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Speaker 1: Hey, friend, we are back in the courtroom with another course.

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Speaker 1: Now this case, okay, will not be on the air,

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Speaker 1: so it's just between us. But I would love your

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Speaker 1: thoughts on it, and I'll post a video too. But

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Speaker 1: and I might invite somebody in to come way in today,

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Speaker 1: one of my friends around the building. So but let

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Speaker 1: me give you let me give you the case first, okay.

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Speaker 1: It says, hey, ki ki, am I wrong for refusing

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Speaker 1: to stop sleeping with a guy after finding out he's

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Speaker 1: actually my roommate's X. It says, I have a casual

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Speaker 1: friends with benefit situation with a guy I met on

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Speaker 1: a dating map. Let's call him Jake. We've been hooking

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Speaker 1: up for about two months now. No feelings involved on

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Speaker 1: either side, just consistent sex. He doesn't sleep over, we

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Speaker 1: don't do dates. We just hook up, okay. I live

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Speaker 1: with my roommate Emily, who I've known since college. We

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Speaker 1: get along great, We've been living together for a little

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Speaker 1: over a year. But last week Jake came over while Emily.

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Speaker 1: He was in her room. She came out for some

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Speaker 1: she asked me if we were dating, and I said no,

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Speaker 1: we're not dating, it's just a casual thing. She then

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Speaker 1: told me, very emotionally, like, with tears in her eyes,

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Speaker 1: that Jake is her ex boyfriend from high school. Apparently

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Speaker 1: me tearfully if I would stop seeing him out of respect.

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Speaker 1: I said, I was sorry she was upset, but that

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Speaker 1: I didn't know their history and I'm not in love

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Speaker 1: forced to cut off things when there's no relationship between

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Speaker 1: them anymore. But now she's barely talking to me. She

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Speaker 1: she hasn't spoken to in years since high school. Kiki,

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Speaker 1: we're in our mid twenties to be honest. The sex

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Speaker 1: I should have to give it up because of some

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Speaker 1: past drama that I had. No partying, but now our

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Speaker 1: he dated my roommate? Well, well, well, okay, me being

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Speaker 1: the people pleaser that I am and knowing that I

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Speaker 1: have to live with this girl and she's a great

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Speaker 1: me that you know, it made her feel away, and

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Speaker 1: you know she dated him, I would stop sleeping with him,

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Speaker 1: And let me tell you why, because you've said already

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Speaker 1: that there's no feelings between you all. You're not dating.

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Speaker 1: It's just casual sex. If you want to go find

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Speaker 1: This is clearly your roommate, and if you're trying to

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Speaker 1: jeopardize that over just some casual sex. Now, I don't

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Speaker 1: think it's right for Emily even on her behalf like girl,

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Speaker 1: y'all dated back in high school. Let it go, like

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Speaker 1: But you know, she's clearly still emotionally upset about however

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Speaker 1: because you're not dating I would stop seeing him, like

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Speaker 1: Or you know, you could keep going to his house

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Speaker 1: So I went to the table and Jason and Bella

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Speaker 1: here's the scenario. This girl is, she's hooking up this guy.

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Speaker 1: They met on a dating app. They've been having casual

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Speaker 1: have been signed. Oh thank god. So they have an agreement.

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Speaker 1: It's casual sex. There's no feelings involved, there's no dates,

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Speaker 1: they don't sleep over, they just hook up. He go home.

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Speaker 1: One day he came over to you do to do?

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Speaker 1: Her roommate came out and saw him, and the roommate

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Speaker 1: And then the roommate like, okay, like, girl, that's not

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Speaker 1: We just looking up. And so the roommate goes, you know, well,

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Speaker 1: that's crazy that y'all hooking up. And so the roommates like,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you called in the two people pleasers who have

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Speaker 1: And you know why that's so funny, because that's why

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Speaker 1: before I went and got you guys, I described myself.

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Speaker 1: I said, the people pleaser, and me would absolutely be

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Speaker 3: I think it really depends on like the length of

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Speaker 3: the friendship, because it's like if you guys are just

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she did say they've only been living together a year.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So I mean, I don't know. I feel like

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Speaker 3: Like I was dating girls in high school?

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Speaker 1: Okay, do you need us? Who is it?

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Speaker 3: I can't see it's Krista and her daughter, Like do

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Speaker 3: you know how many I was dating girls in high school?

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Speaker 3: Like these girls are married and like, you know, having

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Speaker 3: they could be me, Like like y'all need you need

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Speaker 3: to let No, I don't like you need to let that.

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Speaker 3: Like high school is a completely different world. Yes, Like

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Speaker 3: like I'm not going to stop seeing this guy because

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Speaker 3: you dated him ten years ago, Like that's crazy. Now,

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Speaker 3: statue of limitations, like if it was twenty years like

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Speaker 3: I feel like when y'all are in high school, y'all

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Speaker 2: Come on, okay, Yeah, I feel like I would stop

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Speaker 2: because I'm like, if there's no feelings, can't you just

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Speaker 3: If it's a really good dick. She did say that

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Speaker 3: I know that you don't have a lot of experience

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Speaker 3: Hammer has an amazing dick. But like we're talking like toxic,

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Speaker 2: Say when he said dick, I didn't, I guess because

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Speaker 3: Say whatever, well, not whatever you want, but yeah.

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Speaker 1: Well you can say well, okay, so yeah I was

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Speaker 1: clutching her. Yeah, oh I freak out, Like.

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Speaker 2: I think I'd probably move on because I'm like, if

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Speaker 2: it's casual, can't you find like there's got to be

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Speaker 2: and like, like, I wouldn't want to disrupt the peace

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Speaker 2: coming home and it's just like an uncomfortable, awkward environment

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Speaker 2: and you guys are just casually hooking up. Go find

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Speaker 2: another casual hookup who's just as hot and has just

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Speaker 3: Sometimes the dick be real good though, and you can't.

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Speaker 3: It's hard to find it. It's hard to find it for.

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Speaker 1: It and not problematic this guy, she's like, we have

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's hard, especially to try to find two people

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Speaker 3: says it but actually have no strings attached. Like that

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Speaker 1: Yep, unicorn, yep. Okay, so we're torn. We were still

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Speaker 1: what was your verdict? Well was what bell is it?

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Speaker 1: And I explained being a people pleaser and that I

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Speaker 3: I am the toxic one, the normal Kiki's out here

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Speaker 3: spreading toxicity.

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Speaker 1: No, I just said, I'm like, I just know me.

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Speaker 1: I don't like conflicts, so I would have been like, okay, girl, whatever,

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Speaker 1: but I hate those girls are friends that are like,

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Speaker 1: you know, back in third grade. He liked me right now,

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Speaker 1: like I don't care I have a friend like that.

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Speaker 1: Really so fucking annoying, She says, like everybody, everybody, everybody

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Speaker 1: that you used to talk to. She knows.

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Speaker 2: The first cousin, second cousin removed twice stated, I'm like,

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Speaker 2: how the fuck, how do you what do you mean

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Speaker 2: to do?

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Speaker 1: You know? All these people around, like, leave some for me.

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Speaker 2: Girl, I don't have a problem, And I'm like Jesus Christ,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, leave something for the girlies out there in the.

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Speaker 1: Keep the peace in your house, or get another roommate

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Speaker 1: and keep the good. I don't know, but Jerry is hung.

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Speaker 1: The jury is hung. That's what you got. I don't

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Speaker 1: like this man, she said, let's call him Jake. So

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Speaker 1: let's shut out to good. Okay, y'all, y'all have heard

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Speaker 1: from Jason, y'all heard from Bella, and now let me

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Speaker 1: hear from you. Let me know what you think. That's

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Speaker 1: today's case. Honey, it meanstime girl, I don't know good