1 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:23,319 Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily a Badi here. You are listening to 2 00:00:23,560 --> 00:00:28,520 Speaker 1: five Minute Friday from Hurdle. This is kind of weird because, 3 00:00:28,840 --> 00:00:31,240 Speaker 1: as you may be listening to this in real time, 4 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 1: I am currently in Singapore. I'll be here for five 5 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:43,120 Speaker 1: days until I head to Tokyo, and I'm doing it 6 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 1: all so low. It is absolutely wild. I feel like 7 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:48,959 Speaker 1: I'm talking to you from the future. My thoughts are 8 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:58,000 Speaker 1: entirely sporadic and yeah, wow, I am going to do 9 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 1: a massive recap from this trip and share as I 10 00:01:02,240 --> 00:01:07,120 Speaker 1: typically do the recap from the marathon that I'm running 11 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:10,520 Speaker 1: on Sunday to third about a week and a half 12 00:01:10,600 --> 00:01:13,679 Speaker 1: after it happens, so stay tuned for that. But in 13 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:16,039 Speaker 1: the meantime, in honor of the fact that I am 14 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 1: traveling solo again, I wanted to bring a story from 15 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:25,320 Speaker 1: my first ever solo trip to the feed this week 16 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:30,760 Speaker 1: for five Minute Friday. Now. I never really aspired to 17 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:35,319 Speaker 1: travel alone. In fact, I, although I would do it 18 00:01:35,360 --> 00:01:38,440 Speaker 1: for work, felt as though for the longest time that 19 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: planning a trip by myself meant that I was doing 20 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:46,040 Speaker 1: something wrong. It meant that in my mind I couldn't 21 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:50,200 Speaker 1: find someone to do something with me and even maybe 22 00:01:50,280 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: a little bit further than that, if I wanted to 23 00:01:52,160 --> 00:01:55,000 Speaker 1: take it to that next step. It was at one 24 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:58,520 Speaker 1: point saddening for me because I wanted to be taking 25 00:01:58,560 --> 00:02:02,800 Speaker 1: these trips not only with friends, but also perhaps with 26 00:02:02,880 --> 00:02:06,600 Speaker 1: some sort of a partner. Now spoiler alert if you 27 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:10,239 Speaker 1: don't know, I'm single. I'm in my mid thirties. And 28 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:15,280 Speaker 1: the era in my life that I first decided to 29 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:19,320 Speaker 1: throw these narratives away was about, I want to say, 30 00:02:19,360 --> 00:02:24,519 Speaker 1: seven years ago. I was living on the Upper East 31 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:28,920 Speaker 1: Side and I was living on my own, and I 32 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 1: remember distinctly talking to a girlfriend about the concept of 33 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 1: solo travel. And this was a friend that did it 34 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:39,320 Speaker 1: regularly at the time, and she said to me, well, 35 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:41,919 Speaker 1: why don't you reframe the way that you're thinking about 36 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 1: solo travel. If you're already living alone and spending a 37 00:02:45,520 --> 00:02:47,920 Speaker 1: lot of time on your own and enjoy doing that 38 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:50,640 Speaker 1: here in New York, then why would it be any 39 00:02:50,720 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 1: different somewhere else. And that was the first time that 40 00:02:54,360 --> 00:02:57,360 Speaker 1: I started to think, Okay, maybe this could be something 41 00:02:57,360 --> 00:03:01,359 Speaker 1: that's good for me. I got out of a relationship 42 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 1: the same relationship that ended that triggered me to create 43 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 1: what you're listening to right now, and I was totally 44 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:15,639 Speaker 1: in my Eat Prey Love chapter and made the call. 45 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:18,440 Speaker 1: I said, I'm going to go for it. What's the 46 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:21,920 Speaker 1: worst that could happen? And so I booked my first 47 00:03:21,960 --> 00:03:25,880 Speaker 1: ever solo trip to Italy, and candidly I was frightened. 48 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 1: I booked it for ten days. I got an apartment. 49 00:03:29,960 --> 00:03:34,240 Speaker 1: I planned one thing that excited me for each and 50 00:03:34,280 --> 00:03:37,240 Speaker 1: every day. So maybe that was a tour or a meal, 51 00:03:37,640 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 1: or some sort of a class or an activity. I 52 00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:44,840 Speaker 1: remember during that trip I was training for the Boston 53 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:48,240 Speaker 1: Marathon and I did twenty two miles around the cobblestone 54 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:51,040 Speaker 1: streets of Florence, and oh my god, that is one 55 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:55,080 Speaker 1: thing I will never ever, ever forget. The hobbling to 56 00:03:55,920 --> 00:04:00,240 Speaker 1: a restaurant afterward and eating Pasa in the sun like 57 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 1: the world's largest beer. Oh, it was everything that's right 58 00:04:04,920 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 1: in the world. Anyway, I digress. I was frightened to 59 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:10,920 Speaker 1: go on this trip, and I recall that I got 60 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 1: into the uber on my way to the airport and 61 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:20,040 Speaker 1: I cried. And by the time I pulled up to 62 00:04:20,920 --> 00:04:24,440 Speaker 1: the departures and got my bags and went through security 63 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:28,119 Speaker 1: and got on the plane, the emotions that I had 64 00:04:28,520 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 1: they weren't gone, but the tears were done. I did 65 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:35,920 Speaker 1: not cry for the rest of that ten day trip. 66 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:40,160 Speaker 1: In fact, I felt more free and so proud of myself, 67 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:46,159 Speaker 1: so rejuvenated, so excited for the opportunities that lay ahead 68 00:04:46,160 --> 00:04:50,479 Speaker 1: of me. And I tell you this story because I 69 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 1: reflect on the stories that I was telling myself before 70 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 1: I just went for it, the stories that were holding 71 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:01,280 Speaker 1: me back from doing something that it really impacted me 72 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: for the better. So often I'm guilty of this. We're 73 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:11,839 Speaker 1: guilty of this right, of allowing a false narration, a story, 74 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:15,400 Speaker 1: something that's not rooted in fact, to hold us back, 75 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:19,799 Speaker 1: to prevent us from doing something that could be so excellent. 76 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:24,560 Speaker 1: And so for my listener prompt this week, I encourage 77 00:05:24,600 --> 00:05:28,120 Speaker 1: you to ask yourself, what story are you telling yourself? 78 00:05:28,720 --> 00:05:31,919 Speaker 1: And is there any fact to that? Or are you 79 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:35,440 Speaker 1: the only thing standing in your own way? What story 80 00:05:35,520 --> 00:05:39,400 Speaker 1: are you telling yourself and are you standing in your 81 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:42,839 Speaker 1: own way? I'm telling you solo travel to this day 82 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:46,400 Speaker 1: one of my absolute favorite things. I would love to 83 00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:48,599 Speaker 1: talk more about it. So if you have any questions, 84 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:51,039 Speaker 1: anything you want to know, feel free as always to 85 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:53,359 Speaker 1: click on over to the show notes and leave me 86 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:56,760 Speaker 1: a voice message. I'll answer it in an upcoming episode 87 00:05:56,960 --> 00:06:00,359 Speaker 1: of the show. And with that a listener question. 88 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:04,640 Speaker 2: Hi, Emily, it's Katie. I jumped on the early bird 89 00:06:04,640 --> 00:06:08,360 Speaker 2: pricing for the every Woman's Marathon, which is not until November. 90 00:06:08,960 --> 00:06:12,000 Speaker 2: What is the best way to prepare so long before 91 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:15,680 Speaker 2: training cycle begins. I love following a plan. I love 92 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 2: to move some way every day, but I don't want 93 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:20,839 Speaker 2: to do too much or too little with a huge 94 00:06:20,839 --> 00:06:25,480 Speaker 2: goal that's ten months away. Thanks for listening. I'm looking 95 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:27,120 Speaker 2: forward to your ideas as always. 96 00:06:27,960 --> 00:06:30,640 Speaker 1: You just reminded me that there is definitely an email 97 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:33,680 Speaker 1: in my inbox about this marathon, which sounds kind of 98 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:35,679 Speaker 1: fun for those that might not be in the loop. 99 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:39,200 Speaker 1: There is a new marathon this year called the every 100 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:43,040 Speaker 1: Woman's Marathon. It is sponsored by Milk and it is 101 00:06:43,160 --> 00:06:47,640 Speaker 1: on November sixteenth, and basically the goal is to create 102 00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:52,520 Speaker 1: our race and community experience for women by women. As 103 00:06:52,640 --> 00:06:57,000 Speaker 1: far as what someone should do in the meantime. For 104 00:06:57,120 --> 00:07:01,000 Speaker 1: some context, if you are running a marathon in mid 105 00:07:01,080 --> 00:07:05,039 Speaker 1: to late November, you wouldn't start training for this marathon 106 00:07:05,640 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 1: until about sixteen weeks out, which means that you are 107 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 1: getting after it at the end of July beginning of August. 108 00:07:13,240 --> 00:07:17,800 Speaker 1: If my math does me right, so I would encourage you, 109 00:07:18,280 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 1: dear hurdler, to do things that excite you right now. 110 00:07:22,680 --> 00:07:27,480 Speaker 1: Find an activity that lights you up, and if it 111 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:32,559 Speaker 1: can better you for that training cycle when you get there, 112 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:35,560 Speaker 1: then all the better. Something that runners often skip out 113 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 1: on is strength training, so maybe now is a really 114 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 1: great time to incorporate that regularly into your routine. If 115 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:46,120 Speaker 1: you want to start that training cycle with some sort 116 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 1: of a base. You don't need to overdo it, but 117 00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:50,920 Speaker 1: I would encourage you to get to a place where 118 00:07:50,960 --> 00:07:54,360 Speaker 1: you're running between maybe twenty and thirty miles a week 119 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:58,480 Speaker 1: and that feels attainable. It doesn't feel like a super 120 00:07:58,640 --> 00:08:03,560 Speaker 1: super hard, as we know with any sort of fitness routine. 121 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:06,480 Speaker 1: If you like what you're doing, and if you do 122 00:08:06,520 --> 00:08:09,840 Speaker 1: it with friends, you're more likely to keep on keeping on, 123 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:14,920 Speaker 1: So enjoy yourself right now. Marathon training has so many rewards, 124 00:08:14,920 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 1: but it can also get a little monotonous, so no 125 00:08:19,280 --> 00:08:24,040 Speaker 1: need to rush into that just yet. Also heavy heavy 126 00:08:24,120 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 1: encouragement on flexibility immobility training. This is something you'll never 127 00:08:28,400 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 1: regret incorporating into your routine, regardless of what your health 128 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:35,200 Speaker 1: and wellness goals are especially as we get older. It 129 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:39,920 Speaker 1: is so important. I swear my once weekly twice weekly 130 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:43,360 Speaker 1: yoga classes feel like the greatest gift that I give 131 00:08:43,400 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 1: myself on the regular. Make sure you're following along with 132 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: hurdle over on social It's at Hurdle podcast. I am 133 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:54,120 Speaker 1: over at Emily a body, another hurdle conquered. Catch you 134 00:08:54,120 --> 00:09:02,240 Speaker 1: guys next time.