WEBVTT - You & Me, Plus She 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.119 Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of our Heart Radio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:16.040 and the Black Effect, And just like that, we're back 0:00:16.040 --> 0:00:17.800 on the air. We're gonna jove right and we got 0:00:17.840 --> 0:00:22.160 a voice submission and it's pretty long, so that's just listen, y'all. Hey, Jess, 0:00:22.480 --> 0:00:24.800 I want to reach out to say that I love 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:28.040 you so much and I have a story to tell you, 0:00:28.760 --> 0:00:31.320 and it's a lot. I did send it as a message, 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:34.000 but it's too much information and I wouldn't even read 0:00:34.080 --> 0:00:36.800 all of it. So I'm just going to try to 0:00:37.000 --> 0:00:39.680 tell you and see if he can fix my mess 0:00:39.760 --> 0:00:41.640 or just help me with some type of advice on 0:00:41.840 --> 0:00:44.720 healing from this situation and where I should go from there. 0:00:45.360 --> 0:00:48.360 So to start off, I am about to be twenty 0:00:48.400 --> 0:00:53.240 seven years old and I had had a stew past 0:00:53.280 --> 0:00:56.760 tips a best friend that I had for ten years. 0:00:56.760 --> 0:00:59.840 He was a male guy, and he was a great friend, 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:03.360 Like he was an amazing friend, and I didn't have 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:07.160 any doubts about him. I never thought twice or anything like, 0:01:07.360 --> 0:01:11.319 never question anything about his character anything like that. So 0:01:11.480 --> 0:01:14.679 to start off, remind you again, we've been friends for 0:01:14.800 --> 0:01:18.679 ten plus years, literally strictly just friends in my head. 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:21.760 I don't see nothing more, nothing less, literally just a 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:24.360 friend of friend zone. That's where he is. Don't even 0:01:24.360 --> 0:01:28.600 found you attractive. So fast forward to a year now, 0:01:28.840 --> 0:01:34.040 which is three, and in April, he decided he's alreadys 0:01:34.080 --> 0:01:37.479 been like expressing how he felt about me or just 0:01:37.520 --> 0:01:40.600 like sending all type of messages about how much he 0:01:40.680 --> 0:01:44.320 loves me or inspire him and doing these things like 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:46.600 sitting all type of every time I post a picture, 0:01:46.840 --> 0:01:49.960 he's sitting all types of things, like all the hard 0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:52.920 eyes is super supportive. Like, but I knew that he 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:55.320 was floating with me for a very very long time. 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:59.840 But again, remind you, I friend zone that man. So 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:03.560 I'm not paying attention to any of it. He has girlfriends, 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:06.400 multiple girl friends. I'm cool with all. With some of 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:09.040 his girlfriends, they didn't told me so many things that 0:02:09.080 --> 0:02:11.600 he didn't they don't went through. So I went to doctors, 0:02:11.639 --> 0:02:14.680 depotments and everything with certain females that he used to date, 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:17.360 and they were like he they would burn each other like. 0:02:17.400 --> 0:02:19.160 It was just so much stuff like I that I 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:23.520 knew about him and how he moved with women, and 0:02:23.760 --> 0:02:25.960 he like he was he was one of those people 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:27.840 that could never settle down with just one woman and 0:02:27.880 --> 0:02:31.000 be happy. He needs multiple That is something that I 0:02:31.080 --> 0:02:34.799 know for sure, is that he needs a person at 0:02:34.840 --> 0:02:37.880 all times. One person is not good enough for him. 0:02:37.960 --> 0:02:41.840 So with me knowing that knowledge, I took into myself 0:02:42.120 --> 0:02:44.320 and said that I would never date this guy. I 0:02:44.360 --> 0:02:47.320 would like he is a great friend, but I don't 0:02:47.360 --> 0:02:50.480 never see myself dating him because I've seen all the flags. 0:02:50.520 --> 0:02:53.280 I've seen all the red flags. We talked about a lot, 0:02:53.440 --> 0:02:55.600 we talked about both of our dating lives, we talked 0:02:55.600 --> 0:02:57.680 about a lot of things to each each other. So 0:02:57.880 --> 0:03:00.240 I always say that I would never date him because 0:03:00.280 --> 0:03:03.320 of how he treated women. And he's one of those 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:05.399 guys that has money, so he thinks that he could 0:03:05.480 --> 0:03:08.480 just buy people off or I buy this and she 0:03:08.480 --> 0:03:11.360 wou'd be okay, like, oh, I take on a trip, 0:03:11.400 --> 0:03:14.640 and she did get over it. So he's definitely one 0:03:14.680 --> 0:03:19.399 of those people. So back in April, he decided to well, 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:22.840 he already knows that I like girls, So I me 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:25.760 and him were just talking a lot, and he kept 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:28.200 he was flirting more and more, and I really didn't 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:30.400 know about the situation that he had going on at home, 0:03:30.600 --> 0:03:33.200 so I was just peeping that he was flirting way 0:03:33.280 --> 0:03:36.280 more than usual. So I had said something to him like, 0:03:36.400 --> 0:03:39.160 and I have really went back on all the messages 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:41.120 to see like because I didn't really remind you I 0:03:41.120 --> 0:03:43.160 had of my friend zone, so I didn't see him 0:03:43.200 --> 0:03:46.760 like flirting with me. I just was like, oh, thank you, Like, oh, 0:03:46.880 --> 0:03:49.280 this is my friend. Like anytime he's sitting hard heart 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:51.120 emotives or things like that, I was just like, oh, 0:03:51.120 --> 0:03:53.680 thank you, like I appreciate that, Like, because we're friends, 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:55.280 I would do the same thing. So I didn't think 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:57.560 that it was like flirting because I literally had strictly 0:03:57.600 --> 0:04:00.880 in the friend zone. Everything was cut off. So we 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:04.600 decided to get in a pologams relationship in April with me, 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:09.160 him and his girlfriend at the time, and everything was 0:04:09.200 --> 0:04:13.160 going good. Everything was going good, Everything was going great. 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:15.560 Our communication was good. Me and her, we're talking, We 0:04:15.560 --> 0:04:18.280 were taking the kids out on play dates. We were 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:21.520 all three going dates together. We would do separate dates. 0:04:21.640 --> 0:04:24.640 Were like. It was just a good vibe. For probably 0:04:24.760 --> 0:04:28.440 two months, me and him went to Atlanta for some reason, 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:31.560 she did not go. When we got to Atlanta, everything 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:34.000 was cool, but his energy was off, like something was 0:04:34.520 --> 0:04:37.800 giving me. You're being sneaky, and I was confused on 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:41.160 while you're being sneaky, if we all three communicate properly 0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:44.640 and know what's going on, everything was okay. The trip 0:04:44.960 --> 0:04:47.839 started getting messy after I posted a picture. I had 0:04:47.880 --> 0:04:50.560 posted a picture on social media because my one of 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:53.080 my shirts had got wine spilt over it. So I 0:04:53.160 --> 0:04:54.760 asked him for one of his shirts, and I still 0:04:54.839 --> 0:04:56.880 used it as a nice outfit. Put it together and 0:04:56.920 --> 0:05:00.359 I used one of his shirts. His girlfriend realized that 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:03.040 I had one in shirts, and then it turned left. 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:07.040 But remind you, we all agreed to this polygamous relationship, 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:09.920 so I'm confused on what's going on. Don't get me wrong, 0:05:10.200 --> 0:05:13.520 I'm not a victim in this situation, because again I 0:05:13.600 --> 0:05:17.240 walked into the situation knowing that they are in a 0:05:17.279 --> 0:05:20.160 relationship and I'm just another person that's being added to it. 0:05:20.480 --> 0:05:22.320 So I never was one of those people to like 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:26.560 cock block on their situation or if she ever felt uncomfortable, 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:28.480 I wanted her to voice it to me so I 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:32.080 can notice step back and things like that. So we 0:05:32.160 --> 0:05:35.599 get back from Atlanta, all of a sudden, they announced 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:38.520 that she's pregnant. Didn't tell me anything about it, didn't 0:05:38.600 --> 0:05:40.120 keep me in a loop. So it was like a 0:05:40.120 --> 0:05:42.359 slap in the face. So me and him ended up 0:05:42.360 --> 0:05:45.359 getting into a little disagreement, I want to say, an 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:47.800 argument or anything like that, because we were redep good 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:50.719 with communication, like we communicated very well with each other. 0:05:51.360 --> 0:05:54.240 And it just threw me off because why wouldn't you 0:05:54.279 --> 0:05:56.279 tell me, like, I know, y'all in a relationship, so 0:05:56.320 --> 0:05:58.080 why did you just let me know? Like I'm not 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:01.520 a hating as bitch. So I congratulated them. I don't 0:06:01.560 --> 0:06:03.240 want my kids right now. I already have a four 0:06:03.279 --> 0:06:06.440 year old, so it's like, it ain't me that got pregnant. 0:06:06.440 --> 0:06:10.560 So I'm not tripping. So we fast forward again, move 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:18.200 up some We all went to Vegas. Vegas was amazing. Um, 0:06:18.200 --> 0:06:21.279 we went to Vegas for Mother's Day. He asked me 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:23.880 on that trip. I want to point this out. Every 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:26.880 trip that he ever asks me to go one, it 0:06:26.960 --> 0:06:29.599 was never like he flew me out. I always paid 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:33.880 my half on everything anything we did. We always went 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:36.640 Dutch or and I always paid my half. It was 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:40.320 never like him doing everything for me unless it was 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:42.320 him like, oh no, let me pick this up. And 0:06:42.400 --> 0:06:44.240 I felt like that was a man being a man. 0:06:44.520 --> 0:06:47.760 You're doing your manly duties. We came back from Vegas 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:50.679 and then that's when we did the gender reveal. I've 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:53.240 been invited to the gender reveal. I literally helped set 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:55.640 up the gender reveal, helped tear down the gender reveal. 0:06:55.720 --> 0:06:59.440 I'm near the whole time. Everything's great, everything's cordial, everybody's 0:06:59.520 --> 0:07:01.840 talking to each other. I'm helping as much as I can. 0:07:01.920 --> 0:07:03.680 I'm making sure the kid is good while they do 0:07:03.720 --> 0:07:06.840 the thing, like just being the best person as I can, 0:07:06.960 --> 0:07:09.480 like doing my duties, like I'm only gonna be as 0:07:09.520 --> 0:07:14.560 genuine as I can be. So everything was okay, and 0:07:14.600 --> 0:07:17.800 then all of a sudden, she just started getting rockier 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:21.200 and rockier, Like you can tell her energy changed up 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:23.440 and things like that. But then again, I know her 0:07:23.520 --> 0:07:27.040 energy was gonna change up because you're pregnant, So now 0:07:27.120 --> 0:07:29.520 your feelings are going to change. She agreed to the 0:07:29.560 --> 0:07:33.320 pologamous relationship before she was pregnant, So now you are 0:07:33.440 --> 0:07:38.880 pregnant and your feelings are changing. So I'm like, would 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:40.880 you like me to step back from the situation. She's 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:43.840 telling me, no, everything's fine. She just want to get 0:07:43.840 --> 0:07:46.480 an understanding, like so now nothing is clear to her 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:49.760 anymore of what's really going on? One, what's the deal 0:07:49.840 --> 0:07:52.360 of us? What we're doing, what we're are we dating? 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:55.320 Or am I just sucking on them? And or excuse me, 0:07:55.360 --> 0:07:57.480 am I supposed to? Because am I just messing on them? 0:07:57.560 --> 0:08:00.080 Until she drops the baby, like she started getting in 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:02.880 like if he on both of us, like and it 0:08:02.920 --> 0:08:04.760 wasn't just me, it was both of us, Like we 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:07.880 were both confused, and we're like, what's going on? If 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:09.720 we all sat down and had an agreement, like where 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:12.320 all these feelings coming from? Now? Like is it the hormones? 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:13.680 Is that this? Is this? Do you want me to 0:08:13.720 --> 0:08:15.520 just back off? Because I can do that as well. 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:19.640 She tells me, no, don't back off. Everything's fine, Everything's okay. 0:08:19.760 --> 0:08:22.640 She just wanted a better understanding. So basically, I realized 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:25.040 that more of the stories. She only really wanted me 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:26.920 close because he told her that me and her, me 0:08:27.000 --> 0:08:28.720 and him are friends, and then she realized that me 0:08:28.720 --> 0:08:30.440 and him had an actual bondy and we've been friends 0:08:30.440 --> 0:08:32.160 for ten years, so she really just wanted to get 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:35.000 the inside scoop on what was really going on between 0:08:35.000 --> 0:08:36.760 me and him. Remind you, me and him, they never 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:39.280 touched each other none of that ship until she approved 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:42.280 on the pologamist relationship, and then that's when we all 0:08:42.360 --> 0:08:45.120 three decided to touch each other. Once she starts tripping 0:08:45.800 --> 0:08:48.920 and switching up, I fell back. I feel back from her, 0:08:49.640 --> 0:08:52.280 And that's where I messed up on my end, because 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:54.920 I should have fell back from both of them. But 0:08:55.000 --> 0:08:58.760 knowing that he's been my best friend for ten plus years, 0:08:59.160 --> 0:09:02.240 me and him still at our friendship going now, I'm 0:09:02.280 --> 0:09:05.040 not gonna lie. We definitely still was messing on each 0:09:05.080 --> 0:09:07.880 other whenever we got a chance or whatever like that. 0:09:08.360 --> 0:09:11.360 And she knows this like she knew everything. I always 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:14.120 communicated everything with her like when we were together, so 0:09:14.200 --> 0:09:17.319 she won't feel like she's down or alone or she's 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:19.960 being not included. So anytime that we would make plans, 0:09:19.960 --> 0:09:22.560 I would invite her. Any time he made plans, um 0:09:22.559 --> 0:09:24.920 they would invite me. But every time she decided to 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:26.960 make a plan, she would invite me or nothing to 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:28.960 be added to it. So I already knew that she 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:31.800 had some type of feelings going on, something was going on, 0:09:31.840 --> 0:09:34.360 but she was not trying to communicate that at all. 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:36.720 Hold up, Hold up, I know the ship getting good, 0:09:36.760 --> 0:09:39.040 but listen to just a couple of seconds of a commercial. 0:09:39.080 --> 0:09:43.400 If you love me, you'll listen. We're gonna move to July. 0:09:43.840 --> 0:09:46.440 July six, She's texting my phone reminds me, I'm still 0:09:46.480 --> 0:09:48.520 think everything is quartil. She has not told me that 0:09:48.559 --> 0:09:50.959 she doesn't like me, that she has beef with me, 0:09:51.440 --> 0:09:53.720 that she just don't like this situation. She has not 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:56.280 said any of this to me at all, So I'm 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:58.520 still thinking everything's courtial. I'm still going over their house. 0:09:58.559 --> 0:10:00.720 If they call them they need something, like I'm doing, 0:10:00.800 --> 0:10:02.760 I'm helping them. If I call them and I need something, 0:10:02.760 --> 0:10:05.199 they're helping. Like it was just so mutual. It was 0:10:05.200 --> 0:10:08.320 still mutual. Nothing was like weird. Her energy was weird, 0:10:08.480 --> 0:10:11.520 like when I stepped around, but everything was still of cordial. Well, 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:14.000 still do play dates with the kids. Everything was still fine. 0:10:14.040 --> 0:10:17.400 So I thought everything was still cordroo and adult and 0:10:17.440 --> 0:10:20.160 everybody could still talk to each other. That day, she 0:10:20.280 --> 0:10:23.080 decided to text me, Hey, I wanted to plan a 0:10:23.080 --> 0:10:27.440 play date with the kids. Her daughter wanted to see 0:10:27.440 --> 0:10:31.560 my son. So we text each other set up a 0:10:31.559 --> 0:10:33.199 play date. I think it was urban arrow or a 0:10:33.240 --> 0:10:36.040 park or something like that, and I'm like, okay, cool, 0:10:36.120 --> 0:10:38.520 Like I'll let you know, like when we can meet, 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:40.400 what time we meet up and things like that. She 0:10:40.480 --> 0:10:43.400 was like, okay, cool that night I can say, like 0:10:43.440 --> 0:10:46.320 eleven o'clock at night, I smoke, so I'm out going 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:48.840 to go get my stuff that I need to run 0:10:48.840 --> 0:10:51.840 into the store getting my woods, gonna go pick up 0:10:51.840 --> 0:10:55.600 what I need to And she decides to text my phone, 0:10:55.640 --> 0:10:58.040 Hey can we meet? I want to talk to you. 0:10:58.440 --> 0:11:00.640 So I'm like okay, sure, like yeah, we can meet, 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:02.880 Like I have no problem, Like what's up? Like what's wrong? 0:11:02.960 --> 0:11:05.160 You want to talk? Like everything? Okay? Is the baby 0:11:05.160 --> 0:11:07.320 all right? Like remind you she's fool going pregnant at 0:11:07.320 --> 0:11:10.240 this time, she's eight months. So I'm like, it's everything okay, 0:11:10.240 --> 0:11:12.640 as you are right, like it's late, like what's going on? 0:11:13.360 --> 0:11:15.760 She like, I just feel like y'all playing in my 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:19.680 face and like that, like you really playing with me 0:11:19.960 --> 0:11:22.560 and you trying me? And I'm like, how am I 0:11:22.640 --> 0:11:24.319 trying you? Like? How am I playing with you? If 0:11:24.559 --> 0:11:27.840 everything was agreed upon, we all talked about this situation 0:11:28.000 --> 0:11:31.040 like it was nothing like spontaneous. Oh he cheating with 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:34.120 a savage. He was never allowed to touch me, none 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:37.880 of that. Until she knew that he had feelings for me, 0:11:37.920 --> 0:11:39.960 and this is what he really wanted. And he had 0:11:40.000 --> 0:11:41.840 to sit down with her to tell her that he 0:11:41.880 --> 0:11:44.120 had feelings for me, and this is what he wanted. 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:48.360 Everything's cool. We're talking. Remind you I did some stupid ship. 0:11:48.600 --> 0:11:50.719 So I get out my car, get into that of 0:11:50.840 --> 0:11:54.640 her car, and we're just talking like everything's cordial. We're 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:57.720 talking super calm to each other. We're getting out all 0:11:57.720 --> 0:11:59.960 of the things that we're talking about. I'm letting her speech, 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:02.800 let me speak, like we're not raising our voice at all. 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:07.520 Like everything super, super grown in cordial. All of a sudden, 0:12:07.760 --> 0:12:11.280 I see a red car pull up. It's her best friend. 0:12:11.840 --> 0:12:15.200 I said, what is this. She's like, oh no, my 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:18.360 phone went dead and she was the last person I 0:12:18.400 --> 0:12:20.679 was on the phone with and she has my location, 0:12:20.800 --> 0:12:24.400 so she just pulled up here. Instantly knew that was bullshit. 0:12:24.800 --> 0:12:26.720 Her friend decides to get out of the car, so 0:12:26.840 --> 0:12:28.840 I got her, got out of her car, and start 0:12:28.880 --> 0:12:31.000 walking towards my car because I'm like, this is a setup, 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:33.320 So I'm just gonna walk away, like you're not about 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:34.960 to set me up. I'm not about to fight you. 0:12:35.000 --> 0:12:36.120 I'm not about to do none of that, like you 0:12:36.200 --> 0:12:37.920 full blown pregnant. I'm not about to do that. I'm 0:12:37.920 --> 0:12:40.760 not abo to disrespect you. You pregnant as fun, and 0:12:40.840 --> 0:12:43.520 you are my best friends woman. I'm not about to 0:12:43.559 --> 0:12:46.920 disrespect you in no type of way like ever, because 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:49.320 then it's gonna mess up our refriendship and that's what 0:12:49.400 --> 0:12:51.640 I don't want. Like, so I'm gonna keep it cordially 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:54.200 and keep it respectful because I will never disrespect you 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:55.520 like that and I will never put my hands on 0:12:55.520 --> 0:12:58.640 a pregnant woman. So get out of her car. Going 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:00.679 to my car, I'm sitting there trying to find my keys, 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:03.880 about to drive off her friends. She's standing at my door. 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:06.160 I don't have my door shut because she's standing in 0:13:06.200 --> 0:13:09.360 my doorway and refuses to let me close my door. 0:13:09.600 --> 0:13:13.120 So I'm trying to find my keys in the dark 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:15.319 as all of this is going on. So now she's 0:13:15.320 --> 0:13:17.559 trying to argue with me, and I'm like, no, I'm 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:18.839 not about to argue with you. I'm not about to 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:20.880 fight you, Like, can you please close my door. I'm 0:13:20.880 --> 0:13:23.440 not about to do this. We're not about to do this, like, 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:25.959 let me go. I'm not even about to play these games. 0:13:26.400 --> 0:13:28.280 This is petty. I'm not about to put my hands 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:29.480 on nobody, because if I feel like I have to 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:32.520 put my hands on somebody, I'm not stopping. So once 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:35.400 I found my keys, I closed my door. That's when 0:13:35.440 --> 0:13:38.040 she went left. Once I put my keys in my 0:13:38.080 --> 0:13:42.840 ignition and I closed the door, she decides to hit me. 0:13:43.600 --> 0:13:46.880 As I'm sitting down in my car, window down, she 0:13:47.000 --> 0:13:51.560 decides to hit me. My tooth falls out. I instantly 0:13:51.600 --> 0:13:53.360 decided to put my tooth back in my mouth, like 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:55.720 it literally fell out from the root. So it's my shift. 0:13:55.760 --> 0:13:57.800 It's not broke or anything. It literally fell out from 0:13:57.800 --> 0:14:00.240 the root. She hit me like closer to of my 0:14:00.360 --> 0:14:04.640 nose area, like in the nerve spot, so my tooth 0:14:04.640 --> 0:14:06.200 fell out. I put it back in my mouth like 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:08.240 in the heat of the adrenaline. I literally shoved my 0:14:08.280 --> 0:14:12.320 tooth right back in my mouth and pulled her inside 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:14.720 of my car through the window and start beating her 0:14:14.760 --> 0:14:17.920 ass instantly on spot. So that's when her friend decided 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:20.120 to get in and was like, no, you're not gonna 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:22.040 put your hands on her. You're not gonna hit her. 0:14:22.320 --> 0:14:24.200 This girl just decided to put her hands on me, 0:14:24.240 --> 0:14:27.360 And you think I'm not about to protect myself. It's 0:14:27.400 --> 0:14:29.520 two against one, y'all. Not about to do this to 0:14:29.560 --> 0:14:33.120 me at a twelve o'clock in the morning. No, So, 0:14:33.320 --> 0:14:35.960 as I'm on my way home, I'm calling my friend. 0:14:36.360 --> 0:14:38.800 So I'm calling his phone, like what's going on? Like 0:14:39.040 --> 0:14:41.320 calling him, texting me, trying to figure out, like what 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:43.440 the funk? Like do you even know that your girl 0:14:43.520 --> 0:14:45.240 just came all the way on the whole other side 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:47.400 of town to come fight me? Like on some like 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:50.080 what type of ship does this? You're pregnant woman at that? 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:52.120 Let her come out the house to come fight me? 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:55.560 Like what type weird as ship is this? Like? What type? Me? 0:14:55.680 --> 0:14:59.560 And whatever? Let they grow they pregnant woman leave out 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:01.560 the house damn near one o'clock in the morning to 0:15:01.600 --> 0:15:04.320 go fight a motherfucker. Since when do people that she 0:15:04.480 --> 0:15:07.480 like that go down? But I realized that she had 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:10.600 his phone the entire time. So every time and I'm 0:15:10.640 --> 0:15:13.680 texting his phone, calling his phone, that's her replying. She's 0:15:13.680 --> 0:15:17.160 declining all calls. So I realized that's when everything was 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:19.120 coming to me like boom, this is a setup. I 0:15:19.160 --> 0:15:22.040 completely understand that. So he has nothing to do with this. 0:15:22.040 --> 0:15:24.920 This was all her and her friend agenda. I come home, 0:15:25.000 --> 0:15:27.960 I pressed charges because remind you this bit my tooth 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:29.880 fell out my mouth. So now I have to go 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:31.800 get surgery. I have to get an emergency surgery, and 0:15:31.800 --> 0:15:32.960 I have to pay for all of this stuff. I 0:15:32.960 --> 0:15:36.000 didn't pay literally sin with all of this stuff going on, 0:15:36.040 --> 0:15:41.160 I didn't pay over probably fat thousand on surgeries, them 0:15:41.200 --> 0:15:43.760 to appointments, things like that, just to make sure that 0:15:43.840 --> 0:15:47.040 I'm great. And I'm just confused on what's going on 0:15:47.160 --> 0:15:50.440 because he has not said anything to me, Like he 0:15:50.520 --> 0:15:54.480 apologized on the situation and everything like that, but as 0:15:54.520 --> 0:15:58.600 far as him being a man and laying she'd go down, 0:15:59.080 --> 0:16:02.080 it was like, God, damn, was I really your friend? 0:16:02.240 --> 0:16:04.760 Like what the fun type ship is this? But I 0:16:04.800 --> 0:16:06.720 don't want to give you anymore on that situation. I 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:09.920 want to really get something on my part, Like I 0:16:10.000 --> 0:16:13.280 just want some advice one what I should do now. 0:16:13.720 --> 0:16:17.600 So I decided to break off all ties with both 0:16:17.600 --> 0:16:20.400 of them. So it's a protection order on her and 0:16:21.040 --> 0:16:24.000 the whole situation from April to now. He handled me 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:26.120 completely wrong. For us to be best friends for as 0:16:26.120 --> 0:16:28.440 long as we did, he handled me completely wrong. He 0:16:28.600 --> 0:16:32.240 disrespected me. He put me in situations that I should 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:34.760 never have been in. And it was like, after all 0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:37.160 the ship and that I've told you, talk to you about, 0:16:37.200 --> 0:16:39.920 and things that I've vinted to you about, and you 0:16:40.000 --> 0:16:42.280 literally put me in the same predicaments. So I walked 0:16:42.280 --> 0:16:46.760 away from everything. So now I'm asking for just to 0:16:46.800 --> 0:16:48.960 either fix my mask or just give me some advice, 0:16:49.040 --> 0:16:51.400 like at this point, because I don't have no friends, 0:16:51.520 --> 0:16:53.200 like I don't have no female friends, I don't have 0:16:53.240 --> 0:16:55.880 no male friends, I don't have no friends. So I 0:16:56.080 --> 0:16:58.440 literally just be in the house with my son, my 0:16:58.480 --> 0:17:02.280 four year old son, um cleaning business, and then I 0:17:02.400 --> 0:17:04.440 work at the same time, like a little part of time, 0:17:04.440 --> 0:17:06.640 a little something, So I try to keep myself busy 0:17:06.640 --> 0:17:09.040 as much as possible. But I want to know, like 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:13.639 from your perspective, with this whole pologamy relationship, I know 0:17:13.720 --> 0:17:15.560 I shouldn't have got into it. I know that for 0:17:15.640 --> 0:17:17.480 a fact, because I can, I can answer my own 0:17:17.560 --> 0:17:20.120 questions on that the part that I need help with 0:17:20.400 --> 0:17:24.200 leaving that friendship completely, Like I literally dropped the friendship 0:17:24.240 --> 0:17:27.560 completely just off of how he handled it, and he 0:17:27.640 --> 0:17:29.800 wanted to point the finger at me like I was 0:17:29.840 --> 0:17:33.160 the bad guy and he tried to make me seem 0:17:33.200 --> 0:17:36.359 like I broke up his household, I messed up everything 0:17:36.400 --> 0:17:39.080 that he had gone on. He literally pointed the finger 0:17:39.160 --> 0:17:42.280 at me for everything. Like I know I could take 0:17:42.280 --> 0:17:44.560 accountability for meeting up with the girl at one o'clock 0:17:44.560 --> 0:17:47.760 in the morning, two o'clock, like twelve, I take accountability 0:17:47.840 --> 0:17:49.880 for that, But I did not know that this girl 0:17:49.960 --> 0:17:52.480 wanted to fight me, had been for me animosity, Like 0:17:52.640 --> 0:17:54.200 I didn't know all of that. I knew she was 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:56.240 like feeling some type of way, but we kept trying 0:17:56.240 --> 0:17:57.960 to get the information out of her, like what's going on? 0:17:58.080 --> 0:17:59.320 And talk to us if you want me to fall 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:01.560 back out? Fall back? Like what is it? Like? She 0:18:01.840 --> 0:18:04.480 was not communicating, So how can I know all of 0:18:04.560 --> 0:18:08.000 this information? So now I'm stuck here with no friends. 0:18:08.119 --> 0:18:10.240 Imagine my friend for teen plus years is now gone. 0:18:10.600 --> 0:18:13.120 I don't have a bond with him anymore. I don't 0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:15.159 even care to talk to him be around him, like 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:18.680 it discussed me now, Like to know that he's living 0:18:18.760 --> 0:18:22.680 with a person that set me up and he's still 0:18:22.880 --> 0:18:26.760 trying to be friends with me. Like you literally living 0:18:26.800 --> 0:18:29.240 in the household with a person that's literally using you, 0:18:29.400 --> 0:18:32.040 taking advantage of you. He tried to say that I 0:18:32.160 --> 0:18:34.040 was using him for his money and things like that. 0:18:34.320 --> 0:18:37.199 Remind you go back everything that we did since April 0:18:37.320 --> 0:18:40.400 and it's December. I went Dutch or I paid my half, 0:18:40.480 --> 0:18:42.920 no matter what. Every trip that we took, I paid 0:18:43.080 --> 0:18:45.800 for my own flights, I paid for my own food. 0:18:46.080 --> 0:18:48.639 I paid for my own stuff. Anything that we need, 0:18:48.680 --> 0:18:50.800 I pay for my own stuff, no matter what. It 0:18:50.920 --> 0:18:52.639 was just like I was getting fed up of a 0:18:52.720 --> 0:18:55.560 lot of ships, like how he was like being so 0:18:55.760 --> 0:18:58.320 nonchalant over so much stuff without a courtship that we 0:18:58.440 --> 0:19:01.000 was going through. He wasn't a he and apologize until 0:19:01.080 --> 0:19:03.520 someone else has said something to him. And it literally 0:19:03.600 --> 0:19:06.480 made him put himself in my position to realize what 0:19:06.840 --> 0:19:09.320 how he would have handled it, because he was telling 0:19:09.359 --> 0:19:11.480 me if it was him on the other foot, he 0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:14.360 would have just shot her. I said, exactly, But I'm 0:19:14.760 --> 0:19:18.080