Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of our Heart Radio
Speaker 1: and the Black Effect, And just like that, we're back
Speaker 1: on the air. We're gonna jove right and we got
Speaker 1: a voice submission and it's pretty long, so that's just listen, y'all. Hey, Jess,
Speaker 1: I want to reach out to say that I love
Speaker 1: you so much and I have a story to tell you,
Speaker 1: and it's a lot. I did send it as a message,
Speaker 1: but it's too much information and I wouldn't even read
Speaker 1: all of it. So I'm just going to try to
Speaker 1: tell you and see if he can fix my mess
Speaker 1: or just help me with some type of advice on
Speaker 1: healing from this situation and where I should go from there.
Speaker 1: So to start off, I am about to be twenty
Speaker 1: seven years old and I had had a stew past
Speaker 1: tips a best friend that I had for ten years.
Speaker 1: He was a male guy, and he was a great friend,
Speaker 1: Like he was an amazing friend, and I didn't have
Speaker 1: any doubts about him. I never thought twice or anything like,
Speaker 1: never question anything about his character anything like that. So
Speaker 1: to start off, remind you again, we've been friends for
Speaker 1: ten plus years, literally strictly just friends in my head.
Speaker 1: I don't see nothing more, nothing less, literally just a
Speaker 1: friend of friend zone. That's where he is. Don't even
Speaker 1: found you attractive. So fast forward to a year now,
Speaker 1: which is three, and in April, he decided he's alreadys
Speaker 1: been like expressing how he felt about me or just
Speaker 1: like sending all type of messages about how much he
Speaker 1: loves me or inspire him and doing these things like
Speaker 1: sitting all type of every time I post a picture,
Speaker 1: he's sitting all types of things, like all the hard
Speaker 1: eyes is super supportive. Like, but I knew that he
Speaker 1: was floating with me for a very very long time.
Speaker 1: But again, remind you, I friend zone that man. So
Speaker 1: I'm not paying attention to any of it. He has girlfriends,
Speaker 1: multiple girl friends. I'm cool with all. With some of
Speaker 1: his girlfriends, they didn't told me so many things that
Speaker 1: he didn't they don't went through. So I went to doctors,
Speaker 1: depotments and everything with certain females that he used to date,
Speaker 1: and they were like he they would burn each other like.
Speaker 1: It was just so much stuff like I that I
Speaker 1: knew about him and how he moved with women, and
Speaker 1: he like he was he was one of those people
Speaker 1: that could never settle down with just one woman and
Speaker 1: be happy. He needs multiple That is something that I
Speaker 1: know for sure, is that he needs a person at
Speaker 1: all times. One person is not good enough for him.
Speaker 1: So with me knowing that knowledge, I took into myself
Speaker 1: and said that I would never date this guy. I
Speaker 1: would like he is a great friend, but I don't
Speaker 1: never see myself dating him because I've seen all the flags.
Speaker 1: I've seen all the red flags. We talked about a lot,
Speaker 1: we talked about both of our dating lives, we talked
Speaker 1: about a lot of things to each each other. So
Speaker 1: I always say that I would never date him because
Speaker 1: of how he treated women. And he's one of those
Speaker 1: guys that has money, so he thinks that he could
Speaker 1: just buy people off or I buy this and she
Speaker 1: wou'd be okay, like, oh, I take on a trip,
Speaker 1: and she did get over it. So he's definitely one
Speaker 1: of those people. So back in April, he decided to well,
Speaker 1: he already knows that I like girls, So I me
Speaker 1: and him were just talking a lot, and he kept
Speaker 1: he was flirting more and more, and I really didn't
Speaker 1: know about the situation that he had going on at home,
Speaker 1: so I was just peeping that he was flirting way
Speaker 1: more than usual. So I had said something to him like,
Speaker 1: and I have really went back on all the messages
Speaker 1: to see like because I didn't really remind you I
Speaker 1: had of my friend zone, so I didn't see him
Speaker 1: like flirting with me. I just was like, oh, thank you, Like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is my friend. Like anytime he's sitting hard heart
Speaker 1: emotives or things like that, I was just like, oh,
Speaker 1: thank you, like I appreciate that, Like, because we're friends,
Speaker 1: I would do the same thing. So I didn't think
Speaker 1: that it was like flirting because I literally had strictly
Speaker 1: in the friend zone. Everything was cut off. So we
Speaker 1: decided to get in a pologams relationship in April with me,
Speaker 1: him and his girlfriend at the time, and everything was
Speaker 1: going good. Everything was going good, Everything was going great.
Speaker 1: Our communication was good. Me and her, we're talking, We
Speaker 1: were taking the kids out on play dates. We were
Speaker 1: all three going dates together. We would do separate dates.
Speaker 1: Were like. It was just a good vibe. For probably
Speaker 1: two months, me and him went to Atlanta for some reason,
Speaker 1: she did not go. When we got to Atlanta, everything
Speaker 1: was cool, but his energy was off, like something was
Speaker 1: giving me. You're being sneaky, and I was confused on
Speaker 1: while you're being sneaky, if we all three communicate properly
Speaker 1: and know what's going on, everything was okay. The trip
Speaker 1: started getting messy after I posted a picture. I had
Speaker 1: posted a picture on social media because my one of
Speaker 1: my shirts had got wine spilt over it. So I
Speaker 1: asked him for one of his shirts, and I still
Speaker 1: used it as a nice outfit. Put it together and
Speaker 1: I used one of his shirts. His girlfriend realized that
Speaker 1: I had one in shirts, and then it turned left.
Speaker 1: But remind you, we all agreed to this polygamous relationship,
Speaker 1: so I'm confused on what's going on. Don't get me wrong,
Speaker 1: I'm not a victim in this situation, because again I
Speaker 1: walked into the situation knowing that they are in a
Speaker 1: relationship and I'm just another person that's being added to it.
Speaker 1: So I never was one of those people to like
Speaker 1: cock block on their situation or if she ever felt uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: I wanted her to voice it to me so I
Speaker 1: can notice step back and things like that. So we
Speaker 1: get back from Atlanta, all of a sudden, they announced
Speaker 1: that she's pregnant. Didn't tell me anything about it, didn't
Speaker 1: keep me in a loop. So it was like a
Speaker 1: slap in the face. So me and him ended up
Speaker 1: getting into a little disagreement, I want to say, an
Speaker 1: argument or anything like that, because we were redep good
Speaker 1: with communication, like we communicated very well with each other.
Speaker 1: And it just threw me off because why wouldn't you
Speaker 1: tell me, like, I know, y'all in a relationship, so
Speaker 1: why did you just let me know? Like I'm not
Speaker 1: a hating as bitch. So I congratulated them. I don't
Speaker 1: want my kids right now. I already have a four
Speaker 1: year old, so it's like, it ain't me that got pregnant.
Speaker 1: So I'm not tripping. So we fast forward again, move
Speaker 1: up some We all went to Vegas. Vegas was amazing. Um,
Speaker 1: we went to Vegas for Mother's Day. He asked me
Speaker 1: on that trip. I want to point this out. Every
Speaker 1: trip that he ever asks me to go one, it
Speaker 1: was never like he flew me out. I always paid
Speaker 1: my half on everything anything we did. We always went
Speaker 1: Dutch or and I always paid my half. It was
Speaker 1: never like him doing everything for me unless it was
Speaker 1: him like, oh no, let me pick this up. And
Speaker 1: I felt like that was a man being a man.
Speaker 1: You're doing your manly duties. We came back from Vegas
Speaker 1: and then that's when we did the gender reveal. I've
Speaker 1: been invited to the gender reveal. I literally helped set
Speaker 1: up the gender reveal, helped tear down the gender reveal.
Speaker 1: I'm near the whole time. Everything's great, everything's cordial, everybody's
Speaker 1: talking to each other. I'm helping as much as I can.
Speaker 1: I'm making sure the kid is good while they do
Speaker 1: the thing, like just being the best person as I can,
Speaker 1: like doing my duties, like I'm only gonna be as
Speaker 1: genuine as I can be. So everything was okay, and
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, she just started getting rockier
Speaker 1: and rockier, Like you can tell her energy changed up
Speaker 1: and things like that. But then again, I know her
Speaker 1: energy was gonna change up because you're pregnant, So now
Speaker 1: your feelings are going to change. She agreed to the
Speaker 1: pologamous relationship before she was pregnant, So now you are
Speaker 1: pregnant and your feelings are changing. So I'm like, would
Speaker 1: you like me to step back from the situation. She's
Speaker 1: telling me, no, everything's fine. She just want to get
Speaker 1: an understanding, like so now nothing is clear to her
Speaker 1: anymore of what's really going on? One, what's the deal
Speaker 1: of us? What we're doing, what we're are we dating?
Speaker 1: Or am I just sucking on them? And or excuse me,
Speaker 1: am I supposed to? Because am I just messing on them?
Speaker 1: Until she drops the baby, like she started getting in
Speaker 1: like if he on both of us, like and it
Speaker 1: wasn't just me, it was both of us, Like we
Speaker 1: were both confused, and we're like, what's going on? If
Speaker 1: we all sat down and had an agreement, like where
Speaker 1: all these feelings coming from? Now? Like is it the hormones?
Speaker 1: Is that this? Is this? Do you want me to
Speaker 1: just back off? Because I can do that as well.
Speaker 1: She tells me, no, don't back off. Everything's fine, Everything's okay.
Speaker 1: She just wanted a better understanding. So basically, I realized
Speaker 1: that more of the stories. She only really wanted me
Speaker 1: close because he told her that me and her, me
Speaker 1: and him are friends, and then she realized that me
Speaker 1: and him had an actual bondy and we've been friends
Speaker 1: for ten years, so she really just wanted to get
Speaker 1: the inside scoop on what was really going on between
Speaker 1: me and him. Remind you, me and him, they never
Speaker 1: touched each other none of that ship until she approved
Speaker 1: on the pologamist relationship, and then that's when we all
Speaker 1: three decided to touch each other. Once she starts tripping
Speaker 1: and switching up, I fell back. I feel back from her,
Speaker 1: And that's where I messed up on my end, because
Speaker 1: I should have fell back from both of them. But
Speaker 1: knowing that he's been my best friend for ten plus years,
Speaker 1: me and him still at our friendship going now, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie. We definitely still was messing on each
Speaker 1: other whenever we got a chance or whatever like that.
Speaker 1: And she knows this like she knew everything. I always
Speaker 1: communicated everything with her like when we were together, so
Speaker 1: she won't feel like she's down or alone or she's
Speaker 1: being not included. So anytime that we would make plans,
Speaker 1: I would invite her. Any time he made plans, um
Speaker 1: they would invite me. But every time she decided to
Speaker 1: make a plan, she would invite me or nothing to
Speaker 1: be added to it. So I already knew that she
Speaker 1: had some type of feelings going on, something was going on,
Speaker 1: but she was not trying to communicate that at all.
Speaker 1: Hold up, Hold up, I know the ship getting good,
Speaker 1: but listen to just a couple of seconds of a commercial.
Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen. We're gonna move to July.
Speaker 1: July six, She's texting my phone reminds me, I'm still
Speaker 1: think everything is quartil. She has not told me that
Speaker 1: she doesn't like me, that she has beef with me,
Speaker 1: that she just don't like this situation. She has not
Speaker 1: said any of this to me at all, So I'm
Speaker 1: still thinking everything's courtial. I'm still going over their house.
Speaker 1: If they call them they need something, like I'm doing,
Speaker 1: I'm helping them. If I call them and I need something,
Speaker 1: they're helping. Like it was just so mutual. It was
Speaker 1: still mutual. Nothing was like weird. Her energy was weird,
Speaker 1: like when I stepped around, but everything was still of cordial. Well,
Speaker 1: still do play dates with the kids. Everything was still fine.
Speaker 1: So I thought everything was still cordroo and adult and
Speaker 1: everybody could still talk to each other. That day, she
Speaker 1: decided to text me, Hey, I wanted to plan a
Speaker 1: play date with the kids. Her daughter wanted to see
Speaker 1: my son. So we text each other set up a
Speaker 1: play date. I think it was urban arrow or a
Speaker 1: park or something like that, and I'm like, okay, cool,
Speaker 1: Like I'll let you know, like when we can meet,
Speaker 1: what time we meet up and things like that. She
Speaker 1: was like, okay, cool that night I can say, like
Speaker 1: eleven o'clock at night, I smoke, so I'm out going
Speaker 1: to go get my stuff that I need to run
Speaker 1: into the store getting my woods, gonna go pick up
Speaker 1: what I need to And she decides to text my phone,
Speaker 1: Hey can we meet? I want to talk to you.
Speaker 1: So I'm like okay, sure, like yeah, we can meet,
Speaker 1: Like I have no problem, Like what's up? Like what's wrong?
Speaker 1: You want to talk? Like everything? Okay? Is the baby
Speaker 1: all right? Like remind you she's fool going pregnant at
Speaker 1: this time, she's eight months. So I'm like, it's everything okay,
Speaker 1: as you are right, like it's late, like what's going on?
Speaker 1: She like, I just feel like y'all playing in my
Speaker 1: face and like that, like you really playing with me
Speaker 1: and you trying me? And I'm like, how am I
Speaker 1: trying you? Like? How am I playing with you? If
Speaker 1: everything was agreed upon, we all talked about this situation
Speaker 1: like it was nothing like spontaneous. Oh he cheating with
Speaker 1: a savage. He was never allowed to touch me, none
Speaker 1: of that. Until she knew that he had feelings for me,
Speaker 1: and this is what he really wanted. And he had
Speaker 1: to sit down with her to tell her that he
Speaker 1: had feelings for me, and this is what he wanted.
Speaker 1: Everything's cool. We're talking. Remind you I did some stupid ship.
Speaker 1: So I get out my car, get into that of
Speaker 1: her car, and we're just talking like everything's cordial. We're
Speaker 1: talking super calm to each other. We're getting out all
Speaker 1: of the things that we're talking about. I'm letting her speech,
Speaker 1: let me speak, like we're not raising our voice at all.
Speaker 1: Like everything super, super grown in cordial. All of a sudden,
Speaker 1: I see a red car pull up. It's her best friend.
Speaker 1: I said, what is this. She's like, oh no, my
Speaker 1: phone went dead and she was the last person I
Speaker 1: was on the phone with and she has my location,
Speaker 1: so she just pulled up here. Instantly knew that was bullshit.
Speaker 1: Her friend decides to get out of the car, so
Speaker 1: I got her, got out of her car, and start
Speaker 1: walking towards my car because I'm like, this is a setup,
Speaker 1: So I'm just gonna walk away, like you're not about
Speaker 1: to set me up. I'm not about to fight you.
Speaker 1: I'm not about to do none of that, like you
Speaker 1: full blown pregnant. I'm not about to do that. I'm
Speaker 1: not abo to disrespect you. You pregnant as fun, and
Speaker 1: you are my best friends woman. I'm not about to
Speaker 1: disrespect you in no type of way like ever, because
Speaker 1: then it's gonna mess up our refriendship and that's what
Speaker 1: I don't want. Like, so I'm gonna keep it cordially
Speaker 1: and keep it respectful because I will never disrespect you
Speaker 1: like that and I will never put my hands on
Speaker 1: a pregnant woman. So get out of her car. Going
Speaker 1: to my car, I'm sitting there trying to find my keys,
Speaker 1: about to drive off her friends. She's standing at my door.
Speaker 1: I don't have my door shut because she's standing in
Speaker 1: my doorway and refuses to let me close my door.
Speaker 1: So I'm trying to find my keys in the dark
Speaker 1: as all of this is going on. So now she's
Speaker 1: trying to argue with me, and I'm like, no, I'm
Speaker 1: not about to argue with you. I'm not about to
Speaker 1: fight you, Like, can you please close my door. I'm
Speaker 1: not about to do this. We're not about to do this, like,
Speaker 1: let me go. I'm not even about to play these games.
Speaker 1: This is petty. I'm not about to put my hands
Speaker 1: on nobody, because if I feel like I have to
Speaker 1: put my hands on somebody, I'm not stopping. So once
Speaker 1: I found my keys, I closed my door. That's when
Speaker 1: she went left. Once I put my keys in my
Speaker 1: ignition and I closed the door, she decides to hit me.
Speaker 1: As I'm sitting down in my car, window down, she
Speaker 1: decides to hit me. My tooth falls out. I instantly
Speaker 1: decided to put my tooth back in my mouth, like
Speaker 1: it literally fell out from the root. So it's my shift.
Speaker 1: It's not broke or anything. It literally fell out from
Speaker 1: the root. She hit me like closer to of my
Speaker 1: nose area, like in the nerve spot, so my tooth
Speaker 1: fell out. I put it back in my mouth like
Speaker 1: in the heat of the adrenaline. I literally shoved my
Speaker 1: tooth right back in my mouth and pulled her inside
Speaker 1: of my car through the window and start beating her
Speaker 1: ass instantly on spot. So that's when her friend decided
Speaker 1: to get in and was like, no, you're not gonna
Speaker 1: put your hands on her. You're not gonna hit her.
Speaker 1: This girl just decided to put her hands on me,
Speaker 1: And you think I'm not about to protect myself. It's
Speaker 1: two against one, y'all. Not about to do this to
Speaker 1: me at a twelve o'clock in the morning. No, So,
Speaker 1: as I'm on my way home, I'm calling my friend.
Speaker 1: So I'm calling his phone, like what's going on? Like
Speaker 1: calling him, texting me, trying to figure out, like what
Speaker 1: the funk? Like do you even know that your girl
Speaker 1: just came all the way on the whole other side
Speaker 1: of town to come fight me? Like on some like
Speaker 1: what type of ship does this? You're pregnant woman at that?
Speaker 1: Let her come out the house to come fight me?
Speaker 1: Like what type weird as ship is this? Like? What type? Me?
Speaker 1: And whatever? Let they grow they pregnant woman leave out
Speaker 1: the house damn near one o'clock in the morning to
Speaker 1: go fight a motherfucker. Since when do people that she
Speaker 1: like that go down? But I realized that she had
Speaker 1: his phone the entire time. So every time and I'm
Speaker 1: texting his phone, calling his phone, that's her replying. She's
Speaker 1: declining all calls. So I realized that's when everything was
Speaker 1: coming to me like boom, this is a setup. I
Speaker 1: completely understand that. So he has nothing to do with this.
Speaker 1: This was all her and her friend agenda. I come home,
Speaker 1: I pressed charges because remind you this bit my tooth
Speaker 1: fell out my mouth. So now I have to go
Speaker 1: get surgery. I have to get an emergency surgery, and
Speaker 1: I have to pay for all of this stuff. I
Speaker 1: didn't pay literally sin with all of this stuff going on,
Speaker 1: I didn't pay over probably fat thousand on surgeries, them
Speaker 1: to appointments, things like that, just to make sure that
Speaker 1: I'm great. And I'm just confused on what's going on
Speaker 1: because he has not said anything to me, Like he
Speaker 1: apologized on the situation and everything like that, but as
Speaker 1: far as him being a man and laying she'd go down,
Speaker 1: it was like, God, damn, was I really your friend?
Speaker 1: Like what the fun type ship is this? But I
Speaker 1: don't want to give you anymore on that situation. I
Speaker 1: want to really get something on my part, Like I
Speaker 1: just want some advice one what I should do now.
Speaker 1: So I decided to break off all ties with both
Speaker 1: of them. So it's a protection order on her and
Speaker 1: the whole situation from April to now. He handled me
Speaker 1: completely wrong. For us to be best friends for as
Speaker 1: long as we did, he handled me completely wrong. He
Speaker 1: disrespected me. He put me in situations that I should
Speaker 1: never have been in. And it was like, after all
Speaker 1: the ship and that I've told you, talk to you about,
Speaker 1: and things that I've vinted to you about, and you
Speaker 1: literally put me in the same predicaments. So I walked
Speaker 1: away from everything. So now I'm asking for just to
Speaker 1: either fix my mask or just give me some advice,
Speaker 1: like at this point, because I don't have no friends,
Speaker 1: like I don't have no female friends, I don't have
Speaker 1: no male friends, I don't have no friends. So I
Speaker 1: literally just be in the house with my son, my
Speaker 1: four year old son, um cleaning business, and then I
Speaker 1: work at the same time, like a little part of time,
Speaker 1: a little something, So I try to keep myself busy
Speaker 1: as much as possible. But I want to know, like
Speaker 1: from your perspective, with this whole pologamy relationship, I know
Speaker 1: I shouldn't have got into it. I know that for
Speaker 1: a fact, because I can, I can answer my own
Speaker 1: questions on that the part that I need help with
Speaker 1: leaving that friendship completely, Like I literally dropped the friendship
Speaker 1: completely just off of how he handled it, and he
Speaker 1: wanted to point the finger at me like I was
Speaker 1: the bad guy and he tried to make me seem
Speaker 1: like I broke up his household, I messed up everything
Speaker 1: that he had gone on. He literally pointed the finger
Speaker 1: at me for everything. Like I know I could take
Speaker 1: accountability for meeting up with the girl at one o'clock
Speaker 1: in the morning, two o'clock, like twelve, I take accountability
Speaker 1: for that, But I did not know that this girl
Speaker 1: wanted to fight me, had been for me animosity, Like
Speaker 1: I didn't know all of that. I knew she was
Speaker 1: like feeling some type of way, but we kept trying
Speaker 1: to get the information out of her, like what's going on?
Speaker 1: And talk to us if you want me to fall
Speaker 1: back out? Fall back? Like what is it? Like? She
Speaker 1: was not communicating, So how can I know all of
Speaker 1: this information? So now I'm stuck here with no friends.
Speaker 1: Imagine my friend for teen plus years is now gone.
Speaker 1: I don't have a bond with him anymore. I don't
Speaker 1: even care to talk to him be around him, like
Speaker 1: it discussed me now, Like to know that he's living
Speaker 1: with a person that set me up and he's still
Speaker 1: trying to be friends with me. Like you literally living
Speaker 1: in the household with a person that's literally using you,
Speaker 1: taking advantage of you. He tried to say that I
Speaker 1: was using him for his money and things like that.
Speaker 1: Remind you go back everything that we did since April
Speaker 1: and it's December. I went Dutch or I paid my half,
Speaker 1: no matter what. Every trip that we took, I paid
Speaker 1: for my own flights, I paid for my own food.
Speaker 1: I paid for my own stuff. Anything that we need,
Speaker 1: I pay for my own stuff, no matter what. It
Speaker 1: was just like I was getting fed up of a
Speaker 1: lot of ships, like how he was like being so
Speaker 1: nonchalant over so much stuff without a courtship that we
Speaker 1: was going through. He wasn't a he and apologize until
Speaker 1: someone else has said something to him. And it literally
Speaker 1: made him put himself in my position to realize what
Speaker 1: how he would have handled it, because he was telling
Speaker 1: me if it was him on the other foot, he
Speaker 1: would have just shot her. I said, exactly, But I'm
Speaker 1: wrong for beating her ass doing that. She's pregnant. But
Speaker 1: if I would have had my gun a bit, you
Speaker 1: be dead. But let's not say that though. But just
Speaker 1: I just want some anybody, if you would like to
Speaker 1: hear a part two to get more information, I would
Speaker 1: definitely send you apart too. This is a lie, and
Speaker 1: I do apologize, but I just shoot, at this point,
Speaker 1: I could have just talked to you over the phone
Speaker 1: so I could just really figure out what's going on
Speaker 1: so you can hear the full story. Again, I take
Speaker 1: accountability for the things that I've done, But when will
Speaker 1: people take accountability for the things that they do. I'm
Speaker 1: tired of being treated like bullshit by people like you
Speaker 1: invited me into this. Both of y'all invited me into this.
Speaker 1: Y'all knew what was up. Y'all know what goes on.
Speaker 1: This man fell in love with me, and now you
Speaker 1: and your feelings, and it's just like damn. So now
Speaker 1: I'm just like by myself and I'm just trying to
Speaker 1: figure out should I should I really leave that friendship
Speaker 1: completely alone or should I just like handle it from
Speaker 1: a distance. I just need some help. I just really
Speaker 1: need some help because again, that was my that was
Speaker 1: my good, good, good friend. Um, so I just really
Speaker 1: need some help on that. Now we got a commercial,
Speaker 1: and if you click off this podcast, I swear I'm
Speaker 1: gonna beat your ass. Listen, girl, that's the whole goddamn episode.
Speaker 1: I can't even fit in another story, but listen, I
Speaker 1: know you're saying that you only need help on one part.
Speaker 1: But you shouldn't have told me all that ship because
Speaker 1: I got something to say about everything. Everything, everything. So
Speaker 1: you're gonna listen. You already seen pretty smart, You already
Speaker 1: know exactly you know what you want to do. Okay,
Speaker 1: so you stop talking to the friend. Let's start from
Speaker 1: the fucking beginning, because I got a couple of jokes
Speaker 1: for you. First of all, you called this nigga a
Speaker 1: mail guy, as if that's not the same thing. So
Speaker 1: you basically said this is a man man. All right, Cool,
Speaker 1: that was just for a little after y'all been best
Speaker 1: friends for templus gears. Okay, so you were prone to
Speaker 1: exactly how he treated women before, you know, since high school,
Speaker 1: you guys have been knowing each other like you had
Speaker 1: the best seat in the house to see exactly how
Speaker 1: he treated women. So if you keep that in the
Speaker 1: back of your fucking mind, you should totally not be
Speaker 1: shocked at anything that he does even now to take
Speaker 1: an accountability for anything that he have me may be
Speaker 1: contributed to which resulted and you getting you goddamn teeth
Speaker 1: knocked out the fuck. He's always been non faithful, He's
Speaker 1: always had money. So we know guys who have money,
Speaker 1: they use that. Not all of them, a lot of
Speaker 1: them use that as power over other people, you know,
Speaker 1: whether that be women or men, whatever, but mainly women.
Speaker 1: And that is a woman's weakness. A man with money,
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck. Not every woman, but a
Speaker 1: lot of women, okay, especially these days, a man with money, okay,
Speaker 1: because everybody's looking to be taken care of instead of
Speaker 1: taking care of their motherfucking selves. But you also bought
Speaker 1: to my attention that he wanted to be more than
Speaker 1: best friends for a long time, and you kept friends
Speaker 1: zoning it. And you also told me that you like women.
Speaker 1: Obviously you're not gay, though you're bisexual, or you wouldn't
Speaker 1: have been sucking him at any point in time because
Speaker 1: gay is just gay by you know what that is. Okay,
Speaker 1: So you were into women, but you were also into
Speaker 1: men as well, had to be. So when he got
Speaker 1: this this girlfriend who deemed it to be okay for
Speaker 1: the polly relationship, that now was not just a girlfriend
Speaker 1: and boyfriend, that was girlfriend boyfriend girlfriend. So that was
Speaker 1: all three of y'all out of nowhere, right, And then
Speaker 1: you said the first trip to Atlanta. He was being sneaky.
Speaker 1: The girlfriend didn't come, and that's because she was pregnant,
Speaker 1: you know, and just probably didn't want to travel there
Speaker 1: and have her hormones everywhere or mourning sickness or whatever.
Speaker 1: But you were upset first red flag. They didn't tell
Speaker 1: you she was pregnant. I think if this was a
Speaker 1: polygamous relationship, and y'all are practicing true polygamy, everybody is
Speaker 1: supposed to know everything. It's just like a regular relationship
Speaker 1: with just two people. You have to be honest with
Speaker 1: your mates or mates in this case, you know every bud.
Speaker 1: He shouldn't know everything you know, so nobody is shocked
Speaker 1: or nobody has hurt, or nobody is betrayed or feels
Speaker 1: betrayed when anything comes out. Okay, you felt betrayed, and
Speaker 1: you did feel some type of way. You said that
Speaker 1: you got upset. Why did you get upset if you
Speaker 1: then turned around and said that you didn't give a
Speaker 1: fund because you weren't the one pregnant. Was it more
Speaker 1: so that they didn't keep it real with you. They
Speaker 1: kept from you that they were pregnant. Is that why
Speaker 1: you're upset? Was it upset because you felt like you
Speaker 1: would now be less interesting to the both of them
Speaker 1: because they now have a baby on the way, you know,
Speaker 1: between them too, Like, what exactly frustrated you? Why? I mean,
Speaker 1: why did you get so upset with that? If it
Speaker 1: wasn't all about them just keeping it a hunted Let
Speaker 1: me know, Hey, I'm in this relationship too. Why didn't
Speaker 1: I know that she was having a baby. You said
Speaker 1: Vegas was nice? Then at the gender reveal, you were
Speaker 1: doing your duties as the second girlfriend, you know, as
Speaker 1: the other girlfriend. I don't see how the funk if
Speaker 1: you were so upset about this pregnancy, you still was
Speaker 1: at the gender reveal doing everything you said. You helped
Speaker 1: put it up, you helped take it down. Jesus Christ,
Speaker 1: you involved yourself for a lot. Wait, let's just go
Speaker 1: back a little bit. I think that you also involved
Speaker 1: yourself in this guy's relationships before this one a little
Speaker 1: too much. You told me that she was going to
Speaker 1: the doctors with the pitches and ship because he was
Speaker 1: burning them left and right. You were a way too
Speaker 1: involved with the girlfriends, way way way way too involved.
Speaker 1: But that was then. This is now okay, going forward.
Speaker 1: You said the girlfriend eventually started acting different, out of nowhere.
Speaker 1: Y'all just kept asking her, what is the problem? Do
Speaker 1: you want me to step back? Do you instead of
Speaker 1: waiting for her to tell you that? I think you
Speaker 1: just should have. You just should have. You didn't really
Speaker 1: tell me that he had a lot to say, but
Speaker 1: from woman to woman, from her to you, I think
Speaker 1: you should have kind of read the room, because with
Speaker 1: you telling me this, I even already figured it out.
Speaker 1: She was upset because she had only did this polygamous
Speaker 1: relationship for him. She was never into women. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: tell you that. That's why she had that best friend
Speaker 1: come and whoop your ass. Sorry, she did not whoop
Speaker 1: your way as girl. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. But if
Speaker 1: you knock a bitch tooth out, that's automatic you won.
Speaker 1: I don't give a funk what I did to you
Speaker 1: after you knocked my tooth out. But you'd beat my
Speaker 1: ass if you knocked my tooth out, because you can
Speaker 1: go and help from the bruises. I can't help from
Speaker 1: a missing tooth. Jesus. So, okay, I'm sorry. We're gonna
Speaker 1: back it up a little bit more. This story is crazy,
Speaker 1: all right. She was never into women. She compromised herself
Speaker 1: for your best friend with the money and the person
Speaker 1: taking care of her, and the person that was winding
Speaker 1: and dinning and wooing her. I also think that he
Speaker 1: may have told her all the feelings that he has
Speaker 1: had for you, because he's obviously an honest person. He
Speaker 1: just don't give a funk because he got money. He
Speaker 1: like I can tell his bitch is the truth and
Speaker 1: where they're going nowhere. So I think that he literally
Speaker 1: may have confessed to her his real love for you
Speaker 1: and how long that he was probably chasing you, and
Speaker 1: how you are probably the only woman that understands him
Speaker 1: because you were his best friend for a long time,
Speaker 1: and in your story that's what I got. You were
Speaker 1: maybe the only woman that showed him that you understood him,
Speaker 1: and you still obliged to even get a three way
Speaker 1: relationship with him and his girlfriend and be having sex
Speaker 1: with both of them. Now understand, when she got pregnant,
Speaker 1: she started acting different because now I'm pregnant, now, I
Speaker 1: don't want to bring a baby in the world with
Speaker 1: a girlfriend and a boyfriend. I was only doing this
Speaker 1: ship for you, Marquise, I just gave him my name.
Speaker 1: I was only doing this ship for you, Marquise, but
Speaker 1: now you're your best friend. Gonna have to stop sucking,
Speaker 1: and we're gonna have to stop all working together. I
Speaker 1: have a baby, I'm pregnant. Now. I want to take
Speaker 1: our relationship and subtract her and it can just be
Speaker 1: us and we can finally live a regular relationship life.
Speaker 1: I think that's what she's always wanted, but she just
Speaker 1: wasn't truthful enough to say it, and then she probably
Speaker 1: felt like it wasn't her place to dismiss you, to
Speaker 1: break up with you. The idea was brought by him,
Speaker 1: so I think that she had already been telling him
Speaker 1: how she felt the whole time. He just didn't tell you.
Speaker 1: I think he knew that she didn't want polygamy anymore.
Speaker 1: I think that he just never told you because it's
Speaker 1: something that he enjoyed. So that's why you and him
Speaker 1: were still fucking off. He never told you how she felt,
Speaker 1: but you, in the back of your mind, you knew
Speaker 1: exactly how she felt because in your story you're telling me,
Speaker 1: you could have easily guessed this girl was uncomfortable with
Speaker 1: this ship. Now it's ran its course, it's not fun anymore.
Speaker 1: It probably was never fun, but for a man, you
Speaker 1: tend to do anything to make him happy and to
Speaker 1: keep him happy so he can keep you happy. Get
Speaker 1: what I'm saying now. When she called and met up
Speaker 1: with your ass, and you went, you ran to our
Speaker 1: rescue because you still just loved her, you know, and
Speaker 1: or whether you loved he or not, you were still
Speaker 1: concerned about her because you seem to be a really
Speaker 1: really good person. You just like what you like, but
Speaker 1: you seem to be a really genuine person. So you
Speaker 1: went to see what was up. You didn't know what
Speaker 1: she had to talk to you about. I agree that
Speaker 1: they set you up. She had her best friend come
Speaker 1: because this nigga never relayed the message to her that
Speaker 1: he had told you how she felt. He was supposed
Speaker 1: to tell you. Look, look, look y'all, I think that
Speaker 1: we just got chilled until she had a baby or
Speaker 1: we just can't do this ship no more. That was
Speaker 1: too much like right. He would have never did that, obviously,
Speaker 1: and he probably lied to her and told her that
Speaker 1: he did tell you that, and she just probably think
Speaker 1: that you didn't give a fuck and you just kept
Speaker 1: sucking him because obviously, if she had his phone to
Speaker 1: answer text messages and all that she's been going through
Speaker 1: the phone and y'all probably was still meeting up and
Speaker 1: sucking all that type of ship. So she felt like
Speaker 1: y'all was playing in her face, hence why she said
Speaker 1: it t y'all playing in my face. And then da,
Speaker 1: You're like, how, how? How? When really there was no
Speaker 1: communication between you two girls. He knows everything, but he's
Speaker 1: only telling one side to one person. You understand what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, making you think that she is still sweet,
Speaker 1: but you knew in the back of your mind it wasn't.
Speaker 1: So the best friend, not your motherfucking teeth, felt you
Speaker 1: beat her ass. You gotta restrain a note on the
Speaker 1: girl and look card he said it best, got a
Speaker 1: bag and fixed my teeth. Hope you hold No, it
Speaker 1: ain't cheap, you tell on you five thousand dollars, dun
Speaker 1: teeth ain't cheap. Okay, I'm tripping off the fact that
Speaker 1: you shoved that motherfucker back up in your mother. Girl.
Speaker 1: You could have sucked up that route. You could have
Speaker 1: sucked it up they girl, you could have sucked up
Speaker 1: your gums. You don't be doing that ship. You put
Speaker 1: it back in your off like it was a piece
Speaker 1: of track. Girl, what the fuck? Mm hmm. And then
Speaker 1: another thing, I'm almost done with you. Another thing you
Speaker 1: keep saying, Oh, he was my best friend. He's my
Speaker 1: best friend. He's the one who got me in this.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, And he's not a taken accountability.
Speaker 1: I did take accountability, but he's my best friend. I
Speaker 1: didn't expect this. Listen, the moment y'all started sucking, y'all
Speaker 1: got into a relationship, whether that be three way, four way,
Speaker 1: or g one back and forth, whatever, he wasn't your
Speaker 1: best friend no more. You don't fuck your best friend.
Speaker 1: You can suck your best friend, but then y'all are
Speaker 1: no longer real best friends. You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: That's hard to do. He fell in love with you, Yes,
Speaker 1: I believe he's in love with both of y'all. That's
Speaker 1: why he doesn't want to let you go. That's why
Speaker 1: he got so angry with you, because the ship ain't
Speaker 1: working out no more. In his perfect world, he can
Speaker 1: have both of y'all together. He would probably even marriable
Speaker 1: for y'all. But listen, because they have a baby, and
Speaker 1: because they are still living together, you will never be
Speaker 1: able to have him without her even as your best friend,
Speaker 1: because now they have an obligation. They have a child,
Speaker 1: and they'll probably have more. Who knows. He'll probably even
Speaker 1: try another polygamy relationship with her because she did it
Speaker 1: the first time and he enjoyed it so fucking much.
Speaker 1: It just didn't work out with his best friend. You.
Speaker 1: You should have left the friendship alone, and I think
Speaker 1: you should stay gone. And then you kept saying, oh,
Speaker 1: she's sneaky and she using him and all of that.
Speaker 1: But when y'all all three were together, you knew all
Speaker 1: this because that was your girlfriend too, Okay, So I
Speaker 1: just think that you did what you were supposed to do.
Speaker 1: Keep that motherfucking piece order, restraining order, whatever, because you
Speaker 1: definitely got set up. Keep away from him. I get it.
Speaker 1: You're gonna miss him, You're gonna you're you know, you
Speaker 1: love him, You're concerned, you care about him. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: I believe that he loves you and he cares about
Speaker 1: you too. But what y'all went through, it's too damaging
Speaker 1: to come back from with her. Definitely for her, but
Speaker 1: also for you too. You understand what I'm saying. I
Speaker 1: think that's a friendship that YA can maybe revisit later
Speaker 1: on in life, like later, later later, right now, it's
Speaker 1: still fucking fresh. All this just happened months ago, baby girl.
Speaker 1: I think you need to keep that and they're going
Speaker 1: on some ice. Even if he does call you feeding
Speaker 1: with a long hand of spoon, you know, keep your distance.
Speaker 1: You know, if he just has to be your friend,
Speaker 1: keep your distance. But I don't think it's it's good
Speaker 1: that you guys are friends at all, um right now,
Speaker 1: and then you're gonna say if you want the parts two,
Speaker 1: it's a motherfucking part two. Yes, please send me the
Speaker 1: part two, but this is all I got for you
Speaker 1: right now. Check back in send apart too. And I
Speaker 1: talked to your ass next week. Girl. You'd took up
Speaker 1: all my damn time. And just like that, we come
Speaker 1: to the end of another Carefully Reckless episode with your girl.
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