat garbage. And we said we 8 00:00:31,800 --> 00:00:35,080 Speaker 1: weren't going to We stopped working out. We just stopped 9 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:38,199 Speaker 1: working out. Nothing happened. We just decided we just stopped 10 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:40,920 Speaker 1: working out because we're going away or it's gonna be 11 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:44,200 Speaker 1: the holidays and we're gonna fuck it up anyway. The gifts, 12 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:46,839 Speaker 1: the gifts and remembering people, and you know, I'm a 13 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:48,919 Speaker 1: psycho about the gifts, but then like I keep remembering 14 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:51,480 Speaker 1: a new person every day, which is anxiety producing because 15 00:00:51,479 --> 00:00:54,200 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna leave here until giving all the gifts 16 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:57,600 Speaker 1: out and then me OCD. I have to clean everything out. 17 00:00:57,600 --> 00:01:01,600 Speaker 1: Everything has to be organized. And the holidays will beat 18 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:03,560 Speaker 1: the shit out of you. And something comes to a 19 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:06,520 Speaker 1: head with your business and your family. Your kids are 20 00:01:06,560 --> 00:01:09,200 Speaker 1: going through finals or midterms. Your kids are going through 21 00:01:09,240 --> 00:01:11,440 Speaker 1: midterms at the same time that you're stressing out about 22 00:01:11,440 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 1: the holidays and they're studying and they're cracking and they 23 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:17,440 Speaker 1: think that their work is the only work that's going 24 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:21,840 Speaker 1: on when we're working like dogs. So at the same 25 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:25,680 Speaker 1: time that they're fucking crashing out because of exams, we're 26 00:01:25,680 --> 00:01:28,440 Speaker 1: crashing out because of oh my god, did we do this? 27 00:01:28,480 --> 00:01:30,000 Speaker 1: Did we tip that person? Did we do end of 28 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:33,480 Speaker 1: the year bonuses? You know, all of that. And their 29 00:01:33,600 --> 00:01:35,360 Speaker 1: job is school, and if they're doing a good job 30 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:39,040 Speaker 1: of it, they are working really hard and stressing and studying, 31 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: and so they're like, but we I have this, and 32 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:41,840 Speaker 1: I have that, and I have to do this, and 33 00:01:42,640 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 1: you're literally on fumes and the exhaustion is real this 34 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 1: time of year, it's real, and you're like, wait, am 35 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:50,640 Speaker 1: I going to be able to make it through? And 36 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:52,760 Speaker 1: it hit me yesterday where like I thought the world 37 00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:54,320 Speaker 1: was coming to an end. I was like, I was 38 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 1: thinking about that tragedy, that Rob Reiner tragedy. I was 39 00:01:57,240 --> 00:02:00,280 Speaker 1: thinking about the horrific nature of the crime, and then 40 00:02:00,320 --> 00:02:05,240 Speaker 1: I was thinking about, Ugh, that kid getting the best 41 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:08,240 Speaker 1: defense attorney in the fucking world, and like I don't know, 42 00:02:10,040 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 1: I don't know, Like, yes, mental illness, yes, drug addiction, 43 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:17,919 Speaker 1: but like we were kids, people didn't have such severe 44 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:22,799 Speaker 1: and intense and nuanced food intolerances, meaning, yes, you have 45 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 1: a foodology. 46 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:25,240 Speaker 2: It's real. I have a very serious foodology. 47 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:27,360 Speaker 1: I could die, so coming from me, it's rich to 48 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:30,400 Speaker 1: say this, but like everybody, I'm intolerant to this and 49 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:31,799 Speaker 1: I can't have that, and I like to stay away 50 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:33,080 Speaker 1: from this, and I like to stay away from that. 51 00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:35,280 Speaker 1: And everybody gets caught and everyone gets a ribbon. And 52 00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 1: now every single person who you know has a moment 53 00:02:39,480 --> 00:02:45,680 Speaker 1: that's uncomfortable needs special attention. And mental illness is absolutely real, 54 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 1: and drug addiction is real. So it's just it's fucking insane. 55 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 1: Has that it's fucking insane? It really really is it? 56 00:02:55,880 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 2: Really? 57 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:58,360 Speaker 1: I can't stop thinking about it. It's just it's just 58 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:01,280 Speaker 1: it's just so infuriating. What something didn't need to happen. 59 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:03,760 Speaker 1: But let's talk about this, like, how could it have 60 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 1: actually been prevented? You can't think your kid is going 61 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:09,000 Speaker 1: to murder you. The kid lived in their guest house, 62 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:11,000 Speaker 1: had been to rehab all these different types of years. 63 00:03:11,280 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 1: What kind of pain underlying pain and shame do those 64 00:03:14,200 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: poor parents have in having to like be happy and 65 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:21,960 Speaker 1: friendly and pillars in their community and people liked them, 66 00:03:21,960 --> 00:03:23,880 Speaker 1: and they were social and they were nice, and I 67 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:26,359 Speaker 1: spent the afternoon with them one time, and they were 68 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 1: so open. I don't know them. I can't pretend to 69 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 1: have known them. I don't know them. I didn't know them. 70 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 1: But like, what are you hiding underneath when you have 71 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:36,600 Speaker 1: to manage a kid's addiction like that? And I know 72 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:39,480 Speaker 1: other people who have had this, and all those people 73 00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:42,080 Speaker 1: it must be triggering so much at this time, because 74 00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:45,320 Speaker 1: how do you know where the line is? And how 75 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 1: do you know what line you have to draw with 76 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 1: your kids? Meaning there's a line in what the kid 77 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:52,840 Speaker 1: is capable of, But then where is the line that 78 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:55,760 Speaker 1: you're drawing? Because there are probably so many parents right 79 00:03:55,760 --> 00:03:57,680 Speaker 1: now of addicts that are saying, wait, am I not 80 00:03:57,680 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 1: supposed to speak to my child? Am I supposed to 81 00:03:59,920 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 1: have a gun next to my bed? I'm I supposed 82 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: to have a padlock on my door? Like how do 83 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 1: you know the sister seemed to feel signs of it. 84 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: Something happened at a dinner, But something could tweak someone 85 00:04:10,120 --> 00:04:13,240 Speaker 1: in one second, Like, it doesn't mean there's not going 86 00:04:13,280 --> 00:04:15,360 Speaker 1: to be a bunch of signs leading up to someone 87 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:19,120 Speaker 1: slashing their parents' throats. So I mean, how are parents 88 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:22,479 Speaker 1: of addicts, husbands of addicts, kids of addicts supposed to 89 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:24,159 Speaker 1: handle this? How are they supposed to know where the 90 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:26,279 Speaker 1: line is? Like right now, a lot of people have 91 00:04:26,360 --> 00:04:28,680 Speaker 1: to be very triggered by this story, wondering what they're 92 00:04:28,720 --> 00:04:31,240 Speaker 1: supposed to do, not sleeping and I thinking their kid 93 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:32,560 Speaker 1: is going to come in their room and kill them. 94 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:35,080 Speaker 1: When it is an outlier, most things don't happen, but 95 00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:37,680 Speaker 1: it could happen. So how could you possibly prepare for 96 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 1: something like that? How could you prepare? I just want 97 00:04:40,720 --> 00:04:42,839 Speaker 1: someone to explain to me how these people are supposed 98 00:04:42,880 --> 00:04:46,120 Speaker 1: to process this piece of information and what Rob and 99 00:04:46,200 --> 00:04:49,120 Speaker 1: his wife were supposed to do. The kid's an adult, 100 00:04:49,200 --> 00:04:51,719 Speaker 1: never let him in the house again because he's an addict. 101 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:54,880 Speaker 1: There's got to have been a massive bridge between what 102 00:04:55,080 --> 00:04:57,400 Speaker 1: he did and what he's capable of. Because Rob Ryner 103 00:04:57,400 --> 00:04:59,360 Speaker 1: would not have done a movie with a kid or 104 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:02,120 Speaker 1: been around a every day. That seems any version of 105 00:05:02,160 --> 00:05:05,799 Speaker 1: capable of murder. It's just upsetting. And all the hate 106 00:05:06,160 --> 00:05:08,600 Speaker 1: and all the violence. 107 00:05:08,320 --> 00:05:09,479 Speaker 2: And all of it. 108 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 1: Right now, we're just all walking on eggshells overall, We're 109 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:15,839 Speaker 1: all like sort of hanging on by a thread, so scared. 110 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:18,680 Speaker 1: It's bringing up a lot of political divide again. I 111 00:05:18,720 --> 00:05:21,680 Speaker 1: hear a lot of hate. I was at a birthday 112 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:25,160 Speaker 1: party that a woman had and I was her birthday 113 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:27,240 Speaker 1: gift from her husband, and it was so fun and 114 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:29,800 Speaker 1: the women were so nice. Shout out to Laurie, the 115 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:32,240 Speaker 1: birthday girl. And there were a bunch of blonds in 116 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 1: the background and they all were well dressed, and everybody 117 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:39,320 Speaker 1: was coming in with like maga comments like you can't 118 00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:41,279 Speaker 1: have blonde hair and not a voter for Trump? Like 119 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 1: what the fuck is going on? You have blonde hair 120 00:05:43,720 --> 00:05:45,520 Speaker 1: and you wear in diamond earrings you voted for Trump? 121 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:47,640 Speaker 1: Like I don't even understand it. I mean I do 122 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:51,200 Speaker 1: understand it, because there's become a stereotype. But it's bizarre. 123 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: And first of all, I was just there, like it's 124 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:58,040 Speaker 1: just it's so crazy. But it just says divisiveness. It 125 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:05,360 Speaker 1: just says divisiveness. So what are you doing for the holidays. 126 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:08,960 Speaker 1: I love being home as much as traveling. I am 127 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:11,080 Speaker 1: traveling and I'm excited to connect with britann and do 128 00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:14,000 Speaker 1: a nice trip with Like we're renting jeeps and we're 129 00:06:14,040 --> 00:06:16,400 Speaker 1: going somewhere beachy and we're gonna shop and be cute 130 00:06:16,400 --> 00:06:18,599 Speaker 1: and like I even offer her to do another boat trip, 131 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 1: like not a crazy whole week one, but she was like, 132 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:22,000 Speaker 1: I don't want to. I just want us to be 133 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:25,120 Speaker 1: like going for breakfast and walking and driving our jeep 134 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:26,560 Speaker 1: to the beach and like she wants to have a 135 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:29,160 Speaker 1: home moment. I am so lucky that I have a 136 00:06:29,279 --> 00:06:32,880 Speaker 1: daughter who loves the meaning and the traditions. For example, 137 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:34,160 Speaker 1: I said to her, did you want to go to 138 00:06:34,200 --> 00:06:36,799 Speaker 1: the Bahamas or did you want to go somewhere away 139 00:06:36,880 --> 00:06:39,600 Speaker 1: for like actual Christmas, or even did you want to 140 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:41,440 Speaker 1: go skiing somewhere? And she was like, can we Mama, 141 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:43,160 Speaker 1: can we just go to the Hamdans with the babies? 142 00:06:43,240 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 1: The doggoes, can we just be with the babies? And 143 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 1: can we just like do the tree and be cute 144 00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:50,000 Speaker 1: and like she says, be cute, like be basic, like 145 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:52,760 Speaker 1: wake up and drink coffee and snug the babies and 146 00:06:52,800 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 1: watch a Christmas movie. Like I am so lucky, like 147 00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 1: my daughter just her dream is to be and Christmas 148 00:06:58,440 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 1: pajamas with her mama, drinking coffee with the babies. We 149 00:07:02,839 --> 00:07:06,160 Speaker 1: go to decorate gingerbread house, We go to ice skate, 150 00:07:06,680 --> 00:07:09,279 Speaker 1: we go to pick out our ornament, like nothing, we 151 00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 1: go to TJ Max, Like we'll do nothing and it 152 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:16,680 Speaker 1: will be everything. And I'm so excited because it's transactional 153 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 1: during the school year. And even if I'm home, which 154 00:07:18,760 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 1: is important, I might get into that in a minute. 155 00:07:20,720 --> 00:07:22,320 Speaker 1: Even if I'm home, it's just like I can't I 156 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:24,600 Speaker 1: gotta study. I'm doing this, so let's have dinner. But 157 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:27,320 Speaker 1: it's like, hug a hug, can you listen to my homework? 158 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 1: Can I read this to you? But it's like, gotta go, mom, 159 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:32,520 Speaker 1: I gotta run to school. Like it's just choppy, and 160 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:34,800 Speaker 1: to have that time that we're gonna just be together, 161 00:07:34,960 --> 00:07:38,760 Speaker 1: just laying doing nothing, feeling stale, and like we're gonna 162 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:40,160 Speaker 1: make our own Christmas dinner. 163 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:41,480 Speaker 2: On Christmas Eve, we do it. 164 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 1: We cook together, and then we wake up when we 165 00:07:43,880 --> 00:07:46,040 Speaker 1: do the presents for us, for the dogs, and then 166 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:48,680 Speaker 1: we're flying home on Christmas night. But I don't even 167 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:50,600 Speaker 1: mind it because it's with her, and it's like we're 168 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:52,360 Speaker 1: gonna fly in the evening and it'll be like sort 169 00:07:52,360 --> 00:07:55,520 Speaker 1: of dark and like chilly, and I don't know. I'm 170 00:07:55,560 --> 00:07:57,640 Speaker 1: just so excited just to be with her and like 171 00:07:57,720 --> 00:08:02,559 Speaker 1: absorb her, just like five days, three too, four five 172 00:08:02,680 --> 00:08:06,560 Speaker 1: days in the Hampton's and then eight days away somewhere sunny, 173 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:11,120 Speaker 1: Oh the dream. And right now she's in midterms and 174 00:08:11,160 --> 00:08:13,840 Speaker 1: she's been studying so much, and I have been home 175 00:08:13,880 --> 00:08:16,040 Speaker 1: for an extended period. I would say this is three weeks. 176 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 1: I was supposed to go shout out to TikTok. I 177 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:23,440 Speaker 1: was supposed to present a TikTok award and TikTok has 178 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:25,520 Speaker 1: been great to me and I love TikTok, and I 179 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 1: canceled and I just told them. I just said, guys, 180 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:29,400 Speaker 1: like I can't do it, like I'm running out of gas, 181 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 1: and I need to be here for my daughter. And 182 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:33,520 Speaker 1: like I just the six months have been on fumes, 183 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:35,840 Speaker 1: and I've said yes to so many amazing opportunities that 184 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:39,480 Speaker 1: it's hard to even balance because they're all so good. 185 00:08:39,600 --> 00:08:42,240 Speaker 1: So saying no is hard because they're all good opportunities. 186 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:44,880 Speaker 1: So you start saying no to big ticket, good items. 187 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:46,880 Speaker 1: And I just was like, I can't go to La 188 00:08:47,080 --> 00:08:48,640 Speaker 1: and do. I need to be with my daughter. I 189 00:08:48,679 --> 00:08:51,120 Speaker 1: just need to be here even if she passes me 190 00:08:51,200 --> 00:08:53,559 Speaker 1: like ships passing in the night, and right now she's 191 00:08:53,559 --> 00:08:56,719 Speaker 1: studying for midterms and it's stressful and like she'll get 192 00:08:56,760 --> 00:08:59,040 Speaker 1: upset for like ten minutes about something and just to 193 00:08:59,120 --> 00:09:00,839 Speaker 1: be there when she comes in to do that. Or 194 00:09:00,920 --> 00:09:02,480 Speaker 1: last night when she was like, can I just read this? 195 00:09:02,559 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 1: You just have to listen? Can I just read? 196 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:04,680 Speaker 2: You know? 197 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:09,880 Speaker 1: My Christopher Columbus a push information? And I'm like sure. 198 00:09:10,679 --> 00:09:12,600 Speaker 1: And even if she gets snappy when I ask her 199 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:14,319 Speaker 1: a question about it, she's like, oh, I don't know, Mom, 200 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:17,400 Speaker 1: it doesn't matter. I'm like, okay, sorry, just a quick question. 201 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:18,920 Speaker 2: I'm here. 202 00:09:19,080 --> 00:09:21,880 Speaker 1: And being there is so critical just for like the 203 00:09:22,000 --> 00:09:24,000 Speaker 1: drive buys, just for them to see you, just to 204 00:09:24,120 --> 00:09:25,760 Speaker 1: know that you're in the house, Like just being in 205 00:09:25,800 --> 00:09:30,120 Speaker 1: this space. It's so critical and important. It's so critical 206 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:45,800 Speaker 1: and important. Some of us are lucky enough to go 207 00:09:45,840 --> 00:09:50,000 Speaker 1: on a vacation or just having your morning's free as 208 00:09:50,040 --> 00:09:51,640 Speaker 1: a vacation, but if you have your kids home, it 209 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:54,600 Speaker 1: might not feel like a vacation. So I say to you, 210 00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 1: sleep is your friend. Alcohol is not. Last night I 211 00:09:57,960 --> 00:10:01,040 Speaker 1: got my first real solid I can't say it was 212 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:04,640 Speaker 1: uninterrupted because it was interrupted, but I can say that 213 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:09,760 Speaker 1: your brain functions differently, your mind, your emotions, function differently 214 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:11,640 Speaker 1: when you've had a good night's sleep, and if you're drinking, 215 00:10:11,679 --> 00:10:14,800 Speaker 1: it's going to disrupt your sleep. So try to take 216 00:10:14,840 --> 00:10:16,959 Speaker 1: care of yourself. Try to lock the door before you 217 00:10:17,040 --> 00:10:19,960 Speaker 1: get robbed. Try to be as healthy as possible. Try 218 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 1: to take a walk, try to do yoga, try to 219 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:24,840 Speaker 1: drink water, try not to get overly activated. It is 220 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:30,280 Speaker 1: a very activating time. You're also bracing yourself for seeing 221 00:10:30,360 --> 00:10:33,680 Speaker 1: your family. Who's coming, who's not, who got invited, who't, 222 00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:36,679 Speaker 1: who's cooking, who isn't. How many people are we having, 223 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:38,160 Speaker 1: why do we have to have them? And why do 224 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:39,880 Speaker 1: we have to go there? And how do we navigate 225 00:10:39,920 --> 00:10:42,200 Speaker 1: the traffic? And I don't want to do this. One 226 00:10:42,240 --> 00:10:44,440 Speaker 1: of my friends wants to go to this place on vacation, 227 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:47,600 Speaker 1: and one of her daughter desperately wants to go there, 228 00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:50,800 Speaker 1: but it's a cold place, and she is exhausted because 229 00:10:50,800 --> 00:10:53,880 Speaker 1: she's working and she just wants to do something warm, 230 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 1: and her other child wants to go somewhere warm, And like, 231 00:10:56,679 --> 00:11:00,000 Speaker 1: if you have many kids, everybody is running in different 232 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:01,800 Speaker 1: directions and wanting to do different things. 233 00:11:02,040 --> 00:11:03,839 Speaker 2: How do you hide the gifts from the kids? Did 234 00:11:03,880 --> 00:11:04,400 Speaker 2: everyone good? 235 00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:06,520 Speaker 1: But they wanted Do you have to be on the 236 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:09,240 Speaker 1: VIP list to get the thing that's viral that all 237 00:11:09,240 --> 00:11:13,120 Speaker 1: the kids want? Are you getting the real expensive sneakers 238 00:11:13,200 --> 00:11:15,199 Speaker 1: or the cheap oversion? Are they gonna know? Are you 239 00:11:15,240 --> 00:11:17,760 Speaker 1: gonna feel like a loser? Can you afford all of this? 240 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 1: Are you doing the cookie baking party? Like? I'm not 241 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:24,160 Speaker 1: trying to complain, I just do hear a lot of 242 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:27,000 Speaker 1: people getting very stressed out at this time of year, 243 00:11:27,080 --> 00:11:30,160 Speaker 1: Like it's just like it happens. So I think about 244 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:32,600 Speaker 1: all these celebrities that are constantly in hair and makeup, 245 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:37,959 Speaker 1: constantly traveling, constantly working, constantly doing, and I am very 246 00:11:38,000 --> 00:11:42,240 Speaker 1: aware of the meaning of time. Now many days I'm 247 00:11:42,280 --> 00:11:44,880 Speaker 1: just home in pajamas and like, I wouldn't be doing 248 00:11:44,880 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 1: anything interesting anyway. I wouldn't be going to a museum. 249 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:48,680 Speaker 1: I'm not going to be at the beach all the time. 250 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:50,720 Speaker 1: I've taken like a week now. By the way, for 251 00:11:50,720 --> 00:11:52,280 Speaker 1: those of you who think I work out all the time, 252 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:54,880 Speaker 1: I haven't lifted a finger in two weeks now, not 253 00:11:55,080 --> 00:11:59,880 Speaker 1: one thing, not a single thing. But I say what 254 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:02,000 Speaker 1: I'm saying about that I'm not every day doing something 255 00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:04,320 Speaker 1: useful and productive, even if I have the day off, 256 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 1: but I'm very acutely aware of the meaning of time 257 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:12,160 Speaker 1: and how precious it is. And I've been around a 258 00:12:12,240 --> 00:12:15,040 Speaker 1: lot lately with my daughter, and like I've told you before, 259 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:17,080 Speaker 1: last night, she wanted to come in and do all 260 00:12:17,080 --> 00:12:18,559 Speaker 1: these flash cards for her exam. 261 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:20,840 Speaker 2: Like it wasn't the biggest deal. 262 00:12:20,840 --> 00:12:23,360 Speaker 1: It was probably thirty minutes of my time to do 263 00:12:23,400 --> 00:12:25,720 Speaker 1: the flash cards, but her knowing that I was here 264 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:27,960 Speaker 1: to do them with her, even though I didn't speak 265 00:12:27,960 --> 00:12:28,760 Speaker 1: to her the rest of the day. 266 00:12:28,760 --> 00:12:29,480 Speaker 2: She's been studying. 267 00:12:29,480 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 1: And then she had a bit of a challenge with 268 00:12:31,400 --> 00:12:34,200 Speaker 1: something going on a school and I was right there 269 00:12:34,280 --> 00:12:36,880 Speaker 1: to help her solve it. And you know, they just 270 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:38,680 Speaker 1: need to know that you're there, And so I'm not 271 00:12:39,040 --> 00:12:42,079 Speaker 1: ever going to give that up. My daughter doesn't always 272 00:12:42,080 --> 00:12:44,320 Speaker 1: come first, meaning I don't if she has a hangnail, 273 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:46,320 Speaker 1: I'm not jumping off a cliff to deal with it. 274 00:12:46,360 --> 00:12:49,840 Speaker 1: I'm not that version of a helicopter parent. But I 275 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:52,480 Speaker 1: like being around And I bring this up because there's 276 00:12:52,640 --> 00:12:57,160 Speaker 1: no amount of success that's worth me sacrificing that time. 277 00:12:57,200 --> 00:12:59,760 Speaker 1: And also my mental health, like also just feeling like 278 00:13:00,679 --> 00:13:03,600 Speaker 1: a lot is coming on. I have a new startup 279 00:13:03,640 --> 00:13:05,760 Speaker 1: the dating community, which is amazing and it helps a 280 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:07,720 Speaker 1: lot of people. But I have a very bad habit, 281 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:10,160 Speaker 1: and you might have this too. Doesn't mean you're a 282 00:13:10,160 --> 00:13:12,000 Speaker 1: big entrepreneur, doesn't mean you have to have a business 283 00:13:12,040 --> 00:13:14,080 Speaker 1: by size. You could do it in your neighborhood. You 284 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:16,840 Speaker 1: take on too much. Something seems like a good idea, 285 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:18,400 Speaker 1: you say yes to it, you do it, you go 286 00:13:18,520 --> 00:13:20,839 Speaker 1: with it. It could be anything. It could be volunteering. It 287 00:13:20,840 --> 00:13:23,200 Speaker 1: could be making the costumes for a show. It could 288 00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:27,320 Speaker 1: be making plans, planning the party, doing something for your husband, 289 00:13:27,320 --> 00:13:30,240 Speaker 1: planning the trip, whatever it is. And you take on 290 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:33,320 Speaker 1: too much, and it's almost too late once you've realized it, 291 00:13:33,480 --> 00:13:36,439 Speaker 1: like you already got robbed. You can't lock the door anymore, 292 00:13:36,720 --> 00:13:38,360 Speaker 1: so you could lock it for next time. But it's 293 00:13:38,400 --> 00:13:42,000 Speaker 1: hard to really like stop the tide. And I've been 294 00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:44,760 Speaker 1: very overwhelmed and I've taken on too much, and I'm 295 00:13:44,800 --> 00:13:48,240 Speaker 1: trying to control everyone around me who's constantly just like 296 00:13:48,679 --> 00:13:51,360 Speaker 1: thinking that one more thing to dump onto me is okay. 297 00:13:51,400 --> 00:13:53,959 Speaker 1: And I end up getting resentful of the people around 298 00:13:53,960 --> 00:13:55,559 Speaker 1: me who just think, like, she'll just take on one 299 00:13:55,559 --> 00:13:56,679 Speaker 1: more thing, just dump it on. 300 00:13:56,679 --> 00:13:57,679 Speaker 2: Her, just give her that. 301 00:13:58,200 --> 00:14:00,760 Speaker 1: And if you're a doer, if someone just says like, hey, 302 00:14:00,760 --> 00:14:02,440 Speaker 1: you don't have to and if at any point you 303 00:14:02,480 --> 00:14:04,720 Speaker 1: feel inspired and you want to do this, then I'm 304 00:14:04,760 --> 00:14:07,040 Speaker 1: gonna do it, or hey, this kind of has to 305 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:09,880 Speaker 1: get done, and like then I'm gonna do it. So 306 00:14:10,000 --> 00:14:14,199 Speaker 1: people around you will just sort of like subtly push 307 00:14:14,240 --> 00:14:16,560 Speaker 1: the envelope. It could be your kids where like they're 308 00:14:16,559 --> 00:14:18,440 Speaker 1: not helping you load the dishwasher or they're not making 309 00:14:18,440 --> 00:14:20,680 Speaker 1: a bed. Like it's just like a little nuance where 310 00:14:20,960 --> 00:14:23,080 Speaker 1: like you're supposed to do it, you're supposed. 311 00:14:22,720 --> 00:14:24,600 Speaker 2: To handle it. And that just seems to happen to 312 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:27,840 Speaker 2: women more. It just does. It just seems to happen 313 00:14:27,880 --> 00:14:28,360 Speaker 2: to women more. 314 00:14:28,400 --> 00:14:30,560 Speaker 1: I'm not saying men aren't pleasers and don't want to 315 00:14:30,600 --> 00:14:32,360 Speaker 1: bend over backwards and do and they are. 316 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:33,040 Speaker 2: Men are great. 317 00:14:33,440 --> 00:14:37,920 Speaker 1: I'm just saying, take a deep breath and do not engage. 318 00:14:38,000 --> 00:14:41,160 Speaker 1: Do not take the bait this holiday season. Okay, do 319 00:14:41,280 --> 00:14:50,120 Speaker 1: not take the bait. So sometimes I say something that 320 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:52,480 Speaker 1: I think is so obvious, and then people will be like, wow, 321 00:14:52,520 --> 00:14:55,040 Speaker 1: that was beautifully written, et cetera. And maybe it's the 322 00:14:55,080 --> 00:14:57,240 Speaker 1: way it's written because I feel like what I'm writing 323 00:14:57,360 --> 00:15:01,240 Speaker 1: is stupid. Like I feel like when I do relief 324 00:15:01,280 --> 00:15:04,720 Speaker 1: work sometimes like what the hell's the difference? Like, and 325 00:15:04,760 --> 00:15:07,440 Speaker 1: that's such a terrible attitude. But sometimes you get defeated 326 00:15:07,480 --> 00:15:10,840 Speaker 1: and you're like, what does it even matter? Millions of 327 00:15:10,880 --> 00:15:14,320 Speaker 1: people like that lose their homes and these disasters and 328 00:15:14,360 --> 00:15:16,880 Speaker 1: these bad things happen, and we, you know, give a 329 00:15:16,920 --> 00:15:19,760 Speaker 1: couple million dollars, which yes, is amazing and it helps 330 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:22,280 Speaker 1: some people, and that does make a difference, but like, 331 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:24,840 Speaker 1: sometimes it feels like it's like I drop a poison 332 00:15:24,840 --> 00:15:28,800 Speaker 1: in the ocean. So I did a post yesterday about 333 00:15:28,800 --> 00:15:36,040 Speaker 1: all this hate and murder and violence, and it's hard 334 00:15:36,320 --> 00:15:40,160 Speaker 1: to argue there is a sense of dread like ugh, 335 00:15:40,680 --> 00:15:44,400 Speaker 1: Brown University. And then you're a parent and you're like, 336 00:15:45,640 --> 00:15:49,000 Speaker 1: fuck like when we when we were kids, when we 337 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:51,360 Speaker 1: were kids, when we were kids, when we were kids, 338 00:15:51,360 --> 00:15:54,040 Speaker 1: were those people now, Like I went to the roller 339 00:15:54,120 --> 00:15:59,160 Speaker 1: rink by myself. From sixth grade to ninth grade, I 340 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:00,560 Speaker 1: would go to Hot Skin It's I think it was 341 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:02,920 Speaker 1: sixth grade. And like I used to go into the 342 00:16:02,960 --> 00:16:06,480 Speaker 1: city at fourteen years old and go to nightclubs. Again 343 00:16:06,600 --> 00:16:10,240 Speaker 1: not an example, but at thirteen years old was going 344 00:16:10,280 --> 00:16:13,880 Speaker 1: to nightclubs in Saratoga. Again, not an example, but the 345 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:16,360 Speaker 1: point is, like I would take the train into New 346 00:16:16,440 --> 00:16:19,600 Speaker 1: York City and go to Eighth Street to buy Doc 347 00:16:19,680 --> 00:16:23,520 Speaker 1: Martin type like goth shoes, and I don't want my 348 00:16:23,600 --> 00:16:26,960 Speaker 1: kid in the city in public places. I like when 349 00:16:26,960 --> 00:16:30,360 Speaker 1: we live in like suburban, boring communities, Like I don't 350 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:31,360 Speaker 1: want that shit anymore. 351 00:16:31,400 --> 00:16:32,400 Speaker 2: I don't need any action. 352 00:16:32,600 --> 00:16:36,080 Speaker 1: Like it's too much, it's too fucking scary and too 353 00:16:36,200 --> 00:16:39,840 Speaker 1: much Coachella. She wants to fucking go to one day, 354 00:16:39,960 --> 00:16:43,000 Speaker 1: Like that's my nightmare, God forbid. She ever one day 355 00:16:43,080 --> 00:16:45,280 Speaker 1: wanted to see the ball drop a Times Square. 356 00:16:45,120 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 2: Immediately, No, immediately. No. 357 00:16:49,560 --> 00:16:54,840 Speaker 1: Brown University is not even like an action packed urban 358 00:16:55,040 --> 00:16:58,480 Speaker 1: center university. It's it's just it's like almost no rhyme 359 00:16:58,560 --> 00:17:00,640 Speaker 1: or reason. And then there's no what's the point. You'd 360 00:17:00,640 --> 00:17:04,040 Speaker 1: never leave her house. It's just like a lottery. I 361 00:17:04,119 --> 00:17:07,800 Speaker 1: did something last night. I was talking about the importance 362 00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:12,040 Speaker 1: of knowing that if something feels uncomfortable in any way, 363 00:17:12,080 --> 00:17:15,800 Speaker 1: you cannot ignore it. I have been in situations in 364 00:17:15,840 --> 00:17:20,080 Speaker 1: my life where I have thought someone might be capable 365 00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:24,480 Speaker 1: of doing something. I'm referring obviously to Brown University to Australia. 366 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:28,800 Speaker 1: I'm referring to Rob Reiner and their son killing them. 367 00:17:29,040 --> 00:17:33,000 Speaker 1: And there's a new show called Task and the man's son, 368 00:17:33,200 --> 00:17:40,560 Speaker 1: who's mentally has mental illness, kills his mother. It's too 369 00:17:40,680 --> 00:17:44,919 Speaker 1: eerie and it tears the entire family apart, obviously, and 370 00:17:44,960 --> 00:17:48,080 Speaker 1: there's so much blame. And the son is an adopted son, 371 00:17:48,440 --> 00:17:50,840 Speaker 1: and so there's a sister that's not adopted and she's 372 00:17:50,960 --> 00:17:53,840 Speaker 1: like resenting that the adopted child killed the mother, and 373 00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:56,840 Speaker 1: the father is left to deal with the aftermath and 374 00:17:57,480 --> 00:17:58,720 Speaker 1: doesn't go to visit his son. 375 00:17:58,760 --> 00:18:00,920 Speaker 2: He can't handle it. He was done them too much. 376 00:18:01,040 --> 00:18:03,600 Speaker 1: And in the end of the show he has to 377 00:18:03,680 --> 00:18:05,600 Speaker 1: end up deciding whether he's going to write a letter 378 00:18:06,040 --> 00:18:08,960 Speaker 1: on his behalf or not because the other adopted child 379 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:12,520 Speaker 1: as a sister and she's advocating for the father to 380 00:18:13,119 --> 00:18:17,080 Speaker 1: write a letter, and the father saying that he'll always 381 00:18:17,119 --> 00:18:19,960 Speaker 1: have a home this for this kid, and like, I 382 00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:22,439 Speaker 1: don't know if he should, even though it's a character, 383 00:18:22,560 --> 00:18:26,679 Speaker 1: because that was Rob Reiner. Rob Reiner is the character 384 00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:30,919 Speaker 1: in Task who's like always having an open door for 385 00:18:31,040 --> 00:18:35,040 Speaker 1: his child because it's his child. So anyway, I have 386 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:39,720 Speaker 1: had situations where I have felt that someone might be 387 00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:42,800 Speaker 1: capable of doing something to me. I have felt like 388 00:18:43,720 --> 00:18:47,320 Speaker 1: there's a potential risk of harm. It's just felt like 389 00:18:47,440 --> 00:18:50,320 Speaker 1: I wouldn't put it past this person. And it could 390 00:18:50,320 --> 00:18:53,560 Speaker 1: happen with a coworker. It could happen obviously with your child. 391 00:18:53,680 --> 00:18:56,760 Speaker 1: Let's say your child bites people. There are red flags. 392 00:18:56,840 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 1: Your child throws something, and parents have shame about their kids, 393 00:19:00,280 --> 00:19:02,560 Speaker 1: so they cover it up. People do that with their dogs. 394 00:19:02,960 --> 00:19:05,639 Speaker 1: People do that with their dogs. It sounds insane, But 395 00:19:05,720 --> 00:19:08,800 Speaker 1: people with their dogs. Oh no, no, no, she's friendly. No no, no, 396 00:19:08,920 --> 00:19:12,200 Speaker 1: just when she sees green, No, just when like people 397 00:19:12,280 --> 00:19:16,760 Speaker 1: are like trying to over explain for their misbehaved dogs 398 00:19:16,840 --> 00:19:19,960 Speaker 1: or dogs that have like problems, and dogs mall people. 399 00:19:20,080 --> 00:19:22,760 Speaker 1: Dogs kill people. It happens with dogs, It happens with people. 400 00:19:22,800 --> 00:19:24,719 Speaker 1: She's oh no, she just yeah, he didn't mean it. 401 00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:28,520 Speaker 1: He's just this, He just gets frustrated. He like, people 402 00:19:28,560 --> 00:19:30,560 Speaker 1: have a lot of shame and cover up for their 403 00:19:30,640 --> 00:19:34,480 Speaker 1: kids and their family members, their siblings, their kids, their parents. 404 00:19:35,560 --> 00:19:39,399 Speaker 2: Shit happens, Shit happens. Parents kill their kids. 405 00:19:40,560 --> 00:19:42,480 Speaker 1: If there's a crack, it can become a crater if 406 00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:45,000 Speaker 1: there's a pink flag, it can become a red flag. 407 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:48,960 Speaker 1: A jealous husband or spouse or boyfriend or fiance doesn't 408 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:50,240 Speaker 1: want the person to be with anyone else. 409 00:19:50,280 --> 00:19:52,080 Speaker 2: You just don't know the world. 410 00:19:52,280 --> 00:19:54,760 Speaker 1: And again this is a circular reference because the world 411 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:58,640 Speaker 1: is so fucking stressful right now that people are tweaked. 412 00:19:58,640 --> 00:20:00,720 Speaker 1: There used to be a movie called fall Down with 413 00:20:00,760 --> 00:20:03,240 Speaker 1: Michael Douglas where one day, like I think he loses 414 00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:05,399 Speaker 1: his job, something else happens, He gets in the car, 415 00:20:05,760 --> 00:20:06,880 Speaker 1: there's traffic. 416 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:07,520 Speaker 2: It's just the. 417 00:20:07,440 --> 00:20:11,119 Speaker 1: One day, this one day that like everything hits sideways. 418 00:20:11,320 --> 00:20:15,320 Speaker 1: He's unhinged. We've all had that, an airport delay, you're exhausted, 419 00:20:15,359 --> 00:20:19,240 Speaker 1: you're tired, you're broke, you're hungover. Listen, the world is 420 00:20:19,280 --> 00:20:21,280 Speaker 1: stressful to begin with as a result of a lot 421 00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:23,080 Speaker 1: of these things, as a result of a lot of 422 00:20:23,080 --> 00:20:26,479 Speaker 1: this hate. And then compound that with the stresses of 423 00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:31,000 Speaker 1: maybe having multiple jobs, or mental illness or addiction or 424 00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:36,920 Speaker 1: money issues or whatever, jealousy, something tweaks you. So someone 425 00:20:36,920 --> 00:20:40,000 Speaker 1: could fucking go off who didn't even have anything happening, 426 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:42,640 Speaker 1: that never did anything in their life. So with how 427 00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:45,439 Speaker 1: stressful life is, you have to be looking around you. 428 00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:47,639 Speaker 1: What could go on, because a lot could go on, 429 00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:51,280 Speaker 1: and most things don't happen, but some things do happen, 430 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:52,960 Speaker 1: and they can happen to you. 431 00:20:53,080 --> 00:20:54,840 Speaker 2: So enough with the shame. 432 00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:58,840 Speaker 1: Because you feel like you're not being a good person, 433 00:20:58,920 --> 00:20:59,800 Speaker 1: good parent, good sibling. 434 00:20:59,800 --> 00:21:00,680 Speaker 2: You have to do your best. 435 00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:03,520 Speaker 1: You shouldn't abandon everyone. I'm not saying that, but sit 436 00:21:03,520 --> 00:21:22,679 Speaker 1: can go sideways. Rob Reiner and his wife. I spent 437 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:26,359 Speaker 1: the day and evening with one time the afternoon and 438 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:31,120 Speaker 1: evening with. I was in Malibu on Carbon Canyon. I'm 439 00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:33,040 Speaker 1: pretty sure it was Carbon Canyon, which is like the 440 00:21:33,119 --> 00:21:33,800 Speaker 1: nice strip. 441 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:36,240 Speaker 2: And I was at someone's. 442 00:21:35,920 --> 00:21:37,600 Speaker 1: House and I don't remember whose house I was at, 443 00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:39,960 Speaker 1: which is interesting, and I guess it got a little. 444 00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:41,920 Speaker 2: Either rowdy or overwhelming. 445 00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 1: And I just took a beach walk as I would 446 00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:48,200 Speaker 1: and do, and I was walking by this house and 447 00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:50,960 Speaker 1: these people are always outside in the summer, like it's 448 00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:54,119 Speaker 1: sort of very social in Malibu, and people just barbecuing 449 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:56,679 Speaker 1: and hanging out and it's a slight vibe. It's not 450 00:21:56,760 --> 00:21:59,680 Speaker 1: crazy or anything, but it's like a thing. You'll see 451 00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:01,960 Speaker 1: somebody and people know each other at the different houses. 452 00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:04,640 Speaker 1: Not crazy, not like the Jersey Shore or Cape Caught 453 00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:07,840 Speaker 1: or something, but just like it exists. And I was 454 00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:11,760 Speaker 1: walking by and the woman recognized me or one of 455 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:14,240 Speaker 1: her friends someone recognized me. And this was a long time, 456 00:22:14,280 --> 00:22:18,560 Speaker 1: but I am pretty sure Brynn wasn't born unless Brynn 457 00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:22,399 Speaker 1: was with us, huh, I don't remember. I don't know 458 00:22:22,440 --> 00:22:24,760 Speaker 1: if that's an important detail, but it was that long 459 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:28,280 Speaker 1: ago she would have been a baby. And they invited 460 00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:32,000 Speaker 1: us into their house, Rob Reiner and his wife, and 461 00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:34,760 Speaker 1: they had family and friends over and I don't remember 462 00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:38,240 Speaker 1: what family, it's not important and certainly not important now. 463 00:22:39,080 --> 00:22:41,639 Speaker 1: And we hung out with them and we ended up 464 00:22:41,680 --> 00:22:43,840 Speaker 1: having dinner with them, like we just had the day 465 00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:45,439 Speaker 1: with them. We just hung out with Rob Reiner or 466 00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:47,680 Speaker 1: his wife one time in my life. And we did 467 00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:51,080 Speaker 1: message after, but that was kind of it, like that 468 00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:53,400 Speaker 1: was just it. I just had had that day with them. 469 00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:56,800 Speaker 1: They were lovely, amazing people, so nice. I mean, think 470 00:22:56,800 --> 00:23:00,199 Speaker 1: about it, like we freaking ate at their house, at 471 00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:02,159 Speaker 1: their house, and I knew someone in common with them. 472 00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:03,720 Speaker 1: I don't want to say the name of the person 473 00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:06,600 Speaker 1: because it's maybe not relevant, but. 474 00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:09,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, what a tragedy. 475 00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:11,840 Speaker 1: And I am taking more time to think about how 476 00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:14,080 Speaker 1: precious life is and what matters and doesn't matter. And 477 00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:18,000 Speaker 1: from my brief, tiny little glimpse and perspective, they were 478 00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:21,439 Speaker 1: really nice, open people. And what a tragic thing to 479 00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:24,159 Speaker 1: have a child who's an addict. I'm gonna cry, like 480 00:23:25,040 --> 00:23:32,400 Speaker 1: to just love fuck, fuck, just to love your child unconditionally. 481 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:35,119 Speaker 1: And I don't know that. I don't know that I 482 00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:37,280 Speaker 1: would have it. I don't know that I would be 483 00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:39,200 Speaker 1: as good as they were. I don't know that I 484 00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:44,760 Speaker 1: would be as patient and open and tolerant and vulnerable. 485 00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:46,880 Speaker 2: I just don't think I would. 486 00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:48,639 Speaker 1: I think if I had a child who was like 487 00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:51,359 Speaker 1: a severe addict and had done so many things to 488 00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:52,840 Speaker 1: hurt me, I don't know that I could do it. 489 00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:59,560 Speaker 1: So I actually they died being open, loving, vulnerable, open 490 00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:00,600 Speaker 1: heard people. 491 00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:05,639 Speaker 2: Honestly, What a what a mess? What a mess? 492 00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:14,080 Speaker 1: Well, one of these douchey designers trashed Kendall Jenner's house, 493 00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:18,800 Speaker 1: And now I know that the world is flat. Okay, 494 00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:25,800 Speaker 1: now I know that this planet is flat because Kendall 495 00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:29,320 Speaker 1: Jenner designed a house and I saw it's funny because 496 00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:31,600 Speaker 1: I had an airstream that I was buying and I 497 00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:33,760 Speaker 1: was gonna put it on my Hampton's property and design 498 00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:35,800 Speaker 1: it and I've wanted to do that. It's a passion project. 499 00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:38,480 Speaker 1: I still will do it. And she created this guest 500 00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:41,600 Speaker 1: room out of this airstream. It's so creative and her 501 00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:46,080 Speaker 1: entire house is so her personal touch that like she 502 00:24:46,520 --> 00:24:48,679 Speaker 1: was the way that sometimes she'll wear like a daring 503 00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:52,760 Speaker 1: fashion outfit, like she'll go for it is the way 504 00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:57,080 Speaker 1: that her house expresses itself and herself. And someone was 505 00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:00,879 Speaker 1: calling it like grandma, Like what is I just have 506 00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:02,360 Speaker 1: a dumb question for everybody. 507 00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:07,120 Speaker 2: What is taste? Like what I'm gonna look up the definition. 508 00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:09,760 Speaker 1: Of taste and I don't think there can be bad 509 00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:12,080 Speaker 1: taste or good taste because somebody would have had to 510 00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:15,040 Speaker 1: decide that there was good and bad taste, and then 511 00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:17,760 Speaker 1: it's that person's taste that's deciding. Who the fuck is 512 00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:19,919 Speaker 1: that person to decide. I see people wear things all 513 00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:21,720 Speaker 1: the time in fashion. I'm like, what are you wearing? 514 00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:26,400 Speaker 1: So my taste doesn't like it? And my taste may 515 00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:28,719 Speaker 1: not even love Kendall Jenner's house for me, but like 516 00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:30,399 Speaker 1: I like it for her. 517 00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:31,880 Speaker 2: I like it. I get it, Like. 518 00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:35,399 Speaker 1: She did what she wanted to do. Hold on a 519 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:39,080 Speaker 1: person's liking for particular flavors. Okay, So you can't have 520 00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:43,240 Speaker 1: a good person's liking. It's their liking. It's Kendall Jenner's taste. 521 00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:47,960 Speaker 1: It's funny because when I look at someone's design or fashion, 522 00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:50,959 Speaker 1: I don't really look at whether I like it or not. 523 00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:51,680 Speaker 2: I really don't. 524 00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:55,159 Speaker 1: When Kim wore like a thing over her head that 525 00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:57,680 Speaker 1: Kanye had done before, I don't know how to even 526 00:25:57,760 --> 00:25:57,960 Speaker 1: like it. 527 00:25:58,000 --> 00:25:59,600 Speaker 2: I don't even know that she likes it. It was 528 00:25:59,640 --> 00:25:59,960 Speaker 2: a mess. 529 00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:02,000 Speaker 1: It was like it was it was it was a 530 00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:05,240 Speaker 1: it was a self expression. So I feel like when 531 00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:07,760 Speaker 1: someone does something, it could reflect where they are in 532 00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:10,160 Speaker 1: their life. It could reflect what they like. It could 533 00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:13,439 Speaker 1: reflect some whimsy, It could reflect some gimmick, like it 534 00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:15,200 Speaker 1: could be like when I decide to lean into the 535 00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:18,760 Speaker 1: joke and where something super rainbow and rhinestony, like, Do 536 00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:20,720 Speaker 1: I like like it? Do I think it's good to 537 00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,080 Speaker 1: I just think it's silly, Like do when I wear 538 00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:26,520 Speaker 1: my pajamas every day that have a different creature cookie animal? Like? 539 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,080 Speaker 2: Do I like it? I find it to be fun? 540 00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:33,120 Speaker 1: So I think that it's a reflection of someone's personal choice. 541 00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:38,200 Speaker 1: So I think, like if Kim Kardashian's house is completely muted. 542 00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:40,800 Speaker 1: Maybe she's like me and she wants to live in 543 00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:43,440 Speaker 1: a sanitarium. She wants peace and calm. Her life is chaotic, 544 00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:46,600 Speaker 1: she's so busy. If Kendall Jenner has a house that's 545 00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:50,000 Speaker 1: like Grandma chic with lots of like dark and rich 546 00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:55,120 Speaker 1: colors and patterns and expression, like, maybe that's her way 547 00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:57,199 Speaker 1: of standing out in her family, or her way of 548 00:26:57,280 --> 00:26:58,600 Speaker 1: like nesting, and. 549 00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:01,119 Speaker 2: Who fucking knows who cares. 550 00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:04,160 Speaker 1: Like it's just funny that someone will come in and 551 00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:07,959 Speaker 1: criticize someone else's choices. Also in twenty twenty six, when 552 00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:10,919 Speaker 1: everyone's supposed to be able to be free and express yourself, 553 00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:13,640 Speaker 1: when we don't judge and all body types and everybody 554 00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:17,359 Speaker 1: gets surprised and everybody gets a metal and size doesn't matter. 555 00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:19,800 Speaker 1: You could be big, you could be small, you could 556 00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:22,200 Speaker 1: like any type of food, you could be from anywhere. 557 00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:24,040 Speaker 1: You could be tall, you could be short, you could 558 00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:26,960 Speaker 1: be Latin, you could be Asian, you could be anything. 559 00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:28,879 Speaker 1: But you're not allowed to have your own personal taste 560 00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:31,360 Speaker 1: and what you wear, eat like people will make fun 561 00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:33,800 Speaker 1: of what you eat. I've had people that get mad 562 00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:35,879 Speaker 1: o the way I made it for me, I'm eating it. 563 00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:42,000 Speaker 1: So Kendall Jenner is going to be criticized for her taste. 564 00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:45,400 Speaker 1: There's no I don't look at her house because I 565 00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:47,680 Speaker 1: need to like it for myself. I look at her 566 00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:50,360 Speaker 1: house because I want to know what she chose as 567 00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:54,720 Speaker 1: a self expression of a person who we've seen since 568 00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:58,240 Speaker 1: she was a little kid on a show with her sister. 569 00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:00,720 Speaker 1: At times overshadow her with her being one of the 570 00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:03,639 Speaker 1: most famous women in the world, with their other big 571 00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:07,080 Speaker 1: sister become a billionaire, Like, well, how did you express 572 00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:10,199 Speaker 1: yourself in your home and how is it different than 573 00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:13,080 Speaker 1: how you expressed yourself last time? And how did you 574 00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:15,200 Speaker 1: express yourself with a met gala with what you wore 575 00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:18,320 Speaker 1: or to your kid's birthday party that you went over 576 00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:20,679 Speaker 1: the top or under the bottom? Like people are just 577 00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:25,560 Speaker 1: fucking insane. I give Megan Markle a lot of credit 578 00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:28,320 Speaker 1: for her Netflix show. I have not seen it, but 579 00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:31,120 Speaker 1: my friend sent me a clip of her putting an 580 00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:33,680 Speaker 1: old like vintage scarf on a wine bottle and then 581 00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:36,159 Speaker 1: adding to it some holly, and like, I thought that 582 00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:39,520 Speaker 1: was a decent idea. I think it's uninspired to give 583 00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:43,080 Speaker 1: a wine bottle and I think like elevating and glowing 584 00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:44,880 Speaker 1: up a wine bottle, which I do with like fur 585 00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:47,360 Speaker 1: bags or ad coasters or a canda. I don't know, 586 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,239 Speaker 1: like she's just doing shit that she does and then 587 00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:52,640 Speaker 1: people now and I know, listen, I've had my opinions 588 00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:54,280 Speaker 1: on Megan Markle and some of her choices, but I 589 00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:56,720 Speaker 1: think her wine bottle and wrapping it in a nice 590 00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:59,080 Speaker 1: scarf is not the worst idea I've ever seen. And 591 00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:04,240 Speaker 1: she's just expressing ship that she doesn't like. So yeah, 592 00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:06,080 Speaker 1: that's I guess what I have to say today as 593 00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:07,760 Speaker 1: we talk about the holiday season.