WEBVTT - #15 Float Like a Butterfly, Bumble Like a Bee 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:04.040 Hell, I suck a good day with the Nungler and 0:00:04.160 --> 0:00:09.680 I Heart radio podcast. You're saying hello every Hello everyone. 0:00:10.800 --> 0:00:13.600 I'm trying to think of unique ways to start teenth show. 0:00:14.040 --> 0:00:17.280 You should know how to say hi. Show my old 0:00:17.360 --> 0:00:19.120 lucky number. That was my lucky number in high school 0:00:19.120 --> 0:00:20.680 for at least a couple of months because Carmel Anthony 0:00:20.720 --> 0:00:23.160 were number fifteen. You know, I was a big Nuggets 0:00:23.160 --> 0:00:25.159 fan back in the day. Not anymore, but thank you 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:28.400 for tuning in. UM joined in studio again by you 0:00:28.400 --> 0:00:32.200 know him, you love him Marking Easton Special guests say 0:00:32.240 --> 0:00:34.880 Hi more Hello, Hi, Hey, Hi, UM. Special guests in 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:36.919 studio today to a good friend of mine from high 0:00:36.920 --> 0:00:38.760 school who lives here in Los Angeles and we are 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:42.040 rekindling our friendship. So he's joining us in studio. Taylor, 0:00:42.400 --> 0:00:46.400 you want to say hi Hello? All right, cool, happy 0:00:46.440 --> 0:00:49.560 to be a hair dam things. Hey, Happy to have you. UM. 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:51.840 So we have a good episode today. We're gonna be 0:00:52.680 --> 0:00:54.680 responding to a few more emails as we typically do. 0:00:54.840 --> 0:00:57.680 Love those emails because you know, it really just I 0:00:57.680 --> 0:00:59.640 guess it shows to me that people are even listening 0:00:59.640 --> 0:01:01.960 to this thing, because yeah, that's that just makes me 0:01:01.960 --> 0:01:04.560 feel good and great stories and situations and you need 0:01:04.640 --> 0:01:06.720 help and they turn to you, they say help Dean. 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:09.080 You know, for some reason, the fact that people confide 0:01:09.120 --> 0:01:11.280 in me for dating advice still blows my mind. I'll 0:01:11.360 --> 0:01:13.160 like even get like d ms or tweets at me 0:01:13.400 --> 0:01:15.040 that are saying like, hey, Deane, I need dating advice, 0:01:15.040 --> 0:01:16.679 And I'm just sitting to myself, why are you asking 0:01:16.680 --> 0:01:18.679 me for dating advice? But you know, it's true that 0:01:18.720 --> 0:01:21.800 some people that have that give great advice have trouble 0:01:21.840 --> 0:01:26.920 following themselves. I think it's great do as I say, Yeah, exactly, 0:01:27.200 --> 0:01:30.160 And and I will say that I can see the 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:32.760 benefit of getting a twenty six year olds perspective on 0:01:32.840 --> 0:01:35.280 the dating pool in today's America, Cause a lot of 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:36.560 these girls, I don't think, have that outlet to have 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:38.720 an unbiased opinion from a twenty six year old male 0:01:39.319 --> 0:01:41.400 to kind of tell them maybe what's going on and 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:43.560 what's going on well and what's not going on well. 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:45.720 Do we have a theme this week? Last week we 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:50.200 had breakups. This week's theme is dating apps, very common situation. 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:54.560 Before we get to that, let's see what's in the news. Oh, 0:01:54.720 --> 0:01:58.480 Dean's in the news. Wow, look at that Dean Ungler. 0:01:58.520 --> 0:02:01.000 It is all over the news. Now, this is funny 0:02:01.000 --> 0:02:03.760 because Dean gets really uncomfortable in this situation because there 0:02:03.800 --> 0:02:05.840 are certain things he can say and certain things he 0:02:05.920 --> 0:02:08.239 can't say. Most of the things I can't say, So well, 0:02:08.320 --> 0:02:10.280 I can just say this, then I could just I 0:02:10.360 --> 0:02:13.040 found an article on us weekly dot com that says 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:16.720 the bachelorettes Dean Ungler is dating bachelor lum Leslie Murphy 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:19.280 and that they were hanging out at the Sundance Film 0:02:19.320 --> 0:02:21.640 Festival in Parks City of Utah on Friday night. They 0:02:21.639 --> 0:02:24.200 were holding hands, walking through a party of looking very 0:02:24.280 --> 0:02:27.720 much like a couple talking only to each other. This 0:02:27.840 --> 0:02:30.480 was on e This was on US Weekly. This was 0:02:30.560 --> 0:02:34.240 all over the place. I found another article, seven facts 0:02:34.280 --> 0:02:36.960 you need to know about Dean Unglard's new girlfriend Leslie Murphy. 0:02:38.160 --> 0:02:42.360 So can you confirm you are dating someone? What I 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:46.280 can say is, I was at Sundance this past Weekend's great, 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:49.480 great time. Park city is beautiful. Um, they got some snow, 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:52.519 so I got a snowboard a little bit. Um. I 0:02:52.560 --> 0:02:58.680 think that Leslie Murphy was there too. Uh, there's pictures 0:02:58.680 --> 0:03:00.200 over there, so I think we can confirm that she 0:03:00.280 --> 0:03:02.120 was there. Yeah, we can confirm that she was physically 0:03:02.160 --> 0:03:06.639 present at sundance. Um, we can confirm that you were there. 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:12.440 Can we confirm that you're in a relationship with someone? Okay, 0:03:12.520 --> 0:03:16.600 we can't really confirm anything. And are you being coy 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:20.000 or are you just obeying the rules that were laid 0:03:20.040 --> 0:03:22.760 down by ABC in which you can't talk about anything 0:03:22.960 --> 0:03:24.840 that may or may not happen in Winter Games. What 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:27.960 I can confirm is that Winter Games is going to 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:30.680 be awesome. And I think that you as a listener, 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:33.240 and Mark and Easton and Taylor, she all tune into 0:03:33.280 --> 0:03:36.120 watch and then maybe, you know, in a month or 0:03:36.160 --> 0:03:39.000 so from now, I can start to confirm some things. Okay, 0:03:39.000 --> 0:03:40.960 So you're not just being coy, you you're I know 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:42.360 that when you do these shows you have to sign 0:03:42.400 --> 0:03:46.600 certain agreements. My life is currently owned by ABC right now, 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:49.280 right okay, So once that's all in the past, we'll 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:51.520 be able to hear more about this or we won't 0:03:51.560 --> 0:03:53.000 hear more about it, depending I don't know what the 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:54.880 current situation. I mean, I know what the current situation is, 0:03:54.920 --> 0:04:00.960 but you guys not knowing on the outside, doesn't you know? Plus, 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:02.680 even if you were there, are you not allowed to 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:04.760 like walk next to someone or hold hands with someone, 0:04:04.760 --> 0:04:09.840 Like hanging out with holding hands seems a little bit 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:12.800 of a bigger stuffs friends, do you Yeah? We held 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:16.400 hands in the car? Sure enough? Yeah, Mark, you kind 0:04:16.400 --> 0:04:18.120 of nailed on the head. This makes me uncomfortable, just 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:22.680 because just because I don't want to overstep my boundaries. 0:04:22.720 --> 0:04:27.560 I don't want But I'll tell you what. I'm happy. 0:04:27.600 --> 0:04:31.240 That's great. I think that's the most importance all that matters. 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:34.159 Should we If we're going to change the title of 0:04:34.200 --> 0:04:38.520 this show would have happened soon. Help I suck it? Dating? Yeah, 0:04:40.000 --> 0:04:43.719 transition to help I suck it? Relationships? Well, we'll see. 0:04:43.880 --> 0:04:47.760 Well the season two rebranding something else. I thought we 0:04:47.760 --> 0:04:50.880 should talk about. Tanya, who's going to come in here 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:54.239 in a minute, is meeting with a matchmaker next week, okay, 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:58.320 professional matchments. Before she could do that, she was asked 0:04:58.320 --> 0:05:01.799 to bring a list of things she needs to see 0:05:01.920 --> 0:05:04.240 in a man that she wants to date. For her, 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:08.520 it was faith, it was family. Uh, it was five 0:05:08.640 --> 0:05:11.719 four or above because she's five four, so she didn't 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:16.520 want anybody shorter than her. I would say population. Anyway, 0:05:16.600 --> 0:05:17.880 she had this list, so I was gonna ask you 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:21.200 the sort of things that are on your list that 0:05:21.240 --> 0:05:24.720 you would like to see in a woman, as apparently 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:27.680 still single dean who's still trying to find a partner, 0:05:28.360 --> 0:05:30.200 what are the kinds of things you're looking for in 0:05:30.240 --> 0:05:37.240 a woman? Uh? Okay, thinking from single Dean's perspective, I 0:05:37.240 --> 0:05:38.640 don't know how to handle this. All right, Well, I 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:40.720 guess what I can say before jumping into that is 0:05:40.760 --> 0:05:43.040 that I'm not single, because I think it is ousted 0:05:43.160 --> 0:05:47.880 via E News. I just read it. I'm not single. Okay, 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:50.360 Well we'll just say that. Okay, but as single dean 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:53.360 putting myself in those shoes, you know, rewound two months, 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:55.600 three months however long ago that I wasn't single since 0:05:55.640 --> 0:05:57.640 the last time I've spent so long I can't even remember. 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:01.120 Um are we talking about like nonality traits? Physical traits 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:03.720 would be anything. Here's an example of of somebody who 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:05.760 sent one in This is the perfect man list. She 0:06:05.839 --> 0:06:10.120 keeps it on her in her notes app on her phone. Tall, funny, 0:06:10.160 --> 0:06:15.000 intelligent but not arrogant, athletic, dog lover, good friends, cute, 0:06:15.040 --> 0:06:20.280 but so there's physical as well. Family guy I'm assuming 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:22.839 not the show, but he's actually the family guy, not 0:06:23.000 --> 0:06:26.839 an only child, like that's pretty specific. Enjoys drinking but 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:30.480 doesn't get angry when he drinks. I think she may 0:06:30.480 --> 0:06:33.040 be coming off a bad relationship. This is a This 0:06:33.080 --> 0:06:35.679 is a woman who sent in her lift for Tanya 0:06:35.760 --> 0:06:39.039 to so like she can compare and contrast. Uh So, 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:40.360 I don't know I say who it is, but it's 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:44.599 just a listener, very giving, enjoys helping others, has future goals, 0:06:44.680 --> 0:06:47.279 is very secure with who he is, is available, and 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:49.839 it's respectful of others. So it's a wide range of 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:53.720 personality traits, physical traits, everything that was So you're thinking 0:06:53.720 --> 0:06:55.720 your listen to be shorter than that. I mean, off 0:06:55.720 --> 0:06:56.919 the top of my head, I can come up with 0:06:56.920 --> 0:06:59.560 a couple. I love someone that has a personality. I 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:01.920 think that that's actually I just realized this not too 0:07:01.920 --> 0:07:04.200 long ago, that um, a personality is it's kind of 0:07:04.279 --> 0:07:07.480 rare to even come by someone that just is, uh, 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:09.320 I don't know, unique in their own way. You know 0:07:09.320 --> 0:07:10.800 a lot of people just kind of conform to what 0:07:10.840 --> 0:07:13.200 society tells them to do, and it's fine. It gets 0:07:13.240 --> 0:07:15.200 them what they needed to get to in life, and um, 0:07:15.200 --> 0:07:17.760 they're happy, etcetera. Etcetera. But like a personality where someone 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:21.160 is um, you know, like vibrant and personable and can 0:07:21.600 --> 0:07:23.600 create conversation out of thin air. Like that's pretty rare 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:24.880 to come by these days, and I think that that 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:28.880 really is important to me. Um, someone that is decisive. 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:31.720 I like someone that can make decisions. And I think 0:07:31.760 --> 0:07:34.360 that comes from me not liking to make decisions. So 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:36.720 if someone can make decisions for me, um, because I'm 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:38.600 a pretty easy going guy and so it doesn't really 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:41.160 take a lot to kind of like swade my interest 0:07:41.280 --> 0:07:43.320 to be into something. So someone's like, let's go do this, 0:07:43.320 --> 0:07:45.360 I'll be like, yeah, a percent, let's go do that. Um, 0:07:45.400 --> 0:07:48.000 So that's important to me. I think physically speaking, I 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:50.920 don't really have much of a type or like there's 0:07:50.920 --> 0:07:53.800 no real barrier to entry physically speaking. Right, you might 0:07:53.800 --> 0:07:55.640 prefer a hair color over another, but that's not a 0:07:55.640 --> 0:07:57.760 deal wreaker. But I think I even prefer a hair color. 0:07:58.080 --> 0:08:01.080 I've really noticed this might be over sharing. I've really 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:06.440 noticed that. Actually I'm not gonna say that, Okay, I 0:08:06.480 --> 0:08:10.040 think okay, I'm a big snuggler, right, and so, like 0:08:10.080 --> 0:08:13.480 physical touch is my number one love language, and that 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:15.920 really blows down to like like when I'm dating someone 0:08:16.000 --> 0:08:18.520 and when we're like sharing a bed together at night, 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:20.320 I like to kind of like wrap myself up with 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:22.800 them as like a pretzel. And what I've weirdly noticed 0:08:22.800 --> 0:08:25.200 is that blondes, when their skin on skin contact of 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:29.840 just like snuggling, there's more sweat. I don't know if 0:08:29.840 --> 0:08:34.559 it's like a genetic thing, blonde sweat more. Just yeah, 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:39.400 I've noticed this, and it's like it's not it's not 0:08:39.440 --> 0:08:41.840 like a profuse, like like it's We're not like sitting 0:08:41.880 --> 0:08:43.440 in a swamp or anything like that, but it's just like, 0:08:43.480 --> 0:08:45.840 you know, it's it kind of gets sweaty. I don't 0:08:45.840 --> 0:08:48.720 know if we have any natural blonds around here, Erica, 0:08:49.800 --> 0:08:52.680 are you a natural blonde? Am I a natural blonde? Um? Yeah, 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:56.920 but not this bond. Do you sweat a lot more 0:08:56.960 --> 0:08:59.679 than like a brunette would? Maybe? Do you do? I 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:03.719 don't like judge my sweat levels with burnettes, like that's 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:05.680 all something we do. I sorry to compare to others 0:09:05.760 --> 0:09:09.360 how much you? But do you sweat a lot? Sure? 0:09:10.720 --> 0:09:13.400 I could state because I'm married to a natural blonde 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:17.880 and she does not sweat anymore than she actually doesn't 0:09:17.880 --> 0:09:20.280 sweat at all, I've noticed. Okay, that could just be 0:09:20.640 --> 0:09:23.280 what I induce in her. I just don't you know, 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:25.080 I could just need to be put in more work. 0:09:25.120 --> 0:09:28.240 But that's an interesting I don't know, it's an interesting 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:30.440 conclusion to draw or just be like me and don't 0:09:30.440 --> 0:09:33.880 snuggle at all and just see I have. And so 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:35.400 my thing is, I'm not a sweat at all. I 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:38.000 don't sweat at all. Very very rarely will I sweat. 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:39.600 And so maybe that makes me hyper aware of the 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:41.920 sweat that's around me at certain times. Does it gross 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:43.520 you out or it's just an observation, it's just it. 0:09:43.679 --> 0:09:46.319 It makes it. It leads to uncomfortable nous or uncomfortability, 0:09:46.360 --> 0:09:48.760 which makes like snuggling harder and sleeping a little bit 0:09:48.760 --> 0:09:51.959 more difficult too. And again I'm just talking out of 0:09:52.000 --> 0:09:56.920 my ass. Yeah, necessarily exactly, and data backed by any means. 0:09:57.360 --> 0:09:58.920 I'm gonna be looking this up and see if there's 0:09:58.960 --> 0:10:03.400 any to this from my own personal experience. That's that's 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:08.800 kind of what I've noticed. Um here comes Tanya, Tanya, 0:10:09.720 --> 0:10:12.040 I don't want to dwell on this list. We have 0:10:12.080 --> 0:10:14.400 one more person that we found, so we could are 0:10:14.440 --> 0:10:18.480 you blond naturally, yes, but not this blond. That's exactly 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:23.480 what Erica said. Do you sweat a lot? Okay, maybe 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:26.880 there is something to this. Dean has decided that blonds 0:10:26.960 --> 0:10:29.520 that he's been with sweat more than non blonds that 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:35.640 he's been with. Interesting, Yeah, I sweat a lot. Um Again, 0:10:35.640 --> 0:10:37.559 back to the original points. I don't say you don't 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:40.920 want to be exactly exactly. That's not the case whatsoever. 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:43.800 I've just noticed in my experience with and and me 0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:46.320 like knowing what I like in terms of the physical 0:10:46.679 --> 0:10:49.360 affection that I require, it's harder to not go with 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:53.680 a blonde for that reason. It's weird. I know it's weird. 0:10:53.800 --> 0:10:57.360 Let me be the first to say it's weird. I 0:10:57.480 --> 0:10:59.880 don't just like perst fire when I'm standing around, so 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:01.280 I think was I was just talking to Mark and 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:03.760 Easton about this. It's like when they're skin to skin contact, 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:05.960 like when you're spooning or something like that, it creates 0:11:05.960 --> 0:11:08.719 like a like a sweat pocket. And it's like it's 0:11:08.760 --> 0:11:10.840 like when you like sit with like no shirt on 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:12.200 and a leather chair or something like that, and like 0:11:12.240 --> 0:11:15.439 you get up and the leather chair do you ever 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:17.000 have to be a little spoon. Oh my god, all 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:19.600 the time. Would that help with the sweat equation or no? 0:11:19.760 --> 0:11:21.160 Well then it's just my back hast sweat on it 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:23.679 instead of my stomach having I'm just trying the problem solved, 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:26.240 you know. I think sweat compatibility is very important in 0:11:26.240 --> 0:11:29.120 a successful relationship. Eastern clearly has it. He just said 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:32.040 that him and his wife don't sweat when they're snuggling. No, now, 0:11:32.080 --> 0:11:36.120 we process energy differently. She always says it, and says sweating. 0:11:36.120 --> 0:11:42.280 She shoots sugarcubes out her belly button. Wait, what where 0:11:42.320 --> 0:11:45.680 does that come from? Wise? Sugarcubes? How do the belly button? 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:50.480 That's ah, that's just what she explains. It is very cute. 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:53.360 I don't sweat that much either. I do a lot 0:11:53.360 --> 0:11:55.160 from under the arms. But am also not a blond, 0:11:55.160 --> 0:11:57.120 so I don't know what you're looking for. I'm not 0:11:57.120 --> 0:11:58.800 the one on trial here. People call me a blond 0:11:59.360 --> 0:12:01.920 more frequently they should. I don't think. Yeah, I don't 0:12:01.920 --> 0:12:04.240 know why people are like, are you blond or burnette? 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:07.280 I'm like, well, I'm definitely burnette. Well, because your your 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:09.960 hair is like, um, I think it's kind of shiny. Well, 0:12:09.960 --> 0:12:12.480 it's like it's a light brown, which is considered like 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:14.640 dirty blonde. Well here's the thing. I sweat like a 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:19.360 like a brown haired person, which means not very much 0:12:19.360 --> 0:12:22.720 at all. But some people still mistake me as a blonde. 0:12:23.640 --> 0:12:25.240 And I'm like, no, you can stumble with me, and 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:28.560 I promise I won't spit that much. This conversation got 0:12:29.040 --> 0:12:32.880 real fast. Um what else? What other? Uh? We were 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:35.239 talking about your lift? Tan? Yeah? Yeah for the matchmaker 0:12:36.120 --> 0:12:39.120 until we're asking Dean what's on his list? Yeah? So 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:42.400 far are you hasn't had much personality decisiveness? Yes, he 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:44.760 likes a unique personality, a person like who knows who 0:12:44.760 --> 0:12:48.160 they are and is not afraid to be that right. Yeah, 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:51.200 I think. I think again, I'm very easy going to 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:53.120 where I don't need someone to be of a certain 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:56.280 faith or of a certain aged career, whatever it is. 0:12:56.320 --> 0:12:58.160 I just, you know, as long as you can mesh 0:12:58.200 --> 0:12:59.720 well with someone, I think that's the most important thing. 0:12:59.760 --> 0:13:01.840 So don't care. Would you date a twenty year old 0:13:02.720 --> 0:13:06.200 if it felt right? Would you date a forty year 0:13:06.240 --> 0:13:08.680 old if it felt right? I don't think that. I 0:13:08.679 --> 0:13:11.600 don't like, I don't I wouldn't judge someone for their age. 0:13:11.840 --> 0:13:13.560 I like it. I don't know what's on your list 0:13:13.559 --> 0:13:18.679 an you faith family, job, Um, those are like my 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:21.960 main So would you date someone that doesn't confine into 0:13:21.960 --> 0:13:27.040 the ideal faith that you need them to have had 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:30.280 a long chat about this, because because you hear that often, 0:13:30.280 --> 0:13:31.760 I guess it's a question you hear a lot of 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:34.080 people are like, I require I really want someone that's 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:38.760 very uh devout in the whatever they followed. Ideally, it 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:43.040 would be nice if he was the same faith as me. Um, 0:13:43.160 --> 0:13:45.520 it's not a deal breaker. I just want someone that 0:13:45.640 --> 0:13:48.840 has faith. A lot of people now say like, I'm 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:51.520 very spiritual, A lot of that and that religious, but 0:13:51.559 --> 0:13:54.680 I'm spiritual. I never go to church, but I'm spiritually. Like, 0:13:54.720 --> 0:13:57.840 if he's down to pray with me, you know, maybe 0:13:57.920 --> 0:14:00.640 kind of church with me. So are all good things. 0:14:00.640 --> 0:14:03.320 So what if it's someone that's that doesn't have this 0:14:03.440 --> 0:14:05.559 incredible faith but is open minded enough to at least 0:14:05.600 --> 0:14:07.280 give it a shot with you, I'd be down with that. 0:14:07.280 --> 0:14:08.959 Would you be almost more down for that someone that's 0:14:09.000 --> 0:14:13.040 willing to compromise too. I want to be more of 0:14:13.040 --> 0:14:14.840 the person that you want them to be through that avenue. 0:14:14.880 --> 0:14:17.840 I guess that makes sense. Yeah, like like, yeah, yeah, 0:14:18.120 --> 0:14:19.760 we don't need to dive into it too much. But 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:22.120 that makes sense. Okay, what else is? What else is 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:24.280 on my list? Let's think about that for a second. 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:27.760 I don't know. There's no height requirement. I would be 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:29.320 hard to date someone's taller than me, but I don't 0:14:29.320 --> 0:14:30.800 think I've ever met a girl it's taller. And there's 0:14:30.800 --> 0:14:35.720 no body requirements full chested, flat chested. You don't care, no, 0:14:36.000 --> 0:14:38.040 I know. I had the same discussion with Mark, and 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:40.080 he was trying to get me to pinpoint dump and 0:14:40.080 --> 0:14:44.240 I'm like, physical really doesn't matter so much to me. 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:49.680 Attraction correct, and you're attracted to certain kinds more than others, 0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:52.560 not necessarily, Okay, yeah, And I think it's a when 0:14:52.560 --> 0:14:55.080 you see it sort of thing. And I think I 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:57.240 think we talked about this in like episode three, very 0:14:57.240 --> 0:14:59.880 early on. I'm not very like, I'm not very sexually 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:04.280 in person, so it's not like physical. I guess presence 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:06.480 really doesn't mean much to me because sex is the 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:09.080 driving factor of any relationship. Figures in the physical touches 0:15:09.200 --> 0:15:11.760 high is your number one love language. And yet you 0:15:11.760 --> 0:15:13.800 don't feel like you're a sexual, Well I don't. I 0:15:13.800 --> 0:15:17.080 think physical touching sex are different, very different in my eyes. 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:18.400 And that's kind of why before I even know what 0:15:18.440 --> 0:15:20.360 love languages, where I was so hesitant to tell people 0:15:20.400 --> 0:15:23.240 that love or that physical touch was my favorite thing 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:26.280 because people I automatically associate that with like sex and 0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:28.400 all that kind of stuff too. Um, But that's not 0:15:28.440 --> 0:15:31.160 the case at all in my opinion. Like for me, um, 0:15:31.240 --> 0:15:33.080 fit was fit is on my list too. I don't 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:35.320 need someone that's like, has a six pack and like 0:15:35.600 --> 0:15:38.880 crazy muscles. It's not fit. It's like enjoys having a 0:15:38.960 --> 0:15:42.600 fitness lifestyle because I like to work out and I 0:15:42.680 --> 0:15:47.520 like to you know, do active things, and I live lifestyle, 0:15:47.680 --> 0:15:50.480 especially lately, you live a very Yeah, So I want 0:15:50.520 --> 0:15:55.400 a partner that you know has that same kind of lifestyle. 0:15:56.640 --> 0:16:00.880 I think another one for mine is adventurousness. That's the 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:03.560 word someone that's venturous. I think that's important, someone that 0:16:03.600 --> 0:16:07.160 likes to explore, to would like to travel somewhere on 0:16:07.200 --> 0:16:10.640 a description of somebody if someone's like, I don't know 0:16:11.520 --> 0:16:14.400 traveling all the time going on in a cool places, yeah, 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:16.400 and wanted to share those experiences with me because I 0:16:16.400 --> 0:16:18.960 like to travel. I like I'm curious. I think curiosity 0:16:19.000 --> 0:16:20.960 is very important, and you know what it's important to 0:16:21.040 --> 0:16:23.800 know what you want, so you're a step ahead Dean. No, 0:16:23.880 --> 0:16:25.280 that's the thing. I don't know what I want. Well, 0:16:25.320 --> 0:16:27.440 I know what i want, but I'm still learning a 0:16:27.440 --> 0:16:30.000 lot about But what else I want, I don't know. 0:16:30.640 --> 0:16:35.880 You know, Taylor, you've known Dean for a long time. Yes, 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:38.280 were you close in high school? Really best friends? You 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:41.000 spent like, oh god, like six days a week in 0:16:41.040 --> 0:16:44.280 my house probably, you guys know. I mean my high 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:47.920 school experience fame familiar. Why speaking was a little bit rough. 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:49.320 So I spent a lot of time at Taylor. So 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:52.320 my house was on the same road as the high school. 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:53.880 So a lot of people have just come by and 0:16:54.680 --> 0:16:56.360 all my food and leave, and Dean was one the 0:16:56.400 --> 0:17:00.400 ones that would stay. There's so many milestones in Indian life, 0:17:00.440 --> 0:17:02.840 and many of them tragic. And I asked about Hunter. 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:04.240 You weren't in the room. But I asked Hill if 0:17:04.240 --> 0:17:06.480 he knew Hunter. He said he didn't. He came after, 0:17:06.600 --> 0:17:09.480 came right after, I think like a year after, maybe 0:17:09.640 --> 0:17:12.080 maybe even like in seventh grade, eighth grade, eighth grade, 0:17:12.280 --> 0:17:14.199 when he was losing his mom. You were you were 0:17:14.240 --> 0:17:16.840 there for that and yeah he was and kind of 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:19.240 somebody to lean on during a lot of that. Yeah, 0:17:19.240 --> 0:17:21.439 I mean I remember her, and you know I met 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:23.160 her multiple time. It was it was lots of friends time. 0:17:23.200 --> 0:17:25.200 Like I said, when I lean on in those moments 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:26.720 where my friends and he was, I mean, he was 0:17:27.119 --> 0:17:29.280 constant in my life at that time, which was great. Um, 0:17:29.760 --> 0:17:32.000 what's funny is we both had a crush on the 0:17:32.040 --> 0:17:34.080 same girl for a large part of high school. God. Yeah. 0:17:34.560 --> 0:17:36.760 And the reason why I can't pronounce a certain word. 0:17:37.040 --> 0:17:39.600 What's even funnier is she was my very first guest 0:17:39.640 --> 0:17:42.720 on this podcast. Yeah, I remember someone told me about that. 0:17:43.119 --> 0:17:47.520 I was like, oh, yeah, I remember that. Yeah, yeah, 0:17:47.560 --> 0:17:49.520 that was interesting. Wait what word can you not pronounce? 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:52.560 I missed that? Everyone everyone knows name is okay to 0:17:52.600 --> 0:17:56.720 say that name? Caramel? People say Caramel? And I was like, 0:17:56.880 --> 0:18:00.359 remember we had Carmel, And I remember she's been in 0:18:00.359 --> 0:18:02.520 a relationship now for like seven years or something like that. Yeah, 0:18:02.760 --> 0:18:04.959 didn't she live on like a lake or something? Did 0:18:05.000 --> 0:18:07.200 she date both of you? Oh no, no, I never 0:18:07.680 --> 0:18:11.199 love triangle, never never was, but she was never got there. 0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:14.159 Well it's tough to compete with I mean, for that 0:18:14.320 --> 0:18:15.800 she was a big point of contention for a lot 0:18:15.800 --> 0:18:17.600 of guys in our high school. I feel like, yeah, well, 0:18:17.680 --> 0:18:19.720 she's exactly what you're talking about. She had that she 0:18:19.840 --> 0:18:22.560 was very distinct, and she had a very particular personality 0:18:22.680 --> 0:18:24.639 and was kind of like this mystique about her. She 0:18:24.720 --> 0:18:27.960 just did random stuff, you know, like that. It felt 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:31.600 like everything that she did was very um thoughtless, not 0:18:31.720 --> 0:18:33.600 in a bad way, but like she that's just who 0:18:33.680 --> 0:18:40.280 she was, carefree, not thought like. Yeah yeah, so yeah, 0:18:40.520 --> 0:18:44.240 you're in a relationship now, yeah for how long? Oh god? Yes, 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:53.320 was like four years months? Wow? Yeahs did she just 0:18:53.480 --> 0:18:56.000 moved out here in November of sixteen to Los Angeles. 0:18:56.200 --> 0:18:58.000 Then she came with you. Yeah, and we met at 0:18:58.119 --> 0:19:00.600 school in New York. Went to school together in New York. 0:19:00.800 --> 0:19:05.200 So you're very handsome. Oh thank you? I mean, oh yeah, 0:19:05.240 --> 0:19:09.520 he's talking about this girl. For people that are listening 0:19:09.640 --> 0:19:12.200 and just giving him, we'll describe him, then describe Taylor. 0:19:12.840 --> 0:19:15.840 You remind me of Tarzan. Oh I get that all 0:19:15.880 --> 0:19:18.800 the time. Yeah, I've gotten my girl. This is like, 0:19:19.200 --> 0:19:22.000 this is like a mushy anecdote. But my girlfriend actually 0:19:22.000 --> 0:19:23.879 reached out to me in college and she sent me 0:19:23.880 --> 0:19:25.560 a Facebook message saying like, hey, hi, am you know 0:19:25.640 --> 0:19:28.200 so and so and um for a long for the 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:30.440 longest time, they her and her friends had known me 0:19:31.080 --> 0:19:33.920 around campus as Tarzan and that's what they'd call me 0:19:33.960 --> 0:19:36.399 because I had my long hair then and just walk around, 0:19:36.560 --> 0:19:39.480 you know, shirtless and a loin cloths and um, I 0:19:39.600 --> 0:19:41.760 just walk around and you know, that's how they knew me. 0:19:41.800 --> 0:19:43.600 And she had seen her, but like I didn't know her. 0:19:43.640 --> 0:19:45.480